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I think extroversion and introversion both have advantages. Extroverts are better at attaching themselves to many opportunities and making things happen, while introverts are less likely to be needy and more outcome-independent.
/r/seduction25/05/14 03:13 AM
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Agree.
/r/seduction25/05/14 03:09 AM
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Yeah I know.
/r/seduction25/05/14 01:22 AM
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Just my personal experience.
/r/seduction25/05/14 12:53 AM
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Seems like people want to be extroverts
/r/seduction25/05/14 12:45 AM
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Be unreactive and non reaction-seeking
/r/seduction25/05/14 12:39 AM
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Well looks always affect who you are slightly. Idk. Go to /r/skincareaddiction.
/r/seduction25/05/14 12:39 AM
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Usually its toeing the line between being too obvious and creepy.
/r/seduction25/05/14 12:38 AM
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Me likey. Lets not get into the ethics--it's just naive and unrealistic to objectify people and put them on a 1-10 scale or what have you.
/r/seduction11/05/14 03:16 AM
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Yes, always calibrate. But calibration is mostly internal. You can't read minds, it's generally best to not try. Go off your own perceptions to calibrate. Actually, I guess the answer to your question is YES. But attraction doesn't directly affect how you interact with someone. All it does is change how THEY interact with you, and you have to react accordingly. Sorry if I'm being confusing. It's because there's no formula so you can't really explain things.
/r/seduction11/05/14 02:48 AM
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Yeah. But its not about acting. You don't need to artificially change the way you talk to someone just because she's a girl who's attracted to you.
/r/seduction11/05/14 02:09 AM
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Yuppppp. What do you think? I'm confused, lol.
/r/seduction11/05/14 01:41 AM
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lol
/r/seduction11/05/14 12:48 AM
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Don't see whats wrong with liking someone. Maybe you need to start a relationship.
/r/seduction11/05/14 12:47 AM
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Well ironically I think you have to embrace it. I bet you put your mom on a 'pedestal', but don't freeze up around her. It's kinda like that, you have to just go with the flow.
/r/seduction11/05/14 12:47 AM
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Could mean anything really.
/r/seduction11/05/14 12:44 AM
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No, do whats natural. Changing is what I guess you could call 'low value'.
/r/seduction11/05/14 12:43 AM
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You need to own whoever you are and not try to force yourself into being something you aren't. That's my gripe with the social skills/seduction community, it tries to pigeon hole you.
/r/seduction06/05/14 04:57 AM
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Having an opinion can also be called just being honest. If you feel indifferent, that's a valid emotion which you shouldn't try to cover up. The idea is to just never put on a facade over yourself for others' benefit. It's also not just verbal communication. You can show your opinion towards something with your body language and facial expressions. If you're indifferent, put on your Jaden Smith face and try to steer the conversation towards something actually productive. A common trait of 'doorm…
/r/seduction04/05/14 02:19 AM
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Do you watch Vitaly? Hahahahaa.
/r/seduction30/04/14 04:00 AM
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Damn. Damn damn omg. I'm JELUS DUDE! Good f-n followup to your field report!!
/r/seduction27/04/14 11:16 PM
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Being nice is, I would say, NOT the issue. After all, it's not intrinsically bad, I'm sure being nice makes you plenty of friends, male and female. Nice isn't really the enemy, in this situation. The issue with nice is that when you're too focused on being nice you end up subordinating your own views, personality, what have you, to theirs. I'll be honest. I like nice people, I even admire them. My nice friends are the first people I talk to and I'll never exclude them from anything. What's bad a…
/r/seduction27/04/14 04:03 AM
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HAHA. That's awesome man. Really impressive, to be honest, good luck!
/r/seduction27/04/14 03:33 AM
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I don't think there are any absolutes in such a complex field. Cut down on unnatural filler words, but don't focus so hard on them that you lose track of the more important things, like being calibrated in the conversation.
/r/seduction27/04/14 03:32 AM
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I used to. Kind of embarrassing to admit, but ya, having it happen to you is like the worst thing. When you're really nervous, at least for me, what started happening is I started talking faster and higher. And then words just start coming out and you lose control a little. I still get a little quavery during presentations sometimes, but I quickly control it by slowing down, lowering pitch, and using hand gestures. Hope it helps. You can also try self-analyzing a little, like comparing how you f…
/r/seduction27/04/14 03:30 AM
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Any battle between you and him is purely mental. Don't let it be a fight for the girl, that's approval-seeking and beta. For starters relax, only the girl knows who she likes more. If you look for reasons why the other dude is more attractive than you, you will see them, so just do you best not to think that way. You will see what you think, so think you're just as good as him, even if he's better than you at 'game'. Also, I don't think you should be trying to shut him out. Because if he wants t…
/r/seduction27/04/14 03:24 AM
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Honesty is the best policy, it's always polite to be honest even when you're not being nice.
/r/seduction27/04/14 03:18 AM
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Practice talking to other people who are less intimidating to you.
/r/seduction26/04/14 07:39 PM
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F Yeah! GO FOR IT!
/r/seduction25/04/14 01:50 AM
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It probably does a little bit. You will have stress in the back of your mind, and of course success is something that is attractive and independent of game and looks and all that. So I would say that yes, it does. You want to be the most attractive you can be, doing well in school and getting sleep will help you with that.
/r/seduction22/04/14 12:15 AM
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Talking too fast, saying too much? Basically whenever you focus too much on the verbal portion, that doesn't really matter because you communicate with your body and your tone!
/r/seduction22/04/14 12:11 AM
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Yup. Faux-seductive? So its seductive sounding but not overly familiar? Use it all the time.
/r/seduction22/04/14 12:05 AM
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Jesus Christ you guys are irritating. 1 proper response and all the rest you guys can do is make stupid ass condescending insults. Fuck this thread, there's no point to it.
/r/seduction19/04/14 06:06 AM
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Well I never 'approach' seriously, so I don't really know. I don't know if this is presumptuous to say, but I don't let things get awkward. I based that comment off the experiences of people I know who play the ask and get rejected game. Maybe I'm preaching to the choir here, but I'm not referring to people who make it work. I'm referring to the people who tell stories about approaching 200 girls and getting rejected every time. And I'm also not making any hard statements here along the lines of…
/r/seduction19/04/14 05:06 AM
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Yup. Maybe even with more skill than you. Whats your point?
/r/seduction19/04/14 04:48 AM
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Marginal benefit vs. opportunity costs. There might be some truly exceptional ladies you walk by every day. But I'll be honest, there are probably a hundred attractive girls at my high school alone. A few who are very attractive. The effort it takes to just approach random good-looking strangers isn't worth the wasted time and effort and probability that they really aren't that attractive after all/will reject you.
/r/seduction19/04/14 04:26 AM
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Here's why I think approaching should be a niche tactic as opposed to what you generically use. It tells the girl relatively little about YOU. Approaches are contrived, at best you come off as good looking and fun. There are plenty of good looking and fun guys. It might also give the impression that you lack the personal honesty to be confident in every day situations and that you build it up for approaches. Even if your approach is successful, if you're hitting 'above your weight' in that momen…
/r/seduction19/04/14 04:22 AM
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They're one and the same. Just get closer if she's comfortable with it.
/r/seduction19/04/14 12:17 AM
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I try.
/r/seduction18/04/14 01:49 AM
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He seems like a good presenter and/or salesperson. But I'm not sure about seductive. Reminds me of Jordan Belfort! (but with less charm and intelligence)
/r/seduction18/04/14 12:28 AM
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Both. Not because that's 'ideal' per se, but because that's just what naturally happens. I have a few people I have frequent conversations with, and then some people I talk to because of proximity and/or necessity, and then a shitload of people who just know me. You don't want to be best friends with everyone, being a friend takes effort which you only want to spend on a few people. However keeping a connection with someone takes just over zero effort, so you should still maintain a wide network…
/r/seduction18/04/14 12:12 AM
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Get off the internet dating websites. It sounds like you're attractive enough. Now what you have to do is let people come to you, aka become self-confident. Seddit sidebar has good instruction on that.
/r/seduction18/04/14 12:09 AM
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Seddit sidebar. Learn why and how to be confident.
/r/seduction18/04/14 12:07 AM
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Good. Don't treat her special, shes a big girl and its not your job to protect her ego.
/r/seduction17/04/14 05:53 AM
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Correct answer. ;)
/r/seduction17/04/14 03:02 AM
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The sound of the road. Seduction guides are overrated as sliced bread and what 90% of dudes on this board need to do is just chill the fuck out.
/r/seduction17/04/14 03:01 AM
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Just do what feels natural. There are no formulas for regaining your frame, you really have to individually see what works for you. From what I can tell from this post is that you lack outcome independence and have the mentality that you have to make something happen. So try and focus on process and realizing that you just need to go with the flow sometimes and you can't always close. How you do that is not something a stranger can help you with.
/r/seduction17/04/14 03:00 AM
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Um, typically nothing at all. You DO have other girls, right? Texting is a pain in the ass, there is almost no benefit for a fairly high opportunity cost because it's time and thought-consuming. Let them have the last word, it's a powerful tool.
/r/seduction17/04/14 02:57 AM
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Depends on the situation. As a rule of thumb pick and choose from these: Get comfortable Break off the interaction Do something funny/random You can't immediately change your mental state during an interaction without being awkward, so don't try. Really, really doesn't work. Afterwards if I had a close brush with awkwardness I just remind myself the self-analysis doesn't help so don't bother thinking about it. You don't usually WANT to self-analyze, your brain is just habituated to do it automat…
/r/seduction17/04/14 02:55 AM
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Well phone-flirting is inherently worse because you can't see her body language and she can't see yours. So there's 2 possible reasons you think its easier. You think you're getting somewhere, but you're not. You have poor body language/are unconfident in your looks. Communication is 55% body language, so you're not really really flirting if you're just doing it over the phone. If its because of your looks, work out and eat carb+protein diet, that's a simple way to improve your looks.
/r/seduction17/04/14 02:49 AM
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Be attractive AND confident, now you got a stew going. Seriously. Have attractive traits, then let people come to you. That pretty much sums up seduction outside of bar and club scenarios.
/r/seduction17/04/14 02:37 AM
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Well voice tonality is only part of communication. Try changing your body language and facial expressiveness before you try to do voice training. I used to get told I always had a sarcastic tone. Well now I talk with an even more exaggerated 'sarcastic' tone (really now I just talk the way I naturally want to), but now I get told I have a great voice and I find it easy to be incredibly sincere. So first try body language and facial expressions. And, a major 'theme', if you will, of seduction is …
/r/seduction17/04/14 02:36 AM
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Who needs a wingman anyways. Self-confidence is the only wingman you'll ever need. Works on girls, guys, transexuals, doesn't bitch, and doesn't compete with you. Quite the opposite really.
/r/seduction17/04/14 02:10 AM
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Self-confidence. It's that simple. :-)
/r/seduction17/04/14 02:08 AM
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Yup. Accessibility is part of attraction.
/r/seduction13/04/14 09:06 PM
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That's right. Sometimes you should just let them do the work.
/r/seduction13/04/14 08:50 PM
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Por que no los dos?
/r/seduction13/04/14 08:49 PM
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In this situation you should probably say something cocky then move on. If she's truly interested you can always re-engage her. Your responses you brought up work. You could get faux-angry, go "Then stop looking at me, you're such a creep!" and get up and leave. Or go "I like a challenge!" and smile. Other responses I can think of off the top of my head are like "Oh, I don't think he minds sharing!" (jokingly) or just a genuine "wow, what a lucky guy, to have a beautiful lady like you" (probably…
/r/seduction13/04/14 06:46 PM
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Umm pause after you say amusing things, give them the feeling you're liable to run off to somewhere or someone more interesting. Look away for extended periods of time. Just try and give them less attention on average.
/r/seduction13/04/14 06:37 PM
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Make your interactions funny and don't get too into it. That way they get the message that you're not necessarily seriously pursuing them.
/r/seduction13/04/14 03:37 AM
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For your conversation troubles, use conversation threading, it'll make it so you always have something decent to say. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ovaar/since_seductionreview_went_down_i_thought_id/ Overall, it seems like you need to work on your confidence. Don't worry, we've all been that at some point or another. Seddit has a bunch of good articles on that in the side-bar.
/r/seduction13/04/14 03:35 AM
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Mmmmm. Well heres whats up. Touching works best in short interactions. Gets peoples attention and is a great method of communicating interest and comfort. It isn't as easy when you're having deep conversations. That's because you already have their full attention and you're already intimately close. It can come across as a little presumptuous or god forbid, creepy because you end up escalating really quickly. It can be good, or bad, just keep in mind its different from your typical casual intera…
/r/seduction13/04/14 03:30 AM
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Depends on what you define as a scam. They're pretty much all scams in my opinion--there is better material for free if you know where to look (for example, the Seddit sidebar) and all these types of programs/books end up being more cultish than helpful because they're written by young guys who lack experience but still try to teach an all-encompassing ideology. So here's my 2 cents: Absolutely don't pay for it. Download it for free and skim it if you're truly interested. At the same time also l…
/r/seduction13/04/14 03:06 AM
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You're trying way too hard...jesus! It comes out in the way you write, look at how well you remember every interaction with her and the amount of analysis you put in. You need to be less needy. Go pursue some other girls, I find it best to not directly pursue anyone with a boyfriend. Besides, its more attractive to not give someone that much attention.
/r/seduction13/04/14 03:02 AM
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Say the first thing that comes to your mind, make it fun. For me something that works is saying hello in a foreign language. Then they go "uh, what?" then you can follow up with something funny-cute-charming that fits the situation. Like you go "Bon Jour" (like a stereotypical American), and she goes "what?" and then you go "Bon Jour, it's Spanish for hello." or something really dumb like that. That shows your funny side and that you want to have a conversation. I think your mindset for this is …
/r/seduction13/04/14 03:00 AM
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It shouldn't. Own it.
/r/seduction13/04/14 02:48 AM
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Use conversation threading! http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ovaar/since_seductionreview_went_down_i_thought_id/ And maybe its confidence related. You aren't completely comfortable with yourself and so you rely on the validation of the group. In that case, there's plenty of inner game info on the sidebar. Could also be neediness related. You don't need to engage every attractive girl in the greatest conversation of their lives. Be OK with leaving them or ignoring them like you would in…
/r/seduction13/04/14 02:47 AM
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Good list!
/r/seduction11/04/14 08:48 PM
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Good job bud. Now go out and get em'. (inbedontheirknees)
/r/seduction11/04/14 05:44 AM
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Me likey
/r/seduction11/04/14 12:34 AM
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Masturbate and do coke.
/r/seduction10/04/14 04:51 AM
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Prank people. It gives you a good alibi and a good exit as well. You'll be seen as a weirdo but it doesn't really matter at places like the mall.
/r/seduction10/04/14 04:50 AM
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Yay!
/r/seduction09/04/14 06:51 PM
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Well take what I said any way you like. Truth is, its all based on context. But 80% of racist remarks during a friendly conversation aren't serious. You can even use them to your advantage by making the other person feel like they have to make it up to you or by using it as a conversational pivot. What I know for sure is that getting angry and/or frustrated will not help and it will make you look bad. Ignoring is the opposite of what you should do. Roll with it, don't let it hit you and throw yo…
/r/seduction09/04/14 04:09 PM
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Overly complex. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NugRZGDbPFU#t=183
/r/seduction09/04/14 04:20 AM
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Work on your inner game. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/gjqim/the_definitive_seddit_inner_game_collection/ And get fit. Looks matter more to attract men. http://www.reddit.com/r/Fitness/wiki/getting_started
/r/seduction09/04/14 04:18 AM
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It's no so much something you directly cultivate as a part of your personality which will naturally come out as you become more self-confident. Become more self-confident and non-needy and you'll naturally become more humorous because situations are less serious to you. So do that. There's a difference between someone who has humor and a comedian. I personally find most comedians to lack a strong sense of humor, try to be the former rather than the latter.
/r/seduction09/04/14 04:16 AM
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Roll with it, just like any harmless stereotype. If they're insulting you that's a whole nother ballpark. Any specific examples you have in mind?
/r/seduction09/04/14 04:09 AM
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I don't know if you can LIVE by these quotes but heres some good ones from The Stranger, one of my favorite novels. “Since we're all going to die, it's obvious that when and how don't matter.” “In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger – something better, pushing right back.” “I may not have been sure about what really did interest me, …
/r/seduction09/04/14 03:35 AM
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Flick the switch
/r/seduction09/04/14 03:28 AM
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I think it's helpful to read books/articles to overcome specific sticking points you have. Reading books without a direction won't really help unless those books GIVE you a direction, but it seems you already have one with the whole seduction schtick and whatnot. Just think about what you generally have trouble on and target that. For example flirting, conversation, confidence, etc.
/r/seduction09/04/14 01:14 AM
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Be more humble and watch your place. Think dignity, not dominance. Nelson Mandela was an alpha male in prison. He might have been yelled at, humiliated and subservient, but that doesn't keep you from being alpha. What DOES keep you from being alpha is not accepting the situation and getting angry. I think unreactivity is the concept you're looking for? When you don't really get to fight back, just be loose and take it.
/r/seduction08/04/14 07:00 PM
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You don't need to talk to someone to build attraction. And its needy to start a xonversation just over a look.
/r/seduction08/04/14 05:07 AM
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Wtf....this vid sucks
/r/seduction08/04/14 04:28 AM
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Look at her back and calibrate based on her reaction! Usually just give em a smirk.
/r/seduction08/04/14 04:27 AM
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Don't do it awkwardly then.
/r/seduction08/04/14 02:26 AM
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Nothing. Or something stupid.
/r/seduction08/04/14 12:53 AM
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Give her a fake kiss with a big ol' MUAH. Works best from the side so she doesn't instinctively recoil. If she likey you can take it further.
/r/seduction08/04/14 12:37 AM
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You're overthinking and trying too hard.
/r/seduction08/04/14 12:35 AM
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You can do it. Don't stress. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Execution is more important than outcome. Don't think, do. There's some inspiration for ya. Now go out and get em
/r/seduction08/04/14 12:29 AM
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It's all mental. I find that my voice gets deeper when I'm 'pulling away' during an interaction.
/r/seduction08/04/14 12:27 AM
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Calibrate. Whether you say mean things or not depends on the lady. I tell some girls to get to the kitchen and call others 'so beautiful'. At the core its about giving her the feeling she needs to put in work to please you.
/r/seduction08/04/14 12:13 AM
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Definitely agree with letting things set in. Can also be applied to any flirting you do, let the tension build to a pleasurable point but not an awkward one.
/r/seduction07/04/14 11:50 PM
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Laff about it. Agree and amplify! If she's legitimately angry about it just be honest about whatever questions she has etc.
/r/seduction07/04/14 11:48 PM
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Slower and lower. Rely more on facial expressions as opposed to verbal communication. Try and replicate situations in which you spoke confidently. It's not a sustainable way to learn but its excellent for this.
/r/seduction07/04/14 10:44 PM
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Now do it sober.
/r/seduction07/04/14 07:29 AM
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Uno: Trust your gut instinct. Dos: Don't be needy. Tres: She likes you. BONUS: Wrap your sausage before poking times.
/r/seduction07/04/14 07:28 AM
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Good shit. Along with all that, stay authentic and trust your gut.
/r/seduction07/04/14 07:26 AM
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Stop thinking, I would go as far as to say stop feeling and try to ride with pure gut instinct and subconscious. Be an animal.
/r/seduction07/04/14 06:34 AM
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Ask em do you guys like to gang bang
/r/seduction07/04/14 05:29 AM
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IDK, I'm less than 18. How do yalls feel? Oh yeah n PM ME OP if you want to shoot the shit!
/r/seduction24/03/14 05:58 AM
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If it's awkward, OWN IT! Let's face it, cold approaching is weird, People don't DO that normally. So if you try to act cool n normal when you cold approach, that's actually weird. Act YOURSELF and you'll get much better reactions because you won't appear to be hiding something, you genuinely just want to talk to someone.
/r/seduction24/03/14 05:57 AM
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Well just like in chemical reactions when learning skills there gets to be an equilibrium between thinking and practicing which is ideal. Rather than advocate for one side or the other, I think it's better to encourage people to find the balance that is right for them, because everyone is after all different. Some people read a book and go out and kill it, others can read twenty and end up being worse off.
/r/seduction24/03/14 05:54 AM
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