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| 2 | Is she dead weight?OP, I'll see you on Jerry Springer, because apparently we're married to the same gal! | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/06/26 04:06 PM |
| 7 | I spent 7k on ex wife’s titsI mean, did you get to see 'em at least once? 😄 | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/26 02:30 AM |
| 11 | Honestly, how many of you in a relationship with a woman now that was hotter than your ex?Look, man. Better a weekend in Disneyland than never getting to visit at all. :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/04/26 01:19 AM |
| 4 | I can't climb out of this.That's rough sledding, brother. You have every right to feel your knees quaking under that load but listen to me: You matter. Your life matters. You've got 8,000 generations of men who came before you who wrestled mastodons, fought wars, and did hard shit. WE'RE MADE TO DO HARD SHIT. Doesn't mean you're Superman. Doesn't mean you can't reach out and ask for help. But it does mean you've got to soldier through this. We're part of a collective brotherhood. None of us get left behind. As some other… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/25 07:51 PM |
| 2 | The moment I realized my "Duty" meant nothing to the courtThank you for sharing this. I sometimes wonder if this sub is an echo chamber: there's a lot of "we did our duty, she acted on emotions". But, man, like so many other guys here my situation maps onto that almost 1:1. I'm not ready to make global pronouncements a la "all men are duty driven, all women are emotional" but, good lord, it feels like that is the case 99% of the time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/25 07:38 PM |
| 2 | I’m Floundering Boys^^^ THIS right here, my brother. A porn problem/addiction is a legit reason for a spouse to feel stressed, betrayed, hurt, etc. It is NOT an excuse for an affair. It's not like she learned about your porn issue, slipped on a banana peel, and landed on some dude's dong. Point is: you may have caused her stress but you did not cause her affair. Praying for you, bro. Hang in there and take it one step, one punch, one round at a time. You got this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/25 07:11 PM |
| 6 | Feeling lostFirst: I'm sorry you're going through this. Second: As shitty as things may feel right now, YOU'VE GOT THIS. Listen: Working your way up to 80k a year in sales is no joke. If you've done it once, you can do it again. There's a lot of strong advice and encouragement in this thread, I'll add: the awesome thing about sales is that your earning potential is practically uncapped. So you could go from 80k to 160k or higher. What other sales positions could you pursue? Get creative. Are there companies… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/25 01:35 PM |
| 17 | Moved on in 10 days after 10 years.Your comment about her coming home in the other dude's hoodie hit me like a punch in the gut. Damn. Truly sorry you had to experience that, brother. I'm not gonna bullshit like I've got any advice or counsel to offer. But from one internet stranger to another: praying for your strength and resilience. One way or another, you've got this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/24 07:22 PM |
| 11 | AlimonyI'd get the hell off Reddit and start calling the top lawyers in my area if I were you. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/10/24 10:35 PM |
| 5 | Can’t seem to leave and need to ventSo, man to man, I'm gonna be real: you're sounding like a whiny bitch. All those grievances you have with your wife that you listed? Could be 100% true. But guess what? Doesn't matter. Instead of obsessing over all the ways you wish she'd improve, put on your King Sized nutties, and take FULL accountability for your own damn life. That's all you can do. If you're not already doing these things, then: - Life heavy shit (this is non-negotiable) - Plan epic adventures and invite her along (whether … | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/10/24 06:37 PM |
| 8 | Social media infection.re: gentle parenting... My pops taught me one of the most important lessons of my life -- and he sure as hell wasn't gentle about it! Here's the story: I was a good kid, but could also be a mouthy little shit. When I was 12 or 13, I said something that made my mom cry. I honestly can't even remember what I said, but I must have crossed a line. When my pops came home he entered my bedroom, walked me right up against a wall, firmly pushed his finger into my chest and said, "Your mother told me wha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/24 08:12 PM |
| 5 | Social media infection.Not saying us dudes aren't susceptible to peer influence and social pressure. We definitely are. But there's compelling evidence to suggest that women are more affected by social media -- especially when it comes to anxiety, depression, and body image -- than men. Insta-sham, Fakebook, et al -- that shit is corrosive, man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/24 08:01 PM |
| 24 | Social media infection.The "circle of hens" is just analogue social media. Same virus; different means of transmission. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/24 06:33 PM |
| 5 | Thinking about getting married againYou ever see that meme from "The Office" where Toby returns and Michael Scott's reaction is: "NO! God. NOOOO, God, please, no!" Yeah... | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/24 01:01 AM |
| 5 | Just Ride It OutFrom one internet stranger to another: THANK YOU. Truly. I'm in the eye of the storm (2nd mediation call is Monday) and need to hear this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/24 06:53 PM |
| 4 | 31m going through divorce, I feel like this pain will never go away and just feel sad, alone, and hopelessThis man is preaching truth. Hang in there, OP. Muscle through one day after the next. You've got this, brother! | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/24 10:04 PM |
| 5 | Unmarried Young man Needing adviceWhat folks need to understand is that EVERY marriage comes with a prenup. You either accept the one your state mandates, or you work with counsel to create one that (ideally) does a better job of protecting you and your assets if things go south. Good for you entering this marriage with a clear head and open eyes. Marriage can be an amazing, wonderful union -- and I wish you and your partner the very best -- but not every story has a happy ending. And if shit hits the fan, you absolutely want to… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:42 PM |
| 4 | ResentmentI hear you, brother. Glad you pulled through. This shit ain't easy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/24 02:06 PM |
| 3 | HopeCONGRATS! And the "Meditations" should be required reading for every dude going through this experience. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/24 08:09 PM |
| 9 | Am I the only one that finds it hard to trust women with my feelings ever again?I'm not saying this is universally true. But as a man... Sharing your emotions with a woman is like bleeding in front of a shark. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/24 07:56 PM |
| 12 | Shift in thoughts about dating post divorce?I want to build a time machine and have you preach this TRUTH to me 15 years ago. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/24 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with STBXW’s glow-upIf this isn't allowed, go ahead and remove it mods. But Henry Rollins' essay "Iron and the Soul" should be required reading for every dude going through a divorce: https://www.nerdfitness.com/iron-and-soul/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 09:14 PM |
| 10 | Struggling with STBXW’s glow-upI hear you, brother. It's like my brain and, uh, other parts of my body are betraying me by reminding me that my STBXW is a good looking gal. It is what it is. We can't control their actions. But you can control your actions. If you haven't already, get a gym membership. The gym is now your house of worship, the iron is your salvation. To quote Henry Rollins: "Friends may come and go. But 200 pounds is always 200 pounds." LIFT HEAVY SHIT. I know this may sound reductive, but it's the truth: lift… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 08:07 PM |
| 3 | What’s the point of life if she is going to take half eventuallyAs some other folks said: just rip off the band-aid. Yes, it sucks. But listen: 6 years is a (relatively) short marriage. You'll likely owe alimony for 3ish years. Rebuild stronger, wiser, and wealthier. You've got this, brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 06:29 PM |
| 5 | How did you level yourself up?Start a business. Could be a side hustle, weekend gig, solopreneur, or whatever. Start small. Ideally, do something where you're paid based on your performance. (I started a direct response copywriting business, for example.) When it comes to getting paid, no one -- not your boss, your company, the market, etc. -- gives a shit what you think you're worth. The only value that comes from "I'm not getting paid what I'm worth" thinking is if you use it was motivation to go out there and get that bre… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/04/24 01:15 AM |
| 8 | Vicious cycleDon't think, don't feel, just do. Treat yourself like an automaton, a machine, if you have to. But just do it. Start small: 15 pushups today, a brisk walk around the block. Get started and don't stop. Build momentum. It's like a flying an airplane: the hardest part is getting it off the ground. Once you've built up some momentum and the plane is in the air, it's smooth sailing. Get started and don't stop. (I draw a small heart in my day planner next to each day I exercise. Point is to build up a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/24 02:20 PM |
| 5 | How do you deal with the lonelinessHey, my man, listen: 59 is NOT getting close to the end of your life. No retreat, no surrender! | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/24 04:36 PM |
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