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Random butt slapping would indeed be rare but amogging isn't. It happens less now that I'm older but back in my 20's, being a short skinny asian guy dating attractive non-asian girls was triggering to certain men. Especially on the east coast. One date, I had 2 guys in 2 different places go up and blatantly try and flirt with the girl I was with.
/r/seduction18/05/22 06:17 AM
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What I'm gonna say is controversial because it can be easily misconstrued but I'm simply sharing what's worked for me. Let yourself hit rock bottom and let yourself get angry. Unless you think you will harm yourself or others, go grab a drink of w/e u can tonight and just let it all go to shit. Cry your eyes out, curse your life, curse god, curse the universe for all the circumstances that have lead you to being you - an untouched virgin at 30. Stop being sad. Instead be pissed. Pissed at life, …
/r/seduction11/05/22 03:10 AM
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As someone who's your age, I'd say not for me personally. But I consistently keep up to date with photos and bios so your mileage may vary
/r/seduction10/05/22 03:24 AM
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Most guys here are probably just reading/procrastinating. A small group of guys here probably actually tried irl. Another small group are coming in here with experience under their belts already
/r/seduction10/05/22 03:22 AM
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I do this a lot unintentionally. For the past 3 months id been overloaded with work deadlines. Multiple OT’s till 7pm and just being exhausted. As a result i almost never initiate a txt and ill often ghost conversations for hours or days. There’s no intentionality behind it. I just only chat when i feel like chatting and Im very honest with myself about when that is. But when i do chat, I’m very warm. Ill say things like “i missedd uuu 😘”. So to her, it’s a natural push pull. Im obviously giving…
/r/seduction09/05/22 11:15 PM
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If she really likes you, it’d be obvious. If she doesn’t, you’d be confused
/r/seduction09/05/22 11:03 PM
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Ive noticed it as well. Not all the time, but def more often than not when sex is held longer off it, it turns out to be a longer thing
/r/seduction09/05/22 08:57 PM
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ty
/r/seduction09/05/22 01:04 AM
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Depends. When I was broke, almost all my mental health issues were resolved by not being poor. I think therapy can be helpful but not the end all be all.
/r/seduction05/05/22 04:22 PM
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5'6 asian guy. Ill confirm that most of this post is true. The only exception i've run into is when I was super popular one phase of my life and the popularity had a lot of new girls interested in me. harder to pull off as u get older when all ur friends start settling down
/r/seduction05/05/22 06:59 AM
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doing well in life/improving at life while you repeatedly see people around you stay stagnant or regress.
/r/seduction05/05/22 06:58 AM
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“I paid for a pt, why arent I just fit now?”
/r/seduction05/04/22 08:50 AM
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yeah they're busy, but at the same time when u get to the point where you'll talking to multiple girls at the same time while being busy with work and hobbies urself, u hardly notice this. I got a full time job i'm constantly working on, plus gym, plus mma and atm talking to round 4ish girls. and some of them say shit like "its ok i know ure busy and always ghosting me :')" in a cute way. My advice: looks max and get good pics > leads to more tinder matches > leads to less neediness with one gir…
/r/seduction30/03/22 09:06 PM
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a few years ago, being an asian guy who was out with a good looking white girl. My mistake was taking her to an area of town I never frequented. Most guys had no issue with us but throughout the whole night there were about 3 guys who actively tried to hit on her after seeing her with me. Bartenders, random guys, etc. Lesson learned - if you're gonna go interracial as an asian guy - get swole and learn how to defend yourself
/r/seduction30/03/22 07:06 PM
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no offense fam but you can say you're not desperate all u want but if you feel this much negative emotion from not having success with women, it means you're fucking desperate. you're a guy and like it or not, as a guy you need to face reality for what it is - and the reality is that you want pussy badly or else you wouldn't be out doing this shit for 6 months and then wanting to kill yourself. the good news is the more you can be honest with yourself and accept your flaws, the faster you'll imp…
/r/seduction30/03/22 07:02 PM
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consciously putting in the effort to play games is absolutely fucking exhausting. Maxing out looks as much as you can tho will get you enough girls through your funnel so that you do that shit unintentionally. source - late blooming ugly duckling
/r/seduction30/03/22 02:32 AM
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The answer is pretty straight forward but you just gotta do it - hang out with a lot of 10's until you're used being in their presence and it's not big deal.
/r/seduction27/03/22 10:15 PM
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this would be way easier if u posted some chat messages tbh
/r/seduction27/03/22 10:13 PM
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Imagine God just personally hated you and cursed you with a curse that no matter what, no woman could ever find you attractive. Are you gonna be a huge bitter asshole about it or can you live with yourself and say, "fuck it. I'm just gonna try my best to be a decent person who's non needy and just friendly and if I do that and no one likes me anyways - that's on them - not on me" I was completely friendless back in my early 20's cause i was sooo god damn needy and this one train of thought helpe…
/r/seduction27/03/22 12:53 AM
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fair enough
/r/seduction26/03/22 06:46 PM
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sadly the ONLY way to get over this is to force yourself to go out and meet more women. Because you'll find out that women are just people. And most people are kinda meh with a lot of issues. Once you get to a point where you feel like that girl you're with is less like the love of your life and more like a chill friend you fuck and have a good time with, things get easier
/r/seduction26/03/22 06:41 PM
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NPCs? nah. But I can't remember the number of female friends who've complained to me about "well we're girls! the men should be the ones who are stable and our rocks! we change our minds constantly!" and this is coming from an assortment of different women from varying fields, cultures, backgrounds, sanities, etc.
/r/seduction26/03/22 06:33 PM
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not the guy you're responding to but I agree with how changing the gender would sound fucked up. But at the same time I think women who let themselves go like that also need as much of a harsh reality check. Both genders do. Both genders need to stop being such whiny babies some times.
/r/seduction26/03/22 06:31 PM
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You're not imagining things. As a guy in his 30's who's travelled around extensively, I can assure you you're spot on. Your girl needs to believe you're a catch in order to stay interested. And sadly, a lottt of western girls (much like a lot of western guys) just weren't raised with the chops to maintain strong relationships. Go meet girls from Africa, Latin America, Asia, or Eastern Europe. They all put in far more effort towards sticking it out and building each other up. They're blunt. They'…
/r/seduction26/03/22 06:27 PM
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Won't disagree that this works. But I used to be very bitter and angry when doing it this way. I felt like I had to play the dating game of who could out manipulate who. It's a hard transition but once you go from that to unintentionally texting back later because you're either busy with deadlines, projects, hobbies, hanging out with the bois, other girls, etc, you'll be wayyyyyy more chilled out and more genuine in your texting interactions. You'll send sincere apologies cause you were actually…
/r/seduction25/03/22 12:27 AM
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currently lifting and skincare. fashion seems to be the most expensive both upfront and for the long run so that comes last. Additionally, most basic fitted t shirts look better with a better body so it makes sense not to go nuts on fashion too early
/r/seduction25/03/22 12:10 AM
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reddit generates random words and numbers for new accounts so you dont have to spend 20 minutes trying to make something that doesn't already exist. people don't typically wanna show that they're on a pick up subreddit on their main accounts
/r/seduction25/03/22 12:10 AM
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100% facts. It's crazy how much overlap there is between dating and careers
/r/seduction25/03/22 12:09 AM
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to add to this, when i am more dominant up front with a girl i'm dating (even if it's genuine), it hurts me in the long run. They have this idea that i must always be as confident so if i'm not always dominant 100% of the time around them, they lose interest faster than they would have if i would've shown some vulnerability from the beginning
/r/seduction25/03/22 12:00 AM
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true but at the same time, i don't mind the lack of competition
/r/seduction24/03/22 11:59 PM
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Meh, depends. If manipulation by itself makes you an asshole, then practically every woman on the face of the earth is an asshole by virtue of wearing make up. Covering up blemishes and bad skin to give the appearance of youth and healthiness and even contouring to create fake cheek bones and a thinner face is all manipulation. It's just normalized. Everyone does what they can do get skin in the game. Some manipulation is downright fucking worse than others but dating is pretty much amoral.
/r/seduction24/03/22 11:58 PM
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actually, awkward silences are a good thing. You WANT there to be a bit of tension. The issue is when you have no follow up and it becomes too silent for too long. bring up another thing you noticed about her or something relating to a previous conversation
/r/seduction14/03/22 01:36 AM
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Next time, don't follow it up with another question. "I was driving" "interesting lol.." that way if she wants to actually make plans, it's on her to put in the effort. And if she just wanted attention, you made her feel stupid
/r/seduction14/03/22 01:33 AM
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probably one of the best tips anyone's ever given on here. And you gave it out for free - cheers
/r/seduction05/02/22 03:08 AM
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Then it means u need to fail more. Keep getting rejected until u reach ur “i worked as a walmart cashier for 5 years” levels of not giving a fuck
/r/seduction04/02/22 05:17 AM
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ironically, i gave up hope and legitimately internalized not going out with girls for a while. no bitterness, no resentment, just rolling my eyes at the idea of going out with anyone. focused on having fun. Had a lot of girls interested in me since then
/r/seduction03/02/22 10:51 PM
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more good than not
/r/seduction03/02/22 10:49 PM
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As someone experienced, i still have the same issue. Ur brain will just assume a girl at a certain attraction level ure not used to will be too good for u. Bravery and rejection are your best friends. Go to her with the goal of fucking up. Keep doing it until u internalize how it doesn’t matter anymore
/r/seduction03/02/22 03:33 PM
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Then ure good ;)
/r/seduction03/02/22 03:19 PM
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Imagine u were fit, had tons of friends, were extremely sociable and the girl thought u were a totally fun party/fucc boi type of guy. And then u ask her out on a date and she realizes ure actually really fucking smart and loaded - none of which u mentioned to her at the party because u completely downplayed what u actually do. She’s gonna be like “omg i thought he was just a fun dumb hot player but he’s actually totally fucking hubby material too?!?!”. And she knows u can get any girl u want ca…
/r/seduction03/02/22 03:13 PM
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Personally, i love deadpan/dry humor so id respond to this with something like, “Good, youve made the right choice. Older guys r gross. Low droopy balls, senile, and the msyogny. God i HATE women”. And then i glare at her jokingly. Stuff like this almost always gets a huge laugh and passes the shit test
/r/seduction03/02/22 03:05 PM
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this is exactly what i do and it's worked for me so far. If cold approaching is hunting, I think of this method as farming. you'll make a lot of female friends who you aren't personally too into but they're into you because they can sense you don't want anything sexual or romantic with them. Then when you're at a party and you have a lot of guy friends AND female friends who are into you (and girls can tell when other girls are into you), it'll help with pre selection. I've dated girls way out o…
/r/seduction03/02/22 02:19 AM
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most ppl won't agree with this but u gotta keep going and keep getting rejected until you reach your "fuck it" point. Once you do you'll either turn one of two ways: either you'll become forever bitter, resentful, or even violent... or you'll learn to let go of the need for an outcome. Every time you talk to a girl, you'll pre-reject yourself from thinking anything will ever come out of it. And when you do that, you'll stop trying to talk and act a certain way. You'll just be you. You'll be able…
/r/seduction02/02/22 03:31 AM
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yep for sure. If it's at a loud bar/club and im just there to have fun and i dont really pressure myself too much to impress any girl - it's super easy. if it's a one on one date sober and the first time meeting her, then its a bit more difficult depending on how we mesh
/r/seduction31/01/22 03:29 AM
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i usually just say the dumbest shit that comes to my mind and 9/10 times it has the girl laughing and being interested
/r/seduction31/01/22 03:25 AM
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no, the words were fine. it was knowing when to use them that was the issue
/r/seduction30/01/22 02:25 AM
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the pro is that you took action and did what most guys are afraid to do. unfortunately, she wasn't interested but that's fine
/r/seduction30/01/22 02:17 AM
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introverted doesn't equal shy. All my introverted friends after graduating uni and having worked for the past 5+ years can hold a conversation fine because they're forced to talk with coworkers in the office every day. They just prefer staying in one their free days more often than going out.
/r/seduction29/01/22 08:08 PM
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sounds like you haven't hit rock bottom yet and you really need to get there asap. when you get burned by enough rejection and you feel like a retail cashier who's worked at walmart for the past 3 years, you internalize not caring as much. after that you'll either become extremely bitter or you'll learn to let go and engage in life without need for certain outcomes. if you go with path B, things will start going really well for you
/r/seduction29/01/22 06:01 AM
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nope. i should add, distance is also a factor. This person lives far away and we fuck whenever i visit. we've known each other for years and are both aware and okay with us fucking/dating other ppl
/r/seduction29/01/22 05:56 AM
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meta game isn't anything new. And almost anything works as long as you're congruent, isn't forced, and it comes from the right frame
/r/seduction29/01/22 05:54 AM
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personally this works only if she thinks your a guy who has a lot of options and you think she's not someone worth committing to.
/r/seduction29/01/22 05:52 AM
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yupp 100%. you'd have to be willfully ignorant or downright dumb to think a jacked 6ft guy's experience is gonna be the same as a skinny 5'4 guy's
/r/seduction29/01/22 05:44 AM
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Same rules still apply, but dont take my word for it. Experiment and see for urself.
/r/seduction28/01/22 11:45 PM
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these are all really well articulated points. ty for this
/r/seduction28/01/22 10:28 PM
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Instead of looking for what to talk about, change your mindset. fully accept that you're gonna be nervous. fully accept that one major possibility is that it all goes to shit because you were nervous. In which case: 1. maybe someone who doesn't give you a second chance just cause you were nervous is kind of a shitty person and doesn't deserve a second chance from you. "i was so turned off by him because he was nervous" - a thing a pretty shitty person would say. and 2. even if that's not the cas…
/r/seduction28/01/22 10:26 PM
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generally no, u dont want to send texts like those for 3 reasons. texts that are response seeking are generally not great for dating unless specifically for logistics. u want your energy to be way lower. it's the difference between a naive inexperienced boy texting and a grounded man. typically, if a girl's interested in you, she'll almost always text you first. It's the difference between "Yo! hows it going??" (waiting/wishing she responds positively) and "yoo, still down for coffee at x tomorr…
/r/seduction28/01/22 10:14 PM
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what you do is get so burnt out caring about these distinctions that you eventually reach 5 year retail cashier levels of not giving a fuck and then things will starting turning around
/r/seduction28/01/22 07:50 PM
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At the most basic level your bread and butter mindset should be this: I don't want anything from her. I'm here to have fun and if she's someone who wants the same we'll click and she'll actually make it EASY for me to have a conversation/hang out with her. but that's my only responsibility for right now - just enjoy the moment and try to have fun with ZERO expectations of if she'll want to ever hang out with me or engage in conversation with me in the future. if it turns out she's not that into …
/r/seduction28/01/22 07:26 PM
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