Alkhemia Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
671	Beware the hobosexual and other bums	MALE DEPRAVITY	Alkhemia	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/09/21 02:02 PM
187	OLD scrote attempts to hire hitman	SCROTES MAD	Alkhemia	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/05/21 08:12 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
443	Men start looking for reasons to hate/intentionally misunderstand you when they realize you’re smarter than they expected? Years ago, I met a man for a date. Before we met, he seemed very interested in my undergraduate degree and he feigned interest in my field of study. When we met up for coffee (this was pre- FDS), he shows up with a stack of obscure books (WTH?! This is a date, not a book report!) that were tangentially related to my undergrad degree. This clown then proceeded to quiz me on obscure facts until I noped out after thirty minutes. 🙄	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/02/22 03:55 AM
130	Ladies please be careful about who you have children with. She is pregnant but he is trying to dictate how she gives birth… also he doesn’t know about the umbilical cord? 🥴 Hmmm...this forever girlfriend has essentially gaslighted herself into believing that an ignorant and disrespectful clown is "amazing and supportive." 🙄 Nah, sis, you need to ditch this moronic weirdo before he poisons your child with his laughable ideas and feelings of entitlement to your medical procedure. You bred with an idiot (it happens), so take the L and move forward alone or with someone who possesses an elementary education in human biology. Source: I am a mother (via c-section) to two…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/02/22 01:51 AM
104	How to win in family court: a PSA from a lawyer. So much this. I, too, come from a family of attorneys and this is spot on advice. Unfortunately, I had two children with an abusive ex. Since I left, I've had over a decade of dealing with this scumbag and passively enduring his parade of bullshit and attempted character assassination. It's been over a decade: he's remarried and I'm remarried, but this circus never ends for my ex. Consequently, every interaction (email, text or custody exchange) I have in the back of my mind the potentiality tha…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/02/22 11:42 PM
16	Does anybody else get tired of fake women's posts undoubtedly written by men? "I've said it before, and I'll say it again: This notion that men give extravagant, lavish gifts to their partners is untrue in 99% of cases." This. In fact, after my now-husband and I had been together for six months, he got me a Hunt A Killer subscription for my birthday. I realize that may not be a good gift for everyone, but at six months, an extravagant gift would have felt awkward and inappropriate to me. However, the gift was incredibly thoughtful because he knew that I'm a true crime and…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/02/22 07:46 PM
90	How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part! A few weeks ago, I watched a Shallon Lester video where she talked about how having "the one who got away" seems to be a very male thing. Thinking back over my past, there have been a few times when some dude has wistfully declared that I'm "the one who got away." 🙄 Whatever. This is not a compliment because it centers around male ego and regret. It's a bullshit Hollywood movie trope and 100% pathetic. I feel terrible for the wife, but I have potential second-hand embarrassment for the husband. …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/02/22 03:29 PM
23	Remember the ex you wanted to marry? Let’s all laugh together This is a trip down memory lane... My first real boyfriend: He was 23 and I was 16 He did not have a driver's license because it had been suspended for a DUI. I drove him to and from work every day. He had all kinds of rules around sex - he was my first and I didn't know any better. For instance, I wasn't allowed to touch his back during sex. We went into an adult store and I wasn't allowed to purchase a vibrator that competed with his "package." Being 16, my life experience was somewhat limit…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/10/21 05:44 PM
19	"Men protecting other men" and why you should keep you standards sky high cause of it. Firstly, I am so incredibly sorry that you endured that and that your own brother has the gall to side with your abuser. hugs Secondly, I feel so revolted by your story because my brother did something similar. When I was going through my divorce with my Zero Value Ex, my brother accompanied me to court for a child custody hearing. After the hearing was over, I was speaking to my attorney in the cafeteria and my brother, of all people, tells my attorney, "I mean, I wasn't there (during the abu…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/09/21 06:20 PM
11	40 year-old scrote living with his parents sued them for trashing a porn collection which "included depictions of incestuous sexual relationship, along with depictions of sex with minors and animals, sexual assault and slavery." And he won the lawsuit. I tried to find a picture of this NVM (no luck, but I know he's vile) and was only able to find an article from the Daily Mail. Apparently, this garbage scrote has a daughter and he fancies himself "an artist." Unsurprisingly, he is also a gamer. To make matters worse, from the DM article, it appears that his parents knew he was a dumpster fire, but hoped he would, "become (ex -wife's) problem." SICK	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/09/21 05:25 PM
139	Beware of this type of men. It's one of many abusive types mentioned in Lundy's book, but I see this specific type very often lately, especially on social media. Not being hyperbolic, but Lundy Bancroft saved my life. I discovered "Why Does He Do That?" while in the midst of an abusive marriage and Lundy's book gave me the courage to accept the fact that I was in an abusive marriage. More than that, the book validated my decision to leave with my two small children. It's been over a decade since I escaped and my abusive ex has gotten remarried. I have never spoken with his latest victim, but her hatred of me (WTF???!!) has been relayed to me vis-a-vis my…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/08/21 01:36 AM
207	This is why women must be selective in what men we allow in our lives. Most men are jealous and possessive if women. They'd rather kill us than see us be happy without them or with another man. These types of stories really resonate with me. I have been divorced for over a decade from a ZVM who raped me before I had been 'cleared' after having an emergency C-Section with our first son and physically abused me while I was pregnant with our second son. Mr. Zero Value was also one of my Professors in grad school, had degrees from a few Ivy League schools and was performing Mr. Pacifist Buddhist when we met. On the surface, we had a nice life with a nice home, nice cars and lived in a beau…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/21 04:48 PM
50	Lingerie is NOT a gift Former 🤡s unite! For real, my abusive ex-husband gave me two trash bags of his dirty laundry as a 'gift' after we got home from our honeymoon. I desperately wish I was joking/exaggerating, but I'm not and I did his f-ing laundry! 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/07/21 03:36 AM
20	Today in “romanticizing abuse” "I grew up believing this was how love was supposed to be; hard, full of pain and heart break. " Damn, I feel this 100%. The pain, heartbreak and difficulty all equal intensity/passion.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/06/21 06:41 PM
18	Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting me I, too, was with a toxic hobosexual in my twenties and I hope this lovely woman runs as fast as she can. In my case, my toxic hobosexual had no job, no degree, no driver's license, no future and he lived in my home, ate my food, and wanted to dictate my life. He threw a fit when I told him I was going to grad school because, in his considered estimation, I was wasting my time and ruining my life. 🙄 Like this clown, my ex was toxic and felt entitled to manage my life. This was twenty years ago an…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/06/21 02:55 PM
32	My LVM misogynist father and pick me mother's conditioning made me waste my 20s American here. I'm right with you on having a LVM father and a Pickme mother. My father still routinely makes comments about how ridiculous women are and he'll refer sarcastically to overweight women being "a slice of heaven." He was the breadwinner in our family and my mom was SAHM. Back in his younger days (30s and 40s), he was having affairs with multiple overweight women. I have complicated feelings about my mother. She was, in many ways, the stereotypical 'trophy wife' - she was a cheerlead…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/06/21 06:38 PM
19	Why we should quit the diets/eating habits that make us miserable 100%!!! When I was in my 20s, I had major problems with anorexia and bulimia. I'm 5'5", got down to 80 pounds, and was wearing literal children's clothing and I thought that was a victory. I was angry constantly, terribly insecure and my entire self-worth revolved around men. It was such a sick and depressing time in my life. Finally, I got into my 30s and started a relationship with an abusive grad school Prof. that basically repeated back to me all of my toxic thinking. I was a size 4/6 and du…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/06/21 05:43 PM
14	What are your basic standards that others consider high standards? This dude is a straight-up misandrist. Poor baby.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 04:44 PM
16	If you're really married, how come you're on FDS? I'm truly sorry that you endured that and I 100% agree about the damage pickme moms do compared to their LV counterparts. I'm very glad that we are fighting our way out of the damaging way we were raised. 🙂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/05/21 01:51 AM
111	If you're really married, how come you're on FDS? Essentially, I had an abusive/neglectful childhood. My dad routinely worked 80 hours a week and my mom was the primary caregiver. Unfortunately, my mom had/has addiction and mental health issues. Furthermore, my mom was/is Queen of the Pickmes and she reinforced an extremely detrimental worldview for me and how I relate to men. Now that I'm an adult, have children of my own and am in a truly beautiful marriage with a HVM, I need FDS as a check against my toxic upbringing and socialization as a w…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/05/21 01:34 AM
11	Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men want This is purely anecdotal, but I used FDS principles to find a HVM. However, this coincided with my own leveling up and prioritizing my interests and caring for my children/family above and beyond trying to find a romantic partner. Things just fell into place from there. For the incel dudes reading this, I managed to "snag" him (the dreaded 6/6/6 Chad) being 40+ with children.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/05/21 05:49 PM
18	Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men want Excellent post! Nevertheless, I would want to nuance this: >Their desire for impressing women controls them. Their frustrations over failing to impress women destroy them. Whether they admit it or not, I think men are mostly interested in impressing other men and performing masculinity for other men. They are terrified to admit it because it points to their homoerotic tendencies, but it is certainly there.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/05/21 04:54 PM
65	Let’s talk about “Trad” men. And why I used to be attracted to them. I've been there, too. My trad man was quite well known in the trad man blogosphere. We started interacting online and he came to my State to "visit" me. Initially, that "visit" was supposed to be for a weekend, but it ended up being five years! 🙄 During those five years, he only worked six months and I ended up utterly supporting him. In truth, my "trad man" was a hobosexual.😆	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/03/21 04:37 PM
39	Divorced Women of FDS I've been divorced since 3/28/10. Even though I had two young children and was a PhD student at the time, I left him because the physical, verbal and mental abuse was continuing to escalate. Luckily, I had family nearby that helped me to physically escape with my children while he was at a previously-scheduled engagement. Post-divorce life was a bit rough, I'm not going to lie. It took me months until I could relax and sleep through the night without fear of being yelled at and accused of adulte…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/01/21 01:12 AM
14	What’s the worst gift you’ve been given by a LVM? Here’s mine. Story in comments. A Christmas card with a vague promise to take me out to dinner. The Christmas card "gift" was given two months before I found out he was cheating and the dinner never happened.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/01/21 12:29 AM
9	I did a post on MY personal penis preferences and dudes on Reddit were ready to rope themselves over it. I don’t ever want to hear EVER again how women are “insecure” and “crazy” ones for being NOT OK with Porn. As someone who grew up in the 80s, I feel this so much. While not blonde/blue-eyed (I'm brown-haired/green-eyed), my mother was the high school Homecoming Queen and Cheerleader that married the football star. Being more bookish and academic-oriented, I was always under pressure to fit a certain mold. Hell, in Jr. High, I won some award for "best dressed" and it was my mom that was the one who cared about those things and literally curated every outfit I wore to school. Unsurprisingly, I put on s…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/09/20 06:01 PM
3	Men, on a thread about engagement rings. But women are the gold-diggers, amirite? 🙄 If only "someone" could send this screenshot to this golddigger's wife and in-laws.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/08/20 10:54 PM
4	To all of us who read "Why Does He Do That?" So much this. It's been over a decade since I escaped and filed for divorce. He's remarried and I'm remarried, but he cannot let it go and cannot get over the fact that I left him. Just a few weeks ago, he texted me (we have children and share custody, so I cannot cut him off completely) to whine about how I "abandoned" him and that "there are no words to describe how much he hates me." These types of men can never let it go because they feel entitled to a subservient punching bag.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/07/20 04:27 PM
26	To all of us who read "Why Does He Do That?" Lundy Bancroft's book literally saved my life. I started reading it in the midst of being abused by my ex-husband. I was a full-time Ph.D. student at the time and I would have to sneak brief readings of that book. Reading that book made everything clear and it put a stop my second-guessing and justifications for his behavior. Luckily, I had family near and we strategized my exit with my two very young children during a time when I knew he had a previous engagement. Of course, he attempted to des…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/07/20 12:55 AM