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You brought her to see your cat. What did you think would happen next? There's nothing seductive at all about that. She is likely well aware this was not your real intention. Hidden agendas combined with an experience that probably didn't even slightly stir her emotions is a dead end. Not trying to be rude. Just being honest with you.
/r/seduction21/12/25 06:39 PM
1

You have to understand that women's reality in dating is the complete opposite of most men. Men are a limitless resource requiring zero effort on their part. As such, most men have absolutely no value until they prove they do (hence shit tests). Women will humor you for all sorts of reasons including curiosity, power dynamics etc. But really, if they are being genuine and not messing with you; they are waiting to see if you make them 'feel' the way they want. There's a time limit on this before …
/r/seduction21/12/25 06:13 PM
17

That's the catch. You can't just stop chasing and expect tons of female attention. You have divert that energy into self improvement. I don't know how to explain it other than women being extremely sensitive to a man's vibe. They can literally sense if you're improving yourself and going places or wasting your time.
/r/seduction04/12/25 09:09 PM
14

A lot of people don't realize or want to accept it but men fall in love far easier and faster than women. All the fake romantic movies would have you thinking the opposite. In modern society, men are practically just a novelty to women. They have practically unlimited access to male attention the way that only a celebrity could have prior to the internet and social media. You forget to call her or give her some space? There's 200 guys blowing up her inbox in the meantime and like a cat she gets …
/r/seduction03/12/25 05:06 PM
1

Flying who out? Some broad on the internet? No way buddy.
/r/seduction02/12/25 03:52 AM
2

Emotional resilience under stress is very attractive to women. It's almost alien to them.
/r/seduction30/11/25 04:09 PM
1

Twice is my limit. It is within the realm of possibility something comes up the first time. Second time is a pattern and it doesn't even matter whether she's telling the truth or not. I don't want any association with someone who can't manage their time that badly even if they're kind and honest.
/r/seduction30/11/25 12:27 AM
28

Social validation and how much of a challenge you are. Most guys know you can lose a woman to all the obvious stuff but few think about how boredom can be the kiss of death too. Even if you have massive social validation, you can kill any prospective relationship before it even gets going if you volunteer up everything about yourself and commit fully without any strings attached. Cue the super committed married guys getting no sex.
/r/seduction30/11/25 12:23 AM
24

That's enough right there to make you lose all respect for women. Though I did laugh at the blessing of the hoe's council part.
/r/seduction30/11/25 12:18 AM
1

Show skin. /Closethread
/r/seduction24/11/25 02:30 PM
1

Yes or really anything positive. What you think you become is not an understatement.
/r/seduction24/11/25 03:32 AM
1

There's hordes of men out there stuck neck deep in the friend zone who have the woman's full trust. Sorry buddy, trust is important but not some magic bullet.
/r/seduction23/11/25 08:36 PM
12

If you want friends you act friendly. If you want a romantic relationship, you act romantic and sexual. It really boils down to this. Women are happy to agree with whatever energy you put out.
/r/seduction23/11/25 08:34 PM
3

Situational is great. As long as you don't get stuck in that low pressure comfort zone it can produce. You still have to go way out on a limb, take some risks in order to escalate it beyond mild friendly small talk.
/r/seduction23/11/25 04:31 AM
96

'Game' is about mimicking how a high value man would behave. Or, you actually become that high value man. Then it's just being yourself. The reason why this probably won't work out for you is because a high value man would never in a million years quit his job to frantically chase women as their primary goal. Women can smell that type of energy and it comes off creepy as can be.
/r/seduction23/11/25 04:19 AM
2

Save you some time here. Being nice isn't the problem. Being a weakling is.
/r/seduction23/11/25 04:12 AM
1

Learning how women actually think and operate alone will do the trick. Quite honestly it's enough to make you very cynical about women if you're not careful. If anything, I feel kind of bad for women. The struggle is more about having respect for the average woman in today's culture.
/r/seduction22/11/25 11:08 PM
4

Yea it's common anywhere people are drinking booze. Don't expect relationship quality women at a bar though. Spend some time learning the subtle signs that differentiate a woman being friendly as opposed to flirting. It could be either from what you state.
/r/seduction20/11/25 12:29 AM
1

First of all, the planned sex needs to go in the trash right away. Spontaneous is the only way unless you want to be single soon. Forget about therapy, journaling videos, meditation. These all have their place but you need to get out of your pre-frontal cortex and into your lizard brain. No porn, lift weights, maca root, nitric oxide supplements and when you're really feeling it just go for it with her without asking or really saying anything.
/r/seduction19/11/25 03:21 AM
3

Tension by definition is a bit uncomfortable. Stop trying to make women feel so comfortable all the time in your interactions. I could be wrong but that type of people pleaser personality is probably behind the need to talk so much.
/r/seduction19/11/25 03:15 AM
1

Get a divorce if this is what you want.
/r/seduction18/11/25 10:37 PM
3

For the most part, everyone already instinctually knows what to do. Animals do it every day without autistic level analysis. And we are indeed animals but with a mind capable of creating elaborate fantasies and excuses to avoid the obvious. It's 90% about overcoming fears and 10% about understanding the nuance of female psychology.
/r/seduction18/11/25 06:47 PM
10

You pass shit tests by not even participating in them at all in most cases. She responds awkwardly to your music preference, you just move on and talk about something else.
/r/seduction17/11/25 06:28 PM
1

Take a public speaking class or something along those lines. Stage fright and fear of approaching are very parallel fears.
/r/seduction17/11/25 02:43 AM
24

Umm she probably just thinks you troll that bar saying the same pickup lines over and over to every girl there. You goofed up by forgetting you already approached her previously. Mix alcohol into the situation and people can easily become aggressive.
/r/seduction16/11/25 04:37 PM
1

Neither positive or negative are necessarily the answer. Focus your energy into being content and thankful with what you do have. Understand that even very successful people in all walks of life have failed multiple times over before succeeding. This goes way beyond seduction and women. Coincidentally, when you are legitimately content with yourself, women will also find you more attractive. Approach women with a sense of curiosity. Where the goal is the interaction itself and not a phone number…
/r/seduction15/11/25 06:11 PM
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High status just means to both her and other women you would be considered "a catch". They would regret letting you slip away. It is definitely true guys who are a catch have a lot more breathing room with how they behave. Does money and ability to provide play a part? Absolutely. The missing piece of the puzzle is that money doesn't make her attracted to you. Rich guys can have tons of trouble attracting women too because attraction happens on a subconscious level. Once she's already attracted …
/r/seduction12/11/25 11:30 PM
1

Who knows. She could have been jealous of you flirting with the other girl and wants to make you doubt yourself. No use letting it bother you.
/r/seduction12/11/25 07:47 PM
1

If your mind goes blank just say hey how you doing? Or hi. Seriously, the more normal the interaction the less awkward and spotlight-ish it is.
/r/seduction12/11/25 06:11 PM
1

Nope. If something happens to that money or status she's out the door to the next guy. Probably before you even hit the ground. That's not at all her liking you for you. There's countless stories of guys who thought their wives loved them. Spent decades with them only to fall on hard times and have the woman immediately bounce on them.
/r/seduction12/11/25 05:47 PM
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I would simply say that men and women are quite different but that I believe all people should be treated fairly. And then promptly move on. That's it. Anything else attached to 'feminism' is just people twisting it around to fit an agenda or become radical for the sake of it.
/r/seduction12/11/25 05:41 PM
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Nice job man! I mean really, for anyone reading this, what exactly are you afraid of? The whole fear is totally irrational unless you're making a move on your female boss at work or something. Chances are, you will never see this person again, most women are polite even when rejecting. And even if they're rude, it literally means nothing. It doesn't mean anything about your self worth. It only means they aren't interested in that moment in the mood they are in right then and there.
/r/seduction12/11/25 05:28 PM
9

To add to this, I've even experienced girls that seemed very enthusiastic with their words and their texts but their actions clearly didn't show it at all. Women really don't like confrontation so you MUST pay attention only to actions. You'll know very quickly if you're honest with yourself whether she's really interested.
/r/seduction12/11/25 05:16 PM
1

This is it. No matter your situation, if you fully own it confidently it will be attractive to women. Women are more growth oriented than penalizing you for your current situation. If it's clear that you have a plan and your situation is improving daily they are typically happy with that.
/r/seduction11/11/25 05:43 PM
0

Being a jerk isn't attractive either. You're working with an incomplete understanding of what's going on. Being very assertive, speaking your mind, having no ulterior motives and having very firm boundaries are attractive. Being an ass for the sake of being an ass won't get you anywhere.
/r/seduction10/11/25 06:54 PM
2

Your entire approach on a first date where you're trying to get sex is going to be completely different than someone trying to get to know someone for a potential relationship. Every word, every action will be about tension building and seducing her. If you can get here in the right mood you are basically working on a timer. If that mood expires you're SOL.
/r/seduction10/11/25 06:48 PM
6

There's several things to unpack here. First, yes it is a numbers game to some extent but if what you are doing isn't working you need to stop, assess what you're doing wrong and course correct. It sounds like you're banging head against the wall with the same routine. Second, the more you learn about what makes women tick, the more jaded you can become with almost near certainty. It's actually quite disheartening to truly understand that all of the romantic ideals are mostly all BS. The flip si…
/r/seduction10/11/25 06:44 PM
5

It sucks but at least you know if you did it then, you can do it again. I quit drinking this year. Really don't miss it anymore.
/r/seduction10/11/25 06:28 PM
11

Women just report whatever emotion they're feeling. They didn't feel romantic feelings around you. Which isn't to say is your fault (you can't control other people) but you can do things differently to help facilitate those feelings being more likely. If the interaction was missing flirting, tension building, man to woman interactions it is not surprising they are saying this to you. Make sure you're not just conducting an interview on a date. Never be just friends with a woman you are attracted…
/r/seduction10/11/25 06:24 PM
2

Just putting it out there as my phone has seemingly held onto texts and then released them all at once before when I open it up.
/r/seduction10/11/25 02:40 AM
4

Brutal honesty after establishing rapport. Some will take it, some won't.
/r/seduction09/11/25 08:38 PM
4

Agreed.
/r/seduction09/11/25 08:29 PM
2

Why not both? Honestly, start listening to your gut and you'll know pretty quickly in the moment what seems right.
/r/seduction09/11/25 05:50 PM
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No risk, no reward really needs to be ingrained in every guys brain if they want success with women.
/r/seduction09/11/25 05:47 PM
1

Modern dating is truly a humiliation ritual for most men. Lack of options will make horny dudes act beyond pathetic. There's a mile long list I could write about how modern women have lost their way but it's equally true about men. Most men today are so far detached from their core masculinity and acting like little boys. Men have become soft, weak and pathetic and women are to some degree just adapting to what's out there.
/r/seduction09/11/25 05:44 PM
5

Most studies done with women confirm that women like muscular men (no surprise) with it changing depending on her cycle. When you start getting crazy about it though, the effect starts to harm you for most women. Think the guys with the comically big muscles and shrunken dicks on roids. There's a happy medium.
/r/seduction09/11/25 05:41 PM
1

Something to keep in mind is that all women pull away at times. Sometimes it's for personal reasons, sometimes it's because they genuinely aren't interested and sometimes to gauge how needy, dependent and emotionally strong the man is. It's one of the most common and easy ways for women to cut through all the BS that guys throw at them. If the guy who was acting all cool, confident and masculine turns into a blubbering little girl blowing up her phone when she pulls back for a few days she knows…
/r/seduction09/11/25 05:36 PM
4

It's not that working on yourself and your personal resume will get you girls, although it can certainly help. It's the personal transformation and vibe change that successful men have. If you can achieve that vibe that women love without building a successful life you can still pull it off. As you obviously noticed with deadbeats who still get women. To put it more bluntly, your personal resume of success doesn't in and of itself generate attraction. They become bonuses once a woman is already …
/r/seduction09/11/25 05:29 PM
1

Not interested in sex? That's really where you need to start. What's that about?
/r/seduction09/11/25 05:22 PM
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If your go to is an apology in your opening line, you need to reset your entire perspective. I know this seems minor but it's not.
/r/seduction09/11/25 08:58 AM
4

Feels wrong or feels scary? It carries risk. You can mess up and she can reject you. But no risk no reward.
/r/seduction09/11/25 12:13 AM
3

Safety in reference to the woman feeling safe around you. Not just physically but emotionally. Safe to express herself. Safe to let her guard down. Safe to pull back without you freaking out. Safety is right near the top of priorities with women and almost never thought about with men. Even guys in long term relationships frequently fail to understand this. They do it at their own peril because a woman that doesn't feel safe to be herself around a man is a woman that won't be there for long. Saf…
/r/seduction09/11/25 12:09 AM
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The goal should be to build tension. Friendly platonic conversations have zero tension. No tension = no seduction = she gets bored and bounces out of your life eventually. The absolute ideal scenario for a woman is where a man is skilled enough to subtly flirt and slowly keep building tension. Sometimes over days and weeks even. And then in one big event the tension is released in a massively physical event. This is your goal. Generating safety and tension.
/r/seduction09/11/25 12:02 AM
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This is the answer. There's no way around this but people will still try. The reason it's avoided is because it carries a certain degree of risk. A nice friendly conversation you're having with a woman can go south pretty quickly if you're not careful with how you flirt. Or if you waited too long to introduce this dynamic. Reaching a plateau where you're comfortable approaching and talking to women but still afraid of creating a man to woman dynamic is extremely common.
/r/seduction08/11/25 11:51 PM
5

Like any fear, you must face it. Go talk to them. There's no other way.
/r/seduction08/11/25 09:11 PM
8

That's a refreshingly honest answer. To be honest, I've met very few women who I truly respect. As in their character was really decent and deserving of respect. The rest of them, their opinions are meaningless to me and they should be to you too. Getting star struck by a pretty face is one of the silliest fears once you really start facing it head on.
/r/seduction08/11/25 07:22 PM
5

You're competing for readers the hard way. Only 10% of people actually read these posts that amount to rambling novels.
/r/seduction07/11/25 06:04 PM
16

That's a super specific scenario man lol. Just go for it. Who cares if it gets awkward.
/r/seduction07/11/25 05:05 AM
2

Anything and everything that increases testosterone, increase. Don't touch porn with a 10 foot pole.
/r/seduction06/11/25 06:23 PM
8

Lmao
/r/seduction06/11/25 02:24 AM
3

First of all, you have to remember that women will typically have two categories of men they desire. One to mate with and one to have a relationship with (safety). The guy who she wants to have a relationship with will probably still have to jump through some hoops (to prove he's actually a safe reliable choice) and the one she mates with will not. His genetics are on display for the world to see. There's a quote I recall vaguely that sums up the kind of energy women are magnetically attracted t…
/r/seduction05/11/25 05:16 PM
2

Stop holding back. Just start saying exactly what you mean to women and see how it goes. Go rewatch the movie office space where the main guy totally stops giving a fuck and everything falls into place for him.
/r/seduction05/11/25 05:07 PM
4

An entire novel for a post again and he makes a glaring typo in the first line lol.
/r/seduction05/11/25 02:24 AM
2

Girls pull away for a variety of reasons. Some are tests to see your emotional strength and some are because the interest came and went. Either way, that night is over and women's emotions change like the weather. The best thing you can do now is absolutely nothing. Send no texts, do nothing and carry on with your life.
/r/seduction03/11/25 06:19 PM
305

You're witnessing the magic of preselection and how women will suddenly become interested for the sole reason you had the attention of another woman.
/r/seduction03/11/25 03:58 AM
-1

Either burned out on porn or he's actually gay. Yes, it could be something else but as a betting man I'd say it's one or both of the above.
/r/seduction03/11/25 03:56 AM
8

It means she's letting you down easy. Words mean jack shit. Only pay attention to actions.
/r/seduction03/11/25 03:53 AM
3

Stop asking if they have a boyfriend and honestly even the compliments aren't necessary unless they are truly genuine and unique. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself and just have a normal conversation that you take control of. What is said is far less important than how it's said. The vibe is what women will respond to either positively or negatively. Do not ask questions that you can't answer yourself and add to.
/r/seduction02/11/25 09:26 PM
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Completely? No. Bravery isn't the absence of fear. It's pushing forward despite the fear. You can become very clear about the illusionary nature of fear though. Meditation is very useful in this regard.
/r/seduction02/11/25 08:44 PM
18

Yea it's kind of ridiculous. Lots of nerdy logical types here trying to solve attraction like it's an algebra equation. The biggest irony being that when you get out of your head and into a flow state, that's when the magic happens. In seduction, at work and all of life really.
/r/seduction02/11/25 05:43 PM
1

I wouldn't normally advise this but in this case I'd say go find a hooker and get it over with. A ton of that frustration (women can easily sense it too) will vanish and improve your interactions.
/r/seduction02/11/25 05:38 PM
16

There's zero rules and games for guys a woman is overtly sexually attracted to. Women will categorize guys similar to men with relationship or one night stand. The most common trait separating the two is dominance. A man with very dominant traits will be the one who can take a woman home who usually has all these rules and hoops to jump through.
/r/seduction01/11/25 09:32 PM
0

Who knows. Maybe Steve gets a lot of hookers.
/r/seduction01/11/25 04:21 PM
82

Lmao. The lingo is really weird on this post.
/r/seduction01/11/25 12:14 AM
4

Regret is far more painful than rejection my friend.
/r/seduction31/10/25 06:57 PM
8

Godspeed.
/r/seduction31/10/25 05:34 PM
7

I somehow glazed over the fact this is her work. Oh boy, Yea OP is flirting with a restraining order and a ban from this store.
/r/seduction31/10/25 12:28 AM
8

What's the deal with calling twice over and over? This is a textbook case of chasing a woman right out of your life.
/r/seduction31/10/25 12:10 AM
0

Don't be a scum bag.
/r/seduction30/10/25 05:36 PM
4

Bingo.
/r/seduction30/10/25 02:26 AM
2

Please tell me this is a joke.
/r/seduction30/10/25 02:24 AM
6

No he's correct. Believe it or not they've actually done studies on this ridiculous stuff. There's a statistically significant increase among women's perceptions of a man's attractiveness across multiple cultures.
/r/seduction30/10/25 02:14 AM
1

Telling girls you're their future husband has a 95% success rate? Okey dokey.
/r/seduction29/10/25 04:10 PM
13

In addition to many other reasons to skip the "nice guy" routine, there's one big one people often overlook. Which is of course that it's boring. When women talk about not feeling a connection, they mean among other things that their emotions didn't get stirred up. To some degree, it almost doesn't matter what flavor of emotion. It's more important that she has a strong emotional reaction of any type (think scene where woman is upset with man, then having sex 30 seconds later).
/r/seduction29/10/25 04:07 PM
9

Spot on.
/r/seduction29/10/25 03:59 PM
5

The whole husband/wife joke is really cringey bro. Yes, you can tell it's a joke but I would avoid that like the plague.
/r/seduction29/10/25 03:54 PM
1

No. That's the foundation. You build on it from there. Vibe is the most important.
/r/seduction28/10/25 09:09 PM
1

Women communicate to convey emotional states. They tell stories to share how they felt. The same happens when you communicate with them. If you're tense, no smile and nervous you convey that emotional state to them. If you feel comfortable, positive and display that outwardly they will share that feeling with you.
/r/seduction28/10/25 06:23 PM
8

You masturbate daily. The answer is right at the bottom of your post. Stop doing that.
/r/seduction28/10/25 05:22 AM
3

"You either suffer the pain of discipline or you suffer the pain of regret". Psychological fear (where you're not in any real danger) is God's gift to show you where something really transformational is possible in your life. To find out how illusionary fear is you must walk directly into it. Even in the off chance you get rejected, you will be substantially better off and likely proud of yourself for doing it. Subsequent times and other girls will be easier to approach. You know what you must d…
/r/seduction27/10/25 08:08 PM
11

Lmao
/r/seduction27/10/25 02:32 PM
-1

Unless you've experienced this first hand, neither one of us knows how you would feel.
/r/seduction27/10/25 04:17 AM
1

Just laugh and keep it light. What you say is so much less important than how you say it and what vibe you're leading with. Only way to ruin this hypothetical is to get irritated.
/r/seduction27/10/25 04:02 AM
1

Maybe, and this is a big maybe I would believe you about the first time it happens. A man that is constantly worried of losing a woman will most definitely not make her feel more secure long term. In fact, the exact opposite will take place 99.9% of the time.
/r/seduction27/10/25 03:58 AM
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Indeed. Girls just a tad bit more though to put it mildly. You have to be very careful though. Being the kind considerate guy who appears very friendly, a good listener but then reveals he actually wants something else afterwards is NOT very well received.
/r/seduction26/10/25 07:20 PM
207

Yes, girls do in fact like attention and validation. As long as you're not being rude or trying to stop them while they're in a rush, it's generally going to be received with flattery.
/r/seduction26/10/25 07:04 PM
4

It's just a test to see if they can shake you. Especially if it seems like your interaction with her is some manufactured rehearsed bit. It doesn't even matter what you say as long as it's clear that you aren't bothered by it.
/r/seduction26/10/25 03:17 PM
10

This is correct. You want to avoid the salesman approach to win her over. The more convincing you try to do, the more shit tests are going to fly your way to find the cracks in your "presentation" and reveal your true self.
/r/seduction26/10/25 03:11 PM
1

In the champagne room.
/r/seduction26/10/25 02:25 PM
8

Most women are not going to just have high interest at hello. Seduction is just understanding how attraction works and using it to your advantage. Even in a scenario where you meet a girl who vibes very well with you, it's exceptionally easy to fumble the whole thing if you don't understand core principles. And it's not even about manipulation. Women love a man who actually knows how to push the right buttons.
/r/seduction26/10/25 03:20 AM
128

You should take all advice from women about women with the understanding that 90% of the time they're speaking from the perspective of what they want once they're extremely attracted or in love with a man. Many women aren't even aware of what actually gets them attracted in the first place and are surprised by their own feelings.
/r/seduction25/10/25 06:37 PM
4

Ya this is a tough one to believe but if it's real, congrats OP.
/r/seduction25/10/25 04:22 PM
1

Congrats man but this is a full blown novel.
/r/seduction25/10/25 03:52 PM
3

Exactly. People forget what it was like before the Internet. Now everyone needs a college lesson on how to interact normally with each other.
/r/seduction25/10/25 01:23 AM
8

This seems like a misconception of what cold approach is or should be. If you're leaving your house on a daily basis to go stalk certain areas with the sole intention of approaching women, you're definitely going to come off creepy. And as you say, you'll eventually develop some sort of reputation. Cold approach can be boiled down to just living your daily life and not being afraid to talk/flirt and escalate interactions with women you run into. Cold approach done properly should never even in a…
/r/seduction25/10/25 12:58 AM
2

Not sure I'm following the question. Sounds like you just need to work on some self acceptance. Women are more than willing to agree with any negativity you put out about yourself. Likewise with acceptance.
/r/seduction25/10/25 12:50 AM
1

Your first girlfriend was a girl with erectile dysfunction?
/r/seduction25/10/25 12:46 AM
1

For every woman online there's well over a hundred guys messing around for her attention. It's a total waste of time in most cases. Half of them are just bored and getting endless validation. You could be doing everything "correct" and still get dicked around with. Learning to be comfortable approaching in real life will be one of the most valuable skills you ever learn. Even if you suck at it at first, you are already ahead of the curve since most guys are too scared to go about it.
/r/seduction24/10/25 11:56 PM
3

Women are strange. They will actually prefer different type of men at different points in their monthly cycle. Also, a man's personality can literally change how she views his physical attractiveness.
/r/seduction24/10/25 09:50 PM
6

My wording was a bit sloppy but that's also why I said 'generally'. Those are extreme examples of levels beyond anything beneficial. Certainly I'm not arguing unhinged pimple faced guys are attractive. But there is a strong correlation both between people and animals with higher testosterone and attractiveness to females. Particularly with dominant behavioral traits.
/r/seduction24/10/25 08:52 PM
11

True. Your appearance probably works to your advantage by making them feel safe quicker than most. Then you lay into them with confidence and it doesn't even matter what you look like anymore.
/r/seduction24/10/25 06:47 PM
4

Players know two things. First, they know that attraction is not a choice. They know if they say and do the right things in the right order and in the right way, 'most' women will have a visceral and emotional reaction to it. On an intellectual level they may even find the guy to be an asshole, a pig and repulsive and may even say so. But the emotional pull is too strong and women ultimately always follow this path. The second is that women genuinely love a man who knows how attraction works wit…
/r/seduction24/10/25 06:42 PM
81

Anything that displays higher testosterone levels and a lack of psychological fear will generally get a woman's attraction levels elevated. Every physical characteristic that women tend to like is signaling that the man has higher testosterone. Even a homeless looking guy can get a girl if he just totally owns his appearance without shame. What you're describing with just saying whatever is incredibly attractive especially when contrasted against all the other guys walking on egg shells who are …
/r/seduction24/10/25 06:35 PM
1

I would never want to have sex with a girl on the first date if I thought she was long term relationship material. Even if I could pull it off. You know what I'm talking about. You can figure out if a girl fits in that role or not pretty quickly.
/r/seduction24/10/25 06:29 PM
3

Girls love attention and games.
/r/seduction23/10/25 10:19 PM
35

100%. Time is your most valuable commodity. Don't spend it on people who don't reciprocate.
/r/seduction23/10/25 06:50 PM
2

You ask her questions that you want to and know how to answer yourself. What I mean by that is that for every question you ask, every topic you should have something to talk about in relation to the subject. Don't ask questions about topics you have absolutely nothing to say. If I were to ask "Do you like to go hiking?" And I've never been hiking, I'm setting myself up for awkward silence.
/r/seduction23/10/25 04:51 PM
1

You can't control other people so let's just get that out of the way first. But if you think about attraction like two magnets, you can make yourself more magnetic, more powerful, more noticeable. That's really where the focus should be.
/r/seduction23/10/25 02:43 PM
1

Yes, you should call them out on being flakes. Not because this will get you dates but because a lot of women go their whole lives without being held accountable. There's a handful that may actually really like that you're holding them accountable and drawing boundaries. At the end of the day, you should move on from flaky women or women who ghost you. You have nothing to lose.
/r/seduction22/10/25 11:08 PM
3

Just don't man. It's an unspoken rule to not go about this there unless she's hitting you up.
/r/seduction22/10/25 11:00 PM
24

It means she's not attracted to you, period full stop. Regardless of the reasons why, this is a dead end. There's nothing to be done or said that will fix this. Be glad she's letting you know rather than leading you on and wasting your time.
/r/seduction22/10/25 10:59 PM
2

Literally everything that isn't just casual safe conversation conveys some degree of risk. Touching, kissing, making it clear you actually like her romantically and sexually. Going in for a kiss, telling her no and setting boundaries.
/r/seduction22/10/25 06:50 PM
1

Good text game is an oxymoron. Texting to build attraction is like walking through a mine field. Women draw far more from personal interactions than words on a screen which can and will be perceived differently than you intended. Good text game for a man is to be short and sweet. To the point and mostly about logistics of meeting up.
/r/seduction22/10/25 06:48 PM
2

Yea, this whole topic is not flirting. You're just going to wind up pissing her off.
/r/seduction22/10/25 06:45 PM
5

You have to take risks to get what you want. It doesn't end after you approach and get her attention. You have to keep taking risks to progress the relationship. This is scary because it involves saying and doing things that might offend and even potentially lose her altogether. But as you see, the alternative is just as bad. The relationship just quietly dies of boredom otherwise.
/r/seduction22/10/25 02:28 AM
5

You fumbled it bro.
/r/seduction21/10/25 03:47 AM
1

It's not about what career you have. It's about your level of drive. Women find a man with a lot of personal drive and ambition very attractive. They always want to be able to picture future growth. A man with goals who's working a dead end job now is often still more attractive than a man with a good job that has totally settled and doesn't want to advance or grow in life. Generally speaking.
/r/seduction20/10/25 02:15 AM
3

If you believe you're penalized for it, women will be happy to agree with you. The same advice of just getting out there applies. Your height isn't going to change. You don't have to become the next tom cruise (he's comically short) you just have to carry that same energy with attractive women that you do with everyone else. Only way to do that is practice.
/r/seduction19/10/25 04:24 PM
2

Yep, that's it. Like anything, you become more confident by doing it. This is no exception.
/r/seduction19/10/25 03:15 PM
4

First you have to be clear about what your goal is or was. What were you trying to achieve? Because at the end of the day there's nothing wrong with just playing pool with a couple of women and having fun. If you're trying to seduce one or both, the interaction must move beyond just being friendly. A lot of guys get stuck at this imaginary ceiling specifically because it means you must take additional risk. The interaction must move into the domain of you being a man and them being women. Flirti…
/r/seduction19/10/25 03:10 PM
6

I've lived your ultimate goal of having a family and a very long term relationship. And even that went down in flames. I don't view it as wasted years but it is heartbreaking and sometimes you most definitely are meant to feel sad. It's not a mistake. You don't need to find a solution or a pill or a new woman. You need to fully feel it, accept it and give it to God. I was never a very religious person and I still have issues with organized religion. But, my relationship with God personally has b…
/r/seduction19/10/25 06:17 AM
5

Go watch some YouTube videos interviewing women in Miami. The city is filled with vapid gold digger model types. Not my cup of tea but there's definitely beautiful women there.
/r/seduction19/10/25 05:35 AM
35

Got a taste for the lady boys eh?
/r/seduction18/10/25 07:50 PM
25

One of my best cold approaches was with a woman with oversized headphones on. We talked for over an hour and I still see her occasionally. She initiated a lot of the conversation too after the initial approach. There are no hard and fast rules here. The only thing limiting OP or anyone else is limiting beliefs. Whatever you believe is possible is what your reality tends to reflect.
/r/seduction18/10/25 06:04 PM
4

Sure you could say that. The metaphor I like since women always gauge whether it will work with a guy is whether they feel a spark. You're getting a spark started then backing off and giving it room to breathe and grow. Funny enough, women also use the term suffocate when a man becomes too clingy. Tons of guys can get a spark going but very few can disengage, be okay with not exactly knowing where you stand with her and let the fire grow. For very high value men, they're not even going through t…
/r/seduction18/10/25 05:29 PM
11

Judging by your post, you're in the rip the bandaid stage. Which of course means you just need to go and say anything.
/r/seduction18/10/25 05:18 PM
7

In real life this looks like focusing your time and energy on having a great in person interaction with the woman. Making sure she associates you with positive emotions. Then... forgetting all about her for a while and giving her time to miss you. That's where her actual love and attraction for you happens. She must have time to sit with her emotions and wonder about you. Texting her because you're trying to set up another in person date. Not because you want to chit chat like her BFF.
/r/seduction18/10/25 02:55 PM
5

I don't allocate any specific time to approaching. In fact, doing so will actually modify your behavior enough that you will more than likely come off as creepy. Wherever I happen to be, if there's someone I want to talk to, I talk to them. Sometimes I feel like this whole sub is rediscovering normal human interactions from before the Internet era.
/r/seduction18/10/25 02:47 PM
33

Learning to ration your time and attention with women is one of the most valuable skills you can ever learn. Not only can you be more measured with what you do and have more to talk about when you see each other. But, you flip a switch in the lizard part of her brain that says he must not be chasing me like these other guys because he's got options. He's a catch, he's valuable. Everything with women is about value. From the designer purse to the diamond, to the guy who only sometimes and unpredi…
/r/seduction18/10/25 02:37 AM
20

The perceived physical attractiveness of a man can actually change when a woman is attracted to you for other reasons. All of a sudden what looked dorky looks cute etc.
/r/seduction18/10/25 02:30 AM
2

That's not good. Yeah any woman who's worried about safety is not going to be receptive at all. Not much you can do about that.
/r/seduction17/10/25 04:40 PM
1

You said you can't approach women there? Is this a law?
/r/seduction17/10/25 03:58 PM
2

Just go tell the poor girl you like her in person. Have a plan where you want to take her and invite her along. Even if she says no, you won't regret getting out of your head and taking action. You got this.
/r/seduction17/10/25 02:35 AM
10

It's tough man but that uncaring jaded side can actually take you further with women than you think. The catch 22 here though is that you don't feel motivated to do it when you feel this way.
/r/seduction16/10/25 08:33 PM
1

You gotta love someone where they feel totally free and so do you. She's got to know you could walk away at any moment if she crosses the line. Respect is the foundation of any relationship and from there love can flourish. Trying to have power over her is a fools game. The ideal place to be in a romantic relationship is where neither of you need each other but both of you want each other.
/r/seduction16/10/25 06:06 PM
1

You're being far too vague. You also seem to have a limiting belief that you're being a burden or bothering the girl if you try to make a specific plan. Women want a man that takes the lead and if you already cold approached her, she's well aware of what's going on and probably waiting for you to cut the small talk and either make something happen or go away!
/r/seduction16/10/25 03:48 AM
2

Different video. Actually now that you mention it I think the guy just said would you go on a date with me instead of phone number. But the same problem remains.
/r/seduction15/10/25 08:48 PM
36

No crying in the casino. It's always a good reminder that anyone actually approaching women in real life is already ahead of the vast majority who are too timid and hiding on apps. The accomplishment is taking the chance. You'll never be able to control anyone else so you just suit up and try again.
/r/seduction15/10/25 08:07 PM
148

There's a video on YouTube of a guy basically doing what you did to 100 women in a row. He got shot down by 99 of them if I remember right. One did show interest though but the lesson here is that the vast majority of women don't respond to zero conversation and straight to the phone number.
/r/seduction15/10/25 07:53 PM
1

I'm not sure I understand your question.
/r/seduction15/10/25 06:16 PM
3

Yea, every phone number I've gotten was in the middle of the conversation and it's never tense. It's a natural progression from the conversation about going to have fun together some other time. If you do it properly you don't even have to explicitly ask for it. It's so obvious that you need to exchange numbers that she either asks you for yours or you both pull out phones simultaneously without words.
/r/seduction15/10/25 03:21 PM
3

Everyone likes someone who's nice. It's the faulty thinking that being really nice is going to create attraction or that she owes you something because you were so nice. Attraction is built through tension. Women require a certain amount of drama to become attracted. When they say they want a nice guy who listens and opens up, they're referring to a guy who they're already attracted to. The bottom line is that most nice guys have ulterior motives. And women are very attuned to picking up on this…
/r/seduction15/10/25 12:17 AM
14

Yep. People seriously underestimate how damaging porn is to your inner game.
/r/seduction15/10/25 12:04 AM
56

Quitting porn has immense effects on your confidence. There's tons of testimonies of men who quit and mysteriously had way better reception by women. Even when not approaching. Some have even floated the notion that women can tell if you're strung out on porn. Porn's effect on testosterone is complex but for thousands of years in a multitude of cultures, spilling your seed has been connected to chi or life force. Today's term would probably be vibe. Famous books like think and grow rich are very…
/r/seduction14/10/25 03:18 PM
1

People with obvious ulterior motives will always be treated with suspicion and distance.
/r/seduction14/10/25 02:41 PM
0

The difference between the dreaded nice guy and a good guy is simply ulterior motives.
/r/seduction14/10/25 02:35 PM
1

Yes. Trial by fire is the only way. Just go talk to people everywhere you go. Doesn't have to be a bar and doesn't even have to be a woman. Just put yourself out there until you're numb talking to people. OP, your entire goal should just be to engage in conversation. Regardless of where it goes from there you accomplished your goal. Then move the goal post a little further as you progress.
/r/seduction14/10/25 03:38 AM
9

Anything is better than opening with an apology. But yeah, there's nothing wrong with saying hi or commenting on what's going on around you.
/r/seduction14/10/25 03:04 AM
522

I asked my dad once what his secret was with women. He's a logical thinker, high intellectual intelligence, low emotional intelligence, a bit awkward. But he's had a long adventurous dating life which never made much sense to me. His response was simply confidence and acting like you don't give a shit. Then he corrected himself and said you actually have to not give a shit. You can't fake it. He really emphasized this point. When you get it through your skull that there's billions of women, you …
/r/seduction13/10/25 08:46 PM
1

I mean everyone loves compliments. Vast majority of women will give you a smile and be polite even if they aren't into it. Now, if these beaming smiles are consistently translating into much more than that's another story. And if so, keep it up if it's working.
/r/seduction13/10/25 08:32 PM
2

Hey you joke but I once worked for a huge company I won't name where my direct manager and the district manager were total dogs and would probably be down with this.
/r/seduction13/10/25 04:44 PM
3

Oh they're definitely approached. Just not as much as they think they should be. Telling a girl how pretty she is will virtually never set you apart. It's just really low hanging fruit.
/r/seduction13/10/25 04:42 PM
5

It's not surprising that's not successful. Attractive women know they're attractive. When you open with a compliment you get immediately written off as just like every other guy.
/r/seduction13/10/25 01:30 PM
2

You can do anything you put your mind to. I'm being serious.
/r/seduction13/10/25 03:02 AM
4

It's an unwritten rule. Some gym's will kick you out for it too.
/r/seduction13/10/25 02:58 AM
28

Not necessarily physical appearance but I think a lot of guys really underestimate just how beneficial lifting weights is for testosterone levels. Yes, since lifting weights more at home I do look a bit better but the real benefits are my inner game. Testosterone has a way of just melting away anxiety and making you behave naturally the way you would try to with "game".
/r/seduction12/10/25 07:59 PM
2

Congrats man. Don't let people shit on your victories. I'm happy for you.
/r/seduction12/10/25 06:57 PM
0

I'll dissent from the rest here and say yes. I actually sat through and watched 50 shades of gray with a woman once. The billionaire theatrics aside, it does illustrate the fantasy women crave. Which is a man who is very dominant acting as if he's used to getting what he wants. Where every interaction builds more and more tension. Until of course she can't handle it anymore and gets dicked down relentlessly.
/r/seduction12/10/25 03:37 AM
3

This is where actually being the guy you're advertising to her pays off. By that I mean, your default state when you're not joking around should actually be quite steady, stoic and strong enough to contain her chaotic nature. You're definitely correct that if you overdo the playful joking around side you will come off as boyish and immature. You shouldn't have to be thinking about it. Attraction is really quite simple when you break it down to things that make you more masculine make you more at…
/r/seduction12/10/25 03:27 AM
6

This really is one of those situations where you just go say hi.
/r/seduction11/10/25 09:31 PM
9

There's definitely some truth to the more you learn about women, the more disillusioned you become with them. But the flip side to this is that you stop putting them on any sort of pedestal whatsoever. Female emotional impulsivity and the need for safety is very much like that of a child.
/r/seduction11/10/25 09:19 PM
62

Being dominant and confident is what actually does the trick. You can be dominant without being an asshole and that's really what women crave. But the asshole can usually do a pretty good impersonation. Good enough to fool a lot of women. By the time the girl realizes all of that aggression and controlling behavior was actually coming from a place of fear and insecurity, it's too late. But yeah, the bottom line here is don't be the "nice guy" who everyone in the restaurant can see from a mile aw…
/r/seduction11/10/25 03:40 PM
18

"You cook? No way, I don't believe you!" Replace cook with any topic. Obviously with a smirk and fun tone.
/r/seduction10/10/25 11:54 PM
1

Who knows man. This is unfortunately part of the process. Sometimes it sucks. The big one with modern women is that with very little effort they can be juggling practically unlimited suitors. When a woman seems really interested and suddenly goes radio silent, it can often mean she picked someone off her roster that seems like a better fit.
/r/seduction10/10/25 05:20 PM
166

Teasing is really underrated and women love it. It immediately checks a number of unconscious boxes in a woman's mind about not being needy, being intelligent and capable of building that push/pull tension they love so much.
/r/seduction10/10/25 05:05 PM
7

Step 1. Find a dictionary.
/r/seduction10/10/25 05:01 PM
8

Yea. You're whole vibe with women should amount to "I'm doing this thing and if you want to join me, great! If not, I'm good too!" The cooler your journey is, the less amount of effort you have to put in to get women to join you in your journey. Think rock stars who are literally drowning in pussy to the point of it getting annoying.
/r/seduction09/10/25 07:57 PM
1

I like the saying that when a girl is legitimately interested in you there won't be any confusion.
/r/seduction09/10/25 07:47 PM
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Yep. All that time/energy/money/emotion wasted chasing women trying to get their attention is much better spent improving oneself. Which unironically is what makes you more attractive to women. A man who's crushing it in his own life has a magnetic vibe. Even as a man you can sense it when a guy like that is in your presence. Since this is reddit and we're probably all on the nerdier side, I'll give a video game reference. It's like getting your character up to level 5 and spending weeks or mont…
/r/seduction09/10/25 07:44 PM
2

When you make eye contact with a woman you like, crack a slight smile and make sure you're not the first one to look away. If she also smiles or blushes etc, go talk to her.
/r/seduction09/10/25 02:52 PM
1

That's a good approach. People spend decades avoiding rejection but it's like ripping a bandaid off. It's uncomfortable for sure but you'll see it's not as scary as you think. And most women will still be very polite in how they do it. Opening with observational or situational comments is always good. Also, asking a woman her name, deliberately withholding yours and saying nice to meet you is a good way to gauge her interest. If she responds with "what's your name?" You have a green flag.
/r/seduction08/10/25 06:30 PM
2

Good stuff. Women love being around guys with a good vibe. I remember in high school there was this goofy guy that was practically friends with everyone. He just had this magnetically friendly and positive vibe to him. Anyone who spent time around him felt better for doing so. Women LOVE that.
/r/seduction08/10/25 05:59 PM
5

Express whatever feelings you want but know that women really don't care about your complaints. Feminine energy is about opening up, sharing, being vulnerable and emotional. Men of course have emotions too and even fall in love faster. But masculine energy is about taking action and finding solutions. Whatever you express to her, make sure you also have a solution or an action you're going to take in response to this. If you're sharing your hurt feelings just for the sake of sharing them, I hate…
/r/seduction08/10/25 05:45 PM
1

Use that frustration to focus on what your goal is in these interactions. To get them on a date? To have sex? Life rewards the bold and so do women. Be as bold and authentic as you can. Don't pretend to care about all the small talk stuff if you really don't care. Don't shower a woman with attention that's barely engaging in conversation. If you find her attractive and want to take her on a date, say so.
/r/seduction07/10/25 06:31 PM
8

This post is practically unreadable. I don't know what the hell you're talking about lmao.
/r/seduction07/10/25 02:52 PM
7

Close on the spot in this instance would mean capitalizing on her interest and mood right then and there. Either make a play to take her out/home that night or make definite plans for a date right there. At which point exchanging numbers is just an expectation so you can make sure you guys find each other at the location you're meeting at. Women's moods change like the weather. Whatever interest a woman shows you one moment can vanish in the next. Texting immediately after getting home is what 9…
/r/seduction07/10/25 02:41 PM
1

I've been on the other side of this and I would never and I repeat never do that to another guy. This girl is a scum bag. Personally I'd find out who her boyfriend is and give him a heads up. Bros before Ho's any day.
/r/seduction07/10/25 04:18 AM
1

Yea, male nurses are in high demand everywhere because the field is almost entirely dominated by women.
/r/seduction06/10/25 05:51 PM
7

It's not impossible. I'm pretty introverted naturally. Any skill or ability requires practice and lots of it. A good place to start is just make an effort to talk to more people during your day. Not just pretty girls with an agenda. Gradually it gets easier and easier
/r/seduction06/10/25 05:47 PM
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Women who are rude, dismissive or otherwise shut your advances down are not people you want any sort of relationship with anyway. They're doing you a favor by showing you who they are early on. It's only when you go out there with a mentality where you'll take any sort of attention from any woman where it seems so discouraging. I've walked away or stopped giving attention to women who were otherwise receptive because I discovered things about them I didn't like. Even the best casanova isn't goin…
/r/seduction06/10/25 05:43 PM
4

It happens. I like to simply ask what they like to do for fun. Remember, everything should be light, uplifting and fun. You want them to associate you with positive feelings. Asking what a girl does for fun can naturally lead into all sorts of different directions. Chances are high you'll have something in common to add to. The best part? Then the conversation can naturally lead into "wanna go do that fun thing together sometime?"
/r/seduction05/10/25 07:51 PM
1

Courage isn't the absence of fear. It's taking action despite the fear. Even people who coach others on this for a living will still experience nerves. I had a phrase come to me out of the blue a long time ago and wrote it down. "Psychological fear is the invitation for personal growth". The distinction about psychological is important because fear does serve a purpose when you're on a cliff or something and could die. But your ego hijacks this and makes you terrified of even scratching your sel…
/r/seduction05/10/25 03:48 PM
1

Sounds like you're ready for a serious spiritual journey my friend. Everyone's just a visitor in your life. The ultimate goal is to know thyself and in doing so also lose yourself. But the side effect is pure unfiltered contentment.
/r/seduction05/10/25 06:12 AM
1

Setting yourself apart means producing a reaction within her that amounts to "oh, he's different than all the other guys". You have to remember women are inundated with guys flattering them, over pursuing, calling them first thing the next day after getting a number etc. And what do women do to these guys? They either ghost them, block them or breadcrumb them. Give them just enough to keep getting validation and attention from them and nothing more. You have to be able to check yourself and be a…
/r/seduction04/10/25 03:48 PM
2

Yea, a lot of guys write off having some pre planned lines as being sleazy or car salesman like but there's a lot of parallels to sales here. Everyone has their own lines even if they don't realize it and they're usually super generic and bland. It pays to have some pre planned stuff that's actually interesting to say. And eventually you'll remember it even if you get flustered.
/r/seduction03/10/25 07:43 PM
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Say absolutely nothing about how she looks.
/r/seduction03/10/25 07:38 PM
1

I think you'll get a lot further having some small talk first. If you basically establish common interests you can seamlessly move into "we should exchange numbers and go have fun sometime. At the end of the day, girls really do just want to have fun.
/r/seduction03/10/25 05:46 PM
1

I'd say it's not ideal but what is your success rate with this method?
/r/seduction03/10/25 05:33 PM
1

Idle hands. Need replacement stuff to take the place of all this free time to jerk it. Which btw women can sense.
/r/seduction03/10/25 05:21 AM
1

Making a date 5 days in advance and waiting to contact her are all positive things that reflect value. Your need to contact her immediately and meet her ASAP is born out of fear as you already admit. Decisions made out of fear will backfire and women can sniff it out. Simply call or text and make that date for 5 days down the road and leave it at that. No follow ups, no chit chat. As long as she can agree to a specific time and date, you're good.
/r/seduction02/10/25 09:21 PM
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These are all good. Another one I'd add is to give them a bit of a hard time. 99% of guys are acting like a lost puppy looking for attention with women. Since you already know they're evaluating you, you should do the same. Tell them you don't believe something they're saying or say "oh, I don't know if I could deal with that" or something along those lines. Keep the push and pull dynamic going on both ends instead of just pushing and pushing until she pulls back all the way.
/r/seduction02/10/25 05:57 PM
1

Hitting a plateau where you're able to talk to women comfortably but not raise the stakes into flirting is more common than you think. It's like different levels you must beat in a game. Women also (generally) don't like the pretend nice guy who wants to be her friend but with an ulterior motive. Conversely, just flat out asking women on dates without making them comfortable first or finding common interests has very low success rates too for most. There's a good middle ground where when you're …
/r/seduction02/10/25 05:36 PM
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When I realized women are way more insecure than men on average. You get nervous because you pedestalize them like some godly figure. But on average they are seriously insecure, unstable humans. I started noticing how much stuff they have painted on their face and what that really says about them and it shifted something internally.
/r/seduction01/10/25 10:04 PM
18

Right on. Almost every successful person in every walk of life will tell you they failed hard and often multiple times. In business, in family and in dating. But they learned from their mistakes instead of repeating the same crap that didn't work and got better. Letting your ego die is the single best thing that can happen to you.
/r/seduction01/10/25 09:57 PM
1

You must initially get her attention and create attraction. This could be as simple as making extended eye contact with a smile or as overt as a friendly and mildly flirty conversation. The important part is that you set yourself apart from all the others and that it seems casual. In other words, if you never heard from her again, it wouldn't bother you one bit. Ideally though you achieve what you're inquiring about by not giving two shits about women and continuously improving yourself. At whic…
/r/seduction01/10/25 08:02 PM
3

Not to make excuses because that obviously doesn't help but I definitely think social media has significantly raised the bar for most guys. Practically every woman on the face of the earth now believes they have endless options. With practically zero effort, there's hundreds of apps where simps will flood their inbox and make even 4s feel like 10s.
/r/seduction01/10/25 07:50 PM
1

Amen. Projecting the right vibe is like 75% of the challenge. You could have 100 different guys say the same line to a woman 100 different ways and have different responses each time.
/r/seduction01/10/25 07:19 PM
1

I wouldn't look at it that way. Believe it or not there's hordes of guys who absolutely no women show them attention. And even these ones you think aren't chosen probably still have a fair amount of options. It's just the nature of being female for them. Make some female friends or date one or two of them and it may actually help you in the long run.
/r/seduction01/10/25 07:15 PM
15

That's the cruel irony. The less you care the more attractive you are. These girls you're not attracted to can sense it and it gives you perceived value because you're not chasing them at all. It's not necessarily a you issue.
/r/seduction01/10/25 06:45 PM
1

You have time, health and presumably looks from what you have said. Of course you will have a girlfriend. The only way you won't is if you give in to your fears and hide. Yes it's scary but you must face your fears and just go talk to women. Rip the bandaid off and face some rejection. Or maybe even get lucky early on. Either way, the only way you will NEVER have one is if you do nothing for the rest of your life. Women want to be approached for a variety of reasons. Not approach you.
/r/seduction01/10/25 03:13 PM
1

They desire what they don't have. Once they know they have you (you make your feelings crystal clear) they know they have you. Which is why maintaining mystery early on in dating is so critically important. They must feel that you want but not need them. The moment you care so much that you need them in your life or you will be upset, they bounce.
/r/seduction29/09/25 08:58 PM
1

Internet tough guy alert. Someone is triggered. Inbox is filled up with attention and validation. Doesn't matter the flavor. Pretend nice guys are just as pathetic as guys sending dick pics.
/r/seduction29/09/25 07:39 PM
1

Is that a joke?
/r/seduction29/09/25 07:35 PM
11

Hoflation lol. You're absolutely correct. Social media is the mind warping female version of porn for men. All they have to do is check a box saying female and their inbox will fill up. Or dm's or whatever they're on.
/r/seduction29/09/25 07:05 PM
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The fear of being creepy thing is just a big imaginary cope that you see in places like reddit. I've seen guys on here say they're afraid of getting sued or arrested for talking to a woman. I'm like, are you fucking kidding me? They're all just roundabout coverups for the fear of rejection. That's all it is. Think about how many women there are. If you or I had zero fear of rejection, we could probably be approaching dozens of women per day if not more. Odds are in your favor, especially if you …
/r/seduction29/09/25 07:01 PM
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Just tell her how you feel / tell her how much you like her. The moment a woman can sense you like her more than she likes you, things go sideways. Doesn't mean it will sabotage the whole thing but the more lopsided it gets, the worse your odds are. Always better off showing with actions how you care and being careful not to pedestalize. Mirror the amount of effort and interest you're receiving.
/r/seduction29/09/25 03:38 AM
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There's only one thing that matters with women. And that's their perception of "how you make them feel". As a man, we don't identify much with this because we actually take accountability for our own emotions. But women see themselves as being on the receiving end. When they're with someone else, they literally believe their emotions are being caused by that person's presence. And it's not just part of the equation in terms of how they will proceed. It's basically a commandment from God. If you …
/r/seduction28/09/25 08:08 PM
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