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Aechzen/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 12:01 AM
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Bro. Her feelings are less important than your job search. That’s your number one priority and then you can deal with everything else. I have no idea what that looks like for you but maybe you will need to move. If you take her shit test to its logical conclusion, you should divorce her, take full custody, and she can go be independent without you and the kids holding her back. Game that out with your individual counselor. PS: I assume she snooped your phone. It’s okay to lock your phone and set…
/r/askMRP11/04/26 11:19 AM
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Hmmm Do you have a separate contract granting you any child custody? In the event you two split has she been a single mom this entire time, just living in her baby daddy’s house? Because that’s not so great if you like your kids and want to keep them in your life half time in the future. Marriage has downsides but the upside is you have a fighting chance in family court of getting half custody.
/r/askMRP30/11/24 02:28 AM
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How serious are you about blowing up the marriage, even if that means half or less child custody for you and halving your finances, selling your house, etc? Exactly how hard are you willing to do the divorce? Don’t say shit about divorce if you don’t mean it and haven’t already had a legal consult to know the rules where you live. Back to the headline… I don’t know your wife. But lots of people ask for an open marriage after they already have been banging somebody, they feel some guilt or think …
/r/askMRP30/08/24 01:14 AM
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Thank you for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 05:28 PM
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Thank you for sharing. Are you willing to discuss your likely divorce settlement? Parenting arrangement? Whether you owe her alimony and for how long?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 04:14 PM
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First two sentences is best explanation I have ever seen.
/r/askMRP14/06/24 12:15 PM
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OCD is above the pay grade of free advice from strangers. There are valid therapeutic interventions from trained professionals. That’s a good thing to try now, while you are 22. Learn some skills, find a trusted therapist. It’s not weak to realize you need focused help. If you had a muscle problem you would see a physical therapist, maybe MRI, focused exercises, focused rest, treatments that work. Your brain is like that too.
/r/askMRP07/05/24 10:54 AM
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I think a hot woman who has made it to 26 and only banged twelve guys has a LOW partner count. Decide what you wanna do. Maybe keep seeing her, but knock it off with digging through her phone. It’s not making you happy and it certainly isn’t helping you with your life mission. I think you should tell her to change her password. And if 12 feels like a high partner count to you maybe you should call this relationship off; or maybe negotiate some openness with this lady and bang more women before y…
/r/askMRP05/05/23 10:40 AM
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I missed the part about the concussions. Those take time to heal. Good luck.
/r/askMRP26/04/23 10:00 PM
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If she saw you when you were drunk and fat, it will be difficult for her to unsee that version of you. I vote date a new woman who wants you.
/r/askMRP26/04/23 09:26 PM
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Guess how I know residency sucks? My wife does the same shit about not taking care of herself to meet the needs of strangers. Things truly may improve after residency. I’m saying that after residency will likely be a fellowship or three, joining a practice, trying to reach revenue targets, etc. it’s not going to let up completely and you may NEED some plates in your life rather than using them as sparring partners to relearn how to handle women. I would probably do a lot of the same things you a…
/r/askMRP10/04/23 11:43 AM
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Why is your girlfriend going through your phone? Change your password and don’t let her have it again. It’s a perfectly fine boundary to say “my device is my device.” Don’t snoop her phone either. Residency sucks. But you know what else sucks? Medicine in general. It’s a meat grinder. I’m a really involved father and that works for me; it’s also a form a OI because if I’m ever divorced I know my kids really well and know I can handle solo parenting. If your lady handles stress by dodging sex tha…
/r/askMRP10/04/23 12:59 AM
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There could be some good reasons to not change a name, like: she has been practicing medicine, in her name she has a law practice, and her last name is the business name I assume you would have mentioned those. Aside from those reasons, this is just a regular shit test. You're only a year in, if this seems like something you won't get over, especially when it comes to what to name your maybe-children, it's time to move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/22 10:28 PM
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I had to go read your post history, to get some more information. Does your religion / culture have arranged marriages, or did you choose this man, and he chose you? I only ask, because some people really do think that sex is for making children, and if he doesn't want more children with you right now, he doesn't see the point of having sex. There are also men who only see their wife as mother / housekeeper / maid, and if they want sex, that's when you see prostitutes, pay them for thirty minute…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 04:40 AM
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Hi there. COVID sucks, lots of house projects, wife making more money, me making more money, kids getting older, sick dad, that's about it, ha.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 01:12 AM
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I suspect this post will get deleted soon, but here goes. I will never be able to see or play with big tits in my life ever again. That is 100% on you, and has little or nothing to do with your wife. If you really, really, really need big tits in your sex life it would be smarter to bang some other ladies on the side than have your wife change her tits. I'm married to a woman with naturally very-large breasts. Victoria Secret (if you can find one in 2022) stops short of her cup size starting whe…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 09:09 PM
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The game is rigged to the house. Absolutely. There are "investors" who do nothing but high-speed trading on penny gains, but when you do it with large numbers thousands of times you can make some money. Every so often, somebody still gets charged with insider trading. At least those laws haven't been completely abolished yet. Then there's things like this: https://www.chicagotribune.com/business/ct-xpm-2012-08-19-ct-biz-0819-confidential-trading-20120819-story.html
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/20 12:01 AM
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I followed my plan and bought some Boeing this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/20 11:58 PM
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I could say that guessing a pandemic is easier than accurate market timing, which is based on when everybody else decides to take it seriously. Likewise with when to put your money back in. If you sat out the Obama recovery too long, you made less money than if you just rode out the whole dip. I don't really have enough skin in the game that this matters for me. I'm just buy, buy, buy. When I'm 75 and retired ask me again.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/20 11:45 AM
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Let me know the exact time and date you should put all your money back in the market. Do you know when it was for the last crash? Get it wrong, and how much money do you make?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/20 02:47 AM
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I regret not buying Bank of America when it was at $5 during the last crash. Buffet made a major buy once he could get preferred shares and it was clear they wouldn't be on the hook for all of the Countrywide fraud. Yes, looking to buy Boeing.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/20 06:52 PM
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I LOLed. I don't know how old the dude is. I can tell you I'm 39, my regular plate is 31, and that's just about the extreme of an age difference what I can take for having to actually talk to women when you're not busy balls-deep. I would probably want to bang the woman OP described, but then again I hang out with a fair number of women like that from my running habit.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/20 01:06 PM
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This post is in indication that OP lives in a different part of America than Seattle, which has been living with COVID lockdown for weeks now. My American employer believes in science, has excellent leadership, and has been doing a staged changeover to mostly remote operation for weeks. I've been home since end of last week. I'm only going onsite for the work that needs to be physically done and cannot be deferred. Friendly reminders: all the usual shit that used to kill people will still keep k…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 12:22 PM
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I do not want to be an equal i want to be a good piece of his team. I’m very traditional I have a book recommendation: https://www.amazon.com/Surrendered-Wife-Practical-Finding-Intimacy/dp/0743204441 Your post doesn't belong here, and will probably get deleted, but I'll try to help. How do you expect your wife to cope with insecurity if there is an infidelity. I recommend you make some female friends, and do female friend shit. Shopping while talking, talking on the way to yoga, and talking on t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/20 09:56 PM
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What happens when you turn 31?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/19 12:55 AM
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Am I doing anything that sounds wrong? Are there better ways to handle this? Kids are something you should agree about before you marry somebody. You can't compromise and have 2.5 kids. Are there better ways to handle this? Yes. Go back in your time machine to just after you had kid two, and get a vasectomy right then. You would now be at two years of shooting blanks. Getting one now is almost as good, but you should have already owned your shit about this a long time ago. To humor my wife, I wa…
/r/askMRP11/12/19 03:25 PM
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Valtrax both shortens the breakout period and reduces chances of new outbreaks. There's no cure for lots of chronic conditions, but medical interventions make them better.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 03:18 PM
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Now, what to do with the wife? We don't use condoms, so if I say nothing she'll contract it eventually then shit will hit fan. Better to fess up now, I reckon, and save her the pain of infection. Any advice on how to break it to her? HSV is not such a big deal. See a doctor, go on Valtrax. There's better than 50-50 that your wife is already carrying HSV, and it won't make a difference. By the way, condoms do not 100% prevent transmission of HSV. It's skin-to-skin transmission, meaning if it's an…
/r/askMRP11/12/19 02:59 PM
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She's not yours. It was just your turn. Stop worrying about the next guy who will be cumming in her mouth.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 02:51 PM
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I hope part two is where you break the rules you set in part one. I've done A2V before, but only when she assured me she was really clean and she was on top. I agree with you that A2V isn't something you just surprise a chick with. Enemas are great, but if you're doing full stroke PiA from behind, my dick has a knack for finding that last bit of santorum that was hiding even though she did a great job. Water-based lube, eh, whatever. Only if it's the really good stuff, like Sliquid. Otherwise so…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 02:57 AM
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You said it a few times. I'm going to repeat it. Aftercare is required.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/19 05:19 AM
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She is a SAHM. Is it my money or our money? I have a very low opinion of SAHM, having seen them up close and personal among my fellow upper-middle-class urban folks. Maybe in a completely different situation where she's adding real value, like on a rural farm where her work is effectively making an income I would feel differently. Morally, it's your money. The law in whatever state you are in probably considers it community property, and it's half hers in the case of a divorce. If your wife has …
/r/askMRP30/10/19 01:18 AM
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In the last year, I’ve banged nine different women, most from online dating sites. Good for you. I have a woman that I’ve been seeing regularly for the past 2 months. Good for you. You need a lawyer yesterday. If you're wealthy maybe you already have somebody on retainer. If that person does not specialize in divorce, you need a referral. You need a plan for whatever your wife is cooking up. She might be just pissed, and spending less time with you or maybe she's seeing her own lawyer. You need …
/r/askMRP30/10/19 01:06 AM
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I find my wife gets all hot and bothered when other women flirt with me unless she is hotter than my wife I've observed this too. Thanks for writing that out.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/19 04:47 PM
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Congratulations on your very fast response from your wife. Bluepillprofessor and others give a rule of thumbs like one month of improvement per year of marriage, and you have a lot more months left by that standard... Don't let up. With your new energy and persona, maybe job changes, maybe other financial opportunities, etc. And be careful with the lifting; if you had many years off, injuries are likely. Go slow and steady, and listen to your body. Injuries suck. Keep reading. One day I was taki…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/19 01:23 PM
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"I'm a 7, why do I get relatively few IOI's etc." Because you're not talking to women. Game and actually talking to women is going to help you more than hot and aloof every time. Most sexually successful man I know is fat and bald and dresses like a slobby lumberjack in a suburban area. He always has a new hot woman every time I see him. He... talks to women, a lot. That's enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/19 05:33 PM
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In competition there are three possible outcomes. Win, lose, tie. There are at least two more: did not finish (DNF) did not start (DNS)
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/19 01:18 AM
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There's an old aphorism in politics, that "If you want a friend, get a dog." (it gets attributed to Truman; I have no idea whether he made it up) It's not horrible advice when it comes to AWALT and male performance burden either. Talking about things you need to talk about it not a horrible idea; you probably need to do it with literally anybody but her. It's okay to hire a counselor for some sessions. It's okay to take a long walk in the woods and talk out loud. It's okay to talk to your best m…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/19 12:57 PM
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Sounds like he took too much creatine and not enough water.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/19 09:50 PM
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I have two suggestions: In my experience, most doctors I know marry smart women. I assume your wife has a life skill, which she is not using anymore now that you have a kid. YOUR WIFE HAS TOO MUCH TIME ON HER HANDS. YOUR WIFE IS BORED. I humbly suggest you put your wife back to work ASAP. I have the money to keep my wife at home. I tried that for a while. She sucked at it; if she would have been a housecleaner or maid she would have been fired for non-performance. My wife is much happier and hea…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/19 09:42 PM
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Regarding your 2, yes, lots of seduction is covert, or at least non-verbal. Once you're in the zone with non-verbal communications, locking eyes, picking up on body language, moving in close, making kino natural, I suppose all that is 'covert' in the sense that it is non-verbal, but it feels like explicit communication when you're in the moment. I'm not a woman, but I assume it feels like explicit communication to her too.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/19 10:40 PM
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> So, what happened? What the fuck happened? Vietnam, in a word. The people who wrote the laws that wrote the checks decided they'd rather blow holes in lots of rice paddies and lots of people than send people and things into space. Vietnam both preceded and continued past the Apollo program, and spent much more money. The longer answer is that once United States definitively passed Russia in the "space race", there was no Cold War geopolitical reason to continue the effort. That explanation als…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 11:29 PM
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I know a hairdresser named Tiffany. She changes her hair color all the time. God knows what the original color was. I haven't checked the carpet to find out what the drapes should be.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 11:30 PM
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Hell yes, I talked about sex before getting married. Wife is bi. I mostly wanted to know how bi she is and whether I'm going to get left for a chic. Also, it's a lot easier to fulfill fantasies if you know what they are. I would say the top 4 are: 0) faith; sure; I'm an atheist, and I wasn't interested in marrying a woman who believes in magical thinking. Back in my single days on match, this was really useful to dramatically narrow my selection of women to only women I was interested in knowing…
/r/askMRP13/07/19 02:42 PM
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One more short, to-the-point sentence I used early in unplugging was "I can't believe we're arguing about this". (To be clear, we were not actually arguing. She was talking, and I was not engaging.) Said with a tone you would use with a child who spilled their milk. After the first few times I said that, she knocked off her petty mouth running about that stuff; your wife may take more reinforcement.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/19 02:32 PM
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Any pro tips on how to explain to her once she starts communicating overtly exactly how you expect her to be and act? When she followed you into the shower, still running her mouth... How about cover her mouth with your hand, tell her her clothes are soaked, undress her, bang her hard in the shower. She wants to feel feelings. Change what she is feeling. STFU is a damn good start. You might want to reread WISNIFG for some assertive communication. Specifically, broken record pisses the hell out o…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/19 02:54 AM
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I'm with you. DL11 is a thing, and it works for me and some other people. Don't have to leave your wife to get strange unless you want to.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 11:56 PM
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Accurate.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/19 01:57 PM
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Solid post. I'm not sure I have a lot of useful information. My wife has an excellent beta game: makes good money, is a perfectly tolerable parent, doesn't blow our entire budget on shoes she never wears, doesn't spend a lot of her energy on horseshit stuff like astrology I see a lot of women get fixated on. Very much the most responsible teenager in the house. She's not good with the dread-based motivation. Not a lot has made a difference. Not her hearing that I'm hot from women she respects. N…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/19 06:47 PM
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Thank you for your post, and thank you for linking to the backstory. The backstory was relevant to understanding this post better. First, you're not the first guy who went to 11 because you just felt like there had to be something better out there. You found it, you could have found it easier and closer to home, but you cared more about secops than getting your dick wet. I can respect that degree of caution. Second, it's easy to get the impression from lots of MRP and especially mainline RP that…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/19 02:00 AM
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How do I reconcile my self image of being a good guy with what I did? You have to figure that out for yourself. I and others here get the impression that you skipped DL 10 if you have to ask yourself that question. If you didn't know about MRP at all, you may have stumbled into the equivalent level of disclosure, where you tell her where she stands; you're going elsewhere for sex. I really talked to my wife about that, and if I had not I imagine I'd feel the guilt that you seem to feel. How can …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/19 03:48 AM
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But 11 is so much fun!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/19 12:23 PM
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Looking forward to the book!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/19 01:39 AM
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At root, I think your post is very much a feminine-brained "What do I want?" post. You've tried getting pussy the way where you go behind your wife's back and try hiding everything. You didn't mention anything about how DL8 kind of flirting with other women in front of your wife has gone for you. If you've created your slut, and she also happens to be your submissive wife and you also want strange, one obvious solution is to use your charisma and social skills to land a recurring female guest st…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 12:28 AM
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Now she’s sending me a hundred messages a day. Block. Her. Number. https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/08/rooting-through-garbage/
/r/askMRP24/03/19 02:25 PM
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Why am I not happy? No clue. I'm an easy guy when it comes to happiness. Putting my dick in women makes me happy. A sunny day, out for a long run makes me happy. Physical exertion to the point of exhaustion makes me happy. A buttery, capers-on-top, chicken piccata paired with a chilled white wine makes me happy. Hopefully you have stuff like that in your life. If I was you, the happiest thing would be seeing way the fuck less of the inside of a hospital, which has to be one of the worst places t…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 03:06 AM
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Solid post. My mother-in-law is a Victim, (but she doesn't have it as bad as OP's mom). She's divorced three times, and acts like none of those had anything to do with her actions. I've heard some wretched anti-male shit come out of her mouth, and I played it cool, interested to see what she'll say next. Good to know where I stand.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 10:38 PM
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Don't get me wrong I'm not a cheater nor will I ever cheat Ok, then divorce. Get it over with. The grass is really greener, bro. Nice post in general. I'm not surprised all the dread and unfucking yourself worked, but usually, guys who at long last get their wives to follow them enjoy it. I would personally vote that you keep your wife blowjobs and you also play elsewhere, but that's just how I do it.
/r/askMRP17/03/19 02:30 PM
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I probably would have handled it by sleeping on the floor in that kid's room until they passed out again, and then going back to my own bed. If you're not strong enough to pick up your kid and carry them back to bed, fix that. I think there's a time and place for hitting your kids. It should be rare, and predictable, and in direct response to them hitting you first or extreme defiance. I'm not sure this particular case qualified. Your bigger problem was your wife undermining your judgment as a p…
/r/askMRP17/03/19 02:02 PM
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I'm going to be contrary here, and not just because I'm a dick, but because I think there's a subtle exception to your rule. I'm a data addict. It's part of what I get paid to do, so at least I'm living my passion. I'm one of those guys who faithfully tracked my calories and macros for more than a year straight. Near Thanksgiving 2018 I just kind of stopped. I missed a day here and there. Then I missed a week. Then I missed about two months. What I learned was I ate a lot more junk when I wasn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/19 12:44 PM
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Guys, we regularly talk here about AMOG, or Alpha Male of the Group. It generates tingles AND preselection if you're doing it right. So do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/19 03:18 AM
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6’4”, 190, 14%, 35 Honestly, that sounds pretty thin to me. Maybe you're one of those dudes who can crank out a 17-minute 5k, in which case, awesome, good for you with the cardio. Otherwise, I think you need to eat way more and put on some upper body bulk. sex twice in the past 9 months Unless she had a vagina accident and an ass accident and oral cancer and something happened to her hands, that's beyond awful. Those of us who play outside our marriage do better than that with our side pieces. I…
/r/askMRP13/03/19 12:53 PM
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I don't think he said he's spinning plates, and he said he's DL9. He said something more vague about how he has women interested in him.
/r/askMRP13/03/19 12:48 PM
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I assume you've hung around enough to understand concepts like pre-selection, women wanting men that other women want, etc. That's the guy my wife married, and that's the guy she prefers banging in my personal experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/19 01:21 AM
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Has anyone else gone through this? Kindof, yes. I would say the real point of dread is to permanently change the game so far in your favor that your wife just accepts your inherent awesomeness. If you're there, congratulations. I have something really good going with my wife Good for you. Seriously. Every man has to live his own life, and it's fine to conclude that you like what you have.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/19 01:12 AM
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Very solid post. I know realtors who seem to do very well because they escort women through vacant houses all day. There was a case a few years ago where a guy was selling his house. Despite months on the market and lots of viewings, it just wasn't selling. Finally he decided to look at his surveillance system videos and get an idea of who was visiting the house and their reactions. He realized his realtor was repeatedly banging the same female realtor in his house and not actually showing the h…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/19 01:11 PM
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I've been as lean as you are. At my leanest, I was 9.5%. It wasn't easy, and frankly it wasn't sustainable... by which I mean that if you haven't already plateaued with your lifts, you will until you start eating past neutral and start gaining muscle slowly. It's quite difficult to gain muscle without gaining fat along the way. I'm now at 12.5-13% fat, and about 12 pounds heavier than my leanest. That old guy could run faster, but couldn't lift as much. Decide what you value more. Your details h…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/19 03:10 PM
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You promote them. That's leadership potential right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 01:30 PM
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I started to notice that old people made conversation easy If you read Day Bang, author calls this "Elderly Game". it’s like if you can open your mouth and hold a conversation you are top 20% nowadays. It’s like shooting fish in a barrel. Yes, and it's also part of congruence. If you look hot, and you can hold up a conversation, lots of women are going to want to see you again. It's happened repeatedly with me, and it all starts with whatever opener you come up with. Sometimes simple eye contact…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 02:25 AM
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You could have also not engaged on the entire process. There's getting enough sexual background to establish relative risk of acquiring an STI / saneness and then the rest should probably be left to mystery.
/r/askMRP25/02/19 01:53 PM
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Congratulations on your experience where your wife was able to get herself off the meds. I do not think your experience can scale to a sample size greater than your own. Also, congratulations that your wife found her libido. Your best advice in the whole thing is to not encourage anybody to go cold turkey off psych meds, and to do long tapers under the guidance of a trained professional. Remember, way back when, you were dating your wife and she was bubbly and fun to be around? There's another n…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/19 02:42 PM
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I also endorse the SL 5x5 app rest timer. I've been fricking Pavlov dog conditioned to be ready for the next set when the bell goes off.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 02:54 AM
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I took what started as a few days off from tracking my food intake. Well, it has become a few months off of tracking my food intake, and it also coincided with me gaining about five pounds. My lifts haven't really gone up, so it's mostly fat. My scale also has a crappy body fat percent estimater, and it's also convinced I've put on fat. The most reliable thing to lose weight is to match your activity to your calorie intake. It takes a LOT of activity to catch up to a bad diet. I'm literally a ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 02:51 AM
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You paid so much more attention to that movie than I did. I just chuckled at the Al Gore joke and fell asleep.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 02:37 AM
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Fun off-topic story. I saw a demo of a very-high-end video conferencing solution a few years ago. Cisco Telepresence. This was the version that cost more than a million at the time. The tech told me that he was giving a demo to a law firm and heard all this arguing, and was concerned the system was malfunctioning. Turned out that was just the law firm putting the product through its paces. They bought the product, after being convinced it was sufficient for their needs. (My company bought someth…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 02:35 PM
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I think they're all like that at least sometimes. A common game little girls play is literally called 'dress up'. Maybe those other women you dated hid it from you when they realized you didn't like it. I have a follow-up question for you. When you see a guy who has put a lot of effort into his appearance... he's built a huge body, wearing an obviously-tailored suit, perfect haircut, does that dude bother you? I think your whole attitude sounds a lot like a madonna/whore complex, and that's just…
/r/askMRP09/02/19 10:31 PM
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You do you, but I would never have a kid without being married to the mother. Marriage does all kinds of things, including giving you legal protections to see your child and have a say in how your child is raised. You can accomplish all those things with legal agreements, but it's a lot easier and cheaper to 'make her an honest woman'. Maybe that explains her neediness, bro, more than her being pregnant per se. does the sex drive come back after baby is born? You didn't say how far along she is,…
/r/askMRP09/02/19 03:20 PM
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Maybe they're one of those couples who use the sheet with the hole in it so they don't accidentally touch.
/r/askMRP09/02/19 03:10 PM
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Relax about your wife showing some side boob. I guarantee my wife shows more flesh at the beach than yours. Whooptie doo. She's not getting rando dick while she's sitting next to me getting sunburn.
/r/askMRP09/02/19 03:03 PM
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Your wife wants to show off, she wants validation, and she wants you to tell her she's hot, and she wants the validation of other people saying she's hot. And she probably wants to take hot pictures of herself in that suit and put them on Instagram. What is your actual problem with her seeking validation in this way? For her, that's the point of this vacation. PS: There are clothing-optional places all over the world. Next time, maybe your wife can suggest one of those and then you don't have to…
/r/askMRP09/02/19 02:58 PM
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The way you framed it, I think the barter is fine. She giggled, and if she follows through, awesome. As long as it's fun and fucking you is something she wants to do anyway, you're doing it right. When you have to twist her arm to get her to fuck you, you're doing it wrong.
/r/askMRP09/02/19 02:45 PM
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She is pretty wrecked by it, and I’m leading by being a rock while not telling her how to feel; I believe everyone grieves their own way. Part of being a rock is that your emotions are stable. Your old self would propose fun shit to do, and ask her if she wants to come along. Do that. She probably wants a distraction. If she comes, great, if not, invite somebody else or go by yourself. My worry is that I miss that fun loving gal, and don’t know if she will recover fully, or if she does, how long…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/19 09:31 AM
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>everytime I start a new lift, everytime someone gives me a tip/I give someone a tip or everytime I meet an interesting person at the gym, it's part of my journey. Well-said. Something I like a lot about lifting. >I don't want to fuck someone else. I both want to, and I do fuck someone else. I don't know if that's residual oneitis on your part, or if you're some zen buddhist type who can just mind over matter, but I don't get that sentiment. I love my wife too, or I would have been gone a long t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 01:40 PM
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I have a legit goal of making my wife laugh at least once a day. Athol Kay talks about the ten second kiss, and making it a daily thing, and that's important. I think the laughter is important too. Good post.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/19 12:30 AM
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Thanks for the post. If I wanted to get dancing, how would you recommend I start?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/19 09:57 PM
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Based on your study of it would you agree that when the common person talks about 'logic' they do not fully understand it? Yes. is it reasonable for men to conclude that men make greater use of logic than women? Yes, but not based on anything I learned in formal Predicate Logic class. Women can use logic when they choose to, including the women who were in that class. There are excellent female lawyers and mathematicians and there are women who ace logic tests. But women Eat, Pray, Love-ing thei…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 11:13 PM
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You lost me at trying to connect quantum theory with sexual strategy. Dude, go have some fun sex, and write up a field report instead of this. I've taken an actual college level Predicate Logic class, and nothing I learned applied to your post.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 12:45 PM
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she wants to win the competition Absolutely, 100%, yes. In the last year, two or three times I've come home and had my wife jump me after I've been elsewhere. I don't know whether she literally smells it on me, or if I have extra swagger and a smirk, but either way it's hard to describe as anything except wife wanting her pussy to win. I don't know exactly how your wife responds when other women are flirting with you in public. One time my wife pulled me aside and said "she can find her own husb…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/19 11:23 PM
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I agree with everything you wrote... with the caveat that a woman who is super-withdrawn from her husband may never be willing to go into those emotional states... with him. The same way that she won't offer the bjs or her ass or whatever the guy knows she willingly gave to other guys during her "party years" but won't give to him (she 'grew out of it'). Sometimes that yardstick of measuring her willingness to do a particular act is not a bad proxy for her overall feelings for that guy. As we sa…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/18 01:10 AM
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It's fine to admit when your wrong, but never apologize for it. Nothing wrong with being wrong, but feeling the need to say you're sorry is for pussies. I feel like this one is built into the firmware with every woman I've known for long enough to catch situations where they were clearly wrong. Sometimes even them admitting their fault is unlikely.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/18 01:54 PM
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but but but but, she's busssssy at the offffice.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/18 01:14 PM
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I know exactly what he's talking about. She's old, but still takes care of her body.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/18 01:11 PM
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women had a really shitty deal in the past. There are ways to interview women, and measure their self-reported happiness. The further we get from the 'patriarchal' past, the less happy women report themselves to be. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/pressure-proof/201303/women-happiness-is-it-still-declining That's the fluff article. The study is here: https://www.econstor.eu/bitstream/10419/35564/1/605352836.pdf
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 12:24 AM
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You should probably ask this on some swinger forum where people are less against the idea of willingly watching your wife bang other people... We teach here that "she's not yours, it's just your turn". You took that very, very literally at those sex parties. So just saying, your wife is probably a bit of a goody two shoes (working on her Ph.D.), and she's been enjoying her trespassing on the dark side. You set up a sexual relationship with very few rules, but I bet she's broken them all with tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/18 12:36 AM
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I have the same question as Steel. You can at least mentally thank him for the seafood.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/18 12:06 AM
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Scorpion_and_the_Frog
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 02:08 PM
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There are women who make serious bank. Your lady is not the only one. There are women business executives, lawyers, doctors, etc. American or not doesn't have much to do with it, and I know the pedigreed and degreed top academic performers; not going to dox myself to tell you how. If you've ever seen one of those women melt at a hot guy, or seen them read their horoscope, or do any number of dopey shit things, you know that they are vulnerable to feelz just like any other woman. The rule about t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 02:01 PM
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I raised my SMV a lot through MRP - didn't work Well, that's hard to believe. If your SMV was legit high, women approach you, open conversations with you, put their hands on you, they don't mind the ring on your hand, and they don't mind doing this in front of your wife. If that was your experience, you would have mentioned it. There really are cases where the wife is so checked out that she just doesn't care, but if you've made yourself high value, other women will have definitely noticed. Then…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 01:42 PM
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I've never done a dirty bulk, but the weight is slow to add on. I'm also a runner, and not yet willing to give that up in pursuit of muscle gains. So it's been slow and steady for me. Been lifting with purpose since early 2016. If you're not already tracking your calories, and haven't yet found your break even calorie intake, work on that. Great app with a stupid name: myfitnesspal, and everything you really need is free without buying the add-ons. I've never juiced. If you're already getting la…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 02:34 AM
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I also read Come As You Are within the last year. In your criticism section I would add "she never uses five words where ten would do". Some of her sentences felt like standalone paragraphs. The book itself is surprisingly long for how much it leaves out, especially the well-known effects of ovulatory shift. She could have had a great time endnoting all those studies that confirm it. If you're writing a book about understanding your sexual drive, maybe that's just a tad worthy of mention? Just f…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/18 11:31 PM
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Okay, yeah, 5'11" at 175 and 12% body fat, you are still skinny but at least you're a stronger skinny. Putting on muscle does take time. I'm at 6'0" 195 @ 12% and I don't feel big compared to the frequent fliers at the weight benches.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/18 06:42 PM
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175 pounds, 12% bodyfat, visible abs, suntanned. 3 rep max - Bench 220, OHP 130, Deadlift 300, Squat 260 I don't know how tall you are, so it's a bit tough to imagine that, but I'm sure it's done a lot for your confidence and appearance. Going from bar to 220 in a year, it's not a big surprise you fucked up your rotator cuff. You're not 25 anymore. It's okay to go slower with your gains bro. You can build muscle faster than you can build the supporting connective tissue. Now that you've torn tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/18 05:22 PM
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Had to google it too. Apparently I don't watch enough tv.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/18 05:11 PM
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I knew a hardcore marathon runner who ran his own electrical business. Not everybody does drugs, bro. If that's all your friends, that's almost certainly a big part of why you kept relapsing. He would drive his work van to races; free advertising for him. Good job not fucking dying on a bad batch of heroin, but fuck, that shit is dangerous. If you don't know any dead former heroin users, you don't know very many people. I can think of two right away. One of the most talented musicians I ever pla…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/18 03:40 AM
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Did you ever make a MAP for yourself? It's kind of manosphere 101, and I'm worried you missed that step. I had some very short term, short term, medium term, 10 years out, and 25 years out goals. I'm not willing to share all of it publicly, but PM me and I'll tell you some of what I'm going for. 2 years in, how are you doing toward those goals? You didn't give much context about budget, but you did mention buying a car. If you're living hand-to-mouth and you just bought a fancy car, that's just …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/18 10:36 PM
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I would rephrase it as "she is so impressed by her current guy that she genuinely thinks she can't do better... so she doesn't try for a while".
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/18 02:48 AM
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I'm agreeing with this comment. If you haven't banged two girls in one day... lately or ever, it's worth doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 02:00 AM
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I get staying married to a woman despite significant flaws. Been there, doing that. I hope you have a project to get your wife working. It was a project for me. The first shitty job after kids wife got paid a bit less than the cost of care. It was worth it to get her off the couch and out making real professional contacts. That led to her next less shitty job where she made more than care cost. Rinse repeat over a series of years. She now makes almost as much as me, and she feels better about he…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/18 09:59 PM
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I know a person in real life whose wife made a false accusation of child abuse against his him to the police. Automatic restraining order, and being removed from his house for a period of months for the 'investigation', mandatory parenting classes, several court appearances. It took multiple years for the state to fully close the case, and he brought suit against the state repeatedly to get them to back off. Incredibly, that guy is still married to his wife. I don't get it. You do you, bro. At l…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/18 12:53 PM
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change your phone password, and set an auto-lock countdown so you can't leave it open for more than a minute or two in the future.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 01:16 PM
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You didn't say anything about your lifting, bro. That's the part of Fight Club you can talk about with your wife. Hit the gym, and talk about your next workout. If she goes along and gets hot too, bonus.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 01:15 PM
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have the potential for plate spinning but i dont think i can cross that line, physically. That's fine. People around here call that catch and release. It's still a decent ego boost to exchange contact info and meet up with other women, even if it doesn't lead to sex for whatever reason. If your wife is meeting your needs, good for you. Not everybody has that. I personally only think of the one non-wife woman I'm having regular sex with as plate, but there have been multiple near misses, includin…
/r/askMRP22/10/18 01:02 PM
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I did. When you say "toxic masculinity" you're really saying that masculinity is toxic. It simply is not. When you're a man who says that, you sound like at best a white knight, and at worst, as a completely whipped man who is embarrassed to be himself.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/18 01:03 PM
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https://therationalmale.com/tag/toxic-masculinity/ If you don't want to read the whole thing, just jump to the header "The End of Toxic Masculinity".
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/18 12:31 PM
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Thanks for your description of the mental process with debt; never realized I do some of the same things.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/18 11:42 AM
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because much of it is toxic counterproductive and ineffective When you are talking about any discussion of masculinity and you use the word 'toxic' you sound like the worst of the things that come out of feminism. Choose a different word.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/18 11:45 PM
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what is the point of fucking the same woman multiple times unless you want to groom her into your slut? I was going to explain just that, but you beat me to it. You don't return to the same woman because you have no options, but because she earned your time and attention. Also, Sex God Method all the way. Author recommends being upfront from day zero that you are not monogamous. You can subcommunicate that, but I go straight for actual words. You'll quickly filter out the women who don't want th…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 01:02 AM
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The same way that a man past 35 or 40 who has no beer gut, and strong upper body stands out in a crowd... that's the way a woman of the same age with long hair stands out in a crowd.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/18 11:49 PM
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Appearance is less important than women think it is; men are a lot less picky than women think. If you have to decide where to put your effort, this particular man's opinion is that getting exercise is more important than wearing makeup, and simply growing your hair out and having long hair past your shoulders after age 30 or 35 is more important than spending a fortune at a salon on highlights or whatever women do. So many women get past a certain age and chop their hair off. Sad. I find long g…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/18 12:54 PM
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My favorite part of that lady's post was about how she snooped on his phone and didn't find anything, therefore there's no way her hot husband is banging other women or could have at any point in the past five years. As if your wet dick leaves marks on your phone or something. My second favorite part is how she "forgives" him for flirting with other women.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/18 12:50 PM
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“Well no wonder you’re uncomfortable look how you’re sitting. (She was slouched down in the couch laying back a little bit) here let me help you with that” Behold, the power of kino. We usually talk about it in terms of getting a woman home, or getting the wife to transition from the kitchen into the bedroom. It's also useful to completely change the mood of a woman in a situation like the one you found yourself in. Good post.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 11:07 PM
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I’m 6ft 1”, I weighed 163lbs, Body fat around 10% OMG, that does sound like a concentration camp inmate. I'm 6'0", 195, 12%, and I'm not big. I’v put on 19lb of muscle in 6 months. Pay attention to your joints and tendons. You can put on muscle fast, but some other tissue might not keep up. If you feel stereotypical symptoms of tendinitis, back the fuck off until it feels better. You also may benefit from stretching, up to and including yoga. I used to laugh at yoga until it really helped my leg…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 10:40 PM
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her attitude after the fact like she had just apologized to end the conversation, literally no signs of "yeah, that was a bad move", made me mad as fuck. In my experience, the way she apologizes is by sucking your dick. If you didn't get that, she didn't apologize.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 10:02 PM
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When did it shatter for you? When I fully internalized the reality of "She's not yours, it's only your turn". And realized how that completely matched up with women I had been with who are now with other men, and my wife's history before me.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 06:59 PM
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How is somebody that out of shape still active duty? Or is he a veteran who let himself go?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/18 01:39 AM
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...and digging his hole deep is what started this whole mess! Too soon for augur jokes?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/18 11:29 PM
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Can't get them to stop clicking their phones long enough to suck his dick.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/18 03:27 AM
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I like your posts. Can't remember how old you are. The age of those women makes more sense if I have a frame of reference. I'll go first. Still married to my starter wife, 38, 6'0, 195, 12% body fat. Wife is 37, plate is 30. I agree with most of what you said. Frame is everything, lead the sex, establish early that you're the prize. Yes, to almost all of that. I like it, except your recommendation of Bumble. Bumble terms of service says that you have to use your real name. Maybe you're doing tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/18 03:26 AM
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ETA: oh and what stupid shit recommends this boundaries and ask her whereabouts stuff? I've heard of this before. I don't know who actually recommends this; it's obviously putting a ventilator and a feeding tube on a dead relationship. But I know that it's standard operating procedure for a certain kind of post-infidelity-getting-found-out relationship counseling because I saw the same shit go down with a friend. Public service announcement: If you're going to instant message your side chic, don…
/r/askMRP21/07/18 01:28 PM
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Way too many words. Listen, I've had belligerent, stupid fucking guys try to start shit with me. I think it comes with the territory if you start getting jacked. I was at a McDonalds, and some 65 year old dude with his grandson started talking shit at me because I didn't hold the door for him on my way out of the building. He's swearing at me, and I'm like well aren't you setting a great example for your grandson. Well, fuck you, but guess what. Any dude who would start shit like that is probabl…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/18 03:30 AM
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I want to add that I'm still not sure how I feel about this. I'm glad I've tried new stuff There's an episode of Seinfeld where George does everything different for a day. Orders something different at the deli, starts a conversation with a beautiful woman, and gets a promotion at work. Good job trying something different. Fake it til you make it is one way to get to your end goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/18 02:43 AM
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The egg lies dormant, waiting to be penetrated by the life-giving sperm. If you want to be even more scientific about this, women are born as girls with all the egg cells they will ever have. This actually means that mothers hold the eggs of their possible future grandchildren inside them when they are pregnant with a female child.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/18 12:45 AM
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https://therationalmale.com/2018/07/07/the-goddess-movement/ that's the article.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/18 03:02 AM
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I really did enjoy your FR. Thank you. The one MRP thing I'm glad I did not implement. Learning how to pick up women and getting phone numbers but not sleeping with them. Well, it sounds like you simply didn't need to get to that point to get your wife to respond to you. That doesn't make you moral, it means your wife followed your lead more than some other women around here do for their husbands. There's a reason the dread levels are supposed to be taken in order, including going to 11 or 12 if…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 01:46 AM
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Maybe this post is irrelevant but any thoughts on how you guys would handle this would be appreciated. I'm not into rope. If I was, I wouldn't wait NINE YEARS to find out whether my wife was down for that or not. Lay your kink cards on the table early in a relationship. Best case scenario, you get what you want from the person you want it with. Next best-case scenario is you find out they don't want what you want, and you move onto somebody who does. And yes, I do think your post is irrelevant, …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 02:17 AM
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fuck her in her own bed, shower in her shower and go home I'm there. It's a nice place to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 01:00 PM
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DC too.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 12:54 PM
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what does a 45 year old woman going thru menopause bring to the table? Hopefully, at the very least, her own paycheck so if you're divorced your alimony is minimal. I got my wife working after kids. It was a struggle. There were times I spent more on kid care than what she was bringing in. It was worth it, because she never would have gotten the job she has now without the first few shit jobs as she was going back to work after not working. Also, your perspective will change. A 45 year-old woman…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 12:34 PM
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Good one!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/18 12:17 AM
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This all happened just before her period started so I’m sure PMS played into it as well. That's the tldr there. Get used to your wife's cycle. Absolutely do not change your pattern where you tell her what you're doing, and offer her the chance to join in or not. Except if you want to not tell her at all. Your call, but I think you're at the happy medium of doing your thing and letting her join the ship if she wants. You didn't mention what you're doing to not knock her up. If you're forty and yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/18 01:13 PM
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I'd be okay with her making a play if she was jumping on my dick. Without that part, it sure seems like pure cock block. The way to my heart is through my dick. It's not that complicated.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/18 01:02 AM
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Body 37, 6'0", 193 lbs, 11.5-12% body fat. Part of getting older for me lately has been being sore various places. Right now my gluteus is sore from squats, and left foot sore from some running. Shoulders sore from OHP. All my leg lifts are way off from where they can go; lightened them not wiping myself out for long running races. SL 5x5 numbers lately: squat most recently 145 (max 265) working my way back up, deadlift 205. OHP failing at 125, barbell row failing at 140 starting over at 125, fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 03:04 AM
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in a hotel with kids sleeping. Pro-tip. Get an AirBNB for about the same price, and fuck in a different room with a door that closes. Not that tub sex can't be fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/18 02:36 PM
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You’ve written this a few times and i just don’t get it I had the same thought. I actually liked the part of his post where he talked about going to a powerlifting gym and getting his form rebuilt. A great lifting coach can spot a problem and give great advice. You know who else can do that? A great running coach. I can understand dumping on crossfit. The little I've seen, I've seen people encouraging bad form 'to just get through the WoD', and 'AMRAP', and trying to combine cardio and lifting l…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/18 01:57 AM
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The tides and beach metaphors were nice. Not sure I've ever heard it quite like that. That said, let me offer a contrary opinion. Some beaches are really great for calm water where you can go swimming. But if what you really want is surfing, you're wasting time at that swimming beach. If you want both, you might need to visit more than one beach on a regular basis. Some people claim you can convert a calm water beach into a surfing beach, or you can wait for a perfect storm that may never come. …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/18 11:17 PM
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Great post, thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 09:43 PM
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People criticize Trump for multiple bankruptcies Because people understand that people can make mistakes, and the market can turn through no fault of your own. That house that was a great investment during a rising market turns upside down. But to have it happen repeatedly across multiple business cycles suggests bad judgment.
/r/askMRP16/05/18 08:00 AM
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Alright, here's some advice: stop paying for sex; if you're hot, you'll get it for free. If not, you're not opening enough women, or you're not as hot as you think you are. this 20 year-old wants dick, and apparently yours is good enough. Ride her while it's is your turn. It won't last.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/18 02:05 AM
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It's the hostess woman's house. She's allowed to wander it at will without attracting attention. As for the other woman, she's friends with the hostess, and also gets to wander the house at will, such as to "go help Shelly inside for a while". If her boyfriend isn't completely autistic, he's met some people, and is talking with them. Even better if she comes out of the house with more beer. I have a plate from a shared activity. During breaks, we would sneak into a bathroom or other secluded pla…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 12:54 PM
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Fucking standing up is fun. I tried it with the wife. Got my dick in, she got nervous and told me to put her down. The plate really likes it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/18 10:25 PM
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Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/18 01:59 PM
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what are levels 6-12 doing? They're getting you to just next the bitch! A contrary view is that they are making you better. Getting better at flirting with attractive women is a life skill. Being able to hold a conversation with attractive women WHILE YOUR WIFE IS RIGHT THERE is the next skill. Etc. Managing multiple sexual relationships simultaneously is definitely a skill. I certainly wouldn't recommend nexting her and dating on the open market as a divorced, single man until you've already go…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/18 01:55 PM
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5-6 days a week lifting heavy Take a rest day bro, and make sure you're eating plenty. I pray that you're at least mixing up muscle groups on consecutive days.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/18 01:53 PM
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I would argue that most wives don’t want to divorce either. Men need to use that to their advantage. It really helps if your wife has one or two friends who left their husband and discovered how much life sucks as a 40-ish divorced mom. They can find plenty of cock, but good luck on finding the commitment they had come to expect to be freely given.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/18 01:50 PM
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I think one of the better pieces of advice I've seen about people deliberating on stay/go is go see a divorce lawyer NOW. Make a plan for what things might look like. If you're going to get alimony raped, start a 5 year plan to get your wife working; maybe she will come around by then when she is making her own money and having work responsibilities, or maybe she will still be a horrible mess, but one who can stand her own two feet with less of your money. Either way you win. Especially if you'r…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/18 01:44 PM
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Am I doing something wrong here? Is she actually in agreement about the abortion? Are you sending her by herself to the clinic? Handing over some cash across the table is like something you do with a prostitute, not something you do with your wife. She actually has a point about it being 2/3s of the cost. An abortion is not a time to split a check based on who ordered the steak versus the salad. You should seriously consider consulting a lawyer about your married finances. If you've been married…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/18 05:19 AM
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Did you ever post more about the fallout with your wife and Charlene? Sorry I remember that name; had a near miss with the same name. Is your wife more or less strategically forgetting the whole thing ever happened?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/18 02:20 AM
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I'm DL11 if all you measure is me banging outside my marriage. I post about it regularly. I had a very different FMOFY speech than what is described by bluepillprofessor so we can debate about whether or not I skipped DL10; all of those things started before I ever found this place.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/18 02:18 AM
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I read that whole thing. I'm trying to imagine a good reason that you would stay married to your wife. All I can come up with is that she's now working, about to get a promotion, and that will reduce your alimony if you lock in her new income numbers. If you're going to stick around a few more years anyway, get her working now. No kids who spend all day at school need a SAHM, especially one who sleeps more than an egyptian mummy. Also, you said a dumb thing in there about the decision to SAHM, w…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 12:00 AM
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soooooooo misogynistic You should really ban that word from your vocabulary, unless you use 'misandrous' with equal frequency. The fact that most people know the former word, and many don't know the latter is just further evidence of the way the feminine imperative warps the thinking of even red-pill aware men. And for the record, removing your time and attention from a misbehaving woman is not 'woman-hating', it's refusing to reward bad behavior. Any married man who has never had to do that eit…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 04:26 AM
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Most I weighed on a scale was 230lb OUCH. Good work getting off the denial broken record and taking action. I am 38yo, 6'2" 187lb now I have had it set to lose half a pound a week since I started using it So ... 18% I think you've got your calorie plan and weight goals upside down. I think you should eat more or at least be eating your weight in grams of protein everyday, and lift heavy. I don't think you should be losing weight; I think you should be replacing fat while staying constant weight …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 12:42 AM
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In my experience, the girls are less of a problem than allowing adult female leadership.
/r/askMRP28/04/18 11:21 AM
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Apparently starting a fire is not a requirement for earning any rank. Wilderness Survival merit badge used to have a requirement of starting fires multiple ways without matches, building a shelter, and staying in it for a night. Also, just general strategies for keeping a cool head in an emergency and making a rational plan to accomplish your goals under pressure. No idea whether those requirements are still the same. No idea where you were in Philmont, but if you were above the tree line it get…
/r/askMRP28/04/18 11:19 AM
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Thanks for the field report. she just wants to go and he's going to ruin the last 8-ish years of working toward this loan forgiveness program to accommodate her whim. Hopefully she'll go all Eat. Pray. Love. on him before the trip happens, and she'll be a yoga instructor in Ibiza or something. It's better to be sexual rather than complain about your wife not being sexual. I was out at a concert a few Fridays ago with the wife, and took the exact same strategy.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/18 12:01 AM
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I would see myself as more Beta than others seem to find me. Physical appearance goes a long way here. If you "look the part", people will see you as a dominant male. Simple shit like good posture, making eye contact, being strong, dressing well go a long, long way to convincing people you're alpha, even if you never open your mouth. When women are testing men, they're looking for congruence; does this guy's psychology match his outward appearance? having witnessed the transformation of my sex l…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/18 11:41 AM
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Also those spots are highly competitive. A real shame that the residency couldn't have gone to somebody who wanted to, you know, actually practice medicine.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 02:56 AM
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Yeah, I already mentioned our situations rhyme. My wife has a very expensive education that frankly was going to waste with her sitting at home. Secondly, my wife was shitty at being a stay at home mom. She's a not-very-good cook, a crappy housekeeper, and all that was cute when she was 23 with an hourglass waist and Playboy natural tits and her own paycheck. Way less cute when she wanted to stay at home and have Mom being her only job. That's great that she's going to full-time work already. My…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 09:49 AM
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I've always heard "six packs are made in the kitchen" or whatever the hell stupid saying people throw out. In my experience, it's a two-part process. It's completely true that you can have very strong abs hiding under flab. Also possible for a pretty weak dude to have visible abs if he's thin as hell. My abs aren't ridiculous, they're just strong and visible and palpable.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 09:48 AM
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Thanks for your post. A fair bit of your story rhymes with mine. I've dropped a ton of bodyfat and gotten much stronger. I believe you, but exact / rough numbers mean a lot more than a phrase. they're eager to get to the prize: getting more sex in their marriage. Going to fix that for you as 'getting more sex'. You seem like you're not ready to bang outside your marriage, but I was already there well before I ever found MRP. Do you think your wife is losing sleep staying up thinking about how ba…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 01:00 PM
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Body 37, 6'0", 195 lbs, 12% body fat. I deloaded my leg lifts around my last hard run; no achilles pain, but something weird going on in my ankle. First noticed it yesterday during light squats. Going to do some stretching and hope it's temporary. Have been working my abs harder. Partly because there's a better machine (at my new gym) to hold my legs and do incline situps and partly because I'm a vain bastard and it's getting warmer where I live. Getting results. Reading Still chugging through s…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 11:39 AM
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I feel like being where I am with TRT and HGH is a hell of a lot better than being where I was with Paxil and Skoal. Ha. That's absolutely true. Anti-depressants are awful. I tried some tobacco as a teenager and never got addicted; I know it's tough to quit. Nice work on that too.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/18 11:43 PM
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First, congratulation on your improvements and thanks for your post. There is no way I would be sitting today at 9.2% bodyfat with visible abs without HGH I agree. I've been as lean as 10.5% natural, but it's very difficult to be simultaneously putting on muscle, eating enough, and stay that lean. I'm now hovering between 11.5% and 12% and I run a hell of a lot. I wasn't any more successful with women at 10.5%; in fact, if you have to trade being stronger or leaner, I think stronger at 12% is be…
/r/TheRedPill16/04/18 01:24 PM
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Glad your getting this level of responsiveness at six months. Good chance your marriage is worth sticking around for, and you won't need to bang other women if you don't want to. (b) she wants a divorce That was what initially led me down my road of self-improvement. There's a motto of the Secret Service, that they take all threats seriously. I'm still married and it's been 2.5 years since she said that; I'm slightly more lean than where I started, and heavier, and substantially stronger. (d) I …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 05:15 AM
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she suggested I should try SSRI meds for anxiety That doesn't make any sense. Especially since there are drugs that target anxiety directly. If you're actually having issues, a common starting point is Xanax. They taste like shit because they dissolve quickly. If you're having trouble sleeping, you might want to stop with the sleeping pill and do an anti-anxiety at bedtime.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 01:11 PM
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Body 37, 6'0", 195lbs, 12% body fat. Still running and lifting. A bit of pain in my left elbow. I changed gyms, and I think the marks on the bench press bar are narrower than at my old gym. Going to try moving my hands farther apart and see what happens. Reading Further in second read of Rollo's Preventative Medicine book. AMOG Had fun family mini-vacation and saw some sites and made some memories. Kids had a great time and are already bragging to their friends. Game I know this is no big deal f…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 01:06 PM
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Technically, he's DL 11 because of the plates(s).
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/18 10:29 AM
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She becomes a 10 when you drag her hands across your abs, she doesn't run away, and you follow her on instagram.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/18 10:28 AM
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You need a MAP. Read the book if you want, but make written list of goals for a few months, 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, 25 years. It's a lot easier to take the next step when you know the general direction you want to travel in. These are goals for YOU, not "I want my wife to stop being shitty". You are probably overdue for a read of No More Mr. Nice Guy. What have you actually read so far? "going to the gym" with the wife is sweet. I hope you mean that you're lifting heavy objects and increasing…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/18 11:39 AM
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she knows/suspects your cheating I've done my part by hiding the evidence, and only seeing the plate when I have a plausible cover story for my time. We like to say around here a woman would rather share a high value man than have a low value man all to themselves. preparing her own branch swing or exit strategy Possible. She's not mine, just my turn, and all that. Honestly, I already mourned my marriage for the Disney fantasy I thought I had signed up for years ago, before my vasectomy and my d…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 01:50 AM
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Deadlift form took me a long time to get the hang of. If you're at less than half of your PR, feel free to add some more reps to help reiterate the form. Also see if you can read some form guides, print them out or save them on your phone, and review them right before your set.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 02:58 AM
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I kept initiating and kept getting shut down. I started initiating in other rooms, at other times - rather than "after kids have gone to bed". I recognised and shut down butthurtedness when I got rejected. I find not being butthurt way easier with the plate. I really don't know how other guys really pull off OI without literally having another option lined up.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 02:56 AM
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Body 37, 6'0", 195 lbs, 12% body fat. Had to change gyms as my main gym for the last 18 months or so shut down with little notice. Found a few 'morning crew' refugees at a few places I did free trials on, and settled on a place I've gone a few different times. Plenty of equipment, but also plenty of people, and way less social than my last place. I'll become a regular soon enough and change that for myself, but day one was a good reminder of what I lost when the other place closed. Good news is …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 02:34 AM
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It's a very... freeing feeling, when you finally understand that it is not your job to make other people happy. That's your best sentence. The rest of this got long.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/18 01:58 PM
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I see a few different issues on your post, including you believing in the existence of 'sex addiction'. Did you hold up liquor stores to buy condoms? Quit your job to bang more often? If you've read any sidebar, you know "she's not yours, it's just your turn". You'll have to learn to accept that. Nothing in here about how you're lifting. Nothing in here about spinning plates. The skills you used to land the 'ten', will be the same skills you use if this relationship doesn't work out. One last th…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 05:51 PM
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Maybe he's discovered that cash gives him more fulfillment than pussy. I've known guys like that. Another possibility is he has this idea that he is only allowed to have one woman at a time. I got over that idea but some men don't, and they think that kind of 'personal honor' will be rewarded somehow.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/18 07:06 AM
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I really like that one of your first items was build a MAP. Frankly, I don't see enough emphasis on that from other posts, and maybe it's because everybody already got that on lockdown. I worry it's more because many people never get past the "how do I get my wife to have more sex with me" stage and never look at their overall mission. Get that mission on lockdown, and frame will follow, which then substantially helps with pussy because your head is in the right place.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/18 07:02 AM
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You know what I would have rather read? A Field Report about all the fucking OP is doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 03:04 AM
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Where did you meet this woman? Shared co-ed, public activity. Gamed her in-person. The interest was mutual and obvious. I talk to pretty women I meet. Have had some other near misses, but she was my most successful extra-curricular woman. The single best thing of this entire experience is the absolute certainty that I'll do just fine on the open dating market if my marriage goes down in flames. Does she know you're married? I never take off my ring, including when I'm balls-deep. Yes, she knows …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 03:11 AM
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step 1: Pick a woman who is not very emotionally needy. I successfully screened both a wife and a plate on that quality. step 2: It's easier to lie if you don't have to. I only see her when I have plausible deniability about my whereabouts. If I say I'm someplace, I usually actually spend at least a little time at that place, so it's not a complete lie. step 3: Most of our conversations happen in-person or an abnormal app, rather than over conventional text or phone calls. Some people use encryp…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 11:37 PM
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Body 37, 6'0", 194 pounds, 12% body fat. Lifting three days a week, running easy on lifting days, and harder on other days. Months ago I took a series of personalized advice from u/bogeyd6 and rebuilt my bench press form, and did a lot of light volume with better grip to reinforce the form changes. This has been paying off. I got past 5x5 @ 180 bench in February or so, and got past 5x5 @ 185 last week. This week, I did 3x5 @ 190, and then failed on my fifth rep the last two tries. Will see how t…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 10:22 AM
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I really enjoy book reviews. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 12:44 PM
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MRP never seems to advocate that what she says may be a prelude of things to come. This very thing is discussed in Practical Female Psychology: For the Practical Man in what they call "Early Frame Announcements" from a woman. But those are in the context of the early days of a relationship and screening a woman for whether she is worthy of your time and attention. Listen: women say a lot of words, most of them are blah, blah, blah.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 12:06 AM
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I'm sure you're going to get advice all over the place. Here's my suggestions: you're unlikely to get quite lean without some cardio. you have enough body fat that even if you left your diet alone and just lifted and got more active, you would start leaning out. I think 1500 calories is way too low. I think you're fasting too much. I think you should at least be doing a protein supplement with milk shortly after your weights workout. If you do a diet that makes you miserable you're going to be u…
/r/askMRP14/03/18 02:32 AM
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One of the best Rollo pieces I've read. I'd put this right up there with the Iron Rules.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/18 03:58 AM
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I thought you're supposed to measure from the center of your asshole to the tip of your dick. Isn't that how OP got to 8"?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 12:21 PM
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Tell your wife to set a better phone password, and stop snooping around her phone. What are you, a 12 year-old girl? Your head is entirely up the ass of your wife, and your post is all about her feelings. Give her some new feelings, that's your job. You can't just tell her to "don't think about the gray elephant." You have to be hot and you have to care way less about what she thinks of some guy who dumped her. Nowhere in your post did you mention what you're doing to get the hell out of the hou…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 12:16 PM
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Many years ago, my wife told me I could get a motorcycle when I turned 40. She meant 'never', but 40 is getting closer.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 05:03 PM
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Your excuse of why you don't have a job is kind of lame dude. You write like a native English speaker, you have job skills, and you live abroad. That equals marketable skills. Go to conferences in your industry, and figure out who employs expats living abroad. Also, airplane tickets are cheap. You can work out a commute deal to work somewhere a plane ride away a few days a week, and commute back the other days when you have custody, and work from that place. That counts double if you have the ki…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 02:09 PM
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if you're lifting and working out, you're ahead of 90% of males, and 99% of over-50 males. I completely believe this. It's already startling even at 37. So... many dadbods and I live in a better than usual place by American standards.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 02:05 PM
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Children should be knocked down, taught hard, thrown into difficult, dangerous situations to learn. You should make them mad at you and then SHOW them why they need to respect you, teach them how to demand respect from others, teach them self-respect, teach them how to be confident in who they are.... But you can't teach this way in this day and age You'd probably get arrested. I got this, but not from any school. I had an exceptional boy scout experience growing up. I hope other boys get/got a …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 04:23 AM
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Let's call that four year old on the black diamond 'the natural'. Some people just know what to do, but really, they had a learning curve like everybody else. That kids just started earlier than most people. Fun fact, my wife was one of those three year old skiers, but for the same reason that skiing was easy (she grew up in the mountains) she didn't learn to ride a bike until much later. I prefer cross country to downhill, but then I'm a dork who likes cardio.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 01:44 PM
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Thanks for reading Gottmann so I didn't have to. I suspected as much... that it's all about talk, talk, talk, with a side dish of whack-a-male, and there is no actual plan to fix things if the way everything fell apart is that wife closed her legs for her husband. My male friend who accidentally went DL12 with the wife with failed secops has been eyeball-deep in Gottmann for about half a year. Not going to red-knight him, but going to gently ask some questions about what he has learned.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 02:09 PM
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emotional affair I think that's middle-school code for "I had a crush". And yet I upvoted the post for the headline.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 11:44 PM
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Thanks for reminding me of the existence of Dr Cindy Mestons book Why women have sex. I read it way before I knew about MRP, and didn't really have a framework for getting value from the book. Still have it on the bookshelf; I should read it again.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 10:19 PM
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My only concern is about combining the running with the heavy squatting I'm doing Listen to your body. If nothing hurts, steady on. I'm 6'0", 192lbs, 37. When I got my squat up to 265, I started getting distinct achilles pain (tendinitis) in my right leg, and either lifting heavy or running heavily aggravated it. After a year of stretching, heating pad, and never getting the squat up that heavy, the issue is almost resolved. I think the highest I've gotten since then is 5x5 @ 235. I also run a f…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 03:52 AM
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I have a helluva hard time gaining weight It's not rocket science, it's simple math. If you're not gaining, you're not eating enough calories, and unless you have been really conscious about it, you may not be eating enough protein as a percentage of the food you do eat. How many calories do you eat, and how are your macros? If you don't know, get MyFitnessPal, which is a dumb name for an excellent food tracking app. I believe that her intense running, exercise, low fat diet, and low bf% are con…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 01:39 AM
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I really have no idea where to start. I'm thinking try a running shoe store and see where I get. Suggestions welcome, and I realize this is pretty individualistic. Once you get to the store, they'll have leads on running groups. Most groups have different speeds / skill levels of runners, and you'll be able to find a cohort that won't leave you in the dust. Some running stores also have groups that meet at the store at certain times of the week and run from there. Where have you been with the ru…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 01:27 AM
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Body 37, 6'0", 192, 11-ish% body fat. I suspect I'll continue leaning out during the next few months. I'm down about two pounds since Jan 1st. Had to get in a workout at a crappy gym that didn't have a proper squat rack. Tried to use a smith press, and quickly remembered why I don't like them. Eventually remembered that I could kind of squeeze my body under the bench press bar, pick it up, stand up, and then do the squat with nothing around me. I lightened it up, but got it done. Achilles tendon…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 04:37 AM
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Service industry people are never hitting on you Eh, except when they are. It's rare, and it has happened to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/18 12:07 PM
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Good comparison, and you're close to his height too. You could safely add 15 pounds of muscle and not look fat. That will take a few years unless you go very devoted and go on bulk cycles while lifting heavy.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 10:43 AM
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Body 37, 6'0", 193, 11-12% body fat. Body feels pretty good. Slight achilles tightness that's managed well with my stretching. Running on-point. Bench press seems like my new limit to push through is 5x5 @ 190. Have tried it a few times, and not ready yet, but if I zoom out to the months-and-years level, I've gotten stronger. I just looked back and I was banging against 5x5 @ 170 in Fall 2016, and with form that I now look back at and regret. Every once in a while it's nice to zoom out and see I…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 01:15 AM
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Any idea of your body fat? Can't tell whether you're ripped and very lean, or maybe some version of skinny-fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 12:58 AM
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Believe it or not, I read that whole thing. Holy shit bro, just go find another woman, and cum in her already. I don't think you should hire a prostitute. I think you should practice flirting, opening women in person until you get the hang of it, and then bang at least one of those women. I don't know if your wife is the one and only woman you've ever fucked, in the fashion of Athol Kay, but you care wayyyyyy too much about her particular pussy; around here we call that oneitis. Yes, your post i…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 02:35 AM
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Thoughts or tips ? You didn't give any context for this discussion, but I'll give you mine. I travel regularly with and without my wife. The last two years I've done two vacations with the kids and NOT the wife. Other times I take vacations by myself. Sometimes for business, sometimes for fun. My next one by myself is in two weeks. I think you need to leave the house more often. If you had already built a pattern that you do what you want, and she is free to join you if she wants to, you wouldn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/18 02:15 PM
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You didn't mention anything about handing over divorce papers, having hired a lawyer, having filed in a jurisdiction, having started the clock on a separation if it's required in your area. All you've done is talk, talk, talk, talk. That's starting a battle with a woman on her battlefield. I assume this is not the first time you have tried to use verbal persuasion. I also cringed that this entire discussion involved your kids. No dude, you work out a divorce, and then you explain it to your kids…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/18 02:01 PM
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Body 37, 6'0", 194 lbs, 11-12% body fat. Achilles in good shape; still running about 30 miles per week as part of my spring training plan. First try at 190lb 5x5 bench press failed, 5,5,4,4,3. Felt good to try. I've made some gym buddies asking for spotters. Reading Not much further in Practical Female Psychology: For the Practical Man. Still a fun read. Game Met up with my plate and had some really fun sex. Banged the wife as well. I took to heart something u/Persaeus said, and I found a new si…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 12:42 PM
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Obviously this doesn't help you any No, it's good advice. I have a store just like what you describe, and I buy most of my shoes from them. In 2017, I ran 1300 miles, which is way more than the average person, and probably middle of the road for a 'serious' runner. Their advice has been worth the price difference between them and other places. They also do a lot for the running community, and I respect that by giving them my business. I'm a "regular" there, and sometimes they'll just confirm wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/18 01:28 PM
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I've changed things around through the years. Used to run in very supportive American New Balance shoes. The last few years I've worn probably ten pair of Saucony Kinvaras for most of my training and races. I do have a pair of racing flats; I wear them so rarely I don't remember what they are. I have some weather where I live, so I have some Saucony Rides that I'm wearing mainly right now, and when I go on trails I have some New Balance Leadvilles. Right now it's like 85% of the time in the Ride…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/18 12:31 AM
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I think you're very close to the truth here. I don't know how she got into the party where she met Aziz. I assume she banged somebody who had some connections to get in as a +1, and then tried branch swinging to an actual celebrity, and this was the best she could pull. I think she wanted to brag about her date to her social circle, and that one of her friends shamed her for dating a brown dude. After that, I don't know how much of her story is real, and how much is after-the-fact hamster to abs…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/18 03:22 AM
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I was holding back from stating my value and holding frame. How funny she was finally interested once I had the balls to walk away? Well, the thing about that is if you still did not get a response, then you have 11 / 12 / divorce in front of you. If you actually don't want divorce or 12, I can see why you would slow down as you crept up on 10.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/18 12:23 AM
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Body 37, 6'0", 194 lbs, 11-12% body fat. Running a lot again, I expect I'll lose some weight and some fat over the next month or so. Achieved my goal for the end of 2016, of 5x5 bench press @ 185. Next I get to try 190 for the first time. My real goal has been 5x5 bench at body weight, and that means I gotta increase and try again. My achilles tendinitis is maybe a 3 of 10 right now. I lightened up my squats and deadlift, and have been stretching. Seeing if I can not make it worse. Reading Furth…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/18 12:13 AM
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Luckily I have a book I can read again, and see if I missed something. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/18 08:18 PM
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what would single me do That may or may not be the right question, unless you mean "what would divorced-with-kids me do". Would you really give her complete custody of your kids? I've straight up told my wife that I want 50/50 time, and I'm a quite involved father. I'm not sure if you mean the version of yourself at a different stage in your life before you ever married her. Do you think you would be having this existential crisis of yours if she was out there making her own money? You don't hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/18 02:57 AM
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I couldn't tell whether you believe that your marriage has improved or not since arriving at MRP. I'm curious. Has it? If you're measuring straight up sex frequency, it's gotten a little worse since finding MRP. I think with a science brain, and really I would need a second wife twin to not have tried MRP with to truly conclude it did not help. There's a fair chance without MRP, the sex frequency would be worse than it is. MRP certainly helped me understand women overall, and I've sharpened my g…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/18 07:52 PM
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I believe her; not because I trust her — just don’t think logistics would allow it — but I could be wrong. Ever had a quickie in a bathroom or other public place? It takes very little time if you have two passionate people who want to get each other off fast. I guess seeing someone squat over 6 plates gets the panties wet. You're solidly in the category of strength that impresses other men. You impress pretty much any woman when you're at the level of the QB and other team members you mentioned.…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/18 06:43 PM
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Thanks for the post. if you drive as many as 25,000 miles per year, you’re spending the equivalent of thirteen forty-hour weeks sitting behind the wheel of your car. I realized something similar early in my career. I fucking hated driving that much, and I've optimized my life to limit how much time I spend in my car. When I was at my job with the worst commute, first I built a carpool with a buddy in the same town, and we traded off driving and picking each other up. After he quit and I was doin…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/18 06:34 PM
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Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/18 04:06 AM
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I laughed out loud at "Women are super sensitive about blowing Aziz Ansari."
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 12:31 AM
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for the most part it's as blue out there as a comic con...another cultural phenom with significant overlap to kink. Dan Savage has described BDSM as "Cops and Robbers with your pants off". I think it appeals to people with a deep imagination, patience, and forethought and yeah, there's signficant overlap with nerd / scifi / cosplay scenes. There are way easier ways to get your rocks off than building an elaborate rope scene, or creating an entire outfitted dungeon.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 12:04 AM
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Thankfully the elbow pain is not happening at all at the moment. If first started during the Men of March 100 pushups a day. When it's around, I feel it on the "outside" of my elbow, near the joint, on the tricep side of the joint. I think that makes it a form of tendinitis.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 11:56 PM
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complete ab improvements from 'visible' to 6 pack Didn't see much in there about diet. I know very strong men who don't really have the six pack because they are 20-ish percent body fat. To really have abs that pop you need to get down to 10% and lower body fat. If that doesn't seem worth the effort, just for abs, I tend to agree. I've gotten as low as 9.5% body fat, and it seems like my body is similar to yours (my wife is even 5'7"). I could only really maintain that with strict diet AND major…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 12:31 PM
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Body 37, 6'0", 194 pounds, 11-12% body fat. In the fall, I suspended my usual SL 5x5 and did a bunch of bench press volume at lighter weights. I'm now back up to where I was failing before I suspended that program. Failed on 5x5 bench @185 the last two times I tried. General aches and pains associated with lifting and running are on hiatus for the moment. I've had elbow pain that I associated especially with heavy barbell row, and probably too narrow of a grip on bench press. I've been doing all…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 10:39 AM
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Some say videotape all your sexual encounters.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 12:29 PM
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Emotionally abusive = I didn't get my way 100% of the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/18 10:23 PM
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I've heard almost those exact words from a post-wall forties single mom.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 11:48 PM
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I wonder if there is a single couple on the planet who has benefited from marriage counseling. Sure a couple made up of marriage counselors, who financially benefit when people go see them.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 11:47 PM
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(Esther Perell- author of the Manipulated Male) That's my only quibble. Manipulated Male was Esther Vilar I realize it's confusing to think of two Esthers who say valuable things with accented English. Esther Perel is more modern. Her brand new book which I have not yet read is The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. Her older popular book which I enjoyed was Mating in Captivity So which Esther got featured in the book you just read?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 11:45 PM
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I was coming at diet from a different perspective. I was running a lot, and losing weight because I wasn't eating enough, and what I was eating was way too carb heavy. Balancing my macros and eating much more protein so I wasnt' always hungry between meals was key for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 09:20 AM
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Second, the underwear thing didnt seem like a hard no to me. It was LMR. I thought the same thing. Also, you can rub a pussy through panties, especially if she's soaked.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 01:40 AM
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You're right about the peanuts. Before, I would do things that were way more carb heavy, and my personal biggest problem was balancing macros; I was way too heavy on the carbs. Sounds like that's not your problem at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 12:15 AM
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more time and money on clothing than ever before A tip that you may like, if you're as cheap as me... once you know your size, and if your body is staying a stable size you can do well on eBay. I've gotten some great $150 wool slacks in my correct size for $15-$20. Some people swear by buying suits on eBay. I haven't tried that. Same for once you know your collared shirt neck / sleeve size. I got a sweet Brooks Brother's white button-up for like $12.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 11:59 PM
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in the past I’ve gotten myself into situations where I’m so hungry I felt dizzy Glad you learned to stop doing that. If your ONLY goal is lose weight, yeah, that works, but literally starving is not compatible with also expecting performance from your body when you lift or cardio. I didn't see any mention of eggs / dairy / nuts in your diet. I really like siggis yogurt, and I eat lot of eggs and whole milk. When I have to snack, I have a mega container of peanuts. Nice blend of fat and protein.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 01:54 PM
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I think your timing on reading Models is good if you're getting back out there and meeting women. If you haven't already read Bang and Day Bang, those are excellent complements to Models. How are you doing on the non-approach stuff mentioned in Models, like dressing well, grooming, taking care of your body?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 01:50 PM
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Body 37, 6'0", 193, 11.5% body fat. Eased off on the bulk because I felt sluggish and blah. Will keep watching the trend. For the moment, the trend is I lost some weight and fat. Just missed bench 5x5 @ 180 over the weekend with a spotter. Failed on OHP 5x5 @ 135 yesterday. Upper body pictures one year apart show upper body muscle gains. Have been way lower on the running mileage than typical for this time of the year; blaming sick self, sick kids, weather, etc. Those things are real, but I coul…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 01:46 PM
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I slept with a close friend of ours I'm not sure this really shows the abundance you want. Banged / banging anybody else besides that lady? and that all our other friends knew about it already That's one way to go straight to DL 12. Is the lady the world's biggest gossip, or did you make sure it all got back to your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 08:42 PM
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Heh. She tried to cross-taper onto it. It made her anxiety worse. She gave up and went back.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 11:36 AM
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Go google some pictures of Sharon Tate, Roman's wife before she was murdered. Roman was slaying it in his prime. I'm with you for Woody Allen not being conventionally attractive, but there are women who like the nerdy, neurotic humor schtick he does, plus celebrity and wealth.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 01:17 AM
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Women might actively pursue men versus men actively pursuing women. There's an app for that: https://bumble.com I read the terms of service, here's a nice one to help enable the female google stalkers of the world You agree to: ...use your real name on your profile; You agree that you will not: misrepresent your identity, your current or previous positions, qualifications or affiliations with a person or entity;
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 01:05 AM
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Got to see him speak in-person shortly before his death. Totally as eloquent and funny in-person. You'll be delighted to hear he was hanging out smoking on the sidewalk after the event. What were the cigarettes going to do, kill him?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 09:40 PM
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Yeah, I've heard that before. I feel like I'm lying to myself unless there's actualizing happening. I really do make money; I don't have to pretend.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 12:29 PM
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I already scrolled enough to see that a lot of people wrote a year-in-review kind of thing. Tempting, but just going to keep it short: Body 6'0", 196, 12% body fat. I've been gaining since November, and I wish I could say it was all muscle. It's not. I know I shouldn't worry, but I'm about 10 pounds up, which is very different after many months of near-perfect consistency around 186 and 10% body fat. Ran a 5k at race pace, and I felt slower despite my leg strength gains. Bench has been coming al…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 01:24 AM
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I get it, but seems sad to say goodbye to all that equipment. I don't get emotional at most of these posts, but <holds back sobs> the heat exchanger. My God, man.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/17 07:35 PM
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My physical conditioning and strength has improved but my weight hasnt fallen because of diet and beer. No description of your body, so I'm not sure what your goal is. If you're lifting a lot, weight staying flat might be a good thing if you're turning fat into muscle. I did that for a solid year and a half. Brewing is fun, and it's much harder for me to turn down a beer I or somebody I know personally made. Been getting a ton of IOIs and have cheated twice, No description of your body, so maybe…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/17 01:53 AM
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Who is going to raise the next generation? If you live in the developed world in Europe, Japan, portions of North America, the answer is immigrants and the ultra-religious; sometimes those two groups overlap. Is the general advice to not have children here? No. The general advice is to have goals, and a mission, and to pursue what you want. If you want a hot, sexy wife who wants sex as much as you do, and you also want kids, it's a really bad idea to knock up a woman who is uninterested in meeti…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/17 06:25 PM
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Have you tried Glucosamine and the other "joint health" supplements? I have not. Somebody else suggested that. I suppose I have nothing to lose; it probably won't actually hurt me.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/17 05:42 AM
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Thanks. It's dumb I hadn't considered hypertrophy for the squats, but yeah, that makes sense. as you age your ability to punish your body without consequence goes away Ha, yeah. I googled my achilles tendonitis and the article basically said "this happens to guys in their thirties who discover weightlifting".
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/17 11:54 PM
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What do you advise? I don't want to stop lifting altogether. Honestly, it comes and goes. I did 5x5 @ 165, then 2x 10 @ 135 with wide grip yesterday and everything felt great. The achilles pain comes and goes too. I put a heating pad in bad and slept with it up against my ankle, and did some ankle flexes. That really helped.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/17 01:07 PM
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I’m certain there are other preventive measures fake name, only gaming when you're not in your home city, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/17 12:26 AM
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assertively tell your wife you’re not attracted to her He eventually did, but only in the context of therapy. It was in a previous post. spun plates and maybe gave your post wall oneitis the dick once or twice and you would have time for no more since you would be gaming much better targets. I suggested the same thing after reading his previous posts about going out in public, and people thinking he was hot and wondering what he was doing with his wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 12:53 PM
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at 43 and single with no family, she knew time for a “regular” life with a good guy was slipping away. She's post-wall, even if she's totally hot. She missed her chance to have her own kids, and best she will be able to do is adopt or raise somebody else's kids. That counts as family in my book, but there are some women who only count kids who came through their vag. no ones fault but my own. Yeah. My buddy took his marriage to 11, fucked up his secops, and promptly turned it into 12. I don't kn…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 02:24 AM
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Body 37, 6'0", 191, 11% body fat. Have been gaining slowly. Put on a button-up I haven't worn since last spring, and it's tight in the shoulders. Upper-body hypertrophy is working. Right ankle hurting a bit, which is new. Hoping that's temporary. I've been squatting heavy-for-me. 5x5 @215 this morning. Right elbow has been hurting intermittently since the Men of March 100 daily pushups challenge. Bench at 165 next. The pain comes and goes, and I had adjusted my row sets because I thought it was …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 01:46 AM
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I and a lot of other people here made a series of mistakes to get to where we are now, and we're making the best of the situation we are now in. why would a stud like me settle for "that" woman? Funny story, which is truth that other men have spoken too. People talk about a 1000-foot rope in a marriage. My wife has finally joined the self-improvement bandwagon. She lost 14 or 17 pounds in the last six months. I lost track. She's still not at her married weight, and I am, but she's so much better…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/17 06:12 PM
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In my possibly flawed analysis, instilling dread is the absolute antidote to "grass is greener". Possibly flawed, indeed. The only antidote to 'grass is greener' I know is being greener than the grass over there. You kind of got to it by saying dread, but you need to be more precise, and DL4 ain't going to cut it for women like my wife. preselection, real, and in her face. I went out to a social event in a suit with my wife. Most of the women in my wife's presence had never met me. They were ple…
/r/askMRP17/12/17 02:20 AM
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Partly, this is a silly question. Are you a reader? I am. I have bookshelves with books on lots of topics, including sex books. Kama Sutra, anal sex books, female ejaculation books... Next to those, the other books seem like part of a theme... that I'm an out-of-control hornball, but a literate hornball. I don't know what you have on paper. I have about half digital and half paper. Sex God Method I'm not even sure you can get on paper, and if you have it, I'm curious where you found it and how m…
/r/askMRP17/12/17 01:51 AM
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85% certain she hasn't, Smartphones are tracking devices that also make phone calls. I found out about a feature in my iphone called "frequently visited places". It's very, very deep in the menus. Sure enough, there's the home address of my plate, along with the exact times and dates I've been there.
/r/askMRP15/12/17 10:56 AM
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I think this alone is a solid reason you need to next your wife. Your next wife will be hotter, nicer, and at least five years younger than you. I'm married, and my plate is eight years younger. You can do better if you're actually single.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 10:51 AM
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They’d be in public school in Oklahoma with all of the dumb fucks. Every place has parts that don't suck. If I had to live in Oklahoma, there are urban parts of Tulsa, or smart people in the college towns. Those smart people educate your children well. Do whatever they do. The college towns also include a renewable supply of smart, tight young women. Just saying. Every place has rich men killing it. Just because you move to a crappy place, doesn't mean you can't do very well at a crappy place. L…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/17 08:55 AM
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Wife does too, or at least she does afterwards when she looks back on them. That's my wife too. She's too anxious a lot of the time to have any fun in real-time. Then I ask her about it months later and she only remembers the good. Sometimes I take trips without her, including in November with the kids. There was a legit reason for her not to come, but she's also so anxious / stick-in-the-mud around my family that it's better to leave her at home. The flight ladies eat up dads traveling with the…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 01:48 PM
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It's been weeks months since my last OYS. Body 37, 6'0", 191, 10.5-11% body fat. Put on some weight following end of marathon season. Some of it is continuing to eat tons of food without burning so many calories. Some of it is legit muscle gain in my legs and upper body. I can see more definition in my traps; yay for OHP gains. And some of it is straight up fat; I ate a lot of carbs at Thanksgiving and didn't let up as much as I should. Still tracking the calories. Working my lifts back up follo…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 01:41 PM
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Hypergamy finds a way.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 05:25 AM
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Give more foot massages. I gave her one the other night, and it completely blew my mind how much I used to love giving them when we were dating. Made me wonder why I ever stopped. Is she a foot fetishist / does her pussy get wet when you run your hands all over her feet? That's the reason to give her foot massages. Any other reason sounds like a reward for her. And rewards are fine, if you are rewarding good behavior. Just make sure you're not the guy who gives the dog a treat after he shits on …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 11:53 PM
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Just old porn, maybe. I'm assuming if somebody gets paid to have sex they don't have their betabux paying for a better surgeon. So the newer technique is to make the incisions in their armpits? Good to know. Thanks to youtube, I watched a procedure. The more you know.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/17 11:47 PM
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You couldn't see two scars? Pretty good surgeon then.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/17 09:21 PM
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Benching 3 plates and squatting 4 at less than 200 pounds of body-weight in 12 months? I had the same exact thought. I also wonder how tall he is. with no history of lifting. Did he say that? I figured he must have been a power lifter in his twenties and then slacked off, but kept most of the muscle.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/17 09:12 PM
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I have spent more than my fair share of my life around women with exceptionally large breasts, including my wife. As in, all of her bras have to be mail-ordered. She's had basically since she was a high schooler to get used to having huge tits, and she's over it. She dresses and walks in ways to hide the fact. She's the opposite of what your wife is planning to do, which is to get breasts and then flaunt them. I'm opposed to your wife implants only for practical reasons: I'm not convinced they w…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/17 09:06 PM
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I've heard of it. You are your own judge of your relative SMVs, but I've seen guys who seem to be hotter than their women. Maybe that's part of the thing that drew her to you, who knows. But she doesn't seem to have the passion for you she once did, or maybe this is all just a series of shit tests you need to get better at crushing. You can call it disrespect, but if you believe the manosphere, she doesn't necessarily consciously know she's doing it. Shit testing is just oxygen for her. Frame. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/17 11:56 AM
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Body 37 years old, 6'0", 187 pounds, 10% body fat. Marathon season over, ran more miles already this year than I have the last few years, and I have another month-plus left of 2017. Would not have been possible without all the lifting. Working my squats and deadlift numbers back up steadily now that I'm not running like a crazy person. Achilles tendon stretching on-point, and working so far. Tendinitis staying calm. Squat 5x5 @135, then 155 most recently. Will go to 175 next, and then slow down …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 09:02 AM
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I agree with you, but he should save this for after he had dropped more weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 08:40 AM
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My therapist says nothing is certain, but my wife has likely moved on long ago and that I should focus on being ok while making my life in a new direction. She tells me that if I fix myself that I may find that I don’t want my wife any longer. Your therapist is right, even if you hired a female therapist. Go ahead and stop drinking. Go ahead and lose the weight. Nobody regrets getting into shape. Do it for you. If your wife hasn't actually handed you papers you are not divorced yet. Everybody ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 08:32 AM
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but I've dropped from 17% to 11% BF. One thing for sure: you get secondary selection and your wife feels at least some of the dread. I don't think you'll really have her respect until you have the money to have your own housing situation independent of your trust fund wife. I have a colleague/friend who did something similar to you and married a trust fund woman. She's the second-wealthiest person I've ever known, and way less self-aware about it than the wealthiest person I've ever known. That …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 08:19 AM
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The answer is a blend of yes and no. She acted like TRP thought she would, but she also had a conscious choice in how things ended up. When you look at it from this direction you can see why you would hold a grudge for shouldering all that responsibility. When others tell you to shut up about it and work on you, that's because in reality its the only thing you control most of the time. One very good reason to take most of the blame, or at least try to forget the real fuck ups she made: She doesn…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 08:00 AM
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"For what"? One answer is all the tight-bodied women in their spandex. I suppose you don't actually have to run to admire that, but it's not as creepy when you talk to them if you're running too.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 12:11 AM
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Thanks. I remember thinking that was gold when I read it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 10:31 AM
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What the hell is up with your bench? I'm a scrawny dude compared to the big guys at the gym: 37, 6'0", 187 pounds, 10% body fat. I've done 5x5 bench @ 180. I suspect that 155 is substantially less than you weigh with those other numbers. Seriously congratulations on your squat and deadlift. I can't go anywhere near those. I got to 270 on squat, and my achilles tendon still hasn't forgiven me. Tendinitis ever since.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/17 10:31 PM
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After over 3 years, how can I still be in the anger stage?! Probably because you're still not getting laid. Not getting sex will do that to many guys, including me. Your call whether you fuck other women. If you're hot, and you know how to flirt, I say go for it. I do that, so do other guys here. If you're not hot, fix that first. Don't fuck a coworker, or one of her friends. Does your wife really need you the extra money of you working 60 hours a week? If not, back that shit down to a nice reas…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/17 10:24 PM
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I'm so nerdy that this post really spoke to me. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/17 01:57 PM
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I still don't have the confidence to approach (or even stand out from the crowd) If you're really 6'4" 270, you stand out from the crowd.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/17 01:53 PM
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It's not entirely "focusing on other ass". Dread levels are here for reasons. Some people are already hot, and their wife still hasn't come around.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/17 12:00 AM
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Body 37, 6'0", 187 pounds, 10% body fat. Nearing the end of marathon season, and already working my squat back up. Achilles tendon not bothering me much at the moment. Stretching still helps enormously. Bench press and OHP volume still working great. The hypertrophy is significant. Beginning my transition out of volume back to increasing the lifts. Books Returned to BPP Low-sex marriage book and started over from the beginning. Convinced myself I need to go review my MAP. It's been a while. Furt…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 01:49 AM
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The best way to get her back is to have three or four other women lined up who are better than her... Then you'll stop wanting her. https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/08/rooting-through-garbage/
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 09:29 PM
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I read this controversy and just kind of chuckled to myself. Jack Donovan looks like a GI Joe action figure, and I enjoyed his writing. But he doesn't do theory in the same depth as Rollo, nor practical step-by-step action steps in the manner of TFA. I get value from all three guys. I don't remember anything of value I've gotten from this GLO guy. I eagerly await finding some. This wasn't it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 09:13 PM
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Body 37, 6'0", 186 pounds, 10% body fat. Still running a lot, still maintaining volume on bench press. Lightened leg day after some heavy running. Backs of my legs are sore in a good way. Elbow pain mostly non-existent. Dumbbell rows have started to have lousy form at the end of the sets, so going to lighten those, and maybe increase volume instead of weight. Reading Finished Art of Seduction. Need to flip back to BluePillProfessor book and see what's next on that reading list. Further in Never …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 09:56 PM
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I'm confused. Is your wife bi, or only when she has booze as an excuse? If she's up for FFM threesomes that might one day be fun for you. Slightly off topic, isn't it amusing that alcohol makes men more responsible for their actions in the bedroom when regret is involved, and women less responsible for their actions? So my wife is a shitty housekeeper. It was endearing and cute when she was a hot chic I was banging, and it's a lot less cute and endearing at this point in my marriage. Good news i…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/17 03:47 AM
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women presented with images of men rank 85% of the men viewed as “below average” in looks. Somebody should create a 'statistics from the mouths of women' guidebook. It would include gems like this, along with: any guy I would fuck should be two points of SMV higher than me no such thing as a sugar mummy? There is, but it's not nearly as widespread, and it doesn't come with websites to help pull off the transactions. Sex God Method describes this. Basically, if you really rock a woman's world, yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/17 10:57 PM
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I'm sorry, your wife sounds pretty damn useless between making zero money, banging at least one other guy you know about (what's her side of that thing, anyway? Does she deny it ever happened?), and not-so-good housekeeping skills. Keep working on the getting her employed front. At least it would get her out of the house for a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/17 10:55 PM
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I thought I was leading them, but I definitely have never tried the follow-through. Thanks. I've done the .50 cal muzzle loader, but only on targets. Saw one amazing hangfire. Wish I had instant replay with a clock to know how long it was.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/17 10:49 PM
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Not only can very fat people have sex, but they can actually have kids. A clinician friend has seen 400 pound pregnant women.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/17 10:40 PM
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His description of his wife, and how much he talked about her is too perfect to be invented. Not sure how he found the subreddit though.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/17 10:39 PM
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I suck at hitting clays, but it is super fun. Me too. I feel like Elmer Fudd. What is the trick to actually hitting them? I can shoot a rifle no problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 11:09 PM
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Lifting is great for making yourself look better, and I recommend it to everybody. But to actually cut your fat, you probably need to mix in some cardio. I don't know what's wrong with your knee, but swimming burns a fuckload of calories, and you don't have to put weight on your knee. If you know how to swim, try cranking out some laps and see if you feel better. Once you're hot, flirt with the lifeguards and the other lap swimmers. It's not hard to get one of those scales that has electrodes an…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 10:59 PM
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Body 37, 6'0", 187 pounds, 10% body fat. Gained one pound. It's marathon season and I let up on eating a bit. Glad to see the scale going the other way again. Achilles tendon still upset. Heat and stretching are still the answer Bench press volume is still ongoing. 5x10 @ 135, then more wide grip reps until I got 50 more @115. Elbow not angry at me which is a nice change. Think switching to dumbell rows was the right answer. Have been mixing up the ab exercises. Different version of V-ups, and h…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 10:49 PM
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These people think scientific method only applies in the lab. Example: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Language_of_God This guy was a major player in the Human Genome Project, and spent his time writing a book about theology / christianity. That's what you call turning off the scientific process on your way out of the lab.
/r/askMRP21/10/17 08:49 AM
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If she has severe endometriosis, why isn't she getting a hysterectomy? There are lots of forms of contraception / hormone alteration. Why did her doctor suggest nuvaring? Congratulations on getting to where you were in college. Keep going. Lifting gains take time. If you're not getting IOIs and flirting from women who owe you nothing, you have room to improve. Your woman may or may not follow you if you lead more. But the farther out into male awesomeness you go, the easier you'll find other int…
/r/askMRP21/10/17 08:30 AM
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She's attractive to me... I get the sex I like You can get all those things still when you demote her to FWB / plate. Start fucking other people, and only think about this woman with your dick. That's how you get over the fact that she's got a great body, but she's not worth upgrading to wife, ever. Absolutely do not trust this woman with your sperm. Condoms only, or cum in her mouth. THAT'S the reason you don't marry a woman you can't trust. I solved that issue with my plate by getting a vasect…
/r/askMRP21/10/17 08:12 AM
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Can you separate love and sex? I have a wife and another lady. Other people can do a few simultaneous. Sex God Method says his limit is four-at-a-time, and after that it's too much work. He also says you admit you're a horny, non-monogamous mofo up-front, so there are no surprises later. That whole thing about a woman would rather share a high-quality man than have a low quality man all to themself applies.
/r/askMRP21/10/17 07:50 AM
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I've broken a lease before. The best way: tell the landlord what's going on, and ask if they'll let you out if you find new tenants. in most places, a landlord can't both hold you to the original lease, and ALSO forbid you to sublet it yourself. If they won't let you break the lease, they can't stop you from listing the place yourself, taking the rent, and passing it on to the landlord to cover your lease. First, local law usually gives you rights, and secondly, what are they going to do, evict …
/r/askMRP21/10/17 07:38 AM
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sort of a standard power game with her I completely agree. And I think you've hit the nail on the head of her principal objection... that she would lose (more) power. The bedroom isn't dead. That might very well be true, but is there still stuff you feel like you're missing with your married sex with her?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 11:47 PM
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I admit to spending time over at r/deadbedrooms, and I found that sub before I found this sub. The people there say you have three choices: divorce stay married, and fuck outside your marriage stay married, and hope shit somehow gets better I've been pursuing the second and third options simultaneously. Sometimes things get better for a while. January 2016, we fucked eleven times. If that was normal, I think I would honestly stop fucking my plate. A more typical month is three to five times. Bef…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 11:27 PM
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Solid post. 10's (non-existent IMO) I agree to the extent that women are unlikely to keep an ultra-high sex rank without some decay over time. The woman I married was pretty close to a ten as a teenager. Hourglass waist, tits most people assume were surgical but were not, beautiful smile, and top-percentile student. Post-marriage in her twenties she put on weight and got better at hiding her beauty behind glasses and motherhood. I'd put her at a 5-6 now just strictly on body, not knowing anythin…
/r/RPChristians17/10/17 11:20 PM
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I've stayed the exact same weight of 174 pounds while slowly changing fat into muscle, I'd estimate 17-18% BF to 11-12% at this point. Diet is on point. How tall are you, and how old are you? Your progress is actually quite impressive. What is your goal? I have a specific goal of body weight 5x5 bench press. I'm not there yet, and that particular goal has taken far longer than I thought it would. My original target was the end of 2016. I weigh 186 at the moment, and I've made it to 5x5 @ 180, an…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 10:37 PM
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It's not the window. It's easier to put up a shade than fix than her being scared of walking past it. I half agree with you that it's not the window. The root problem is she doesn't think he's competent (enough) to command her or her family. And for that reason I almost agree with her about the divorce. If she wants to jump ship it's better now than later. Before she jumps ship, she should be certain to face the harsh reality of: unless husband is a total drunk criminal, he will get about half c…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 10:19 PM
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Body 37, 6'0", 186 pounds, 10% body fat. Elbow not bugging me much. Switching to individual arm dumbell row from barbell row seems to have been a good idea. Still steady on with the bench volume. 5 x 10 @ 135, then 2 x 15 @ 115 wide grip this morning. Lightened the squats like crazy; still in marathon season. Right achilles tendon inflammation at the heal still a thing. Heat still helps. I notice if I skip a stretching day, so I should really stop doing that. Reading Almost done with Art of Sedu…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 10:07 PM
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1) my wife and I both had other relationships before this one. You may not always agree with your husband. You can still like him anyway. Open disagreement is the way many people choose to work through their differences. Some people have parents who never argued. Other people have parents who argued a lot. Your relationship isn't necessarily broken just because you sometimes disagree. I'm genuinely sorry you married the first dude you had sex with. He probably has flaws, but he probably has a lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 12:41 AM
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He consistently talks down to me, which I don't know how to handle without seeming like a whinny bitch. Can you give us some more frame of reference for all of this? This is your one and only long-term relationship? You're asking in the same breath for him to "lead" and be more "red pill", and also saying that he doesn't 'respect' you. This means to me that on a certain level, you don't accept his command, nor consider him a plausible leader of your family. I don't know if him lifting or getting…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 12:11 AM
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I've managed to not do shit True. If you've been doing zero kino with her, and haven't kissed her, your 'signals' are at least half in your imagination. If you really want to see how this turns out, kiss her in public the next time you see her. If she pulls back or acts disgusted you know what she really thinks of you, and you blame it on the beer if you want to DEER about it. Only you know whether you can maintain your marriage and another girl at the same time. I do that, others here do that. …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 02:14 PM
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Jesus Christ dude, kill two birds with one stone. Propose a threesome with miss cheerleader chic lady and your wife. Chic will probably say no, and then you can move on with your life. But maybe, maybe, she'll be down, and then you won't be cheating because your wife is in the room too. Stop oneitis-ing somebody you haven't even kissed. I don't have anything moral against fucking outside your marriage, just keep it quiet if you're going to do that. Strange is a good enough reason in my opinion.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 12:24 PM
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Lessons learned: I can think of many, and I think "don't be afraid of your woman" is a corollary of "objective reality exists, whether or not you accept it". If he is as you describe, he has no idea how much pussy he could be slaying if he didn't limit himself to his spa-queen cash-burner.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 12:11 PM
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I think it's still a worthwhile post. Some wives legs are glued shut, some will come open if the guy just stops being a fat slob. It seems this level of game is enough to get his particular wife to fuck him willingly and regularly. Good for him.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 12:04 PM
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Apparently she had a point, he really was quite fat, and when he fixed it, she wanted to fuck him again.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 04:25 PM
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One of the best essays Rollo has written in a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 03:46 AM
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solid insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 11:27 PM
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We all fuck up. I didn't pick my wife as well as I thought I did either. I praise the lucky stars, or tinkerbell, or the fact that she's whip-smart and hates staying at home for the fact that she's making great money. It sounds like your children are getting older. At least old enough be granted the long-anticipated Phone Privileges. That means your children are noticing you have your shit together and your ex wife does not. Keep modeling what an adult should be doing with their life. They're ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 10:34 PM
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Body 37, 6'0", 186 lbs, 10% body fat. Have been running a lot, still eating, but slight weight loss over last few weeks. May have more weight loss before October is over. Hurt left big toe a week and a half ago. Have most of my range of motion back, but it hurts if I flex it to the extremes, or if I try applying power from my foot through that toe. Applying heat and hopes it continues to get better. Right achilles tendon angry and inflamed at insertion point on my heel. Heat is helping. Right el…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 10:24 PM
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Lesson you should have learned: stop snooping on your ex. If she mattered, she wouldn't be your ex. your time is valuable. Spend it doing something else smartphones hold all kind of data we wish they would not hold. I learned this week that my iphone has a feature called "frequently visited places". It's very deep in a set of menus. Places I visited on vacation are on there, and so is the home address of my plate. Watch what your phone records about you. It's basically a giant surveillance devic…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 12:20 PM
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I felt differently when checking out girls, which is at least 30% of my commute between reading. Work on raising to 15% of your commute talking to said girls. It sounds like you have a train commute or bus commute. It's not very hard. You walk up, you start talking to women. Talking to women is a lot less creepy than staring at them. If you really enjoy studying the shit out of something before trying it, I recommend: Models, Mark Manson Bang, Roosh Day Bang, Roosh Once you can talk to women, yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 11:18 AM
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I cut out the coffee in late 2015. Not for any moral or ethical reasons; I was drinking too much coffee and it was messing with my sleep and digestion. I had stepped down to a lot of decaf, but it was still harsh. It was also partly a social thing I would do at work, and I gave it up during a long work vacation. I still drink tea; the coffee was just way too harsh on me. Your lots of milk, protein, and generally 'eating more' is all solid strategy. It's not especially impossible, but most guys s…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 12:28 PM
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he can fall into the trap of putting in minimal effort and being successful. If he doesn’t learn these lessons now, one day those who learned to work hard for success will overtake him, the day where natural talent cannot take you any farther. That was a beautiful paragraph, and true about many life endeavors. I think wrestling is a decent sport, and unlike most people I've actually gone to college wrestling matches. But I don't think it's intrinsically better than other sports with a heavy focu…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 09:24 PM
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I'm still lifting, and could pickup the wife at her marriage weight, but not anymore :(
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 09:11 PM
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Pick them up and haul them back to their bed, He-Man. Fun fact: I can overhead press my kid back into their high bunk bed.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 06:47 PM
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Nice work dude. Gaining that much muscle in your late forties is very impressive. You didn't say anything about your diet, and it's completely relevant. What are you eating? Listen to your body, continue to rest. Continue working up in steady increments rather than trying to lift way too much and hurting yourself. Your wife asked a great question. So what is your goal with the lifting? Based on what you've said about your wife: no hard noes unsolicited blowjob she's noticing that other women are…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 06:12 PM
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Body 37, 6'0", 187 pounds, 10% body fat. The lighter weight, higher rep volume approach to bench press seems to be giving my elbow enough of a break that it has not been hurting the last week or so. Hope that remains that case. Going to stick with this for at least the end of October, and then flip back to regular 5x5 and see if it's gotten me anywhere. My goal for 5x5 bench @ body weight by end of year is not impossible. I got up to 5x5 @ 180 in August. Stubbed my left big toe hard. I can now w…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 01:17 AM
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have you tried being verbally explicit I wasn't that night. I just sensed all her no sex defenses tingling, and walked out of the bedroom. I was worried I was going to beg. Might be that she had drank too much to be just-happy drunk, to being tired-drunk, and just wanted to go to bed. We always want to blame ourselves, but sometimes we should just assume circumstances are the problem. "that's right baby, and lucky you gets this hot cock tonight" Yeah. We had some sex talk on the way home, becaus…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 10:14 PM
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just engage Pretty much. Opened a cute 20 year old today. I'm 37. Nothing came of it except a few minutes of chatting before I had to go, but it was still fun. If you didn't know it, about half of married women have sex outside their marriage at some point. And a whole lot of single women don't mind having sex with a married man / enjoy the taboo. riskier than anonymous environments. I suppose if you mean that with your real name, they can track down your wife, sure. But I'd rather know enough a…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 10:07 PM
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I made my offer grandiose. I was louder than them. I made bigger movements. It felt somewhat like agreeing and amplifying, but in actions, rather than words. Yep. When you have a choice between actions, err toward those that define you as Alpha Male of the Group.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 09:59 PM
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Body 37, 6'0", 188 pounds, 10% body fat. Elbow is giving me less trouble this week so far. I backed off the heavy bench press and have been doing pure volume. 75 bench reps on Sunday. First 50 @ 135, last 25 @ 95. Achilles tendon is mostly stretched, but still sore right at the back of the heel itself. Annoying, but serviceable. The stretching has been effective. Have done some heating pad too. My knee aggravation has eased up, but it's still a bit of a mystery where it came from. Time seems to …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 02:12 AM
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Step one is everything we recommend here: dress well, lift, and you're already hotter than most of the dad bods there. If you can add in being outgoing and funny, you're all set. I haven't actually fucked any of the school moms, but flirting is fun. The married is double-plausible deniability, and so is having kids in the same school. Opened a new-to-the-school mom at an open house last week. Lady had clearly dressed for the occasion. Cute dress that complemented her figure nicely, and I could c…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 01:05 AM
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My dad did one for a while. To the extent that it was an excuse to meet up and shoot the shit and eat food, sure. It's a social club, and sometimes some of the groups do vague things to improve their community. Where I came from Lions would run food stands at events and then give the money for college scholarships for local schools. If you're looking for things to do, and you've already lifted and OYS and read everything you could try it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/17 07:51 PM
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Want to get to 15% while continuing to gain muscle if possible. Completely possible. Take it slow and steady, the same way you gained the weight to begin with. Keep lifting while you track your calories, don't lie to yourself when you eat donuts. Write it all down, and balance your macros. You need to eat lots of protein and don't be scared to eat fat. When you realize how hard it is to eat 30% protein while eating five bagels you'll eat five bagels less often. It's not going to happen in four m…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/17 02:45 PM
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Simple solutions to simple problems. Sometimes I just need to write this down. Thank you. Most recent night was her idea $175 dinner, and a walk around the city. Last my idea date night was Wendy's followed by Home Depot to buy citronella outdoor candle, then a hike to a scenic overlook and picnic blanket at sunset overlooking water. About $35, and I can still keep reusing the candle.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 11:42 AM
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I mostly cut out date night for the reason I've been talking about here. Lots of money, not much fun. I think of other things I could do with the money than eat expensive food. The money bothers me a fair bit. My girlfriend costs me almost zero money, and the sex almost always follows. With the wife there's no correlation between risk and reward. I've occasionally done very cheap dates with the wife, and those have been appreciated. This was a date she planned (first mistake, probably) and she w…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 11:41 AM
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I'm not sure I've ever read a case where somebody was more in need of When I Say No I Feel Guilty. Buy it on hard cover, and leave it around the house if you want, but buy it and read it. And then when you finish start over and read it again. Also, STFU is a great tactic. Strategic silences are a great tactic. When she stops talking, you stop too. Treat her like the sparring partner she is, not like the hard sell customer in a door-to-door sales interaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 11:34 AM
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she begged me to buy bed restraints so I could tie her down for sex. www.extremerestraints.com
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 12:32 AM
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A variation on this is barbacoa. I buy big roast cuts, pressure cook it until it falls apart, and then add it to burritos or eat it straight up with a fork.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 12:29 AM
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Recommendations on better ways to bulk are welcome. You have to track your calories, and then eat more of the good stuff. I originally started tracking calories because I noticed I was getting sick while marathon training because I wasn't eating enough, and losing weight. I kept experimenting to find the right equilibrium, and discovered that I (6'0", 188 pounds, 10% body fat, very active) need to eat about 3500 calories to stay at zero / slowly gain weight. You'll find a number with experimenta…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 12:25 AM
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DL is still far from maximum but I keep the progression low as recommended. Do that. Build the form, and take your time. This week will be the week of finding a new job. You need an actual plan. A good way to spend some time is mapping out likely employers in your region, what you can contribute to them, and then target your time and attention accordingly. I have no idea what your field is, but if you have a Ph.D., they have conferences, and many fields have associated job fairs / major employer…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 12:20 AM
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Body 37, 6'0", 188 pounds, 10% body fat. Achilles issue is partly back. Right knee angry at me for working it hard / almost falling and catching myself on long trail run. Right elbow tendinitis reminding me it exists. Pecs sore from lots of bench reps. Better to wear out than rust out. Things on track for coming marathon season, minus the knee issue. Backing off the squat weight and mileage anyway and paying close attention. Have had a few swim days, and more to come. I've been away for a while,…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 12:09 AM
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Like a lot of other people, I read Rand. It was useful. I think it was the first positive portrayal of atheism I read in fiction, and that was something I needed at the time. I don't think it's sidebar-worthy. Before you accidentally start worshipping the person rather than the ideas, you can check out the biography of Nathaniel Branden, who was busy banging her for a few years until their relationship went south and she lashed out in a very irrational manner. AWALT. https://en.wikipedia.org/wik…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/17 07:18 PM
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gets "whored up" to go out to dinner, If she puts on so much makeup that she looks and smells like a whore, your original instinct to tell her to back off the makeup was the right thing to do. Don't forget to incentivize. Reward her when she deserves it. Ignore the bad behavior and it will partially go away. This is the same thing you do to train a dog.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/17 12:56 AM
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You claim to be familiar with Red Pill stuff. I don't believe you've read Rational Male. If you had, you would be familiar with the SMV chart and the accompanying explanation that men generally reach their sexual attractiveness peak in their mid-thirties. Certainly true for me. Regardless of the fine details of the particular woman you think you should marry (and this one doesn't sound high quality to me despite your description) you should postpone marriage into your thirties for that reason al…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/17 11:17 AM
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You Care Less About Connecting With Your Wife This is absolutely, 100% true, and long-term, the biggest problem once you get rolling with f-closes. Why would I bother gaming my harpy wife who doesn't appreciate me when I have a twenty-something, 100% low-effort chic with her pussy full of my cum? The short answer is that the wife is game on hard mode, and we should sometimes try to do things that are hard. I got in a serious relationship very young, before I knew myself, and then got married. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 03:52 AM
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I was stunned that all responses were either positive or neutral (no negs), and that I had a lot more fun in the interactions. At an outdoor party on Saturday, I was sitting next to an attractive female sharing a blanket over our laps, and found she readily accepted my hand on her bare inner thigh. (You probably could have taken things further with that woman; finger fucking her under the blanket would have been fun. Just like high school, you lead / escalate until you get push-back, and then yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 03:28 AM
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Body 37, 6'0", 189, 10.5% body fat. For the first time in I don't know how many months, I think I may be eating more than I need. Not going to change calorie intake, because I'm close to some marathons, and I ran 40 miles last week. Just going to note the trend, and see if it self-corrects. I'm trying to figure out what happened. I think I had a light activity week aside from the running. I also think this trend really goes back further, and the real problem may be I need more sleep. Had totally…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 03:17 AM
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Yah, ask Brad how the sex with Angelina is these days. Excellent counter-example. The guy is literally Brad Pitt, although we have to admit she was pretty dang crazy. Remember when she had a vial of Billy Bob Thornton's blood on her necklace? http://www.eonline.com/news/590687/billy-bob-thornton-explains-why-angelina-jolie-wanted-to-wear-a-vial-of-his-blood-around-her-neck There's a related rule: don't stick your dick in crazy, and sure as fuck don't marry it once your realize what you're dealin…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 12:14 AM
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My wife started a bitchy fight about nothing on Saturday. I happened to know she was bleeding right on time. Exhibit A on why you shouldn't take shit seriously that she says. Amused Mastery all the way. I just went and did my thing and let her be angry at her mom's house.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 10:17 PM
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(please choke me with my own undies - ummm, I think I will pass) Just put a single pair of panties between your palm and her throat. You don't have to get multiple pairs out of her drawer and fashion a macrame scarf on-the-spot.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 10:11 PM
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This deserves more than one upvote. Women who are willing to find their inner submissive will be up for super-immersive sex. If your woman can't let go into the immersion (with you) it will not happen. This is explained with plenty of examples in Sex God Method. Do your homework guys. One more moment I want to highlight is when the dude in this story picks up his wife and puts her on the counter. First it's a total dominance move. Second, fix her feels, not her words. Third, a great way to get h…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 10:08 PM
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it's easy to create a routine where you lift weights, go to work, eat dinner, play with kids, go to bed, rinse repeat. I know, because I'll do it for weeks at a time. Not saying that's what you do, either. That's actually a fair criticism, and is mostly what I do, but it's getting me toward some very particular goals... staying lean while building muscle takes consistent, focused effort. And the gains come slow for me. I zoom out to the months view to see the trends taking shape. I'm also lucky …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 01:14 PM
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I don't know how old your kids are, whether they're more or less self-sufficient at this point. It sounds like you're spending an awful lot of non-work hours out of the house. Perhaps you get paid to play gigs, and you're 6'2", and you're making some money while you play, and getting all that inherent social proof. I have a coworker like that. That's cool, and it sounds like you've built your life like that. Keep your wife around, because it sounds like she's doing a lot of kid care. I have a wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 08:14 AM
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What convinced you to finally end your decade-long relationship? Or did she leave for you, and do you a huge favor?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 07:49 AM
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I remember you and your story. I'm not surprised you did more than kiss girls. Bluepillprofessor already did a better job of saying what I came here to say, but I wanted to add a few things: I don't think your wife would be putting out the way she has if you didn't make it so abundantly clear that she is replaceable. Women want men that other women want. You made it clear you are wanted. Other people's opinions matter very little. Your wife's can matter some if you want. You decide what is impor…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/17 12:32 AM
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Body 37, 6'0", 188 pounds, 10% body fat. New deadlift PR 5 @ 275. Completed 5 x 5 bench @ 180. I did this once before, but with crap form. This time it was controlled and I felt like I could do more. Today failed 5x5 @ 185, but had one set where I completed 5 reps. Doing another long social run this weekend; marathon season coming up and things are looking good. Achilles stretching has been working, and tendinitis is minimal so far. Had an uncharacteristic weekend day while on vacation; zero exe…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 10:40 PM
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One of the least complimenty things I say is that I'm doing it so I can keep throwing up my kids in the air as long as possible. I can still do it with the very-tall-for-his-age six year old boy at about 55 pounds. My kids eat that up and giggle and say AGAIN! Going to keep getting bigger. It's really a backhanded compliment that I'm doing it to be a better dad.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 02:38 PM
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I can only laugh and completely disagree. depleting glycogen from your muscles Laughing again. Any exercise that isn't totally worthless depletes glycogen from your muscles. Well-targeted lifting temporarily depletes ATP in a particular location targeted by that lift. Appropriate rest is enough for your cells to replenish it. This is the science between 1.5 minute or 3 minute or 5 minute, or longer rest on that muscle group before the next set. I personally move around and make a circuit to stag…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 09:35 PM
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The dad shows up and the kid starts making mistakes and the dad starts yelling. I've seen this, believe it or not, at the college level. I'm a very attentive fan of my local college teams. It's a school where the team recruits from across the nation, so rare are times parents are in the stands. I immediately found the father of one of the star players. He showed up, started coaching from the stands, and she made fuckups I'd never seen from her in two seasons of mostly being a starter and a stats…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 12:18 PM
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Last date was very much Ironwood-inspired. Ate Wendys. Stopped at Home Depot for citronella candle. Threw it in my backpack along with a lighter. Hiked up a hill in my town and watched the sunset at a scenic overlook only accessible on foot. Laid down a blanket, lit the candle, and chatted until the bugs got to be too much for her. Went home. No sex. I went and fucked my girlfriend a few days later. A few days later my wife jumped on me, and we've been on a good-for-her sex streak since then. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 11:40 PM
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save the "I love you's" for when she's earned them...like say after draining your balls happily. Exactly. If Pavlov can condition dogs to salivate at a bell, this guy can condition his wife to earn his love through sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 11:03 PM
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Because you set yourself up for disappointment with a gigantic covert contract. Go read No More Mr. Nice Guy. Then set a reminder on your calendar six months out to read it again.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 10:47 PM
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we are practically naked, but then she shuts down Perhaps you can try googling LMR, aka Last Minute Resistance, and how to push through it. Sex God Method. Get a copy, read it. Lots of other books about pickup and game discuss it as well. a weak sexual relationship Sidebar much? Do you have literally any ideas on what might fix it? suggestions? Don't threaten divorce unless you already hired a lawyer, have papers ready to hand her, and really see no other options. If you want to threaten somethi…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 10:38 PM
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I've been getting up at 4:30 every day and I used to go lift MWF. Excellent. What did you used to do T H Sat Sun? Currently I find starting the day with 8,000 steps Not a bad plan honestly. I flip back and forth. MWF is run to gym, lift, run home. Total gym run varies but a bit less than 3 usually. T H are run only days. Sometimes 5 miles with hills, other times slightly more but flatter, other times less distance, but speed work. Sat / Sun usually at least one swim, lately at least one long (10…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 10:01 PM
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I still don't really understand this. I need to bone up on my science. There are apps, where you just click the days when your lady is bleeding, and the app will do the rest. That's simplest. The science is a bit complicated because there is some individual variation, and a range of days that are possible. That's part of why the apps are nice. The most accurate way to figure it out for a particular woman is taking her temperature daily, at a specified time, with a thermometer that is accurate at…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 12:56 AM
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1500 calories a day is failure waiting to happen. Agreed. That's the kind of diet they give a bedridden person in a hospital. If he's up and moving around he needs to eat more.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 10:08 PM
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I have no idea how to adjust TDEE or measure anything that links lifting to calories. I don't adjust at all for lifting. I only adjust for actual cardio, which is usually running for me, sometimes swimming.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 10:05 PM
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What is your height and body fat percentage? Your weight means zero without context. I have no idea what a fitbit cal is. And your individual carbs / fat / protein numbers are less useful than percentages of overall calories for that day. MyFitnessPal auto calculates those. Saturday, you had double the steps of Wednesday but ate at a constant rate. If you're trying to do ANYTHING EXCEPT LOSE WEIGHT that's a Bad Idea. If you're even remotely lean you'll be unable to put on muscle. If you're very …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 09:46 PM
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Went camping alone this weekend. Good work. I also recommend two more ideas: a trip away with your male friends a trip you take with the kids, but no wife. A complete server failure no backups Obviously fix the not having backups. If you can afford a person you can trust and have them do a risk assessment of likely shit that can happen to you, you want to be covered for backups. If you don't want to pay for an external service, at least have a removable hard drive and a fire safe.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 09:44 PM
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Keep going slow. Build your form properly, and use the system the way it is intended.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 09:40 PM
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3 all girls 15, 13, 10 OMG dude, read everything Rollo has written about women. It all applies to daughters.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 09:40 PM
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"don't get too big" "I don't want you to be too muscley" "Why are you doing all this" but fobbing them off. Exactly what are you saying or not saying? If they're compliments, agree and amplify. If they're close enough to a compliment, reword what she said as a compliment back to her and agree that you're getting stronger and bigger.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 09:37 PM
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Body 37, 6'0", 188 pounds, 10% body fat. Nearly made 5x5 @ 180 bench press. Failed at the very last rep. Trying again. Elbow is a little grumpy with me. New deadlift PR 5x @ 265. Grip is still tough. May change around the grip. Had a nice long trail run with old and new run buddies over the weekend. Achilles a little inflamed and stretching seems to have fixed it. Yay. Generally have the running dialed in for upcoming marathon season. I have more upper body bulk than I've had for previous marath…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 12:39 PM
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You should not move out, because it sets a precedent that you don't care about spending time with the kids. Counter-offer that you move into the guest bedroom, or garage, or sleep in a tent in the backyard, but don't leave the presence of your children, and stay involved in their lives. I am more scared that my kids are going to think I am a monster. I love them and am crushed I have hurt them. Adultery has nothing to do with your relationship with your children, and you can ask your wife to kin…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/17 12:49 AM
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Best part of this reply is to not expect an apology. Because she won't.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/17 08:48 PM
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there has to be SOME consequence for unacceptable behavior like this. Walk the fuck away. You spend your time with people who deserve your time and attention. My wife has some emotional issues and medication to prove it And yet you married her and continue to tolerate it. This is what we're talking about when we say she is a reflection of you. Either you can do better, or you can't. Go lift some heavy things when she's being a cunt.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/17 08:46 PM
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I am coming to the conclusion that I would only be willing to do this with a woman that was still 100% a virgin. What is your perspective on men who want their wife to be virgins or low n-count? My concern with virgins is that a woman who is really good at turning down sex with other men might also be very good at turning down sex with any guy who is willing to marry her. My concern with virgins is that it often comes coupled with religious hangups about kinkiness, behavior, thinking-outside-the…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/17 08:30 PM
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consistent profitability Just remember that your time is not free, and then be honest about whether your returns justify the effort, and if you subtract the expense, whether you're really beating an index fund. (hint: If Donald Trump had invested his dad's inheritance in S&P 500 and simply performed as well as the market rather than open a bunch of casinos he would be much richer than he really is now). If even ignoring the expense, you're not beating an index fund, then you should stop this and…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/17 09:03 AM
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So some not-very-good day-game, and some time on an adultery website. Did you ever actually have sex with any other women? Your wife certainly does not deserve monogamy with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 11:42 AM
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That's probably not legal. Consult a lawyer with some of your investment money, and get facts, rather than fears.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 11:39 AM
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Do not skip a workout while on vacation. I will have to find a place for Friday’s workout. If you're in the United States, YMCA has a very generous free-away-from-home program. That's how I usually solve lifting days away from home. I've been to YMCAs in seven states so far this year. 15% body fat by 1/1/2018. Are you tracking your nutrition? I didn't get real improvements on body fat until I dialed in my macros. MyFitnessPal is a stupid name for a great app that will auto-calculate your macros …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 01:14 AM
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because the kids were sleeping in the room You guys share your bed with your kids? Unless you're all Little House on the Prairie, you gotta stop that. Get the kids bunk beds, ideally cool ones, and evict them to their own room. Or there's always relocating your wife somewhere else long enough to fuck her; couches work. One of my favorites is to drag my wife's ass to the side of the the couch arm, hang her legs over the side / behind my back and pound into her with the couch for leverage. The cou…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 01:08 AM
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she would say "Please don't" or try and push me away, I ignore, and still give her a big hug, and hold her. That's the right answer. Ignore the spoken words that don't correspond to her emotions. Weight loss is very slow That probably means you're doing it right. Sustainable weight loss (or gains) happen slowly, a little at a time, sustained over months and years. Those people who lose 100 pounds in a few months on The Big Loser often gain it back after the show is over (and more sometimes). htt…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 11:20 PM
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Good description. And yes, you know when you're there.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 02:24 AM
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I also spotted this problem. But you know what else I determined? Getting turned down never is less important than her N, by a significant margin. That seems wrong. I would say that if you married a slut that still fucks you on the regular, your marriage is in better shape than if you married a prude who turns you down nearly 100% of the time. Turned down can't go higher than 10, but N can go up forever, and then get multiplied by 3.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 01:57 AM
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Body 37, 6'0", 188 pounds, 10% body fat. Nutrition still on-point. New deadlift 1x5 PR at 255. Starting to have some grip trouble. Will try gloves on deadlift day and see how it helps. Had already been taking off my wedding ring because it hurt to have it on. Success on 5x5 bench @ 175. Failed on 180 the next bench day. Still sticking with extra sets / reps to at least get to the 25 reps for that day. And still sticking with bonus 50 reps of wide-grip at lighter weight to isolate pecs. Some of m…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 11:59 AM
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Thanks. Maybe my information is old. The standard used to be ten years max.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 08:30 PM
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You probably did everything right for the first time: approached her before you had a chance to psych yourself out walked up confidently cocky and funny That stuff works on less pretty women too. Add in kino and keep the conversation going for a while, and you'll have her number next time.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 11:10 AM
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I didn't get buff Seems like a mistake, honestly. You should start. didn't really change physically. Earlier in your post, you talked about taking a cocktail of psych drugs. Those change your brain chemicals, so yeah, you changed personalities at the very least. You got extremely lucky that your wife followed your changes, that she's pretty far down the scale toward submissive, and that she didn't abandon you during your beta days. Seriously consider not doing the boob job. Reasons not to: they …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 02:28 AM
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I've been looking for the next thing to read on the phone. Thank you for the recommendation.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 02:20 AM
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Dread level negative one. Go lift some heavy things, and report back. Go read some things about comfort tests vs. shit tests. Give your wife a hug, and then a fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 02:16 AM
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200lbs! Looked in the mirror and said "I'm a fat fuck!". This started a crash diet. Lost 36lbs in 4 months. Hard to know what any of that means without your height. But saying 14% body fat helps. Are you tracking your calories versus your exercise? The phrase about abs are made in the kitchen seems to be true for me. Went from once a month duty to 3x a month; probably still duty You have to lead the sex. If the sex sucks, at least try to change it up sometimes. My wife is also nowhere near what …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 02:11 AM
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still interested in getting your dick wet For the record, I was getting my dick wet in my plate less than 24 hours ago. If you have a moral problem with this post, I don't blame you. But I'm posting it anyway. That's an ugly sentence. Stop apologizing for your posts. Let the words stand on their own. When you have a choice between posting a 'disclaimer' and not, go with not. When you have a choice to be succinct, do it. For women your wife knows No, no, and no. Don't fuck your coworkers, especia…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 11:30 PM
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exhausted from the rest of life. That hamster gets tired after so much running.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 11:23 PM
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direct the discussion away from the 'issue' and towards what i call the 'process' Classic example is "i'm not going to keep discussing this if you are going to raise your voice" I do some of this. "I can't believe we're having an argument about this", in a dismissive tone you would use for a child. It's a decent way to try to escape the classic female-led 'double bind' . For more about double-bind, it is discussed in depth in Practical Female Psychology: For the Practical Man.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 11:21 PM
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I thought the power sliding doors were the stupidest lazy-person invention ever. And just to be sure, I rented a minivan with the power sliding doors for a family road trip. By the end of the road trip I was convinced that I needed the power sliding doors. I don't have the power tailgate, but I hear people rave about those; mostly smaller women.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 11:38 AM
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Body 37, 6'0", 188 pounds, 10% body fat. My latest batch of venison sausage is delicious. Still staring at some paté recipes to decide how I want to try making some. Working on bench press volume on recommendation of Bogey. Recently failed on 5x5 @ 175, then followed it up with 50 wide-grip bench reps @ 115. Haven't been sore in my pecs for a while, which means it was time to switch things up like that. Going to stick with it. The yoga stretching is helping with the achilles issues, and I've had…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 09:56 PM
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my car is now on par in value with her minivan. Get a second minivan. Nothing more manly than a man-ivan. Quality post. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 11:06 AM
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Where I live, we pay about $4/hour (we only have one kid though, and the cost per child goes down with additional children in daycare). That amounts to roughly $160/week, and $8,320 per year. That's incredibly, incredibly cheap. Don't dox yourself, but I don't think that exists where I live. I paid $1300/month for one kid in preschool, in recent years. It's about that much still where I live. That did not cover an entire business day. I paid a nanny to pick up kid, also some care of kid two, bri…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 05:43 AM
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Is it possible for a post to get downvoted into negative territory? You're going to find out, OP. We expect people to post here to provide value. I haven't learned anything yet except that you have too much time on your hands. Go lift, get good at it, and tell us what you've learned. Go spin some plates, get good at it, tell us about the best part of game that works for you. Go read the sidebar, or better yet, books that aren't on the sidebar, summarize them, and tell us what you learned. Just m…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 12:40 PM
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I have to thank Rollo for linking to the actual words of the fired googler. None of the media posts I had found were actually linking to it, and this is the first time I got to read it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 10:19 PM
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I finished “Models: Attract Women Through Honesty”. I’m going to go back through and read it a second time, it’s that good. I recommend Bang if you haven't already read it. Some people here think it is dorky, but tracking your approaches, perhaps on a spreadsheet, is not a horrible idea. Write down what you got wrong and what you can improve on. And it's not a bad idea to see if you can remember a woman's name later; good practice for trying to remember her name while you're banging her. I need …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 03:13 AM
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Body 37, 6'0", 188 pounds, 10% body fat. Eating is on-point. Have been snacking on peanuts in the morning until I can make my next batch of venison sausage and add that back to my breakfast (usually eggs and protein shake). Finally failed on deadlift 1x5 @ 255. Had already done 5x5 squat @ 195 and got through deadlift three reps before I couldn't get the bar up. Good to find your limits. Have been adding extra light reps after main 5x5 to bench and OHP as suggested by /u/bogeyd6. Going to keep t…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 12:26 AM
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She maybe has 1 friend. I hope you don't live in the middle of fucking nowhere. Cities are nice for making friends for new moms. Libraries have baby play groups. Churches have baby play groups. Parks have baby play groups. My city has basically at least one scheduled public baby activity per day, and my wife did the circuit when she was home with the kid(s). Is your wife doing a competent job at things besides taking care of her body? Is she cooking and cleaning worth a shit? Is she getting dres…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/17 09:43 PM
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Not a chance. Her only problem is his negative attitude.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/17 01:30 AM
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I played the lotto and won $100 Stop that shit. It's a tax on people who suck at math. Mail your money to me and I'll light it on fire for you. I'm actually thinking of apologizing Nah, save that for a bigger fuck up. she really had no desire to be anywhere near her workplace during her vacation You already say you made a bad choice here. Just don't do it again. Actions matter more than words. And by don't do it again, I mean literally don't take her to that neighborhood during her vacation. Nex…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/17 01:10 AM
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In my experience, there has to be a certain critical mass of women before the drama is so palpable that the men notice. I don't know if the tipping point is 50-50 M/F, but I've seen it happen and it's not pretty. Maybe most corporations are so female that it's an irrelevant point, but certain STEM places might still ride that edge.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 09:38 AM
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200lbs is only a month or two away That is a very exciting thought. I feel like I've been chasing 5x5 @ body weight for a long time... because I have. A lot of guys get there in high school; I never did. It's a legit life goal of mine. Closest I got was 175 / 188 (with close grip and form cheats) or about 93% of goal. So advice time. If you were in my situation as a semi-beginner, about 14 months on SL 5x5, would you say keep the 5x5 bench and add the BBB behind it on the same days, or replace w…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 10:55 AM
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I took several of your suggestions: rebuilt my form, including ending the cheats I was doing with my legs and butt spread my hands farther apart cut the weight, upped the reps, and stayed with that for about two weeks and then went back to SL 5x5 with my improved form, wider grip, and without cheats Punchline is that I failed at a lower weight than where I was before, but that's probably a good thing because I'm counting the reps honestly now. Got knocked down from 175 to 160 and working my way …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 11:54 PM
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I'm tempted to lift more than 3 times per week You're still building form and supporting musculature. Take it slow and steady. You'll find your limits soon enough. She (claims) to feel immense shame and regret. She at least feels regret that she was sloppy enough to get caught. That part at least is not a lie. Keep improving; that's when she will really feel the regret; and eventually you won't care if you truly move on. Also, you win the prize for best MRP formatting markup on your OYS. I also …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 01:03 PM
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Body 37, 6'0", 188, 10% body fat. Have been consciously eating more food to keep up with calorie demands and it's been working; my weight is steady, and maybe slight gain. Too soon to be sure. Ran a race over the weekend that I've done many times, for a PR in better-than-usual weather. Felt great, and saw some old friends. The squats have been paying off in less leg fatigue deep in races. Yay for negative splits. Hooray for lifting. New deadlift PR at 245. Reading Further in Rollo's Preventative…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 12:57 PM
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It was important enough to me that I read it twice, and saved the answers in a google doc. Going to come back and do it again in probably another six months. I also followed the suggestions, including vacations by myself. Although it sounds like you're not even living with your wife, so everyday is a vacation by yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/17 02:14 PM
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she touched her hair. Maybe it was windy and she needed to see where she was going.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/17 06:22 AM
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Can't have a discussion about it, because it always goes back to every single thing I have done to her over 15 years, trying to deflect and validate herself This is not atypical. Many women have iron frames, and we can only aspire to be so able to stare truth in the face and deflect and redirect. Men accept blame. Don't expect it from her; you're not going to get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 08:30 AM
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Are there any critiques that you may have about my first day? You got a lot right. Good job reading WISNIFG. There's a difference between assertive communication and just bulldozing everything in your way. I think you did things right so far. Fogging is huge. Don't forget it's an option. You need to start lifting. Don't put it off. If you have time for tv you have time to squeeze in a lifting routine. Don't hurt yourself. Start off lifting light. Doing a lot of light reps is good for volume, and…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 08:18 AM
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I gave you a general description of him. He obviously had no trouble finding the strange he found. Can't give more details of why he's fuckable without doxxing.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 12:25 PM
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Body 37, 6'0", 188 pounds, 10% body fat. Have consciously been eating more, as I was not maintaining my body weight in the last few weeks. I seem to be back on track. New deadlift record at 240. Form took me a long time to get the hang of. Achilles tightness seems to have gone away since I stayed persistent with the stretching and lightened the squats. Uggh. Someday I want to be able to squat heavy and not have my achilles be mad at me. I was up around 215 when things got bad, and I came down to…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 12:18 PM
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It's not her fault you're not having sex, it's your fault There's a limit to that principle. Some women are broken, and the only solution is to have sex with somebody else. Some men have improved, are objectively hot as measured by how easy he picks up other women, but she can't forget the version of him at his worst, and the only solution is to have sex with somebody else. And now to go back to where the principle is right... at a certain point, it's clear that the only choice is to have sex wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 12:04 PM
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why do I fucking stay around? Not a popular answer around here, but: love. the reality that any custody agreement will have you seeing your kids less often, and it's reasonable to try to avoid that the reality that you will be in worse financial shape divorced from your wife; basically it's only going to be better if she's a horrible spender and you couldn't reign her in any other way except to legally limit her spending to a court-enforced agreement. Even then, there will be shared expenses, an…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 11:23 AM
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This is exhibit A why I started planning the meals a week out. Every time she says "what are we eating tonight" I have an answer and a plan for how it's going to appear on the table. Should she be doing that because she's the one with the vagina? Yes, but I'd rather eat well. I've long since realized the many mistakes I made in picking my particular snowflake. I've taken this to some other conclusions. I planned a valentines getaway without the kids. Didn't tell her the city; just what she shoul…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/17 10:10 PM
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This is a very helpful response. I got the most traction from wife by critically comparing EXACTLY how I behave with wife and plates and bringing the plate game back to wife. I think you nailed it here. That's something I should work on.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 10:03 PM
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Haha. I'm not nearly lucky enough for her to be a neighbor. We have an app we both use. There's a not-very-well-known chat feature inside it. The chat is not the point of the app, but it works just fine as a communications channel, and the history wipes itself after not-very-many lines.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 12:05 PM
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I'm not sure. It's not a bad idea to video yourself and decide for yourself. Good guide to form at: https://stronglifts.com/overhead-press/ and I've read another good guide too, but having trouble finding it right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 12:25 AM
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Don't want to reveal all my spy craft, but I have a hidden-in-plain-sight communications channel. Wife and kid handle the phone. It really really helps that other woman is the least needy woman I've ever dealt with. (so far) She is in my contacts list but we rarely text or call. Maybe twice a year.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 11:02 PM
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Do you want to point me to a recipe you like?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 10:59 PM
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Got a promotion a year ago. I should stick where I am for another year or so.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 10:59 PM
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Thanks for the interpretation. Is she now making more money than you? No, but will be about 90% of what I make, for the first time since when we were dating. Update on her general bitchiness; she started bleeding today. Is she now around higher status/income males than you? No. She will be around some women she admires, who are coincidentally sexually attractive in my opinion. My wife is bi, but these women are straight (and her colleagues).
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 10:57 PM
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I am failing more often now. Overhead Press is my weakspot. That means you're doing it right. Your form may need improvement. I'm a year into it, and have just been rebuilding my bench form as I approach 5 x 5 @ body weight. My grip was too narrow and it was too much tricep and not enough of the rest of my chest. OHP is hard for everybody, especially if you're honest and not cheating on form by using your legs. That's a push press if you use your legs to get the weight moving. The OHP gains come…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 12:06 PM
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Body 36, 6'0", 187 pounds, 10% body fat. Lately my scale has been telling me slightly less than 10%, but rounding up. My achilles tightness is back, despite the yoga stretching and other improvements I've made. Deloaded my squat from 220 to 175. Going to keep up with the stretching and hope this is a momentary setback. New deadlift PR at 230 this week. Hoping to not deload that. Will see how the achilles goes. Third fail bench @ 175, deloading to 155. I've been rebuilding my bench form with a wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 11:57 AM
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This is a long post. Let me ask a question I haven't seen asked yet. All women have a hamster. Has your wife and her hamster done this before? (gone to mom's house with no plans for how long she will stay there) Are you taking care of the kids 24x7 while she is gone (abandoning the kids and marriage), or are you expected to ferry them back and forth to grandmas? Is that arrangement already common to your marriage?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 09:24 AM
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Any thoughts or recommendations? Of course. My ltr (f63) , I'm (m62), One obvious thought is that if you're that financially secure even after two divorces, own your shit, and are reasonably attractive, you can do a lot better than dating a woman with this much baggage. And honestly, I think you should stop calling her your LTR. How long have you been involved with this woman? (edit: one year). Stop it dude. She's your girlfriend at best. Are you going to put a ring on it? Please tell me you're …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 02:11 AM
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her ex was an 'asshole who treated her badly' Waaaah. She was so bad for him. Wonder how long she sucked his dick before the relationship ended.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 01:02 AM
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That's the right book, if you're reading it in book form. The 12 levels are public and are on forums and blogs. The book form gets deeper into details. I've never been fatter than 25% though and I've always been reasonably muscular Lots of people have compared here. I think my wife just has especially high standards, and isn't impressed easily. (Alpha widow).
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 10:15 AM
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Has a job where she can take six weeks off, probably not contributing to the household. I'm confused about which country this is; it's not impossible outside the United States. Some countries do a de facto "month off" in parts of the summer.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 10:12 AM
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Not impossible. The not-very-secret secret is to eat a lot of protein. It's better fuel, it makes you strong if you're doing the work. The other not-very-secret secret is sampling your weight daily, on the same scale, at the same time of day, and assuming that your real weight is somewhere in that variance day-to-day. Were you tracking your food at all, during any of that year? You need to start. 190 at 5'8" sounds heavy, but not if you're jacked. 140 at 5'8" sounds light, and I can't imagine yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 09:49 PM
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You're not the only person who is not getting fucked enough by their wife. Feel free to share your notes. Some guys get a huge turnaround in their wife by doing something as simple as being less of a fat slob. I'm at more of a loss when the guy is not a fat slob to begin with. So BluePillProfessor literally wrote the book about what he recommends, which is a Greatest Hits of this sub and the manosphere in general. It's on the sidebar. I'm still working my way through it because each chapter poin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 11:34 AM
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OMG, way too much about your wife. You can't own her shit. You have to own your shit. Go lift some heavy things and report back next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 12:54 AM
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Nice work on your deadlift. Respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 12:50 AM
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I'm finding it increasingly difficult to practice day game. it seems that every woman is on her phone. Grocery stores and check-out lines anywhere. Women out exercising / walking while you're doing the same thing. Bookstores, which are recommended in Day Bang. I agree that coffee shops are a crapshoot if you don't have the time to sit there and linger the way he recommends. If you do, I think you really can do well with approaches in that environment, because I've had it work. Day Bang anti-reco…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 12:43 AM
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She doesn't want me to touch or even look at her breasts (ever since she stopped breast feeding our last kid), so it throws a wrench into my "usual" foreplay scenario - start by kissing, move to the breasts, etc. I have to admit, it makes it a bit difficult for me. My wife took her breasts heavily offline for the same reasons. Very sad because she has enormous fun boobs. Big reason for the second date after the semi-blind first date. I was playing with them by the end of the second date :) I don…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 12:32 AM
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Dated a second girl - scored - first time in 4 years with an other women than my ex-wife. Congratulations. Sex is nice. The other girl (first girl) is totally manipulative. Sounds like a good reason to drop her and spend your time and attention on more worthy targets.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 12:21 AM
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plateau remained. I've actually lost weight. I don't know how active you used to be, but you're not eating enough for how active you are now. If you have a smartphone, go ahead and grab MyFitnessPal. Stupid name for an app, but it does instant macros and it's the easiest calorie tracking I've ever found. Start by simply writing down everything you eat. Then deliberately eat more protein, and look at your daily macro pie chart. You're probably not eating enough protein; most people don't until th…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 12:04 AM
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Our bedroom has been dead or thereabouts for a couple of years but we’ve been trying for baby 2 for her last 3 or so cycles. The sex has basically been along the lines of “I’m ovulating for the next few days soo...” then we’d have some sex and then nothing until next cycle Why are you making more children with a woman you may have to next? Do you really feel like the deadbedroom is all your fault? It doesn't sound like you're fat and unfuckable to me. My deadbedroom got a lot worse after kid two…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 11:56 PM
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Body 36, 6'0", 186 pounds, 10% body fat. Was seeing a few times with slightly lower reading on the scale while I was sick. Now that I'm feeling better I'm still a pound or two down. First bench fail @ 170 since my remedial bench of about a month ago. It felt honest. I've become convinced that I had some bad form and some cheats (moving my butt off the bench) and I should probably not count the 5 x 5 @ 180 I had achieved previously. First squat fail in months @ 210. I repeatedly deloaded during m…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 11:25 PM
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At 40 years old, I woke up and realized that I need to date younger women if I still want to start a family. Only if you have a very strong desire to be one of the oldest dads at kid pick up / school events / etc. And only if you have a very strong desire to enjoy kid spit-up, barf and change a lot of diapers. Have you considered finding a divorced mom who is also horny and fit and already comes with insta-kids? I know some pretty hot 40-something moms like that. She's ... mid-thirties (still yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/17 02:10 PM
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There's a lot of truth in here. My wife is a shitty cook. She can do simple things. Boiling macaroni? Nails it. Chopping one or perhaps two things? Got it. Six step recipe, which she learned from a cookbook and from following me more than ten times? Maybe three times a year; she has to be in the right mood. She actually straight up said she "doesn't want to be responsible for the outcome". But she can be given subtasks. I can tell her to chop that and it will get done.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 12:22 PM
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someone else could get her to orgasm right now this second Maybe, maybe not. Female orgasm is all about her relaxing enough, and being in tune with her body. Men know how to get themselves off because they start when they're boys. Some women don't ever figure that shit out, or so I'm told. We've all heard horror stories; the woman who has her first orgasm in her thirties or forties. The methods that arouse a particular woman are varied and unique. Some random guy may strike gold and use a techni…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 06:36 AM
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She puffed her chest up, straightened her back and neck and swaggered around in an exaggerated fashion I would pick her up and carry her to bed. Sure sounds like a comfort test to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 06:31 AM
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WTF are you working so hard for? Seriously dude. How about you cut your hours in half, make your wife have a little less comfort. It's best to cut back your income now, before the divorce, then when the settlement is cut and dried, you can go back to working hard. Your kids will do fine in public school. Give them a bit of the reality of how the other half lives.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 01:44 AM
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I don't want fancy meals, just something plain and healthy. I think you should use some of that 100 grand you blew on the kitchen and hire a chef to come over and cook in your hella nice kitchen. You can either pay them on a regular basis to come over, or pay them more to stay and make a few meals that can be frozen or refrigerated. Surely your wife can handle applying heat to something somebody else already cooked. You want the food. Your wife would be cooking if she gave a shit about cooking. …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 01:39 AM
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I can see his emotions if woman was all over the place about it. First picking out clothes and painting a room, and then saying, nope, I don't want this. That would be a big punch in the balls.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 11:38 AM
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"She doesn't want to be with you much, does she?" Ha. Yeah, it does seem that way. Having the first five hours of that built into the week while she's teaching makes more sense. And I, like you, think fitness instructors are hot-hot-hot. I don't know about 9.5 at age 47 hot, but quite hot. Every guy has their particular 'type' that gets extra bonus points for reasons that won't apply to other guys. My thing is tall women; they get extra points for no good reason. But congratulations on your wife…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 09:47 AM
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She has been doing 12-15 hours a week of Zumba, Pilates, Step, Spin, and strength training now for 4 years. I was adding that up. I have a full time job, and little kids, and train more than the average adult male. I only rarely touch that much time, even during peak marathon training season where I'll do a three or four hour run. Example: Today, 5:30AM to 7AM, 90 minutes. Same Mon and Fri. Tue, Thu, 45 minutes each. I'll be at like eight hours of exercise this week, and I'm getting up with the …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 12:38 AM
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Anyone else in a SMV gap like that? No, my gap is in my favor. Wife was a solid 9 in her teens and early twenties, 8 when I married her and is probably a 6 now if I'm being generous and consider her earning power and education. I'm at my weight and strength I was when I was 22, at age 36, just hitting my SMV peak. It's fun. But I know women like what you describe. Women who were tall and too thin and mousy in high school, and now they have fifteen or twenty pounds more and look perfect.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 12:35 AM
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I've been much too easy on myself. I agree. I think you should set a deadline to shit or get off the pot, and then transition back to a desk jockey job where you punch a clock and get a reliable check in return.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 12:31 AM
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Will try.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 12:29 AM
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Avoiding it and you’re broke like me. There are people here who do sales and can give you tips. I'm going to give you a contrarian opinion... There's a saying "if at first you don't succeed, try again". If you still don't succeed, maybe you should try something else. Not everybody is good at sales. I have tried it, and I wouldn't want to have to rely on my skills. If you have good skills in another area, it wouldn't hurt to have a plan B. Instead of selling software, maybe writing software. Or w…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 11:50 PM
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Sounds reasonable, actually. That's a long way to go. I recommend setting some benchmarks along the way toward your goal. You should feel good about losing say 40 pounds, rather than sad that you didn't lose 80 yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 11:44 PM
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Yeah. The liking science was hilarious. He was really embarrassed about it, but reported it as truly how he felt.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 12:22 PM
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How tall are you? How did you decide 200 is your ideal weight? If you're pretty ripped you might want to instead go for a body fat percentage as your goal. John Cena is 250 and he is NOT fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 12:11 PM
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Body 6'0", 36, 188, 10% body fat. Wife is stingy with the compliments, as a rule. AWALT. About a year ago I got "I could feel your abs flexing against me" while we were having sex. Yesterday she reaches over, touches my arm and says "your arms are as big as they were when you met me." I just smiled. I think she's wrong, and I'm bigger than I've ever been. Guys, this is what it takes to impress my particular snowflake up to her base level of attraction she used to have for me. "That Don't Impress…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 11:52 AM
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I took a trip to OH for about a week. Good idea. This is recommended in NMMNG, although it now sounds like you're no longer with the old lady. I have 3 plates going right now Also a good idea. This is a good time to get out your copy of Sex God Method and practice a lot of the fantasies. The women who don't have years of experience with them are a lot more likely to be surprised in a good way with what you bring. Lead the sex, and rotate your visits.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 03:11 AM
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You should edit your post and put that in.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 06:51 PM
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I know a woman of that age who saved that for after she got expelled from her first college, and cut off from her trust fund. That's when she did the checkmate of getting knocked up and having her dad decide whether he wanted to know his only grandchild. She was 19 at the time. She's still rich, and works in real estate, and now that kid graduated college.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 06:48 PM
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I've been reading up on red pill theory, which does a good job of describing the dynamics of male-female relationships, but I haven't found a lot that applies to how to handle daughters. It all applies. Especially once you read Rational Male and Practical Female Psychology: For the Practical Man. I suggest a new idea for you: no idea what your daughter was supposed to be doing with her summer, but it's not going very well. I had summer jobs all through school. Starting when I was 15, my job was …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 06:39 PM
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I agree with you way more than you think I do. The important part you didn't include in quotes was the part about "by not setting a boundary and enforcing it". A quality man weeds out shitty women and moves on with his life. We are both wholly in agreement that shitty women exist.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 06:32 PM
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what are some ways that "All Men Are Like That"--AMALT The biological stuff, specifically that men have generally 20x the testosterone that women have. And all the consequences that come from that hormonal programming. Men are more likely to put on lean muscle and lose their head hair after a certain age. Men are more likely to think they are right and "just do it". Men are more likely to think they will succeed when taking risks. Men are more likely to die from many causes, many of which are re…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 02:15 PM
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a lot of criticism of women Yeah. That's why I can't stand it over at TRP. It's like complaining that it's cold outside in the winter. Just accept that the planet is on a tilted orbit, and put on a coat. Even better, learn out to ski and ice skate, and actually have fun with it. There is quality stuff that shows up over there, but the signal-to-noise ratio is worse. little or no focus/ criticism on what total cunts women can be Here we call that victim puke and assume that the man somehow caused…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 02:06 PM
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My favorites are the alcoholics who discover endurance sports. Holy shit. Talk about replacing one addiction with a better addiction.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 11:45 AM
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I started this months ago, and it's paid off, but it was interesting to hear it from my wife. KINO my fellow chimpazees, KINO. It works on women who are not your wife too. Keep that in mind if shit goes south again.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 01:00 AM
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Xtreme's More than Words Now I have it stuck in my head. Thanks a lot for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 12:56 AM
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When I Say No, I Feel Guilty, M. Smith It's on the sidebar. You need to read it and try the principles.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/17 10:58 AM
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I half agree with you; it really depends on where you are and where she is. I would emphasize the word straight. You should keep improving and keep raising the dread levels. I and others here have discussed how our wives jumped us shortly after we were with other women. Back to back days twice in the last year and a half or so. Not sure whether they can literally smell it, or if it's more like how we walk taller and prouder and wifey can tell the husband has options.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/17 12:08 AM
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If you're that involved, you can probably win 50-50. Consult a lawyer, document it, and put it in writing.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/17 12:02 AM
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She didn't remember it. Selective Alzheimers. I bet she can remember the times she behaved well.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 10:47 PM
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Body 6'0", 189 pounds, ~10.5% body fat. First week back to regular SL 5x5 after four weeks of remedial bench, OHP and barbell rows to correct some form issues. I've broadened my grip on the bar for the three lifts after coming to the conclusion that I was too narrow and limiting my lifts to what my triceps can do. Starting from less than where I was before the month, and I'll let everybody know how it goes. I suspect I'll have time before I know whether this actually lets me get past the plateau…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 05:51 AM
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What was it that gave these concerns? A series of things I've been reading. The phrase Red Pill Rambo gave me concern, and more recently I've been reading a book about trying not to blow up my marriage. How can you be sure they are valid, and not just the discomfort of her emotions affecting you? I'm not sure there's a more discomforting emotion in my marriage than not getting laid while being married and supporting my wife. The rest of the emotions aren't so bad. I mostly cope by turning my ene…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 11:32 PM
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I know a thing or two about religion. If you've picked a religion, you've already done some picking and choosing. You said so yourself with the phrase "religious choices". Answer me this riddle. If it's all so cut and dried, why are there so many different kinds of Catholics: Jesuits, Benedictines, Dominicans, Franciscans. What was Vatican 2 all about? Why are so many Catholics against evolution even though the pope said it was okay? http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/europe/pope-francis-de…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 11:21 PM
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I do know now, but I didn't know ten years ago. This is just one of many mistakes I've made with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 11:16 PM
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Today was my first non-remedial bench day. I'll get back to you on that one.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 11:15 PM
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Spend the money even if the consult is not free. Seriously, this is the kind of situation where you want more than one opinion: brain surgery cancer divorce Pay for a professional.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 09:23 AM
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It's not the end of the world to lose a particular woman. It's not even the end of the world to raise your kid in two households. There's a chance this could have happened if you did everything right, but it sounds like you have not. Start with the lifting. It's very easy to measure your improvements, it's very easy to see results when you're doing it right, and it's very easy to talk about with other guys. All the other stuff is harder to change, but gets easier when you look in the mirror and …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 11:20 AM
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Go get your testosterone checked. You don't say your age, but it could be relevant. And keep lifting. Good job getting there. Too bad she had to push you out the door first.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 02:23 AM
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we have to abstain for NFP to be effective. No, you have to not put semen in a vagina on those days for NFP to be effective. Putting semen in a mouth or on tits or up an ass is perfectly fine. periodic abstinence is the ONLY way we can avoid pregnancy. See previous comment. Also, changing your mind about religion is one of the easiest things you can do. Trying to change somebody else's mind about religion is repeatedly encouraged; it's called 'evangelism', and a whole lot of people do change the…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 01:34 AM
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Walking the fuck away is pretty effective at ending a conversation you don't want to have.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 01:27 AM
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Consensus opinion is to find a better mistress, where "better" is defined as her fun very much outweighs her not-fun. One phrase is "she's supposed to make you hard", not "she is hard to deal with". As for 'it takes time', my plate gave me better oral then my wife on her very first try. My wife had been with me for ten years at the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 11:21 AM
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Body 36, 187 pounds, 10.3% body fat. Despite eating plenty and spending the weekend at a family wedding I still lost some weight (unintentionally) last week. I did some shadow exercise without thinking about it. Ate wedding cake, then danced it off. Week four of modified SL 5x5 to widen my bench and OHP grip and focus on more reps and better form with lighter weight. Probably a month and a half ago I added ab plow to my abs routine and it is still hard and can promptly wear me out. I have some s…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 11:56 AM
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I would second this advice. If you don't mind jumping regularly, and don't mind short term, there are careers where knowing a good agent or two can really advance you. And those jobs can and will lead to permanent hires if that's what you would rather have.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 11:18 AM
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A lot of guys are going to give good advice. Make a list bro: stop sharing your browsing history with your wife, because she obviously snoops. If you need a separate device with biometric password, do it. You need a private place you can tell the truth, and it ain't her if she's threatening divorce and dropping drama on your parents. You need a lawyer. You're married to her, and she's a mess. You don't necessarily need a divorce, but you need to be ready because she's already made threats and dr…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 11:21 AM
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OMG, he's carrying her enormous heels. At least he's not carrying her purse.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 03:03 AM
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Body 36, 6'0", 189, 10.5% body fat. Week three of modified SL 5x5. Rebuilding my bench form with wider grip, trying not to make mistakes like bouncing bar off my chest, having my ass off the bench, and making sure I fully extend my elbows to lockout at the top of the press. Elbow pain / tendinitis is still there, but light. Hoping it stays that way or goes away entirely. Achilles pain / tendinitis comes and goes. The stretching helps. The heating pad helps. I'm steadily increasing my squat, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 02:39 AM
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and see where it goes You can read that as she is a healthy woman who wants sex. You can turn her down if you want, but if the sex is good and she's not bad company, I'd keep seeing her. Just add more plates so you don't think she's special. I know I can't be in it right now. In what? Her? Sure you can. It's fun. I just want something real Nope, it don't work that way: Iron Rule of Tomassi #6 Just measure the things you know how to measure. How she takes care of you. How she cooks and cleans and…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/17 11:18 AM
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You can blow all the sunshine up your butt that you want, but there's another possibility: your ex is post-wall, didn't realize it until the divorce was final, and got way out over her skis. Not the first woman it happened to, and sure won't be the last. Women get married young, age in marriage, and think they'll walk out of their marriage into the same dating world they were in before. Nope, it don't work that way. your ex misses your beta bucks is another likely possibility. If you're an upper…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/17 01:18 AM
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I don’t expect people to be obnoxiously blasting their radios Come to my city, the immigrant and minority parts. Plenty of alpha guys blasting their reggaeton and rap.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/17 01:04 AM
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ultimately it's on you to make what you will of it. You are right in the long run... but I consider it especially cruel to indoctrinate children. At the same time they're learning real from pretend, there are all these adults saying that the thing they believe is real, and the other religions are pretend. It takes a while for a child to learn that adults can't be trusted about some things, including the adults closest to them and especially their parents who are correct about most things.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 11:30 AM
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We have some stuff in common. Religion can really mess people up. Good job eventually seeing through it; it took me too long too. Congratulations on having a wife that came around; I think mine isn't going to make the transition, but I keep giving her time.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 11:15 PM
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watching him waste his talents and mind made him seem dead already. That's the story of my dad right there. I think he's doing more anticipating death than living life, and I don't want to live like that. Use your dad's negative example as a cautionary tale, and fuel for your fire. It's working for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 11:16 AM
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29 year-old's boyfriend I stayed away from; I got a 'I start bar fights for fun' vibe from him, but didn't hang around to get more than a first impression. I was more into the 21 year-old anyway, and we had more to talk about, including the same favorite beer. That's Erdinger Dunkel, in case you want to import me some. I was absolutely AMOGing that group, and dude was not keeping up with the conversation. She has a way more interesting life ahead of her than he does, and I suspect that their rel…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 10:21 PM
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I'm jealous - I hide it, but it's there. You probably don't hide it well, and if you're in-shape and alpha, it will come off as controlling. Women with self-esteem will bail from that. Don't be OJ Simpson, bro. If you're going to date or marry very pretty women, they'll have about as many options as you do, and you'll have to find a way to not be jealous about that. Or date a women two or three steps below your SMV so she's not always getting hit on.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 12:06 PM
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I have pretty much refused all of her advances and attempts to make nice. Eh, channel her attempts at reconciliation into sex seems like a better idea. Go caveman on her until you feel better. I think you were talking way too much.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 01:39 AM
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I am meeting a ONS I met in February while skiing and we are going for serious hike I wondered if you'd get to follow up with her. Have fun! Wait, is this the lady you exchanged numbers with on the plane while her husband went to the bathroom?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 01:30 AM
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Body 36, 6'0", 187 pounds, 10.5% body fat. On week two of modified SL 5x5: increased reps, lightened bench and OHP, alternate row, and try to ease up my elbow tendinitis, all in an effort to move past my bench plateau as I approach 5x5 bench press @body weight. Elbow has been feeling better. Have been inconsistent with using my Thera-band. Going to take it to work and set up calendar reminders for it. Achilles tendon issues have been better with continued stretches I learned from yoga instructor…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 01:20 AM
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I haven't f-closed because I don't want to. Maybe it sounds ridiculous, but I'm stopping at kissing. It doesn't sound ridiculous. You're doing a better job at following dread levels than I am. (and hopefully your wife is more sexually responsive to you than mine.) I already had a woman on the side before I discovered RP/MRP, and somehow I got here after time over at r/deadbedrooms. I think somebody direct messaged me and told me to check it out, and I saw the sidebar curriculum and thought I cou…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 12:28 AM
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I have kissed a few girls, but that's it. I can't speak much to the seduction phase or how to f-close. Your initial open IS part of the seduction phase. Others here can do it better than I can, but basically, if you've made it to a kiss, and it's enthusiastic, and kino is well-accepted your chances of f-close are pretty good. Then you need a place, a time, and to not screw it up by being different than you were so far in the seduction. She is enjoying you, and wants more. I haven't had much luck…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 10:58 AM
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I found that myself. I clicked right past the headline, and just looked at the advice. The causation for why you would do these things "turning a male into a feminist" is bunk, but not all the advice was. Since you suggested doing the opposite, I'm going to point out some things the piece got right: give him role models. Correct. That's a big part of what the Boy Scouts gets absolutely right. It's the number one thing we as men can control, and if you're a father, you're that role model. Keep me…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 10:32 AM
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Appreciate what you have for what it is. Yeah. The biggest thing wrong with the wife is the missing sex... so I found somebody else to have sex with. It's a very logical, male, deductive solution to the problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 04:00 AM
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I suggest you inventory yourself versus her view of herself; and see where your deficiencies lie. It's sound advice. When I first got my newbie gains from lifting, I was patting myself on my back. Then I remembered her boyfriend who was a competitive lifter. Remember that Shania Twain song "That Don't Impress Me Much"? She's had some impressive guys. Probably the greatest advantage I had over any of them was how well I treated her and that I was enjoying bringing her on my adventures. Part of un…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 03:53 AM
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she is just damaged. I've been on that one for quite a while. I needed to read Practical Psychology for the Practical Man at least a year before I met her, and I would have screened her out. There's a lot of good to her, and more bad. Still improving myself, and hoping something improves. And some things have improved. The point here isn't to tell you all about my wife, but quickly: 5'7", amazing tits, speaks a few languages, degrees from places you've heard of. She also has taken anti-depressan…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/17 10:30 PM
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Swallow the pill - really swallow it - and the anger will dissipate. Making a plan, following it, and then getting results is really effective at ending the anger for me. I lifted for a while. I got stronger. I kept lifting, I got even more strong. Bonus was I also ran faster. That wasn't even a goal of mine. I wanted more money, I applied to jobs, I got the promotion I wanted. Working less for more money is winning. you got there eventually with your third point. I went back to WISIFG I knew af…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/17 11:33 PM
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OMG guys, I clicked the comic. What a train wreck. I wonder how all this "mental load" stuff goes down in a two-woman lesbian household. How can we blame men then?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/17 11:29 PM
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I absolutely live for external validation in key areas of my life. Hmmm. Accepting a compliment on a job well-done is something you should be doing. You don't need to say "aww shucks". A simple "thank you" will go a long way. If you're groveling for the compliment, that's what you need to weed out.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/17 11:10 PM
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because why else would you talk to her? Flirting is fun. That's a good enough reason. I'm curious how you feel about Art of Seduction. I'm reading the paperback hardcopy. My first reaction was damn, that's a lot of fonts. I've been reading the main text first and then passing through the chapter again to hit the quotes / excerpts. Not nearly far enough to draw conclusions about my seduction / victim type, but I'm interested and will finish the book.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/17 10:41 PM
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First, a followup. I initiated and got laid the next night (last night) does shark week actually last the entire week? She uses a menstrual cup. Makes it a bit trickier to exactly nail down the dates. you have expectations and she is failing them. why would you let her off the hook? Yeah, it's definitely a frame failure. She deserved both barrels when she followed me. She kind of half tried. She wasn't really into it, which dropped my immersion, and I was disappointed because it had been (ugh) t…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/17 10:32 PM
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Body 36, 6'0", 188, 10.5% body fat. More drinking over the weekend than I usually do, and I slept past 9AM Saturday morning. It's been months since I last did that. Since I usually run / lift about sunrise; that messed up my morning. I can still have fun at parties while drinking less. Will try to remember that lesson. Still working through the excellent lifting feedback I received on a previous OYS. Videoed my bench press, edited my sets together, and realized some substantive things I can impr…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 11:10 AM
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does not come with the exact clip that works with the Sienna on the large blade only (wtf Bosch?) That's happened to me before. Sometimes you can reuse the one from the last wiper that died.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/17 09:12 PM
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40% protein is intense, and I agree that it's very difficult to get there without supplements. Wow. I've never pulled that off for more than a day or two.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/17 10:47 AM
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maybe he was just a shitty lawyer. It's always worth a second opinion when it's cancer or divorce. But if your wife has been a SAHM for a damn long time, not working, and doing whatever she wants while you work, even though the kids are in school, you'll probably owe half your assets and alimony. The length of the alimony varies by state. The length of child support varies by state as well. You're going to be better off if you can get as close to 50-50 custody as you can, but if you have the kin…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/17 05:57 PM
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Quality post. Thank you. Definitely not worth the effort when I can just drive to and buy burger and fries, ready to eat." I think you were being literal here. Deer is lean, and if I'm making sausage I cut in bacon to give it some fat and taste. But in case you were being metaphorical... that's how I feel about prostitution. Like you're driving through McDonalds rather than going hunting yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/17 05:52 PM
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Lots of protein by itself might not be a problem, but are you eating other stuff too? I do basically one scoop of protein a day, and all my other protein comes from actual food: eggs, chicken, beef, peanuts, milk, cheese. It's okay to eat fat along with your protein. It's even okay to eat carbs along with your protein as long as your macros are pretty good. I eat 25% to 30% protein most days. If you have no idea, MyFitnessPal is your friend. As you enter food it auto-draws the macro pie chart fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/17 03:09 AM
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one of the first times I can recall since being married that I had the opportunity to bang another woman. That's where you're wrong. Every day is a new opportunity. You probably mean the convenience of having a hotel away from home, and yes, I do agree with that. But there's always her place... You might prefer catch and release. You might prefer just chatting with women, but you should be flirting / gaming / talking to random women. It's good practice for gaming your wife. And it's fun. If you …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 12:43 PM
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Her husband eventually cheated on her Assuming that's the truth, and I doubt you got it directly from his mouth, maybe it was because she didn't fuck him regularly. I'm lifting daily Nothing about your body fat / weight / nutrition / general condition. Sure hope you're mixing up muscle groups. Sure hope you're sleeping. Sure hope you're eating enough protein. You'll be robbing yourself of gains if you don't give your muscle enough time to rebuild. I've read MMSLP, the Professor's book You sure? …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 11:21 AM
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I'd probably be interested in taking it further, but I already would have tried :) Congratulations on getting signals that strong from her; a lot of women would flick their hair or something subtle and think they were picking you up. You may have missed your window; she may have been drunk and ovulating and on a nice holiday and whatever else was going on in her brain. You might not get that chance again with that particular woman. Try not to beat yourself up about it. There will be other women …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 10:40 AM
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Is it a possible side effect of the trt? Did you go completely cold turkey on eating anything besides the protein? Let us know what the doc says.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 10:34 AM
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Jesus. Wishing you health.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 03:17 AM
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Is she married? Does she have as much to lose as you?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 02:43 AM
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Let us know how Preventative Medicine goes. I already bought it and it's waiting in my Kindle queue behind other things.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 01:35 AM
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stop with the passive aggressive language You're right. I'll knock it off. I noticed your squat PR. Nice work on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 01:33 AM
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Maybe try to think of your daughter as another fully grown woman in your life, and use some game principles, like only taking her as seriously as you want to.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 01:32 AM
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How often does the fainting happen? Does the doc have any ideas?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 01:30 AM
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she needs help with her zipper "You should come back to my room. I'm an expert." So what did you actually do / say?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 01:27 AM
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Quality post, and one of the best explanations of OI I've seen here. You can only control you, and not the situation, and not other people. Put in the work, people.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 01:19 AM
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it's a product of still needing to be validated by HER desire You know what really helps me feel desired? Getting my dick sucked by my younger woman on the side.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 07:40 AM
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I am 100% not over the sense of unfairness. How many times have you read Rational Male? You need to at least partially absolve the particular woman you married, and acknowledge specifically Iron Rule #6. That one I had to reread on a regular basis. I also got a lot out of Practical Female Psychology: For the Practical Man as well. Recognize that at least some of the shit you are going through would have been likely to happen with somebody else too. Women don't really appreciate what we do for th…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 07:37 AM
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The number went 5lbs in the wrong direction from my last weigh-in Be careful that you're measuring something more substantive than just your weight. Weight fluctuates with time of day, and weight measures everything in your body, including the muscle you build while you lift. If you're not measuring yourself on the same scale at the same time of day, start by doing that. I'm heavier than I was a few months ago, and most of it is muscle.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 07:29 AM
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I don't know what I could spend an hour on every day w.r.t. my mission in life. Fitness can easily consume an hour. Reading can easily consume an hour. Planning your retirement which is a lot sooner than it is for me at 36 can easily consume an hour. Planning the next vacation where you whisk your wife off to somewhere can easily consume an hour. Walk part of the way to work, park in the farthest away part of the parking lot, and LIFT. Mrs. Monkee hears the one time I correct her and shit tests …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 07:23 AM
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Jesus Christ dude. Put down the computer and go lift. Then come back just so you can post that you did it. Your wife only controls your dick if you let her. I've been improving a lot the last few years. It hasn't made a difference...to my wife... except for one month where my wife banged me eleven times. Some kind of hysterical bonding I still haven't figured out; then she got physically injured and that ended it and we've never gotten back there again. :( You're not a bad guy if you hit your li…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 07:18 AM
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Nothing I have tried has eliminated the low blood pressure fainting spells from starting Stupid question. Are you eating enough? Can you describe your body? If you're doing basic shit like eating and sleeping and not taking drugs you need to see a doctor soon. If you're taking drugs for the low blood pressure you also need to see a doctor because the amount is wrong and not working for you. Make sure you tell them about your diet / lifting / whatever plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 07:15 AM
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Ha. In that case, what's a few hours? Might as well bang her as many times in a day as you can.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 07:13 AM
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Body 36, 190 pounds, 11% body fat. Still tracking calories, all these months later. It's now been about 15 months. New marathon PR, not that people here care about cardio. Took five minutes off (A bit more than ten seconds per mile) since this time last year. Also had the fastest 5K of my thirties a few weeks ago. The lifting has helped the running; there's no other way to explain it. Swimming last few days following marathon number seven. Quads still sore. Did light squats and body weight deadl…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 06:55 AM
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This is my fiancé of 9 years WTF bro? Shit or get off the pot. I can't believe she's hung around while you have been engaged for nine years. My friend's sister was a med student, and her fiance wouldn't commit to a date. She dumped his ass and married a dude she met during her residency. She traded up. New dude is a fellow doctor with a different specialty.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 11:30 AM
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I see I have choices of which one to get. There's a blue one that claims to be 'heavy - advanced'. Probably what I want, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 02:30 PM
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Direct quotes, which illustrate RP truths directly from the horse's mouth, are the best.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 02:28 PM
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is anal really all that great? Depends on the woman, and depends on the man. Some women on some dicks, anal is a great way to nail them right in the g-spot with your cock, and the combination of that stimulation and the dominance/taboo send them for hard-orgasm city. Other women can't relax into it and just spend the entire time freaked out. Some guys can't aim their dick for shit and do 'accidental anal' and never get a second chance to fix it. Do I like it? Yes. It's warm and different, and th…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 11:47 AM
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Can you whip that up into an FR? Sounds like there's some value there.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 11:43 AM
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You do the wrist twists with the tube thing?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 11:34 AM
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Great answer. I'll switch up my rows. I've always had form problems with the barbell row, and I've been getting up heavy enough that I couldn't complete them so I doubt I was doing them properly anymore. Will start the dumbell rows with 25s which are less than I was doing 18 months ago and will work up. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 11:28 AM
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She had zero worries and a great lifestyle that I provide. Probably true. She can keep her pussy smooth as a grape because I say so. This one is contradicted by I prefer it shaved, so she does. I like a shaved pussy as much as the next straight dude. My plate keeps herself shaved, my wife does not. You can tell me I'm a beta bitch, but rational persuasion has not convinced my wife to shave. Pubic hair does not prevent my dick from going in.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 11:24 AM
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Looking for advice on what has worked for others. Working out with my wife, and making it a couples activity is the only thing that's ever worked for me convincing my wife that it matters. Eventually she built enough of her own DL3 social life to consistently turn me down. She is now... drumroll... forty pounds heavier than when I married her. OP is right to be worried that she's never going to get that weight off. Is it possible for you to bring her along to the gym / cardio / whatever without …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 11:05 AM
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There are many ways out of this that the other guys are going to mention. But let's consider another possibility: The possibility that she simply wants to sabotage your efforts at improving your body. The way you defeat that is you workout first thing in the morning, before she cares to get up. I'm at the gym before 6AM on lifting days, home by family breakfast. She can't say no if she's sleeping, and once you build that routine you'll wonder why you didn't do it before.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 01:08 AM
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Thank you for all of this. One concern is I have some elbow tendinitis on the inside of my right elbow. My real-life lifting buddy suggested I video my bench and see if I'm doing anything crazy with my elbows. I think it might be volume related. I first started feeling it during my March 100 pushup days. I have some slight concern that increasing volume will aggravate the elbow, but your idea of suspending SL5x5, do the volume, and then switch back sounds completely sensible. I read about Jugger…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 08:51 AM
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You do you... Saying yes is fun too. I have something lined up for tomorrow and I'm having trouble sleeping. Congratulations on your wife following you. If she stops / doesn't want to put forth any effort to keep you, you have options.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 07:55 AM
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made jokes or references too often which could come across as childish Not childish, way worse. If she doesn't want to fuck you in that time and place, it's a demonstration of low value. Be attractive, and if you're not sure how, start by STFU. Why are you out with your wife doing whatever it is that is so boring that you feel drawn to be doing your annoying innuendo? Maybe find some other things to do, and treat her like your time is more valuable than that. How about you replace every one of y…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 11:51 PM
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During this tough time how do I maintain frame? Time when you're not job hunting and studying is spent improving your body. You'll exhaust yourself in a good way, and be better for it. Your job search is best spent networking with people you know who have jobs. You probably had some kind of legal training. You probably know some people. They probably know other people. Now is not the time to hide the fact that you are looking for a job from the people who can potentially let you know about jobs.…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 11:04 PM
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She is being emotional - a potentially great time to have sex. Confirmed by my data as well. In my experience, plates and other women who are still trying to impress you will hold their emotions in check more around you, and you don't get to experience this side of them.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 11:01 PM
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Do you get to have an opinion on her pussy hair? Does she groom it just the way you want? That seems like a fair trade. If she keeps her pussy shaved just the way you like, you can trim your hair just the way she likes.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 11:24 AM
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I didn't have a magic formula for how I came up with 3400. I watched my intakes, weighed myself, repeated, for multiple months, and at 3200 I was still losing weight, so I bumped it to 3400. Honestly, I run less than that the overwhelming amount of my runs. This morning was a medium pace ten minutes, but I'm on a gentle week before a race. Other mornings it's more like a hard 40 minutes, and when I'm distance training I do have some three hour and three and a half hour runs. Those days and the d…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 09:27 PM
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The biggest reason men don't want to start a bullshit fight is because they are used to being logically consistent and steady and reliable and dependable. And as somebody else said, they're scared of her feelz. Men read car repair manuals, women read romance novels. Women have no worries about saying one thing and doing another, or immediately contradicting something they just said. I have a vasectomy, but I could still do pregnancy play and then cum in her. There are lots of dirty talk examples…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 11:19 AM
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I've been tracking my calories for over a year, and I have my macros dialed in. At this point I eat protein and fat almost on auto-pilot. I have myfitnesspal set for a base of 3400 calories daily and I track there. I managed to actually gain weight while training for a marathon this Spring; first time I haven't lost weight in training. Everybody who has read these two facts tell me I'd get lifting gains faster if I'd let up on the running, and I believe them. I ran 1200 miles in 2016, and I'm at…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 01:25 AM
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I'm not John Cena. Flip open a Jockey catalog; I look like the lean, muscular guys who convince you to buy a pair of boxer briefs. Small waist, big shoulders, visible six-pack, ripped quads and hamstrings and calves.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 01:20 AM
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Really? I've never heard of a relationship like that. I've been doing Stronglifts and everything is barbell-based lifting. Closest to lat pulls is barbell row and deadlift. I can do some pull-ups too. I like that form. I never know where to put the bar in relation to my head and chest when I do lat pulldown. Anybody suggest a good form guide? I'd read some posts about how OHP really helped bench which makes intuitive sense to me. Guy said that getting a gain on OHP predicted that he would soon h…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 12:17 AM
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Body 36, 6'0", 191, 11% body fat. Accomplished a new bench press 5x5 @180. My previous plateau break was in February when I accomplished 5x5 @175. Still working toward my goal of full body weight 5x5. At this rate it will be fall. My original goal (in Summer 2016) was end of 2016, and I quickly learned that was unrealistic. Gaining strength takes time, but if you stay smart and don't hurt yourself the gains will come. Reading Still working on Day Bang. Finished my second pass through MMSLP. I go…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 09:39 AM
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Work on getting your kids back. You deserve half time unless there are good legal reasons you don't. It's worth burning some of your cash on lawyers now to meet that goal, especially if the divorce isn't final, and you're drawing down the estate on a worthy goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 09:26 AM
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Congrats on getting laid... once? If you didn't get a return invitation to that lady's pussy, you must not have done very well. If you did it right, that other woman will be calling you, texting you, and inviting you back. You fucked up lots of ways: Some would say by cheating at all rather than going straight to divorce. I think the cheating was okay if it was warranted... by her never complying with your sexual requests that are reasonable and warranted. Don't have enough detail in this post t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 11:21 AM
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I can't weed eat the mulch beds because the weed eater is still broken. Go old school, and get a steel weed whacker, from the days before people put stinky engines on a stick. They are pretty satisfying to swing around. A good hardware store will still sell those. Mine is only a few years old.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 12:28 AM
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Here's your problem... every woman I've ever known well has some degree of decision-making disorder. My wife has it bad. You don't ask her where she wants to eat. You tell her where you're eating. You don't ask her to bring your friend over. You announce that you're bringing your friend over...or you announce that you're going out and an approximate time you'll be home if it's relevant to logistics. Frame the default choice as the one you would be doing if she never responds, because apparently …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 11:14 AM
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I am in a situation where my wife of 10 years has an aversion to sex. With you. Anytime she turns down sex, you need to add the words "with you". You're allowed to take it personally. If she's withholding sex, you're allowed to withhold commitment. That's how it works when you're playing Prisoner's Dilemma. I also have a wife who is a shitty housekeeper. I made that mistake once; I won't do it again. Does she add any value to your life at all, aside from the rare blowjob?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 09:39 PM
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Good looking women get hit on everywhere so they don't need to advertise. That leaves the apps and dating websites full of fatties and crazies. Instead of Plenty of Fish he called it Plenty of Whales, and OK Cupid was OK Stupid Everything you said is true. But there's also that fact that women use it as a buffer, and can get some feels just from the feeling that they're wanted by somebody. You're better off using your time seeking women in real-time, where you get replied to instead of being ano…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 09:31 PM
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Amazing how they respond to muscles. Yep.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 09:29 PM
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I'm down 9lbs to 275lbs. I have 90lbs to go for my first threshold on weight loss. I was really confused as I only lost 2lbs this week eating ~1500 calories a day, give or take 100 cal. I feel like I should have lost more. After talking to the nutritionist at my gym, she thought I had cut too many calories out of my diet and my body was in starvation mode. I'm bumping it up to 1800 and seeing if that helps. Don't know how tall you are, but 1500 calories is VERY little. I realize you want to take…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 09:55 AM
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Double thumbs up on your OYS. I will have the additional expense of child support payments, Are you going for half-time custody? I sure would. I trust my parenting at least as much as I trust my wife's parenting. So I went ahead and made an appointment with my own divorce attorney for an initial consultation ($225 well spent). Well-done. Back in the day, we did not have the advantage of dating apps, social media, texting, sexting, selfies, flash mobs, cyber-stalking, roofies, etc. You know what …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 12:21 AM
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Body 36, 6'0", 191 pounds, 11% body fat. I've been putting on weight. Sometimes it's good to look at the long game. I've gone down and up on weight and body fat. This is the heaviest I've been since (re)starting lifting more than a year ago. I've also gotten stronger. My waist is still a few inches down, my shoulders and arms have gotten big enough that I need a new suit. I still would like to get back down in the 180s, which is totally achievable, but maybe not achievable while still getting li…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 12:13 AM
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Going down on her: never. Why don't you go down on her? Does she push your face away? Or do you feel like you don't owe her because she never sucks your dick? Does she have any fantasies of letting go of control? A blindfold or simply turning out the lights might make her feel less 'responsible' and help her chill the fuck out. You've probably read enough theory to know about ASD. I suspect it is strong with her, and you're still working on getting her to do stuff that most girls try when they'r…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/17 10:31 PM
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Something that I now fully know is equally as important is Abundance Mentality It's one thing to read it. It's another to internalize it. Keep gaming. It's fun and useful. You do you. Some of us have women on the side. Some don't. I and others have reported the pattern that sometimes after we've been with other women our wives are on us like glue. It's happened to me twice in the last few months. It's happened to other guys. It's like they can smell it on you or something. It happens enough that…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/17 01:35 PM
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We have a phrase of whether some property is a "bug" or a "feature". As long as you document the way something works, it's only your perspective. That's what some of the other comments are trying to tell you. If you think all women are fundamentally flawed you're never going to have an enduring relationship. Yeah, I've read Roosh. I think his global travel in search of pussy is a flawed strategy. If you want to travel, see the sites, try out your language skills, go for it. If you only goal is t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/17 11:49 AM
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I'm not sure where being berated comes into this. Then you're new here and haven't digested the community norms. I'm 29, only been dating the last couple of years, two relationships (6 months and 12 months) and recently single. You may not be LTR material. Reproducing is not difficult. Just google deadbeat dad. If you actually want to be a custodial father and help raise your children, you'll need to work on establishing a relationship that lasts longer than a year. There are teenagers who have …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/17 11:33 AM
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If you're smarter than the average human, and good at processes / bureaucracy, you can buy the NoLo Divorce book, or you can probably check it out from your library. You should at least show up at your nearest relevant probate court to get the proper forms, and in my experience those people are super helpful and will answer reasonable questions. If your divorce is uncontested you'll save a boatload of money just by being able to talk directly to each other.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/17 12:58 AM
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That's an ambitious goal. On my lifting / running / nutrition plan, I dropped from 11.5% to 10% body fat over about one year while putting on lean muscle. The lower you get the harder it gets. You should set some interim goals, for maybe one month out, six months out, and one year out. I think that 10% goal is hard in short time. You don't want to lose weight that fast; people who do don't keep it off. Your fastest gains will probably come from nutritional changes and adding cardio as your body …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/17 12:03 AM
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Somehow I sensed a deeper commitment to RP than others did. Go back and read his post to me; he gave an update to the FR.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/17 10:45 AM
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Your post is gold for anybody who doesn't believe MRP theory. Thank you for that. Lifting is DL2. Start lifting. There are lots of quality posts about how to get started, and lots of good methods. I'm personally using SL 5x5, which comes with a free phone app, and videos of proper form for all the lifts. Other people really like Starting Strength which comes with multiple books and online forums. You might not be fat. You still need to be lifting. Move Book of Pook to the top of your reading lis…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/17 10:41 AM
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Yeah. I went into my nutrition plan in a different reply. It's taken a lot of work to get things right, and there is probably still room for improvement. My wife couldn't believe that I've been tracking calories for more than a year. I think her exact words were "most people give up after a few weeks". I'll probably nail the 5x5 @175 set on the next try.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/17 10:25 AM
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Thank you. It's really working; having this discussion and looking back at my lifting history gave me the perspective I needed.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/17 10:23 AM
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the recent field report dealing with going back to an ex. That post was upvoted I upvoted it because it was yet another piece of data in AWALT and in that regard it was a great post. I also suspect the woman is post-wall and learning for the first time the limits of what her hypergamy can do for her. She tried to branch swing and crashed into a tree. OP really did learn some RP, even if his application was incomplete. And I commented about how he had more things to learn.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/17 10:10 AM
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You're correct. I've noticed a lot of power lifters aren't exceptionally lean. I spent a lot of the last year dialing in my macros and calorie intake to match my caloric needs. I've been using MyFitnessPal for more than a year to track my calories and change things up. I'm 6'0", in 2016 I spent some time in the low 180s, and in 2014 I even was down into the high 170s. Currently 190-ish pounds, 10.5% body fat, and I'm eating 3000-3500 calories most days, partly proportional to my activity level. …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 10:57 PM
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275 lb fat bitch ass back then either, while I'm better at 226 right now, I recognize that I still have a long way to go. Those numbers mean more if you know your height and approximate body fat percentage. John Cena is more than 200 pounds, but he's jacked and lean.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 10:44 PM
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I feel somewhat jealous about her “hook-up”, and I’m still not sure what to think of her One is not very many. I think you should think that that's a low number. there’s a very good chance that she’ll get bored and leave me Maybe. Have you learned anything? Would that be so bad? Did you really do no playing of your own the entire time you have been separated? It doesn't sound like you've found abundance, and that she can control the sex whenever she wants and you'll just fold. Good job with the …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 10:17 PM
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I'm not initiating because I know I'm not good enough yet to make up for years of acting like a fucking faggot. Have you read through NMMNG? Do you ever make demands from her? Are you ever an inconvenience to her? It sounds like you're either scared of getting shot down, or like you feel like you don't deserve sex. If you're not initiating the answer is always no.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 01:57 AM
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Maybe she smelled the 'abundance' on me (or maybe she was just horny-- it's not always about me). Multiple guys here with women on the side have noticed this, including me. Twice in the last few months, it's been the next day that my wife shows up wanting sex. However, gaming strange has taken away the sexual resentment i feel toward the wife. Multiple guys here have noticed that as well. It's a lot easier to be kind to your wife when you don't see her as 'that woman who is holding my sex life h…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 01:44 AM
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Body 36 years old, 190 pounds, 11% body fat. Had some rest weeks surrounding my marathon, and my calorie intake trajectory was such that when I let up on calorie consumption my body was ready to put on some weight. I usually stand on a scale after a morning run / lifting, and I had lighter version of that activity lately. We will see how soon these numbers change. Sometimes I was waking up hungry lately, which hasn't happened in months. Bench press today, failed to complete 5x5 @175, which I've …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 01:26 AM
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How do I best handle this situation in a redpill way? My two cents is that you don't try to date or game your coworkers. That goes double if you're a married man. Just don't. The very large majority of women do not work with you. Date and game those women instead. And while we're picking people you should leave alone, also leave alone your male friend's spouses, and your wife's friends. You've crossed over into creepy territory. Stop it, pretend you're not interested in her anymore. And bro: thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/17 03:02 AM
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If you want to get two feminists arguing with each other, have them discuss whether prostitution is empowering to the woman or degrading to the woman and perpetuating the patriarchy. And then walk away. But about this actual topic, you cannot win an argument with a woman about feminism. Do not engage. If you really have to reply, you co-opt the language, and you say "your lived experience is more valid than any kind of theory I could provide", and then walk away.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/17 11:01 PM
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Being financially independent means getting a job Nope. Being financially independent means you pay all your own bills and all your own expenses, and that's not happening as long as she is married to you and sharing your finances. By that same standard I'm not financially independent because my wife works and we share finances. But that's my definition.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 10:39 PM
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Scorecards are fundamentally enmeshed in the same patterns of self-victimhood that govern covert contracts. I think this is probably true, and I'd like to read more. I have a gut feeling that scorecards are still important to know when you're getting a raw deal and you should cut your losses.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 10:25 PM
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you have heard your LTR/SO talk about how she loves a sensitive man Not what she means. Those are the words she uses, but what she really means is: I want a man who is two or three SMV points higher than me to be head-over-heels in love with me AND once in a very rare time, for him to maybe cry about a puppy or something, and then never do it again. Your other part where "he just listens to me talk for a long time while I replay the emotions I was having without proposing solutions" is the other…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 11:22 AM
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what would you do? I would not talk about the ring, but I would match her tit for tat with whether I was wearing it. That's basic level Prisoner's Dilemma. Only you know whether your SMV is higher than hers. I've unlocked that achievement, and my wife is unlikely to do as well as me if she divorces. And I'm firmly in the camp that porn is not intrinsically bad. If it's not working for you, whatever. At least you didn't call it an "addiction". My prescription for you: keep lifting, bro. Don't let…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 11:11 AM
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I second the find somebody else for buying a suit. If you own one suit, it should be solid black. If you own two, get one that's blue. If you own a dozen, you can get creative. The men who work in the men's department will be measuring you and ordering the tailoring if it's not done in-house. You don't need your wife for any of that.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 10:26 PM
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Body 36 years old, 6'0", 10% body fat, 188 pounds. Had a successful marathon and I'm swimming and lifting this week. Have an annoying cold / cough that seemed like laryngitis and now sounds like bronchitis. I'm more than ready for that to go away. Managed to time my coughs face down while remaining swimming. Was proud of that. Achilles tendinitis was acting up again post-marathon. Doing some stretching and some alternate icing / heating. Already getting better and it feels perfectly fine today. …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 11:49 AM
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You don't tell her with your words. You lead the sex, and you change it up. What does she do? Climb back out of position and go back to flat on her back? If you use words at all, it's "bend over", or "move your leg over here".
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 11:52 AM
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women are hypergamous to the grave Apparently STIs rip through senior centers like wildfires in California. Old lady retirees fighting over the last remaining men who can give them feelz.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 11:48 AM
1

Not surprising for distance runners. They have a lot of calories to replace, and chocolate milk is a good blend of carbs / protein / fat. It's what I guzzle after marathons :)
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/17 02:26 AM
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My only quibble with Rollo's post is if he's going to mention the Dr. as a title for the other two guys in his second-to-last paragraph he should certainly mention the Ph.D. of Stephen Pinker.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/17 02:22 AM
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Why has it gotten to 31 days? It may indeed be time to break things off. She needs to be having a good reason that her pussy, mouth, and ass are all simultaneously unavailable to you. You used the word ltr, not wife. Generally upgrading her to wife implies you're happy with her, and would like to double-down on not getting laid by this woman. I got to a breaking point and ended fidelity in my marriage; even my marriage never got to 31 days except post-pregnancy. Her other reasons are heavily tie…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/17 05:55 AM
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the first counselor set some boundaries with my wife for me (wow that's embarrassing) which prevented the wife from doing anything which would have required me to bail. I would call that useful. The counselor read the parts of NMMNG for you that deal with establishing boundaries, and gave you that much of a head start to fixing shit. I agree with you that getting into marriage counseling is almost always: two women against one man a major sign that shit is going down in flames
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/17 05:48 AM
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I'm not sure what the downside is here. Is your point that I'm just peeing out the protein and it's not getting absorbed? At a macro view, I was eating basically two bagels for breakfast. I replaced that with eggs, sometimes sausage, and usually a protein shake. This happens to also be post-workout for me because I lift / run before breakfast. I love chocolate milk; when would you do the protein in a scenario like mine?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/17 05:46 AM
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Yep. Woman are like the pole vault. You clear 17 feet? Great. Now 17 feet is the base, and if you're not always above that you're a disappointment to her. Burden of performance.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/17 05:43 AM
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How much money did you spend on marriage counseling? And was there anything worthwhile, aside from the moment when you guys stopped going and realized you were better off without it?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/17 11:35 PM
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Picked it for money! You fucked up bro. Engineering is hard. Finance pays way better and doesn't require the ability to do real math where people live or die because of your mistake.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/17 01:28 PM
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Drew back from initiating a bit after a number of hard no's the past few weeks. The answer is always no if you're not initiating.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/17 01:24 PM
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Just a warning, reading Sex God Method while having a sexless marriage may hurt more than the sexless marriage itself. Might want to save that a while for a time when you either have a side piece or have somehow been getting yourself laid regularly. It's no fun to read about something and not be getting to try it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/17 01:39 AM
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incorporated a protein shake into the mix. I drink 1 right after every workout and before bed 3x a week as well. Are you tracking your calories and macros? I was way undereating protein, and I now do protein drink with every breakfast to start my day right with regard to consuming enough protein.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/17 01:35 AM
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You had dick problems in the past? Can you give an approximate age? Sometimes it's just an immersion problem; you're mind is somewhere else and you're just not into it. When was the last time you took a vacation by yourself, for yourself. Maybe just a backpack and a tent and yourself out in the woods for a while? Maybe that would help.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/17 01:33 AM
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Body 36, 187 pounds, 10% fat. Have done a full year of tracking my calories as of a month ago or so. Have only spent one night at home in the last week and a half but have been a good boy sticking to my workout schedule. OHP @130 5x5 success again. Somehow that feels easy, but 135 feels hard. Will re-read form instructions I bookmarked by a power lifter and see if I can get past it this time. Reading A little further in Sex God Method. A little further in second pass at MMSLP. AMOG/AMOTF Been bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/17 01:27 AM
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Pretty, intelligent divorced and single women your age everywhere, for every tastes. On my MRP journey, this has been my biggest discovery as well. When I opened my eyes and saw past my oneitis, there is a lot of female opportunity there. No ONS or plate gave a shit for the fact that I am divorced and have a kid. Some don't even give a shit if you're married and have a kid. You will be amazed by the amount of awesome single or divorced girls that are available for you to pick. I remain amazed. G…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 11:27 AM
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the only woman I ever kissed and she knows I have no game That's the TLDR of this post. Gentlemen, and especially younger men, if you can't find sexual abundance, women can smell it on you and they will use you until you gain enough personal power to show that you can do better / have a great life without her. Can you spell out what legal advice you've been given? Your case for custody is much better if you can show you are an involved parent. Living as close to home while working as you can str…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 12:51 PM
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Ha. You're on the right track. Beauty is not evenly distributed, nor is wealth. And even where I am, it's more like 20%, but I filter out the other 80% so effectively that I forget they are around. Simply going to the gym regularly really skews my idea of what a normal woman looks like; most of the 80% doesn't show up.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 11:50 AM
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I laid in bed last night falling asleep, looking over at her watching tv Get the tv out of your bedroom. Unless it's for watching porn and acting it out together. Beds are for sleeping and fucking. had 3 kids with a woman who hates having fun Sure hope you got your vasectomy and aren't going to have kid four. I read everything you wrote. You can still be awesome fun dad, and do fun dad things without her along. Leave her at home in her pajamas, and take the kids camping or on a vacation, or what…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 12:34 PM
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Body 36, 187 pounds, 10% body fat. Made the effort to hit a real gym even though I was on a work trip; it was worth it. My hotel gym was woefully insufficient. Took the subway out of downtown to the nearest YMCA, ran to it a different day. Marathon coming up soon, I'm ready; taking it easy and not hurting myself. My deadlift form sucked last time I did a set. I seem to have forgotten everything I ever learned about deadlift form. I made a cheatsheet of form reminders that I need to review. Lucki…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 12:24 PM
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You haven't said a single positive thing about her. Why would you want to save this? And why on earth did you marry her to begin with? Your problems don't sound like beta/alpha problems, and more like batshit crazy woman, possibly PPD, but definitely able to play you without you effectively pushing back. If you already moved out, you probably made a mistake. You need legal advice, months ago, before you moved out. Go see a lawyer. The last thing she has that you want is your son, and you need a …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/17 12:11 PM
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Good post. My MAP has some goals that take 20-30 years, some that are 5-10, and some that are a few months out. This is a good reminder to dust it off and review it again.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/17 03:22 PM
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Thank you for this.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/17 03:19 PM
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My UU church goes on a kind of hiatus over the summer, and regular members lead the services. One dad was a total pacifist whose son went into the army. He gave one of the two best messages I've heard from a pulpit about what he learned about military service, coming full circle on the use of force, etc. It was a fascinating event. He brought big pictures of apache helicopters, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/17 03:16 PM
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Agreed with everything you said.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/17 03:14 PM
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You're right. I married before I had enough varied experience. Thought my wife might be the woman where that didn't matter. I had a nagging voice in the back of my head that I shouldn't marry until I had enough of experiencing other women, and that voice was right.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/17 03:07 PM
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I had noticeable back pain after a set of deadlifts. Lighten up the lift. Video your form. You're probably bending your back, and turning your deadlift into a "Good Morning". Deadlift form was the hardest thing for me to get right, and it takes time. Keep it light if you're not sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/17 11:19 AM
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I started with just body weight stuff and some gym free weights, but about six months in I 'graduated' to StrongLifts 5x5 and didn't look back. Do this for now, but you'll get more when you graduate to the 'real' weights. Other people really like Starting Strength. Other people really like kettlebells. Once you've built a routine, move onto a routine that makes you strong. As for your kids excuse, I have some. My gym opens at 5:30AM, and I'm home before breakfast. Honestly I didn't lift when the…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/17 11:14 AM
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I was responding to the association he made between feeling somewhat more disillusioned as a result of the cheating Huh. Somehow I didn't interpret it that way. For me the disillusionment is less "a result of the cheating", and more a disillusionment with the wife in specific, and probably with just how male / female dynamics work out if the guy lets up and goes too beta / BP. I'm not sure things will ever truly get where I want them with the wife. I can lead all I want, but I'm not sure I can i…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 12:12 PM
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You weren't talking to me, but I also disagree. My marriage may or may not change, my wife may or may not follow me the way I want. I got to the point that I wanted outside sex more than I wanted divorce, and voila, I got sex without divorce. (so far, so good). I don't think I'm cannibalizing anything. I'm lifting, reading, and giving the relationship time to get better, and time for myself to improve before I blow the whole thing up. Again: so far, so good. I'm stronger and wiser than where I w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 03:23 AM
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You didn't post your age. You can lie, but at last give us a range so it's clear how these women line up with your age. I'm 36 and married, my single, never-married, no kids plate turned 29 lately. A friend of the wife's, the wife of a friend. There are a few that could develop into Plates if I actively went for them. My humble opinion is you don't fuck anybody who knows your wife personally or professionally. I was getting close with a cute late forties woman, and it became clear her career ove…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 03:04 AM
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How about you read it and tell us about it. You know, being that you have a copy already.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 02:59 AM
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Body 6'0", 188, 10% body fat. Up two pounds since last week. I think the weight gain was coming longer ago, but the sickness temporarily hid it. Bench still bumping up against 180. Can do some sets of five, but can't complete 5x5 yet. OHP had incredible trouble in Monday @120. Then realized after the third failed set I was actually lifting 140. Good to know I can put up a few reps that high. Ran 22 miles over the weekend. In good shape for marathon in a few weeks. Reading I have more left of Sex…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/17 12:34 AM
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Divorced first. Guy one put on a bunch of weight and got totally depressed after his divorce. Met his hot personal trainer wife number two after he was hitting the gym and got back into shape. He's my only friend more lean than me. I'm about 10% body fat. He's more like 7%; wins his age group at triathlons. Guy two actually knew his second wife while he was married to wife one, but they never fucked until after his divorce. The divorce was because wife one was super mentally ill and he couldn't …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/17 11:20 AM
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if we had acted more mature we would have (rather she would have) thought things through more carefully and for longer. Yeah. My wife definitely has this memory of what dating was like in her early twenties, when she was hawt. She's now thirty pounds heavier, and would be a divorced mom. Might as well hold up a sign that says "don't date me". Why would you remarry somebody who treated you like shit while you were married?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/17 11:54 AM
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That's funny. I only know cases of guys upgrading their wives. Younger, tighter, happier women. Only one guy I know who married an older woman, but she's pretty RP; she's a personal trainer and hawt. An upgrade in every other way.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/17 11:44 AM
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What would you do? Tell her to walk around the block, or leave the house. I've had to set boundaries like this with the wife, for the same reasons you need to set boundaries with your wife. I've taken a solo dad vacation with the kids for a week. I know how to handle the kids. When she undermines me, she gets harsh words from me. I don't usually recommend writing a letter to your wife, but I did, about this. Because it happened more than once, and she would go into a mom-craze mode where she was…
/r/askMRP31/03/17 02:50 AM
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there are core ideas to RP such as sexual success strategies that don’t jive with the Christian notion of a godly husband. King David got a lot of pussy. Bathsheba much? Solomon got even more. 1000 wives.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/17 12:55 AM
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clears out a lot of student loan debt that is tied to her Do you already have an interim divorce agreement about how to split up assets and debt? You might want to take some of her debt and trade that to keep some assets. Could be smarter than her keeping it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 11:36 PM
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demote to a plate etc. Not necessarily bad advice. You don't use the word wife. Being married doesn't stop some of us from having sex with other women, and you'll get different results with a different lady with the same stimulus. Pussies are different, and the same pussy is different on different days. There's always the possibility that it doesn't matter what you do; she's just not into the sex (with you).
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 11:32 PM
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so its not a physical thing. Having a nice body is a great start. But as the saying goes, it's not how big your dick is, it's how you use it. Give Sex God Method a read if it's not near the top of your list. She's obviously checked out of the sex, and that's not a good sign of how much you're rocking her world.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 11:29 PM
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Body 36, 6'0", 185 pounds, 10% body fat. Weight slightly down after being sick. Was sick last week. Muscle soreness, GI issues, slept three hours in the middle of a business day. Skipped three days of pushups, pushed back one day of lifting, no cardio for two days. Downward dog and more dedicated stretching seems to have improved my achilles tendon situation. Not sure it's a complete fix because I also had more rest than usual last week. Reading Further on Sex God Method. Fun read. Almost done. …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 10:32 PM
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I half agree with this post. The part about 'don't rely on luck' is spot on. As in, "don't wander the woods hoping you find where you're going." "Get a compass, set a heading, and walk toward it." That part I agree with. And then you undermine that valuable advice with what I think you're trying to describe as outcome independence, but you don't use those words. You use a whole lot of words. Keep it shorter so it's more clear what you're talking about. And the original question was a fair questi…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 12:09 PM
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Since we're talking about not-very-RP things you can do with an engorged tit wife, my favorite was PiV while drinking milk out of her tits. Not for everybody, but damn was that nice. It really helped that she already has enormous tits that got even bigger while she was nursing.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 06:58 PM
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She will give the right signals when we are downstairs Try fucking her downstairs. Ha. Caught up to the rest of the post. There's always pulling your dick out and saying, "well, it's not going to fuck itself". Not recommended unless you're already more attractive than her and have developed frame of iron. We found out she was pregnant second week of January and have had sex three times since How many children do you intend to have? This thing that's happening where you knock her up and then you …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 06:51 PM
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I don't have a dad bod myself, I'm on the thinner side Put up some numbers, and let us be the judge of that. Height, weight, age, body fat percentage. 6'0", 186, 36, 10%. I do try to work out at least a couple times a week. It can be hard finding the time though Put up or shut up. I'll be up at 5:30 tomorrow morning to run to the gym, lift, and run home before breakfast. Think you're the only one here with kids and a full-time job? Make time, and be the example for your wife to follow. Your wife…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 03:18 AM
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Nice work with the fogging. It's fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 11:28 AM
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Will give it a try thanks. And thank you for confirming my observation. No idea if it's actually physiological, as in she can literally smell it, or whether it's more about my attitude, and me being happier / more confident.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/17 12:03 PM
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I'm another one of those guys who really doesn't like reflexive accusations of infidelity. If he doesn't have something strongly resembling proof: sexy texts on her phone nudes on her phone pictures of her kissing another dude he has intuition and nothing more. If all she's doing is trying harder, that's exactly what we expect from dread. That she tries to raise her SMV to match yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/17 11:57 AM
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So you didn't actually f-close any of those women who were throwing themselves at you?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/17 11:53 AM
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A billion wicked thoughts probably isn't worth your time. I read it, although before I know of RP / MRP. Wasn't anything earth shattering in it. Mostly that search engines will never again release their data publicly.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/17 11:21 PM
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Body 36, 186 pounds, 10% body fat. Slipped and missed a day of 100 push ups on my 21-mile-run day. Also had a different day where I did 40/100. Have had mild pain in my elbow tendon. Hoping that goes away. Lightened up the squats, due to returning achilles tendon tightness / pain. Would be nice if it went away and stayed away. Don't want to take up yoga, but I think I need some dedicated stretching for a while. OHP and bench feel different because of the pushups. OHP, I just felt less rested tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/17 11:10 PM
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Nice.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/17 10:43 PM
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You gonna follow-up, or are you just getting numbers and throwing them in the trash?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 08:42 PM
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It's lame that finishing your tv show is more important than talking to your wife. If you're going to watch tv, it's not actually important. You can ignore your wife while you finish your last set lifting, but not because you can't press pause. Make a policy that you ignore your personal phone during work hours. Even better, leave it at home on the counter some days. Just treat it like carrying a phone is a burden and something you don't care about. Don't only ignore her when she's having feelin…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/17 12:59 PM
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There are different philosophies on this, and just because I did it, you might get different results. YMMV. Some powerlifters are big fans of bulk / cut cycles. They deliberately overeat by 500 calories a day, put on 10 pounds, deliberately undereat by 500 calories a day, lose 10 pounds. I've been much slower and more careful. First, I used MyFitnessPal to track daily calorie intake over days, then weeks, then months, been at it almost a year. I went from 11.5% body fat, about 192 pounds to as l…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 02:30 PM
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Body 36, 6'0", 188 pounds, 10% body fat. Despite my significant runs for marathon training, I'm still up two pounds over my last several month average. Hooray for dialing in calorie input. Still eating significant protein, still tracking calories daily. Have been alternating my protein powders so I don't get tired of one flavor. Have been following FamilyAlpha challenge and doing 100 push ups, even on chest days. Certainly helping with shoulder arm hypertrophy, and now it seems to be helping wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 12:47 PM
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Is she fully monogamous? Does she have a lot of experience independent of you? You say she's not interested in an open relationship, but you can completely set that as a term and condition of the relationship. It's not cheating if it's in the open and a term you set. Food for thought.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/17 12:56 PM
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Behold, the power of setting boundaries.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/17 12:22 PM
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Give yourself five years. You'll be at a different point at age 32. No idea where you live, but you don't need to reproduce now. Maybe you're from the kind of place where a lot of the high school sweethearts get married and live happily ever after and get fat together. You don't have to live that life. You're not on that trajectory if you're a jacked dude who is slaying the pussy. Being jacked is a double-edged sword. Read Book of Pook if you didn't already. On the one hand, the pussy comes to y…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 04:33 PM
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Whatever dude. You're on a thread with guys who are powerlifters and guys who have girlfriends alongside their wife. I, and others like me, have women flirt with us while we wear our wedding ring, and while we are out with our kids. I'm 36, my girlfriend is 28. I had two dates with other women in 2016, while working full time and raising two kids, and keeping it all from the wife. I'm doing just fine, thank you very much. I'm not faithful. I made it nine years of marriage plus while we were dati…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 06:24 AM
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New York County New York City proper consists of five counties, and New York County (Manhattan) isn't even the most populous. You're allowed to say that you don't think it's "fair" that cities vote in numbers that completely overwhelm populations of other states. Others would say that it's not "fair" that Wyoming gets two senators for 600,000 people, and Brooklyn alone has 2.5 million people and has to share two senators with the rest of New York. Those silly founders had some interesting ideas …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 06:03 AM
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blindly voting for the only candidate who was not female Gary Johnson was not female, and remains not female. In some states, multiple non-females were on the ballot.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 05:55 AM
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The other great thing about airbnb is a real kitchen with real kitchen tools, so I can scramble eggs, grill meat, etc. Saving money, being in a real neighborhood, and having more space are just icing on the cake. But if you can at least get to a real grocery store and you don't want to cook: packaged yogurt rotisserie chicken and eat the whole damn thing whole milk
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 12:28 PM
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Body 36, 6'0", 187 pounds, 10% body fat. Have been doing the FamilyAlpha 100 pushups a day challenge. It's giving me some hypertrophy in my shoulders and arms I don't usually have on off days. Breaking those into 5x20, and usually doing them last thing before I go to bed. I fell asleep last night after my first 20 set and broke my streak :( Failed third time at 5x 180 bench press, but I can see that it will probably come next time. Was getting 3x5 before I would fail on the fourth and fifth sets…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/17 01:39 PM
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The pregnant pussy had a different quality. Wetter and hotter. Effortless engorgement; basically she's ready before you've even gotten her panties off.
/r/askMRP06/03/17 11:32 PM
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You assume I'm a slob, but your assumption is wrong. Maybe you jump around with usernames, but I don't remember you at all. It was a question, not an accusation. Trying to understand your motivation. I'm all about getting yourself laid if it's not happening in your marriage. I'm still doing fine gaming women in real life. I have kids too. I get staying even though your wife doesn't deserve it. I worry that your website is a buffer to avoid real-time, in-the-flesh rejection. Those rejections make…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/17 02:47 AM
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Anyone else struggle with this? Sounds like you have a job you should leave for greener pastures. In that regard, yeah I "struggled" with that. The real problem is I had mastered the job, I had one stretch of time where I was dual-assignment and I had TWO, not one bad bosses, both female. Only time I ever had to go to HR about somebody; put it all in writing. I changed jobs Summer 2016. It was a good idea, and I'm quite glad I did it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/17 02:40 AM
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Don't knock up your wife again. Just don't. She's six months after the kid, and not really breastfeeding. She's going to be fertile soon if she is not already. Don't knock her up. Cum in her ass, in her mouth, anywhere but in her pussy. I got my vasectomy after kid two. I just didn't trust her, and I sure didn't want a third kid with her. You're early 30s, in great shape, pretty women don't scare you anymore. No shit that women are going to kiss you. There are other guys here in your situation. …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/17 04:40 AM
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This belongs on r/askMRP. Go back to lurking until you're ready to post something we can gain some value from. You've already given her quite the chance. Four years is a long time for her to have gotten around to being a better person. Go track down Tomassi's Iron Rule #7.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/17 04:15 AM
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Any tips about how to handle pregnancy from a red pill point of view? Fuck her regularly. Especially in the third trimester. I will forever miss pregnant pussy.
/r/askMRP04/03/17 04:12 AM
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Would you fuck you? In other words, are you a slob who would genuinely have trouble on the dating market, or do you just prefer an arrangement where you know the woman is doing you for the money? Rather than an arrangement where you merely suspect the woman is doing you for the money. Or in the case of your wife, NOT doing you for the money. Why do you stay married to your wife if she isn't fucking you?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/17 02:38 AM
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The best book I know about raising girls is Rational Male. My little girl already has some serious solipsism. AGALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 11:54 PM
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You already solved this, but a quick kudos. You're plating her and you're leaving her gives her anxiety; it means you're a man of value. Congratulations dude. One of my male friend's plates had a job move across the country and asked him to follow her. She makes incredible money, and offered to put him up / move him in / anything to get him to follow her. He did the right thing and immediately broke her heart on the spot. She was what you describe: wife material, but the circumstances were wrong…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 11:43 PM
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That part was already done before I got to MRP / RP, but I do know what you mean. I had a mourning period for the marriage I thought I signed up for, shortly before I got my vasectomy and had sex outside my marriage for the first time.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 01:57 AM
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That feeling of extreme and stupid vulnerability is not cool. Reminder to not put myself in a situation where my potential safety depends on a woman like that I bailed on a married woman where I didn't trust her secops. Exactly the right thing to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 01:56 AM
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If they're over 40, they're not a fucking plate. I don't know how old OP is. That's relevant. 40 is young if he's 60. I'm 36, my plate is 28. It's fun. Went on some dates with women in their 40s. They're in better shape than my 36 year-old wife; can't say for sure yet whether they fuck better. I don't know if you're bothered more by the fact that she's married, or more by the fact that he used to be married. Whatever. A man is his own judge.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 01:50 AM
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Body 36, 6'0", 186 pounds, 10% body fat. Made 5x5 @135 OHP, new personal best last week. Failed to get 5x5 @140, but I got a decent number of reps in. Made 5x5 @175 bench press last week new personal best. Failed to get 5x5 @180, but made 5x3, 4, 3. My goal for end of 2016 was 5x5 @body weight bench press, which I will round to 185 or 190. Goal is in sight. I had surgery in December and couldn't lift for two weeks (derm procedure on back), and that set me back, but progress! Realistically, I thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 01:47 AM
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The cardio is helpful if you want to focus on your goals of cutting fat while gaining strength. Just make sure you track it with your calorie tracking so you're still eating enough after you burn whatever. Cardio isn't popular here. My philosophy is you should be able to fuck vigorously without getting winded, climb stairs without getting winded, and you should be able to put your kid piggyback and carry them a distance without concern. If you're good there, okay. The protein goal is totally ach…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 04:51 AM
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Get BF below 12% - Increase my lifts from mediocre "untrained" to at least "beginner". You mentioned a few different lifting problems. One was a form problem. It will come with time. If you have a gym buddy, have them video your squats. Or prop your phone against something. The recommendation for that is to be lighter than your max and do a lot of repeats. 5x5 is nice, but if you can do the weight with ease, I'd say do 4x10 or even 5x10. I've already posted about how my OHP increases predict my …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 12:48 AM
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This is excellent advice. I'm 6'0", 36, and it took a while to dial in TDEE for me. I thought it would be about 3000. It's actually 3500 for me, and nobody can do that work for you. If you're not doing daily calorie tracking, you're guessing and you won't like the results. If you really are a runner, you need to add that onto your calories you need to eat. I ran 15 miles today, and burned 1800 calories in the process.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/17 03:07 AM
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The cancer got worse, so she had to stick around. Yes, I believe that story. This family is so loaded that they travel internationally on a whim, but they can't afford medical care for a sick relative, so your lady has to stay. Does she have some kind of medical talent, or is she even doing more basic stuff like vacuuming and walking the dog? You know, the kind of stuff that rich people pay immigrants to do. How close could she even be to this aunt? I have a few, and I'd go to their funeral, but…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 09:37 PM
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I think you should do that spreadsheet idea with a list of likely employers even now, if you're not imminently planning to jump. It was a really good way to see that I was living in a good place, and I had options. Abundance mentality, and all that stuff. If you haven't already figured it out, life is not fair, and economic opportunity is not evenly distributed. I live nowhere near the permanently depressed community where I was raised. I left for economic opportunity and only go back rarely to …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 11:40 AM
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So back to your original question about a bulk. It's a good idea. Get MyFitnessPal, work on finding your calorie plateau, where you neither gain nor lose. And then you're going to need to add a few hundred calories a day past equilibrium to be able to start gaining. The app will help you dial in a target date. I think you should set a goal of gaining five pounds. If you do it right, your waist might actually get smaller, but your shoulders and chest and upper body will be bigger, and your legs w…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 11:35 AM
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Jogging stroller. Strap the kid in, take the kid for a run. Don't run? Regular stroller. If you're not out flirting with women with your kid in tow, you're not doing it right. Your wife needs a break from you, and you need a break from a lady who can't see you as sexual right now. This is about the place in my marriage, after kid two, when I decided that a plate was the right decision for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 12:34 PM
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They also usually have pools, which can be much harder to find on the road. And they're often in the city center in older cities, although in some regions they're mostly way out in the suburbs. Not cheap compared to Planet Fitness, but you get way more for your money; most have kid care.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 12:03 PM
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Planet Fitness: These box gyms are everywhere and best avoided when at all possible. Usually they don't allow you to drop the weights and most of them have removed their free weights. I think this is the same reason that they painted the place purple, and have shit tons of treadmills. Bald-faced marketing to women, who buy memberships, come once, and don't bother to cancel because the recurring charge is so cheap. They don't want men because they found a way to survive without men. Don't stare a…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 12:00 PM
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Okay. Do you have a timeline for that? It might be worth it to do what you do for somebody else now, and do that second jump when you're more qualified. Study your company's competitors, and know what's out there.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 11:49 AM
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Your OYS is all over the place. Focus on a few goals at a time, and then you can actually track your progress on a weekly basis. A return to full time work would increase the children's childcare exposure and reduce their time with parents. She's been talking about how much of a "crap life" they'll have going from school to care to home and bed five days a week. That's a bullshit female hamster attitude. Child cares have to actually meet standards, get inspected, and train their employees. They …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 11:27 AM
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Had full blown anal sex for the first time. Congratulations. I had stopped asking for it for years before it finally happened... on the floor of our hotel room... in Manhattan... on our tenth anniversary. She was relieved. I think she was expecting me to be like however many other guys had anal with her before me.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 11:12 AM
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209 pounds means a lot more if you post your height. No idea how you tracked down your plate via email. All my gaming that has actually paid dividends was done in-person. Like the others here, I suggest you work on another plate. I had two dates with forty-something divorced women in 2016 that didn't bring them to plate status but it was fun trying. The sex is nice, or used to be, but it sounds like you're offering way too much comfort, and perhaps too much hope that you're going to end your mar…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 05:31 AM
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Nice work on your bench. Are you still at 155? Did you gain or lose any weight with your lifting?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 05:24 AM
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Working in low pay dead end job. I had a time in my life like that once. I was getting quality experience, but basically no growth potential. I realized I was quite underpaid for what I was doing; at the time I took the job I was just a complete amateur and had no idea how to negotiate salary, and it was a recession and frankly I was desperate to just get a job in my field. I made a spreadsheet with about fifty probable employers in the area, mapped out their jobs URLs, whether I knew anybody th…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 05:16 AM
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Body 36, 6'0", 186 pounds, 10% body fat. Can't find the link from a month or so ago, but it was about a guy posting that OHP really helped his bench. I agree. OHP new record 5x5 @135. Next day set new record 5x5 @175 on bench. Excited to see if I can actually do five pounds more on each lift next. Either way, this is giving me new hope on progress to get to my goal of 5x5 @185 bench press. A few weeks ago I deloaded my squat and then my deadlift because of persistent achilles tightness and mild …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 01:07 PM
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Step one, stop telling her about your affairs. Step two, stop obsessing over her affairs. You have a cock. She has a vagina. Neither of you can do a very good job mate guarding. You can configure rules and consequences. Are you going to divorce her for having sex outside her marriage? Are you going to divorce her because you had sex outside your marriage? It seems like the answer to both is no. How about you come to a don't ask / don't tell truce, and you tell her to properly pay the tolls. And …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/17 04:07 AM
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All of your 'not sure what's going to happen next' postulating with option 1 and option 2 is another reason why that discussion shouldn't happen over text. Can't see her body language, can't see what actions she's taking in response.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/17 12:14 AM
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Trying out some degree of openness is a last ditch effort in some relationships. Then they crash and burn, but that marriage was already going down in flames. I don't see what she has to lose if they're going to divorce anyway. They repeatedly talked about divorce in their discussion, and possibly in other discussions. I'm not well-versed in the history here. For the record, I asked for permission before I started having sex outside my marriage. Still married, still fucking.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/17 12:10 AM
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Body 36, 6'0", 187 pounds, 10.0% body fat. I seem to have found calorie equilibrium for the moment, and I'm going to destabilize it with my marathon training. Ran 13 miles on Sunday, which burned 1300 calories according to my watch. Cooked up another batch of venison sausage to add to my breakfast for more protein. Achilles: Still having persistent tightness and mild pain. Have done a series of stretches which improve things for a while. Considering a yoga class in two Fridays when it fits into …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 12:08 PM
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I'm still working on PFP, and it's hitting like a ton of bricks. On one hand, I do see some archetypes that I successfully vetted, but my wife completely slid past my spidey senses on her red flags.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 10:37 AM
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Tearing down all the scoreboards It's still my metric for improvement. The only one I really care about is the wifely sex scoreboard. The only way I know to have OI there is to be regularly getting laid by somebody, and then the OI is just who I'm sticking my dick in. Maybe in another ten years my libido will drop off substantially, but no signs of that yet. she is just too different a person than me in terms of what invigorates her. That's a very mature place to get to, and when I'm being super…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 10:34 AM
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How about telling us what specifically you changed to get her in bed? Was it as simple as asking for what you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/17 08:09 PM
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Are you happy with your game? I'm not. I've taken the fifty approaches challenge, which is in the Bluepillprofessor book. I'm tracking to make sure I'm not over-counting how often I'm doing it. I already have a plate, so texting a woman I'm not married to doesn't seem like such a big deal. You find some common interest, which should not be very damn hard. "Oh, what a coincidence, you eat food too!?". And then you pick a time and a place to meet again. I got invited to yoga on Friday by the lady …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/17 08:02 PM
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It’s like a oneitis vaccine Great sentence.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/17 07:52 PM
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The only question I have left to answer is whether I was a plaything, or she just lost control of herself\began to fall mentally ill. I'm not sure you'll be able to answer that one. That's a conundrum on the same level as the deadbedroom people like: does she not want sex period or does she just not want sex with me. It's the same difference to the observer and in the end it probably doesn't matter. Just make sure you're healthy and getting what you want, and if she murders your pet rabbit and s…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/17 02:29 PM
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The only real power you have is taking away your commitment. Somebody who says "I hate you", and then writes you an 'I hate you' letter just to make sure the message got across is telling you she wants you to man up and end the relationship. She needs you to be the 'bad guy'. It's a bullshit narrative she's spinning for herself. 'He broke up with me, and all I did was tell him I hated him and wrote him an I hate you letter. He's such a bad guy. And I'm so glad he broke up with me'. What are you …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 02:27 PM
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You go hit the gym during your lunch break. Thanks for the permission. My gym is 1.2 miles from my office. I run there, lift, run back. Usually I lift before the sun is up, and I'm back home before the kids are awake, but sometimes that's not possible. I have this talent to eat at my desk when necessary; after all, I bring my lunch. That's the way to be able to eat enough protein and save money. And about your original question: your lady freaking out about you going to lunch with a girl is bull…
/r/askMRP10/02/17 01:13 PM
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Even if it didn't mean I could live the blue pill fantasy. Yeah. That's exactly what I was getting at when I said I had a period of mourning my marriage as I thought it was going to be. I didn't fully let go of that until I read through Rational Male. That book was a total mindfuck for me. A lot of things I'd seen hints of, and formed suspicions about. It was actually comforting to read AWALT, and it wasn't just the shitty women I was too weak to next or filter out. Once you know the game you're…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 12:19 PM
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My emotional state? This is probably the wrong forum for that. People here talk about frame. I had a few years of mourning my marriage as I thought it was going to be. That was probably six years ago. Hindsight is 20/20. Things would have been easier if I had divorced pre-kids, even easier if I had divorced at the first sign of deadbedroom, and easier still if I would have considered red flags important and not married her to begin with. I think an unplugged guy who has his health and decent gam…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 06:16 PM
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Sanctioned or just cheating? In between. I asked permission, she granted it reluctantly, years ago. Her exact words were "I don't want to know about it if that happens". I keep up my end of the bargain by only seeing the plate when I have a block of time and plausible deniability on my whereabouts. I don't talk about her at all, I hide our communications, I don't spend money on her or take her on dates. My wife wants the illusion that I'm monogamous, and I don't really know whether she knows the…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 05:58 PM
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I get it. I have kids. I fuck and date outside my marriage. My wife has never called the cops on me. I think you're going to need to set a hard boundary in the form of a different address.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 07:24 AM
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I'm just scorched earth enough that I don't really see any net benefit to leaving. Bullshit. A whole lot of women are not crazy, and BPD is a special breed of crazy. Kids should get to see one healthy adult doing their thing. Maybe your lady will end up in prison. She'll probably just branch swing until she find the next blue pill guy. Sure sounds like you have a lot of oneitis for a guy who is fucking other women.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 12:25 AM
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I googled some things about it. Seems like I have a pretty mild case, and easing up should be enough. The pain has already reduced since deloading. I especially noticed it over the weekend when I got a massage and somebody else was doing what would have been innocent touches on my legs and I jumped a bit when they got to my lower leg / heel.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 12:07 AM
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It took me a while to get the form on that one. Gotta stick your ass way out like you're doing an exaggerated squat. Or if you're really hurting yourself, maybe you should lay off that particular one, and do some back strengthening exercise for a few months first.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 12:02 AM
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Your results will vary a lot based on how strong you were / how good your form was before starting the program. I already had strong legs but my upper body was much weaker. What did you injure?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 03:59 AM
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Why uphold your end of a bargain if she is not? That is like fighting fair when your opponent is a cheat. I agree with you here. Took me nine years of marriage to fuck somebody else, but I did. hookers are low risk, cheating is high risk, high reward, sugar babies are somewhere in between. A man of value can use game and looks and charisma to get laid outside his marriage. It's working fine for me. No money needs to change hands... that's negotiated desire, which is probably one of the many wron…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 02:56 AM
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a baby on the way, so pressure from wife to spend on things are high, and both of us want it to be perfect Buy used shit. Kid clothes if you're buying them new, you might as well light your cash on fire. Places like Once Upon A Child are the answer. They sell all the kid crap that you'll use for three months or never, and it's half price and down from there. No matter what you do, you will buy kid clothes that you never end up putting on the kid. Best to not cry because you didn't spend much on …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 02:21 AM
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Nice work on the raise. How long have you been working on SL 5x5?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 12:55 AM
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Body 36, 6'0", 188 pounds, 10% body fat. Up two pounds since last week. I 'feel' heavier. Not sure exactly how to explain it other than that. Have been eating 3600+ calories for the last few weeks. Also have had a few weeks project at work that has required me to car commute, and that's dropped the amount I walk and bike from typical weeks. Looking forward to getting past this project; I want to get out of my car. OHP up to 130 which is my new PR, and it felt pretty good. I've been doing extra d…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 12:50 AM
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$50 is about what I pay my shoe guy to resole my Allen Edmonds.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 12:23 AM
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Why do you even want to fuck that disgusting dragon, witch that forced you onto the internet to take advice from strangers? The thought has crossed me mind. why are you still with her then? Also has crossed my mind. When I'm being super-honest: *a lot of sunk cost fallacy *inertia *good conversations *shared interests *deep-seated feelings that I will be just fine if this marriage crashes and burns, and paradoxically, that make me okay with things being imperfect. I don't feel like I have to fix…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/17 01:01 PM
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The first time I found Rollo posts I buried myself in them and read hunks of the crosslinked posts for about three days, and then read Rational Male, and then went back and read more of them. It was a lot to process and accept, and I think he's right. I no longer remember what the first thing was I read. Maybe War Brides and the Iron Rules, that really got me thinking, and I needed more as I thought about the implications...
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/17 12:52 PM
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Some guys get confused by 'social drinking'. It turns out you can be out with other people and not drink at all. I've done it for numerous reasons: being the designated driver because I had to get up really early to catch a plane because I had an athletic performance in the morning because I just plain didn't want to drink, or I didn't like any of the booze they sold You can still have fun sober out at a bar. One bar I have gone to has really great lemonade, so I keep going back for refills and …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/17 04:04 AM
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I really would hate to burden our newly-adult son with divorced parents. Everything else you wrote was pretty good. Your son deserves to see his dad go for what he wants in life, including being divorced and happy versus being married and alone.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 01:17 AM
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the often hateful one sided usage of the term by MGTOW. I'm going to allow it. It's a useful term, and lots of guys have a nice healthy anger phase when they're unplugging. Any guy who gets to the point of MGTOW has his reasons. I'm too 'blinded by pussy' to get there. AWALT is pretty well explained by Athol Kay in MMSLP as "not literally all women". The important letter is L, for Like not the A for All. Not every man is stronger than every woman, but it's true enough, enough of the time. There …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 01:02 AM
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We had this conversation. I didn't hold back. Told her I'd be swimming in pussy with all the women giving me pity widow sex. There's a clever song about it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TK3aH2MXIlg
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 05:27 AM
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she's 6 so it's pure bullshit Maybe. I knew I was straight at five. But girl sexuality is more fluid. No doubt you've heard of "lesbian until graduation".
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 05:23 AM
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At its core, MRP and RP is about making better man, and you would do well to apply the portions that refer to maximizing your sex rank, being aware of male/female communications differences, knowing about how to assess and pass shit tests. If you're not already lifting and dressing well, start. Coming into your marriage with a solid sex rank, and maintaining it will be good advice no matter who you marry or how you marry. Every union has issues, and you'll soon find what yours are.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 04:18 AM
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Body 36, 6'0", 186 pounds, 9.5-ish percent body fat. I've gained back the weight I lost during my illness two weeks ago. I recalibrated MyFitnessPal and upped my base calorie goal to 3490. Today I'm at 3800 calories. Wife told me my legs are looking more muscular. (They are). I have passed six months on SL 5x5. I had deloaded squat from 275 down to 185 weeks ago because I wasn't getting deep enough into my squat and didn't feel I could correct it while I was that heavy. So far so good, and back …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 12:10 AM
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Man Rollo really nailed me with this post. This comes full circle with the post from a few weeks ago about whether a beta-guy will ever be able to be have his alpha improvements appreciated by his wife, or if the only way is to end the marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/17 11:59 PM
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I have an analogy. Maybe it's shit, maybe it's insightful. to successfully navigate the schizophrenic hamster that is female emotions and logic, I must to a degree be liquid in my own expectations and reactions to her highs and lows. The typical "female logic" experience is like a truck that hit a bump and only has coil springs. It bounces wildly up and down for a while. If you can be the shock absorber that slows the oscillation and finds a equilibrium in the middle, you're the oak.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 03:50 AM
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I looked at budget and ruled Mexico out. It was a good idea, but the money just isn't there. She didn't work for five months in 2016, and we're still paying off stupid debt that we chose not to avoid. I'm making some consequences in forms of scaled back travel and more-localized fun until I've killed off that bullshit debt.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 11:35 PM
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Excellent post. I'm glad I made it to the part where you go on the trip and everything went great. I haven't waited for divorce to take solo adventure vacations with my kids. Left the wife home for a week in June, and the kids and I had a great time. That's good pre-divorce practice too.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 12:05 PM
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My peak weeks during marathon training I break 40 miles, and most weeks I'm in the 20s. I'm not 'that kind of runner'. I'm fast enough to be happy, but only place in my age group at small races. 10 miles of running takes less time for 'fast' people than it does for me. I have young kids; when they were smaller I would push them in a double stroller but they've outgrown that, and sometimes I need a sitter for long runs. I'm not exactly frustrated that I'm not gaining weight. I keep looking for th…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 12:55 AM
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Nice work on the wife sex and handling the rejection.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/17 12:02 AM
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What is your actual goal with regard to your fitness? Excellent question, and you're right that my goals are difficult to achieve together. However, pursuing strength and stamina have been excellent for getting leaner. I was at 11% body fat at beginning of 2016 and am close to 9% body fat now. I really am stronger. I squatted 275 about a month ago, working on a goal of body weight 5x5 bench press. You are completely right that if I focused on one thing I'd be better at it. Basically, I realized …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 12:36 PM
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Continuing to lose weight but the loss trend has significantly slowed down. Was reliably losing a pound a week, now it's closer to a quarter of a pound. Probably need to recalibrate my diet to focus more on fat loss You should mention numbers. Your height and weight, and body fat if you know it. If you're only looking at your weight, you're doing yourself a disservice, as muscle is denser than fat, and if you're getting stronger you may actually gain weight. (but if you're measuring your circumf…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 12:20 PM
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Body 36, 6'0", 181 pounds, 9% body fat. I lost some weight during my illness and it hasn't come back, or at least not at the times I've stepped on the scale lately. Still tracking calories; it's been about ten months. Don't know exact day count because when I went hunting and had no cell signal for a few days MyFitnessPal reset my counter. Been eating 3200-3600 calories last few days depending on activity level. Have been adding occasional junk since the holidays. First it was the sugar cookies …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 01:34 AM
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her biggest flaw is focusing on negativity and problems Hopefully she has girlfriends to 'process her feelings' with. All women have a hamster. In my experience, if there isn't something real to spin on they'll invent drama to have something to spin on.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 01:16 AM
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yep!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 01:14 AM
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You've been at this over a year and don't have a MAP? OMG dude. Stop replying to all these posts, and open a google doc, and write some shit down. A three month goal. A six month goal. A one year goal. A five year goal. A ten year goal. Do that before you do anything else. You make all the money you ever want to make? Put that in your goals. You have all the education you want? Put that in your goals. You want to see things and do shit? Put that in your goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 12:24 PM
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How are your relative SMVs? Is she an HB9? Does she have her shit together? If she followed you, would she be worth reproducing with?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 02:29 AM
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Guys are divided on whether that's a good idea. The con against you picking out her panties: it's a bit like negotiating desire. It might be better to have her picking things that turn you on.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 02:23 AM
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Men are divided on whether you should give her at least a little bit of overt communication to set expectations, or whether you should simply lead her to the sex you want. You should probably err toward the second, and when charades isn't getting the job done, you can tell her to put your balls in her mouth. What exactly did you want her to do differently? Start jacking you while you played with her tits? To moan in an over-the-top inauthentic manner? I'm not sure she knows what you wanted inste…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 02:21 AM
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Second time you've used the phrase: I want you to dress me like a whore You pick out her clothing?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/17 09:32 PM
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Why didn't you isolate/escalate right then? Your translation might be right, or it might be "fuck me now".
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/17 11:06 PM
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I know why I hate on crossfit. Trying to do a gazillion reps in a short time is begging for people to cheat on form in order to get the rep count high. Learning bad form is worse than not lifting because you're gonna get hurt. Also, google rabdo crossfit. There's a culture of push yourself past the limit, way beyond what is sane or safe. Apologists will say that any workout taking to an extreme can cause rabdo, but the extreme is built into crossfit. I actually think they do some things right. E…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/17 10:50 PM
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6'1...145lbs OMG that's skinny. Get MyFitnessPal on your phone yesterday, start tracking your calories, and start eating a lot of calories. I'm 6'0" 185 9% body fat, and I need to eat 3500 or so calories a day to not lose weight. I'm eating never less than 20% protein, but some days I get it up in the 30s. Pro-tip, that donut does not have enough protein. Sausage does, nuts do, eggs do, greek yogurt does.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/17 10:42 PM
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Everybody has a breaking point. I've had a plate for more than two years. That's part of how I'm compensating for a less-than-ideal situation. I should revise my MAP; it's been more than six months since my last revision. I'm further on multiple goals. One of my goals is to bench my body weight, which I've never accomplished in my life (I define that as 5x5; I can probably already do 1RM @185, because I've done 5x5 @170). Getting closer, slowly. First goal was end of 2016; had surgery in Decembe…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/17 01:24 AM
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MRP will make better men, not better marriages. Many times, marriages will "fail" exactly because of this "broken beyond repair" idea Completely agreed. There's one more dimension worthy of note here. As the man keeps improving, at a certain point, enough OI and lost oneitis means you don't care whether you've improved enough for your wife; you just know you can do better elsewhere, and that's a good enough reason to next her.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/17 11:32 PM
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The fact that I got so much backlash tells me I hit a nerve in the formula-driven men. Maybe. I just wish there was more data. We have a LOT of data for alpha bucks beta fucks. We have a LOT of data for rationalization hamster. Rational Male is full of gems about female psychology. I think your post was on more shaky ground than those other concepts. I actually intuitively think you're onto something. I'm just not sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 11:36 PM
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A lot of guys report that their hitting the gym is what prompts their wife to finally 'see the light' and get off the couch. Lead by example if you're not already.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 03:47 AM
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Nice work on the game and the write-up.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 03:46 AM
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her full time job with a 3 - 4 hour commute That blows. I had two hour one-way commute for a few months, and I almost never did both directions in the same day. I had a rented room on one side of the commute where I could crash. Something to consider, especially if you're getting laid less than half the time anyway. She should either be searching for a new job, or a new place to live, because that's not sustainable for long.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 01:46 AM
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I repeatedly deloaded the deadlifts because I was feeling uncertain about my form, and for good reason. Totally not worth putting up big numbers if I was doing it wrong. Just made it up to 225 today, and it felt right, but also felt like I was doing real work.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 01:13 AM
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Thanks. I hadn't made it to this thread yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 01:12 AM
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Body SICK! Puking is no fun. First the kids, then me. Missed one day and a few hours of work, and then just had a no-fun weekend. Missed a running day, and didn't do very well on a lifting day. My energy level and weight are still down. Stood on the scale the day after being sick morning, and got the number 178 pounds, 8.something% body fat. Deliberately ate and drank more than normal today. Next day up to 183 pounds at 9% body fat. Continuing to eat purposefully. Bench failed at 170 enough time…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 12:42 AM
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I usually take about five minutes between lifts, on a three lift circuit, like squats, OHP, abs, repeat hitting each station on the fifth minute. I am in excellent cardio shape, but there's some science about how fast your cells can replenish ATP and you get diminishing returns the shorter you go. That's also a function of how much time I allow myself at the gym. I need to be home by 7AM, and my gyms open at 5AM and 6AM. I've got to be efficient. There's also travel time in there, and I usually …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/17 12:07 AM
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Thank you for all that.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/17 12:01 AM
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Thank you for that. I'm barely over body weight, and definitely not 3x body weight or anything extreme that some guys can do. I'd kindof figured out intuitively that if I wanted my form to feel natural I needed to up the reps and I have. I like your 3x 10 then lots of reps idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/17 10:41 PM
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making slow but steady progress To me, that means you're past the newbie gains and you're lifting hard and heavy. Those gains come slow. It seems like you already had good experience with lifting and didn't have to learn everything from scratch. I learned deadlift in 2016 at age 36. How do you lift that often while resting muscle groups? A PPLA rotation? Something like that?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/17 12:08 PM
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As a technical professional, I never really needed to worry about appearances, Me too. I discovered that I enjoyed dressing better than most of my colleagues. We don't have a dress code, but it sure-as-fuck changes how people treat you. My current office is light on women; my last one is not. It helped there, and now it's just for fun because most of the women aren't colleagues in any meaningful way. (promoted in June). Your 50 pounds make a lot more sense when you say you are 6'4" and you were …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 11:23 PM
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She sounds like she made a great game out of it. I'm a bit jealous.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 06:39 PM
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I celebrated losing nearly 50 pounds in 3 months How long ago was that? Have you kept it off? That seems aggressive and like it might be too much too fast. I went into Gap and Urban Outfitters, only to find out I was still way too fat Height weight age? You may have demographic-ed out of those places anyway. If you're out of your twenties you should probably be done with buying t-shirts with clever sayings. The only thing I buy from the Gap anymore is kid clothes, linen button-ups and boxer brie…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 04:20 PM
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Congrats on the hot lay. The seduction sounds like a lot of fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 03:42 PM
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Hope she doesn't lose the tits when she loses the weight. Those are fun. Also, I like tall women; at least you know you're not going to break her in half when you fuck her hard. You mentioned modeling in her past. She's tall enough. Was she ever an athlete, or was she one of those girls who are kind of born thin and tall and they didn't have to do any work for the first 25 or so years of their life, and then adulthood and a lowering metabolism is a real shock? In other words, how did she get fat…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 02:53 PM
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As somebody who has been in a long term deadbedroom I have not yet cured despite lots of improvements, I'd love to hear some more detail about how you decided to end it with the fiance. Feel free to PM me if you don't want to doxx yourself. And I'd love to read part three.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 02:20 AM
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I have talked to my doctors about why my drive is so low, they say it's due to my brain injury and I just need time to heal. Athol Kay says that sex is all about hormones. I suspect that the docs have put you on drugs, especially if you have back and neck injuries. Those are often oxy* drugs, which are highly addictive, and for a lot of people don't even do that great a job at relieving the pain. I tried some after surgery; I really didn't like how they made me feel, and I preferred to relieve t…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 01:54 AM
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I read this post, and I'm not impressed. I believe that this is because, as Western society has become less religious and less restrained, the animal nature of men's sexuality has been unleashed. Whew boy. I believe something different. Men have always wanted lots of sex, but it wasn't available because morality restrained it, porn was mostly unavailable, and women were far more reserved. Roman orgies? Key parties among American test pilots and their swinger wives? American old-west brothels, wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 01:29 AM
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exactly why I came here! Yeah, me too, except I was already there. How about this... it will never be easier to end your relationship with this lady than it is now. Keep that in mind going forward. Moving in together, merging families at holidays, all that stuff makes it harder to end it. She obviously has some value-adds beyond sex or you wouldn't have gone monogamous with her. Just make sure you're putting her on a pedestal because she's worth it, and not because you feel like you don't have a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 09:59 PM
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I had never deadlifted before June 2016. Did 215 this morning. It was okay. I can do more. I've never actually failed deadlift, and I don't know where my max is. My squat max is somewhere north of 275. I did 5x5 @270 before I deloaded from 275. If I end up like other guys, I would predict I should be able to deadlift 315 or so. I haven't videoed my deadlift, but I did video my squats when I was near 200, and my form was great. I only deloaded because I wasn't getting the depth that I wanted and …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 09:56 PM
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We both had some therapy to help us gain insight. It's actually exciting to hear from one red pill man who thinks therapy wasn't an epic waste of time and money. What was your goal going into therapy, and how did you achieve it? If your lady has a big life stressor it may be worthwhile to get rid of it She just makes shit up if there's not real stuff. And there's not real stuff. We're financially comfortable, I own my shit and the household stuff. The kids are healthy and happy. We want for not …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 09:52 PM
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Nice work on your cardio and your lifting. I'm a shit swimmer, and am basically a competent non-drowner. I was dead last in the swim portion of the only triathlon I've attempted (zig zagged all over the fuck in a 60' deep pond), but I'm going to try again dammit. Made up time on the bike and run. I'm confused... I spun plates. As a decent-looking, fit, confident middle-aged man in my area, I have a high relative SMV and there are lots of fit, cute, athletic women that are DTF in my social circle…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 12:53 PM
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I'd suggest you ditch Strong Lifts for undulating periodization or a conjugate method. More volume here is key. I can also simply increase volume. I could toggle it to 5x5, but the SL advised against that once you're to a 'reasonable' weight, which I define as a weight that gets the attention of other lifters when you're hitting the floor with the plates. Your descriptions are good, and I do agree that the reason it feels awkward is directly correlated with the fact that I've done fewer reps of …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 10:59 AM
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Outside confirmation? check. Multiple people commenting on the body and clothes, congratulations on the work promotion, etc. IOIs? check Numbers? check Affairs with hot feminine women? half check; singular affair Or it an internal realization? I think part of it is realizing that lifting is fun, improving is fun, and you get in a positive feedback loop. If you've found a positive feedback loop you're at least on your way. The question I'm spending more time is how long am I going to stay married…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 01:08 AM
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I used to drag her along on my workouts, but it made working out less fun for me. Me too. I dragged her on runs for a while. At the time, I'd taken years off running, and wasn't that fast. I've since become a marathoner and race 5k at about 6:45/mile pace. She's not at all on that level, and I'm only patient enough to work out with her if I've already done my own workout that day. I usually work out before the sun is up, so that's not impossible but mostly I just can't get her interested. Lately…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 12:41 AM
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Conventional deadlift. I've kept repeatedly deloading such that I've never actually failed the lift; I've just felt like I should keep the weight lower while I improve form, and after months of lifting this is still the one that feels the least like I'm fully in control. SL 5x5 says do 1x5, and I usually do 1x10 just to have a better handle on my form. I've watched a series of videos. I admit I was unaware of the sumo form, and I can see how some people would be able to lift more that way. I've …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 12:38 AM
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I typically agree and amplify with something like "pull your pants down and I'll show you some love" while moving into a position to do it and bang her then and there. However, she almost always responds poorly to these Consensus in the manosphere is she would not respond poorly to Chad. Keep lifting, work on getting more lean, and consensus is you'll start getting a different response. None of that has happened personally to me (with regard to the wife; my plate likes my improvements, but she d…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 12:25 AM
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Yes. This has occurred to me. It's incredibly difficult to tell where she begins and where the mental illness ends. At a certain point, it's all her; she's 36, and has had half her life to figure this shit out. Making matters even more embarrassing, she has an incredible amount of medical training. It's kind of like when you meet an ER doctor who doesn't have health insurance, or when the cobbler's kids don't have shoes. and... I have another woman lined up to fuck, and looking for more.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 12:02 PM
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Fair enough. Haven't gone ONEitis on my plate (who I fucked yesterday), but runner chic is higher SMV. I'll leave her out of future reports until I've closed the deal.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 11:40 PM
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Isn't that a great question? My SMV keeps going up, hers is going down or staying flat. I get IOIs regularly, obviously have a plate, had two dates in 2016 with other women I gamed in person. My body is really like how I describe it. Honestly? I've gone somewhat RP rambo and removed some comfort. Part of that was the beginning of admitting to myself that the deadbedroom wasn't going to fix itself, and I needed to get angry at it. The deadbedroom isn't the only or maybe not even the real problem.…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 11:34 PM
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Body 36 years old, 185 pounds, 6'0", 9.5-10% body fat. I seem to gotten slightly leaner / lighter. Still eating 3200-3500 calories a day. I guess I'm just burning a lot of calories. I've hit something like day 285 of calorie tracking. I deloaded my squats. Was up at 275. My form was good, but I wasn't getting the depth that I wanted, and I was pretty much always sore from the last time, even when I had three days of rest due to holidays. It was also affecting my ability to run at my full ability…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 05:07 AM
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Still trying to figure out what exactly it is I'm looking for That's entirely up to you man. Bang and the other books like it emphasize "isolate and escalate". If you want to escalate toward relationship rather than toward sex, that's your call. There are women who want that, and there are woman who want your hard dick and to not see you the next day. Your call on who you spend time with. Also, some of those books like Bang emphasize that you don't spend money on a woman until you've already had…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 02:34 AM
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I agree. I tried googling the organization listed as the author of practical female psychology. No hits. You can buy a Bible from amazon, but the royalties don't go to the guys who wrote it 2000 years ago. I bought both bang books, the BPP book, Athol's book, etc. Those people are still in the game, still producing work, and I hope they enjoyed my money.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/17 10:42 AM
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I also don't get the dick metaphor. Feelz over realz. Your dick is obviously the same size. Her feelings about it will change, so her reality will change to match her feelings.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/17 10:38 AM
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Decent post, but you could have gotten it done in two paragraphs. Here's your TLDR; "If the woman is easy to get along with, not a total dumpster fire, and follows your lead, bring her along for the ride. Kick her off the ride when she has lost her value."
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/17 11:54 AM
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I'll be able to bring that down to low 20s. Man. You're in better cardio shape than me then. That's dramatic improvement in a short time.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/17 11:43 AM
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We have some divorced parents on our larger social circle. The less awkward you act about it, the faster it will be a normal thing. No idea how old your kids are, and you don't have to say. We know a six year old girl who splits her time between two houses pretty evenly. Sometimes we have her mom over, sometimes we have her dad over. You seem like you're pretty damn good at social stuff, and you can own this.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 11:40 PM
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Book of Pook has several extended examples. Sometimes it's when she says one thing and means something completely different, ("I'm fine" always means "I'm not fine, but I want to feel my emotions and I don't want you to try to talk me out of it".) and you have to read context / emotion / etc. It's frustrating as hell if you're a linear, deductive male thinker who says what he means. I'm bad enough at regular surface level communications. Still learning, still getting better, still not very good …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 02:21 AM
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It seems like there are free PDFs of the book floating around. Is there actually a copyright on this? The PDF (and other open digital formats from archive.org) is literally the second link when you google the book. I bought my copy of BPP book and several others, but I was torn on this one. Thank you for your thorough analysis.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 02:18 AM
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Body 36 years old, 186 pounds, 10% body fat. Squats have gotten hard. Finished 5x5 @265 on the second try. All other lifts are still progressing from my grand surgery deload in December. Bench @165, row@95, deadlift @185, OHP @95. Abs coming along. Doing 60 incline cross knee situps per lift day, in-between sets, plus my other ab work. Considering de-loading my squats, but will wait until I fail. I got 5x5 @265 on my second try. 270 is next, and we'll see whether I get it on the first try. 265 w…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 01:38 AM
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figure out how to have weekends like this without my parents as an alternate source of attention to the kids. 1) make a meal plan and have everything already shopped for. When you have your meals covered, a lot of things fall into place easier. If they can help, involve them. 2) If you gym has kid care, use it. I brand that place as "the fun room", as in "hey kids, it's time to go to the fun room". The different gyms I have are equipped differently, and if they don't have what my kids want, we b…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 12:54 AM
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Run 5k in under 20 minutes That's very tough for a lot of people. You didn't post anything about your body dimensions. Are you close to the goal already? I did a 5k over the weekend, 21:35 two days after failing squats 5x5 at 265. 6'0", 36, 186 pounds, 10% body fat. My legs were still sore and I could tell. I'm not sure how long it would take me to get down below 20, and it's not a goal of mine. I prefer slower, longer distance. Honestly right now, I'm more interested in putting on upper body bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 12:37 AM
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I don't think porn is the enemy. Are women wringing their hands over reading about the unrealistic men who chase a woman for thirteen chapters before they finally have soft, candlelit sex in every romance novel?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 12:23 AM
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The only problem for sure your wife has is that she's gained 80! pounds, and has a shitty attitude. Good luck trying to fix that.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/17 02:47 AM
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It was a specific threshold that I only met when I was in really good shape. Hope it happens for me. I'm pretty much back to where I was 14 years ago, except that I have less hair and more money. Now I'm just continuing to be stronger than I've ever been. It has already taken me longer for her to follow me than it took you. Bluepillprofessor says basically one month per year of the relationship so I've got a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/17 07:56 PM
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I ignored her and continued lifting. That's where you started improving. You blew past one of her bullshit rules about what you can and can't do with your own body. That was the beginning of reclaiming your self-respect. The best part of your post is that she started going to the gym on her own and lost the weight. My wife is so... not following my lead on that. She can see me getting hotter and occasionally comments on it, but is doing nothing to fix herself.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/16 09:14 PM
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Excellent post. I've never known a real woman who lived up to my bluepill ideal of what I thought she was supposed to be. I used to think the problem was that I was just choosing the wrong women. Sometimes that's still true; judge actions not words; but Rational Male was really useful for helping me decode the patterns I'd noticed.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 12:49 AM
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The part about standing still becoming painful is where I recommend seeing a chiropractor and getting an opinion. Stretching might be useful if you change things up, and I recommend asking about that while you're there. And yeah, you might have messed it up lifting heavy with squats / deadlift. You mentioned a lot of activities that don't hurt. How about swimming? I rotate my torso through my hips when I swim, and I'm curious if that hurts you.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 12:43 AM
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Awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 12:40 AM
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how a knee injury from high school football (when he was really cut and strong of course) prevented him from lifting weights, running, etc. Must be tough. Then there's this dude: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBDg1ChJfwk (for those who don't want to click, it's Oscar Pistorius doing a 200m dash with his two knee-down prosthetics.)
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/16 03:50 PM
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Sounds good to me. Had my wife video my squat form at the gym after I had some neck pain. The neck pain went away and my form was actually better than I expected. Good luck with getting your wife following you.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/16 02:18 PM
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A few weeks ago I had surgery on the skin over my scapula. My dermatologist forbade me to do any lifts with my shoulders for two weeks while the skin healed together so I wouldn't rip out the stitches. SL 5x5 deloaded me dramatically during those two weeks, and I'm working back up now. All of my upper body lifts are below where they were before surgery. Working back up slow and steady.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/16 02:15 PM
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I'm not sure why OP put the mortgage in both names Some states require this if you are married.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/16 02:12 PM
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started lifting about a month ago...I haven't lost any significant weight. I don't know what you mean by significant. If your waist is actually slimming, that's significant. If you didn't exercise for a long time, and now you do, you're going to replace fat with muscle, and not get much lighter... for a while. Then you'll probably get to a point where you're burning more calories at rest than before and the weight will start falling off. You need to have a longer time horizon than one month. It …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/16 06:08 PM
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Everything here sounds pretty good, except the long distance part. Don't know what your vision is for finding a job; at a certain career level, you should have a work social network and a lot of your leads will come from who you know. That way improves your odds versus emailing a whole lot of resumes and hoping somebody reads it. Linked in is lame, except when it works.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/16 06:05 PM
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gonna drop squats and deadlifts down to very low weights Good idea. If you have a gym buddy, or even somebody you trust enough to not steal your phone, ask them to video you doing your squats. Most places don't have proper mirrors to be able to see what you're doing in real time. Where does your back hurt?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/16 05:59 PM
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I just need to figure out how to get my buddy Lead by example is the best way. Make a modest goal (like lose five pounds), meet it, and then make another goal. Repeat until you're where you want to be. Eating out too much isn't necessarily the enemy, but your calories in need to come close to matching the calories you burn. If you don't want to eat less, and I sure as hell don't, you need to burn more calories. Lifting is a great way. Has a nice side effect of raising your testosterone and makin…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/16 05:53 PM
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Lady had too much attitude That happens. she is doing a PhD from a top 5 univ That happens sometimes. Not a guarantee of a shitty attitude; the best women won't mention it within two minutes of meeting you, and will ask you to call them Heather rather than Dr. McTryHard
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/16 01:31 PM
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Body 36 years old, 6'0", 186 pounds, 10% body fat. Continuing to eat in excess of 3200 calories, some days higher when I burn more. The big holiday meals have been a good thing for me. Abs are coming along. I usually do 50+ inclined situps scattered during 'rest' between SL 5x5 sets. I still do my old ab workout, but after I've knocked those out. Wife occasionally walks up and rubs my abs. Getting back into the upper body lifts. Bench @160 5x5 this morning, row @90 5x5. Squat @260 5x5. The bench…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/16 01:19 PM
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How tall are you, how heavy are you, and how far from the healthy weight for your height are you? There are thin dudes with high blood pressure, but these days it's less likely.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/16 10:53 PM
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Eh it's already weird that the sisters and the brother are talking about it. I think it's all connected. In my experience, women would happily trade more sex for more alpha.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/16 02:51 PM
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Everything is a learning experience. Among other things, you learned that long distance relationships suck, and it's hard to not be tempted by other pussy when you're away that long. I don't know whether your LTR was 'officially monogamous' or if you guys just had different expectations. That changes things slightly. I had a blue pill past where I assumed things with a girlfriend were monogamous, and she did not. We had never talked about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/16 02:50 PM
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The only way he'll really take it seriously is when some RP guy shows up with the orbitee and takes her to bed the same night he meets her. Then maybe he'll get what he's doing wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/16 01:02 AM
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If the women really want that, there's NMMNG and MMSLP. Those are both gentle introductions that can be treated independently or lead into MRP. MMSLP and Pook were enough early on to convince me to lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/16 01:01 AM
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https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/08/rooting-through-garbage/ That's the answer, and anything I'm going to say isn't as good. For the record, can you describe what it was she objected to? She snooped in your email without your permission, and she thinks you were too flirty / sexual with somebody who wasn't her? What was the exact content? Were you setting up fuck dates? Getting sexed by other women? I only ask because I'm married and actually having sex outside my marriage, and others here are…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/16 12:54 AM
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I like lower rep / higher weights too, but you gotta be safe, and do proper form. It's so much better to do a lot of reps with proper form and lighter weight than heavy weight with improper form. Easy example. Proper overhead press, you hold the bar at your chest, near shoulder height, and with control, you lift it over your head, then return it to your chest. The cheat way to do it is to burst from your legs and use that momentum to get it up. (that motion has a time and place, and is part of a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/16 01:11 AM
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If you're not already a reader, maybe you should become one. Read some things you don't feel like you need to hide from her in front of her on a regular basis. I bought a few of the sidebar books in print. MMSLP has female disclaimers sprinkled throughout because Athol Kay assumes a provocative title will get women to read it, and also because that was my first foray into the manosphere and I mostly read fiction. I bought WISNIFG on hard cover and left it around. Frankly it's advice not-just-guy…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 06:00 AM
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Any suggestions? Yes. Listen to the medical opinions of the people that examine you, and if you don't like their medical opinions, write down what they said, and then use those words to read medical journals so you can educate yourself on whatever you did to yourself. There are muscle injuries that are temporary, and there are muscle injuries that take longer to recover from. Don't know if your country has physical therapists or chiropractors covered by your national health system. I'm assuming …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 05:54 AM
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Thank you. I'd already gotten there and I owned the decision about ending monogamy between my wife and myself years ago as I realized I just couldn't depend on her for sex. But letting that go just kicked the can down the road about the bigger questions. I keep wanting her to be First Mate, and right now I'm not sure I can trust her to swab the deck.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 05:49 AM
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It's a hard truth. I need some guidance from people closer to the ground. I know a few divorced men with children. Going to ask them how they knew it was over. I've also been trying to give her time to follow my lead / acknowledge my improvements. Not much change there; if anything it seems like she's just given up trying to keep up.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/16 01:21 PM
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I have problems with labeling porn as an 'addiction'. Is that kind of pathology how it really feels for you? Are you avoiding work so you can whack off? Are you avoiding friends so you can whack off? Do you have offers of real flesh and blood sex with your wife and or other women you are turning down so you can whack off instead? Are you holding up a liquor store to get cash to buy porn? Fantasy is a poor substitute for the real thing, and I'd much rather be fucking actual women. So much so, tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/16 02:33 AM
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The girls that were throwing it at me, but I was too caught up in thinking I wasn't good enough. Best way I've seen that written down. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 10:16 AM
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Body 36 years old, ~185 pounds, 10% body fat. Despite trying to eat more, I seem to have slightly lost weight. I thought it would come back after I hypertrophied when I restarted the upper body lifts. Hasn't happened yet. Still tracking calories, at about day 260 of that. Think I need to permanently raise my metabolic daily intake from 3000 to 3200 until I see weight gain. I think my legs have gotten big enough that the status quo demands more calories. Completed my two weeks of no lifting that …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 01:39 PM
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I look back and see that I was at my happiest when I was just strict sl5x5 and hoping for that next 5rm. Same thing happens with some runners. I've known some college runners who graduate college and are essentially burned out and have trouble finding the joy again for a while. Don't want to see another track or road race for a while. Some of them discover trail running, and when they can take away the more 'hamster in a wheel' aspects can find the joy again. What to do though? I might get exile…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/16 08:01 AM
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Ha. I opened a milf on a pool deck right in front of her chubby husband and her four kids. If I can do it, you can do it. Then you have her name and a previous conversation, and a base for when she is alone later. Come to think of it, pools were already fun, and they've been more fun since I've been lifting. Thanks Pook and Athol Kay and all the others who convinced me to lift!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 01:46 AM
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Didn't have a chance to open swim MILF this week I'm all about sticking with your workout, but make that a goal for next week. At least get her name.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 12:35 PM
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+1 for putting the fear of god into the coworker. This whole thing is messier because this is happening at work, and it shouldn't be. Most companies forbid affairs and flirting on company time.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 12:28 PM
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You mentioned going nuclear, by which I assume you meant divorce. But there's another level of nuclear, which is human resources. Many employers explicitly forbid romantic relationships between employees, and certainly on company time and while using company resources (the email, and if it's a company phone). And it's worse if there's a supervisory relationship involved. There are obviously exceptions for people who are already married. I think you should already be looking for another job for l…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 08:22 AM
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I did an experiment of wearing weight gloves at the gym, which conveniently cover the ring. Same result.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 08:16 AM
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I don't have any magic knowledge for you. I also get IOIs and game pretty women who are not my wife. And I have a plate. Last fucked her over the weekend. And yes, I've had being married cost me some games that were going well right up until then. Some women don't care, especially if you're in a venue where you can go from meeting to bed quickly, like a dance floor at a hotel where you're staying. Your wife will come around or she won't. Breastfeeding is wonderful and awesome unless you're a man…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 08:10 AM
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Sounds like you received an excellent education, just not in the way they intended. Life is like that sometimes. In my personal experience, religious education can be particularly helpful in helping a young man discover where true virtue lies.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 07:59 AM
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This sounds like a good FR, if you can write it up in a way that won't blow up in your face.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 07:55 AM
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Wondering how to best exploit this to get wife extra tingles without causing more anxiety as she is already worried about her BFF fucking me. You're way overthinking this. Don't fuck your wife's friends. There's some social proof / pre-selection going on there, and that's it. I get it from my wife's friends too; it has limited pussy-dampening value in my experience. IMHO, it's not as valuable as social proof / pre-selection from random hotties. I think if you're trying to use this to game your w…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 07:38 AM
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Hey there, I have some things in common with you. At this point I'm 36, 6'0", 188 lbs, 10-11% body fat. I'm at almost a year of lifting. I'm also a runner. Two marathons this year, one official half, and about 1200 miles on the year. You never mentioned once in your post anything about your calorie tracking. You just said "I gained and I cut". Maybe you're deliberately being vague. Here's what I'm doing: SL 5x5, and I'm at 240 or 250 days of calorie tracking. I'm on a base 3000 calorie diet, I a…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 07:22 AM
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How do i deal with the fishing for comments and her need for validation without being too beta? The general answer is with amused mastery and answer a comfort test with physical touching. If words are too hard, by slapping her ass and taking her to bed, if your SMV is high enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 07:09 AM
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Excellent post and some good lessons. You keep coming back to the cheating. You even called your plates 'whores'. Unless you're paying them, they're not. They're either women you gamed, or they're women you paid. Have some pride that you can pull pussy. You certainly recognize the damp wife panties, and holy shit, do I love pregnant pussy. I could never get the wife to put out much while she was knocked up. I don't see your wife coming around if you hadn't been banging the other women. I don't k…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 06:57 AM
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Body 36 years old, 6'0", 188, 10% body fat. Still playing with eating a lot of calories. Went out to a Asian pho restaurant on Sunday night and had so much broth that I felt sick, and I think I've been peeing more than usual from consuming so much salt, especially on Monday. Dined out Monday night and Tuesday night too. Not good for keeping on my protein-heavy diet, and not good for the budget. Wednesday is back to normal. Almost through my two weeks of no upper-body lifting to not re-injure the…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 02:02 AM
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Teaching is fun. You know you really know a topic when you can turn it inside out and teach it to somebody else.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/16 11:55 AM
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What am I missing or doing wrong? For starters, take the tv out of your bedroom. Beds are for sleeping and fucking, not watching tv, eating takeout, doing your taxes, or knitting circles. Do the dishes or don't. End the conversation by simply saying "I got it," and then turning and walking away. You are an adult, and you don't owe it to her to be berated for childish shit. Why is your kids homework getting done that late at night? Maybe it's okay if they have sports or a legitimate other thing t…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/16 01:56 PM
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I speak passable Español, and Señora Aechzen is fluent. We'd be fine actually going out in the countryside rather than hanging out at the resort with the gringos. Honestly the hardest part of this whole idea is that I'll be taking a wife vacation and it's so hard not to expect sex. Of all my covert contracts, that's one that is really persistent. When I take a sexless vacation with her it feels like rewarding bad behavior. Like giving your dog a treat for shitting on the rug.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/16 12:24 PM
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Sincere thanks for all that. I really look the way I claim. I can't do heavy lifting with my arms / chest / shoulders for one more week so I don't rip out my stitches, and have been spending more time on my abs; they've popped to a new level. Lifting is fun. Do you have some first-hand knowledge of depressed-wife? Some self-awareness would be great. It creeps up on her, and it bugs the shit out of me. I've asked her to keep a mental health diary. She responds "I've got this". Like hell she does.…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 11:12 PM
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I sleep for 7,5 to 8 hours on regular basis You didn't post your age. I feel pretty great on 7 hours of sleep, but everybody is different. I hear you need more sleep as you age, and I definitely want more sleep when I'm lifting heavy. I don't think you can really expect a lot from your body if you're not getting good sleep and good nutrition. Are you tracking your calories? Cardio will come with conditioning. The hardest cardio I know is track workouts, with repeated sprint / rest intervals. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 12:17 PM
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Body 36, 6'0" 185 lbs, 9.5-10% body fat. Had derm procedure to my shoulder, and I cannot lift deadlift, pushups, shoulder press, bench press until it heals up. I'm even forbidden from doing regular front crawl in the pool. I'm trying not to pop my stitches, which will start my recovery over and make me have even longer with no upper body lifts Have at least kept going with the squats portion of SL 5x5, and doing great ab work with my extra time. Have worked up to more of the incline cross-knee s…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 10:25 AM
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And you get to look at chics in yoga pants. Win-win.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 01:14 AM
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I'm 36, so no authority on being old. But I go to a gym with some old guys. There's a guy who still does squats, but he does them with hand barbells, maybe 50 pounds total. He's still doing the range of motion + body weight. That's better than not doing them at all. I don't know what your particular issues are. I would say spend some money on some OT sessions or a personal trainer, lay out your issues, and see what you can do to work around things. If you can swim, you should do so. If you canno…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 01:11 AM
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I’ve tried the whole sitting, breathing into my stomach, and counting breaths to help clear the mind. It just wasn’t my thing Yep. Me too. Just get yourself in motion It's also DL 3. Any guy who is paying attention should have already gotten this down. For me it's running, lifting (I usually run to the gym, lift, run home), one-night-a-week music group, all the reading I'm keeping up with here and sidebar, my recreational reading, occasional travel with or without my kids as long as it's without…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/16 12:55 AM
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Thanks for saving me time from bothering to look at the video.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/16 12:00 AM
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your wife is not as beautiful as you think Except for when she is. My wife is about thirty pounds heavier than when we married, but back when we married... she really was that beautiful.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/16 12:04 AM
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"at least he tells guys to 'lift'" I think I wrote that one. Go ahead and read MMSLP if you haven't already. It was the first sidebar book I read, before I discovered this place. The main complaint people have about Athol Kay is that his forum(s) are run by women, and they lost their male edge. Basically the only way to keep that from happening here is to rigorously enforce rule zero. The instant we have to tone police our posts here, I and several others will be gone. The secondary complaint pe…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 12:18 PM
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I just don't get it. I've been on a crusade to eat enough protein. They want people to: *not eat rice and beans, nor quinoa *not eat dairy, which crosses out cottage cheese, whole milk, whey protein, greek yogurt *no peanut butter *it seems like eggs are okay, but man I would have to eat a lot for all the dairy protein I'd be missing out on Not jumping on a scale for a month is crazy. I rarely go two days at a time without jumping on a scale. It doesn't seem like a program designed for athletes …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 05:01 AM
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Yep. The same wheel of excuses my wife uses to avoid anything she doesn't want to do: sex with me, laundry, dishes, going to sleep rather than watching Netflix while diddling her iPad.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 01:19 AM
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(whole 30) Was there any value in it at all? When I heard the basic idea, I scoffed and wanted to keep the diet that was already working for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 01:16 AM
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Glad it works for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 01:11 AM
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Have not tried that. Thanks for the idea. I usually put my hands on the first non-smooth area of the bar, basically shoulder width apart. Do you go like a hand-width farther out on the bar? I have made some form improvements when I first hit my 160 BP wall months ago, and they helped. The main problem I have is that this is simply not something I have years and years of practice at. I'm building the main muscles as well as the supporting muscles and it's just going to take some time I believe. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 01:09 AM
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I had to internalize the information. It had to incubate. My though process had to change. This doesn’t happen overnight. Yep. I read NMMNG twice, and plan to read it a third time about a year from when I last read it to redo the exercise and see how I'm doing. My biggest fundamental problem in my marriage has been Nice Guy syndrome.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 01:06 AM
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Congrats on your deer hunting success. Not so little now sister of a HS/college plate friended me a few months back. Last month she starts messaging me on the regular; just wanting to chat. Week before Thanksgiving she starts sending me nudes and messages about how she wants me to use and abuse her. Doesn't seem like she's very careful with sec ops. Maybe a good reason to avoid her entirely. I would take that out of the digital, and into the real-life as fast as possible if you want to hit it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 07:03 AM
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she looked up at me, pulled my dick out of her mouth with a “pop”, smiled and said “I was four when you met your wife!” then resumed hoovering, sloppier than ever High five. During sex with my exwife, even early on, we would both orgasm quickly and easily I think you're overthinking this. So here is my overthinking. 1) I don't cum as quickly or easily with new partners. You probably don't either. If you get half a year with one of these plates you'll probably cum faster with her. 2) It sounds li…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 06:56 AM
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I don't believe it can happen unless the desire was suppressed due to... Sometimes women who don't want to fuck have some kind of epiphany. Athol Kay thinks everything is hormonal, other people think it's all emotional and about the feelz. I think his wife is mentally ill and trying to get consistent behavior or apply dread is a crapshoot and he just needs to end it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 06:42 AM
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I just read your OYS and I'm jealous you figured this much shit out now, at age 28, before you have any kids. I'm sure I'm not the first person to tell you to pull the rip cord and cut your losses. You can do so, so, so much better than a woman who won't fuck you. I don't exactly recommend you head over to r/Deadbedrooms, but most people there will tell you the sex got worse, not better after kids. Can you imagine four years until your next fuck instead of two years? Also, Captain Save-a-Ho is r…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 06:36 AM
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Body 6'0", 36, 187 lbs, 10% body fat, sleeping decently. Bit of jet lag from time zone changes this week and irregular sleep pattern from hunting and being in tree stand before sunrise / staying up late drinking with friends-I-rarely-see. Passed day 220 of calorie tracking on my base 3000 calorie diet. Have been playing with just how much food I need to eat to actually gain weight. Had some 3500 and 4000 calorie days in the last week/two weeks. Have maybe gained a pound or two. Will keep steppin…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 06:13 AM
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So maybe she is actually tired at night. Schedule a weekday lunch date with her where you can fuck her, and then try fucking her in the middle of a weekday. Works for me. Makes the afternoon fly by.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 05:24 AM
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I half agree. If she is going to be sneaky and conniving, it will happen. I half disagree: If it's in broad daylight, he can actively cockblock. Go up, shake the guys hand, hijack the conversation, relocate him, and change his venue, do man shit with him, talk about the game.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 07:58 PM
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Anyone else seen a response like this? Yes. I used to want the sex to improve, and for her to not be a shitty housekeeper. Now I want her to simply submit to me and let me lead, or stay out of the way as I keep improving. The notion that trying to improve the marriage turns the entire self-improvement into a giant covert contract seems 100% correct. You have to be in it to improve yourself, and that may mean the end of a marriage that should have ended anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 07:14 PM
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Awesome FR. You have the patience and wisdom of Solomon. I know for a fact that I couldn't have waited out 15 months without getting some strange. Jesus. Your description of failing on 275 squat is perfect. I'm squatting heavy and of all the lifting I've done in the last year, it's the hardest thing I'm doing. Totally wipes me out. I've started falling asleep on the couch sometimes. I feel like dads of daughters get twice as much benefit of learning Amused Mastery and especially reading Rational…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/16 06:50 AM
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Eh. At least she was racking up billable hours.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/16 08:08 PM
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Make a list of shit you want in a woman who you would consider marrying. Chances are she's missing most of that list. She has a vagina, but doesn't clean, only kind of works, can't hold her shit together around the kids, was completely unsupportive of your illness, and doesn't trust you. Next! All the other advice about reading lifting, reading sidebar and getting a lawyer to do your divorce properly applies. You can negotiate a better parenting split than the one you have now, and you should.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/16 07:09 PM
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Valid points. Forgot he was kidless.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/16 06:54 PM
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I can't speak to that one, but of the three I mentioned, I'd say start with Models. You're not going to be a master PUA overnight, and you should start with simply talking to women. Once you have simply talking down, I recommend Bang and Day Bang. Honestly, I've never heard of Magic Bullet until your post. I hope you feel good enough to lift. Lifting is step one for a reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/16 01:27 AM
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Abundance mentality achieved. She's into me at least enough to have had the initial exchange and showed up when she said she would. I certainly have the desire to take it further. Having trouble deciding how soon to try to polarize her as Mark Manson suggests in Models. Once I make my intentions clearly sexual she'll either flee or be interested, and I'm sitting on the fence doing nothing. Honestly just meeting up with her felt like Abundance Mentality and like I can achieve this again in the fu…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 11:50 PM
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I was actually trying to think of this book: https://www.amazon.com/Drive-Surprising-Truth-About-Motivates/dp/1594484805
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 01:07 PM
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Sitting for 12 hours a day at my desk job is just murdering my back. So stand up. I've been doing it for years. If your place is the kind of place that will want a doctors note, go get one. I got one. It wasn't hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 03:30 AM
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I went to a bar on a weekday and told myself I'd approach at least one lady. Did you read any game books yet? Models? Bang? Day Bang?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 03:27 AM
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If there is a way to get unmotivated people to be motivated, I need to know how. There are indeed books about this. Some people like Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard. There's another, but I'm not coming up with the title right now. Good to Great had some positive stuff a while ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 03:20 AM
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reminded me of all the opportunities that I would be giving up if I stay with my wife. Some people choose to have sex outside their marriage, while they're still married. Your call on whether your wife provides value beyond the missing sex. There are people who say you should absolutely not have sex outside your marriage. I would say that no married partner should unilaterally withdraw sex from the relationship. Something has to give; just if you're going to divorce, make it for better reasons t…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 03:14 AM
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Well-known to runners as well. I drink half a gallon after a marathon.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 02:06 AM
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Occasionally verify the assumptions made with the foods you log Haven't had quite the same problem as you. But I get multiple flavors of the same brand to mix things up and not get bored. It seems some are different revisions of the product. The scoop size is different as well as the calorie breakdown. I've tracked them by flavor to keep it straight in my calorie app. Nice job on the sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 01:57 AM
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Body Passed day 210 of calorie tracking. My weight (186, 6'0", 10% body fat) has come down slightly, and I'm flirting with raising my base calorie count. The last few days I've intentionally been eating in excess of my 3000 calorie base. Also surpassing my protein goals. This morning breakfast was two scoops of protein powder, two cups of whole milk, 5 scrambled eggs, one cup of 4% fat cottage cheese. 3600 calories today, 28% protein (255 grams), 34% fat (137g), 38% carbs (346g). I drank a fair …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 01:42 AM
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What they miss and what I am trying to get you to understand is that you can take this action at any point in time. You’ve never needed your wife’s permission to live life as a masculine man. Yep. Well-said. I'm reminded of the great sentence: "I didn't use my initiative because nobody told me to."
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/16 02:56 AM
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Good post. This is related to how at a certain point you need to stop reading about game, and actually go practice game with actual women. Get out of your head, and live in your body. Lifting sure helps. Hard to think about much else when you're holding a shitton of iron over your head. Maybe some whales or dolphins or some shit are pretty smart They are indeed. We now know that apes can use tools; you can find videos of apes jamming sticks into a termite mound, then eating the termites off the …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/16 02:34 AM
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Nah bro. You can have lots of fun for very little money. Picnics are just eating meals outside on a blanket. Doesn't cost anything except planning time and packing food in a bag first. It's romantic and gives her feelz. Camping doesn't require that much equipment, and once you have it you can use it for years. Campsites are damn cheap, and some are free if you don't mind not having running water and showers. It gets her away from facebook and home. Internet doesn't work if you go to a far enough…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/16 12:46 PM
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A lot would depend on the value of the relationship and how well your needs are being met. Exactly. Well said. I think cheating can be the least bad thing to do when you are in a shitty relationship and not ready to pull the rip cord for rational, legit reasons.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/16 12:27 PM
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Have the book. Read this passage at least twice before I moved on from it. First, the advice came too late for me to take it. I was already having sex outside my marriage before I found this place. Second, I think taking action rather than just equivocating forever is better. I was having something of a midlife crisis, and I really needed to prove to myself that better sex was out there. Finding it and getting it really reset me, and convinced me I can stay and work on my marriage rather than li…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/16 04:52 AM
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I don't have a skulpt, and I've never been dunked in a tank. I have the electrode resistance scale, and I've looked at pictures of guys with the army method or whatever it's called, and it seems to be correct. I have big strong legs and solid shoulders, but haven't done much lifting honestly. I lifted a bit in high school, a bit more in college but didn't follow a program. Just kind of messed around with some barbells and no compound lifts. Did a bit more post college and then pretty much took s…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 12:40 AM
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Body Possibly lost a pound or two. 185-ish, 9-10% body fat, 6'0". Passed day 205 of calorie tracking. Have been exceeding my 3000 calorie baseline most days, but I also ran half marathon over the weekend. Ate 5500 day of, and about 3500 next day. Bench press: failed 3rd try at 175 5x5. Stronglifts deloaded me, and I'll work my way back up in the next few weeks. Officially ends my chances of hitting body weight 5x5 by end of year; it's still a good goal, the horizon has just gotten further out. V…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 11:16 PM
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My point is don't make a promise you cannot and will not keep (monogamy). It doesn't matter whether she is 'cool with it'. If she is not, you go back to all the other ladies who are interested in a sexual relationship with you, and you date them non-monogamously until a very high quality woman comes along, if you want to get married (first read about Dream Killers), and you're at your peak SMV. https://therationalmale.com/2011/10/14/dream-killers/
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 11:27 PM
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I'm with you. Guys who frame a house don't have much use for a planer or a biscuit joiner. I've seen some epic cutting board creations, and bought one that I loved. Like four kinds of wood with nice red heartwood inlays. Still holding up to daily use years later. Wood shop sounds like hella fun. Probably not going to happen for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 12:23 AM
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I agree. Dead inside is what she calls it when she's pissed that I won't have an emotional meltdown alongside her.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 12:19 AM
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If you try to fix them, it will go poorly for you. You'll either be seen as too controlling, or not understanding, or that you're dead inside. Brilliant. Took me years to learn this, and I still have to be reminded sometimes. Of those three, I've chosen to bend toward 'dead inside', with is a fair enough assessment of how DNGAF and STFU comes across when she's frothing at the mouth.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/16 11:00 PM
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fucking girls is easy, growing a pair is hard. Upvoted for that line.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/16 10:49 PM
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I cheated on her in the past ok. ive really been faithful to her in terms of not doing anything to disrespect the relationship. Those two sentences don't work together. Does she or does she not know about your cheating? Either way, you can't claim you haven't disrespected the relationship, and also claim that you've cheated. To be clear, I have sex outside my marriage. I'm saying if you want to have sex with other people, do it, and establish that as the norm. If you gave her fair notice that yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/16 10:45 PM
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I have a buddy with a sweet wood shop; it was a project between him and his father. His dad used it to make epic sets of building blocks for each his grandkids. Retail would be at least $200 if you could buy them in a store, and you can't. Son made the bedframe he sleeps in.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/16 10:37 PM
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upvoted for the cooking board.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/16 11:41 AM
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Great post. Cooking well is alpha male behavior. Learn it now; you're providing for your family (if you have one), DHV if you're dating, and you're literally telling your wife what she's going to eat, without doing it at a restaurant. Saves money, makes the house smell great. Good tip on chef supplies to check Marshalls, TJ Maxx, those kind of places that get strange quantities of quality items and mark them down. I got some great spatulas and measuring spoons there. I would add that depending o…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/16 11:33 AM
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I wear them the fuck out, and then they fall asleep.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 06:49 PM
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Career I'd call 'pretty good'. Very stable place, made a lateral move in June, have some training and travel coming in the next few months. It's nice when you can get fewer hours and more money, and I did. Hobbies I'd call 'pretty good'. Have a once-a-week hobby where I found my lady-on-the-side. Doing some form of exercise everyday; lifting 3x a week always giving myself at least one rest day in-between, usually run to/from the gym, usually run only on non-lift days. I'm also a bike commuter; t…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 01:45 PM
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"No more lateral moves...." Which just shows she doesn't have an MBA. There's money in lateral moves.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 12:38 PM
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I think some FRs are real. Not everybody starts from a shitty of a situation, and some people have spouses who are more willing to follow the leader. Beware of covert contracts, including the covert contract that if you improve she will appreciate it and treat you better. Make yourself better; you have no control over how she will react.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 12:31 PM
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That's where we're different. I like tall women, but strong is fun. She has so much core definition she could definitely move her hips. Yum.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 11:38 PM
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It sounds like she has some good value adds, but holy shit, the violence sucks. You're not allowed to hit her back, even when she deserves it. The law will simply not protect you. I don't want her to fuck up our marriage or our children, that doesn't mean I'm scared. Hitting you is fucking up your marriage and your kids. It just is. Healthy people don't hit their spouses. Maybe you can detect what turns her into raging hit-a-holic and GTFO when you see it's coming, as long as she's not going to …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 11:36 PM
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you started too heavy. I've been SL 5x5 for months, and I built up through 150, 155, 160, 165, 170, never advancing until I made it through 5x5. My real problem was that the only bench rack at my gym was busy, and I set up bench on a squat rack, and I was so out-of-my-element that I tried lifting with bad form. Once I fixed that yesterday, and used a real bench rack things went better. 5,5,4,3,2.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 11:29 PM
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Really? I think she's got goldilocks body fat. Any less body fat and her definition would be scary and she would lose her boobs. When she's on her side @1:15 you can see all her obliques and her six pack. That's about what my definition looks like, and I'm at 9.5% body fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 11:25 PM
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Ghostwriter got $500k advance and half of the royalties. He has a very nice house. He's still cashing those checks all these years later.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 12:13 PM
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My wife actually met Bill while he was President. She said he checked her out (she had huge tits in a small dress) and that she could see why he got so much action. Dude is 6'3" with a Yale Law degree in case anybody has forgotten.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 12:11 PM
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She is strong as hell. Amazing legs and ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 10:45 AM
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I love cottage cheese. Some people add fruit, like a peach slice, but I like it straight up. There are a lot of flavors of yogurt. Add or subtract fruit, the main point is to ingest protein. There are even more ways to cook eggs. Wrap them around meat, wrap meat around them, add vegetables. Spinach feta omelette is my favorite. Eggs and ham taste great when the juices mingle. Eggs with bacon. Eggs with sausage. I think you get the idea. First step is having things in your refrigerator.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 10:30 AM
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I'm not doing any active dread Why not? You seem scared of her emotions. And I somewhat think you should be. There's AWALT, and then there's breaking shit, hitting you, throwing tea in your face (WTF?), and undoubtedly stuff you left out. Your lady is past normal crazy shit women do. I think she's crossed the threshold to actually crazy. And we all know we don't stick our dick in crazy. Is she in control at all when she's breaking shit and assaulting you? breaking stuff in jealous rage and she's…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 10:15 AM
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Big tub of cottage cheese. Big tub of greek yogurt. I like Siggi's, but try a few different kinds until you find something you'll happily eat. Lots of eggs. I go through three or four dozen a week. Having those things on stock will get you a long way. If you need to snack and you don't plan ahead, you can just put a spoon in those tubs, or pre-hard-boil some of those eggs, and shell them, and just pop a whole shelled hard-boiled egg in your mouth as a snack. Protein is what you need, and fat isn…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 12:08 AM
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Wow. 30 minutes is some serious out-in-the-sticks.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 12:05 AM
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wtf, no link? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f9oNv7esFY0 Health providers. Fun... When I was out having fun Halloween time with the kids, this lady was chatting me up. Had trouble figuring out who she was; just could not place why I knew her. Then like an hour later we're at the same house together with our respective kids and I realize by what she's saying to the house owner that she's my dermatologist.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 11:58 PM
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If you're anxious as fuck about your relationship ending, it's hard to have much else working right in your life. I and a lot of people here think you should rip the bandaid off. Haven't been eating enough to gain weight consistently the past week. If you're not tracking calories, you should start. 160 pounds at 5'11" sounds dang thin bro. I use MyFitnessPal app on my phone. Stupid name, great app, very easy to see your Macros, which you should focus on. Eat enough protein (and enough total calo…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 07:32 AM
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stressed about not having a cage to squat in, can't afford one Ideas: craigslist. used equipment gets sold, usually way less than retail. Be willing to drive and bring cash. going to the gym is an obvious solution and has lots of side benefits; not an option if you live in the middle of nowhere local high schools often have weight rooms if you do live in the middle of nowhere; make friends with the football coach and find out how you get to use the weights, probably for free if you can make the …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 07:24 AM
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Leg days is when I bike as I really like the pump after squats and deadlifts, and I feel like my legs need a break after running the two days previous. Do you swim? After I've blasted my legs, having them in water and kicking can feel like a nice changeup. And it's another way to break from running. Congrats on your HB6 success. I have a major weakness for gingers and would have followed that up.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 07:16 AM
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Body Passed day 200 of calorie tracking. Still focused on eating protein. Still 36, 186-ish lbs, 6'0", 9.5%-ish body fat. Abs making progress. Definition extending more into my obliques now. Used youtube to search ab programs. Didn't find much except some chic who has millions of youtube hits for moving her ass in spandex while flopping her long hair around. She does have ripped abs and a nice ass; mostly I learned that I'm doing a lot right. Have added weighted back extensions to try to balance…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 06:49 AM
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I think he meant "decided to hand over the papers" "after weeks of bad behavior" He obviously had already prepared them.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 06:08 AM
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. I'm gonna go do x then Where x is short for Xena, you're girl you see on the side after getting 31 consecutive hard nos.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/16 04:27 AM
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she is really pissed about the gun. While you're buying things she doesn't approve of, go ahead and buy a motorcycle. how does the red pill look like in my situation? Does your wife provide any value? Does she have regular, satisfying sex with you? Does she cook and take care of the house well?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/16 04:15 AM
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as we were chatting First she said Then she said Nope. STFU is where you should be. And where is your frame in all this? This post was too much about her.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/16 11:57 AM
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My appreciation of the midwest might be tainted by my personal experiences, but here goes: a lot of 'niceness', but it's often only surface-deep. In big cities like New York, you'll hear a lot more 'fuck yous' and you know exactly where you stand. slow talking, slow driving, a lot of obesity I've seen my fair share of people who had a lot of potential and are living quiet boring lives in their hometown. The most successful people with the exception of one guy who started his own business, got ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/16 11:54 AM
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I really enjoyed Donovan's theory pronouncements (and his thorough citations), and he added a coda that didn't fit with the way The Way of Men was edited. That is called No Man's Land, it's essentially three or so chapters that didn't fit with the original book, and you can pull the eBook off his website for free. It's ultra-deep on a particular topic, but I enjoyed it because I'm a nerd, dammit.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/16 11:41 AM
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You don't know anything about a woman until she has access to some decent money. Truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/16 11:36 AM
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how can I level this shit off. Don't. Bang her, initiate more, dress sharp, own your shit. Let her hamster that if she wants to keep you she'll have to up her game.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 07:45 PM
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I have some nice Sorels and a formidable wool sock collection.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 07:14 PM
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When the Iron doesn't want to come off the mat, it's the kindest thing it can do for you. Great timing. My bench press today was obstinately refusing to raise off my chest. I realized I was completely forgetting my form, and I'd never be able to lift that much that way. Both simple and profound at the same time. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 07:13 PM
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You wana talk about tough. Try sitting in a freezing cold tree stand for hours on end with out moving. I have some nice wool layers, and I'm getting some more orange. Pants on their way, still deciding on jacket.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 02:50 AM
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So you have a divorce plan, and you're just waiting to decide whether to serve her papers?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 02:44 AM
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I don't have time to read all the replies. A few thoughts. Your other kids are irrelevant. Be glad they weren't also awake and screaming. Some kids are harder to parent than others. That's just the way it goes. Your two year old is not an asshole. Probably not anyway. I can think of one or two I have known. Your two year old has a bottle? That's a bit strange. What's up with that? What goes in the bottle? Your kid couldn't sit still. That's not entirely abnormal. Any clue why they were awake to …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 03:40 AM
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Lots of layers the deeper I dig. Agreed. I keep getting a deeper reading list, so far faster than I can read it down.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 03:11 AM
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I was specifically wondering if you have a set of ab exercises, or machines you use in a certain sequence. Do you try to also exercise your back with trunk extensions or other back exercises to move the opposite set of muscles?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 02:37 AM
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read Day Bang. Just finished Bang today, and I fully intend to. Quick follow-up, I bumped into that colleague today, and I casually asked who that lady was. He hardly seemed to know, and didn't seem to know her name. I would have been fine. Good lesson before I actually get over to Day Bang.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 02:33 AM
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You would never be able to do a study under controlled academic conditions. It would never get past an ethics board. Even if a study was somehow done by sneaking the actual hypothesis past an IRB, any of the smarter people here could poke holes in methodology. RP in general has a big reproducibility problem; we're just a big crowd-sourced collection of best-practices. But here's the thing. A lot of us are here because the usual advice: "try some choreplay", "have long deep talks with your wife",…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 02:24 AM
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I fantasize a lot every day about life after divorce Fantasy is one thing. If you don't have enough money saved to go see a lawyer, that's your first goal. Get some legal advice, come up with a separation agreement, and a rough draft of how to split up the property. Find out whether there is a waiting period in your state, mandatory counseling, alimony, etc. You need to spend your time taking action, even if it's just learning what your options actually are.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 02:04 AM
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Previously I would have felt like an ass for her missing her thing She could hire a sitter. You certainly shouldn't feel guilty.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 01:40 AM
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Trained abs 6/7 days. Is there a particular program you're following?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 03:46 AM
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Pick a gym where you can take the kids and leave them in on-site care while you work out. Those are common in United States; no idea whether that's true where you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 03:22 AM
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It's step one for lots of good reasons. You'll see them better when you're doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 03:19 AM
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Body Pushed through my 170lb bench press plateau. Bring on the 175! I still am pessimistic that I'll get to body weight by end of the year, but trying. 175 is 93% of body weight, and I could probably now 1RM my body weight, but I want to be able to 5x5 my body weight. Body weight seems to have stabilized at 185-187 depending on the scale and time of day. My scale that does resistance-guess fat calculation says I'm 9.5%-10.0% body fat across multiple samples. I'm 6'0". My squats are getting up to…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 03:05 AM
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quiet daily death of living in the Midwest. I smirked at that one. Appreciated as only can be appreciated once you've lived there... and left.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 02:35 AM
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I need to have more frame and get busy with MY STUFF Absolutely. One of the first changes I made was not try to stay up with my wife while she watches trash tv at night. I just go to bed, so I can get up early and hit the gym. And with that, signing off so I can get up and hit the weights in the morning.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 05:03 AM
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"Because it's not my job to wake you up" Correct. I had made coffee in the morning for my wife for years. I stopped late last year. Realized she didn't appreciate me for it. She just expected it. It was one of the few places where I could withdraw caretaking behaviors without hurting the kids. She makes her own coffee now.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 10:59 AM
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If you're doing No More Mr. Nice Guy right, it's not just reading. You have exercises to do as you read through it. I threw mine in a Google Doc and plan to come back in six months to a year and see whether I'm in the same place. And you have to write to complete your MAP. You're still worrying too much about your wife's emotional state. I don't know what to do for your anniversary. I'm not married to your wife. I took my wife out to a show; nothing super fancy. Blew about $300 between the show …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 10:55 AM
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Working through WISNIFG still, it's a slow burn for me. Stick with it. It's worth it. Try some of the things out as you go.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 10:47 AM
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I’ve been Tindering like crazy and filtering aggressively on who I actually take out. Booked 10 dates from Tinder I'm thinking that not converting any of those ladies means you're doing something you're not catching on to. Either you're picking flaky ladies to begin with (maybe Tinder has more than usual), or there's a hole in your game somewhere. You're 6'3", and sound like you have a tight body. More of those ladies should be going home with you. Have you read Bang? Picking places for your dat…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 10:37 AM
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That was followed by "You're an ass", a slap on the chest, and her grabbing me by the dick and pulling me to the bed. Glad that worked out. I was about to say you should have picked her up, thrown her on your shoulder, and carried her to bed while she was hamstering about how you're not very good to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 10:19 AM
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Body Bench press @170 was hard, but my form is solid and I didn't get through 5x5 yet, but the gains will come. I'm thinking I'm not going to bench my weight (188) by year-end but it's still a worthy goal and I'm going to keep working toward it. Have been running less post-marathon. Ran five miles yesterday which was the longest since the race. Need to set some next goals. Probably going to do a half in November just to see how I'm doing staying in race condition. Have let up on the swimming. Sw…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 11:52 PM
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I guess I was trying to determine why I act so weird around my wife rejecting me when I initiate for sex, and when she responds. All you want is sex, or our relationship for YOU is focused on You having sex ... or sex seems to drive a relationship for you. No More Mr. Nice Guy covers this in depth. There are even exercises about it. You did read it, right? I think lots of Nice Guys do what you are describing. As for the conversation with the wife, When I Say No I Feel Guilty describes how to adv…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 11:30 PM
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I disagree. A lot of people stare truth in the face and would rather keep the status quo.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 11:17 PM
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And any threat you don't follow through with loses its power quickly.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 12:26 AM
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Don't buy a silly truck because three chicks riding the CC insulted your Hyundai. Their opinion doesn't matter. Hold your damn frame. That dude whose name I don't want to google who shot all those women in California? He drove a cock rocket BMW. Didn't get him laid. Game gets you laid. The way you answer any shit test is with amused mastery: "You think you like my Hyundai? You should see my Yugo!" Those girls won't know what a Yugo is anyway. Maybe they can google it on their phones while updati…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 12:19 AM
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Don't put your dick in crazy. That's good advice too, but that ship sailed years ago when he married her. The real question is whether he is ready to divorce her. It doesn't seem like it. That's fine. I'm not ready to divorce my wife. Staying married may be a mistake, but that's the mistake I'm making right now. Congratulations on divorcing yours. I think you had just cause from what I remember of your story. Sometimes outsiders can evaluate a relationship better than the people in the relations…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 12:05 AM
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Respectfully, I believe this is a category error... I obviously disagree. Science deals in concrete theories of natural phenomena, supported by hard evidence only. Religion deals in metaphysical questions, supported by philosophy of religion, divine revelation (in the Abrahamic religions), I actually cited 'concrete examples' of the times the texts of a specific Abrahamic religion that make fantastic claims. My direct quote was: outrageous claims made by various religions: virgin birth, golden p…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 11:49 PM
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Does Athol say that to literally everyone? Yes. Yes he does. At least he also tells everybody to lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 10:18 PM
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I was sexually harassed around 8-9 years old How does that affect you on a daily basis? If you hadn't thought of it often, it's probably not trauma, and it's probably not an issue for you at all. Not all trauma is traumatic, and people can get over shit. They just do. This sure sounds like another of your wife's attempt to deflect your sex initiation. For your body goal, I don't know why you want to be lighter if you're at 12% body fat. You sound like you're already pretty solid. Keep up the lif…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 10:14 PM
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Since you're name-dropping App/discounts and saving money, I recommend using AirBNB next time, especially with a family. Last time I led the family to Chicago, got a nice AirBnb a reasonable walk from a red line station. Spacious, fun, multiple bedrooms with doors that I can close on the kids, full kitchen, living like a native and walking 'home' groceries from the local stores. I looked at hotel prices, and I would have paid more for less and eaten less healthy. The kids love riding trains. Als…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 09:45 PM
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Great answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 03:23 AM
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there's a high potential for making shit worse than ever Maybe financially, but I can't think of any other ways. What's she going to do? Leave you? You guys already live in separate places. If you were in my shoes, would you walk? I don't know. You did say she's pretty hot. Any advice on gaming her from my current position? Yeah. Keep the dread high, and keep dating other women while also fucking her. Do not move in with her. You're already on the precipice of divorce, and what she's finding att…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 03:20 AM
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Did we marry the same woman? My wife always claimed to be an only child; maybe she has a secret sister.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/16 02:41 AM
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So sex has been "few and far between". If sex is boring, maybe you could read some SGM and invoke DEVI. It's a long job to improve your sex life if you're where you are. Having other partners would make it easier, because they don't know the old you; just the you that is now, trying out shit you just read. I'm also too stupid - or too well trained - to actually cheat. And why is that? Sounds like you're in a big slump. Do you want to go get your testosterone checked? not wanting sex sounding dep…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/16 02:38 AM
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I read the whole thing. Good job not marrying the cheerleader lawyer. Am I still fucking up too much? Is it my frame? Not enough Dread? I don't know. It's unclear to me exactly how debilitating these diseases are for her, nor how it affects her day-to-day life. Is she bed-ridden? Able to work? Able to walk short distances? Am I working for something that was such a whirlwind that it was never actually sustainable? That's a complete possibility. You never got to have the move in, but not yet marr…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/16 02:23 AM
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Exactly why I read NMMNG twice and intend to read it again next year. It contains all the greatest hits of the mistakes I've made in my marriage and how to attempt to undo those.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/16 02:10 AM
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Like many people, I've done religion, and I don't anymore. It fucked me up pretty bad, and then I got rid of it and felt better. Among the biggest problems. If a person learns science, they have an eventual big problem. They learn that santa claus, easter bunny, etc. aren't real, but somehow god is. Also, every other god is a false god, but that one (or is it three?) god you believe in is real. Eventually, you either have to embrace the fact that your religion is no less wrong (or no more right)…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/16 01:42 AM
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Yeah. I needed to read that about five years ago, and maybe I could have gotten to where I am on an easier road than the one I took.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/16 08:44 PM
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He later says in the comments that he does have some lifting experience. I think Stronglifts is actually fine. Start really light, with just the bar, and the app will automatically suggest he go up in five pound increments. And there are videos in there for getting the form right, which is also why you start with the bar.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/16 08:42 PM
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Do straight girls really not chase? They do, in their indirect, covert, girl ways. Flipping their hair, being physically present in places of the guy they want. But actually asking for sex verbally? Not much. Forgive my ignorance, but are you telling me that people here don't get chased by their women? Not even 30% of the time? Maybe 13% if you measure actual sex from actual words spoken by my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/16 01:05 PM
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I'm not going to fire those existing female clients and will continue to support them You certainly could. A few years ago, AT&T wireless was having shitty customer service numbers, and they figured out a small percent of their customers were having most of the problems. They determined it was only smart business to fire those customers, and they did. I can't find the study, but I read it years ago and remembered the principle.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/16 12:59 PM
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t's realizing that she's not on my side and never will be. That was the key realization I made, probably four years ago, and put me on the journey that eventually led here. I had to mourn my idea of what I thought marriage was, and that was hard for a while. Now it just is.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/16 12:54 PM
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I allow shit she pulls to anger me. That needs to end. That said, I'm having a hard time balancing not being angry and not being a doormat. Me. Too. I have a belief currently that if something disrespectful happens, I must respond directly. Are you busy? Can you find ways to spend less time with her when she's being shitty? Sometimes the best solution is to not witness the disrespect.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/16 12:43 PM
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Late to the party, wanted to post in here anyway: Body Bench press, completed 5x5 @165 this week; next is 170. I'm now up to 15 pounds heavier than my persistent plateau of a month ago or so when I improved form. Up to 90% of body weight. Goal of 100% of body weight by year-end. Shoulders and chest getting hypertrophied in ways they weren't six months ago. Added back in pullups at the end of my lifting days because I realized I'd lost my pull up skills since focusing solely on SL 5x5. Abs also s…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/16 12:20 PM
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AWALT. The portions of RP theory that work when gaming a woman are going to work for a lesbian or a straight woman: preselection. If you are already vetted by another woman or women, you're more attractive to other women. A woman who can walk into a gay bar and turn heads is a woman with options. dread. If you're gaming women while you're out and about, it's clear you have options. strength. You don't need to get ripped like a female body builder, but having strong arms like Mrs. Obama wouldn't …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 12:17 AM
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To a certain extent, you've made your bed already. That doesn't mean you have to give up and never take power and lead, but you're not off to a good start. Any advice about timelines or approaches here? Sure. Start by not knocking her up anymore. It's crap that you're making the money but don't have any control at home. She can get a job, and you can get a vasectomy. You need to have control over your own reproductive destiny. I am not even worried about sex (which is infrequent, she has let her…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 12:02 AM
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Can you not fuck for medical reasons either? You said back issues and blood pressure. I don't get it. Go see another doctor. There's plenty of research indicating that strength training improves high blood pressure. Find a doctor who reads research papers, and read them yourself first so you can talk semi-intelligently using the words medical professionals use. As for back issues, any good medical professional will tell you to strengthen your core. If you're too weak to squat, fine. But you shou…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 05:20 AM
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How do you deal with the missed opportunities and that prospect of potential bitter regret in the future? Me personally? I start by saying 'hi'. Dude, congratulations on your IOIs. Now open your mouth and work on your day game. Up to you on whether you close the deal with those ladies you think want you. You'll never know if you don't start talking to them, building your game, change venues, make them follow you. I have never lifted in my life but am tall, dress well and ok looking. It's mainly …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 05:12 AM
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They don't make that card. They make blank cards. Write your own message. I've always done that. Except the last two years where I haven't gotten her a card. And in 16 years of being with my wife, and 15 years of marriage, I've never had a drum kit. I sold it a long time ago. I'm now saving to get an electric kit that I can plug into my oversized earphones, go down into the basement, and lose myself in a jam the way I did for my entire life prior to her. Go join an actual band. Even if it's not …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 05:00 AM
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Better than ever. Had a 5 day in a row stretch a couple weeks ago, and 4 out of the last 5 days. I told her, "sorry baby, but I'm going to need a couple days off." Wrong answer. If your dick is sore, use your tongue and your fist. Get her off, big boy.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 02:32 AM
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I read some of your backstory. Physically, you and I are very similar. I'm 6'0", 187, you're lifting heavier than I am. I don't have trouble finding women who find me interesting enough to talk to, and you shouldn't be either. I agree with you that you need to work on your approaches and game in general. I think Models is a good read, but you should also read Roosh's Bang. I'm about 20% through it and got reminded of some good stuff I've forgotten. I'm sorry to hear about your extreme no sex sit…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 02:16 AM
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watching what she does, not what she says Valuable lesson. I am also having trouble finding 0mm running shoes for my 12.5 4e feet, so running as a hobby has failed to launch. Suggestions on shoes or hobbies that add value would be extremely appreciated. http://www.wideshoes.com Worry more about the width and the fact that you are buying running shoes, and less about the 0mm drop. I run marathons. Just completed my fifth. Why do you think you need a 0mm drop? I spent years slowly reducing support…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/16 03:49 AM
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I have voiced my displeasure before, but nothing seems to stick. Just make plans. Either plans with her, or plans without her, but be a Busy Guy who can take or leave the company of her.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/16 09:49 PM
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Need a lot of work on my own mate guarding and insecurities caused by her past emotional affair. Does she have other value adds to your life than just sex? Good mom? Makes at least some of her own money? Are the good reasons not to kick her to the curb?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/16 08:13 PM
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On the bright side it gave me a view into her ability for plausible deniability, as she hamstered over how she got so trashed over her 3? drinks she started to imagine that her drink was spiked and all manor of reason as to why this wasn't her fault. AWALT. Holy shit, I've seen that before. It's always somebody else's fault.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/16 08:10 PM
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Congratulations on the sex and the wife who follows your lead. I hope you realize that's a huge accomplishment. As for feeling like you don't have freedom? You can have whatever you want if you're willing to trade other things you already have. Have you made a MAP? I already have had a weekly one-night-a-week thing that gets me out of the house and doing my own thing. If you don't have something like that, let's call it a 'hobby', try getting one. It really helps. Something else I felt I was mis…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/16 08:05 PM
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Body Bench press still improving since my form change. Did 4x5 bench @ 165 (90% body weight) and still working my way up. Ran out of time, and think I would have gotten the full 5x5 otherwise. Running fully back to normal with running since marathon. Realized I've lost some of the pull-up skills I'd built in the winter. Going to add that back into the mix. I had peaked at ten pull ups, and I can do more like seven right now. Still looking for a good ab program. For now, inclined alternate knee s…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 04:05 AM
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First, thanks for writing a substantive answer. You've talked about how you basically have to maintain DL8 on your wife, and maybe that's my situation too. My wife was honestly an HB8/9 in her prime, and there's a part of her hypergamy that doesn't realize she's way past the wall. I've been ratcheting it up slowly, and reading a damn lot, and lifting, and working on my game. I've long considered the possibility that maybe this really is all she is capable of, and it's only going to get better wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 03:54 AM
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Thanks. Early 30s. And she's really really sure that she's not interested in having kids? The non-sex isn't some elaborate power play to get you to knock her up? Very good looking is nice, but in some ways it's torture if you're not getting any and she is really hot.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 12:34 AM
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Indeed. At some point it seems you decided to take a break from seeking sex outside your marriage. Did the married sex actually improve enough to meet your needs, or do you feel like you're actively denying yourself? I ask because I'm not as far on my journey, and yeah, there are a lot of guys who would be happy with what I have. I'm not happy, partly because I'm just plain not getting enough, and because I know she can try harder.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 12:28 AM
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Nice work on the running. It also gets easier when you weigh less (assuming you're not already ideal weight). Other people have mentioned the same problem (lifting gains are difficult while eating less). If you're lifting, you're still building strength, even if you're hitting plateaus. It can't all be easy gains. The fact that you're bumping up against the wall means you're close to your limits, and that's a good thing. (I can only do about 115 on those rows).
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/16 07:30 PM
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Thanks. I'll take all the luck I can get on fixing my dead bedroom.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/16 07:27 PM
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Phone sex and skype sex. My goodness. Two things I've never done. I still don't know how to classify this, and I still don't like the term 'emotional affair'. Seems like a lot of effort for somebody you never met in person nor touched. I'm not sure I want to know how somebody 'meets online' somebody like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/16 03:39 AM
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Nice mini FR.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/16 03:20 AM
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on my off days I've reduced my time to run a mile from 15:45 to 12:45 in a month Sweet. There will be a time you will look back and not believe that you used to be that slow. Be proud. You're way faster than most fat-asses who never get off their couch. Keep with it, and make steady efforts toward improvements.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 11:35 AM
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It never became physical I have a weird feeling about "emotional affairs". To be clear, you only ever flirted with this lady, never so much as held hands or made out? I have trouble using the word 'affair' for something with absolutely no physical touch. You just sound like a real-life version of a craigslist casual encounters conversation (fakes and flakes).
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 11:32 AM
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Did you already do an introduction in an earlier post? That would be worth reading for me personally. A lot of us tried other shit before we got here. I tried negotiating desire. Nope. I tried covert contracts. Super nope. I tried reading about a dozen books about female sexuality. I learned some things, but not much that actually got my wife to have sex with me. Mostly they were full of lies about what actually turns women on. The most relevant questions I have for you: how old are you two? wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 11:25 AM
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When sex is not, you are not obligated to love. I ask because this is part of that “emotionally capable of doing anything” means. So the standard advice when you're getting shut down on initiating sex is to get busy, and remove time and attention, and try really damn hard to not be butthurt. If you're busy, and she wants some of your time, she needs to be putting out.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 03:00 AM
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I had a boss that not only wanted the red / green / yellow, but wanted us to literally change the font colors. What a shit show.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 02:44 AM
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I second this. And I would add... do your deliberation in private. When you announce the plans, announce the plans, not a laundry list of maybes.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 02:42 AM
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Body Marathon completed. That's state number 5/50, and 10% toward life goal. B- performance. Four and a half minutes slower than my PR, but on a hillier course. Had a really good time on my trip, and had about 30 hours away from the wife and kids. Lifting; took a break for rest and reset reasons. Went back at it this morning. Stronglifts de-loaded my squat because I had enough days away; that's okay, I would have done it anyway. I'm about 20% still sore in some spots in my legs. Don't want to wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 02:37 AM
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The 'take me to the lake' was amazing.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 01:37 AM
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I ran with my 11 year old last week and felt great I have lost 14 solid pounds Nice. Be a good example for your kid. Working 7 days a week has taken its toll That shit is tough. Any way you can step it back and get a day off? Sometimes sleeping is more important than working out.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 01:15 AM
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public over-the-top feminist meltdowns I could probably learn some things. What keywords should I use?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/16 11:11 AM
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I need to lookin into whether I should keep it minimal (keto), or should I have it at 30% of my macros. My personal strategy is "eat enough protein" and the rest will fall into place. Bare minimum is 20% protein. On days when I'm more like 30 or even 35%, I naturally eat plenty of fat and the carbs are down around 30%.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/16 01:18 AM
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Yep. Especially if you're already way ahead of her SMV, and she's in post-wall denial, thinking she's still 19 and 40 pounds lighter.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/16 01:11 AM
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