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4	Do you ever fall for someone again the same way you did your first wife? I did with my current partner. It’s very strange because every time i experience these passion and love flairs my mind would go back to the memories with my wife. I would say it’s rather strange than good.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/04/25 11:53 AM
2	I lost…😔 Man… everything is so relative. This was exactly how i ended up (without court intervening) - 50/50 all assets and 1/3 of seeing kids. Plus 800€/month for alimony (2 kids). But i’m ok how i ended up. Kids still need a primary home and it took me 4 years to realize that my home is always going to be more like a short stay hotel. I’m happy that they have a HOME even if it’s their mother’s home. Maybe context is also important - i was on the initiating side of the divorce.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/25 12:50 PM
2	I need a pick me up, men I will play the devil’s advocate. It took 4 texts to break her. Not one. I went through the same thing. Kids not wanting to come over. My ex was the one pushing the kids into my home, as i was incapable of being positive around them because of the trauma the divorce caused me. Now i understand how she felt pushing her kids to a home where emotional atmosphere was not the best for them. Not saying it’s the same situation, but mothers freak out when they know their kids are not where they are feel…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/01/25 08:28 AM
2	Considering biting the bullet Can you elaborate more please. I grew up in a family which i always thought would’ve been better off divorced. Edit: i’m worried how this divorce will affect my kids in long term (7year divorced already).	/r/Divorce_Men	08/01/25 05:15 PM
2	Considering biting the bullet They'll find their way, to be honest. My kids are 12 and 15 now and it's heartwarming to see that some of the stuff they actually took over from me and not the person they live with.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/01/25 07:58 AM
3	Considering biting the bullet I divorced for exactly same reasons. My kids stayed with their mother and i had no influence to teach them some basic skills whatsoever. That’s the sad part of the divorce.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/01/25 04:14 PM
3	Wife with Borderline Personality Disorder We did not have infidelity as a factor for the divorce. We just fell out of love. I never felt physically attracted to her and i thought that we’re together just for the sake of kids. And at that time staying together just for the kids seemed a toxic topic and you would be judged against doing that. Whatever…. Now looking retrospectively, no one actually gained from this divorce. Not my ex, not me and definitely not our kids. In the end its a lose lose lose situation. I am trying to start a rela…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/10/24 04:57 PM
5	Wife with Borderline Personality Disorder I’m 7 years into divorce and staying for the kids was what i needed to do instead of moving out. Just my experience. I respect others’ advice too, but here’s mine.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/10/24 01:40 PM
2	Thinking about getting married again 6 hits me hard. We’ve been together for 1+ years (i’m divorced 7 years) and we both have 2 kids mine being 5 years older. My kids are reluctant to be together because of multiple things that younger kids are causing but i’m greatful that at least they tolerate them, while my girlfriends kids are so eager to befriend my older kids. So after a long and unpleasant reality check - we agreed that creating a new ne home for all would be a mistake. Edit: Smth wrong with the app… did not intend to make …	/r/Divorce_Men	14/10/24 09:15 AM
1	Getting divorce over having a kid Absolutely no regrets though. That whole period gave me much more than it took away. I’m not advising OP anything, my post was just to share my experience, which is - having kids is very fullfiling, even after divorce.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/24 01:05 PM
4	Getting divorce over having a kid I was in a similar relationship. We were hitting our 27 and she was the one who wanted a child. I agreed but i wasn’t sure about my decision back then. So she became pregnant and oh boy how everything changed. All my fatherly instincts kicked in and i was euphoric about the whole process during the pregnancy. Once the child arrived, i knew it was the only thing that mattered to me. Then the second child followed and if it wasn’t for our divorce, we would’ve had a third. Btw, our divorce was not …	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/24 05:39 AM