AfraidEdge6727 Archive

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1	Women are basically miny celebrities. Which is why the dating climate is bad It's even worse in California - where these self-centered narcissistic assholes think they're all celebrities to begin with (regardless of gender). I find more pleasure in totally ignoring them (and most people for that matter). Besides, as a divorced person, I've been there, done that, and I was spoiled by a much better dating world 10+ years ago. I'm not putting up with this idiotic "job interview" process for someone who thinks that "just showing up" is enough on their end. Being a great fath…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/25 04:31 PM
1	Men need to be aware that they are easily replaceable This is why I'm glad I gave up after my divorce. There's literally NO point in today's modern dating world. Resources are too tight to waste them on such flaky immature behavior. Women might hold the key to sex, but men hold the key to relationships and their resources. Seriously, the only way to stop allowing them to have so much power over us is to walk away and stop prioritizing them. Focus on yourself and don't be so easily manipulated/used. Make THEM work for it, too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/25 10:22 PM
1	Men have no options. That's subjective in today's world. Purpose takes many forms. Isn't that the "primary philosophy" behind equality movements like feminism? "We don't need no man!"? If one human gender can believe this, all can... because human.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/25 03:45 PM
1	Men have no options. See my last sentence.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/25 05:05 PM
3	Men have no options. Considering humans are fluid and adapt, and the nature if change, I might change my mind at some point. However, in this modern dating scene, it's a tall order for a lot of ladies. They want the whole shebang; lastly married, love together, co-owning property, etc. I'm not saying it's impossible, but it is improbable. I hope you at least get a decent taste of it, regardless of how it goes. I'd probably share your mindset if I hadn't already gone through what I have.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/25 06:13 AM
–	Men have no options. Try divorce. Once you've had it all, then lose it, feel the sting, and learn the lesson that it's best never to legally marry, co-own property, live together full-time again, being middle-aged, a single parent, and realize the freedom you were missing when you finally have free time to yourself again, you'll change your mind quickly. It's only those who haven't been there who suffer from FOMO.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/25 04:01 AM
0	Women's standards are perfectly reasonable, their "type" however eliminates most guys before they even have a chance Online dating apps need to totally disappear.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/25 10:29 PM
1	Women on reddit who claim to be single and perfectly happy due to potential dating partners not meeting their standards are often miserable in reality. /facepalm This has nothing to do with gender. It has everything to do with the individual and their experiences. Myself for example - I'm happier single now, but only after I already went through divorce, lost a house, and had to fight like hell for custody. After an experience like that, and how long it took for me to recover from all the trauma, it's not a risk that appeals to me anymore. Especially not in this ass-backward modern divisive era. I'm happier having my child with me half the time…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/25 10:44 PM
2	Both genders would be happier if women did the approaching Thank you both - precisely half my point. Sure, my suggestion was much more extreme. Would be nice if such sites were adapted with better algorithms, but they only exist to make money off lonely people (mostly men; whereas several sites allow women to use it for free). Still, changing a site to better society wouldn't be in the interest of the business. And people, with their dopamine addiction, would still see it as "endless" and potential partners as "disposable fast food easily replaceable". …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/25 08:31 PM
32	Both genders would be happier if women did the approaching This does make FAR more sense, logically, but we live in an illogical world. Full of illogical double-standards and digital dopamine addicts who have lost all touch with the real world. I miss the 90s everyday. To me, the only real solution is entirely doing away with online dating and bring people back down to reality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/25 04:12 PM
6	Today’s Version Masculine Ideal Is Undermining Boys’ Academic Success TLDR, but what I skimmed echoes a lot of the modern concerns. That's why communities like GentZ exist - they're rare, as they aren't toxic and are actually supportive, but it exists because so many men have caught onto this masculinity undermining trend, and want to bring back what is great about the positive aspects.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/25 04:47 PM
1	coffee dates not good enough? No, I meant about Virgos being penny-pinchers in the general sense.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/25 10:15 PM
1	coffee dates not good enough? Sounds like an exception versus rule situation. 2 is hardly a viable sample size.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/25 07:07 AM
3	coffee dates not good enough? Fair enough. Maybe I'll invest in a restaurant business/cooking date-class where people can prepare a meal together to test their compatibility and culinary skills. I was a chef for 10 years heh.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/25 11:44 PM
3	Why women friendzone men if they know they don't want to stay as friend? Hah! Well-played! It's kinda hard sometimes to know if someone is being serious or snarky on Reddit lol. You never know /shrug. Eh, more power to you for knowing what you want; as preferences are subjective. One person's ideal is another's "ick". Definitely agree it shouldn't be about statistics. You have a good one :-)	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/25 11:42 PM
1	Why women friendzone men if they know they don't want to stay as friend? Out of curiosity, considering your flair, is your "man preference" just a personal preference, or do you feel you are also a "top 0.001% woman", and if the latter, how so? What is the qualifying criteria? Is it more about having equal to offer, or just have the confidence to chase after such unicorns?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/25 10:44 PM
0	coffee dates not good enough? Okay, that sounds more reasonable. Personally, I'd probably offer something fun but not over the top, like brunch. Mimosas optional. If brunch goes well, maybe a coffee walk after that through a scenic park. I do agree marriage is about commitment. At first it's all fun lust, but the effort is what truly shows love. There's a fine line, though. It's important to consider equal (enough) fiscal effort, but like sex or anything else, it can't be put on a pedestal or be the sole determiner in a rela…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/25 10:26 PM
2	coffee dates not good enough? All this penny-pinching financial spreadsheet stuff in dating sounds like an OCD Virgo accountant/fiscal assets attorney. When you're paying so much attention to cost average balancing, how could there possibly be room for developing actual romantic feelings? Is sex then basically cosplaying Ferengi and browsing each other's credit scores? "Ooooh, show me that 750 credit score, then boost it 10 more points to an Excellent rating to really push me over the edge!". Are there cover charges involved…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/25 09:42 PM
4	coffee dates not good enough? All this talk of the online world and monetizing everything really makes me miss the 90s/early 2000s; when a man talented with cooking could impress someone instead of having to spend a ton at a restaurant.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/25 09:28 PM
1	coffee dates not good enough? All this talk of the online world and monetizing everything really makes me miss the 90s/early 2000s; when a man talented with cooking could impress someone instead of having to spend a ton at a restaurant.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/25 09:27 PM
0	coffee dates not good enough? Those aren't women seeking a fulfilling romantic partnership. They're either escorts in disguise, OF girls, sugar babies, or your garden-variety delusional TikTok girl who has NO idea what reality is. Anyone truly seeking a fulfilling romantic relationship wouldn't have a fiscal spreadsheet ready to go (unless maybe they were an OCD penny-pinching Virgo accountant/attorney).	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/25 09:21 PM
1	Most men don't want to face the truth. I think this is subjective per man. Someone in their teens and 20s, or who hasn't been married/divorced yet probably feels a lot more FOMO, and therefore, seeks the validation from women. As a divorced single father, the LAST thing I want is to ever marry again, let alone co-own property. I deal with enough idiotic judgment from other parents and non-parents who "think they know better than a parent" that caring about what women think of me as a potential mate doesn't even register anymore. Sure…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/25 06:46 PM
1	One of women's biggest advantage: In-group bias Oh fun! Another pseudo-attorney style argument that contributes to the overall division in a static black-or-white digital echo chamber! Wake me up when people start collaborating and using fluidic variables to be solution-oriented like engineers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/25 04:30 PM
2	Benevolent sexism and rigid male gender roles are the reasons why male privilege can exist in the first place. Phew! Good to know it's just the singularity trying to tempt us again!	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/25 07:49 PM
8	Benevolent sexism and rigid male gender roles are the reasons why male privilege can exist in the first place. The sheer amount of thought that goes into these debatable hair-splitting concepts just seems so excessive. I think the whole reason modern dating is so hard is they're just too damn preoccupied with pop psychology like this, instead of, I dunno, just living life and enjoying it without feeling like every exchange is a Virgo financial advisor gender studies major in a court room? Even debates like this kinda shove people into an unnatural label box of expectations. Yes, I get why these things ne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/25 05:32 PM
1	“just respect women and maybe you will date one” is poor dating advice because it perpetuates an “action-reward” that directly ties to dehumanizing and removing agency "If you live for the approval of others, you'll die from their rejection" ~Lecrae It's really not that hard. Don't be a d-bag. Be honest. Read the room/lady. When you take your shot, don't go overboard and know how to take no for an answer. Everything else (gender war, dating apps, political bs, etc.)? Doesn't matter. Don't bother ruminating about it. People are people. Ignore the trends. Just live the best life you can - it's too short to live it miserably in fear.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/25 03:44 PM
25	There is a serious hypocrisy in modern dating. As a successfully single father, I agree. A parent's love should be unconditional, period. Not based on any other parent's "ability to love and provide"	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/25 04:15 PM
1	Why do women specifically seek platonic friendships with men, but men do not seek platonic friendships with women? Just because you don't see it, doesn't mean it doesn't exist. It's probably rarer for people in their 20s to do this. When I was in grade school, I had more female friends than male. Platonic. After my 20s, and especially after marriage then divorce, I just don't have the same drive for a relationship, so I tend to make more friends. Remain platonic just fine... until some suddenly show interest. I'm more often the passive one who just wants to spend time on my hobbies.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/25 06:15 AM
3	Women gripe that "the bar is in hell" for men, but the situation is actually reversed "Most dudes have standards when it comes to relationships" This is doubly true if you've already been married, then divorced, then slowly reconsidering if any relationship at all is even worth it. I speak from experience.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/25 04:01 PM
1	If MGTOW was misogynist, the 4B must be misandrist Yeah, I get that a lot, but that's the difference in perspective between boys, man-children, and grown ass men like myself who truly goes "my own way" and no one else's. Just goes to show that gender really is a spectrum. I embrace both aspects equally. Anyone's problem with it is only a reflection of their own insecurity, not mine. Needless to say, I'm equally disappointed by both most men and women. This is why I'm more a misanthrope than anything else. I see most humans as, well, a bunch of d…	/r/MensRights	30/03/25 06:37 AM
1	Men will always have to be the ones to approach Women do approach, it's just in a subtler way. It's called "putting themselves in your orbit" and "giving all the signs of interest" to get your attention. Men, though, usually have to be the ones to pick up on it and initiate taking it to the next level. There, fixed it for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/25 01:41 AM
1	CMV: Males avoiding women at work are sexist I'm a peaceful passive misanthrope, but it's funny to observe how reactive and insecure people are when they project their perceptions on me/assume why I don't engage with them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/25 11:27 PM
1	If MGTOW was misogynist, the 4B must be misandrist Just like many similar "movements", they might have started with better intentions as a support network, but toxic types eventually hijacked them and espoused horrible beliefs that justify harming women. Back during my divorce when I was seeking a support group, I was extremely disappointed when I came across these allegedly "supportive" groups. Just more cults. My eventual conclusion was that most "men" who are active in them aren't really men; they're mostly inexperienced, insecure, often youn…	/r/MensRights	10/03/25 01:38 AM