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Ugh this shit is tough, been there, done that, it’s a special kind a hell
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 01:33 PM
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1 yr ago and same like exactly
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 04:10 AM
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Unfortunately, courts could care less about any story or who did what, and comes down to just a calculation for child support and alimony, at least in FL. 35% the difference of your incomes for CS and half the length of the marriage for alimony
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/26 02:26 PM
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You need to serve her and then it’ll serve as a cutoff date for who gets credit for what back. I’m in similar situation. She moved out a year ago last May 2025, divorce was finalized just this May 2026. She served me Nov 2025 and I get all principle payments from that point until house sells since I’m the one paying 100%.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 03:36 PM
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Where do you find these women? I seem to only attract the needy 🫣
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 02:22 PM
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Same exact line as well. Sucks we have a young boy as well. I didn’t understand it at the time about 1 yr ago, still don’t, but moving on
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 04:20 PM
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We’d be a better society for it
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/26 02:21 PM
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Well said
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 08:51 PM
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Fuck…this one hit 🫠
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 02:34 AM
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I feel like I’m getting a win just reading this. This shit is gold 👏
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 03:23 AM
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No truer words, hit the nail on the head, I’m unfortunately living through. Reading this helped gain some perspective, thanks
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/25 09:44 PM
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Same, had the cardiologist tell me not to stop playing…I play every Saturday to keep him happy 😏
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 04:06 AM
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Damn, hadn’t thought of this, I like this idea sir
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 02:03 AM
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Damn, this hits hard 🫩
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 03:17 PM
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Definitely resonate with this OP, I’m a 33(m) we were together 9 years, married over 5 and have the 1 child. This is by far the hardest, most devastating and depressing thing I’ve ever been through. Similar story as yours, and I just don’t know how we ended up here. She obviously asked for the divorce, and like you, idk how or if or do I even have the motivation or effort I’m willing to give to eventually find another relationship. At this moment, it feels like a huge no, and that just seems hea…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 05:24 PM
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I’m with you, feel like it’s one of those here’s 3 pick 2 type of things. Never all 3
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 01:36 AM
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I’m in the same position as of a few weeks ago. I made a post about it so I won’t get into details but basically my STBEx asked for a divorce and then was out late that weekend and the following weekend, locations were off, but I had a plan b and what do you know, she turned up at a former coworkers house she’d been meeting at the zoo with his kids all last summer/this spring. I accused her at a minimum of having an emotional affair (they were always texting as he was going thru a separation wit…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/25 02:20 PM
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Thank you, I really appreciate your comments and support. I’m staying at my grandparents house this evening with my son (his great grandparents) and they have always supported me even when I probably didn’t deserve it. They know something is up, asked what was going on this evening, but I just said we’ll talk tomorrow about it as id like to have my parents on the phone as well so I don’t have to go through this heart wrenching story twice. I let my dad know about the impending divorce and that i…
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 02:26 AM
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So to me, we weren’t in a great spot prior to the meds she got on, but after she was on those it felt like we just tanked honestly. I really only pointed to that but after this past weekends events, I assume she was having some sort of ongoing emotional affair and then that line crossed to physical last weekend I guess is what I was trying to communicate. Anytime I said I felt her meds were playing a part, she totally denied and said her family and her friends said she was acting “normal”. I was…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 07:38 AM
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Just want to say I really really appreciate this subs support and everyone that’s commented with advice, and support, and lessons learned and wisdom, etc. it really means a lot to me. I don’t have many friends, really just acquaintances it seems as I’ve gotten older. I haven’t broke it to my parents yet, been holding back the last month or 2, but after this past weekend with the co worker ordeal, it’s really going to suck. My parents/family is going to be devastated, and I hate feeling like I am…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 12:48 AM
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What’s funny is she’s said to me a few times during our marriage that she could maybe tolerate cheating but not lying lol. I’m like, idk how to respond to that…maybe it was her guilty ass conscience…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 12:36 AM
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I’m new to this sub, just found last night…ugh that’s kinda demoralizing to hear tbh
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 12:34 AM
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Yeah I def stepped over some red flags, she really had me fooled it seems. If I ever trust a woman like that again, it’s going to be a long long time from now.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 12:33 AM
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Fuck man, I’m sorry to hear that. Ugh fucking sucks. I hope you and your child are in a better situation now
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 12:32 AM
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Uh so I left out detail but you got it 100% wrong, let me clarify. So I told her not to come home that night that she was out at her coworkers house and was coming home late. I said just stay there and you can come get your shit at 6:30 tomorrow morning as I got it packed and all together in the spare room, but I don’t want to be around you tonight. I said You can find somewhere else to stay tonight and then realized she was on her way back to our house shortly after, and I felt uncomfortable gi…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 12:31 AM
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You know what’s funny is when she said she wanted a divorce, she said I won’t go after your retirement or bank accounts, I (she) just want 50/50 parenting, and money when you sell the house but I don’t need it now. She said she was planning on moving out the following month (June) but after I heard that I’m like how in the hell do you plan on paying for half of our house (I covered 100% of down payment, and upgrades, and maintenance, she always paid less than half of mortgage and utilities) as I…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 12:23 AM
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Really appreciate your insight and suggestions, thank you. I can definitely admit im a people pleaser and don’t like rocking the boat, seems she used that to my disadvantage unfortunately. I will look into those books, and definitely did not know about those apps, thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 12:16 AM
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Wouldn’t that just be sweet revenge lol. One man’s trash is another man’s treasure, am I right lol 😅
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 12:13 AM
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Damn man, I’m sorry to hear that. I literally have never looked through her phone, she has of mine a few times. She got mad that I would give the occasional thumbs up on Reddit to a nice rack lol (my rational was that Reddit is anonymous, not like I was texting someone I know or was having a direct chat on Reddit, nothing like that..anyway, so she asked me to stop doing that that but other than that instance, I had nothing to hide. We shared our passwords with each other. Guess I thought the sam…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 12:12 AM
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Appreciate it! Yeah that seems to track for sure. And yes, the very first time in March when she mentioned wanting a divorce, I told her one day she will regret this, and I know she will st some point. I just hope I’ve moved on so that’s it’s a non-decision for me by that point and by that I mean a no. Not that it matters but she’s 6yrs older than me and approaching 40 next year. I said is that what you really want to be, a 40 something, 2x divorced with a 4 year old…apparently so 🤷‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 12:07 AM
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Ugh I know…thank you, doing my best and have starting gathering text messages, etc. I need to follow up with the law firm I reached out to a week or so ago, just haven’t followed through.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:55 PM
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Thanks, yeah that’s pretty much what I said when she came back that night and the cops then got called so she could come back into the house to grab some things. I basically said that in so many words she didn’t really deny it either which I thought was strange at the time, wasn’t sure if she was just surprised or What but all she could manage to say was “but we aren’t together” which I immediately felt like who is this person? I’m even speaking to. It’s definitely not my wife…ugh shit sucks
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:53 PM
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I appreciate your comments as well as your questions…I will do my best to address: Hmm, yeah I guess at this point it doesn’t does it… to share, this past several months I’ve been the one pushing to stay together, continuing couples therapy, and fixing our issues together. There was a small window where she said she wanted me to go to individual therapy and we pause couples and she would consider staying together. I was not willing for a short time, then decided I would if it meant saving my mar…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:51 PM
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I will say I felt our couples therapist was a really solid dude and great at his job. Unfortunately it wasn’t cheap so we could only go 2-3x a month. No idea about her female individual therapist, but Ila’s I said in another comment, she tried to push the meds on my STBX what seemed early in them working together, but my wife declined for a few months, and then in Feb we talked and she said she wanted to give them a try. My big red flag was that the therapist would be ok with putting someone who…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:33 PM
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Go figure, she wants to become a therapist one day lol 😆. I can’t make this shit up. She loves that type of stuff though. Can’t say the same for me, as I’m sure most men are.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:29 PM
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Man, this one hit hard. See my post above, she’s been in individual counseling for roughly 6 months. I straight up told her I didn’t like who she was becoming, like things I loved about her were slowing/some more quickly dying and whatever feelings she had towards me seemed to evaporate…but yeah, i was willing to do the couples counseling. I felt we had a good male therapist we both liked, but I know she also sees a woman for individual sessions. Your sentiment definitely crossed my mind. Apprec…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:27 PM
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Yeah, we just have the 1 child, she’s late 30s and first time on meds like an SSRI. I explained my concerns well before she got on them. Whatever bad path we were on seemed to 10x the speed, at least from my perspective. I tried respectfully, and not very respectfully sharing my concerns with her, but she wasn’t hearing it. To be fair, we were in couples counseling for about a year, and about half that time she was/is also in individual counseling. I told her I was very concerned that her therap…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:24 PM
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Thank you, i will be sure to look into some of these books. I definitely acknowledge I could use some work on myself.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:18 PM
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I appreciate your response. It’s come to light that somewhere along the way, I’ve really lost a lot of friendships and don’t exactly have friends I can just call up on. Doesn’t help that I moved 1000 miles away from where I grew up, that’s another story all together, but the last 9 years or so, I’ve just been focusing on us and our family, and now I’m seeing the effects of that. Shit sucks tbh. It’s my birthday today, and it seems I don’t have a soul to celebrate it with besides my cat, feels pr…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:16 PM
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She used to want to do family things together, but somewhere in the last 1-1.5 she wanted me to get back into a hobby to look forward to, so I started golfing again. Unfortunately it seems that turned into me getting at home by 10:30-11am Saturdays and her then saying ok bye, doing my own thing. At first I thought it was good we were each getting to do things we enjoyed, but it seems to have been the beginning of the end looking back.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:11 PM
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I appreciate it, thank you. Starting to come to terms, but it’s tough
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:09 PM
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Thank you, yes I’m trying to do the above, damn it sucks, it’s hard, just trying to come out the other side of this with some sanity left
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:08 PM
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I said this to her at some point, just seems so out of character for her, but I also don’t want to be in denial…I’m a numbers man, and statistically speaking from what I read, probably happened.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:07 PM
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Fresh dick…this gave me a good laugh I needed, thank you haha 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 05:38 AM
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