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| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 0 | Spending 50/50 | Question For Men | Affectionate-Ad5096 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 10:05 PM |
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| 1 | Spending 50/50Yeah thats totally how I see it, and that’s kinda why I don’t date girls anymore (outside of me being kinda broke rn) it’s bc most bi girls aren’t traditional and let’s not even get started with lesbians. They almost universally think I’m a machist even tho some of them really liked it 🤷 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 10:12 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50Well they don’t like me bc they say I’m a machist | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:17 PM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50My sister is one of them, the feminine women I seek would have my best interest in mind. And my preference for women are Afro descent women and I’ve had no luck with white women who universally hate me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 10:43 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50“The woman is good when sex happened.“ That is a crazy statement bc with me for example I need to be in a relationship to have sex and that takes time, also think about it the most you can get her is pregnant or trauma I wouldn’t take that before enough investigation/investment Well they’re bad ppl (?) but you aren’t dating ALL women but individuals how can you not filter out ? Is it bc you’re on the apps ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 10:40 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50Have you ever been scammed? Yeah but the complaint is general, when the woman is good why complain | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 09:06 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50Please reread the original post. Bc you’re mixing up stuff now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 09:05 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50Yes I wouldn’t either, the modern women who accept traditional treatment I’ve found are some of the most entitled ppl ever | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 09:02 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50Because it makes me feel good to do so ??? 💀🤷 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 09:00 AM |
| 0 | Spending 50/50"With all due respect, you don't know me or what I offer in relationships." Never claim to “Men aren't just monolith offering the same thing for women in relationships.” I know I was talking about the man saying they go 50/50 answering on this thread 🤷 most of you said that that’s all I was saying | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 07:26 AM |
| 0 | Spending 50/50To whose table ??? If it’s a girl I’ll still try and make more money and I’ll take care of her in other ways : decision making, helping with work (repairs, papers ect), cooking, making her feel safe If it’s a man ill try to do what I’m waiting from a girl and what I value isn’t her money so : being affectionate, taking care of his space the way he sees fit, help relaxing, looking good for him/representing him well, take care of the social relations with others Some of the things I would gladly n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 07:24 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50I can see that my little sister has nothing to offer but wants to take everything and says things like "I should be served " which I think is wrong in any relationship dynamic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 07:08 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50You’re not a young boy 🤣🤣 look I just don’t believe that gender roles are bullshit when both ppl do their part to the extent they’ve chosen it can be really good, I don’t think we only base ourselves on the physical but personally I’ve been towards some guys women around didn’t even who I was talking about 💀 and lastly I wouldn’t know about that I’m not a man ! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 07:06 AM |
| 0 | Spending 50/50Why would gender roles be bullshit it’s just another relationship system ? I wouldn’t feel as happy in relationships if I didn’t follow them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 07:00 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50You are free to do that most of the dates I go to start like that and if I don’t like the guy I just won’t go to dinner with him that night that has happened before | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 06:59 AM |
| 0 | Spending 50/50“Im glad men on this thread are adamant about having boundaries which includes splitting the bill.” Cool but y do you guys feel attacked ? Most of you answered like I expected : you don’t see yourselves as dominant nor do you want to be (thinking that it would make the relationship imbalanced) so you guys go 50/50 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 06:57 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50“Lol kinda feminine to need someone else to take care of your space.” If you say so 🤷 what’s your point ? You just have a different view of gender roles congratulations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 06:55 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50What are you talking about ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50"I abstain" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 01:54 AM |
| -1 | Spending 50/50“If someone's personal status as feminine or masculine is in any way altered by who pays on a date, then they probably arent very secure in their identity.” Honestly I’m not bc I’m not a man but besides that the point isn’t to be secure it’s about roles you choose. “It's kind of silly actually. Imagine a soft and calming person, and then when they dont get their things paid for by someone else, they can no longer continue being and feeling soft. That's a child.” Straw man, for exercise in the fu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50“The more she contributes financially towards a 50/50 the more i respect her and feel respected and valued as a person.” I’d say that about a business partner not my wife but if that’s what you’re looking for then filter it out ! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 01:49 AM |
| -4 | Spending 50/50It’s not supposed to be the money in itself but the gesture to invite her and then of course since you invited her pay | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 01:45 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50I’m saying that the reasons are still here in our ego and attraction to one another. Very few men want to be Beta Bux. What’s that ? Also it’s a money sink only if you do costly dates Those are the only dates 90% of women would go on. -> maybe but then you can just filter them out 🤷 it will anyways since they don’t want to pay with too many people “The rejection rate for any man is high, we have to go on a lot of dates with a lot of different women before we find one we can enter a long term rel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 01:44 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50“In this day and age why not go 50/50? You earn right?” I did for some times but not anymore so I abstain | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 01:40 AM |
| 2 | Spending 50/50Well it doesn’t have to be but what if in my case it involves money ? Then what ? I want it to be that way. Also I think you have a heavy bias if after reading all the convo you came out with this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 01:19 AM |
| 0 | Spending 50/50It’s not being a Leech if you don’t realize what a woman in love can do than so be it ! And just not hot and you don’t have to pay you yourself can cook with whatever you had at your house or we can do a music date or whatever but if YOU TAKE ME out … you pay ! You brought me here, you invited me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 01:14 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50Where did I say that ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50I’m saying that the reasons are still here in our ego and attraction to one another. Also it’s a money sink only if you do costly dates and with too many people or the wrong ppl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 01:10 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50I don’t relate to a single word you just said | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 01:09 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50It’s not about owing something ! I don’t because I feel like I owe her :/ this feels too transactional for me Also I almost always go on second dates if the first one went well bc there’s usually a time b4 dinner where I can decide that for myself, I’ve told guys b4 that it wasn’t gonna do it and I didn’t want dinner with them in the end. Maybe you guys need to structure your dates differently 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50“Why would we want that? How would we benefit from traditional gender roles being only applied to men, but not to women?” I said that you would have the desire for those traditional roles | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:53 AM |
| 2 | Spending 50/50Yeah I thought they would be older. Impress wasn’t the right word, but idk create that feeling of being taken care off kinda (?) “I think it's a little curious how you say you don't think about money and yet a man not paying is a deal breaker. Haha.” Because it’s food !??!? Like I can’t resale it or something, it’s providing attention and care and safety that what the whole dinner is about. And I do notice when they pay bc first of all I’ve payed b4 for women and also bc man have tried to go 50/… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Spending 50/50“No one is upset with anyone here.” I know “No, it has to do with the expectation. And the disqualification if it doesn't happen as expected." But you aren’t in a relationship yet, it’s not the same dynamic. The date has the purpose to charm and determine if you are compatible and that’s how you do it in most cases. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50Then probs to you man it worked ! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:43 AM |
| 3 | Spending 50/50I don’t expect anything from men, I just thought that what most men would desire for there to be traditional gender roles. From what I see it’s mostly women complaining | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50“I get that but what would having her pay for some stuff change? Youd still be happy. I dont think money plays that much of a role” yeah but personally I don’t want to be spoiled in gifts or outings by her that’s not where my happiness is, she can give me gifts but I’ll offer are things if it’s the purpose of the outing, I’m not being taken on mall dates by her 💀 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:36 AM |
| 2 | Spending 50/50Are you married now ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50Valid other perspective I think there definitely some truth in there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50Did you guys alway breakup b4 your birthday !?!?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Spending 50/50"Why is he the only one who has to try? Neither one of you know each other. Why aren't both of you trying?” I accepted to be on the date so I’ll try by being pretty the rest is the exchange between both of us I’ll try to appeal to him but men (at least the masculine type I like) aren’t attracted to a women’s money 🤷 "You agreed to the date. Did you only agree for free food?" No frankly I don’t like to eat out and I’m not in need if I agreed it’s because I like you. “"(I don’t ask men out)" That'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50Valid and also the bane of my existence is that I’m not a cis men dating straight women so that may be why it’s more important to me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:10 AM |
| 2 | Spending 50/50“I do not give a shit about going on a second date with a person who is only interested in what they can get from me. If they expect it, they can expect it from somebody else.” That is true ppl need to be thinking about what they can provide too but it isn’t a problem to think about what we want otherwise we wouldn’t date, would we ? But I don’t think if a woman wants you to pay she’s here for your money in the same way I don’t think that if a man asks you out he’s here for sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:08 AM |
| 2 | Spending 50/50« You have a better life partially because of you paying? Why does that play a role » it wasn’t what I was saying sorry my sentence was convoluted but I can still answer to that : bc I like her so I wanna go out with her and it makes me happy ? 🤣 "What problems get solved by paying for the things you said you pay for? " That’s not what my sentence was about I was saying that solving problems for example was a way to take care of your gf that isn’t automatically related to money | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:05 AM |
| 3 | Spending 50/50"If she determines whether there's a second date based on whether or not the man pays, then she isn't worth going out with a second time anyway. Men are not wallets." Men aren’t but from my point of view it just means that you aren’t even trying bc if we’re in this restaurant you asked me out (I don’t ask men out). And there’s something about a man doing that gesture that makes me feel considered and appreciated (as if I was under his command/protection now), the type of gesture I’d wait from a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:01 AM |
| 3 | Spending 50/50And I’m not even a dude ! See guys the women have spoken 🤷 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:53 PM |
| 3 | Spending 50/50Most women except that tho and you can’t throw them all under the same umbrella ! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Spending 50/50That may sound like a lot but someone who takes care of my space and appearance, someone who’s always here when I need to relax/chill and who thinks about it for me, someone who makes me think what I’m doing is right by what she tells me how she is, someone I can feel MOSTLY dominant next too even tho sometimes I like to be considered in a feminine way by women (I’m very girly most of the time) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50« The few who have insisted on paying 50/50? Some of them have been some of the most gentle, feminine, and even submissive women I have been with. They may want to have that dynamic for much of the relationship but they want to engage as equals for practical matters. I appreciate their principles. » Interesting how old where they ? (Also by extension how old are ?) I can see that for some women this kind of display of generosity doesn’t impress them. When I date men I don’t always think about mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:42 PM |
| 0 | Spending 50/50« Why do they need your money for them to keep doing what they were already doing? » I didn’t specify to what extent I pay for things but I usually do gift and outings, that’s when we’re together other. Otherwise yes she already did that but in the same way I was living b4 I should have a better life afterwards and in my relationships that comes in part by that. I’m not buying her wigs I’m not her daddy ! Also I’ve never leaved with any of my partners so idk about expenses. « Kinda sad that a ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:36 PM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50That’s so backwards from how my brain works, if she’s for fun the she should pay bc I’m not investing anything 🤷 btw I don’t do that I’m not promiscuous at all | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:30 PM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50I never said them being cute was enough, when I say soft and no calming in my head it encompasses lots of things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50I do recognize there are other masculine ways besides money to enhance a women’s life I never claimed otherwise but I was just saying if the way that I’m charming here is by going out and that the activity requires money I’ll pay. Just a lash question : but are you trying to be masculine or dominant in any way ? And I do mean as a role not in the bedroom | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:26 PM |
| 2 | Spending 50/50I don’t think she’s try to and defie me if she were to pay I’d just feel awkward that I couldn’t. That’s why if you don’t have much money still try and earn some more and just don’t date multiple women (something I can never dream of in the gay scene and in this economy) or have less expensive dates : you can literally cook for her that’s still providing for her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:22 PM |
| -1 | Spending 50/50Yeah that sometimes happens but you feel it during the date and can always decide to split the check and have her pay half of the bill | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:15 PM |
| 3 | Spending 50/50Now explain how pls ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:14 PM |
| -8 | Spending 50/50I don’t think we’re talking about the same things when you pay money to spend time with women for me at least that’s some type of prostitution (emotional, physical whatever) I’m talking about trying to seduce a woman on a date. So it’s not that you should it that I personally want to and don’t understand why some men wouldn’t want to if they want feminine women. Isn’t Femininity and masculinity based on being opposite ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:13 PM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50“No one should be in anyone's pedastal, that's toxic relationship 101.” How maybe we don’t mean the same thing but she should care about me very much as I would care for her very much that’s what I’m saying. And maybe I’m too much of a romantic but I like the idea of Prince Charming and the princess and they’re both exceptional especially in the eyes of their lover so no she’s not just a woman. “If she can't even pay for half of a meal, an insignificant facet of a relationship, then I don't beli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 11:07 PM |
| 3 | Spending 50/50I feel like you’re thinking backwards tho : not paying = lot less of a chance of a second date because she’s not just a stranger I’m trying to charm her. No second date = no relationship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 10:53 PM |
| 3 | Spending 50/50I should be in her pedestal too, what I’m saying is that I don’t care about her money that’s not what I want her to bring to the table, I want her to enhance my life and she can only do that if she’s dedicated to me and that I leave her space to do so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 10:51 PM |
| 3 | Spending 50/50"Not every man wants to be dominant either." Yeah I specified that “I think men would have less of an issue with being the provider fully if women still fill their assigned role.” But how can they if you don’t provide a minimum ? "But very few women are traditional these days, but all of them seem to want the traditional man." I see that but you don’t have to settle for a non traditional woman. Also I never talked about anything traditional. “Equality when they want it essentially. Men see it as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Spending 50/50I don’t see the women I date as inferior tho ? I don’t understand this train of thought ? She just wants to be cared of in that way and I’ll do it for her. She is my equal that’s why she can ask so much bc of all the respect I have for her and who she is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 10:39 PM |
| 3 | Spending 50/50I was just asking how they felt about it bc that’s my personal thought process. Also no they don’t bc I’m not a man but I do think there’s some similarities when both of you occupy the same fonction : being the dominant one | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 10:35 PM |
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