AllStickNoCarrot Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	Men should have a go bag or escape fund for emotional abuse What you're describing is just a person's freedom to decide for themselves what they're willing to accept and work with. Everyone gets to do that and it looks different for each person. If someone wants to play that out by keeping an emergency supply kit stocked, that's up to them. They may certainly have to explain it to their partner, and each person's justification will have varying degrees of validity to their respective partners, but its their choice to make if they feel it's best for them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/24 06:08 PM
1	Bodyfat Percentage Is The Single Most Important Controllable Factor That Determines Your Attractiveness Just physical attractiveness or do we not have control of our own minds?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/23 09:43 PM
1	Women can be borderline autistic, even mentally and socially retarded and they will still be able to get guys, have dating options, overall, still be able to get into a relationship, but not so much the other way around. It sounds like your view could be summarized by saying men aren't as selective as women, you think that's not fair, and it makes you angry. What about this view are you willing to change and what kind of information would you need? Are you upset because you feel like if you try hard you're supposed to be rewarded? Because things don't work that way. People are too complex and unique to boil it down to a checklist that will get you what you want. You can't control other people or their thoughts, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/23 09:39 PM
1	Men who work out - what is your opinion on this article? "I was rejected by a girl. It led me to change my body" The writer mostly sums up my own opinion with these lines: Training taught me a curiosity that transcended the gym, and I began to learn about and celebrate my flaws after being diagnosed with ADHD and mild OCD. It taught me compassion, acceptance, and forgiveness. I learned I didn’t have to apologise for taking up space in the world, and most importantly that I am enough. It sounds like his journey to get his physical health in order ended up helping him get some of his mental health sorted out…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/23 07:27 PM
2	Is the "you can have it all" narrative actually doing women more harm than good? It comes down to resources. Time and money. Some people are able to access and manage both to have the life they want. But everyone has a different set of obstacles and choices in their life that make acquiring and managing their resources easier or harder. This means that in order to live the same kind of life, two people will differ in the amount of effort and sacrifice they must contribute. I'm very thankful for the life I was born into. I won't ever have the things that others might, not wit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/23 09:35 PM
2	Q4M: would you enter a marriage where finances were not mingled and costs were split 50/50? Agreed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/23 02:42 PM
1	Life without a partner becomes very boring I was definitely not bored or unhappy when I was single. Yes, I did things that kept me busy, but I still do that now because my partner isn't responsible for my amusement or happiness. I am. Whether single or with a partner, a person getting bored is their own fault.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/23 02:41 PM
1	Most guys don't like fake nails or heavy makeup. Guys, what do you do "for yourself" even though you know women find it unattractive? Everything. I do what I do because I want to have fun, help people, and be somebody I respect. I can't please everyone so I'm not going to try. Also, I think your question was straightforward enough without the part about what most guys don't like.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/23 10:07 PM
2	Marriage is an L for men Maybe. The upside to switching to a new partner could be that the same stuff the man did with their previous partner would seem novel to the new partner. This puts less demand on the man to come up with new ideas. The disadvantage is that they've got to learn everything from scratch again. They know nothing about what their next partner likes or dislikes and have to build up from nothing. It might be accurate to say that it boils down to whether a person chooses to work on their short-game or th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/23 07:44 PM
2	Marriage is an L for men The article you linked suggests women get "bored" because of the lack of novelty, whereas men remain satisfied with the relationship norms that develop. So to address your view, I suppose men do "lose" if they aren't bringing fresh experiences to the relationship and the woman gets bored, unhappy, and leaves. It would seem though that men have an amount of control over this so I think whether a marriage or relationship succeeds depends on the couple's effort, communication, teamwork, alignment, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/23 07:01 PM
1	Female mating strategies prevent them from giving men genuine answers What's my overall point? That we can never have truly honest discussions on these topics because women benefit from men reducing their standards or having no standards at all. I don't follow how you're connecting the ability to have honest discussion of ideas to men lowering their standards. The inverse of this would seem to read "for honest discussion to happen about these topics women should not benefit from men reducing their standards or having no standards at all." This seems like a classic…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/23 08:48 PM
1	Women will abuse good chivalrous men if they sense weakness. This could just read as "bad people will take advantage of individuals who don't set boundaries or stand up for themselves." Physical boundaries are a bit different, and situations change when threats of physical harm are introduced. In your example though, it's a situation that the man could just choose to not continue with. If he's desperate he'll likely let himself get strung along. If he's content and happy with his life outside of a relationship, it's probably easier for him to avoid somebo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/23 08:03 PM
1	a man success with women has nothing to do with how well he has friendships with women Can you better quantify or describe what "success with women" looks like for this topic?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/23 07:32 PM
1	How important is a "high-status career" really when it comes to dating? People shouldn't be doctors to get dates.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/23 01:58 PM
1	If A GF Can Post Bikini/Half Naked Pics, Can Her BF Like Other Women's Pics as well? This depends entirely on the couple having the discussion. What might be ok for one relationship won't work for the next. However, if either person is trying to get the attention of another person outside of the relationship, the question of 'why' should be answered and dealt with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/23 01:50 PM
1	Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences. Sure, just as long as those people with those preferences are not making others who do have more sexual partners feel bad about themselves. That's probably the main issue. There's maybe an element of incredulity as well, but mostly a negative affiliation that's been established due to people with a preference or higher valuation towards those with fewer sex partners, who have made others feel bad about having relatively higher number of sex partners. For example, saying it feels icky at an insti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 12:51 PM
2	Average men gain nothing from being sex positive and against purity culture. Being sex-positive doesn't have to mean encouraging hook-ups. Telling people that it's OK for consenting adults to have sex isn't the same as encouraging people to have sex as frequently as they can with as many partners as they can.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 07:44 PM
1	Average men gain nothing from being sex positive and against purity culture. Why can't it just be something that's done for the sake of improving women's lives? Do men need to also benefit from anything done to help women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 02:30 PM
1	For men dating is basically a series of job interviews. Yeah, it's a way to judge how two people fit. It goes both ways. Everybody has different requirements because everybody has a different idea of what the 'job' is. Some people won't be a good fit with eachother. Some people lack basic skills that probably should be acquired before 'applying' for a relationship spot. Sometimes it really helps to have 'references' because it gets you more attention. There's a lot of overlap. Definitely not identical though, but that's also pretty obvious.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/23 10:07 PM
2	Women are attracted to qualities that allow her to do less Is anyone attracted to qualities in people that force them to do more? Why would anyone want to be in a relationship with somebody else if it meant that one person had to put more into it than they were getting out of it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 05:31 AM
4	Where is all this "men are lazy, useless, losers" rhetoric coming from? Probably just from people who were around useless men a lot. People like to generalize and over emphasize their personal experiences. It's a human thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 05:12 AM
0	Who should men be listening to? For advice, direction, understanding. I agree. The conclusion I would draw from that is to model a decent member of society who takes care of their body & mind, and has strong social skills. That would seem to yield more desirable outcomes overall than a desirable outcome in one specific measure. But that also come back to what matters most to the individual. If getting sex is a majority of what a person values in life, then it makes sense that person would choose the behaviors that have a greater likelihood of getting them sex, eve…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 07:51 PM
7	Who should men be listening to? For advice, direction, understanding. If a man's entire goal is to get sex, then there's certainly patterns of behavior that will most effectively do that. If a man is wanting to be a decent person and contributing member of society, the behaviors to do that are going to look different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 06:14 PM
2	Who should men be listening to? For advice, direction, understanding. It's never any one person. Find people who are happy, hard working, and genuinely nice to others, then just listen and observe them. Remember that nobody is perfect. If you look for faults, you'll find them. It's a guarantee. Look for the good qualities, understand what makes them good, and make them your own.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 06:05 PM
2	60% of young men are not chronically single because they "lack emotional skills" I think a lot of people are single because they try too hard for sex or a relationship. They create a dependency on it in their mind and think they can't be happy without it. Once they've linked their happiness to this idea then they either get all mopy and upset when they "do all the right things" but no sex/relationship happens, or they try to rebel against it and convince themselves they're above needing men/women and will then jab at the opposite sex to prove it. Anyone can be happy without …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/23 11:57 PM
1	The best thing any man can do is to stop dating, and to also forget about marriage. Your argument is that this applies to "any" man, but for the great number of men who have successful dating experiences, relationships, and marriages, this wouldn't apply to them at all. Their success alone debunks your claim that not dating or getting married is "the best thing any man can do".	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/23 11:27 PM
1	What did you open up about that caused the end of the relationship? One case shouldn't be enough to confirm fears of anything. That will just make life scary and hard to enjoy. Just like we can choose good people to be friends with, we can choose good partners. There are quite a large number of cases of people choosing a good partner as well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/23 09:36 PM
6	Leftover men are still more useful to society than leftover women What's the purpose of trying to assign arbitrary value to a subset of people? If you reach a conclusion about this, one way or another, what will you do with that information that puts more good into the world? If you're concern is that you observe men being dehumanized in society, why not ask something more constructive about that instead of framing it as a comparison to the value of women? Men have value. Women have value. People have value. Nobody should be dehumanized. This comparison mindse…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/23 08:54 PM
-3	Patriarchy, Internalized Misogyny, Toxic Masculinity That's what I think toxic masculinity should be, the abusive and unnecessary high standards expected from men. That's essentially a part of it. But no, it's just another synonym for women victims, men demons. Anyone can be affected by hyper conformity to a gender role, it just affects men and women differently.	/r/MensRights	22/02/23 01:50 PM
2	I’m confused on what I did wrong. It seems like my comments got removed for being pro men since it was factual. I’m not sure if I can post pics here but I thought this would be the best place considering the subject matter. OP's post didn't mention they were banned, and the captures don't show that they were. I'm not a mod anywhere and don't know how it works around most of reddit, but these comments don't seem like enough to prompt an immediate ban on their own.	/r/MensRights	22/02/23 06:10 AM
1	this is being taught at my high-school. It sounds like you already know that it's a gender neutral thing, so you don't need to do anything except the assignment. If it helps, phrase your answers in a gender neutral way so it's obvious that abuse can go both ways. Take the text as an example that most people will understand, not as explicit criteria for how to do the work.	/r/MensRights	22/02/23 05:25 AM
0	I’m confused on what I did wrong. It seems like my comments got removed for being pro men since it was factual. I’m not sure if I can post pics here but I thought this would be the best place considering the subject matter. Did you link the post somewhere? I only see the captures of your comments so there's context missing. Aside from that, I think it might be because you seem to have made it into a whatabout-ism and hijacked the purpose of the thread. Also, you admit making assumptions about certain people (the man) without understanding more of the story of what he did. That comes across as dismissive and makes it seem like you're jumping to conclusions. Again though, I didn't see where you posted a link to the t…	/r/MensRights	22/02/23 05:14 AM
3	Patriarchy, Internalized Misogyny, Toxic Masculinity Stop clinging to gender roles. Broaden our definition of life success. Build others up instead of tearing them down. Let shit go.	/r/MensRights	22/02/23 04:36 AM
1	What happens to the men without money looks and status? Yes, it's all still possible. First make sure you're happy and content by yourself before you take time to find the right person. Otherwise your just bringing another person into your own unhappiness, and that won't go well. Know yourself. Make sure you can own up to your strengths and weaknesses and know that you have value. If you can't accept yourself then you're going to get frustrated or hurt easily. That will create resentment, which is guaranteed to make things harder. Be aware of your ow…	/r/MensRights	13/02/23 11:34 PM
2	Dont forget, you are now an incel If you got to decide how to include/create a strong female lead character into a story, what would you do differently to get a more positive reaction from others like you?	/r/MensRights	13/02/23 06:33 PM
-1	Dont forget, you are now an incel This is a pretty toxic stance. Why cant we accept that multiple things can be problems at once that are a result of how we've constructed our society? Some things are common and uncommon, and some things are more serious than others. Getting hyper fixated and stuck on trying to attribute blame is not helpful, anywhere, ever. Being too proud or scared to consider a solution that asks you to try changing yourself is also a barrier. Coming to this sub with a reasonable stance of what issues primari…	/r/MensRights	13/02/23 04:45 PM
1	Are We Dating The Same Guy If the groups are indeed creating issues that are as bad as the claims say, why would anybody want to date somebody who participates in them? Just find somebody that doesn't buy into it all or who doesn't rely on getting their full story from online strangers. It seems silly to try to get even by creating another group just like it to make things "fair". It's just drawing attention to the matter and encouraging the same behavior.	/r/MensRights	13/02/23 03:26 PM
1	What is the actual point of PPD? Probably to find information that reinforces their own ideas, as well as see other people get worked up about things that can then be turned into a story for their echo-camber for more validation. I don't know what number of people would read something here and attempt to take on a position of somebody they disagree with, and then argue that position to challenge the others in their echo chamber.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/23 10:19 PM
2	Chivalry? Unless you're going up to each of those couples and asking them whose money is paying for the items, how they normally split costs, how long they've been together, did they spend money on anything else that day, or what their financial and employment situation is, you're missing a lot of important context. All that aside, if your observation is summarized as "men seem to often be the ones completing a sales transaction" and this doesn't sit well with people, then it's pretty easy to just start a…	/r/MensRights	12/02/23 06:32 PM
2	Remember: "My body, my choice" only applies to women. If you are a man, nobody cares about your body or your choice. If you're with somebody who wants you to get a vasectomy before continuing to have sex, you don't have to, and you don't have to stay with that person. Everyone has a choice they can make. Nobody made a law saying you have to get a vasectomy to prevent pregnancy. It's still our choice. It is now the case though that once the woman is pregnant, there is no guarantee she can get an abortion unless her state allows it. That right was no longer protected at the national level.	/r/MensRights	12/02/23 03:09 PM
1	No feminists. Men don't hate women. They hate only you. Sounds like you're feeling pretty threatened by this. Are you OK right now? Has someone in your life put your livelihood in danger? Do you feel unsafe or trapped?	/r/MensRights	10/02/23 10:05 PM
1	Why don't men have places to go to anymore? I can't say I agree. I can pretty much go anywhere without feeling afraid of what I might say, no matter the audience. There are groups for demographics that I don't fit into, but I'm not concerned about being excluded. People are allowed to create spaces for themselves, even men. I see them in sports, recreation, and special interests. Any concern about a group comes from observing the beliefs that are created, reinforced, and acted upon by members of those groups. That's true everywhere. If it…	/r/MensRights	10/02/23 08:47 PM