AkranarKun Archive

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1	CMV: Apprroach opportunities are very rare realistically You seem to have some kind of mental block where women sitting with their friend groups at tables means you can't talk to them. You absolutely can and should talk to them and all of their friends.	/r/seduction	25/10/22 09:15 PM
2	CMV: Apprroach opportunities are very rare realistically How are approach opportunities rare? They only seem rare because you've just rejected most of them. Every example you've listed is a valid opportunity. The actual reality is that you're very rarely going to get opportunities with absolutely zero obstacles and you requiring such situations means your expectations and standards are too high. Acknowledge the obstacles, and then go approach and make them work anyway.	/r/seduction	25/10/22 09:06 PM
1	How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior? So what I'm about to say might be hard to swallow, but please hear me out. The thing I said earlier about framing conflicts is relevant here. If you're doing these approaches and looking for IOI's or signs that they're enjoying the conversation, it means that you're not confident enough in the framing of "I'm inherently fun to be around." and their default frame of "Some random stranger I don't know is talking to me" will win and become the dominant frame. You need to believe with 100% confidenc…	/r/seduction	15/09/22 08:56 PM
2	How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior? Did you consciously try to enjoy approaches even if they didn't go well? If you just do your approach but then feel bad when they don't go how you want them to, then nothing is going to change because you're just reinforcing your old beliefs about it. What worked for me was to just go out one night and set these rules: 1. Talk to as many people as I can. 2. Treat every approach as a win regardless of its result. This involves mentally congratulating yourself for doing the approach, after the app…	/r/seduction	15/09/22 08:42 PM
1	How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior? Yeah but it's really easy to learn to be curious about people by practicing cold approaches with the second framing. Even if it's not at first, just treat the interaction as if it is like that. Our brains are more plastic than people give credit for.	/r/seduction	15/09/22 08:28 PM
3	How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior? It really depends on your frame. If your frame is: "I'm approaching you because you're so amazing and can I please have some of your time and attention please please please" then of course you're needy. But if your frame is: "I'm having a fun time regardless, and I'm approaching you because you seem interesting and I'm a bit curious about you." Then that's not needy. Then when there are multiple frames in conflict with each other, whoever is most sure and confident in their frame will draw the o…	/r/seduction	15/09/22 08:16 PM
5	Girl comes during intercourse? Most women doesn’t mean all women, genius.	/r/seduction	30/07/22 09:10 PM
1	The catch-22 of attractiveness and confidence True confidence comes from knowing that you are enough. And by default, you are enough until you buy into a frame in which you are not. Identify those frames as being merely just that, frames, and peel back those layers until you arrive at only direct experience and peace and confidence. Then spend 10 years reminding yourself when you forget and fall into those frames again.	/r/seduction	24/05/22 08:13 PM
1	Can someone give me actual legit advices that really work? Have you gone out and tried any of it? Which ones worked and which ones didn't work in your personal experience? If you haven't gone out, then talking about it on on a message board is useless.	/r/seduction	19/05/22 07:13 PM
1	is it not possible to pick up women if i don't drink alcohol? I went out to bars and clubs 2-3 times a week for 3 years and didn't drink. No one cares. If anyone asks, just say you don't drink and move on.	/r/seduction	26/04/22 06:04 PM
6	For the girls, why doesn't she ever text me first when it seems like she's interested based off our conversations? That's not done by "attempting to kiss her after 2 weeks", thats called being a creepy horny fuck. You have this backwards. If you want to get in a relationship with her, sleep with her relatively quickly. Drawing things out and hiding your intentions for months is being a creepy horny fuck.	/r/seduction	11/04/22 04:57 PM
7	[deleted by user] It’s good to recognize what you did wrong and work to improve on it when you can. However, that’s not applicable in all situations. There will be plenty of times when you get rejected even when you do everything right. This has to be true and will always be true just by the fact that you do not have control of every single factor in every situation. If a poker player makes the best decision he can make given his estimation of the odds and the situation, but still loses because of chance, does he…	/r/seduction	04/10/21 05:27 AM
1	How is any of this supposed to work if you don't have any women interested in you to begin with? Exactly. Very early on this was exactly what I did and after that, every failure became a big joke and I could always laugh at it. It was probably one of the most important things I ever did in my life.	/r/seduction	04/09/21 09:24 AM
0	My god, this community is toxic as fuck. Thought we were supposed to support each other? Luck is a skill. Being prepared for opportunities, being able to recognize them, and being able to capitalize on them when they come are all skills. Showing up each day so that luck can even find you is also a skill.	/r/seduction	03/09/21 10:07 PM
5	How is any of this supposed to work if you don't have any women interested in you to begin with? Those things are not nearly as bad as you think they are.	/r/seduction	03/09/21 10:54 AM
12	How is any of this supposed to work if you don't have any women interested in you to begin with? Good advice that comes from the wisdom of knowing that your initial assessment of the situation is usually wrong. You keep using the word “clearly” but you really have no idea.	/r/seduction	03/09/21 10:51 AM
5	How is any of this supposed to work if you don't have any women interested in you to begin with? So the fuck what? Go ahead and fail then. You’re not going to be a master unless you do your time being the fool.	/r/seduction	03/09/21 10:10 AM
6	How is any of this supposed to work if you don't have any women interested in you to begin with? You place too much trust on your interpretation of the situation, but ultimately that interpretation is only in your mind and may not even be true. But so long as you hold that interpretation to be 100% true and don’t give any leeway for it to be false, you won’t even give yourself the chance to find out your were happily wrong.	/r/seduction	03/09/21 10:04 AM
3	How is any of this supposed to work if you don't have any women interested in you to begin with? No it’s not irrational. But who do you want to be? The guy who never get’s rejected or embarrassed but never sees any success because he never even tried? Or do you want to be the guy who has a lot of failure, but also has a lot of successes because he actually creates opportunities by making moves? Both are rational, but the first guy never gets anywhere while the second does.	/r/seduction	03/09/21 10:00 AM
4	How is any of this supposed to work if you don't have any women interested in you to begin with? Many women also don’t want to get rejected, and won’t show they’re interested even if they really are. If you’re also guarding your ego by doing the same, no one ever makes any moves and nothing ever happens. You’re really missing out on a lot of opportunity by having this ridiculous requirement that they show interest first.	/r/seduction	03/09/21 09:54 AM
5	How is any of this supposed to work if you don't have any women interested in you to begin with? That’s your problem. You won’t find success unless you’re first willing to accept failure. I would suggest you go out with the goal of failing 50 times just so you can first get rid of this unhealthy aversion of failure. Until you get comfortable or even start liking failure, this will hold you back way more in life than just with your relationships.	/r/seduction	03/09/21 09:50 AM
1	What is the difference between being creepy and flirty. Framing.	/r/seduction	17/08/20 05:51 PM
1	You're not a "nice guy" You're a pussy and scared of rejection. Yes.	/r/seduction	14/08/20 08:51 PM
13	Just got rejected and I feel like my heart was broken before I even went on a date Trust me, you don't understand women and you never understood her.	/r/seduction	25/01/20 08:22 PM
2	Clubbing when you are overseas and do not speak the local language > but in a club game is all about talk This is an assumption that can be true, but not necessarily true. Just talk to them in whatever language you feel like and assume they understand you. If they don't, then keep doing it while gesturing. Communication is much more than talking. > plus i cant get drunk and I do not drink as I want to be focused I never drink when I go out either.	/r/seduction	06/07/19 10:27 PM
2	Clubbing when you are overseas and do not speak the local language He's not wrong. You don't need to talk to them, especially when you're clubbing. I've had success with Taiwanese girls who don't speak any languages in common with me by just being fun and using google translate when I have to.	/r/seduction	06/07/19 10:22 PM
8	A little tip for making good eye contact - don’t just look in their eyes, FOCUS on them I think the problem is that people are trying to look at both eyes, but that's not going to help because there's a pretty big surface area between both eyes. Pick a single eye and look into that one. I personally always look at the one to the left from my perspective. When I started doing that, I got a lot of compliments about my 'piercing eyes' from girls I've dated. Now I just do it out of habit without thinking about it and I still get comments about it.	/r/seduction	10/02/19 05:38 AM