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| 3 | Today marks one year since I blocked my narcissistic, emotionally abusive, alcoholic ex. Here are all the ways my life has improved since:y’all, i have so much gratitude for your comments! and thank you for these awards! so much love to each and every one of you. i continue to be blown away by the supportive community of FDS. and special h/t to the mods who are punting these lurkers and scrotes. i see them come through bc i still have email notifications come on and FDS mods are playing an undefeated game of whack-a-mole. I STAN. it is truly wild how they can’t stand a woman who has leveled up. a woman on her own, in her glory, in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 07:45 PM |
| 4 | I finally left someone who broke my confidence, what now?Read the book Whole Again. It was incredibly healing for me as I was in the early stages of my codependency recovery and I still return to it. Know that you are supported by so many other women who know exactly how you're feeling right now. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 06:35 AM |
| 7 | Don't take the bait if a scrote from your past contacts you. They are only contacting you for nefarious and selfish reasons.girl same. they are coming out of the woodwork. the AUDACITY. it’s so pathetic and embarrassing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 06:25 PM |
| 15 | The "Unconditional Love" mindset is toxic and you should refrain from itwhew. this realization clicked for me last year. i grew up very catholic in a nuclear family and was constantly told by my parents that they loved me and my brother unconditionally, just like god loves us unconditionally, so that’s the example of love i had and that’s what i gave in all of my romantic and platonic relationships. three years ago i found out my father had been cheating on my mother for 20 years and my mom had known for 10. i can’t even begin to describe the betrayal i felt when i … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 07:01 PM |
| 10 | Hopping on the new year, new ring bandwagon with my petite uncut moonstone. Treat yourselves as the queens you are!this is beautiful! my rising sign is cancer which is ruled by the moon and i’m obsessed with moon stuff :) can i ask where you got it? stunning! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 01:52 AM |
| 4 | how to answer the “how’s dating going for you in covid?” question on OLDthis is a helpful perspective. tbh i’ve been on OLD in the last 2 months as an experiment to apply my FDS learnings and challenge myself to more ruthlessly filter. it’s been so eye opening for me and when i get to a point where i feel confused i keep going back to trusting my intuition and the concept that this should feel easy. i shouldn’t feel confused. it truly is a numbers game on OLD. thank you for this! | /r/askFDS | 02/01/21 07:58 PM |
| 1 | how to answer the “how’s dating going for you in covid?” question on OLDi’m in LA so there is a stay at home order since just after thanksgiving. i can’t tell you how many times in the last month men have asked to go on walk dates. which obviously would never but on top of cases surging?! the AUDACITY. question for you: i would be open to something like a picnic because it’s more thoughtful. did your date suggest that or did you give hints? i know FDS stresses not to hand men date ideas but i do want to get a better sense of how to communicate (if i need to at all) … | /r/askFDS | 02/01/21 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Comment here to become an approved userRequest to comment | /r/askFDS | 02/01/21 02:51 AM |
| 8 | FDS ladies are not dumb AND didn’t text their exes Merry Christmas ✨6 months no contact this month with my NVM ex and i’ve never felt more connected to myself, my purpose and where i’m going. i’m finally giving myself the respect, care and attention i deserve instead of giving it to someone else who doesn’t deserve it. i am so motivated to reach my personal and life goals and i’m wishing all you queens the same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 01:56 AM |
| 1 | How do I mention what I want on a virtual date without explicitly saying it?will do thank you so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 04:29 PM |
| 39 | Can I preach right now?was coming here to type this and i’m glad you beat me to it 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 02:03 AM |
| 20 | Hint: the answer is usually “no” 💕i 100% believe our bodies show us signs sometimes even before we see them. my ex gave me alopecia areata from stress, the most recent one gave me chronic yeast infections and i had a panic attack for the first time ever with him. never again will i ignore my body. it’s been so helpful for me to get back into my body in a supported way lately. i’ve found a lot of success with small doses of cbd/thc combined with low impact exercise and dancing. it is helping me to feel into my body more so i am a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 04:10 AM |
| 3 | Anybody watching the Undoing?definitely watch through the end of the season. the way they do flashbacks of seemingly ordinary moments with hugh grant’s character and their family dynamics is so accurate. they portrayed the nuance of the narcissistic sociopath very accurately IMO. the tip toeing around him so you don’t piss him off, the grandiose self centered mindset disguised by a career of service, the performative empathy... it was incredibly triggering to watch at times tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 12:54 AM |
| 42 | Don’t stay in a one-sided relationship, or fight for “love.” You’re worth so much more, I guarantee, and I don’t have to know you to know that.i truly only learned this when i went no contact with my emotionally abusive ex. i was raised catholic in a family that drilled into me that “unconditional love” was the way of life. that meant sacrificing everything for love. so obviously when i gave so much of myself to my partner, and the same level of commitment wasn’t reciprocated, i was devastated. it was always about giving externally and never receiving. unconditional love should only be for yourself, babies and pets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 03:34 PM |
| 10 | Don’t respondinterestingly i’ve started to do this too and then they double text or even try to facetime when i don’t respond. it’s so freeing not to care anymore or seek that external validation anymore just to be the cool girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 03:23 PM |
| 16 | “PoRn iS eMpOwErInG” ok siscertainly not at all insinuating that men use facts and women are emotional! i did not mean for my words to be interpreted that. i’m talking specifically about how i have approached arguments with some men and i have gotten passionate and angry, and they have seen it as emotional. tbh i look at someone like aoc who is so poised and brings the facts and i want to acquire the skills of frankly any female politician who has to deal with men. i agree there’s no use in debating or discussing with som… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 09:56 PM |
| 22 | “PoRn iS eMpOwErInG” ok sisi don’t! and if it got to negging i would not find the argument worth continuing. BUT men in general tend to think they are better debaters and instead of letting my emotional self react i’m trying to get better at debating with facts because i find it to be more effective especially when dealing with men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 09:19 PM |
| 25 | “PoRn iS eMpOwErInG” ok sisso helpful. thanks so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 07:23 PM |
| 16 | “PoRn iS eMpOwErInG” ok sisthank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 05:17 PM |
| 103 | “PoRn iS eMpOwErInG” ok sisfull disclosure i completely agree with the ideology that porn is not empowering for women and is detrimental to men as well. but do you know if there are other peer-reviewed studies that aren't from a religious university? IMO it dilutes the message and could weaken an argument with a dude who's trying to neg me about it, you know what i mean? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 04:58 PM |
| 2 | I’ve released the scarcity mindset & I can’t turn backthat makes me so happy to hear (& you’re like the 20th former new yorker to tell it’s much better out west. i am SO excited ☺️) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 12:58 AM |
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