AllyuckUfasuck Archive

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15	This is my worst fear. Hope she can take her kids and get the hell out ASAP Totally! Me too. I had such low self esteem in my 20s. It took me too long, but I will never accept abuse and poor treatment again.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/03/21 02:51 PM
3	5 lies about FDS in Vice's latest hit piece You know what I really like, and I think FDS, as well as a lot of other outlets similar to it have helped me in this thought process, is that I couldn't give a FUCK what Dominique Sisley thinks of FDS. I would have read that article a few years ago, and worried I was, unawares, part of some toxic wave, but one thing FDS and its ilk have helped me with is developing a very strong sense of self, as well as of boundaries, and expectations. I come here to read about brave women, independent and stro…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/03/21 04:58 PM
36	This is so fucking gross I think this is very true. My ex literally used to call the scary voice he used to abuse me his 'Hyde voice'. I'm glad I'm out of the FOG, Jesus.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/21 02:54 PM
1	Women’s attraction to strange men Traffic light system I would argue that education would serve to disabuse them of a socio-cultural bias. I wouldn't want them to develop a bias, but perhaps a better understanding of why women don't always say no, for example. We in the West have moved past 'there's no rape in a marriage' as a culture, and towards a model of informed consent, and I think there's a lot of room for education generally on socio-sexual power dynamics, but you're probably right that the necessary strictures of the judicial system preclud…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/21 05:14 PM
1	Women’s attraction to strange men Traffic light system I accept your point but I do think it's more complicated than a simple burden of proof thing. I think we could educate juries in the low statistical likelihood of false rape claims, and the confusing psychology of sexual assault scenarios, and provide protections for victims like not having to face retraumatisation by not having to see their abusers in court. If there are barriers to reporting such a life-changing crime that have to do with the judicial system, it's not really good enough to say…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/21 04:46 PM
2	Women’s attraction to strange men Traffic light system I take your point on that, but why is the onus on women to prove it? It's the only crime where the onus is on the victim to prove it happened, not on the defendant to prove it didn't. That's not fair and it's not women's responsibility to change it, it's the responsibility of the justice system. We have to do better by women who experience sexual assault and rape, at all levels of the judicial system. And it doesn't really matter what you think about how widespread it is, I can tell you that all…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/21 03:47 PM
0	Women’s attraction to strange men Traffic light system I missed something else in your comment though, which has a real r/selfawarewolves quality about it. The threat of death is real, and it constantly surrounds us. That threat comes from men, primarily. I think we're allowed to be scared about that	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/21 02:00 PM
0	Women’s attraction to strange men Traffic light system He was my friend, first. Then when I was at a particularly low moment in my life, he date raped me. It wasn't a date, it was a night in watching tv, I just used the term date rape because he was known to me and a friend, and we were drinking together. After that I no longer felt comfortable around him and that's when the relentless phone calls to my family home started and the following me, emailing me, threatening to 'expose me', etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/21 01:58 PM
1	Women’s attraction to strange men Traffic light system Actual bad experiences. Very bad ones. It's logical because I'm likely to be unable to run from men, and unlikely to be able to overpower men if they tackle and attack me. Typo yes, I meant to write male on female. Women don't tend to report rape because it's not taken seriously by the legal system, which I don't think is on us. Rape is very traumatizing and the thought of being torn apart at a trial is deeply unpleasant. I was using rape as an example of an underreported male-on-female crime, b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/21 01:54 PM
0	Women’s attraction to strange men Traffic light system This is a false correlation. I've had stalkers follow me to work, and school, and attempt to force contact by revealing they'd compiled an email with anything damaging I'd ever said to them they were going to send to my friends. That guy date raped me. I guess he wasn't as 'good' as your stalker lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/21 11:30 AM
1	Women’s attraction to strange men Traffic light system We're afraid of them because of deeply ingrained trauma responses based on a life of hyper vigilance, not statistics. We are more concerned, logically I think, because we are weaker than you. Male on male crimes may happen more regularly, but you can bet your sweet bippy women are coming out of male on male violence a lot worse off. And male on male violence might 'occur more' but is it that it occurs more, or is reported more? Most rapes are never even reported.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/21 11:27 AM
2	Just because women have more access to sex doesn't mean they have more access to SEXUAL PLEASURE Do you think the phrasing 'want to satisfy' inherently implies pleasure? I 'want to satisfy' my creative clients and 'want to satisfy' the expectations of a brief. I'm not doing those things for pleasure. I do want to do them because I need money to pay rent, but I'm not doing them for the pleasure of the act itself. That's what we're talking about, no?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/21 10:54 AM
7	Just because women have more access to sex doesn't mean they have more access to SEXUAL PLEASURE Maybe because sometimes we do things out of pathological compulsion, rather than desire? Because we are enculturated to meekly deny our gut feelings, because we feel the need to satisfy our internalised self-expectation as the 'giver', because we want to satisfy those urgent small voices that insist we must please others to be valuable?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/21 05:39 AM
4	Just because women have more access to sex doesn't mean they have more access to SEXUAL PLEASURE This is just innately wrong. You don't get really good at making a souffle by changing the recipe every time, you get good at it by learning the recipe off by heart and refining your technique over time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/21 05:15 AM