Alone-Inflation2961 Archive

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1	Advice Desperately Needed It's a female friend. Arrested multiple times over the last few years for violent misdemeanors and felonies. Breaking into an ex's house and slashing his face, attacking cops, drug use, etc. She was charged last year with 4 of the misdemeanors, pled down from the felony charge. The wife has become obsessed with her, wanting to quit her job and be a server like her, constantly spending time with her, (and the main issue I'm divorcing her) bringing my children around her. She claims all that stuff…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/02/26 09:57 PM
1	Advice Desperately Needed I know, thank you. I'm just not seeing the downside of postponing it until my ducks are in a row. I see a lot of people giving the same advice, but I'm just not getting much info as to why I should jump into it ASAP.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/02/26 09:32 PM
1	Advice Desperately Needed Does that mean that leveraging the bad company she's bringing my kids into could affect the case and give me a better chance to gain custody due to it being in the best interests of the children?	/r/Divorce_Men	27/02/26 09:29 PM
1	Advice Desperately Needed That's insightful. I think I'm still confused on what filling first does for you though? And building a case? Like, she's recording you saying or doing mean things?	/r/Divorce_Men	27/02/26 08:48 PM
1	Advice Desperately Needed I keep hearing that the longer it drags on, the more time she gets. The more time to do what? What can the women do with time to improve their situation as far as custody/ assets/ etc?	/r/Divorce_Men	27/02/26 07:50 PM
1	Advice Desperately Needed Thank you. I would like to, but I want to keep a little anonymity just in case she sees this. Some of my intent I'm showing on here could be used against me.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/02/26 07:48 PM
2	Advice Desperately Needed The google search I got back was 18-25% on average depending on the state. Regardless, In the state I live in currently, or the county specifically, the judges almost exclusively award primary custody to 1 parent only. As a rule, they believe 50/50 split custody is a disruption to the children. According to local attorneys, this is the case around 90% of the time, unless there is an agreement between parties, which my wife will likely not be interested in. This is only a win/ lose scenario. Ther…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/02/26 07:22 PM
1	Advice Desperately Needed Roughly a quarter of fathers are awarded sole custody nationally with some states as high as 50%. With my concern about the safety of my kids, the idea that I just give up, file immediately and accept all outcomes without trying anything is really bizarre to me. I understand that men often get dealt a bad hand, but you should always try and maneuver things the best you can.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/02/26 06:23 PM
1	Advice Desperately Needed Thanks man. There are indeed a few earnings that are not divisible including VA disability and potentially CRSC, so with those now going to an untouched account, separately, it does indeed transfer savings from martial (being spent on bills) to mine alone (saved VA money). The longer it drags on, the more that becomes mine. In a year and a half, hypothetically, every saved dollar would be non marital. I'm on her looking for advice but maybe my technique can help others instead, lol.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/02/26 04:36 PM
3	Advice Desperately Needed That's incorrect. VA disability and other sources are strictly the earners and not considered marital assets even when earned within marriage. While considered when determining alimony and child support, they are not divisible. I don't "think" I'm getting away with something, it's just reality.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/02/26 10:35 PM