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AltEgo25/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 12:22 AM
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Women always forgiving with anybody that's not their family or spouse.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 11:44 PM
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I never envy another man who is in a relationship. Because I know they're not having a good time no matter what it looks like... I envy single guys with child custody who are building their assets and castles. Those guys are having a good time.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/25 02:00 PM
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Yep, I did too did everything humanly possible to assist and care for the baby. Still was brutal. We recovered a bit but it took over a year - only started improving at the end of year 2 - and she lost it so many times, and went completely into unacceptable behavior territory, so I lurk here now. We decided not to have a second one. Thank the lord.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/25 01:43 PM
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The first 3 years of babies life destroys relationships. I don't think there's a woman on earth that's satisfied with how their husband supported them through pregnancy, childbirth, and then with the baby/toddler. Loads of women leave their husbands when the kid is between 1 and 5 years old. They truly think a different guy would have done better in the circumstances. My wife quite literally lost her mind when ours was 2. Just hanging onto resentment from the baby stage... and still unhappy deal…
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 01:45 PM
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Since having our baby 3 years ago my wife has never been satisfied with anything. I believe it can all be tracked back to the difficulty of the pregnancy, and the C section. The first year was a nightmare for both of us, looking back I have no idea how we made it through years 1 and 2...this year, year 3 has finally become reasonable to an extent. She built a bunch of resentment towards me in our first two years of parenthood, I didn't take enough time off to help following the hospital (didn't …
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 03:58 PM
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I thought we were close to divorce awhile back and I want to be prepared for the worst case scenario. However, I continue to work to keep our family intact and get us to a good place. Unfortunately, I relate with much content posted here.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/24 05:19 AM
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A few things my wife has done that I consider unacceptable: Hides and removes family photos, of my side of the family, from walls and shelves for no good reason (my point of view). Smashed and thrown phone I bought for her two times. She has to have a phone... Ditched me in driveway because I had to work past 5pm by like 15min - I want to spend time with my family for dinner...(happened on multiple different occasions) Planted two hidden cameras in our house, I noticed immediately. (Pretended I …
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 06:51 PM
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I know there's lots of shit listed here...but that hiding the family pictures... that really pisses me off. My wife has done this, and my family has only been kind to her despite what she thinks. I had to move the pictures into my own office because I was worried she'd eventually throw them out.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 04:49 PM
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I think anything you can log into and view on a computer screen is screwed. But try and get that treasure chest dug up from down by the river. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 04:51 PM
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Parents could also get divorced putting house in peril.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 04:48 PM
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She tells me over 3 items I stop her and pull up my phone app to make a list.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 06:37 PM
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There is no accumulated relationship equity with women. They treat you and deal with you based on how they feel at that moment as if 20 years history never occured.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 12:16 AM
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My wife acts like she's mother Theresa because she cooks and also has an attitude about it the whole time. I never ask her to cook and I'd frankly pay money for her to lose the attitude and just stop cooking all together. It's not worth the bullshit for some spaghetti.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 10:07 PM
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This is the root of why we have arguments and disagreements. I refuse to even agree about her perception of what happened. If it's just not what happened I'm not going all the way down the rabbit hole of apologizing for it then exploring why it happened, and how we can make sure it doesn't happen again... it never happened so no I'm not sorry for it and this is what actually happened... I mean I pick my battles but it's a big frog to swallow to agree with a totally bullshit story that makes you …
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 09:51 PM
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My wife always does great at first with people, until they look at her wrong... then they're dead to her. No second chances. It's impossible for her to have any good generational relationships because she'll eventually hate anybody.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 02:31 PM
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It doesn't really bother me, that's not an issue in our relationship. I do worry about her taking it seriously though. Blatant disrespect to me and my family is the problem, also some fundamental differences in opinion we try to act like we're on the same page but in reality we want to live differently in our 50s-60s.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 02:28 PM
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My wife does the cold shoulder emotional abuse bullshit. 90% of the time I have no idea what her attitude is about. The other 10% it's something unreasonable or immature causing the behavior. Most of the time it has nothing to do with me, it's like someone else wasn't nice to her that day or some social interaction went poorly at the daycare, whatever...then she's mad I didn't comfort her properly or take action on the issue. Like I'm going to jump to action every time someone looks at her wrong…
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 02:21 PM
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Disrespect is what pushes me to the edge with my wife, there's lots of crap I don't like and I can deal with. But blatant disrespect for me or my family is what really gets me digging through documents.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 01:48 PM
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I feel the car statement. We've had one in the driveway for like a year and the other is racking up miles like crazy losing any value it might have had.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 01:44 PM
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Mine is obsessed with palm reading, always watching clips and looking at her hand...asking me to hold up my hand. I don't want to know.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 01:40 PM
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Screw her man, she'll hate any woman you do anything with.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 02:51 PM
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It sucks when you know how family should be. How holidays should be, how multi-generational bonds should be and your wife has no idea/vision.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 02:45 PM
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If it were me, I'd stop traveling for work and do whatever was necessary to keep 50/50. Because I've read too many stories on here where primary/shared custody is lost and the mother just moves out of state right away. Then if you want to be in the kids life you've prettymuch got to uproot and move to wherever your wife's favorite place of the day is... And she gets to pick the craptastic school your kid goes to.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 01:47 PM
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If I get divorced the first thing I'm going to stop doing is washing the entire cabinetry of utensils and dishes every night. I'll wash the one bowl and cup I used the entire week or simply toss disposable plates.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 08:19 PM
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I expect this to be how it'll be with my wife but she doesn't really have the patience for a real divorce so I'm giving it like a 70% chance she'll miss court dates, mediation, etc... and there's a good chance I'd have to figure out how to execute the whole thing without her participation.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 08:11 PM
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I have never called names, insulted, or mentioned divorce to my wife in arguments. She's done all and worse. One time she did really piss me off threatening divorce, and I said "go ahead and do it then, it's not going to improve your life" This was probably 3 years ago now. She didn't file. We don't argue all the time, on a 6 month good streak right now. When she goes off though it definitely makes me question my life choices.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 07:56 PM
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I wonder how many husband's have uttered the phrase "I'm not a mind reader".
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 07:52 PM
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Sometimes I think this about the way my wife treats our kid. I see the good side of her she used to share more with me, before we had a baby. Now she never does anything to make me happy, not with a smile on. Basically does some stuff for me like it's a duty or chore... a shadow of the version I used to see a few years ago.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 07:43 PM
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When I have a hard time with my wife I often think of this Robin Williams quote.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 07:34 PM
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What a nightmare. I don't know how women like this exist outside of movies but they're everywhere.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 07:30 PM
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Nothing is more infuriating than asking your wife what's wrong and her telling you "nothing". If it was fine there'd be no need for the question. My wife does this and I've told her straight, if you tell me nothing I'm going to resume my day as if it's nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 07:19 PM
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Long game, this is what women don't see. Don't forget one day your kids will be grown and they'll be interested in dad again, and they'll be glad to break mom's rules and go investigate what it's like on dad's side.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 02:28 AM
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I'm in a similar boat on this, my wife doesn't command much of a paycheck and sending her to work will result in full time daycare prettymuch. Which will be her entire paycheck... and she won't pay her entire paycheck so I'll end up getting increased expenses and inevitably the wife will hate her job and be unhappy about it and some crap will happen to our kid at daycare that'll make her hate the daycare workers... peering into my crystal ball.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 02:02 AM
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This kind of childish and obviously abusive behavior makes me really angry. 2 sides of the coin and all but if you can't even treat your spouse with the same general respect you treat a stranger on the street... it's time to go. Your wife sounds like crap, of course you shouldn't have retaliated but I get the frustration.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 01:39 AM
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Yea, I did some math and calculations on what could happen in our sitch, in my state (I pay for everything and she's sahm) after 10 years. I'd be potentially responsible for CS around 20% of my gross and Spousal for around 5 years from another 20% of the gross. When I further looked at what I could afford after those costs, essentially I'd move into a two bedroom apt for awhile and I'd actually save more money than I do right now...(inefficient expenses of living with a woman) And my wife would …
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/24 10:03 PM
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Logical post, I'd think of the same things. If it weren't for the high likelihood of long-term CS and Alimony it'd be an easy decision... but if you have the government forcing you to work like a slave until your death for the ex that's a big one to swallow. It's unfortunate you have young kids, even after so many years of marriage. If it were me and it were bad enough I'd be working on ideas to run away abroad. There are countries where you can essentially purchase citizenship with around a $20…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/24 10:52 PM
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I'm not divorced but I know I'll always be doing better than my wife, just as I do now. That's because regardless of the situation, I am always more optimistic and I can be doing well with not a cent to my name. Doing well is a state of mind.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 10:42 PM
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The main thing I didn't really agree with in OPs post is to basically remove them from your mind. If you have kids, that's not really an option 100%, even if you want to do it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 09:39 PM
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This is such a good analogy. I have the exact issue. Try and help or be nice and be functional... get destroyed for no resson...
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 09:25 PM
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My wife's family isn't nearby so we don't see them, which is sometimes an issue. But honestly she didn't have a good relationship with them before we married. She just randomly decided one day, after 7 years, that my family had always treated her poorly and all the sudden recalled like a decade of slights and insults. Truth is my family has always been super friendly and helpful for us, none of the BS she brings up happened and nobody's treating her bad... It's been a massive point of contention…
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 09:23 PM
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This is what I think about marriage as well. The tough thing is having no idea how your wife will be as a mother. They can completely transform after having the first baby, then you don't know wtf is going to happen.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 09:17 PM
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My wife is like this, same situation even. She has successfully goaded me into saying not nice things two times in 8 years... and one time she also misunderstood what I was saying in a negative way. But you know, nuance does not exist... She's said all kinds of vile shit about both me and my family, prettymuch all unfounded bologna. She's also acted completely insane when upset to an outrageous degree, I liken myself to a monk meditating in the heart of a storm during bouts like this. I'm proud …
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 08:41 PM
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I think this too. It's what I've experienced with women in my life. Only my sister has been kind of an exception, probably because she grew up lazing around with me many evenings.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 05:08 AM
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If I end up divorced this will be how it is with our situation, she doesn't know it but I do.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 04:56 AM
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I laughed 😅
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 04:52 AM
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So true, I've tried many times to explain to my wife that she has to make time to have free time. Also, don't chose to create work for yourself and then get mad you're doing it... Understand your limits, priorities, and things that make you happy and spend your time wisely... But nope, continues filling every moment with random meaningless activities that cost money.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 04:51 AM
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This is how it is, women prioritize consumption... time waste and material waste. Chores are a time waste, they don't get you closer to any goals. If money is time chores cost people thousands every year... They also prioritize shopping and travel, again two things that work against goals. Men prioritize productive activities, making money and creating opportunities. And men would prefer to optimize their down time with activities that let us get more out of life, things we enjoy, because in the…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 04:21 AM
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Thing is, women make all the mess. The kids do too, but as I used to point out at the beginning of our marriage... the chores wouldn't be necessary if you simply didn't make so much mess. I can use one bowl all week and one fork... and cook my own meals within that single bowl. My wife dirties every utensil in the kitchen every single day. The amount of mess everywhere is insane with women, they just think it's normal to make big messes all day and then the chores gotta be done 1-2 times a day e…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 04:06 AM
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Damn that man. I'd honestly be looking for ways to escape paying that even leaving the country as an option if my kids were grown.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 02:21 AM
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Hilarious advice, nothing is more expensive than living with a woman - especially if there are kids, that's when common sense spending and saving goes sideways. I saved well all my life until I got about 2 years into marriage. Just adding all of the family to your insurance alone is a huge expense. But the overwhelming bulk of expense will be frivolous spending on food and random day to day shopping bullshit and perishables.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 02:12 AM
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This is the thing keeping me in my marriage, just the thought of missing my kids childhood. He's the coolest toddler ever and without my guidance he'll have a hell of a time just roughing it out with his mom. She's super nuts so she'll make it very difficult for me to get good time with the little guy. Hate the thought of it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 07:35 PM
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Any practical tips on this one?
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 07:22 PM
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This guy been through it, it's obvious you've had to ruminate on this topic far too much. That's how I know your wife was crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 07:17 PM
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Man I feel that off-limits comment - it's so stupid when the wife loses their mind because they chose to do a chore they didn't like... it's like well I never want to hear this shit again...so I'm now doing this chore for the rest of our time together. That feel when...Literally doing the chore every single day is better than listening to the complaints and attitude because you're not doing it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 04:21 AM
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My wife randomly decided she hated my family after 7 years with pretty much a good relationship and no real issues at all. My family is only ever helpful and being nice to the wife, they have whiplash from the behavior, and they're really the only reliable people out there for us. Nothing can get close to grinding my gears like listening to her talk shit about my family, for non-reasons...getting completely psychotic over literally complements or attempts to make conversation. Stuff normal peopl…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 04:06 AM
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It's not even lately, it's what are you doing for me right now.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 02:37 PM
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The wonderful reality of knowing boys and men are logical and observant. Unfortunately for mom they learn exactly who daddy really is, and he's a great man and role model.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 02:31 PM
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They will bail on real plans on the dating apps like 90% of the time. What I used to do to improve the odds back in 2014 was make sure I had a call with them first. I'd basically be real smooth with the initial texts, but prompt, set up a call, then set up a meet-up. Worked decently. Also, you should always make the plan and drive/pick them up. If they drive it's just another flake opportunity, it also extends the time of your date and could make it more interesting with the change of environmen…
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 02:15 PM
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I'm not divorced and my marriage is optimistic right now but I can 100% confidently state I wouldn't be pursuing Ant women with any real energy at all. There are so so many things I haven't been able to give energy since being married, and having a child. I'd do the things I want.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 01:54 PM
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This is it, hea angry woman will never consider your point of view or empathize. She'll only beat you verbally until she gets something she wants.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 01:42 PM
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Same experience when my wife and I have conflicts.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 01:39 PM
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Yea I hate apologizing but I often apologize literally just to end whatever altercation, because the alternative is not worth the energy and might as well cut to the chase.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 01:36 PM
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Feel this comment, the rehashing on the same old shit is absolutely exhausting. Some of the things get beaten like a dead horse so extensively that as soon as you hear a hint of it cone back its just time to flip the off switch. When an argument with my wife takes a turn for ancient history we've already been through 50 times, these days I just power down and sit on the couch or go out to the front porch.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 01:35 PM
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I'm curious if any women exists that isn't like this. Great characterization of what happens when there's an argument with my wife. Respect goes out the window with the name calling, will say any hurtful bullshit about me or my family, glad to argue forever about minor forgettable things that have happened over the past 7+ years.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 01:29 PM
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Sounds like me, my dad is the same. He was the best possible father figure and husband to my mother. Alwats had a job, a leader, respectable, pulled weight at home, provided, and good optimistic attitude...She still divorced him after 25 years of marriage, for really no reason, just as soon as me and my sibling were through college and living on our own. She also tried to spread some insane lies about my dad during the divorce, which were outrageous and frankly I was an adult who knew my father …
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 06:48 PM
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If I did end up divorcing with my wife I'd 100% stay on my own and simply enjoy the freedom of doing what I want un-harrassed.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 02:11 AM
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Right, she knows the dog would be ecstatic to see him and she doesn't want to give him the satisfaction.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 01:45 AM
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Bro, they can only communicate by app... it's high conflict. If he does anything remotely illegal she'll use it against him.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 09:49 PM
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Fuck them OP, if I went through he'll and my siblings and mother sided with the enemy I'd tell them to fuck off and I have a great relationship with them.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 09:30 PM
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I feel like this about my wife kinda, and we're not divorcing yet, counciling. She's put me through hell but I still enjoy myself and other people's company. She's the only one who has problems with me. If she didn't give me so much shit I wouldn't have any problems being happy either 💯
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 09:26 PM
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That is a dream bro, never in my life has this happened. If there's consoling it will be myself doing it. If I'm ever without wife again...I will want nothing from women. Only their money, as my clients.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 08:21 PM
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Our situation is way worse than a bit of awkward silence, I wish for silence. But we're still trying with couples therapy. I think our issues are much too difficult to solve with a few therapy sessions. They're diffences in opinion on people and events my wife can not seem to firgive/forget.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 05:17 PM
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I mean allowing your wife to wrestle on the floor with a masculine fighter is just a recipe for infidelity.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 03:26 AM
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Yea, I know my wife can switch like Dr. Jackel. If we really did get divorced I'd probably always assume poor compliance on her part and have to pay babysitters and support to fill instead of her. I'd never ask her for any help, definitely the issue would be our kid telling her about nannies, and babysitters... which is more fodder for complaint.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 05:16 AM
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This line is a childish insult in my opinion, and I've gotten the same thing. It's simply not true in most objective measures if you're doing it right... but if they don't feel happy... then you must not be a good husband. It's bullshite and it really tries to bring out a visceral response - you want to lay out all the reasons why you are a great husband and they're being unreasonable, but that's just a waste of energy.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 04:55 AM
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My friend, this is almost exactly my current situation - except I have one kid. My wife would actually take her ring off, and not wear it for awhile on more than one occasion (not for good reason either). My wife does not cheat but comes from a different culture, so there's some misunderstanding there on general marriage decorum... I gave her a heart to heart about the ring and she hasn't been doing that in recent history. Things have actually improved for us and were in counciling. I'm still lu…
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 04:50 AM
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This is not a foreign country for you anymore, it's been 23 years. Change that mindset, that's your country and you can do anything. Or literally just do anything that brings you some enjoyment, live for the little things. When I'm miserable I can still cruise in my car and listen to MY music, get amped up...hell i can even make money doing this with Uber. I can still get some time on my phone to watch shows I find interesting. I can work on my next business scheme or even just enjoy a nice cold…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 02:54 PM
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Yea, I'm not divorced or separated yet but if my wife wanted a separation I'd serve papers... just giving them runway to find a new situation, new guy, new job, new life, while continuing to spend my money most likely.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 04:41 AM
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Yep, usually it's stuff you didn't do...which you only have one body and 24hrs a day. So the stuff an average guy does not do daily can fill any stadium, take your pick on thing to complain about.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 12:23 AM
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I've been in trouble for everything in the kitchen too. I always think in my head "m***f** you do it then, I'm never doing this shit again." What I'd tell anybody else if they gave me that crap.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 04:30 AM
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Sometimes the simple and slightly longer route is better than the faster but highly complicated route...
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 04:24 AM
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Calm down, definition should be the opposite of its actual meaning. Should be an urban dictionary alternative definition.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 04:21 AM
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She was (is) clearly a gem. Man I kinda feel like a pussy now, I thought my wife was hard on me but this made me feel a bit better. Maybe we can make it after all, thanks bud!
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 04:17 AM
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Bro I am wfh and I busted my ass with our first born after the delivery but wife still complains I didn't do enough, I'd bet like 99% of women if asked would say their husband didn't do enough when the baby was born...prob just SOL on that either way you slice it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 12:41 AM
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This is a great point. She should have to deal with the fallout of her own BS decisions.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 11:03 PM
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I'm still with my wife not separated or anything and we've had some very difficult times, I've delt with some significant disrespect...but never infidelity (emotional or otherwise) I draw the line there. I could not stomach other disrespect + infidelity, maybe it's pride idk could not do it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 05:18 PM
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Relationships where the woman out earns the man have a variety of issues. Even if they can weather the emasculation of it with love, it really gets problematic when raiding kids. The mother will always undermine the man's decisions and rules around the house. I've seen this dynamic and what happens is the kids grow up with a lack of respect for the father and spoiled by the mother, as women support kids differently then men.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 04:20 PM
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I believe the guy who posted is probably not far off too. I knew a guy who had multiple affairs with married women he worked with in an office setting...they never had any remorse. It disturbed me but I'll never forget it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 04:12 PM
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Yea, women tend to project on that. Especially younger working women. They think that having a career and higher pay makes them more attractive...because that's what makes men more attractive to them, so the reverse must also be true. Therefore, they are a great catch. They often will underestimate the attractiveness of a girl who simply is nice as well, I believe most men just want two things - #1 Someone nice #2 Someone who looks good If you're those two things, whelp other circumstances don't…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 04:07 PM
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I would not be able to tolerate that behavior... I'd get her papers asap following this. Also, I'd start chatting other women in front of her, maybe even display it on the TV monitor or something in her face idk, childish but pisses me off.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 03:49 PM
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I'm still married and not currently on path for divorce but we've had a good share of issues. After my experiences with dating, girlfriends, and then finally marriage... I will say I am 100% I'd be a single man for a long long time if we ever broke this thing up.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 02:35 PM
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Every woman I've ever been with has been like this including my wife, I have essentially determined this is a difference in male/female genetics. Like another commenter added, when my wife is finally done with literally every possible chore that can be worked in the house, every meal that can be prepped, and every plan that can be progressed on...laying in bed she will still speak about some other thing that is a burden on her mind. There is never peace and relaxation in her mind, only constant …
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:07 PM
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Haha my love language too is not getting screamed at...also not being around mental behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 10:50 AM
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My wife decided my side of the family is crap to her about 4 months ago out of the blue, it seemed for me. And she's been a jerk to all of them and been avoiding them since, it's made our whole situation more shitty- especially since my family is taken by surprise and really have always been just trying to be nice...
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 10:48 AM
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I had another argument today and I feel I'm done tolerating the behavior, and risk is hightening with my wife (more unhinged speak and behavior) and both of us are mentally and physically exhausted. It's been cold shoulders and battles up and down since September (we're a few years in w/ toddler.) Just today I came to the realization I'm ready to demolish everything we built and start a new life...because I simply can no longer tolerate the emotional outbursts and poor attitude/treatment. After …
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 10:36 AM
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My wife is never wrong, will almost never apologize, and whatever it is it's actually my fault and I've done much worse. (If you ask her)
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 09:46 AM
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I just got out of a argument with my wife, she pulled out little behavior things from 6+ years ago I literally could only faintly remember. Also things from 2 years back, 4 years back etc... I have no idea how she reserves headspace for interactions that happened so long ago. Also, this is a huge problem for us. She never let's any single thing go, ever. Forgive and forget is Gold, the real key to a successful relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 09:35 AM
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My mom did this to my dad and then tried to tell me some lies about him I knew were lies at the get go....I was already an adult. Could not believe my mother's behavior. I told her off about that too.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 09:11 AM
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I suspect I will actually end up financially better off in the end, even though I will likely burn through all my savings paying legal fees. And probably for unreasonable expenses my wife says are necessary for our toddler, medical, therapy...whatnot. Even with child support I'll save much much more money without her poor spending habits, expensive activities, and travel costs.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 09:08 AM
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I have compromised my self pride to endure my wife and attempt to keep our family together. I recognize my wussy behavior when it's happening and no it's not my default setting. She can't handle it at all when I do give her my real unfiltered thoughts, the relationship would have been over about a year ago I think. The biggest issue for me is there's a good chance she'll try and take my kid to another country, where she has family. Also, I'd really like to keep our house... but don't think that'…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 07:01 PM
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This again is similar to how I'm feeling about my relationship. While my wife has been in the extra room and started working to make money for something we don't need right now... I have not felt more at peace in atleast 2 years. I feel free anytime she's away from me, even when I'm watching our toddler...it's much easier when she's out. Though I've always found anything done with women to be more challenging...but not like this. My wife now insults and disrespects me more than my 7th grade bull…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 02:42 PM
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Your comment really resonates with me. I do think I'm emotionally abused by her, and what's crazy is she thinks the same thing about how I treat her... of course if anybody could be a fly on the wall they'd see I only ever try to help my wife and be there for her. I am in almost your exact described situation though for less than half the time you put in, and somewhat less extreme I'd probably say. I certainly am damaged though... I continue to work hard to try to set her back on course but she …
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 02:18 PM
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Hmm, I caught my wife had moved some of our tax documents into the extra room. She's not too savvy and probably wouldn't know exactly what acct info from those files she's grabbed would be helpful for her (I could probably grab a few pieces of paper from the pile that show balances)...but she is aware of my primary accounts from prior government documentation we've had to submit and has an idea what's in there. Wouldn't her lawyer try to force me to share the details of those specific accounts i…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 07:10 AM
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I'm a bit older than you and we've got a toddler which is the biggest challenge. It was always a big risk marrying my wife, who was here on a visa (now a citizen). I've always known that I could lose everything if things went sideways but thought we had a shot. It doesn't take much for me to be happy, but now with the toddler there's things I could regret. I don't want my wife to struggle a divorcee life (she has no idea), also don't want to lose our kid, don't want to lose our pet...mentally I'…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 06:46 AM
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Weirdly enough that's prettymuch true, but also for the money and variety of benefits there. Also I learned from my father it's important the man manages the finances.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 06:31 AM
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I didn't do anything at all except try my best to make her life comfortable man... we had an arguement about a month ago and she misunderstood a couple things I was trying to tell her. I've bent over backwards, every day and apologized but man she said 1000x worse stuff to me and acted crudely towards me in ways id never do to her...It's death of 1000 cuts for me over here, she's just got a laundry list of little mini offenses that she's been tallying up I guess forever... it's not even stuff I …
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 05:51 AM
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I kind of like my ring, I picked it out its not really traditional. I am thinking if we end up divorcing I'll just wear it on my other hand.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 08:02 PM
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My wife tends to take off her ring when we're arguing. I am always worried she'll throw it outside or in the trash or something so I swipe if for safe keeping quick. We're not divorced but she hasn't worn her ring now for a little over a month, because she hasn't forgiven our last argument. This is the second time in our marriage she has decided she doesn't want to wear it. I find it highly disrespectful.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 07:56 PM
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I feel this way about my wife, she tries so hard to remember every little offense I've made since we married. And it's not even anything I did, just a bunch of stuff she thinks I should have done, and didn't do. In reality I've only tried to support her and our family as my top priority. Despite being constantly attacked, I know I've done a great job and gone above and beyond in our relationship... she is irrational basically because she's not able to be happy. I also feel very badly for my wife…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 04:28 AM
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Does this actually work? Wouldn't they just see the transfers on the bank statement? Won't this just piss off the judge?
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 04:16 AM
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I worry about this, after a divorce I can't see myself being nearly as motivated in my career... what am I building? My child will benefit from child support, but on my end it'll just feel like throwing 20% or so of my income in the trash.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 02:56 AM
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My wife suddenly turned on me, she was kind and just great but she obsessed now with little slights and misunderstandings, she's beyond reason and will not listen. Completely changed woman.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 02:52 AM
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This is kind of what I expect if I were to get divorced, but it will be rough for us also it probably won't be the same house. Be somewhere else.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 02:45 AM
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I honestly don't understand the mutual friend loss thing... I'm not divorced but any mutual friends we have are prettymuch just people my wife decided she wanted us to be friends with. I have no interest in them really, just glad my wife is making friends. It's prettymuch guaranteed I wouldn't be in contact with any of them if we were to divorce, and I'm okay with that. It's like the other guy said, they weren't your friends.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 05:34 PM
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How do you submit yourself for counseling? What kind of counselor? How do I get the mmpi2 test? Can I just search for a counselor near me?
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 11:35 AM
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I get the same here, I have worked tirelessly for my wife and family and the minute she decides I've dropped a ball...I've been crap our whole marriage. Just not reality.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 09:57 AM
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This is how I'm feeling with my wife right now. I support her in every way possible and put the roof over our heads and she only care about a couple careless things said in an argument and some times I failed to defend her feelings over the years...enough to completely tear me a new arsehole with emotional outbursts in the middle of the night after I've been bending over backwards to basically do anything I possibly can for her and our child. We have a great day/week and I'm rewarded with a emot…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 09:55 AM
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This is 💯 happiness is a state of mind. I'm a naturally happy person, it takes very little for me to enjoy my time. It's the glass half empty, glass half full thing... when I'm faced with a problem I start solving it.... I don't sulk, I've never been a sulker - I learned young sulking does not get results....maybe in unique circumstances. But guess what if a problem I ran into could be solved by sulking, I'd figure that out.... get shit done. As the trolls when I was 14 playing online FPS games …
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/23 01:38 AM
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I get the same, remember what you did two years ago? Remember what you said when X? I think she literally just thinks as hard as she can back to little moments that upset her...stuff a level headed human would just forget in less than 24 hours.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/23 01:32 AM
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This is just so well explained and also the reality I've seen with women in my life. It can also go the other way, someone who has been bad to them in the past can male them feel good one time and all the sudden their past together is all peachy. I've seen women end multi-year friendships or cut off family members simply because they suddenly decided they didn't like the way they've made them feel one time, even if completely unintentional by the offender.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/23 11:31 PM
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I did the opposite and worked harder, increased my ambitions and more than tripled my income...I'm sure to be even more screwed than this guy.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/23 10:35 PM
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She is from that region of the world, not exactly. Also, we had some events happen recently that have snapped her out of her craziness and we're miraculously on pretty good terms now... though I'm still keeping frosty.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 05:14 PM
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She was actually very kind and normal before we married and we never had much conflict at all before we had the baby. I could never have imagined the tantrums and madness I'm in now.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 06:42 PM
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Yes, that did not age well. It's still true but...she's gotten all twisted. I have always only had good things to say about my wife until recently.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 06:29 PM
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This is very similar to my current situation though divorce has not materialized yet. Very different background from me and my wife but the story is very close.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 06:46 AM
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Back when I was still on the market in 2014 I did all this crap, it was horrible. Women just play hard on those dating apps. Only time dates worked was when they moved fast. Women don't respect slow guys anymore. Maybe the older ones but not in the 20's.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 06:37 AM
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Another dimension to deal with, goodluck to you as well.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 06:12 AM
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I'm a mess right now too because I think a divorce is coming, but the thing about me and my life experience is I'm very used to risk. I knew when I married my wife there was high risk this day would come, I also know there's high risk I can lose everything. I also know that it doesn't take much for me to enjoy life, give me a family members basement a tv and the internet and I'm gonna be just fine regardless of how shit things go, hell I can still just go enjoy some fishing. I'm not gonna worry …
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 04:25 AM
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I suspect many of the people on this sub did not manage to keep cool 😩 I know I haven't all the time and I'm quite patient.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 03:06 AM
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I haven't heard this and hope I never do...also every woman I've ever known is one of these.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 02:52 AM
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I think it's easier for women to accuse men of gaslighting because they simply remember wayyyyy more little meaningless shit and dialog than any man is going to reserve brain space for... Literally not being able to recall a little convo or quip from 5 months ago makes you a gaslighter... And I forget just about everything so I'm a prime target for gaslighting accusations.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 02:50 AM
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If I was in an alimony state I would seriously be horrified, I think I might flee the country.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 02:28 AM
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I feel I'm about to be in this boat, 2 yo here and wife told me today she wants to file divorce. Though she's said similar things in the past year.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 02:24 AM
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This shit seriously pains me to read bud, I feel your pain through this outrageous behavior you've outlined here. Wtf.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 01:46 AM
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Definitely agree on letting the dogs go.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 01:44 AM
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A masters is fairly irrelevant in the US, it can be a feather in the cap but not much more than that. To get the high paying Corp jobs here you need to know somebody, have a background of success, or be rich enough to buy yourself the desired title (start your own business). However the bulk of Corp employees make just barely enough to get by these days $25k-60k average in central America 1/2 to 1/3 of paycheck prob going toward rent. You can make more than that in most trades & maintain more se…
/r/TheRedPill20/06/19 03:06 AM
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Colleges are prettymuch for women now already. Outside of STEM, women outnumber men on campuses, the rules are all gynocentric & they are advantaged by their systems. The real money is going to be made by those choosing alternative paths, trades, entrepreneurship and technology. Women in their 20's also make more money now on average than men of equivalent age & are more likely to have a degree. We're going to see a continuous decline of men seeking college education as the worth of a degree sin…
/r/TheRedPill18/06/19 12:59 PM
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I do know Tinder does a similar thing bit the difference I experienced was that if you just keep swiping & you're getting a better variety of girls & seeing different girls each day. In bumble I knew the first 100 girls I saw were going to be the most popular, smoking hot chicks. The girls every dude on there hit yes on. So they we're getting way too many options because of this. I even occasionally got the same girls multiple times. On Tinder it seems different the way the profiles are served u…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/19 07:46 PM
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It is critical pictures are taken in good lighting and you are well groomed/masculine in your photos. It also helps to have photos in a few different settings that signal high value, at a corporate event, somewhere fun, somewhere adventurous etc... Like OP says most average girls you're going to want to message get at least 20 messages a day and the very attractive ones will get hundreds. So you have to hook them fast, I actually had success with variations of: "is there a shopping cart somewher…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/19 04:51 PM
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I'm doing it out of the kindness of my heart. To help steer the poor new sub arrivals to greener pastures. Knowing I've imparted valuable knowledge to readers is enough compensation.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/19 06:44 PM
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Whoever wrote my history book put in multiple paragraphs on Pancho-Villa, doesn't really mean he was obsessed with the guy.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/19 06:35 PM
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A wrong statement. I've known him forever and thus have been exposed to his media 10+ years, there is no obsessive stalker like behavior going on. I simply see it occasionally and have clicked through a few times.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/19 06:25 PM
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Think what you want, I'm calling it like it is and giving useful information. You're conjecture is not an argument.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/19 05:36 PM
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Think what you want man, I'm trying to help out new guys here. I'm pretty much retired with all this game stuff, I have already had my success with women over the past 12 years or so of my adult life, I found this sub in 2012. I've had success with several women and TRP has helped me stay on a the right track, not wasting my time, resources or effort in my interactions with women & helping me to identify quality women. I've decided to have children despite my knowledge and so I married, my wife …
/r/TheRedPill23/04/19 04:31 PM
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He's an asian dude, about 5'8", buzz cut and average build.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/19 03:31 PM
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Well, a lot of times men who are very scrawny are unhealthy. It can be due to injuries sustained, poor nutrition or a sedintary lifestyle.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/19 03:20 PM
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I definitely take it as a compliment. Really if a hot girl even mentions you you're doing it right. If she's complaining about you, she gives a care. You won't even hear a boring guys name come up, ever.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/17 01:09 PM
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Got to lock lips first date. Always makes an impact, shows initiative, confidence, and intent. Since I've been dating I can say with certainty that girls will start flaking if you don't take initiative on the first date or at least very early on. When I first started out I did shit like this amazing date he set up here too. I got put in the orbit because of it. The girls that stuck around were the ones I made out with in the car after cheap dinner(under $40). He did a good job isolating on the b…
/r/TheRedPill28/02/17 04:52 AM
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I just started dating a Thai girl here for a study abroad program. She has been exceptional, polite and traditional. I weep for Western gender dynamics.
/r/TheRedPill17/02/17 12:34 PM
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