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Alphahands/r/seduction14/09/16 03:19 PM
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It's up to your personality then. I'd say giving value is making them laugh because you're a humorous person who makes jokes. Self validation can be simpler, in that you accept yourself and your actions, and take responsibility for them. Being/becoming an "Alpha male" (whether or not that's the more accurate term) is, in my opinion, an outdated mode of thought. It implies aggression and dominance where they aren't necessary. Just being an open, honest, fun/positive person is what the goal is the…
/r/seduction10/12/16 05:06 PM
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I have no idea where you got that definition. Everywhere I've seen non-reactive, the definition has boiled down to staying consistent in your emotions and reactions, without giving leeway to things like shit tests. Not being an emotionless robot, but not being constantly affected by what other people do/say either.
/r/seduction09/12/16 07:10 PM
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Most of the time they won't even get back to you, or will flake again, so your policy is valid. I've been burned quite a few times because I persevered and believed in their sincerity.
/r/seduction12/10/16 04:36 PM
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You just have to balance your life out more, and don't schedule too much too close to each other and end up with clashing timings. As for actual gaming, sidebar.
/r/seduction08/10/16 08:49 AM
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If there's any situation in which you can both be discreet, then you can try and steer it towards that to avoid repercussions. That's all you can do really, get her in a situation to be interested in you to be able to reciprocate (since you say it's not normally possible).
/r/seduction08/10/16 08:48 AM
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Perhaps it is also your own newbishness, but don't let that discourage you. Try the Book Lounge in town. Near Truth Coffee house. If you can get that far out, Greenpoint and Sea Point are also excellent with those long straight walks. Lots of places work to be honest.
/r/seduction04/10/16 08:20 PM
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Well time for me to eat my words then. Are you trying to approach groups or individuals more? I also find it's far easier, whether individual or group, to open them tangentially, i.e. during an activity you are both in. For example, I opened a group while hiking Lion's head a few weeks ago. Just commented on the hike and took the conversation from there. Spent the whole day with them. So you might want to look into activities and events around town. EDIT: I think you should also let go of your o…
/r/seduction04/10/16 08:10 PM
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Where are you based man? It depends on which side of SA you're on. Younger girls, especially in the uni areas (like Cape Town Southern Suburbs) are fairly open. BTW, white girls in SA are just more closed off in general (save for maybe special interest groups like those hippies in Obz), and I suppose even more so for a black guy. I've had more luck with black/coloured girls here in Cape Town, and I'm pretty darn white.
/r/seduction04/10/16 07:50 PM
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I don't see the issue. Often times, if you want to date a person like that, you're often on the same maturity level in some sense. Especially with high schoolers, maturity mileage may vary as they are still growing up (like you are if you're under 25 tbh) but may be at different mental stages regardless of age.
/r/seduction03/10/16 08:17 PM
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Then you're doing well socially. Just need to make moves. Body language making you doubt things is just your own perception clouding your judgement. The main think you want is for a girl to not be closed off. If the body language is neutral to your advances (kino or otherwise) or even positive, it's a green light to keep pushing slowly but surely. Also, just my opinion, but I wouldn't go to TRP much if I were you. They raise some valid points but ultimately you're supposed to be in seduction for…
/r/seduction21/09/16 10:14 PM
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Since you have Asperger's, you should focus on learning to read body language as it isn't an innate ability to you. From then on it really depends on the severity of your Asperger's, but generally the same things you read all over the sub apply to you just as much as every other guy. Overcoming any social anxiety is a big thing, and all other aspects of seduction and social life bloom once the anxiety is gone.
/r/seduction21/09/16 07:37 PM
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Next class is Monday you say? That gives you 2 days to go through every single link in that sidebar and every link in those links. Next, avoiding the friendzone has nothing to do with saying friendly things. It has to do with a lack of flirting and physical escalation.
/r/seduction16/09/16 05:51 PM
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Learn by exposure then I say. I am in the same boat as you, but I'm forcing myself to control it.
/r/seduction14/09/16 08:31 PM
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What is inherently wrong with being latched on? If you can control your neediness then you're golden. Yes, keeping options open is nice too. Can always try and spin it into a casual thing.
/r/seduction14/09/16 07:46 PM
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You can always meet her later if she's up for it. Right now then, the question boils down to whether you want to get your willy wet.
/r/seduction14/09/16 07:22 PM
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In general I'd say go for the one you like more. When you say you find girl 2 much more attractive, I think it doesn't matter as much as long as girl 1 isn't that bad herself. You say you got along quite well with 1 but like 2 more. What's to say that 2 likes you at that level too? Just don't make the mistake of being too needy. These are just my thoughts as they arrive to me, so apologies for the incoherence. Tough situation overall, good luck!
/r/seduction14/09/16 04:40 PM
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Depends on current rapport. I go to sitting to the left and on same sofa for sofa tables. If I don't know her that well, I'd start across and transition to get closer at a certain point (for the sofas). Even if she looks at you funny, as long as you don't make a fuss of it you're fine. Basically, it shows you are a comfortable person. At times she might feel uncomfortable with you being "forward" like this, but often times they get used to it and warm up quickly.
/r/seduction14/09/16 07:48 AM
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As long as you're being honest with yourself and not rude in your (rare) disagreements with new people, you're fine.
/r/seduction07/09/16 02:21 PM
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You don't have to disagree for the sake of disagreeing of course. But no two people will ever 100% agree on anything, so it's healthy to express your own opinions to show that you are in fact your own man and not a "yes man" who will say and agree to anything. This doesn't even have to be thought of in a seduction mindset. It's good practice for any sort of social relations anywhere, which is why it also works here. Your last sentence is basically screening in a nutshell.
/r/seduction07/09/16 01:27 PM
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What you describe in your examples is more selecting from your tastes to better suit the current situation with her. In a normal relationship, you'd probably reveal the other tastes as well at some point. What Manson is describing is the opposite- you would hide certain parts of yourself forever and alter others in desperate hopes to have the girl like you. This is an extremely needy action.
/r/seduction07/09/16 08:38 AM
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It's like I'm reading Models all over again! :P
/r/seduction31/08/16 05:39 PM
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Depends on how you interpret his message. I just saw it as "you can bombard them like the rest of the masses, or take a smoother route with her and not be needy".
/r/seduction31/08/16 05:38 PM
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She moved on. Don't do it. Tinder and similar apps are the women's picking fields, so rather focus on in person game. Also, you should have gotten her to give her number instead.
/r/seduction31/08/16 04:52 PM
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Just keep going. Eventually your body will catch up with what you are doing. Takes a few weeks to make a habit.
/r/seduction28/08/16 07:29 AM
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You are correct of course, the delivery does count. It's just that a lot of people around here think that a simple hi won't work.
/r/seduction12/08/16 05:05 PM
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No. Go with a simple "Hi. I wanted to meet you. I'm Molni96." Then, a minute or two into the conversation, you can use these lines. What a lot of guys don't realise is that opening lines don't have to only be used as openers-- they make great jokes too, and are less likely to fall flat because they're clearly comedic and the timing makes you seem more fun and less tryhard.
/r/seduction12/08/16 03:42 PM
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It's a gesture of goodwill lol! Yeah, I've only come into this world in the past few months. Back to work.
/r/seduction09/08/16 05:13 PM
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This friend is a natural so I trusted him. I forgot however that he's been out of active game for 5 years and doesn't put much effort. Still, he did help with this girl in the beginning. Thing is for me they don't tend to come to me unless they are definitely interested. This one certainly doesn't. We'll see how the following week goes. Thanks and good luck to you as well as me :P
/r/seduction09/08/16 04:58 PM
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Took the advice of a friend to "show I care" by essentially being available, and some attempts at deeper level communication failed due to misunderstanding and her disagreement. Basically, I rushed a bit. Attempting to salvage it by backing off a bit and giving space but I have no clue if there's anything I can still do.
/r/seduction09/08/16 04:14 PM
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Could have used this advice a week ago myself lol. Pretty sure I blew myself out of the water.
/r/seduction09/08/16 03:43 PM
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This. Start a chat for a bit and have some fun with it. Then ask her out.
/r/seduction03/08/16 11:30 AM
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This comes at a perfect time for me. Talking to this girl and still not 100% sure if she's into me or not, or going to friendzone me. Will use in a few days.
/r/seduction03/08/16 11:16 AM
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There's not much I can say to help right now my man, but I wish you luck.
/r/seduction15/07/16 09:02 PM
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The point I'm trying to make is that he hasn't really made progress in actually becoming confident despite what he said about applying it in his attempts.
/r/seduction15/07/16 09:02 PM
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With the way you post, you've never had that confidence you speak of.
/r/seduction15/07/16 04:17 PM
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I don't own a device capable of running it, lol.
/r/seduction11/07/16 03:06 PM
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Since release I've been seeing insane stories from this game. Good for you man!
/r/seduction10/07/16 05:56 PM
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Nobody said he must still try and gain relations through her. The point originally made is that he can still be friendly with her. No hostility is required, but being an orbiter isn't required either. He can just move on and keep chatting to her if he wants.
/r/seduction10/07/16 05:24 PM
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Orbiter = AFC who sits around waiting for a chance even though it will never happen. OP: A friend who talks to her for his own amusement, yet still has his own life outside of her.
/r/seduction10/07/16 11:53 AM
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splugemonster has it right. People are very self-absorbed even in public. If you do something, they might notice, but their mind will be far away from it in the next 5 minutes. Everyone is invisible to everyone, until you make yourself visible to someone. This is the basis of Seduction.
/r/seduction09/07/16 06:57 PM
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Little bit. Started recently. Built & launched a few websites and got more clients incoming. If you want help with the site I won't mind taking a look. I've seen a few more links on it and the actual content seems solid.
/r/seduction07/07/16 04:19 PM
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The wolf images are okay as they're for flavour. The images in the navbar should be made more consistent with the rest of the links, i.e. make them text-based and not images. For the GIF in the middle of the article it would be better to just have some enlarged text in a different colour. It would also be more tasteful to have it at the top or bottom of the article instead. Later down the line you might want to look at some Wordpress templates since you are using it for the site. Updating the lo…
/r/seduction06/07/16 04:17 PM
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I never said anything against you or the text. There's a lot of keyboard jockeys around here so naturally one should always take everything with a grain of salt. It's not just about not liking the site, it's a matter of web design principles (which I study). Would look a lot more professional with less of the "CLICK HERE" stuff.
/r/seduction05/07/16 08:31 PM
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Site full of crappy spam and images. My point still stands.
/r/seduction05/07/16 07:14 AM
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Good to know you understand. I was sort of in the same boat in April.
/r/seduction04/07/16 07:35 PM
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The Game is more of a good story to read than anything else. Mark Manson's Models is something you should try if you haven't already. The reason it is so highly lauded by some is that it has some extent into normal life outside of dating and pickup. Another reason to keep things natural is that whatever you do, it will most likely be more true to your personality. As the user said below, using lines is fine (especially when it is obviously in a comedic sense), but it is also quite linear and not…
/r/seduction04/07/16 02:53 PM
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Part of the reason that there's been a partial shift in PUA mentality to work on one's inner game instead of learning routines is exactly what you experienced. The routines have been run for over a decade now. It's old, even if you try and spice it up. Sure, most of the time you'll be fine, but there can also be cases like this and then you'll sink faster than you can swim. Had you wanted to escalate organically, it would still have to be a bit strong/ballsy as what you did, in order to keep you…
/r/seduction03/07/16 08:51 PM
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Congrats man! My advice now is to not let it get to your head. Don't let sex rule your desires. Sure it's nice and pursuing women is fun, but don't make it the only end goal. If you do this, you will ensure lasting success, and less stress over bedroom performance. Good luck!
/r/seduction03/07/16 08:45 PM
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Your experimental text was the gateway to the rest of the needy actions. Should have reframed/somehow made it sound like her last chance, if you even were supposed to do that at all (doubt it). I honestly have never heard of anyone leaving voicemails in a non-professional capacity. IMO it's needy regardless of what you say in it, because voicemails inherently imply that you should call the person back. Better luck next time. Perhaps try instant dates?
/r/seduction03/07/16 06:35 PM
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Fiction or not, still a decent read. At the very least, an aspirational model for the PUAs-to-be.
/r/seduction03/07/16 04:51 PM
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You clearly have solid game, but just from the fact that even your storytelling lended to the whole experience falling apart, I can say that you aren't "congruent" as some might say. Your inner game isn't 100% in sync with your outer experiences. Anyway, my condolences for this loss. Perhaps she'll come around, but for now you just have to move on. It was just one date after all. Let go to live. Yeah yeah, you don't want to hear that. You want an answer. You want her to fall into your lap so you…
/r/seduction03/07/16 03:52 PM
1

Pretty much this. Hell, maybe you won't even get to making out this time? Then you'll get your answer even quicker. No harm, no foul.
/r/seduction30/06/16 07:29 PM
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Just don't stress about all this too much. Seduction is also suppose to be fun after all. The fact that you didn't escalate past the kissing is your issue. If your lack of experience is hindering you that badly, read up a bit on what you need to do. It will never make you an expert, but it will give you a good idea of where to go. If you mess up it's no worry either, because girls are usually forgiving about that sort of thing if you're already that far. Just don't mess up in epic proportions ("…
/r/seduction30/06/16 07:27 PM
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We aren't living in Megaman Battle Network where a lack of online presence would hinder your dating prospects. Social value isn't determined by social media but it can be aided by it. If you want to demonstrate social value IRL, just go wherever you go to pickup with your friends, and then split from the group (with their consent/prior knowledge of course) to your target(s). Hell, you don't need to demonstrate social value if you can simply demonstrate value. Your lack of passion about your life…
/r/seduction30/06/16 07:23 PM
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Confrontation has its place. Sure it feels nice, but it isn't worth it in the long run, even if you'll never see these people again. Source: I live with a cunt and confronting just makes things worse since she tries to be the "matriarch" of the house.
/r/seduction29/06/16 03:38 PM
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Well you've played it cool and patient for now, just keep doing that until next Friday. If I were you I'd just shoot a quick message to her on Wednesday/Thursday to keep interest.
/r/seduction24/06/16 05:39 PM
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lol perfect reply
/r/seduction23/06/16 05:56 PM
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1 Number = 8 characters = 8 Bytes. Let's be generous and also include other data such as name and object data for whatever is reading the contacts and put it as 1KB. 1 TB = 1,024GB = 1,048,576MB = 1,073,741,824KB. That's a lot of contacts. Assuming you are attracted to roughly half of the women in the world (the other half would be unattractive/unavailable/too old/too young), you would probably have a few of my long lost friends in there. Mind helping a brother out?
/r/seduction23/06/16 04:41 PM
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League is League of Legends, a terrible online game. Far better and more skillful alternatives exist. 4Chan is commonly known as "the asshole of the internet". Many social rejects gather there. It has its ups and downs like anything. They hate reddit and 9gag. inb4 you were being sarcastic and I missed it
/r/seduction23/06/16 04:36 PM
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In that she is responsive, I'd say yes. Perhaps it also depends on the area. Where I am, even the "responsive" ones take a while.
/r/seduction23/06/16 04:31 PM
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I believe most foreign nationalities are an advantage. I'm Greek. Despite the country's (many) shortcomings, it still does intrigue most when they find out. Of course, it won't work with everyone, but there are some who you will score major bonus points with. You don't have to bring it up either. Just have something about yourself different than the rest that would invite questions. Most of the time it will be your accent. For me, it's my surname. Or just say "back home..."/"back in x country...…
/r/seduction14/06/16 06:51 PM
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Your friend is being an ass. Sure, over the world it's usually more normal to be in a group, but there's nothing wrong with going out alone. The whole point of PU (or Models if you're into that) is the ability to socialize with strangers. Go find another club or another country if you have the money. Greece is nearby. Despite all its flaws in the news, it has a very active nightlife pretty much anywhere that isn't a backwater village.
/r/seduction11/06/16 01:03 AM
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Are you me?
/r/seduction01/06/16 06:11 PM
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This. The best way to think of kino IMO is just as tiers of touching. You have to do the lower tiers to get to higher ones, while judging if the advances are being accepted.
/r/seduction09/05/16 04:29 PM
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Virgin here. Broke up last week. Might be getting laid soon (casual sex most likely). I'm just wondering about the "passion" of things. Will kissing, etc all be the same as "normal" sex? I don't want to make things awkward. I assume it will be different from girl to girl but the answer is generally yes. Just want to double check here by someone who has done this before.
/r/seduction09/04/16 02:08 PM
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