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DebateAggressive_Sweet1417/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:13 PM
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I think that is true. The thing is, women dating prospects reduce way more, so comparatively speaking, they end up in a better position. The same Ok Cupid data shows that men's age preferences are close to 20 their whole lives, while women's increase almost linearly, that is a big difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 01:06 AM
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Actually, I agree. Treating someone both as a means and and end would be ok. It's just that not everyone does that. But as long as you also care for the other person and viceversa there's no problem in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 12:52 AM
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I’ve been told because I liked casual sex before I settled down I was “being used” That would be a false statement, not every woman (or person in general) who has casual sex is being used. However, some of them are, so there is that risk. Some people are ok with that risk and some aren't, and if you are, then that's fine. Also some people don't mind or even like being used. That's a different value system than I have, but to each their own. So, how precisely was I “being used?” For sexual pleasu…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 12:03 AM
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The only practical answer to this problem is to deconstruct that conception of masculinity and traditional gender roles in general. Because it's those fixed conceptions that lead to men's struggles. Whenever I argue with more blue pill leaning people, I get the feeling we have completely different diagnostic of society's problems, it makes it very difficult to have a productive conversation, but I'll give it a try. I don't think traditional gender roles are the main source of men's struggles, no…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 09:07 PM
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It's also a sign of a woman who is willing to sleep with men without commitment. If you're into that then fine, but that's not the case for all men. Honestly, I think this fear some men have over ending up with a woman who is not attracted to them and only wants them for their resources/commitment is misguided. It's not that hard to recognize when a woman is genuinely interested in you. If you haven't experienced that then you need to do two things: Meet more women. Take a dance class or somethi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 04:00 PM
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Idk man, I had teen love and I still suck at it at 30+
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 06:46 PM
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Describe the dark triad and I can bet they correlate with other more positive/balanced traits. I think they do actually. The dark triad is narcissism, machiavellianism and psychopathy. The three are correlated, but I think narcissism is the one that's actually attractive. It means having an exaggerated sense of self-importance and a need for excessive admiration. They tend to be confident and extroverted, but also very selfish and lack empathy. So they are alluring at first, but long term relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:22 PM
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Sadly I don't think this is completely true. There's studies that suggest women find men that score high in the dark triad personality traits, particularly narcissism, as more attractive. I think narcissists are good at showing themselves as confident and putting themselves first, and those qualities are attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:16 PM
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While there is some truth in this post, I think it reflects poor understanding of how most men actually are. The two male sexual strategies is the most correct part. I want to add, these are mostly exclusive strategies. That is, men opt for one or the other depending on their values. Also, the "player" strategy is chosen by a minority of men. The part about wanting both on women and resentment is where you are lost. Men who play the short game want the "easy girl". Men who go for long term want …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:51 PM
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I’m not demanding you to do anything, it’s just advice. Yes, no one can read minds. That leaves us vulnerable to be deceived sometimes, it’s one of the rough things about life. But we can minimize that risk by being careful with who we give our trust to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:24 PM
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Personally, I’ve never said women they should give sex early. Because I agree with the advice you got to some extent. There are men out there who are players and will try to seduce you, even if they have no intention of having a relationship with you. Sometimes they do it for the physical gratification, other times for ego. The most skilled ones do it just to have your attention, because that makes them more attractive in the eyes of other women they are actually interested in. I do think there …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 12:34 PM
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And when you realize that even after self-improvement, dating is still stacked against you, it’s easy to start resenting women. Life is hard for everyone. Yes, as men we have it hard in some ways, but women have their own struggles. Also, we share many of our most fundamental struggles. We all grow old, we all get sick, we will all die some day, and before that we will lose loved ones at some point, either through separation or death. And at the end, the only thing we will have is the consequenc…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 05:11 AM
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That's certainly the narrative, but we can clearly see that that is not reality. I disagree. Have you even seen r/TwoXChromosomes? If that's not demonizing men, I don't know what is.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 08:31 PM
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Ok, I understand your point now.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:28 PM
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The real reason (IMO) is because women generally have deeper and more intimate platonic friendships in their lives But that was the case in the past too, so it can't be the reason for the change. My great grandmother used to play cards with her friends well into her 90s.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:12 PM
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I'm not sure about that. In the USA conservative states tend to be more rural and have less socio-economic indexes, that could be the confounding variables that explain the teen pregnancies. Interestingly, in my country (Chile) higher socio-economic areas tend to be more conservative, and they have lower rates of teen pregnancies too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 08:43 PM
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Yeah, I guess missinterpreted it. Outside the US the word "conservative" is more strongly associated with values rather than politics. However, I think politically liberal people tend to be more sexually liberal to some extent, although it's not a perfect correlation by any means.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:52 AM
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Unlike nationalism, romantic love has been around since ancient times. There are love poems written on papyri from the egyptians, it's in the bible, in greek mythology, etc. I think it's unlikely it will go away, unlike AI takes over and kill us all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 03:54 AM
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I think this is a misconception. Men Who Have Many Sexual Partners before Marriage Are More Likely to Engage in Extramarital Intercourse. I didn't found a study for women, but I can't think of a reason it would be different.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 03:49 AM
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I don't want a society that prioritizes men (or women). I want a society that treats everybody with equal dignity. I just don't think the way to reach that is through identity politics, which is just tribalism used by politicians. To answer your question, a just society for me would look like a society that actually cares for the ones who need it the most, regardless of their gender/race/etc. The social and political discussion should be less around men vs women and more around homeless people, …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 03:38 AM
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I think it's a false dichotomy. You can hold abusers accountable while at the same time encourage people to pick better partners, not as a means to blame them, but as a means to increase their chances of a better life on the future. There are effective ways to pick better partners, you have to look for signs of kindness and emotional maturity. Emotional maturity is surprisingly hard to fake, but it takes experience and emotional maturity of your own to value that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 03:24 AM
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I think hobbies help you become healthy and well adapted. Being healthy and well adapted is attractive, having hobbies is just something that helps you get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 10:47 PM
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So, mentally stable people can't grow apart? I mean, some of them do, others don't. I' don't see the reason the ones who don't can't enjoy their marriages (why should marriage "die" for them?).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 01:10 PM
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It IS happening to other regions, even Africa has declining birth rates, though still well above replacement rates. It really is mostly contraception.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 09:36 PM
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Do you think people suffer more now than during the middle ages?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 09:26 PM
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I don't see the problem with pointing this out. It's the truth, willful ignorance isn't any better. Though I agree with his conclusion, that doesn't mean I'm against birth control, not that it would matter, birth control is here to stay. There's other ways to address the problem, but knowing the origin is necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 09:22 PM
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The point is people didn't want babies in the past either, but they had them anyway because they wanted to have sex and it just happened. So the actual reason is contraception.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 09:18 PM
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This is correct. Even in Africa birth rates are declining, though still relatively high. Also, it's happening in both western and eastern countries, in capitalist and communist countries, religious and secular, etc. Access to contraceptives is the only reasonable explanation. I wonder how will it stabilize. One way would be through evolution: maybe people with a tendency to actually want babies will reproduce more and those genes will be dominant in the next generations. Another possibility is t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 09:15 PM
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No, both are responsible for both orgasms. To say otherwise is nothing but a reflection fo the extremely individualistic culture we're in, sex is in essence a shared act.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:09 AM
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Just think about animals, do you think they have no choice in mates? Have you seen those female birds reject the male birds after they built a huge nest? There's always been choice, even before we were humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 03:10 PM
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we've been conditioned to believe that we should be the caring and nurturing parent and our only compensation should be "the joy of being a mom" If this is true, then the conditioning must really suck, else we wouldn't have declining birth rates across the world and less people than ever (men and women) wanting to be parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 03:32 PM
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the typical bad guy would have been complete outcasts and real incels throughout the entire history of mankind, and even the most wretched nice guy would have felt good. This was the case for hundreds of thousands of years and right up until the beginning of the middle of the last century. What makes you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 01:23 AM
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I think this is mostly true, in the sense that as an individual your best bet is to try to improve yourself. Not only to attract a partner, but also to live a better life. However, I want to add: that doesn't mean social issues that impact relationships can't exist. Today there's a high number of people with mental health issues, and that can impact relationships for example. I think pornography is another similar issue. And also, there's a certain climate of fear and antagonism that increases a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 01:19 AM
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The asymmetry comes from evolutionary psychology. Women can only get pregnant from 1 guy at at time, they assume most of the cost for having sex, so they benefit more than men from being selective. That's it, there's no mystery really.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:22 PM
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Nah, some guys are dipshits and will do whatever they need to do to get what they want (i.e. cheating, or lying to sleep with someone, etc.). That has nothing to do with politics, but with being a dipshit, and you will find them aaall around the political spectrum. About conservative men liking conservative women more, I would say that on average, yes, probably. For me it's not important, but there's a thing called assortative mating, where people tend to like people who are similar to themselve…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 05:06 PM
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I think you are correct in that men tend to be more aggressive on average, that would be part of psychoticism in Eysenck's theory, in the same study they found men's psychoticism is higher on average. Though I think I only ever saw one guy punch a wall, and he was an adolescent. I'm sorry you've had such bad experiences with men and anger.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:56 AM
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There's plenty of studies on this, for example this one: Gender Differences in Extraversion, Neuroticism, and Psychoticism in 37 Nations This is the abstract: Mean gender differences on Eysenck's three personality traits of extraversion, neuroticism, and psychoticism were collated for 37 nations. Women obtained higher means than men on neuroticism in all countries, and men obtained higher means than women on psychoticism in 34 countries and on extraversion in 30 countries. The relation between t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:12 AM
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Men have lower trait neuroticism on average (i.e. they are less sensitive to negative emotion). When a relationship is bad, both feel it, but women's threshold of tolerance is lower, so they leave before.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 12:30 AM
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That’s mostly a mix of contraceptives for women and porn for men imo. Sprinkle with a bit of pessimism about the future of the world, the decline of religion and hedonism.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 03:23 PM
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Honestly, I think financial independence effect on standards is overblown. Yes, women who make a good living for themselves have more choice to enter or leave a relationship. But if what you’re looking for is forming a family you still need a reasonably successful and self realized partner, that shit is hard. Women were selective 100 years ago and still are now, that’s just nature. Look at those birds making their nests and dances and still get rejected. There’s no point at complaining about thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 03:14 PM
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I'm not sure who cares, that's up to each reader I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 07:35 PM
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The post makes the distinction between two types of men. I'm just saying that distinction does exist in reality, men have different mating strategies. Since you mention you didn't make that distinction in your mind, I thought it was worth to point out that player types do, in fact, exist. Maybe it's valuable information for some reader, who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 06:58 PM
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I was responding to this part: i don't understand the planet where women are separation men like this on What I'm trying to say is, that separation of guys exists, whether you have that separation in your mind or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 06:48 PM
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It's because some men play that game (playing for short term without saying it, just to get women in bed). It's the Barney Stinson archetype, which obviously is exaggerated for comedic purposes, but it exists for a reason. It's an old thing too, it's the same archetype as "Don Juan" from the Spanish novels, XVII century or so. Guys like that exist, wether you recognize them or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 06:21 PM
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You are assuming bad things about her based on a group identity. She's single over 30 so she must be ___. It's the same thing some women do on subs like TwoX, he's a man with _ characteristic so he must like this ___. Not only that, but you think it's ok to treat her badly because of that assumption, which isn't right, even if your generalization was true in her particular case. What if she's single because her past relationship didn't work? What is she needed time to mature as a person? Just as…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 06:11 PM
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he must be at least "average handsome"—a 7/10 minimum That's not average tho
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:19 PM
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Ok, but in the link it says: Beta Traits of provision: either providing resources or validatation to others... This is what I'm trying to say. Providing resources shouldn't be defined as an opposite to Alpha, it has nothing to do with it imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 08:03 PM
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I think the terms alpha/beta in popular culture and the evolutionary psychology idea behind don't match. How is it in popular culture: - Alpha: player types, confidence, physical attractiveness, strength, intelligence (?), markers for good genes. - Beta: provider types, resources, commitment. How is it if we draw parallels with biology: - Alpha: dominant types, sometimes it has to do with strength, but other times it has to do with high status and resources. A king for example would've been an a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:23 PM
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I think it's best not to let yourself go, not only because it will make you more attractive to your partner, but also because you will be healthier and live a better life. That being said, my dad DEFINITELY did let himself go and my mom still loves him very much. So finding a partner that will love you for who you are is also important.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 06:50 PM
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Even ignoring the size difference, at least this subreddit allows dissenting opinions and discussion (the exchange we are having right not for example). That just doesn't happen in TwoX.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 12:37 AM
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If a sub like that existed for men, with the exact same threads and comments reversed, it would've been banned long ago. Not advocating for bans though, just an observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 12:33 AM
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What needs to happen is the democrats need to eradicate wokeness from their party and return to common sense There's no way that happens though. Have you seen r/TwoXChromosomes reaction to the election? There are the titles of posts in the front page with thousands of upvotes: Is anyone else having a panic attack right now? can we finally admit how much men and unfortunately women hate women? Time for 4 years of celibacy There's posts advocating for a 4N movement (No sex with men; No marriage wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 06:02 PM
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This is the most accurate take imo
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 05:46 PM
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I think this is a reasonable point, but the same argument could be made about many issues that are considered woman's issues today, such as sexual violence. Women are the most frequent victims of sexual violence, so it's treated with a gender perspective approach in many countries. What I'm trying to say is that logic could be applied to issues that affect men more often, such as the ones I mentioned, yet that doesn't happen because society just doesn't care enough about disadvantaged men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 09:42 PM
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But why did they threaten the men with guns to save the women first?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 08:40 PM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 07:14 PM
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Isn’t the main complaint of men today that in the past they were almost guaranteed a wife no matter what? I think that's mostly a fantasy to be honest (was it really easy in the past? of course not, maybe a couple of decades in the US, but not if you look at history overall). And I don't think the point of having a family is to have control or power over them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:21 PM
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You are correct, I thought it was different (I've mostly seen men in the military). There are still many more than 2 countries with it though, from the wikipedia entry: Most countries that use conscription systems only conscript men; a few countries also conscript women.\1]) For example, Norway, Sweden, North Korea, Israel, and Eritrea conscript both men and women. However, only Norway and Sweden have a gender-neutral conscription system, where men and women are conscripted and serve on equal fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 06:05 PM
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From among countries currently at war, Russia and Ukraine have compulsory military service for men only, Israel has it for both (yay?), though for women is shorter, and Palestine I'm not sure. I didn't want to delve into the abortion topic because it's complex and another debate onto itself, but I concede it's an asymmetry of rights that puts the burden on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:54 PM
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“ No one can have it all, except men. Because men can fail over and over again and still win in life. “ I think there are still costs for men that prioritize their careers above all. Maybe not so steep in terms of fertility, but still relevant costs. Also there’s the possibility that you just fail, fail and… fail again until the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:25 PM
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There’s no way only 2 countries have compulsory military service. I’m from a small country named Chile and even we have it. Luckily wars are unlikely for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:15 PM
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I think the abortion discussion is a big topic, I’d rather not address that here, but I see your point. Regarding your second point, there are indeed places where men have less rights in some aspects, for example the loss of liberty associated with compulsive military service. That happens in many countries, both eastern and western.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:07 PM
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I think that’s inaccurate. For the vast majority of human history most people didn’t have many rights, men or women. The few that did were unevenly distributed through societies.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:55 PM
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Isn’t the same true for women in western countries?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:46 PM
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The lowliest of man didn’t have a woman in his life. I do agree there was an imbalance in power dynamics for the average person, though I think it had more to do with social roles than a difference in value.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:23 PM
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I think the problem is most people (men and women) simply do not care for the men who are at the bottom. I'm not talking about men who can't get a date, but men who are truly at the bottom, like living on the street. There is a certain contempt towards weak men, which makes them semi invisible to society. I don't blame women for that, I think that contempt comes from everyone. I'm not sure what do they want. They probably need love and support just like everyone else. I know this isn’t very popu…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 03:22 PM
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I also think the best way to tackle this issues is to think of them as "human" problems. To see every men as women as individuals with equal value and dignity and treat their problems as such. Yet that is not what is happening with women's issues. Problems that disproportionately affect women are tackled specifically with them on mind, but that doesn't happen for problems that disproportionately affect men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 03:08 PM
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Agree with the first point. But I don’t think it’s only men who do that; if it were like that, we would see much more concern for the men who are most marginalized by society, like elderly men living on the streets. I think that all of us, both men and women, tend to look with contempt at weak men. The second point also has some truth to it, but I believe that both men and women compete with others of their same sex, only that this competition is of a different nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 03:05 PM
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I don’t know really how this translates to person-to-person interaction on a daily level It probably doesn't for most average people to be honest. You say “men’s rights”, and all I see are programs that designed to help people, which include men There is often a structural emphasis on women's issues in governments policies, an effort that isn't matched for men in most cases. For example many countries have specific departments or ministries for women’s rights, yet very few have similar instituti…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:56 PM
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