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| 29 | Is red pill manosphere stuff or feminism more of a threat to male advocacy?I was going to say that they both kind of block off reform to male identity and wellbeing in two different ways, but you make a strong point here. Ideologically they are equally harmful, but one is put in practice much more widely. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/06/26 11:03 PM |
| 8 | Why is SA and rape not so traumatizing for men as it is women?It is, but men don't admit it. I have someone very close to me who was and it pretty much wrecked his life, but he never attributes all of the psychological and physical problems he developed to sexual assault. For a long time he even played it off that "you know, it kinda felt good, so it was fine." Took him years to come to terms with how much it messed him up. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/05/26 11:13 AM |
| 41 | The Dangerous Lie Behind “Be a Man”Right, there is a reason why "vulnerability" is called vulnerability. Showing someone your boss fight, glowing weak spot means they can use it against you to destroy or control you. In a society where men are treated with contempt, this is suicide. Your mention of the very concept of mankeeping is a great point. If a man doesn't listen to his partner, it's detachment and a failure to do emotional labor. When a woman does it, it's breaking free of the shackles of patriarchy. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/03/26 10:14 AM |
| 9 | Conscription Horror in Ukraine -and what you can do about it.Thanks for the info, Vlad! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/01/26 05:37 PM |
| 16 | The Myth of the Lazy FatherAlso, a baby can't fire you. As a man who had been on both sides of the equation (workaholic stay at home dad for babies, then workaholic corporate careerist in high paying field) I cam say the high paying workaholic is more stressful for me than the stay at home dad role. And that was with a two kids in diapers, one of which was a micro preemie with extreme needs and 2 doctors appointments a day. But really, there's a lot of variability on which one is "harder" based on your personality. I happ… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/12/25 10:42 AM |
| 7 | Im not even a leftist but this sub is a breath of fresh airThis is more or less my perspective. But I do want to see society move forward cautiously rather than carelessly, which is why I'd consider myself "center left." Let's look at gender issues as an example. The current left wing gender movement wanted to move fast, and to do that used white men and men in general as a narrative foil, which produced backlash undermining their own cause. A more cautious, kinder gender equality movement that served ALL people would produce better results. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/12/25 11:51 AM |
| 1 | I am convinced that many women want to protect their role as the main parent to their childrenYeah, a lot of men simply get severe psychological pressure on them to disengage from parenthood. Engaged fathers are also targets while disengaged fathers aren't. Let me give you an example. My wife's father was not just a deadbeat dad, but was a child sex abuser who abused my wife behind closed doors for over a decade while she was a child. He never was held to account. Didn't end up in jail, no CPS, nothing. Meanwhile, I devote pretty much my whole life to nurturing and raising my kids. This … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/11/25 10:56 AM |
| 20 | I am convinced that many women want to protect their role as the main parent to their childrenYES. I see this all the time, and it can be very damaging to the family dynamic. It's tragic, because I was very lucky in that my wife was not territorial in this way and being an engaged an involved father was the best experience I've had in my life, and it's sad to see other men have to miss this because they get elbowed out. My own mom was like this when I was a child, and when I was an adult. She was a good mom, but would absolutely critique and hen peck my dad's parenting to hell and back, … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/11/25 11:11 AM |
| 13 | “It was mostly men who volunteered!” (With a voice of distain)Ooo, that's some good spin! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/10/25 08:20 PM |
| 3 | Unpopular opinion, recently, this sub discusses culture and the language of the discourse more than the actual issues billions of men face.Can't agree with this more. In the same way that women have unique social issues that prevent them from being their best selves, men have these same unique issues. Would love to talk about them more. A massive issue dispeaportionately affecting men is the "meaning" gap and social isolation, which are both related actually. Would love to be talking about it more. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/09/25 11:12 AM |
| 52 | New report reveals that young men are feeling "defensive, disenfranchised and uncertain"I think every man has an impulse to be good, protective, and nurturing to those around them. But they also have deep emotional trauma based adaptations to not be taken advantage of or mistreated when they ARE good, protective, and nurturing. So when they are mistreated and taken advantage of when exhibiting prosocial traits, they develop emotional wounds that shout at them: "White knighting is for suckers! Disengage with the social structure that is punishing you! Don't give to the tribe if all … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/09/25 11:21 AM |
| -1 | What are your thoughts on pornography and sex work?Lol, I know. It's like people didn't even read my comment, and latched on to a single word and started wailing on a straw man. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/09/25 02:04 PM |
| -2 | What are your thoughts on pornography and sex work?Sure it can be used in a healthy way if you are deliberate and honest about it. But let's be real. Does our society at large have a healthy relationship with porn? The reality is that the vast majority of people are chasing dopamine hits and using it like a drug in a way that gives them short term relief while debasing their long term mental wellbeing. A lot of people use it as a coping mechanism for emotional wounds. In that way, porn is like alcohol. Sure, it's possible to have a healthy relat… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 18/09/25 02:18 PM |
| -3 | What are your thoughts on pornography and sex work?As someone with 3 kids and who has a deep, soulful connection with his wife (including great sex life), I can tell you that porn and only fans would just debase this incredible, wonderful thing I have in my life. I think all of it is the equivalent to medications like Lexapro. If you are suffering psychologically and there is no underlying cure to your condition, it can help you get by, but if (in the majority of cases) there IS a cure to your condition, then it prolongs your suffering and trade… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 18/09/25 11:21 AM |
| 6 | How misandry is the true thing that makes men redpill.Is there such a thing as an indentitarian moderate party though? That seems like kind of the whole point: politics as a way to govern society, rather than an all in cosmic battle against good or evil. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/09/25 07:57 PM |
| 5 | How misandry is the true thing that makes men redpill.If a center left or center right party popped up in American politics, I'd take either. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/09/25 04:31 PM |
| 27 | Double Life, new to the communityIt's funny because I bet you identify with both sides of your respective communities, while knowing that both sides ridicule each other. I relate in a lot of ways. I have a lot of EQ, am poetic, soulful, nurturing, but at the same time am rugged, self reliant, and have a ruthless streak. Some of these traits are traditionally masculine while other traits can be viewed as "gay" or feminine. It can be exasperating because at the end of the day I just want to BE MYSELF, which is actually good for m… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/09/25 12:29 PM |
| 40 | I don’t see how I could ever be loved by a woman, any womanIt's natural to want to get validation and corregulation from others, but it can be a trap to let that validation become too much of your character. I'd ask yourself who YOU want to be, devoid of what other people would want of you. Then follow that vision. Once you do, the people who align with your character and values will approve, and those who don't you can let drift away. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/09/25 12:05 PM |
| 85 | How misandry is the true thing that makes men redpill.This is what I've been saying for a long time. The political and cultural right is the only place that advocates for the wellbeing of men. It's the only place that actually has a sympathetic vision for men. So of course, vulnerable men will gradually flip their politics and attitudes in order to live someplace that isn't perpetually hostile to them. If you are a strong willed, reform minded man, you just end up being a political orphan with no place comfortable at all (because the right wing doe… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/09/25 12:02 PM |
| 1 | You are a pseudo-male if you don't want to be disposable - says Robert Heinlein and his moral philosophy of male disposabilityI dunno, I do think it was relevant historically for men to prioritize the lived of women and children in this way. Men aren't a reproductive bottleneck, and premodern societies could barely keep replacement levels of population growth. Sometimes they didn't at all. Likewise, in this same vein, it stood to reason that women should prioritize reproduction, which all meant gender role differentiation. BUT, we don't live in this world anymore, so it's absurd to cling to these old norms. Every othet… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/08/25 01:41 PM |
| 2 | Why more men than women die by suicide — BBCIronically, it's this very attitude that is the problem: "you have a problem? That's your problem." | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/08/25 02:29 AM |
| 2 | Why more men than women die by suicide — BBCI'm saying that this notion is so ingrained into our cultural assumptions that people just perceive it as a natural law, and not even something that is changeable. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/08/25 11:37 AM |
| 21 | Why more men than women die by suicide — BBCTragically, the answer is in the fact that we are asking this question now and still don't have an answer. Suicide throughout history and culture has generally always been higher among men than women, and it's never really dawned on anyone to even ask "why" because asking "why" implies that it is a question worth asking. Men being the disposable gender is simply the natural order of things, so why bother asking? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/08/25 11:49 AM |
| 2 | On being gay and caring about men's issuesThe deep south in the U.S. And yes, it very, VERY much is. And the tragedy of it is that most of the men doing it seem miserable, too. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 31/07/25 01:31 PM |
| 3 | On being gay and caring about men's issuesPerforming masculinity = trying to fit into the traditionally masculine box by acting in a way that is not in keeping with your real personality. "Look how tough and stoic I am, I have a stern expression every time someone takes a photo of me, even though I'm a goof ball inside. Oh, and look at my big Ford 250 truck that never carries anything and never gets dirty! Oh, and I just had a giant giant piece of steel pierce my pancreas, and I'll be damned if I go to the doctor while people are watchi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 31/07/25 12:56 PM |
| 19 | On being gay and caring about men's issuesThanks brotha. I'm not a gay man, but have often been presumed to be by others my entire life because I don't constantly fret over whether I "perform" masculinity for people. I was always determined to just be myself. In a way, this is an interesting glimpse into the gender issues that men face: this determination by the left and the right to jam us into teeny tiny little boxes of "identity" where we "belong" based on behaviors, life preferences, etc. If you exhibit behavior A, then you belong i… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/07/25 01:03 PM |
| 1 | How do we proceed after the Tea Leak?If I weren't married with kids and there was no visible opportunity to have family, I would absolutely consider this. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/07/25 01:10 AM |
| 21 | How do we proceed after the Tea Leak?It's a harder thing for men though because it's doomong yourself to never having a family of your own. Women can do artificial insemination and be a single mother, but with adoption having become near impossible, that leaves no route for men if their aspiration for happiness is a family with kids. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/07/25 12:37 PM |
| 45 | How the right is harming men. But the left is doing it tooYes, so true. "People respond to incentives." The reality is that society--- including a very large percentage of women--- reward awful men. Let's not forget how many women voted for Donald Trump. Many of them swoon over him. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/07/25 12:49 PM |
| 34 | The hypocrisy of “Misogyny kills, Misandry irritates”I'd add that misandry also kills by running down a man's self worth so much that he takes his OWN life. This is probably how misandry kills men the most. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/07/25 12:13 PM |
| 107 | Young men on both sides feel the same way in feminismIt's almost as if people of any group don't like being reviled and hated simply for existing. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/07/25 12:26 PM |
| 82 | "It’s no wonder men feel like they have to prove they are something when all people talk about in the tragedy of war is the death of women and children. Be better, folks. Men’s lives are not expendable. They are someone’s kid too."Oof, but even that last line in your headline: "They are someone's kid, too." I often find that you can't advocate for a man's feelings or wellbeing without somehow relating that man to a wife, mother, or child. "He has kids" or "think about how sad his mother would be!" | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/07/25 02:09 PM |
| 49 | I don't think people realize just how many jobs are completely closed to menThis is something Richard Reeves discussed a bit. Basically, when it comes to "care work," men are locked out, even while they may have historically been welcome. It's almost like we're going backwards when it comes to gender roles for men. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/07/25 12:37 PM |
| 39 | How can women possibly be suffering that badly?"Hypoagency". What a great word. And it's true, I worry about my daughters growing up in a world that is telling them that they are pathetic, powerless, and in perpetual need of protection because they are apparently too pathetic and powerless. This isn't the kind of posture that produces a life filled with happiness and achievement. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/07/25 01:28 PM |
| 11 | AI's opinion on why men are falling behind and how to fix the lack of male unityYeah, I think the fundamental problem with the feminist movement is exactly what you are expressing (thwarting a positive reform based revision for men) but then also using men as a villainous foil and prop for their movement's narrative. An inclusive message would have been "we are all victims of the old system, let's break free together." When feminism does purport to "show men a different way" it is austere, punishing, and lecturing to men. "Don't do this, don't do that, this is where you are… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/06/25 04:57 PM |
| 20 | AI's opinion on why men are falling behind and how to fix the lack of male unityI mean, you are kind of making a good point about the way Men's Rights movements become reactionary--- and this is kind of the problem. Why isn't there a robust Men's Rights movement that is left wing and reform minded, which looks forward to a positive future for men, which advocates for this new vision, and which makes the world easier for men to live this new version of themselves in? Because it gets ruthlessly crushed every time it tries to rear its head in left wing activist and academic ci… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/06/25 01:07 PM |
| 10 | If women ran the world, there would be no wars. A comforting myth or a subtle essentialist trap?In the Medieval Era, women were just as often warmongers as any other ruler. Eleanor of Aquitaine ruled in her own name since before she was an adult, and happily launched crusades, wars of expansion, and civil wars. Sure, women are probably less likely to punch the person right in front of them, but abstractly moving a chess piece representing 10,000 men to go pillage and loot the countryside of someone else's realm is an entirely different story It makes sense from a Darwinian sense, too. Male… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/06/25 11:52 AM |
| 5 | What Side of Male Focused Content is Actually Helping Men? (Left Wing Perspective)Dr. K is pretty much the only male influencer who I've seen that helps men in a healthy and balanced way. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/06/25 12:37 PM |
| 26 | Please don't give my husband longer paternity leave90 percent chance this woman is also the kind of mother/wife who will complain bitterly that her husband hasn't built the same relationship of trust with her kids as she has. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/06/25 12:37 PM |
| 2 | I like this communityWell, I disagree, there absolutely were laws for most of history to lock men up or legally punish them for not performing their gender role, particularly as it pertained to labor, work, and money. In serfdom throughout the world, it was illegal for 95 percent or more of men not to work specific manual labor jobs and to idle. If you were a man who wanted to do "woman's work" instead of a "man's work" via hard labor yes, you would face corporal punishment or even imprisonment. These laws were the … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/06/25 11:34 AM |
| 1 | I like this communityMen have had their own universal unequal treatment. And yes, men were constantly being told they must do things with their bodies they didn't want to do (being drafted and shot counts in my books). There were a million and a half ways men were told they must live their lives, from being told they must be breadwinners vs caregivers and that they must forever earn their worth, and not have it innately. And no, just because it was a tiny percentage of plutocrats making the rules who happened to be … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/06/25 04:19 PM |
| 2 | Are things getting better or worse for boys?Yep, there are systematic issues for sure in any scenario that can throw a wrench in things. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/06/25 03:07 PM |
| 30 | Are things getting better or worse for boys?It's great for boys that actually want to be traditional men. It's awful for boys that don't, or aren't deep down inside. And when I say "non-traditional" boys/men, I don't just mean gay or trans men. I just mean any man that doesn't aspire to be a marvel super hero movie character. Men that are nurturing, emotionally intelligent and expressive, etc. I was a hetero boy raised in a functioning two parent family, but my parents saw who I was and nourished that version or myself. If I'd been raised… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/06/25 10:16 AM |
| 4 | Men don’t know how to talk about their feelings.It was anonymously reported. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/06/25 04:47 PM |
| 44 | Men don’t know how to talk about their feelings.Ooof, that "women's safety is more important than your feelings" hit hard. It's like your emotions and mental health are always supposed to be the very last priority, if ever a priority at all. I had a similar situation, but in parenting. I've always prided myself in being a great, involved, loving father. Then one day I took my child to the doctor and someone reported me to CPS. Kids were yanked out of school and interrogated, months long investigation opened up, house was searched. It hurt me … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/06/25 11:28 AM |
| 10 | Any married men with kids here can share their insights into the pros and cons of family values in today's financial and sociological climate?Centrist atheist here. I made up my own "family values", since right wing and left wing family values kinda suck IMO. My wife and kids have been the very best part of my life, and been an inspiration to me every day. My wife and I have built a family around joy, knowledge, rationality, laughter, storytelling, and games. I'm not really a traditional man and my wife isn't a traditional woman. She's very engineering minded and I'm very expressive and emotionally intelligent. We have an egalitarian … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/06/25 04:31 PM |
| 89 | How do we decouple the unspoken idea that a woman’s sexual selection of a man is a form of cosmic justice that rewards him for being a good man?Yep, I think this observation is totally true, and I think it comes from a deeper notion that can be summarized with: "Women are human beings, men are human doings." Or in other words, a woman's value is considered by society to be innate, along with her moral consideration. For a man, it has to be earned by the things you do or achieve, and if those circumstances change, then out you go! And yes, it is very dehumanizing. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/06/25 09:43 AM |
| 22 | Email Your State Democratic Party And Tell Them Why Men Are LeavingOutstanding point if view, and spot on. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/05/25 10:49 AM |
| 48 | I like this communityYou sound like you found the right place. Most people in this sub are conscientious, civically minded, and deeply interested in fairness. On the activist world though you have a lot of rabble rousers and brick throwers who want the moral high ground, but also want to vanquish dragons, so to speak. I'd love to see a movement based around calm egalitarianism. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/05/25 07:56 PM |
| 4 | Is Scandinavia's political system the ideal for men's health and well-being?Here you go: https://youtu.be/oS4j74eHZs0?si=d6fDgM1CDfcU3MVo | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/05/25 12:55 PM |
| – | Is Scandinavia's political system the ideal for men's health and well-being?There was an interesting documentary about love and dating in Sweden, and I thought it was an interesting microcosm of what's wrong with the modern feminist movement in general (aka, it focuses purely on critiquing men and uplifting women, but almost never critiques women). Basically, men in Sweden--- even highly physically attractive ones--- were having trouble dating. Swedish society and education, which was dominated by Swedish feminist women, taught boys from a young age to be placid, not to… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/05/25 11:31 AM |
| 10 | Feminism is incompleteYeah, in the case of "be stay at home and keep house and family while husband brings home the bacon", many, many women prefer this as their chosen lifestyle. And yet this is not really a socially acceptable or viable choice for many men even if it's in keeping with their aptitudes and personality. Imagine how many men would get a positive response while dating if they were upfront about wanting to be a "stay at home dad." You'd basically never get to have the family you wanted to begin with beca… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/05/25 12:48 PM |
| 16 | Feminism is incompleteYes, exactly. I remember being all on board with feminism in college because of what it SAID it was. But then it wasn't egalitarian at all in practice. I think the root of the problem is that feminism in general assumes that everything worth having belongs to men, and that whatever unique privileges women have in society (especially when it comes to raising children or nurturing professions) men shouldn't want anyway because those special privileges and traditional gender roles of women are tras… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/05/25 10:41 AM |
| 17 | I made this meme to broadly describe our current situation, and why it is so hard for us to speak upLol, this was EXACTLY MY EXPERIENCE. There was what I was TOLD it was all about, and then there was what it was REALLY about. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/05/25 08:00 PM |
| 23 | I made this meme to broadly describe our current situation, and why it is so hard for us to speak upYep, this is exactly why I like this sub. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/05/25 01:08 PM |
| 92 | I made this meme to broadly describe our current situation, and why it is so hard for us to speak upIf only there were a true egalitarian philosophy that was sympathetic to the pain and struggles of both men and women and advocated for the success and happiness of both genders... In theory, this is what young men were told left wing gender ideology was about, only to find this was not at all what it was like in practice, and that instead they were just treated like a punching bag. Most young men who wanted egalitarianism I think had no other option to find a sympathetic message to their plight… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/05/25 09:26 AM |
| 5 | I made this meme to broadly describe our current situation, and why it is so hard for us to speak upDing ding ding! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/05/25 09:23 AM |
| 19 | Men are either superheroes or supervillains. There is no in between.Great analysis. And I agree, and this analysis goes further to shed light on why many men resent being treated as default cartoon villains in the "partiarchy." Yes, it's true that men still dominate the tippy top 0.1 percent of society's successful positions (politicians, CEO'S, etc) but they also dominate the opposite extreme: the left behinds, the forgotten, the scoffed at wretches. So yeah, while any man may have the tippy top theoretically more available to him, that's no comfort if he's at … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/05/25 11:07 AM |
| 19 | People are suspicious of me around children without reasonYeah, I've felt this my entire life. It sucks, because kids love me and my energetic, educational streak. But then there's this pal of suspicion. Now, what upsets me is less to do that people are fearful and want to protect their kids, but that they do so in the wrong way. Innocent men get suspected, while the real perps get a free pass. Child abduction by strangers is virtually non-existent. Children being molested by randos is not really how it happens at all (happens with trusted family membe… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/05/25 10:21 AM |
| 72 | [UK] Government launches call for evidence on men’s health; Young men must be taught it’s OK to feel and to ask for help, Wes Streeting saysYeah, it's not just about young men being taught to feel, ask for help, and express their emotions: we need a society that will listen and sympathize when they do. Right now, if a man does this they will usually be met with some version of "here is how you should fix yourself" rather then "this is how we as a society will lift you up." Men will start expressing themselves more when it is actually effective. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/04/25 11:29 AM |
| 15 | "#womensviolenceagainstmen exists. For victims it doesn't matter if it's less predominant. DV is DV, seeing someone abused is devastating!"Yeah, I have a close personal friend who experience CSA from a nanny starting at a very young age. It caused immense complex ptsd in him. No one would take him seriously, even his wife ("I bet he enjoyed it.") So even if it's less predominant, it's definitely harder for men to heal from this kind of wound because no one will hear them. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/04/25 11:37 AM |
| 30 | 'Tate phenomena' surges in schools - with boys refusing to talk to female teacherAdd to this the fact that there's very little content in our culture that would make them feel empowered beyond right wing messaging (like, for example, guys like Andrew Tate and the manosphere). The left has no alternative beyond "despise yourself for being a boy". | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/04/25 09:56 AM |
| 36 | No, feminism is not right-wing. The progressive left has a toxicity problem, and we have to face it to change itYes, it's absolutely a toxicity problem, it just so happens that right wingers and left wingers can both be extremely intolerant of differing view points. I remember 20 years ago as an undergraduate getting kicked out of my campus Feminist club by saying that men have a Y chromosome and X chromosome while a woman had 2 Xs, and that this creates materially different consequences in the bodies of men and women. I wasn't trying to be adversarial, I was just trying to understand what people meant wh… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/04/25 10:26 AM |
| 5 | Liberals only use feminine men as the poster child for non-conformity for men. Because they are afraid of true non-conformity for men.Yeah man, dead on analysis of how I feel. The reality is that the significant majority of men are baseline somewhere between completely masculine and completely feminine. But you aren't really rewarded socially for accepting and harnessing who you really are. So like, in some ways I'm very traditionally masculine. Athletic, reasonably fit, successful career, driven, completely fearless, rational, ruthless, high sex drive. But in other ways I'm traditionally feminine. Nurturing, loving, warm, agr… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/04/25 11:12 AM |
| 10 | The reason why I think pro-male ideologies failI think you are definitely on to something. I would add to your perspective this: there are no ideologies that are pro male which have a positive vision for EVERYONE. Feminism and Red Pill crap both are as much about hatred of a "bad guy" as they are about advocating/complaining for "the good guy." There needs to be a mutual ideology that involves rising together (which sounds like your point.) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/04/25 10:58 AM |
| 3 | feminists can't claim feminism is about equality and not also advocate for equality for men.Being a deadbeat doesn't really attract anyone regardless of gender, and for good reason. But a man can have high self esteem and be confident while also prioritizing nurturing lifestyles that benefit society. However, that man is NOT valued by the vast majority of women or society at large, even though it should. Shouldn't a high flying careerist woman who wants a family WANT a man like this? And yet their preferences work at odds with their own life goals. I was that man. I was even charming a… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/04/25 01:28 PM |
| 2 | feminists can't claim feminism is about equality and not also advocate for equality for men.I think the situation with women is that there is tons of societal pressure to "do it all." Be super mom, be a careerist, have a perfectly kept home. Because women are permitted now to do anything and everything, they are now pressured to do it all. For men, it is the opposite. They still must remain within highly gendered social norms, and traditionally feminine spaces remain traditionally feminine space which exclude men. It'd be rare to find a woman who says "I want to be a careerist, so I fi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/04/25 10:31 AM |
| 27 | feminists can't claim feminism is about equality and not also advocate for equality for men.I think the assumption is that men already have absolutely everything worth having, and that women don't. Which of course is nonsense. I'd also add that women completely dominate the child rearing space, especially in the U.S. A woman can aspire to raise a great family and put that first and foremost and still be respected (and will find plenty of male partners willing to bring home the bacon while their wife prioritizes raising the kids). If you are a dude with that same aspiration? Good luck f… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/04/25 08:11 PM |
| 26 | Right-wingers from the fringe to Fox News are rolling out a new argument in favor of Trump’s tariffs—that they will help boost America’s masculinity.I've noticed this before. When confronted with personal failure, you say something like "success is for pussies." | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/04/25 11:24 AM |
| 52 | My quick look and thoughts about the study ‘I’m a red-blooded male’: Understanding men’s experiences of domestic abuse through a feminist lensYou make a lot of great points, and I'll just go a step further. You mentioned how "patriarchy" gets blamed for both directions in abuse, and coercive control. A sort of "male dominated society is to blame too when women act bad." There is this extreme reservation in academic literature and pop culture to simply blame female dominated sub cultures when women act bad. Before the 2nd wave feminist movement was even in full swing, my grandfather was relentlessly abused by my grandmother. Verbally a… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/04/25 10:58 AM |
| 4 | Let's be clear about Jordan Peterson ...There's some good stuff regarding JP. And there used to be much more. But he completely lost his intellectual honesty and sold out to become a right wing pundit more or less. In regard to gender issues, he's not a misogynist IMO opinion like many people say, but he does push for traditional male gender roles and gives good advice on how to achieve success within those boundaries. He has almost nothing to say about what a "new man" could be. JP is all about "go find a dragon to slay" type mentali… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/04/25 12:58 PM |
| 7 | Thank you for showing I’m not crazyRight, I can definitely see how that can be stunting :( Hoping for the best, man. Offer is still on the table though :) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/04/25 08:10 PM |
| 8 | Thank you for showing I’m not crazyAnd hey brother, if you ever need someone to talk to regarding your abuse, I am more than happy to listen non-judgementally, and help however I can. I'm trying to be there for a number of CSA survivors beyond my wife. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/04/25 06:50 PM |
| 18 | Thank you for showing I’m not crazyOh my God, it did. So even though my wife's CSA caused a nervous system collapse (don't repress it all, kids, it'll catch up to you...) she's been a highly competent and driven careerist in a STEM field. She believes very much in rationality, competence through understanding the world, personal discipline, etc. She's an immensely self aware person. And so when she went into therapy she told them she wanted to harness these qualities in her therapy. They basically told her to "stop thinking" and … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/04/25 06:40 PM |
| 4 | What's a good response or 'comeback' to the pick me girl insult?You've got some good responses, but thank you for being an ally (like my wife :) ) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/04/25 06:24 PM |
| 12 | Thank you for showing I’m not crazyYep, 100 percent agree, great post. It's the job of the left to give men a positive vision or the future for what they COULD be. Instead, all its done it given them a vision of manhood exists solely to either mitigate harm to women or lift women up. And to be clear, this is a noble thing for any man to want to do, but men can't just expect to be instruments for the enrichment of others, all the time. They need to know that they can live a little bit for their own happiness as well. And they need… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/04/25 06:23 PM |
| 28 | Thank you for showing I’m not crazyDamn man, I'm so sorry for what happened to you with your mother. But I also VERY much understand what you mean regarding the mental health industry. Especially in childhood sexual abuse circles, there is very much this attitude of "men are the problem, so how can they be victims or a part of the solution?" My wife was the victim of very severe CSA as a child (6 months to 12 years, paternal incest). She collapsed psychologically about 2 months ago, and despite being her devoted spouse for 27 yea… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/04/25 06:13 PM |
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