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Lol I'm a guy and I find a lot of guys to be annoying boring and kinda dumb. I just wish people understood that generalizations are always false. The world would be a nicer place for it. I'll check out your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:17 PM
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You're making me realize how lucky I am to have gotten into dancing when I was young. Most of my friends are women and I find them to be such good company. Partner dancing is a hobby that by nature has both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:21 PM
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So a friend is someone who acts like a friend? That's a bit circular, isn't it? What does performing friendship look like? And is someone a friend if they perform friendship but you don't like or trust them?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:19 PM
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No, I guess you're right that with that definition, you can never definitively prove you have a friend. What would your definition be, instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:00 AM
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Right, but you would need trust in order to confirm the definition
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:51 AM
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I feel like a male relative can be a friend. Just depends if they are someone you would reach out to in a tough time, or to have a fun time!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:40 AM
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Sure, you never know what anybody feels. But I feel like part of friendship is getting to know someone well enough that you trust them with that kind of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:39 AM
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I had two housemates who were both into climbing- they would go to the climbing gym together every week or two. One happened to be a guy, one was a woman. Zero romantic chemistry. I have a friend who is in the same profession as I am: we meet and consult with each on professional matters and also share meals or go for walks from time to time. We've been friends for a decade. We've traveled together. I won't say zero chemistry but extremely low. Neither of us would want to date the other. My best…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:30 AM
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Asking. Or observing behavior. I have a friend who I realized I wanted to be in my life long-term, but she's very non-expressive emotionally. So I had a conversation with her about it to see where she stood.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:23 AM
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I think the idea is that if a man doesn't have any female friends that suggests he doesn't derive value in women outside of their romantic function.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:22 AM
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To be fair I've seen people have big arguments over two wildly different definitions. I saw one person saying God didn't deserve worship and another person saying he did, and after going back and forth for a while it turned out that one person defined worship as groveling obedience and the other defined worship as "respecting the act of creation, whether or not you obey the creator" I think it looks pretty silly for people to debate about two different things that happen to be labeled with the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:20 AM
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I personally would far rather give someone the ick than kiss someone who doesn't want to be kissed. So, since I know I don't have magical mind reading power is and I know my body language reading is going to be pretty bad if I'm turned on, I'm happy to ask as a baseline habit and know that every now and then it is going to turn someone off.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 08:40 PM
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Well, I think we're in agreement about the disease if not the cause. Lack of healthy boundaries hurts so many men- when I hear guys talking about the friend zone or when I hear what some guys are putting up with in relationships, or at work-- it's pretty brutal. I wish men were taught to have boundaries, taught to know that it's ok to put their needs before other people's wants, that it's ok to step on toes sometimes. I do a lot of coaching/therapeutic work too so I've seen this show up in so ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 07:13 PM
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How so? I'll grant you that we might be in the minority. However, sometimes I wonder if it's cultural pressure for men to think they'd bang anything that moves. I asked a guy I know what he'd do if a beautiful woman walked up to him at a bar and said "let's f*** right now" and he said "I would absolutely do it." And then I asked him more detailed questions to really get him in the moment, like, what would he think about her, what would he be feeling, how would he understand the situation. And as…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 05:25 PM
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I can see that this could be true for guys who don't feel comfortable talking about their feelings and who really don't want to be seen as vulnerable. In those situations, your approach probably is the most kind. I guess I just want to say that there all kinds of people out there. I have one or two friends like you're describing, who probably wouldn't want to talk about it, but the vast majority of my guys and gals all really appreciate having someone who can help them think through their proble…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 05:19 PM
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Speak for yourself yo. I'm hella picky, always have been. Most of my dude-friends are as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 08:17 AM
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You are blaming the woman here when the man is free to walk away if he's ever being mistreated. I'm the situation you are describing, the woman is being irresponsible and the man is being immature. But these are not how all people behave. I have many respectful, loving friendships with women. You are not describing true friendships, my friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 08:16 AM
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Hot friends are fun tho! If it doesn't work out you can stay pals.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 08:13 AM
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One of my best friends is a woman I had feelings for a decade ago. I told her, she said no thanks, we continued the friendship. It came up a couple more times, we talked about it, she was empathetic but also clear in her boundaries - eventually I understood she just wasn't into me. But she was and is a great friend. Over time my interest faded, I dated other people etc. I still think she's cute but it doesn't torment me: she's been so awesome in my life and I'm glad i stuck around. Another girl,…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 08:12 AM
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I don't get this whole concept of "boyfriend energy being extracted". If you're actually friends with a woman because you like being around her, but you have good boundaries, then you shouldn't be spending time, money, or emotional labor on her that you don't want to. I have plenty of female friends and I'll support them, do favors etc because they actively do the same for me- you know, like friends do. I keep seeing posts like this and it sounds like the posters aren't talking about actual frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 08:06 AM
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. I don't cheer up my male friends when they're feeling down. Any reason why not? I would want to be there for my best friends, men and women both, when they are down. Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 08:03 AM
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If I am not ready to do it, maybe I shouldn't have a gay friend I appreciate your consistency here. I'm still of the opinion you can have a gay friend, tho, so I'll move on to the needs part. But also I agree defining friend is important, because we could just define friend as "someone who will get you off if you're horny" in which case you are automatically correct in this discussion! What need do they have that is violated by having sex with their friend? Now you are talking. That is one poten…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 11:58 PM
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If you can't perform you can't perform. Whether it's due to orientation or attraction not reaching a certain threshold. Let me be totally blunt here. Are you saying if your gay friend was horny you'd give them a BJ? That's all. And if they are short on case or are in a rush or whatever, then they can't do it, so those examples don't work. Broadly, I agree that friends want their friends' needs to be met. For example, I have many female friends and when I'm single and lonely they hang out with me…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 02:48 AM
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you wouldnt get it anyway. Probably not, assuming it's a reason personal to your life. The reason I commented is because someone could read your message and assume you meant that "women have nothing to offer a man outside of romance potential". If that's what you mean, I'll argue vehemently. But if it's just your personal life structure doesn't bring you in contact with women-- not much I need to say about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 03:06 PM
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If your gay friend had a sexual need, and asked you to let him have his way with you, you would not need to get hard. But if you're saying it's not about sex, let's talk about friendship. Is a friend someone who is bound to meet all your needs when they can? I disagree. If I'm at a park with my friend and I'm hungry, they are not obligated to feed me. Perhaps they only have enough food for themselves, perhaps they are short on cash, perhaps they are in a rush somewhere. I am capable of feeding m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 10:33 PM
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Absolutely. I have like, one or two close guy friends and probably five close gal friends. Depending on how you count. I've always just gotten along better with women in general, but you're right that everyone is different. I'm just very skeptical of anyone who makes claims like "women offer no value" because A: it's a massive generalization and B: it reveals a pretty strong bias against women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:16 PM
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I have many amazing female friends who I've been close to for over a decade. Some of them I had a crush on early on, they said no, I let let it go. Now we are closer than ever. Sex is intriguing but it's not the end all be all...now I'm 39, in a relationship, many of my female friends are married with kids, we're still tight, I'm not trying to get in their pants. I know not every guy is like me but it's possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:40 PM
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Wait, are you saying that a woman is a bad friend if she won't have sex with a guy? That's...wait, you're not saying that, right? Am I a bad friend if I don't have sex with my gay friend even though I could? Are you a bad friend if you don't have sex with your very unattractive female friend when she's lonely? I'm so confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:36 PM
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Friendship where friends want to fuck each other is not real platonic friendship. Just to add some grey area here, it's possible to be attracted to someone without wanting to fuck them. I can think someone is hot, even fantasize about them, but if they were to actually invite me to bed with them I'd say no way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:32 PM
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Wait, I'm confused. What do you mean there's no reason to speak to women? If we flip it around, is there any reason to speak to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:29 PM
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Interesting, I get way more benefits from my female friends. They are generally more emotionally intelligent, compassionate etc...it is rare for me to find a guy I feel really comfortable with, even as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:27 PM
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I asked a certain robot to assess this argument for valid/invalid arguments and sound/unsound arguments as well as any cognitive biases or fallacies. Was surprised by the results: "This Reddit post makes a strong and provocative claim: that advising men to make female friends to improve dating success is flawed because, the author argues, women only want to be friends with men they would also consider dating. Let's evaluate it through logical structure, soundness, fallacies, and bias. 🔍 Logical …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 11:37 PM
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K! Well, to being effective in bed I just mean that: People I'm with seem to enjoy it more. I'm better at communicating and navigating complicated stuff that comes up. I have more fun. When I was young I was just kind of fumbling around, and I think I was a more selfish lover because I didn't really know what was going on. Now I have better intuition, I'm more confident and know what questions to ask them about what they like, and I also know what I like and I don't have to pretend as much. To t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 10:27 PM
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Huh, I think for me confidence is a blend of liking myself and feeling like I can express my thoughts to people without second guessing myself based on their reactions. For example, if I'm talking to someone who I feel really nervous and unconfident with, I might start to express an opinion, see them make a skeptical face, and then back pedal and rephrase my opinion to try to please them. But if I'm in a situation where I feel confident and I am expressing an opinion and they make a skeptical fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 10:07 PM
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In what ways am I more effective or in what ways do maturity and experience blend?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:58 PM
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Do you feel like you lack confidence? I can imagine an unconfident person trying to fake confidence could look arrogant. Like, I'm moderately confident in myself but I would never see myself going up to a woman at a bar and saying "hey baby, I think you're cute, can I buy you a drink?" but I could see an under confident person pumping themselves up and saying something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:57 PM
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Seriously are there actually women who says "what makes you think you have a chance with me"? Like, you don't want to date a woman like that. It's shitty that anyone would say something so cruel. I don't think we should be giving each other advice on how to appeal to a cruel woman, we should be giving each other advice on how to find a kind woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:53 PM
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Hookups aren't the only way to get experience tho. People are so individual. Some women will be disgusted by that and some women won't.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:58 PM
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Counterpoint: I'm 39 and way more effective in bed than when I was in 20. This is either maturity or sexual experience, or likely a blend of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:58 PM
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If this were true then it should be impossible to find an unattractive man who is friends with an attractive woman. I believe we could find that pretty easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:43 PM
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Most of my friends are women and are awesome genuine friends. I'm trying to think of who my most recent friend is... I recently started going to an improv class with this one girl who is in a relationship, and I'm also in a relationship. I wouldn't call that a friendship yet though. I'm sure you are right some of the time but I'm not sure where the big generalization comes from
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:39 PM
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I was in agreement with you until that last sentence have you heard any women say that they try to perceive their friends as gay or asexual? Most of my friends are women, they are well aware that I'm heterosexual and they are still great friends to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:37 PM
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One of my closest friends is a woman who I absolutely would not date. Why would you say that's not a real friendship? We've known each other for 25 years and have been there for each other through thick and thin. I'm not attracted to her, but she's an incredible friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:34 PM
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Always is a strong word. Can you speak to your own experience instead of assuming other people's experience? I'm curious what happened in your personal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:33 PM
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Most of my friends are women and most of them wouldn't date me sooooo. That said, being friends with women has been a huge boon for my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:19 PM
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This will sound like I'm victim blaming, but, why are you friends with these women? Like, they sound like they are being shitty people to you. My female friends look out for me, have my back, work hard to hold emotional space for me, show up for me when I'm struggling etc. Your friends seem like they are manipulative and demanding. Why hang out with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:12 PM
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