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You have to be really clear in what you want from the girl. You said "I've tried casually mentioning I'm a busy guy" and "I don't have a lot of free time". Both of these phrases only loosely elude to the fact you don't want a committed relationship. You have to tell the girl you're exclusively looking for something casual and you just want to have fun together. This is best said early on, so you both know what you're in for. If you fuck a girl and then say "I don't wan't anything serious" She's …
/r/seduction25/12/12 08:40 AM
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I have not seen Crazy Stupid Love, but I'll take your word for it. I don't always like Ryan Gosling as an example because in the movies I HAVE seen him in (Drive mainly) his character is usually kinda lame. If you replicate his style in drive in real life and aren't well dressed and good-looking you will come off as awkward. It's kind of similar to replicating the Bond-style in real life. It just doesn't work as well if you haven't already established the same status. Anyway, just be clear in yo…
/r/seduction24/12/12 10:16 PM
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Really? I had no idea, haha.
/r/seduction24/12/12 01:49 AM
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Yeah, I used to be exactly like you're describing when I started learning this stuff. Lots of approach anxiety in different forms and I would really be worried about fucking things up (especially if a friend told me to go approach someone). I'll give an interesting revelation I'd experienced in high school that is relevant to your situation. I used to be a super typical shy newbie who would fantasize about having a relationship with a girl. If I had somehow worked up the courage at the time, I w…
/r/seduction24/12/12 01:27 AM
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The first thing I want to point out is that it can be VERY powerful if you know when NOT to talk, but I'll get into that in a minute. The best way to keep conversation is by conversation threading, which you can find with a quick search on here or on google. This method involves bouncing off of things that the girl says and developing those ideas; basic example : "What did you do this weekend?" "Oh, it was great, I went skiing with my friends and then on Sunday I had Christmas dinner with my fam…
/r/seduction24/12/12 01:11 AM
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You need to hang out with her outside of class, escalate, be clear in your intent, and stop stressing as much as you are. The biggest problem you have is your confidence and ability to be decisive/assertive. This may sound really fucking stupid, but always ask yourself what a real alpha male would do in each situation (I like to say "what would awesome me do?"). Could you imagine someone of very high social value like Joseph Gordan-Levitt or Johnny Depp asking a friend to ask a girl if she liked…
/r/seduction24/12/12 12:25 AM
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This is very common and I have and still do experience a similar phenomenon myself. What you should do is pinpoint what is CAUSING your anxiety. For me, I found that sometimes I would have no problem approaching, sometimes I would be terrified. Why? Some people find it's when approaching more attractive girls vs less attractive ones, some people find it is day approach vs night approach, but it goes much, much deeper than that. I found that if I was physically cold it would REALLY fuck with my g…
/r/seduction24/12/12 12:07 AM
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In your situation I would let it go, but there are number of considerations that you can evaluate. To answer your question directly, I have personally never had a FAILED pickup turn into a friendship and then into a relationship, but I won't speak on the behalf of others. If I fail then I just eject and move on. It sounds like you're chasing a high value girl who is uninterested. This isn't a winning formula. If SHE doesn't square up, then I'll usually drastically reduce contact but maintain att…
/r/seduction23/12/12 11:56 PM
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Alright then! I would definitely just go for it. I've mentioned this in other threads, but it really is true; when people get nervous or scared to ask someone out, they are always thinking that the WORST thing is going to happen. First of all, what IS the WORST POSSIBLE THING that could happen here: You: "Lets grab coffee" Her: "sure". You: "lets grab coffee" Her: "no thanks" That sure wasn't so bad. What the hell can possibly go wrong here? There is absolutely no chance you're going to get hard…
/r/seduction08/10/12 04:47 AM
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Before I give any recommendations, I'm confused about your current situation. My understanding is that you and your female friend always sit next to each other in (one?) class. How close are you guys as friends? How long have you known each other? There's a couple things there that would help me give you some more specific advice. At the very least, you seem pretty well acquainted with each other. If you 'accidently bump elbows' you don't need to treat it as "massive incidental kino" - just rela…
/r/seduction08/10/12 12:39 AM
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Usually for statements like "Wow, you're dressed really well", it's often best to just acknowledge them and move on. A simple "thanks!" and on with the conversation is never awkward and always easy to transition from. If she says something like "do you wear clothes like that all the time?" You can say "Sure do, although It can be uncomfortable when I'm in the shower" If you feel like going home by yourself you can say Her: "Do you wear clothes like that all the time?" You: "yeah, feel this." she…
/r/seduction04/10/12 05:49 AM
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I don't like this way of dealing with AA because you are essentially 'masking it' rather than solving it. If you're at a bar or club, tell yourself "there is absolutely no consequences if I fuck up". You will still be REALLY nervous and it won't help at all the first time, but go approach anyway - nerves and all. After you approach and fuck up a few times, you will actually realize 'WAIT A MINUTE. I fucked up and nothing happened. She just left and I won't even see her again. It's like nothing e…
/r/seduction30/09/12 03:52 AM
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Yeah don't sweat it man, method one is the method we all grow up with. Game is just knowing when you can skip the bits inbetween. If you ACTIVELY use method one ALL THE TIME then opportunites to use method two will start popping up way more often. You say that you're not often invited to parties, this is probably because you don't have a whole bunch of friends who can invite you. You will find the more friends you have, the more friends you get. Get the girl to like you and she will tell all her…
/r/seduction30/09/12 03:44 AM
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I agree with what you're saying, and I want to make a few things clear that I think will really help out those who are new to this. There is considerable overlap in 'social skills' and 'game', but they are two very distinct ball games that a lot of newbies think have the same rules. In particular, In regards to workplace game, there are a few key points I want to touch on. The first is that workplace 'game' is almost always a terrible idea (as you mentioned, OP). There is a very good chance, esp…
/r/seduction30/09/12 03:36 AM
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Let's pretend I'm a girl. you ask me "What do you like to do?" I reply: "I LOVE horseback riding. Being away from the city and the cars, I feel like I'm in a western movie! It's not as fast, but I think it would have been really cool to live back when people used horses to travel around!" Frankly, if that were me I'd totally take myself on a nice dinner date. Lets try that again with another response: You: "Hey, what do you like to do?" Me: "Horseback riding. Last week I won the BC regional eque…
/r/seduction30/09/12 03:05 AM
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If you have escalation anxiety there are two ways you can effectively approach it. One method is better for interaction with people you will see a lot (school and work peers), and one method is better for strangers and those you won't be seeing again. I want to emphasize that this is my opinion and not necessarily the be-all, end-all guide to social escalation. The first method is a lot like gradually lowering yourself into a cold swimming pool: It's really slow, it makes people impatient, but i…
/r/seduction30/09/12 02:36 AM
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First of all, I want you to realize that you're NOT some kind sub-par person; we've all been where you are at some point or another. Like you said, some people were then when they were 13, and others will never reach it in their entire lives. What matters is that you're doing something it about, and we're here to help you the whole way. It's not even close to the same level of difficulty, but last week I taught myself how to write cursively. Many people learn it in gradeschool, but I was not one…
/r/seduction29/09/12 06:59 AM
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