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Altruistic_Chance449/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/26 03:53 PM
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OYS #9 Stats 22 years old, 6’1, 185 lbs, married 3 years, kids: 3 years old, 1.5 years old. Reading: Heartiste on Game. Watching Forthworth Playboy’s YT more often. Mission Be able to be vulnerable and give myself to opening the world. To not be apologetic and to gain abundance and not be apologetic about it, nor to let said abundance define me. To give myself permission to follow my desires. To be like water. Lifting and Physical Purchased some white shirts (slim) and black athletic pants. Expe…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/26 07:31 PM
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Thanks for the feedback, I can appreciate the time it took. It hurt. I accept full responsibility for my life, and I return to my work
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/26 12:18 AM
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How much bf% is “low”? Are you bulking yet
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/26 06:52 PM
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Nice work on the bf%. Why is your RDL so shit?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/26 06:45 PM
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I tend not to go so high in bf% because of decreased muscle synthesis past 20% or so.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 10:30 PM
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You could.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 10:29 PM
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If you’re at 25% body fat, I’d cut.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 09:38 PM
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One is confirming permission to play the character, the other assumes it. I fear rejection. Assuming permission , though, is much more attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 09:32 PM
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OYS #8 Rewrite Stats 22 years old, 6’1, 185 lbs, married 3 years, kids: 3 years old, 1.5 years old. Wife: 160 lbs, 22 years old, 5’6. Mission Be able to be vulnerable and give myself to opening the world. To not be apologetic and to gain abundance and not be apologetic about it, nor to let said abundance define me. To give myself permission to follow my desires. To be like water. Lifting, Diet, and Physical State Started a new ab isometric workout. Work Getting better at not giving a shit about …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 09:12 PM
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Addition: To train myself for outcome independence, I’ll do what I know I need to do despite how I feel. For example, I feel really tired and sleepy today and don’t want to put in the full time study block. I’ll stop caring on whether I’ll stop feeling sleepy and instead pursue the action of studying anyways.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 05:02 PM
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OYS #8 Stats 22 years old, 6’1, 185 lbs, married 3 years, kids: 3 years old, 1.5 years old. Wife: 160 lbs, 22 years old, 5’6. Mission Be able to be vulnerable and give myself to opening the world. To not be apologetic and to gain abundance and not be apologetic about it, nor to let said abundance define me. To give myself permission to follow my desires. To be like water. Lifting, Diet, and Physical State Added in 10 minutes of ab work for targeted growth. I REALLY don’t want to do this, much le…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 04:51 PM
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To add: imagine you were comfortable with not having (good) anal with her, okay with the fact that she was hurting, and guided the interaction as you needed? What if you were irrationally confident that you could handle this, even if you had no such qualifications? OODA loops, man. Reorientation is frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 04:06 PM
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I’ve been dealing with the sexual fantasy shit too. I’m also dealing with something similar to your sex act frustration. Fantasy is just mental masturbation. It’s not rooted in action or intent. It’s not healthy as it adds too much friction to frame and life. With respect to ur sex experience, this sets up covert contracts, potential for a lot of needless pain, and you exiting your own frame. I’m testing a couple things: 1. Genuinely attempting to drive sexual encounters the way I honestly want …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 04:05 PM
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Yes
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/26 10:05 PM
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Yeah I think the better approach to getting feedback is to not pedestalize the sub or person I’m getting it from. Ever. Low-quality..? You read my mind
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/26 07:31 PM
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You’re too late, I’ve already cum from the validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/26 07:28 PM
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Yeah this post definitely shows me low hanging fruit bruh. Never outsource validation to anyone. In the back of my head, I treat both the world and this sub as reliable feedback metrics of success. I don’t NEED this validation, I told myself, but CHOOSE it. I’ve realized this is a cope. I will work to have the balls to be responsible for myself and taking what works from this place. I’ve seen that I often subconsciously refer to a superior other eg more jacked guys, hot chicks, etc as teachers, …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/26 07:25 PM
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Fuck, thank you. Gotta calibrate so that it becomes “of course it’s me.” I wanted validation of my frame and worth, and that’s juvenile.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/26 04:42 PM
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This is me documenting my first steps into a larger world. Where frame is everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/26 04:32 PM
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Yeah
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/26 04:28 PM
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Just reread your oys and holy shit. You really are a ball-sucking fag. You’d rather stick it to your wife and be right™️ about her cheating rather than happy. Your references and innuendos to her cheating are evidence that she dominates your life narrative. You are a goof. You have not failed enough. You do not have frame. Your frame is HER frame. The good news? You know that your mental script is bullshit. This does NOT work. You now know what frame is NOT. Frame is NOT validating her life choi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/26 10:23 PM
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Why not give yourself room to breathe for a bit? Become more social as a revenge on the old you for being a bitch. Validate your own need to be outgoing and great. At the same time, hate her just a little bit. Don’t let you having a good time (independent of her existence) let you forget that she fucked you over. As rian stone said: it’s better she thinks you’re stupid than you confronting her. All your confrontation does is send the behaviour of cheating underground. If she wants to, she WILL c…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/26 10:16 PM
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The sponge thing was a shit test. A willingness to do the shit (clean the table) AND take it lightly would be healthy frame. Yeah she’s a little bossy sis. How would you deal with it? Depends. Does your frame find a lil bossy sis frightening? Does your frame demand validation and respect for your cleaning the table? Sounds like it’s probably the latter. Which is shit, but we’re here to do the work. It’s a sponge and it’s a bitch telling you to use a sponge. Laugh at how easy it is for you to han…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/26 09:22 PM
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OYS #7 Stats 22 years old, 6’1, 185 lbs, married 3 years, kids: 3 years old, 1.5 years old. Wife: 160 lbs, 22 years old, 5’6. Mission Be able to be vulnerable and give myself to opening the world. To not be apologetic and to gain abundance and not be apologetic about it, nor to let said abundance define me. To give myself permission to follow my desires. Reading Reread NMMNG, Praxeology: Frame, AK’s MAP. Lifting, Diet, and Physical State Still on a lean bulk. Am biasing abs, upper back, arm grow…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/26 09:16 PM
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I’m the oys 6 guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/26 09:22 PM
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OYS #6 Stats 22 years old, 6’1, 183 lbs, married 3 years, kids: 3 years old, 1.5 years old. Looking to apply for grad school by October. Mission: Be able to be vulnerable and give myself to opening the world. To not be apologetic and to gain abundance and not be apologetic about it, nor to let said abundance define me. To give myself permission to follow my desires. Reading this month: Gervais Principle Lifting, Diet, and Physical State: Now on a lean bulk. Will attempt to take this slow. I am b…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/26 06:14 AM
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Yes: https://rianstonept.blogspot.com/2017/10/authenticity.html?m=1
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/26 12:53 PM
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Rian had a great post on authenticity that I revisited. His allegory was using Don Draper and Jon Hamm, although I was too thick to get the gist of it until now. “Frame is narcissism. Authenticity is what allows you to reap the benefits of narcissism, without suffering the narcissistic injuries when they happen.”
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/26 12:54 AM
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This reads as though you expect your progress and status in formal hierarchy to transfer over to your sex life. It doesn’t. As the others say, read the sidebar, realize sex is only important until it isn’t (sex is all about power, and you clearly don’t wield enough of it over urself), and get to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/26 09:48 PM
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Write your own story. Edit: reread your comment and I do see your point. I’m definitely not there yet with rewarding her with sex. In any case, I shouldn’t act like she now owns my attention because we had sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/26 02:15 AM
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To be honest, I don’t know. Which is answer enough. I don’t find her attractive. She’s both unattractive and a reminder of my shitty self eg validation seeking, cute but overweight, emotional. I have mentioned overtly I want these things to stop in her. However, I’ve been focused on myself rather than focusing on and forcing her to address this shit. After all, if she dreads losing me, she’ll find a way to work harder for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/26 02:30 PM
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OYS #5 Stats: 22 years old, 6’1, 182 lbs, married 3 years, kids: 3 years old, 1.5 years old. Looking to apply for grad school by October. Mission: Be able to be vulnerable and give myself to opening the world. To not be apologetic and to gain abundance and not be apologetic about it, nor to let said abundance define me. Reading this month: TWOTSM Lifting, Diet, and Physical State: Lost 20 lbs since I posted last in Dec 2025, and I’m between 14.5-15.5% bodyfat. The goal is between 170-175 lbs to …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/26 06:26 AM
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My first time replying to an OYS so I’ll give it a shot. How come you felt uncomfortable with the cop’s presence and demeanor? Was it more about him, your girlfriend, or yourself? Do you think there was an onus upon you to speak up? Was this an opportunity for you to test your own limits of confidence, or did you frame your girl as a non adult who couldn’t handle her own problems? The Jungian shadow is very real. It’s ver possible that you can take bits of gold from the extended family’s being o…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/26 02:49 PM
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I bought into this mental model long ago that there’s either the slow cut over several months or the fast cut over a 2 month span. I’ve tried the fast cut route, complete with 48 hour water fasts. I realized this is just me opting into something without considering my own experience and mind. I want the cut to be over with quickly but I can’t do so if I’m so tired all the time. So yeah I’d agree with you and I’m going to take it slow
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/25 05:43 PM
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ps Would love someone’s notes on whether slow prolactin clearup post sex is different across every guy. And what dietary/mindset changes one might suggest. I don’t think there’s much on the sidebar about this. I don’t think I’m coping
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/25 11:59 PM
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OYS #4 Stats 22 years old 6’1”, 198 lbs Married 2.5 years Kids: 2.5 years old, 1 year old Mission Abandon validation seeking in my life. Become my own locus of control automatically. Become beyond control; be free by becoming abundant. Give myself permission to realize that I am the prize and hold myself to congruent standards. Reading This Month Re-reading NMMNG WISNIFG Dread MAP Book of Pook Lifting, Diet, and Physical State Currently on a cut, so lifts are slightly declining. Increasing work …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/25 07:46 PM
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My mission is to make myself my mental point of origin. To be completely clear when making decisions with my own interests in mind rather than let my hamster get the better of me. Yeah I could’ve handled the rejection better. Am or stfu and sleep would’ve been nicer.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/25 09:39 PM
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OYS #3 Stats: 22 (married 3 years), 2 kids (toddlers), 6 ft 1, 91.5 kilos. Med student. Physical: Bodybuilding preferred so am winning there. Bench 225 lbs x 4, deadlift 450 lb x 3, squat 300 x 4. Workout 5-6 times a week Read: Entire sidebar. Need to reread NMMNG and WISNIFG. Extensive enjoyer of Nuke, Jack Napier, RS, TRM. Personal: I have been hamstering myself this entire past week. My last cold approach was 2-3 weeks ago. I approached this butter face Latina single mom in the middle of the …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 04:14 PM
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OYS #2 Stats early 20s, 185 cm, 89.2 (-8 kgs on an agressive cut), ~16% BF Lifts: 240 Bench 1rm, 255 squat 1rm, 365 lb 1rm RDL (i don't do deadies) , Married 3 years: 2 kids: 2YO and 6 months Reading: Finished NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TBook of Pook, Rian Stone's Dread, Frame, Field Reports, TSGM (read before joining this sub), Esthar Vilar trilogy Physical Taking cut a bit slower, just 5-8 more kilos to lose before my face and abs look shredded. Bench and squat dropped a bit so I switched to high …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/25 01:58 AM
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I'm seeking artificial validation as an escape from pushing into who i really am and being a virtual phony as well as a literal one. thanks bro, i'll use social media when i actually feel its congruent with my vision/needs and not just a dopamine/validation desire
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/25 07:55 PM
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Damn bro thanks for the dose of ice water Ima improve in the following ways: -Be absolutely clear that the direction I'm going for is significant weight loss for myself and i expect her to follow. i'm learning to be a better leader so i won't be a fag and'll actually take the lead instead of armchairing -Yeah, time to kill the hamster; i'll stop being so nerdy and neurotic and act persistently in accord w/what i want rather than let her/my hamster merk my sex life. it sounds like this is more my…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/25 12:32 AM
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OYS 1 2/2 Sex+Relationship My wife is a SAHM. Although I can have sex w/her whenever i want and can initiate whenever, it's usually never initiated by her. i think there's a covert contract hidden in there (e..g i want her to intiate to give me validation), but I've gotten better at confronting this contract and not allowing my ego that validation. that said, there's a couple things i wanna improve on: ACTUALLY feeling desire for her as opposed to trying to get daily validation that I, looking a…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/25 10:52 PM
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OYS #1 1/2: Ego-check me, pls. Been ghosting this sub for the longest time! Stats early 20s, 185 cm, 92.4 kg (-5.5 kgs on an agressive cut), ~16.5% BF Lifts: 250 Bench 1rm, 285 squat 1rm, 365 lb 1rm RDL (i don't do deadies) , Married 3 years: 2 kids: 2YO and 6 months Reading: Finished NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TBook of Pook, Rian Stone's Dread, Frame, Field Reports, TSGM (read before joining this sub) Physical Calories: <1400 calories a day in a 3 week cut alongside ~6 days of both dry and water fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/25 10:52 PM
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