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It’s not about who participates, the people you’re referring to have nothing to do with RP beliefs. Your essentially judging them and condoning their lifestyle. Which is fine if you have constructive ideas to support them, outside of taking away welfare. But that wouldn’t relate to this RP space either.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 08:36 PM
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This isn’t just a black problem it’s a low income problem. The trailer park is the white equivalent of the ghetto with the same problems. I’m not sure this group is the best place to have a meaningful discussion about this topic.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 07:42 PM
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You say at one point there have been ‘sus’ things that happened in your relationship but also you’re super close and tell each other everything. Listen to your gut, if something feels off then it probably is. It sounds like you don’t completely trust him and you can’t grow a relationship without trust. I don’t know that you’re being gaslit but at some point if you don’t trust him you don’t have to give him the benefit of the doubt. You have to decide what you’re willing to live with.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 04:40 PM
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Honestly it sounds like getting/ keeping their attention isn’t the problem, it’s the quality of these men. Are you just going by looks and/ or money? I don’t have any great resources to suggest but there is a lot of info out there about choosing the right people for the right reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 11:01 PM
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I’m also 40f, it is hard out there. All you’re saying about yourself is that you’re attractive. It takes more than that to get and keep the attention of a quality man. It helps to be very clear on what you want and won’t except in a man. Don’t go on dates just to go. You could consider someone in their mid to late thirties who has never been married but is secure and stable. Don’t just assume they’re afraid of commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 08:40 PM
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What about couples therapy? Even if he went to therapy they may not focus on the issues that concern you. Also as you mentioned you have room to improve too. Offering to do it together might make more sense.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 05:11 PM
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That’s great that’s your reality. But you have to consider that won’t apply to everyone. For example OP seems to be struggling with a lot of issues and the apps may provide her opportunities to get out and date a variety of men. I find it hard to believe there are no HVM on any app ever. That’s a statement that can’t be proven.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 02:50 PM
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Have you ever used dating apps? For a lot of people they work well and they find someone to marry or spend their life with. It’s a way to meet people you wouldn’t otherwise meet. At this point I think most of us know a few married couples that met on the apps. I’m obviously not suggesting hook up apps like tinder. But when used properly the time wasters can be weeded out.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 02:25 PM
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Where are you getting this perspective from? I know that’s not the case for my bf or really any man I can think of. Especially when going out in public.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 05:34 PM
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Your feelings are definitely valid. You’re going to have to decide if you can live like this or not. If not you have to prepared to stand your ground. You need a plan in case the relationship does end. Then have a serious conversation where you make it clear how important he is to you but you’re feeling the imbalance in your sex life. Make it clear that things will be changing on your end, like no more bjs or whatever you want to communicate. Let him know you will no long be living like this.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 03:35 PM
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As an average straight woman I would say no, your experience is not how a lot of people feel. Which is totally okay. You should do some research on your own and even talk to a therapist to help you make sense of how you feel. There are other people like you and understanding that may help you feel better.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 01:13 PM
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Just because he doesn’t want to end things doesn’t mean they shouldn’t come to an end. You are half of this relationship too. Dating is for vetting potential long term partners/ husbands. You’re at point where you don’t trust him, and rightfully so. He’s also deteriorated your self esteem. Do you want to live like this forever? When men behave like he did there are consequences for their actions, like losing a good woman.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 01:41 PM
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It’s great that works for you. My issue is OP making a post suggesting people try her idea as if she’s some relationship expert. Her tone and lack of humility are off putting.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 11:02 AM
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There’s a lot of space between what your suggesting people try and repressing one’s feelings.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 10:58 AM
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This sounds incredibly unhealthy. If I brought this metaphorical score card to my bf he would think I’ve lost my mind. Years ago I dated a man who said, in this relationship we’re not keeping score. That really stuck with me because people do ‘keep score’ to some degree in all parts of their life. But keeping it to a minimum in romantic relationships seems much healthier. As others have said if things seem unbalanced for a while then it may be time to pay more attention but this is not good advi…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 01:47 AM
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Why is it a terrible suggestion? They aren’t married or even living together. Why would anyone be obligated to stay in a dating relationship that isn’t working for them?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 11:38 PM
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Not having sex is one of the most valid reasons to end a relationship. You’re allowed to have needs and get those needs met. A lot of people wouldn’t have waited as long as you have.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 11:11 AM
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Haven’t you guys talked about why you’re not having sex? If not you need to asap. The porn may not be a big deal but the local girls feels a little too close to home, especially if he’s interacting with them. Then you’re in cheating territory. Also any reason is a valid reason to break up. You’re not obligated to continue on dating anyone. You’re vetting for a future husband and this guy isn’t acting like husband material.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 03:05 AM
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Only time will tell and only you can decide how long you’ll wait. You should listen to your instincts, if something feels off it probably is. If you don’t trust your partner that’s a very real problem. It sounds like your actual concerns are bigger than social media.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 01:40 AM
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‘Upsets over social media and boundaries’ That changes things. If he is acting in a way that makes you uncomfortable or you feel he’s hiding or down playing your relationship because of female friends that’s valid. Everyone uses social media differently we all know someone who posts multiple times a day and others who post once a year. Your bf should want to make you happy and respect your boundaries. If being FB official is important to you he should make that happen. Especially if he posts reg…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 12:09 AM
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What you need to do is take the hint. Leave him alone and focus on yourself and how to better your situation. From your previous post it sounds like he lives with family. So you don’t need to worry about him, he’s fine. You need to seek help for your own issues. It sounds like you’re using him as an escape or distraction.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 09:09 PM
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If he has a ring why does he just propose? 25 is not that young. But two adults planning on marrying should be able to support themselves and live on their own.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 03:10 PM
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Something sounds off here. Maybe a catfishing situation? Have you actually video chatted with him? Remember that if he wanted to he would. This man can’t be bothered to meet you then stop wasting your time talking to him.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 07:20 PM
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This doesn’t make sense. What do you not know? If you want a man like him you’re going to have to grow up and change your ways.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 11:15 AM
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Where’s the compromise? My bf knows I love sleeping with nature sounds tho he wouldn’t chose them on his own. He turns them on for me every night. If he gets up in the middle of the night he knows I don’t like pitch dark either so he leaves a little light on. Your husband needs to step up and take you into consideration too. Being RPW doesn’t mean you don’t get a voice or that your needs just get ignored.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 08:51 PM
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How did you meet? It’s pretty common with online dating to just do drinks first. Usually it’s a safe way to get to know a little about each other with low commitment in case it’s weird. If things go well drinks can always transition into dinner. In theory you always take the risk of them wanting to split the bill on the first date and if they do then let it be the last date. If you don’t already know what they’re looking for you should ask sooner than later.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 08:38 PM
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Was he actually your boyfriend? You say you were sleeping with him but you were afraid to get with him. Wanting you to stop wearing revealing clothing if you’re a couple is not unreasonable, neither is asking you to stop talking to past partners. These are things that come with a relationship. It sounds like you just want attention from men. If you want him back grow up, be willing to change your ways, and tell him.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 07:43 PM
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I agree with you! An impulsive, unemployed man, who’s board lining on emotional abuse does not sound like a good husband or potential father. Better to get out now before kids are involved.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 05:34 PM
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I think communicating expectations is super important. Last year was our first valentines and we went all out. This year I would rather save our money for something else.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/24 11:03 PM
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What you do for skincare is your own personal journey and only you have to live with the consequences. Everyone ages and some more gracefully than others. There is definitely space between a 12 step routine and what you’re doing now. You could start with baby steps. I think by 60 and 70 you’ll regret not caring at all. Also curious what other ‘markers of beauty’ you’re referring to?
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 09:17 PM
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I would say do nothing. You’ve convinced yourself you two have potential. You’re trying to convince yourself he’s shy. He’s shown zero interest in you. Forget about him. You’re literally trying to make something out of nothing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 08:47 PM
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Were you rude about his hiking? It’s okay if it’s not your thing but you can still show interest in it. Hiking and camping is an interest my bf and I share. I’ve never felt like it took away from my femininity. It’s an excuse to have a whole separate wardrobe just for being outdoors. Tho my location may be part of it. Many hikes are glorified nature walks and don’t have to be very long. It may be worth trying before you totally turn your nose up to it. Maybe if you express interest because it’s …
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 06:26 PM
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I think if you were truly honest with yourself there were little moments and signs in all of these relationships that told you something was off. Especially the guy who knew you were still hung up on another man. The fact that he didn’t walk away was a red flag. Guy #2 wouldn’t commit to you but you stayed anyway. I don’t think there’s one great answer to your question. But learning to see situations for what they are, not what you want them to be is a good start. Also if you want to get married…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 06:15 PM
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I have noticed that, I can’t understand why people push others to accept STDs.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 12:39 AM
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It’s not that simple. He’s not just missing 20%. He can’t even pull his 50% in the relationship. It’s not about you wanting material things or not. You deserve a man who doesn’t rely on you to provide for him. At this point it sounds like your willing to build a career and life for both of you. That may work for some but that’s not what RPW is about. You’ve vetted him, he can’t provide in anyway and doesn’t seem to care. He doesn’t meet your needs, which you’re allowed to have even if you’re an …
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 12:36 AM
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I would never overlook them. You did the right thing. Looking out for your well being is always the right thing to do.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 07:33 PM
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Use your words. If your doing dishes hand him a towel and have him help, if you’re making the bed ask him to grab a corner. Give him the opportunity to bond with you and then maybe he’ll back off. If you’re reading or whatever in your space tell him in or out. Like you can join me quietly or leave me in peace. Jokingly say if you come back I’m locking the door. It doesn’t have to be a serious, heavy thing to get your point across.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 12:52 AM
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Looked at your post history, if you’re not already in therapy please get help.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 11:41 PM
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That’s simply not true. And stop sleeping with men before you’re in a relationship. You can’t use sex to force a man into a commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 11:38 PM
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You could talk to a doctor but don’t take these men at their word. And again do research for yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 05:15 PM
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This is ridiculous. You need to step back and figure out why you’re accepting this crude behavior from a man and believing him. You also need to do your own research and understand your own body better than this.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 04:53 PM
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These are not the qualities of a high value man. Or even a half way decent guy.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 06:23 PM
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You’re both still young and figuring out what you want out of life and relationships. His ideas are changing/ evolving for whatever reason. You should make sure you stay true to what you want and not change yourself to fit his ideals.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/23 11:54 PM
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It seems like Guy A is a done deal. If you two enjoy your time over the holidays and agree to be a couple you could be married in less than two years. It sounds like he’s successful with room to grow, enjoys and respects you, and can give you the life you want. Guy B is new, so essentially a stranger, and he could also be dating other woman and you may not be the one he chooses. Only you know if that’s a gamble you’re willing to take.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 04:40 PM
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I agree, social circle has a lot to do with it. I was also referring to a similar definition of career.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 02:19 PM
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This is a great example of how one persons reality is different from another’s. I know many successful career woman, most are seemingly happily married with kids. The one traditional stay at home mom I know ended up wanting a career as her kids got older and realized there’s more to life than kids and cleaning. What works for one person may or may not work for another.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 01:53 PM
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Trying to force something never works. If neither of you can afford to regularly fly out to see each other what is the point of moving forward with this. It sounds very realistic that you may not be able to live near each other for five years. Being long distance there’s elements of a relationship you will miss out on and then find out you’re not actually compatible after investing a lot of time into each other. Also don’t fly out to see him first. If he can’t afford to fly to you and arrange a …
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 01:42 PM
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OP did not say that her bf follows any red pill beliefs. She could just be projecting on him.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 10:59 AM
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If you’re marriage minded then they probably are to young.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 02:23 PM
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It’s definitely not you or any failure on your part. More and more people don’t want to have kids for various reasons. Holding on to the occasional story of someone changing their mind won’t help you. It’s rare for a reason.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 02:01 PM
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I feel like something is missing. I looked at your post history, could some of your unique interests be an issue? Also how many of these ‘beautiful, serious relationships’ have you had? Are you taking things too fast or more seriously than the men are?
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 01:53 PM
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If he has physical limitations and he’s still trying what else can you reasonably expect from him. If you bring this up to him again you should have actionable things you’re asking for that he can actually do. Edited to add: I also love being in nature and hiking and make it a priority. I could not be with a partner who didn’t have an interest in it too. If this is part of the lifestyle you want to live with a partner you have some hard choices to make.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/23 12:32 AM
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Have you talked to him about this? Is he willing to compromise at all?
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/23 09:20 PM
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The abridged audiobook of the surrendered wife was available through my public library, I would think most public libraries would offer it too. I felt the abridged version gave enough information for those with short attention spans like me.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/23 09:55 PM
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True, but if he’s a standard 25 year old guy with no religious convictions of his own then I could see it having little to no value to him.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 04:44 PM
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It hurts you that he didn’t choose to wait? He didn’t even know you or know that you guys would be a couple. It really doesn’t make sense for him to care that you’ve waited when that’s not a shared religious belief you both have. You are hurting your own feelings. You will have to let this go or let him go and find someone who also values virginity the way you do.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 03:54 PM
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I would say it’s odd after year’s together your sexual history is an issue. There’s really no reason for him to still be concerned about it, what’s done is done. But considering your post history you’re leaving out something important. Your posts are completely disrespectful to your relationship unless it’s some shared kink between you and your partner. I don’t think RPW values can help you unless you’re revamping how you live your life.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 12:28 AM
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I took a glance at your post history and it sounds like this is not your biggest concern. You’ve only been together a few months, you’re still in the vetting stage, you’re talking about something years in the future. This is something you could definitely talk to him about, make sure you both want the same lifestyle and have similar views on what you would like the future to look like. If your boyfriend finds the idea of you working part time lazy but it’s really important to you then you’ll hav…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 05:41 PM
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This might not be popular advice but in the rare occasion by bf makes a stupid comment like that I reply with something like ‘you know where the door is’ or ‘good luck to you both’. Basically implying you can go because I have options too, I’m not going to beg a man to stay with me, let’s not play this game.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 04:31 PM
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I don’t think you sabotaged it because there was nothing happening. It sounds like you got ahead of yourself instead of taking the hint he’s not really interested in you. After a couple of dates a man should be showing some effort, like not leaving you on read for hours, just move on, it was good practice.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 04:26 PM
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I don’t know who you’re talking to but it doesn’t sound like an accurate representation of what’s really happening in the dating world. I’ve never had a man take the three date rule seriously. None of my single mom friends or their friends have young boy toys. Yes at some point it may be concerning to potential men if you’re sexually inexperienced. But what are you actually asking here, if you can date without having sex? Of course, will it significantly limit your options, yes.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/23 06:43 PM
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Okay I’m nosey and looked too. It looks like you have curly hair, as do I, learn how to take better care of it. So many men over the years have complimented how nice my hair is and that it shows I take care of myself. You may want to consider updating your wardrobe too, a little modesty goes a long way with quality men.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/23 01:54 PM
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It’s not an age thing, I was doing fine into my late thirties. Maybe revamp your profile instead of using all the same pictures. You could try a different app for a while. Location has a lot to do with it too. I wouldn’t worry about aging out yet.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/23 10:56 AM
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You mention giving him space and letting him come back when he’s ready. That is the wrong mentality. Accept that he’s not into you and completely move on. Don’t expect him to come back when he’s ready, don’t keep in touch with him. That will only distract you from other men that may want to pursue something with you. Some men are really bad at ending things because they are afraid of hurting someone’s feelings. Or they are willing to use you for companionship until you finally walk away. Unfortu…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 02:01 PM
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Honestly it’s a little weird he would tell you that and be sad about it, especially when you’re new to that department. It was super nice of you to want to be positive but there’s probably a bigger lesson for you to learn. We don’t know what really goes on behind closed doors. Maybe he has ruined things in the past, maybe she was nice about it but he didn’t make that clear. Some men just aren’t handy and cause more damage than good. As women it’s not our job to cheer up someone else’s husband.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/23 04:44 PM
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I say ‘that makes sense’ a lot. Or ‘that must have been frustrating’ ‘that must have been nice’ ‘I’m sorry that happened, I’m here for you, I support you’ ‘how are you feeling about it now’. I try to show that I’m engaged in the conversation and he can share as much or as little as he wants.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/23 02:40 PM
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To me this all seems like common sense. Men are people too. Of course they want to feel attractive, be lusted after, and desired by their partner. Women are expected to present their best selves to get the highest quality man possible but that quality man should also present his best self. I regularly tell my bf he looks nice/ handsome/ etc, especially when I know he’s trying to look nice when we go out. I’m affectionate and grab his bum. Every man is different, when you find yours you will have…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/23 02:34 PM
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I felt the same way when I was your age and after three years I couldn’t take it anymore. I realized after watching people around me struggle with fertility that having kids of your own is not promised or guaranteed. Once I wrapped my head around that it changed my whole perspective. What if you marry this man and one of you is unable to produce children? If you’re okay with adoption or other alternatives why do you need him and why feel a rush. One day your children will grow up and move on and…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/23 04:58 PM
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Please keep in mind this ‘community of support’ is a bunch of internet strangers, who are not trained or educated in dealing with trauma.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 06:43 PM
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Does he at least understand saving for retirement? Owning a home and having it paid off before retirement is significant. Possibly an other angle to consider.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 06:35 PM
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I’ve always been adamant about not changing yourself for anyone. But as I get deeper in my current relationship I see room for compromise. I’m perfectly happy going out in the ‘athleisure’ look with make up on, nails done, etc. My bf is not a fan and would rather i wear jeans and not sneakers. I can understand wear he’s coming from and keep that in mind. He also hates my boyfriend jeans for some reason so I don’t wear them around him often. On the flip side he’s realized his clothes are getting …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 02:27 PM
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I agree on the approach of this sub. It’s not so much about changing her husband. But he requires her to work so he needs to understand what that entails, including looking professional everyday. Some of these comments are almost concerning, sounds like there may be a bigger issue going on…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/23 07:58 PM
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Respectfully this sounds more like your husbands problem than yours. Unless you’re loud and obnoxious when you get out of bed. It’s really unfair and unrealistic to expect you to get ready so quickly. Side note- there are some powder dry shampoos out there.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/23 03:41 PM
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Maybe after a year of paying for the majority of your dates he’s ready for things to be more equal. Do you know his financial situation? Is it reasonable to expect him continue to pay indefinitely?
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 04:57 PM
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What are you considering telling them? It’s only been two months. There’s no way for him to know if he will want to marry you yet and you don’t know him well enough to know either. It’s okay to communicate you’re dating with intention and would like to get married. But even if he wants to get married someday there’s no guarantee he will marry you. Be patient and watch for signs that the relationship is progressing and that he is serious about you. Have relationship check in conversations and mak…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 12:25 PM
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I agree with your friend there’s no reason for him to be embarrassed that his woman wants to treat him to dinner. I would be more embarrassed that someone would see us passing the card under the table. In terms of this sub, a HVM shouldn’t be so insecure.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 06:16 PM
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You should talk to him about it. Communicate your thoughts and concerns. Don’t leave room for him to assume anything.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/23 01:21 PM
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I’m going to say the unpopular thing based on life experience. You have only been with your boyfriend for six months. It’s great that you’ve talked about marriage but if he can’t give you life you want you need to step back and really understand what that means. It sounds like you’re going to be in an uphill battle financially and possibly unable to live the way you want to. You cannot marry potential, you have to look at the man in front of you as he is and decide if you will be happy with the …
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/23 08:24 PM
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My boyfriend also has ADHD. I don’t know how old you are or your living situation but you have to remember he once functioned without you. It’s not your responsibility to be his calendar. Let him miss a thing or two and see what happens. Maybe he will ask for your help, maybe he’ll try harder to help himself. But it’s not your job to figure it out for him.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 11:22 PM
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Some food for thought, do you actually, truly love him. Do you even know him well enough to love him. Or do you just love the idea of love. Saying you can tell a stranger you love them kind of takes away from it all. Whatever you end up doing at least tell him in person. Over the phone or via text takes away some of authenticity, especially if you will see him soon anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 07:33 PM
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On the flip side a lot of men in my family have cheated and that has inspired my brothers to never consider it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 12:54 PM
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I’m in a similar situation but I’m leaning toward gemstones or moissanite. It’s really about whatever makes you happy. Maybe do a little research on how diamonds became the go to engagement ring and you may feel less inclined to buy into it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/23 09:47 PM
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You have to remember everyone is different and has different priorities. I’ve seen many different versions of what you’re envisioning. Some started with my friends working at first but being stay at home moms in big houses. I’ve seen stay at home girlfriends that contribute minimally and live a comfortable life on someone else’s dime. Some men can cook so a home cooked meal will be appreciated from time to time but not enough to earn your keep if you will. Life is expensive, the financial situat…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/23 05:27 PM
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The next time it comes up you could tell him there are two options, continue on in a monogamous relationship and he can drop the issue or you two break up, with no hope of reconciliation. There’s no reason to continue to discuss this, it makes you uncomfortable, he either loves you enough to care about your feelings or he doesn’t.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/23 05:14 PM
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He left the decision up to you because it’s too early for that level of commitment. If your relationship doesn’t last he doesn’t want you blaming him for a missed opportunity. Let this be a learning experience, you’re still in the sparkle/ new relationship energy phase. There’s no way to know if you’re a match made in heaven. Spending every day with someone that quickly is arguably not healthy. It sounds like you moved too quickly and now reality is hitting. Do what’s best for you because at 38 …
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 01:23 PM
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I can totally relate. I think for some reason a lot women feel that way but it doesn’t make sense because men don’t worry about taking too long. We should be able to enjoy ourselves too.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 12:58 PM
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If you think it’s the physical toy bothering him, not just not getting you off, what if you use your own hand. Overuse of a vibrator is a real thing, maybe consider taking a break from it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/23 11:41 PM
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What exactly is he impatient for?? You can ask him what he’s looking forward to in marriage. If neither of you are established is he willing to sit down and talk money and budgets? Look what types of homes or apartments you can afford together. Can you two comfortably discuss expectations of each other in marriage such as domestic duties, balancing friends and family. If he is willing and able to sit down and start hashing out the specifics then you will know he’s probably ready.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/23 07:08 PM
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Don’t be afraid to use your words and have an open conversation about the stereotypes, be nice about it of course. You know what you want and if the concerns people are mentioning could be an issue then let him know you would rather pursue other options more line with your goals. Don’t waste each others time.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/23 02:27 PM
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Remember you’ve been on one date. Just because he wants to marry and have kids doesn’t mean it will be with you. Regardless of religion, ethnicity, culture.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/23 02:10 PM
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If you’re vetting potential partners correctly this shouldn’t be an issue that even needs to be discussed.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/23 02:13 PM
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If you are working on yourself and want a healthy relationship you have to start with a healthy partner.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 04:42 PM
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If you’re truly doing all the calling and always going to see him that’s a problem. Have an honest direct conversation in person. Let him know how you feel, that you need more, and that you’re going to let him show you how much he cares/ is invested. Then stop doing everything you’ve been doing. See how long it takes him to pick up the phone, or make an effort to see you. It sounds like he could just be along for the ride, this will help you see what’s real.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 03:44 PM
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This would have been valuable info to put in your post. Is he struggling with depression or anything while he can’t work? Has he always been like this or is this new since the strike?
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 07:48 PM
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It should always be for yourself and attracting high quality men will be a bonus. I would add that losing weight will get you in the door but it won’t keep you there if you aren’t interesting, engaging, well kept, etc. I have seen a lot of beautiful, thin women struggle with dating because their personalities kind of suck.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 04:43 PM
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If he honestly wasn’t talking to other women and couldn’t communicate consistently during the beginning, when you try to put your best foot forward, then it was only going to get worse. Unless you were asking for too much communication too quickly.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 09:33 PM
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If he can’t get or stay in the mood without you playing into his underwear fetish you really have to consider if you want to deal with that for the rest of your life. This isn’t go to get better or go away.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 04:54 PM
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I have two brothers who have been very clear to everyone, including their girlfriends that marriage is not going to happen. Like they have been honest from day one. One girlfriend of about 10 years still makes the occasional comment she would like to marry my brother. The other girlfriend of maybe 6 years who is more like you in that the financial aspect appealed to her, acts like she still expects my brother to eventually ‘step up’ and marry her. I share this to make the point you really need t…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 01:28 PM
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You need to reflect on why you accepted his poor behavior and treatment of you for so long. You knew what you wanted out of a relationship, you knew you weren’t getting it, but you stayed. Take sometime and work on yourself. While making sure he’s blocked from everything. Don’t waste another minute on this man. Also good for you for getting the job you want and moving away!
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/23 10:52 PM
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It’s nice that you got to meet a great person. And now that person has moved on with their life and so should you. It’s a lovely memory to have as long as it you keep it separate from reality and don’t judge other men against the fantasy of this guy.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 04:07 PM
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In two weeks you did not truly get to know this man. You knew a fun vacation version of him. You don’t know what kind of partner he would be in the day to day grind of life. You’ve just idealized him for years now. Have you two actually kept in touch on a regular basis or did you randomly reach out to him? You’ve put him on a pedestal he didn’t really earn.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 01:55 PM
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If you’re worried about luxury brands and lavish gifts from a man who is uglier than you then you don’t understand what marriage is about. This sub isn’t about helping young girls become trophy wives.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 06:29 PM
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This! Some men get riled up about the man they think we want instead of listening to what we actually need.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 12:23 AM
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Men that are that much older than you, ten plus years at least, aren’t looking to marry you. Especially the men in their forties. Before you even accept a date make it clear you’re dating with intention. You can even tell them you won’t be getting physical with anyone until you’re in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/23 06:57 PM
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Even if you did cheat there is no reason to contact your ex, you can leave him alone, he seems to be doing fine. In regards to sharing with dates, there’s no need to say you cheated. You were hospitalized and admittedly delusional. Bring up your mental health challenges when appropriate like you would any other health issues.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/23 06:53 PM
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Find men who naturally exhibit the qualities you value as they relate to things RP. Exposing a man to RP won’t change who he is, and if it does you might not like what you get.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 01:32 PM
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The way I’ve always understood divine feminine had nothing to do with career preferences and more to do with spirituality. It’s just another thing taken out of context. It’s a trend/ phase that most people will forget about when the next trend pops up. Try to remember people putting down another group do it because they are unhappy in some way. I don’t think any woman truly in her divine feminine would waste her energy making hateful or negative social media content.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 05:37 PM
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Not necessarily an appearance thing but not being up front about their vices. When you start dating it’s easy to hide occasional smoking or even regular drug use.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 05:03 PM
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Some things on this list are great, and losing weight to be healthy is a no brainer. But plastic surgery, lots of make up, and even hair extensions are pushing it. If you look too fake you will attract the wrong men, even if they seem high value at first. You will also limit your options, ‘regular’ guys won’t be able to afford you. At some point your partner will see the real you, make up scraped off and fake hair removed. You need to happy with that version of yourself or you will never be happ…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/23 07:59 PM
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For the record I think this post is inappropriate, or at least in the wrong space… but from my experience, back in the day, my white friends who grew up conservative saw it as an act of rebellion. Even if their parents weren’t blatantly racist they expressed to their kids they didn’t want them dating/ marrying minorities. On the flip side college age guys are having fun and aren’t looking for a serious relationship anyway so they’re just enjoying it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/23 07:54 PM
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I’ve dated, wealthy, successful, self made men and they all made time for me. You really should figure out if he’s going to move or not. If he is you’re wasting your time.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/23 03:58 AM
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Ya honestly it sounds like you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. It sounds like any potential future depends on him making a significant life choice that will have nothing to do with you. It makes sense he may be pulling away if he’s starting to realize he wants move or even has too much going on. The best thing to do is talk about it
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 12:37 AM
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I’m a little confused by your previous post asking about the potential of long distance relationships. How long have you two actually been a couple? And are you long distance? It seems like there may be more to your story. Finding men who are truly mentally, emotionally and physically available is really important.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/23 07:54 PM
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Also not sure where you live but in the US it’s still 40-50% of first marriages.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 06:10 PM
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I think you are asking a lot, especially from a someone you’ve only been with a couple of months. It’s amazing you have the discipline to do body building. But many people want a partner they can stay out late with, or grab late night tacos or whatever. Also expecting them to go along with the potential moodiness you mentioned doesn’t sound great. Why would a man who’s relatively desirable put up with that when he can go get someone else. You have limited your dating pool, which is okay, but you…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 05:12 PM
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I think the point was your question is a distraction from the OPs post/ question and your question is big enough to be posted on its own in this group. That being said I will answer your question, I wouldn’t disregard a man over a $10,000 difference. My bf makes less than me but because of good choices in his 20s and poor choices in my 20s we have similar amounts of discretionary income. Everyone’s career and finances are nuanced. Just because a man may make less than you doesn’t mean he won’t b…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 04:46 PM
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Have some dignity and do not beg anyone for anything. He knew your number and wasted 10 months of your life. If he was going to commit to you you would know it by now. He’s looking for an excuse to move on. I see so many women on here try to justify men mistreating them in the name of RP beliefs. If your connection was so amazing and special he wouldn’t be ready to throw you away. You’re willing to do anything for him but he clearly doesn’t feel the same way. I would suggest telling him if he do…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 04:15 PM
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You will never know, people can fake it for a long time. For all you know he’s cheating on you now.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 03:19 PM
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Outside of all the obvious issues what do think more time will accomplish?
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 02:05 PM
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Be grateful that you’ve learned to see men and relationships differently. But realize this man is not it for you. Do not make excuses for a grow man. Life is hard for everyone in one way or another. What we do with those challenges defines us. It seem this man is doing nothing. The memories and dreams you mentioned were just chats with an internet stranger who lead you on. It sounds like it’s time for you to reframe this in your mind.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 06:21 PM
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Aging happens to everyone, you can not escape it. So why not embrace it and go with the flow. Many people find themselves more comfortable in their body’s and out in the world as they age. Many people also find they have more financial freedom and the ability to do the things they want and go to the places they want to explore. It’s really an exciting time in life, nothing to worry about or be afraid of. As I often say, if we have to be here we might as well make the most of it. There’s no time …
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 07:41 PM
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If you don’t think he can handle it don’t tell him. We all have a past and are not obligated to our partners everything.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 08:15 PM
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Your bf is right, it’s too early to put pressure on about marriage and kids. It sounds like you’re concerned about the mother of his child, there is nothing he can do about that. You know the situation and only you can decide if you’re willing to accept it. You’re only thirty, you don’t have to accept a divorced man with a child.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 04:47 PM
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If he is initiating spending time together then it’s okay for you to to initiate conversation. If it was all one sided then it would be a problem. If you like this man and he’s putting effort in then it’s time to discuss what you two are and what you both want. Acting uninterested is not going to get you a relationship. Then you will know if he’s just using you for entertainment or if he’s genuinely interested in more with you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 04:17 PM
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It’s just you, which is great for you if that’s your journey. But not reflective of the general population. I’ve actually seen the opposite, people going to church less and being less invested in their beliefs/ religion.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 01:53 PM
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Basically, some situationships don’t even get to exclusivity.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 09:27 PM
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You have totally missed everyone’s points here. You’re so stuck in your own mind you can’t understand reason. I’m 40, overweight, half black, and I have a handsome 6’ white boyfriend who is so sweet to me. Girl you’re priorities are so messed up you don’t realize what you will be missing out on. Have you considered long distance? Then you could move him to where you live. You wouldn’t have to deal with the fierce socal competition. Maybe you could find a good man who would actually love you and …
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 06:21 PM
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No it’s not wrong but be prepared for what life can be like if you take that route. Do your research, there are some women on TikTok that talk about it. Also be smart about money, have some savings and investments in case you need them.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 06:09 PM
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Gifts can be whatever makes sense for any couple. The point is that she’s saying he wouldn’t have to put in any effort. No need to judge us soulless consumers who like nice things.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 02:20 AM
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Just because that was okay for your mom doesn’t mean you have to accept it. Wanting an appropriately tall man for your height with straight teeth is pretty normal. I agree with the other commenter, you need to raise your standards. Talking once a week is not enough to develop a meaningful connection. And no gifts is basically saying he doesn’t have to put in any effort. If you let a man treat you any kind of way he will walk all over you, lose respect for you, and eventually leave you. I’m guess…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 01:21 AM
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I would respectfully disagree, in this era of meeting online a lot of people agree to be exclusive, as in take a break from the apps and really get to know each other. But they’re not necessarily introducing them to friends or family or announcing a relationship on social media or even keeping a toothbrush at each other’s place. It’s become a vague trial period for a lot of people. It’s also leaked over to relationships that don’t necessarily start on an app. Labeling the situation an actual rel…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 12:49 AM
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You’ve been together for a year? In this situation you are more of a red flag than him. You should already have an idea of his financial situation. Demanding information and over the phone is the wrong way to handle your curiosity.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 12:40 AM
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Honestly saying ‘if I speak out my life will be over’ sounds like you’re still playing victim to some degree. Everyone is allowed to speak their truth and have their opinions but no matter what side you’re on there are consequences. You just have to decide what’s worth it to you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 10:34 PM
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These are all great things, and this may sound harsh but… do you have a personality? Are you interesting, engaging, charming, can you hold up your part of the conversation? Do you have any hobbies or interests? If not get some. If a man is bored with you after a few dates the color of your hair or size of your breasts isn’t going to change that or matter.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 08:20 PM
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I was thinking the same thing. Men generally like to be around women, even if they’re not model beautiful. OP could be doing or saying something off putting or annoying. They all seem to be avoiding any unnecessary conversation at work which can’t be a coincidence.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 08:06 PM
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People go back to each other all the time. But you only went on three dates, it’s not like it was a relationship. There are plenty of other guys out there. BUT the whole idea of paying him and sleeping with him is insane. You really need to consider taking a break from dating and working on yourself and your confidence and finding better dating advice. I can’t imagine a single man I know taking a woman’s money or sleeping with her after that.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 02:39 AM
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I don’t know if the ‘good Christian’ world is different from how the rest of us are living but I haven’t had a man ask about how many past partners I’ve had since my early twenties. I thought it had become taboo but maybe with age and wisdom people stop asking. It honestly blows my mind that people make such a big deal about it. I think out of respect the question doesn’t need to be asked. A man pressuring you for a number should be considered a red flag. It means he wants to judge you. Why woul…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 02:05 AM
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Definitely not asking too much. Sometimes it takes men realizing they’re about to lose a woman they love for them to step up.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/23 07:17 PM
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It sounds like he still has some growing up to do. It could take him another 5-10 years, he could never get there. If you’re wanting kids more than you’re wanting him that’s your answer. In my thirties I came to realize having kids is not a guarantee. Some people can’t get pregnant, some can’t afford treatments or adoption. We see it work out for so many people we forget it might not. So you have to really want to be with your partner, he has to be a good match for you. Plus when the kids grow u…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/23 04:27 PM
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Sending nudes and being a virgin are two very separate things. Sending pictures has nothing to do with being physically intimate with someone.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/23 03:56 PM
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You mentioned in another comment he quit vaping and weed, that’s a big deal. Also college or trade school is not for everyone, some people suck at tests, or get anxiety. In regards to the food thing does he buy lunch because he doesn’t know what to pack for a lunch? Does he even know how to cook? Would some direction in those areas help?
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/23 03:53 PM
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Would you really want him to be miserable at a job just because it pays more? There are consequences to that including him being unhappy at home and resenting you. I make more money than bf but he has very few bills. After I pay my student loans, larger mortgage, and car payment we actually have similar amounts of discretionary income. You have to decide if he’s worth it to you. Are you guys on the same page with how to manage what money is coming in? If you’re worried about being a stay at home…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/23 02:53 PM
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A lot (not all, but a lot) of women did stupid stuff in their teens and twenties. You are not alone. No amount of shame or guilt can undo the past. You’ve learned a lot from this experience, embrace that and move forward. Also, you do not have to tell any future partner or husband that you sent pictures or anything else to this man. You are not obligated to share anything you don’t want to.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/23 02:45 PM
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Your past is your past, you are not gross. A good well adjusted man would never interrogate you like that. You are right his behavior is pushing abuse. Move on with your life and find a man who respects you. There’s nothing left to go back to with him.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 12:18 PM
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Be careful saying you’re looking for a provider right away. You can say you would prefer to be a stay at home wife and mother and feel them out. But financial abuse is a thing. Some men are really good at faking being great until you can’t get away.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 12:13 PM
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He has something to hide or he wouldn’t have disappeared right when you were going to video chat.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 06:41 PM
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Your reaction to this situation seems out of place for what it was. You met a complete stranger on the internet and texted, maybe talked on the phone, for a month. When it came time to show his face he disappeared. This is classic. Did you ever see pictures of him? He could have lied about what he looked like. He could actually be married, hence the busy work schedule. Whatever it is he was never going to video chat with you. This sounds like a good growing up experience for you. Stay away from …
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 06:25 PM
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That’s amazing for you. My point was that the goal for most women here is to be more feminine, not tougher. Being too tough is actually what brought some women here.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 01:15 PM
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‘When he orders me to shut up or get a grip’ this line is the vibe that throws me off about your post. Most RPW are looking for a HVM, and HVM don’t tell their woman to shut up. It sounds like you’re coming from more of Dom/ sub dynamic which isn’t necessarily what a lot of RPW want. For example being able to discuss your triggers with your partner and have them care and work with you is how you build emotional intimacy. No one wins when one person is suffering in silence.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 12:57 PM
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I have a lot of flat footed family members. They swear by Birkenstocks. They actually have some really cute sandals now.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 12:33 PM
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This is true for some but not all. There are plenty of people on dating apps looking for serious relationships. They talk for days or weeks before meeting. They go on dates to public places for weeks. Wait for exclusivity before becoming physical. It depends on the people and what they are looking for. The apps serve a purpose for those who have limited options in their day to day life.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 07:54 PM
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I understand the idea of getting married young sounds like a good thing. The risk is not understanding what makes a man a good life partner. The only good thing you have to say about this guy is that he says he loves you. Love is not enough. His seeking the attention of other women is not something a man who loves you would do. All of your friends except one had a bad feeling about him, there is a reason. If you have to hide your relationship deep down you know something is wrong. In a healthy l…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 03:28 PM
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Well trust your instincts. As someone else said this friendship is effectively over. It sounds like he could be playing mind games with you if he’s being bleak. No one is worth the stress.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 05:12 PM
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You are not awful. But you need to consider letting this friendship go. Sometimes we out grow people and that’s okay. So many men will tell you that men are friends with you because they want something. Especially in situations like this. He has waited years for you, while you were dating other men. He’s begged for your attention. Those are not the qualities of a HVM. Also him hitting himself is odd behavior. This whole thing seems a little off. Give him, and yourself space. There were guys I wa…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 04:18 PM
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Your kids are not your kids forever. They can choose to walk away from their parents at any point as they get older and become an adult. A lot of people assume children are obligated to their parents but they are not. Ideally if you’re a decent parent your kids will want you in their life but there’s always a chance they put little to no effort into maintaining a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 04:38 PM
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I consider yoga (and meditation) and hiking/ walking my main hobbies. Considering all the time and money I put into skincare/ hair care/ self care it might as well be a hobby. I also consider making meaningful time for friends and family on the same level as a hobby.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 04:05 PM
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Being healthy mentally and physically is so important regardless of dating. You can be a bit overweight and still get guys but you need to dress for your body, wear nice make up, do your hair and nails. What stands out to me is the messy and unorganized. How will you be able to take care of a home and children when you can’t keep your room clean at your parents house. You may want to consider taking baby steps so you don’t get overwhelmed. Set small achievable goals. Decide what you want to acco…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 04:46 PM
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I don’t know what kind of toxic dating advice you’re listening to but men who prefer educated women aren’t generally looking for a meal ticket. Most of them are successful and educated themselves and prefer a partner at their own level. They need someone who will represent them well in professional settings and won’t embarrass them at the country club… you seem to think you know a lot about life in your youth and limited experience but you clearly don’t understand how the other half is living.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 04:55 PM
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Something felt odd about this, especially the ‘trigger warning’ so I glanced at your post history and there they were, the posts in eating disorder subs. Yes everyone wants a healthy fit partner. But that means different things to different people. Some men prefer a curvy or thick woman and some don’t. Either way is okay. Perpetuating the idea a woman must have a flat stomach isn’t helpful to anyone. Don’t let your weight or flatness of your stomach define you. It’s also odd that were single a c…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 12:30 PM
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Don’t date while you do it. If you’re going to travel all over the country maybe consider exploring new areas and find somewhere to settle down that is more affordable. There’s a lot of research about up and coming cities, cities with more men than women, get familiar with some reasonable options and check them out.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 12:18 AM
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Sure you don’t want to look like those cross fit women. And yes men and women being friends doesn’t usually end well when you’re an adult. But it’s high school. You have to learn to think for yourself before you can start following someone else. It’s honestly weird that your dad is so easily influenced by this kid and you’ve only been dating him for a few months. I have a friend who’s daughter is your age. My friend is naturally very traditional and married very young. Now she’s naive to the wor…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 10:58 PM
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There are lots of reasons to cut out alcohol but if you’re only drinking champagne, occasionally, with dinner, you’re probably fine. A lot of people drink a lot and it wears down their body and bank account. Moderation is the key with most things in life.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 08:55 PM
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Does he understand that Andrew Tate has a completely different set of religious views? Also until this young man can provide for you, afford to marry you, and be financially stable enough for you to be a stay at home wife/ mother you will have to work. In the work place there will be men you have to interact act with. He’s being completely unreasonable and possibly insecure. Also where are your parents? Do they know some boy their 16 year old daughter is dating is trying to control her like this…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 08:51 PM
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So he hasn’t dated since he was a teenager? Of course his standards were low. If he were single today he would find out quickly he needs to vet for other things. He just doesn’t know better.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/23 06:35 PM
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That fact that you’re asking if you should have tried harder is concerning. You tolerated abuse. Abuse from a man who couldn’t even be bothered to visit you. Did you ever meet him in person? This whole situation makes me so sad for you. A good man would never want to control you like that. You should really figure why you let this happen and how you can prevent it from happening again. No one should ever live like that.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 05:11 PM
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That fact that you’re asking if you should have tried harder is concerning. You tolerated abuse. Abuse from a man who couldn’t even be bothered to visit you. Did you ever meet him in person? This whole situation makes me so sad for you. A good man would never want to control you like that. You should really figure why you let this happen and how you can prevent it from happening again. No one should ever live like that.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 05:11 PM
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I’m a huge supporter of anyone going back to their natural texture. There is a lot of great styling advice out there and there are always affordable drug store options when it comes to products. Sometimes being your authentic self can make you feel the most feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/23 08:16 PM
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You’re doing it again, you have an opportunity in a few weeks to test the waters, instead you’re thinking about waiting until next month. Are you sure you like him as much as you’re saying? I also agree with the commenter who said if he wanted you he would make it clear. It doesn’t sound like he’s done anything to keep in touch with you. This is a lot for a man who’s done nothing to keep you in his life.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/23 08:06 PM
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I went to college for fashion and love clothes, but I also love a good deal as I live on a budget. In my forty years I’ve built up a collection but also throw out or donate old clothes I don’t wear. Also I work in a more casual setting so I can wear similar things to work and for hang outs or to run errands. I rarely buy something that only serves one purpose unless I have a specific need. I really never have a reason to wear formal attire. There really is no normal, it depends on lifestyle, bud…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/23 12:30 AM
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What stood out to me in your story is that he wanted to continue your date but you declined. He offered to provide you with an Uber and you declined. I would wonder how he perceived that and if it has affected how treated you the next time you were in town. At this point the next time you are going to be in his area you could let him know but don’t expect much. I would leave his social media alone in the mean time.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/23 12:03 AM
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You’re saying it was a one time thing but in your post you imply it has happened multiple times and he has only cut back, not quit all together. I’m not sure why my advice isn’t helpful? Or is just not what what you want to hear.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 08:44 PM
5

So you want to be married, spend the rest of your life, with a man who tries to make you feel insecure and tells you you will never compare to his ex?? That sounds like a miserable life. If you can’t get rid of the negative thoughts now imagine how much worse it will be in ten or twenty years. A true HVM would not be so disrespectful. Who cares if your families are involved, they will understand and should want the best for you.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 05:50 PM
14

Don’t make big purchases together since you’re not engaged. If you break up who gets the couch or tv or air fryer. It’s not worth the hassle but it’s also nice to save that for when you’re married.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/23 05:01 PM
1

Dating and relationships 10- 15 years ago were different from today. This generation doesn’t operate like we did. They barely want to move out on their own, so committed relationships aren’t a priority to a lot of them.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/23 02:24 PM
5

Spending an hour together once a week barely counts as a relationship. What are you holding on to? You’re not really explaining your situation. Is this limited time together going to last indefinitely? No one should be expected to deal with that. How do you guys spend your one hour together? Could you both make more time? Do you communicate regularly when your apart? You’ve been together for two years and there’s a lack of commitment? How long are you willing to wait? This situation doesn’t real…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 05:21 PM
1

I second this! It’s so important and makes the process less stressful.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 05:09 PM
11

At your age not a lot of men want to commit yet. If you’re concerned about your appearance take time to work on it. The internet and social media are full of people teaching you how to properly take care of your skin and apply make up, how to style your hair, how to dress, and how to get in shape. There is also way too much dating advice. Find sources that resonate with you and your goals. Everything you need to build the life of your dreams is available if you’re willing to put in the work.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/23 07:54 PM
1

You’re at an age where everyone’s lives start heading out in different directions. If you’re friends aren’t ready to settle down yet that’s okay, that’s their journey. Don’t try to change them or educate them, they will find their way eventually. Some may even seek you out later when they’re settling down with someone. Give them space and try to make new friends who are where you are in life.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/23 05:55 PM
7

Going to college doesn’t mean you have to be a career woman. But it will help you be a more worldly, well rounded woman who will have access to better quality men. Pick a degree you’re interested in so it’s fun, take advantage of travel abroad opportunities, join groups and organizations that will help you with networking and social skills.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/23 05:47 PM
7

Setting the bar at 100k/ year for high earning men is low. A truly high value woman would expect more. Successful men who have established themselves need women they can bring around business partners, clients, etc that can speak well and understand etiquette. Most uneducated women will struggle in these scenarios and potentially embarrass their partner. You’re made up statistics don’t hold up.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/23 05:44 PM
6

What happens if you find a partner who also doesn’t want sex but then you ‘heal’ and are open to sex? Even if it’s 20 years from now that’s not fair to the other person.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 08:16 PM
0

Why are you wasting your time with him. You claim to be very together, so you should have options. Part of being a RPW is not operating from a place of scarcity. Move on.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 02:06 AM
8

I’ve been in relationships with wealthy men and average guys. I would choose love with the average guy. I would rather be with someone who wants to make me happy and make sure I’m taken care of over a man who treats me like I’m lucky to have access to him and his money.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 01:30 AM
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