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Wasn’t me 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 01:07 AM
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I am including everyone perpetuating this, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 02:06 AM
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I think in general, women lost much of their desire for straight sex the more and more it became depersonalized and depicted everywhere without bounds. Something that was once special now just seems dirty and tainted. It’s a sad thing, and I’ve kept an eye on the phenomenon for a couple of decades now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:44 AM
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Yeah…. I noticed the snap, and I saw it brewing for the last several years.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:40 AM
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It all comes back to media and the pornification of EVERYTHING. Women (and some men!) are sick of it. The overkill is an anti-aphrodisiac by now. More fake sex is equalling less real sex. It’s a turn off. It makes everything just….gross and overplayed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:38 AM
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You are right. I think it said only 2% of the population is Demi, but I suspect higher, or I just happen to have met all of them where I live. Maybe a lot of people just don’t like labeling themselves, which I understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 02:47 PM
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That, and even textbooks and doctors were all geared towards male thinking. It was their main template, and women were side notes. Yeah 😢
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:35 PM
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I totally get it!!! I have liked men and women that other people roll on the ground and have hysterical fits about 🤣🤣. I don’t care. If I like you, I like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:31 PM
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I enjoyed both your comments, and as a bi woman, I agree! They’ve never even solved the nurture or nature debate in other human behaviors besides sexuality. It really seems 50/50 both are important bricks in our wall of self. It’s not one or the other, and yes, identical twins with opposing sexualities prove this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:04 PM
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Thank you. I really needed this thread today. I’m healthy. I’m not broken, I like sex, and I don’t lust after strangers. Maybe the ones that DO are unhealthy and broken? I don’t see why one side is picked to be okay, and one side is ridiculed, especially when our side doesn’t make strangers uncomfortable, and their’s does.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:56 PM
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Absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:48 PM
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It’s true. I mean, I write flowery with a lot of emotion. I can and have written comments like that, but it doesn’t translate to real life. It’s just being fun and expressive. I can see this confusing men. Just look how a woman texts with a lot of exclamation and emojis. We just write more expressively. I think that’s a lot of it. Most women aren’t really feeling or acting like all that. It’s just fun hyperbole.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:47 PM
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Was Iggy Pop ever good looking??!! …….goes the googler…. mmmm, maybe those just weren’t good pictures…still don’t see it 🤣. I agree, about ‘cute ugly’ if you like the person. I always thought SteveO from Jackass reminded me of some sweet ADHD guys I knew personally, so he was ‘cute ugly’, to me. I totally get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:40 PM
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This is a wonderful analogy. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:35 PM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:33 PM
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My people! This world sometimes makes me feel crazy. Thank you! This is exactly how I see it. Some people are beautiful like art. I don’t want to Fluck art.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:32 PM
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YUPPIE 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:30 PM
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Absolutely smell is important! I still remember the good smelling guys from hs, and the cologne they wore!!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:29 PM
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WOW! He sure accidentally told on himself, didn’t he? The projection was strong on that one 😆. Yeah, I think a lot of men just can’t imagine not lusting after strangers, the same way a lot of women can’t imagine doing it. I looked up the stats the other day, out of demisexuals, (which is basically what we are describing) only ten to 15 percent are men. Only lusting after people you are in a relationship with, or pursuing a relationship with, seems to overwhelmingly be a ‘woman’ thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:26 PM
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This. It’s this. I’m a bisexual woman. I literally NEVER just see a random woman or a man that I automatically want to sleep with, or want to think about sleeping with. I see cute, attractive, ugly, and plain. You know what they all have in common? I don’t think about being intimate with any of them until I know them, and want to start a relationship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:16 PM
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First, I don’t think any less of single men who only care to work enough to maintain themselves without extravagance. Peace of mind for them seems more important than long working hours, or stressful careers. If that’s your thing, I’ll never judge it. Second, I think it’s because the studies that have come out showing married men rating higher in happiness, and married women rating much lower. The results of these studies could make people proud of a woman committed to staying single, and sad fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:11 AM
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🤣 great comment! I see by some replies that not everyone caught your sarcasm….
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:14 PM
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Good men in families are SO important! Hug your brother for me!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:13 PM
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Not who you asked, but I will do everything HEALTHY for myself that a partner wants me to do, and most things that I find neutral. Several years ago, my bf wanted me to stop my binge drinking. I was glad he called it to my attention, and had no problem stopping. It relieved him, and was also healthy for myself. That’s a win/win. A neutral thing would be like adjusting my communication style in a way he relates better with. I would have no problem with that, or similar adjustments. I don’t mind p…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:07 PM
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Woman here. They don’t have to do that. They should just memorize your initial comment. It is GOLD. That is exactly what healthy women want. Look no farther for any other answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:21 PM
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You….you are a 25 year old man??!! 🤯 GD, take a bow. I hope you have 10 brothers, and they are all as mature and intuitive as you. I agree with every word. I love especially what you say about secure men and how they know how to walk that healthy balance of spicy tension without being hurtful. It’s true what you say about money, as well, and about demanding compliance. When a person is of the moral fiber and integrity that you described, I naturally WANT to comply with them. A lesser person tryi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:07 PM
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Exactly. Viewing sex like they do, would get women HURT. I can’t understand why they can’t understand that. Or maybe they do, and they just don’t care. I doubt they tell their OWN daughters and nieces and sisters to view sex indiscriminately like men do!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:00 PM
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This is EXACTLY it. And I can’t for the life of me understand why they would WANT us indiscriminately lusting after every man on the street?? This whole world is clownishly backwards. I really think they deep down don’t like that they don’t have more control of their lust. It interferes with their life and their own self-respect, and they want women to have this addiction/problem/poor impulse control, ruining our lives just like it does theirs. No healthy man WANTS their partner to be this way, …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 06:55 PM
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This is SO true. I’m not saying I’m anything special, but I could live completely free and paid for with tons of men I meet. I could travel on their dime. I could have the car I wanted. They would pay for an apartment if I wanted to live alone. Some are not even ‘simps’. I’ve turned down traveling business men and doctors and lawyers, because I know myself, and I know I value more quality time than ultra busy people can understandably give me. All I’ve EVER wanted is true love and respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 06:48 PM
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I like your first line, and it really needs to be said again, so I will. ‘Male (or sometimes female) indiscriminate sexual behavior is NOT the default.’ I will add, nor should it be. Why is everyone’s sexuality and standards supposed to sink and be judged by the lowest common denominator. It’s not. Indiscriminate people with no standards should rise to meet those WITH standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 06:39 PM
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This is 🎯
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:06 PM
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I am thrilled you are happy and enjoying life. Most of all, I want to thank you for knowing yourself and cutting it off with those women. You say you are ‘too selfish’, but I don’t think so. Selfish men realize they don’t have what it takes to support a relationship properly, but they like one or two things the relationship brings them, and they stay in it, while knowing they will never change and never be a good and equal partner. You were HONEST, not selfish. 🏆 It’s just like women that say th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:05 PM
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Yeah… I guess it’s like a job interview. If a would-be employee would just tell me job after job and ONLY blame the jobs, and never say anything they did, or anything they learned, or how they would be better now, I wouldn’t hire them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 11:46 PM
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YUP!!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:12 AM
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I wish I had known to run when someone tells all their breakup stories and every single one puts the other person 100% at fault, without them EVER saying ANYTHING they did, or might have done wrong, or could have done better. That just doesn’t happen. There are two sides to every pancake. It just shows the person telling these ‘woe is me’ stories lacks the maturity of introspection. I even had to put an ex husband in jail for strangling me, and I will STILL say the parts I did wrong in the relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:11 AM
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Questioning your desire to live, makes me know you dealt with a real one. That’s EXACTLY what they do. I am so sorry. 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 04:56 PM
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You know what? Thank you SO much for this. I’ve legit seen many times women turn on their friends for cheating on their husbands. They shun them, even when they don’t even know the husband that well. I’m not saying this is good or bad. They have to follow their own convictions, but I have NEVER seen a man shun a male friend no matter what he does - not even assaulting or beating up a woman. They just say, ‘hey, it has nothing to do with me’.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 02:17 AM
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Sociopaths and narcissists of both sexes are unbelievably great at masking until you are in their web. Never feel guilty or stupid. They fool the brightest of the bright. It’s what they do. They fool many therapists as well, not just regular folk. They are master manipulators. Innocent people don’t see it coming, because innocent people don’t think that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 02:09 AM
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Women need to let more stuff GO, as in, ‘don’t sweat the small stuff’. Women need to separate daily ups and downs and upsets, and ruffled feelings, and only give their energy to big boundaries and dealbreakers, and the overall picture. They shouldn’t compromise on these. And people will take you more seriously when you are staunch on a few things, rather than every little thing is wrong all of the time. People drown that constant noise out. Save your voice for what’s most important to you, then …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 02:03 AM
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I have never heard a woman say that that simple attraction is amoral. Attraction makes the world go around. Obsessive and objectifying attraction, and ONLY caring about physical attraction, are the complaints I hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 03:24 PM
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I do notice that they get bitter that we don’t JUST crave dick that can be attached to anyone, like they crave 🐱. We have to actually like the whole man. They can just be somewhat attracted to a woman’s outer shell. I think this frustrates them, and they don’t like it about themselves, but instead of changing and rising to be a man of standards that only craves sex with women of standards, they would rather women drop their standards to come down and wallow in the mud like they do. Misery loves …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 12:33 AM
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Yep. I couldn’t tell you how many times growing up I would hear younger women complaining of their men and marriages, and older women telling them to suck it up because the guy was a good provider. It’s literally like the men didn’t have to do anything else!! Today’s mom’s don’t tell their daughters that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 01:55 AM
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🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 01:50 AM
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Ooooh! Extremely great point!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 01:49 AM
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Relationships ARE about companionship, love, emotional support, etc. And before women had jobs, money, or bank accounts, they had to stay with a man not providing this. Relationships are still about those things, but now when a man doesn’t supply those things, women can leave. They aren’t stuck just accepting it or looking the other way. This is the difference you are seeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 01:46 AM
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Only to immature and superficial women, and honestly, who wants those? A man becoming emotionally healthy and mature will attract healthy women of the like.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 04:21 PM
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Sure! Women ARE picking the ‘wrong’ men. It’s sometimes obvious to everyone around them that he’s wrong, and sometimes everyone gets blindsided by his behavior. All that is true. It’s just that there should also be a 50/50 flip side of women having babies with ‘right’ men and everything going well. There’s not enough of those examples for thinking women to take the chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 04:09 PM
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Yes, there are absolutely unhealthy, immature Pickmeishas out there that will do all of this. There will always be that low self-esteem percentage of women and men. In my commenting, I kinda bypass this as a given, and ignore the bottom of the barrel of both sexes. My comments are more for regular folk - not Pickmeisha women, or simp men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 04:04 PM
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If men across the board were adding to the contentment and happiness of women, no amount of brainwashing would drive them away. It’s their own experiences of trauma and grief with men that has started the pulling away movement. The unhappiness and discontentment came first, THEN they look to movements.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 03:08 PM
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Social media has a lot to do with it, but not in the way you think. When men are anonymous behind keyboards, we see how they REALLY talk and feel about women. The veil has come down, and a lot of it is disgusting and downright scary. We’ve seen too much. We’ve heard too much. We are finally starting to listen when men say, ‘All men are this way, women just don’t understand’. Well, we DO understand now, but we also don’t want to partner with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 03:05 PM
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Women are not trusting men enough these days to begin having babies with them. They look around and see how it goes with friends of theirs, and they ‘nope’ right out of it. They don’t want to be stuck with babies while the man never changes. There just aren’t enough of ‘good family man’ examples for women to feel comfortable. I’ve been told this verbatim by tons of women without children. They know kids are an anchor, and the trust is not there enough to tie an anchor on. They still like childre…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 02:59 PM
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Exactly!! It’s now on the men to do the inner work to actually make partnering with them enjoyable. Some will and some won’t. It’s on them, not women. We will see if the men want it enough now that more is expected. They will rise to the challenge, or become incels. Their choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 02:54 PM
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I think men should control their areas of expertise in a relationship, and women should control their areas of expertise. I think we should defer to one another as needed. Everyone has equal but different talents and insights. There shouldn’t be anyone controlling anyone, ideally.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 12:38 AM
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Women have the same biological desire, or nobody would be here. In fact, ours has to be so strong that we dismiss the physical trauma to our bodies. It takes two, and yet women have the control to be more choosy of their mates. Everyone can learn to be pickier, and they should!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 09:19 PM
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I mean…..right?? I’m 5’1 wearing a size small, and I don’t accept that. What’s their problem?? Why are they ALLOWING that? That is willingly giving your power away.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 09:17 PM
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Yes, and the relationship doesn’t grow or build. It flatlines. No outside spark. Nothing to talk about. I still do all MY hobbies, so instead of growing together on some joint social hobbies, we grow apart. I feel very alone in these relationships. I still don’t suggest anyone stopping their hobbies, though. That’s worse than growing apart from someone else, if you grow apart from yourself!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 04:45 PM
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I tend to agree. I don’t like to waste what little money I have on traveling. I like to build up my life right where I’m at. You get more bang for your buck that way. If I were rich, I might do both, it’s not that I’m against travel. It’s just that when you come back home, it’s all gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:46 PM
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I agree, and for me anyway, I wouldn’t ever date again a person with no hobbies outside the home, or no close friends. There’s a documentary about to leave Netflix called ‘Join or Die’. It quotes a stat that just by joining one social group or team, a person has 50% chance less of dying that next year. It’s a documentary about the book ‘Bowling Alone’. Check it out! It’s all I needed to hear to seal in everything I thought anyway. People NEED people, People!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:41 PM
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I guess so. Not everyone is me. I get that. I will say that my way of seeing things is much higher in women than men, but of course I don’t speak for everyone, not even all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 12:06 AM
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I do follow what you are saying, but it doesn’t hold true of myself. I don’t care if the girl or guy is a superhero or supermodel. I need all of the other before my attraction would become sexual arousal to the point of actual sex. And also, if the other stuff stops, I wouldn’t be attracted to them anymore. It just all goes together for me. I can’t compartmentalize or separate it. Looks,personality, emotionally, mental engagement, those things are all seen as one to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 09:16 PM
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This is myself and most of my gf’s as well. Looks alone can get you through the door, but then we need a lot more. What kind of PERSON are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 01:35 AM
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Exactly. I have spontaneous desire to orgasm, but partnered sex is responsive. This even confused myself until I thought it through.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 01:32 AM
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I get totally random desire to orgasm, but not totally random desire to actually have sex with a person. I think this is a variant of responsive, versus instant desire. No mood at all has to be set for me to grab my vibe real quick, but some mood and togetherness HAS to be set before I even start thinking of partnered sex. It’s all about the word partnered. I have to feel partnered first 😆. Vibes are sterile. They don’t have to do anything but be charged 🔌
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 01:28 AM
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Oh wow, you’re a guy. Reading your comment, I thought you were a woman. It’s really accurate. You’re right. Just seeing my guy out of the shower or whatever, isn’t a visual ‘call to action’ for me. I am attracted, but no sexual desire unless he stimulates my brain or body. Could be as simple as playfully tickling me or something. Just a body doesn’t do it, even when I AM attracted to a body. There’s gotta be some other form of stimulation/engagement.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 01:20 AM
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You’re absolutely right about ‘missing’ a good person based on gender. And you sound like myself with your lesbian story. I bond with energies more than bodies or sexual affiliations.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 10:51 PM
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I think it’s expected from anyone that loves their person and wants a healthy relationship. If it feels like a chore, it’s the wrong person.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 05:17 PM
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Well, that’s what I mean. We watch animals, but we should also understand that animals work with no morality or ethical convictions. A man CAN live that way. He can spread his seed and leave all his 50 children and never see or care for them again. This would be the animal way, yes. Just like when black widow spiders kill their mating partners. I wouldn’t suggest people doing any of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 05:14 PM
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I was also told the other day by an astute Redditor that there are lesbian groups of koala bears that ignore the men, and have huge orgies with each other, and gay rams that refuse to compete in the mating ritual for the women. 🤣. So, yeah. Always outliers. Always have been, always will be. 🌈
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 04:48 PM
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I appreciate your kind words. I’ve had no trouble with physical attraction. The mental/emotional has been taxing. A whole different world…..
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 04:43 PM
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Heh-heh, well at times they eat their own, so I’m not a stickler for it, but it’s good to at least study from which we came.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 12:28 AM
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Well, it’s personal for me, because it was absolutely never my choice to stop dating women. Long story, but I live in the southern Bible Belt, dad is a pastor, everyone made my life hell until I caved under pressure. So it’s a personal redemption story for myself to come full circle back to my roots. I wouldn’t break up with my guy to do it, but if we broke up naturally……I’d be baaaack 😎
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 11:22 PM
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Yup. Watch the animal kingdom. It’s the males that present themselves in flashing displays of beauty, and showing the female how he can preform with physical feats. The females do not go impress the males. They accept the male they want from the group.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 10:02 PM
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Women dating women are still like this with each other. The difference is doing it because you WANT to, and it’s fun, versus feeling like you HAVE to. I would just say for everyone to find a partner that wants to treat each other this way. If you don’t naturally want to take out , date, do unexpected romantic gestures, for someone, then you probably don’t feel much passion for them. This stuff should flow easily with the right person. It shouldn’t feel like a chore. It should feel like a shared …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 09:58 PM
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This is it. It’s knowing and trusting each other so much that you instinctively know where any truly hurtful line is, and you don’t cross it. Just friendly….with an edge. With a bite.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 02:46 PM
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Hmmm, maybe? I have just found that some people have the innate personality and tendency to ‘play’ this way, and some people don’t. My favorite grandpa played with me this way, and I grew up loving it. I always had to be on my toes with him, and I got good at it 😆. To hear us, it could sound like we were tearing each other apart, but he was quite honestly my best friend. But I understand that a highly sensitive person would not like playing this way, and that’s fine as well. I just gravitate to …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 05:30 PM
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I’ve never minded cold street approachers if they are casual and respectful with it. The other, I do openly oppose. I would never make content for men, and I have never told a woman it is empowering. I don’t believe it is. Not for them, and not for women or men as a collective. It brings down society. I find it the opposite of ‘stunning and brave’.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 11:12 PM
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Mmm, it’s just that you are seeing ‘sparing’ as negative or competitive, whereas I’m only meaning it in a lighthearted and healthy way. Just more about keeping the brain healthy and practiced and on point. I’m not talking political debates. Gross. I’m not even political. I really do just mean good natured intelligent banter. It’s just what keeps me entertained, engaged, and interested. It’s no neurosis, just a mental preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 07:23 PM
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Sure I do! I like and learn from all types. The world would be boring if everyone were just like myself. I just like to spar mentally with people that can keep up. It’s invigorating. They don’t have to agree with me, just be able to hold their side. Actually, it’s fun when they don’t agree with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 11:30 PM
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True, but you can’t really go by me, and I’m not asking anyone to. If I don’t work out with this guy, I would just go back to dating all women, so I admittedly have a whole different dynamic. Anyone can ask out anyone they want. I’m down for it. I just didn’t end up liking the outcome for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 11:26 PM
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I never stop reading/writing, yep. I also think the ability to play and banter like this, straddling the line of offensive, but knowing how far to go and when to pull back, is a high sign of emotional intelligence and being in tuned with your partner. It also shows that you know enough about them and the way they work, to be able to play with them like this. It shows/tells me a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 01:14 PM
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Look, I tried it. I asked the guy I’m with now out first. It has never been a great dynamic, and I wouldn’t do it again. What’s wrong with learning and growing? I think it’s lazy to keep repeating behaviors that don’t get you what you want. I would flirt first, I just wouldn’t be the first to ask for or plan a date with a guy again.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 12:38 PM
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Of course!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 12:33 PM
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I am in love with this post. I nodded all the way through it. I don’t mind someone that doesn’t know me well to not bring the heat at first meeting, but once you’ve known me a week, if you can’t pick up that this shit excites me, you’re not the one. THIS is sexual friction to me. It’s 90% cerebral cortex, and the ability to keep up with quick banter and dialogue. A 5 in looks quickly becomes a 10. 🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 12:20 PM
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Oh no! I totally have. I’ve 99% been asked out by the man first. And I think they probably should, because I think it’s in a guy’s nature to respect a relationship more if HE initiated it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:48 PM
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Yes. Mine. 🙋‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:35 PM
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I hear this, because I wouldn’t ask a man out first again, though I have, but I would still ask out women, because as a bi woman, I don’t mind taking on the relationship’s masculine energy, but I don’t want to with a man again. It’s all about energies, yes. It can throw off the balance sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:34 PM
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I don’t mind any of that. I just want to see a man has it in him to do it. I think it’s indicative of a lot of qualities and traits about him that will pop up in other ways. I say this because I’ve been there and asked out first, as a woman. I never felt weird or uncomfortable, but I didn’t like the final result. I think natural nature kinda weeds out a person that won’t ask a woman out first, and maybe it kinda needs to? I think it serves an evolutionary purpose that runs deeper than personal o…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:31 PM
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Ok. I came here to warn of something similar. I’m a woman, and I think it’s fine for women to ask out men. I want to say that, before I say, but just because I think it’s fine, I would never do it again, and it’s because of your comment. I asked out my male partner first, and even though we’ve been together many years, the dynamic has always been off. He’s not a strong pursuer in and of the relationship. It has always felt very strained and lopsided. Only because of my experience, my opinion now…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:25 PM
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Well, I’m in a relationship, so not looking, but actually being on a bi sub, I have changed my mind. A lot of the guys seem very sincere and monogamous. I would give them the same chance as anyone else, except that if my current relationship goes south, I would just go back to my original preference and marry a woman. I can honestly say though, that it doesn’t have anything to do with the guy being bi anymore. I would just have to finally admit that I just don’t succeed with guys over women, is …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:44 PM
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I agree with all of this. I have said before that I would be leery of dating a bi man, only because I have justified trust issues with men, and my thinking was, ‘then I’d have to watch out for BOTH sexes, and my mind would explode’ 🤯. But I’ve always been attracted to their style and personalities. I have at times wished my trust level with men hadn’t been stripped so low before I gave a bi guy a shot. I think they are more compatible with my personality than most straight men, and many of them …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 03:02 PM
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I agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 08:22 PM
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It’s not all attractive people. It’s just that you specifically said ‘Chad’s’. I read a lot more into that definition than just looks. Arrogance, etc. You can go attractive, just look for humble attractive, and someone whose looks aren’t the most important asset they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 06:05 PM
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Then they’ve probably never had one. They typically ain’t no prize.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 03:24 PM
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I’d love to say I thought so…..😉
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:01 PM
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I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND!! My hell would be to have to date a rich AND gorgeous person. Just picturing the entitlement, makes me wanna play in traffic. Of course there are exceptions, but let others try to sort through those types, and good luck with it. They’ll need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 09:31 PM
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Idk how you are in other things, but twice a month dating combined with indoor dates sounds totally on point to me. I would be more than satisfied, and wouldn’t even notice a slip until the third or fourth month. I don’t speak for all women, but you wouldn’t be in the doghouse with me 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 12:51 AM
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I was ready to disagree with you, and then I read how she said, ‘we haven’t gone on a date in this many DAYS’. That, to me, is a bit much. All I’ve ever begged for is a date once a month, I’d settle for once every 2 months, I’d make do with once every 3 months, and I get in actuality about one a YEAR. Days??? If she’s counting by days, she’s a lucky woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 03:12 AM
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THIS!!! 🏆🏆🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 11:30 PM
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The worst guy I’ve ever been with was my older ex-husband who was rich. He ended up doing 5 years in jail for strangling me. I now see wealth and money as a red flag to my health and happiness, and I ONLY date moderate income people. The rich need not apply. They barrel through life like they are invincible. I don’t need that shit. It’s hard enough to find a humble human to date. I’m not dealing with their money entitlement. And no, I didn’t get with him in the first place for the money. He offe…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:55 PM
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Interesting you should say that. I’m a woman on testosterone to boost my athleticism. I can tell you about myself. I LOVE sex when it is happening. I orgasm in multiples, and I’m a soak the bedsheets squirter. That said, I STILL don’t need or want partnered sex if the relationship qualities are not there - from men or women. I’m bisexual. I can cum on my own with no help. I can’t have a good relationship without willingness and help. I just think women in general, will ALWAYS put the relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:31 PM
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That’s a really good point. Well, lesbians actually DO move in with each other much quicker than straight relationships. Google U-Haul lesbians. 😆. But women in general want solid relationship traits before sexual ones - although both are important!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:33 PM
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Exactly!! Sex is the end all with men. If they get the sex, they won. A typical woman doesn’t see it that way at ALL. But you also have to think how because men are stronger and can physically hurt us, evolution has taught us to consider other traits in a man before sexual ones. It’s a survival instinct that keeps us alive. A woman frequenting bath houses wouldn’t last very long before she turned up dead. Women don’t have the LUXURY of only caring what a guy looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 01:08 AM
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A roommate situation is definitely as good or bad as the roommates you get. I can agree with that!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:25 PM
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But there are roommates for financial help. It doesn’t have to be a romantic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:25 PM
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I think this is perfect, and describes how I discern everyone from love interests to just healthy friends I want in my life, to media I will and will not watch. People need to quit being so visually oriented on flashy packaging, and start carefully reading the labels of ingredients!! Great post. 🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:55 PM
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I just made a slingshot with my thong underwear and knocked it out of existence. That’s what I always use mine for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:47 AM
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I agree. I don’t understand this unless it’s a later in life relationship where the couple is really old 👵🏼👴
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 03:44 PM
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I think if men want women more submissive, they are doing it all wrong by wanting working women that split bills 50/50 like roommates. No woman in this position is ever going to be able to relax in her femininity and feel any kind of urge to submit. Now, I personally could be with a millionaire who feeds me money and spa days, and I still need and want a 50/50 power balance type relationship. That’s just who I am, and circumstances would never change it. But there are women on the cusp of wantin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 03:38 PM
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Thank you!! I’m exactly the same. My dad is a pastor. I was 100% seeped in this ‘conventional wisdom’. It was all around me. It was all I heard, and it appealed to me about as much as pouring rubbing alcohol into a wound. 😆. This commenter is acting like if women just hear something long enough we will want to do it?? I turned my back on all my ‘comfort’, and everything I knew, because I refused to live this way. I’ve never regretted it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 03:22 PM
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Hmmm, I was seeing if I fit… I like the man to initiate sex, yes. I like him confident and dominant in how he preforms during sex, yes. I don’t like to be hurt or degraded, but I do like comfortably forceful. I give a pretty dominant blow job, though. Idk. Outside of the bedroom I like to lead when I know more about a subject, and I like to be able to relax and follow when he knows more.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:26 PM
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Yes, I just didn’t understand that OP meant companionship with no sex. Yes, that would just be friends, in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 10:44 PM
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For myself, I’m a woman, but I don’t think it would matter, it’s cuz I don’t give a rat’s ass about holidays, even my own birthday. I just care about the overall quality of the relationship. I’d rather a guy just be lowkey stable, and a consistently good relationship partner, then do dazzling romantic gestures. Those are relatively easy. Staying a good man of integrity throughout the years is hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 10:40 PM
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I like my partner to be completely in charge of himself and his lane. I love a male to be strong and confident in his areas of his expertise. I never want to babysit him or his health or his employment. I like him fully capable in the personal care of his duties and domain, but I can tell you without a shadow of doubt, that I would leave anyone, male or female, that thought they were in charge of ME. No. You are just wrong if you believe all women secretly desire this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 10:20 PM
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Well yes, it’s companionship AND sex with a partner, it’s just that the companionship is just as important as the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 10:13 PM
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I agree. I don’t think ANY human secretly yearns for someone else to be completely in charge all the time. If we did, we would never leave the homes of our parents 😆. By 18 or 21, we are all pretty sick of it, and never want to relive it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:03 PM
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But….when a woman chooses the hot looking bad guy over the down to earth good guy, they get dogged for that choice as well. Can you admit you are setting up scenarios where a woman just can’t win, and has to be somehow ‘wrong’ for any choice she makes?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 02:43 PM
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I agree with this, but as the woman, I’M the cool, calm, and collected one when shit hits the fan. Everything not streamlined and perfect rattles my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 01:36 AM
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YUP! There’s no relationship without companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 01:34 AM
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That word stuck out to me as well. What’s wrong with that?? It’s companionship I value in my best friends, and I love my best friends. Why is that a bad word?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 01:32 AM
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I think men hate us a little bit for this, but I think it is misdirected anger. They can learn to be more this way, by taking up hobbies, exercise, etc. They themselves give women too much sexual power over them by all their obsessive gooning, and then they get angry that women are ‘controlling’ them. Nobody can control what you don’t allow them to control. Men need to take their own power back. This doesn’t mean be bitter and hateful towards women. It just means stop making women and sex the hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 11:06 PM
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This is exactly the way I have always been. I NEED to orgasm. I don’t need it to be through partnered sex. I DO have spontaneous desire for an orgasm, but that desire would never send me out looking for a partner. I look for partners to love and have relationships with, not because I’m horny 😆. I do love having them with my partner, tho!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 02:20 AM
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I don’t have to feel extra feminine around them, but I DO have to actually like a guy to be attracted to him. A jerk with a 10 body would still just look like a giant donkey to me , but if the same guy was a great person, I would be attracted. It’s just that a bad personality overrides the part of my brain that acknowledges the physical. But when everything aligns, I can very much appreciate a man’s beauty.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 02:15 AM
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I’m bisexual and BOTH genders have to make me feel good about myself for me to have any sexual interest in their bodies. Why is this weird? If any person doesn’t show invested interest and excitement in me and the relationship, I’m not going to be into their bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 02:05 AM
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Can you not think that these men just treat them well? I’d much rather a 5 that treated me exceptionally well, than a 10 that didn’t! Wouldn’t even be a contest. The 5 is winning hands down.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 01:52 AM
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I just joined the sub women are not into men after seeing it linked here. It’s fascinating. I haven’t spent a lot of time on it, but from what I saw, a lot of it is true. I’ve even noticed as a bisexual woman who leans more towards women, that many times I seem ‘straighter’ than women who profess to be totally straight. I don’t think this is all physical, though. A lot of women are just so burned out by the way men treat them, that it’s hard to even desire them physically. It becomes, ‘yeah, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 01:47 AM
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Kind of? I mean, I can have desire for a man, but I also very much feed on HIS desire and pursuit of the overall relationship, not just in bed. I do have more sexual desire when I feel my company is in pursuit, when my feelings and ideas and thoughts and dreams are in pursuit, when having fun with me is in pursuit, etc. I do lose libido when I feel apathy towards any of this from a partner. I’m bisexual, and it would be the same with another woman, although no woman has ever made me feel this wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 01:28 AM
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I like your post. I do resonate with it. I would just say that I do get spontaneous need for a very quick orgasm release. That is biological, and I would always need that, but I can solve it in two minutes with a vibe, and carry on my day. Partnered sex would never be a physical ‘need’, per se. I love it, but the ‘need’ is different. When I am single for long gaps, I would never just hook up with someone because I ‘needed’ it. My vibe handles the release that I actually NEED physically. I can le…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 08:57 PM
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They want a ‘good woman’ with higher ethics and morality than they themselves have, - at HOME, while they play around with and USE ‘hoes’ on the side. It’s a tale as old as time. Don’t be the hoe getting used by these ‘men’, and don’t be the ‘good girl’ at home for them. Just don’t fluck with these types at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 05:35 PM
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Yes!!! And she was YOUNG! I was early 20’s. She was only 18 or 19, but held the wisdom of a much older person. Shout out to Tori F!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 02:08 AM
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Yep. Sounds like a normal stage to go through. When we are with bad people, their bad energy can be catching. The rest of my story is that I actually had a dear gf sit me down and say, ‘these idiots you are sleeping with to get back at the idiot that keeps cheating on you are getting your sexual energy that they DON’T deserve. You are basically just supporting idiots all the way around, and none of them deserve you.’ It all clicked when she said that. I’ve always been so grateful to her. She was…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 06:39 PM
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When I was much younger, I used to run out and cheat when someone cheated on me. It was an absolutely ridiculous game that never made me happy. I didn’t even WANT the sex, I just wanted the cheater to see that I wasn’t a punk. I never hid the fact I did it. I did it because I WANTED them to know that ‘I got them back’. I never got any sexual pleasure when I did this, and I didn’t even care, or expect to. It wasn’t the point. What stopped me? I just grew up, and now if anyone cheated, I would jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 01:41 AM
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I tell you what, OP, it honestly DOES bother me if I am significantly more dressed than a person taking me out, but I can FEEL your awareness and empathy and emotional iq through the words of your post, and that, for me, would more than make up for your clothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 09:09 PM
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Wow, thank you. Your comment was what I needed to read this morning because my partner has literally tried to guilt me for this by basically saying that there is something wrong with me because his company should just be enough, and wanting us to have mutual friends to do things together with is in some twisted way disloyal and means he’s not enough. I never fell for it. I always knew it was weird and twisted logic, but it still feels validating to read it from a stranger. 😆. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 04:13 PM
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What angers me is someone that says they have an overtly sexual kink they need for stimulation is supposed to be accepted and taken seriously without question, but someone that NEEDS this kind of stuff for keeping their libido alive is just ignored. Fine, ignore me, but you also have to accept that you’ve crashed my libido for you and the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 03:52 AM
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THANK YOUUU!!! Having real fun with someone and cutting up and laughing and getting out of the house, is my aphrodisiac! Women are not just smaller, prettier men. The way we get horny is completely different, and so much of what WE need is considered optional or not important. It pisses me off! We NEED this. I never just randomly want to screw. I want to have fun and bond first. My feelings have gotten so ignored and dismissed , I’ve gone from extremely high libido to almost having none (for thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:37 AM
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This article is so true, but it blows my MIND that people don’t just innately know this??!!! Of course if you just sit your ass at home together the relationship will be as dry and boring as burnt toast. I have a partner who just can’t understand why I’m not happy just to literally sit and stare at walls with him. To me, it’s normal human knowledge that every relationship needs outside stimulation and new experiences. We have totally run out of things to talk about!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:25 AM
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I quit reading past the assumption all feminists believed Amber Heard 🤣🤣🤣🤣.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 03:49 PM
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Equal respect. He comes to me for advice and ideas on subjects I know more about. I go to him in his areas of expertise. There’s no ‘leader’. We both lead, and we both follow. No porn or seeing women as objects. Just being able to acknowledge that men and women make equal, but different contributions, and all contributions are respected equally. Doesn’t have to call himself a feminist. I don’t care about titles, just the way I am treated.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 06:38 AM
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I’m everything but the 20 something. I like a thinner rather than stockier 5’9 guy with a fit classic build that indents at the waist. Athletic. Race doesn’t matter much. I just want them with high emotional intelligence and stability. No addicts of any sort. No misogyny. Monogamously minded. Not a big spender with extravagant tastes. Funny. Open to new ideas and experiences. Respectful. Can fit in easily with all types. My friends are all across the board of race, gender, and orientation. Must …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 03:41 AM
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Normal doesn’t mean DEAD. You still have to actively participate in the relationship. Take her on dates. Stay upbeat and interesting. Stay interested in HER. But it’s true that for most women, unless they are vapid and shallow and materialistic, this can be done cheerfully and cheaply. Doesn’t have to be trips to Brazil. Just don’t be an apathetic shut in. Always act like you are still wooing her in a comfortable way, not big and performative, but you can’t just ‘get her’ then come to a full sto…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 09:18 PM
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And I LIKE people like you. You know who you are, and you are upfront with others about what you want, and what you don’t want. I have zero issues with this. I only take issue with people that want it both ways, or want their partner to be monogamously relationship minded, when they are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 08:34 PM
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It’s just that OP says, ‘after that, it’s fine to get a gf’, settle down, etc. And that’s the part they will experience trouble with. The traits that make a man or woman good for one nighters, do not crossover into being a good gf or bf or life partner. The ease at which he thinks he will be able to transition into a good partner when he’s ‘done’ with these hookups is going to shock him. You have the personality for one or the other. You can’t make great both, unless you take a couple of years i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 05:41 PM
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And that’s fine, it really is. It’s just that the post said ‘desirable’, and to me, one nighters don’t have the markings of the full package that makes a man truly desirable. But if that’s really all a person wants to do, and they are attractive and superficially charismatic to be able to do it, then I guess they are winning in their field. Power to them. Are they desirable men to me? No, but that’s ok. They don’t have to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 04:39 PM
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Yeah…. I guess it’s a good way to know if you are attractive enough to pull one nighters with women. It’s just not an indication you can pull a successful life off with a good woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 01:43 AM
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If that’s true about women, then you are just backing up my conclusion about a man’s all over ability if he can help keep his woman happy and secure and healthy and ‘not bored’ over the course of a longterm relationship. He’s a hero, and a keeper. It’s easy to dazzle and dazzle for a night, or a two week fling. Can he keep her interested over time? There’s many that can and do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 08:56 PM
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Hmmm, I think being able to land a hot woman AND keep her happy and satisfied through a longterm relationship is the ultimate judge on a guy’s abilities, - ALL his abilities, not just sex. When I see a hot and happy and healthy woman that is 90% happy and confident and content with her man, then I KNOW he’s ’got it’. Just a guy having a lot of one night stands actually says the opposite to me. It means he can reel in numbers, but doesn’t have what it takes to make anything stick.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 06:14 PM
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No. I’d rather a hard truth than a beautiful lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 10:13 PM
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A lot of men do this for their OWN selfishness. THEY don’t want and avoid hard conversations. A healthy relationship HAS to have them. It hurts the relationship when they run away from these talks. Women usually are begging for them. That’s why women push for therapy and couple’s counseling. Men run because they don’t want to deal, and then nothing is solved, and everything gets worse. They don’t avoid these things for us, they avoid them for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 03:53 PM
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I just googled both man and woman keeping. That’s just a relationship, bro. That’s things both partners do for the other. It’s only negative when it’s lopsided, and it’s usually lopsided on the woman, to be honest, especially if she has to work outside the home, AND has kids. Basically, stay single if you don’t want to do this stuff. And the majority of your post fell flat to me, because you assume every man asks the woman out first. I asked my partner out first, so…..
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 03:47 PM
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EXACTLY!! There is a baseline of looks that get you through the door, I’m not dating an obese or unhygienic person with zero style, but no matter how good your looks are, you can’t coast on them. They only get you considered. I’m still not sleeping with a fine, but bad person. And I’m not fantasizing about a fine guy that I don’t even know, just because he looks good - so what? What have your looks done for me? I don’t even know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 07:51 PM
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🤣🤣🤣 then quit asking
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 05:07 PM
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Exactly. They ask, and then don’t listen. I’ll never understand that 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 04:43 PM
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YESSS! My mental has to be stimulated just as much as my physical, or I don’t give a rat’s ass how you look.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 04:42 PM
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Exactly! I can look at a man with a perfect body and think, wow, he looks like a work of art, but unless I actually know and like him as a person, it just ends right there. There’s nothing else to think 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 04:40 PM
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YES!!! It’s not weird or different to actually have to KNOW a person to get turned on by a person. I find it weird the other way!!!!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 04:38 PM
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When we TRUST you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 04:35 PM
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THIS! It’s not that we don’t find them attractive, it’s just that we know looks aren’t everything, and we need more. We ARE visual, it’s just that we are no more visual than the rest of our 5 senses….really, with women, we should say 6 senses. Our 6th sense of intuition and emotionality weeds out a lot. Our sixth sense is probably our strongest. We’ve had to develop it, because women stand to get physically hurt more often. If you look like a god, but give red flags to my sixth sense, I’ll never…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 04:34 PM
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I mean, for a regular buddy, all they have to do is not actively offend me, just casual mutual respectful interactions. I don’t get into their deeper beliefs, morality, ethics…. It’s easy being a dude’s friend when you aren’t trying to blend and build a life with them. On surface level I find most men funny and we have good conversations, mostly about athletics or music. I’m a jogger, and I shoot the shit with a lot of blue collar workers on the street. I like them when I’m not bringing them hom…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 01:12 AM
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I’ve never had problems being friends with guys. I don’t hold regular guy friends to the same standards I would hold a male romantic partner to. This is the difference, and it’s a huge one. I can be great friends with someone that I also wouldn’t date.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 12:10 AM
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But porn making men porn-brained and depraved is a huge reason women ‘think’ they only want sex, and a huge reason men act like they only want sex, and don’t know how to effectively date anymore, or make a partner feel special. They’ve lost touch with their emotional humanness and it shows. This is what women are sensing and recoiling from in droves.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:53 PM
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Yes. Deceiving people of your true intentions, interests, and personality IS exhausting. Send/text what you want, and it will attract the people that are attracted to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 09:04 PM
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Personally, I HATE IT. It’s deceptively dishonest. I like ALL people to be themselves. That gives me the opportunity to honestly know them, and then decide if they are right for my life, my values, my ethics. If someone lies by omission all the way through, it might seem like the person you are interested in likes you, but they really don’t know you. It’s not fair to either one of you, and when your facade drops eventually, because it WILL, then you are looking at a break up. Send all the disgus…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 09:00 PM
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No. I talk to women every day about these things. It HAS become all real life issues, because porn and violent porn and pedo porn is now in everyone’s homes, and it has affected the actions and way men view and treat their real life partners. It has heightened misogyny across the board. You don’t have to go to Epstein Island. It is in your phone in your pocket.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 08:21 PM
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I cannot agree with this post enough!! Avoidants are so scared of every social interaction and every conversation not being perfect and easy, that they won’t relax and just be ‘messy’ with it. Everything is clipped and aloof. It’s a fear of everything not going according strictly to their comfort zone. You can’t bond with people like this. Relationships with them feel cold and scripted. There’s no ‘freestyle’ to them. They always have to maintain complete control. In the end, it just makes them …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 06:55 PM
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I’ll be honest with you, I have never in my entire life known a woman that left her man because of his looks. Not once or twice - absolutely never. Women are nesters. They try to stay as long as they can. Yes, we file for divorce more often, but we also beg for couples therapy and buy the majority of relationship care books, and watch the most relationship/marriage podcasts. When you see them actually leave, they have tried everything, with no such meeting back of effort in the man. Men tune us …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:47 PM
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I really do understand what you are saying, and I would totally respect a woman that listed her boundaries and deal breakers. I would readily respond to a woman that said no misogynists or no porn-brained monkeys, or nothing but respect accepted. That shows strength of character. I love women that know what they want, and accept nothing less. I cringe at ‘princess treatment’, because to me, it doesn’t seem strong. It seems more like a sugar baby, or a materialistic person. Maybe I would ask her …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:53 PM
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😆 you are determined. Look, nobody wants an unhygienic obese slob, but the majority of real women, not internet addicted, will overlook a LOT in the looks category for a quality soul.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:47 PM
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I don’t do social media or online dating. I’m sure it attracts those kind of people. I’m going by women and relationships I see in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 05:18 PM
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I wouldn’t have sympathy for a woman in that case. It’s just that in real life, all I ever see is women running around like chickens trying to build and strengthen their relationships, while the men remain steadfast and unchanging, until the women finally give up and start concentrating on themselves and other like-minded people. I see vast emotional burnout from women. If a woman has never tried herself, but expects the man to, she is wrong. I just personally don’t see that dynamic too often. U…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 05:16 PM
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I strongly dislike unearned entitled behavior from any sex or gender. As I say, it would be the same if a man’s profile said ‘King treatment only’. Would you not cringe?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 05:09 PM
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I’m not offended by it….. I just wouldn’t wanna date it 😆. I actually appreciate the honesty. It’s just not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:06 PM
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For relationships to work both parties have to be agreeable and adaptable with tons of empathy. The problem lies in that women score much higher in all of these traits than men. Over time, we have become burnt out. We NEED to see men rising in these relationship traits. It’s the only way the guy/girl dynamic will continue to work. It’s why it’s all falling apart. Since we technically don’t ‘need’ each other anymore, we have to WANT to be together, and women are tired of being the main relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 03:53 PM
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Girls might fall for looks. Women realize it’s the personality that matters. You don’t make a life with someone’s looks. You create a life with the core of the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 03:48 PM
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Of course! You teach others how to treat you by your own actions, not by first meeting demands.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 03:45 PM
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Right??!! It’s so telling to me how many men are in essence admitting that it’s just too hard to be the decent and in-tune relationship partner that women are now demanding. They would rather take themselves out. This is how low their bar and ability is set.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:52 AM
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It all boils down to more women working and equally earning. Men didn’t used to have to do anything with themselves but be a good financial provider who didn’t beat people, and they would get a wife. Now men want the 50/50 rent sharing business with women, while still resting on our grandparents day when women financially needed them. They are now starting to see that it doesn’t work anymore. They have to actually be good romantic partners, or we just don’t want them. They are rebelling against …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:47 AM
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Wow. This comment is dripping with a need for therapy. Adaptation means nothing of the sort.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:29 AM
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WOAH 🤯🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:20 AM
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I agree a billion percent
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:59 AM
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As a woman that dates women, I would run 🏃‍♀️ my ass away from any woman that had this on her profile. I can and do give princess treatment, but no one deserving of it would lead with demanding it. When you act like a princess, you’ll naturally receive my princess treatment. It’s no different than a man first meeting you and demanding king treatment. I’d bust out laughing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:08 PM
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I’ve never picked a man by looks or booty calls, BUT! I have picked unwisely based on the potential I saw for and in the man, not realizing he would steadfastly refuse to grow with me in the relationship. I would never do it again. I must already see my potential partner living and thriving in their healthy energy and up to their potential. I’ve definitely learned that!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:57 PM
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We were talking about men. All women are not innately ‘good’ and women can have some really self-defeating, and annoying tendencies. I’ve posted in agreement about some when the post is pertaining to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:53 PM
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Definitely not true. I’d rather hear a hard truth to better my relationship than nothing at all. Yes, I’m good at making things work for me. An example would be that I was told by my partner that our relationship would fail if I didn’t stop drinking. I didn’t WANT to hear that, but I logically saw that he was right, and I stopped. Now I love how my health and body has soared, and I’ve made it work as a great advantage to self, but I did it originally out of my own emotional maturity, not because…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:26 PM
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We see straight through the negging, and it makes men look like petulant 14 year old boys. It’s gross and ridiculous. If you have to neg another to feel you have the upper hand, you are severely lacking relationship skills. It’s a child’s game.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:01 PM
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I agree with you. Nice should be just the basic standard. We want emotionally mature men that will sacrifice and change and grow right alongside us for the betterment of the relationship. It’s THIS that is ultra hard to find in a man. Their relationship maturity, many times, caps out around 14 years of age.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 07:56 PM
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We can and do TRY to filter them, but they just lie. When we ask filtering/deal-breaking questions, they could just be honest and say, ‘ok, that’s not me. I’m not the right one for you’. But they refuse to do that. They will just answer you as if they agree, and then carry on doing the opposite. It’s not that we can’t filter, it’s that they refuse honesty. If I think I want a man, but then he’s something that doesn’t jive, like maybe deeply involved in organized religion, I’ll just be honest and…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 09:09 PM
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Amen to that. And I do weighted Pilates with 20 pounds strapped to each leg. I will dress as skimpily as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 02:30 AM
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Sir, I literally run interstate 🛣️ hills in 100 degree heat. Judge me when you are out doing the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 02:27 AM
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Yep. And if I liked it, I would wear it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 07:51 PM
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I would say there are certain expected looks for certain places and things. Church, work, gyms, clubs, school, weddings, funerals, etc. It would be inappropriate to wear a club look to a funeral, but totally normal at a club. In reverse, it would be weird to dress for a wedding at a disco. I like to wear the ‘uniform’ of what I’m doing. Like they say, ‘When in Rome….’
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 04:18 PM
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That is one of the most chilling art exhibits I have ever seen. Everyone should look it up. This conversation would be over if they did. We can’t win, so we might as well dress as we find comfortable for ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 04:07 PM
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Exactly. And as a woman that lives in the southern heat and exercises as much as I breathe, it’s the same exact reason I run around in skimpy gym clothes. It’s practical for me. I would look ridiculous and feel like death jogging here in anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 04:03 PM
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Yuuuup. I always tell my partner to take his shirt off when he mows. I like the tan he gets. I couldn’t care less about the neighbors. If they enjoy the scenery, good for them!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 03:59 PM
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This could be very true of men and women. I would just hope that they know it’s out of their system when they commit to someone, or it’s not time to commit. Don’t punish your commitment partner because you didn’t get something out of your system.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 09:24 PM
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I know. As prices keep rising, I see the trend of communal living. Two people can’t even make it anymore. It’s ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 03:42 PM
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I mean, I don’t care much about how casual acquaintances conduct their personal lives, so long as they respect ME while I am with them. I DO care about how my own intimate partners conduct their whole lives. It personally affects me. The others don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 03:45 PM
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I like men. I honestly do. I find them funny. I find them interesting. I love their passion for athletics. I make guy friends very easily. That said, it’s intimate relationships with them that are quite challenging. I hold a male partner to higher standards than male ‘buddies’. This is where a lot of them fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 06:26 PM
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Of course not. There is always some good in every trope or stereotype. It’s just a matter of extremely careful screening.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 07:15 PM
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Well, I did love him, but also true, I did pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 10:21 AM
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EXACTLY! Usually one spouse will make more or have more money in the bank. That doesn’t make them an automatic leader, or authority. And anyway, through the course of a relationship, the one with more money can shift several times. Does this mean the leadership switches back and forth? Nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 04:26 PM
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It is NOT. Life is NOT nicer as a dependent with no autonomy. Those that make the mistake of thinking it is, are guaranteed to find out it ain’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 04:22 PM
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🤣🤣 these women with these channels ARE working. That’s their job. Why are people blind to this? It’s extremely encompassing and time consuming. I’d say they work more than a typical 9 to 5. It’s their whole life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 04:20 PM
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Anytime you are being ‘led’ by anyone, it ain’t a ‘soft life’. My marriage to a rich guy like this was absolutely barbaric. I’d rather have to work outside the home my entire life, than to be at home being ‘led’ against my autonomy. It was horrific.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 04:16 PM
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I am ONLY attracted to men like your father, and relationships like your parents. They get a gold star, in my book. Theirs is the way. I am ONLY content being with a man in this context. Absolutely nothing else appeals to me. I do not want to be led. I do not want to lead. When he is better at something, I will humbly and gladly delegate it over to him. When I’m better at something, he should happily and humbly do the same. This is the only true PARTNERSHIP. You are extremely lucky to have been …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 04:09 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 where do YOU live?? If it’s over, someone needs to tell the guys in Louisiana. They ain’t got the memo. It doesn’t even bother me, I’m just saying. Cold approaching is alive and well here in the south.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 02:30 AM
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I mean…even when he is inside, I’m still having clitoral orgasms. That’s where female orgasms come from. It’s just that he is in a position where I’m getting clit stimulation with his pubic area, or he’s using his hands while in me. The inside of the vaginal canal (past the first two to three inches) has lining the same as our inner mouth cheeks. Do yall cum from inner cheek stim? I don’t 😆. All our feel good nerve endings are up top, or right inside about a finger’s length.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 03:04 AM
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My male partner would be FINE with this. I doubt he would admit it, but he’d be absolutely fine, and happy for me not to need anymore than this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 07:02 PM
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My male partner would be FINE with this. I doubt he would admit it, but he’d be absolutely fine, and happy for me not to need anymore than this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 07:02 PM
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You know what, my bff and I went through a phase of ONLY going out with really funny cold approachers. We had a blast. She ended up with one of my god children from a charismatic cold approacher. We played pool every weekend. We would meet them in pool halls. We were very young, though. Had nothing to lose. No regrets, though. We only have positive stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 11:28 PM
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Nobody can tell anyone to foot the bill. I am just saying that men see the price for the actual date, women see a whole lot more. Dating is expensive for both sexes/genders. Dating out is expensive. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 08:28 PM
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Not every woman says that. With me, it’s just my face. I wouldn’t think not to do it. It’s my expression. But there are plenty of women that only wear makeup for special occasions like dates, prom, etc. And as a woman, I would care if my date rolled up in sweats. It’s disrespectful to me and to the establishment we would be going to on our date….unless it was a picnic, or something athletic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 08:25 PM
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Lemme just tell you, if you didn’t grow up around women. By the time you pay 50 bucks on the meal, she has bought a date outfit, had her hair/nails done, possibly bought new makeup, maybe is paying for a sitter if she has children…. Dating is just as expensive for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 05:51 PM
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Good FRIEND. I don’t need a leader. I need a trustworthy friend that is my equal, no lower. No higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 12:36 AM
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Very true, and that could work for others, but sex isn’t a big enough pull for me to revisit anyone I’ve left. I would just want to concentrate on the new person and getting OUR sex just as good. At the end of the day, I’m just monogamous hearted. But your comment was good. It made me pause and think. Yeah. I feel like I’m in the middle of an extended booty call, and I’m waiting on my real relationship partner. Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 02:03 AM
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I moved out for a couple of years, only about ten minutes away, but we stayed dating. I had to work on some things and process some things, and couldn’t do it under the same roof. But when I moved back in with him, it was still under mediocre sex conditions. It took off after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 06:09 PM
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He is firm against it. It would be with a woman, I don’t want another man, but he’s still a firm no. And it’s for the best. My heart will only do one at a time. I’m a feelings person.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 03:19 AM
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That’s an interesting point, because my guy has been both ‘meh’ in bed the first 5 years, and 🔥 in bed the last 5. I’ve been here through it all, so idk…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 03:16 AM
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Idk what the last word means, but I like it. It looks like sloppy lips .
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 03:14 AM
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Yes! 🤣 I’m angry that he’s been right. I actually laughed out loud. You’re good. I will say, however, that I have a relationship deadline in my head at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 03:12 AM
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Yuuuuup
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 02:15 AM
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ABSOLUTELY! 🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 02:15 AM
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I have the best sex I’ve ever had, and we have it every night, sometimes twice, sometimes thrice on weekends, and I’ve got one foot out the door. In fact, the good sex is making me ANGRY, because I can tell he thinks it will keep me, and that he doesn’t have to work on absolutely anything else. Yes, it’s probably kept me this long, but at the end of the day, I’M good at sex, and I take myself with me everywhere I go. I’ll never not have good sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 02:13 AM
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Your examples are examples of both sexes in their wounded or unhealthy energy. Yes, whether it’s a man or a woman, you don’t want to date or marry anyone not in their healthy. A woman that would make fun of an emotionally available, healthy, man, is unhealthy herself. A man that wants to marry an unrespectable hoe, just because she’s hot and good in bed, is in his unhealthy energy. These people shouldn’t be dating at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 09:14 PM
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I openly chastise women who belittle or scoff at their men, or men/boys in general when they open up. It’s ignorant and it’s mean. However, they are not the majority. The majority of women, both on platforms, and in real life, are all begging avoidant men to open up, go to therapy, etc. I mostly see other MEN calling the alpha and beta and simp and Chad words. Other men make fun of the type men women want to be married to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 08:14 PM
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I hope so. I try to be. I’m not perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 04:50 AM
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I’ve seen it be horrible, yep. I just know as a dominant partner, I would never start any 💩, and I wouldn’t date any girl that thrived on 💩, so my relationships were/are always good. Another thing many lesbians do wrong is move in together way too fast. I don’t do that 💩, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 12:01 AM
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It’s a fair question that I’ve answered before. Lesbian relationships are only as healthy as the ‘dominant’ woman is. They become very emotionally abusive if the dominant is quick to anger, jealous, controlling, or abusive. If the more dominant is calm, loving, secure and empathetic, they are the best relationships you can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 06:08 PM
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Yyyyyep. And if my man was my best friend, he would be fired immediately 😆. We have no friendship. Friendship is a VERB, not a title. You’re my friend? Prove it!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:21 PM
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I’m not who you asked, but I wonder this all the time. I’m generalizing here, but I often think the majority of men don’t even LIKE women. They lust for them. They may even love the woman they are with, but they don’t LIKE them. I can tell when people LIKE me. They get excited to see me. They want to be around me. They enjoy talking and doing things with me…. It’s not rocket science. In my case anyway, my man loves me, but I don’t care what his mouth says, he does not LIKE me. He puts up with me…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 07:22 PM
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Yes. Any sex/gender can feel burnout when they are the only one putting in. If she were also putting in her end of effort, you would have felt differently, I’m sure. It only feels like ‘work’ when both people aren’t putting in their share of the relationship maintenance.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 07:15 PM
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This is fair, because I readily admit I am ‘different’. Yes, I’ve been with a guy 10 years, and I came into the relationship acting just like I did with women. I was always trying to bring our relationship life and friends and fun and surprise, spontaneity, emotionality, and great sex. The great sex, we have every single day. Everything else, I had to pull back. I never got met in the middle, and I was burning myself out. I can’t do it for two people. I’m afraid I’m now as blasé as he is about e…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 04:30 PM
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It’s fine to stay single if your reason for wanting a woman is because being a sexless male ‘sucks’ and is ‘low status’. Stay single until you want someone not for what they can do for you, or how they will look on your arm. Wait until you are excited about your life, and are looking for a partner to share it with as an equal. Nobody wants to be the woman a man asks out because ‘being a sexless male sucks’ and is ‘low status’ in the manosphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 04:16 PM
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Absolutely, and even as a woman, I have a friend…..actually, she’s my BEST friend, and we disengage for months, then talk every day for a week, then go months again 😆. BUT!! I’m not sleeping with her. If I am physically opening my body and soul to a partner, they CANNOT do that. It’s very very different. I’m not going to feel any closer for sex as I feel you have been for me in day to day life. You run cold, then I do, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 11:45 PM
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I really enjoyed your comment! Yes, at the end of the day, the needed ‘relationship’ behaviors are just found in higher numbers naturally in women, without even trying. It’s not that we are saints, it’s just the traits that happen to make and keep relationships growing and nurtured, are the traits women score higher in across the board. We might have answered the question of why it never felt like ‘work’ in any of my all female relationships 💡. This is why we urge and plead with men to raise the…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 11:39 PM
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I’ll answer you because being bi, I actually have an answer. It’s not the same. When I was in happy and stable relationships with women, where we both knew we weren’t going anywhere, we never just stopped. That is DEFINITELY a man thing. As women, we just kept on trying to make it better and better and better. I think women understand more than men that if a relationship isn’t actively GROWING, then it’s dying. You can’t just coast on yesterday’s energy. You need new life and energy all the time…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 09:12 PM
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I upvoted you because I agree as much as I don’t. Yes, that’s true of a lot of lesbian relationships. I’ve said before that it’s the dominant lesbian that sets the tone. I don’t necessarily mean masculine, because I’ve always been dominant, and I’m feminine. But anyway, I never had any of the violence or chaos in my gay relationships because I set the tone of mutual love, empathy, and respect. When the dominant is a rough, jealous, or chaotic person, lesbian relationships can be traumatic. You a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:00 AM
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I’ll tell you the honest to god truth from a bisexual woman. I would have no issue being the heavier provider for a woman. I would never do it for a man. Men don’t provide enough emotionally or relationship wise for me to have the incentive to want to support them financially. I know the atmosphere a supported woman provides. That atmosphere is worth it to me. I read on Reddit every day the type atmosphere a supported guy provides….and it’s dismal. Who wants to support him just watching porn all…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 10:23 PM
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There’s a predominantly black club/eatery on my jogging path. Most of the men are a good 20 years older than myself, a white, blonde woman. At first glance, we have zero in common, but the regulars are some of my favorite guys to talk to. I stop every time. They twirl me around if the music is bumping outside. They wanna know what music I’m playing in my earbuds as I run. They are not shy to critique it. One told me, ‘Oh, you listen to those soft ni@&as’. 😆 One asked me if I preferred east or we…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 10:19 PM
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🏆🏆🏆 Truly one of the most insightful posts I’ve ever read. Yes. Men are dropping responsibilities and women are picking them up. The tables are turning. Male testosterone levels are dropping exponentially. It’s a medical epidemic. But, as you say, it’s not making them turn traditionally ‘feminine’, as in, their empathy and emotional intelligence, and communication and social skills are not rising to equal women’s. They are just becoming these strange low testosterone male hybrids that are lazy a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 04:10 PM
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I believe you. I tolerated things from people across genders when my self-esteem was low, that I couldn’t fathom tolerating today. It absolutely NEVER had anything to do with anyone’s looks. It’s because of who I WAS, not them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:11 AM
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You should start a group, the ‘Men who hate other men’ movement 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 04:51 PM
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What would you say to a woman that said all that about ALL men? I’m laughing to myself, because we get heat for it, but the worst things I ever hear about men come from other men, not women. This would be an example. Are YOU a good person/friend? Do you have things to offer? I’m sure you do! If so, can you not think some other men could be as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 02:08 AM
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We DO realize it, and we hate it. We wish ya’ll saw the value in friendships like we do. There would be an uptick in male happiness, and less male suicide. We can’t understand male friendship aversion. It’s the bane of my existence with an antisocial partner. We also don’t understand women being blamed for this, as we are usually the main ones pleading for ya’ll to be more socially intelligent and involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:25 AM
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Ha, yes. I just mean treat everyone with agency and their own will. Don’t take them for granted. Don’t ever stop ‘dating’ them - even if married. The behavior that got them to marry you in the first place - don’t stop it. It’s kinda like people that get married and then immediately gain 100 pounds. That’s not who they married. You shouldn’t just use the legal certificate as an excuse to come to a dead stop and say, ‘now I’ve got them’.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 03:30 PM
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This is true of men and women, single or married. No one EVER belongs to you. We should treat everyone like they can leave tomorrow…..because they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:11 AM
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I would never say this. My number one thing a person, but especially a man, has to have is sincere empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 07:33 PM
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I only read your title, but it’s ‘off’. Most women like to be loved and lusted after by THEIR partner, not the whole world. And vice/versa, we don’t want them lusting after the whole world. It’s that behavior that ruins everything. If we all kept our love and lust to the person we are actually in a relationship with, I don’t see many women having a problem with that. We get burned out because it’s too much of everywhere and not special to the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 06:27 PM
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I mean, it could be money, but also, I married a guy that looked like Nosferatu just because he was insanely funny, and I never stopped laughing. None of my friends ‘got it’ until they met him, and then they got it immediately. We are divorced, but it never had anything to do with his looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 04:01 PM
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Yeah, I don’t think it’s a man/woman thing. It’s that the person that cares more and spends more time is going to look/age better, - even when it’s the man, but in general, women care more and dote on their looks more. I’ve seen it in reverse, but it’s rare. Now, I’ll give it to gay men. They stay looking up to par…some til they die 😆. They spend the time/effort/money that a lot of women do. Their skin care is on point.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 02:17 PM
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Well, I’m not underestimating the woman outta subconscious jealousy, cuz I’m mostly attracted to women 😆. I think what happens is, maybe they were more equal from the start, but straight women usually upkeep themselves more than straight men. So if you take two equally attractive people, the woman that keeps up with her looks will stay aging better than her counterpart. But there is also the very true fact that women choose husbands by SO many factors other than looks. He could be kind. He could…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 03:58 PM
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I don’t get revolted and I’m never shocked. Women choose men for so many different reasons than looks. It does shock me when I see a gorgeous man with a plain or homely girl. That dynamic is much more rare. I see this one everyday. I hardly ever see it in reverse. The scoffing might be because she is dressed for the date looking like she took time and effort, and he’s just a slob in gross clothes. I WILL comment on that because it is disrespectful and rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 12:15 AM
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That may happen, but I would doubt people get that vibe from me. I’m a caregiver by trade and nature. I hope they don’t, anyway, because I’m very sincere. I LIKE guys as friends, and I want them happy and doing well. Healthy men and women make a better society for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:41 PM
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We can lead a horse to water, but we can’t make them drink.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 01:56 PM
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Bingo. 🎯And both sexes are capable of getting stuck like this, and it’s bad for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:09 AM
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You won’t change everything in a day. It takes people a long time to get to the state they are in now, so nobody should expect a quick 180 into betterment. But that’s ok! I’m telling you that just by spending the time on your self improvement, that you would be spending on brain rot media, you WILL improve. There is no way you wouldn’t. Will it make you 6’7 and bullet proof? No, but it can do other fantastic things, and make you the best self you can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:07 AM
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If men gave as much attention to their personalities and the desired personality traits they want in a partner, instead of all the time they spend building the perfect physical specimen in their heads, the world would be back in business. Literally. If every time they turn to porn, they would turn to looking inward at their own traits, and how to better them to find a woman with their desired personality qualities - the world would change quickly and drastically. Same if superficial women got of…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 03:22 PM
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Hmmm. I think most PEOPLE go through stages of mental/emotional unhealth, but it’s actually women that reach out more to family and friends and therapy. We all go through it. It’s what you do about it…..or not. But I DO agree that there are just a lot more unhealthy people these days. It’s a gem to find a partner of either sex these days that comes already healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:39 PM
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‘Superficial, cold, and not truly present and open in the relationship’. I totally agree that THIS is someone that would get the ick when their partner opened up. You nailed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:31 PM
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It DOES always seem to me that they are blaming women for this (male) epidemic, and are looking to us to fix it, or even very resentful and hostile towards women for it. And I can’t understand, because they dismiss every single thing we tell them to do about it. It’s weird because they will readily admit that women have more social networking abilities, but they won’t take our advice. I’ve thrown my hands completely up on this issue. They whine, but don’t accept help. I can’t do anything with th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 01:04 AM
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I definitely agree!! 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 12:16 AM
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Expressing your emotions is the only way to allow your partner to truly KNOW you and understand how to improve the relationship. Nobody can fix or help what they don’t know about. When you don’t emotionally open up, those things don’t go away. They can’t get better. They just build and build and then hostility sets in. You are not helping others by not putting your cards on the table. Your spouse or friends have to deal with you with one hand tied behind their backs. It’s a handicap for relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 12:15 AM
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RIGHT?! Are men not human?? This is a thought I have all the time, but you would think it’s based on what women say about men, but it’s really not. I put more stock in what men say about themselves, and sometimes they leave me speechless with what they label ‘feminine’, when it’s really just emotionally healthy human behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 12:04 AM
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I AGREE!! I talk to real women a LOT about these things, and zero girls/women in my life have told me they get ‘icked’ when males open up. In fact, they get ‘icked’ when they won’t! Idk where these monster 👹 women are hiding, but not in Louisiana 😆. Can’t vouch for anywhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 12:01 AM
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Oh definitely. As a woman, I love anyone that can pull stoicism out when needed, (I can!), but I do not prefer people that stay in it. I thrive on the emotionally available and in-tune, because I am. If I wasn’t, I can see how it would make me uncomfortable, hence my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:07 PM
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I don’t like extremes, but my lean is definitely emotionally sensitive over stoic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 05:56 PM
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I feel like any person that gets the ‘ick’ when anyone opens up and is emotionally vulnerable is NOT emotionally healthy themselves, or they are not as in love with the person as they thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 05:54 PM
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The dirty south, Louisiana, a small town, and our cold approachers are more funny/entertaining than scary. I know it’s different in larger cities. I’m very lucky. Even our ‘cat callers’ have a kind of southern charm 😉.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 04:27 PM
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Agreed. My wanting sex or not has never depended on what my guy physically looks like. My baseline is to want it. BEHAVIOR, and behavior only, can throw it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:08 AM
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Yeah, they went from zero to a hundred with that twisted logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:03 AM
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Take out the ‘to women’ part. Being desired sexually doesn’t mean truly being loved to anyone. Sure, you can desire sex from someone you love, and who loves you, but anyone that thinks any person that wants sex with them automatically LOVES them, is delusional - man or woman. That’s just silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 11:59 PM
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The cold approachers on my jogging path aren’t usually my type, but they are always FUNNY and have great lines. I usually just crack up. I don’t even think they mean for me to like them. They just having fun and it makes me laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 11:11 PM
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I don’t believe that, because I’m a bisexual woman extremely in tuned with my healthy masculinity. Healthy masculinity is a beautiful thing, just as beautiful as healthy femininity, but they can BOTH have toxic sides and be used toxically.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 06:24 PM
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I agree with your post and comment. The best men either aren’t going to be there, OR they are there with their date or wife. I enjoy places like this to go WITH a guy, but not to meet a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 11:06 PM
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There ya go. And I distinguish that from healthy masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 11:02 PM
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Sure. I’m saying any childish predator such as this does not constitute a real man. It’s actually a compliment to normal men that I distinguish the two and don’t lump them all together.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 11:00 PM
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These ‘men’ NEED to know there are strong people that will expose them like this. She’s a hero 🦸‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 07:57 PM
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Yes. It’s useless, but I still appreciate the time and effort that went into your post. These comments don’t make you any less right. It actually proves you are right. The DARVO and gaslighting are in full effect here, just as they are elsewhere regarding this incident.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 07:56 PM
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I so appreciate your time with this post. It’s things like this that made me completely stop following news and social media. I just stayed disgusted and livid all the time. I would have never heard about this incident anywhere else, so thank you. I live with textbook DARVO, and I’ve lived with constant gaslighting, and you have captured it perfectly. Thanks again. Great post.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 07:49 PM
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If it wouldn’t make the men ACT more sexually aggressive in public, then as long as they had on enough clothes to be allowed in a grocery store, I couldn’t care less. The beach question, I don’t ever care who sees my partner barely clothed, or even naked, although Idk how that would ever happen, but I’ve never been funny about it. I would only get upset if my partner went somewhere just to view others in a state of undress. I never wanted to date anyone that nobody else looks at or checks out. L…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 01:04 AM
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I gym a lot as it is, but if suddenly all the men came dressed as you described, I’d go a hell of a lot more. It would be hilariously fun entertainment for me 🥤🍿. Bring it on 😂…….double interesting considering I go to a church gym. 😎
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:25 PM
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It’s not in the treatment range. It is considered normal from a Primary Care Physician. Your insurance won’t recognize 350 T as needed coverage cost. Now, you can go to a men’s health clinic and get it jacked to 1,000, and that’s your business. If I were a man, yes, I would seek treatment for 350, because it’s not optimal, but it is considered normal lower range.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 10:50 PM
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YES! I super appreciate things like that. I do them, also. I should have separated that from expensive gifts. The picture taking thing of something someone knows is funny or special to me, is one of my favorites. It’s not even about actually buying me the item.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 10:46 PM
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I’ve had this thought before trying to understand men’s resentment and hatred towards us. I had agreed with your theory of our basic uprising and more rights, but then I watch and read shows about history, and I realize we were treated just as awfully BEFORE we had any rights. You could literally beat your wife and children as property - and they DID! And other men looked the other way. So, idk, it just seems to have always been regardless, so I’ll take my rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 11:14 PM
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Well……good? 😆 It’s all in what you value. Mine could have taken every toy I had and given it to the needy, if it meant they would have been more in-tuned parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 01:33 PM
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As a bisexual woman on T that tests at 350, within male range, I completely identify and back up everything you said. In fact, even though getting on T made me more like a male sex drive wise, it actually made me LESS sympathetic to males because of the way sex drive CAN be managed, and not hurtful to anyone. I do the same thing with exercise and yoga. I don’t let my drive turn me into an objectifying monster, or a loser jacking off in the basement and missing the world, and so I KNOW first hand…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:35 PM
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I’m a woman, and I DO think it’s the same. I would never laugh at a guy if shoe inserts make him feel more confident. Power to him! Some women wear spanx to keep their fat in. A guy can do that too, if he wants. If a guy has zits, I also think they can use a light makeup foundation to cover them. They do with guys on tv. I have no problem with anyone of either sex doing anything to feel better about themselves. Why would I? It’s not my business, and I want people feeling confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:25 PM
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Gifts would be the absolute last thing on my list. I’m not even sure they are an ‘active’ love language. If used to substitute anything, they are lazy and passive. They can even be manipulative. I always think of the rich parents that spoil their kids with gifts, rather than spend any time with them. I don’t think those gifts do anything to make the child feel truly loved or valued. Acts of service like chores would be my second to last. We should just all be doing that as adults. Everything els…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:13 PM
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I think a lot of them are happy because they know he WON’T. 🚪🔒
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 11:32 PM
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🏆🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 07:03 PM
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No. It’s not an advantage, because their lust for others continues even after you’ve entered a ‘monogamous’ relationship. Anyone bent lustfully over just the looks of people, and not for the qualities they possess, are going to be awful to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 07:02 PM
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With a loving guy that doesn’t cheat and also returns niceness, I would never call that girl a Pickmeisha. It’s when it’s not reciprocal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 02:37 PM
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Right, and men never felt like they had to (as a group) pretend to be for the sake of women’s feelings. Idk WHY we do it for them??!! I mean, we invented an entire non-sensical concept, (because again, moms’ bodies change after a baby, not dad’s) just to save their self-esteem. And they say men ‘white knight’ for women……
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 12:48 AM
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Interview women ten years out the game, and ask them if they felt like they were just selling a service like anyone else…. Interview their children. Interview their families.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:37 PM
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The whole pretending to swoon over ‘dad bods’ just to make your out of shape, couch potato 🥔 husband feel better about himself, irks me as an athlete. Women, we don’t have to do this. Guys don’t pretend to swoon over mom bods. Can we drop this dumb trend already?! And WHAT is their excuse for a dad bod, anyway?? They don’t birth the children. Their bodies shouldn’t change! It’s the women that deserve the grace.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:27 PM
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It’s the paying money for a human being. It’s making people a commodity. Last time we bought and sold people it was called slavery. It lessens the respect of humanity and human lives all across the board. It is a blight on humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 03:38 PM
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They are everywhere, and their name is Pickmeisha.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 06:27 PM
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Oh, it’s fine if you do things for her as well. I’m really taking when it’s all one-sided…..a Pickmeisha, if you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 06:25 PM
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All the men I see driving their gf’s cars, and wearing funky fresh gym outfits that their hardworking gf’s just bought them, tells me otherwise……and Ladies…..don’t do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 09:08 PM
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No. Any man with natural empathy, I would definitely NOT suggest this to. Only the type man that refuses to ‘get it’.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 04:31 PM
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I only read a few lines, but I would drive a man. I like to drive my own car……it’s just that we would always be lost if I drove, so he does.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 01:52 AM
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Absolutely, and if they claim to think it’s fine, just ask them if they want their daughters in it. Their reaction will tell you real quick that they all know it’s destructive trash…..they just don’t care….unless it’s their flesh and blood. I’ve noticed over the years that something has to directly and personally affect the man themself for them to care about it. Dangerously low empathy levels.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 12:40 AM
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I ALWAYS notice what men do and don’t respond to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 12:36 AM
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It does…..however, I am NOT a volunteer 😆. Maybe we can hook them up to a pegging machine and just join MJ with his 🍿
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 12:34 AM
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Yuuuup. That’s exactly why I thanked him for leaving it. The majority of men just absolutely have a mental block of empathizing with a woman. It’s creepy to me how much so!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 11:27 PM
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Extremely valuable comment! 🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 11:25 PM
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WOWWW!!!! This is a marvelous point! I’ve never seen it made. Thank you so much for sharing. It makes perfect sense! Maybe this can help a lot of men understand….they really have a problem empathizing with women, but maybe hearing a man say it…. Again, thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 11:23 PM
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Yeah…. I see. I can rationally see what you are saying, but my thought is still how far we’ve sunken. I understand, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 10:20 PM
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Yours is actually not just an opinion. It’s fact. In America, survey tests are given to both middle school and hs students, you might remember taking one. I definitely remember ours in 6th and again in 9th grade. Anyway, it’s questions on health and self-esteem, etc, and the boys rank themselves higher by FAR on every question about their perceived attractiveness and abilities than the girls do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 02:49 PM
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Why would you say that? I still feel the exact same way. I still asked her why she sees those examples as ‘emotional’. I don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 02:31 PM
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Do you think those two examples are of emotional sex for men? If you do, that’s fine, it just shows how we have to scrape the bottom of the barrel for what constitutes as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 01:44 AM
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Are you really and actually and seriously using your first two examples to show how sex is EMOTIONAL for men?? Looking up porn stars that look like familiar people, and whining to OF’s models in chats? THIS, Ladies. This is what’s out there. These are examples of emotional bonding in men’s eyes. I just….wow. I’m not speechless a lot, yet here I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 09:04 PM
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That’s just it. It would be so boring! I couldn’t/wouldn’t do half the things I love to do! It’s not hot, it’s a hindrance.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 06:37 PM
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Heavy on the ‘NO ORAL’. There’s fun ‘hurt’, that really isn’t hurt at all, and then there is, “No way. Not happening. Not for a million badillion dollar billz.” Same rule applies to anal.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 06:23 PM
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Yup. Too big is just as bad as too small for me. I can’t do anything with either extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 04:50 PM
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I don’t care if a man sexually objectifies his spouse. I don’t care if a woman objectifies her spouse. That’s GREAT! It’s not great if they objectify outside the relationship, and my husband would HATE it if I did as well. He wouldn’t just accept it. He’d be pissed. It’s a two-way street.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 12:54 AM
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You must think lower of men than I do to make a blanket statement that none of them have the dignity or discipline to control themselves within a relationship. You’ve just described an animal, not a human, and you are correct. I’ve no desire to date an animal.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 06:01 PM
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I agree. Also, though physical cheating may or may not be roughly the same percentage between men and women, virtual cheating on a relationship by porn and constant lust and objectifying of others is WAY higher in men. As a woman myself, and when I speak to other women, THIS particular issue has a ton of them completely turned off to the male sex and relationships with them. What’s cute and hot between only you and your partner becomes a huge turn OFF when he’s doing it to everyone that moves…an…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 03:00 PM
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Yep, and I’ve been guilty of showing up for only people’s receptions and bypassing the church 😆. I DO bring good gifts, though! But let’s face it, the reception is where it’s at. 🪩
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:37 PM
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You are NOT alone!!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 11:35 PM
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It’s men not having it for women. We got sick of doling it out with none in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 05:08 PM
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I think the most dangerous thing is when the wedding is huge and expensive and built up over a year, and something happens in between, and it’s too much of a runaway train spectacle to back out of. I’ve literally had women tell me, ‘I honestly wouldn’t marry him at this point, but no way we can call this thing off’. That’s the problem. Once a lot of money and people’s time are invested, they are determined to have that wedding no matter what. These are the people that divorce in a year or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:56 PM
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Or people that like to pretend they are rich, or people that love being the center of attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:51 PM
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As a woman, I agree with you. I NEVER, not once, dreamt of a wedding dress, or wedding day. I did dream of babies and would always doodle ideas of baby names on my notebooks, but never a wedding day - what a royal, nerve wracking pain in the ass. I’m not disparaging any woman that does, though. I just never glorified marriage. Not sure why. My parents had a great one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:50 PM
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Yeah, I don’t social media or use dating apps. This is foreign to me and sounds ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 06:21 PM
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Dude. Women like dates. You just sound like you shouldn’t have a gf. That’s never going to change, and if you’re not willing to do bare minimum, you just aren’t in a spot to be with a woman. It’s not tooth surgery. You are supposed to LIKE dating a woman you love. It’s supposed to be fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 06:19 PM
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I mean…. I’m talking within the context of marriage or a long relationship. And I don’t think the woman should do nothing. I’m saying the man should make and plan dates. A woman needs to do her share of other relationship upkeeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 08:23 PM
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Absolutely and I hate it for them. It makes them crazy unhappy, from everything I’ve seen - men too, really. I just hang around more women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 08:21 PM
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How not? In one instance she is comparing herself to what her gf’s get out of their husbands, and the second, he is comparing what his guy friends get from their wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 08:19 PM
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Yep! This happens. In reverse, it happens with men when they have a buddy whose wife gives way more sex than theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 05:25 PM
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Of course we can, but so can two gf’s, or two guy buddies. Planned dates separate romantic partners from just friends doing something together.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 05:23 PM
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You kidding me? Dedicated mothers of sons with autism were the main loud advocates that got every autism benefit, awareness, and support there is! I was a teacher, and lemme tell you, those women ADVOCATED! I never saw any dads running up to us - always the tirelessly dedicated moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 05:15 PM
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WOW. Excellent point. Yes, business men and 15 year old incels will ban together like bff’s against women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 04:57 PM
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Yes. I would rather put my time, energy, and money into things HERE, not somewhere I will never be again.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 07:01 PM
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Oh c’mon, a picnic??? Women plan EVERYTHING. A guy can do a damn picnic??!!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 07:00 PM
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That really sucks. They must be spoiled and into a lot of media.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 06:59 PM
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That’s not always true. If I can see a man is actually trying within his means, I go all out. I used to go all out even when they were giving nothing. I don’t do that anymore, but I would definitely come up and overly meet them with praise and affection for slight tries. I know I would, because I’ve done it with nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 05:55 PM
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THANK YOUUU! I don’t even want a vacation - just to be interested in little outings in our hometown. Vacations are stressful.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 05:51 PM
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This is SO NOT true of the average woman. Any women I know would be thrilled with a planned out, nice picnic. Get off instagram. Is it this thinking that prevents men from doing ANYTHING?? Because they think we need vacations in Dubai????
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 05:50 PM
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My mind goes to autism as well when I read a lot of this stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 05:47 PM
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EXACTLY. Common enemies or common problems and troubles will unite people even though they may disagree on a few things. It’s the bigger picture that women see.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 04:46 PM
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Any oppressed group learns safety and comfort in sticking together. Blacks, gays, women, specific groups like those with autism….they will always forge a community. It doesn’t mean they always agree 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 02:40 PM
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I have no idea 🤣 I long ago stopped trying to figure stuff like that out. I’d prefer them to engage and explain rather than just downvote. I get curious as well!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 09:27 PM
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I believe they are two heads of the same dragon, and none of them really have our interest at all, is what.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:59 PM
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Lol, yeah. I don’t even like that term. All terms have been bastardized. Don’t enter a room term first.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 02:38 PM
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Honestly, I’m to the point that if anyone introduces themselves as conservative OR liberal, I’m automatically turned off. I just like middle of the road, logical people with empathy and morality.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 12:02 AM
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Well, thank you! 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 09:53 PM
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That’s true.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 01:05 AM
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Well, I’m not violent. I guess I just mean, I held most of the cards. If I was a bully, I was in the position to bully. It was never a temptation or anything, but yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 11:56 PM
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Well, I’m not violent. I guess I just mean, I held most of the cards. If I was a bully, I was in the position to bully. It was never a temptation or anything, but yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 11:55 PM
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Aw man, are we actually in a place where we assume an average guy hits women until proven differently?? That makes me sad on many accounts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 11:54 PM
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I don’t find women any harder to satisfy, but when I love a woman, I WANT to do the things she wants to do like take her on dates and stuff. I WANT to have long intimate talks and long drawn out intimacy. I WANT to snuggle on the couch with her. I WANT to listen to her backstory and dreams and fears. We just naturally want the same stuff. There was never anything really to ‘fight’ about. We did have heavy discussions, but would both feel ok with the outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 11:01 PM
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Are you saying I would never believe a man that says he would never lay a hand on a woman? It’s not true in my case. I believe first until I see differently. I would believe you if I had no reason not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 10:06 PM
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I think the dominant sets the tone. I can only speak for my relationships, but as the assertive one that did the asking out, and kinda steered the relationship, I treated them like bubbles of glass. They were my princesses. If anyone was going to be violent or a cheater or emotionally hurtful, I suppose it would have been me. I found the places to live. I had the most friends. It was me that could have been a bully, and I was a softie when it came down to it. There are quite a few rough dominate…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 10:04 PM
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I’ll never discount a statistic. I’ll say that would never be my experience, because I’m feminine, but I’m the dominant in gay relationships. I would be the statistical one to initiate violence, and someone would have to MK Ultra brainwash me before I would EVER raise a hand to a woman. Not saying it doesn’t happen, but saying it never and would never happen in my relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 03:52 PM
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I agree. Men are MUCH more driven by emotion than they care to admit. I’ve only ever been threatened over leaving by men. Women cry and deal and move on in a much more dignified and healthy way - in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 03:32 PM
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THIS!! And also, I’ve never been physically scared or threatened if I leave a woman. I’ve had two men tell me with their own mouths they would kill me if I left. Ex husband actually tried (choking) and did 5 years in prison.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 03:27 PM
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Yes. That’s a huge part. In my experience, women are immediately sympathetic and empathetic to any boundaries I have, and I to theirs. We don’t argue them, or dissect them. We don’t have to completely understand them, either. We just innately know that it’s deep, and there’s a damn good reason if it’s such a dealbreaker, and we stay away from it. A woman has never made me feel defensive like I’m on an interrogation stand having to explain and justify my boundaries or dealbreakers. We innately un…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 03:26 PM
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HA! With men, is the ONLY time that I just ‘shut up’, and give up, either out of intimidation, or just knowing it’s futile. In my relationships with women, neither of us did that. We would discuss something until we found a compromise, and it never felt like fighting, just talking and talking (sometimes for days) until it was worked out. Men are scared of talking for whatever reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 03:16 PM
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My dad was a pastor, so you are correct about the difficulty of family and society. They absolutely killed me here in the Bible Belt south. HOWEVER! The actual dating of women, just the understanding of each other, working out conflict, communication, seeing things the same, having a relationship where we both felt equal, and the mutual respect of each other - ALL that was much MUCH easier, hands down. In a nutshell, it was only ‘hard’ because my society made it that way. There was nothing hard …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 03:09 PM
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I agree. I’ve always said I feel sorry for men that they ‘can’t’ use makeup. Especially in their teen years with acne. I put ‘can’t’ in quotes, because I have used my makeup concealer on guys with acne. I know how to blend it so that nobody could tell. But I think their main point is make the best of what you have. Maintain a healthy weight. Exercise. Dress in a flattering way to your particular body type. Stay clean and smell good. Work on your personality. These things go FAR with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 02:33 PM
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Oh no, you didn’t accuse me of anything. I just thought it was an interesting comment and I thought I’d add my two cents 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 02:27 PM
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I’ve never ‘hated a gender’. I hate certain traits and attitudes and habits that are prominent and usually gender specific. I tend to like unconventional people that are mentally a blend of the best of the two, without being completely stereotypically male/female brained. They seem the healthiest and best balanced.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 02:12 PM
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I don’t care anything about society. My husband never dates me, never takes me out. Never spends quality time with me. Cuts me off when I speak of anything deeper than a puddle. I only see him in the house or at a grocery store. He does absolutely nothing but sit in front of the tv and ignore me and tunes me out. My job ended naturally, and I ain’t running out to find another. The least he can do is support me financially if not emotionally, spiritually, and connection wise. Do I sound bitter? I…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 09:40 PM
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I’m a feminist that absolutely agrees - we are NOT identical. We just can’t use our differences as excuses for any bad behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:03 AM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:23 AM
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🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:23 AM
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Idk. The ‘softer’ someone is to me, the STRONGER I get. Same with bosses. The kinder they are, the harder I work. I shut down and shut out gruffness. A truly good leader doesn’t need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:09 AM
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No, 😂. I don’t think anything is wrong about girls screeching over fully dressed K-pop guys. Hey, I don’t get the attraction, but tripping over your favorite singers is a rite of passage for both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 03:03 PM
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I agree. Lust is NOT bad. Healthy lust makes the world go round. It’s just a matter of finding a partner that trips that lust, and keeping it with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 02:58 PM
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Mmmm…..interesting. I’m not saying you are wrong, I’m just thinking…. I’m bi, and have had tons of gay people around me, both guys and girls….. I would say lesbians DO objectify each other, but much more within perimeters…. Yeah, you prolly right on this one 😆. BUT! Would a husband be ok if his wife objectified EVERY handsome man in the world, not just him. Mine would be PISSED! That’s the difference. I think if you don’t sexually ‘objectify’ your partner, the relationship is dead in the water. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 02:48 PM
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I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 01:09 AM
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Not if we were physically/financially stronger and were a threat to them, they wouldn’t. It’s just different. You really can’t reverse it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 01:07 AM
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Yes. You should feel deep shame if you make a rape joke. The fact this might be a controversial statement is horrifying. Bring back shaming the shameful.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:02 PM
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If you do this, I just want to thank you. Men like you could change the world. I wish ya’ll knew and used your power. When ladies do it, we just get called prudes when we don’t enjoy a good rape joke. It’s up to ya’ll.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 02:59 PM
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I do agree with that. I really do. But a choice is a choice. They could also hate their jobs and careers, and I’ve seen just as many marriages implode from that. Everything is a gamble with unknown outcomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 12:51 AM
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Yes, and the people that benefited mostly from shaming women into careers are the business owners. They now don’t have to pay a real living wage to anyone, because now they assume there are two people working.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 12:45 AM
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The feminists that scowled and condemned and shamed the (by choice) stay-at-home mothers. I am a feminist myself, but feminism was for the CHOICE of equal work for equal pay. When you take away a woman’s choice of staying with her children, and offer them the choice of work outside the home, you aren’t adding a choice. You are just swapping them. Also the ‘feminists’ that promoted women doing sex work for men to be stunning and brave, are idiots.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 09:50 PM
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Within the internet world, my line is giving your sexual energy towards people that are not your spouse is sexual infidelity. I would leave over it. Some people wouldn’t. I’ve had such experiences that I would in a heartbeat and never look back. Everyone is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 06:28 PM
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AND! Estrogen and progesterone aide in women’s sexuality as well. Yeah, I mean, on average, I’d say the average guy is hornier, but there are plenty of equally matched women that don’t act like they do. I just get tired of them skirting the reality of self-control and discipline by saying we would be into everything they are if we were just as horny. Nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 04:48 PM
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5’1
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 02:28 PM
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I just gave my answer. Is that a Twilight physique? I’ve never paid any attention to those movies. Not my style.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 01:48 PM
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I like specifically 5’9, between 160 to 170 pounds. Not overly big, but tight and cut. Athletic classic build. I like specifically a good waist indention. Maybe kinda like the smaller gymnasts guys. I can tell when a guy is 5’9 even if he’s sitting down. I can nail height like those circus people could guess people’s weights. 😆😍😍
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 01:46 PM
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Those things ARE unfaithful. Those things ARE infidelity. And I disagree STRONGLY that I would overlook, or not care about a woman cheating. I have zero respect for any cheaters. I don’t have any friends that cheat, and I don’t want any.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:57 PM
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I have liked the same exact body type of men as long as I have liked men. Don’t too much care about the race physically, it’s a body type. With women, I like tons of different body types, styles, and races. My window of women is waaaaaay more open than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 02:19 AM
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Exploiting means I’ve read countless women crying that their husbands took pics of their friends off fb, etc, and we’re masturbating to them. That would be ONE example. AI exploitation would be another. Revenge porn would be another. Taking pics of girls at the gym and mall and beach would be another…..
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 01:37 AM
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This is weird, and I know it, so I don’t need to be told it’s wrong. I’m desperately attracted to strong, arrogant women, but arrogance in men turns me totally off, not confidence, I like that in errybody, but I just love a brashly arrogant woman that can back it up with talent and wit. I’m not arrogant myself, but I love when a woman is 😆. I don’t know, back to therapy? 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:49 AM
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I LOVE that quote!!! And it’s so true!!!! Nothing wrong with a quiet confidence of, ‘I’ve got this’, when you do, in fact, have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:44 AM
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I’m talking ogling, porn, gross comments, exploiting, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:14 AM
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Yeah. If we have morality and ethics not to act on such things, they say we lack sex drive. It’s insane. I’m also bisexual and on testosterone. I can swing off the chandeliers ,(and have), as well as any man, and I bet I’ve been with more women than the average man, but when I am in a relationship, I’m faithful. This has zero to do with horniness, and everything to do with morality and empathy and respect for my partner and myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:11 AM
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This is it. If she’s having orgasms, (AND being treated well), she’s not just going to want to stop having orgasms. If she is faking, she will grow weary, and the sex will dry up. I’m not saying the lack of orgasm is always the man’s fault. Some women don’t get their hormones checked and balanced. That’s on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:07 AM
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Ha. I live in the Bible Belt south. It’s definitely still ‘a thing’ that straight guys dog on gays all the damn time. I don’t like it one bit, but yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 05:50 PM
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YESSSS!!! Why do they only ‘see’ it in gay guys?? They are exactly like them!! Just because gay guys are lusting after other dudes, they are somehow ‘gross’??!! I’m less offended by gays, because at least they are objectifying themselves, and the same things they have. They aren’t preying on a different gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 05:16 PM
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I LOVE IT!! And I wouldn’t mind if they just dug the sex from the relationship they are IN, but we all know through their OWN words that is not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 05:12 PM
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Yeah….it’s almost like we shouldn’t date or marry you. I agree. Thanks for the confirmation. I love people who tell me who they are. ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 04:56 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 06:37 PM
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🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 06:37 PM
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And who put it there? 🤔🤔😆
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 05:14 PM
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Honestly, it’s reversed for me. Personality, specifically being smart and FUNNY attracts me first. Then, if their looks aren’t so bad as to be a dealbreaker, (namely being obese or under weight, or bad hygiene), then I’d give them a shot. I’ve always said you don’t live with looks, you live with the PERSON. You gotta truly like them. They’ve got to be someone you would readily be friends with if you weren’t dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 01:30 PM
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You’re right , because I’m married.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 01:23 PM
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I AGREE!!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 02:52 AM
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I like quirky/interesting personalities over looks. I would truly not date a model if they didn’t have personality. That said, of course I have a physical type - it’s just not a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 01:34 AM
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If I say yes, people accuse me of lying, but I have dated people that everyone said ‘WTF’ about 😆. I’m the type that if I like you, I can overlook a LOT looks-wise. But not apathy and being sloppy. That’s within someone’s control, whereas a lot of physical looks are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 11:56 PM
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I used to not think it mattered, but then experience happened, and I would have to say that it really can. I asked my husband out first, and although he’s a good man, he NEVER really tried with me, (dates and stuff), still doesn’t. Takes it for granted. I think men really need to do the initial asking out. I don’t like that it makes a difference, but it seems to on their energy level for the relationship. Maybe they feel more proud of it and invested in it when they had to have the gumption to a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 11:29 PM
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But what if they were equally attractive/unattractive, and one was dressed 🔥, smelled good, and was well groomed, and the other wasn’t? I still say it increases your chances. If anything, I’d come over and compliment your outfit, then we could have something to talk about. I’d ignore the slob.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 11:19 PM
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That’s 💯 not true. Dressing to your body type in a stylish way can make a HUGE difference!!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 11:11 PM
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The right fit, and tucking stuff in . I’m sick of the slouch.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 11:09 PM
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EXACTLY!!!! There are definitely cheap ways to do it. Jeans and a shirt can look great when styled nicely. We aren’t talking tuxedos.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 11:09 PM
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I compliment well dressed men that know how to style for their body shape, no matter their level of attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 11:07 PM
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Good for you!! We CARE! We totally notice and appreciate the effort!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 11:06 PM
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A million billion times - YESSSSS! As a woman, a man’s clothing and fit are so incredibly important. It’s the first thing, if anything, that I notice, and I will compliment and encourage a well/dressed guy every single time - no matter his body build or attractiveness. I just appreciate the effort! Why do guys feel like they don’t have to make it? It’s disrespectful to the women, I AGREE! Loved your post!! 🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 11:04 PM
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But…. I said that? I agree with you. There are appropriate times and places for skimpy dressed women. Gyms, beaches, dance, sports, night clubs, etc. I would agree with you that boobs out on streets is NOT appropriate. No argument. I would still hold a man responsible that hurt a woman, though. Being inappropriately dressed would NEVER warrant that - no matter how you spin it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 09:55 PM
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First, I do not see sex workers as strong, independent anythings. There’s nothing strong about being a preforming monkey for men that care nothing about you. Second, all people should think about where they are going, what the occasion is, and who they will be around, and dress appropriately for that. It’s disrespectful if you don’t consider other people. That said, there are places like clubs and gyms and sports, etc, that the actual activity calls for skimpy being the appropriate dress. Women …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 06:17 PM
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Very possible! And that’s a shame. Some of my best memories have been with some really awesome guys. In my opinion, there are a lot of them out there - IF you aren’t trying to date them. Things I excuse from ‘just a buddy’, I would NOT excuse from a partner. That’s the rub.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 01:31 AM
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You’re a lesbian? That’s funny because it was opposite with me. When I lived in only lesbian relationships, I LOVED our guy friends. We all absolutely adored them. I thought they were funny, helpful, very big brother types that we got in a lot of fun trouble with. It was only until I ventured out to start having romantic relationships them, that I saw their underbelly and soured on them. I still sincerely like a lot of them as friends, but I’d definitely go back to women if my husband went and g…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 01:00 AM
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Oh, I do. I definitely definitely DO.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 09:59 PM
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I agree a million billion infinity percent! Pickmeisha’s have to take their responsibility in this CRAP!! Men will do the least of what we need, and the most of what we don’t need/want, if we constantly let them. They have less of a built in ‘police yourself for your own dignity and the people around you’ than women do. It’s sad, but they kinda have to be forced to be decent. Of course, not all men. I’m generalizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 06:47 PM
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I’m a bi woman, I can share my opinion, but I’m not claiming to speak for all of us. With me, the average woman’s body obliterates the average man’s body, but an exceptionally fit man can beat an average woman. Why? Because (in my opinion) ‘not perfect’ bodily things are cuter on a woman than a man. A little pot belly on an otherwise fit woman? Cute, to me. A pot belly on an otherwise fit man, is not cute to me. Likewise, I can be attracted to all different body types on a woman, but I have a sm…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 02:33 PM
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Girrrrrl, that last one…. Rich jerky guys don’t do well with idle time…. Never again!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 10:45 PM
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I just like normal. A normal job he goes to. Normal pay. Normal hours. Don’t like rich, don’t like poor. Don’t like only part time hours/pay, don’t like staying long and over working. Just want normal, normal, normal, normal. Yes, I’ve had experience dating or being married to all these types. The rich husband that could operate his business with only part time hours for himself, was the WORST!!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 03:01 PM
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All anger is born of something else. Anger is a secondary emotion. Anger springs from pain or fear or frustration. The problem is, most men just see ANGER, and never dissect what’s behind it……that would be too vulnerable and scary for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 11:24 PM
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I AGREE! I’d rather be finding a gf instead of a bf if anything happened to my husband. That’s exactly what I would do. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 07:42 PM
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Yes, and the thing is…they don’t offend me, because I don’t CARE 😆. I don’t keep men like this in my life on the real, so it’s whatever. I’m just logic-brained, and it both annoys, and fascinates me that they can’t see it. They want a 1950’s kiss ass, stay at home type woman, but they also want her contributing to bills. They want her to conduct herself morally, while they do anything they please, and blame their ‘male biology’. They dog out single moms, but won’t see that moms TRY to stay and f…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 02:31 PM
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Oh definitely it wouldn’t be better for me if he traveled. That’s too much, but being gone for a regular work day is crucial to me - whether it’s me gone, or him, or both of us doesn’t matter. I just couldn’t be cooped up all day working from home together. I don’t know how people do that. Yikes 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 01:10 AM
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Yes, older women need older men. That is true. I think she’s saying young women don’t want them unless they are heavy providers, and it’s not for their looks. I think a lot of men older than myself ARE attractive, though. I wouldn’t want to date them, but not because of looks. Statistically, men die before women. I’d rather not bury anybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 01:05 AM
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They will think you are being snarky with this comment, but you can literally unravel the red pill when you do just what you said. Their logic completely folds in on themselves. They are the easiest to debate, but mind numbing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 11:36 PM
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Of course!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 07:10 PM
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Of course! I’m not discounting that. And not every woman has a baby, either. I was generalizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 07:08 PM
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Exactly!! That’s the thing - women WILL tell men exactly what’s what, but we can’t make them believe us. For some reason, they go to male spaces and ask other men what we want and what we value and what we think. It’s maddening and makes no damn sense 🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 07:06 PM
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YES!!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 07:04 PM
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But I’m not saying for the woman not to work and provide 50/50 financial help. If that’s the way yall have worked it out, so be it. But what I’m saying, is if he is no longer the provider, then yes, he needs a new currency, and that is emotional intelligence. And you know what? Take the woman completely out of it. The man HIMSELF will gain the world with this, beyond women. He should do it for HIMSELF.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 07:01 PM
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Exactly, and it’s THEM that started the ‘hitting the wall’ at 30 talk. We didn’t start that - THEY did. Why do some of us think they feel that way? Because they TELL us they do 🤣. Then they get butt hurt when we repeat themselves back to themselves, and post something like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 06:51 PM
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Yes! The ONLY thing I worry about is poor women getting taken advantage of by them. Other than that….buhbyyyyeeee 👋✌️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 03:06 PM
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It IS! Ask any woman that has been keeping up the emotional and social runnings of the relationship all by herself. It IS exhausting, and that’s why a partner that can emotionally 50/50 with them will absolutely skyrocket their relationship value by multitudes! Is it more exhausting than a divorce, or getting 2 and 3 jobs? Probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 03:03 PM
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Oh yeah, I liked your comment. Was just adding to it. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 02:56 PM
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2 kids. She would have to get a hell of a job to still make a financial gain enough to make a difference after her 2 kids now need daycare. It’s just many times not cost efficient.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 02:53 PM
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Feminism literally came about to give women choices. It did not come along to strip them. If everyone was stay at home and feminism came in and forced them all to work, then that would just mean more rules and less choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 02:49 PM
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Feminism just means you have the CHOICE of stay at home, or joining the workforce. Once you shame anyone for being a stay at home mom, you’ve broken what it means to be a feminist. I do agree that sex work for men is the antithesis of true feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 02:46 PM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 02:44 PM
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This is wonderful. Yes!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 02:43 PM
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I love that you are asking this, but I’m cautious, because men will ask, but then argue with our answer 😆. But anyway, it’s true. In the past, women provided the baby, and men provided for the baby and mom. That was their main relationship value. These days, everyone except the damn elite are living wage poor, so fine. If men need help now with rent and bills from women, then they HAVE to bring something else to the table. Over and over and over again, we answer yall men by saying we want higher…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 02:16 PM
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Surely I can’t be the only woman that legitimately doesn’t care a thing, not a single damn thing about passport bros? I can’t see how they affect my life at all??
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 03:00 AM
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It’s insane how they need to be totally spoon fed like babies!!! Read a damn BOOK. Figure it OUT.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 12:27 AM
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EXACTLY!!! Why is EVERYTHING always on US??!! I used to read marriage help stuff and watch utube stuff, but I totally quit. I’m so done being ‘the relationship person’. We either BOTH are, or we both ain’t. It’s NOT my job because I have a vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 12:26 AM
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We don’t want to HAVE to tell them exactly how to fix it, after we’ve stated the issue. Then they are just following ‘steps’. It’s not sincere, or from the heart. We want to state how our needs are not being met, and then we want THEM to expend some mental labor on how to ‘fix it’. We’ve already expended the labor of going to them and being vulnerable by telling them. The ball is now in THEIR court. I’m not giving a step by step playbook to a grown ass person. It’s condescending, and puts you in…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 12:23 AM
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Heh heh 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 08:56 PM
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😆😆 I’m a girl that prefers courthouse weddings, so I totally hear ya. I don’t like being a wedding prop, either. The whole thing is expensive and overrated. Take that money and have a great honeymoon!! Weddings are meh. The only reason your friends suffer through it is for the reception.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 04:48 PM
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Then you would definitely have a point! That’s wrong of the woman to do. A Bridezilla, I guess. I’ve only seen mostly the women trying to get the man more involved, but if she or her family are bullies about it, then screw ‘em. I don’t like women like that either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:17 PM
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It’s the men themselves that you don’t hear them referring to their ‘special day’. We don’t stop them from saying that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:02 PM
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Because they have a romanticized concept of marriage. They think their marriage will be the exception to the rule. Because if the bf stayed the same as when they were dating, then the marriage WOULD be fine and beneficial, but then he changes and quits all forms of ‘dating’ her and being an invested partner after marriage…..so many reasons!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:01 PM
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It’s annoying to hear. I used to not say it. I love sex and have it and crave it several times a day. But when you really think about it, it’s true. It doesn’t mean I would stay in a relationship without it - I wouldn’t. But if he was mad or hurt over something I did, I’m not entitled to it. I do think it’s an innate need, though. Not to survive, but to be happy (for a lot of people).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 10:15 PM
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Ah-ah! Then he’s not entitled to my sexual fidelity, either. Great! 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 08:20 PM
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In general? A random man on the street? I agree with you. Any man that is placing his penis anywhere near any of my orifices… I absolutely DO have say. It’s my body, and I get to judge the integrity of who enters it. Men of course have this right as well!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:43 PM
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Just like ‘ugly’, not desired women have to deal with it? Work on yourself. Nobody is owed sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 11:45 PM
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You can. I get it. But it’s been shown time and again that specifically sex work cuts deeper and has way more psychologically devastating issues than a regular old job that all of us hate. It’s why rape is the most awful and detrimental form of assault. It’s just so deeply personal and life/soul destroying.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 11:43 PM
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I guess mostly…. I don’t care. I don’t have any sympathy for the woman that leaves her loving husband and father of her kids because she ‘monkey branched’ to a guy that’s 6’2. Is it biology for her to have done that? Meh. Maybe. Still don’t give a fluck. I don’t have any sympathy for the man that goes to jail for statutory rape because a 13 year old was his ‘biology’. I just frankly don’t care. If it’s biology, if it’s not - if you aren’t strong and smart enough to fight it - you’re a loser. 🦧
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 11:40 PM
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I’d like prostitution/sex work banned for both genders because it hurts all involved, and brings down humanity on a fundamental, ‘people for money’ attitude. If there were still any living former slaves around, we could ask how well the buying and selling of people worked out for them. The idea of ‘the happy hooker’, or ‘well-adjusted, healthy sex worker’ is mythical.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 07:56 AM
1

If the behavior was fruitful for our ancestors, but NOT conducive to a good and moral and wise life right now, then it doesn’t need to be fed. Case in point, I’m a bisexual woman. That is my biology. However, I’m married to a man, and I’m not a cheater, so it wouldn’t be in my ethical and best interest to feed that part of my biology. It would hurt myself and others. This is where the responsibility of free will comes in. None of us have to be controlled by anything. The lean might be there, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 12:32 AM
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When either side is excused, or WANTS to be excused for foul/selfish/vapid/superficial/harmful behavior, and blame it on evolutionary instincts, then it is wrong. It’s doubly wrong if you yourself are controlled by them, but you are dismissing them in the opposite sex, yes. I agree. We should all be striving to be better than our ancestors. It’s not ok for any sex/gender to use this as an excuse for bad behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 07:11 PM
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I don’t dismiss any of it. Like, I get it…..but in my opinion, putting too much stock in any of this is like always going back to something you or your spouse did 20 years ago, and ya’ll are still stuck on it. It’s like, we are still wired to want to eat the fat and calories that our hard-working cavemen ancestors did, but if we do that today, we get sick and fat. Things change. People develop. Time moves on. Same as your immediate family may have given you the genetic disposition towards heart …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:03 PM
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You have excellent points, and you were interesting to read. I used to be really into the evolutionary psychology stuff, but when you think about it, it’s never as divided as it seems. Example, - ‘Men don’t want promiscuous women, because of paternity doubts’. This is likely very true. However! It’s just as true to say, women don’t want promiscuous players, because they won’t stick around to help raise their offspring. Another is, ‘Men want younger women to father children with because it’s bett…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 02:58 PM
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You got a downvote, but I fixed it. I don’t understand why anyone gets downvoted for being honest about what they are seeing in their real life 🤷🏻‍♀️. I mean, it’s sad, but if it’s true, it’s true. Yes! I have also seen that the polarization between men and women far exceeds any racial divide. I suppose because if people want to avoid a certain race, they just…do. It’s much harder to avoid an entire sex/gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:43 PM
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No, no. I think many women will. I just say the majority will make a normal ‘nesting’ , married-type life with other women. Humanity is in our DNA. We want people. The humanity matters to the average woman before the average man. There are always outliers. And I also agree with you that interaction between opposite genders will be less and less and less. Yet! Maybe we will and can become better FRIENDS with the opposite sex, when we aren’t trying to date them. I know I absolutely LOVE men as fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:12 PM
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Maybe human straight relationships. I can’t see two women choosing AI over each other. The majority of women, even if ‘straight’, (in my opinion and experience), are going to choose humanity in each other, before fake ass AI. I do believe and agree with you that it will take over a lot of men. Men’s heads are more built to ‘date’ AI than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:33 PM
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That’s fine. We will see how that ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 10:05 PM
4

This. This. THISSSS!! It ain’t gonna be a woman versus man thing for much longer. AI will end up making us think this current disaster of a situation was the ‘good old days’. Hang on to your butts.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 07:33 PM
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I’m a woman. Your post was very interesting, and I like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 07:30 PM
1

I can’t say they’ve been hateful to me, but a lot of guys just refuse to believe me when I say I’d happily take a shorter, less attractive, financially poorer person with a nice and open disposition over a gorgeous person with money. It doesn’t make it not true, though. It’s really not even a decision for me. You don’t live with money or looks. You have to make a life with the PERSON.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:55 PM
2

Yeah, lol. And I think what is different…. I’m not taking more than a regular woman’s dose. I’m not ‘roiding out’. It’s just that my particular body is a super responder to it, and regular amounts shoot me way up. I think that’s why I can feel great at even 500, and a lot of women would not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:37 PM
2

I’m on r/trt_females, and yes, most DO test well below, but there are many outliers whose bodies are fine being higher. I think they call us ‘super responders’. We aren’t transitioning, tho!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 07:33 PM
1

Your info is wrong, but I had the same thoughts at first, so I understand. Go on the women’s testosterone sub. It’s extremely common that some women can run between 200 and 400 with zero masculinizing effects. I’ve been as high as 500, (I run and weight train), and I’ve fallen into liking to stay around 350. I’m feminine as they come, just ultra athletic. Small frame. No beard 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 07:14 PM
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It sounds like ya’ll have no problem, then. In my personal life, I am made to feel the effects of porn and its usage on the way men in society relate to women. It angers me and is 100% unfair to me, because I partake in NONE of it, yet I can’t escape its effects. I resent it fiercely. I’m bisexual, so I’ve never been jealous of the women. That’s never been close to my reasoning. I actually feel for them like a parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 07:06 PM
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I don’t judge anything I don’t have any experience with, so I’ve never developed an opinion over erotic literature. If you feel that it’s tit for tat, then that’s great for y’all! I guess off the cuff, all I would say is at least there aren’t ever real people harmed or exploited in literature (?), but hey, if yall are happy, you’re better off than half of relationships 😆😊
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:48 PM
1

I warn and help women wherever I can about any harmful pill rhetoric. I help them trust themselves when I see that it is obvious they are being gaslit, negged, and/or being purposely manipulated and driven ‘crazy’. I do this because I’ve been there, and I love women, and feel it’s my responsibility, - not because I hate men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:40 PM
1

Nope. I’m an athlete on testosterone. I won’t discuss my numbers here, but I test within the normal to low range of a man. I KNOW the drive to do it, but my morality and ethics will always prevail.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 04:13 PM
2

Yes, and that’s what I meant by not faulting anyone for noticing an attractive person. But deliberately seeking OUT material or places to go for the deliberate and sole purpose of ogling other people that aren’t your spouse - that’s different, and everyone is capable of not doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 04:06 PM
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Can you explain to me how if YOU can/are like that with your eyes only being for him, why is it unrealistic for you to expect the same?? Is it because women are just so much more beautiful than men, that you think you can help it, but he can’t? Because that’s bs. I’m married to a man, but bisexual, and I guarantee you, I’m as attracted to women as much as any man, and I’m on testosterone. AND I don’t lust/stare/ogle women in public, or watch porn. I’ve never thought of a woman or another man whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:17 AM
1

😏I secretly wanted to say how I really felt it was 60 upwards percent, but I was trying to be diplomatic. 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 02:06 AM
2

I know so many women that would live by themselves if they could afford it. I’ll die on the hill that if all of a sudden everyone got cost of living/universal income, that at least 40% more of women would leave immediately - adding to the already growing numbers. Never underestimate the hundreds of thousands of people that are still wherever they are, just because nobody can afford to move. You would see DROVES of exodus.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 08:36 PM
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This is another instance of how (especially) red-pilled men trip over their own logic fallacies. They preach to leave a woman that keeps you ‘waiting’, but then rant how they want pure women with low body counts. They systematically tell men to leave when the woman is exhibiting the very principles that they claim to want. SO many of their mantras are hypocritical and self-defeating just like this one, and it’s obvious to everyone else but them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 02:02 PM
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I don’t know any of these people, so who knows the real dynamic. I will agree, as a woman, that this is often true. Not necessarily with babies and children - they are just HARD, without any extra added pressure, but with a lot of other things. I heard of a doctor’s wife that won’t have sex if there is ONE unwashed dish in the sink. Stuff like that is added pressure that women do to their own selves.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 06:26 PM
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I’ve honestly never cared about the men going their own way. I sincerely want only the best for them. When they struggle, it only adds to the struggle of the rest of us. The only thing I care about is when ‘going their own way’ means going in hate and resentment and bitterness. Those kind don’t truly go anywhere. They say they left the scene, but they hover around just enough to harass and neg women. Those. Those are the ones….
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 07:51 PM
1

Yes, and if the mother breast feeds, that’s a thing too. She’s going to spend more time by default.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 06:39 PM
1

lol, and that’s your right. I say gay, because I always was since I remember my first love in kindergarten. My dad was a pastor, and my parents and religious community ended up making my life absolute HELL on earth until I gave up. They would ruin every female relationship I had, until it wasn’t fair to the girl I was with anymore. This went on through my 20’s. So anyway, ‘gay’ is true to my birth nature. Bi is the default character they turned me into. I don’t care a bit if people call me bisex…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 06:37 PM
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You’re right. Men used to practically be ‘given’ wives when church culture was so strong. By 25, church society (my dad is a preacher) would side-eye you if you weren’t engaged or married. These days, no one is ‘given’, and men haven’t been taught to work on themselves in the right way to be ready and healthy and able to take on, or ‘earn’ a wife. I respect Jordan Peterson and the Gottman’s for advice on this. You’re right about the other superficial pursuits getting in the way, and there’s almo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 02:01 PM
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🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 05:04 PM
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If I KNEW the guy, like if he was my friend first, and I knew everything about him, and had observed how he conducted his relationships, it could be different. If I just met him, and was having to take his word, nah. But to be fair, I was always best friends with girls first before I asked them out, and I observed them in the same way. I used to only like mostly straight girls, that just happened to like ME, and I had to make sure they weren’t the type that would leave or cheat when the next hot…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 04:25 PM
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You may not like my real reason either, 😆. It may not be fair, because I’m bi and I honestly don’t cheat. I met my husband 12 years ago, and I haven’t been with a girl since. But it’s kinda easy for me, because to me, being with a woman means the entire thing. Sex, yes, but also a whole romantic relationship. I never had ‘flings’ with women, so I don’t miss something I never had. I didn’t operate that way. IF I could possibly know for fact 💯 that a bi man was exactly like me in regards to that, …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 12:32 AM
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Wait, I didn’t say that, though. I’ve met bi men so masculine….shit, I know gay men so masculine you would never know. That’s not my reason. You ad-libbed for me 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 12:22 AM
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I want a man to pay for dates, because I paid for my female dates 😆. It’s my turn. If it causes any issues between my husband and myself, it’s usually because I reverse our scenarios and think, ‘I would have done that for my woman, or I wouldn’t have done that to her….’ It’s probably not fair, but my brain still does it. It’s like I don’t want less than I gave, ya know?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 11:20 PM
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No, I know perfectly well, and I have friends and can be a friend to all types. I’m actually a ribbons and bows and perfectly styled matchy match girl with my gym wear. I was just trying to sum up a general difference in few words. There’s nothing inherently wrong with anything I mentioned. ☺️ I love makeup, too!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 11:16 PM
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It can be justified, and it CAN become a pattern of manipulation. Both are true.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 10:12 PM
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It’s trust for me. Both in, I have to trust them not to break boundaries, but I also have to trust that I can be myself with them and be loved and accepted for it. I don’t like the blending of my body with someone that doesn’t like/love/accept all of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 10:11 PM
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YES! And if people of any sex or gender still go through with the sex act while feeling this way emotionally, it can lead to becoming completely sex adverse. It’s recommended to listen to your body.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 10:07 PM
2

Aww, thanks so much! ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:56 PM
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Yeah. I was kinda nodding along with the post, but your comment is very true. That’s what makes it different now. If your wife has to work, or wants to work, ya’ll have to be 50/50 on the parenting, or poor wife is going to implode. No way I would have a baby if I was having to do the 50/50 thing on rent and bills. I would just assume I would be providing half the income, AND 80% of the childcare. It was different when women could stay home. The problem is, the mentality about childcare is still…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:51 PM
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🌈
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:43 PM
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Amen, and thank you. Yeah…I mostly stop reading when they begin defending themselves against what statistics say, and what we know is true. They can gaslight, but I won’t be here for it. 💅🏼. Ps- I caught the no defense of the pedo leaning as well 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:42 PM
2

There ya go! I always say I’m too big to sum up. I’m too much for one identity. I hope reincarnation is real, because I need at least 3 lives to cover it 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:40 PM
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I AM. It’s my life! And I don’t run into the subject very much on Reddit. I finally feel seen! 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:38 PM
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Not always. I’m gay gay. Born liking women. My dad is a pastor and we live in the Bible Belt, so it was made almost impossible for me to live as I wanted….fast forward, I did meet and fall in love with a man, but I still bring all my ways and attitudes of thinking and out of the box gender roles and ideas of my innate personality. I don’t think he would say being with me was just like being with a straight girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:37 PM
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You’re not wrong, there’s just two types. There’s real gay, like girls who have actually lived with and had longterm exclusive female relationships, and the type ‘Bi’ girls that just make out with each other at parties when they get drunk. You know what I’m saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:33 PM
2

They are mine, too 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:26 PM
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The identity game is CRAZY, isn’t it??? At our gym where they know us both as a couple, I’m just a regular straight married woman. With another group of friends, I’m bi, but monogamous. To myself,(thus probably the truest), I’m a gay woman that is in love with a man, and I don’t cheat. I say gay, because I know I wouldn’t date another man if something ( heaven forbid) happened to mine. I would go straight back to women, and die that way, so…..🤷🏻‍♀️. But yes, I constantly feel a little lost. I us…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:25 PM
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Hold your ground. Bisexual chicks are awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:19 PM
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Now THAT is something I run into and bump heads with my husband about as a bisexual woman. I KNOW true intimacy, and we ain’t there. Women that have only been with the lesser emotionally ‘in tune’, and lesser empathetic sex, don’t really understand how a relationship COULD be. I do, and it’s been very hard contending with less. I can’t help that I’m not romantically interested in bisexual men, but I can understand how they can be closer to the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:15 PM
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They are. 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:12 PM
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THANK YOUUU!!! 🌈🌈🌈 I needed this. I’m bi, leaning gay, but married to a man. Sex with him is great. I’m good, but he thinks my bisexuality annoys him. I keep trying to tell him it’s the coolest thing about me, and helps me see all sides of everything. I’m better in bed because of it, too. He just doesn’t know/understand that. I talk to so many completely straight women that do nothing except try to avoid sex with their men. I’ll die on the hill that women with the gayness like sex more, and have…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:09 PM
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I do agree, and I’ve seen it justified, and used as an immature power trip.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 02:20 PM
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It can be dominance, sure. It can be immature emotional blackmail. It can be a lot of things. It’s also that a lot of women just don’t really get much out of partnered sex, so it’s very easy for them to say ‘nope’ over the slightest inconvenience. However, as a woman that LOVES sex, when I pull away, it’s only because I have been treated so poorly or haphazardly during the day hours, that my physical body recoils at night. You say we are weaker, and that is true. That means we rarely lash outwar…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 02:17 PM
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No. They will treat them like shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 07:35 PM
1

Yes. We can sift through and find a compatible opposite sex partner, but it really is not natural. I know and understand how the physical body works, and how it’s natural for a man and a woman to produce offspring. I get all that. It’s everything else before and after the making of the offspring. Total opposites. Never felt natural to me at ALL. It did me good to hear someone agree. It’s weird. 😆 that said, I’m a woman that DOES enjoy sex just as much as a man, and my guy is AHMAZING in bed, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 06:45 PM
3

Humor helps! Humor keeps me breathing. Thank you! ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 03:32 PM
4

This is what I see in the real world as well. Always have.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:47 AM
4

Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:45 AM
-1

Yep. At least women do it with valuable ‘moves up’ for things actually worth something that will actually benefit our lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:44 AM
11

Nah. The one I sent to prison for choking me looks literally like Nosferatu. I know ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:20 AM
13

Uhm…it’s actually MEN that I’ve heard point one and two from!! The red pillers brag and wear those points like a weird badge of honor. There’s even men on this thread admitting they are true.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:13 AM
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Thank you for your honesty about one and two. I can deal with anyone willing to be honest. I don’t deal in untruth. It’s pointless. I’ll give you point 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:10 AM
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At least you are honest, and I’ll even give you point number 3. As a woman, I’m a lot less anal about perfect housecleaning than most women. My husband is better than I am about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:09 AM
7

They themselves spout points one and two, and then gaslight us and take it back when we call them out 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:04 AM
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Well….I don’t see any straight men being admitted to hospitals recently from choking, etc, due from a woman’s porn inspired ‘rough sex’, but there’s plenty of stories of women and girls. Huge recent uptick. And when women watch violent porn, it is usually because it’s their unhealthy way of making sense out of their own rapes and/or sexual assaults. It’s not healthy, no, but it’s the main reason why.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:02 AM
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Agreed. All the talk of their evolutionary rights to VaRiEtY, and the fact that one in six admit to be attracted to minors, and the fact that violence and ‘teen’ are their top porn picks…..can we all just agree to listen to THEM? They and their actions have been telling us for the last 30 years that they aren’t fit for human consumption. I was only in elementary school when I distinctly remember asking my mom, ‘If God meant for boys and girls to be together, it’s really weird.’ She claimed I wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 09:45 AM
11

No shit!! I’ve been treated the worst by the ugliest. Dey mad cuz dey so ugly. 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 09:38 AM
3

OM dear G! I have not seen that here. No wonder! Yeah, well, see… I keep trying to give the benefit of every doubt. I really do like a lot of men as friends, but it’s them themselves that keep proving my open-mindedness is wrong 😑 I wish they wouldn’t. I WANT to like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 12:27 AM
4

Whew. THIS subreddit?? This one doesn’t even raise my blood pressure. I’m sure glad you didn’t join an exclusively red pill sub 😆. Geez, this one is almost men harmlessly sparing. I guess the bar IS kinda low, huh? To your dating rules, I agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 09:04 PM
4

I thought you wanted to give a red pill point, and I show how their own following contradicts itself…..constantly…..on almost every subject…..to which, yes. I can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 08:59 PM
-2

Women: ‘Correct! And porn use is a huge 🚩, and indicative to how he will treat me, and how he sees and relates to women in general. We won’t date a porn user.’ Men: ‘You insecure witches. You are just jealous and we hate you.’ 😆 But also men: ‘We want a wholesome woman not into porn or showing her body inappropriately online.’
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 08:54 PM
2

…..that seems to be the going narrative, yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 07:28 PM
1

Sure. Gimme a point, and we can go. I’m not any pilled, and I actually love Jordan Peterson. I was pretty open minded, then red pill took it so far, that they can’t even keep up with it. Ya’ll’s opinions are starting to collide in on each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 07:24 PM
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THIS. All this is why red pillers always end up contradicting themselves if you let them talk long enough. They really aren’t even interesting to debate. Too easy to get them to contradict themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 06:55 PM
5

Alice would be a horrible person in your scenario. Also, turning down a man for a date is NOT equivalent to kicking anyone in the balls…..
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 08:56 PM
1

Ohhh. I see it now 😂 went right over me
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:58 PM
4

Yeah, incels are angry. These chicks aren’t. I mean, they would possibly be if you took away the wand 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:56 PM
5

A lot of times that is very true. I know single happy women that have exclusively dated their wands for YEARS. 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 02:41 AM
1

No argument here, I love me some women 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 07:46 PM
1

THIS. I like your bf. 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 07:39 PM
2

🤣🤣🤣🍻
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:48 PM
2

I could hang out wit you 😆🥂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:46 PM
1

YESSSzs! Be as deep as ya wanna be! The ones that lose interest, he’s not looking for those types anyway. Weed them out by being yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:46 PM
2

You don’t hold back. YOU talk exactly the way you want to. The right woman will talk about it right back with you. The ones whose eyes glaze over - you don’t want them anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:44 PM
1

I’m bisexual, leaning gay, and I honestly think my mom was gay, looking back now… I have epiphanies all the time about her and my father’s relationship, and I run and tell my husband 😆. She passed early, but looking back, a lot makes sense. She hated and avoided sex with my dad, although they had a great friendship. AND she clocked me as gay VERY early, like elementary early, and started giving me grief and shunning me and hating me. She saw herself in me. My fam is deep, man. Lots of repression…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:41 PM
2

You know what, I wasn’t really even talking about the men in this sub, particularly. Just generalizing some male traits. Nothing personal to this sub. I should/could have said.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:35 PM
8

WOW. What a cold shark. If you were up to laughing about it (laughing makes some people feel better), then I sometimes can have that sense of humor, but this doesn’t sound like it was in good nature. She weaponized your pain for an argument over a damn restaurant. That’s awful. I’m sorry. Glad your real friend was there for you. Ps - thank you. Your comment is going to make me show more sympathy for how my husband feels about his job.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 04:07 AM
2

Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:16 AM
1

Awesome!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:15 AM
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Exactly!! My dad retired as a pastor, now teaches middle school, and runs around on vacation trips constantly. He’s in his late 60’s. Fun people are fun and not fun people aren’t. Has little to do with anything else. I’ve worked. I’ve stayed home. I’ve been an abusive surviver and a struggling single mom. Guess what? I stayed fun and interesting the entire way through.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:15 AM
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Thank youuu!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:11 AM
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SO many men see it this way!!!! Mine says he’s boring because he has a steady job…. I mean….????? Huh???🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:10 AM
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Eewww. None of those hobbies interest me. I like sporty people with outside and/or sporty hobbies. Cooking, gardening, screen time, makes me pray for death 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:09 AM
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They read somewhere that it’s sexy or cool or alpha to be stoic all the time. Stoicism has its place, but it’s no good if it’s 24/7 and can never be dropped and you can never let loose. It just becomes a word for boring and aloof.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:06 AM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:03 AM
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This is great!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:02 AM
2

Ba BAM!!💥
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:01 AM
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Accusatory and DEFENSIVE.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:01 AM
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When you are in a relationship, male or female, you have the responsibility of managing your depression. It’s not fair to the other person if you are so depressed you can’t be an emotionally available and reasonably energetic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:00 AM
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Yep, and some partners are determined to keep it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:58 PM
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It IS normal, but you would be surprised how unattainable this is for a lot of men. Just to talk and converse normally about normal feelings. It’s weird. I’d love to understand their deficit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:56 PM
1

ABSOLUTELY! Great comment! Personally deep doesn’t have to mean worldly deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:54 PM
1

Deep conversations can also be funny. Ever watch a Christopher Hitchens debate? I like spicy, deep, and humorous.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:53 PM
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I’m sad for you, but I love to hear a man desiring deep conversation and depth! I hope you find it! Shouldn’t be as hard finding a woman that wants that. I don’t know many that don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:50 PM
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This is great. I’d add no hobbies, OR their hobby is stuck in front of ANY type screen. Be it phone, tv, gaming - unless yall have fun gaming as a couple. But yeah, I’ve dated people with no particular hobbies that were still lively and passionate about life, and good/interesting conversationalists, and it was fine. I just never really clicked with screen people. They tend to be drab. Book people can be very interesting, though!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:45 PM
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THANK YOUUU! I almost feel gaslit enough to have questioned my sanity and memory 🤣. YES!! It can absolutely be that way!! I’m so happy for you! 💐
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 06:48 PM
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Oh honey, I heard and saw this my entire life! My dad is a pastor, and so were my aunt and uncle. In my entire extended family including all the cousins my age, I’m the ONLY girl that LOVES SEX!! All the other women said it’s a chore or duty you do for your husband. Ps - all my girl cousins hate me because I like it 😆. Like literally, they don’t speak to me. I couldn’t care LESS.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 02:26 PM
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It can be just as bad when your partner has never been in a great, healthy relationship, where the two of you are best friends and complete each other’s sentences, have great sex, and never lose the ‘new relationship energy’, or desire to be around each other and talk and still date all the time. Someone like this will settle for a boring, non-fulfilling relationship, and tell you that it’s completely normal, and you are a dreamer. Same for someone that never had passionate sex settling for bori…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 01:56 PM
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Your last sentence sounds like a female doctor I had at Urgent Care. She was telling me the importance of peeling directly after sex. I said, ‘well, I do, but not exactly directly after, because you know it’s hard to be able to pee after a strong orgasm, because your muscles are still contracting in the ‘upwards’ movement, and nothing will come out for a while.’ She stared at me like, WTF, went totally silent, and mumbled that she knows nothing about that. 😆 Poor lady!!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 01:48 PM
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It’s too many defined roles and ways of being. It’s silly. It’s like tv characters of men and women, not how people really are. I think the gay world wasn’t so affected, because they aren’t portrayed on screen as much. Straight women and men have all these….characters of the way to be in their heads because of media.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 12:05 AM
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Each individual I make it a point to judge on a purely individual basis, regardless of sex. On a whole, I…well, me AND criminal violence statistics, say that as a group, men do not control their physical selves as good as women. I’ll leave it at that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 11:34 PM
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Good men DO have all these options. You should have seen the women throwing themselves at my dad when we lost my mom very early. He’s not rich. He’s 5’5. He’s just a really decent man that treats women uniquely well. He still treats them with the respect of a gentleman from waaaaaay ago. It’s how he was raised. If a man has no options, don’t assume it’s his lack of money or looks. He’s probably just an aloof ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 11:28 PM
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I honestly don’t 😆. This fictional red pill woman that never says no, never has problems or issues, and always takes the man’s lead, is a pure work of fiction. It’s hard on real women that men have been snookered into believing those unicorns exist. I’m in the Bible Belt south, with ministers as parents, and IF these women existed, they would be HERE…and they ain’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 11:13 PM
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I like a person to present two or three ideas and let me choose. I always did this when I asked people out. If not 3, I at least always had one backup for the original date I presented.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 11:09 PM
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Yes! Lead because you specialize in the topic, not because of your sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 11:06 PM
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YESSSS!!!! You know the only entity that cares about roles is PRIDE.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 11:05 PM
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EXACTLY! I know more about certain things, and he knows more about certain things. But I’ve noticed, he won’t come to me on the things I know about, but I won’t hesitate going to him, or anyone in general that knows more than myself! That’s how you learn! It’s all SO silly!!!🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 11:03 PM
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Lol, my dad is a Baptist pastor, and he and his wife would religiously have to call him the ‘leader’, but my stepmom rules the roost. 😆. It’s hilarious that they feel they still need to stick to the Biblical script, when it’s nothing like that in their real life. 😆. I actually know this is the case in at least half, if not more, Christian households. I like your attitude about the whole thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 10:52 PM
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I never went through even thinking I would like this. I exclusively dated women before men, and we didn’t have ‘a leader’. I suppose I was a little more outgoing. I was the one that would ask the girl out and pay for our dates, but our home life was purely just two equal people trying to make it in this world. I was actually shell shocked by all these…roles, when I started dating men. I guess I have fallen into it, somewhat, but I will forever miss just two people…just two equal friends, that di…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 10:46 PM
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I don’t doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 10:17 PM
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Women IN longterm relationships may(?) want to get married more than their partner, BUT! Less women are entering these relationships, and less women than ever before desire marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 01:55 PM
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I mean….the problem is not in healthy lusting over your own partner. It’s the completely out of control lusting after EVERYONE and EVERYTHING! It’s kinda telling that men think they would have to shut it all off , before they could just keep their lust to THEIR person. Sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 07:27 PM
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There’s probably a lot of truth in your statement. I was born gay. My pastor father and family and church ‘changed’ my sexuality. I never had any problems or issues with any of the female relationships I entered. I was extremely good at that, so this is ALL second nature to me, not first instinct. That said, there’s an awful lot of totally straight women here on Reddit, and out in the world saying the exact same things. It’s probably a mix of myself and the men I’ve had relationships with. I can…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 07:06 PM
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It’s dismissive gaslighting on his part.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 12:23 AM
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She doesn’t ‘feel’ this way. She knows it’s this way from her life experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 12:22 AM
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First paragraph - YES!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 12:21 AM
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‘Our job is to like them’ 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 12:20 AM
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EXACTLY! The worst things I’ve learned about men have all come from other men - not women!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 12:19 AM
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Yes. The want a primary ‘normal’ relationship where the girl stays faithful , and they have ‘VaRiEtY’. We are only going by what they tell us and show us. We didn’t come up with this on our own - cue the ‘it’s just our evolutionary BiOlOgY’ argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 12:18 AM
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Yep. My answer was going to be, I think that, because ya’ll say that, and most of your habits prove that. It’s not this big mystery I’ve deconstructed. 😆 (yes, as always, there are outliers.)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 12:14 AM
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Absolutely! 💯 I love your post! 🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆. So sad that the need is there to make it, but I’m glad you did. I’d make more, but this subject breaks my heart too much. I’m appreciative of strong people like you pulling the weight. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 04:23 PM
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‘Aromantic, or at least incapable of bonding with women’. THIS 🎯. It’s so sad. My husband literally has no clue how to be romantic with me, or how to bond and blend into an ‘us’. It’s just ‘me’ and ‘him’. I’ve NEVER truly felt coupled with him. We lead completely separate lives. Always have. He’s just not interested in anything deeper, no matter how important it is (was) to me. At the end of the day, if we are still willing to have sex with them, they just don’t care how unfulfilled we are throu…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 01:12 PM
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‘Containment’ is for diseases, dogs in kennels, and toddlers in playpens. Every time you speak of ‘containment’, change it to trust. If a man breaks a woman’s TRUST, all this will happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 12:22 AM
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Extremely flexible here, yup. I have physical preferences like anyone else, but personally supersedes it greatly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 02:45 AM
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Definitely the pros/cons thing. After a certain level of attractiveness and cleanliness, I don’t care anymore. I’d rather a less attractive person with a higher emotional IQ. Looks matter, but only in a ‘yes, I could be with him physically, or, ‘no, I could like him,but not be with him intimately. It’s all personality after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 02:27 AM
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That is absolutely correct. We all knew we didn’t want to end up with the bad boy or bad girl. Had a lot of great times with these kinds of friends, tho. Can’t lie 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 01:09 AM
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Absolutely! Ya see what I mean?!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 06:47 PM
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I’m not one to ask. I’m kinda opposite. I love men as friends. They actually get me and my humor better than the typical girl. I seek them out to buddy with. I am very leery of them in an intimate relationship context. Yes, they kinda have to prove themselves, but I would think they were looking for dealbreakers in me as well. That’s what dating is. But yes, I hold people I am intimate with to higher standards. Do I see every man as a rapist? Absolutely not! Far from it! I’m a routine jogger, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 06:08 PM
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Well, I just visited my dad and his wife last week, and we both seemed to really love him. My bio mom loved him, but she passed early. They were together dating from aged 13/14, got married at 18/19, and were happily married until she passed…..so idk about anyone hating him. He was a pastor, and now teaches middle school. His kids adore him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 05:58 PM
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Idk what ‘containment’ is, but let me add - fathers in the home ARE important for both girls and boys, but it’s just as important for a growing boy to be around a lot of girls and women. I can immediately spot an adult male that did not have this. They see women as characters, and not full, complete people with nuances. They’ve learned of women by viewing screens, with 90% of female dialogue written by MEN. They grow up with no genuine concept or understanding of real women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 02:46 PM
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This a million times over. I’d never start dating a guy again with no sisters or female cousins he respects and is close with!! There’s SO much a guy with all brothers just will never get, and the intermeshes of the socialization needs to start early with home life. It has to be a natural building of understanding. I’ve learned the hard way, you can’t give these men from all-brother families a crash course in women once moving in with them. There’s just things you have to live and experience to …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 02:21 PM
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‘Sir, we were TEMPORARILY compatible….’ 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 01:09 AM
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Damn. Love your honesty. 😆. I’m good with my sex life, but I also hear a lot from women who are d-o-n-e.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 01:07 AM
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Or learn to control and reel in their empathy. I did through competitive exercise and yoga meditation. 🧘‍♀️. I have become completely numb 🎶🎶
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 06:50 PM
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The empathy levels being so disproportionate could never really make a perfect match. The person with more empathy is always going to hurt more. In some couples it is reversed, and the men with higher empathy than their female partners aren’t happy, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 05:32 PM
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I gotcha! Yes, maybe so, but women have a lot less of those kinds of one time flings than men. It’s usually deeper than that, but I can agree with the one time deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 05:01 PM
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You sound exactly like me. Exactly! When I cheated (prior relationship, not current!) it was ONLY strictly a direct result in their cheating first, and I never hid it. I had always stated my boundaries and said I would go out and cheat the hot second they did, and I sure the fluck did. Zero remorse. I told no lies. I was never a duck 🦆. I don’t have feathers, and I don’t damn quack. Now being older and healthier now, I wouldn’t handle it that way - I would just leave immediately and not look bac…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:58 PM
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To that, I totally AGREE! Couldn’t agree more. It’s always been funny to me that we are supposed to have sex/love together at all, but hey.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:48 PM
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Yes, and it’s not always just empathy towards the husband. It’s empathy of the children and family and what it would do to every family member as a whole. Women are just as tempted, but we tend to prioritize others. I’m not saying we are just as tempted by one night stands, but we get just as tempted by another relationships and all that entails.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:29 PM
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Haaaa!!! That would absolutely suck to be a guy and have full blown 1960’s Beatles mania over every pretty girl 🤣🤣🤣 I’m cackling. It would be a funny movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 01:28 AM
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Correct. This says much about a woman’s empathy levels consistently scoring massively higher than men’s. Empathy increases ethical behavior because the more empathetic a person is, the less likely they will deliberately hurt another person. This does NOT mean we aren’t tempted the exact same. I have a higher sex drive than my husband, and he is HIGH! The thing is, you want to zap our credit for holding to our morality by saying we just don’t feel the same temptations. We do. We most definitely d…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 12:23 AM
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Idk about other married women, but if I were one to take ‘opportunities’ it would be with another woman, not a man. It would be interesting to see how much of the ‘no holds barred’ female cheating experiment ended with women cheating with each other over cheating on their husbands with other men. Don’t cheat, y’all. It’s not good. I’m just wondering….😁
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 12:09 AM
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Hmmm. I see a lot of your points, but if he travels for work, that adds to easiness and no strings attached sex. A woman is more likely to have a relationship that also includes sex, than a one time deal. I think the relationship part would get her caught sooner. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:57 PM
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I mean, WHAAAA? Do they not realize just about every time we gym, jog, fill our gas tanks in shorts on a summer day, that we are propositioned for these ‘opportunities’. If women suddenly took every opportunity of low risk getting caught - it would end the world. 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:42 PM
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At least you are honest. But it’s not a ‘man’ thing. We would ALL love our cake and eat it, too. Some people just have restraint and some don’t. Nothing is ‘harder’ for men than it is for a woman with a high libido. That narrative/excuse is wearing so super thin to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:31 PM
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You are correct. The stats say most men caught cheating say simply that an opportunity of low risk getting caught came up. Thats it. Thats the #1 reason married men gave for why they cheated. They claim they still loved their wife, and still wanted the marriage. But ya know, what you gonna do when an opportunity ‘just comes up’. 😑 It’s doubly as sickening because, as a woman, these ‘opportunities’ come up constantly, and yet….
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:24 PM
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I’m sincerely curious why a woman has less of a chance getting caught than a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:20 PM
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This can be true, but I’m a statistics junkie, and actually most men claim they were still in love with their wives, and did not want the marriage to end when they cheated - the number one reason for men caught cheating was just that there was an opportunity. If you are curious, the number one reason given by women caught cheating was perceived emotional abandonment from their husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:18 PM
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Ahh, I do understand that, but sadly, I don’t think it would work that way. 😢. Men aren’t physically threatened by women. Men aren’t showing up in hospitals from rough or unwanted sex. Men aren’t scared to jog the streets at night because of horny women out there, so I just think they would welcome and eat up the attention. There’s just no way to reverse it equally. It won’t make them feel the way WE feel. It’s just different……and then we would be stuck with just more naked men on the screen and…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 02:35 PM
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I wouldn’t have a problem with it. I’d fish as well. From what I’ve heard, it’s the time away from the family, sometimes expensive, and sometimes it’s a cover used to cheat. Those are the only complaints I’ve ever heard, and I live in Louisiana where everyone fishes, so I think I’ve heard them all. Oh! Also can encourage heavy drinking depending on the guy and his bros. Heard that one more than twice 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 08:51 PM
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It is…..but why? Would it really make you feel better? Make society a better place? Or is it just a ‘fluck you’, that wouldn’t really do anyone any good? I fight back by not consuming exploitive media. I’m not calling for MORE.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 08:38 PM
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Eww. Can we NOT? I hate the over sexualization of women, but this is definitely not the solution. That’s just 50% more of shows and media I’ll refuse to watch. I hate the objectification of ANY human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 02:30 PM
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I don’t. I’m not on it for that. Just maintenance amounts. Not looking to get big.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 07:15 PM
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I see it in the gym quite a bit, but they are mostly doing many reps with lighter weight. They do it to tone. I do yoga instead to tone upper body.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 08:25 PM
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I weight train, but legs and glutes only, and I’m a runner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 11:58 AM
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I know, but I kinda do. Both my husband and myself are on testosterone and we can spot the signs of low T in men and women. I can see how it could be taken though, yes. I don’t mean to offend.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 01:33 AM
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I only really hear people say ‘big dick energy’, and they mean it for men or women. It’s just a vibe, and nothing to do with genitalia. I have been guilty of saying a person acts like they have low testosterone, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 10:20 PM
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Chad’s don’t like me. I have too high of standards for myself and who I date. They can’t be bothered with me, and the feeling is more than mutual.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 06:18 PM
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💯 hard down agreed!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 02:38 PM
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Hell yeah, I’ll take it! 🐺🐺
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 01:48 PM
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Trust me. I was told this my entire life by the women in my family - that the husband needs to love his wife a little bit more for it to work, and I scoffed at it. I would argue them down that everyone despite gender just needed to love equally, but I was also in relationships with other women at that time, so they sounded crazy to me. Being with a man, I definitely see what they meant now!!! Men on average just have a harder time with maybe not love, but certainly with expressing it to where th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 09:20 PM
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Red pillers will dismiss me and claim I’m lying, and it won’t matter how many real women upvote me, but for what it’s worth - I’m being dead honest. Men don’t understand that women aren’t just prettier men. We DON’T think the same. We DON’T view things the same. If you are gorgeous, but I don’t trust you, you aren’t funny, you don’t make me feel loved and special - I’m NOT lusting for you - period. There is nothing you can do. There’s no way you can smell or dress or get your body to look - it a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:30 PM
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Your second paragraph - ALL that is only going to be WORSE if the guy is rich. Instead of cheap only fans, it will be high-end escorts. Nope. Unlimited funds just means no limits to their degradation. Every extra dollar is just an easier/better way to hurt you with. I’ve been married to rich, I’ve been married to poor. They are all the same, and having money won’t buy back your soul. At this point, unless you just stumble upon a saint, it’s better to stay single. If my current relationship ends …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:16 PM
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No. It doesn’t to me. Not at all, really. I’m not indifferent to the opposite sex. I find a lot of men absolutely hysterical, and really enjoy their company. I would never hurt a man or be disrespectful towards any human. I, as a woman, just happen to know the personal struggles of women and girls, and therefore am more likely to think I can help, and that I SHOULD help. Likewise, you see the struggles of men, and you help. All good to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 06:55 PM
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I've decentered men, (honestly, I never had them 'centered'. I've never been 'boy crazy'), but I do it more passively than anything ugly. It's not that I'm rude or dismissive towards men, it's just that I go the extra mile for women and to be around women, and soak in women. If there is a woman in public anywhere NEAR me, I'm starting a conversation with her, and if any woman or girl needs help - I'm there! I don't do anything different to men. I'm still nice and friendly, but I make the conscie…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 01:06 PM
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Is it, though? Do you survey real women, or is it bad to other MEN when a man is ‘beta’? I’m here to tell you, if we could look just alike, both be 6’2, or whatever yall say women like, and go out on the town, and I’ll act more ‘beta’ with girls, and you act supreme ‘alpha’ - I bet I pick up more higher quality girls and could keep them longer. Women like (and deserve to be!) the star of the show, and I was always content to let them be that. Fluck all that alpha jazz.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 11:40 AM
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I don’t find that at ALL. Women just want respect, love, commitment, passion, and knowing that you will stand up for them with all your power every single time. What I want in a straight relationship was identical to what women wanted from me as my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 08:29 PM
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Idk if I fit here, because I’m a woman referring to when I was dating other women - but I was laughing to myself the other day, because it hit me that other men would call me a beta within my relationships with other girls. I spoiled them rotten. I took all the heat for anything they did. If 8 of us were meeting at a restaurant, and my gf didn’t like the restaurant, I would call the 6 other people and change the restaurant. Alpha males would scoff at me, but ya know what? I always had a beautifu…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:15 PM
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To me, a dick you can count on to always be hard (or get hard) when you’re ready to go. A dick that never has me scared or nervous to initiate, because I know it’s going to respond appropriately. I like my dick like I like my partners - reliable and loyal. 😆. This has always been more important to me than shape or size or whatever men are overly concerned with. Also! Good hygiene and shaved/trimmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 11:03 AM
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Aww, that’s sweet. 🥰 Is that how you defended him to your parents when he showed up to take you out for y’all’s date?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:55 AM
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YOU. You and you only ‘give women this power’. Goes for all men. Every time you pay for any sexual content or service, or wine and dine a woman ONLY for sex - you and you alone are giving up your power. No one is stripping it from you, or manipulating you out of it. You guys willingly turn your power over, and then spend the rest of your lives moaning like victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:52 AM
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Men can have boundaries! Mine told me around 5 years ago that I can’t drink vodka anymore, and I went the extra step and quit drinking all together. I’ve never broken my word, and I won’t. I will say this - a man (or woman) will find out really quick how much they are loved or not when they DO lay down a boundary…. It just has to do with how much the person actually loves/cares about you, or not. It’s really nothing to do with gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 09:11 PM
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That may very well be true! I think the difference would come in by accepting or wanting the domination OUTSIDE the bedroom or not. Outside of sex, being dominant is not appealing to me at all…..unless it’s another woman and we are playing sports, then that’s fine. I like fair competition, even if I lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 02:26 PM
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The lack of empathy thing is dangerously close to making me WALK, just walk away from men all together. I’ve been feeling it forever, but to actually SEE in proud print, a man make a list of every decent attribute a PERSON should have, and call them all ‘feminine’…. I mean, Ladies! They are TELLING US who they ARE, and who they ain’t never going to be. They are literally printing it OUT. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 08:18 PM
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Women SHOULD! 🏆And for that exact reason that these are ‘feminine’ traits that men have TOLD us themselves that they separate themselves from. They are PROUD of not being these traits. Wouldn’t want to be FeMiNinE…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 07:57 PM
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I definitely prefer it!!!! I like to be TOLD, wear this, do that, specific times and locations to meet up in a specific way. Example - be in this living room wearing this and ready for that at 7pm on the dot. I’ve only had one guy do this, and it was exhilarating. I’m an extremely ‘in control’ person all day long. I LOVE and thrive on the contrast. The ex-husband that did it took it too far, though. He thought he could order me around like that outside of sex as well. I had him put in prison - l…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 06:47 PM
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Uhm…. I have to be honest, no. I’m far from passive myself, and they have to be more dominant, so that makes my ‘type’ have to be pretty damn dominant. I’m a strong personality, and it takes a lot to make me feel satisfied and ‘conquered’. 😆 I feel like if I got with a sexually passive guy, we would just eventually stop having sex. I would lose the motivation for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 05:53 PM
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‘Being the intermediary between their partner and the world’ is an excellent way of phrasing this! It irks me, and I recognize when partners do this to me, but I didn’t have the words. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 05:48 PM
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Exactly. I’ve always liked dominance over me in bed, but I had an EX-husband that gradually and methodically shifted it over into ALL our real life dealings, and…..well, he’s an EX-husband 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:41 PM
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Exactly. I don’t care for men OR women that have no opinions or desires of their own that they will freely share.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:04 PM
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Exactly. I like quiet confidence, not dominating or arrogant. It’s also important to separate the bedroom from real life. I LOVE ‘orders’ in the bedroom, but don’t bring that crap over into our regular environment. It will not go well. I do not like ANYONE telling me what to do, unless I ask - and I will ask frequently, but if I say ‘I got it’, then I GOT IT.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:02 PM
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I’m probably not the one to ask. I’m a bonafide minimalist, and purposely shop at Goodwill. Yes, there are way too many materialistic people out there. I’ve just never been one of them, and as long as I can eat and have my basic necessities, I’m good. So for someone like myself, all the other qualities I mentioned are 90% more important to me than wealth. And yes, I think these qualities have ALWAYS been important to women, but they weren’t pulling the income they are now, so many settled for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 10:48 PM
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Well…. I mean everyone should possess SOME confidence and charisma…men and women alike. The good news is, it is a skill like anything else. You CAN improve!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 10:44 PM
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Whew honey, I could say a lot….😆. I AM bisexual, and I AM married to a man, but it was NOT….definitely NOT because men are easier. G’lord, no! It’s because my dad is a pastor, and my family systematically ruined all my female relationships. Sure, dating men became ‘easier’ in my personal world, but only because the people in my life made being with women so logistically hard on me. There isn’t one thing easier to me about being with a man. It’s the hardest equation I’ve ever had to figure out…..…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 06:25 PM
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I love discussing morality and ethics and overall ideas of the world and economy, etc, but I would be beyond glad to never talk pure politics and political sides again as long as I LIVE. Basically, values are important to me, and both sides contain people that have them, and people that don’t. I’m beyond tired of lumping people in and judging if they are ‘good’ or ‘bad’ based solely on their political affiliation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 06:07 PM
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I DO understand the ‘type’ you mean, but there’s also a shyer, quieter type that can do it as well. Sometimes having too much ‘charm’ and ‘charisma’ sends red flags of being superficial or a player. There’s nothing anyone can do about it, it’s the luck of the draw, but men with a lot of sisters seem to do really well with women. Also, I’ve seen men that work jobs with a lot of women, become much better at this. Basically, get involved in places where women are, to where you actually start seeing…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 05:18 PM
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I’m frustrated FOR you, because I KNOW this is what we want, and I hate for you that it’s not playing out. You know how sometimes a random guy can park his butt at a table of all women, and fit right in? They know how to talk and communicate in a good and healthy back and forth? Women want to partner with these men. I can do that in reverse. I’m just as comfortable sitting with a room full of guys. I know about and am involved in enough sports/athleticism , and ‘guyish’ stuff to be completely co…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 04:49 PM
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I actually agree with a ton of what you said! Hookup culture and the misuse of sex and sexuality has hurt us ALL.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 01:09 PM
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Being the stoic provider and telling themselves, ‘She has her girlfriends for all that other junk’. We want the JUNK that men have deemed not important or acceptable for them to give. We want your time, your compassion, your humor, your emotional support and depth, your conversation, etc. It’s not enough anymore to rely on money or manly house chores. We want the real MAN. We want what’s underneath all the stoic bs. If I’m just sent to my gf’s for everything I need emotionally - then I’m just go…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 01:05 PM
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I totally agree that a lot of women want you to play mind reader, and that can be extremely frustrating and exhausting. I feel you. With men, they are going to have to expand their communication horizons. Learn themselves, and be able to speak in an open, engaging, emotional style. This includes not just letting the woman ramble, and grunting back ten words to her 500. That’s not cute anymore (if it ever was), and it’s not going to cut it. Be involved! Ask questions and show care and concern of …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 12:57 PM
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Absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 12:20 AM
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The entire red pill premise is chock full of hypocrisy and contradictions - as are most ‘pills’. People are not pills. We are people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 12:18 AM
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That’s awful for women that act that way. I don’t support any of that. But OP is saying in context of a marriage/serious relationship, that women still bring the number one thing men of 100 years ago married for - sex. Women 100 years ago - their main reason for marriage was to be supported financially. So OP is saying women still bring the thing into the relationship, but men are now not the sole providers, so they need to change their #1 resource from financial, to a DIFFERENT #1 that women wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:34 PM
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I think we don’t WANT it to be all they offer. It’s just that they relied on their value as the financial provider for so long, once that need was stripped away, a lot of them are not left with much to give that a woman appreciates and values. Men will have to actually start doing some self-work to actually be an enjoyable friend and partner to hang out with. Their communication skills and things women value will HAVE to grow if they can’t just throw money and say their job is done.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:02 PM
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Kind of a harsh read, but it really is overall true. Men are going to HAVE to get better at communication and actually being fun to talk to and hang out with. They are going to have to bring a LOT more to the table these days than a paycheck, because women have those as well. It really IS a problem. They can’t rely on what they’ve always relied on - and it shows! They have to learn how to be a FRIEND, not just rely on providing. I will say, not all men have this issue, but so many do!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 10:56 PM
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I absolutely agree one billion trillion times over!! 🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 03:54 PM
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Yes but, that’s not the inverse. The comparison to the shows I mentioned would be to have a fat and unfit wife with a gorgeous husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 03:52 PM
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YES! And I loved that she and Dan were equally matched in fitness. THAT’S reality!!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 03:31 PM
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For men that I don’t know, it would be the type that just stare, and not approach to friendly talk. For men I know, it would be any man that breaks, or constantly bumps up against my boundaries, always making me feel ‘on guard’, because they are perpetually trying to manipulate my core values. The man will go. My values will not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 02:09 PM
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I say ‘slay’, but I treated them like princesses in bubbles of glass. I would take the heat for anything they did, because their parents liked them, and mine never liked me anyway 😆. I had nothing to lose. They did. The girls actually owned ME. My biggest brag, though, is that I never once lost a ‘straight’ girl to a man. They usually ended up with one after we split, (some didn’t), but it was always much later after we were done.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:16 PM
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Nah, I honestly don’t think an average straight woman could suddenly slay becoming a man, or that they would even want to. It’s just that I grew up gay, (married to a man now, long story), and always slayed with ‘straight’ girls that were bent towards men, but just happened to like me. I was kinda known as the straight slayer. 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 11:21 AM
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Honestly, this was a posed question last week and at first I made a sex joke, but ended up saying I would waste my first half of my 24 hours with a penis wining and dining the woman, giving her a full body massage, and just listening to her talk. You see, I actually LOVE women. I wouldn’t even want to just plow through them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 08:13 PM
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This is exactly it. NONE talk about cleaning/cooking/birthing or raising children, or being subservient. Brilliant insight. Enjoyed the post!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 08:09 PM
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With much consideration of these comments, I have decided he is a liar liar pants on fire 🤥👖🔥, and a dumb one at that, because he said it sent all the girls running 🏃‍♀️. He wasn’t shocked or upset when I bailed. My original theory was that maybe he didn’t really want women in the first place, but was in denial? Anyway, he certainly wasn’t getting women with his lie - just the opposite. Sometimes I see him around town. He’s still an attorney. If I ever see him again, I’m going to bust out laughi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:49 PM
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Hey, I’m married, but if your sardonic humor came through on a date - I would like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 10:54 PM
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AI is going to ruin everyone’s marriage for good before this ever has a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:48 PM
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Your list is perfect. I would add - chivalry as masculinity and porn brain as toxic masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 02:52 PM
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Yeah. That’s the thing. There are millions of people doing and having millions of things that the world will never know about. Most people don’t get measured and timed by judges. When they say the biggest or the best or the quickest - they can only go by the people that were willing to get judged and put on record.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 12:15 PM
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Girth is more important than length, but a man who knows how to ‘ride high in the saddle’ during missionary sex can stimulate the outside clit enough for me to cum - bonus if he has a nice flat ripped hard stomach and pelvic area. Mmmmmmm!!! That’s heaven to rub up against. My hubs is this. 🤩
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 12:05 AM
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Women prioritize and don’t fall into masturbation addiction like men do at much higher rates. When I have free time, the last way I want to spend it is in bed being useless. I’ll give myself one like every other day, and then go running or to the gym, or a million other things I’d rather be off doing. Massages feel great too, but I wouldn’t hang around all day getting them. Hot baths, same thing. Eating chocolate cake, same thing. Everything in moderation, or you get off and weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 12:00 AM
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We could only wish….
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 11:52 PM
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Ba BAM! 💥
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 11:51 PM
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I kinda thought this - and then I started running a few years ago. Same path. Same working men every day. They ARE my friends. Really good people. I like them, and they look out for me. It’s been a great and unique experience. They are the highlight of my day, some of these people. ☺️💐
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 11:46 PM
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You think everyone, or even most people get measured, tho? Like, if you are an established southern black attorney at a prestigious firm, in the heart of the Bible Belt, are you really sending dick picks into world record championships? Idk. 🤷🏻‍♀️ The world may never know. I’m not going back with a yardstick.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 09:43 PM
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He said 13, and if he was lying, then he’s the dumbest attorney I ever met - considering he scared me off, and admitted it had been scaring a lot of girls off. Idk. I’m definitely not saying he wasn’t lying, but if so, it kept backfiring by his own admission.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 06:19 AM
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13 damn inches. He was a criminal defense attorney. He showed me the outline of it through his khaki pants. I was appalled and had my hands around his apartment door handle so fast…. He was very nice about it. Said it happened to him all the time. Didn’t try to make me feel bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 05:55 AM
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I have 🙋‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️. Just by him TELLING me his size. I didn’t even want to SEE it. He was a handsome attorney, too. I didn’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 11:21 PM
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Just jealousy insecurities to the extent it affects the innocent spouse. Other than that, insecurities are endearing to me - as long as they don’t hold you back or down. I appreciate vulnerability. I like when people can discuss and share insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 06:46 PM
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If we want it, and they don’t want to give it, they will pretend not to understand what we want. They know. Mine has letters spelling it out. They know. Their way around it is pretending we are so complicated that they just can’t be expected to figure us out - like we are weird ethereal woodland creatures or something. 😑
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 05:07 PM
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This is interesting! I had a man’s pic for my fb, (my roommate) only because at that time, I didn’t want my own account. I would just use my friend’s account when I was bored, and he was at work. I would tell everyone it was me, it’s not like I was catfishing or anything sinister. Everyone knew and we shared the same friends. Anyway, I think it’s cool because it obviously wasn’t a looks thing, because I could see my future husband’s pic, but he had no idea what I looked like. He was a mutual fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:12 AM
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I’ve had many years of it, but thankfully, no, I’m not USED to it anymore. He went to jail. Been with non violence for over a decade now. Thank god.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 09:00 PM
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‘Masculine woman - pills are stupid’. GraceOfTheNorth….you have everything to be my bff. 😆🥊
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 06:21 PM
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I would and do. I asked my husband out first. Together 12 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 03:31 AM
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Deez NUTS
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:09 AM
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Aww, lol. You can’t stop a truly healthy happy person’s happiness. It comes from within. I would guess you didn’t ruin anyone. Yeah….society is crumbling in general. It’s just that men crumbling is worse and scarier for women. A woman crumbling, I can just get away from, and it’s usually her internal craziness/instability. A man crumbling….has been PHYSICALLY dangerous and damaging for me. They tend to lash theirs outwards more.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 05:51 PM
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Yeah…. I wouldn’t personally use a dating app to meet a man or a woman. I don’t think I’m arguing much here. I just like natural people in natural environments.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 03:28 PM
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Well…they could go through 6 women before they meet their perfect match. I’m not saying every woman can make another happy. I’m just saying that they are lucky enough to have a whole different side of opportunity to find someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 03:25 PM
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I didn’t or wouldn’t say that. Not everyone is built to just try out a gay relationship. I also said there’s lots of women just happy with friends and family. Both these kinds will be ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 02:45 PM
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I don’t care what their previous partners looked like, in fact, it’s a bonus if they were pretty or hot. It means that guy or girl knows how to keep attractive people interested, and I consider myself attractive. However, I wouldn’t date a man or a woman that comes from a background of sex for pay. Only because a certain personality can do that, and that personality doesn’t go with mine. I don’t mean like previously being a dancer or anything. My line is actual sex for cash. I’d be their friend …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 02:29 PM
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Well, I’m a woman, so not all women would be content with no sex. I could be content without male sex again if my husband cheated on me, but not no sex…never ever. 😋
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 10:29 PM
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I feel like their are two types of women that will always be fine, no matter how low men sink - the women that are sexually fluid, and can easily switch (or revert back to women), and the type that can easily do without sex from either gender, the ones that are just self-contained, and don’t need anything except family and/or friendships. I truly feel sorry for the stereotypical straight woman that isn’t happy outside a man, even when he is bad. These are the women I see perpetually fried and mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 07:39 PM
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Just NO. I would never do that. That would irritate me as well!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 03:10 AM
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I think so 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 01:32 AM
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Somebody here wants us to fight 😆🥊, but I don’t want to talk to anyone that doesn’t want to talk to me. I’m the farthest thing from a bully or a pest. I’m just looking for likeminded people, not looking to change anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 01:31 AM
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Oh yeah. There’s 4 open bars on my running path every day, and absolutely the people want to talk, lol. I just don’t go to bars. Used to. Whole different place in life now. Wish there were more sober places like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 10:33 PM
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It definitely is, and I don’t fault them, I just wanna TALK to them 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 10:30 PM
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You couldn’t be more right about that. Sigh. 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 10:29 PM
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I think it’s referred to as level one and level two feminism? And don’t ask me which is which, because my adhd brain doesn’t hold on to stuff like that 😂. I can just describe it if someone asks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 10:28 PM
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Sure! The old school kind. Not the kind of feminist that thinks preforming sex work for men is brave and empowering.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 09:53 PM
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I live like this, but the thing is, other people have to participate as well! Just because your face isn’t in a phone, and you don’t have earbuds in, you can’t talk to others that are. We would have to change as a group.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 05:51 PM
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Hornier or just less self-controlled and disciplined. It’s a combination.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 04:42 PM
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Exactly. Are we less horny, or just more self-disciplined? I’m an athlete. The control and discipline are part of my integrity and built in personality. Has NOTHING to do with being any less horny. That’s morality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 04:41 PM
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Right. I’ve ALWAYS been told, and by mostly men, that opportunity is the only reason they don’t cheat, and when it comes up in a perfect way not to get caught, they’ll do it - happy marriage or not. But I’m not taking sheer morality out of this equation. I have an opportunity every day, and just would never do it, even though I’m horny as a mouse. It’s not all about libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 03:58 PM
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As a woman, I still don’t think we would do it. You don’t see big muscle gym women raping small guys. It would be totally possible in many cases, yet it’s not our nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 03:53 PM
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TRUST. If people TRUST their partner, they are vastly different than when they don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 12:03 AM
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I think rape proves that. I’m giving yall this one. I don’t want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 10:04 PM
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But yall are too horny to care, gotcha. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 10:03 PM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 10:00 PM
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I do understand. All too well. Then why, on here, do men get irate when women say they cheat more than we do?? This whole argument is that they do! Which, I already knew, but yall broke it down. So, I agree with you, but then yall shouldn’t get mad when we state a fact. And this is why at my core, I trust NO men. Call it biology. Almost zero men are content with just one woman, real or virtual. Just start saying that proudly. Wear it on a tee shirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:58 PM
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So you are saying that the simple fact I don’t cheat and keep my horniness satiated with myself and one person, then I’m automatically not as horny as men, because they are so horny they cheat? I’m actually not arguing with you. It’s probably true, and very depressing. I miss dating women. Sigh.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:20 PM
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Op, have you tried the high libido women’s subreddit? That’s us. ☺️❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:52 PM
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That is most definitely exactly it. I changed, not the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:50 PM
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You’re kinda right, except estrogen and progesterone play just as key parts in female horniness as testosterone in men. Source - my endocrinologist. So if all 3 levels are working at optimum, a woman can definitely be just as horny as a man, even with lower T levels. Source - I’m a woman that keeps her levels optimal and as horny as a man. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:47 PM
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Your data is correct, but let’s remember all the women that are insanely horny (me), but don’t cheat. I have sex all day and night with my husband, and masturbate when our sex knocks him out. I’m just as horny, but I wouldn’t be buying prostitutes, or consuming porn, or on any dating apps, because I’m getting it all from ONE person. There’s tons of women like myself. You won’t see us in any of that data.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:42 PM
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Exactly. Not being compatible is different from not being sexually attracted. Because we are generally smaller and weaker than men, and because of our biological ability to get pregnant by men, we HAVE to be more selective. Men can just follow their dicks. WE CAN’T. It doesn’t mean we aren’t sexually attracted (or could be) to just as many people, but it is not SAFE for us to just go straight in. We HAVE to vet. Men generally do not feel this as much
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:37 PM
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Just being open for suggestions from women puts you at the top of the list - honestly!! You’re a good ‘un. You’ll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 01:32 AM
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Oh noooo! I’m friendlier and happier than ever. Never rage. It’s just a subtle confidence to men….like, I’m a runner and I have a certain path I run everyday. There’s a lot of working men at outside businesses. They call me ‘Hill Hopper’, because I’m running to our interstate hill to jog up and down. Before T, all these men would have….been men, and probably intimidated me from wanting to go anymore. On T, they gave me a fun nickname, and tell other guys on the street - leave Hill Hopper alone, …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 01:29 AM
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I would! I witness testosterone to people like some do Jesus. 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 01:20 AM
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I’m sorry, I don’t do any social media but this. I’m not getting the reference?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 01:15 AM
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It’s true. It’s 100% true that most women take and accept more 💩. How do I know? I’m a woman on testosterone, (female amounts, I’m not transitioning), and I accept MUCH FLUCKING LESS than before I was on it. It’s night and day. Men themselves have even changed their interactions with me. They’ll still flirt, but it’s very respectful, and we end up having great conversations. I’m still very sweet and nice, but they can sense not to F with me. I never got that respect before testosterone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 09:15 PM
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ABSOLUTELY! I jog, and have had the most brilliant insights told to me by randoms working at outside businesses on my daily path. Don’t ever ex anyone out!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 09:10 PM
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I live with one, but I admit I NEED it. Also, I have a ‘me’ room that I can keep as messy as I please. I also NEED this. Works for us!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 09:08 PM
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I can sniff a porn addict from a mile away. It changes the whole way in which they relate…or rather DON’T/CAN’T relate with women. I’m not even saying they are all evil presenting creeps. A lot are meek and shy and can’t look you in the face. There’s tons of nuances that separate healthy men from porn addicts, and more and more women are waking up every day and rejecting men for this. The men that don’t partake just absolutely shine. They glow. They have a life behind their eyes that others do n…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 09:05 PM
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I just know I went from a suicide attempt to being one of the fittest athletes in my gym from his advice. It’s fine to glean what pertains to you, and discard the rest. I do that with everyone. There’s rarely anyone I can’t learn SOMETHING from.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 08:24 PM
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Yes. Yes. Yes. And yes. 🙌🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 08:16 PM
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I’m a woman and laughing hysterically at this. Look, I’m a girl that loves other girls, but a lot of them DO create excess busy work that nobody cares about, and then spend eternity complaining about it. Wrapping gifts? Throw them in a gift bag. Cooking? If there are no minors in the home, it’s every adult for themselves. Mopping and windows? Once every three weeks won’t cause you to break…..just let it GO! Relax, ladies. ESPECIALLY if no kids in house. I know it’s vastly different with minors.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 08:10 PM
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I’d be just like I am as a bisexual woman that’s NEVER had a struggle - I am sincerely nice and sincerely interested in them and their lives and dreams and hurts and goals and accomplishments. I refuse to disrespect women by watching or supporting porn. I judge first on inner beauty, physical attraction comes later. I listen more than I speak. I hold her when she’s crying. I ASK her if she wants or needs help, before I intervene. If she says, ‘yes’, then I’m rolling up my sleeves and intervening…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 07:49 PM
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Yeah, F Shrek
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 07:29 PM
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Oh wOW! I never thought of it like that!! 💡. It definitely goes with the saying that men want to either own your beauty, control it, or destroy it. They can’t just leave it alone. Damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 07:28 PM
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THANK YOUUU. I was a whiny little shit baby girl for way too long. JP made me recognize my power and worth. I wish more women would give him a chance! He’s the opposite of misogynistic. He says unashamed that his wife is smarter than him, and his wife and daughter are his favorite people….. I think he kinda likes his son, too. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 07:18 PM
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JP led me out of depression. He doesn’t say everything is your fault. He says even if it is someone else’s, sometimes only YOU can change it. This could mean cleaning your temple and booting out the hurtful ones that don’t belong. Taking responsibility for your healing doesn’t always mean you caused the pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 07:15 PM
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Well, that’s fine, too. As long as he isn’t sticking his tongue out while doing it, - im fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 03:28 PM
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Someone who doesn’t want it that way? Idk. I can’t imagine. Some ppl just live to be offended. I’d be happy to be told I had either one. I’ll take big dick AND tight vag energy. Good lord.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 01:36 AM
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That would definitely be the equivalent, and the phrase wouldn’t offend me as a woman at all. I would laugh! 😹
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 12:00 AM
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I’m a woman and agree entirely. If a clothed penis outline shows - it shows. I would never complain, because I wouldn’t be looking. Simple, simple. He’d have to grab at it and cause me to look deliberately for me to care or even notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 08:19 PM
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JP pushes personal responsibility of growth and change, and a refusal to blame others. Many people do not like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 07:43 PM
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My family…..are all pastors and pastor’s wives, so……yeah. 😑
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:15 PM
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That is very true. The older women in my family were all spoiled and blessed with loyal and never tiring partners that did their bidding and gave them their money 🙄 and they will only give that kind of advice to younger women because it’s the only type husbands they know.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 11:28 PM
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My mom and grandmothers didn’t tell me that. They didn’t encourage our girls to work at all….they didn’t encourage ANY of my personal endeavors, actually. Although, when we were fighting, they would tell me I shoulda been a lawyer. 😑
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 08:58 PM
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I used to argue with this a bit, but it’s true. Women have to have their own money - OR access to a joint account. It’s just too predatory out there. It’s not our mother’s/grandmother’s world.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 08:55 PM
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I’m never worried. We are still in our same hometown. I have lifelines. Would I ever MOVE with someone without my own stable income? Not. A. CHANCE. Not only if they left, but what if their behavior made it necessary for YOU to leave?? That’s what would scare me. I never want to just ‘suck up’ hurtful behavior because I financially couldn’t leave. That’s torture.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 08:50 PM
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I am about the farthest thing from as East to West 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 08:13 PM
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I am the most sex positive and open minded person I know, and get called a prude because I’m anti-porn…..tho I will DO most things in porn with both genders. So I don’t trust the labels anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 05:25 PM
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If I wasn’t in a heterosexual relationship right now that’s stable, there is no way on God’s green earth I would enter one! They are doomed. Half the time I question mine just based on stats. I would be a very happy girl dating a very happy girl out in a meadow somewhere if my relationship went south. NEVER doing this again. N.E.V.E.R. My nervous system just waits all the time to be completely sidelined.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 05:16 PM
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I run 🏃‍♀️ these streets. Younger men DEFINITELY like older women 😆. They almost get MORE excited when I tell them they could be my son…..in fact, I’ve learned NOT to say that. It is NOT the deterrent I thought it would be. Now I just say I’m married and leave it at that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:22 PM
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My soul would. My mental health would. Not everything is about physically DYING. There’s a lot of middle ground. I would not be the mentally healthy, happy, stable person I am now. The me I know would be no more. That’s close enough for me!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:40 PM
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I thought of your last sentence too!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:34 PM
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I’m a woman a sex IS a HUGE need for me!! No shame! 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:18 PM
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They got you with the cheating bringing a disease thing, BUT! I totally see the idea behind your post. If I constantly denied sex to my husband, I would be hard pressed being all bent when he finally cheated. Same if he was withholding sex from me! Marriage did not sign me up for celibacy (exception of a health condition). I’d never cheat if health was the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:17 PM
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The Classic. Broad shoulders going into a nice indented waist - the upside down triangle look. Flat toned stomach. Shapely muscled legs. Not overly bulky. Looks like they could still be a fast and agile athlete, not all muscle bound and slow. Think gymnast on rings with some weight to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 11:56 AM
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Grrrrrr!!!! 😤😡
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 10:52 PM
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Oh I do!!! I take it from people I admire like Jordan Peterson, or my husband. My husband takes advice from me…..but you are right. My friends and family don’t listen at all. And I’m ok with that…as long as they don’t ASK. My irritation comes from the same whiney people crying for your advice all the time, and THEN not taking it…. That leads to burnout
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 05:38 PM
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I’m looking for work at the moment, and I’ve already told my husband that I will NOT get a job with all women. It must be co-ed, or lean towards men. It’s for this reason. I’m stable and logical, and the more emotional women ALWAYS seek me out and cry on my shoulder - which would be FINE, if then they would actually take my advice and help themselves. But they don’t! They never do. They just wanna hang on me and cry 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 04:43 PM
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I’m a woman, too. 😆. And it’s fine to vent…..AS you are solving the problem!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 04:13 PM
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Exactly. It does not mean an ongoing relationship. It just means that a chunk of you will always see that baby in your arms and you will always have the affinity
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 06:02 PM
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I’ve seen this play out in real crime tv. A man had a daughter that killed her mother and brothers and TRIED to kill her dad. She’s in jail for life, and the dad still goes to visit her. He says he loves her - she’s his daughter. Would I personally go see my son after this…. My immediate thought is ‘no’, but who knows. Parental bonds are crazy. Would I ever let him live with me again if he got out? NO. Would only maybe visit in a safe environment like this girl’s dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 06:00 PM
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I do understand what you are saying, but there’s just as many single moms that HAVE to be the family breadwinner just like a man, so society can’t just pay ‘male’ jobs more under the assumption they are supporting the family. I know in the 50’s, a man could be a butcher at a grocery store and buy a house and have a wife and 3 kids with savings . That’s great, but a single mom supporting her whole family should be able to do that at a ‘girl’ job as well, and that’s the problem. It used to be ok t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 04:59 PM
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Ok. That’s EXACTLY what I thought. I’m a stats person. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:53 AM
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No. If it truly has been debunked, I’ll never quote it again. I was unaware.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:40 AM
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I mean….it wouldn’t be healthy for you to keep someone in your life that is currently treating you like that, and I wouldn’t. But say my son became a heroin addict and started stealing from me. I would have to create boundaries, but I would still love him from a far, and be here if he changed. Unconditional love doesn’t mean you have to be a doormat. Same with forgiveness. You can completely forgive someone, but still not have them in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:18 AM
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I think…. I think you can love unconditionally, like a mother with her child, but loving unconditionally doesn’t always mean they are in your life at the moment, but the love is still there.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:13 AM
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I’m not sure about the failure thing, but the stats say married men leave their wives for cancer, etc.., at a much higher rate than women leave their sick husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:10 AM
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Yes, I love people like this. Don’t take yourself so seriously and keep it rolling - that’s key.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 11:57 PM
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It’s always a pleasure and a good experience. White guys (in my experience. I’m generalizing), kinda show too much butt hurt, and don’t talk to me again. Black guys I’ve told I’m married still want to be cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 11:52 PM
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Do it with humor, and don’t show the least bit of disappointment or disrespect if she rebuffs you. Black guys are the MASTERS of this approach. We always both end up laughing hysterically, even tho I’m married. I’ve made a few buddies this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 11:39 PM
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Yea . I think so. I just commented likewise.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 10:57 PM
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We don’t? Confusing question. I’ve always expected the man to provide and make more than myself. I’ve never been mad. That’s interpersonal. Do you mean that, or have I been mad when a man gets more pay for a job less important solely because he is a man? That makes me mad when it happens. The other doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 10:57 PM
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Men don’t statistically love unconditionally when their wives develop a serious illness. Women don’t love unconditionally when they feel betrayed. Each sex/gender has their limits. Nobody but a parent or a co-dependent loves absolutely without conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 10:26 PM
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It IS. Also needless worrying just for the pure sake of it. I don’t get it. Never will.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 06:02 PM
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Idk, but women that just talk and talk around in circles without ever really taking any steps to solve the damn problem - they irk my guts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 05:53 PM
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The worst things ever told of me about men have been from other men - not women. That’s why I listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 12:09 AM
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I sincerely sincerely hope so! I’m an eternal optimist, but also keep running tabs and backup plans. Seems the way to navigate this so-called life 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:56 PM
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I agree that would cut out like 80% of most peoples’ interpersonal relationship issues, self-esteem issues, anxiety, low ambition, and aimlessness
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 11:34 AM
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I agree with your comment! Can I ask why you think it’s going to balance out in a generation? I think it’s ALL over with the new AI. It’s just going to sink into complete fakeness with very few real relationships. I’m getting as strong as I can mentally and physically. I legitimately feel a sinister change like no other is about to take hold, and I very well see myself moving, or even helping setting UP a commune type living style where like-minded people live and love and work the land with lit…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 10:50 AM
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Gotta have’em. People smell it on you when you don’t. I need everyone in my life to know I will bounce if they hurt me badly enough. Love/trust/value/respect can take YEARS to build, and can crumple in one day if the action is bad enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 08:31 PM
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I just know I’ve never asked out a girl based on looks. Not once. Not ever. I would treat all my gf’s the same, and then eventually one’s personality would shine through and resonate with me, and I would ask her out. Men, by far, tell me they asked me out because they thought I was pretty. And I believe them, because a lot of them didn’t even know me before they asked me out. It’s just….different.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 08:29 PM
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Oh, I don’t think that at all. I spent my whole first half of life dating and living with women, and my second with men. I think I have a pretty firm grasp on the two’s strengths and weaknesses. In non-superficiality, (looks and aged-based), the women win. Just ask gay men how beautiful and built and toned and tanned and young they have to stay for THEIR world, then compare that to lesbians. If you don’t see a drastic difference, I suspect you haven’t been in relationships with both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 05:37 PM
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You’re correct. Saying men peak at 50 has everything to do with money and stability. I used to date much older men for the stability they could provide. It absolutely has zero to do with a 50 year old man looking better. A lot of them look GREAT, don’t get me wrong, but they would have still looked good at 30, but they weren’t set up in the way I needed my life to be at the time. Younger women look at 50 plus as slowed down and financially set. If he’s handsome, that’s a plus, but NOT the reason…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:15 PM
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Yep. I would say in general when people are having to PAY, then they find exactly what they want. It would be dumb to think otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:06 PM
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🤣✌️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:03 PM
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You’ve heard the term, ‘walk quietly, but carry a big stick?’ That’s what I do in my relationship. I KNOW all this. I’m acutely aware of everything because I read ferociously, but at some point to be happy and content with ANYONE, you have to keep your head, but relax your heart. This doesn’t mean ignoring anything! But it does mean, don’t walk around with a chip on your shoulder expecting it until it happens. Then, YES! LEAVE!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:01 PM
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🤣 I have ALWAYS had a plan for if ANYONE I’m with acts up in a regrettable fashion. I’ve left it in another comments on this thread. But I’m also not going to pre-judge anything that hasn’t remotely happened in my relationship yet. I just stay aware and vigilant based on stats. Trust until you’ve shown me I can’t - is my life motto….for anyone and anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 01:25 PM
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🤸🤸‍♀️🤸‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 01:19 PM
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EXACTLY. You can somewhat trust yours if you feel so inclined, but it’s just dumb dumb dumb to ignore overall stats of any race, gender, sex. I’m a statistics person. Always have been. Hope for the best - plan for the worst based on stats. That’s how I handle everything, why would this be different?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 01:07 PM
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I don’t hate or bash men. In fact, I THINK I have a pretty great one(?) However, stats don’t lie - even when I don’t agree or like them. I’m just lucky as a bisexual woman that women don’t care anything about age , and I can just as easily and gladly slide riiiight back over to the softer side of the street where this superficial shit doesn’t mean a damn thing, and just be in love and happy and content with my 90 -year-old wife until the day I die. At the FIRST sign of any of this 💩 with my guy,…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 12:25 PM
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Absolutely! I do my line of work because my heart’s in it (kids). It doesn’t pay anything, but it makes me and the kids feel good 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 09:47 PM
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I agree. Thank you. Yes, I’ve never led anyone on. I will definitely say do NOT get with me if you ever think I’m going to be a 50/50 financial partner. I’m not. I WILL give 100% to anything else someone I love needs from me. In fact, I WANT to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 06:10 PM
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Yeah….its probably a lot to do with how people were raised and what they are comfortable with…I think celebrities are more comfortable switching roles and not caring in general about anything like that…they kinda grow too big for social norms. There becomes nothing really ‘normal’ about them - they kinda become their own thing with their own rules. They don’t seem to last long in relationships, tho, save a very small few. In my case, none of the women in my family ever had to work outside the ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 03:00 PM
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Decentering anyone doesn’t imply meanness. It just means don’t relax or change your values, integrity, interests, or healthy way of life for anyone. Those that like what you stand for will be drawn to you. Don’t change for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:44 PM
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HA! My man asked something similar after I read him the definitions off Reddit. I think it’s a joke more than anything. We marry what we LIKE the best. So if a girl married you and loves sex with you, then your dick IS vacation dick, husband dick, bf dick - all of it. To reverse it think of a cartoon woman with a ridiculously large chest that you wouldn’t actually want at all, and someone could label that pic ‘Vacation Boobs’!! 🏖️ and everyone would laugh. That’s kinda what we mean when we say v…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:39 PM
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I could be fully attracted to a man, not see him as feminine or lesser, but I still couldn’t be with a man in which I made equal or more than him. It’s not so much even really about the money….its hard to explain, but deeper than that. Even in slightly small ways, it would begin to throw off our interrelationship roles. This is personal to me, and not indicative to everyone, but I would be uncomfortable from the jump, and would stay that way until it imploded.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:28 PM
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Sure. They will now get attorneys for wives, then cheat on them with a waitress because they innately can’t stand and will resent that she makes more than them, and that her career has to come first. They will claim they are love and attention starved, and cheat with a minimum wage earner that lifts their wounded ego. Seen it a million times if I’ve seen it once. I will NEVER be a man’s financial equal. I will HELP a man, but it’s lose/lose for a breadwinning woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:17 PM
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Exactly! This thread is amusing me this morning. The ladies all get it IMMEDIATELY, and the guys are having me sloooowly explain why and how anything other than looks can make someone attractive/dateable or not 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:10 PM
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Technically, I could be attracted to anyone - YEP! If you could see pics from my dating history, I could prove it 😆. White, black, guy, girl, older, younger, larger bodied, small frame, feminine, tomboy, athletic guys, non athletic….. Age? That’s actually a smaller window. I won’t date a younger guy at all. Never have. Never will. Men mature too slowly for that. I don’t babysit. I would go 5 to 7 years older, tho. Women, I would date 10 to 15 years in either direction. Women live longer. They ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:06 PM
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Yeah….I guess we are all at varying levels of evolution. I’ve moved past most the monkey 🐒
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:58 PM
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Yup! It’s just as hard for me to understand how everything about a person from personality to humor to intelligence, is NOT considered by everyone to be all connected to looks and sexual attraction! I blame porn/rape culture/male gaze at breaking HUMAN BEINGS down to various body parts. That’s NOT NORMAL. More people used to feel my way than not. I didn’t used to have to explain myself so much. Most people used to be the way I am. Some still are. I like THOSE people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:53 PM
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Your questions are good! Well, there has to be a basic attraction…I’ll use a number scale. Let’s say you at least have to be a 5. I’m an athlete. I’m in good shape. Let’s say a #5 weeds out the obese and the sickly thin, etc. So when I walk into a party of all 5’s or above, they really look the same to me. Dead even. Now let’s say I spend four hours at this party, NOW I’ve talked to and met everyone. Only now will people start standing out to me as more or less attractive than the others. If you…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:46 PM
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Race, sex, or age (within reason) is no factor to me whatsoever. If I connect to your soul, I can easily be with you. If I don’t, you can look like the cover of a fitness mag, and I wouldn’t even give you a second glance. Some people are just built differently, my guy. A gorgeous person that didn’t even speak my language couldn’t do a thing for me. My libido doesn’t activate until there is good communication
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 09:29 AM
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OMGGG! So true!! That’s exactly what it is. We have so much more to lose. Our bodies are protecting ourselves!! 💡💡
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 09:25 AM
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I’m just as much gay as straight. I’m a woman, and I’m mostly the giver/dominate in relationships with women, and I’m still personality, not looks-driven. Don’t get me wrong, once I’m IN a relationship with a man or woman, then their looks and healthy physique ARE important, but they are never the reason I fall for someone. Looks that are just not attractive to me at all DO matter. I can’t date someone I’m just completely not attracted to, BUT! It’s mainly the personality. The personality can co…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 09:22 AM
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THANK YOUUU!! Media will have us feeling completely insane for this. I’ve questioned if I HAVE the problem….but I’d never want to feel led visually and out of control, so I’m good ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 09:13 AM
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I experience spontaneous desire, but only in the context of a relationship with someone I love - nobody on the street. But when my OWN man walks by…..yeah 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 09:11 AM
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I think I love you 🤣. Excellent comment. I’ll add that it’s not just men. I’m bisexual and have such a deep SOUL wrenching love for women, but I don’t randomly get horny for women I don’t know either. I may think, oh! She looks nice or compatible, but that’s as far as I would go until I met her farther. I NEVER once in my life just saw what a girl looked like and asked her out based on that. I just always had a large group of friends and would treat them all equally until one began to climb my r…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:57 AM
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EXACTLY! All I really see are two categories of people - out of my realm of judging entirely, like way too old of people or way too young, or extremely obese, etc…., and nice normal looking people. That’s literally all I see strangers as. I have to KNOW YOU to know if I find you especially attractive or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:43 AM
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I would LOVE a plutonic guy friend. I used to have TONS of them. What’s the difference? I’m married to a man now. I had tons of straight and gay guy friends when I dated exclusively women. It’s because they just knew it was never going to be ‘that way’ for us, so they were able to relax their libidos and just be our buddies. I really miss that. I could still be that way we with them, but it’s like the guys can’t??
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:11 AM
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I like when men come up and look me in the eyes and flirt respectfully. I’m married, but I’m always flattered and super nice to them. I respect the game when it’s done classy or funny and not threatening or nasty. I would flirt with a woman in this way, and see no harm in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 01:57 AM
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Absolutely nothing is stopping a man from coming to sex equipped with his own, untampered with condom that the girl never touches. If he wants, he can do that, AND pull out before ejaculating. Those two options defeat your entire post. NEVER rely on the opposite sex for birth control. Bring and use your own methods regardless of what any gender tells you they are doing or not doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 07:26 PM
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Actually, I was married to a very rich older abusive man for years during peak reproductive age, and deliberately stayed on the pill, because his money scared me. It was a DETERRENT from having a child with him. I was terrified he had all the money for lawyers and custody, etc. That’s just weird you used that example, because it was directly opposite of how I thought and felt about it. Not saying this is true of all women, but for me his financial status was a deterrent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:45 PM
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But….if I were a single mom that suddenly got put in jail, or had to take a traveling job, where I couldn’t be with my child, I would still set up my bank account for them to be supported financially by whomever was taking care of them for me. I don’t see myself ever resenting that - it’s still my child. I would still want them supported.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:23 PM
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A thousand percent this. Nice to hear another woman say it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:07 PM
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I am a woman, and I have no problem agreeing with that. He does help provide for me financially, and I provide much support to him as well in many other ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:06 PM
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It’s melding your physical body with another. It’s being vulnerable one minute, and strong the next. To me, it’s a time to show the depths of your love and trust in physical action. But you’re right - if I didn’t feel both love and trust in the daytime, I wouldn’t want anything to do with sex at night, and would gladly just masturbate. The whole thing is a package deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:01 PM
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A lot of people (not me), can have sex without love, but they can’t be in a loving relationship without sex. The latter would be me, unless there was a medical reason we couldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 02:57 PM
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Do we mean a woman that passes identically for a man like Buck Angel? It wouldn’t be a dealbreaker if I were single and just happened to fall in love with the person. I couldn’t/wouldn’t date a man passing for a woman, tho. That’s just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:05 AM
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Nope. I taught early childhood education for 15 years. The verbal and interpersonal relationship skills difference between boys and girls were already noted by the time the children were in the 12 to 24 month range. It’s my grandmother that taught HS, and all my great aunts and uncles were collage professors. I stated what I observed at younger levels, and they said they noticed the same at higher levels. There are socialization factors to any society, but there are also biological and genetic g…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 07:01 PM
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Not less capable at learning, true. But I’ve been a teacher. Girls naturally score higher in verbal/written ability, and the social sciences. Both sexes can learn to be better than their natural baseline, YES! But the typical female baseline with no work, is higher than the male’s with no work. So when you naturally start higher, you have less further to go than the one that is starting from a higher level. Yes, everyone that tries can improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 04:12 PM
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Because women are naturally much higher in verbal communication and emotional/social IQ
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 03:01 PM
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💯 accurate on all accounts.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 09:14 PM
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Yes, you have an argument. You should see the guy’s that watch ‘straight’ porn stutter when I bring this up. It’s TRUE, tho! They’ve seen a million more dicks than I have as a woman, and have seen more gallons of male sperm, and heard many more hours of male moaning. That’s….pretty damn gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:51 PM
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You’re right. I saw a guy wearing a shirt that said, “ALL porn is gay porn”, and I laughed so hard because I always said/thought this. Porn addicted men sure watch thousands and thousands of DICKS 😂🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:41 PM
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An introverted person at least has to have an upbeat personality and EXCITEMENT at the things they ARE into. It can be a movie watched at home if they are really excited about sharing it with you, maybe make dinner with you before the movie that’s somehow relevant to the movie. They can enjoy reading alone for hours, IF they excitedly share the plot and highlights from it…. I’m an extroverted female, but I like introverted guys that are EXCITED about what they are into, and don’t use it to block…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:05 PM
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Very interesting 🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:59 AM
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I would call a husband like that a bully. I would say he’s bullying her. That would be equivalent to hen-pecked, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 02:08 AM
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Nah, you give a couple of options and let them decide between them
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:16 AM
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It’s biology to encourage the man to stay and help rear the child. It’s evolutionary.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 08:39 PM
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A man’s testosterone drops for the first two years his wife has a baby, too
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 10:59 PM
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When the last girl was sincere and honest, it made all the others look so silly. I would be embarrassed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:48 AM
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I’m a woman and a wife, and I’ve never cheated on anyone in my life, AND I would have ZERO issues with my husband doing a paternity test. In fact, it should automatically come with all the other tests they give to baby immediately after birth. It should just be a thing, not something you specifically have to request. If you’re innocent, and it helps the man you love and/or his family have 100% peace of mind, why the hell not?? There’s even a popular saying - ‘Momma’s baby, Daddy’s maybe’. This i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 09:41 AM
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Do you talk around your family?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:56 AM
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What condition leaves you unable to speak? Can you hear? I feel for you. ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:46 AM
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I’m stay at home. I do our indoor chores (except vacuuming and mopping. I’m small, and they are heavy for me). I do most of the grocery shopping (except he does like to go with me sometimes because he likes to cook), I run the errands and schedule appointments. I shop for gifts for our family and friends and his employees. When we had a minor child at home I handled the tedious parts of school, appointments, and activities for him - though my husband always jumped right in with fun science proje…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:30 AM
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That’s definitely true, but I just happened to use gym. I could have used time to go get their hair professionally styled. Time to tan, get nails done, shop for trendy clothes, facials…..
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 06:04 PM
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Working dads still get to go to the gym, etc. working moms leave work and immediately have the kids. Their looks suffer first.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 01:47 PM
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OMGGG, SAME! I taught preschool 20 years. The stay at home, or part-time gig mothers were on point 💅🏼. The full time working mothers (save for a few) just looked tired/ran down. They had the potential of looking as good as their partners, though. I could see their inner beauty and what they probably looked like before, but women need time alone to rest in their femininity to get themselves together.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 01:45 PM
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I’d be interested as well because I’m a woman and I love and admire Peterson, and have never felt any discomfort or disrespect from him. Just look at the good loving relationship he has with his daughter and wife of decades. He looks at them with so much pride and love, and they are no wallflowers - they are strong independent women who speak their minds! And JP encourages it!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 11:44 PM
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YESSS! My husband is a nice guy, not a punk nice guy. He’s just truly a nice, cool, respectful dude, and I DO love and appreciate it so much, and tell him often! His sincere nice dude behavior also extremely makes me HOT 🥵 for him!! We DO like, love, are attracted to, and appreciate nice guys - it’s just that we know the difference when it’s the other kind of ‘nice guy’.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:40 AM
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I would if my husband asked, no problem. I wouldn’t for a bf or gf. I’ve come to trust my husband enough to know it would just be for our safety and nothing else. He had to earn that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:22 AM
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I agree, and I sure appreciate you saying so. I do need to say that it took me a long time, and one first AWFUL marriage to finally get to the right person, and this sweet spot in my life. None of what we both have now came easily, lest anyone be jealous. It took a LOT of personal work and growth, and realizing what’s important and fighting for it. ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:03 PM
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He runs a business, and finds it almost impossible to get away once he’s there, so I bring him anything he needs all day. I visit his mother for him, and help her out (his dad passed young). I make and schedule all his appointments. I do the shopping for his worker’s gifts for birthdays and Christmas. I’m his gym workout partner 6 days a week. I have the home nice and stable and clean and inviting when he comes home. He actually likes to cook, but I have whatever ingredients he needs all laid ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 04:17 PM
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My husband is our sole financial provider. He likes to be needed, and loves to do so. I love my home and neighborhood, and love being able to stay home and take care of it (and him!) It definitely works for us! If a man can’t provide that financially, he can still be her emotional protector, and her knight in shining armor. Example, my husband comes to doctor appointments with me, and fights for anything I want, since docs around our area don’t take women seriously. They always say, ‘Oh, I see y…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 12:42 AM
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Yes! That’s a better example. And honestly…. I can see a woman that originally met her man as a hot bartender, not being comfortable with his occupation anymore the more serious their relationship got. She would have the right to state herself not being ok with it anymore, AND he would have the right to say, ‘Sorry babe, it’s my job and I’m not quitting it’. Both she and he would be valid. Couples just run into each other’s boundaries and dealbreakers sometimes. They grow to become incompatible.…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:04 PM
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Oh yeah, I get that it’s different. Just trying to get into how he may be seeing it, and playing a little Devil’s advocate.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:54 PM
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Not quite the same thing, but I could meet a man off a dating site, but I wouldn’t be ok if he stayed on it after we got together. I’ve met a man in a bar , but didn’t want us hanging out in bars post relationship. Things and expectations change once in a committed relationship (for some people and some situations). What was ok before sometimes becomes not ok. Have you heard the saying - ‘the way you meet them will be the way you lose them’? Meaning, if you met them in a bar, you’ll lose them to…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:50 PM
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Definitely
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 04:01 PM
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Sure, I guess I meant it would be inappropriate during a worship service. At social events thrown by the church, it’s fine! Good point. I could have been clearer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 07:34 PM
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I agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 06:29 PM
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I don’t think women are oppressed, but would you WANT that traditional woman? I’m traditional stay at home, and my husband pays for absolutely everything. I in turn love, support, and pamper him. Do men today really want that?? All I read is how they move girls in and expect them to rent share, and split all bills 50/50. I gotta say, I’d just stay single as well. That’s a roommate situation to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 02:33 AM
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You really don’t understand a work or church environment, versus the beach or a laidback hangout with friends?? Good Lord, when approached respectfully, there’s only a few times and situations that I would find it inappropriate. I’m married, so of course, I nicely say so, but I’m never offended when they are polite and respectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 10:07 PM
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We ARE just as visual, but…. I’m searching for the right word here… women are just as visual, but have more personalized (morality?) to it. My hubs and I hit the gym together 6 days a week, and from my station, I can see him in the mirror weight training, and I STARE! I love it. I get a free show, and I sexually attack him when we get home. I can see other men in the mirror as well, but don’t give them a second glance, because they aren’t MINE. I also could never use a random man’s body, or porn…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 01:38 PM
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Lol, it’s funny how people think they are all making individual choices, but a lot of this is biologically built in. It’s only the illusion of choice….
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:32 PM
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WOW! Biology/science is amazing! I’m 5’1, and have ALWAYS had a weakness for guys 5’9. My husband, and every guy I’ve seriously dated has been 5’9, and now I see I’ve followed this exact height ratio preference. Mind blown! Thanks for posting!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 08:22 PM
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Equally, 95% of men disrespect their wives with porn. It’s tit for tat. I am extremely willing to take my husband’s wise counsel, but if he had ever disrespected me and our marriage with porn - pshhhh, no way! He had to show me first that he was a man of integrity and respect. THAT came first. My humbleness followed. I wouldn’t be submissive to 95% of any male or female out there, but I have no problem following one who has proven themselves followable! The trouble is when men expect respect wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:24 PM
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Your third concept bothers me. I had a 4.2 gpa. I could have been a doctor or a lawyer, or anything I wanted to be. I decided to invest my time and my knowledge into my own family and children, and perpetuate them. I’ve never regretted my decision, and it’s paid me back ten fold! Investing in family over career has NOTHING to do with intelligence or lack of options. It was a long thought out plan and decision based upon extensive research.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 01:36 PM
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Are you the first in your family to travel extensively? You have a condescending immaturity like a young person with new money, as compared to an established family with generational wealth. You are much like the first child of a family that goes to college, and comes back insufferably condescending to their family. There’s nothing wrong with repeating what you’ve been told, and broaching a conversation about it, but instead of truly conversing, you respond to valid points with sarcasm and conde…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 01:06 PM
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THANK YOU! Was the first thing I thought about after reading OP’s post!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 12:55 PM
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I really can understand your comment. I can tell you are sincere, and that’s actually helped me seeing it your way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 03:02 AM
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Not really. I’m just saying yes, I think we girls test, but no, we aren’t always conscious of it. It’s probably primal.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 01:24 AM
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God bless you 😆🥇
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 09:46 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 honestly, he’s going to love this comment. I posted a pic of us on a marriage sub, and he sat down with 🍿 , and was waiting for the routine Reddit Roasts, which he was quite disappointed there were none. 😂🤣😂🤣. He said damn , do we look too nice, or what??
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 09:20 PM
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No, I probably stated it wrong. I explained better in a later comment. It wasn’t a conscious planned-out master trick or lie I told. It developed more naturally than that, but yes, him valuing me and respecting me and wanting to be friends with me with no relationship in site, was huge on making me WANT a relationship. There, I said it better. 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 09:16 PM
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We met by both commenting on a mutual friend’s fb. We did that for a year, and never knew each other personally, but we would ALWAYS share the same views and comments and values on our mutual friends posts. We liked each other so much, we met and started hanging out as friends. I was just leaving a bad relationship, so I kept him a best friend for months. He stated ONCE that he would like it to be more, but he wanted me as a friend, regardless. He never waivered in valuing me or appreciating me …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 09:07 PM
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Nah, the problem is - you found the girl interesting, smart, funny, pretty, and genuinely an all-around amazing person to be around…..and then she didn’t want sex, and now allllllll those other amazing attributes don’t make it worth you ever wanting to be around her again. That creates a huge distrust in women when you guys do that. It means you only pretend our other attributes are important, when really, only sex was. AND! I know for a FACT that y’all are missing romantic opportunities, becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:17 PM
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And WE are the emotional ones….😆😉
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:09 PM
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Lol, I’ve been downvoted, and it matters to me about as much as the price of a hut in the Amazon 🛖. I stand by my dudes!! 😂👍💪🏻🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 08:06 PM
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A taller guy just looks gangly to me. 5’9 packs it all in good, and doesn’t look all stretched out with long Gumby arms and legs. 5’9 has the nicest legs and best butts. Little is hot when it’s in the right spot! 🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 04:34 PM
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Mmmm! 5’9 is my sweet spot! My husband and my sexiest bf’s were all 5’9. My friends say I have a height radar for sussing out 5’9 guys from any crowd 🤣. God bless y’all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 04:19 PM
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It’s two fold. Cost of living IS cheap here. They have a 2 bedroom 1 bath home in a reasonable, but not great part of town for 1,200 a month (bills extra). But also, he was hired at a restaurant at 14 years old, and was made manager the day he turned 18. He’s always had money. Bought his own truck at 16. Always had/has money because the kid is a WORKER, but yes, our low cost of living plays a big part. That said, I still think married with a newborn is ridiculous at 19. Ridiculous, but common he…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 01:33 PM
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Yyyep. We are in Louisiana, and my 19-year-old son is married, in his own house, and has a baby on the way. I find it ridiculous, but what can I say? He started working at 14, and did it all on his own dime. I personally wouldn’t have helped financially with any of that at such a young age. My parents were the exact same age when they married and had me. My parents were religious, but not my son, so that wasn’t his inspiration. I don’t know, but many of his best friends are married already as we…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 12:24 PM
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I will NEVER understand why so many women hit a certain age, and whack off all their hair??!! I remember being a little girl and thinking I will NEVER do that. Nothing ages you faster than weight gain, and that stupid standard old lady hair bob! WHY would a 50 year old woman want the hair of ‘The Golden Girls’??
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 01:04 PM
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Aww, he might be so willing because he KNOWS he is protection for you. Knit the boy a damn sweater. Bake him a cake. 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 01:40 PM
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Well, that’s true. Let’s just say natural….based on NECESSITY. How’s that? It evolved naturally, but because it had to. Without the threat, it wouldn’t have.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:06 PM
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Can I BORROW this angel?????
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:04 PM
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‘Women are more naturally anxious’. I wouldn’t call this natural. It’s evolution because we saw we HAD to be!!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 01:23 PM
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Honestly, it’s other MEN, our bf’s, our husbands, our dads, our brothers, our uncles, our male friends….that tell us what men are capable of, and to be leery of them. I hear the worst things about men, not from women, but from other men!!! Why wouldn’t I trust their warnings about their own sex??!!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 01:21 PM
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I’m not scared of all men, BUT make no bones about it, I always know that IF a stranger is going to attack or hurt me, it’s 99% of the time going to be a man. I’m a runner in hot ass Louisiana. If there were no men in the world, I would do all my running at night. I find myself very resentful when I’m running and sweating that I can’t wait for the sun to go down because….men - NOT all men would hurt me, but it would be a man that would.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 01:18 PM
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Yes! My husband is this way, and I adore and respect him. I love the traditional Jordan Peterson types. The thing is, though, you can’t have it both ways, which is what some men don’t understand. To get a non-feminist, traditional woman, you can’t then expect her to work your hours, and split rent 50/50. If men continue to expect that, they won’t attract traditional women like me that love to spoil them. They will attract women with masculine/competitive energy.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 10:56 PM
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Your last paragraph is gold. I love when my husband acts this way! Women just hate it if a guy we didn’t like, or a guy that was threatening did it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 07:33 PM
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That is very true. I’m more talking about the pure physical ability to get away and remove yourself, versus not physically having the strength to do so, even though that would be your choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 11:47 AM
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Men might catch a worse charge because the physical injuries might be worse, but they should both spend a night in the slammer regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 03:41 AM
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I’m not, though. I’ve said the wrongness of action is the same. The responsibility of morality is the same. I’m just stating the fact that the physical outcome of a male punch to a female is not physically equivalent to the punch of a female to a male. Both sexes should go to jail if they hit. Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:11 AM
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It does hurt, and in that case, the man is definitely within his rights to restrain by holding wrists, and/or pushing her aside and leaving the situation. I would never suggest he just sit and be wailed on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 01:11 AM
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I absolutely agree with you!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:25 AM
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Exactly. I’ve hit a guy (in self-defense) as HARD as I possibly could. I mean I hit him with everything I had in me…..and he sneered and laughed at me. Left no mark at ALL. Compare that to one good punch from an average sized man could literally KILL an average sized woman. It’s not right for anyone to hit or slap, but we still don’t have to collectively pretend to not see the physical difference. When my husband and myself play fight, I go in with full gusto, and it makes him laugh uncontrollab…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 04:11 PM
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I would assume people don’t jump in to help a man, because unless there are weapons or restraints involved, men can typically get away from a woman with no help. For instance, a woman slaps a man in a bar. She’s generally going to slap and walk away, but if she kept wailing on him, the average sized man could easily stand up and push the average sized woman out of the way and leave. Oppose that with the average sized man wailing on the average sized woman - she would need help getting away.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 03:59 PM
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No. The ideal relationship is both partners being attractive, engaging, healthy people that COULD get sex easily elsewhere, but don’t WANT to. It’s the fundamental desire to be faithful despite your options that is golden. Both myself and my husband could cheat equally at any given time….we don’t WANT to. The desire isn’t there. But sure, I don’t want anyone that no one else would want. Only an incredibly insecure person would want that!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 08:37 AM
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Exactly. I think a woman loses if she’s with a man and SHE’S the breadwinner
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 09:57 PM
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Sounds like new guy hasn’t asked her to move in yet, and she’s not sure he will….
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 03:00 AM
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And a lot of women wouldn’t deal with men if they didn’t want children. It’s tit for tat.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:17 AM
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Ahh, I see. I was only pointing it out for your benefit, because if I were your wife’s lawyer, I’d jump all over that. Please call your children by name in court and say MY daughter, MY son, etc, or they will say you used distant and removed language.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 12:56 PM
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When you petition for custody you might not want to refer to your daughter as ‘the 2.5yo girl who talks…..’ I believe you love your kids, but yikes.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 03:36 AM
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What was the joke?
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 10:54 AM
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You gotta share your comments in as many relationship subs as you can! I’m serious!! I know! Do you know how painful childbirth would be if our inner vaginal walls had feeling like the clit??!! There wouldn’t be another baby born! Medical students know this. I had a male doctor tell me that the inner vagina has the exact linings of our inner mouth cheeks. Same nerves, everything. Nobody is cumming off anything inner in there. It’s ALL clit!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 03:40 PM
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ALL THIS!!! The coital alignment position, or ‘riding high in the saddle’ is where it’s AT! So glad women are finally being honest! ALL orgasms begin in/stem from the clit!!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 01:55 PM
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You nailed this comment! 👍🤗🥇🤩
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 01:51 PM
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I’ll just say nothing you said you have been trying in a previous comment sounded in any way good to me. Too complicated and showy. Sounds like too much porn. Just focus on her CLIT with hands and mouth. Keep it simple!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 01:49 PM
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That’s too fancy. Sounds like porn shit. Women want rhythmic clit stimulation by fingers or mouth. It’s very simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 01:47 PM
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Is the assessment a test that she takes? Could she bomb on purpose?
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 02:38 PM
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I’m a woman and I agree! I’m all for mandatory testing before a father is named on the birth certificate. The CHILD deserves it. Don’t really care about the mom or the dad. Do it because the KID has the right to the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 05:32 PM
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I said a lot of countries make a woman pay heavily for trying to rebel. My statement doesn’t negate the fact that a lot of countries DO support female independence. We aren’t the only country that supports it, AND we all know there are regions in which it literally gets women killed. Both statements are true at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 05:20 AM
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Nah. Any man 7 or more years older than herself will view himself lucky for pulling a younger woman. She just has to adjust her age range. Older women don’t care what young guys think about them anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 05:21 PM
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The thing is, an attractive outgoing healthy woman is ALWAYS someone’s prime. If 30 is hitting the wall to another 30 year old, there’s always a 40 year old that sees her as a pretty young thing. If a lady is nice and attractive and fun, she never has to worry. Older women couldn’t care less if they are still chased by young guys. There are plenty to choose from in the next age range up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 05:15 PM
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A guy in that case has a PERSONALITY issue!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 05:11 PM
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No, lol. It’s hard to explain. I’m definitely attracted to men, I just can’t fantasize about them unless I know and like them as people. I’d be too mad at myself to be licking my lips over some asshole. I think women can just separate the two better. You don’t GET to turn me on unless you are a good person. It’s a choice. I don’t open my mind, heart, or eyes until they’ve proven to be worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 05:15 PM
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Exactly! Men don’t have that fear base.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 09:11 PM
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Yeah, it’s very uneven and weird how it is. I think it’s the main source of how women and men are so fundamentally different. It’s like cheating - don’t get me wrong, women WILL cheat, but usually only when she is utterly unhappy and discontent in the marriage. Men will cheat that claim to be happy in their marriage, it’s just that the opportunity presented itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 09:10 PM
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We are, but we have to KNOW them and legitimately LIKE them as people. A naked man with a great body won’t even get a second look from me in a magazine. When my husband comes out of the shower, I’m interested!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 04:07 PM
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Insecurities, maybe. I don’t mind that word, I suppose, but it’s medical insecurities based on medical facts and cold, hard numbers and statistics. I think of the word ‘insecurities’ as emotional and illogical. Staying sexually away from a community known to spread STD’s at a higher rate….I really wouldn’t label that as insecure….probably just wise. If I were a part of that community and desired to date within, then yes, I would need to learn ways to protect myself. But if I’m not, then I’m movi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 01:43 PM
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I agree with a lot of that, yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 04:21 AM
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It’s the disease factor. Bisexual women don’t have the drastic STD increase as gay and bisexual males. A bisexual man is much more likely to transmit a STD to his partner than a bisexual woman. This isn’t my bias, just medical fact. Bottoms also have more diseases stats than tops because of getting cummed in. We learned this in health class because I grew up at the height of the AIDS epidemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 12:53 AM
1

A porn addict
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 12:50 AM
1

Oh yeah, I’m sure. Their culture and conditioning would be settled in by then. Then again, they may also be sincerely appreciative that they are getting treated better by the men in their lives here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 07:34 PM
3

Lol, I’m a woman so I wasn’t saying that I as a man allow them to 😆. Your comment made me smile, though
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 07:31 PM
1

I agree with a lot of your comment. Casual sex tends to be harmful to women. However, how does a woman know a man knows how to ‘throw it down’ if she doesn’t have sex with him before marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:23 PM
9

A lot of countries don’t have the atmosphere that a woman feels physically safe doing anything but treating guys good no matter how they as women are treated. We generally allow our women to rebel without public shame or violence or loss of privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:35 AM
1

I’m a PK - and yes, I sure did! 🎉😆. I’m married and boring now, but I sure did 🪩 💃🏽
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:03 PM
9

As the daughter of a pastor - you are DEAD ON BULLSEYE ACCURATE! I’ve seen these uptight princesses my whole life, and men that marry them eventually end up HATING their lives! They are boring, miserable, spoiled, self-righteous, asexual, control freaks!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:00 PM
2

🥳🥳🥳👍👍👍
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 06:12 AM
2

She meant condescendingly and dismissively calling a woman ‘honey’ would not be tolerated in the social norm of society - and should NOT be tolerated from a gay man either!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 06:12 AM
1

I think you’d find women content with either a civil or religious ceremony. There are like-minded women as you
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 11:22 PM
0

That’s true
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 11:20 PM
5

I think they are just as willing to help a single man in their family whose baby was left motherless, but maybe not as much if he deliberately went out and created a baby with a surrogate. I couldn’t blame them for seeing that as his direct deliberate consequence.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 09:12 PM
7

….with the help of child support. This will be 100% on you
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 09:11 PM
10

Remember though, those single mothers are splitting the cost with child support - which you would not be getting
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 09:10 PM
1

This is very true!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 09:02 PM
2

The thing is, once you weed out those type women - you are left with good loving women that would make great mothers, and those type women hold the traditional value of marriage. Could you compromise and get married with a prenup?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 09:00 PM
1

What about marriage with a prenup?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 08:58 PM
4

Not who you asked, but in my opinion, if the single mother has to work full-time at a career away from the child - I think it’s just as much a detriment to the child as a single father using a surrogate. If either single parent has the money and recourses to stay home, or work part time hours, and can dedicate 18 years of their life to parenting, then I’d support either sex doing it. I’m against either single person deliberately creating a baby, just to leave it in daycare, or with a nanny all d…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 08:56 PM
2

That statement would be okay IF it also said, ‘BUT, that’s not an acceptable way to express it, go to school and tell him that behavior ended YESTERDAY.’
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 08:55 PM
1

And men still resist condoms 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 04:41 PM
1

They DO??!! 🤣. Well….there sure are a lot of unwanted children and pregnancies and diseases and child support out there floating around to say pills and abortion solved it all
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:32 PM
1

Yep. These are definitely now not gendered issues, although women still bear most of the child rearing burden like they always have - so now we have their traditionally ‘male issues’ AND our long-standing ‘female’ ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 01:33 PM
1

But….sleeping with multitudes of various women is actually NOT in a man’s best interest these days. It was before paternity tests and child support and STD’s. It was at the beginning of time to spread seed because the population was scarce, and needed to be grown. Now, however, it’s at both women AND men’s detriment and peril to sleep around. A lot of our evolutionary traits are no longer conducive to modern life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 01:15 PM
1

Absolutely!! I see young beautiful women with busted looking tired old men all the time!! I NEVER see a gorgeous man with an ugly woman! He’s got it all ass backwards!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 06:33 PM
1

WHAT?! Then why are eating disorders like bulimia and anorexia predominately female?? WAY more pressure and importance is put on female beauty and looks! You are way off base
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 06:31 PM
1

YEP! Women will also date a much larger age range than men will. If 25 year old men would date anywhere from a 20 year old woman to a 45 year old woman like we will for men, then they would have MUCH more opportunity. That’s on THEM and their own age prejudices
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 06:25 PM
2

Yep. Women will date men from their age to 10, 20, 30 years older than them. That right there gives women more dating opportunities. Will these same men be open to a wide age gap with the WOMAN being older? If not, that’s on them. Not our fault. They can check their own prejudices.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 06:20 PM
1

I take issue with ‘the pressure for a man to make money and preform sexually’. Yes, they do have that, BUT so do women! Are you kidding me?! These days the woman is expected to work and split bills AND do most of the child rearing. I would agree with your statement 30 years ago, but it’s an entirely different financial ballgame now. Also, with the plague of porn, women are now expected to do and accept and preform like a circus freak in bed without regard for her own self-respect and pleasure. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 06:06 PM
3

I’m a woman and hell no, cuddling and sex don’t scratch the same itch - I totally agree! Both are great, but you can’t substitute one for the other
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 05:41 AM
1

I’m a woman, and I add sex to the physical touch love language. I’d say it’s the MOST important physical touch. It’s not just ‘lust’ between a committed, in love couple!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 05:34 AM
5

Exactly my vote
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 05:28 AM
1

Woman -B
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 05:27 AM
1

I genuinely applaud you for your honesty and self-awareness and choosing to do the right thing. You’re a very decent person
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 02:58 AM
1

I agree with your entire comment, yep
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:53 AM
16

I’d like your comment a billion times if I could! 💯💯💯
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:48 AM
1

I don’t doubt it - it’s just ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:35 AM
1

I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:34 AM
1

Im not against healthy emotions, but being physically unable to befriend an attractive person isn’t healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:32 AM
2

The value set difference I can totally understand! That’s much different than just not being able to contain yourself in a friendship with an attractive woman
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:24 PM
3

A woman that could not have regular friendships with attractive men would be called over emotional and it would be considered a character flaw. Same if a girl told her teacher she could not concentrate on her schoolwork because of the length of shorts on the hot guy next to her. That girl would probably be thrown in counseling, but society takes it for granted that boys cannot work or concentrate if female school attire isn’t policed. Im disappointed that we have so little faith in grown men bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:21 PM
1

She’s not owed friendship (nobody is), however, a man that simply cannot contain himself in a friendship with an attractive woman is incredibly immature, and much too led by his emotions. He needs to grow up and get it together. Being that emotionally led by ANYTHING is not beneficial to life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:12 PM
5

Which is a problem, and it’s ok to find it ridiculous, and incredibly immature. If a man has been at a company for 20 years, and suddenly his new boss is a smoking hot perfect 10 - are we just to believe he has no choice but to resign because he just physically cannot act normally around her inside and outside of work?? GROW UP. (Not you personally)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:07 PM
-1

Holding others, (especially friends) to standards isn’t white knighting. I recently had one of my gf’s ask me to cover for her and be her alibi so she could cheat. I told her no way, but that she’s always welcome to come over and discuss her relationship problems and I’d try to help to the best of my ability. That is holding a friend accountable. I’m nobody’s knight.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 05:15 PM
3

‘Make her move out’…….HOW??
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/22 08:22 PM
1

True
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/22 04:06 AM
2

I didn’t miss it. I like this sub. Nobody has to listen to me
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/22 04:04 AM
1

Well, I knew before hand I wanted a spouse that valued a stay at home parent, so I didn’t shock anybody. We had discussed it, but yeah, I admit, I would have anyway. I worked daycare myself and never wanted my own child in one
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/22 04:03 AM
2

And don’t enable the outcome you don’t want, I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/22 04:00 AM
1

Idk, I like it here, and I agree with the majority of things on here.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/22 02:34 AM
1

Idk, I like it here, and I agree with the majority of things on here.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/22 02:34 AM
1

Sorry, lol. I agree that this woman is a beast, but I’m just asking in general. I’ve heard guys say this a lot, but sincerely, how would you make a woman either work or stop working? Could you really?
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/22 02:33 AM
-6

How do you enforce your advice to ‘never let a wife not work’, though? I stopped working to raise my son, and though my husband was 200% on board with that decision, as a mother, I didn’t ASK permission. I was doing what was best for my child regardless!
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/22 07:40 PM
1

It’s all about confidence and the way you present yourself. My son walked in and got a job at CiCi’s Pizza when he was 14. He was a manager by 17. The only experience he had as a freshman was EATING at CiCi’s. 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 08:21 AM
0

Unless someone is a danger, I never agree on kicking a minor child out of their home. I’ve helped raise these kicked out friends of my son, and none of them have relationships with their parents until this day.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 07:07 AM
0

Yes, but I’m petty like that 😂
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/22 09:39 AM
1

Congratulations 🍾!! She’s extremely into you! I’m a woman and the kiss emoji proves it. We would send no emoji or just the smiley face if we weren’t really comfortable and excited. Good for you!! 😘😘
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/22 07:55 PM
1

Ok, I gotta ask - what’s the deal with Jennifer Aniston? Is she a known witch or something?
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/22 07:53 PM
1

👍
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/22 07:47 PM
4

Well wait, does he pretend he is trying to reconcile to his daughters as well? Or do they know the truth? I just don’t want this guy to lose his daughters during this. The reconciling play card up until he files could really make his daughters feel betrayed and never trust him again. I agree 💯 this is the way to go to blindside the ex, but what happens with this tactic when you have teenagers watching you? I’m not making a point - I’m sincerely curious. How do you blindside the ex without also b…
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/22 05:13 AM
3

Be careful. That can look controlling and like you care too much out of jealousy. Two years is extreme. 6 months or a year is more reasonable if it’s truly for the kids’ sakes.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/22 09:02 PM
1

Well, if you sent in you spent 500 on your kids winter coats and they show up at dads without one, he could phone his lawyer to get those statements and then yes, mom would be punished. CPS may also get involved
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/22 03:30 AM
1

You are 1,000% right. I’ll just say that I would have spent anything, BUT the more expensive they were, the more blinged out they were, and my husband was like, fuuuuuuuuk nah 😆
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/22 02:24 AM
5

No, I like you guys. I like this site. I agree with 88% of everything y’all say, and you’re funny. Im staying. 😁
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/22 02:06 AM
-2

I bought my husband’s wedding ring. A lot of women do.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 01:31 PM
1

Well, no one would look into it if everything was running smoothly, but like if the kids’ school said they didn’t have winter coats or something, or if the other parent said they never had what they needed, and called for it - then they would dig up those forms and see how things were not adding up.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 03:16 AM
1

Oh wow, that’s even different where I live. I don’t know any couples with 50/50 that pay child support to either parent. Is there a HUGE difference in your income and your ex’s? And congratulations on your tax victory
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 02:26 AM
1

Oh?? I thought with joint custody, neither parent pays child support.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 08:58 PM
1

Could you get joint custody??
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 08:26 PM
1

Oh no ma’am! If she can take trips, her girls should have everything they need!! Have you brought this up to either her or a lawyer or maybe even CPS?
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 04:22 PM
1

Her travel is fine, IF your kids also have the ballet or soccer lessons, or anything else they might be into FIRST. If she has leftover - good for her.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 01:22 PM
3

Not paying for college is a valid decision, just please remember it’s her mother that left you in a car - not your daughter. I hope you continue seeing her and nurturing that relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 07:41 AM
1

Nothing would happen unless they received a complaint. Then they could go back and check all her yearly signed statements about how the child support was spent, and they could check it against the truth. But you’re right, nobody really checks too hard unless there is an investigation of some sort.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 07:36 AM
1

Whew! That’s some serious money. Mom should start a college fund for your daughter with the excess.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 05:54 AM
1

That is actually true, but I don’t think they would ever say child support is strictly for personal items for that child. What two year old needs 800 a month directly on them? They don’t expect you to have to run out and buy 800 bucks of toddler toys a month. Child support is for anything supporting the child. Therefore, it can be spent on the child’s shelter and well-being. So things like rent and car note and cell phone - those things are always going to be acceptable for Mom to spend the mone…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 05:23 AM
1

I think we are a very different state because we are only one of 7 community property states still left.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 05:08 AM
2

I guess I need to clear up - in my case, the state garnished his wages. I don’t know if this same law applies to people that just give child support directly to their ex-spouse. It definitely COULD still apply, I just don’t know for sure. I hope you guys look into your own state law about this. Something could be on the books that you aren’t aware of.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 04:10 AM
9

Female lurker here - we actually have definite legal guidelines in my state over acceptable things to spend your child support on. They are of course anything for the child, and for Mom it can be groceries , any rent or house payment, electricity/water, and phone bills, transportation, including any car you drive the kids in, and any doctor appointment /meds/medical supplies. They send a form letter every year for you to write the amount received and how you spent it. I live in Louisiana. Y’all’…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 03:44 AM
1

Or like…..really BE breastfeeding…..
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 05:53 AM
2

🤣
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 05:52 AM
4

Damn, I’m a woman and I’m nodding my head to all this. Right on! Good advice
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 05:50 AM
1

Women approach, but you guys are going to have to learn to recognize it. It’s more subtle than ‘hey girl, where are your wings because you obviously fell out of heaven?’ Interested women will smile, and just make regular conversation, asking about yourself, maybe complimenting your outfit or asking if you have any suggestions at your local coffee shop. If you are expecting a typically male approach, y’all are going to miss it. We aren’t going to come to your table and ask for your phone number.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 06:45 PM
0

Because we aren’t orgasming with people we are ashamed of, or watching something morally debasing on screen. That is the only way you wouldn’t feel good and closer to your partner after a nice climax.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 10:37 AM
1

Ohhh wait! I love you, hold up! I agree 💯 with everything you said!! I think my wording gave the wrong idea. I’m team YOUR comment! Was saying it’s natural to send a mother off with her kids because it IS nature, and then breastfeeding was my example of biological nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:17 AM
1

I laughed so hard. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 08:53 PM
5

How is it tasting our own medicine, like we ASKED for our biology, and physiology, and sex drive differences. We didn’t ASK for men to have 20 times the testosterone we do. Hell, I’d LOVE it to be more even - if only for the energy and strength testosterone gives. The dating and perusing differences you are seeing is just pure biology - not anyone’s choice. There is nobody to blame.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 03:55 PM
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