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Iron Rule of Tomassi #7 It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was. If you haven’t gone no contact, do it. Now. We’ve all fucked crazy, check my recent posts - I’m not perfect and …
/r/askTRP07/03/20 05:01 AM
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Opinions will vary wildly here on this topic. I’d say try it and see what you think. Personally, I’d say porn is the greater issue and that masturbating without it is acceptable on an infrequent basis if you’re not getting laid.
/r/askTRP17/11/19 10:35 PM
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Reread the sidebar. Delete the contact and text thread. Don’t lay down with troglodytes if it’s going to lower your self worth. It’s tough but if you don’t have abundance you need to act as though you do. One is the most dangerous number.
/r/askTRP17/11/19 07:56 PM
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Hammer it through your head to not punish yourself any further for learning a lesson. Dwelling on what was, or the image you’ve built up in your head for what was, will not change the the present. This video helped me when I went through the breakup that led me here: https://youtu.be/c709rGYW8v0
/r/askTRP17/11/19 07:28 PM
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Shoot.
/r/askTRP16/11/19 09:28 PM
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I’d recommend waiting at least a few days before doing anything. Ideally she responds and you can initiate a meetup. If not, you can initiate one more time by setting a place and time. “Hey, I’m going to x on x at x. Come with.” but in your own words. If there’s no response to that then move on bud.
/r/askTRP11/11/19 02:32 PM
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So she’s expressing interest in you to her orbiters and this is causing you to shake in your boots? You can’t control what they do or what she thinks directly so steer what you can control - you daily life. Keep improving yourself. With that focus girls will come.
/r/askTRP10/11/19 07:59 AM
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If you’re bored with plates consider vetting one out for LTR consideration. If that isn’t of interest to you then focus on other projects for a while. For the record, I’ve felt like you do on occasion. I take it as a sign that there’s an imbalance in the way I’m spending my time and do my best to course correct.
/r/askTRP10/11/19 07:54 AM
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when she didn’t want to make me cum over the phone. Alright then. Hoping this whole post is a troll.
/r/askTRP10/11/19 07:42 AM
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I believe what he’s saying is to never be verbally overt with women. Speak with your actions. I could be off base though.
/r/askTRP09/11/19 09:54 PM
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Trying to figure out her true intention is a flat circle, you won’t ever know what’s going on in her head. The message is in her actions - she’s been banging someone else and you’re caught up on whether or not her hitting you up after two months is a sign. Again, if you’re putting in the work and she decides to jump on your boat, so be it. It’ll he obvious. Until then, keep fishing.
/r/askTRP09/11/19 09:35 PM
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I’ll be harsh; there’s a very good chance you’re sitting around thinking about some potential future where you are smashing this girl when in reality she’s just barely realized one of her orbiters has gone missing after a couple months. If you think you’ll be “golden” in a few years it sounds to me like you’re resigned to being a beta provider. Focus on lifting, bettering yourself, and other women that are actually available. If she comes around and jumps on the boat then cool. Stop living in im…
/r/askTRP09/11/19 09:18 PM
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If you’re dealing with performance anxiety I’d put yourself in whatever position you’ll feel most comfortable in. If a night out with drinks helps you get the nerves down, do that. There’s probably one girl out of the bunch that you had more rapport with than the others - I’d start there. Once you make a layup it’s a lot easier to string together a few three pointers.
/r/askTRP09/11/19 07:59 AM
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I’ll disregard the other stuff and just answer your questions. Yes she is. Your call but it sounds as though she will be asking you again but with advance notice. Doubt you could do much to fuck it up, so if she doesn’t hit you up in a week or so put drinks on the calendar.
/r/askTRP09/11/19 07:55 AM
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This man speaks the truth. Even a morning walk that gets your heart rate up for half an hour is way better than doing jack shit. Obviously if you're able do more than just a walk, but any exercise is key.
/r/askTRP09/11/19 06:58 AM
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Bro, it's high school. Shit happens. In a few years you'll just look back and laugh. I got fully pantsed, dick and all, in front of my whole high school. Didn't change anything for me even though I was mortified at the time.
/r/askTRP09/11/19 06:41 AM
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Continue vetting, I wouldn't call it a total showstopper. Just remember - actions over words.
/r/askTRP09/11/19 06:38 AM
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"Come over but look better than last time." On the real, don't kick it with women you aren't attracted to.
/r/askTRP09/11/19 06:35 AM
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I've been here before. The reason my mind got stuck on her wasn't because I was into the girl but because I didn't "complete the quest" so to speak. I've always been a completionist and that extended into plates. If that's the boat you're in you'll need to set aside your ego and just let it go. You said it yourself that you weren't even into her that much. Realize that your brain is in a negative feedback loop and be conscious about working your way out of that.
/r/askTRP09/11/19 06:34 AM
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If you’re interested make your move. If not, ignore.
/r/askTRP07/11/19 07:36 AM
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What were the comments and how did she react?
/r/askTRP07/11/19 07:35 AM
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Appreciated.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 10:06 PM
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That’s fair. Appreciate the insight.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 09:51 PM
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I just wanted to be called a faggot by internet strangers is all.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 09:50 PM
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Fair. Edited.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 08:31 PM
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All fair points. Appreciate the feedback.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 08:11 PM
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True, as an isolated thing it wouldn’t matter and could even be nice. It’s been a repeated thing of her asking “do you want this” and no matter what I say she will do it anyway, sometimes following it with a “you’re better off now” sort of statement. When I said something in a light way about it that’s what caused the blow up.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 07:03 PM
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Definitely didn’t blow up, I was calm the whole discussion. Details were lost in my post regarding how this “giving” behavior has been happening repeatedly - regardless of me wanting it or not. That might sound great on paper, but in practice it was becoming overwhelming, especially when the end result was being rubbed in my face about how I’m so much better off now that she helped. The occurrence I posted about was just me speaking up about it.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 06:45 PM
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The additional context is that this sort of behavior was starting to be overwhelming, this wasn’t the first occurrence of what she wanted to do being forced on me regardless of what I was saying. From what I can tell it boils down to her “giving things” being her way of showing affection and when I shut that down she took it as a literal rejection.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 06:41 PM
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Should you be paranoid to take people in public? Is that really a question? This just means they aren’t that into you and would rather play the field, even if it’s in your face. Keep working on yourself and your game and this will happen less.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 05:08 PM
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Honestly, I would’ve paused for a second, laughed, and then kept fucking her. It’s moments like that when you should be thankful you have the knowledge in this sub on your side.
/r/askTRP02/10/19 08:39 AM
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Just played along with the jokes and kept the friend involved even in a cursory manner. Shutting her down super hard led to one of them disengaging then later hitting you with hard blocks that became an issue as you went too defensive.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 08:02 AM
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Yeah, on second thought monthly could make more sense. There could be a weekly stupid questions thread and a monthly progress thread.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 04:14 PM
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I think a weekly thread would be solid.
/r/askTRP24/09/19 05:57 PM
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You’re breaking Iron Rule #3. Sort your shit out.
/r/askTRP24/09/19 06:30 AM
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Don’t be too critical of yourself for getting attached, it happens. People bond - we aren’t automatons. At their core every relationship is a calculated risk tbh. It sounds like you’ve got it logically figured out, just know that if something does go awry that your life didn’t begin and obviously wouldn’t end with this girl. Keep your value high, or start working on it again today, and don’t let the wind from outside forces take you off course.
/r/askTRP16/09/19 05:25 PM
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Regardless of how you act you simply cannot control your girl. If she wants to go on this holiday that’s something that you’ll either need to set a boundary on if you’re uncomfortable with it or stop stressing it. There’s a high chance you saying “no you can’t go” will come across as you being needy. What value will that add for you in this situation? Say you say no, and she doesn’t go - now you’ve set that dynamic in motion. My advice - listen to your gut. If you think your girl will cheat on y…
/r/askTRP16/09/19 05:14 PM
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What exactly is the “situation”? How is your girlfriend running dread on you? So far you described a short bout of unemployment and didn’t elaborate on how her friend is planting seeds.
/r/askTRP16/09/19 02:05 PM
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The message is in the medium there. She’s not that interested if she hits you with a “maybe” with no offer to reschedule or an alternate plan.
/r/TheRedPill16/08/19 12:03 AM
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Set a date time and place to meet up, everything else is just wasting time.
/r/askTRP03/06/19 08:25 PM
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I’ve hooked up with superiors and coworkers. The chill ones didn’t cause any problem, but it helped that their reputation would take a larger hit than mine if it got out. The ones where it went bad went very bad and included an LTR that I saw literally 24/7 - after work we went home and bitched about work. Really stupid loop to get into. Overall, it’s not worth the rush of sexual tension you get at work unless it’s a job you can drop with no care in the world. I wouldn’t dare risk it now despite…
/r/askTRP31/05/19 09:28 PM
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I would’ve fallen for the next chick that paid attention to me. I also would’ve ignored all of her red flags. I would’ve stayed overweight. I’d still live in the small, dead end town. I’d still be seeking external validation. I’d be a “nice guy”. The list could go on. I’m grateful for the tool box I found.
/r/askTRP31/05/19 05:14 AM
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Classic trickle truth. Good on you for holding your ground and seeing your value. Keep on keepin’ on!
/r/askTRP30/05/19 02:35 AM
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I agree. I would be up for more strict moderation. Set up a daily stupid questions thread - other posts would need to be more substantial to stay up.
/r/askTRP30/05/19 02:27 AM
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Froyo then.
/r/askTRP30/05/19 12:23 AM
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First meet = drinks only. Pay for yourself. If she’s late, first rounds on her.
/r/askTRP30/05/19 12:03 AM
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This post is just complaining. Read the sidebar my dude.
/r/askTRP29/05/19 11:23 PM
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The same principles apply as always. With shy girls don’t make a public scene/spectacle about anything early on. Escalate while out on the town, but in a low key manner. If this is regarding a specific situation then feel free to provide more details.
/r/askTRP28/05/19 05:56 AM
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If you’re ever in the Bay Area hit me up ✊🏻
/r/askTRP28/05/19 01:57 AM
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You should be aware of the dynamics at this point. Insert dread and assess your current standing. If it’s not worth the squeeze go squeeze another fruit.
/r/askTRP21/04/19 07:37 PM
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Practice just being. Recognize how you feel after you take the headphones out. Strike up a conversation with someone if you’re so inclined, but just work on being present.
/r/askTRP18/04/19 04:07 AM
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First - stop wearing headphones while out and about in public. If you’re sitting on public transit or at the gym in your own zone, cool - when interacting with others take them out. Second - you’re entirely wrapped up in what others are thinking of you. I deal with this at times as well. Realize that 99% of other people don’t give two shits what you’re doing and are likely more worried about their own appearance, etc. Third - the way someone reacts to you is not always a direct reflection of som…
/r/askTRP18/04/19 03:31 AM
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​ Am I surrounded by shitty hot women If your body was a point of personal pride would you stop showing it off because you were in a relationship? is there a genuine issue with every single hot girl wanting to expose her half naked body for attention while she has a boyfriend? To that I would say is in general that's just female nature running rampant. In general, people like attention. Instagram brings attention - to the attractive people of the world it brings it nearly on demand. The boyfrien…
/r/askTRP16/04/19 04:58 AM
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Feel free to message me.
/r/askTRP15/04/19 02:48 PM
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There are guys here in all different phases of being “red-pilled”. What you’re likely seeing the most of is guys stuck in the anger phase here to commiserate about how women are shit. These guys haven’t reconciled their old belief system with the potential new one presented to them here. It’s up to you to parse what is noise and what isn’t in terms of opinions here. My vote is to engage here sparingly, continue reading the recommended material, and put that shit into action - the final part ther…
/r/askTRP23/03/19 09:33 PM
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To the contrary, It’s a shallow understanding of TRP that causes guys to hate women. It’s a toolbox to help you align your expectations of the opposite sex more realistically. Free your mind.
/r/askTRP23/03/19 09:08 PM
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Simple, to the point, and it calls back to a past experience. Chief, this is it.
/r/askTRP17/03/19 07:43 PM
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In addition to what everyone else has already offered feel free to look at my post from a year ago on my profile. That was back before I found any of the information that’s led me to this post. It’s time to go my man.
/r/askTRP01/03/19 03:24 AM
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Not a fan of that. If this happens I would say “maybe.. let me ask you a question.” Proceed with conversation. If you’re already staring I would ask her something about her outfit that you noticed.
/r/askTRP04/02/19 06:54 PM
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Good luck to you.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 02:13 AM
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Look at what will happen if you continue living your life with inaction and ask yourself if that’s what you want your legacy to be.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 02:06 AM
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Another worthy read for you is Extreme Ownership. You have all the power in the world to change your circumstance, you just have to start.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 02:01 AM
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As for reading, start here - http://a.trp.red/4u ​ Read No More Mr. Nice Guy as well. Good luck to you bud.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 01:59 AM
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Regardless of the situation you are the steward of your life. Nothing will change unless you take ownership of your life and make some changes. Identify the things that need changing and change one thing at a time - and of course, read the sidebar. Can't go outside because it's too cold? Good, do a home work out today. It won't matter to anyone what you do with your life. It's yours to shape.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 01:50 AM
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How old are you and why can't you go outside?
/r/askTRP23/01/19 01:44 AM
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I wouldn't concern yourself with getting respect from any other sources. Ultimately it is up to you what you end up doing with your life. I waste plenty of time, I procrastinate. I have moments of indecision, I have moment where I am not doing what I need to do. What I'm getting at is pick something to begin doing that you aren't doing now. Go outside and walk for fifteen minutes daily. This isn't the part of the internet that will take it easy on someone who is posting the way you are, if you c…
/r/askTRP23/01/19 01:34 AM
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What steps are you taking to move toward improving your life?
/r/askTRP23/01/19 01:24 AM
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This isn’t something anyone on the internet can assist with then, it’d be best if you reached out to a therapist. That’ll get you on a better path, the information available here is only helpful if you help yourself first.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 01:18 AM
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Where would you like to see yourself in five years?
/r/askTRP23/01/19 01:02 AM
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If you don’t want to drink alcohol get a soda or water and just start talking to people. If you can get into a good mood the night will start rolling from there, but it has to start with you.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 01:00 AM
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Show her through your actions.
/r/askTRP15/01/19 04:15 AM
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You’re welcome!
/r/askTRP10/01/19 07:58 AM
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No, I wouldn’t try to confirm. If she’s into you she won’t forget to confirm with you on her own. Don’t overthink it. If she hits you up, go and have fun! If she doesn’t let communication go cold. Later on you can attempt to set a different date time and place to meet up on your terms. I only advocate doing this one time after a flake. If that second attempt fails, assume full disinterest and move on.
/r/askTRP10/01/19 07:56 AM
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Smart move if you hear nothing would be to be doing something else already. Don’t plan your day around her, if she hits you up that shows interest on her part and you can go from there. If she doesn’t, that speaks volumes in and of itself.
/r/askTRP10/01/19 07:40 AM
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Sidebar my man. https://www.trp.red/p/mattyanon/274
/r/askTRP08/01/19 08:16 AM
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u/Rollo-Tomassi care to elaborate?
/r/askTRP17/11/18 08:44 PM
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Sidebar.
/r/askTRP10/11/18 06:40 AM
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Figure out what your internal issue is with her spinning plates. You shouldn’t have a problem with being her plate as much as she is yours.
/r/askTRP01/11/18 03:08 PM
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Regardless of whether you’re a single dad or not I don’t recommend dating a single mom, ever. That aside, take the hesitant language out of your vocabulary. For example, “movie night at your place Thursday @ 6?” can be “Movie night, your place, Thursday @ 6.” Assertiveness will be appreciated. When she said no not gonna happen I would have not responded - it’s on her to reschedule if she’s interested at that point. In rare cases I will wait a couple days then attempt to set another date - if it’…
/r/seduction18/10/18 07:48 AM
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Set a day, time, and neutral place to kick it the first time. Escalate from there. Don’t make it rocket science chief.
/r/askTRP18/10/18 07:23 AM
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I would respond “I’m not” then move on to better prospects. Whole thing seems sketch IMO.
/r/askTRP18/10/18 07:20 AM
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If it’s something that could cause friction with your cousin and that’s important to you then it could. Personally I would play it off lightly and just keep on keeping on, but if you would rather speak about it then be prepared to potentially drop her.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 12:03 AM
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Let her know through your actions - don’t text her too often, don’t see her too often, and keep seeing other girls.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 11:50 PM
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Where’s the guide for testosterone?
/r/askTRP07/08/18 01:34 AM
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If you want to kick it again then respond. If you don’t, don’t. You’re her plate as much as she is yours, and there is no obligation to respond promptly on either side.
/r/askTRP24/06/18 12:11 AM
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If you can’t see her all summer I would focus on other girls you can see instead. If the summer ends and you’re still interested once school is back in then start that fire up again and go from there.
/r/askTRP11/06/18 03:32 AM
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Yes and after a day of silence she reached out to reschedule.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 02:12 AM
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Makes sense. Texting too frequently is a known weak point I’m working on.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 04:15 PM
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The absolute best thing you can do for yourself is begin rectifying that NOW. Don’t wait for things to come tumbling down leaving yourself in a free fall. Pay attention to what your inner voice is already telling you.
/r/seduction23/03/18 01:31 AM
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