AfterSwished Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
-12	"Look at her like you want her." I've literally never done this and I've realized this is my problem. Any success stories or tips on this? Aren't you missing the /s ?	/r/seduction	15/02/16 03:04 AM
2	Why is it that there seems to be such extreme competition among men to date or even talk to any girls, yet the marriage rate by mid-40s for both men and women is approximately the same? Wouldn't you expect large masses of men to never find a mate? It's way too hard to establish any cause/effect with what you've brought up. The dynamic of how people interact on dating sites cannot really be compared to the trends in marriage, making the question quite ambiguous. It's as though the question in your title and the actual content of your thread are two completely different topics. So I'll try to address one (of many, many, many) large factors with regards to each. Now with online dating, the odds are stacked against average to even pretty good…	/r/seduction	14/02/16 06:35 PM
1	Need a quick review for Valentine's card message LOL That's alright. We all gotta learn the hard way now and then. .......Can you please repost the message on the card again? For a quick laugh.	/r/seduction	13/02/16 10:57 PM
2	Seeking Validation It's hard to explain and might come off as pedantic but ideally, you should not seek validation from others. But it is normal for people with low self-esteem to seek it, since their idea of how worthy and interesting they are as men is dictated (in their eyes) by how others view them, and that is silly. Common but silly. When girls are interested in knowing you (and this counts for how your buddies see you as well), they want to get a glimpse of you in your natural day-to-day state. Is your calm…	/r/seduction	13/02/16 06:10 PM
2	Seeking Validation a) Focus on inner validation If you ask me, sounds like you have reason to validate and deem yourself socially worthy, if you've been working your ass off in the last months on work, fitness, health, style, grooming and every other aspect of your life. Most men do not have the luxury, energy and time to work on all that as much as you supposedly did. Heck, you have enough self-esteem to point this out: I see guys getting lucky with women even though deep down I know that they don't take care of …	/r/seduction	13/02/16 04:04 PM
3	Facebook status ideas to get likes/comments off girls? Your priorities are a little off if you're yearning for Facebook likes.	/r/seduction	13/02/16 03:31 PM
4	Need a quick review for Valentine's card message With all due respect, I cringed. Simplify the heck out of the invitation, downplay the whole Valentine's day shtick and just have a good time.	/r/seduction	13/02/16 03:28 PM
1	Going out 7 days in a row advice needed Hmm not sure. Paging u/ThrowawayPUA for thoughts.	/r/seduction	13/02/16 02:07 PM
-1	Ex has new bf, now I have social anxiety and game is in downward spiral HELP! Now [...] have massive social anxiety .. Your ex moving on triggered your social anxiety?	/r/seduction	13/02/16 01:39 AM
2	Girl wants to "hang out" not date. I asked for a date. As in, she said "let's chill" and you explicitly asked "would you like to have a date?" Even though she already gave you the thumbs up for a hangout? This is a non-issue. Forget everything about thinking she is narcissistic, her having too many male friends for your liking or her general instability. That is just your mind's way of protecting your ego in case this does not turn into the date you imagined and you come out disappointed, rejected or emasculated. Hang out, be fun…	/r/seduction	12/02/16 11:36 PM
2	Going out 7 days in a row advice needed Hehe If you can, keep us posted on how these seven days went, I've personally never pulled off this kind of stunt, and am curious as to how you'll manage. As hinted by the others, don't drink. Get your sleep, you don't want to look like a crack fiend. Take rejection with a grain of salt and enjoy whatever happens, no matter how much it differs from how you expected it to be. Nothing less attractive than someone who is visibly distraught when things aren't automatically building up to a quick lay…	/r/seduction	12/02/16 11:12 PM
7	Did I actually transform myself or was I just lying to myself? Say I kidnapped a professional bodybuilder for eight months and then tossed him back into the gym afterward. His mind is no longer adapted for hard days work at the barbell, rather it is now putting a subconscious halt on anything that seems foreign. What you're asking is kinda like if he came on reddit asking: "why am i not so good anymore? I used to be proficient at this!" He's still got the know-how, but he's got to retrain the habit. It's called life. Simply put, being in a relationship for …	/r/seduction	12/02/16 11:04 PM
3	What PUA video has been the most help for you? Yes! I feel like Tyler is the counterweight to a whole lot of macho PUAs who really tarnish the art. His approach is much more zen, humane and makes just so much sense.	/r/seduction	11/02/16 03:09 AM
1	Slightly confused with the messages (literal and figuratively) a (f)latmate has been sending (m)e. Any advice? Is she asking me out? Maybe. I'm unsure as to whether you're saying you guys have some chemistry (eye contact, messaging/chatting) or are just friends (no kino, never flirty, you being a dick.... incidents.. ?). That trampolining place sounds fun. Have an open mind, arrange the date and (here's the tough part) calm the shit down. Now calm the shit down some more. Go out like you'd go out with a good buddy. Crack jokes, speak your mind and be intuitive: if you see kino material, reciprocate. If s…	/r/seduction	08/02/16 10:21 PM
2	Abundance Mentality/Encouragement abundance mentality As in, you want to pretend to have abundance? When you've spent a large part of your life with none, and you suddenly find a girl you enjoying hanging out with, your brain's default feeling is: this feels good, must latch onto good feeling, must latch onto her. You've been seeing her for a couple weeks now, which is good, depending on how frequently you met up. Have you been hanging out together exclusively? Or only peripherally, among the same group of friends? Try to see he…	/r/seduction	08/02/16 10:01 PM
2	Guys, i have a big problem i struggle to find the root for. Could you please help me?! Is it a good step to just go to almost everyone and atleast say hi. Won't hurt, but that's probably beneath your level, if you're already comfortable speaking to attractive women that you already know. Plus, rehearsing 'hi' will not save you when girls notice you and sit down to talk with you, right? This subreddit puts a lot of emphasis on cold approaching which is weird since a lot of guys have troubling keeping conversations going and freeze up, like you mentioned, so I don't know whether the…	/r/seduction	08/02/16 09:49 PM
1	How to Destroy Neediness And Generate Your Own Happiness "Those subtle needs [for intimacy] will be met without having to put them in the responsibility of a girl you've just met on the street. They don't owe you anything to make you happy or any reason to give you approval. Even if they did, it's still not gonna make you happy regardless, you're still going to be chasing it. [...] If you are a needy person, you're going to start attracting needy people as well." This is key. Who is this guy btw?	/r/seduction	07/02/16 01:24 AM
1	Guys, i have a big problem i struggle to find the root for. Could you please help me?! Key points: - I am in a horrible dry spell - I want to meet girls - I want to fuck girls. Yeah, people tend to smell that from a mile away. You're not defective or incapable, it's just that you need to spend time normalizing your interactions with women in general, even in non-romantic, non-flirtatious situations. It's a pretty common stress to be caught in a situation where women are checking you out and you find yourself doubting your worth, since you know the onus is on you to be at least int…	/r/seduction	07/02/16 12:48 AM
2	Girl in line gave me an opening, I choked. Blegh. Hehe I cringed for you while reading. We know the feeling all too well. You don't have to be alert or prepared 100% of the time for this kind of thing. Even the chatterboxes among us can get caught off guard or have a 'not-on-the-ball' day, conversationally speaking. Plus, she probably won't remember you nor that moment. Nevertheless, would not hurt to just engage in very small talk in your everyday errands to help make these scenarios more natural and fluid.	/r/seduction	07/02/16 12:20 AM
1	Girls ghosting and then acting like nothing happened The other comments sum it up pretty nicely. Plus, she's just as talkative, right? Isn't that good? The moment you get angry about this kind of thing will show her that you are easily inconvenienced by this 'ghosting', which would be completely opposite to what you want to be portraying yourself as: calm and too busy to even notice this kind of trivial nonsense.	/r/seduction	07/02/16 12:06 AM
2	Grabbing lunch with coworker: should I pay? (defeats the purpose) Not really. That would imply that you're already expecting this lunch to be a formal date (or leading to another one) which is putting quite a bit of pressure on yourself and on a coworker, which can be a little off-putting. I say you just pay for it, if you're financially comfortable doing so. Plus, if your lunch went well, and she insists on paying her share; just tell her she can grab you a drink next time. Calm your tetas and enjoy whatever comes.	/r/seduction	06/02/16 11:55 PM
2	Girls more interested in better looking friends? Well, looks like you've included a number of reasons why you should not be too worried about women noticing your friends first: you've got some game, you're well-groomed and perceptive. It might be an unpleasant feeling, but everyone at some point will be looked over in favor of someone else. As dudes we also often overlook perfectly fine women in favor of the most visually stunning girl in the group when first meeting them. It's less a question of rejection and more of social efficiency. In the…	/r/seduction	06/02/16 11:36 PM