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| 31 | [FR] He Captains and I follow in action, but not thought. | Aine_of_knockaine | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/15 06:53 PM | |
| 21 | RPW homemade goods/ crafting thread | Aine_of_knockaine | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/15 10:30 PM |
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| 2 | Things to remember on vacationI'm a little worried about him seeing me without makeup because I'm self-conscious about my skin A flirty little night time routine can help a lot with this. Brush your teeth together and take off your make up while you flirt around with him by hip bumping him and things of the like. Being fun and flirty about it can help ease some of the anxiety you may have about it. Wear practical shoes when you guys go out. I'm not saying that you can't wear heels, but don't wear stilettos if you're going to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/15 04:29 PM |
| 9 | Struggling to find the right balanceBy attitude I'm a stubborn, egoist, less feminine girl who likes having things her way. I like leading and winning. The problem is he is that way too. Stop being this way. It's actually the problem. You don't need to have your way. There are times you want it and when you NEED something you should voice it. Stop being all about you. Sadly he doesn't open up much, and it's a struggle to get him to be more emotional. Why does he need to be emotional and feminine. He opens up every time he leads. H… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/15 04:11 PM |
| 4 | Starting out, looking for some support/guidancejust because he keeps asking what I want for dinner - though I cook it, or what I want to do, doesn't mean I have to have my way - and to be honest I'd rather he just says what he wants The man doesn't care what I cook 99.9% of the time. When he does he tells me what he wants. Other than that it's left up to me to decide. It doesn't bother me, because he can still lead without micromanaging. He is asking you for input. He isn't doing this so that you make the decision. He's doing it so that he c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/15 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Ideas for making tonight extra special for my man?Give him a nuru massage if you are looking to give him a massage. It's really the only massage type IMO that really fits with men. You're literally rubbing your body all over him and then have lots of good sex. Blowjobs are great suggestions too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/15 02:33 PM |
| 7 | emotions compromising relationshipThere are a lot of assumptions going on in this thread related to something you said and I want to address it. before we committed my SO told me his boundaries which included no being out past 10 no matter what circumstance, no guy friends, and no bars or clubs. I made peace with the last two because I didn't go to bars or clubs almost ever. You agreed to those when you commit and stayed. If you didn't then you can not be with this person or you should have expressed it and allowed him to choose… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/15 03:30 PM |
| 7 | emotions compromising relationshipStart practicing active listening. A lot of times it forces you to focus on what is going on and not your emotions. Example: I think this chicken probably needed five less minutes in the oven. It's just a little dry. I hear what you're saying. You think the chicken needed a little less time in the oven, because it came out a little dry. Yes. When you practice active listening. You hear what they're saying. Repeat what you hear from them and then the person will either correct you and you try aga… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/15 02:59 PM |
| 2 | My SO wishes I was a virgin and it's destroying both of our sanities.I think ultimately he started as okay with it, because you came off as a good woman to him. I think it is something that he tried to deal with and just can't. It happens. It isn't your fault or his. You're just incompatible in this arena. You didn't lie about it or hide it and you say that you've been open to being honest and discussing it with him. You answer his questions and nothing appeases it. I think there could be something underlying here that isn't discussed. For instance, it might be p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/15 02:49 PM |
| 6 | How do you get over all the mistakes you made pre-RPW?We're all human. We all make mistakes. No one is perfect. Face that head on. Own your mistakes. Your mistakes have helped to shape you and get you to this moment. Without those mistakes and your ability to recognize them you might not be here. Be thankful for that. I'm especially hang up over possibly ruining a few opportunities with great men due to bad past behavior like neediness Those opportunities have passed you. You've already ruined those past relationships. Getting hung up obsessively o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/15 08:59 PM |
| 9 | How to help a friend see RP truths?You can't make her listen. She is an adult. She needs to want to help herself. Try offering her advice and provide her with stories that embody RP truths. Tell her stories of the slutty girls who end up as the perpetual pump and dump. Tell her stories of the virtuous girls who end up with great men and happy relationships. Remind her that men don't mind have sex with a promiscuous girl, but that those girls are not the ones they end up taking home to their mothers. If you feel like she would ben… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/15 08:48 PM |
| 6 | Used and ConfusedHe's not interested in you for more than sex. You know it deep down. It's why you think he's being distant. You're basically feeling his lack of real want for a relationship with you. He never gave you any real impression that he wants a relationship with you. In fact every sign points to him NOT wanting one. Actions speak louder than words and his are screaming at you pretty loud and really clear. They're saying you're a plate. Move on and let this relationship go. In the future learn from this… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/15 08:35 PM |
| 4 | Am I taking too much from my SO?You're both contributing. You're just contributing differently than he is. If you feel you need to voice this one time. Then let it drop from then on out. However, really I don't think you should do that. You've already been told over and over again that it's okay etc. believe him. Constantly questioning this is telling him that you don't trust him. It's telling him that you don't believe him. So stop. Let it go and be grateful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/15 11:54 PM |
| 7 | My husband wants to try for our first child, but I am not ready to be a mom. Help.Sit him down to talk about it at a neutral time. Lay it all out on the table. I don't want to have children right now. I don't feel ready. I want to finish nursing school. I want to get a job and spend a while with our marriage being just us. I want to have time to enjoy you before we throw kids into the mix. Make sure that you lay it out there. Sometimes hesitation for not having children can be taken as not wanting to have children with the person that you're with or not wanting them at all. A… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/15 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Woman and Love by Rudolph ValentinoPlease link the full text. I would like to read it in it's entirety. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/15 09:34 PM |
| 2 | How to talk about TTC?When I want something I always try to make sure that the question that follows asks the man what he thinks. It makes sure that he knows he's the captain and that the conversation is open ended with respect to his opinions, feels, decisions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/15 05:12 PM |
| 3 | [Field Report] I went on my first date after finding RP.After quite some time I noticed that no server was coming out to take out orders. However, I trusted that we was aware of this also and continued to talk. Quite a bit more time passed, and I looked around as though to look for a server. It was then that he said something, but made no suggestions on a solution. I smiled, and looked at him, hoping he would suggest something. He eventually suggested we go inside. Say something about this, but then make a feminine move to resolve it. My ,we've been … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/15 05:04 PM |
| 2 | What's your love language? What's your SO's? How does this affect the relationship?I am very heavily reliant on physical touch as mine. My secondary is quality time. Everything else is on an even keel. The man's are probably acts of service followed by touch and words of affirmation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/15 04:19 PM |
| 5 | RPW opinion on breast implants?RPW doesn't really have a stance on this. My personal stance is that you should do what you feel improves you. I wouldn't get breast enhancement for a man, but if I wanted it I would absolutely do it for myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/15 01:44 PM |
| 14 | How to talk about TTC?"I've been thinking a lot about wanting to have children lately, because I think we're in a good position to start a family. What do you think about it?" This puts the ball in his court so that you two can have an open discussion about it. You can say why you think starting now is a good idea and he can discuss possible wants and concerns. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/15 01:12 PM |
| 3 | He told me he would text meI just feel so dumb and a little embarrassed how I am overreacting a bit. Sometimes we just need a proverbial slap to calm us down. Don't worry about it. You see it now and know what you need to do. I really like him and want this to work out. But I have no idea what I am doing or the right thing to do. Be pleasant with him. Be conscious of his time. Basically be a good woman and he'll be a good man to you. Almost everyone is affected by new relationship energy and all the sparklies that come wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/15 10:44 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend wants me to be more emotional, but I feel like it isn't his responsibility to take on my issues. Thoughts?There is a difference between being emotional and being an emotional powder keg. Right now you're trying not to be the powder keg, but the problem is your partner feels like you're closing yourself off. He wants you to open up to him. He's said so. Open up and be vulnerable with him some. It seems to me like he needs it from you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/15 10:25 PM |
| 14 | He told me he would text meChill out woman! There are so many things that could be happening right now. Calm yourself. Bitches be trippin'. After he left he told he would try and see me sunday if his family plans fell through. He said he would text me. It's possible he meant he would text you if his plans fell through and his lack of response means they haven't. You already said he doesn't like texting anyways so why would he want to text you more than he has to. Communication is a fickle thing and it's entirely possible … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/15 10:18 PM |
| 1 | How to determine if he's ready/looking for an LTR?He nexted you. It sucks. What matters is identifying things that you might not have seen before and understanding it so that you don't have to deal with this more than once. always splitting the bill (without asking me first - I'm fine with splitting but I think it's kind of nice to discuss it first), the fact that when we discussed things he was mostly encouraging me to go do it by myself, not offering any compensation for the ingredients I bought when we cooked I think in the beginning of dati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/15 06:08 PM |
| 4 | Deciphering male behaviorIt's not a ton of your business what her SO complains to your SO about. If you're overhearing it ignore it. If your SO is telling you then you can politely ask him not to. It's okay to say that you don't want to hear it. If you're stuck where you have no choice but to listen you can politely change the subject or excuse yourself. You don't need to decipher it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/15 11:52 PM |
| 5 | How do I accept the things about my looks that I can't change?We all have days where we feel shitty. It happens. Mine usually happens around the time where I'm menstruating. I feel bloated and gross. The thing is remember that your looks are not the ONLY thing that matters. Your personality/ attitude is important. As you get older your looks will fade. It's just a fact. Your attitude can and will make up for it. Take comfort in that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/15 07:05 AM |
| 3 | Fear of student debt has me questioning my path.Has anyone gone through this? Yes. I've dealt with this for a long time. I don't want a career. Honestly, I want to be a SAHM for my entire life. I know that monetarily in this day and age those things aren't as likely. I spent time exploring my options in college thinking about career paths that would work and benefit me without being a hindrance to my time at home and with children. I looked at early childhood education. While it doesn't pay well there are benefits when it comes to work times.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/15 07:35 AM |
| 4 | Sex Drive While SingleMasturbate. There are tons of toys out there. Look into them. A Hitachi magic wand could be your best friend. Exercise. Get out of the house and go do things. It could be going on a walk or simply grocery shopping. Anything that helps release pent up energy is going to be positive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/15 06:40 AM |
| 2 | How did you learn to trust?You need to think about whether or not it's you not trusting him or if it's you not wanting to give up control that you feel you have now. Often people confuse those two things. It's rare that we think if we allow our partners to make the decision that he's going to burn the house down, wreck the car, and kill the kids/pets. It's that we've become accustomed to running everything our way and we don't want to give it up. Letting go of that control that you've become accustomed to can be incredibl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/15 11:33 PM |
| 1 | I'm trying to take too much control.I think I've realized that writing out my feelings helps, I just need to figure out which way is best for me to do that, whether it be a private journal, a blog, or just writing it down and burning it. I'm going to suggest that you don't write it down and burn it. At least not daily. I am going to suggest that you sit down and put pen to paper. Blogging is a great way to get out what you feel, but some of what you feel will probably be directed at your partner and you don't want to deal with the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/15 02:20 PM |
| 7 | I'm trying to take too much control.You have to let go of him getting fired. There are morally bankrupt people in the world. There are criminals. Jobs come and go. You yourself said that he'll probably end up finding a better job anyways. Look at this as a positive opportunity for him to exit that job and find a better one. It might not have happened the way you wanted it to, but it happened. Now you guys just have to deal with it. I had gotten to know many of the people there. I trusted them. He did amazing work for them and sacr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/15 10:13 PM |
| 5 | What're some good ways to stop being bitter and coarse?Learn to separate real complaints with weight from the ones that have very little. It's okay to have real issues and complaints with things. Learn to let go of the things that don't matter by really thinking about what they actually affect in the grand scheme of things. Voice your real complaints in a neutral way or even by being negative and adding something positive onto the end of them. "Hey, the toilet seat was up this morning and I didn't notice it so I fell in. I'm glad I'm not barbie or I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/15 07:55 PM |
| 9 | Anyone have advice on dating older men/surrendering controlIt's okay to initiate conversation with him when you want to talk to him or spend time with him. If he doesn't respond then he doesn't respond, but it's okay to text him. I've always dated men who are older than I am. The man is 6 years older than I am. You have a larger age gap, but I don't think it's always an age thing. I think it can be a personality thing. It's a personality thing in preferring texting to talking on the phone. If you want to talk to him more in a way that leaves the ball in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/15 07:40 PM |
| 1 | Trying to better myself in the emotional availability and direct affection department. Does anybody else struggle with this?My boyfriend says he needs me to be more direct enough in my affection. What kind of affection? Is he talking about sexual relations? Does he need more verbal affection? Does he want you to hold his hand and cuddle more? Does he need you to do more thoughtful little gift gestures for him? I really have to consciously think about what he means by affection and what that looks like to him. Ask him. Seriously. Tell him the truth. "I show my affection for you by doing X. You're telling me that you w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/15 09:45 AM |
| 2 | Cooking Dinner - Practical Question!You can cook the meals ahead of time and freeze them so all you have to do is heat them up. Premade casseroles can be your best friend. You can also do meals where you make all the prep ahead of time so you just have to throw the meal in the oven for it to cook. I make bulk batches of meatballs, stuffed shells and manicotti, prebreaded chicken, other preseasoned meat, and things like mac and cheese. I get them all put together and freeze them. Then all you have to do is pop them out a day early … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/15 09:36 AM |
| 1 | So what do the Redpill ladies talk about ? What's your point of viewGo to /r/asktrp or /r/theredpill. This is not the place for what you seek. If you want to fix it then actually go to someplace that can provide you with good starting points. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/15 03:02 AM |
| 1 | Something I learned today at my internshipEveryone thinks that people are one size fits all. What works for the goose is good for the gander, but it's not the case. All we can do is do what works for us and makes us happy. Everyone else can do the same. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/15 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Looking for advice from RPW gone back into the workforce after initial childcareI don't know much about your field, but many people take a lot of time off after a child and then go back to the workforce once they enter kindergarten. It's not uncommon and often works. My mother was an educator and worked in every school I attended until she retired early and got a new job. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/15 10:22 PM |
| 2 | Need help with relationship issue, SO having emotional attachment to ex.He isn't over his ex. Move on and find someone who is emotionally available. Let it go. You will be better off in the long run. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/15 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Advice Needed - Just Moved In TogetherI like the idea of asking him why. I hope it doesn't backfire into "because I said so" If he says "because I said so" it is okay to say. I need something more substantial. I need you to say because it's what I prefer or because it's monetarily smarter. I doubt that if you approach things politely and honestly that he'll say "because I said so". I think he'll understand that you actually want to know the motivation of it for him and be mindful of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/15 09:58 PM |
| 5 | I need some advice on a rough spot in my relationshipA few days ago, he brought up that his brother and his brother's girlfriend were already saying “I love you.” They haven't been dating very long, so he found this overly sappy and a little disgusting. Then he continued to say that while he enjoys having me around, he does not love me. For some people saying I love you is such a big thing that they will not do so until a great deal of time has been invested in the relationship. He seems to genuinely care for you, but doesn't love you. That's okay… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/15 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Do any of you ladies know other RP style women who you can hang out with?I have quite a few friends now with similar relationship strategies and I also have relatives who do as well. I should do more with my friends who do, but I tend to be more of a homebody and don't typically do a whole lot of going around places. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/15 08:38 PM |
| 10 | Advice Needed - Just Moved In TogetherThere are always adjustment periods. People prefer different things. Because you want to let him lead you need to learn how to accept the corrections for his preferences with grace. You don't ever seem to have asked why. It's okay to ask why. I turned on the lamp instead of the ceiling fan in the bedroom which was wrong according to him (he wasn't even in the room--I was putting away our clothes by myself) What if the ceiling fan had compact fluorescent bulbs and the lamp doesn't so monetarily t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/15 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Giving Him Space?Staying busy does help, but make sure that it's productive. It works better if what you're doing is productive. It could be crocheting, quilting, knitting, cleaning, organizing, canning, etc. It doesn't matter as long as when you're done with it you see results. Those results will be at least a little bit comforting to you. Try to talk yourself through what is going on. Talk yourself off the cliff. Also remember that there are people who you can talk to when this is going on. Sometimes it is bet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/15 07:29 PM |
| 11 | I'm Laura Doyle, author of The Surrendered Wife. AMAWhat are some ways and things that you would recommend for keeping a relationship playful? Are there any activities that you find to be particularly partner bonding (besides physical intimacy)? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/15 04:07 PM |
| 4 | I'm Laura Doyle, author of The Surrendered Wife. AMASometimes small issues occur and you have to rationalize things to yourself so that you talk yourself off a proverbial cliff. Do you find yourself doing this? If so are there any tips and tricks you would mind sharing? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/15 03:26 PM |
| 4 | Avoiding the princess trapHe doesn't text me first after our date? Boom, move on to the next. He didn't take me to a nice enough place? Nope, that's over. And so on. I'm pretty sure what happens somewhere inside your head is you think "I was taken advantage of in my last relationship. I refuse to let that happen again. I'm going to protect myself this time." The problem is what you're doing is cutting off the relationship before there is even a chance of that happening. You're forcing yourself to stand on the edge of a c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/15 09:15 AM |
| 6 | Need some sex-life support!I wish we had more intimacy during sex. Take a look at the intimacy that you're getting outside of sex. I get the feeling that you were willing to do for him in the past and there is a possibility that you're not getting intimacy you need and that's part of this issue. I know if I feel like my partner isn't intimate with me (hand holding, kissing, looking me in the eyes, cuddling, appreciating what I do for him, etc.) then I feel neglected and don't want to do for him. Take a look at if this cou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/15 08:51 AM |
| 2 | Boyfriend has a stressful new job. How can I help? What do I say?I believe in him but I cringe because any encouragement sounds trite/condescending coming out of my mouth, and I don't really believe it. I don't really know if everything will be ok, do I? Will it get better? Try changing what you say when you offer encouragement. Instead of saying "it will be okay" or "it'll get better". Tell him that you believe in him. You say here that you do tell him that. Tell him that you have faith in him. Tell him that he's smart and you know he'll figure it out and do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/15 06:54 AM |
| 3 | How does a RPW handle a hurt man?Does she move on and not deal with him? Is it okay for her to try to sway him through her kindness and trustworthiness that she's different? It's okay to not want to take on a project in getting someone who has baggage to begin to overcome it. It's also okay to want it. Let's take the emotion out of this and look at it like instead of people we're looking at houses. Some houses are move-in ready. Some take renovations to become what you want them to be. Now When you're buying a home very often y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/15 06:40 AM |
| 3 | New SAHW seeking inputSnack mixes(healthy ones) are great for that. The Sargento Balanced Breaks are my new favorite snack. Cashews, cranberries and cheese. Healthy and simple. You can obviously make them yourself quickly ahead of time or you can pay extra for the convenience of pre-packaged. I make snack mix with walnuts or cashews or both and chocolate with cranberries. Other than that pre-cut raw veggies are good. Cereal, granola bars, fruit snacks. I try to keep healthy snacks and sweets in my house, because I te… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/15 12:16 AM |
| 4 | Taking husband's last name. Feminists say no. What's your take on it?I think it's bad luck not to take your partner's name. I would absolutely take his name when we marry. For me it is very simple and the negative things not doing it says are not things I would ever want to say to my partner or make him feel. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/15 02:49 PM |
| 5 | About self-reports of beauty (I'm a 7/8/9...)I agree. I think it's more helpful to hear hard facts. I eat healthy. I am not overweight. I can do my make up well. I brush my teeth. Those give me more hard information to work with than something completely subjective and self reported. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/15 10:19 PM |
| 3 | Advice needed on how to handle a break up with living with your SOI've took up all the chores in the house and I'm doing my best to always have food for him for when he comes home from school. I still need to learn how to organize myself for when I'm not home all day to clean and make food though. While this is nice ultimately you're missing the most important part of things. Your attitude. You can be the best cook and do it for him every day, but ultimately if you have a horrible attitude that doesn't matter. Let's face it. You have a shitty attitude right no… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/15 05:53 PM |
| 6 | [Update] Ghosts of Boyfriends PastWe can't always have sex. It's just the way it is. We get sick. We have body troubles. Focusing on the orgasm makes it easier. You can sexually please someone in many ways. Taking away time from foreplay makes him think you view it as a chore. Why wouldn't he? You're rushing like you wanna get in, get out, and be done. Put yourself in his shoes anytime that this recurrs and think "how would I feel if..." | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/15 03:32 PM |
| 3 | [Update] Ghosts of Boyfriends PastThanks! A lot of people do forget that while men want sex when you apply pressure and take the fun out of it you make it a chore. You add anxiety onto it. It also shows it's not an issue of health if he's fine with foreplay. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/15 03:28 PM |
| 9 | [Update] Ghosts of Boyfriends PastThis made absolutely no sense to me and made me feel like our relationship was headed someplace bad... What kind of guy wouldn't want to have sex with his significant other? He didn't say he didn't want sex. He said he wanted more foreplay. More than likely what happened is you made him feel like sex was a chore. That's not a big turn on. He wants to return to the point where sex isn't a chore for either of you and you're both having your sexual needs met. He wants variety. He wants a blowjob an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/15 01:29 PM |
| 6 | How to Not be a Plate: A GuideIt's the first and biggest thing you should state. Everything else doesn't matter if you don't give up sex before commitment. It doesn't matter what another person intends or where you meet someone if you don't give up sex before commitment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/15 03:22 PM |
| 17 | How to Not be a Plate: A GuideYou're missing the biggest and most important piece of not being a plate. Do not give up sex without commitment. Plates are plates, because they give up sex. You've glossed over it in places, but it's so important you need to clarify it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/15 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Emotional Support?He's always been this way, but I've basically always been RPW. I just didn't know about RPW/TRP until recently. I just thought of myself as traditional. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/15 05:27 PM |
| 2 | I am another former feminist, here to learn your ways.Welcome. I'm going to recommend that you read The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Laura Schlessinger, and for intimacy related texts The Guide to Getting it on by Paul Joannides (it's an all around good read for informative information on sex). As to a few other things realize that you will never be perfect. Take every mistake as a learning opportunity and a chance to improve. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/15 01:05 PM |
| 14 | Regarding "Man here...."The thing is think about it this way. Very often any woman who posts "woman here..." in TRP is looking for some form of attention regardless of whether or not the quality of the post is on point. It's an attention grab. The same is believed of men here. If you have good advice you have good advice. There isn't a need to qualify that advice with your gender. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/15 05:51 AM |
| 17 | Regarding "Man here...."Fish are friends. NOT food. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/15 05:45 AM |
| 1 | Emotional Support?The other day I dropped my birth control pill down into the side of the man's recliner and I spent 30 minutes trying to dig it out with a flashlight. When I broke down in tears I called the man. This is basically the conversation we had: Me: crying Hey are you gonna be home soon? Him: Yeah, why? Me: I dropped my birth control in the side of the chair and can't get it I've spent 30 minutes already trying fish it out. more crying Him: It's okay just take the one for tomorrow and I'll get it out wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/15 05:42 AM |
| 2 | Advice needed women of TRPTRP helped me notice that the first thing I do when I meet an attractive woman is casually mention I have never dated. Hearing her astonishment always felt great because I knew then she was attracted to me. Obviously this tactic has failed me miserably. She's astonished, because she thinks you're attractive. However, once you say this she's going to lose attraction for you on some level because it will be assumed that there is something wrong with you. It has been long enough that this passive a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/15 06:30 AM |
| 13 | How do you get a man to open up to you?You allow them time to trust you. You don't demand that they open up and when they deflect you ride the deflection out. I do think there is a limit to how long this should go on, but it's something you know or feel. It's not something you can describe in hard and fast terms. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/15 06:17 AM |
| 9 | How can I help my Mr. be more, ahem....I took it as him not being attracted to me, and I wanted answers. I turned the asking into an argument. We touched on that argument a few times over the past 2 1/2 years, usually me bringing it up out of frustration. Now it is a touchy subject in which he has little patience for. You brought up the subject much too harshly and caused an issue. Bringing this up again can be done, but you will absolutely positively have to broach the subject carefully. You've made a sore spot and poking and proddi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/15 06:11 AM |
| 9 | How to help my younger sister? 25 yo virgin nerd wirh social anxietyShe's quite independent in her little bubble and it seems like she just doesn't care about dating, but I feel deep down she wants connection and romance. But at the rate she's going, she's on the path to eternal spinsterhood and it breaks my heart to think of her being alone all her life. I see a lot of how you feel here and very little about her. Remember this isn't about you. This is about her and what she wants and what will make her happy. Just like there are MGTOW there are also women who c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/15 09:59 PM |
| 7 | On attracting a guy who is "not looking for a relationship"I know he's interested in me on some level (as I am him), but he's "not looking for a relationship". He's told you that he's not interested in a relationship right now. You're already 30. Do you really want to sit and wait for a day that may never come with this man or be a plate for him? If you don't cut your losses and move on. Look for someone who is interested in a relationship and don't waste the time that you have left. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/15 09:49 PM |
| 5 | Too tall to be feminine?It's not your height that makes you feminine. It's how you carry yourself. It's your persona and conduct that make you a feminine lady. I really wouldn't worry about it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/15 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Please Help: I Can't Respect the Men Who Commit to MeThe RP itself is certainly makes me feel worse. Then don't go in there and read it. Understand the theory and stay away from TRP itself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/15 10:31 AM |
| 1 | Please Help: I Can't Respect the Men Who Commit to MeI start to pull away. They give chase, and men love the chase (to the extent their masculine pride will allow.) The better they treat me, the more I pull away. You pull away when you start to sense them becoming overly invested in you at their comments of having never met anyone like you before. It's a turn off so you pull away. They chase. Instead of chasing you want someone who will say okay when you do and leave you alone. You're losing respect for these men because they're betaing up the pla… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/15 10:27 AM |
| 1 | Sending X rated pics to your SO. Do you Sext?I sext my SO all the time. I don't use a service, because I trust him implicitly. I mean we hang out all the time naked, but it doesn't really matter. He likes getting them and I don't mind doing it. Of course there are risks like data hacking etc. However, he wouldn't be mad at me if his or my phone got hacked and they ended up out there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/15 09:57 AM |
| 2 | What are ways you show your love for him?You seem to think that I don't enjoy my sex life with the man which couldn't be any farther from the truth or that I think of my sex life in some way that I just don't. He wants or needs something and I give it to him whenever possible. It's that simple. I'm sorry I offended your delicate sensibilities. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/15 08:22 PM |
| 6 | The topic of marriage keeps coming up and I don't know how to talk about it.There is no reason that you have to bring this up right now. He isn't initiating this conversation with you so I think that's a sign that you're both in the same place. His response of "soon" could be a way to get them to stop asking. I know it's a typical response when people are together, but aren't in the right place to get married. However, if you want to talk to him about it there isn't any reason that you can't or shouldn't talk about it with him. This post explains everything very well. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/15 03:36 AM |
| 5 | [Advice] How can a person with a mental illness get a LTR?Yes and if you're way past the wall with your shit together and your girl game tight it doesn't mean that you're doomed. If all the other girls are screwing anything with a penis and have no girl game and you do and you work to maintain yourself you're going to stand out. It'll be harder, but it can and does still happen. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/15 06:10 AM |
| 3 | [Advice] How can a person with a mental illness get a LTR?It's possible it would just take work. I have a friend who moved to California for a job. She had a place to stay and a salary, because she moved in to be a nanny. Situations like this are not impossible and do happen, but it would require you being more stable. I am not recommending something like this to you in your current condition. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/15 04:22 AM |
| 3 | [Advice] How can a person with a mental illness get a LTR?Good DBT is the best for BPD. Never be afraid to switch doctors. Often there are a great many good ones, but they're not all good ones for you. If you find that your doctor and therapy has become ineffective then it's definitely something that you should consider. I'd also record your moods when it comes to medication. After a while medications can become ineffective and sometimes there are alternate medications that you can take or ones that aid the ones you may be taking. Your environment can … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/15 04:06 AM |
| 18 | [Advice] How can a person with a mental illness get a LTR?The truth? You get help and get your shit together first. Seriously, you're being your own worst enemy here. You need to make sure that you're in a place where you can handle a relationship before you try getting one. I think you're looking for someone to make you happy and that's not how relationships work. No one can make you happy. You have to be happy with yourself and in a stable place. You can't build a house without a foundation. You can't build a relationship without one either. You're w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/15 02:06 AM |
| 25 | I want to be red pill for my SO but I think I lost my chanceSo we've been having fights lately cause I can't show him the affection he wants. Mainly with sex. You're thinking about this all wrong. Sex is not a want. It's a need. Genuinely for men it is. You need to really understand that. There is some little switch in your head that you need to make click. Every time you turn him down for sex you're telling him that you don't love him. You're telling him that you don't find him attractive and desirable. You're telling him his needs don't matter. The wor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/15 10:12 PM |
| 7 | What are ways you show your love for him?I show my love for the man in a lot of ways. I cook him food. I don't just cook him what he wants I also cook him healthy food because I worry about him. I follow the budget that he sets forth and when I want to spend money on something like my quilting supplies I ask. I take an interest in his friends and family. I'm horrible with names so there are random times where we play a game called "can you remember all the names of the people in my family". I usually mess up at least one person, but I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/15 08:49 PM |
| 13 | Having the Captain, but not the marriage.I’m more than fine with signing a pre-nup, but he has discovered from other sites and stories that a pre-nup may not be enough to protect him. Pre-nups are usually pretty decent to be honest. I personally don't know of any cases where a pre-nup was signed and failed to protect the person. It's possible there are cases, but I'd assume there are reasons for why they would be overturned legally. You have a couple of options if that isn't suitable for him though. You can stay together and work on le… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/15 04:13 AM |
| 7 | New to the Red Pill Women...but it makes a lot of sense and I need help trying to talk to my boyfriend about itI'm going to say some things here that might be unpopular. He is on board the uber feminist train, but I don't think he quite knows what it is all about. He gets offended when I speak out about the current wave of feminism being stupid. I'm just a bit frustrated that critical thinking seems to be looked down upon by so many people. So you think feminism and the people who support this radical thinking are kind of stupid. That's fine. However, this line of thinking is basically like saying "hey m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/15 11:54 PM |
| 5 | Need relationship advice. New to RP after being *very* BP my entire life.It's not confronting him. You're thinking about this in a very negative context to begin with. Part of him leading is making an informed decision. He can't do that if he is missing information so it's your job to help provide him with that information. Sometimes he might have already thought about it. Other times he won't have. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/15 06:33 PM |
| 4 | Need relationship advice. New to RP after being *very* BP my entire life.What do I do in situations where his decisions are obviously in his own interests and not our family's? Think about this in two ways. We're all selfish and self serving. However, what is good for us is not always to the detriment of another person or our families. Sometimes you need time to yourself or you'll snap. Think about those times and ask yourself if he gets what is in his own interest does it negatively affect something else? If it doesn't let it be okay some. If it does be honest and u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/15 05:45 PM |
| 2 | [Update] Boyfriend's Travel Plans with Female FriendHe admitted he found her attractive. He then says it's totally platonic and explains why. I think this has more to do with her friend zoning him than him not wanting her. It sounds to me like he got friend zoned and explained exactly what happens in male female relationships a lot of the time in these cases. He set himself up and explained everything to you. He talked it all away in his own head. I'm glad that you've come to decision to end things and find someone who is worthy of you and your t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/15 05:30 PM |
| 3 | I've handled an emasculating situation very, very poorly, and need RPW's helpApologize to him. Say it and mean it. Don't go on and on about it and don't try to rationalize anything. Just apologize for your hand in things and let it drop. Show him with your actions that you mean it and that you're going to do everything in your power to change and help him. He was emasculated in the first situation and now you're emasculating him too. He stuck up for you and failed. He probably feels like he wouldn't be able to protect you since the incident and you've made it worse. You … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/15 05:18 PM |
| 12 | I really can't get over this "oneitis" syndrome. X-Post from /r/asktrpYour relationship ended. You lost your commitment and are still giving him sex. STOP! You are now a plate for him. Cut off contact with him all together and move on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/15 06:17 AM |
| 5 | Having Children - a requirement in a marriage? Need advice!Children are not a requirement for marriage. However, there are people who want them and people who don't. You can also find people who don't care either way. Ultimately what matters is that you two do what makes the two of you happy. If that is having kids then work on having them. If it isn't then do something else. I want children and a strong loving family. It's something I look for. When I was dating if someone didn't want children when the convo came up it was a deal breaker and I moved on… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/15 02:10 AM |
| 1 | What is your daily makeup routine?Sephora has their own store brand and for the most part it's the same product as some of the more expensive ones at a much lower cost. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/15 02:02 AM |
| 1 | What is your daily makeup routine?I highly recommend Bare Minerals make up. I wear it every day. I have really sensitive skin and I find that this is the best for me and doesn't make me break out all crazy. When I get up I use a cleansing cloth (one of the wet ones by simple) and wipe my face down. I put on a moisturizer by Neutrogena (spf 100+) and then I do my makeup. I buy Bare Minerals make up kits when they're on sale so I have lots of them. They're also the best value as Bare Minerals make up is not cheap. It comes with fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/15 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Showed insecurity ... how do I fix this?I think there are a couple of issues in this situation from my perspective. I would never want someone that I'm with to be friends with someone that they had a long term relationship with especially not an ex-fiancee. That's a personal thing, because I specifically avoid anyone I dated long term. I'm fine with those people someone dated in the same social circle who went on a few dates and decided there wasn't anything there. It might be jealousy, but it's just how I am. You need to decide if ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/15 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Best tips for being spend thriftOne of the biggest ways we save is buying in bulk. All of the things we use as essentials are always bought from Sam's Club. Laundry detergent, dish soap, dish washing liquid, bleach, dryer sheets, toilet paper, shampoo, soap, hand soap, paper towels, cleaning supplies, razor blades, cat litter, and certain food items that we use or eat religiously like butter and oatmeal. Be aware buying in bulk is expensive up front; however, it will save you a lot of money in the long run. You just have to ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/15 06:49 PM |
| 2 | How does a RPW acquire more sexual partners?Note to self: demand fur goat, designer handbag and maserati. Such a pro tip. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/15 11:34 AM |
| 4 | What's your girl dating philosophy?From the man's perspective I can understand this. It is not the way that most women view it though. I think your view is in fact correct for women. Remember that while some men and women may want the same end goal our ways of achieving that can be at odds. The whole idea of the buffet applies to hookup culture. Men looking for LTRs are going to be looking for quality not quantity. While a buffet might have tons of food you may often end up with an upset tummy after eating it. Hookup men aren't l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/15 08:40 AM |
| 1 | How does a RPW acquire more sexual partners?Pshh only sleep with men who buy me a drink first. He's gotta buy me a drink and dinner and a fucking jetski! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/15 09:26 PM |
| 2 | How does a RPW acquire more sexual partners?Bang Hobos! Besides you know they always have booze in those paper baggies for parties just of this type. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/15 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Relationship HelpHonestly, even if you're the most normal of normal people you can usually find something useful in therapy even if it's just a stranger to talk to. I highly recommend it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/15 09:24 PM |
| 2 | (As a male) Feeling like I'm in limboI really agree with this. I think those would be a much better starting place for the OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/15 11:00 PM |
| 2 | Just a thought...Every situation is different. I think it's all about figuring out what would make you and your partner happy. I think it's a decision you all need to discuss and that you need to make together. He may feel this way, because he doesn't want you to feel like you've wasted your life or financially he doesn't see it as being possible in the long run for monetary reasons. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/15 10:55 PM |
| 1 | How to tell someone you have a boyfriendYou can ignore it. Sometimes responding and showing any attention even to say I have a boyfriend isn't the best path. Some people will continue. Other than that you can say, "sorry I'm seeing someone right now and feel talking to someone I used to date is inappropriate." "I would prefer not to have any contact with you, because I'm not interested in you in any way." | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/15 10:44 PM |
| 2 | Relationship HelpIt's okay to need reassurance sometimes. However, when needing reassurance becomes too often it becomes in his mind an issue of trust. It becomes an issue of you not believing him, because of the continuous asking. I use this analogy of a leaking bucket for people with low self esteem who need constant reassurance. You have a bucket of water that serves as your self-esteem. Your bucket is leaking and you keep asking him for cups of water. He's giving them to you, but eventually it gets exhaustin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/15 10:39 PM |
| 1 | How do you feel about the old saying "why buy the cow when you get the milk for free" and living with an SO before marriage?Pretty much every interaction that you have with anyone is some sort of transaction. You help your friend so that they will help you later. You give love to get love. That's just the way things are. There isn't anything negative about it. As someone who actually says this reasonably frequently the idea is why give something if you aren't getting some sort of trade off. It is selfish, but I am not going to devalue myself. I give sex to my partner, because that is how he sees intimacy and feels lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/15 10:28 PM |
| 3 | Vintage inspired clothing for more feminine lookI wear PUG clothing a lot. Honestly it can be very reliable, but you have to get measured and use the measurements to find a fit. Do NOT rely on sizes they are not the same across vintage websites and if you're buying true vintage pieces you'll be better off with measurements than anything else. If you really want amazing pieces go to estate sales. I get a lot of my clothing from estate sales and you can negotiate on the prices quite often. I bought 30 brand new sealed in package bullet bras in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/15 03:31 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with advances in the RPW way?It depends. If you aren't actually interested don't show them interest. If you are interested then respond to them in kind in an appropriate way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/15 03:24 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, how do you feel about splitting the bill on dates?I will offer to pay for my portion genuinely on a first or second date. However, I rarely do because I'm turned down when I offer. Typically my offer starts with me pulling out my own billfold and being looked at funny while the other person says "I have it" to which my response is always "thank you." The only time that I have insisted is when it's been a date that I haven't enjoyed. If I do not plan on going on a date with the person again I insist that I pay for myself. However, I really do wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/15 03:16 PM |
| 3 | Ladies in the south/humid climates, how do you handle long hair?Loose side ponytails can be really attractive. Headbands can be really cute. I wear bandanas as headbands a lot. They're cheap and they pull the hair up off your neck a good bit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/15 02:21 AM |
| 2 | For a woman, how many sex partners is too many? Just Curious.I think it's hard to say. The numbers don't mean anything by themselves IMO. What means something IMO is how that count became the count it became. Were they ONS, FWBs, or LTRs? That to me is what matters. Let's think of it this way. Girl A has had 3 partners. She is 21. She lost her virginity at 16 to a wonderful young boy she dated two years. The relationship ended and when she turned 18 had intercourse again with a young man she'd date about a year. She then had intercourse again with a young… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/15 02:15 AM |
| 3 | NightclothesYoga pants and leggings can actually be good for sleeping. They will show off your bottom, because they tend to be fitted in that area. Plain V-neck shirts are not a bad option. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/15 01:36 PM |
| 3 | I need advice about my friends and a few family membersIt's their life. If they want to screw it up that's fine. However, if you are uncomfortable listening to them be honest about it. If they start talking about it you can leave, change the subject, or even say that you don't want to hear about those things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/15 01:31 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, do you prefer....I also agree! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/15 12:27 PM |
| 9 | Together 18 years. I need to improve in so many ways. Where do I start?Almost everything worth doing takes effort. Most of the things that we want out of life aren't going to just come to us. We have to work for them. Good relationships don't materialize, degrees don't, clean houses don't all of these things take work and effort to have and maintain. Start small at home. Do some easy cleaning every day. If you dust and then scrub a toilet one day then the next you clean the tubs and sinks eventually you get to where the home is clean and it's easy. It's small tasks… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/15 12:21 PM |
| 12 | What if I'm just not pretty?It's possible that you aren't wearing make up that suits you. You can be doing things that make your face look awkward or wearing enough it looks caked. I highly doubt that you're so unattractive in the face that the other things don't make up for it. Also consider that this might not be why. You could be unapproachable or have resting bitch face. A lot of men will avoid that not because the person isn't attractive, but it puts them off. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/15 09:47 PM |
| 5 | Can you help me clear up a few general dating questions?The idea is that you shouldn't give up sex on the first date, or just too quickly in general, or he won't respect you. How long is too long, before he loses interest and thinks you're a prude? I've heard you should demand exclusivity before having sex with a man. How would you go about doing that, and how do you know he's not just going to say, "yeah, sure babe, whatever" while playing you? You can't ever know. The best that you can do is watch the person and their actions before you go into thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/15 10:19 AM |
| 11 | Advice Please: Texting First? Being too available? Resetting the tone?Should I reach out first? Why shouldn't you? You're interested in him. What is wrong with letting him know it? What is wrong with being kind and open with him? What is wrong with investing time in him if you want him to invest time in you? Also, how do I move away from same day/last minute plans to more formal dates? As long as you're dating other men and he knows he's not going to commit anything more to you. Period. You want his commitment and aren't even being exclusive to him. You like him t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/15 01:52 AM |
| 5 | Wise Words from my FatherMy mother always gives the best advice. She told me a long time ago "you can be anything you want to be except a bitch." She's pretty good with advice to be honest and I always appreciate hearing it. My grandmother also gives some of the best advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/15 12:40 PM |
| 14 | female engineerWomen are perfectly capable of being educated. Being intelligent doesn't scare men off. It's the attitude that some educated women have that does it. It's okay to have drive and passion outside of the home, but remember home is where the heart is. As long as you don't shove your degree into someone else's face and act superior things will be hunky dory. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/15 03:10 AM |
| 1 | Not sure if this is too off topic but looking for ideas on how to meet new people (female friends) + activities to better myself.If you're super intimidated by it try crocheting. It's a good start and pretty simple once you get the hang of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/15 03:06 AM |
| 2 | Not sure if this is too off topic but looking for ideas on how to meet new people (female friends) + activities to better myself.I knit. I crochet. I'm learning to quilt thanks to a woman from RPW. Those are things that I do for myself in my free time. If you need to make friends I suggest that you look into crafts groups. Genuinely most of the people in crafts groups are going to be older or are going to be more RPW minded if they're young. They're a great place to find friends who are like minded and aren't going to influence you and your relationship negatively. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/15 10:05 PM |
| 3 | How to tell what phase of the menstrual cycle a woman is in who has an IUD?She still has a cycle. It's just not as obvious. I'm guessing that she's probably using the Mirena as it's one of the most commonly used IUDs. And remember that it's a 28 day cycle not 30/31 like a calendar. A woman's cycle can vary anywhere from 21 days to 35 days. The 28 day cycle is not accurate. It can be affected by high levels of stress and varies from woman to woman. This happens both naturally and unnaturally. Her ovulation cycle is going to be 14-16 days before her menses not after it. … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/03/15 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Seeking advice to win my bf backMost domestic violence spawns from emotional abuse. You admit you were being a cunt. How long had you actually been one? I am not saying what he did was right or perfect or even acceptable. I'm trying to show you that perhaps you'd shown a pattern of doing some emotional abuse that led up to this. So I think you should potentially spend some time looking at your behavior in this situation and many others. However, I don't think that this was one of those situations from what you've described. I'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/15 03:48 AM |
| 10 | Needing Tips for Getting MotivatedAs an adult we all have to do things we don't want. I don't want to cook all the time. Sometimes I just want to go get food, but when we have a budget to stick to and the money isn't there I do it. It's all about doing what needs to be done. The nice thing about some of this is as you do it you're going to get positive feedback. That feedback is going to help motivate you. You shouldn't depend on it though. It's also about making these things habits and routines. It's like brushing your teeth in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/15 05:27 AM |
| 3 | TeasingThe man and I tease each other all the time. Heck, we chase each other around the house. I slap him on the butt and giggle so he gives me a serious look and chases me slapping me on the butt. We get into pillow fights and stuff. All of these are for me playful teasing. Other people might not like this kind of interaction, but I love it and it works for us. We tend to be very physically playful and teasing. If we ever get to a line he is very easily able to stop me and say okay enough it pretty m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/15 05:22 AM |
| 1 | How do you feel feminine when you are vastly more sexual than your SO?Don't use it to initiate. If he says anything say I just want you to just be here while I do it. If that's not okay I can go somewhere else. Everyone has needs. It sounds like you may have to use masturbation in some form to meet yours or consider other options. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/15 03:36 AM |
| 1 | How do you feel feminine when you are vastly more sexual than your SO?So you have tried talking to him about it previously. You've tried letting him be the initiator. You've tried initiating. Have you ever thought of doing something else entirely? How do you feel about masturbating in front of him? Seriously, it's simple. It can provide sexual intimacy for you from him, but it doesn't force him to get super involved. You get what you need and you aren't pressuring him to give you more. It may not be your favorite alternative, but it could definitely get the job do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/15 01:08 AM |
| 2 | This is why we have MRPIn marriage, women are not (generally) the issue. YOU (the man, captain, etc.) are (usually) the issue. Yes. However, when you're stuck in the anger phase you're mad at everything. It's the fault of women. It's the fault of society. Heck, you've been lied to your whole life. Why wouldn't you be mad at all the things that have lied to you and pushed you to change your behavior in a way that doesn't promote the best for you? Eventually that can change, but it's not abnormal to harbor anger when ta… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/03/15 11:06 PM |
| 1 | "The funny thing about a strong woman"I think relationships start from want. I don't think they begin from need in most cases. I didn't need the man when we got together. I wanted him. I was attracted to him. Now I need him and want him. I love him. However, I don't actually think that what it's saying is so far removed from how things actually are. I'm with you because I want to be and if you don't keep your shit together I'll leave and find someone who hopefully can. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/15 09:44 PM |
| 3 | This is why we have MRPThis is an incredibly multifaceted issue with TRP. The reasons for why a poster are against marriage varies, but the message is overwhelmingly the same coming from TRP. Don't get married. The whys aren't so simple. Frame is hard. Seriously it takes time and effort to maintain frame. After a while it can become second nature, but when you're conditioned to behave a certain way. You will at some point trip. It's a reality. What is easier? Fixing something when you screw up or dropping it all toget… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/03/15 09:22 PM |
| 2 | Is it Racist or Wrong to be sexually attracted to a specific race(s) and not others?The truth. It probably is racist to some degree. However, I don't know that I think there is something super wrong with it. I'm attracted to white men, 6 foot and over, have lots of body and facial hair, and who have larger noses/exaggerated facial features. I don't see anything wrong with that. It's just what I like. Is it impossible that I could be attracted to someone outside of that? No, but it hasn't happened yet and that is okay. I think it's only a problem when you are attracted to a pers… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/15 09:36 AM |
| 15 | I (24f) am not sexually attracted to my boyfriend (24m) anymore. What can I do to change that? (X-post from r/relationships)Yes we did, but I feel uncomfortable telling him about what I like and what I don't like. I always tell myself I need to be clearer on that because it would make sex so much better. You and only you are responsible for sharing what you like and don't. Men are not mind readers. A really great informative read on all things sex from how to discuss it with your partner and potential children as well as information on other things of a sexual nature like how to give a handjob or what is actually in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/15 01:09 PM |
| 0 | Where can RPM meet RPW?So where can RPM meet RPW, and vice versa, without having to weed through all the blue pill swallowers? The truth, almost everywhere and almost nowhere. There is no way to know if someone is RP or BP without actually testing the waters. People can preach anything. It's about making sure that their actions line up with RP. Bars are not places to meet quality women. However, you can meet quality women almost anywhere if you're really looking. Look for feminine modestly dressed women. I'm not sayin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/15 04:20 AM |
| 2 | Pod cast is LIVE NOWIt can be hard to read depending on where you're watching from. Cell phones will have trouble with that one IMO. I'd also second the reddit name. I think that would be incredibly useful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/15 02:30 AM |
| 15 | Pod cast is LIVE NOWI want to talk a little about the formatting for this. I found it really lackluster. I think the podcast should be formatted with a who everyone on it is with a quick rundown of their pill. The first podcast should have covered what is TRP, BP, and PP. Then after that choose one topic. Allow each person to say their piece and potentially discuss or argue something from the BP or TRP perspective and then wrap it up. I'd also suggest that each person's user picture should INCLUDE text with their n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/15 01:25 AM |
| 9 | [FR] He Captains and I follow in action, but not thought.You can tell your captain that your concerned without questioning his judgement. All you're telling him is that you're concerned, so that he can reassure you. I already did that in the discussion prior to the purchase. It's probably unclear in the OP. I just feel like at a certain point needing reassurance turns into questioning. I'm not sure where that line is, but I felt like I would cross it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/15 09:59 PM |
| 2 | Finally moving in with my SODo any of you ladies have some tips on managing a college schedule with keeping house? Homework is should always come first. However, it is easy to do laundry while reading for a course or studying. Reserve an hour where you can clean every day. Pick up after yourself at night. Try to keep things organized easily. Have baskets for laundry separated by whites and colors. Use command hooks to hang things like purses, keys, pot holders, etc. Try to make being organized easy for him. Look at how you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/15 05:48 PM |
| 2 | He asked for space. What should I do?If he approaches me again with the intention of ending our time apart and maintaining exclusivity, should I say no because he asked for space and his friendship with this other woman? Would it mean I'm valuable again in his eyes. I know it's a hypothetical but I'd like to prepare myself Honestly, I rarely think that relationships work out the second time and I don't think you would have been able to do enough development to grow into a place where you and he would be a good fit in a relationship… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/15 05:40 PM |
| 1 | He asked for space. What should I do?Do you have any advice on how I should treat him now? We go to school together and I have him in a class. Is there a mature way of handling it? Obviously, I will not speak to him. That's pretty much all you have to do. Allow him to have his space. If he engages you and says hi to try to be friendly be willing to talk back, but don't take that as a sign of hope. Is there any additional way of respecting his need for space and my need to move on? Should I actively avoid him and avoid eye contact? … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/15 05:34 PM |
| 2 | He asked for space. What should I do?I have to agree with the others. It sounds to me like you were a plate. He increasingly spent other time with another woman. He probably does want to keep you in his life if you're taking care of his physical needs. If I were you I would let him go. Work on you. Work on learning how to deal with your emotions without taking them out on your partner and friends. It's okay to lean on people, but when you're knocking on them like a wrecking ball it's time to consider getting a handle on it. Work on… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/15 02:01 AM |
| 3 | What do you do when you and your SO have a disagreement and you both won't budge?You're projecting. You have issues from a past relationship and you're projecting your fears from the last relationship into this one. That is something you really need to work on. It isn't healthy and it is going to tell him that you don't trust him. If you do then you need to let him do the things that he wants and needs to do for his own happiness. It's clear one of those things is moving in his mind. It is entirely possible that it isn't just about the pay raise. It could be a job in a bette… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/15 05:38 PM |
| 1 | In your opinion, what is the best website for online dating?OkCupid can be okay. The questions will allow you to weed people out and a lot of the people looking for hookups will weed themselves out with the content of messages they send you. The man knows people who met on Match and eHarmony. They're married couples who are happy in their relationships. I would also consider those if you find OkCupid to not be good enough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/15 08:41 PM |
| 2 | RPW, WHO ARE YOU and why are you anti-feminist? I want to find out what sort of women frequent this sub.Class in the U.S. is related to profession, income, and education. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/15 06:07 PM |
| 21 | RPW, WHO ARE YOU and why are you anti-feminist? I want to find out what sort of women frequent this sub.I am from the United States. I'm in my mid 20's. I'm white. I come from a two parent household with 2 sisters. My family was never very religious. I personally chose to become more religious in middle and high school. I adopted certain beliefs from that environment that I agreed with. I grew up preferring shows and movies like I Love Lucy, Gilligan's Island, I Dream of Genie, Gone With the Wind, The Maltese Falcon, and other old shows and movies. Those movies and shows imparted on me a certain m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/15 02:57 PM |
| 2 | I'm curios what everyone RP/BP and in between, thinks about this conversation I'm having with someone who supports TRPokay good, please admit your a misogynist. Its why I like conservatives better than liberals. At least conservatives admit they are sexist and racist. You devolved multiple threads into calling people misogynist instead of looking at their points. You never said that men and women are completely equal, but you refuse to see evidence that physical strength was not the only way that they were different. You refused to even consider what others were saying about why your article wasn't the best and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/15 08:57 PM |
| 1 | I'm curios what everyone RP/BP and in between, thinks about this conversation I'm having with someone who supports TRPThey actually are. Women feel. It's a huge premise that women act on emotion and men act on logic when it comes to TRP. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/15 08:42 PM |
| 8 | Redpillers claim to be all about rationality, logical, and science. Do they have any scientific studies that back up their viewpoint?that we should respect or excuse promiscuity in men when it comes to choosing LTR partners but judge women differently Ever looked at divorce statistics relating to partner count? Cohabitation statistics and divorce rates? Rates of depression and promiscuous sex? Here are studies related to why it is perfectly valid to judge men and women differently in terms of LTR's with relation to sexual promiscuity. The OP also has information on why that is valid. It is valid when you consider that sexual … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/15 08:40 PM |
| 3 | how to rehab your man from his past bad relationshipsWe all have baggage. It sounds like he's got a couple of train trunks. It's fine. The best way to help him is to keep doing what you're doing. You're doing it sincerely and it's helping. You can't make him realize that you aren't those people, but you can show him that you aren't. You're doing it. Keep showing him that. The more that he sees it the more he'll believe it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/15 06:48 PM |
| 9 | Redpillers claim to be all about rationality, logical, and science. Do they have any scientific studies that back up their viewpoint?Sadly I think you're correct and I think anything that disagrees with him will be dismissed or ignored for trivial reasons. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/15 05:26 PM |
| 11 | Redpillers claim to be all about rationality, logical, and science. Do they have any scientific studies that back up their viewpoint?This is a full comment from the last thread you created. I posted one of these studies TWICE in that thread. You refused to even acknowledge it existed. You consistently have refused the premise that men and women are different. You claim there is no difference in the sexes other than physically. I've already written this, but I'm going to write it again, because I would love to see you try to rebut this. There are differences in the personalities of the sexes. Those differences can affect every… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/15 04:42 PM |
| 3 | I'm curios what everyone RP/BP and in between, thinks about this conversation I'm having with someone who supports TRPYou consistently have refused the premise that men and women are different. You claim there is no difference in the sexes other than physically. I've already written this, but I'm going to write it again, because I would love to see you try to rebut this. There are differences in the personalities of the sexes. Those differences can affect everything from abilities to cope and react in times of war appropriately to why women flourish in certain career fields while men do not. "In univariate term… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/15 04:38 PM |
| 1 | I'm curios what everyone RP/BP and in between, thinks about this conversation I'm having with someone who supports TRPThe problem with what you're doing is you're acting like a kangaroo. You see something you don't like so it's inherently misogynist. Like the Kangaroo, instead of arguing with evidence you bait people to water and hold them down in it punching and kicking until the water is so muddy no one here is even going to begin to actually listen to you or think about your points. People here have made great points about issues with your "studies" and you refuse to acknowledge that or come back with eviden… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/15 04:24 PM |
| 1 | I'm curios what everyone RP/BP and in between, thinks about this conversation I'm having with someone who supports TRPThere are differences in the personalities of the sexes. Those differences can affect everything from abilities to cope and react in times of war appropriately to why women flourish in certain career fields while men do not. "In univariate terms, the largest differences between the sexes were found in Sensitivity, Warmth, and Apprehension (higher in females), and Emotional stability, Dominance, Rule-consciousness, and Vigilance (higher in males)." You really think that means that we're completel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/15 04:10 PM |
| 10 | I'm afraid he will not commit to meMy issue is that even though we've been dating for over 1,5 years he isn't showing signs of really committing to me. How is he not showing signs of really committing to you? You say that there is no sign that of a ring or moving in together. What are the things that tell you that? Actions speak louder than words what do his actions tell you? Are they the actions of a man who is committed or the actions of a man who isn't? How long you should wait is going to vary. It depends on the person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/15 03:57 PM |
| 4 | What career/major should I pursue? How do I find a life partner? (askTRP said repost here)You're 19 years old. You aren't sure who you are yet or even what you want. This is a great time to really think about who you are and what you want. You're young and you're going to be discovering who you are in the next few years. It's not in any way a bad thing. Your brain isn't even fully developed yet so it's perfectly natural that this would be the case. Yet, redpill insinuates that with a career, I can't be in a relationship. False. You can absolutely have a career. It's just that men and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/15 02:31 PM |
| 7 | Girl Game Help for a newbie?yes but this is a female approaching men, not the other way around. I believe my advice was basically to smile and be approachable. How is that approaching a man? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/15 02:00 PM |
| 2 | Girl Game Help for a newbie?i disagree, men that look at women on the street and approach random women on the street are low quality. there should be at least some decent social reason to talk to someone other than their physical appearance. From a certain perspective yes. However, she didn't say she just randomly walked around and got looked at. She said that this happened out in public. People could be eyeing her down at high quality restaurants and not approaching her, because she doesn't seem approachable. 'weeding out… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/15 01:58 PM |
| 10 | Girl Game Help for a newbie?Smile. Seriously, when you look at someone and smile it's an easy open for someone to approach you. Just don't forget you're still going to have to weed people out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/15 03:33 AM |
| 2 | What are y'alls household chore schedules?I don't keep a schedule for cleaning. I just do whatever needs to be done when it needs to be done. Some things I do regularly on a certain day for ease, but it's not really a schedule it's more they're related and easy to do at once on a Saturday. Other than that I try to do a little every day. If you want to make a schedule then think about what needs to be done and how often then pick days and put it on there. Once it's on the calendar stick to it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/15 10:25 PM |
| 2 | All women are feministsWhat you are really objecting to, i think, is the CURRENT arrangment in which the MALE side of the equation has remained intact while the female side has been demolished. and i am 100% with you. I also agree with this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/15 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Why are older men looking at women half their age? ~ The LamentationI don't think it's a matter of should you, but will you? Are we willing to better ourselves for the sake of getting what we want? Or would we rather sit around and complain about other people wanting something that isn't us? This is it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/15 03:07 PM |
| 1 | First post. Looking for advice. Harsh criticisms welcomed.So, my first question is... what actions can you suggest that will show him how much he means to me? Use your actions to display your affection for him. Be willing to give him a massage or let him lead and choose dinner. Cook something that he likes. Not all nice things that you can do for him take a lot of time. You could simply take off his shoes for him when he comes home. It takes less than 5 minutes and can be very sweet. I can't do chores or make dinner to show my appreciation if they are … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/15 03:03 PM |
| 2 | Acne Solution?It's both. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/15 11:42 AM |
| 5 | Acne Solution?Tea Tree oil will help. Have her wash her face and mix a few drops of it with water. Drop a washcloth in the water and put it on her face for 5-10 minutes. If that is inconvenient mix it with moisturizer or her face wash. Tea tree will burn the eyes so be careful not to get it in them. She can also use vinegar (helps balance the ph of skin) or make face masks with kaolin clay and chocolate (kaolin clay dries oily skin and chocolate actually has anti-oxidants in it that are great for stopping acn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/15 07:39 PM |
| 3 | What is the female version of Amused Mastery?This works so well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/15 01:12 PM |
| 2 | I'm a 22 year old, college educated, successful, white, nonreligious woman. Now that I've attained a degree and a high paying job, what is the redpill approach to attaining a faithful high income male to start a family with?Currently I am at my most desirable. I am thin, young, and financially well off. You may be thin, young, and financially well off, but those things do not necessarily mean that you're LTR material. You might be able to bag high quality men for sex, but you probably don't have the girl game to keep one. Over the past four years I have rejected stereotypical femininity in almost every aspect of my life. It shows. You can pretty well see that you've internalized some feminist things within yourself… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/15 01:09 PM |
| 2 | RPW homemade goods/ crafting threadI usually add honey and cinnamon to mine because honey has tons of benefits for the skin from anti-aging to helping even out the complexion and the cinnamon just smells nice and warm. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/15 12:31 AM |
| 6 | What is the female version of Amused Mastery?I'd just be playful and cute. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/15 12:27 AM |
| 1 | RPW homemade goods/ crafting threadGo to any health food store and buy pure lanolin. Make sure that it contains no additives, preservatives or anything of the like. Some of the time they'll contain vitamin e which is okay, but I don't really recommend it due to mixing sometimes being off based on the amount of vitamin e in them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/15 07:35 PM |
| 2 | RPW homemade goods/ crafting threadBeard and Mustache styling wax 2 part Beard and Mustache Wax Recipe Ingredients: 100 grams Beeswax or soy wax 100 grams Lanolin Pot for double boiler 2 Mason jars, 250 ml to 500 ml. capacity Stir sticks, wooden or other type of spoon Containers or moulds for mustache Wax – Optional; Essential oils for fragrance, 2% of the volume of the finished product, maximum. Steps: Shave or break Beeswax/soy wax into a glass jar Scoop Lanolin into a separate jar Put both jars into a cold water bath or double… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/15 10:56 AM |
| 3 | The pill is sitting in my mouth but there's one last thing. I've typed every combination into the search bar. Question about partner reciprocation.Combing it helps get the dead skin off which helps reduce itching, but beard oil also helps with it too. The recipes are up in this thread for those who wanted to look at them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/15 10:57 PM |
| 4 | The pill is sitting in my mouth but there's one last thing. I've typed every combination into the search bar. Question about partner reciprocation.Making it yourself is incredibly cost efficient actually. It's part of the reason that I do it. That and I get to fool around with mixing all the scents to come up with things I like. Edit to add: The man also likes it so it's just another point in the why I have fun doing it category. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/15 10:53 PM |
| 4 | The pill is sitting in my mouth but there's one last thing. I've typed every combination into the search bar. Question about partner reciprocation.Yeah, if anyone wants I can post the recipes that I use in an OP for stuff like that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/15 06:40 PM |
| 3 | The pill is sitting in my mouth but there's one last thing. I've typed every combination into the search bar. Question about partner reciprocation.One of the things that you have to remember about building anything is that there is a monetary investment as well as a time investment. The time investment can end up making things not worth doing yourself. I used to make soap. It would yield about 8 bars and would last about 6 months (8 bars doesn't sound like much, but they were HUGE); however, the time that it took to make it made it really not worth it for us. We started buying soap in bulk at Sam's club instead. The same goes for almost an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/15 03:00 PM |
| 19 | The pill is sitting in my mouth but there's one last thing. I've typed every combination into the search bar. Question about partner reciprocation.The man is my soft place to land. He is there when I need someone as long as I'm doing what needs to be done. If I need help or don't know what to do he is willing to help or to help me devise a solution. When something breaks he fixes it. He is my absolute rock. I cook, I clean, and I do laundry. He works. He makes sure that I have food in my stomach, clothes on my back, and roof over my head. I do for him what he wants and needs and he does the same for me. Those things are different, but that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/15 10:26 AM |
| 3 | Moving in togetherHomegoods is a great place for decorating cheaply and replacing used goods like towels. They sell everything from kitchen items to bedding. Think Marshalls, but with things for your home. It's brand names at large discounts. Kohl's and department stores can be okay, but you have to know what to buy and when. I buy all my holiday decorations on clearance. I get great things at discounted prices. I regularly get holiday placemats, towels, and napkins/ napkin rings at Kohl's after the holiday for a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/15 09:58 AM |
| 2 | Would like some insight on a situation, not sure how to think or feel.A frustration I have is that he will often make comments (particularly in front of his traditional parents) about how he does the cleaning, shopping, etc. Never in 3 1/2 years has this man done his own laundry. He has gone to the grocery store maybe 5 times. When he says these things I feel undermined. He guess doesn't recognize that I do these things but I really am unsure how he thinks they get done and it makes me appear to fall short as a woman, which is particularly troublesome when I'm try… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/15 09:36 AM |
| 2 | An introduction, I suppose?He doesn't necessarily have to know. The whole idea is if you allow men to be Captain that they will step up into that role if they're quality men when women do their part. Don't worry about telling him. Just worry about doing. Your actions will motivate him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/15 04:33 AM |
| 2 | Please HelpYou won't. A mistake is only a mistake if you make it once. You're exhibiting a pattern of escalating behavior. You obviously haven't. That's why it's escalated to this degree. You guys break up and you promise to do better then you don't. Take this as a lesson and move on and work on you. If he takes you back there is no way that you will respect him and the relationship will in any way be on a better track. Why would you respect him after you hit him and he took you back? I would never respect… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/15 04:18 PM |
| 4 | How do you meet and pick your men?While attraction is important remember that physical attraction only takes you so far. I'm not telling you to date someone you're super unattracted to, but it's okay to date someone you find cute over the guy you find hot. There is still attraction there and it IMO can be just as good. Especially since men can improve looks in some ways. Just make sure that if that person is cute that they're still sexually attractive. If they aren't then look for something a little closer that you are sexually … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/15 04:01 PM |
| 3 | Please HelpYou slapped him. Honestly, he shouldn't take you back. In fact if he does then I'd say that's pretty bad for him and only will make you think you can do it again reinforcing your terrible behavior. You messed up. Learn from it. Take time reading here. Work on yourself. Seek therapy. You might not actually need therapy, but it can help people (even those without big issues) find ways to resolve conflict and work on themselves. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/15 12:10 PM |
| 3 | My friend is getting alpha widowed and I'd like to help her out, need RPW's inputHave an honest chat with her. Tell her that she's trying to get commitment from a man who has made it clear that he won't commit to her. She's wasting time. You can't make her stop, but you can at least try to honestly advise her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/15 12:29 PM |
| 1 | Becoming a better screenerI'm glad I could offer a new perspective. I hope it helps. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/15 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Becoming a better screenerThink about the ways that you're really friendly. Do you touch the person's arm or hand when you laugh? This can be a signal you're interested. Turning your body towards them instead of just your head also signals the same. You may be completely unaware of the signals that you send out. It may be something that you need to force yourself to be aware of for a while if you're finding the wrong types of people are coming onto you. These guys all have one thing in common they're hitting on you. Thin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/15 10:17 AM |
| 2 | Becoming a better screenerThe biggest thing that you're going to hear is not having sex before you are given commitment. It's a great way to screen. The people who are looking for a quick easy lay are going to be too bored to stick around when they aren't getting any. Talking about religion and politics can be a great way to screen. It's a serious topic and people who aren't really interested aren't going to want to deal with a long drawn out political debate on why No Child Left Behind is a horrible and underfunded prog… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/15 07:35 PM |
| 5 | When to have sex?Men are the gatekeepers of commitment and women are the gatekeepers of sex. Those are the two most valuable commodities of the sexes IMO and if you aren't getting commitment you shouldn't be giving sex because when you do you devalue your commodity. So she might not be giving it away for free, but it's definitely discounted IMO. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/15 05:46 PM |
| 2 | 50 Shades of GreyMy SO and I are heavily into BDSM. I don't think that there is anything wrong with anyone not being into it. In fact there is a saying in the communities where it is accepted that your kink is not my kink and it's okay. So don't feel like people are going to expect you to do those things. IMO people who truly understand BDSM communities are going to get that not everyone really gets it or is going to like it and we don't force people to do it. People involved in BDSM understand certain tenants t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/15 05:43 PM |
| 2 | When to have sex?Wait until you're in a committed relationship with him. If you don't want to be a pump and dump the likelihood of that will decrease once you get the commitment and IMO so will the likelihood that you will regret having intercourse and losing your virginity to this man. It doesn't matter if you seem like a bit of a prude. Guys want sex. If they can get it from you without you getting something in return you're giving away the milk and no one is gonna buy the cow when they can get the milk for fr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/15 04:56 PM |
| 3 | SO doesn't like makeupThe biggest take away from this sub is that you should do what makes your SO happy. If he doesn't like make up then don't wear it. He may be someone who appreciates it on certain occasions, but doesn't deem it necessary all the time. That's okay. Do what works for the two of you in this situation. He may prefer a look that is so natural it is unnoticeable. It could be that he likes the no makeup look where you're wearing things that are so neutral and natural he can't tell and that's what works … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/15 02:39 PM |
| 2 | Is there a graceful red pill way to tell him that something really turns me off?I'd advise against this advice, personally. This is more of a last step to me. If you can avoid verbalizing your issue to him and thus avoid critiquing him, you should. As another user said, an attitude change on your part is much easier for the time being and much less likely to cause any negative effects on your relationship. If this issue continues for many months, after his work stress is over, then maybe you could gently approach the subject if you still felt strongly about it. She said his… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/15 03:23 PM |
| -4 | Is there a graceful red pill way to tell him that something really turns me off?Sit him down and tell him respectfully and honestly that it turns you off. If you're able to verbalize why then do so. He may not even be aware of it. Sometimes people aren't. Do not do this in the moment it will be hurtful. Pick a neutral time. There isn't anything wrong with saying no, or I can't or this turns me off sometimes especially when it has a negative effect on your relationship. It's when you constantly tear apart your partner that issues arise. In this case where it relates to sex I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/15 01:46 PM |
| 2 | 'Marry and Be Submissive' book a hit in Italy, draws feminists' ire in SpainI can't even begin to take this seriously. It's just pathetic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/15 01:32 PM |
| 1 | f26 m23? long term chances?You're still in a semi-new relationship. I don't think that you're being silly to worry. Honestly for me this has a lot of red flags. He's never been in a long term relationship from what you're saying. This can be a symptom of not being interested in a longer term relationship or poor management of women (ie. low SMV and beta). This can be damning for a relationship. I also typically find that most relationships tend to have an older male and a younger female. Those are the relationships that I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/15 01:23 PM |
| 10 | About my guy friendNo. Cut him loose and let him go elsewhere for happiness. He probably wants more. You don't. Keeping him around isn't fair to him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/15 05:29 PM |
| 7 | /u/Archwinger's "The number one mistake of married women: marrying a guy to whom they're not attracted"It is incredibly important to marry a man that you're sexually attracted to. Sexual attraction is actually the initial bond that most people have when entering into any relationship. Of course sexual attraction can wane over time for a plethora of reasons. However, you can maintain it through maintaining your SMV. I think it's part of why TRP theory is helpful. There are a lot of people who believe in soulmates. I think the idea is silly. My mother always told me never to look for the person tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/15 11:31 AM |
| 1 | Now that the second Steubenville delinquent has been released, it's time for all of us to remember the importance of Personal ResponsibilityIf I don't lock my car at night and someone gets into it and steals my GPS I am not at fault. The person who stole my GPS is still a thief. However, I did do something wrong. It's my job to recognize that and accept my responsibility there for not locking my car. The same thing applies here. If I get black out drunk at a party I need to accept responsibility for my actions there. I got drunk. That is my fault. However, that doesn't absolve anyone who takes action against me from their responsibi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/15 10:33 AM |
| 4 | How to Become Better?Your reputation needs to be repaired. You've already taken some steps towards that. It isn't going to happen overnight, but you can absolutely do it. You've cut out the parties and some of the weird people. Continue to do so. If you find that any of your friends are seen this way I would also recommend distancing yourself from them. If you're seen as a slut the biggest way to prove it is to do things that are obviously anti-slut. If you're hit on at a bar or in other places shut these people dow… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/15 10:13 AM |
| 2 | What is RPW's view on female sex workers in general?I don't care. Everyone is free to choose anything that they want when it comes to a career. It isn't something I would do, but I have no right to make a decision for someone else. I can only live my life the way that I choose to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/15 09:00 AM |
| 5 | Remaining Calm Under FireI'm glad that you're all okay. I think having an idea of how to defend yourself or your home in emergency situations is really important. I think it's important that everyone prepares for an emergency situation from a fire to a home break in. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/15 11:52 PM |
| 2 | I talk too muchWhat you don't say matters. Body language is something most people are naturally able to read. It's non-verbal communication that has existed for a very long time. This includes facial gestures, touch, posture, etc. When you speak to someone if you ever touch their hand when you laugh at a joke they make this is very often a clue that you are interested. Simply looking at someone and smiling can be enough to show that you are interested. It gives men a window. Work on how to show interest withou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/15 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Incidences of masculinity and femininity in Western Society and the Control that Mastering Them ProvidesIt is suggested that this is because of the complete absence of any true masculinity. By comparison, any masculinity stands out and is very attractive. There simply is no competition. My first question is, does this seem accurate to you? How often do you come across real masculinity? I don't think that there is a lack of masculinity. I think modern culture is preaching that it should be subdued in a lot of cases for the sake of women and so men are becoming more feminized. I think it's a symptom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/15 09:14 AM |
| 6 | I talk too muchDo you think that you're talking out of nervousness to some degree? The truth is getting yourself to be quiet takes practice. When someone else is talking really listen focus on what they're saying so that you can ask them something. It shows interest. You don't have to enjoy silence. You can fill it without babbling if you work to listen to the other person and expound on what they're saying. I have a degree in Environmental Engineering from Georgia Tech and work for X. Did you know that you wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/15 08:44 AM |
| 1 | Coping with Hitting "The Wall"Pole dancing? I'd break up with my SO if she even suggested that. Some people are fine with it. Some people aren't. My SO would be fine with it as long as the class was all female (most reputable ones are).Not to sound crass, but we see a big difference between being slutty and being a slut for someone. There is a reason why the people coined the phrase "a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets." | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/15 08:30 AM |
| 1 | dont know what to do with my mans mixed emotions....yeah just pisses me off hes such a chicken that he wont actually tell me he wants out, he must love playing with my heart You have every right to be angry. He's lied to you or to other people. Either way he's untrustworthy IMO. I think maybe what it is isn't that he wants to leave. I think he wants the greener grass, but he isn't sure that for him it'll be out there. Think about his SMV. Is he fit? Does he lead well? Does he actually have his game tight? Can he hold frame? If it isn't high then … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/15 03:43 AM |
| 2 | Communicating without nagging?Just got done talking to SO about this. Something else you can do is keep a running tally of an estimated cost of the food that is going to waste. Sometimes people don't realize how big the problem is until it is something they can visibly put a number to. Sit him down and talk to him about it. I need to talk to you. We are wasting a lot of money because food is getting left out and going bad. This is how much we have wasted this week/month. I really need your help, because this eats into the bu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/15 03:37 AM |
| 4 | dont know what to do with my mans mixed emotions....i learned all about TRP and i am regretting my current LTR but don't want a drama storm but its already too late to not have one of those... Now I just want out He clearly says he wants out. Give him what he wants. Bow out gracefully and move on. Both of you will be far better in the long run. Do you really want to spend your life with someone who openly says that they regret you, that they don't want to be with you, and on top of that think that you're mentally unstable enough to stalk them? Cu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/15 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Communicating without nagging?The thing with nagging is that a lot of it depends on how important it is, the tone, and whether or not it sounds like you're blaming the person. I think you could tell him more than once hey baby, we really need to put the food away after we use it so it doesn't go bad. We won't be able to stay within the budget if we waste food. Use "i" speak for this. Instead of using the word you which can place blame say we. Make it a group effort. You will both do it. Make sure that you say why it's import… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/15 01:33 AM |
| 2 | I Wasn't Treating My Husband Fairly, And It Wasn't FairFor example, the article notes that she should just forget about the 'small things' that bug her as obviously they don't bug her husband. But won't that cause resentment? It can if it is a symptom of a larger issue. For the most part you have to remind yourself that we all have quirks. Remembering that you have them too and he doesn't say anything will help you remind yourself that relationships involve being able to get along. You might have a friend who does things that annoy you, but they're … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/15 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Dilemma with men: Show Respect vs. Taking for grantedYou're welcome. I hope it was helpful. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/15 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Dilemma with men: Show Respect vs. Taking for grantedI was on the Mirena. I know people who love it. I just didn't do well on it at all. It could have been something that related to a reproductive disorder that I have, but I'm not sure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/15 02:06 PM |
| 2 | One-itis.Yes it exists for women also. Alpha Widowhood, falling in love, puppy love, obsession, lust, etc. I think most people have felt something similar at some point in time. Sometimes you fall for the wrong person. It hurts. Acknowledging it and moving on is really the only thing you can do. We all make mistakes. It's important to take what you've learned and put that towards a new relationship. You might get a new hobby, hang out with your friends, or even just complain and moan. You just find a way… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/15 09:33 AM |
| 16 | I do not deserve this man.how can I let him know that even with this horrible thing going on that he is a bright spot in my life? Tell him and show him. * I appreciate how supportive you've been with me with everything that has been going on. * It means a lot that you're here for me when I need you. * Text him a nice little note or write him one. * Cook him dinner. * Do something he enjoys that you might not. * Men are fixers. If you have a problem that you bring to him he's going to want to fix it. While he can't stop d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/15 09:23 AM |
| 1 | Coping with Hitting "The Wall"A year ago I was gorgeous, plenty of male attraction, easily an 8 or 9 out of ten. Then I settled down with a guy and shortly after, my looks started sinking. I'd say I'm a firm 7 now, maybe even a 6 on the bad days. I'm in my mid-twenties. I'm 25 and there are some days that I feel so old and unattractive. These are days where that morning kiss from my SO helps or putting on something really nice and hearing you look nice today helps. There are tons of things that you can do to pump up your moo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/15 09:10 AM |
| 1 | Dilemma with men: Show Respect vs. Taking for grantedI'm going to try to break this down piece by piece and may even ask a few more questions at the end to help me out. I either appreciate the man and I'm all lovey-dovey and amazed about anything he does but at the same time I become insecure about him leaving me because I admire him too much. If I try to counter the insecurity NRE, new relationship energy, can be incredibly intoxicating. Often with NRE things are great and lovely. You want to show the other person the very best side of you in ord… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/15 08:52 AM |
| 6 | Maxims for the young RPW.Don't drink in public or alone. Don't do drugs. If you black out in a strange man's bathroom at a house party, things can happen. While I agree that you shouldn't do drugs or get black out drunk I don't think you should say that you shouldn't drink at all. I think that drinking is fine as long as it isn't binge drinking. I would just rephrase this as don't drink excessively. I would also add into it that people should take up hobbies. Typically, hobbies can provide a good social network and can … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/15 10:18 PM |
| 1 | Redpill Women and online gamingI stream video games for a living and must say I heartily agree. I'm a huge MOBA player and main supports/tanks/controllers. It is my job to maintain proper positioning and help my team through using crowd control abilities and sustain. In my relationship I am my SO's source of support. I have the ability to help sustain him by feeding him well, decreasing his levels of stress, and providing help when asked. I have the ability to provide crowd control in making my home a safe zone where he has t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/15 09:35 PM |
| 2 | The Red Pill made me depressed. What did it do to you? Share your experience!I’m a low SMV female. I'm physically a 3/10. Because of bad genes, not because I let myself go. You're young and if you're even slightly attractive that gets you more than you think. Youth & fertility & beauty: These features are so damn transient. We lose those no matter what we do. It's frustrating that our SMV depends on things we have almost no control over. You've already mentioned some things you can do that help SMV, but there are more. Wear sunscreen and don't go tanning. It will save yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/15 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Does the education level of a woman matter?I'm going to speak from personal experience here. I've been with my SO for 6 years. He currently holds a Masters in Engineering from RIT. I, on the other hand, went to college for early childhood education and decided that wasn't what I wanted. I went to Cosmetology school where I didn't finish, because I didn't find it challenging and have proceeded to work on the internet from 12-5pm streaming video games. I am his version of the 50's housewife. I am not the breadwinner. I bring in little mont… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/15 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Need opinions on dropping this female friendship?The problem I have is that I've noticed that she needs a lot of male attention. I'd say most of her friends tend to be guys, and she likes to pretend that she does not have a boyfriend. When we were in public together, I noticed that she will flirt with a lot of guys and will not mention her bf, because in her words, "as soon as I mention him, they all stop talking to me." She's in constant contact with a lot of guys, and it's pretty clear to me that they are trying to win her over. She deleted … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/15 01:54 PM |
| 1 | "21 Lost Lady Traditions That Still Apply Today"I need to work on my language. It's really my biggest weakness. I've become so accustomed to foul language that it doesn't bother me and I don't even think about it. There are very few things on this list that I don't agree with excepting 16 and that is only because of the dating that goes on during the age of the internet. I'm from the South and was raised with strong southern moral and religious values so most of this has been ingrained into me. I would absolutely add complaints into this. I t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/15 01:34 PM |
| 1 | "Send me a Selfie... No, a sexy one."This is usually a warning sign/next for me - if they don't respect me respecting myself, they're not worth my time. I think this is a great way to look at it. You're telling that person that you value your body, but also your reputation. When you have a high value of your body and your reputation people tend to understand that you are looking for commitment. Men can shit test. They have values and qualities that they are searching for. This could be similar. Anyone who pushes the issue is an abs… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/15 01:09 PM |
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