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Along-The-Reeds/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 02:54 PM
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It’s an ego boost (trap), I know everyone, people coming up to talk, gossip, and so on. It is an ego boost, but I say fuck it. Using some of these RP tools at work functions has been some of the most fun I have had with this stuff. I have created stronger relationships with people I work with, as a bi-product of practicing not being a nice guy, and being social and cocky n funny, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/22 01:37 AM
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My sex life is more complicated and likely better than most new guys here Interesting you include this qualifying statement. Who is this for? Ego shows up everywhere and likely masks something you don't want to acknowledge. ​ Sex: Most of this section is about your wives' actions and reactions to sex. Again, I see ego protection in this statement. What if you reframed this to only include your actions and reactions to sex, solely and selfishly focused on your pleasure and your enjoyment? For exa…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 02:30 PM
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Yes, but as pointed out by u/FutileFighter it is not clearly defined and i don't believe in it enough. If I did maybe I could better ignore unhelpful feelings and get on with doing. Watch that ego protection..."It's not my fault, it my shitty mission's fault". I think you know that, but ego protection can be hard to spot sometimes. You make your mission, the mission does not make you. Start with something small, go do it, and don't give a fuck about anyone's reaction to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/22 12:54 PM
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Get out of the world of "issues" and emotions and start living in the world of action. ​ I have identified my biggest issues being 1) trying to do too much 2) not knowing what I want and 3) doing things for others. You have a mission right? When you get in this cycle fall back on your mission and do something to get that mission on track. ​ I struggle to deal with criticism: Again, this is you reacting to a feeling. That is what chicks do, and that is why they want to fuck us, because we can con…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/22 01:07 PM
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“No” “Why not” - no explanation. Keep on doing what I am doing or leave. Sometimes I don't answer and just ignore it. Fucking panty dropper dude. Well done. On the flip side, praise what you do like, when you get it. Rinse and Repeat.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/22 01:07 PM
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excuse not to do things.... I am intimidated by masculine men.... I definitely suppress my sexuality.... Your mind is making up reasons for you to stay comfortable. That is what our brains do. That is why hamstering is frowned upon. The way out of this is action. Do things, befriend masculine men, express your sexuality. Irrational confidence helped me get past this stuff. Not a touch, full on retard level irrational confidence. I wrote a post on it, and wrote a shit load about it in my early OY…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/22 12:51 PM
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She states sex is a chore that gets in way of other life stuff Congratulations, you have uncovered a giant covert contract that your wife has. "If I just fuck him x times per week, I can live a problem free life". Well done sir, creating this CC in your wife is literally the point of dread. And.....as you know, it will get you laid, but not the way you want. Now, you have the option to Turn Dread Into Desire. Tyred wrote a post on it, Horns wrote a whole series on it. As someone in the process o…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/22 10:57 AM
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Good read.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/22 01:58 PM
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Thanks man, all my takes are hot takes. I love throwing hand grenades at "All Good Here" guy. Especially when it is clearly BS. I could write more about why this all BS, but OP will figure it out on his own when the butt plugs start collecting dust. Anyway, fuck this guy. All good with you?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/22 12:52 PM
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Good here What is with all this "good here" bullshit. What is "good" in relation too? A current mediocre gym routine? Staying in the same comfortable social situations? A stagnant career? Regulating your emotions based on your wife being around? Plotting and planning for that Anal pipe dream to come true? Fuck "good here" . Take a look at your Frame, Your Game and your Looks and go find "Holy Shit I suck here". You list MMSLP in your reading, but did you actually make a MAP to track your progres…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/22 12:27 PM
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I will need to be very assertive in planning stuff if I want to improve my social life. Try that for a couple weeks, look like it was working for you in the relationship section. Be assertive, but don't be that asshole that actually gives a fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 01:04 AM
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I'm just lying to myself about how helpful they are. I haven't been able to admit to myself that porn only scratches the surface of my real problem. I have a full blown arousal addiction. You are still lying to yourself. You dont have a porn problem, you have a pussy problem, like, you are not getting any. I bet if you actually do the work, and build a social life, and learn some game, this "arousal addiction" will clear itself up. Do you even want to get laid dude, I cant really tell from your …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 12:57 AM
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I was referring to overall investment from the girl, not a bit of playfulness and fun as foreplay, which I can totally see. I see, that makes more sense to me. ​ That said, I honestly rarely see LMR Crazy man, I see some form of token shit test/resistance pretty much every time. Maybe it will go away over time, but I think, if I stay in this marriage, it will always be there. So, I have had to learn how to make it enjoyable. I can get through that shit quickly and playfully, or I can get through…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/22 01:35 AM
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The next day I told my wife I would not put up with x, y, and z again and if she did any of those things I would be handing her divorce papers. I reiterated over and over again that I am not just using words but will go through with it. I meant it and believe my message got across. Cool, so you drew a boundry. Chicks are hardwired to test boundaries, just like kids, so what are you going to do when that happens? I am not saying going Rambo, I am not saying get divorced. Standard advice is STFU h…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 11:08 AM
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It also is okay to be turned on by Harpy cunts. Cunts need to be fucked too.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 11:01 AM
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I’ll admit that when my wife is being difficult or harpy it’s really easy for me to say fuck it and not even try. Dude, trying flipping that script on this. Those can be my favorite times to fuck. It takes some pretty high levels of DNGAF, but when I see that straight up bitchy attitude, and start to escalate, sometimes that has led to the great fucking.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 11:00 AM
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If it isn’t a hell yes, it’s a no. If a bitch isn’t crawling through broken glass, I either fucked up or she’s fucked up. Answer is the same - next. Sure, this is straight out of Models and Rollo, but in practice are you really looking for zero resistance when you escalate, every time? Maybe that is reality for you, I just can't believe that you never have to deal with LMR and shit like that. And that you would not actually want any of that, I figure that resistance is almost part of the game.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 10:58 AM
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I’ll get comments like “you’re always nice” and “you’re not scary to me” when I make threats while teasing. How is the fucking? You probably fuck like a nice guy. ​ One thing I’m thinking about lately is how to establish polarity Again, you probably fuck like a nice guy. Is that what you want? Or do you want polarity, the two are related. If you are stuck, try some shit from sex god method.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/22 01:35 AM
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WISNIFG......didn't think I was going to get through this book but now can see why it's mandatory. OK, coincidentally: ​ I ask myself whether it’s ok to enjoy the external validation as well When I enjoy external validation, I feel guilty? ​ I think we are spending a lot on unnecessary luxuries. At the moment we can afford it fine but I think we could cut a few things When I buy luxury items I can afford, I feel guilty? And from last OYS... ​ I need to do some more fun stuff with my eldest when …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/22 11:44 AM
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if I continue effectively dealing with these shit tests will they end? Maybe, but in my experience (almost 2 years), no, they have not ended. But why would you want them to end? It is all part the dance my man. Just become a better dancer and have fun with this type of shit. ​ sometimes my rage during these tests is absolutely pulsating through my veins This is just weak frame, pussy shit, because you don't have any balls and your wife still controls your emotions. Simple fix for all this stuff …
/r/askMRP30/07/22 11:31 AM
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This stage is confusing me. Yes, this stage is confusing. I think that is why a lot of guys get stuck and get pissed. There are an infinite number of ways out of this stage though. Look at u/DiamondUnlucky9120 and his most recent post (it should come with a huge warning label though). The path I choose was more of a loving "I am going to do my shit, you can feel free to fuck off at any point". But you can figure it out however you want. But, if fucking is your goal, and a little self-actualizati…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/22 12:36 PM
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The discussions on DEVI for emotions are something I've been focusing on in my reading lately, and often focus on emotions regarding the sex itself, rather than what you feel towards your woman I would encourage you to put this to practice every chance you get. Start reading yourself more than you are reading anything else. Recognizing and controlling my emotions was the first step. Once my emotions are in my control, I noticed I have been much more receptive to how other people emotions are con…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/22 01:42 AM
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I'm starting to own the fact that her unacceptable behavior is my fault Okay, this is a good start, but I ran into similar problems you are now facing with this mental model too. Especially when it came to this: ​ I need to forgive my wife You said this is your fault, so why do you need to forgive your wife? She didn't do anything wrong, she just a woman, and hypergamy and shit test and bad behavior are all part of the package, especially if there is a shitty beta hanging around. She is blameles…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/22 11:18 AM
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Goal is to approach at least one cute girl I don't know. Approach the chubby 5s and 6s too. They may be more receptive and hornier.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 08:58 PM
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OYS 46 38yo, Married 10 years, 2 young kids, 6ft 180lbs. 15% BF Lifts/Diet. 3/3 Lifts, 5/5 "GSLP Homework" 3x5 Sets Squat - 247.5lbs, OHP -117.5lbs, DL - 315lbs, Bench - 210lbs, Diet is at maintenance right now. Been holding 180 for almost 3 weeks. about 2750 cals/day seems to be the sweet spot. Will keep this for the rest of the summer, then go into bulk in September. Emotions. I have been exploring the emotion part of DEVI. Originally, I mistook emotion for passion. That was a mistake. That wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 10:21 AM
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Yes, I am with you there. ​ You're making her compartmentalize her inner slut to just when you're fucking You're making her being a slut feel like an act, which I'm guessing is not what you want. I guess I don't really care if she is compartmentalizing or acting. Why do you bring this up?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/22 10:53 PM
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The talking is always dry unfortunately, and I know it's my fault. I'm afraid of pushing buttons. This weekend I literally told her she kind of scared me. Your game sucks dude. What's up with that?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/22 02:26 AM
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Yea, I hear you, I like it too. If you are looking to maximize flexibility and mobility, you can work in certain poses you like, and hold them for a bit longer. I used the Asana Rebel app for a while, it has a ton of selections on different flows, 5 minutes all the way to 30 minutes, and all different varieties.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/22 02:24 AM
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It reads to me like she said some things about sex that has him writing on the windows like Russell Crow. Yes, this is true. ​ He wants, probably even needs, to be understood by his wife right now. This, not so much. I have noticed that I am learning to communicate better. Maybe this is some type of autistic flex by me, but through experience, I can see the pretty words said in the proper way can get me into some good experiences. So, this is less about me being understood, and more about me try…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/22 02:00 AM
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There is a great line from "When I Kick Out My Super-Hot, Caring, and Playful LTR, I Feel Guilty" - You have the right to be illogical in making decisions Do what serves your best interest. That is not always logical, and it does not have to be.
/r/askMRP20/07/22 11:37 AM
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I dont know shit about Tinder, so I can't comment, but I do see others using really successfully, look at the divorced dudes here, killing it with OLD. I just chose to do it socially. Either way you are right, meet and engage with people. No reason to get pissed about another CC. Now it is exposed, and you know about it. That does not mean you have to change your actions; it means you may have to change your expectations of the results of your actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 11:31 AM
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getting an abundance mindset Social proof was big for me, sure it is external validation, but it will help this process along. If you want to do tinder, do tinder, but I do it in real life. Chat up chicks at bars (or wherever), recognize IOIs, let them laugh at your killer jokes, watch as all of sudden women hands seem the find their way to your pecs and lats and linger there a little longer... Then come home and get rejected.....and truly not give a fuck, because you know what is possible. Then…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 01:53 AM
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No, I use them all. CNF and AA are way more fun for me, I use them all day. The others are more for specific situations, but you should know how to use them all.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 01:32 AM
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All hip stretches. Supine single leg to chest, supine figure 4, supine twist, and butterfly stretch.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 01:20 AM
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try to avoid confrontations with my wife I’m very low energy when I’m around my wife I don’t even like her You ever hear the term sparring partner? I think you are missing a golden opportunity. I say embrace those confrontations, practice broken record, negative inquiry, then turn her around and fog the shit out of her. Cocky N' Funny and Agree and Amplfy are my favorite things to practice at home. I AA everything, it is literally what improve comedy is built on. Don't just use this stuff on shi…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 10:11 PM
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Clearly a boundary was crossed Did you make it clear to her? ​ and I need to enforce it. How? Seems like you hamstered your way out of actually doing anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 07:13 PM
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Are you calibrating your verbal responses to hers (verbal &/or physical)? If so, do you see how reactive this is? Yes, and yes, good point. I am trying to figure out exactly how to engage this type of stuff congruently. I think alot of it is passing shit test, and passing comfort tests appropriately, but sometimes there are opportunities to engage. And the purpose of engaging, in this context, is to create a space to encourage that slut to come out and play.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 05:27 PM
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I gave it more importance as I should have No, NMMNG is super fucking important.
/r/askMRP19/07/22 03:45 PM
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My wife and I had a great night Saturday night and I was charged for some action. I initiated and got a hard no and a "I can't go there with you". The date night covert contract! Classic, I love it. One time I walked around the block for an hour in a fit a rage because of this bullshit. You still have work to do on your DNGAF and OI. Once you start to get it, it starts to change everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 03:44 PM
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This is pretty atrocious for OYS 38 - when did you start GSLP and were you a fat fuck when you started here or what has BW been doing? I took the "figure it out as I go" approach with lifting. I started as a super soft, skinny fat fuck. 185lbs, no muscle, easily 20+% BF. I did SL 5x5 for almost a year, I got a hell of a lot stronger and got hooked on lifting, but my physique still sucked. I basically bulked the whole time too, got to about 205lbs, was still hover at 20%BF The past 3 months, I sw…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 02:09 PM
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OYS 45 38yo, Married 10 years, 2 young kids, 180lbs. 15% BF Lifts 3/3 Lifts, 4/5 "GSLP Homework" 3x5 Sets Squat - 245lbs, OHP -115lbs, DL - 315lbs, Bench - 210lbs, Homework: I rotated between A and B, all done as a superset, last one was AMRAP A. 4x 10 Pull ups, pushups, sandbag squat (45lbs) B. 4 x 10 Rows, Dips, kettlebell swings (done with a sandbag) Sex: Frequency was good, enthusiasm was more of a roller coaster. One session was met with a slutty freak, I just laid back and let her do what …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 12:16 PM
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I've also been doing yoga mobility most evenings, I love yoga too, but, if you are doing it specifically for mobility while lifting, it's not the best. I stopped doing yoga daily and switched to doing 4 specific stretches daily, and holding these stretches. Then I mix in a full 20–30 minute flow twice a week. My flexibility has improved significantly.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 11:37 AM
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I think this is a fair question for someone just starting out. Glover is not "RP" the way Rollo and others are, so yea, you do have to start applying your own knowledge while you read this book. Short answer: NO. DO NOT READ NMMNG WITH YOUR WIFE. Do not tell your wife you are reading it, and do not use your wife as a safe person with the BFAs. Read it for yourself, this is about you. ​ How am I supposed to STFU and also work through this book with my wife? Don't worry, there is a book for this t…
/r/askMRP19/07/22 11:26 AM
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Actions drive thoughts that drive feelings. Dont drive in reverse, and def dont drive drunk in reverse.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 05:59 PM
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I hated myself for being such a weak spineless loser. How can I move past infidelities and get the life I want? I see it as a very expensive learning experience that I see no way forward from. I am a cuck if I stay with her. How do I fully respect myself knowing at the end of the day, I'm nothing but a cuck? You're cuck? Join the club, who fucking cares, at least you know it, I am sure most men don't. The problem is not what makes you hate yourself; the problem is the fact that you hate yourself…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 12:38 AM
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Mrp says kill your anger, but I'm angry I think this is your problem, and I don't think you will find the solution through MRP. You don't need to kill it, you need to get through it. I don't think your anger comes from the affair. I think you use it as an excuse because you are too afraid to face (whatever it is) head on. Follow that thread of anger, follow it past your wife, follow it past the affair, follow it till you hit a wall that you need to break through.....then keep going. Good luck wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 10:51 PM
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Hell yea, this is a really good parable. I never thought about the Feelz that can be generated through texting. Challenge excepted.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 01:29 PM
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Fully, it is all dead weight emotional baggage. For OP, this might be a "Man the fuck up" type situation, or it may be a situation that you really do need to dive into whatever trauma is in there and get through it and get past it. Or maybe some combination of both. This is what worked for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 11:41 AM
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Yea, I have mixed this in a bit, mostly shit like "get naked and under the covers, I'll be home soon." It generally is received well. One thing that I found out, is alot of times, the text back is something way the fuck off topic.... but the instructions I sent still get followed. So, in my case its not game, its still pretty logistical, and then I STFU and dont text back about it, it never turns into a sexually escalating thing via text. You think a single dude and a married dude should approac…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 11:34 AM
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You wrote a lot about frame and working on your frame. It is good you are thinking about it, because if you go back and read those sections you can see how "your frame" is dependent on your external situations and the crowd you are hanging out with. That is not really your frame, that is you just kind of waffling around in different situations, but at least you are observing. One of the descriptors of frame that clicked with me "an underlying confidence in everything you do". I forgot about "bui…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 08:19 PM
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OYS 44 38yo, Married 10 years, 2 young kids. Lifting/Cutting - 3/4 lifting sessions this week, I slipped up while traveling. I am down to 179lbs. I am happy with where I am at as far as BF%. I am going to switch to maintenance, and in a couple, weeks start to bulk and focus on building lean muscle. I am switching to GSLP, during this bulk. I loved that link that u/AcademicDumbass shared last week. I had the chance to be a solo parent for a few days this week. It was just me and my two kids. I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 05:54 PM
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I have my heavy sets listed below, my focus over the past couple weeks during this cut has been less on the weight I am moving and shifted more on the fitness part (the tier 3 lifts). After the two heavy lifts I do 4 or 5 super sets of close to AMRAP of chins/dips or push ups/rows or kettlebell swings/front squats, and just try to murder my body during these supersets. Heavy sets 5x3 Sets (Day 1,2,3,4) Squat - 240lbs, OHP -115lbs, DL - 315lbs, Bench - 210lbs, 4 x 10 (Day 1,2,3,4) Bench- 160lbs, …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/22 01:29 PM
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188 lbs should be when I hit 15% BF, Our stats are pretty similar, your lifts are a little higher but still, you may need to lose 10lbs more than you think. I know I did, and they are stubborn as shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 03:11 AM
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Sitting in the fence will only hurt ya butt Yea, I have been daydreaming about these possibilities too much. Right now, I am enjoying game for the sake of game. I think this can open some doors beyond just the PUA stuff. ​ Do you like your KIDS? Hard yes. To the point where I still have some guilt around how my decisions (even potential decisions) now will impact them. Why this question?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 11:09 PM
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OYS 44, 38yo, Married 10 years. 2 young kids. 6 ft, 180lbs, 15% BF, Lifting - GZCLP 4/4 this week. stopped cutting, keeping at maintenance. Physical; Here is a thirsty progress pic for everyone. You're welcome. To get where I am at now, feels pretty good. I could have made progress faster; I fucked around with body weight exercises for a couple months, I stayed on StrongLifts for about a year (prob wayyyy longer than I should have to build size). I have loved GZCLP over the last couple months, a…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 03:14 PM
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Her, her ideal, her obstacle, your obstacle, your ideal, you. Now flip the middle and the ends, so it's Her Obstacle, Her Ideal, Her, You, Your Ideal, Your Obstacle. I keep coming back to this from your comment link and drawing this line. I just want to make sure I am thinking about this the same way that you are. So I have an example, this could be any conversation, shit test, problem, whatever. In the first line, Me in the present and Her in the present are the farthest thing from each other, …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/22 03:02 PM
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I would like to have a leatherbound book of all your comments.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 08:19 PM
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I struggled in these situations for like 30 years. I used words like "introvert" and "shy" as a crutch for basically my whole life. But, I put all these interactions in the "Game" category. And this has been the biggest challenge, and by far the most fun of the whole process.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 11:40 AM
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His words, to me, sound like he is pretty deep in his wife's frame, and he is looking for a type of affection that he is probably not going to get.....right now. I was there, so maybe my answer had a lot of projecting in it, but I didn't see the results I wanted to until I added way more alpha than I thought I had too. to clarify by alpha I mean, Irrationally Confident, Cocky Funny, Aloof. There was zero attempt by me to create a safe space, until she came to me looking for one. Then I got to ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 08:40 PM
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I'm really glad you and Zen are posting these TRP posts lately, because MRP is all about.. ​ Authenticity, congruence and vulnerability But why? Who the fuck am I trying to impress with my congruence other than myself? And what does that really get me? These are questions for me to answer, appreciate the link.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 07:53 PM
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I have read a few of the top posts early on, but it never clicked the way MRP did. But I didn't specifically look for Whisper and HSP, Ill check those out.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 07:41 PM
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That was my initial thought too, but check out the link Ragnar shared, there is more going on to be aware of.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 04:38 PM
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Wow, this is really good shit, thanks for the link.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 04:36 PM
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"I'm sorry, I can't hear you over my giant throbbing erection. " Fucking great.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 04:27 PM
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I want to create a space for her to want to be in, an inviting place of comfort that she is drawn towards. This smells like BS to me. You are going to throw more Beta into a situation already saturated with beta. My guess is you want more comfort from your wife, and you think you can get that by provide more comfort. You can't. This wont work. You want to comfort something, get a puppy. You want a wet pussy, up the alpha.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 02:56 PM
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Good progress with the lifting and the weight gain. Check out the diet plan in this article. It may sound overtop to you, but this is how you should be eating to gain weight. https://www.jimwendler.com/blogs/jimwendler-com/101078918-building-the-monolith-5-3-1-for-size
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 12:59 PM
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minor conversation with ‘service people’ This is like T ball, its good to get started and to build confidence, but does it really make you a better hitter in the game of baseball? Only to a point (and you have probably already reached this point). Move up to talking with other people in line instead of just the people at the counter (that are paid to talk to you). That being said, lately I have been pushing myself to see how far I can take the experiences with service people. Things like being r…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 12:54 PM
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DEMONSTRATING “I am joking” There was a short but very pregnant pause (at least it felt like it to me), and all my nice guy instincts were screaming, "Say you were joking!" But my mind shifted to amplify instead, that seemed to work out well. I am trying to tap into the 10 year old boy on the playground, naturally doing whatever the fuck he wants and teasing all the girls around him. I have not practiced it enough out in bars to know how to calibrate yet, but this: ​ does not need to be harsh at…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 12:37 PM
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isn't it important to measure results by observing how your actions and behaviors effect those around you Try that out for bit. ​ but what else is there to report on? Just my inner thoughts? God, Fuck no. You report on what you did. Did you do what you wanted to do? How did that go for you? What are you going to do different?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 01:23 AM
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Trying to suss out the differences between what I want for me and what I am doing for validation. I am happy to help: Health, Physical, & Lifting: This section is about other people opinions of your physique. Relationship/Attractiveness: This section is about your wife's opinion of you. Family: This section is about your family's opinion of you. Spiritual: This section is about other people's unspoken opinion of your energy. Career: This section is about the ladie's you work with opinions of you…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 10:45 PM
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Marriage & Self: This section is always the biggest challenge for me developmentally It may be a challenge because you have linked the identity of yourself with your marriage. I would highly recommend breaking this connection, and focusing on just the Self. ​ We were supposed to have sex last night, her offering. At the start of it I cracked an innocent joke and she started giving me some shit about it not being funny. I paused, looked at her and told her I didn’t want sex anymore, got up and le…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 02:03 PM
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Because there's still a scared bitch inside of me Yup, me too, ​ I need to accept myself more Nice guy roots run really fucking deep, at least for me they do. I think accepting this fact has really helped me. I recognize I may always have Nice Guy/little bitch impulses. I treat them like any other shit test, STFU and go do what I want to do anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 12:49 PM
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OYS 43, 38yo, Married 10 years. 2 young kids. 6 ft, 181lbs, 15% BF, Lifting - GZCLP 4/4 this week. I scheduled a consult with a divorce lawyer. I have no plans to proceed with divorce, nor do I want to at this time, but I do recognize that there are still some things I want to get out of life, and I may want to do them as a single dude. So I called and set up an appointment. I was nervous about it and even felt guilt creep up, but only during the call and for a few minutes after. But since then …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 12:36 PM
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First off, Thank you, really appreciate this. There is a hell of alot for me to work with here. I have read this a few times and the links you provided. There have been a few comments that you (and others) have given me that take weeks or even months for me to see how these things actually play out in my life. Give me 3-4 weeks, I will get you back with something meaningful.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/22 05:36 PM
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I am going to steal a couple lines from Rian Stone. Understand Womanese but speak manglish. Don't waste your time explaining the matrix, just start doing high kicks off skyscrapers and dodging bullets in slow motion.
/r/askMRP23/06/22 04:47 PM
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Internally, I was seething. Externally, I played it off and successfully managed to STFU. That night I fucked her well. Fuck yea, my man. Remember this, and the next you time you are seething mad, no matter what, just STFU. Closest thing there is to a cheat code.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 07:48 PM
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Feedback on this?? This is tricky, if you say the wrong thing, you might feel Guilty for hurting her feelings, so make sure you are as Nice as you can be......you see what you are asking right? Just because it is a serious question, does not mean it deserves a serious answer. I would take this as a beautiful opportunity to practice being an asshole. Blow that question up, and then go for the f close.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 07:23 PM
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My fear is that I will build a life outside of her and she will do the same. Then when I want her attention, she will deny me because she has built a life where she doesn't need me. This is dread. This is how chicks think and also part of what motivates them to fuck dudes. But when dudes feel like this it is needy, creepy and instantly dries up the vag. Flip the script on this bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 03:44 PM
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OYS 42 38 yo, Married 10 years, 2 young kids. 6'0, 185lbs, 16% BF. Lifting/ Cutting; Took 5 days off from Lifting and diet restrictions. I was in full vacation mode. I weight myself today, I managed to gain 2 pounds in 5 days. Back to cut today, back to lifting tomorrow. It will be a 6 days since I lifted last, from past experience I will drop wieght by about 10-15% on everything for a week. Vacation. I planned and booked a long weekend for my wife and I. Arranged travel, hotel, babysitting, pre…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 02:49 PM
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Not exactly a noble image Noble...I dont see that word getting thrown around much when talking about fucking. What about sex is supposed to be noble? Perhaps there is some disconnect between what you think sex is supposed to be like (in your mind "Noble") and what your experience with sex has been (mostly porn...probably BDSM type porn). Those opposing views are going to create a serious Madonna/Whore complex in your mind. This is so far from reality. There is nothing more natural than wanting t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 01:39 PM
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I feel bad for looking at women with lust, and know what a high body count can do to a woman. Even one you used to respect. Sounds like you got some serious shame around sex. There is nothing wrong with lust, and there is nothing wrong with a high body count, nearly all chicks have a high notch count, yes, even the ones that read the bible. If you can accept that, you can probably learn to have fun with it. ​ I know what I have to do to get what I want. I just feel bad doing it. More shame and g…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 04:39 PM
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Much anger I sense in you. Why? I am not judging or moralizing either. We all go through it. Usually, the anger phase around here comes from waking up from years of Nice Guy, Beta Bucks tendencies, Covert Contracts, and not understanding sexual dynamics within their relationships. You are young and single. So, am I guessing your anger may be coming from a different place? I think the strategy to get rid of that anger most likely starts the same: Eat right, lift like a motherfucker, Sidebar and r…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 01:21 PM
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Thanks man, and thanks u/ragnar_Daneskjold. What is happening to me, sounds alot like what has happened to both of you along the way. I think your words helped me uncover an underlying covert contract that I was trying to act out. That if I turn down starfish sex, in just the right way, my wife will come back and fuck me enthusiastically. It sounds retarded writing it out, but that is more or less what I was doing. Appreciate the redirect.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 12:54 PM
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Thanks for the reply. ​ Fucking blow it up is my advice, take her up on her offer. This is what I was over thinking throughout the day. I have gone caveman and just took what a wanted plenty of times, usually I enjoy it. In this moment, I just was not feeling it. I didnt want to deal with an unresponsive partner, and it felt like settling for shitty sex. I see your point about really wanting validation, and I had not caught that on my own. That shit still creeps in. I am not sure where I can dra…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 10:10 PM
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Between my wife being busy at work, sick, and shark week, sex has been off the table. Fuck off with this weak ass bullshit. Sounds like you are eating at your wife's table while living in her frame. What about you? Did you take sex off of your table? Or are you just assuming your wife doesn't want to fuck, so you have talked yourself out of even trying? Whether you think she wants to fuck you, or you think she doesn't want to fuck you.....you're right.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 07:54 PM
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OYS 41 38 yo, Married 10 years, 2 young kids. 6'0, 183lbs, Lifts: BP 2 x 210, SQ 2 x 265, DL 3x 315, OHP 4 x 115. Lifts; GZCLP 4/4, Weight down to 183. I have my diet dialed in, after about 12 weeks of this cut, I finally have weight loss consistent and energy levels are staying pretty high too. This has been a learning experience. I know I will need to lose more weight than I thought initially. According to strongur I will have to get down to about 175lbs to get to 12% BF, that is about 10lbs m…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 07:40 PM
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What I meant was that she wasn't seeing me as a creepy fuck and more of a man. I guess this would happen naturally as you work on being attractive and stop being unattractive. Just keep your motivation for internal results, instead of external validation (how she feels). The way you wrote it, it sounded like "since I am creating a safe space for her to be sexual.....we will have more sex." Watch out for this covert contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 02:06 PM
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​ Initiations have been hit and miss but I can tell I have been better at building comfort and providing a safe place to be sexual in the first place. Whoa, slow down Rodney Dangerfeelz. What the fuck do you mean a "safe place to be sexual"? You say you see yourself as a man child, looking for Mom's approval, and your wife probably sees you the same way. You think you need to add more comfort and safety to that situation? I would say you need to blow that dynamic up and add some danger feelz, st…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 12:56 AM
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Yes, I did clearly communicate that she crossed a boundry, and that I am not going to parent with someone that brings our kids into these situations. Like I said, there were tears and shaming and all that shit, at that point I just fogged and STFU. But, it has not happened since. ​ I want my son to be better than me so he is happier in life before I was. Something about this line rubs me the wrong way, not sure why though. It has given me something to think about.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:14 PM
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Keeping it my focus: breathing, being in the moment, and switching positions in “my” favor. All this shit may help, but so much of PE is mental. Do you have the mindset of you being the prize when you fuck? Are you truly comfortable fucking the way that you want to? Make sure you do the mental work along with the physical stuff. NMMNG, Chapter 8 is a good place to start.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 07:20 PM
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Earlier in the day wife snapped at me about not leaving the room while a bath was being given… just a literal me saying Im gonna go do something and this knee jerk “no”. pissed me off as it was in front of our son It sounds like the congruence tests. Especially if this is happening on days right after you fucked the shit out of her. That is what happens with me. So treat it like any other shit test and STFU or have fun with it....except the kid thing. I drew a hard boundry when my wife tried to …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 07:13 PM
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Thanks for your thoughts. I like the idea of just embracing the performance aspect of it. ​ You can't be a performer who's doing it for the applause (or sex) My problem is I am mostly gaming my wife, who I have sex with, so I do usually have a goal to get laid. I want to move to catch and release, or gaming and escalating just for the sake of gaming and escalating, to help drop the expectations that I currently have.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 07:02 PM
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OYS #41 Lifted 3/4 times this week. Cut is down to 185, I reached my goal weight, but I have not reached my goal for the mirror test. I am going to go down to 180, then stop. That will put me safely below 15% BF for the first time in over a decade. After that the plan is to get to work on increasing strength and size throughout the summer. Chasing and Avoidance. I still feel like my "game" is a performance at times. I almost have to get in the right head space and tell myself, "Ok, now it is tim…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 02:51 PM
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What is you want to do about the 15% body fat Good question. My goal for this cut it to look fucking sexy. Originally, I had a weight in mind 185lbs. I am actually a bit under, and my bodyfat is still at 15%. I lost about 10 lbs in the first 3 weeks of my cut, then another 8 in the next 7 weeks, so it is slow going but still working. But I am readjusting the end goal to 180lbs, should be there in 2 weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 02:25 PM
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We got into a stupid argument All arguments are stupid. You acted like a bitch. STFU about it, reset and move on. Go lift and then go do something else you want to do. When she gets back, keep on STFU and take the time to practice all that shit you should have read in WISNIFG without letting your emotions take over.
/r/askMRP07/06/22 02:21 PM
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OYS 40, 38yo, Married 10 years. 2 young kids Lifting/Cutting. Lifting 4x this week, GZCLP. Traveling again this week and I was able to book a hotel that was close to a proper gym. Got up at 5:30 walked a mile to the gym, lifted, walked back to the hotel. Got in a good workout and got to check out the city in the early morning vibe. I love the early morning workout. I feel like I have accomplished my number one goal of the day before 7am, everything after that is all gravy. Bought the audio book …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/22 04:24 PM
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if I ask or imply that I want certain things, that’s when things don’t go my way. Have you tried asking really really nicely? Sometimes begging works too. The last thing you want to do is be assertive in these situations.
/r/askMRP27/05/22 03:05 PM
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I've created a shit dynamic in the relationship and I need to unfuck things. She's ruled the roost for fucking ages and I'm trying to turn the ship around. Any thoughts? One thing needs to be clarified.."the ship" is your life..."the ship" is not your relationship. You should not be focused on unfucking your relationship, or fixing the dynamic in your relationship. You should be laser focused on yourself as you get started. Learn how you like to deal with shit tests, or just fucking nuke them if…
/r/askMRP26/05/22 01:48 PM
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just kinda beige. This seems to get better when I am activelty taking care of things in that if Im busy I am have fun personality if im lazy and watch tv.... im lame. I am gonna throw some shit at the wall here, let me know if it sticks. My guess is your mood is not dependent on if you are busy or if you are not busy. I bet your mood is linked more to if you are enjoying what you are doing, or if you are not enjoying what you are doing. That good mood you feel when busy is probably more of a fee…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/22 01:55 AM
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this is something I am working on That sounds like the approach that worked for me. You cant just try really hard to get a boner in the moment, that will lead to a downward spiral. I had to cut out the porn, and also start learning how I liked to fuck, and allowed myself to get selfish and fuck the way I want...Dominance and Immersion.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 01:44 AM
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It took like a year to get over it for me, and after I stopped the symptoms actually got worse before they got better. So, YMMV. I also fucked up and told my wife I had a porn addiction (this was about a year pre MRP). That did not help.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 01:37 AM
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Yea, this is what happened. I could have, at any point, just STFU about the whole thing. Nothing at all came out of the argument. But, I let my emotions control me this time. What do you mean by "there is no spoon"?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 01:25 AM
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Porn Sounds like you already know, but this is a full on addiction. I had one too, with PE and ED simultaneously. NMMNG and "Your Brain On Porn" were the books that helped me the most. I had a bunch of Nice Guy shame about sex, that lead to Porn, then I had all this shame about porn. Stay dedicated, it is a whole process, like any addiction recovery. And you if you have shame attached to porn, learn to drop that shit too.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/22 11:31 AM
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OYS 39, 38yo, Married 10 years. 2 young kids Lifting/ Cutting. I did a couple refeed days this week, that had a really good effect on my lifts, I didn't lose any weight this week, but stayed at 187. I was going to stop at 185, but I can see I can get down to 180lb before I start to look really shredded. Goal is to finish cut in 3 weeks. Heavy sets felt the best they had in a long time. Lifts this week, GCZLP Program: 6x2 Sets (Day 1,2,3,4) Squat - 262.5lbs, OHP -117.5lbs, DL - 315lbs, Bench - 21…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/22 11:22 AM
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I thought I had a happy wife and a happy life for 12 years, then 12 months ago she dealt me a "I can't do this anymore, if things don't change I'm leaving you". Of course! You have been giving comfort and beta away in spades. That shit is needy and unattractive as all hell. Clearly you are really fucking deep in her frame. You may not even know what your frame looks like at this points. Dial the beta way the fuck back, and up the alpha, Go back to MMSLP for that type of shit. Have you actually w…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/22 01:01 AM
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I have had HUGE problems with covert contracts in the past. So do I, I am not sure the CCs will ever go away. As I shed more and more Nice Guy Bullshit, I just find more of them. But I dont think the process has to be to eliminate them, or let them have some kind of power over you. I just have to recognize them and still act accordingly. So, you should still initiate if you want to fuck, just watch out for the CC, and don't give a fuck about the butthurt, that feeling is useless anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/22 01:45 PM
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You are asking "How do I act like a DNGAF?" so close, and still so far out of reach......
/r/askMRP19/05/22 01:38 PM
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Sounded like you were setting yourself up for a covert contract, with the sex and a smooth morning routine tied to your son moving to the basement. But shit, if the logistics are working out, good for you. Covert Contracts can be sneaky little fucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/22 07:35 PM
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It's preventing me from getting my fuck on. You are delusional, dude. ​ The goal is to quickly get him self-sufficient. Again, you are delusional. This will not work, since as you said "I have no frame. I don't value my time." ​ I spent the weekend with several friends in a cabin for my wife's birthday. In my social circle we get together as couples frequently. One more time, you are delusional. These are your wife's friends, that let you hang around. Get some of your own friends, build your own…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/22 04:57 PM
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Good job with the BFA. Do not stop here. Come up with an action plan for each one, the book helps with this, so do Rian Stone's videos on the sidebar. Also, you want to go to San Antonio for vacation? What's stopping you? I bet you would have more fun, and a better chance of getting laid if you went solo.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 05:40 PM
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"She's not yours, it's just your turn." ....but I intend to make my turn last as long as possible." Bam. All of a sudden now it's an opportunity, a challenge, something I can take ownership of. I called you out on this a couple weeks ago, and I am going to do it again, because the screams that you are making your woman your mission. Here is a bad ass post about how that shit does not work. It is clear that you want ownership, you want her to be yours, and my guess is your wife has no intention o…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 05:35 PM
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We are generally amicable and happy. You literally have a happy wife, a happy life, and no sex. Does that surprise you? As for your initiations, I am not going to give you play by play advice, but a major breakthrough for me was when I could just say "Let's Fuck"...lock eyes and STFU...and if it was a no, that's cool, I got some shit to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 04:43 PM
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OYS 38, 38yo, Married, 2 young kids. Lifting, Diet and Sleep all on point. Those three things are huge for me. I still have some bullshit guilt about going to sleep early, lingering nice guy shit that "am supposed to" stay up and talk or spend time together with my wife. Just about every day this week I was in bed by 10:30. One day I did not, because I wanted to stay up and watch the finale of Moon Knight. Lifts and Diet: sticking with GZCLP program, no lifting gains for the last couple weeks, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 04:28 PM
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What to do about quality of sex and not quantity? This is your responsibility. It will be up to you to get the quality of sex you want. Read the sidebar, and Sex God Method, and Horn's cheat codes, there is plenty of places to get ideas, but you have to do it......which could be a problem for you. Because your question is not really "how do I get better quality sex?" Your question is "how do I get my wife to initiate". That is what you really want. Because you are a validation seeking pussy. So …
/r/askMRP17/05/22 10:11 AM
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Music FWIW, I have been in band for 20 years, from playing 8th grade talent show, to playing in front of 1000s. 90% of the people that go out and watch bands only pay attention to the singer. The thing is, you dont even have to be that good, you just have to be really confident, maybe even...irrationally confident. So stick with songs that you are comfortable with and that are in your vocal range. Play the songs you want to play, not what you think other people want to hear. Would love to hear h…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 01:10 PM
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OYS 37 38yo, Married, 2 young kids. Lifting: Got in 4 lifting sessions this week. I was on the road again, so one session was at a hotel gym. No barbells at this hotel, I had to use that one wierd machine with all the pulleys and cables, and they had dumbells up to 50lbs. I switched to a high rep work out for that day. Not ideal, I can do a better job of finding a local gym that has a day pass and choose a hotel closer to that. Cutting. I am at 188, still about 16% BF. It was my goal to maintain…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 12:31 PM
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I just threw up in my mouth a little bit. This is the last thing you should be doing right now. If you want to take your wife on a date, make it something you would do with or without her anyway. For example; My wife and I are going to get stoned and watch the new Dr. Strange movie next Tuesday afternoon. Will I get laid? Probably not, I don't know maybe, I don't know if there will be enough time. But will it be fun, yup.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 03:53 PM
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I think I’ve consumed enough RP material to understand the concepts, but internalizing & behaving in that manner has been tough. Yea its tough, but this is whole fucking point. Try something you read about, fuck it up, recalibrate, try again..... ​ I was a bit shocked since the last time she initiated was about 18 months ago. After the deed, I spent a little bit of time trying to figure out the reason behind the initiation. The recalibration is the trickiest part for me. I fall into traps like t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 02:12 PM
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So, I went into this deep dive into "flow state", because of some feedback I got from here about playing for the love of the game vs. playing to get an expected result. In its simplest form this flow state you seek comes from the right mix challenge with the right mix of tools. And to maintain this you will have to add new tools to your tool belt and seek out new or more difficult challenges with those tools as your skills get better. If the challenges get too hard, you get frustrated and give u…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 03:27 PM
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I'm having trouble understanding what to do while I'm working on being more attractive. This is a golden opportunity for you to find out "What do you want to do?". While you figure it out, you can always lean hard into Read.Lift.STFU, that's what I did. ​ Do I keep flirting with her? I did, because good game is like a superpower. Only I tried to frame it like I was not flirting with my wife, I was gaming the next chick I want to fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 11:18 PM
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Are you saying your wife took a course on how to draw and enforce boundaries? It actually sounds like a useful course. The sidebar is full of tools that can help you with boundaries too, but none of that shit matters for you, right now. Because you are doing all of this shit to get your wife to fuck you. That will never work. One more time, since you already tried this 6 months ago and it didnt work then. If you are doing this to get your wife to fuck you, IT WILL NOT WORK. Get the fuck out of y…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 08:27 PM
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She did some program a year ago and cut offsex because she doesn’t ‘feel safe’, and she feels ‘pressured’. In case you missed it, Every Unhappy Wife is a Rape Victim.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 06:06 PM
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Thanks for the notes, my lifts stalled out about 2 weeks into the cut, and then regressed a bit over the last couple weeks. And I just did a deload week, thinking I would come back stronger, but that ended up setting me back even more. Fuck it, like you said, I can accept it for a few more weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 05:39 PM
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BP 255x3, SQ 285x3, DL 325x3, OHP 165x3Got my 5x3 on the DL yesterday! I am about a month and half into a cut, and down about 14 pounds. My lifts have gone to shit. Looks like you are still making gains. I dont know if I am just being a pussy or if there is something else I should be doing. I lift fasted, and always have, maybe that has something to do with it now that I am really in a caloric deficit. Did you change up anything else to keep your lifts on track while cutting?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 03:38 PM
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I know that I am not where I want to be This is really interesting to me, because I would think that.... ​ Actions came more naturally and easily. I was on auto-pilot in terms of productivity. This was not limited to just work, but things around the house as well. I just saw shit that needed to be done, and did it. I took time for myself as well and negative comments or bad attitude seemed to have the effect of a gnat flying around my head. ...is exactly where I would want to be. And you were th…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 03:28 PM
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AWHTCTBLT Its gonna take me all week, but I will figure out what you mean. ​ Instant opener. Yup, I talked with her a bit as I was leaving the gym, which opened the door for the longer conversation when I saw her later during the meetings. I didn't take it any further than that, but I did recognize the opportunity.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 02:36 PM
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Chutes and Ladders It is good you recognize this. I thought of it as two steps forward and one step back, and that is pretty common with this shit. What I am working on now is not worrying if I am "making progress" and just playing for the love of the game.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 02:27 PM
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Yes, sign me up.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 02:07 PM
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OYS 36 38, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 232.5 x 1, SQ - 290 x 1, DL - 345 x 1. Stats: 6ft, 190lbs, 16% (Strongur and Mirror) Lifting and Cutting: Took a week off from lifting as a deload week last week. Full deload, no lifting at all, just some cardio. I continued to cut, and came back to lifting this week and felt weak as shit. I had to drop about 10% weight on my heavy squats 5 x 3 reps of 240lbs, and OHP 5 x 3 reps at 105lbs. I am not going to worry to much about the weight I am th…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 02:05 PM
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Discovered Mrp in January. Listen up dipshit; somehow you missed the most important concept here; MRP may fix the man, but MRP will not fix your relationship. The sooner you figure out what that means to you, the better. I cant answer your questions about monk mode, because I never did it. I think that shit is retarded, and for you, probably laced with Covert Contracts, but maybe someone else that did it can give you more insight. If you want help with this shit, start swapping notes in OYS week…
/r/askMRP01/05/22 02:33 PM
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ammo for dread There is active dread and then there is passive dread. The former is fully in her frame (just like you), and fully retarded. The latter is just a natural consequence of having frame, game and looks. Passive dread is way more attractive. When you are the kind of guy that has chicks talking to him and interested in him wherever you go, you won't need to blast your wife you with your dread bullets, you won't even think about shit like that.
/r/askMRP30/04/22 12:38 PM
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Right now you're treating her as a colleague, despite your best intentions going in. That's the mental model that needs to be obliterated. Yes. Even as I think of the body language I used, it was like I was at negotiation table, and I wanted to solve something together with her. I am not quite sure what the "Daddy vibe" actually is, and how to use it. u/ragnar_Daneskjold and u/HornsOfApathy talk about it alot too. The way I see it, it is a bit of amused mastery mixed with a bit of compassion, mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/22 08:55 PM
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I can already feel the inner resistance (ie. excuses) to a trial irrationally confident Razor. I thought the same thing, that's why I did it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/22 08:34 PM
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Vision: I'll be an accomplished writer. I'll lead my family. I'll have a passionate marriage with a traditional woman, D/s........ STFU: This is so friggin' difficult! My wife has been throwing the meanest s-tests you could imagine. I haven't been able not to respond every time. Ha! Good thing you completely disregarded u/The_Red_Letters advice from a couple weeks ago. Just take the wheel and run that ship straight into the ground!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 10:42 PM
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I bet what happened here is you spewed a bunch of shit you were anxious about, which was different than shit she was anxious about, and then she started getting anxious about your shit too. Yea, Jack's response was pretty spot on, especially the first part of his response. He starts to lose me once he gets into the Therapy section, and I am fully lost by the "main event" section. I just cannot comprehend that happening in my case, but who fucking knows.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 08:48 PM
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Feelings…the feelings are not me Well said. Maybe you knew this already, if not you figured it out pretty quickly. I called it out last week, because I had a decade of "feeling bad about feeling bad" and that is a downward spiral that can lead to self-loathing. Here is what I did to help get out of the downward spiral I was in. Following this line of thought in your OYS this week; ​ I don’t think I am the prize If you feel like this, then... ​ Initiated 3 times (lots of room for improvement. One…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 08:26 PM
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I now see it as a sort of ownership. Stewardship. She is yours, you own her, so you make her your cherished possession. Giant Red Flag. I would be careful with this one, my man. You are going head-to-head with a foundational RP maxim. TWOTSM is great, but you did read Rollo too, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 06:17 PM
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I think I fucked up in my execution. My intention was to hear her out. I wanted to give her a chance to get whatever she was bottling-up off her chest, because I could see she was struggling. I also wanted to practice listening compassionately, without forming an opinion. I did give her the space to talk, and it started out well. I fucked up because, I could not stop my urge to get her to see things my way. My intention going into it, was not to get her to see things my way, but to give her a ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 05:33 PM
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I think part of my issue is not realizing when I should be using these techniques until it is way too late and then it just feels like I am past any point where they can be helpful. When I legitimately didn't know what to do or how to behavior like this, I would go full on retard level STFU. Its not going to solve any major problems, but at least you wont get into situations you are not prepared for, like talking to divorce lawyers. Just shut the fuck up, literally. I started practicing fogging,…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 04:50 PM
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OYS 37, Age 38, 2 kids, Married 10 years. 60 DoD style. I rocked a bowler tie at a wedding. It was my grandfather's from his square dancing days. I have never has so many people talk to me about something I was wearing. It was a conversation peice with just about everyone. I think Mystery talks about wearing at least 1 peice of jewelry that has a story to it, I saw huge value in that this weekend. Cut: Going well, down to 191, about 16% BF. I have had some near black outs and tunnel vision while…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 03:50 PM
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English is my first language, and I did not follow that. I am gonna sit on this one a bit. Thanks Blarg.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 11:31 PM
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I assume there are remmants that I need to work for some more time. My epiphanies like this are all pretty meaningless, unless I can find the action part, the "what do I actually do differently" part of the equation. That is just me, and I am pretty dense when it comes to mental models, but my gut feeling is that you may need to refine the "action" part to kill off the remnants you talked about.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 08:55 PM
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Thanks for sharing, good shit. If you feel like diving in a bit, I have a question for you. ​ It was naturally the moment to make it clear also to my wife than I was taking care of my needs. And I did. After that moment of truth, my life improved steadily. I realized life was not doing anything to me. I was doing it to me. As soon as I started taking care of myself, things improved. This point seems like a crucial pivot point for you. Like all the work you had put in for yourself, got you up to …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 02:21 PM
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Read that link that Horn's has sent, its pretty powerful. By doing what I did, I tried to create an environment where, if she doesn't want to fuck, that is totally fine, but i am not going to sit around and talk about it, I am going to go and do something else enjoyable. And, yea it has worked well for me. I am not fucking more because of it, but I am also not having dumb conversations, like a retard, just to get laid (which I had to do most of time before). One time I could feel that what I way…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/22 01:45 PM
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It usually starts off normally and then there’s anxiety and tension, so I pull back and let her cool off. Then there are usually tears, and if I lead her through this then we will have good sex. It’s like this 80% of the time when we’re at home. It was the same situation fucking for me, same percentage as well for a long time. I am not giving advice, just telling you what I did. I would initiate, and I could see the signs of emotions and tears and blah, blah, blah....I would just say fuck it, I …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 07:01 PM
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I'm fucking exhausted. Yea, it can be mentally exhausting breaking out of Nice Guy behaviors. This is where the concept of resetting really helped me. Yesterday you acted like a little bitch, today do a full reset and focus your attention on what you want to accomplish today. Somedays I would break it down even further, like resetting every couple hours if I could feel a lot of anger or self pity. I had a couple days early on, where I even set an alarm to reset every 2 hours (got that idea from …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 12:51 PM
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Did you accidentally do something attractive? Ha! When I'm not needy and full of expectations, I am a fucking stud.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 01:04 AM
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Right at this very moment, it’s hard to feel like I am making any progress..... You wrote 2 big sections about how you feel, and one small section about what you did. ​ being angry at being angry You even wrote how you feel about your feelings. How can these feelings really help you? What the fuck you gonna actually do about it, big boy? Write about that next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 12:47 AM
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Sometime soon, you're probably going to TRY and do this for her again Yup, fuck me, I was already thinking about what I can "try" next. I was not looking at the situation at all the way that you just laid it out. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 07:18 PM
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What kind of boundaries did you set with your wife? You can't set boundaries for other people. You can only set boundaries for yourself and what you will and will not put up with.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 04:12 PM
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Putting in the effort to arrange dates, be spontaneous, push us out of our comfort zone to try new things together, etc. Maybe.... I also made sure to add value by upping the alpha (since I had given her nothing but beta for years). I was irrationally confident, cocky funny, AA'd alot, DNGAF about most things, but also drew some new boundaries and enforced some boundaries on things that did matter. There is alot of value in alpha feelz. Especially if your wife is not getting them now.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 02:10 PM
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I'm working on removing time and attention, but this alone isn't enough to improve my chances of successful initiations. Your right, and this won't work if your time and attention don't have any value. This kind of created a stalemate for me, where she doesn't fuck me, and I don't give her attention. The best way for me to start to break the stalemate was to double down on myself. Continuously working on my frame, game and looks and enjoying the process. And at the same time, not giving a fuck a…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 01:29 PM
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My expectations were not being met Are your expectations clear? Removing time and attention may work to create a sense of dread (for lack of a better word) in her, but that dread can be undirected. If there are some specific expectations that you have, can you find a way to lead her there? Can you get there without words? To get passed that covert contract you brought up, you can either make sure that your expectations are known, or you can drop those expectations that you have on others and foc…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 11:00 AM
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OYS 36, 38, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 232.5 x 1, SQ - 290 x 1, DL - 345 x 1. Stats: 6ft, 192lbs, 16% BF (mirror and strongur) Cut: Cutting is going great this week. I lost 2 pounds and I am down about 12 pounds over all in just over a month. This week I finally noticed 6 pack clearly showing up. I can notice the difference while doing chins and dips too, my body feels lighter and more mobile. I cut my cals down to about 2200/day (keeping my protein at 150g), and I just stopped worr…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 10:34 AM
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Good example, There may be a time when you need to change your external situation to meet your goal (divorce, moving, whatever...) But until then you can learn to change the way you experience external conditions to align with your goals. You took an external experience (your son's frustrations) and changed your experience of it by aligning it with one of your goals (a peaceful home). Nice job with your son. There are most likely other areas where you can do this. I am no master at it, but I sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/22 11:08 AM
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Fighting, screaming, not in control of you emotions... If you are anything like me, you still have a full pot of anger under the surface, and it only takes a couple drops from the outside for the pot to start overflowing. So recognizing the anger and apologizing for the situation is one thing. But do you have a plan for all the anger still under the surface? And do you have a plan for how to handle it the next time it overflows?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 12:39 PM
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u/oobertas, glad to see you back, I thought you bounced a couple months ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 12:34 PM
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OK, keep going with this model, but recognize... ​ If going through the storm is the path to attain this then that's what I will march through What you are doing is not the way, it is only a way. Don't get trapped in a covert contract thinking there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and that there is only one way to get there (ie. the way InChargeMan did it). One other question, just to clarify, are you talking about internal peace or external peace? One of those you can take control of right…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 12:31 PM
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Besides some fun Rambo stuff early on in my MRP, sex has been only slightly more interesting. In most cases it is pretty routine and bores me. Let me guess...and if I am wrong, please let me know. You went Rambo, tried a bunch of stuff, most of it was probably incongruent, but...by going through that you did find a process that works and gets you laid. But now you don't want to just get laid, you want to get laid a specific way....or lots of different ways. You cant use the same set up and expec…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 10:00 PM
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New mental firmware update installed- 2.0 from here on. Nice, I had a similar thought. And just like you, I was always comparing my "new self" to my "old self". I held on to a lot of anger and resentment directed toward my "old self". Don't get caught up in how shitty you used to be, put your attention on who you are now. ​ Peaceful, drama-free home In my experience, what you are doing is not a recipe for a peaceful and drama free home. The 2.0 version of yourself is going to get shit tests and …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 06:56 PM
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I've read NMMNG twice If you haven't already, watch Rian's videos while you reread. Rian Stone's Sidebar Series. These were a huge help for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 06:34 PM
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Read + lift, yes. Read read read. Yes, but dont just read mindlessly. Do the activities from NMMNG, and actually practice the tools from WISNIFG, like fogging and broken record and negative inquiry. Try it all and see what works for you. You sound like a huge pussy right now, the good news about that is you may be set up for some serious noob gains, with your mindset, once you actually start applying the things you read.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 04:43 PM
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Obviously, you are terrified of your wife and her emotions. But why? What the fuck is she going to do? The standard Read, Lift, STFU is the best place to start. There is also the basic advice of "act like you broke up with your wife". ​ Most of the things on this forum that I see the vets talk about, I would do 18 years ago to my 20 y/o girlfriend. It seems very, very, very hard to do to my 38 y/0 wife who can bully the shit out of me. If she didnt have this label of "wife" how would you fuck he…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 01:29 PM
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OYS 35, 38, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 232.5 x 1, SQ - 290 x 1, DL - 345 x 1. Stats: 6ft, 194lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Lifting and Diet. Here is where I am at right now. https://imgur.com/a/wcKZtRD. I am 5 weeks into this cut and have lost 9 pounds. BF% is coming down slowly. I took my bulk to the extreme and prob went over 20% BF, I decided to say fuck it and get to 205Lbs and pack on as much muscle as I could in the process. So, this is what that looks like. Next bulk, I will do a few …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 11:16 AM
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With not everything riding on it, I can be more playful and take more risks. Keep pulling on this thread, put it into practice, find out what it really means to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/22 07:22 PM
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I thought of your OYS as one of the examples that 3KL was talking about. Because it seems like you are at the point where you are doing lots and things, and you have realized that fucking should not be your ultimate goal, but letting go of that is still going to be a process. So the danger in that is trying to look for things to replace sex, or worse, trying to look for things to distract you from wanting sex. What u/sea-tease said above, spells it out nicely. I chose the path of "how can I crea…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/22 02:20 PM
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If it works for you, I'd be interested to hear about it Sure, As a guy actively in this process, this post reads like a stick of dynamite, even bigger than the dynamite Horn's gave us with his cheat codes. When I arrived here, and when I started doing things I wanted, of course I was doing them for the wrong reasons. None of this shit is a flip of the switch (not for me, maybe for some). Of course, I had covert contracts and expectations, so I needed the tools to recognize that and to work throu…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/22 04:05 PM
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There is no sentiment about lesbians, not from me anyway. There is a sentiment about little bitches being elbow deep in their wife's frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 06:30 PM
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Thanks for the FR, it was cool to read. I spent alot of time pressing all the MRP buttons at first too, and as you saw, there is some serious benefits to that, even though you are still a dancing monkey. One thing stands out to me. ​ I am finally ready to admit that I've been doing it all for her Who are you admitting this to? And why now?.... ​ Wife and I have sex multiple times over the weekend to the point of sexual exhaustion/contentment -> Realize that even when it is this good, it is not e…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 11:03 AM
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I've never found anger to be very useful for accomplishing things. Some men do. I found it very useful for accomplishing things. I dipped into that well, too many times I think, and then kind of stayed angry and bitter in general for too long. Letting go of that has been long process for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 07:41 PM
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I'm getting shit tested more often. Not only by my gf but even by guys I work with There is some Rian Stone video or part of a book about the way guys test vs. the way girls test. Guys will test you first and then accept you. Girls will accept you first and then start testing you. So I might say.... ​ It definitely has to do with self actualization, through defining and achieving goals, as well as meditation. I'm still doing some brainstorming. This is what 21 year old bitches in yoga pants writ…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 07:36 PM
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Cut it down from daily to once a week or every two weeks a while ago, but it wasn't as much as conscious decision as just not really being into it. Try gay porn before you give it up, it might save you a ton of time and effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 04:24 PM
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I passed the shit test Congrats. ​ I passed the shit test test and began feeling anger. I realized that I was angry that I was being shit tested. Anger? Anger about getting shit tested? Shit tests are always going to happen, and you know that, so it cant be anger from that. ​ Angry at the whole paradox. I think I am just beginning to internalize MRP. I am going to spend some time with the Anger activity in the sidebar. So the anger is coming up from internalizing the principles of MRP? Maybe, bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 03:20 PM
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OYS 34, 38, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 232.5 x 1, SQ - 290 x 1, DL - 345 x 1. Stats: 6ft, 195lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Lifting is on point, I feel happy with where I am at and where I am headed. Cut has stalled at 195lbs this week. I am in wheel-spinning territory over the last 2 weeks. I will need to focus more on hitting my cals. Goal is to be at 190lbs by the end of April. Had a great fuck session this week. Left the wife shaking on the bed after I came all over her. Initiations still…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 02:20 PM
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Laugh it up, dumbass. I lived the experience u/HornsOfApathy just wrote about, in real life. Specifically, the butthole rub as a reward for my wife after a good day, while she was falling asleep. It was magical. OP, you laugh cause you know you don't have the balls to try it.
/r/askMRP01/04/22 11:42 PM
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I didn't post as usual my OYS as soon as the tread was open. I found myself writing the usual bunch of feelz feelz, so I hit discard and decided to sit a bit with myself to figure out things better. You still ended up writing so much about what you want, instead of what you did. It almost like "watch what she does, not what she says". Watch what you actually do, it will tell you a lot about yourself. I would recommend saving the "figure things out" bit until you see the results of your actions. …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 11:02 AM
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Thanks for the link. ​ And if you started in Phase 1, then your wife WILL fuck you, but only because you've replaced her dynamics that had previously made you feel like an anxiety-ridden self-loathing wreck, into a new dynamic that makes her feel like an anxiety-ridden self-loathing wreck. Then they're back here on MRP asking why they still feel contempt for their wives, even though they now have sex as frequently as they want. Well, yeah, no shit. This is pretty close where I am at now. Better …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 07:14 PM
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I think this is where you're having a hard time. While some guys have wives that get on board shortly after they get their stuff squared away, you don't have that. Yes, this is fully correct. ​ And by not rewarding her with your time and attention when she has "earned it" so to speak, you've removed the carrot. I think I understand your point, but doesn't this carrot and stick analogy kind of create a covert contract for my wife to live in; If I do the housework, then my husband will give me mor…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 10:47 AM
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Its really interesting you ask. It is directly related to Horn's new post, and what I said about getting out of that phase. She does not take great care of the house. I have done the majority of the cooking and cleaning for a while now. I do not have time to do all that anymore. This weekend I recognized our house was way more cluttered than I like and it became a priority for me. I started cleaning and I started letting her know how she could help. Bitchy attitude ensued.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 08:19 PM
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Yes, it was the day following day.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 07:53 PM
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Missing a couple lifting sessions post vasectomy. weak ​ I’ve gotten lax and sloppy with tracking and food choices. weak ​ I am directing my anger into busy work around the house. Cleaning, organizing, decluttering, and fixing stuff – the shit that I should have been doing all along This is what you "should" be doing? Says who? doesn't matter...weak. ​ I am clearly performing for validation. Weak. Is this some kind of confession of your MRP sins? What the fuck are you going to do differently...D…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 07:04 PM
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FWIW, those shows are fucking awesome. And even though its other guys lives you are discussing, the breakdowns you guys did apply to just about everyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 03:14 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeD5oABWUTB9vp_egrWNJbg
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 03:12 PM
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I’m seeing positive changes by focusing on my needs It is as simple as this. Stay with this until you recognize what needs to be calibrated next.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 01:13 PM
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I did the work for the booster, I will take the flair. It is all in OYS weekly. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 11:08 AM
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OYS 33, 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 232.5 x 1, SQ - 290 x 1, DL - 345 x 1. Stats: 6ft, 195lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Lifting: Switch to GCZLP has been great. The sets of 10 and 15 are killer. I had been doing 5x5 (SL and MadCow) for about 18 months, I liked those programs, but my numbers for 10 reps are weak as shit. That, and playing basketball regularly is still kicking my ass. Cut is going well, down to 195. Strongur method has me at 16% BF, I think I still look closer to 18 or even…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 11:03 AM
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I did this same thing, started taking care of all the shit around the house. I think I got this model from hearing you talk about it on the OYS youtube show. I learned a few things from this. You mentioned it, but I think it needs to be stressed. If you are not attractive, your wife will still find plenty of shit to do rather than fuck you. ​ You'll grow out of it. Yes, I did. But, I had to get to a point where I actually had more important things to do then clean. Then I slowed down a lot on th…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/22 02:16 PM
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I try to get to the root of why I only had sex 2 times in the last 3 weeks (or something similar). I think the big question is why are you using sex...specifically sex from one person....as a measuring stick?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/22 02:25 PM
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I'm either boring, validation seeking, or not congruent, or all of the above. You are basing this on what? How much sex you are having? It sounds alot like you are judging yourself based on how you think your wife feels about you. ​ I'm holding onto, "you are busy, and do not have time for a sexually disinterested wife." At some point this will need to be dealt with, You are right, this mindset will need to be dealt with. Will you do that, or just continue to sweep it under the rug? You are also…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 07:54 PM
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But I don't think she did it, It's to long to explain why. The point of the post is that it does not really matter if you dig around to find the truth and all the details. If you got that speech, she likely did, she likely will again, and she definitely wants to. Save yourself the time and energy and accept that for what it is. ​ I already do. I made a bunch of new male friends and going out on my own. Good focus on that, dont get it twisted though, these activities will not save your relationsh…
/r/askMRP23/03/22 01:10 PM
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I am assuming you read the ILYBINILWY Post. Read it again, and recognize that your GF is fucking someone else, and this relationship is over. Take it as a blessing. Sounds like a super shitty relationship. ​ What should I read next and what should be my focus? You already have a read a shit load of MRP and RP books. How about instead of reading you, you work on building your life. Make that your priority. Do something social. Do something you are interested in, do something fucking crazy you did…
/r/askMRP23/03/22 11:28 AM
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I kinda don't want to go, but I can't really determine what my motivation is. Read WISNIFG and the Bill of Assertive Rights. You have the right to offer no motives, you dont have to understand, and you dont have to care about why you feel a certain way. I apply those tools from WISNIFG to myself all the time. ​ I can't even see where she ends and I begin. I'm deeply in her frame. The best call might be to trust my instincts - and do the opposite of that. This bit reeks, but at least you can see …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 12:42 AM
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you want us to call you a hero in here, since nobody else did? One person did call me hero, another person told me I was trespassing and to get off their property. I acted the way I wanted to, and I was proud of that. Thanks for the reframe.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 07:52 PM
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OYS 32 I stopped a forest fire, and nobody cared. I feel compelled to write this FR, it has nothing to do with sexual strategy, but it was cementing a lesson in "no one gives a shit" for me. I was outside of the cabin I had rented for the weekend. The kids were playing in trees, we start to smell and see a lot of smoke coming from across the street. Then we start to hear a lady screaming for help. I go to investigate, cut through the neighbor's yard across the street, and see the yard butting up…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 12:55 PM
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u/redside_up, I get this feeling a lot too while reading OYS, where something stands out, but I can't quite put my finger on it. In many cases that is because I have a similar blind spot. It might be worth a little introspection; it may reveal something you are missing about yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/22 12:38 PM
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I don't want to end up as one of those guys who tries for 2 years before figuring it out. Oh, you want the cheat code to fast track the results. Here it is: G.O. F.U.C.K. Y.O.U.R.S.E.L.F Your backstory is the backstory, and it takes time to make lasting changes coming from that mentality. Dont judge yourself on if you have "figured it out". Read the books (NMMNG and WISNIFG twice), and put that shit into practice. Find a simple mental model that works for you. Mine was "act like I broke up with …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/22 12:18 PM
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Yea, man dread is real, and passive dread is usually required in some degree to get laid (for me it is). You probably are seeing signs of hypergamy in action, so all that shit is good. ​ Part of me wonders why she is so willing to fuck me now But in your mind, you are still not the prize. You dont see yourself as a high value man. It's repeated over and over again, but that shit has to sink in. Once you know you are the prize, your PE will most likely go away too.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 08:47 PM
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It is the StrongLifts 5x5 of parenting books.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 04:05 PM
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I have been dealing with cumming too quickly. Cumming to quickly for who? For you to enjoy yourself? Or you think you are coming too quick for your wife to enjoy herself? As you try to fix this, keep yourself your mental point of origin, you may find out you don't really care. ​ working to sexualize my wife Your wife is already a sexual creature, all women are...just maybe not with you. Focus on making yourself attractive. ​ I have a certain amount of shame This is most likely the cause of your …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 03:11 PM
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how I would define 'boundaries' Really good points. That is a round-a-bout way of describing a boundry of how I give my attention. It was effective, to a point, but needed to be adjusted. I read 1-2-3 Magic a couple months ago, because of a suggestion from here. I feel like that should be on the side bar.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 02:33 AM
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They don't feel like tests or anything and they don't bother me. They are not test, you just have nothing better to do with your time and your wife knows it. The tests will come when you stop pandering, and actually have shit to do. ​ Personal Even your personal section is about your wife. If you are going to follow step 1 and step 2 of BPP plan, get a life, get out of the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 02:24 AM
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Thanks for the reply. ​ Shit Test...what was the meaning, and what did you do to show it? My wife is on some crazy restriction diet, like gluten free and all that shit. I dont eat that way. I also started doing a lot of cooking over the past year, so I could eat the way I wanted. So I would usually cook what I want, and make plenty, but completely disregard her diet goals. My thoughts were always...well she can make her own food if she has to eat a certain way. I get shit for it alot. That shit …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 11:22 PM
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Shit man, hope you are better soon. ​ Oh and this has done wonders for my cut Ha! Love it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 12:06 PM
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OYS 31 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. 6ft, 197lbs, 18% BF (mirror), Lifting: Cut is going well, down about 5 pounds in 3 weeks, starting to see it in mirror as well. I switched to GZCLP this week. Moving to lifting 4 times a week, instead of 3 times. So far so good, I like the workouts stay easily under an hour. I also played pickup basketball. Ran full court, that shit kicked my ass. My endurance is shit. Going to keep up pick up BBall, and get back to Mountain biking now that weather is ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 12:00 PM
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This is alot to think about...yet again. But your question at the end stands out. ​ Is it possible you've found a congruent way to lead to pound sessions but not a congruent way to lead to love making? I have found a way that leads to pound sessions. I have not found a way that leads to love making. I know these do not feel incongruent to me, but I cant say for sure that what has worked for me is fully congruent.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/22 01:38 PM
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Just so you know, this question has kind of haunted me. I still don't really know. I still like my checklists and use this shit in a lot of social interactions and have seen huge improvements. So part of my love for the game, may still be the fact that I still love learning about the game, and I still love the improvements that I see know compared to how I interacted with people a couple years ago. I am not at a point where I fully internalized everything, to where I am playing the game the way …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/22 03:54 PM
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Well Shit, I did not even see what I did there. ​ Why? Explain in detail I have a fear of pushing too far and getting into abusive territory. My wife has talked about sexual abuse in the past, so even when I am watching what she does, I still have that in the back of my mind. I am not putting this all on my wife, I also have a fear of crossing a line into abuse, this has come up before in previous relationships. ​ What do you want and what is in your control? I want more variety. I want the domi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/22 03:41 PM
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My plan here is to just go the autistic route Good plan. Take it to the extreme for a day or two, you will probably learn something ​ I'm not going to worry about whether or not I actually succeed at keeping my mouth shut. I'm just looking to develop the skill of detecting my urge to talk. Just keep your fucking mouth shut.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/22 01:15 PM
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Maybe I am introverted, anti-social, or paranoid. Maybe I am lazy, don't care enough to put in the effort. I used the "introvert" label as an excuse for years. I was a shy kid, so I just assumed I was also an introvert. For me, that was bullshit. I was just way too self-conscious and insecure. But the plus side to that is once I realized I was limiting myself, I had to do alot of work to learn basic social skills. How to Win Friends, How to talk to Anyone, a bunch of sales books and stuff like t…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/22 12:33 PM
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OK. Engaging the world is great. As for TWOTSM, none of that shit matters if your wife is not attracted to you. All this work you want to do, and time and engagement, has your wife earned it? If not, it is going come off as needy. That is going to come off as the relationship being way more important to you than it is to her. That is going to dry up her pussy even more. Is this relationship more important to you than it is to her? ​ I’ve moved from desperately wanting her approval to resenting t…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/22 03:35 AM
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Time to put that shit away and give my fullest to everything, including my marriage and myself. Why including your marriage? You just said you think your wife sucks. What do you think you will get if you all of a sudden go all in on your marriage? ​ This does not mean being a beta, it means stop being a beta. This is pretty vague? The fuck does this really mean? Your gonna go all alpha as a way to go all in and help your marriage? I missed the point of this place for a long time too.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 06:20 PM
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OYS 30 Last weeks lifted 3x. This week deload week. I did 8 weeks of MadCow and decided I want something different. I like the 3x week full body work outs, but after doing that for a year, it is time for me to try something new. Next week starting GSLP, more focus on upper body. I am also starting to cut. I got to 202lbs, I had gained almost 15lbs in 5 months. My goal was to get to 205lb, but I look fat at 202lbs. Time to cut 190lbs by May. I took two weeks off from OYS. I need to digest some of…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 05:59 PM
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Your list seems fine. ​ any big opportunities to being out of the house for a long period of time Yes, there are always opportunities. Is there something else you want to do? Something you don't have the balls to tell yourself to do, and you want MRP guy to tell you what to do?
/r/askMRP25/02/22 12:21 PM
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Great question. I do not know. I need to get back to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 10:08 PM
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I've never understood the "shark week" reasoning for not fucking Its a mental thing for me. I was in her head and felt like she would not want to, so I set myself up to fail, but lately I have been going for it. ​ What do you want in your sex life? I am really digging the domination. I never did any bondage or choking or anything like that until the last couple months, and as I have started to, I realize I am just at the tip of the iceberg. ​ To what end is tallying all these thing up helpful? I…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 08:49 PM
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here was a tiny altercation between me and some random chick. She was rude, I told her, she got aggressive so I just shrugged and said "whatever"...... Not sure how to handle this type of situation. Obviously, you try to fuck her. I feel like you missed a golden opportunity to spit some game and try to escalate. ​ Overall I was outcome dependent. I didn't want to come home from that party alone (happened anyway), which is always the worst possible mindset (instead of "I just wanna have fun"). Du…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 10:36 PM
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It's really not anymore, it's softer than it's ever been. The ribbings are more for the writers self congradulation than it's intended purpose: testing the guys ability to separate tone from content. So, why the change, and which way is more effective?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 06:11 PM
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Part of interviewing is trying to get past candidates successes and find out where they have failed and struggled. Not in a malicious way, but to see how they reacted to that struggle. I see people blaming marketing teams, or their managers for not giving them approvals, or blaming the customers. But, some people recognize what they did wrong and learn from it. I don't think that would have stuck out to me without seeing it here on a weekly basis.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 05:03 PM
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that ultimate covert contract that doing this will change the dynamic of my relationship to what I want it to be. Red Pill Actions for Blue Pill Goals, That ultimate purple covert contract. I still struggle with it. Best thing is to just forget the relationship, it's not your job, not your responsibility. You do you. ​ she and I are hesitant to try again. Stay out of your own head and definitely stay out of her head. You don't know what she is thinking. Do what you want, take what you want, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 12:54 PM
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Your welcome. ​ I have done little, but I’m trying hard to clarify my thoughts To me, this is the definition of spinning your wheels. Internal STFU is a big help when I feel myself doing this. I try to stop thinking and planning, and just focus on the action I am doing. I got obsessed with lifting. Which I think was a blessing, because there is action to take, not only while working out, but all day. I made myself accountable for what I am eating, when I am sleeping, making sure I am stretching …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 12:41 PM
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I am certainly a little all over the place. Yea, you are. You are writing alot about what you think, and how you feel, and what you want. Your reading list has books you have not even started. Your action section is about something you are going to do in the next few days. That shit is fucking useless dude. You are writing very little about what you actually did. One of the biggest benefits from this whole place is keeping yourself accountable, based on your actions. Read. Lift. STFU. These acti…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 02:01 AM
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OYS 30 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 232.5 x 1, SQ - 290 x 1, DL - 345 x 1. Stats: 6ft, 202lbs, 19% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Reading - Can't Hurt Me. David Goggin's story is pretty sick. Lifting 3 x week MadCow with accessory lifts. BP 197.5 x 5, SQ 260 x 5, DL 305 x 5, Row - 160 x 5, OHP - 112.5 …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 01:03 AM
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Set yourself up for a big ole covert contract. Yea, I walked right into it. That was part of what got me really upset, not just getting rejected but, realizing how I still have these CC, and still let them get to me. Sage advice, thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 06:49 PM
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Great post. My path was different, but in many ways the same. ​ I was just incongruently pushing buttons I am glad you said that. I did this, I think many guys to this when they find MRP. I had no frame to lean on, so I had to lean on MRPs frame (or Rollo's frame, or Glover's frame, etc) I followed the moves by book for about a year. I asked myself over and over what would MRP guy do. All the while, little by little taking what worked for me and discarding the rest. Alot of the advice on here do…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 03:08 PM
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We went upstairs and I lasted longer than I had done previously This seems like progress to me. If you want to change things, recognize what works, and keep at it. You are re-wiring your brain; it is going to take months.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 09:01 PM
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We were sitting on the Sofa and I just straight-up told my wife I wanted some. We went upstairs and I lasted longer than I had done previously Nice. You took what you wanted, and it worked out for you. Try sticking with this path. ​ It just feels pathetic. "Your feelings are bad, and you should feel bad for having them. " Rian Stone says it over and over. How is this feeling adding any value to your mission?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 06:17 PM
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Fuckin A. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 06:48 PM
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the key Meaning this is crucial to getting what I want. Which is to build an expanding sex life, with an enthusiastic partner. I need to think on these other questions more.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 06:34 PM
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The first time, it was clearly praise. Before I did anything I said, great job today taking care of the house, then I started to physically show her praise, in a way that also lined up with what I want to do, push boundaries, enjoy each other bodies, etc. I think that genuine praise is the key. This is the whole "feminine grows through praise" thing. I could feel her enjoying it, I could see her "growing" with me sexually. It was a pretty cool moment. The next week, I switched to more "challengi…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 05:50 PM
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Whatever dude (checks profile)…yea, not worried about your advice. Did you really check though? You are an idiot.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 05:43 PM
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Based on her actions, she did like it the first time. I think the first time, it was new, unexpected, maybe a little bit dangerous...but all given in a loving way as a reward. The second time, my actions were the same, but my intention was trying to train her, and I she prob knew that and prob pushed back. I dont mind the push back, I take it that it means I need to rethink what I am doing. I also try to stay out of my wife's head, but I would appreciate hearing what you think is going on.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 03:12 PM
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I want nothing more than being in a great, loving and sexual relationship with her Is this what you want more than anything else? Dude, Your wife is not your mission. She doesn't want to be your mission. It is needy as fuck. She should be along for the ride while you are living out your mission. I want nothing more than being in a great, loving and sexual relationship with her. Try this, and Shut The Fuck Up to yourself and your wife, and show yourself (with your actions) what this means and how…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 12:56 PM
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I know the story where I don't rub my wife's butthole, I didn't know the story, or even the character, that does rub his wife's butthole. Now I do.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 12:35 PM
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I feel pressure from being horny, and masterbate to relieve that pressure. This is called buffering. I know the feeling well. I would get very uncomfortable about initiating and fucking, to the point where I could not be in my skin anymore, I had to shake that feeling.... by jerking off to porn. Jerking off is a buffer to stop you from feeling uncomfortable. I would suggest leaning into that feeling. Next time it comes up, just sit with it, even if you can only do it for 5 minutes before you nee…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 02:23 AM
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saving her tits for marriage Ha! I just spit coffee all over my keyboard.
/r/askMRP15/02/22 07:01 PM
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Her being a brat My wife likes being a brat, sometimes I would say bitch, and I am not saying it like I am complaining, it just happens on the regular. I tried the manufactured outrage as way to proactively get the polarity, without having to deal with attitude and so many shit tests. It didn't work, i just got more outrage and still get the same amount of bratty/bitchy behavior. Either using A&A, or the Stern Daddy Vibe, has been a much better approach for me. I know this tension and polarity i…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 06:47 PM
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Building and holding tension is what leads to polarity. Without it you become boring amiable roommates. 100% agree. I have gone as far as the "manufactured outrage" that Rian Stone talks about. I don't have it worked out quite right though, and maybe there is enough polarity without it. Do you ever manufacture the tension, or do you let it build naturally?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 04:53 PM
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Good question, this was a follow up exercise to my last weeks OYS. And after trying again this week, it is not the act itself that was anything special. It was the mix of vulnerability and even tenderness, given as a reward, after a good day and dominating sex, that I really liked. I still have some calibrating to do with this.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 03:58 PM
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Thanks for the reframe. I had this idea that I was further along than getting my initiations so easily brushed off, and that I was further along than how I reacted when I didn't get my way. I am going to stop thinking about how "far along" I am, and just keep doing the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 03:52 PM
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Secured, organized, and planned a big gig with some talented musicians at an event with a bunch of who’s-who in my city. It’s at one of the most prestigious country clubs in the country, and the set list I created is going to be rockin.’ Fuck yeah. Nice work, Congrats.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 12:33 PM
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OYS 29 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 232.5 x 1, SQ - 290 x 1, DL - 345 x 1. Stats: 6ft, 201lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Lifting 3 x week MadCow with accessory lifts. I am bulking to 205, so I am in the home stretch, should be there by 3/15. Training your slut advice. Horns gave me some really…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 12:22 PM
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I think this is a mindset I need to develop in places other than just sex. I had the same line of thinking. This is what I did. ​ The thought of not being able to pleasure my wife (or any other woman for that matter) kinda eats away at me. I feel like less of a man, and maybe that's because I am? This is what guys talk about when they say "Good Lover Syndrome" and "Sex for Validation". The sooner you can drop this the better, it is needy, unattractive and it will not serve you at all. The exerci…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/22 03:57 PM
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Sounds like you are doing more of the 531 BBB style, might want to check out that program. I have not done it, so I can't say for sure, but on paper it sounds like what you are describing.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 09:43 PM
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I’ve been getting a lot more shit tests lately, which I think is a good thing....I really can’t be mad that my wife acts like a woman. Good realization. Have fun with the shit tests, or just ignore them. ​ If anything I should be grateful, it means I’ve made enough improvement for her to need to reevaluate me. She may be testing your frame, she may be busting your balls, who knows, doesn't matter, don't spend too much time in her head. I noticed you don't have The Rational Male on your reading l…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 08:33 PM
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I'm also stressing about gym progress less. When I was first starting SL 5x5, it felt fucking awesome to increase the weight every time I lifted. I hated to deload, I hated taking a week off, I hated missing any reps. But, that can't last forever. I have definitely shifted to just trust the program, and not worrying about how fast I make it to the 1000lbs club, I know I will get there. That said, choosing the right program is key. How are you liking GZCLP?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 06:21 PM
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I genuinely like having sex with someone who is open to receive pleasure. Fully agree. The "good lover" validation for me was about a covert contract..like if I make her come, she will love me more and want to have sex with me more. I had to work to understand that is BS, and drop it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 04:02 PM
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Ill have some notes next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 02:35 PM
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You might get rule 9'd for this post since you are fully wrapped up in your wife emotions, but, it reminds me a lot of my situation a year or so ago. ​ I recognise this as the ultimate weakness of a man to not be able to stay hard for his woman, and it has really hurt her too, to the extent that she no longer wants to be vulnerable an open herself to me. Dude, do you see the pressure you are putting on yourself with this thinking? It is like trying to get a boner with a gun pointed at your dick.…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 02:30 PM
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Thanks for the advice, I will address that today. ​ Happy to read I helped a guy rub his wife's butthole, that must have been nice. It felt like the most romantic thing I have ever done. I am not joking.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 02:13 PM
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extremely selfish This has been huge for me. I still fuck up and find myself slipping into "good lover" mode occasionally. But my mindset going into fucking is always, "I am going to do whatever the fuck I want, right now"
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 12:01 PM
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OYS 28 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 232.5 x 1, SQ - 290 x 1, DL - 345 x 1. Stats: 6ft, 201lbs, 19% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Lifting (MadCow), Social, and Work all on point. I am fatter than I like, but I am committed to eating for gains until the end of Feb. I am in some kind of weird phase, wher…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 11:47 AM
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I misinterpreted this as forcing it. It should be more like testing the fence. I don't know, I definitely started out very slow, but lately it seems like the more I push, the more she is into it. Like it was a big deal for me when I sucked on her tits, then get a bj, then have her tied up... I wouldn't say I forced the specific acts, by I forced myself to go for it, knowing there was good chance it won't happen, but still not settling. ​ my wife likes to be treated like a slut <- maybe awalt, be…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 08:01 PM
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I hope this is not your farewell post. It has been great to follow your story and hear your comments. I think I have been lucky to learn from guys like you, and a few others, who have continued to post in OYS for a year, that type of progress is inspiring.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 11:00 PM
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Kegels/Breathing These may help with PE. But for me, it was all mental. I had some shame and anxiety around sex (Nice Guy shit). PE and ED was literally my body trying to flee a stressful situation. I had to get comfortable being selfish during sex. Get comfortable taking what you want. I am extremely selfish in bed, to the point where sometimes I think it is ridiculous, but PE and ED have disappeared, and if they do show up again, fuck it, it's no big deal. Contrast that to when I tried to be a…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 04:54 PM
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Failed a shitty comfort test big time. No you didn't..... ​ I felt like shit so I caved in and told her I'd work out tomorrow instead. An hour after that she fucken changes her mind and tells me to work out. .....You just acted like a pussy and let your wife treat you like a bitch. ​ I got really butthurt and just said I'm busy doing other stuff now. "Get out of my room, Mom!" That will show her. ​ No sex for six months....I haven't been blurring the lines between sex and intimacy I dont think t…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 04:42 PM
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This one there is an actual cheat code for. Shit test are "you" statement - example "You never do blah blah...." Comfort tests are "I feel" statements example "I feel sad because blah blah" When I first started my MAP, If I could not tell if it was a shit test or comfort test, I always defaulted to shit test....STFU and carry on. Now that I have been doing this a while, I still always default to shit test...STFU and carry on.
/r/askMRP03/02/22 12:14 PM
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Thanks, Ill check it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 12:06 PM
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Being surrounded by nature helps me realize how insignificant my problems are, in the grand scheme of things, my problems don't matter, my life doesn't matter, I don't matter...there is something beautiful and freeing in that feeling.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 02:28 PM
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Similar to that example, and to Horn's point. Just like I game my wife, I can tell her game is rejections. I will get "I am too tired...then...I want to be with someone who respects me.....then....you need therapy to deal with your issues" and after all that, we still end up fucking half the time. So, I know it is a game to her too. I like to play the part of boundary pusher in the game. I will go into some detail, for the sake of sharing notes. For example. I initiated and told her to suck my d…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 02:25 PM
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If I can keep it consistent, I will have some good notes to share. But since you brought it up, it was really an exchange between you and ImpatientZen that helped me out. It was about after getting rejected, and then the next time you fuck, you should always push for more. From doing that, I can see that my wife likes to be treated like a slut, and I like treating her like one. I never would have believed that if I didn't actually experience it. So, take the assist for that. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 12:00 AM
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I did notice that the rejects are have moved from what I would call disgust, to "A. You have been too mean to me and dont deserve it" or "B. Its always about sex for you". My answer for B, is always "Yes, absolutely" my answer for A is STFU, I just don't know what to say really. Good STFU by you. I noticed this same shift in the rejections I would get, and I get "all you want to do is have sex" a lot. For me, I took it as a sign of progress. It's a simple shit test, STFU and have fun with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 12:12 PM
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OYS 27 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 232.5 x 1, SQ - 290 x 1, DL - 345 x 1. Stats: 6ft, 200lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. lifting - MadCow program is progressing, still seems easier than my stronglifts routine, but I can tell in a few more weeks, the numbers really start to bump up. BP 190 x 5,…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 12:02 PM
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This is where the hard work comes in. It is easy to say "this is a boudary". That does not mean shit unless you have consequences that go along with that. It sounds like you want other people to do that work for you. You should have known the consequences, before you declared this a boundary, but since you didnt, know you have to decide. I am not going to give you examples because, what I would do may be totally different to what you would do...so you should decide what is best for you and then …
/r/askMRP30/01/22 05:51 PM
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Dude, you are getting cuddles, even naked cuddles. Best bet is to take the cuddles, coast through life and, of course, keep your wife happy. The alternative actually means having some self-respect and enforcing boundaries, and that shit takes a lot work. But if you are lazy, spineless and weak, those cuddles might just keep on coming.
/r/askMRP30/01/22 05:26 PM
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At the moment it genuinely feels impossible to me inside my head. It is not impossible, but the weights are not going to lift themselves. Start reading the books on the sidebar, not just the posts on MRP, the Prerequisite books.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/22 02:59 AM
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why can’t I have the experiences I want? What is wrong with me? Am I bad? No, you are not bad...it's worse than that...you are unattractive. Bad guys get laid, there is no book No More Mr. Bad Guy for bad guys and assholes that can't get what they want out of life. Bad guys get to fuck the mermaid on the beach. Unattractive guys talk about their salty fantasies, then get shit tested, then sulk about it and ask themselves, "why won't she just give me what I want?" It sounds like you are on the ri…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 12:41 PM
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I ordered a book on how to heal codependency Is it Codependent No More? I have read that, and it is highly recommended in the addiction and recovery world. I am glad you brought it up, I never really thought about the parallels between Codependency and Nice Guy Behaviors, there are a lot, but they are not the same thing. Codependency is usually when the partner of an addict gets obsessed with trying to "fix" the other person. The fixing of the addict takes over their life, yet at the same time t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 04:59 PM
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My wife looks and tells me that that my dad would disappointed in the man that I have become. Thats a good one. I get "would you ever want your daughter to be with someone like you" that used to always get me. Last time my response was "Hell yea I would" then STFU. And I meant it, for the first time.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 08:16 PM
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Im thinking some foods have more calories than listed and I haven’t left enough margin for error. Way more in many cases, especially when eating out. Bigger Leaner Stronger mentions this and has a good strategy to adjust for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 06:50 PM
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Slept with a friend from a few years back that I hadn't seen in a while. Hell yea man. Sounds like you found some abundance in your life. This OYS has a very different feel to it compared to some of your earlier ones.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 06:40 PM
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OYS 26 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 232.5 x 1, SQ - 290 x 1, DL - 345 x 1. Stats: 6ft, 199lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. DNGAF: My DNGAF levels have been through the roof lately. A big reason for this is finally started respecting my time. I have been busier than ever at work, I have moved int…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 06:29 PM
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Deadlift: 205 x 17 I am no expert, but WTF? Why do that many DLs?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/22 04:00 PM
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'feel free to fuck off' to 'I choose you'. Yes, that was the calibration that really helped me. I could feel myself relax. Like, I made this decision, now I get to have fun with it. I also started to give way less fucks about what my wife was doing, because I was confident in what I was doing. I still hold back my nice card at times. It has a ton of mileage on it from the first 36 years of my life, and I have found it way more fun to stick with cocky and funny for the time being. I think I am st…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 03:10 AM
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For 3 weeks leading up to the first week of January I would do 3 sets of 5, starting light and increasing in weight, then do a top set of 3 reps slightly heavier than my current 5 rep max. I did this for squat, bench and DL all on different days. Then just do my normal program for the other lifts and accessory lifts on those days. On the day I went for max, I did the same thing, but started lighter, and after the heavy triplet, started doing singles. I have fractional plates, so I would increase…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 02:00 PM
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I remember realizing I was near my edge on my last set of squats. I didn’t quit though, I thought “if I fail I’ll just dump the weights. Who fucking cares, I’m going for it.” Have you gone for 1RMs? It is a good way to really find out what your edge is. You will fail, and that is point. I did it the first week of January. I built up to it for a few weeks, and the whole time leading up to it was pretty cool, I was pumped, no one else knew or gave a shit, which was also kind of cool. Once I hit my…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 12:23 PM
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I got called out for being needy and asked if there was something going on that I was trying to deal with via sex. If your wife is a mirror to you this was the clearest overt reflection back of this shitty mental model ever. Yes, your wife is a mirror, and that mirror is going to shit test you all along the way. When I got called out I took it as a shit test/frame test. I did make a simple calibration that helped me out immensely. Our situations are slightly different so your calibration may be …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 12:02 PM
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I'm angry, so I don't play my nice card, instead I try to punish by 'removing attention'. But it's not seen as a HVM doing other cool shit, it's seen as a weak loser being butthurt. So this is how you see it. The only way you can judge how your wife sees it is by her actions. Is this strategy getting you want you want, even if it is uncomfortable for you? It does for me. I do not like the idea of removing my attention as a punishment. I wrote about it a couple weeks ago. My wife even called me o…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 02:12 AM
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Then she was like "do you need anything?" I get this text all the time, it seems like an easy place to start things off. Thanks for the notes. Your DnD group sounds fucking wild.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 01:49 AM
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That second part is probably what guys that are dating need to do more now. Chicks are on their phones all the time. Do you think that guys in LTRs should incorporate that at some point? I just had a conversation with my director about using emojis in the body of an email, it can actually help set the tone and keep clarify the meaning of the message. I don't currently do it, but a lot of people more experienced than me do.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 09:03 PM
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I think there's a difference between text game and texting dirty shit What do you think is the difference?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 08:48 PM
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It does add a new type of anticipation, and it adds variety and emotion, all that shit is important. I know I am retarded at it, but I still got results. Did you always text dirty shit to each other, or is this new for you since MRP? I am coming at this from square 1.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 08:45 PM
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Also random nudity is coming back which i dont complian about. When you like something, you don't have to STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 12:47 PM
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OYS 25 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 232.5 x 1, SQ - 290 x 1, DL - 345 x 1. Stats: 6ft, 199lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Lifting: I moved on from Strong Lifts. Took a deload week, then on Monday I started MadCow. It builds up slowly so my first workout was shorter and less intense compared to …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 12:41 PM
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Kicked ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/22 03:19 PM
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There are lots of books written on how to play guitar. The best way to learn is to pick one up and start playing.
/r/askMRP15/01/22 01:50 PM
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Thank you for answering, I learned a lot from this. I have one other question, because I saw you write it out a few times today. ​ Loving myself has nothing to do with someone else's actions. It comes from knowing my intentions. Being at peace with myself. Knowing my interactions with others are not from a place of validation seeking. Being able to sit with my emotions without being controlled by them. These are my goals. and... What I want out of life, is to love myself and here. Learning to lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 04:52 PM
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So, I have some thoughts, and I disagree with you on some things. But I read u/Blarg_Risen 's post yesterday. Maybe what I think, is just a projection of my ego. And instead of telling you what, I will just ask. 1.) Do you feel like the last 4 weeks was time well spent? 2.) You say there are costs to your behavior? What are those costs and who do you have to pay? 3.) Does loving yourself have anything to do with someone else's actions? (no intention of leading, I am generally curious) 4.) I thin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 02:28 PM
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I agree with u/PonchoToTheFace on this. You write about this affair and its effect on you every motherfucking week since your askMRP post. So, I am sure you are obsessing about this daily. I know, because I did the same thing. I am in the same boat you are in. Affairs of all kinds hurt. But when are you going to stop being the victim? When are you going to ruthlessly prioritize yourself? You are more concerned with passing shit tests and being a captain for your wife, than getting what you want …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 12:16 PM
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I looked at my smile in the mirror and, sure enough, she's right. I unconsciously and unknowingly had a shitty, unpolarizing, unattractive smile. Maybe you do have a weird smile, but it also sounds like your wife found a hilarious way to fuck with you and shit test you. To your point, appearance does matter, and sometimes shit tests do reveal truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 09:27 PM
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You mentioned before that you lived alone, like in a remote type of situation. Do you think extended time spent alone helped with this? Or is this a fix from NMMNG type work? Or some combination of both?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 02:54 PM
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It is pretty simple and pretty powerful for me. First, recognize the butthurt comes from my ego. It is the worst when I really want to fuck, and I feel like I am initiating purely out of desire....and I still get rejected. That is a big shot to the ego. But acting butthurt is completely incongruent with who I am. How do I choose not be butthurt? I take the ego shot to the chin, STFU, physically leave the situation (if I feel I have to) and reset. What also helps me is playing out situation in my…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 02:22 PM
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For me right now, "initiating with vulnerability" and "getting butthurt from rejection" move as a pair in lockstep. So my question was: how do I keep one and drop the other? Being butthurt is a choice. You have the ability to choose to not be butthurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 12:20 PM
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OYS 24 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 232.5 x 1, SQ - 290 x 1, DL - 345 x 1. Stats: 6ft, 199lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Reading - Married Man Sex Life Primer (x2). 60 DoD Booster; Social. My social life is rich, a lot revolves around my band and mountain biking. I also have a good group of fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 11:40 AM
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I progressed physically a lot faster than I did mentally, so I think that actually created some more issues along the way. My best course of action has just been to keep things simple. ​ I think part of his point is that as you drop validation from others, you are the only source of anything…which can be lonely. I like the way you put this, it is simple, and getting comfortable being lonely is something I can put into action.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/22 02:10 PM
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I was a lurker here for a while, before I started posting. I always looked forward to your OYS, because I suffer from too much mental masturbation as well. Your posts used to outline a path of action through the masturbation really well. Look at the difference of today.. I’m afraid to even look at the fear, that’s how bad it is...... I’m not giving up. I will make it or die trying. vs. what you wrote a year ago... Giving in to the fear of failure is the worst kind of failure. In other words, doi…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 02:44 PM
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What you wrote was how I took it OK, cause your words were different than Patrice O'Neil's and they were different than mine. If there is a covert contract about being "what women want", the earlier you recognize that the better. What women want is not the point. Knowing what you want is the point. My takeaways from the books are different than yours. NMMNG is about being ok with getting what you want. WISNIFG is a set of communication tools to put into practice while you go and get it. The comb…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 02:05 AM
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Myself, but I am not sure why. By my own standards I am successful in my career and finance, but I am not comfortable simply stating "I am successful".
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 04:42 PM
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NMMNG, Key take away “Women don’t want a man to make them happy, they want a man who knows how to make himself happy” You managed to turn NMMNG into a giant covert contract. Do you see how this is fucked up? “Women don’t want a man to make them happy, they want Be a man who knows how to make himself happy”......try that.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 03:26 PM
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Good to hear. My financial situation is good to make the move, my situation would be similar, only I don't have huge house now and I would be looking for same size, but out of the suburbs. I know what I am looking for, and I have a plan and a timeline in place. But to your point, this still fits in the daydream category, as I have not started taking serious action towards selling my current home and making any offers.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 01:21 PM
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I found myself watching fiance cleaning the other day in her underwear and initiated, she half heartedly laughed and said maybe we can try but I dont know if I'll be able to get into it. I hear what you are saying about rejected shitty sex, and you got a blowjob, so that is cool...if you wanted a blow job. To me, this seems like a big green light to fuck. If there are things you want out of your sex life, passion etc., it is your responsibility to make that happen, don't think too much about if …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 11:59 AM
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OYS 23 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 210 x 5, SQ - 272.5 x 3, DL - 310 x 3. Stats: 6ft, 197lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Lifting: Starting out the new year by going for 1RMs. I did Squat and Bench so far. DL will be later this week. One thing I noticed is that my actual 1RM was about 15lbs low…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 11:46 AM
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The side effects is good sex but more is more attention from the females like this is a spell And this is the major flaw in your thinking. Here is a story for you. I quit jerking off and looking at porn about a year before I discovered the red pill. You know what the effects were. I was a fucking emotional wreck. I had all this extra energy and I didnt know how to apply to get what I want, so it stayed as nervous anxious energy. Detoxing from porn will fuck with your brain...if you dont have the…
/r/askMRP01/01/22 02:56 PM
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Yes, this is all very helpful. Thank you. I am really enjoying the tension and push/pull dynamic. And I never thought I would, but as I can see that this is a path I want to follow. I still need internal work to be done, and there will be alot of trial and error, like the fight last week. ​ I only need a light touch This seems key for me right now, too much and it just gets unattractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 09:43 PM
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That has required that I really trust and test the idea that the hamster is on my team. I had to think about this comment. This really hit home. Because I don't know if it is. Maybe I care too much about this, but Im going to dive into this a bit, if that is okay with you. My sense is that, she wants to be on my team. I see some signs of working with me, and acting in ways that she knows pleases me. Alot of overall pleasantness and good shit like that. But she has also overtly told me she does n…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 04:35 PM
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I am not mocking, and I was specific. A basic, fundamental part of frame is that you are the main character in your life. Go back and read your OYS. I know more about your wife, than I do about you. Also, there is no brotherhood, it's not us against them. This is men swapping notes.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 04:05 PM
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This whole OYS reeks. You seem like an insecure, mate-guarding, fake ass yogi bitch. 5 years of TRP doesn't mean shit. Read. Lift. STFU The only good thing in here, now that you are getting frame tests, it is clearly revealed that you have no fucking frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 02:33 PM
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I’m lost. You didnt seem lost a couple weeks ago when you gave me the response below, when were discussing mission. " My mission is still developing but it’s something like - I want freedom, exploration and forward progress. I want to live a life full of new experiences and growth.The expressions of this are travel, self employment, creative pursuits, hunting, endlessly exploring new interesting hobbies and sometimes saying yes to strange things just to see where they lead." Yea, it is a bit vag…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 10:36 PM
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Drop it in the sense, that the subject matter of the argument doesn't really matter to me. I let out some anger, said what I wanted to say, and did not feel like discussing it anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 03:56 PM
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The bid for a fight with her HVM is her actually saying "I have these feelz and I need you to do with them what only a man can do." She can find literally anyone to Karen to. She may seem like she wants a fight, but it's just her overevolved capacity covert communication (bolstered by Madonna/Whore) that can't get directly at what she wants or needs. If you want or need it too, then you get to be the master that gets both of you there. This is really helpful, it is also where I am fucking up. Yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 03:52 PM
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manufactured outrage Yes, this is the stuff. I can do a much better job on the execution. But my gut feeling is I should be giving out a healthy dose of this on a regular basis. This is based on behavior and actions following these types of events. I may end up divorced in 6 months, but in my case I think I need to keep it up. Just keep tweaking it as I go.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 02:38 PM
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Yea, I was trying to do some kind of push/pull thing to generate strong emotion. maybe I fucked up completely. The end result was't bad, but I really need to calibrate my execution. I asked alphalpha but, I will ask you the same. Do you ever find it useful to generate strong emotions like anger, just for the fuck of it. How have you done that and maintained frame?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 02:23 PM
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Don't kid yourself I did. I would not have been able to see the situation as you laid it out. This is really helpful. I have a question for you. My thought was I could take this opportunity to create some strong emotions (in this case anger) and then just drop it, like it doesn't really matter. Have you ever done this? Can this be done while maintaining frame, or is this a blatant dancing monkey move?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 02:18 PM
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Am feeling disgusted with myself and intimidated by the scale of necessary changes. Only one change needs to happen first. If you choose to do the work, you have to lift properly. Plates, barbell, bench, rack, You cannot get around it. Picking up heavy weight and adding weight to the bar over and over again is the physical part of the work. You are not doing the work, this is a big reason why you are still scared. You are invested in your kettlebells, so was I. I was invested in kettlebells and …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 12:44 PM
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OYS 22 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 210 x 5, SQ - 272.5 x 3, DL - 312.5 x 3. Stats: 6ft, 197lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Reading - 123 Magic. I saw a lot of guys talking about that here. I have been able to put it into practice right away. Lifting; last week of StrongLifts. Back in March I m…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 12:18 PM
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This situation is going to play out again, and again. Ask me how I know. WISNIFG and NMMNG are your bible. Read them again and practice the tools from WISNIFG. You cannot control other people's reactions. If you are not sorry, do not apologize. If you are sorry, you still don't have to apologize, just note what you did wrong and dont do it again.
/r/askMRP23/12/21 01:57 PM
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I realised a month ago that I was running a big covert contract with physical gains and sex for attraction validation. I am working through this same thing. I am not offering advice, just sharing where my head is at, and how I have framed this particular Covert Contract. Its like holding two opposing beliefs in my head, simultaneously. 1.) There is a tested and proven method to increase attraction 2.) If I only focus on the proven methods, they don't work. So yes, lifting is part of that method,…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 02:46 PM
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Yea man, there are plenty of dudes that know this stuff, or have figured it out, one way or another. We are just the retards that needed a fucking instruction manual.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 01:43 PM
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And just to clear up the moral aspect. This whole section was extremely well written and very useful. Thank you for sharing this.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 01:14 PM
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It's like he was sent by God to help me move toward the acceptance stage on my personal journey. Bullshit. What if your next driver said that his wife is his queen, and he always puts her needs first. Would that be the devil draggin you back to BP hell. You are not special, it is not divine intervention, you are just slowly realizing not everyone is as big of a bitch as you.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 12:57 PM
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OYS 21 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 210 x 5, SQ - 272.5 x 3, DL - 310 x 3. Stats: 6ft, 197lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Lifting - Traveled this week, on the road now. I found a hotel, that had access to an LA Fitness, it added a few minutes to the drive, but I was not going to lift in a shitt…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 11:00 AM
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I would love to hear your opinion about it. You are scared. Scared to get rejected. Scared you won't be able to handle rejection. Scared your ego will get too big. Scared you will get oneitis. Scared to approach sober. You are scared to fail. Everybody is at first, until you realize failure is your only option. Learn to embrace the fear and act anyway, then embrace the failure when you fuck up.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 01:25 AM
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I frame it as the woman having all the control over my value, and that is scary as shit, so I only aproach when I'm drunk out of my mind. This brings me back to my early 20s. 90% of the sex I had was when I was drunk. The other 10% was usually full of anxiety, and PE and ED. I think a helpful strategy is staring right at you. Do more sober approaches. Not even to number close, just to get comfortable starting conversations. How to Win friends can help with that, but I really like the conversatio…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/21 02:29 PM
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> The problem was I was trying to use red pill in a situation I was completely blinded too. You did not use RP. You specifically said you took responsibility for the relationship. That goes against one of the fundamental things of RP. What you did sounds like codependent save-a-hoe BS.
/r/askMRP17/12/21 04:07 PM
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Nice work, if the anger is there, use it as fuel. As you are using that anger in the gym, also recognize it is a great diagnostic tool, to discover your weaknesses.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 03:55 PM
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I literally just watched Rian's break down of that post. Ill put the link below, if you are in the mood to reminisce.... I loved this video, I also fucking love ping pong. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D24A98_jEEY
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 12:25 PM
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being angry with people is a burden read as: being angry with people makes me uncomfortable. I had this same experience. I realized that anger was my minds last resort to stop me from pushing the envelope. The anger was there to push me back into my safe and risk free life. So for a while, I stopped thinking of the anger as a burden, and started using it as fuel. I went from 5 x 115lbs to 5 x 235lbs squat. Squatted every session for months, no missed lifting days, no missed sets, no missed reps,…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 02:43 PM
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Anger is a burden that doesn’t help me achieve anything. Not necessarily. Anger can help fuel massive change. You can choose to use it or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 02:32 AM
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This is really helpful. There is a commonality in a lot of my interests and pursuits. Creating. Creating music, or starting up the resource group, and creating opportunities at work. That is where I always find the most drive, in the creative process.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 02:29 AM
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Our DND group meets weekly now I read this earlier today, but I can't get this vision of a pumped-up Dungeon Master on TRT out of my head.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 02:22 AM
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Stats: 25 yo 190cm 81kg 12%BF (Navy) Single – No plates This place is known as Red Pill on hard mode. Sounds like you are here for self-improvement, and that is all good. You are also young, single, in shape...with no plates? No approaches? No mention of gaming chicks? No goals to be social? Why not dip your toes in easy mode? Tinder, dating apps, approaches at bars or social events. Are doing any of that?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 02:19 AM
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My current dynamic for initiation is pretty awful - me asking and then loitering around if there seems to be a chance but the kids need to go to sleep first or some other delay. Correct, this is awful. A big change for me was to stop "asking". That puts the whole interaction in her frame. I had to get comfortable saying, "Let's fuck", then STFU and physically move in. I am not saying do exactly that but stop asking for sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 03:39 PM
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What do you find drives you? I have some short term projects at work, and a Veteran's community that I lead in my area. I also get alot of enjoyment out of my band. I have a job, hobbies and interests that I really enjoy, but I would not say any of these things are my mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 03:33 PM
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Forgiveness did allow alot of anger to pass, it also brought in a much deeper sense of not giving so many fucks. Which, so far this week, has increased my energy levels because I am not so angry. I hear your point though about needing a new source of energy. Right now, I have some good things going on with my work and with my band that I am leaning into. I do not have a mission statement for my life. I do not have a clear vision for my future. And I currently enjoy the idea of a wild ride into t…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 03:28 PM
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Thursday I got a couple texts from my wife throughout the day saying dirty stuff. When I get this type of overt promises of sex, I know it doesn't guarantee a damn thing. I still need to game, I still need to initiate the way I want to; I still need to navigate through LMR, I still need a big helping of OI. If you did not get that message about her panties, would you have initiated the way you did? Sounds like you tried to fuck the way you thought she wanted, at the time you thought she wanted, …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 11:23 AM
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OYS 20 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 210 x 5, SQ - 270 x 5, DL - 307.5 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 196lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Reading - The Art of Extraordinary Confidence Anger, Forgiveness, the start of Congruence. I still harbor a shit load of anger. Like a full pot of water, with just a little …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 11:15 AM
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Cascading Casualties, it is a dangerous thing. I got ripped in basic training because I made a dumb mistake during a drill that was all about correcting dumb mistakes. Use some discipline (and maybe some of that anger, for a short time) to break the spiral.
/r/askMRP13/12/21 08:02 PM
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> I feel again a lot of anger. I know that anger. I wrote about it in my last OYS. That feeling sucks, but you can at least use it to your advantage. That anger is motherfucking rocket fuel in the gym. Why would you skip the gym when you are angry? And when you do go to the gym, cut out the leg extensions and the leg curls (unless I missed an injury you had), do some heavy compound lifts. This is not a long term strategy, but for fucks sake, if you are stuck in the anger phase, take advantage of…
/r/askMRP13/12/21 07:09 PM
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Fully man. I just came back a second time to reread through mine, and all the others as well. So much to learn from so many different posts.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/21 03:57 PM
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I know how this will sound, but being addicted to this isn't like being addicted to most substances Yup, that sounded like you thought it would. I hope owning it here helps. In my experience with substance abuse, owning it with someone else or a group, in person, really helps too.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/21 01:05 AM
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I won't put the details of how I will do that here, but I just needed to own that. Nice Guys hide things about themselves. Good on you for putting this out there. I am not an addiction counselor; I have lived in the same house with family members and have current family members battling addiction. One had an in person group, one did not. One got clean, one has not. Do what works for you, from what I have seen, real life, in person support is super important for this process.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 04:55 PM
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Yea man, you wrote to me in my OYS 1, and your notes were as timely there as they are here. I go back and forth between wanting to let go of the past and actually liking the drive and the motivation that the anger provides, the "extra weight on the bar" as you properly put it. Up to this point, I have not been able to fully replace that "weight" with something else.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 03:54 PM
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I probably do still give too many fucks. 2 years ago, I was living and dying with every conversation with my wife. So, where I am at now, I feel like a different person. "Get Obsessed and Stay obsessed" was literally my mantra for about 20 years, through my athletics, my music, my career and now lifting, it has motivated me. So giving a fuck is ingrained pretty deep, and does have some benefits. But it also holds me back in relationships too.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 08:19 PM
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Yea, I talk about in my first OYS, and maybe once or twice after that early on. It happened about 2 years ago, took me a year to find MRP after that. I own that it happened and went full tilt into "stay plan is the go plan" for a long time now. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/ony06g/own\_your\_shit\_weekly\_july\_20\_2021/h5xolb6/?context=3
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 07:01 PM
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But you know that issue isnt fixed. You know its gonna come up again. You know you don't like it. I did not like it. I got pissed for a few days. Reading these comments, something pops out intially. It may not be the substance of what was exposed (the current verion of myself and my actions) but it may just be the feeling of being exposed... and not guilty...but exposed and vulnerable that shook me. That feeling is new, and I used it as fuel, instead of submitting to it. No doubt there is someth…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 04:30 PM
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Or are we just gonna sweep it under the rug until next time? I am not arguing your point, but I am not sure I see what you are addressing. I will own that there is still validation seeking behavior in my approaches, some of this may be ego driven. I am not sure it is an unhealthy level. In these examples I was approaching and being social to help switch gears and get out of my head.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 02:17 PM
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OYS 19 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 210 x 5, SQ - 270 x 5, DL - 307.5 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 195lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Reading - The Art of Extraordinary Confidence 60 DoD Booster shot. Lifting heavy 3 x week, still obsessed with lifting. Eating for gains, 3500 cals a day, 200g protein, not …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 11:16 AM
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With a little effort I'm easily hitting my protein number. Diet is key, but so are your lifts. I am not sure what program you are running, and if you are listing your max lifts or what you are repping. But you should not be plateauing yet. It looks like you are still in the range where you can be adding weight every workout or at least every week.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 06:41 PM
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My nipple play has been on fire lately. I hold back the details out of respect for 3KL.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 01:55 AM
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Goal over the next week is to go the fuck to sleep This is a vague shitty goal, obviously you are going to sleep. How much sleep do you want; 8 hours, 9 hours? What time are you going to go to bed? Do you want to use supplements like melatonin? Have you thought about changing your workouts to the early morning, or changing your evening schedule? You feel flat and aimless because you are acting flat and aimless. You think shit will just fall into place for you if you just "get your shit together"…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 01:54 AM
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In my previous OYS, I had been in a fight with the wife. After some reflection, I realized my mistake. I had promised to do something, subconsciously didn't want to, then I acted like a bitch ruining the day. Your mistake was getting in a fight in the first place. This is STFU 101 stuff. There is no reason to get into a fight or an argument with your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 08:20 PM
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I hear you, but I do think throwing out a clear statement like that, then STFU, set the stage for me to be able to do it a few minutes later.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 06:51 PM
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Reading MMSLP is again a real eye opener, it read it twice in the past but the reread so far is amazing. The one thing I am learning is the value of the rereads.......so much I have missed and forgot about. Rian Stone's Videos are a great to watch while rereading the books. The link is on the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 11:25 AM
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OYS 18 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 210 x 5, SQ - 265 x 5, DL - 307.5 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 194lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Reading - The Art of Extraordinary Confidence 60 DoD Booster shot. Diet is on point, Thanksgiving dinner did not phase me, I just ate a shit load of Turkey and vegatables, s…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 11:21 AM
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There was a time I was more afraid of her than I was of a drug addict with an knife. You? That blows my mind. I mean that with all respect. Your posts and comments now are all fucking gold, not just the physical part, but the mental toughness as well. Thanks for sharing.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/21 06:46 PM
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My kids asked me yesterday why I was yelling "light weight baby" from the basement. I am not phoning in shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/21 01:23 AM
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I think you are missing the point of u/The_Red_Letters comment. It's not about patching up some of these holes, its about moving past them. Therapy was good for me in identifying a lot of my childhood issues, but in my experience, it did not actually promote me doing the work to get passed them. All that work and tools to do it, are in the books and posts on the sidebar. You don't have any reading listed. Have you read NMMNG, WISNIFG, and the Rational Male? Everything you have listed in you OYS …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/21 01:44 PM
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This is really helpful. Thank you. I will come back to this comment in the near future to review, and keep this in mind to report in my OYS. This whole exercise was a way for me to kick start the process. I had a years of a shitty track record, so I needed to let go of that and realize I can start building a track record now. >That was your Ego flaring up, trying to avoid the pain of failing My ego did play a lot in this. I want to be confident. I am invested in this because I see it as a way to…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 04:01 PM
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That riff that matches the horn section Thats the one. We don't have a horn section, so bass and guitar carry this change. Such a killer riff.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 05:08 PM
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isn't all confidence irrational at bottom Good point, I never took it this deep. I used to think that confidence needed to be earned, based on passed results. That can help, but it is not necessary. I can horribly miss 9 shots in a row, and still be fully confident I am going to drain the 10th. I think this is in line with the extrinsic justifications you are describing.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 04:07 PM
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Started crafting a vision, more than just "Do what I want". Started with listing those areas I mentioned and writing out what I want long term. Some examples; I went after a promotion at work, how does that benefit me vs. getting paid more somewhere else. My band is playing alot of shows, I like playing but we don't make a lot of money doing it though, what type of commitment benefits be. I have some solo travel coming up, how much of this do I want to do vs. family traveling.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 02:02 AM
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Yea man, you pointed that out to me, thanks for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 04:50 PM
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Going to see if I can find an alternative protein powder source I tolerate better today. Whey protein always gives me the shits. I switched to just straight organic Pea Protein, you can buy it in bulk from Nuts.com. No other fillers or additives, its just pure protein powder. I looked into Pea vs. Whey a bit, Whey is the best, but Pea is not far behind. And as long as you are still getting most of your protein from your diet (meat), you will have a good amino acid profile. It does not taste as g…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 04:49 PM
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Loud Noises Wow. Good on you for addressing quickly. Also, Great post yesterday.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 04:38 PM
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I no longer participate in bad sex. Walking away from shitty sex is one tool you can use. Ultimately, you are responsible for improving the quality of sex, no one else is going to do this for you. You will have to lead here, it starts by getting comfortable taking what you want out of sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 02:42 PM
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I am a beginner. I am 45 yrs old, nearly 19 years into marriage and just beginning to fuck. I had that same realization. Take that same line of thinking and apply it to the rest of your life. Penetrate life and take what you want with that same desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 02:27 PM
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OYS 17 37, Married 9 years, 2 young kids. Lifts BP 210 x 5, SQ - 265 x 5, DL - 307.5 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 193lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Reading - The Art of Extraordinary Confidence 60 DoD Lifting. Sticking with slightly modified SL 5 x 5 (3 x 5 for Squats and Deads) and accessory work. I added 3 x 10 ab rol…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 11:12 AM
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Good work getting a membership. You dont have to go 5-6 hours a week, don't make it harder than it has to be to get the routine going. You can do all you need in less than an hour to get going again. My workouts are still under 90 minutes (more rest time, as the weight gets heavier), including all the warmup sets, so I switched to Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday so It does not cut out too much time of the work week.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/21 02:41 PM
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Nice, Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/21 02:36 PM
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It is clear that you are trying to bake a cake with just the right amount of A and just the right amount of mix B, so the cake turns out just the way you want it. There is a term for that type of thinking. As long as you think like this, In long run, It's never going to to turn out the way you want. If this is your first LTR, I say fuck it, move on, it will be a much better use of your time. Read No More Mr. Nice Guy, before getting yourself in the same situation with your next LTR.
/r/askMRP21/11/21 02:34 PM
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I have stayed away from belts, because I didnt want to take away from building core strength. But maybe with the weight I am at now, it is time to switch. What brand do you recommend?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/21 04:26 PM
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Yes, been doing them with a flat bench.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 04:47 PM
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> date for sex Ha! Get the never ending breadsticks at Olive Garden, unlimited sex is also guaranteed.
/r/askMRP18/11/21 04:39 PM
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I have to do it seated, because of low ceilings in my basement, so my legs cant help support. I think that is putting more strain on my core.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 03:07 PM
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Started doing OYS in the spring, got a temp ban for rule 9 (though I think the real reason was that I was annoying and wordy) You didn't get a rule 9 for being annoying and wordy. Rule 9 is specific, and the dude that gave it to you laid out exactly why he did. It's called own your shit. Also, There is a reason lifting is preached here, and it goes hand in hand with unfucking your life. In your lifting section, all you did was write excuses about not lifting. Are you going to spend another week …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 06:28 PM
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I have not worn a belt. Thanks for the feedback. I received similar comments in my OYS, about my mobility and form. I know what I need to work on when I go back to my OHP.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 03:58 PM
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This is all spot on for me. The discovery of what a shit test is, lead me down this road of "how do I pass every shit test, every time". That such a waste of time and energy. Thanks for pointing out that exchange in the comments.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 07:39 PM
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I’ll heed your advice and see how it would make sense to incorporate squats at each workout. It is literally what the SL program is built around. But, hey everybody has a different goal in mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 07:30 PM
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You might be right about my form. I never even heard the term thoracic spine before. I am going to swap OHP for incline bench for this cycle. Maybe go back to OHP press next cycle.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 04:32 PM
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this post, as it is filled with things I am going to do vs. things that I did. That’s the reality of where I am at. OK, so that where you are at. Thinking, reflecting, identifying etc. Do not get stuck here. Take a step forward. You want a blowjob, tell your wife to suck your dick You want to take your OHP to failure, take that bitch to failure You want to express your emotions and look in the mirror and let out the loudest primal scream your body can produce, go do that. Nothing changes without…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 03:47 PM
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Ha! I wrote about this as well. I am switching to incline press. It will allow me to still hit the shoulders, and go heavy.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 03:32 PM
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Red pill actions toward blue pill goals Wow, that struck a chord.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 03:24 PM
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I stopped making easy weights increments Everybody wants to be a bodybuilder, no body wants to lift some heavy ass weight. Its not supposed to be easy. I love the challenge of squats as my first lift. I love the immediate feedback of my overall strength. Before SL, I never did them. I am fucking obsessed with them now. You can drop to 3 sets of 5 (or even 3x3) if you think it is too much volume. Do the assistance work for your upper body, but dont sacrifice the exercise that give you the most ov…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 02:17 PM
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SL5x5 modified by having squats only in session A. Why do this? Too much squatting for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 01:19 PM
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OYS 16 37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 210 x 5, SQ - 265 x 5, DL - 305 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 193lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Reading - The Power of Now 60 DoD Lifting. My OHP sucks. I lift in my basement, and there is a low ceiling, so I have to do it seated. I can feel this is puttin…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 11:57 AM
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Hell Yea, I am in. >What is stale and can be replaced with something new? I hate OHP, by the 5th set it feels like I am 1 rep away from seriously fucking up my back, been thinking about swapping it for incline bench. For the next 60 days, Ill swap it out and go heavy. More detail in OYS tomorrow.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 04:08 AM
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> I made sure that the next time she asked for something I didn’t want to do I said "No." I love it. No explanation of your needs and expectations, no bullshit diatribe about your grand vision. Just "No."
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 05:18 PM
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That is a good spot by you, I never did write it out. Right now, my mission is about self discovery. Recognize what is important to me. Become Capable of getting what is important to me. Be willing to go get it. It is pretty simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/21 01:38 PM
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She doesn’t matter Your right. Rule 9 is for yourself and your life, it is a way to reframe your thoughts, who cares if you cant write an OYS for 2 weeks, the much bigger picture is who are you living for. > The next several days I felt like I had lost some of that momentum, because her shields were higher than previously. Look at that statement above. You want to do X but end up doing Y because you value.....
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/21 07:39 PM
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You want what you want, that is cool, no need to explain it to me. As long as it is not tied to any expectation from others...(ie intimacy, sex, independent babies, holding hands on long drives...whatever). But if you are going to draw a boundary, then enforce it. What does enforcing boundaries look like to you? Most people like to pout, but suck at actually enforcing boundaries, because it can be scary as hell to except the outcome. So most people never get what they want. You don't have to dra…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/21 04:44 PM
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Your first OYS, was all about how bad your oneitis is. Then you come back and post a retarded question about "making sex the best experience for your wife"? Read NMMNG again, do the fucking BFAs. Stop waiting for your wife to look at you with doe eyes and tell you no has ever fucked her the way you do. That shit is a fairy tale and it is never going to happen, the sooner you start fucking (and living) for you, the better.
/r/askMRP10/11/21 03:03 PM
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I'm very weak willed Yes, you are. In more ways than you know. Wanting power over others is weakness disguised as strength. Why do you give a shit if your wife sits in the backseat? Why do you give a shit if your baby sleeps in your bed? If that is what you want, fine, but why do you want them? It sounds like it is because you want control, and because someone on the internet told you to do it. My kids sleep in my bed, often. Does that go against a lot of advice here? Yes. Do I give a shit, fuck…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/21 11:45 AM
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I get 1 or 2 40 minute sessions of good work out of a day. (Intense computational type work, like math or programming.) Then I succeed in knocking out an errand or two 2741....I fucking love you dude. Keep kicking the shit out of those errands. Also, what the fuck, can we get an update on the leaf blower situation?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/21 01:44 AM
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You can start viewing them as opportunities to fuck her mind with your mind cock Why did you line it out? That is good shit. I will take the shit test all day, I chalk it up to polarity, and it can be kind of fun, and its all a fucking game anyway. I usually see a pattern, of shit test, shit test, major shit test, fuck, brief period of lovey dovey,....repeat. So if its gonna happen I may as well have fun with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/21 01:37 AM
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You're really afraid of yourself. @ u/SigmundRoids, This. Also, don't read a damn thing until you finish NMMNG and WISNIFG , they cover all this shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 08:40 PM
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Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 07:47 PM
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"Look I've just been going along with this to pacify you until this phase passes. I don't really enjoy any of this." Its a shit test dude, and an easy one at that, she is more or less telling you do what you want, look at her actions. Stop being a pussy about it and definitely dont let it dissuade you from going after what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 04:07 PM
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Lesson: Leaving wife’s frame is going to ruffle some feathers. It is going to make her uncomfortable, guaranteed, and everyone will respond differently to that. In my case, usually it is my wife testing the shit out of me and throwing haymakers at my frame. Sometime it also turns her on, and sometimes she breaks down and cries. I dont know and I don't try to figure it out. Either way, dont let it phase you, and start using the tools from WISNIFG.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 02:37 PM
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OYS 15 37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 207.5 x 5, SQ - 265 x 5, DL - 302.5 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 193lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Reading - The Power of Now Lifting. This week I lifted heavier than ever and reached one of my milestones. Right now, I am solely focused on increasing my s…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 11:35 AM
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Nice FR and congrats on the sex. The biggest take away from this is; If you are only waiting until bed time to fuck, you are doing it wrong. You can be gaming and closing throughout the day.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/21 08:24 PM
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Going for them today would likely mean nuking my family. Am I ready to pay the price? Not really. Can I create something similar my current life? Maybe, at least I want to try how far I can go Do not go nuclear. It is good you have that line of thinking. On the flip side, do not let your marriage and your family be an excuse. I did that for a long time and part of why I landed here. You can start creating what you want and going after what you want, without nuking anything. Yes, those BFA are ve…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/21 01:11 PM
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Lifts keep on increasing as I approach my limit 10 Lbs at a time. I have set a goal to achieve before the end of the year: Sq and Dl at 225, Bp at 185, and Pr at 155. I’ll be increasing 5 lbs each gym visit, so I’ll probably get there soon. When that happens, I’ll just set another goal. This is good stuff, but it is going to get heavy really fast. So if you are an inexperienced lifter (I think you said that you were), you should give yourself 4 weeks or so to build up to a point where it is heav…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/21 02:57 PM
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I see what is happening here. You have these 3 neat little check boxes in all your OYS; Be fuckable, Behave attractively, and Live in my frame. A lot of this seems driven by others peoples opinions. You even said you have a priority of looking hotter, also based on other peoples opinions of you. What do you want dude? I smell a giant covert contract. Being fuckable and attractive are byproducts they are not goals in and of themselves. What if you could do, whatever the fuck you wanted. What if y…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/21 12:44 AM
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I did follow the gym schedule and counted calories successfully Good, say that instead. That is what matters. The first step for clothes is getting clothes that fit you right. Don't wear baggy, loose fitting clothes like a teenager. Try this post for more advice. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/g7drug/60_dod_2020_week_4_style_got_chucks_on_with_saint/ You have be fuckable and be attractive as two different sections, What do you see as the difference? To me its the same thing, an…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 03:17 PM
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The bullmoose analogy always stuck with me. Does the bull moose try to please the lady moose during mating season? Hell no, the bull moose takes what he wants.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 03:04 PM
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It is not fun.And i do it only for sex. Gaming works, but it has a downside: it is like I loose myself when i am gaming. It seems like you have to flip a switch to get into game mode, and when you do that you quickly drain all your energy and also expect results. That is not how it works. Game should be how you approach life. Game should be the way you treat chicks like little girls. Game should be how you DNGAF. The point is not to win the game, the point is to keep playing. Game is Red Pill. Y…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 12:32 AM
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Sounds like you recognize what is going on and why, so that is good. > When I’m not on my A game it’s easy to revert to that old way of being if I’m not careful. I hear what your saying, don't let this be an excuse though. The only way to make change is through massive action. There is no perfect time, no perfect situation, the stars will never align. So don't let your mind talk you out of taking action.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 05:35 PM
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Sex/Relationship: This is my weakest area for frame by far. Why do you think you struggle with this area? Is it the shame around sex, like what NMMNG talks about? Those breaking free activities are good to go through. This was bad for me, for a while, at my lowest I would get PE and ED because of this type of thinking. The switch for me, was being 100% selfish during sex, and realizing there is nothing wrong with being selfish during sex, in fact it is way more natural. I had to navigate alot of…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 04:22 PM
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• I accept sex is important for me • I accept my wife may not want to have sex with me • There is nothing to accuse me or her. Just accept it. And move on. Okay, so this is important to you. Who are you going to sleep with? Do have the looks to pick chicks? do you have the game to pick up chicks? Do you have the frame to go out and actually fuck another woman? If the answer is no, then STFU and work on that, maybe even practice by gaming you wife...you do game your wife right?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 04:12 PM
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I am a big proponent of faking it till you make it. So am I. And then I realized, no ones else gets to decide at what point I am "faking it" and at what point I "made it". I get to decide, so fuck it, I made it. I am that best version of myself. Thanks for the words, and the notes. I read a few of your OYS, inspiring stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 04:03 PM
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> Be fuckable This section says nothing about how you are fuckable. Its just someone reminding you that you are fat, gym excuses and being sloppy. Do something that makes you fuckable, 1 god damn thing. > Behave attractive, Noticing that you are unattractive is not the same thing as being attractive. In fact too much self reflection is really unattractive. Do something that makes you attractive, just 1 damn thing for fucks sake. Attraction = Frame, game, looks. That's it. Goals about stress and …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 10:53 AM
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OYS 14 37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 202.5 x 5, SQ - 262.5 x 5, DL - 297.5 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 191lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Reading - The Power of Now Lifting and Cardio - Lifting is going well, slow progress, but that is part of the plan at this point. I went mountain biking w…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 10:37 AM
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I keep considering asking for a raise and trip myself over it, I find excuses not too This is pathetic. This is the time to ask for a raise, employees in nearly all industries are in demand and employers know it. If you want to raise, talk (not email) to your boss, if they are not the right person talk to your boss's boss. Tell them you want a raise and why, and ask for twice as much as you actually want. I asked for a $20K raise this year and got $10K, still the biggest salary bump of my career…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 09:26 PM
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There are still some nice guy parts of me that make me hesitant Of course there is. That shit does not go away on its own. You have to take action. The difference between the two options is 1 is active, and 2 is passive. You are not going to change your habits, being passive. Get comfortable being selfish during sex, fuck the way you want to. Its good you don't want to be the guy you were, but you wont change anything unless you take action.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 04:08 PM
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I struggle with feeling rejected when sex isn’t enthusiastic on her part and it’s never enthusiastic. There are two moves in the playbook for this scenario. 1.) Go caveman and take what you want or 2.) Walk away from bad sex. In my experience option 1 is better, focus on what you want and just take it. You have been stoned Nice Guy, playing video games and jerking off for the past few years, maybe there is a reason sex isnt so enthusiastic right now, maybe it will change, maybe it wont, either w…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 01:06 AM
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> My mind is busy figuring out what smart things I will say and how they will react. Because you have a weak frame. This type of thinking is a huge waste of time and energy. > I seem to be easily carried away by people that have strong frames. Most people do, especially chicks. You are on the right track with just doing what you want to do. I remind myself this a lot, and that it is totally fine to just do what I want to do. Some people have naturally strong frames and don't need to think about …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 02:47 PM
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OYS 13 37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 200 x 5, SQ - 260 x 5, DL - 295 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 191lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Reading - The Power of Now Lifting Plateaus. My progress has really slowed at this point. I want to get back to progressing with every work out. It may be physical. I bought some fractional wei…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 10:45 AM
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Your first OYS was all about your wife. A month passes and your second OYS is all about your wife. There is some basic shit you are missing. OYS is about you. You can not negotiate desire (dude, you cant even negotiate back rubs for diamond earrings, fucking hilarious, btw.) 3.) Learn what STFU means. 4.) STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 05:48 PM
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I have listened to most of his videos, but I will to go through again, this time, writing out the BFAs, already started on a couple this morning.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 05:35 PM
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What stuck out to me in your OYS, was not that you consider yourself a HVM, that is good, you should. But that does not entitle you to a damn thing, and a HVM doesn't deserve anything more than anyone else. The difference is he knows what he wants, and is capable and willing to go get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 03:06 PM
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immediately started getting rejected hard and disrespectfully leading up to shark week. Rollo wrote a whole book on this, Preventative Medicine. I went full autist and followed my wife's cycle and tracked my initiations (i am not suggesting doing this). But the week leading up to shark week was the least successful time, even more so than shark week itself. Breaking up with your wife is a good plan, I like Rian Stone method of "hating her, just a little bit". But we can do all that, and it could…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 12:58 AM
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Thanks for the suggestion. I have not taken the time to fully write out the BFA. It will be worth while for me to do the work. Did you find a safe person, or did you just go through them? I am reluctant to find a safe person, but maybe that means it is something I need to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 12:48 AM
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https://stronglifts.com/ - read how to lift and how to eat for skinny bastards. If your mystery gym does not have a squat rack, go somewhere else.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:08 PM
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Me: Late 20’s, 6’3”, 158lbs, 13.5% BF, No kids, married 3 years, wife my age. Lifts: Don’t lift atm, do calisthenics. No matter how much you eat, You will not gain muscle doing calisthenics. You want to giggle and splash around in the shower, cool, keep doing what you are doing. You want something different...there is a proven plan that works. Since, somehow, you missed it. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9ex1v7/lift_faggot_lift/
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 03:11 PM
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there have been very few times I've done anything without my wife Look what happened when your were just dancing without your wife. You pulled her in and you were both better off for it. You are missing out on that by not creating space. Don't put out feelers, just do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 01:10 PM
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I think I’d like to write an in depth field report on my journey so far This would be good to read. My guess is nearly everyone can relate on some level. I was stuck in the "what can I do to fix her and finally make her happy" mode for almost a decade. So hearing a your approach would be really valuable.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 01:01 PM
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OYS 12 37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 195 x 5, SQ - 255 x 5, DL - 290 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 189lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Reading - The Power of Now What do I want vs. What do I do. Last week, Muzzy Woe asked me a simple question; What do you want? I was able to answer pretty quickly, its not "figuring out what I …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 12:50 PM
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"Kill the boy Jon Snow. Kill the boy and let the man be born."
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 06:57 PM
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- Males require trials by fire to refine them from boys into men, period. Could not agree more. I enlisted in the military as well, at 18, knowing that I needed this type of experience, and I sure as shit did not get it. I realize that this is on me for not seeking it out. But I think these types of initiations from boy to Man are damn near impossible to find, unless you are really looking for them. Is that on our generation to bring that back? Or are we too far where it is every kid for themsel…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 06:48 PM
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I just don't know how to initiate when she's on a roll with the usual verbal assault I wrote about a similar situation a couple weeks ago. In my experience when my wife is in a particularly bitchy mood, a strong initiation was met with little resistance and she was actually DTF. And on the flip side, when my wife was nice and sweet, there was alot of resistance to having sex. Calibrate for your situation, but for swapping notes sake, a bitchy attitude does not mean you wont get laid if you initi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/21 05:27 PM
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These are all using 25lb dumbbells at home I will take the bait. Lift, motherfucker, lift. You are going to out grow these dumbbells very quickly, you probably already have. Take a look at stronglifts 5x5, that is a great place to start. If you work out at home, you can do it all from home with minimal equipment and minimal cost. I messed around with bodyweight and dumbells for way too long. Nothing will help you progress faster (mentally and physically) then gaining as much strength as possible…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/21 01:15 PM
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What do you want? To be more comfortable in my own skin, to stay present and let go of some of the social anxiety that I have, and to have sex with an enthusiastic partner. All things I am working on, but not there yet. I definitely had a covert contract that on this trip, I was going to take a step forward in all of those areas, and I was focused on keeping the CC at bay that I didn't fully relax.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 07:55 PM
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OYS 11 37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 195 x 5, SQ - 255 x 5, DL - 290 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 187lbs, 17% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. This week I traveled, I lifted, I partied harder than I had in long time, did some cool outdoor shit, and fucked alot. I did everything I wanted and I still felt a little disappointed. I was no…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 06:52 PM
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Rational Male kept putting me into anger phases Again, same here. I would actually read this when I wanted to get angry sometimes (not recommending this at all, i dont think it was productive). But I also don't think anything is better at really explaining the nuts and bolts of sexual dynamics. There is a ton of value in all 3 of Rollo's Books. I like to mix in books on positive masculinity as well to balance it out, Warrior King Magician Lover, Iron John, The Way of the Superior Man. that type …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 03:12 PM
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I haven’t withheld ejaculation during sex yet. Is your goal to stop fucking before you bust a nut, or to orgasm without actually ejaculation (MultiOrgasimic Man Style)?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 03:04 PM
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I will try to make more progress by doing 5 instead of 3 workouts per week You should not squat heavy on consecutive days. I did Stronglifts every other day for long time, so that I would get 3 or 4 workouts per week, and you still get the recovery day. Don't worry about how fast you are making progress, stick with the plan, your numbers will go up.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 03:01 PM
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It's all part of the game and dance I did not recognize this until I learned about the red pill. I got comfortable with after about a year of working through the sidebar. I am just starting to really enjoy it now. I get pretty similar cues from wife's behavior as well, this week played out pretty much as you described, with the playful attitude leading to more LMR ( i dont think that is the right term, it is more of a burst push/pull/chase just before sex), and then later in the week, with the b…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 02:55 PM
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Thanks for the insight. If I can hold off on pushing those buttons, it usually does increase the pleasure, for both of us. Other times, I try not to overthink it and just go for what I want, this is usually when I get LMR.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 02:45 PM
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I keep feeling bad when my wife doesn't reply or when she doesn't show love as I expect it Good thing you are seeking help from a Therapist, I read the book Co-Dependent No More. It addresses this type of behavior, more from the addiction recovery aspect, and needing to "fix" your partner. I feel like there are parallels in your situation, like how your life and happiness revolve around somebody else's recovery. If you have time or access to it, I would recommend checking it out. It is highly re…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 10:57 AM
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OYS 10 37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 195 x 5, SQ - 255 x 5, DL - 290 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 187lbs, 17% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Bigger Leaner Stronger. Reading - Just started The Power of Now. Shark Week. I very rarely initiate during shark week. This week I went all in. It had been well over a week since we last fucked. My DNGAF levels were o…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 10:47 AM
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- Is SL5x5 really the best? Its the best for beginners. Alot of people grow out of it in 6-12 months, but there is nothing better to get started building strength. - Hobbies: Motorcycling and windsurfing These are you hobbies and your not getting pussy? Shit even the easy button is broken. - I do what I want Everything...except that one thing that I really want to do. You say your read MMSLP, if you want to fuck, start making your self attractive. Get a MAP going, actually start lifting heavy, a…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/21 01:58 AM
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You are talking about her habits? This is still about your wife, and yes, you are in her frame. I think you are stuck here. This needs to be about you. Whether she follows or not is her choice. Who cares anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 09:58 PM
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My frame at home is flimsy at best What is different at home? Old thinking and habits? Fear of wife reactions? Fear of your own reactions? Might be worth thinking about, or maybe not, because in most cases the plan is the same. Getting over my fear and inadequacy at home was a long process for me. NMMNG and WISNIFG are my bible. Implementing and practicing those strategies are just as important as lifting for me. Maybe more, because there are no rest days.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 09:02 PM
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I’m getting fucking close I call Bullshit. There are 4 sections about your wife's actions and reactions. She is playing along, she is lying to you, she is avoiding your reactions, because AWALT. - If I were more attractive, this wouldn’t be an issue, read as "if I were more attractive, life would be easy and I would not run into any problems." You can not be attractive without Frame, it is physically impossible. There is alot of BS about frame in here lately. What is a strong frame? Fundamentall…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 08:32 PM
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I will put Power of Now on the list. I have read Untethered Soul, years ago. I think I was still so anxious and in my head, nothing could really sink in.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 04:40 PM
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I don't have a good answer right now. I am okay with that. I gonna keep going with just discipline for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 04:38 PM
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Ha. I appreciate it man, and same to you. I have enjoyed following your OYS. I found that when I stopped caring about my golf game, I got better and enjoyed it much more, weird how that works right.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 04:36 PM
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OYS 9 37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 195 x 5, SQ - 255 x 5, DL - 290 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 186lbs, 17% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Reading - Bigger Leaner Stronger. Incremental Progress. This week was uneventful. I lifted, kept reading BLS and reading Steve Martin's Autobiography. I traveled for work this week, so I was out of the house for 4 days…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 10:47 AM
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Do I need training? Have you read The Game? You don't have it listed. That is basically a training manual, and a good story. There is nothing challenging about it, any dumb motherfucker can get good at gaming and initiating. Its a numbers game, keep bumping those numbers up
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 02:12 PM
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fat, disgusting, weak, pale, shitty, sitting down, no life, spineless, weak, mentally soft faggot. Sounds about right. First step is the same no matter where you start. Read. Lift. STFU. Look at the sidebar though, read the prereqs first. In your case read them twice before you move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 02:06 PM
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I got anxious (“what if the Viagra doesn’t work?” (even though it always has), "what if I'm really just wanting sex for validation?"). I have been there man, I know that anxiety that comes with PE and ED. And all that shit that WISNIFG talk about really resonated with me. The good news is, it doesn't change the plan or your MAP. It sounds like you have a good plan with the therapist, you may find you only need a few sessions. It took me a solid year before I was finally rid of all that baggage, …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 02:03 PM
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I'm not certain why the remainder of the weekend played out well I agree with everything you said about resetting. I also think you voicing honest, and direct communication, may have had something to do with how the rest of the weekend played out. You talked about wanting to set clear boundaries without being unattractive, maybe that is what you did. Either way, nice work getting back on course.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 04:38 AM
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"I'm not doing anything to save my marriage, what am I gonna do for myself" Back to the basics.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 08:20 PM
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Even if the shit tests feel intense, that still sounds like dealing with a woman. AWALT my man.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 08:10 PM
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I’m wandering around my house wondering why I’m there and how to act. Someone told me this just means I’ve finally got some fragment of a frame What. The. Fuck? This shit reeks. Sounds more like you are finally noticing a glaring lack of frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 08:06 PM
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I then regretfully made the comment that if she kept pulling that shit, our marriage wouldn't last, before we went to bed. Why do you regret it? Because it wasn't true, or because it made your wife uncomfortable? After the weekend played out, do you still think that was the wrong thing to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 08:00 PM
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my wife starts planning and cooking two plant-based meals per week My wife is a vegetarian. I like to eat alot of meat. In my case its not that I am being sabotaged, but i have to actively choose and prepare what I want to eat, and choose what I dont want to eat.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 12:03 PM
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OYS 8 37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 195 x 5, SQ - 250 x 5, DL - 285 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 185lbs, 17% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover, Reading - Bigger Leaner Stronger. Green Lights - Lifting, Sex, Work, Social STFU. I got into a short argument with the wife this week. I could have STFU about it from the jump, but I didn't, and I was a few minutes int…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 10:48 AM
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Only time will tell if any of it sticks, but I am definitely going to be keeping my foot on the gas Nice work man, good for you. If its anything like my situation, it will stick, and you will still get plenty of shit to test if you really meant what you said, but nothing you can't easily get through.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 12:33 AM
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Spill the beans on that missed opportunity I have had a good streak over the past couple weeks. I have been getting laid more, and have a partner that acts like she wants too as well. Once we get down to it, I am using alot of the same familiar moves. There is some shit I want to do that I didnt. Maybe I could put a hand gently on her neck and see what happens, maybe tie her up with a necktie to the bed post and go from there. I dont know, these are just examples. But I want to get out of vanill…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/21 01:28 PM
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What you are dealing with may be more of a shitty comfort test. You pass it like you would a shit test, STFU and carry on. But if she is acting like she needs more feelz, call her bluff like you said, use some controlled anger, then drop it and STFU. This is what I did a few weeks ago. It worked well for me. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/p1l42y/own\_your\_shit\_weekly\_august\_10\_2021/h8ealbr/?context=3
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/21 02:08 AM
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Thanks for the field report on your wife. - My wife is a dangerous, narcassistic agent of chaos She sounds hot.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 04:08 PM
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We did talk about what it means that the relationship is her responsibility STFU, nobody wants to hear this shit, especially your girl. There is a sure fire way to get what you want. Take it. Stop talking about your relationship. Or don't, and just let your wife write your next OYS, so we can track your progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 01:12 PM
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Take that shit seriously Maybe, but these statements were pretty standard shit tests for me, and I treated them like standard shit tests. Don't be all stressed out about how other people feel. Take yourself seriously, take being attractive seriously, everyone else can feel free to fuck off.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 01:03 PM
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turns my erection problems into a challenge instead of a "problem". This set off alarm bells for me, based on my experience. You can not try really hard to get an erection. Its not a bench press. In my case this caused my even more anxiety and it got way worse. What worked for me was not giving a fuck. I eventually thought, who fucking cares what happens. I am going to do what I want with my wifes body and not give a shit about anything else. I had to get out of my head and just do what I want. …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 11:50 PM
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Shit man, this OYS sounds a hell of a lot like my situation. Its been two steps forward one step back for about a year now. My favorite piece of advice I got on this topic was to reset every day. Weather you are in the midst of a shit test, or you just fucked your brains out, or you had a mundane day, the next morning reset and focus on your shit. And you are right. It takes two people for their to be a power struggle.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 03:47 PM
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Looks like you have been doing this a while, but something about your strategy seems off. -So until I complete my no rage streak I will abstain from initiating. OK, but you won't get laid this way. -I can make nearly 2 slow motion pull-ups Cool, but do you lift? -I assume I got fatter but I do not have an accurate measurement. buy a scale -complaining to wife about lack of sex This is like rule number 1, this and lifting. You do lift right?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 10:41 AM
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37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 195 x 5, SQ - 255 x 5, DL - 290 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 185lbs, 17% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover. Lifting - Started to bulk again after an 8 week cut and a couple weeks of maintenance. Right away noticed more strength and endurance. I bumped up weight and did 2 or 3 more reps in nearly all my sets. I am also adding more …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 10:33 AM
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I started for similar reasons, in high school my buddies had a band and I wanted to be in it, so I learned to play bass. I have been in and out of bands for 20 years now, as well as writing and recording solo shit. The collective creative energy of playing with other, as well as playing in shows, is what I love more than anything. Learning and developing my craft is all good, but unless I am sharing it with others It doesn't have the same weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/21 02:41 PM
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Man, I have heard that many times from my wife. Its a shit test, she is trying to drag you into her frame, and to make you react. Who cares if your wife thinks she cant talk to you in that moment. If she really wanted to talk to you, she would. I am projecting, from my situation, but for the sake a swapping notes, this is what I do. STFU.
/r/askMRP10/09/21 08:48 PM
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the issue I'm confronting now is that I don't have time or patience to listen to a laundry list of accusations and needed to react to that You don't need to react. The purpose of STFU is so you observe instead of react. Let her be uncomfortable, it will be uncomfortable for you too. A big part of MRP, for me, has been realizing other people emotions and reactions are not my problem, and I do not need to react to them. In my case, when I don't react to someone else's emotional outburst, it usuall…
/r/askMRP10/09/21 07:02 PM
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Goals are good. You need a process too. What days? what time? what are you going to do first? A goal without a process is like motivation without discipline, it is fleeting and doesn't amount to shit in the long run. u/muzzy_W0e said it very well, thanks for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/21 04:15 PM
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I have had to deal with similar situations between wife and kids. I go back to WISNIFG every time. "I am not going to be with someone that talks to my kids this way" Broken record. STFU. Then continue to build the relationship that I want with my kids. What are you doing wrong? You are scared of your wife.
/r/askMRP10/09/21 04:04 PM
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trying to kick start some momentum. Lift for fuck's sake. Lift religiously. It gets preached around here for a reason. And when you do go to the gym, don't just fuck around, get on a program. Most guys use Stronglifts 5x5 to start, myself included. Your OYS reads like you are treading water. Read. Lift. STFU. That's where it all starts.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 08:01 PM
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I play bass and take singing classes, in fact I've been doing it for a while. For some reason I avoid playing music with other people. I always find excuses - I'm not good enough, I don't want to bother with it, I don't want to manage "band stuff", etc You play bass alone? Good guitar players are a dime a dozen, bass players are way harder to find. I am a decent bass player, but I never had problem finding people to play with. Opportunities are out there, if you stop actively avoiding them, they…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 12:20 PM
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optimized In the lab, optimization is process, a really fucking detailed, meticulous process. It is not something that just happens or doesn't happen. What is your process?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 11:50 PM
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Thanks for the insight. Also, your post "For Whom do you Fuck" was a really solid addition to MITW's original post.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 01:19 AM
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She keeps wanting to share emotions, cuddle, or get my attention by having intellectual conversations. Sometimes this feels good, but it seems to put us more into the realm of “friends” and kills the spark. You have to use game here too. Sounds like you got a handle on it, but if you feel like you are getting sucked into conversation you don't want to have, either don't engage or be cocky 'n funny and practice gaming your GF. There is a good post on it below. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredp…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 01:09 AM
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I became obsessed about sex You are right, and still your whole OYS is about sex, and you are reading books about female sexual fantasies. You are feeding the addiction man. You give way to many fucks about sex. DNGAF! What else do YOU care about?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 12:29 PM
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OYS 6 37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 195 x 5, SQ - 250 x 5, DL - 285 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 185lbs, 17% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover. Lifting I traveled this week, was at a relatives for 4 days. I woke up early on 2 days and got in two workouts. I did Jim Wendler's WALRUS style work out. I fucking love it. They are a great way to get in a good workou…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 12:07 PM
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The cardio recommendations I have read seem to all be long periods and low intensity (2 mile walks), which is probably best suited for building the maximum amount of muscle. So that is what I have been focused on, but I can feel that I am losing endurance by not doing some type of higher intensity cardio.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/21 04:51 PM
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I can't skimp on cardio with BBB What cardio do you do? I stopped running and I have started walking with weight vest like Wendler recommends, I like it, but I do not get the high like after a run or lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/21 01:04 PM
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I text because I'm still far more articulate and comfortable through written media than verbal ones. Why? WISNIFG is full of ways to help with this. Have you read that and put it into practice? It will help. The more I read and hear about boundaries, the more I think that is is becoming a buzz word and 99% of peoples "boundaries" are bullshit. I really like weakandsensitives approach of just, don't put up with shitty behavior, and if they don't like, they can feel free to fuck off.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/21 12:55 PM
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give back to the community Your comments a few weeks ago, about asking for a raise, inspired me to do the same. So there is some concrete value you have provided to this community. Thanks for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 01:21 PM
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OYS 5 37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 190 x 5, SQ - 240 x 5, DL - 275 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 185lbs, 17% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2,), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover. Raise. Two weeks ago, I asked for a $20K raise in salary. This week I found out it was approved. I was inspired by some of the recent OYS posts, so thanks to the guys posting about making moves at work. Right now the v…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 01:08 PM
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It's been good to engage in the OYSes for the last few weeks Your comments have been very helpful to read. Thank you for sharing the insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 02:44 PM
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Marriage 8 years married. 1 month for every year together. Currently at 12 years together. 8-12 months of actual work is ahead of me. This is BPP thinking and just a guideline at best. Nothing magical is going to happen at the end of 8-12 months. Make the stay plan the go plan for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 02:42 PM
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I have two weeks to get my daughter ready for Pre-K and that is going to open up more time to do fun shit with my wife without the little one I bring this up, just because I was called out on it when my kids started going back to school. I am projecting here, but this could be a slippery slope if you start thinking just because the kid is not around, you and wife will have more time to bang.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 02:29 PM
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OYS 4 37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 190 x 5, SQ - 240 x 5, DL - 275 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 185lbs, 17% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover. Energy - My energy levels have been through the roof this past week. I think its a couple things. I stopped cutting and went back to maintenance calories. I also took a full week of from the gym, not just a deload, but no lifting at…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/21 10:54 AM
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Maybe, but it sounds like u/SheeshJustDropIt has done the reading and been using STFU and techniques from WISNIFG for some time now, which is all good, and if his wife is still constantly complaining, there is nothing wrong with just nuking a shitty comfort test and see what happens. That is what Walrus did, as he mentioned. You can do that without losing control of your emotions.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/21 02:57 PM
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I wouldn't say I had a chocolate cake or donut experience a la Walrus, but my wife did return home one day from the store with a large bin of chocolate chip cookies. What is that point of swapping notes if you don't use what works. You should have smashed those cookies down the garbage disposal.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/21 03:04 AM
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What makes an initiation a success is that I did it If your goal was just to initiate, yes, it was a success. If your goal was to fuck, then it was a failure. But that is a good thing. There is no need to paint failure as a success or sugar coat it. That will take all the benefits of failure away. If I fail when I initiate, I can learn, am acting unattractive, was my game on point, was I looking for validation. You can learn all that shit through leaning into failure. I really like this post on …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/21 02:55 AM
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Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/21 10:20 PM
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I’m still soft around the middle so I’m laser focused on diet right now. I used Intermitted fasting and the LeanGains method to get under 20% BF, and I saw alot of progress with weight loss and body recomp. Sounds like, you have a plan, so stick with what you like, but leangains is what worked for me in a similar situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/21 11:40 AM
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OYS 3 37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 190 x 5, SQ - 240 x 5, DL - 275 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 185lbs, 17% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar (NMMNG x 2), Models, Way of the Superior Man, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover. On Not Shutting the Fuck Up - I had been working on my MAP for about a year now, and the one thing that has always served me well was STFU. But after a year I felt it starting to become a crutch rather than a tool. This week, I was …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/21 11:02 AM
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From your OYS 10 on spirituality -This went from green to red, and I’m not sure to what extent I care anymore. Thanks for pointing to your previous OYS. How do you feel about spirituality after sometime has passed? Seems like their is still some interest, but does it play a different role for you now? Also, I loved reading The Game for the same reason. So much of the MRP playbook came from Mystery Method and those PUA terms.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/21 02:01 PM
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I also read parts of a spirituality/meditation book that a friend left at my place Sounds like some of the concepts from The Untethered Soul, a great book mindfulness. I got into zen buddhism for years, pre MRP. The weird thing was it never clicked for me. I think i was hanging onto the mindset of, If I meditate and understand zen buddhism....I will have a happy and care free life. That didnt work. Funny thing, the past year following my MAP has made alot of that shit click for me now. STFU - Ob…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 12:29 PM
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I could have phrased it "I am not doing dates, the way I have been, for a long time". My go-to was a dinner date, but It could apply to a movie date as well. They are the type of dates PU advice says stay away from for a reason. And you are right, there was a covert contract, not so much that I would get laid, but that my wife would enjoy this relaxing break. I would much rather have nights out that our social events, that is what I enjoy. It was way more energizing for me to get out and mix it …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 10:39 AM
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I need to handle the premature ejaculation issue I also had this issue. I read The Multi Orgasmic Man. It has alot of exercises and practices you can do right away. It gets a bit out there with the energy circuits within our bodies, so take what you want from all that. But the muscle exercises and breathing techniques helped me.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 01:12 PM
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OYS 2 37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 190 x 5, SQ - 240 x 5, DL - 275 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 185lbs, 17% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar, Models, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, The Game, King Warrior Magician Lover Lifting - I just finished my first round of bulking and cutting. It was also a test to figure out how much I needed to eat to do a bulk/cut properly. I had been lifting for 8 months prior to this, I had been gaining strengths, and see some results, but I was not putting…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 11:27 AM
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Great Post. I suffered from ED and PE. it was mostly mental, everything you listed in the mental section applied to my situation. - you have to rebuild new mental models that puts you first and doesn't feel the need to fucking apologize for being a man and having desires and needs. One thing you forgot to mention is to lift heavy. I dont think I would have gotten over it without putting on about 15lbs of muscle. It really helps to not give a fuck. I am about one year into lifting religiously and…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/21 03:02 PM
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This is really good shit. Thank you. I was a wreck for a while, and the affair is what got me on my journey. Depression, turned into anger, turned into motivation, and its starting to turn into understanding and not giving a fuck. From where I am now, I can look back and say, of course she had feelings for someone else, that is how this shit works when a guy gets soft or (insert reasons). I have decided to recognize it for what it is, move on and move forward with new boundaries in place for mys…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/21 06:05 PM
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I have read your post on this a few times. I have never heard those words or any variation implying that. Actions seem to tell a different story, but there was never overt communication like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 02:49 PM
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OYS 1 37, Married 9 years, together 12, 2 kids under 8. Lifts BP 190 x 5, SQ - 240 x 5, DL - 275 x 5. Stats: 6ft, 185lbs, 18% BF (mirror) Read - The Sidebar, Models, Atomic Habits, Fuccfiles, The Game Backstory - Plow horse, Nice Guy Bitch Why I am here - I want to improve myself and my sex life. I have been lurking for almost a year. I read alot, I am committed to lifting, I am good at STFU. I have seen improvement in many areas of my life, social, parenting, work its all flowing. So everything…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 11:16 PM
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