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Thank you for the perspective. It does make sense, and what you're describing has worked for me in the past. I guess I just need to ease into it again.
/r/seduction28/04/21 05:18 PM
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That's a good perspective. I feel like I used to be more like this but right now it's just not clicking? It's shit like this I need to bang into my head again. Thanks for the advice.
/r/seduction28/04/21 03:54 PM
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"It is wrong, however, to want to have sex with another human based on the fact that you find them physically attractive." What other metric would you use? I mean, I'm just fucking confused here? Do you only want to have sex with people you find unattractive? This is some ridiculous shit dude. "I think it's weird to say my intentions are to find someone to have sex with" Umm... Okay? But just because you find it weird, doesn't mean it's the right move. Girls know when you're talking to them / co…
/r/seduction28/04/21 02:25 PM
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Uh... No? It's not immoral to want to have sex with someone. It's not immoral to let someone know you find them physically attractive. It's the most natural thing in the world. And why would you want to mask your true intentions? Are you insecure about how you feel or what's the deal? Maybe what you're saying applies to online dating (No clue) but in person? Hell no, if she wants you too, letting her know that you're not afraid to take initiative seems to be your best bet. Not playing games.
/r/seduction28/04/21 01:15 PM
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"When i went to college and missed out on all the orgies and sex and all that shit i realized sexual market value is the currency of the realm and i had none." Lmao. Everyone and their mother thinks college is an all out sex-orgy where people exchange bodily fluids on every street corner. "Guess my dad really shoulda beat those masculine macho ideals into me huh?" We're in the same boat there fella. "Any girls reading this wanna give me an objective opinion on how fucking ugly i am?" I'm a guy b…
/r/seduction24/04/21 10:55 AM
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I could tell you all about why it's not dangerous and women don't bite, and blablabla, but really, approach anxiety isn't something you'll get rid off with logic. For me, what worked was I started approaching strangers (Not just women, but always made a point to approach hot women too when I saw them) and asking them for directions to some random place. Just constantly walking down the street, asking people where X was, go a little bit further down, ask someone else. Then once I felt super comfo…
/r/seduction17/04/21 02:02 PM
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Yeah I'm seeing it from a western point of view, so probably it works different with dating in your country. I wouldn't wish for tinder honestly, dating and relationships are just fine without it. But that said... "im currently depressed as im getting to age of marrying but i dont have a gf yet" You're quite clearly desperate and needy. And I know you already know this, but until you stop that behavior, no girl will want to be with you. Isn't there an option to talk to people in these rural area…
/r/seduction15/04/21 09:34 PM
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"i dont have much friends or social life or any outside life" And why do you assume women would be interested in a man like this? This should be your #1 PRIORITY. Getting an actual life. Women aren't going to be the magic fix all. "i need to be more natural and how to be more casual when chatting to a woman in social media who is totally rando without being creep?" You shouldn't just chat up women on social media and think that's how it works. You need to get out there and meet people. Eventuall…
/r/seduction15/04/21 09:01 PM
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Fun is had everywhere, if you know how to seek it out. But college is just easy mode because there are hot girls everywhere. You probably have bigger issues than just prom, I'd say read a good book on the subject of dating (Models) and it'll improve your life a lot, just saying, not just in dating but in terms of personality.
/r/seduction15/04/21 08:01 PM
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Her: "I like the color blue" Him: "So according to Einstein's Fifth Theorem, the color blue signifies...And therefore I conclude that she wants exactly seven babies with me". Chill. Ask her out.
/r/seduction15/04/21 07:52 PM
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There's a large gap between "Don't be a simp" and "Treat women like employees". You don't have to be that cold to have good interactions with women. I feel like there's a ton of this psycho shit around here for people who can't understand nuance in interactions. They are so scared to look like a simp / nice guy / pleaser that they do a complete 180 and go full narcissist. Yeah don't be a pushover. Have your own opinions. Don't be needy and reliant on her for validation. But jesus christ come on,…
/r/seduction15/04/21 02:45 PM
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I'd reckon since your method doesn't work, you can try this one and see if it helps ;) You should post in r/askseddit for questions about specific girls / etc., this subreddit is for more general seduction related topics, not about your personal life.
/r/seduction15/04/21 12:37 PM
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The highest quality women you can find. I think this goes for every man really but more attractive men have it a little easier I suppose. Feminine, positive, good communicator, no-drama, independent, supportive, loyal, similar interests / sex drive and compability etc. Those are the girls you long term with, if you can find them heh.
/r/seduction15/04/21 12:06 AM
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Anyone can go out and ask for directions / get comfortable socially, even during the pandemic. But yeah of course you don't have the full spectrum of options. Just remember that doing something > doing nothing, anything that can push you forward, do it.
/r/seduction14/04/21 10:42 PM
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Have a good time with your friends (Obviously). Look for IOI's (Just for the sake of it honestly), like her giving you a lot of attention, trying to get your attention, touching you etc. Try touching her arm/shoulder etc. To make a point (Like a soft push, or a high five if applicable etc.) Eventually, as you're all leaving, try to isolate her ("Hey you got a moment, X?") and ask her if she'd like to do something together, just you and her. Bam, you know if she's into you or not and you don't wa…
/r/seduction14/04/21 10:40 PM
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Books are great (And needed for a lot of guys like you and me) but it will never work if you don't apply what's in the book. Also, Models.
/r/seduction14/04/21 10:17 PM
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Women and men operate on different attraction rules, so... Uh? Sure these behaviors are not exactly that good but I guarentee you, a guy who'd be prone to doing these things, would be totally floored if the girl was at least somewhat pretty and did this to him. The other way around (Guy doing it to a girl, even if she's inexperienced) would probably not end well. Men are largely visual and a lot of men have a great scarcity of women, whereas most women have more options. I get the soul of the po…
/r/seduction14/04/21 08:54 PM
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For me it was a year to learn the basics so that I could actually get girls, two years to get real comfortable in my own skin (You could say getting my inner game more in check, so that it's all more natural). Lots of awkward failing and being creepy / girl-repellant. For steps, I'd say: Read books on attraction (3% Man, Models, in that order. Models is better overall but 3% Man is a lot easier to understand for beginners imo.) Approach as much as possible. Start by asking for directions until y…
/r/seduction14/04/21 08:26 PM
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My quality of life improves when I'm dating someone I really vibe with. If someone says they literally don't see an improvement when involved with someone, they're either lying or dating someone they don't actually like that much. When that is said, my life is perfectly good without it. Because of the pandemic I haven't been out gaming much, and I broke up with my ex about 2.5 months ago, and yeah, I'm doing fine. Of course having a girlfriend that I could spend time with / fuck / etc. Was great…
/r/seduction14/04/21 08:20 PM
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You ask her out, she says no because bla bla bla. Doesn't matter why she says no. Then you say "Let's be friends" and assuming you're truthful, good on you. Then you ask her out again? "As a friend"? Come on man. In her mind you're just pretending to be her friend, asking her out on a friendly date when she clearly just turned you down. I assure you, she's dealt with her share of fake friends who just wanted to fuck her even when she turned them down, which is probably why she doesn't want to wa…
/r/seduction14/04/21 08:09 PM
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Next you're going to claim that water is wet or something... Good post though!
/r/seduction14/04/21 08:06 PM
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Since you were not alone, you definitely shouldn't kiss her. Generally speaking, a date means just you and her ;) So yeah, get her one and one and escalate physically :) Good luck!
/r/seduction12/04/21 06:12 PM
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In my opinion you should kiss her at the end. Going for the hug is fine and all but she already knows you're into her as more than friendly hugs, why not be bold and go for the kiss? You can always look for signs (Touching / face close to yours / looking at your lips or eyes for longer periods) but if you're a bold guy you'll go for the kiss. If she turns you down, at least you know she's not into you? Also drop the fillers. I'd say instead have a few topics you'd love to her ask her about and i…
/r/seduction12/04/21 11:34 AM
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It's not shallow to like good looking people though. It's totally normal. I'd choose funny and beautiful over funny and average looking any day? If that makes me shallow then fuck it.
/r/seduction11/04/21 05:53 PM
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It hurts sure, but I feel like it hurts in a good way. In the clarity kind of way. Like it hurts to lift heavy weights but you still feel great after. Because now you know that you don't have to spend more time wondering. Uncertainty is what is really painful, in my experience. Best thing to do is just get it out there as fast as you can, and let the pin drop.
/r/seduction11/04/21 04:28 PM
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That's not what a shit test is. Ask her out and you'll find out if she likes you or not? Bruh
/r/seduction11/04/21 01:03 PM
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"So I think you're really attractive, but did you hear about the aliens in Las Vegas?" seems like a good one to me though.
/r/seduction08/04/21 08:42 AM
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Has it increased your lay count? I mean, if I didn't read this book I wouldn't know how to communicate authenthically with women, so yeah? Has it helped you date some really beautiful women? Yes, for sure. Has it helped you create deeper bond with women you've just met? I suppose, but "just met" is probably a bit early to tell. There's a few places it's helped me. The polarization aspect has just helped me in general, instead of me pursuing half-yes'es I only pursue those who are truly into me. …
/r/seduction08/04/21 07:20 AM
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Like attracts like, so yeah, if you constantly attract drama, attitude and stress... Don't want to be rude but often times when you hear people complain about all their partners being crazy, it turns out that... You get the idea. But yeah it's possible to find chill girls. Maybe you're looking in the wrong places? Where do you usually find girls? Since that isn't working, you should change venue.
/r/seduction07/04/21 08:45 PM
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Seconding this, there's really nothing wrong with asking her to meet if you two are having good vibes; if she's into you, she'll def agree to it and you can have a fun time.
/r/seduction06/04/21 10:22 PM
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No worries, have fun with you girlfriend!
/r/seduction05/04/21 05:38 PM
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Lose weight, keep going to parties, keep talking to people at the parties (Practicing social skills), profit? No 15 year old wants to hear that they're young and don't need to rush things, but that's reality. You aren't going to find a quick solution here. Losing weight / getting fit takes time, so does getting some smooth social skills talking to women. I'd say lose weight, learn game (Read a good book on it, Models by Mark Manson) and keep going to parties yeah, practice. In a few years you'll…
/r/seduction05/04/21 04:38 PM
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"and I absolutely will not help someone a friend for money." So she's your friend? I wouldn't say she's using you. She offered to pay for the help. You just refused because you wanted a better chance with her. And giving women free shit isn't how you spark interest, I'm sorry to say. You're just really trying hard to friendzone yourself. If she hits you up again for homework, just say you're busy with your own stuff? I mean it's the truth so why not say it. If she continues to want to hang out w…
/r/seduction05/04/21 04:22 PM
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Malls are a good place. The "I met a wonderful guy in the bookstore" fantasy is alive and well. People are there to shop, sure, but people are in college to learn, right? You can literally go anywhere. The college experience, or whatever people call it, is like supporting wheels on a bike. It will carry you so far naturally, but it's no guarentee you'll learn to bike without taking the leap. Getting some good friends, heading out to bars, social events like concerts, etc. Is going to net you the…
/r/seduction05/04/21 04:10 PM
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Yo just a heads up man, sure, she was disrespectful AF and good thing you didn't fall for it. But when you're already aware that she's not into you, and she's really drunk, still asking her to go back to your place is... Maybe a bit dangerous? You really don't want to be taking advantage of a drunk girl who you know isn't into you, even if its unintentional on your part. That is a fast ticket to the police station waiting to happen. It's better to cut your losses. Not saying you cannot ask them …
/r/seduction05/04/21 03:47 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/mkh7gx/we_want_sex_but_were_still_virgins/gtg6692/ I wouldn't worry too much if you're being responsible and prepare properly. Make a little checklist, and if you've checked it off before sex, you gotta just convince yourself that you're safe. Like a work safety checkup ;)
/r/seduction05/04/21 02:30 PM
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So for maximum safety, and I'm assuming you're excluding birth control, seeing as you're in this country and all. Check her cycle Women are generally only fertile for a small window before and after ovulation. You should read it up, but to simplify a bit, 14 days after her period, she should be ovulating. So the safest time to have sex would be around the period, technically (Not everyone is comfortable doing it during, so just before/after the period). Condom Self-explanatory. Make sure you hav…
/r/seduction05/04/21 12:57 PM
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Pretty crazy how you're handling this, kudos man. If this is how you act losing your virginity, imagine how you're going to be a few years down the line. Life's gonna be good! Only thing I'd say is, be careful with telling everyone about it. The comment about pussy on your fingers isn't terrible per se, since you didn't explicitly say it was her, but some girls will get pretty upset if you let everyone know, directly on indirectly, that you're fucking them. Being discreet unless you've discussed…
/r/seduction04/04/21 08:33 PM
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Good luck!
/r/seduction04/04/21 08:27 PM
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Uh, no, you shouldn't. I guess you're a bit out of luck then. I'd just continue chatting with her at MMA (Don't be afraid to talk to her if you see her, she will notice), but keep things fun and playful, then gauge her reactions. And then yeah, I'd tread carefully. If at some point you feel there's a really good vibe between you two, you could ask her out after training as you're both leaving the building or something (Which she will make sure happens, if she's really into you). But dating in so…
/r/seduction04/04/21 08:18 PM
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It was written in a pre-tinder era, so the only online dating advice it gives relates to websites like match.com... It does hold a lot of valuable stuff about attraction in general. And I think for people who are very analytical, this book does a good job at explaining the "why's". But I wouldn't take every "rule" and method as gospel, I'd read it, understand the fundamentals of attraction and dating, and read Models after to get a more modernized picture.
/r/seduction04/04/21 08:14 PM
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You can always chat her up and gauge the situation. Like the other poster said, ask her if she liked the previous MMA class and don't be afraid to strike up conversation with her in general. It's usually pretty telling if she likes you or not. If she's enthusiastic about talking to you, and seems friendly overall, asking if you're going to MMA next time etc., then either she's into you, or she's friendly and she'll likely just politely reject you if you try to escalate. If she's non-receptive, c…
/r/seduction04/04/21 08:01 PM
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I feel like I'm mentioning this every other comment I make but, Models by Mark Manson. The first book I read on this was How to be a 3% Man, by Corey Wayne. It's a good book, no doubt. It explained everything I didn't understand about attraction, success and dating that noone else had been able to explain to me before. And while the book denies being about techniques, it layed out a lot of ground rules to follow, and what I'd call "playing games" in a way, like not calling a woman back for a wee…
/r/seduction04/04/21 07:48 PM
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I had an ex who was like that. Gorgeous face, the kind of uniquely beautiful face you don't know why is super attractive, but just floors you, great legs, butt, smile, all that shit. Legit always had guys salivating over her whenever she was out in public, and cold approaching isn't even a huge thing in my country. I wouldn't neccesarily think so. Some of my best sexual experiences came pretty late in the relationship, where we got more adventurous and freaky. And I never really lost my libido w…
/r/seduction04/04/21 06:07 PM
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I can totally respect someone who does acid and refrains from alcohol. As with everything of course, moderation. I wouldn't date someone who tripped every other day, but someone who did it recreationally with reasonable intervals, hell I'd probably join in. So many people have zero respect for alcohol and it's honestly not very charming. But I think that's personal preference.
/r/seduction04/04/21 05:32 PM
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In Europe (I'm from western Europe) I believe the college culture is much more bar / nightlife oriented than in the US, where the majority takes place in dorms / frat houses / etc. Since the drinking age is 18, and all that. Parties, at least in my experience, generally happen if you know people that throw them. But even private parties usually dissolve before midnight and migrate to the bars / clubs. I'd say in my country at least, college isn't exactly needed to find partners, since everyone c…
/r/seduction04/04/21 05:30 PM
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I feel you. Really miss university these past few months. I just spent the time doing other stuff, like working on some projects of mine. Learning to be okay with not seeing people / scratching the social itch by seeing my good friends every now and then, has been a great help.
/r/seduction04/04/21 07:50 AM
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Read "Models" by Mark Manson. It will save you a lot of pain in the long run.
/r/seduction03/04/21 11:35 PM
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Yes, if you want a relationship, it's better to be yourself. But you should be yourself regardless, in anything. Relationships don't become stronger because they started as friendships. Relationships become strong when two mature, honest people meet each other and share a mutual romantic interest in each other. Trying to be friends with girls for a 'stronger' relationship will likely just end you in the friendzone. If you two have natural chemistry, you'll naturally become "friends" while you're…
/r/seduction03/04/21 11:34 PM
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It's not cheating, but, I'd still be careful juggling that many balls in the air. One of my female friends had a boy she was seeing. They weren't exclusive or anything, but she very much intended they take it there eventually. They had made out, they were having sex, and well, she was thinking that maybe in a few weeks time, they'd have a talk or something. But nope. He was seeing another girl. Same time. Also having sex with her. My friend got really angry and upset, and decided to stop seeing …
/r/seduction03/04/21 09:51 PM
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I haven't done much club / crowded dance floor, it's not really my thing, but one time in particular, I was eyeing a girl (It was a real sausage fest, 5 girls or something (Excluding my friends, but they were well, my friends) and 40 guys. She eyed me, I was just dancing on my own and with anyone nearby, having a good time, and a bit later I got closer to her and she returned my smile. So since she seemed down, I just went up and took her hand, and started dancing with her. We had a great back a…
/r/seduction03/04/21 09:10 PM
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A few things. The fact that I have some interesting hobbies I'm really good at, and I'm really proud of. The fact that I, a pretty big introvert, learned to talk to new people and learned my way around women. Sometimes I think I'm confident because I'm confident, and I don't really know how to explain it. In the beginning, I certainly wasn't confident. There are still days now when I'm not, or at least doubt myself a little. But slowly as I pushed myself more and more, and got better and better …
/r/seduction03/04/21 08:55 PM
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That can be difficult. Only thing I can say is, I'd use that feeling of longing for something, and funneling it into something productive that will improve your life. Use it as a motivation to get out and approach, to spend more time with your friends if you're neglecting that. Anything that is productive, really. It takes time but being okay with being alone, is a valuable skill. And you'll be much more okay with being alone if you have a lot of stuff you can do on your own, or with friends.
/r/seduction03/04/21 08:47 PM
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Good job! The younger you would probably have squandered it, gotten jealous, and acted out. But you kept that blood cool and got to reap the rewards, so to speak. It's amazing to hear other people's lightbulb moments like this. Just remember, even if this particular chick doesn't pan out in the end, you have the potential inside you to do it again with someone else. Enjoy your life, and keep working!
/r/seduction03/04/21 08:37 PM
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I mean, are you replying immediately and just waiting for her texts? Go find something to do. Also, what's your end goal? Just talking to her? I'd assume you'd want to meet at some point. You can very quickly just text too much and eventually she'll grow bored of that. If you're not getting anywhere with your texts, what's the point? So I'd say find some stuff to do and answer here when you have time, not all the time. Don't comment on her being slow, that's just needy. And try and move the conv…
/r/seduction25/03/21 11:47 AM
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For some people it's going to take a lot more time to get to meeting women, and that's just the reality of it. I don't think I was truly ready to date anyone until after a year of trying to improve anyways. And yeah, you're on the right track. There are more important things in life than women, and we all gotta figure that out, and go get it. If women appear along the way, that's great too, but I think men in general need and crave some passion/goal in life they can pursue. Good luck on the jour…
/r/seduction25/03/21 10:56 AM
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I second the girls != happiness mentality. It stings considerably less getting rejected if you're a happy person over all. It becomes more of a "their loss" in your mind, and you know that eventually you'll find a wonderful someone to share a good time with, not a perfect someone that will make you happy.
/r/seduction23/03/21 01:48 PM
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I mean, I don't think it neccesarily says anything about you. She could perceive it one way or another. I'd say generally though, I prefer to let the women initiate. That way I can focus on other things anyways and only initiate to ask her out (I don't like texting so yeah, getting in person is perfect for me). Women have probably had a 1000 guys bombard them with messages over the years, so letting them initiate most of the time (Just remember don't ignore her, initiate too) seems like a good b…
/r/seduction23/03/21 12:08 AM
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You should probaby let her initiate conversations a little bit. That way you'll know for sure. Find something that will keep you busy and work at it for a bit!
/r/seduction22/03/21 11:34 PM
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Yeah, the end goal is certainly to start getting out there and socializing, but studying a bit first is always a good idea. No need to start chopping the wood if you axe is blunt. Just don't sharpen it forever ;P
/r/seduction22/03/21 10:47 PM
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"Everybody says like you gotta wait, it'll come by itself. Nah bs. For some people maybe, but not for me and a lot of other guys." How do you know? You're 18 for saying it out loud. The people who are older than you and say those things, they say it because they've experienced it. Your problem is not this girl, but your low self-confidence, self hate, and anxiety. Not all of that is in your control, with your OCD and all, but this girl is not what you want to be pursuing right now. First you got…
/r/seduction22/03/21 10:27 PM
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As others have mentioned, you likely have issues unrelated to seduction. I second the guys who mention finding a purpose or meaning with everything. But that's probably not something I can give you a formula for, I don't think I'm there myself anyways.
/r/seduction22/03/21 10:13 PM
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I'm glad you found it useful! Just use this experience to carry yourself further and further. Good luck!
/r/seduction22/03/21 06:33 PM
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Being at the experience level you are at, I'd initially thought I'd give you some largely cold advice, but since you have a month until you're going there, I'll try and give you my best. Buy and read "Models" by Mark Manson. You will not regret it. It's not a "do it tomorrow" thing, it's a now thing. Buy this book, and read it, and hell read it more than once. It's the single best thing you can do for yourself in your situation, because if it comes to a point where she's starting to consider it,…
/r/seduction22/03/21 12:12 AM
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I mean, I'd just meet up with her, and have a good time. If she brings it up, just let her know that you don't want to put pressure on her, and you just enjoy spending time her. There's no need to overcomplicate things. This way, you also avoid her telling you what you what you want to hear (Just to shut you up) then breaking up with you 5 days later because she feels trapped, having gone too far too fast for what she feels comfortable doing.
/r/seduction21/03/21 11:42 PM
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Just relax man, chill. You're pressuring her super hard when she is clearly into you and just wants to take things slow. Giving her deadlines and shit. You already agreed to be exclusive, that's basically a relationship already. Why do you need to put a label on it? The more you pressure her, the more she'll pull back and need more time. You're way too focused on labels instead of enjoying your time with this girl. It's not good for you (As you said about your mental health) or her. Seriously ch…
/r/seduction21/03/21 07:29 PM
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Models, by Mark Manson. 3% Man, by Corey Wayne was a good read too, especially as you're starting out beginning when you benefit from learning principles and guidelines, but I think Models is really a superior version in the end. I feel like 3% taught me how I was supposed to act, how attraction worked in general and Models taught me to be authentic. Which in the end, turned out to be the most important thing bar the basics. If you're going to read both I'd read 3% first.
/r/seduction21/03/21 04:11 PM
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Yeah perhaps I don't know enough about it. That sounds awesome dude.
/r/seduction21/03/21 02:53 AM
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Shit I can't read. Move along citizen
/r/seduction21/03/21 02:52 AM
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I mean you're doing approaching right now for the sake of approaching, and so getting only 1 number seems like it's pretty okay since you're starting out / just approaching anyone you meet. Your tertiary goal is 100 immediate rejections, and that's good. Don't focus too much on arbitrary numbers like this. Your #1 focus is improving your approaches. Maybe it's a bit robotic / practiced and they pick up on that? Perhaps you just keep approaching women who are not into you. All of that calibration…
/r/seduction21/03/21 02:32 AM
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It's probably not a quick fix if you have underlying problems. What are you struggling with? Self-worth? Putting girls/sex on a pedestal? Social skills?
/r/seduction21/03/21 02:17 AM
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Don't let your state of mind fool you into thinking others feel the same way. I don't know how much experience you have with women but if you don't have much, maybe that's why you get a boner when a girl puts her head on your shoulder. I might be wrong though, since I wasn't there. If it really is a horny trance or what you describe, it shouldn't be a big deal to close it. Hell I'd say if 10-30% of girls you meet instantly go into horny trance you'll never have a problem getting laid. So yeah, e…
/r/seduction20/03/21 07:36 PM
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As others have pointed out, most people on this sub preach self-improvement / becoming an attractive, confident man as opposed to PUA strategy. Generally speaking (And I'm sure you'll agree) women prefer men who are honest, confident and driven. And unlike PUA, this actually has great benefits for the men themselves. A lot of people here find so many more benefits from just focusing on ourselves, as opposed to just getting with girls, where it might have started out. I find the feminism aspect s…
/r/seduction20/03/21 06:07 PM
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The difference between confidence and oblivious to me seems to be awareness. An oblivious person doesn't give a fuck about what people think, because they cannot comprehend it / don't register it. If they one day did, would they still start caring? Probably. A confident person understands that other people will think bad/good about them, and chooses to not let that sway them in any way. I'd say the problem with your friend is that he's not just oblivious to other people's judgment, he's also obl…
/r/seduction20/03/21 05:42 PM
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It's likely they are just drunk/high and socializing. Like you said, they look like they are in a trance. It tends to remove their social barriers, and they'll just be up in your face. Or perhaps they're just high off the party vibes, who knows. That's a good thing though (Unless they are really far gone, in which case escalating things is not a good idea). If they're a bit drunk and open to socializing, you can try and escalate with them and who knows, maybe it leads to something. Rule of thumb…
/r/seduction20/03/21 05:15 PM
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Maybe go around doing photography and make a goal of just talking to people you meet? But in the end, you should do it because you find photography fun, and then talking to people as you're out anyways is a good thing, since meeting new people randomly is fun. I'd say if you like 3d modelling, a drawing/painting class could also be good for you. It's useful for your hobby and a social setting. Just remember, if you're going to painting class to pick up girls, it gets pretty apparent pretty quick…
/r/seduction20/03/21 04:56 PM
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Oneitis is one hell of a drug. But I'm sure you've felt similar (Fixated on one woman) before in your life. How much do you care about them now? Luckily for you, there are tens of thousands on women who fit your criteria physically and personality wise. It's a bit like yellow cars. They seem rare but once you start looking you find that they are more common than that. You 100% did the right thing going for it. And who knows, give a few months, a year, and you'll feel super confident about yourse…
/r/seduction20/03/21 01:41 PM
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Probably she was just unsure about you. You handled it pretty well, but she might flake or change her mind in the end. Just handle it like a champ and you'll be fine I guess.
/r/seduction18/03/21 09:16 PM
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Sure it can help, but I don't know, in my experience the girls who care a lot about men's fashion aren't the ones I vibe the best with anyways. You can dress how you like as long as you own it, for the most part. Again, not irrelevant, but a much smaller factor than confidence/numbers in terms of reaching more women.
/r/seduction17/03/21 08:05 PM
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None of the others matter if you don't have confidence. Numbers game scales with your confidence / looks, IE. If you're a confident good looking guy, your % of receptive women you meet are higher. I don't think fashion sense is very important, neither is success or health. I'd say success/health (Attractiveness in general) are more linked to confidence (The better these are, the more confident you will be). Some people (myself included) find it easier to build confidence if you work out or dress…
/r/seduction17/03/21 05:56 PM
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Yeah I won't sugarcoat it, getting out of a scarcity mindset is hard if you don't have an abundance. I'm not saying its impossible, but its more of a gradual change, at least it was for me. It's like: Gain some confidence (Through personal development) -> realize you have a slightly easier time with girls -> get more confidence because of it -> slightly easier time again. Slow ride but it's worth it I say. But no quick fix.
/r/seduction16/03/21 08:46 PM
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Oh my bad, small brain fry. I don't have a specific "Her" that I met within this timeframe, during the period from 6 months to about a year I met different women through: Sports camp Festival Activity Group (For one of my hobbies) Class (Started a new class) Parties / Student bar setting With varying levels of success, in terms of how far it went. In more recent times I've met girls at bars / the mall as well, but that took a bit more confidence so yeah. You can meet them anywhere as long as you…
/r/seduction16/03/21 03:54 PM
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An abundance mindset obviously works better if you actually have an abundance. As you note, it's hard to get dates as it is with the pandemic and all. So you don't actually have an abundance, in practice. There's no magic switch, but probably start to think of abundance more like the girls you could potentially date outside the pandemic, not the ones you actually. It's about understanding that sure, you're not getting a lot of dates right now but there IS an abundance of women out there, and you…
/r/seduction16/03/21 03:34 PM
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First time for real? Six or seven. But it didn't last, because I still didn't fully know what I was doing / I hadn't really fixed all my issues at that point.
/r/seduction16/03/21 03:25 PM
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Good comment, really concise in what matters. For me it took probably a year though, before I felt all around confident, with spurs in between where I thought I had it around 6 months or so. It's different for everyone I suppose.
/r/seduction15/03/21 10:45 PM
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It does indeed depend on what your intentions are. Do you just want to have sex or do you want a LTR? Because if it's the former, it's better to communicate that with her, IE. Yeah you could spend some time with in the evening, walking around the city, and try and escalate with some kissing. If she's up for it you could ask if she wants to book a hotel room for the night. If she's down, she'll probably say yes. Or she'll get offended because she thought you wanted a relationship with her (Which …
/r/seduction15/03/21 01:20 PM
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I mean, do you live in a western country? Because inviting the girl over to make dinner / watch a movie is a total normal thing to do unless your parents are strict. I'd say if you're both young (Which is sounds like) you really don't have to rush things. Did you kiss yet? Maybe that's a good start. If you did, does she seem enthusiastic about hanging out with you? Do you want a LTR with her? There's a lot of things to consider. If you're young, especially, a lot of girls are shy and would prefe…
/r/seduction15/03/21 12:44 PM
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Always another fish bro. Don't stress it. Probably hide your phone when you smoke or something, eh.
/r/seduction15/03/21 12:27 PM
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I think movies is for when you already know she wants you, since you just have progressively lean closer to her as the movie plays out and I don't know, kiss her or something, but I don't do movie dates with girls I just started seeing. In general doing something together where you can talk / do an activity is better. I've had success with taking a walk together, downtown and just having a good time. Perhaps you can go grab a sandwich and later go to your place and make dinner? I think it depend…
/r/seduction15/03/21 11:17 AM
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If you have no difficulty getting girls to hang out with you, does that mean you've already done it a few times? What happened? Did you just talk, or? You gotta think of it like this. If a girl is willing to hang out with you one-on-one, 90% of the time it's because she's into you, or at least considering it. All you have to do at this point, is escalate with her to let her know that you're bold enough to go for it. Best activities (imo) is stuff at your or her place. Just the two of you, doing …
/r/seduction15/03/21 02:15 AM
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Don't think you need to respond. If she starts messaging you again you can always be polite and say "Hey look, I appreciate it but I really don't see you as a friend, I'm attracted to you romantically, so if that's not going to work, I'd rather we go our seperate ways with a good experience to remember." Actually that seems a little weird, my texting game is kinda weak. But something like that. If she texts you again, and it's not to date you but just friendly conversation/memes/whatever, just l…
/r/seduction15/03/21 02:05 AM
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Bruh if you're already hanging out with her after work, she's either into you or you're friendzoned. I can't claim to know which one it is. Say you meet up in the workplace, ask her to hang out again? I don't know what vibe you guys have, but I'd ask her to come hang out in some shape, like smoking up if that's your thing, or to come make dinner with you, maybe in combination. And I'd just start slow. Have fun together, crack your jokes and just be yourself. Don't think too much about seduction.…
/r/seduction15/03/21 01:40 AM
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I think you missed your shot there dude. Best thing you can do is let her know that you're not interested in just being friends, and that you find her attractive and want to date her. She'll either think about it, and decide that maybe dating you could work, or decline, and you'll have to yeah, stop being friends with her. Who knows, maybe she'll fix her mental issues and stuff down the road, and you can hop on a date or two to see if there's any spark left. More likely you'll just have to move …
/r/seduction15/03/21 01:28 AM
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In what setting? Bar, party, school? It's a bit important for what you want to do. Here's what worked in my experience: Bar: If I feel a good connection with a girl I just keep having fun, and get to know her a bit. Ask her about herself. Ask her to come do something physical with me (Dance, Beerpong, you name it) and as we keep having fun, I'll touch her shoulder, arm etc, but I rarely over do it. You shouldn't need to, if she's really into you. Of course smile, and have a good time. If I feel …
/r/seduction15/03/21 01:20 AM
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I mean, if your goal is just to bang hot girls, sure. But being beta is largely a mindset and not being a beta has a lot more benefits than simply getting girls. To me it's just similar to treating a symptom instead of the cause. The symptom is that you won't get with girls, while the cause of that (And the cause of a lot of other life problems) is that you're weak and insecure. Being on a seduction subreddit, a lot of people seem to forget that being confident and an 'alpha' male is also benefi…
/r/seduction15/03/21 12:46 AM
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Ask her out, the sooner the better. If you both enjoy each others company, waiting for a long time won't make her like you more. If she has a thing for you, it's better to let her know that you're into her right away, girls can tell if you're hesitant. A simple: "Hey, I enjoy your company. Do you want to grab a cup of coffee sometime?" (Or a sandwich, or just hang out, whatever floats your boat). Just be super polite about it if she rejects you. "Oh, okay, no worries. Have a great day!" Nothing …
/r/seduction14/03/21 02:27 PM
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Say something cheesy, then kiss her. If you say something cheesy and don't kiss her, you'll feel like twice the fool, so this way you just have to go for it. If the vibes are there, and you think there's a chance she's receptive (If she's not receptive, you'll know, if she is, chances are you will be unsure, and if you're unsure, I say go for it.), best thing to do is just do it.
/r/seduction14/03/21 02:18 PM
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Good stuff man. Keep going at it!
/r/seduction14/03/21 02:15 PM
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Confidence is when you're not needy, more or less. It means you're not looking for validation, you're comfortable with yourself as you are and you say what you want to say without being scared of what people might think of you. Example, confidence is walking up to a girl at a party and starting to chat with her, letting her know you find her attractive or asking her to come dance with you. Without saying anything, just by your attitude, your smile and your actions, you tell her that you're confi…
/r/seduction14/03/21 02:13 PM
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Start by asking girls for directions. For me it was a great help to start with. Go around the city and ask (Ask guys too, by the way, talking to everyone is a good skill) for directions to random locations in the vicinity. That's all. "Hey, excuse me, do you know where X is?" Just smile at them and try to get used to it. Say "Thanks, have a good day." and go down the block, find someone else and ask. After a while, chatting up people will be easier because you've already talked to many strangers…
/r/seduction14/03/21 02:01 PM
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Good stuff dude, just remember to be honest about your intentions, and most importantly have fun ;)
/r/seduction14/03/21 01:54 PM
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Bro just go all the way if they look at you whip out your dick and start screaming. Show them how confident you are. In all seriosness, I totally feel ya. I used to be really shy too, if girls tried making eye contact with me I'd instantly flinch and look away. Whether or not girls like being looked at briefly is a bit off the point I suppose. If your end goal is looking at girls, yeah sure that might be important but I suppose since you're this subreddit, you'll want to eventually muster up the…
/r/seduction14/03/21 12:52 AM
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When I started (Though I don't like 'doing' cold approaches as a regular activity anymore, but just talking to women on the street in general if I find them attractive) I always told myself that I'd never see her again, and I just wanted to talk to her and get rejected. So I went up, said what I wanted to say ("Hi, what's your name?" "Okay Anna, I'm looking for blablabla...") and if she seemed receptive (In the beginning, that was never) I asked for her contact info. Most of the time, I just ask…
/r/seduction14/03/21 12:17 AM
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I'd say if she's ignoring you just wait it out. Worst thing you can do is bombard her snap/text right now. If she likes you she'll get back to you. Chances are she doesn't or she's busy. In both cases, texting her more will turn her off even more. Let her text you and ask her out. Just be direct about it. If she rejects you it's fine. You'll meet 1000's of women during your life anyways.
/r/seduction14/03/21 12:10 AM
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One time I was at a bar, and I spotted a group of girls (4) and one girl in particular I found really attractive. My friends were not there at the moment (Out smoking) so I went up to their table and said something along the lines of: "Hey, do you mind if I sit?" They said yes, and I sat down. I asked them if it was their first time there (It's a local bar and they were foreigners it turned out) and asked for their names, after which I started conversing a bit with the girl in question about whe…
/r/seduction14/03/21 12:03 AM
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It all blends together in memory honestly. I was at a party where I knew I'd never see most of the people again, ended up sleeping with a great girl after approaching her and asking her to dance with me. I had approached a ton of people asking for directions so when one day I met a girl in a mall, striking up conversation and getting her number didn't even seem scary, it just seemed like normal, healthy conversation. Those were moments when it just clicked for me. Before that, tons of awkward co…
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