AkrasiaMonkess Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	CMV: If you believe it's fine that dating is not fair for men, you have to apply that to women too Part of their sidebar I think was actually in response to a "mysoginistic" comment I made way back.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/21 01:20 PM
1	What advice would you give here? I am an INTJ dating an ISTP. It seems to work very well for us. You have a masculine mindset, as do I, but being feminine is still something you can largely train yourself to become while balancing your more masculine traits. Believe me, I am in the same boat.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/05/21 02:20 PM
4	For RPW who value themselves and are in a LTR, what are ways you try to show some effort in the relationship (small things) & how do you know it’s being valued or appreciated? This has also been my experience. You going out of your way to give when he isn't is overinvestment and gives off masculine vibes. Step back only initiate and give with him minimum 60 and you 40 percent so that it's clear you are willing to give but you are still respecting his leadership and ensuring he respects your needs as well.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/04/21 02:36 AM
1	What does the RPW community think about enneagram? What was the name if the book you read?	/r/RedPillWomen	13/03/21 05:23 AM
1	Anxious attachment, my man on a trip and how to respond in a feminine way. Yeah, 5 months is really early for anything serious to occur in a relationship, so keep your expectations to a minimum. The best thing you can do is to recognize your anxious thoughts for what they are, learn to self soothe, keep your life full (best antidote for anxiety), let him text how he wants and just focus on enjoying whatever efforts he has been putting in. Don't get hung up on the things he isn't doing; I PROMISE you it will drive him away. If you allow your mind to operate from a place…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/02/21 04:17 PM
3	Anxious attachment, my man on a trip and how to respond in a feminine way. In my experience, desiring texts like that are just expectations. If he is great in every other way, why get so hung up on something so small? I say this as someone who also has anxious attatchment. I literally just had the same thing happen to me recently, actually, and to this day I still feel triggered and upset. My guy also hasn't been texting me. But every time I have overlooked something like that, whether intentional or not by him, he either eventually came around to doing it out of desir…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/02/21 01:55 PM
2	What subscription boxes do you enjoy? Tiege Hanley. It is a skincare subscription box marketed towards men, but it can work just as well for women. It fits all skin types, so if you need more specialized skincare it may not be for you, but it certainly has worked well for me. There is definite improvement in my skin from before I subscribed. Been using it for a year now. It isn't really a box, but is helpful subsciption, but I also plan on getting a subscription to a book summary website for goals like reading self improvement books…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/01/21 06:51 AM
1	Is FDS a big farce and a sham? This is what some women said about it. Lol, my post was banned on sight after mentioning things about how I turned a guy who wasn't treating me well into a loving boyfriend. After that all of sudden there were MORE posts than before about "don't settle for crumbs and LVM". Some of their sidebar I think was in reaction to my post they took down.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/21 05:07 PM
3	Has anybody else noticed that when you are looking for a partner, you don't find him but... My boyfriend found me; I never went out of my way to find him. I am such a case proving what you say. It is easier to keep an abundance mentality not doing anything and letting the universe to bring what it brings than it is to keep it while actively looking for someone.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/11/20 12:33 AM
2	Seasoned homicide investigator claims that sexually successful men are more likely to murder/harm women over rejection and handle rejection very poorly. Does this line up with your observations? Why does this occur so much if a man has options? Men who are successful sexually tend to be the "bad boys". And what characterizes bad boys? Men who are often considered dominating jerks with big egos who don't care about women. Their success comes from a narcissistic ego and not from a healthy place. So it isn't just about dominance, it's issues of self-worth. So it makes sense the same ego which controls them and got them women in the first place will end up controlling them in motive and action in the end. But unlike before, this time its d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/20 03:45 PM
2	Mommy Issues in Women I agree with this. My best friend currently is an INTP guy friend (very feminine, though). I totally relate to what you say. I need to go deep and share or crash my intellectual ideas with someone.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/10/20 12:23 AM
3	Mommy Issues in Women My mom cared about me growing up, but I never felt nurtured and encouraged to be feminine in any way. It may also be due to love languages, since hers is acts of service and mine is quality time. She was so busy taking care of the household and my other siblings I almost never had bonding time with her. She's very masculine in a lot of ways, and I have sensed for a long time I have a hard time being feminine because of it (plus issues with my dad as well). Your list applies to me as well. I don'…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/10/20 11:51 PM
6	Mommy Issues in Women I haven't so much been betrayed by women, but I feel so weird trying to connect with them and have had more guy friends or guy friends who are feminine as well. I know they don't meet my needs the same way girls do, but it is very uncomfortable trying to interact and adjust. Like you, the closest person to me is my boyfriend. I also feel like a lot of feminine things girls are into I just don't naturally like.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/10/20 11:41 PM
5	remaining a virgin until marriage. I am a Christian woman who is remaining virgin until marriage. Our relationship is two years old with my guy. He wishes to remain pure as well. I have been tempted by all the alpha bad boys, but I am telling you, what you are doing is worth it and it is possible to resist temptations like these with success and be happy and ok "missing out" on all of the fun and losing attention from these kinds of guys because you don't want just sex. And you can find men who are willing to hold themselves to t…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/09/20 04:21 PM
1	Q4W: Could you view a man that is crying as a protector? Instinctually, yes, it's a turn off. But there are so many roles in the world we play other than those for sexual and romantic relationships and exhibiting the traits necessary to sustain them. Enotionality to some degree is necessary for all human beings to healthily function in life, regardless of their gender. Being 100% masculine in everything disables you from living a dynamic, rich life experience. We must taste and enjoy food to live, but it isn't practical to make eating the center of ex…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/20 10:13 PM
7	How to exude sex appeal without trying too hard I used to be like you with social anxiety. Then I read an article on confidence and started faking it till I made it and now being social comes naturally and I am popular at my work. So of course, get out and practice talking to people and holding conversations. And of course, develop your character, your interests, and your appearance, and you will start feeling like you bring value to the table when interacting with others. When you see you bring something to the table and its based upon the o…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/05/20 12:28 PM
5	Own Your Shit You're not the only girl who reads MRP to improve herself..... Just remember that it's geared to guys and so you have to tailor their advice according to your needs as a woman. There's a lot in there which won't work for you because of your gender and could backfire and make you become unattractive. But there's also advice which I am convinced isn't male exclusive and benefits both genders. I feel I have a good grasp on what is applicable for my gender and what is not. Take your time to filter t…	/r/RedPillWives	17/04/20 04:12 AM
2	Super secret tip to discovering he has feelings for you My boyfriend did that.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/02/20 04:02 PM
2	How to deal with snarky comments (especially from women) in a graceful way? If I feel they are serious most times I may ignore, and I honestly don't care enough to engage. With both guys and girls if I have a good relationship with them I will often banter back in play, and it works wonders. If a guy is play-begging me, Amused Mastery works rather well and we get along great or they leave me alone.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/12/19 05:10 AM
5	Any feminine lifestyle type women to follow on IG? Katarina Phang - Feminine Magnetism Renee Wade - the Feminine Woman Sabrina and Eric Alexis - A New Mode Sheila Gregoire - To Love, Honor, and Vacuum	/r/RedPillWomen	22/12/19 04:56 PM
1	How does one deal with SO wanting you to play video games or be into sports? Congratulations, you managed to preserve your femininity while doing it; I never said you couldn't or it's impossible, but the point I was trying to make is that it's not the best route with a typical man. It doesn't seem like you read any of what I said above in my comments.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/12/19 07:11 PM
1	Me (22F) vetting my new partner (23M) for the first time after discovering RP and doubting my own judgement — am I just insecure or are there red flags with him? Read Katarina Phang. She specializes in situations like this.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/12/19 06:33 PM
1	How does one deal with SO wanting you to play video games or be into sports? Playing competitive video games emphasizes masculine traits like aggression and competition, not feminine traits, so it's not trivial. What's more attractive? You furiously tapping on buttons and defeating your virtual enemies with aggressiveness or you softly playing with a kitten? Let's be real, what would a guy find more attractive in a girl? It's true vice versa, I'm more attracted to a dude sweating in a gym than a guy who would paint his nails. It's all about the vibe and whatever activiti…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/12/19 04:19 PM
1	Self improvement is making my insecurities worse and while it doesn't make me hate people it doesn't really make me want relationships anymore It only seems extra harder because our culture changed and men and women don't know how to be men and women anymore. What was intuivitively simple and easy in defined gender roles for various civilizations throughout history is extra difficult in our period of history because we lost that basic knowledge. Yes, it's extra hard. But it doesn't get either gender what we want and we only make it harder on ourselves and our future generations by giving up. We have to clean up others' messes, take the…	/r/ExRedPill	11/12/19 06:31 PM
1	How does one deal with SO wanting you to play video games or be into sports? They may like it (but that's assuming it doesn't make them feel emasculated, which doesn't happen to all guys, but to most I feel), but most definitely not in the way a girl would want. He won't feel more attracted to her in the romantic sense, which I'm assuming is what your relationship is based upon. I don't want to be seen as more of bro than a lover to my guy, tbh.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/12/19 04:25 PM
1	How does one deal with SO wanting you to play video games or be into sports? Generally I dont think that works well, but if you can compensate with your femininity then do that. I would keep it limited, but if you make it a regular thing, like I said, just observe yourself. Also observe him and if he changes at all. I found my guy says he wants one thing, but when I do it we are less polarized. Guys typically think they want one thing when in instinctually they want something else. I've observed video games to be one of those cases much of the time.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/12/19 12:31 AM
1	How does one deal with SO wanting you to play video games or be into sports? I was a gamer girl in my teens, I still love gaming, and my boyfriend likes it when I join him, but don't sacrifice your femininity just to connect with him in that way because in the end you may develop problems. I noticed I was a lot more aggressive, developed anger issues, and became more masculine when I played games a lot (clarifying note: my specific emphasis here is on first-person shooter games or any games which are really competitive). While it meant I related more like a bro to other …	/r/RedPillWomen	08/12/19 03:44 AM
1	How to avoid becoming an alpha widow? Just remember that just because you may lose the best doesn't mean you can't find someone who's lower value yet is still attractive and meets alpha/beta needs. I have high SMV guys interested in me, yet lower value ones with some value I'm still attracted to, even if hypothetically my hypergamous tendencies would go with the best for my ideal preference.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/12/19 06:38 AM
1	How do you not become a toxic partner? Look up attatchment styles. Most toxic relationships stem from unresolved childhood wounds.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/11/19 06:00 AM
1	Seeking Help with little things in an otherwise amazing relationship Lose your expectations. Example: My boyfriend has never introduced me to his family, and I've learned not to take it personally (never crossed his mind as a thing to really do when you're with a woman, and for that matter, it never crossed mine either). When we started dating he didn't treat me like men are typically supposed to. Nothing lavish like women here would demand. Example: He had a sports car and had never ever given me a ride. Example: my brother and I worked at a retail store and wor…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/19 06:52 AM
1	I'm too clingy and intense. How do I fix this? Read Katarina Phang's blog. She specializes in women's issues like these and I was exactly like you and found her advice helpful.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/11/19 02:30 PM
1	Older 50+Ms find me(22F) attractive but not men my own age. WHY? Could be, but I'm only speaking from my own experience.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/10/19 02:16 PM
5	Older 50+Ms find me(22F) attractive but not men my own age. WHY? There are many factors that make up SMV (sexual market value), but it overall it has to do with objective, physical attractiveness. Girls in their peak years of youth and beauty are in their teens and 20s.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/10/19 01:16 AM
12	Older 50+Ms find me(22F) attractive but not men my own age. WHY? That happens to me a lot (20F). Older men hit on me quite a bit. It's not that I've never had younger guys do it, but they tended to be lower SMV than me. High SMV dudes my age have rarely hit on me. I think generally because younger guys in western cultures aren't segregated from females in their peer group they'll have more interactions with and have higher standards to go after 10/10 girls. They'll want the best. It's not that girls who dont fall into that category arent pretty, teen years an…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/10/19 11:39 PM
1	Partner read my dream journal and now wants to date other women? Lol, just dont want the same thing to happen to you.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/10/19 07:35 PM
4	Partner read my dream journal and now wants to date other women? In a real relationship, when you make mistakes you both work on it together to solve it; that's the only way it can survive and meet each others needs. Its not throwing a mantrum and threatening to find someone else if you dont do what he wants. His decisions indicate emotional immaturity, lack of self control, and abusive tendencies. High value men worthy of a relationship and respect will be in control of themselves and not convey unstable traits such as these. And like others have said, havin…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/10/19 01:56 PM
1	What short guys have to do to make it: compensate; empirical proof that getting buff and lean is the way Lol, I dont know if that was the kind of answer you were expecting, but I hope it helps.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/19 06:18 AM
1	What short guys have to do to make it: compensate; empirical proof that getting buff and lean is the way Confidence is another word for self assuredness. When you believe in something and trust that belief, enough for it to affect your attitude and actions, then assuming it's grounded in fact and reality, that mind state is confidence. You have a sense of assuredness which you can act on with certainty and which gives you a sense of calmness. So like, if you're a guy who works on himself to become an attractive man and you are assured women will find you attractive, you trust that belief and have a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/19 06:18 AM
1	What short guys have to do to make it: compensate; empirical proof that getting buff and lean is the way Fit body is pretty relative, but essentially keeping yourself healthy and building some muscle for your body type. My guy is short, but he has a broad figure and the muscle he's put on complements him well, conveying to me a sense of largeness whi h makes up a lot. A confident (differentiate from cocky and arrogant) attitude also makes up for so much.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/19 05:48 AM
1	What short guys have to do to make it: compensate; empirical proof that getting buff and lean is the way What do you mean?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/19 02:22 PM
2	Partner is ignoring me? Have you read Katarina Phang? I've read her stuff and applied it to my life and it's worked since I had a situation similar to yours at one point and managed to fix it. She specializes in situations like these, so please, give her a shot.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/09/19 02:17 PM
3	(advice) How do I accept being in the passive role? I'm like you and have made similar mistakes. Check out Katarina Phang's blog; she specializes in situations like this.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/09/19 03:46 PM
7	What short guys have to do to make it: compensate; empirical proof that getting buff and lean is the way My boyfriend (first and only one so far) is 3 inches shorter than me and has a well built upper body of muscle. Needless to say, one of my first standards for myself to be with a guy was that he couldn't be shorter than me (lol, that went out the window). If you're short, a fit body and a confident attitude can make up for any height deficiencies. As a 5'10 girl, it certainly worked on me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/19 04:02 PM
1	Are there any RPW blogs or youtube channels? NollaGirl504 [YouTube channel] Katarina Phang (she's changed my life; cant endorse her enough) [YouTube channel and blog] A New Mode (Eric and Sabrina Alexis) [blog] The Feminine Woman (Renee Wade) [YouTube channel and blog]	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/19 05:09 PM