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| 11 | Men want women to settle for themNot really, no. Men want women who are attracted to them. The only ones who are OK with a woman settling for them generally speaking are desperate and think that magically, they’ll become everything she ever wanted across time. It can happen, but without a raw, visceral attraction, it’s bound to fail. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 05:59 PM |
| 3 | I don't get why men are surprised with womens behaviors or actions.Fair. Women live to serve and please, because if they don't, you women may as well not even exist. It's that simple. Like, this isn't even complex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 03:53 PM |
| 5 | The majority of Red Pill men are incredibly insecureYeah, I didn’t phrase it properly. If a woman passes the looks test, we look at whether she can meaningfully contribute to our lives with an agreeable and loving personality. On the other hand, women then put stock on what you were able to accomplish as a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/25 08:05 PM |
| 19 | The majority of Red Pill men are incredibly insecureI don't agree with you. What we call the 'red pill' is, in effect, the understanding that is required to succeed as a man in the dating world. Unfortunately, as with any ideology, there is a subset of men who have veered off into misogyny. A lot of men have been lied to and conditioned to believe that if they are 'nice enough', women will just come rolling in. The red pill seeks to wake up men to the following truth: men are born without inherent value, whereas women are born with inherent value… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/25 03:03 PM |
| 5 | Q4M: Do you have days in which you don’t think about attractive women, relationships or sex at all?Yes. Pretty much every day. I have too much stuff on my plate to think about women or dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/25 03:16 PM |
| 3 | Men who can’t find a girlfriend have simply not dropped their standards enoughShow me this 'material reality' that, as it appears, exists nowhere but inside your head. Go ahead. What's farcical to me are your logical reasoning skills. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/25 02:21 PM |
| 4 | Men who can’t find a girlfriend have simply not dropped their standards enoughWhat I'm getting from this is that, in your mind, one set of rules applies to men, and a different set of rules applies to women. Rules for thee but not for me! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/25 02:17 PM |
| 6 | Men who can’t find a girlfriend have simply not dropped their standards enoughAh! Women say it, so it must be a fact! So, if a man said, "women are gold-diggers" and as support, he said, "Just go ask men", would you agree? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/25 02:14 PM |
| 5 | Men who can’t find a girlfriend have simply not dropped their standards enoughYou seem pretty confident in making a statement for which there is no factual backing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/25 02:12 PM |
| 1 | Men who can’t find a girlfriend have simply not dropped their standards enoughPretty long-winded way of saying "Don't demand women to drop their standards if you're not prepared to do the same". No one should date someone they aren't attracted to. What is there to debate here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/25 02:06 PM |
| – | What Men WantI did present an argument. The fact you don't like it isn't my problem. When you say you don't care what nit-picking I do, what you're really saying is, "Please don't use the language I used against me!" As I said, "La la la". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/25 05:42 PM |
| – | What Men WantI will say that I envy your pivoting skills. You first said "not all men", even though your post said otherwise. Now that I've pointed out that your own words speak for themselves, rather than acknowledging that perhaps you went too far and trying to salvage the salvageable, you are digging yourself an even deeper hole. I'll bite. "The majority of you do". Ok. Show me the proof. However, what I suspect is happening here is best represented by the following lyrics of a song by Naughty Boy featuri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/25 03:50 PM |
| – | What Men WantMan want beautiful women to be the providers (and at somepoint might even want to be protected) Men want nothing but beautiful women Men want variety of beautiful women Man want women to be submissive/dumb across all boards Show me where, in that laundry list, you used the qualifier "most men". I'll wait. Please proceed. Unfortunately for you, I think I've had enough coffee. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/25 03:14 PM |
| – | What Men Want"It's no longer about that", says the individual who created a whole post disrespecting men. That's like if I created a post titled "Women suck ass" and then I said to you, "It's not about women sucking ass". I know for a fact that I've had my coffee and so I am alert enough to know what your post said. I'll come forth and say it: you have serious problems with men. You made no effort to limit it to a set of men, instead saying (as usual) "Men bad! Women good!" As Joe Biden would say: "Come on, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/25 03:09 PM |
| – | What Men WantAh, indeed, so you were able to determine what all men want based on spending 5 minutes on the Internet. Just a question: you want women to be respected by men when you folks speak about men this way? It's the equivalent of men wanting women to respect them but then bashing them constantly. Time to come back down to reality. If you want men to be with you, you have to actually start treating them with some respect or remain single for the rest of time if you dislike them that badly. No reasonabl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/25 02:30 PM |
| 2 | Q4Men: Have you ever fallen in love with an ugly, old, or fat woman because of how nice she is?No. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/25 03:51 PM |
| 8 | Men who complain about being friendzoned mostly just find women boring and annoyingThe logic behind this post is terrible and practically dripping with entitlement. You're essentially implying that unless we want to be friends with women, it follows we're misogynists. As phrased, you appear to think that men owe women friendship. We don't. This reeks of entitlement and yet, you are calling men entitled. Oftentimes, friendzone is used to mean that the woman did not want a relationship but he did. You're implying that men do not have feelings, and only see women as sex objects. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/25 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Apparently, men are more likely to hit on women they think are easy and not necessarily because they think they're attractiveI see where you’re coming from. I suppose what I was trying to get at is that I don’t see how certain men can make that determination based on looking at them other than relying on the usual stereotypes to draw that conclusion. It makes little to no sense to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 08:33 PM |
| 3 | Apparently, men are more likely to hit on women they think are easy and not necessarily because they think they're attractiveInteresting, because, at least for me, I can't determine whether someone is 'easy' based on how they're dressed. I also don't see how someone being tattooed means they're easy. If someone is walking around half-naked, it doesn't tell me anything other than that they dress immodestly. I can tell from their demeanor, sure, but not based on their appearance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 08:21 PM |
| 7 | Q4M: how do you signal to women that you want to be approached?Indeed. Some men (like myself) really wish that women would approach, because of the simple fact that it would make us actually feel desired. At the same time, as they say, if you don't like the rules of the game, don't play. We've had to make peace with it across time. Some haven't, and as a result, have withdrawn altogether. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: how do you signal to women that you want to be approached?I don't agree with your reasoning. If you're not interacting with a person, you're not "treating" them in any way. Rather, you're not inclined to do certain things based on lived experience. I'd argue that not invading someone's personal space is pretty basic decency. I'd wager any given person will feel uncomfortable if you not only invade their personal space, but continue getting closer and closer, as OP posited. Additionally, it's especially reasonable to assume that the average woman will b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 03:14 PM |
| 19 | Q4M: how do you signal to women that you want to be approached?Not one of them will get you anywhere as a man. Generally speaking, women do not want to approach, and men know this, so it follows we don't send out hints for them to do something we know they probably won't do. If I'm interested in talking to them, I'll only do so if an opportunity naturally arises, i.e., a friend group or such things. That's the only way I have succeeded. I highly suspect that the first two would have the exact opposite intended effect, especially getting all up in her space … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Do you identify as a feminist?So you are acknowledging that I am correct, i.e, that it is attributable to that in part, and that the whole “I require evidence there was a percentage change” was pretty much nonsensical. Excellent! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/25 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Do you identify as a feminist?Which one is it, that I apparently cannot prove why they do not or that I’m not showing you that the percentage used to be higher or the same? Because with respect to the first, there is plenty of evidence that this is one of the causes. Sure, I phrased it as being the only cause, which isn’t true. But from where I stand, whether they were higher or lower before is immaterial to figuring out why it is so abysmally low to begin with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/25 05:26 PM |
| 3 | Do you identify as a feminist?No, but the issue lies in the fact that they are low. That leads one to ask, why is it that such a small percentage identifies as feminist? Even if they were higher, then one asks why they are lower. If they have always been this low, one then asks why they aren’t higher. I don’t follow your logic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/25 05:21 PM |
| 3 | Do you identify as a feminist?That makes no sense. The numbers are that low because people believe feminism has lost its way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/25 05:20 PM |
| 7 | Do you identify as a feminist?Because in this day and age, feminism has lost its way. It has been hijacked by radical feminism and now looks like a man-hating ideology. Clearly, more and more people in the UK saw it for what it was and chose not to identify as feminists. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/25 04:57 PM |
| 6 | Men dont deserve sympathyShow me the data | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/25 12:39 AM |
| 0 | Men dont deserve sympathyCould say the same about women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/25 12:37 AM |
| 2 | Men dont deserve sympathy'Most men'. Prove it to me. Please proceed. I suspect you won't be able to because of the fact you are speculating, and quite frankly, the whole post, as written, sounds profoundly misandrist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/25 03:20 PM |
| 0 | Men dont deserve sympathyYou're making the assumption that all men are sex-obsessed fiends, and thus, when they complain about dating apps, it must be because they are not getting sex. You are ignoring the fact that some of these men are complaining because they cannot find a woman to build a relationship with. The very title of this post indicates why the dating world is doomed and reflects the fact that the gap in understanding and empathy between men and women is becoming less of a gap and more of a chasm. Do you rea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/25 03:10 PM |
| 1 | What is a real manYou pretty much missed the whole point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/25 02:33 PM |
| 5 | What is a real manFair enough, but they are still using a term which in and of itself is nonsensical. It's like if someone tried to offend me by calling me a baba waba. Since there are no metrics to determine who is or is not a real man, nor can it even be defined, the only logical conclusion is that when someone says you're not a 'real man', what they're really saying is, "You're not acting the way I want you to act." Why should I care that I'm not behaving the way some stranger wants me to behave? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/25 08:59 PM |
| 18 | What is a real manThere's no such thing as a real man. I'm perhaps being needlessly pedantic, but I don't understand this language we have been throwing around. If we say there's such a thing as a 'real man', then we have to by necessity define what a 'fake man' is, and I don't think we can. Since we cannot do that, saying 'real man' is just nonsensical. At best, what we can in fact do is elaborate on how we think a man should act, but that's a different issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/25 08:37 PM |
| 8 | Q4M: Why do you misunderstand or malign well-intentioned dating advice?I get what you are saying, but it is reasonable to conclude that if the advice you receive never gets you anywhere, it's pretty much useless advice, and there is no point in listening to it. Let me do this by way of analogy. Suppose that I really wanted to learn how to be better at sewing and went to someone who knows how to sew for advice. The advice they give me doesn't really make me any better at sewing. Would a reasonable person keep asking them for advice on how to sew? It's hard to make a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 06:26 PM |
| 1 | What going to happen to the dating scene in 10 to 20 years?Sure. If that's what makes you happy! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/25 08:49 PM |
| 39 | Women look for guys who will entertain them, and then are surprised when those guys bounce after sex. If you want to find guys who stick around, go for men with similar personalities.I'm not convinced and am somewhat confused by the post. You began the post by saying that looking for someone better is a "sure-fire" way to end up with men who don't commit. How did you reach this conclusion? If a woman gets with someone who is funnier, for instance, I don't see how that means the man doesn't respect her. Conan O'Brien is probably funnier than his wife, but he sure as heck respects her. Of course what you're saying is more likely than not true if the personality differences are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 09:30 PM |
| 18 | This place does not match up with realityMost of your argument was based on some statements requiring support: Most men aren't doomed to a life of not knowing romantic enjoyment Most women don't have an army of simps and orbiters If you can't prove this, then this whole argument, in my opinion, falls apart. Yes, things are generally amplified on the Internet, which we all know to be true. However, I think this sub actually brings forth realities which people simply can't openly talk about in public without being dismissed as an incel m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 08:42 PM |
| 12 | Q4M: If men adjusted their standards could this resolve the Successful Woman's Lonliness Epidemic?I'll gently point out that the average man doesn't really care about a woman's achievements as much as a woman cares about a man's. They care about whether the woman will meaningfully contribute to his life. Of course, the average, reasonable man probably would be reticent in dating a woman with no prospects and no job, but no guy will be intimidated by a woman's career. Ask each of these women whether they have men prepared to be with her, but which aren't good enough for her because her 6-foot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Women are largely correct in complaining about the average quality of men as romantic partners.You didn’t answer me, but that’s alright. Take it easy! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/25 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Women are largely correct in complaining about the average quality of men as romantic partners.Is that right? What was sexist about my post? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/25 02:56 PM |
| 6 | The Redpill is to dating what sovereign citizens are to law"These include, for example, the view that women are hypergamous by nature and constantly seeking to maximize their reproductive success with a ‘better’ man." This is based on evolutionary psychology. Granted, it is true that no study has affirmed that it is a universally applicable principle; rather, they have only stated that there is reason to believe that at least some women do have this tendency. I'll point you to "The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating" by David M. Buss, in wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/25 05:49 PM |
| – | Women do not have ridiculously high standards in menWatch what they do, not what they say. Those are only some of the things they list. The average woman's list is, I suspect, much longer. If what you were saying were true, every man with those qualities would have a girlfriend, which brings me to my next point. Why is it that not every man with those qualities has a girlfriend? Because the kind and funny ones are oftentimes seen as boring, and are really only paid attention to when the exciting bad boys are no longer available. Is this what alwa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/25 05:12 PM |
| 5 | What going to happen to the dating scene in 10 to 20 years?Ah, yes. Men bad! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/25 07:30 PM |
| 21 | Q4M: Does "Choose better" assume there's an abundance of good options?Being a man is hard, imagine being rejected by more than 50 women only to be rejected again. Sorry, couldn't help it. I will never be able to empathize with having too many options when the average guy barely has any, and neither will those men who are not in the top 1% and cannot get women to undress themselves before them without needing to utter a word. It's a little bit like asking a homeless man to empathize with someone who comes up to them and says, "More money, more problems!" The homele… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/25 05:32 PM |
| 4 | Escorts are Men’s Best Option (Unless You Want Kids)Some of the things that you pointed out are true, to the extent that there is an imbalance in the dating market with respect to the effort men have to put in just to go on a date and how tough it is to even get matches on a dating app (although we must consider there are more men than women on those apps). I disagree, however, with an escort being the solution. Sex in and of itself is kind of meaningless and mechanical after you've done it enough times, unless you actually have an emotional conn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/25 01:48 PM |
| 2 | Misconceptions about men and women "just being friends"Correct. You can only really be friends with a woman if there is no mutual attraction. Guys all too often pretend to be their friend only because they are hoping she might wake up one day and see the light. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: What dating advice would you give a guy who exudes “beta bux™️” but doesn’t want to be “beta bux™️”?I hardly see how being liked for one's wallet means you are liked as a person. Like I said, it means you are liked for your resources. I'd rather not be liked at all than be liked only because of my bank account. I'd want someone to like me for who I am, rather than only liking me if I open up my wallet. It's a little bit like if a woman said, "I'm ok with being with someone who only likes me for sex". I have yet to hear one woman say that, and that is because I suspect they'd probably feel used… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 08:27 PM |
| 0 | Q4M: What dating advice would you give a guy who exudes “beta bux™️” but doesn’t want to be “beta bux™️”?being liked only for one's wallet, as you are alluding to in your original comment, means that you're not liked as a person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 08:24 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: What dating advice would you give a guy who exudes “beta bux™️” but doesn’t want to be “beta bux™️”?so you're fine with being liked only for what you can provide because it's better than being single? Come on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 08:22 PM |
| 5 | Q4M: What dating advice would you give a guy who exudes “beta bux™️” but doesn’t want to be “beta bux™️”?I would tell him to not exude desperation and to get in touch with who he is and develop an appreciation for it. In my opinion, the so-called 'betas' are oftentimes the ones who seek validation from women because they are on shaky grounds in terms of being comfortable with themselves. In other words, unless women fawn over them, they don't like themselves very much. They should also learn to be happy by themselves. If one likes oneself for who they are and is fine being alone, they can slowly wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 08:21 PM |
| – | Wanting to matter to someone without being a healed woman's reward is not narcissism, it's humanAsinine question which does not address the issue at all. Hardly surprising though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 06:25 PM |
| 7 | Wanting to matter to someone without being a healed woman's reward is not narcissism, it's humanYou don't say! Water is wet as well. What I was saying is that 'kindness' doesn't really turn some women on. Otherwise, there's no way to explain how some, during their party days, liked kindness so much that they dated assholes, then ended up hating all men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Wanting to matter to someone without being a healed woman's reward is not narcissism, it's humanIt depends on whether the guy took care of himself. As to your second request for a description, I'd have to ask every woman on the planet and get back to you. What some men have noticed, and what some women have confessed, is that the guy she settles with is the guy who she wouldn't have dated way back during her party days. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 06:03 PM |
| 2 | Wanting to matter to someone without being a healed woman's reward is not narcissism, it's humanI'm confused by this comment. We're talking about women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 05:59 PM |
| 3 | Wanting to matter to someone without being a healed woman's reward is not narcissism, it's humanAnd do these same studies explain why, even though it is so highly sought after, women date the assholes and then go on TikTok to complain that all men are trash? You can pull out studies here and there to indicate what people are looking for. What's more pertinent is what people actually do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 05:55 PM |
| – | Wanting to matter to someone without being a healed woman's reward is not narcissism, it's humanHence why they dated all the assholes and ignored the 'kind' men, right? It was because they were so irresistible as to be ignored. (/s) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 05:51 PM |
| -2 | Wanting to matter to someone without being a healed woman's reward is not narcissism, it's humanAgreed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 05:48 PM |
| 5 | Wanting to matter to someone without being a healed woman's reward is not narcissism, it's humanSometimes it happens, but there are surely plenty of occasions in which the 'kind' man is someone who would have never even gotten a second look years before. If a woman's dating history consists of dating assholes, it follows there is something about them which stirs up a visceral desire. Women have agency. No one forced them to date assholes, so you can see how that isn't exactly an unreasonable conclusion to draw. Plenty of women find the 'bad boys' irresistible. The 'kind' guy was the one wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 05:44 PM |
| 8 | Wanting to matter to someone without being a healed woman's reward is not narcissism, it's humanIf one were to ask a woman what really turns her on, I doubt she'd say, "Someone who is kind". I might be wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 05:36 PM |
| – | Wanting to matter to someone without being a healed woman's reward is not narcissism, it's humanI agree with you 110%, although I am preparing myself for the comments which will tell you that you are a bitter incel, because we unfortunately live in an era in which men cannot express grievances about women without being subjected to character assassination. The unfortunate truth is that plenty of men have been settled for and will never know it, because no intelligent woman would ever confess that to their partner. Social media has exposed women, which is why we see all this tumult in the d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 05:35 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: What do you think about the pushback against "Not all men"?Huh. Interesting. And then women wonder why men won't approach them anymore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 05:19 PM |
| 4 | Women are largely correct in complaining about the average quality of men as romantic partners.You're presuming that all those men have friends to begin with. Assessing the quality of friends requires you to have some in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 02:54 PM |
| 2 | Women are largely correct in complaining about the average quality of men as romantic partners.The whole post is based on just world fallacy and the fallacy of composition, i.e., some of the men I know are X, thus all men are X. Based on what you wrote, it seems that when you say that men are emotionally stunted, what you are really saying is that you wish men would feminize themselves. Men and women are different. We don't socialize the same way women do, but that doesn't mean we don't care about each other. We don't sit around a table endlessly talking about our feelings, but that doesn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 02:47 PM |
| – | One of feminism’s biggest weaknesses is the reluctance to hold toxic voices accountable because doing so might 'validate the enemy'I agree. One of the comments here indicates that feminists criticize each other all the time. This is meaningless if done behind the curtain. Some people do not take feminists seriously due to the loudest voices being the man-bashing ones. All we hear then is silence from the supposedly pious feminists, which is basically seen as quietly agreeing. This brings me back to my previous point, which is that unless you step up when it matters, whether you utter it to each other in private matters zilc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/25 05:08 PM |
| 2 | CMV: You should make Mr Boyfriend Material waitWell, it depends on how long you plan on making him wait. No guy will wait weeks or months to sleep with you, because, in the guy’s mind, he’ll think you’re not passionately attracted to him. Otherwise, you would have slept with him sooner. Also, I hate these arbitrary rules. You can do that, but don’t be surprised if said guy goes somewhere else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/25 04:27 PM |
| 13 | Its not women’s problem that men have low standards out of desperation.This post smells like an exercise in gaslighting. Once again, it's always the man's fault. I agree with the essence of what you are saying, which is, "If you don't like the game, then don't play". I take issue, however, with the nuances you are missing. The issue is not with having to play; the issue is with the rules of the game. Let's face it, most women don't know how to court at all. They sit back and wait for stuff to happen. Then they wonder why they get pumped and dumped, and I mean this … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/25 09:56 PM |
| 2 | Thirsty men arent good and good men arent thirsty.I have several issues with your post. First of all, you seem to imply there is some sort of mutual exclusivity between assessing a prospective partner's moral character and having a desire for sex. They are not mutually exclusive. Your point is grounded in moral absolutism from which springs your implied definition of a good person: those who have no sexual desires = good; those who have sexual desires = bad. I am also struggling to wrap my head around this part of your post, when referring to a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/25 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: "Women are too picky", but also "I don't want to feel like I was settled for". Which one is it?Well, but they do. A woman would never date a man who works at McDonald’s and makes 30k a year, whereas a man would probably take no issue dating a woman in that position. My closest friend is dating a barista, and he makes 100k. She makes 30k. Find me a woman who would date a guy who is a barista and makes over 3 times what he does (you won’t). I am not saying they are gold diggers, but how much money a man makes is very important to a woman, and everybody knows it. In terms of laundry lists, i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: "Women are too picky", but also "I don't want to feel like I was settled for". Which one is it?At what point did I speak about physical preferences? I only spoke about requirements, which doesn’t have to mean physical preferences. I guess that’s what it means in your head. Second question: at what point did I say most men don’t have such preferences? Don’t make stuff up. Show me where I spoke about it. Please proceed. Also, this is the classic “b-b-but men do it too” answer. In other words, deflection/ignoring the point being made so as to once again avoid (god forbid) holding women accou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Marriage shouldn't be permanent.You say that marriage shouldn't be permanent in the title of your post. Yet, the fact that divorce can take place has to mean that marriage isn't permanent. It can be "permanent" if the people in the marriage make that sort of commitment or they come from a culture in which divorce is frowned upon, and they'd face serious social ramifications if they got divorced. At that point, they are pretty much compelled to remain in the marriage. It's not permanent per se. I do agree that people oftentimes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/25 10:02 PM |
| 11 | Men are Love-ShyThe effects will be that a large number of men will continue to exist as they do now, meaning remaining single. What is causing this is a) the fact that a lot of men feel like society doesn’t really care much about their grievances, and only tells them to deal with it and man up; and b) that your average man is likely completely invisible to women. The MGTOW people don’t necessarily give up because of mistrust. Some give up because no matter what they do, they never have success with women. I do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/25 08:43 PM |
| 15 | Be Realistic: Don’t Resent 'Boyfriend Material' Treatment; Reciprocate the Lack of Lovewhat are you basing this statement masqueraded as a question on? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 11:45 PM |
| 13 | Be Realistic: Don’t Resent 'Boyfriend Material' Treatment; Reciprocate the Lack of LoveI'm confused. Why would you make someone who doesn't reciprocate in any way, or very little, your girlfriend? Similarly, why would you make a person who, in your mind, doesn't have genuine desire for you, your girlfriend? You might as well be dating yourself. I think it's a horrendous proposal, and one that makes no sense to me logically. You're saying do something toxic if the other individual does something toxic. Likewise, you're talking about upgrading, which tells me that, based on this min… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 11:27 PM |
| 14 | Online dating really isnt that bad.It does not surprise me at all that this post was written by a woman. You have no clue what you are talking about, with respect. Online dating is terrible for the average guy. You are essentially invisible because there are more men than women. Due to the fact that demand is higher than supply, the supply becomes harder to acquire. Only the Brads and Chads get matches, proceed to pump and dump, and those women complain about having been pumped and dumped while failing to acknowledge those are th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 06:50 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: "Women are too picky", but also "I don't want to feel like I was settled for". Which one is it?Wait a minute, you’re getting things confused here. Joe wouldn’t have been desired 10 years ago, so why should Joe want her now? Joe wanted her, but she wanted Brad the Chad. Brad the Chad is married now, so Joe will do! Joe would not have been happier because to a guy, a woman being with you because she relaxed her standards means you were settled for, unless they were relaxed through natural growth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 05:38 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: "Women are too picky", but also "I don't want to feel like I was settled for". Which one is it?I gave you the answer. He would not be happier. Who wants to feel like second best? No one with a shred of self-respect would say, “Woohoo, I’m a leftover who is just tasty enough to pass muster, but 10 years ago, I would have been pushed to the side!” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 05:31 PM |
| 5 | Q4M: "Women are too picky", but also "I don't want to feel like I was settled for". Which one is it?Wrong. A guy like Joe would rather be single than know he was settled for. My point is, you can keep your standards as high as you want, but don’t relax them just to be with someone and mess that person up mentally and emotionally. Relaxing your standards just so you can be with someone speaks to desperation. Relaxing them because you have actually changed is a different story. In the former, you are living a lie. That’s why divorce rates are so high. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 05:21 PM |
| 12 | Q4M: "Women are too picky", but also "I don't want to feel like I was settled for". Which one is it?Not good at all, because Joe knows that he is not truly desired. Rather, he is desired because better options are no longer available. Joe probably feels like a leftover. True, some women’s tastes do change across time, but we all know of at least one woman who said, “eh, he’ll do”, and married out of desperation. Ready to bet that if Jason Momoa had come along, Joe Schmoe would have continued to be invisible. Denying this is like denying that water is indeed wet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 05:10 PM |
| 9 | Q4M: "Women are too picky", but also "I don't want to feel like I was settled for". Which one is it?I don’t follow. It can be both. We should acknowledge that women have a laundry list of requirements that men do not have, and everybody knows it. That is why they eventually settle, because there comes a day when they will turn around and see that everyone around them is getting married, so they panic because they feel that time is rapidly starting to run out (especially if they want a family), and go for a Joe Schmoe who would have been invisible to them 10 years earlier. Women can have high s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 04:47 PM |
| 0 | If you get mad that a formerly promiscuous woman wants to take it slow with you, you only value women for sexSo you won’t answer my question. Friends and a couple do not have the same dynamic. A woman friend will demand everything they’d demand from a boyfriend with none of the benefits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 04:25 PM |
| 1 | If you get mad that a formerly promiscuous woman wants to take it slow with you, you only value women for sexOh really? Tell me how friends have the exact same dynamic as a couple. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 04:16 PM |
| 1 | If you get mad that a formerly promiscuous woman wants to take it slow with you, you only value women for sexCan’t be both. The dynamic of a friendship is totally different to that of a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 04:09 PM |
| 2 | If you get mad that a formerly promiscuous woman wants to take it slow with you, you only value women for sexFair, but some women define or perceive husband material as the safe but boring guy who never would have caught her eye a decade earlier, and some men want to be viscerally desired, especially when the average man probably has never experienced it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 02:11 PM |
| 5 | If you get mad that a formerly promiscuous woman wants to take it slow with you, you only value women for sexWith respect, no man will wait, for example, 3 months to sleep with a woman who put out after a couple of weeks with the previous guy. Women’s solipsism makes it so they don’t comprehend that, in our minds at least, putting out that quickly means there was a visceral desire there that she doesn’t have for you. You’re the sucker, the nice guy she wants to settle down with after Brad the Chad won’t return her calls anymore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 02:07 PM |
| 2 | If you get mad that a formerly promiscuous woman wants to take it slow with you, you only value women for sexFriendship or relationship, which one is it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Scenario: sex is off the tableNo, thank you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 01:59 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Coffee dates to see if there's chemistry is a red flagYes, I was expecting you to tell me why your argument was logically sound, which doesn't seem to be possible here, because it is as logically sound as saying that I could in fact fly to the moon by thinking about it. Point number two, taking someone out on a nice date doesn't have to involve spending exorbitant amounts of money. I have dated many lovely women who were perfectly happy to get a coffee with me or go on a walk, and we both had a fantastic time and had healthy relationships. Those ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 04:36 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Coffee dates to see if there's chemistry is a red flagindeed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 04:25 PM |
| 7 | CMV: Coffee dates to see if there's chemistry is a red flag'Don't be mean' made me chuckle, since you created a post in which you reduced men to living and breathing wallets, and on top of that, referred to us as 'males', as if we were animals roaming around in the jungle. If you are going to be unpleasant, expect the same treatment in return. As to you apparently not being out of your mind, please tell me how it is reasonable to proclaim that it is apparently immature if you don't spend $200 on someone you don't even know. I must have missed the memo d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 04:16 PM |
| 10 | CMV: Coffee dates to see if there's chemistry is a red flagCMV: OP is a walking and talking red flag. This is one of the worst posts I have ever seen here. "If he doesn't already feel lucky to be in your presence" is both astoundingly arrogant and is a statement which is reflective of the reason why we have seen, for example, a rise in TikToks of women lamenting that all the good men disappeared. Here's why. Women, especially good looking ones, have become accustomed to reeling men in and keeping them there based purely on being a good looking woman. As… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 03:59 PM |
| 1 | A relationship should last a minimum of four years before marriage and preferably sevenI think 4 years is too long. I think a more reasonable time frame is 2 years. I think that people oftentimes get married alarmingly soon (for example, after 6 months of dating). There seems to be this asinine rule being circulated around social media that a woman is wasting her time if a man doesn't propose within 1 year, which I don't think is even remotely long enough. I'd never marry someone without first knowing almost everything about them, and I think that 2 years is sufficient to get ther… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/25 10:22 PM |
| 1 | A lot of the redpill doesn’t make sense.The fact that men usually prefer younger women is hardly shocking, and is rooted in evolutionary psychology. In fact, studies have shown that men generally find women between 20 and 25 to be at the very peak of their attractiveness. Some men who want to have a family generally prefer women in that age range because that is likewise when they are at their most fertile. Women generally prefer older men because they are more established and therefore more suitable prospects for long-term mating. I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/25 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Do the majority of (straight) men observe and assess women solely as a potential partner?No. However, I know that if I see a woman who is attractive, it is unlikely I can be friends with her, because my primal instincts as a man will make me want to eventually go a step further. I won't be assessing her as a potential partner the moment I meet her, but I know I will be making that assessment at some point in time. It's just the way I'm wired. I would effectively be entering into a friendship under a false pretense, since I'd drop the friendship if they told me they were not interest… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/24 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Most Women Use Dating Apps Like Men Wish They CouldActually, before I stopped using dating apps, I'd swipe left most of the time. None of them were my type or they were good looking but single mothers, which is essentially a guaranteed left swipe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 10:17 PM |
| 2 | Is there any way for singles events to actually be good?If I were you, I wouldn't bother, unless you are an exceptionally good looking guy. Most of us guys are essentially invisible to women. We have to accept it and move on, rather than wasting time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 08:35 PM |
| 1 | The best thing any man can do is to stop chasing women.I agree, especially due to the fact that these days, your average man doesn't get any attention, no matter what he does, because attractive looking girls tend to have options, and in all likelihood, some of them are more attractive than you are. Chase excellence, not women. Also, think about it: if you are chasing someone, it means they are trying to get away from you. Why would any man go any further? The "chasing" game is best left for kindergarten. Honestly, for an average guy, there is absol… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 08:33 PM |
| 2 | On the rise of lonely single menI won't lie to you, but in this day and age, relationships are hard to come by, especially organically and especially as a heterosexual man. This is partly attributable to dating apps and supply and demand on said apps. It's tough, but my piece of advice is don't allow your happiness and satisfaction to depend on being in a relationship. Find your independence through what you love doing and what makes you come alive. Just dressing differently or grooming yourself differently or becoming a gym b… | /r/seduction | 24/10/22 08:59 PM |
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