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| 9 | Guys in their 30s who are not in a committed relationship and still hookup with random women, how do you deal with pressure from society?I don’t you ever fully escape the pull of the herd but their are Lots of ways to get stronger resistant that pull including challenging your negative core beliefs, irrational assumptions, rules and automatic negative thoughts and deciding on choosing more life affirming core beliefs, assumptions, rules and thoughts. -studying and practicing stoicism -doing hard things. Do today what others find difficult, tomorrow you will do what they Donny even think is possible and the day after you will do t… | /r/seduction | 06/12/21 08:27 PM |
| 8 | How do you recover from being shamedYou may have obsessional thinking and or automatic negative thoughts. Search for articles or videos on ‘real event ocd’ and see if you think that is something you have and need to seek treatment for. Strong cases may need exposure and response prevention (ERP) therapy from a qualified therapist. Moderate cases may can do ERP themselves and use other techniques from cognitive behaviorism therapy (CBT) on other automatic negative thoughts that are holding you back, causing bad moods. I like the bo… | /r/seduction | 30/11/21 01:36 PM |
| 2 | How men can show more his Sexual side with women?Try google or bing searches for dance styles you are interested in and your city. I did a quick search and found swing dance Istanbul. I don’t know the social dance scene in Turkey. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 28/11/21 03:08 AM |
| 23 | How men can show more his Sexual side with women?I don’t know what will work for you, but for me the indirect route (being more physical in my life overall) worked better than the direct route (just trying to deliberately escalate more l). For example being involved in more physical pursuits - like lifting, bjj/mma (just sparring, you don’t have to enter the ring), any sports (I like mountain biking), and then social dancing (lindy hop, salsa, tango, some ballroom) seemed to help. I am naturally in my head and my work is also analytical, but p… | /r/seduction | 27/11/21 02:55 PM |
| 0 | What does TRP consider “damaged goods” when it comes to women?I wouldn’t think TRP has any such list or category. You have goals, and as I understand it given my tiny Neanderthal brain, TRP provides a mental framework for effectively reaching those goals. The TRP tools are there for you to use as you see fit. So you are the decider of who is or is not too damaged for whatever use you want them for. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/11/21 04:16 PM |
| 7 | What would you do if you’re dating a girl and she starts to play like a psychoanalyst on you?Have sex with her far more often and far more rough/aggressive and kinky. Her need to psychoanalyze is a defense against her repressed sexual desires. She is unconsciously asking for more and better sex from you. | /r/seduction | 25/11/21 02:27 PM |
| 2 | Imprinting theory? Whether to sleep with her sooner or later.May depend on the culture she is from, the environment she is in and her upbringing. On many college campuses or in big cities or with an older woman if you don’t initiate and push for sexual contact today, tomorrow it will be someone else who is doing so. In my limited experience, not a single women has complained that I acted too quickly, but several had shown they were disappointed I didn’t act sooner, or have been picked up by someone else because they thought I was friend zoning them and di… | /r/seduction | 19/11/21 12:55 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]No glasses. You are good either way but glasses get smudged or sit wonky and with the beard, Plus glasses and plus wavy hair I think the combo is a bit busy. | /r/seduction | 19/11/21 12:40 AM |
| 35 | I think my girlfriend was subdley flirting with someone in front of meCould be several things including that (1) it is a red flag. She wonders if you are strong enough/good enough for her and she is testing her sexual market value to determine if it is worth dumping you and trading up at same time (2) she needs constant male validation of her sexual attractiveness and will always be like this even if she commits to you. (3) you have low self esteem, see negative implications or normal everyday interaction and then over analyze. There could be more possibilities bu… | /r/seduction | 17/11/21 02:29 AM |
| 2 | How do you stay motivated after a bad night out?Helps me if I have multiple good things going on in life so that one ‘failure’ or even a string of failures or bad nights in one area is offset by the rest of the successes going on in other areas. Kinda like the old saying don’t put all your eggs in one basket. In this case your eggs are your mood, energy level or self esteem. If you are making gains on deadlift that morning, have a mountain biking ride planned with buddies Sunday, and Saturday plan to work on your growing side business or catc… | /r/seduction | 06/11/21 12:22 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]All things equal, of course it matters. If you had two options you equally liked in all aspects except partner count, as a guy you’d choose the lower number partner to marry and mother your children. But life rarely is that simple and people vary across so many other qualities that partner count becomes one of many factors. What are your other options? You may not find someone with less at her age, most will have more. If you do have less they may have low libido or something. It’s your life, on… | /r/seduction | 05/11/21 05:06 PM |
| 1 | As I’m reading evolution girls are instinctively attracted to protector and provider . The reason girls are attracted to tall guys because it represents the ability to protect them .Lots of ways. Find a few competency hierarchies and climb them.Learn boxing and lift weights. Also master many physical skills shooting sports, hunting, rock climbing, mountaineering, motorcycle etc. as you can and fits your personality. Take risks in life and career. Develop positive mindset. Become a high energy decisive guy. | /r/seduction | 05/11/21 10:14 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]It really helps to be the type of guy a hot girl would be interested in. Maybe try achieving something notable like a mma or boxing championship. They usually have some hot girl followers. The Olympic volleyball girls seem hot, maybe win a gold medal in something to get their attention. Or perhaps start a business that becomes a world changing multi billion dollar enterprise. Hot girls seem to flock to large yachts owned by wealthy businessmen. All the above would also help with your confidence … | /r/seduction | 04/11/21 01:30 PM |
| 2 | How to tell a mans interested?Yes, it is hard. But you’ve got this! | /r/seduction | 02/11/21 11:23 PM |
| 3 | How to tell a mans interested?It’s difficult to know. If he is awkward you may have to be a bit more overt, like saying ‘when are you going to ask me out for coffee?’ Once, a mutual female friend literally put my hand in a girls hand and told us, you two need to get a drink together. We were interested in each other but neither made a move. The risk is, he may only want a sexual relationship, no strings, depending on where he is on his life journey and how he feel about you. He may think, I’d like her as a FWB but don’t want… | /r/seduction | 02/11/21 10:22 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Congratulations on losing it! Be careful of catching feelings for Your first partner, particularly if she isn’t seeming that interested in you. I mean, I hope it works out and all, but I think some men have a tendency to put that first partner on pedestal. So yeah, ask her out again if you want. No need to explain anything unless you just want to do so. Maybe when you escalate just say -hey, I was a little eager last time and I didn’t last as long as i would have liked it to. Let’s try again and… | /r/seduction | 01/11/21 01:46 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with group interactions when you have a shit group?Basically yes, but that doesn’t mean you need to completely abandon current friends. And this process is kinda forever - you keep meeting new people, some of them become new friends, some stay friends, some drop off as your interests and abilities diverge. But also, maybe set some boundaries, like ‘oi, that wasn’t cool’ to your wanker friend. Or maybe come backs like ‘your are just jealous you can’t even get it up to wank, and if you did, you do it with just two fingers because your hand wouldn’… | /r/seduction | 29/10/21 02:24 PM |
| 1 | How to stop freezing up around girls?Maybe make it a habit of talking to most everyone you can? Keep a log of how many conversations you start each day. I know a guy who chats uo everyone, waiters, people in line with him, cashiers, random people near the same produce aisle. Most of these are clearly not people he’s want to have sex with. But when he does meet a cutie, my god the man can spit game. I’m he thinks it’s because he’s in constant practice/social mood. Everyone loves this dude. Trying it out myself but it’s hard. Pre Cov… | /r/seduction | 29/10/21 01:29 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with group interactions when you have a shit group?That sucks! I haven’t had much luck in helping old friends have better mindsets. I have had Better luck making new friends who are at a similar point on their journey and share common mindset, goals and values. So basically the idea is that all relationships are temporary. Even those that last a lifetime will end when one dies. This isn’t to say friendships aren’t important and you do want them, but that over time, some will fade and some new ones will come into your life. For you, this may mean… | /r/seduction | 29/10/21 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Not seen as sexually desirableAwesome! Sounds like you are on the road to doing well in all areas of life. | /r/seduction | 27/10/21 08:42 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]You will have to do your own research, of course, but some ideas include 1) try Supplement stack 1) L-Arginine, 1000mg Strength, Taken 1 time daily = 1000mg (nitric oxide precursor for ED) (2) Zinc, 50mg Strength, Taken 1 time daily = 50mg (3) Pygeum, 100mg Strength, Taken 2 times daily = 200mg (4) Lecithin, 1200mg Strength, Taken 1 time daily = 1200mg The pygeam and lecithin increase size of load, which for me increases desire. Maybe add bromelain for to improve taste of load. 2) Timing of ssri… | /r/seduction | 26/10/21 05:45 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Maybe consider thinking of the feeling of being abundant as about more than just the number of women in your life or the sexual/romantic options you have. For example, if I arrange a date, but she doesn’t show (last Minute flake), I could choose to wallow in sadness and anger. Or I could try and live in abundance. If i have abundance with women, maybe I call a FWB to hook up later. But wha if I don’t? Maybe I could have abundance by deliberately working on improving social skills and could see i… | /r/seduction | 26/10/21 03:55 PM |
| 0 | I tried following the advice of Leil Lowndes and I saw some results alreadyThank you! | /r/seduction | 25/10/21 03:27 PM |
| 9 | I tried following the advice of Leil Lowndes and I saw some results alreadyThanks! I’ll get this. | /r/seduction | 25/10/21 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Not seen as sexually desirableThat sucks! Sounds like crappy friends. There may be a lag between how you are and how they perceive you. They may also see you as having a particular role in the group, like the sidekick and they don’t want to lose that role. New friends may see you more positively. Some random advice from some e you don’t know: The cad video is awesome. Do all of that. Continue lifting, suggest a novice program like starting strength till you hit double body weight deadlift, then move to intermediate program. … | /r/seduction | 25/10/21 01:09 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]This is totally your call no right answer. I will say that when I was in college I declined some easy lays/hookups/FWB/ and even a virgin because of a number of factors - including telling myself my standard were higher or I didn’t want to deal with the emotional fallout of having a virgin girl fall for me when I wasn’t interested in anything serious. In hindsight, I regret my decision to be high minded. The exception would be if the women seemed genuinely crazy/stalkerish. Those girls all slept… | /r/seduction | 21/10/21 10:32 PM |
| 3 | Just Can't make myself cold approachWorking on yourself is great, but your fear of being seen as a creep can hold you back. It’s okay to be seen as a creep in someone else’s story of their life. Other people may see the same action where you felt like a creep, and maybe one of their girls thought you a creep, and this other person thinks ‘you go! Get what you want! Get after it! Or another might thing ‘I wish he’d asked me out instead. I love his boldness ‘ . So yeah, you can go too far, but 99.9% sure your internal creep detector… | /r/seduction | 21/10/21 02:10 PM |
| 1 | What to do when you get cold feetSome random suggestions to maybe implement: Maybe Try cognitive therapy - get books by Albert Ellis or david Burns and do the exercises. You will identify the negative thoughts you had right before cold feet and dispute them. Maybe try visualization. Repeat the past scene in your mind but this time imagine going all the way and both of you feeling good about it. Also visualize an upcoming date this same way Try affirmations - repeat positive phrases aloud multiple times a day like —I enjoy havin… | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 12:28 AM |
| 50 | Why do I care about my partner’s sexual past?How about considering your jealousy is an evolved response to prevent false paternity. I don’t consider it a double standard because men and women are biologically programmed to worry about different things. The question is, does it serve you now, and if not how to rid yourself of it or reduce it. Maybe write out your core beliefs about sex and see how rational they are. | /r/seduction | 16/10/21 04:05 AM |
| 1 | Can anyone give me advice on flirting/adding sexual tension when talking to my classmates?If it works, go for it! | /r/seduction | 14/10/21 10:07 PM |
| 2 | Vanilla & not so vanilla.He isn’t a mind reader and you have to ability to use your words to express your desires. You owe it to both of you to make requests for what you want. If you want to use some form of media to ease the discussion, maybe look for erotic literature that speaks to your desires. You can say, I was reading this and came across this passage that was really hot, let me share it with you. Then say, ‘here are the aspects of this is that I’d like you to act out on me. I would find it so hot it you’d do x,… | /r/seduction | 12/10/21 06:50 PM |
| 2 | This girl said she ‘doesn’t do this often’ but said she on the pill when I drew for the rubbersListen to this: https://youtu.be/0-hVzpH_Htk E- rotic — Willy use a billy | /r/seduction | 10/10/21 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?Good idea | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 04:42 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Your choice! Do what you want to do and when it feel right (or earlier than that if your social calibration is more introverted than extroverted). However I would also say that there is hardly ever a negative consequences of going early (if you can keep a positive attitude even after rejection) and there is often a negative for waiting. This is because many women have reactive desire - they feel sexual when you feel strongly sexual. They desire to be desired. So give them what they want and go f… | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 12:33 PM |
| 2 | Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?I think the answer depends on your goals and the person you want to be. There isn’t a right or wrong answer here. You decide which set of likely consequences you want to deal with - all have pros and cons - and do that thing. If you had other options for dating and sex, would you go out with her again? If You’d probably go out with someone else if you had another option then maybe spend what would have been that date night with boring girl going out finding better options. How are you going to f… | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 12:17 PM |
| 1 | “The favorite conversation topic for a woman is talking about herself” : thoughts about this ?Yes, as a general rule women (like most but not all humans) prefer to talk about themselves. But the range of how much she talks more than you varies by the individuals involved and the situation. For example, Maybe your date would prefer as 60/40 percent conversational split or 70/30 and you went 80/20? Some may even want 50/50 but I doubt many would want to have the floor less than that. You have to socially calibrate to each date to figure this out. Also, if you string together a series of un… | /r/seduction | 08/10/21 02:43 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]I don’t know - seems like you are doing well looks wise and on your way to doing well in other areas. Some random thought: -maybe consider dating what you would consider below your league to develop social skills. Some people hate that idea but some men seem to benefit from it. Just me, but I wouldn’t approach this from the perspective of ‘hey here is a wildebeest I would be ashamed to be seen with but I’m going to love bomb her so she sleeps with me. Instead, just find some who makes you think,… | /r/seduction | 05/10/21 01:34 PM |
| 0 | [deleted by user]-Maybe reconsider what counts as a ‘success’. That is, when you start, just saying ‘hi’ even if she walks away is a success. Later maybe numbers or dates, but for now, something less. -take notes on each approach. Aim for a certain number each week. Write out lessons learned. Learn and adapt. -learn cognitive behavioral therapy techniques to lessen unhelpful self talk. -hit the gym and run a barbell training program. -take an improv class to improve ability to handle anxiety in front of a group … | /r/seduction | 05/10/21 01:04 AM |
| 7 | Massive potential deal-breaker with prospective LTRI don’t know if there is a right or wrong answer here. If you break it off, no guarantee you will find someone with less than 4 body count unless you go younger. Maybe you will, maybe you won’t. I think it possible but not easy and not a sure thing. To me the bigger issue is can she imprint on you emotionally as her best alpha option. Apex mindset on you tube has some good videos on this issue. The problem isn’t her past as much as her bonding happily with you today. Also, the other issue is do … | /r/TheRedPill | 04/10/21 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Field Report: 10/01/21Thanks for sharing. Social anxiety is no joke. Way to put yourself out there. | /r/seduction | 02/10/21 01:08 PM |
| 0 | How do you know when you’re at a decent level of looks to approach IRL?Find a mirror. Blow on the mirror. Does it get a little condensation on the mirror, a little fog? If so, great, if you can fog a mirror you are qualified to approach women in real life. You may have a better success rate if you are jacked, but your success rate will improve just from trial and error. A year from now, do you want to be jacked but have no experience or be jacked and have a lot of practice under your belt? So I am saying, do both - go to Gym and approach women. | /r/seduction | 02/10/21 03:49 AM |
| 5 | Im mostly attracted to intellectual ladiesMaybe Go to Mensa conventions? | /r/seduction | 01/10/21 05:12 AM |
| 2 | How do you respond to "you're tall"?That’s not all that is supersized about me……(pause) ……I’ve got a big appetite too. | /r/seduction | 01/10/21 04:53 AM |
| 7 | [deleted by user]She’s bored, and unconsciously sees you as either (1) potential lover or (2). as orbiter/someone she can use for free food/a shoulder to cry on etc. so she is going to test you for your mental and emotions fitness and see how best she can use you. If you hold frame and pass by showing yourself to be emotionally strong, then she’ll want to use you as her lover. If you fail slightly and she see you as needy for her she will want to use you as her orbiter. If you fail too far she will be disgusted … | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 10:28 PM |
| 1 | how do you leave a woman better than she was?Sure thing! I only learned this the hard way - by being a coward and letting nearly dead relationships linger till we hated each other and the break up was awful. I wish I had been stronger and ended things instead. It was a combination of fear of being alone, and guilt at ‘hurting’ them. But waiting hurt them way more. Sometimes I think at least one partner wanted me to break up so she acted poorly hoping I’d catch the drift. She didn’t want to be the bad guy in the story. Be okay with being th… | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 09:29 PM |
| 3 | how do you leave a woman better than she was?If you are no longer attracted to her then gently letting her know you are ending things (i.e. a clean and clear break up but without you listing her flaws to humiliate her) is making her better off. She is literally much much better off without you than with you. You are a current net negative to her if you keep going on dates and having sex with her but don’t find her attractive anymore. So clearly breaking it off without ghosting is making her better off. Just say something like - hey this ha… | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Mental game ruined by small penis. What's the point of all this?https://www.health.com/condition That sucks! But Listen, all men suffer from something. I know someone who died young from cancer. I bet they wish they were alive to see their children grow even it it meant having a micro penis. Some men have severe ED. Some have retroactive jealousy or ROCD that prevents them from finding a SO to commit to. Life sucks for all of us in some way. So this is your dragon to face and only you can face it. My advice is to seek therapy with someone who can help you id… | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 02:33 PM |
| 2 | Mental game ruined by small penis. What's the point of all this?Thank you for saying this! There are bumpers you can buy for when your penis is too long for partner and frequently bruises her cervix, or for when the partner has vaginismus. | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 02:22 PM |
| 3 | Can anyone give me advice on flirting/adding sexual tension when talking to my classmates?Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for most. Cock and Ball Torture for a few edge play kinksters. Be sure you know what you are paying for! | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 04:50 PM |
| 3 | Can anyone give me advice on flirting/adding sexual tension when talking to my classmates?Sounds like you are on a great path already! Yeah, sometimes our brain is not being a good friend to us and tells us too much negative stuff. You have to search and find what works to help you unpack your baggage. Therapy or self study of CBT techniques can work. I also like stoicism. | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 01:58 AM |
| 8 | Can anyone give me advice on flirting/adding sexual tension when talking to my classmates?This is a bit convoluted it hear me out. I think the first step is to become more centered in your body. If you are too much in your head it’s hard to come off as flirty. Some ideas: strength training, take classes in any combat sport (I like boxing but was more of a tkd geek), learn several dance styles (tango for the mental aspect but whatever is popular in your area), meditate. When you are a fit dude comfortable in your own skin it will do wonders for your game. The second step is to elimina… | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 12:23 AM |
| 5 | How to differentiate between cold approach and harassment ?Practice. Approach frequently and Gradually use bolder and bolder approaches until you start getting bad reactions, then step back a bit. You are trying to find an invisible line in the sand. It isn’t easy. | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 11:54 PM |
| 66 | [deleted by user]Yes, as long as it’s consensual and honest. be aware that lying to them could set you back. While you shouldn’t lie to them because it could hurt them, you also need to be aware that lying will hurt your self confidence. It’s up to you to decide how direct you want to be about it. You might be their average dude they bang to tide them over before they find a hottie. Maybe they want to try out a few techniques on a throw away guy so they can wow a keeper down the road. Maybe it makes them feel go… | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Do you talk to women in general?For me it has on occasion become a crutch. I have to set a minimum number in my head of women to talk to in a venue or I won’t ever get to it. But that is just me. | /r/seduction | 25/09/21 02:10 PM |
| 6 | Do you talk to women in general?That is a great idea! I just wonder if it could become a crutch if done too long and as an excuse to not practice approaching. On the other hand, it can become social proof that you have friends/are accepted by a wide range of people as opposed to being an asocial loner. | /r/seduction | 25/09/21 01:44 PM |
| 4 | Do you talk to women in general?Agree. However I am unsure how to convey that information to highly anxious, low skill, neurotic men with low extra version and low openness to new experience. I find almost any pushback against a persons fixed ideas gets you labeled as a troll even if your intent is to help them live a better, happier, more fun and sex filled life. Everyone wants to know the best opening lines to use on the woman they fancy, few want to do the hard work of leveling up their life to become the kind of man they a… | /r/seduction | 25/09/21 12:15 PM |
| 120 | Do you talk to women in general?The guys I know who do best with dating plenty of women also make it a habit to talk to lots of people, men and women, in a non gaming way, during the course of their day. It’s like they are constantly practicing making a human connection with strangers, so when they see a woman they want to ask out, they are practiced and natural. Not clear to me if this is just their personality or deliberate. So yeah, the more you practice being social in general the better you will be when gaming. | /r/seduction | 25/09/21 10:00 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Based on my own experience and talking to other men, many of whom are married, about their life experiences and what they regret, i would suggest that If you are not completely opposed to premarital sex, then you are far more likely to regret missing this opportunity for sexual experience than you are to regret it. A number of men who are married happily have told me of how they regret times they didn’t pursue a good opportunity for sex because they didn’t see a long term potential and now they … | /r/seduction | 23/09/21 02:59 PM |
| 7 | Need advice for dating/plating older womanI don’t understand what you are asking for help on. You are an adult, she is an adult, it’s none of my business what two consenting adults do with their naughty bits. You asking implies some sort of reassurance or approval seeking. Try and listen to your gut (does this feel ‘right’) and your dick (does she pass the boner test) and run through possible danger flags (what could go wrong) with your brain and use that brain to determine what countermeasures need to be taken (what steps could I take … | /r/TheRedPill | 18/09/21 05:29 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Just riffing here: You are so not alone! So few men dance and so few of those who dance do it well that taking some lessons can be a high return on investment activity. Still higher, though, is lifting for muscle mass and dressing well. It’s like women find the jokes of guys they find hot funnnier than the jokes of other guys. Hint, it’s not about the jokes. Also, maybe you are too much into your head and being self absorbed. Trying almost anything to get yourself grounded in your physical body … | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Flake on the dateMaybe the best ROI of your time and energy would be to assume that a certain percentage of women will flake no matter what you do, and some percentage maybe you can convert if you improve your ability to communicate high value. So given those odds, while you might Spend some time on growing your ability to demonstrate high value (lifting, dressing better, developing mental state control, increasing decisiveness, improving social skill, you would also spend some time strategizing what you would d… | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 06:13 PM |
| 28 | Reason for approachI like the idea of giving any reason but her physical attributes, but Even that, if done in a funny, self amusing way it would probably work anyway. Maybe, to demonstrate humor say, I saw you had a keen eye for quality tomatoes and I like that in a woman. Most women squeeze them too hard, but you had the perfect combination of firm yet gentle. | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 02:45 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]It made me feel better | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 12:26 AM |
| 11 | [deleted by user]Others have spoken if except use or diet, which is great advice. For mindset, Suggest you go to you tube and search for Patrice O'Neal, the American stand-up comedian, and listen to everything he ever spoke. He was a not so handsome, overweight black man who apparently did very well with women. | /r/seduction | 15/09/21 10:37 PM |
| 6 | How to hit on fat girlsTry to seduce them just you would any other woman. They aren’t a different gender or species or anything. Larger women have the same evolutionary history as the smaller women and want similar things from a man. There may be some issues to be aware of based on personal observations: -some bbw’s may wonder if you are hitting on them because you are sexually desperate and think they are sexually easy or what not. Be prepared for some fitness or comfort tests. -some bbw women are sensitive about bei… | /r/seduction | 15/09/21 07:33 PM |
| 29 | [deleted by user]You have asked this or very similar questions multiple times before in multiple forums. Can you please summarize the advice you’ve been given, what you have done to implement it and how has that worked? I’d like to think that no situation is hopeless unless you give up, stop trying or don’t follow through on advice given when you ask for it. | /r/seduction | 15/09/21 03:22 PM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]So there isn’t one answer. A lot depends on factors as size of school, social norms, how hot you are (the hotter you are the more you can get away with violating any social norms), your goals, to what extent getting a bad rep will hinder or help your goals, how smooth is your game, etcetera. But in general you will regret not taking action to go after your dreams rather than the consequences of any action. So ask a few girls out. If you sense social circle game, or targeted approach is better th… | /r/seduction | 14/09/21 06:14 PM |
| 5 | Something I’ve noticed about this subI hear you. As far as I can tell, some people are miserable, and rather than work to improve their own situation or even support others who are trying to improve, they just want other people to be as miserable as they are. Learning to recognize these people and tuning them out is an important skill for one’s development. At the same time, I suppose it’s true that some people are overly optimistic and that can be problematic as well. But I’d rather chose hope over pessimism and despair any day. | /r/seduction | 14/09/21 05:37 PM |
| 29 | How to be confident when dick size crushes self-esteem?I think you suffer from body dysmorphic disorder. Consider seeking therapy for this. Per Mayo Clinic: Body dysmorphic disorder usually doesn't get better on its own. If left untreated, it may get worse over time, leading to anxiety, extensive medical bills, severe depression, and even suicidal thoughts and behavior Yes, some women may prefer their partner have an above average penis, but there are plenty of average to below average sized guys having sex all the time. | /r/seduction | 14/09/21 02:21 PM |
| 6 | Do you guys think it's possible to seduce this specific man who is significantly older than meHe may expect that you are not interested in being pursued by an older man and not want you to feel creeped out by him doing so. You may need to be more direct but in a flirty way. You could say, ‘you know, if you asked me out for coffee I wouldn’t say no.’ | /r/seduction | 13/09/21 07:46 PM |
| 1 | How to say no to Hookups or FWB without making it awkard?I don’t think it’s possible for this not to be awkward. You have the right to set what ever boundary you want. If he doesn’t like it, know that It is okay to be the bad guy in someone else’s story. But you don’t have to be dramatic about it. You can politely say, ‘thank you for the offer but I am not interested in a sexual relationship with you, and I don’t see that changing. I’d love to continue our friendship but I understand if you want to take some time or space. | /r/seduction | 13/09/21 03:17 PM |
| 3 | The best guys also get rejected a lot. Don't let the marketing fool you. Back in the day guys were honest that most of their approaches end in rejection. Today coaches lie to sell their products.In general, I think the 80:20 thing is true, and guys at bottom have a steeper hill to climb. But there are a few strategies that may can help: - get better in ways that matter. So few men strive to get fit, or dress well or learn basic social skills that almost any effort can put you in top 20. -find social circles or groups where you can be in the top 20 there. For example, once I went dancing a lot and there were guys there that got a lot of girls because they were too 20 dancers, but outside… | /r/seduction | 11/09/21 03:56 AM |
| 3 | How is any of this supposed to work if you don't have any women interested in you to begin with?I don’t think there is a one size solution that fits all. Some things I have seen work to help people become a better version of themselves : -extensive therapy -journalling (progroff method but others okay too. Jordan Peterson also had a course on self authoring) -journalling but with using tools of cognitive behavioral therapy -bibliotherapy - reading self help book -volunteering - get out of your head and learn to help people even worse off -some hobbies seem transformative - theatre, improv … | /r/seduction | 03/09/21 07:17 PM |
| 2 | How is any of this supposed to work if you don't have any women interested in you to begin with?Right! No point in being a help rejecting complainer. Wastes your time and the time of people trying to help you. Thank you for clarifying. | /r/seduction | 03/09/21 07:10 PM |
| 2 | How is any of this supposed to work if you don't have any women interested in you to begin with?I don’t understand your point. I’d love to help the OP, I just don’t know how. What are you trying to convey? | /r/seduction | 03/09/21 06:29 PM |
| 2 | How is any of this supposed to work if you don't have any women interested in you to begin with?Yes, it’s tough out there for many men in today’s mating market. I just meant that the act of seducing implies that there is someone there in front of you to be seduced. If there is literally no one there, you can’t use seduction skills. But if you expand the concept of seduction to include anything that makes it possible or more likely to mate, then yeah, the problem fits I suppose. But I still don’t have any advice. The op issues though seems beyond what a Reddit forum, particularly this one, … | /r/seduction | 03/09/21 10:03 AM |
| 3 | How is any of this supposed to work if you don't have any women interested in you to begin with?I’m at a loss. I don’t want to be defeatist - but sometimes luck and the times and the situation is just against you. Try and live the happiest you can without an SO, and if you must have one, readjust job,location and life to find one. This doesn’t seem a seduction Reddit issue though. You gotta find them to seduce them. | /r/seduction | 03/09/21 03:31 AM |
| 5 | How is any of this supposed to work if you don't have any women interested in you to begin with?Well, that could be an issue then. Meeting and dating takes time, unless you have a job that just facilitated meeting women, like bartender. | /r/seduction | 03/09/21 03:19 AM |
| 1 | How is any of this supposed to work if you don't have any women interested in you to begin with?That sucks! I don’t know and can’t guess without more information. You look well enough I wouldn’t think looks the primary issue. But things may have changed a lot in few years per https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/03/29/share-americans-not-having-sex-has-reached-record-high/#click=https://t.co/0aazxCijYP What do exactly do you do and where do you go to to meet women? If meeting women at bars not your thing, Some places may be more suitable, like dance classes, yoga classes, singles g… | /r/seduction | 03/09/21 03:07 AM |
| 1 | How to stop overthinking and get out of my head?You may not be as attractive as you self rate. Or maybe you are more attractive. Suggest you Track your own data for 3 months and report back. The work is on you to do and the more time you spend asking questions and pondering your navel is less time to approach. Action beats contemplation here. | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 05:51 PM |
| 2 | How to stop overthinking and get out of my head?Most every attempt is a failure. For argument sake, Maybe you have to ask 10 girls to get a number, maybe you get a date for every 10 numbers, for every 10 dates you get a sex partner/girlfriend/plate. So you need to talk to one thousand girls to get that one success. Your success rate is probably better than that. Each failure gets you closer to success. Imagine you are a baseball player that gets paid for every solid hit, but strikes don’t count against you at all. The best way to get paid is … | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 04:53 PM |
| 4 | How to stop overthinking and get out of my head?Different things work for different people. For some it’s meditation and breath work; for others it’s more physical. For example, when sparring with a partner in bjj or boxing, if you aren’t fully present in the moment you are going to get your ass handed to you. Same with mountain biking at speed; if the mind wanders you are going to eat a tree or dirt. Do things that force you into living in the present moment, whatever works for you. | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 03:50 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]If I remember correctly Geoffrey Miller had a few books out that addressed this directly. Check out mating mind book. I assume there are others. Maybe models by mark manson. Youtuber apex mindset has some good vids worth watching. But how to demonstrate those qualities in any given situation to a particular woman is contextual and nuanced. And nothing has 100% success rate. You will need to spend time developing your best self (lifting, developing personal clothing style, learning and practicing… | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 01:45 PM |
| 3 | How to play it after sleeping with a girl for the first time.Why did you wait two weeks before asking her out again? Have hobbies and interests and tell her to meet up with you during or after. For example, hey I am going for a run today at x. If you can keep pace you can join, otherwise meet you at y for a z. | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Why do some girls do this?Several core concepts may be involved including Validation, monkey branching and market testing. Women want to know they still have the ability to attract a high quality man and need to occasionally test the market in case their primary relationship falters. Or, if the potential new guy is significantly hotter, maybe leave early. It’s mostly unconscious behavior. Not dissing on her at all. We are all subject to instincts. So sounds like you need to celebrate being at a level where women want to … | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 02:06 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]There isn’t a magic formula, it’s just plain guessing out of a phone book (metaphorical - I mean search google maps for ‘therapists’ near me - and then trial and error. You may have to visit 2-4 to find a good fit. I don’t know your location, income level, prior beliefs about various schools of psychology, or whether or not you have other issues that would require a specialist, say in ocd or something. However, as one good approach, I’d search first for a male therapist who specializes in cognit… | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 02:48 AM |
| 29 | [deleted by user]It sounds like it may be time for you to consider a therapist. You may have depression or other issues holding you back. This seems more deeper an issue than just problems with seduction. The problem is many therapists aren’t really attuned to men’s issues, or ways of dealing with depression. So you may have to hunt for one that is a good fit. | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 02:19 AM |
| 8 | "Excuse me, can I get your number?" opener success rate?The success rate of this, or any opener, would vary widely with how the target perceives the quality of the person asking, along with other variables such as targets current relationship status, etc. | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 11:41 PM |
| 4 | Just went on my first date ever. Ended it with an awkward hug…You should do what you like and not what like. What’s is interesting to me and potentially the women I like to attract may not be interesting to you or the women you want to attract. I might like golf and you might like Highland games and feats of strength. I might like sailing, maybe you like marathoning; it’s all good and I have seen different men do well in all those. Most every hobby has groupies, Even chess and Pokémon. So it’s a bit of what fits your personality, your interests and your de… | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 03:18 AM |
| 13 | Just went on my first date ever. Ended it with an awkward hug…Congratulations on your first date! The first step is the hardest. I don’t know if there is one right answer for you. For me, if just chalk it up to a learning experience and reframe it as a net positive - you went on a date, and you had some (albeit minimal contact). On the next time you take a girl out, maybe you will be willing to take it farther. Just take baby steps. Even the chadest of Chads doesn’t get the girl to go all the way, every date. Go easy on yourself. The second thing I’d say i… | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 04:58 PM |
| 3 | Resource Review: How Mark Manson and Nick Sparks Transformed My Dating LifeGreat books! | /r/seduction | 28/08/21 10:00 PM |
| 3 | Should I have told her I was a Virgin?I am beginning to wonder if you trolling now. If you want to text her a dozen times a day, it’s not my concern. Do it. I don’t care. I think you doing so foolish and the best thing for someone in your situation is to move on. I would also suggest counseling if you are that obsessed about her. Something is wrong in your head if you think she has interest in you or wants to reconnect or would care to hear your virgin story. But you do what you want. Good luck. Also, write a bail bondsman and lawye… | /r/seduction | 27/08/21 02:04 PM |
| 2 | Should I have told her I was a Virgin?No! Move on! You sent her texts, she said she wasn’t interested. That is her answer. She has sent a clear signal. Any attempt at contact or resolution is just stalking her and is rude. There is no need to talk or share feelings or gain resolution. Grieve for a bit if you have to, commiserate with a male friend over a beer, then go introduce yourself to a at least dozen women each week over the next 4-5 weeks. Anytime you think of your first, go to the gym and lift weights, run a mile as fast as … | /r/seduction | 27/08/21 01:10 PM |
| 1 | Should I have told her I was a Virgin?Yes, I understand. I get attached quickly as well sometimes. And it sucks when not reciprocated. It also sucks when you both get attached but aren’t really compatible (different values, different life goals). I think your experience just means you (1) are a caring, kind person (2) with a high propensity to bond with a sexual partner and (3) maybe a bit of overestimation of a partners compatibility, level of interest in you, and (4) overestimation of the importance of having an LTR at this moment… | /r/seduction | 27/08/21 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Should I have told her I was a Virgin?No, you did fine. Time to move on. You developed feelings based on a very short time together. This is common in men with little sexual experience. She didn’t feel the same. This is common in our current world of dating apps and you go girl mentality. Time to find someone else. I would advise against a young man wanting an LTR at 23. Unless you just have a religious guilt complex or want children and are willing to date only conservative religious girls, it will be difficult to get married at th… | /r/seduction | 27/08/21 12:11 PM |
| 1 | First date adviceDating is all too contextual and nuanced and you have given too little information to go on. Are you guys Mormon or other conservative fundamentalists? Are you secular living in a big city? Where you going? Some general ideas - -Have a plan. And a backup plan. She should be included in decisions but not have to make a decision. -keep it lite and fun and inexpensive. Coffee or bottle of wine in the park with a loaf of bread beats a steak house -bring a mindset that you are there to see if you fee… | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 02:16 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]What is your goal or desires end state? Are you just trying to tap it once or a few short weeks? Are you thinking you’d want to wife her up? Just trying to see if there is chemistry? What? She has already demonstrated she doesn’t think you and your feelings are worth thinking about. Act accordingly. Go out, have fun, meet more people. Don’t punish her or shame her but adjust your expectations of the relationship and it’s potential. | /r/seduction | 24/08/21 03:06 PM |
| 3 | reddit makes me feel so unconscious about asking people out.Sorry that happened. | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 12:10 PM |
| 6 | reddit makes me feel so unconscious about asking people out.I doubt anyone who was afraid of being mobbed by the people who post to any sub Reddit has ever achieved anything of significance. This place is a crab bucket. | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 12:54 AM |
| 0 | What to do when she does a grossed out/weirded out face after you approach?We all wear lenses that color our world. You see hostility in my response. I saw op engaged in help rejecting complaining and dismissiveness, a combo that can leave you stuck getting disgust responses from girls like in his opening scenario. I responded with jovial if a bit harsh banter typical of men who see someone doing something foolish and want to show him some tough love before he really steps in some deep smelly kimchee. It’s all good. I must be missing boys night at the watering hole. | /r/seduction | 20/08/21 01:59 AM |
| 0 | What to do when she does a grossed out/weirded out face after you approach?Honestly, I lament it when people who can chose to do better and take action to improve their life become dismissive help rejecting complainers. You seem high iq to me, and capable of great things, but you are dismissive of advice that would substantially up your game. You seem young and have time to turn it around. Don’t live your life behind a veil of sarcasm. Or do, it’s up to you and only you. But your choice has consequences. Make a good choice. Or not. No one will know or care but you. | /r/seduction | 19/08/21 11:13 PM |
| -1 | What to do when she does a grossed out/weirded out face after you approach?So you are unwilling to self reflect and to do the work to improve. Got it! | /r/seduction | 19/08/21 09:23 PM |
| -2 | What to do when she does a grossed out/weirded out face after you approach?Love watching the replies of help rejecting complainers to legit responses. The dismissive ‘dude’ is the cherry on top. Look dude, you didn’t even mention the way you approached the girl; no description of tonality, nothing. Someone out of the kindness of their heart attempts a legit response to your poorly worded incomplete question and you are immediately dismissive. That right there points out your problem. You are un -coachable. You have your head stuck so far up your arsehole you can’t see … | /r/seduction | 19/08/21 06:26 PM |
| 1 | What are all the personal and physical qualities/statuses that would be most beneficial for a man to have prepared before learning seduction to increase his success?This would be totally contextual and differ on the person, their location and their target audience. In general, be a renaissance man that is competent in a wide range of physical disciplines and the arts and humanities. For a lot of folks it may look like: Lifting (first), boxing and or wrestling, possibly dance (tango due to intense lead/follow connection or whatever has most relevance to your scene like salsa/swing/c&w/ballroom, some training in public speaking (toastmasters? Improv comedy co… | /r/seduction | 19/08/21 05:34 PM |
| 1 | It is possible to become Mr. Independent (master of many crafts)Yes, but you may be less well off monetarily than if you specialized in a highly valued and remunerative skills and specialized in just doing that and then hiring people to do the other work. But you may find the emotional returns higher doing the work yourself. | /r/seduction | 14/08/21 11:12 AM |
| 1 | Can i seduce my ex ?Yes, she knows you still find her attractive. Keep up hope | /r/seduction | 12/08/21 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Can i seduce my ex ?Awesome! This is tough as I don’t know an apology was In order. You are a man, you like sex, you’d like sex with her so no need to apologize. But great you are focusing on working on yourself. As you interact in a more positive fun, funny way, and get more fit and all, you may be able to reach more of her attraction triggers. | /r/seduction | 12/08/21 11:45 AM |
| 1 | Can i seduce my ex ?I hope that works out for you. Kids do better with father in house, I believe. I don’t think your one awkward or failed attempt to initiate sex derails your chances. It just gives you a indication of where you are now with her. For whatever reason she doesn’t find you attractive enough to have sex with. Whether that is your appearance, game or just the weight of past I don’t know. Normally it’s better to move to new prospects than try and dig yourself out of a hole, but with children in the mix,… | /r/seduction | 12/08/21 11:13 AM |
| 2 | Can i seduce my ex ?Your chance would be better if you were fit, dressed well, were doing well in your career, had had a lot it therapy to understand why you were abusive, developed more emotional skills, had game better than your first attempt, and generally were a better catch than any other man on her radar. How do you stack up against all that? Also you need to be a great dad. | /r/seduction | 11/08/21 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Oral vs piv sex: which creates a more emotional connection?Yes. Some men consider that oral sex is sex and some don’t (famously Bill Clinton - I didn’t have sex with that woman and the whole ‘eating ain’t cheatin’) Some women consider oral sex to be sex, some don’t. I believe that more men consider oral sex to be sex than women. What about you? Do you consider giving a blow job to a guy as having had sex with him? if asked by a guy who might be a potential long term partner whose opinion matter to you, would you include those blowjobs only relationships… | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 11:52 PM |
| 4 | Oral vs piv sex: which creates a more emotional connection?What? | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 10:24 PM |
| 3 | Oral vs piv sex: which creates a more emotional connection?I think it mostly varies from person to person but I would think PIV more intimate to more women based on dating a number of women who stair stepped it that way (kissing-fondling outside clothes- giving me oral -piv sex over 3-4 dates.) oddly enough, in most cases of me giving oral to a woman, it was after we were already having piv sex. Report back what you find please. Be aware that some girls count giving oral but no piv as not having sex with that partner but any other man you date would cou… | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 09:06 PM |
| 3 | When a woman says she just wants to be friends and you say you respect your decision but don't want to be friends, how to handle the social media aspect of it, do you stay connected to her?Scroll through her friends, find a few that are younger/hotter and ask her to set you up with them. No matter what happens, it’s a win win. Either she sets you up as a true friend,or she cuts off contact. | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 06:48 PM |
| 1 | My best advice to men: get with the times.You know how to party! I’m too frugal to do that. Maybe too old as well! I don’t know what you should do re splitting the bill. Some say don’t, some say do, some say take turns buying drinks that night or over several dates. Some say go more frugal abs just coffee or one or two drinks before back to your place, where you have a cheese plate and some wine or what have you . | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 01:15 PM |
| 1 | For you guys out there who are highly successful with women, what are some of the steps you take on the early dates to ensure high sexual tension between you and the woman is building?Thank you for explaining. Also, great accomplishments! High iq is also attractive, as is demonstrating competence in a demanding and remunerative profession with lots of social prestige. If you were an average iq person, few or no professional job skills and with low income, I’d imagine your numbers would be lower even with the same game, personality . And 5-7 is below average but not by much. Do you think 5-7 is no handicap, minor handicap, or major handicap? I saw a video yesterday from Alexan… | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 01:12 PM |
| 1 | My best advice to men: get with the times.What bill? Where are you taking women you don’t know too that has a bill large enough to worry about splitting, and why? | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 12:44 PM |
| 6 | For you guys out there who are highly successful with women, what are some of the steps you take on the early dates to ensure high sexual tension between you and the woman is building?In my book, yes, consider yourself successful. Maybe some do better, but many do far worse and would feel they had gone to heaven if they had your success rate. Do you think this based on genetics (height and natural high t, jawline) or hard work (game, gym, dressing well, having a lot going on in your life) | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 12:18 PM |
| 1 | have you ever been interrupted by concerned strangers mid-set?Non zero but extremely low probability excuse for not taking action. You might as well say I can’t approach because I am afraid of land sharks or being hit by lightning | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 01:58 AM |
| 2 | Did practicing the game helped your overall mental health ?It takes time! Hang in there! It gets better for most men as they may get more experience. | /r/seduction | 09/08/21 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Are you aged out of the “game” here in the U.S.?It is true that that is the best some men can hope for. | /r/seduction | 09/08/21 04:11 AM |
| 7 | Did practicing the game helped your overall mental health ?More outgoing, more risk taking (physical and social and emotional). More variety in activities. More overall happiness and joy (because it was part or at same time I learned CBT therapy techniques). | /r/seduction | 09/08/21 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Is it possible to be… sexually autistic?Sex god method is a book, kinda hard to find but there are PDFs floating around. It outlines an approach to sexual encounters that I found more useful than more say, more specific how to it positions manual stuff. More mindset than techniques. His DEVI model consists of: Dominance Emotion Variety Immersion | /r/seduction | 09/08/21 01:20 AM |
| 1 | Girl I went to get drinks with told me she's not looking for relationshipThis! | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 11:51 PM |
| 1 | Are you aged out of the “game” here in the U.S.?That is awesome! Good for your dad! Yes, I agree. I am not advocating adultery but being averse to talking to people of the opposite sex seems way too restrictive a way to go through life. | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 06:48 PM |
| 5 | Is it possible to be… sexually autistic?Maybe. Perhaps you could think about using words as tools. If labeling yourself sexually autistic helps you take concrete steps to improve (ie read and implement in next sexual encounter ideas in Daniel Rosens sex god method) or helps you treat yourself more kindly (ex, ‘I kinda weirded out that last make out sessions abs stopped because i got anxious. That is probably my sexual autism flaring up. Next time I will escalate at least a step further!) If thinking of yourself as sexually autistic do… | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 06:03 PM |
| 8 | Are you aged out of the “game” here in the U.S.?The game ever ends. Even if married 20 years with 4 kids you need to ‘game’ your wife a bit or her attraction fades. You also need to keep your games skills up by harmless social flirting and. chatting with people. This has lots of benefits but at least one is keeping spouse aware you could replace her if she leaves you, thus making her feel lucky to have you abs less likely to leave. Biology is a bitch. But if you mean when ti stop having short term relationships, that depends on you. Some time… | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 03:59 PM |
| 2 | I got a major fear of intimacy. Everything about seduction makes me uncomfortableMaybe look up and study attachment theory. There are books about this that may help. | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 02:15 PM |
| 6 | I just approached a woman in a bar for the first time in my life (unsuccessfully) and I'm close to crying at how proud I am with myselfYou should be proud! Way to go! Be aware this journey may take many many steps. Even handsome articulate men may have to ask dozens of women before a date or even a phone number. If you aren’t super handsome and socially skilled, don’t worry if your number to close ratio is much higher. It’s nothing to be worried about, it just is what it is. Look at yourself as a rare piece of art, that only a select handful of people can see the beauty of. Your job is to find those buyers. | /r/seduction | 06/08/21 11:01 PM |
| 9 | I KNOW I CAN DO IT, I JUST DON'T KNOW HOW TO START...I don’t think there is a better answer than ‘feel The fear and do it anyway.’ There is a book the same name if you want to check it out. I know that leaves out the how, but we don’t know how to reach into your Brain and fire the neurons to get you to complete the action. A website called good looking loser has some shame attacking exercises like asking 100 people for the time, to stair step you up to actually asking a girl out. Check it out. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 06/08/21 01:35 PM |
| 1 | permanent catch and release baitDude missed out. He should have gone for the two dates it seems. | /r/seduction | 04/08/21 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Mentally I feel like a creepy old guy finding 20-somethings attractive. Society tells me that I should find more age-appropriate attraction and that I am a "creep" for seeing younger women as attractive. How do I get over these society-imposed beliefs?Have you read Harry brownes how i found freedom in an unfree world? May help. Also helpful for you will be any of the works of Albert Ellis or david Burns plus the books no more mr nice guy and when I say no I feel guilty. Don’t let you own mind keep you in chains | /r/seduction | 04/08/21 08:21 PM |
| 1 | permanent catch and release baitGood one!!! You are a little firecracker, aren’t you? | /r/seduction | 04/08/21 01:53 PM |
| 2 | permanent catch and release baitWhat do you believe you are you required to do after two face to face dates? | /r/seduction | 03/08/21 10:34 AM |
| 7 | Should you push yourself to meet people in settings you're not as comfortable in?Yes, through practice I have learned to be more comfortable in social situations. Also struggled through dance classes till in became an intermediate and now enjoy it and have used it to meet new friends and dating partners. Have also learned that deep conversation is more meaningful when it occurs naturally as you get to know people. But that stage comes after a lot of social talk. I learned to love the process rather than rush it. | /r/seduction | 01/08/21 12:03 PM |
| 1 | I don't know how I feel about my date having slept with a 60 year old.OP, you have to share WHY she shared this information in order to get more helpful responses from the forums. Where you both sharing your entire sexual history as part of a get to know you exercise? Did you ask her what was the freakiest thing she’s done or what part of her dating history she’s most ashamed of? This all matters. Maybe she’s been or is a sugar baby and wants to have you as a FWB or LTR while she sleeps with older men for gifts and wants to know if you are down. Maybe she was emba… | /r/seduction | 01/08/21 11:41 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Your fear of being arrogant will hold you back. Give yourself permission to make mistakes and maybe go too far. Give yourself permission to be arrogant for a while. You probably won’t be, it will just feel like it. You can always dial back. Stretch your comfort zone with being over assertive, see the results good and bad (if any bad), and re calibrate. It’s like tacking on a ship. You can’t sail In a straight line but you zig and zag a bit. | /r/seduction | 01/08/21 11:26 AM |
| 3 | Pretty sure he wants sex, I like him but I’m not ready, next steps?I don’t know. Find as much happiness, peace and joy as you can, without deliberately harming others seems the best rule I have come across. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 01/08/21 01:26 AM |
| 3 | Pretty sure he wants sex, I like him but I’m not ready, next steps?Historically fewer men than women passed on their genes to the next generation. There is always much greater Darwinian selection on the xy than the xx in humans. The bottom tier of men just gets culled out. But for those men that make the cut, you get more variety and quantity than many kings ever had. On the other hand, there has never been more opportunity for men to improve themselves. If you aren’t swimming in opportunity for mating, time to get to work. | /r/seduction | 01/08/21 12:03 AM |
| 51 | Pretty sure he wants sex, I like him but I’m not ready, next steps?Are you seeing anyone else? Sleeping with anyone else? Even FWB? Here is a little secret: The thing is, guys hate being the potential provider that is forced to wait for sex while the woman has had ONS with others or is currently having a FWB while she scope out of the guy she’s dating but not fucking has cash worthy of an LTR. No man wants to feel he was chosen for his provider/daddy skills while others chosen for their hotness and held to different standards So the best thing to do is have sta… | /r/seduction | 31/07/21 08:14 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys act when a woman you are seeing disrespects you?Good! A win win. He’d be happier and without you! | /r/seduction | 31/07/21 02:32 PM |
| -1 | How do you guys act when a woman you are seeing disrespects you?Love the word choice tells for someone who hasn’t achieved much or knows much but loves to pretend they are tough: ‘bad fucking advice’, ‘childish’. Thanks for the laughs! | /r/seduction | 31/07/21 12:49 PM |
| 16 | How do you guys act when a woman you are seeing disrespects you?You should tell her in a calm manner and if she gets defensive just say- ‘we aren’t here to discuss this or argue about it. I am just telling you what is and is not acceptable behavior. ‘ the refuse to discuss it further. Meanwhile, plan for a graceful exit. Not saying it will come to that, but If she truly doesn’t respect you enough, your only real option is to leave quickly and gracefully. You are only as strong as your other options. If you are desperate for her approval, and truly believe yo… | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 03:17 PM |
| 4 | Are you still in the game after you got married?Yes, it’s like working out. If you get fit and when some athletic competition, that is great but you can lose all your gains if you don’t continue to work out. For most, it’s gaming your wife by remaining fit, staying well dressed and groomed, being a leader and generally taking care of your life and achieve life goals, as well as aggressively pursuing physical affection with your partner. You also may ‘social flirt’with her friends and family; and maybe even friends wives. by socially flirt I m… | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 02:45 PM |
| 6 | "Dont be friends with girls"Disagree. Your experience may vary and you have presented your position well and I believe you are sincere. But if I were a Machiavellian and loathed some guy with the heat of a thousand suns, I’d pray he needed your advice so I could watch him suffer. It also depends on what you mean by the word friend. If you define friend as some one to hang out with or go on adventures with but with no romantic or sexual potential, my experience has been that I am happier, have more fun, and have more women … | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 01:00 PM |
| 19 | "Dont be friends with girls"This! My experience matched yours - that focusing on having male friends and female romantic partners yielded more happiness and fun than having lots of female friends. | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 12:47 PM |
| 5 | I Am Worried I Will Never Meet SomeoneYou are 20! Your life as a man has just begun. Every year for the next 15 years it will get easier provided you get in shape, stay there and have a life. Maybe even for 20 or more years if super successful. Don’t get married till 30+ and then to someone 8-12 years junior. | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Flirtationship with alpha female coworkerThat’s good | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 11:30 AM |
| 4 | Flirtationship with alpha female coworkerSuggest sidestepping the problem by finding another venue for romantic partners than the work place. No one should have time for that kind of drama. Don’t you have other options? If not find some. | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 09:10 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Exactly! | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 09:06 AM |
| 13 | I'm REALLY struggling to escalate all the way to sex with a girl.Congratulations on finding someone you’d like to go farther with! There is so much potentially going on here it’s hard to know where to start. -maybe you have negative beliefs about sex, or your ability to have sex successfully, or her potential reaction to your inexperience. You could try challenging your thoughts - write out your negative irrational beliefs and substitute more positive more rational thoughts. For example your automatic negative thought could be ‘she will laugh at me for not ha… | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 12:29 AM |
| 12 | [deleted by user]How old are you? It can take a man a few years to build his body, his mind, his hobbies, his wardrobe and his career to a point where women see him as desirable. If on an upwards path of health and wealth, men become more valuable as they age (to a point). For many young men, they think their drought will last forever. Yet if they keep growing themselves, eventually they notice women are starting to chase after them. | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 08:06 PM |
| 2 | (Q) Developing your lifestyle - what is attractive?Thank you! | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 05:55 PM |
| 9 | What do you guys think of the book Models by Mark Manson?Yes! Both the books Models and NMMNG are considered by some in the community to be foundational. Models more directly linked to seduction, NMMNG to mental health/boundaries. | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 03:02 PM |
| 51 | (Q) Developing your lifestyle - what is attractive?I don’t think there is a definitive list of things. Also this is one area where your individual personality needs to shine through a bit, even at the cost of turning off some women but really scoring points with others who are more compatible with you. If there were general rules, they may include the observations that -overcoming danger: being good at things that could kill you (boxing, riding motorcycles) seem to elicit more attraction than things that wouldn’t, like knitting. This is because … | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 11:43 AM |
| 2 | (Q) Developing your lifestyle - what is attractive?Awesome ideas! | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 11:29 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]No need to be a help rejecting complainer, bro. I gave you straight solid advice you can improve your life, for free. Trying to get a canned approach that may have worked for others is a straight ticket to Incel land. Becoming a better, fitter, more fun, more interesting well rounded man and being in the present moment (vs being in your head) leads to greater seduction success than lines or openers. I don’t want you to fall into the trap of short term thinking. It won’t get you anywhere you want… | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 09:34 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]True! | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 04:12 PM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]Wanting a canned opener is a signal to you that your life is boring and likely no women of any quality would want to know about your sad sack existence. Work on getting a life that is full of friends, hobbies, exciting adventures, and a career that is going somewhere. Then chat up women who look interesting to you as you live your awesome life. You will naturally have openers based on what you are doing, what is going on around you and what you observe about her. Of course, it will take a while … | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 01:52 PM |
| 1 | What are some nice mixed gendered hobbies or activities?The men most successful with obtaining the sexual favors of women, or who have the most successful long term relationships with a woman, also have a lot of male friends. Do both. Or sell yourself short. Your choice. | /r/seduction | 26/07/21 08:59 PM |
| 1 | What are some nice mixed gendered hobbies or activities?Congratulations on learning a trade! That is awesome! I don’t know your full situation but I hope you can find hobbies, friends and a significant other that bring you some measure of joy and happiness. Sometimes we go through a spot in life where nothing feels right. I hope your journey through that space is short. Don’t know what would help, but don’t give up searching. | /r/seduction | 25/07/21 03:59 PM |
| 1 | What are some nice mixed gendered hobbies or activities?That belief that friendship is impossible is a perfect recipe for a life of sadness and despair. Maybe you have a binary definition of friendship where unless they are 100% self sacrificing for your benefit with no expectation of reciprocity, then they aren’t your friend. People can form friendships, it’s a real thing. | /r/seduction | 25/07/21 11:14 AM |
| 2 | Stop overthinking seductionYes, but also focus on getting fit, dressing well, and having a life plan. | /r/seduction | 23/07/21 11:08 AM |
| 1 | Really confused on how to understand the game.The best ROI is to become a better more interesting person. If you are muscled, have fun exciting hobbies, dress well, have clear career goals and are financially successful, all will be easier. | /r/seduction | 23/07/21 11:06 AM |
| 1 | The Negative Nancy SyndromeAwesome reply! | /r/seduction | 22/07/21 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Inviting a girl home for dinnerSeems overthinking. There is not clear right or wrong here. You do what you feel is best. It would be okay to ask her to help do something simple like cutting veggies. But you should have the steps all planned out, no asking her what temp and how long oven should be on. Have fun! | /r/seduction | 22/07/21 11:24 AM |
| 3 | Isn't "the game" just a way to manipulate someone?The word game is too abstract to really discuss at this level. What specifically are you having issues with doing or saying? What specific person gave specific advice that you feel is morally wrong? I have never read anything on this forum or others by an established author that suggests outright lying to a potential partner. I have read some statements that say even if you are looking for marriage, maybe hold that that thought back on the first date as it may scare off or look needy to a potent… | /r/seduction | 21/07/21 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell her she lost weight?She lost 30kg since age 14? Something doesn’t seem right. If true, wouldn’t mention it. Just seems a loser move. I mean would you like it if She said ‘wow you were such a stupid dickhead 8 years ago, nobody liked you and you were a scrawny little runt. I’m glad you have put in such effort that you actually have a discernible bicep now, your clothes don’t smell anymore, and you can string two sentences together coherently. Go you! | /r/seduction | 20/07/21 10:30 PM |
| 2 | I have never been on a date 24 maleThat’s rough, buddy. | /r/seduction | 20/07/21 01:29 AM |
| 3 | I have never been on a date 24 maleWhat’s your point? | /r/seduction | 20/07/21 01:22 AM |
| 5 | I have never been on a date 24 maleSorry you are experiencing these feelings. You aren’t alone. Many men are in your situation. You may be depressed and may need meds or therapy. No shame in it whatsoever ever. I also see no shame in discretely and safely visiting sex workers if the thought of never having sex before is so awful to you. The best thing about visiting a sex worker is you realize that while sex is important, it isn’t the most meaningful contributor to a happy life. Be good to yourself. Make male friends, find fun ho… | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 08:00 PM |
| 3 | Why do women often entertain conversations with guys that they are not interested in?Sometimes it’s Validation they are beautiful, admired and worth being chased after. But they may want your attention and admiration without being in a reciprocal relationship with you. Plus, while they may enjoy the attention, they may not have the communication skill to let you know where you stand in a way that won’t make you angry and withdraw. Or, they may sense you are fragile and don’t want to anger you and have you lash out at them. It’s no use being angry, it just a combination of how pe… | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 11:25 PM |
| 13 | How to re-attract someone who you used to talk toMove on. Find someone new. If the thought of that scares you, it’s a sign you are still too needy and will push her away. | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 11:18 PM |
| 2 | Gentlemen, I have a questionBring a book rather than listen to something on phone, and If you bring a book make it something men may be more likely to read. (Or, make it obviously female romance orientated.) In other words, give them hooks with bait- something they can comment on. This also works with sun hats, or unique costume jewelry. If you go to a sports bar, maybe have a team jersey or hat. Also wear dresses. | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 01:02 PM |
| 2 | Having trouble approaching womenPractice talking to everyone you meet, regardless of attraction, male and female, in any potential situation. Read books on conversation and body language. Take a toastmasters course, a class in improv, and dance lessons where you rotate partners. Read interesting books that are either classics or popular best sellers so you have something to talk about. Get some fun hobbies, with maybe a bit of danger/adventure. Travel widely if you can. Suddenly it will all click and you will feel like a natur… | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 12:56 PM |
| 2 | What to do if a girl DMs you but you are not interested?This is awesome! Now you know how women feel 90% of the time when some guy messages them. A great chance to develop empathy for them and feel less butt hurt the next time some woman rejects you. So how would you want to be turned down if situation was reversed? Do that. | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 12:15 PM |
| 3 | Critical Thinking; approach anxietyHow about seeing it as developing the mental and emotional capacity to choose the best, most fun option when feeling strong feelings like fear or rejection sensitivity. So maybe it’s learning that your flight or fight response has been triggered here, but is inappropriate to use as information in informing your decision. So maybe it ultimately calms you, but I think the fear never goes away, you just get to where you can choose to ignore even a strong fear response. | /r/seduction | 16/07/21 05:26 PM |
| 60 | [deleted by user]Depends on where you are, but yeah, check the website of local opera company. Call if you need to. Where I was there was an opera supporter circle where you give so much money Or so much time and got to attend functions to meet the cast. Associated with it was a singles offshoot that had mingles/meet and greet. Also meet up may have some. Also check out dance groups like tango or swing societies. Sometimes there is a imbalance of more women than men, sometimes the opposite. Get good and lots of … | /r/seduction | 16/07/21 03:58 PM |
| 4 | I'm afraid of being bad mouthed by women in their groupsBook Rx: -No more mr. Nice guy -feeling good handbook -how I learned to be free in an unfree world | /r/seduction | 14/07/21 09:32 PM |
| 1 | What are some nice mixed gendered hobbies or activities?I know you want a girlfriend but a man with no male friends is a loser and girls can smell the stink of loser a mile off. Wash that stink off. | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 09:32 AM |
| 6 | What are some nice mixed gendered hobbies or activities?Most men need more male friends anyway. So try boxing gym or mma gym for male friendship and fitness and try dancing classes to meet women. Then, of course, to clubs and show your moves. | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Going for it, even when it seems like it’s a bad time?No. | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 08:46 PM |
| 0 | The woman war fieldTell him no bitching, moaning, whining or complaining allowed until he has had over 1000 approaches and filled a notebook describing each one, including what he was wearing, what he did and said and and what the outcome was. He should also spend 30 minutes each week planning out major steps he will take to improve himself physically, emotionally, mentally, etc. if he fails to do this, piss on him. I mean literally piss on him. Then walk away and never mention his name again. | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 08:46 PM |
| 2 | Have three months to Self Improve. What would you do in my shoes?It’s probably all good. After I bulked a bit, I noticed that women I’d meet started taking opportunities to put their hands on my chest or shoulders in public, at bars, or on the dance floor. In addition to getting more kino, I also experienced more indicators of interest as a bigger guy than I did as a skinnier guy with abs. Your mileage may vary. I just know I wished I’d bulked up and maxed out my lifts earlier. I regret the time wasted being skinny/scrawny. The shoulders get more interest whe… | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 06:02 PM |
| 2 | Have three months to Self Improve. What would you do in my shoes?You have a great plan but I suggest instead of cutting you go on a strength (or maybe hypertrophic my) plan like starting strength. Your testosterone levels and muscle growth potential will never be higher. In many cases women like wide shoulders, broad chests and strong glutes much more than then washboard abs. Do you walk around all day without a shirt? The exception may be if you are a beach lifeguard or a chippendale style dancer, even then I have seen some beefy lifeguards pick up more wome… | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Should I give her some time or make my move ?Never wait, never give space. Waiting is for potato farmers. Be the hunter and take the shot that presents itself. If you wait for a better moment, another hunter will take your deer. | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Been out on three dates and no mention of sexHe is most likely genuinely interested in you and is moving at a pace comfortable to you. He may also be inexperienced and therefore ultra cautious/slow. I mean why would he continue to go out with you and make out if not interested? He may also be from a conservative upbringing, or be somewhat Demi sexual - as in needing to have an emotional connection before having sex. While it’s not popular to believe today, many woman and men have this type of orientation. I say just enjoy the slow build up… | /r/seduction | 11/07/21 07:31 AM |
| 4 | Good hobbies to meet women in their 20s?Some dance classes, but this varies a lot. You will have to explore many to find out prime ones. Dog rescue groups. Some church’s have single ministries. Again, have to put in the footwork. | /r/seduction | 09/07/21 08:44 PM |
| 1 | How do I spice up my sex life with my girlfriend?I hope for you that that one day you find a partner who you find so hot, you can’t wait to try new things with them; and if you’ve tried it before and didn’t like it, that you’d be willing and enthused to try it again just because it excites them and because exciting them excites you. I guess not everyone has had that experience and I feel sad for them. | /r/seduction | 08/07/21 12:33 AM |
| 1 | How do I spice up my sex life with my girlfriend?It is not outside the realm of possibility that she engages in a wider range of sexual activities when she is with partners she finds ‘hot’ in comparison with what she is willing to do with partners she finds ‘meh’. Humans have a tendency to lower their disgust threshold when highly aroused. Maybe OP isn’t hot enough to get her excited to try some things but others where. Of course it may be another reason, as say a boy came in her mouth without discussing it with her and she threw up and vowed … | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 11:34 PM |
| 1 | How do I spice up my sex life with my girlfriend?She might like doing this things with someone else, just not with the OP. | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 11:16 PM |
| 2 | 40 yo - fear of being aggresiveRead and implement when I say no I feel guilty, no more mr nice guy (glover) and models (last book by Mark Manson). | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 01:07 PM |
| -1 | How do I spice up my sex life with my girlfriend?Thank you. You have said something that - while an unpopular opinion - is what most guys would think in this situation. That is to say, she must have liked those guys more than me. True or not in this situation, it’s a common fear, and may have basis in reality. Also you mentioned the best way to change the situation for the better- which is to improve yourself and become more attractive to women in general. Having options decreases the sting and allow you to make better choices for yourself. Do… | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 01:04 PM |
| 2 | How do I spice up my sex life with my girlfriend?While hard to find, I think the book ‘sex god method’ by Daniel Rosen I think, would be helpful to read. You can find pdf on internet if you search hard enough. The main idea is that good sex isn’t about specific activities, but rather a set of intentions. Anyway, it helped me. I used to have a list of things I wanted to try. Still do but having an idea of the inner experience I am trying to crest in each of us has been more fulfilling. | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 11:15 AM |
| 6 | My sexual preferences make me incompatible with most women who are attracted to meWhat exactly makes you think you are submissive? That you liked to be tied up? Or you just want to lie there while partner does all the work? You want to be pegged? You want your partner to decide when where and how and how long to have sex? What exactly do you envision? If you just want to please your partner, and your partner says I want a dominant man who roughs me up, wouldn’t it be submissive to give her what she wants? | /r/seduction | 06/07/21 03:28 PM |
| 5 | Am I healthy enough? Is my health at risk? Is this weight attractive to women?Using a BMI chart you appear to be 5’7’. Purchase the book starting strength, start barbell strength training. Eating will be important to fuel gains. You are already short, don’t be weak as well. As a general rule, you can’t date a woman who can pick you up and carry you around under her arm like a defiant toddler. | /r/seduction | 05/07/21 08:30 PM |
| 6 | [deleted by user]For the average looking guy, the best approach is to become above average in multiple domains. Lift till you have more muscle than the average guy, learn to dress yourself better than the average guy, get more interesting hobbies than the average guy, etc. This isn’t hard because the average guy doesn’t lift at all, dresses like carp in cargo shorts and flip flops, and just plays Vedic game or watches sports rather than plays sports. | /r/seduction | 04/07/21 06:44 PM |
| 2 | So I was complimented a couple of times at a recent festival, what was I supposed to do?Take baby steps. Suggest first dropping the thought you wasted the opportunity. Instead mentally savor the experience of girls thinking you were cute enough to talk to first and be grateful you now know that you can get a girls attention. Second, suggest letting go of outcome dependence. These girls may have been high and just wanted to walk around to talk to cute guys. If you tried to force conversation and get digits or make out in an awkward way, you could ruin their and your vibe. Just be co… | /r/seduction | 04/07/21 12:56 PM |
| 2 | Tips on how to dance casually but with rhythmSalsa, hip hop, and swing dancing tends younger; tango, ballroom tend to be for older crowd. County/western varies wildly in age ranges depending on location and the specific bar. All will help you learn rhythm. Suggest trying them all that is easily accessible to you then really focus on one or two that you really like and the crowd is close to yourself age for a time till you get to an intermediate level. Branch out from there. Regularly lifting heavy barbells also helps. When partner dancing … | /r/seduction | 04/07/21 12:49 PM |
| 8 | How did you learn and master "Fuck it" attitude?Having multiple dimensions to your life - like a career, friends you hang out with and have adventures with, a gym, hobbies, an active mental life (like studying philosophy), and being truly happy with the man you are goes a long way towards changing your attitude while dating from a sense of neediness (gosh, I hope she likes me) to won of curiosity (she seems cool, I wonder if she’s good enough to hang with my awesome life?). | /r/seduction | 03/07/21 05:44 PM |
| 2 | is it too late for me ?Can be things as formal as attending toastmasters, or taking an improv class or informal like just making a point to talk to as many people (men and women) each day as you can. As a middle ground, just having hobbies and meeting people and talking to them works as well. Some problem are natural conversationalists and some people need a bit more help or maybe self study and deliberate practice. Also read books on this (like dale Carnegie’s old book or something more recent) and books on body lang… | /r/seduction | 02/07/21 01:24 AM |
| 2 | is it too late for me ?No, it’s not too late. Their is still hope. While I hope you can reduce the impact of porn on your life, I suggest you focus mostly on adding more good things/skills like lifting, dancing, some martial arts, deliberate social skill practice. Forgive yourself and move forward if you relapse with porn. It will be easier to give up once you have better relationships, look better, feel better. | /r/seduction | 01/07/21 11:58 PM |
| 1 | How do I kiss a girl I’m taller then?Do you own a couch? Sitting down may help. Better yet, have a Japanese them and sit on cushions on the floor. | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 01:23 PM |
| 72 | Virgin at 24Based on the limited information you have given, no one. Could ever possibly say anything to help you. It’s too difficult to know where the hang up is. So what books on game/seduction/self improvement have your already read, what have you learned and how have you already implemented this lessons? What are your lifts like? Body fat? What type of clothing do you wear etc? If it’s just social anxiety and fear of escalation you have to face that dragon. Take dancing lesson, join toastmasters, take a… | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 01:22 PM |
| 5 | Women Are PrudeYou have feedback that says what you are doing is not working. You can modify what you do, try again and further modify till you get success; or not modify and suffer the consequences. Complaining is doing the latter and wastes your time. | /r/seduction | 29/06/21 04:32 PM |
| 3 | Grad student hooking up with undergrads?!There is no such thing as an age gap. There is only the fact of whether or not you are attracted to them and they are attracted to you, and whether or not said attraction is legal in your jurisdiction. Of course, there may be consequences in that other people may- heaven forbid- talk about you behind your back or otherwise show some form of disapproval. But than happens to anyone who pursues what they want despite social conventions. I doubt in your case anyone would raise more than an eyebrow, … | /r/seduction | 29/06/21 02:41 PM |
| 2 | What is this alpha/beta thing?Different People use these terms to mean different things. It is more slang or jargon than a clearly defined term or concept. Stop wasting your time trying to pin down specific meanings for non scientific slang terms, that is so gamma bro. | /r/seduction | 29/06/21 11:22 AM |
| 1 | Daygame: Tried to do my 2nd approach. Failed. Feeling hopeless. Advice?You need practice. Keep a journal and track how many people, both men and women, you interact with on a daily basis. Take notes in whether or not the interaction was positive (as in both people seemed more energized, not whether you got a girls number). You just need to develop your social muscles. And yeah, learn to dance and go to dances. I like swing/lindy, tango, country western, salsa. Have those under your belt, you’ll never be lonely. | /r/seduction | 28/06/21 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Am I overthinking?Yes, you are overthinking! Keep lifting, complete education, get a good job, learn social skills (take toastmasters, learn several dancing styles, volunteer). You sexual market value will continue to rise and you will be better able to meet girls interested in you. | /r/seduction | 28/06/21 11:44 AM |
| 1 | How do I get over regret?Ask out 10 more. You can’t undo the past, but you can learn from it. | /r/seduction | 25/06/21 11:03 AM |
| 6 | Any tips for an older virgin on how to lose it-stops calling yourself a virgin. It’s a dumb label and thinking it is a thing you need to lose or else you are a loser causes you to seem desperate, which further decreases you chances of finding a sex partner. -what have you done to make yourself a better, more attractive person? Start doing those things like lifting, dressing better, having a plan for your life and career. -get make friends -get fun hobbies -talk to women you meet along the way -if you both seem interested, ask her out, and e… | /r/seduction | 24/06/21 01:19 PM |
| 2 | Dating a good friend or learn how to pick up women ?? (20M)Only you can decide. There are pros and cons of both paths. There are also paths you haven’t thought of, such as dating her casually and also be open to dating others. No matter which you chose their will be challenges, as that is the way of life. Offloading your decision making to strangers on the internet is probably the worst choice. But If you persist in getting advice, I’d say look into your heart and decide what choice you’d be happier making and would be most in line with your values. For… | /r/seduction | 23/06/21 04:18 PM |
| 36 | Lack of sexual confidence with girlsYou can’t solve this problem intellectually you have to experience trying, failing and adapting. You have to try to escalate (towards holding hand, first kiss, making out, to sex, whatever) with girls you are interested in and be okay with it being awkward you being rejected. There is no way around this. Feel the fear, do it anyway. Confidence comes only after you have experienced success after many failures. Good luck, now go out and fail often! | /r/seduction | 20/06/21 01:40 PM |
| 4 | When you set up a date for the weekend early in the week and the person doesn’t respond the day of date when you text “confirming our date today @ 7pm” how do you deal with that in the future so that you don’t waste your time in case the next person doesn’t show up?Sorry that happened! Don’t plan something for the weekend unless you have already met them in person a few times and determined there is chemistry on both sides. When first meeting someone, meet for coffee or drinks somewhere near other things you could either (1) bring them to to extend the date or (2) where you’d like to go without her. | /r/seduction | 18/06/21 08:18 PM |
| 4 | From Negative to PositiveIf I am bored with someone talking dumb negative stuff but I still want to keep the conversation going, I typically scan around to find something in the local shared environment and then comment on that. If that doesn’t work, then I walk away. You can do so politely by saying ‘goodness, look at the time. I just remembered I have to complete the tps reports by 9 tomorrow and I forgot a few things. It’s been great! Hope to catch you again soon!’, smile, then quickly exit. You aren’t her therapist,… | /r/seduction | 18/06/21 05:39 PM |
| -4 | Any “older” virgins here who successfully turned things around?There are also 26 year old female who haven’t had sex, however rare. Defining situations in terms of black and white/dichotomous thinking could be a habit of yours that is derailing your achieving certain goals. Just two examples are you thinking that there are no women over a certain age that are inexperienced as you, and your use of the dichotomous word virgin. Suggest getting books on CBT like Feeling Good by David Burns. | /r/seduction | 17/06/21 12:24 PM |
| 3 | Where can I learn the basics of good appearance?There are too many options to list. A few include Tanner Guzy and Antonio Centeno. Just google then. There are many many others. The guys above also focus on the why, in addition to the how. But they tend to have a market a bit older like 30-40 because that is when people have money. With all the free or inexpensive resources available today, your only limitation if’s your willingness to learn and implement. | /r/seduction | 16/06/21 02:01 PM |
| 15 | Thoughts on gaming as a fat guy.Don’t sit on the bench, get out and play the game. Fat guys get girls, ugly guys get girls, smelly homeless guys under the bridge gets girls. Sure, lift and lose weight, but start practicing today. Tomorrow never come. | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Girl I'm dating is dating someone else as wellWhat do you want to do? Do that. It sounds like you were building up the relationship in your mind as a possible girlfriend/boyfriend thing while she is in a phase of partying/hanging out and see where this goes/let’s just be casual. Maybe she is in the same phase with this other guy. Ie they just made out. Who knows. Either way she doesn’t owe you anything. -so you can ghost her -go out and tell her how seeing the Instagram you saw made you jealous. Could work! Probably not, probably will be aw… | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 11:43 AM |
| 1 | In your experience, how many people actually love deep conversation and thinking as much as feeling?Good luck! If you are happy with the results you are getting, keep doing what you are doing. If you aren’t satisfied, maybe consider alternate theories of who you are and what you are capable of. Consider that maybe there is no such thing as yourself, and your static concept of self may be limiting you. You probably aren’t one static self. The person you are, or at least the thoughts, words, feelings and behavior you exhibit will most likely change radically depending on context. You will be a d… | /r/seduction | 09/06/21 11:21 AM |
| 3 | In your experience, how many people actually love deep conversation and thinking as much as feeling?Why are you trying to have ‘deep’ conversations with women you want to date? Don’t you have guy friends you can do that with? | /r/seduction | 09/06/21 02:27 AM |
| 3 | If a girl in a relationship makes sexual comments to you, is it worth trying to cheat with her even tho it’s her that’s cheating on her boyfriend?Suggest looking at why you don’t have so many more and better options, and then working on those issues that are keeping you from being in such an abundance of possible sexual partners that sleeping with this woman who has a boyfriend isn’t worth your time. There are lots of women who are into short term relationships, or FWB relationships or who are openly polyamorous, or who are single and looking. So yeah, the choice is yours, no judgement. But if she will lie to her boyfriend about you, what… | /r/seduction | 07/06/21 06:45 PM |
| 4 | How do you deal with such power disadvantage?Everyone deals with reality in their own way. You aren’t the first to experience frustration at your life and you won’t be the last. Ultimately you must chose whether to tackle life and it’s complexities head in or stay in your dark cave and whimper and whine. You may leave your cave and be eaten by a bear. You may stay in your cave and live a long but miserable life. Nothing is guaranteed in this world, except that you will one day die. There are tons of way men deal with this fact. Some conque… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/06/21 11:26 AM |
| 1 | Dealing with a negative girlWhy would you want to? You aren’t her therapist. | /r/seduction | 31/05/21 10:36 PM |
| 4 | How do I fix being socially retarded?-some skills take effort. You can: -practice talking to strangers everywhere you go, keep it brief, positive and focused on you being interested in them not you telling them your story. -take group classes to learn social dancing, tango, swing, ballroom, or salsa. You will be forced to interact with women as you change partners but in a time limited way so it’s not awkward. -join toastmasters and achieve at least toastmaster rank (10 speeches). Also volunteer for various roles -take an improv cl… | /r/seduction | 27/05/21 10:23 PM |
| 9 | Date with a cougarI will let Benjamin Franklin speak to this: In all your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. You call this a Paradox, and demand my Reasons. They are these: Because as they have more Knowledge of the World and their Minds are better stor’d with Observations, their Conversation is more improving and more lastingly agreable. Because when Women cease to be handsome, they study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Men, they supply the Diminution of Beauty by an Augmentation of U… | /r/seduction | 27/05/21 10:17 PM |
| 2 | Why are so many of todays men so dumb and paying so much hard earned money into the escort/callgirl/sex work industry and letting these women make extravagant amounts of money....Why would anyone care enough to try and convince you otherwise? If you are happy, then stay as you are. If you are unhappy, consider your thoughts about right and wrong may reflect your culture and religion but may not reflect reality. Your beliefs you thought of as armor may instead be a straight jacket. You are trapped in a world of your own making that may not reflect reality. You ideas about life are just your ideas. Consider being flexible with your rules. Consider that others may make diff… | /r/seduction | 27/05/21 01:08 PM |
| 1 | Women are mean to me after I don’t do what they want?It means that humans in general use language to manipulate others. When the carrot didn’t work, they turn to the stick (ie saying words intended to make you feel fear, obligation or guilt). You may be interested in books like when I say no I feel guilty and no more mr nice guy. | /r/seduction | 26/05/21 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Should I be dating while working on becoming a High Value Man?This! I would have responded but this post above said it better than I could have. | /r/seduction | 25/05/21 03:44 PM |
| 4 | Had an amazing date with a girl, she kept saying how much she loved it and how we're so compatible and similar but she needs space. What do I do?I hope it works out for you two. In the meantime, cultivate a sense of abundance by building a really interesting and fulfilling life you could enjoy and be happy with even with no girlfriend at all. Also cultivate abundance by asking out lots of girls and going on dates with them. If you want to send her a photo of you took while hiking in the woods or at the opera or whatever and say- thought you’d find this interesting. See. She takes the offer to talk. If she doesn’t, it wasn’t meant to be. | /r/seduction | 25/05/21 03:31 PM |
| 2 | what are the qualities or characteristics of a girl with a rate of 9 or 10?It’s contextual. Your unreachable 10 may be an A list movie star’s 5. Overthinking this is probably not a good use of your time. Go lift, go do some approaches, have a beer with your friends and plan a fishing trip. | /r/seduction | 20/05/21 11:11 PM |
| 2 | How old is too old?Most 60 year old men who are wealthy and fit and dress well have moved beyond worrying if someone younger, fatter, or poorer thinks they are creepy or weird. Live your best life, not the life your family or society or government wants for you. Only you have your best interest at heart and somethings not even you due to the programming you received. Still it would be rare for a 60 year old to have the good to date a 20 year old, but you don’t want to be just average do you? | /r/seduction | 19/05/21 03:55 PM |
| 7 | 32M. Only attracted to BBW & bigger women but afraid to approach themYou have approach anxiety. It’s not an issue if you being skinny and the girl being a bbw or ssbbw; it’s an issue of you have anxiety over approaching and getting to know someone you are interested in. Google approach anxiety and find lots of articles in this. I like the program by a guy known as good looking loser. You will need to practice until you get comfortable with being uncomfortable. This skill will improve your life in more ways than just finding the fluffy woman of your dreams. | /r/seduction | 18/05/21 02:43 AM |
| 2 | Advice for late 40's men?Need to provide more details such abs or not, bald?, what town are you in, your specific location, height, weight. So much depends on your specific town and hour specific situation to get much helpful advice here. For example, If you are in a medium sized is town or suburb in the US and a single dad and your kids play sports, well the single moms is f kids who play the same sport are looking for fwb when their kids are with the ex. If that is your cup of tea. Also suggest getting friend to help … | /r/seduction | 16/05/21 11:28 AM |
| 4 | Advice for late 40's men?Tango, salsa, swing, ballroom, even country and western depending on where you live can be a great way to meet lots of women quickly. A man who can lead on the dance floor is a man who can lead in the bedroom. Plus, dance with her three or more times and you will have always ready touched her so much she is comfortable with it, making escalation seem more natural. | /r/seduction | 16/05/21 11:21 AM |
| 2 | Getting over college regrets and being a kissless virgin post collegeGood luck and best wishes! Sounds like you are working a good plan. Don’t let the past get you down. Some Men seem to come into their own in the mid to let 20’s or even beyond as long as they don’t give up on themselves. | /r/seduction | 15/05/21 10:18 PM |
| 2 | FOMO on casual sex at its easiest point to get in my life, but I don't know if that's what I wantIt’s a tough choice. No guarantees either way. Some men wait but find their partner had more partners than them and have difficulties accepting that fact. They seethe with resentment and undermine their marriage. Some men sleep around but then miss out on a long term relationship because they weren’t looking for one. I’d still lay odds on lowering your superego or loosening up on your moral convictions and engaging in at least a few short term or casual relationships before settling down would b… | /r/seduction | 15/05/21 10:16 PM |
| 2 | FOMO on casual sex at its easiest point to get in my life, but I don't know if that's what I wantIf you have strong religious or moral convictions against smashing before relationship or marriage, then don’t. But quite hanging out in bars and seek women likely to respond positively to waiting. But if you have doubts about whether you want to or not, if male, suggest erring on the side of smashing. As you get older, regrets about who you didn’t smash when they were clearly hot for you to do so will haunt you. If you don’t smash them, someone else will and soon. That next guy isn’t going to b… | /r/seduction | 15/05/21 07:11 PM |
| 10 | Getting over college regrets and being a kissless virgin post collegeFirst, know you are not alone in this predicament. There are many men and women who didn’t date much or at all in college, or kiss someone or had sex. Percentages vary by decade and school but don’t focus on the percent or other false comparisons. All that matter is that you know you aren’t some unique snowflake. Second, get to work improving yourself in body, mind, and spirit. stop feeling sorry for yourself and get to doing the work. As a man, your brain isn’t there to Analyze your feelings or… | /r/seduction | 15/05/21 06:59 PM |
| 10 | Women say they don't feel a romantic connection. What am I doing wrong?Without knowing more about you and what you are doing it’s hard to say. What exactly do you be bring to the table that would incentivize a woman to be more than ‘friends’? What are your stats -age weight height, etc. What are your lifts like? Can you deadlift 2x and bench body weight for more than one rep and do 10 chin ups? If not start working on these things and don’t worry about women till you are there. Do you shower less than once a day or brush teeth less than 2x? Do you follow a few male… | /r/seduction | 12/05/21 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Flirted with her in front of bfWhy do you care that your response to the bf was lame? Was he the target of your seduction? | /r/seduction | 12/05/21 01:36 AM |
| 2 | I got banned from relationship advice just because I used the term "Alpha/Beta"Bummer. Some people are help rejecting complainers and can’t be helped. Hope you are more successful in bringing some people a little closer to reality. Suggest you may have better uses for your time than red-pilling the normies/betas like lifting, stacking cash and smashing. But if you must bring the gospel to the unwashed Heathens, then suggest not using jargon terms like red pill, beta, and alpha and so forth. Use language that is plain and devoid of manosphere jargon. Then your observations … | /r/TheRedPill | 10/05/21 08:12 PM |
| 1 | What’s the best way to ‘recharge’ fastest in between roundsIs this with the same girl or a different girl that same day? And how much time between sessions am would you normally have? For example, If my Friday night date stayed over till 10am Saturday and we parted right after a bang, and My Saturday afternoon date shows up at 2 pm and I wanted to start with a bang, then I’d drink water, have a big snack, shower and take a nap. If it’s the same girl, same night, then what is the purpose? Is she desiring me again quickly? Then she better get that mouth t… | /r/seduction | 09/05/21 09:30 PM |
| 2 | Have you ever gotten with someone who initially rejected you after a date?Yes. But doesn’t seem like a good idea. | /r/seduction | 07/05/21 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever gotten with someone who initially rejected you after a date?Yes. You | /r/seduction | 07/05/21 01:18 AM |
| 8 | What you say when people ask you if you have a girlfriend?No, not low status unless you give them your life story in a way that makes you sound like a sad sack loser. Just say, not committed to any one girl right now as I am focused on work and getting settled in my new apartment. Thanks for asking! | /r/seduction | 02/05/21 11:59 AM |
| 3 | Would you guys say it's ok to pickup girls at work if you feel attraction.Risky, but I’d do it. The problem is if she complains to your management it could cost you your job. Best to keep work and romance separate. Nonetheless you only live once. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 30/04/21 11:17 AM |
| 1 | Nice guy vs being kindYes. More luck with Amazon than b&n. Also Purchase book called starting strength or the barbell prescription. | /r/seduction | 27/04/21 11:39 PM |
| 6 | Nice guy vs being kindNo more mr nice guy as recommend is a great self help book. May also read ‘when I say no I feel guilty’ and ‘the manipulated man’. Maybe ‘way of superior man’ and book of pook. Take only what is useful, discard the rest. Also start barbell training and maybe join a gym where you can do heavy bag work. Learning to move your body against resistance trains you mentally as well as physically. | /r/seduction | 27/04/21 08:02 PM |
| 3 | How have you guys overcome/deal with approach anxiety?For me personally, 1) Making a point to chat up everyone I can whoever I am 2) taking social dance group classes where you rotate partners frequently 3) doing cognitive behavioral therapy exercises in a journal before going out (from feeling good by David Burns) | /r/seduction | 18/04/21 03:48 AM |
| 18 | Does having multiple sexual partners make it it difficult to settle down with someone?For some yes, for others no. I have seen ‘research’ that purports to show that the more partners a women has prior to marriage, the greater risk of that relationship ending in divorce. The same doesn’t seem to hold true for men. I can’t vouch for the methodological rigor of the study, but it seems directionally true based in my own biases real life observations. But I don’t know if that is simply a correlation with another variable. For example, women who have many partners may be more assertive… | /r/seduction | 15/04/21 01:26 PM |
| 10 | Misconceptions about Having HobbiesThanks! But if you can’t have a physical hobby, I totally agree with you that if you play war hammer, be proud of it and find a way to sell it to your date in a way that fosters further communication about the importance of staying in contact with friends or some other element she can relate to. My partner and I met at a dance, then I took her hiking and biking a lot, but she also joined my D&D group. That group had a few women in it and it became more of a social gathering (cooking dinner, drin… | /r/seduction | 14/04/21 02:06 PM |
| 104 | Misconceptions about Having HobbiesGreat post. Reminds me of the song ‘it ain’t what you do it’s the way that you do it, it ain’t what you say it’s the way that you say it, that’s what gets results’ On the other hand, I think many men’s happiness, health and ability to attract women might improve if they picked hobbies in ways that rounded them out. A programmer who plays games as a hobby isn’t as interesting or physically fit as a programmer who wrestles. An Olympic level gymnast who plays Warhammer 40k would be awesome! So to t… | /r/seduction | 14/04/21 12:19 PM |
| 2 | If girls can actually "smell" fakers, where is the the window for improvement?Thank you for the kind words! I have had some issues in my life being overly analytical and over logical. When I see people stumbling into the same trap, I feel an urge to say something to help them along as others did for me. We are all this together. | /r/seduction | 13/04/21 06:11 PM |
| 3 | If girls can actually "smell" fakers, where is the the window for improvement?Words are just signposts to actions and are not accurate representations of reality. Think of pua advice more like poetry than a physics book. Maybe read the book ‘feel the fear and do it anyway. ‘ use the title as your mantra and model for overcoming approach anxiety. | /r/seduction | 10/04/21 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Basically got called boring today.Well, whatever works for you (ie you find fun) is what you should do. Martial arts sounds great. I’ve run 5ks, 10ks and marathons. I wish now I had spent all that time I spent running on lifting barbells and boxing. Much better ROI for health and interest from women, in my experience at least. Whatever you do have fun! | /r/seduction | 10/04/21 02:55 AM |
| 2 | Basically got called boring today.Could you take this as a clue you need to find hobbies and make male friends to share those hobbies with? If you went rock climbing last weekend with the guys and you could tell the story about how one of your crew nearly died because xyz but you saved them by doing abc, you wouldn’t be seen as boring. You could also work for a dog rescue. Really anything you are passionate about would work. Well, maybe not fortnite, something outside where you interact with people, animals or nature. Girls give… | /r/seduction | 09/04/21 07:07 PM |
| 2 | Eye contact!Sometimes it’s helpful to look at one ear, or focus on one pupil to show them you are focused on them but to give you a psychological break. You can look at one pupil or eye and try and see how many colors their eyes have. | /r/seduction | 08/04/21 03:03 PM |
| 2 | I am nearly 30 years old, have autism, and never been on a date. Women block me when they learn about my inexperience. What can I do to improve my dating chances?Good advice! | /r/seduction | 08/04/21 12:48 PM |
| 3 | I am nearly 30 years old, have autism, and never been on a date. Women block me when they learn about my inexperience. What can I do to improve my dating chances?If the concrete definition of your standard includes Victoria secrets model looks AND brain surgeon, you may be reaching. How about ‘I can get hard if she grabs my cock and can orgasm while shagging her without having to put a bag over her head plus I don’t feel like killing myself in despair every time she talks about her day.’? That might be what some people can hope for. | /r/seduction | 07/04/21 08:49 PM |
| 3 | I am nearly 30 years old, have autism, and never been on a date. Women block me when they learn about my inexperience. What can I do to improve my dating chances?Lots of good advice already here - lift, become a better person in all ways you can, not give up hope, etc. but I wonder if your expectations are also too high. You want someone you are physically and mentally attracted to. That is great but what if your standards for who you let yourself feel attraction too are impossibly high given your circumstances? ultimately you can only get with someone at a similar level as you or lower. | /r/seduction | 07/04/21 06:53 PM |
| 3 | Why the requirement of seduction?Yeah, you have to play the game. But many people make mistakes in their approach to learning the game. For example, in soccer for kids, if you coach, So many kids want to learn some funky special play or fancy ball skills. But in reality, most need to work on basic cardiovascular endurance, ability to focus for the length of the game, positive mental attitude, ability to receive and react to coaching feedback in a helpful way, learn to predict where the ball will be next and be there, and master… | /r/seduction | 07/04/21 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Why the requirement of seduction?I love the term self evolution. But yeah, being the best you that you can be seems to be a solution for a lot of men’s problems. Refusal to work on improving looks, health, career, social skills, hobbies seems to be a source of much pain and dissatisfaction. | /r/seduction | 07/04/21 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Sperglord needing a little bit of helpI have never been formally diagnosed but myself and others have wondered if I am on the spectrum. Based on my experience and observations I suggest you try some or all of the following issues in rough order: 1) learn social dancing. Take lots of classes in swing, salsa, tango, ballroom, or country and western depending on factors of availability, size of committee, M to F ratio, friendliness, and least of all, whether or not you like the music. Social dancing teaches many skills helpful to build… | /r/seduction | 07/04/21 02:51 PM |
| 1 | If you've bought into the COVID theater you aren't a confident manThis is an interesting idea that I have mixed thoughts about. I agree that being overly fearful is a sign of low confidence, but reasonable people can disagree about what is overly fearful versus appropriately cautious given your unique risk profile and circumstances. Also disagree with the idea that not calling out obvious contradictory or foolish thinking exposes lack of confidence. The most confident and successful people I know don’t go around berating minimum wagers about the stores mask po… | /r/seduction | 06/04/21 07:03 PM |
| 2 | Have you left a GOOD job/career to be a womanizer?Yes, this is a decision you need to make on your own. I think it will work out with a set of positives and negatives just like any decision. You are smart enough to make the decision that will most likely work out for the best for you. Have fun and enjoy life no matter which path you take! Please post field reports! | /r/seduction | 03/04/21 09:57 AM |
| 2 | Have you left a GOOD job/career to be a womanizer?There is no answer to this. You are choosing between various baskets of good, each with trade offs and varying levels of risks. You have your own preferences and risk profile unique to you. There are lots of questions you need to ask yourself and also realize your answer may change with time and experience. For example, After a decade or more of racking up notch counts, Do you ultimately want to get married? Have kids? So yeah, racking up notches is great fun. But for some people it gets old aft… | /r/seduction | 02/04/21 03:39 PM |
| 7 | Another man who is yet to learn some red pill truthsI think everyone can take steps to have the best life possible for them. Most every man Has room for improvement. So, What are you doing to improve yourself? If you chase excellence in as many areas of your life as you can, you increase your happiness regardless of what spouse does or not do. Also it increases chance she may start acting more like you desire, but no guarantees. -are you maximizing physical health? Seeing an endocrinologist to see what steps, like supplemental Testosterone, could… | /r/MGTOW2 | 25/03/21 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Have any of you ever tried using the "The 36 Questions That Lead to Love" on a date?This seems like a good idea. | /r/seduction | 23/03/21 06:47 PM |
| -6 | Blew up at wife on Saturday. Thinking nice guy behaviors sunk me here.Everyone makes mistakes. So you overreacted? So what? It will blow over as long as you focus on maintaining frame and chasing excellence. If it doesn’t blow ever and you have good frame and have chased excellence, you will replace her shortly if you want or need to. Maybe look at your need for reassurance from Redditor and your tendency to predict catastrophe over every small thing. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/03/21 04:32 PM |
| 2 | No one is going to feel sorry for youAgree with Karisma here. 27 is where some guys start to shine. Many women like men who are a few years or many years older, and who have some financial success and experience in life. Men’s dating market value can improve dramatically during 25-35. Some even up to 40’s. If you put in the work, and chase excellence in fitness, dressing well, career, hobbies and friends, finding women to date won’t be such an issue anymore. I know men and women who have had less sexual experience than you at your … | /r/seduction | 22/03/21 03:07 PM |
| 6 | No one is going to feel sorry for youIf you are contemplating suicide by shooting your self, as references in your post, please seek help. This may be a sign of depression. I believe depression can be treated through a combination of therapy (I like a CBT approach) and behavior modifications like ex revise, diet, sunlight, nature time, etc). Also suggest getting your testosterone levels checked. Some people experience low t even in their 20’s. Some experience depressive symptoms even at low end of normal and experience positive moo… | /r/seduction | 22/03/21 11:41 AM |
| 1 | Becoming Emotionally Numb/Emotionally DistantTotally support vitamin d supplementation as well as other lifestyle changes (strength training, nutrition, supplements (vit d, zinc, mag), get T levels checked, get sunlight, develop competence in a few masculine hobbies, time with male friends on adventure, goal setting and achieving) as the primary things to focus on as a man when you. I also agree that some therapist do encourage victim behaviors and you have to be aware it could be a trap. However not all therapist do. Suggest checking out … | /r/TheRedPill | 17/03/21 02:43 PM |
| 3 | How do you keep morale up?Suggest (1) working on other wins, like losing some fat, building some muscle (starting strength book), getting ahead in your career, getting better at some hobbies (soccer, guitar, drawing, whatever), getting some good male friend to hang with. It’s rare that all areas of life are working 100% for you. If you have losing streaks in dating having winning streaks going on in something else can help (2) see if there are improvements you can make in game, such as dressing better, vocal tonality, ey… | /r/seduction | 11/03/21 03:18 PM |
| 1 | KILLING APPROACH ANXIETY BY APPROACHINGGood for you for taking a chance! | /r/seduction | 21/02/21 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Going to Athens for an internship. What are the chances of getting laid as an overweight but confident and cute guy.Suggest you Do a Lewin force field analysis on your issue. Being overweight dramatically lowers the pool of women interested so is a restraining factor. However, being confident and outgoing and introducing yourself to lots of women, having good game, having a social circle/social proof, having money, looking sharply dressed will all be driving forces. So long term, lose fat gain muscle. Short term invest in good well fitted clothing. Medium term look at each interaction as practice and get used… | /r/seduction | 18/02/21 02:55 PM |
| 43 | 25M I am going to lose my virginity this week to an escortBest wishes! I would suggest you consider avoiding telling people in real life you are doing this unless you are super close and trust them with your life. People have weird feelings about sex work or seeing sex workers. Also, don’t feel guilty or shameful. I had a retired professor once share that going to a brothel fir their first time was something that lots of young men did in his day. | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 05:21 PM |
| 9 | Fake it till you make it or just be yourself?I think of it as practicing being my best possible self. Within us are multiple possibilities, but not infinite possibilities. I’ll never be 6 foot, but I can practice standing taller and can start working out. My core personality probably won’t change, but I can deliberately practice being my Most confident self when meeting people. It’s kinda like playing a part in a theater production where you try and find those parts of yourself that are congruent with the character you portray, and highlig… | /r/seduction | 25/01/21 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Am I too skinny for a male my height?My thoughts about your size don’t matter. If you are happy where you are, stay where you are. I hang around muscle heads at the gym so to me you look scrawny compared to some of them and compared to what your muscular potential is if you pushed it. You probably wouldn’t look scrawny to the average fat joe or Jane who doesn’t lift 4-5x week and buy gallons of whey protein. In fact you look more athletic than most people. It all depends on your reference group and what you want. I am a swole is th… | /r/seduction | 17/01/21 06:03 PM |
| 2 | Am I too skinny for a male my height?Maybe skinny fat? Best bet is to train for more muscle mass and strength. Don’t let your love handles get any bigger. Maybe track calories so you are in mild surplus (200-500 cals) for growth. Prioritize protein maybe 1g per pound bw. Shoot for 220-230 pounds bw at 18% body fat. Cut for summer to 15% bf. Hard but doable. | /r/seduction | 17/01/21 03:02 PM |
| 7 | Girls that return to your life.Use them as practice for your kinky sex moves. Plow forward relentlessly towards sex, and ever more kinky sex until they eject themselves. Great way to learn what you like, have lots of fin, and practice plowing through to rejection. You will learn how many women are into far kinkier things than you ever dreamed of. Enjoy! | /r/seduction | 06/01/21 09:56 PM |
| 21 | Post COVID pickup trend?Yes, pent up demand for in person connection. Get ready! | /r/seduction | 04/01/21 05:19 PM |
| 26 | How do I respond to shit tests and insults?How a about Fractionation:push pull - Ie - ‘I find your lack of social grace so endearing.’ The idea is to show 1) her thoughts don’t really impact your mood. Your reality and mood are far too strong for any thing she can say or think to change 2) quick wit but in a way that rid both positive abs negative at the same time. If all positive you some across as weak simp willing to take a beating for female attention. All negative then you are just but hurt and have demonstrated her thoughts and wor… | /r/seduction | 31/12/20 05:06 PM |
| 3 | Whats your routine for getting into a mindset for pickingup?Yeah, affirmations, self talk, practice saying some stuff out loud, maybe journaling and identifying any major limiting beliefs, mentally prepping self to have fun even if I don’t get numbers/meet someone/smash. Usually meet up with wing man. Set some intentions for the night (meet nee people, bring up interesting stories, find cool things about others). Of course, day is better if I lifted or had other outside time. | /r/seduction | 30/12/20 10:52 AM |
| 13 | If you want to know her REAL sexual history...Some people believe, rightly or wrongly, that girls with high body counts are less likely to pair bond well, less likely to be happy, more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat, more likely to have major psychological issues such as major depression or anxiety. For someone who still have dreams or fantasies of a happy life with children and their biological mother then high body count women are theoretically a poorer bet. All things considered, even highly confident men will prefer younge… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/12/20 12:48 AM |
| 1 | How important is it to be able to defend yourself and your partner under the threat of violence?Odd thoughts happen to many people, including me. By odd I mean disproportionate to the larger reality we live in. Chances are if you live in a modern western country you won’t have to defend yourself. You are statistically more likely to commit suicide or die in an accident than to be killed by someone else. So don’t feel alone, but do seek help or develop a practice (journaling/meditation) to help calm your mind. Sometimes we have a general anxiety lurking in our unconsciousg that looks for a … | /r/seduction | 03/12/20 02:53 PM |
| 12 | How important is it to be able to defend yourself and your partner under the threat of violence?This seems like a weird mental obsession rather than a serious concern. Maybe a therapist would be of more help to discover why you have this oddly specific thought and what you could do about it. But all things considered, more muscle mass helps, as does knowing a fighting sport like boxing or bjj. Also getting a concealed carry license, a gun and training. Also get a better job so you can afford to visit locations were you are less likely to be jumped and stop dating skanks with ex con boyfrie… | /r/seduction | 02/12/20 08:50 PM |
| 12 | Tips on attracting men for women?Gaze at his eyes a bit longer than normal, then glance away. Have an open body position(arms or legs bit crossed). Smile at him then look away. When he approaches act interested in what he has to say. These should be fairly natural behaviors for you if you find someone you are interested in. | /r/seduction | 23/11/20 12:09 AM |
| 1 | Does therapy really work?Yes! Therapy can work. Sometimes people have a mismatch with the therapist or with the type of therapy so don’t give up if you need to try a few therapists/modalities. Some people need combo therapy and meds. So they see a psychiatrist for meds and a counselor/therapist for talk therapy/Cognitive Behavior therapy or what have you. Also some people need to just live a healthier lifestyle- regular sleep schedule, exercise, sunlight, nature time, etc. So you are not the only person to Have your iss… | /r/seduction | 22/11/20 07:06 AM |
| 6 | If a person has never dated until 18+ or 20+ how can you expect him to "catch up"Why of all things are you worried about hand waved made in the spur of the moment statistics? It’s legit advice. Being a help rejecting complainer is your deeper issue. | /r/seduction | 20/11/20 01:43 PM |
| 1 | How to not despise women?You are very blessed to have such a wonderful wife and such a great life! Hope the OP can find the same. | /r/seduction | 18/11/20 01:33 PM |
| 1 | How to not despise women?I am totally approving of marriage and life long commitment. I just think that too many men think that their happiness/success/meaning/purpose/salvation is dependent on getting and keeping a girlfriend/wife. For many men, focusing on having a full life of career success, hobbies, having close male friends you share those hobbies with, and self development (lifting/investment/side business) will allow them to have all the prior, and find a girlfriend/wife as well. Prioritizing a romantic relation… | /r/seduction | 17/11/20 03:44 PM |
| 1 | How to not despise women?I am happy for your having a lovely wife of 38 years. I hope you two have many happy years ahead of you. I am sure that if, god forbid, you passed before her that you would not want her to die of grief and loneliness. You want her to have friends and hobbies so that you aren’t the only thing in her life bringing her happiness. Same for you. If she became depressed, and then you became depressed because she was the only positive thing in your life, you’d both be in trouble. She wants you to be so… | /r/seduction | 16/11/20 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Theory Tuesday Megathread: Is Mating a Zero Sum Game?Yes! Is your reality bitter? | /r/TheRedPill | 15/11/20 11:13 PM |
| 9 | How to not despise women?For me it was realizing that I was placing my hopes for happiness on my success with women. Or particularly in finding one women who would solve all my emotional needs especially those not fulfilled by my mother. Once I realized the reality of what an adult women can provide, and the reality of a women’s life (short fertility span, generally more emotional) and the reality of a women’s evolutionary programming (hyper gamy and need for a providers help), I stopped looking for them to be other tha… | /r/seduction | 08/11/20 01:44 AM |
| 1 | How to date a pickup artist?I have no idea what percent of men start reading and practicing PUA solely for the purpose of finding a relationship. I would believe it to be a larger percent than some lifestyle long term PUAs think, and the percent chance increases as the person ages. It’s just self improvement. Some direct their efforts to just getting laid by strangers on the regular, some hunt for something else. | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 07:41 PM |
| 5 | How to date a pickup artist?If he is into self improvement and also wants a relationship, then you may have hit a goldmine. He is willing to work at being successful in terms of fitness finances and love. Sounds like a winner. The risk is that he may have become addicted to the chase, and validation from new sexual conquests. Only time will tell. Many guys get into seduction because they wanted a relationship, children and the white picket fence but couldn’t even get a girls phone number, not because they wanted to be a li… | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Theory Tuesday Megathread: Is Mating a Zero Sum Game?I believe you mean well travelboii, and I believe the OP does too. It still sounds bitter, and I believe ultimately self defeating to look at most transactions in life as win lose. And I would and do feel sad for someone who sees life in that limited way. OP’s position as I see it has a long and storied history - war of the sexes stuff can be seen in Ovid for example. But not every meaningful discussion can be limited to the rules of formal logic as expressed by the most excellent Irving Copi in… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/11/20 03:01 PM |
| 3 | Dating post mortems. Have you ever asked a girl what went wrong?Asking you ex will rarely get an honest answer that you can use to improve yourself (I.e you were such an indecisive wimp and I just want someone to take charge and I got bored with waiting for you to grow a pair). You are more likely to get an answer that sends you down the wrong path (I.e you are sweet and kind, just continue being yourself and you will find someone). | /r/seduction | 02/11/20 03:52 PM |
| 2 | On sense of humourHow would you approach learning to draw or drive a car? Would you expect to just be able to do it naturally? Or would you hire tutors, read books, watch tutorials and practice practice practice? Humor can be seen as a skill or an art you can learn. | /r/seduction | 02/11/20 12:11 PM |
| 1 | How to be fake-drink?Drink tonic water? Looks like a gin and tonic. Just tell the bartender you are the DD or are recovering or cutting or whatever and pay what a full drink would cost and tip. No one but the bartender will know. For round two tell bartender ‘another one please’. | /r/seduction | 02/11/20 12:06 PM |
| 1 | Addicted to sexual validation (idk If this is the right place idk if anywhere is)Totally hear you! I can be in a great relationship but always have the craving for more more! I don’t think it goes away but you can see the roots of it with a good therapist (or maybe journaling) and it becomes less compulsive. I mean you still feel the urge, but you see it rise in you and you know that getting this next women won’t put it to rest so step back and decide before acting if continuing the seduction is worth it or not. | /r/seduction | 31/10/20 01:56 AM |
| 1 | How many shittests can you fail in general?I don’t think there is a rule for this. Like you can’t say, three strikes and you are out. It depends on hundreds of factors, including her initial attraction to you, her other options, if her friends hm think you are an idiot, etc. So suggest not keeping a mental count of what you deem a shit test and instead work a flirty vibe as one poster suggested. | /r/seduction | 31/10/20 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Theory Tuesday Megathread: Is Mating a Zero Sum Game?Sounds bitter. Have you never engaged in any win win transaction in your life? That would be sad. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/10/20 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Theory Tuesday Megathread: Is Mating a Zero Sum Game?Addendum: anyone who wanted to level up, I would gladly help in any way I could. So I don’t see how those who want more out of life could be negatively impacted by me leveling up. I’d just be another resource to help them. So I really don’t see it helpful to look at it as zero sum. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/10/20 10:04 PM |
| 19 | Theory Tuesday Megathread: Is Mating a Zero Sum Game?Maybe, but how does seeing it as a zero sum game help you? If I improve myself and attract a partner I really like, who loses exactly? There are so many messed up people out there I have decided to not look in the rear view mirror anymore. Their happiness level is probably not decreased in any way because my happiness level has increased. I win, my partner wins, the losers who make no effort were going to be trapped at a low level regardless. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/10/20 03:14 PM |
| 9 | This isn’t a rant just an homest questionSome people do start out ahead in life. They may be taller, more naturally muscular, have two loving and rich parents. So what? You are where you are. Your only competition is the person you were yesterday. Most of the joy in self improvement comes from small gains earned through daily practice and discipline. If I earn an extra $1000 it feels as good to me as Bill Gates would feel earning an extra 100 million. If I successfully pick up an ever age looking girl it probably feels as good to me as… | /r/seduction | 26/10/20 11:40 AM |
| 12 | Forget all the womenWould this be a false dichotomy? You have to put yourself first, focus on your career, but also be willing to take risks if meeting women and asking them out. You can’t skip either part. | /r/seduction | 16/10/20 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Saying only what's necessaryHer romantic situation with anyone else is her concern, not yours. She should bring it up, not you. If you worry about being lead on, that she is not open to a relationship because she has a ‘boyfriend’ you are over investing in emotions or money too early. | /r/seduction | 16/10/20 03:16 PM |
| 17 | Best way to ask a guy if he wants to hookup again?Text him, explain your absence, suggest Watching show on Netflix together. You can bring the beer if he has the place. Show up. Sex will happen. | /r/seduction | 16/10/20 03:02 PM |
| 2 | I constantly let opportunities with girls slip past me bcuz I’m to scared of failingYou never get over the fear of approaching and the pain of rejection you just get more used to it. You may need to collect failures. That is, the win is not a phone number or date, the win is just starting the conversation. Set a goal of 1 start a day. Every week up it 1. By the time you talk to 10 new women a day- regardless of outcome- your confidence will improve. | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 05:46 PM |
| 7 | Top 3 Martial Arts for physical confidence, beginnersSuggest one also consider a good boxing gym. Depending on your location it may be easier to find. | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 12:51 PM |
| 2 | What should one do if the girl seems eager to speak about contentious topics (politics, religion, social issues)?I have strong opinions too and I compulsively share them. I have realized the benefit to me was low and the cost was high. I am deciding to be more circumspect about sharing my political or religious beliefs and only doing so with people who are open minded, well read and grounded and who enjoy a good discussion without having to win and who won’t think I am a n evil loser asshole because I disagree with them. Such people are rare and I haven’t found one woman yet who met the criteria. | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 03:46 AM |
| 7 | What should one do if the girl seems eager to speak about contentious topics (politics, religion, social issues)?It’s a trap! Don’t engage her as you would in a formal debate. Instead, make comments about her passion for the subject. Ask her ‘when’ she started feeling this way. Did she not have an opinion at some point and then found one? Did she change her mind from another position? Make it light hearted as if it truly doesn’t matter to you who she votes for but you are genuinely curious as to why she feels so strongly about it. If this doesn’t work, then say ‘boring’ in a loud voice and bring up somethi… | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 02:20 AM |
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