Alswelk Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
104	Campsite Observations		Alswelk	/r/Divorce_Men	10/08/24 12:49 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
13	Russia’s full-scale invasion of Ukraine has disproportionately affected women I, um, think you need to read up about Cleopatra's actual reign. Implying she was a more capable leader than, y'know, Augustus Caesar is certainly a point of view.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	31/10/25 03:10 PM
1	How to accept the loss of a dream Feel you there - I plan on dying at like...70 because it makes all my financial math work a lot easier.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/10/25 06:24 PM
2	I'm out and about, expanding my sphere of influence, and the ladies I've been meeting... tattoos everywhere, filler, botox, injections, face lifts, augmentations, overweight, etc. What's happened to America? Where can you meet unmodified ladies these days? New Mexico is not where you want to be for tattoo-free women	/r/Divorce_Men	01/07/25 10:59 PM
2	Made to Feel Like a Stranger in Your own Home? Feels like the last 4-5 years of my marriage. Minus the children because we didn’t have any.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/06/25 11:48 AM
1	Exposing Some Feminist Claims That Are Inaccurate And Misleading. It’s birth related. It’s pretty unambiguous who a given child’s mother is, but before paternity testing became a thing, the only way to guarantee that a child belongs to a particular man was controlling female fidelity.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	19/04/25 03:27 PM
5	Said goodbye to my best friend (dog) Brother, I can't even imagine how you're feeling. Not sure I would've survived my divorce without my dogs. This probably won't help right now but remember that this was a final act of love - getting him somewhere where he'll be well looked after and happy.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/01/25 06:49 PM
10	Noticed something strange But we're all just a bunch of brocialists, don't you know??	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/01/25 08:35 PM
5	House vs 401K I made the decision to keep the 401k and give her the house. It was almost a wash between my equity in the home and my 401k, maybe $15-20k in her favor. But I also did all the maintenance on it and know that there's stuff coming (it'll need a new furnace, water heater, likely some plumbing attention, and it would be prudent to overhaul the electrical distribution [every breaker slot in the main box is full] in the next 3-5 years), so she'll have fun discovering that.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/10/24 11:32 PM
4	Does the silence ever get to you? My dogs are my lifeline. But they were during the marriage too.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/10/24 02:07 AM
5	Couples Counseling…has it ever worked for anyone? Mine turned into a weekly reminder of what I'd done wrong since the last session. Mixed with getting talked over most of the times I'd try to actually say anything (or getting told that what I was feeling was factually incorrect - nifty how that worked). The message that I took away from that phase of counseling was that neither of them (my ex or the counselor) really wanted to hear what I had to say, so I stopped saying anything. It ended with a big storm session of "You never say anything in h…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/10/24 03:08 PM
3	ED? Performance Anxiety?? Wtf!?! Yeah, my first sexual encounter with someone who wasn't my ex-wife was...let's go with suboptimal. It does get better. As others have said, the Hims generics are helpful - if you're feeling anxious about things (like I was), the drugs won't make the anxiety go away but it will make it matter a lot less with regards to performance (if that makes sense).	/r/Divorce_Men	01/10/24 03:01 PM
3	Saw my ex-wife on a dating app. I feel you brother. Mine asked for couples therapy for a long time, then when we did it, it turned into “what did Alswelk do wrong this week” and when I stood up to that (not saying I’m perfect by any means, but I didn’t think I deserved to have any minor gaffes explored in excruciating detail over and over again) she threw a fit that I was doing therapy wrong and walked away.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/09/24 11:24 PM
3	How old were you when you get divorced? 37, married for 9 years.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/07/24 08:01 PM
1	Positive depictions of male characters in fiction Another LOTR character is Theoden. As someone who is occasionally known to wallow in despair, his character arc of choosing to rise out of his own darkness, cast off his doubts, and doing what needed doing spoke (and speaks) to me. And that he does it as an old man reminds me that it’s never too late. Honestly, when I read LOTR the first time, I’d been so used to the “useless crotchety old man” stereotype that I thought that was how Tolkien would write him. Imagine my surprise when he turns out …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	26/12/22 01:38 PM