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Hahah yeah fair. I've lived with some pretty nasal whiney dogs before.
/r/MensRights03/06/24 12:03 PM
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I mean, I'm a woman .. but I'm gonna pick the dog. Dog isn't going to talk my ear off after my 12 hour day.
/r/MensRights02/06/24 02:17 PM
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Explain how you feel that a statement of people with children needing someone stay back to raise the children and a statement that those who are childless would go and participate is sexist, or in some way lacking in the ability to find a mate?
/r/MensRights02/06/24 04:07 AM
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I said commercial piloting could be. Not military. I don't think anything needs to be down the middle, a straight split...because I think people should choose careers that are going to make them happy and inspire them. I also don't think that anyone should get shit on for wanting to do something outside the box. Not just women, men too. Some men want to be in stereotypical female roles and there isn't anything wrong with that either. It doesn't need to be 50/50. It just needs to be acceptable.
/r/MensRights01/06/24 03:03 PM
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I admit, I don't know enough about the specific necessities of piloting in military applications to give an informed opinion on that one. Commercial piloting could definitely be 50/50, based on conversations with friends who are pilots. In general, it's true. Just as you'll find more females in healthcare than you will males. It doesn't mean anyone is better or worse than anyone else, it just means that typically we are gifted with certain gifts to utilize.
/r/MensRights29/05/24 10:43 PM
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I don't know that it's logical to have a 50/50 split in the case of armed forces. I do see why a person would want to say that they feel it should be equal. However, realistically, women are typically smaller and weaker. The physical requirements for front line efforts aren't something most women have the capability to do. That's not about mental stamina mind you, but actual physical capability. That said, other areas where they could be equal are places like piloting aircraft or in naval duties…
/r/MensRights29/05/24 06:35 PM
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It's not. I'm just saying how it was, and that women were still involved and helpful. Currently women do sign up for the forces and fight alongside men in some countries. So things have changed since WW2. While not in all countries, and that's something left to the country to determine.
/r/MensRights28/05/24 02:00 PM
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In my neck of the woods, the majority of lawmakers are men...not women. And while some things can be voted on by the individual, most of it is voted on by parliament houses which the individual has very little effect on. I don't have the funds to affect that system. But, again, women are allowed to serve here. I have no idea how a conscription would work in our current climate because we haven't needed one in a long ass time. A lot of this goes back to traditional gender roles that a lot of peop…
/r/MensRights28/05/24 01:56 PM
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I think that in case of conscription, only one parent should have to go, and they should decide between the couple who should go. And if a person is not a parent then it's whatever other factors they use aside gender. In case of signing up for service, but not required to serve as is the case for my country currently, then men and women are currently both allowed to decide for themselves if they want to serve and that suits me fine.
/r/MensRights27/05/24 08:37 PM
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Ask the government's that refuse to let women serve. My government allows women to serve.
/r/MensRights27/05/24 08:33 PM
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Most of the Ukranian refugees that come into my store are fit young men. That being said, there are different laws there about serving a tour of duty. And, yes, most women with small children would stay back to look after the children. There are others, childless, who would do as women have done in the past and nurse. There are more still who have a lot more grit than I do, who would fight alongside the menfolk. I'm in the nurse camp personally. And there's nothing wrong with that....someone's g…
/r/MensRights27/05/24 12:57 PM
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Yes, the woman who just wants everyone to have a fair shake. Meaning apples to apples comparison in the job market. Equal pay for equal work, but who understands when you change things like hours, tenure, workload there will be a difference between two individuals in pay and it doesn't have anything to do with gender but with the aforementioned factors. See, I don't really call myself a feminist because I tend to get into some pretty heated debates with them defending men. However, the basis of …
/r/MensRights27/05/24 12:51 PM
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I see your point about equity vs equal opportunity. The opportunity to get the job should be equal, apples to apples comparison and gender irrelevant. Not having kickbacks for hiring more women, or more of one group over another and so on. But that is the current business model. If there are two new hires, one man, one woman and both have the same education and previous experience (apples to apples) they should get the same rate of pay. (And do in most cases currently.) As to the matter of label…
/r/MensRights27/05/24 12:44 PM
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Okay, in workplace it means equal opportunity for jobs based on education and experience. It means equal pay for equal work and equal tenure. And I was asking what a person might define a category of woman who thinks that way, not if the stereotypical feminist thinks that way...random internet person.
/r/MensRights26/05/24 05:24 PM
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I'm not asking about that, I'm asking what you would classify a woman who thinks that way as.
/r/MensRights26/05/24 05:21 PM
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What would you define a woman who simply wants a system of equity? I'll use children caught in the middle of separation as examples. Typically and unless the circumstances are significantly extreme, children go directly to the mother. Unless the woman is reasonable to begin with, the fella has to spend a ton of money to fight to get even 50/50. Now, to my mind, it shouldn't be like this. It should be immediately 50/50 if both parents are fit. And if they are not both fit then; should be decided …
/r/MensRights26/05/24 01:44 PM
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You should hear me argue with one at group events. Its rather unfortunate because it puts the homeowners in a bit of a pickle. However, this person utilizes the gentleman of the house regularly for abilities and I'm not afraid to point it out in front of a crowd.
/r/MensRights26/05/24 01:26 AM
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Can I just say thank you. It drives me bonkers that people don't understand that a person can want what's right for two different groups.
/r/MensRights26/05/24 01:23 AM
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I think there was a lack of focus on trades for a long time so that's a part of it. There was a significant push there. And there's nothing wrong with blue collar work. Most of the people I know in trades make more money than people I know in corporate jobs anyway. The work is just more damaging to their body..... Hazard pay I suppose. Additionally, there's a lack of resources, not just for men but women too, for scholarships and bursaries and grants to apply for. So, for anyone who has bad cred…
/r/MensRights26/05/24 01:18 AM
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Calling a friend out on their garbage behaviour isn't collective guilt, though. I'll give you that peer pressure is not what it really is either.
/r/MensRights26/05/24 01:12 AM
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I believe in individual responsibility. But there's nothing wrong with a little peer pressure. When a friend of mine is acting like a cunt I tell him or her they're acting like a cunt.
/r/MensRights25/05/24 02:23 PM
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I can see why a person would think that way. My little brother was having to borrow money from our mom despite working 16 hour days to cover his child support payments. This type of behaviour isn't limited to just women though. When I left my ex, I was a husk of myself. I stayed longer than I should; trying to protect his biological children from him. He was hitting them any time he got angry. So I would step in and take the brunt of it so a 3 and 4 year old wouldn't. To try to satisfy his deman…
/r/MensRights25/05/24 02:19 PM
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Ah I see. I'm a second year apprentice. And there are certainly things that I can't do as much as the guys. I don't have the same upper body strength and am shorter, so when I'm bringing parts out sometimes it'll take two trips down the ilse rather than one. Only lifting one car battery rather than one in each hand. That sort of thing. But nobody seems to mind. That said, there are other trades that I specifically chose not to go into because I knew I wouldn't be capable of the work physically. …
/r/MensRights25/05/24 02:09 PM
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I don't have a problem with the idea of a single Dad either. As long as the Dad is a good parent and not like my Dad was lol. Also, could be quite useful for gay couples. I'm not single. But I am a woman who can't conceive. So I think both are pretty awesome science. Especially since so many people aren't down for adoption. Not that it matters for me now... I finally just decided to meet someone who didn't want kids at all so I wouldn't feel guilty all the time. 🤷
/r/MensRights25/05/24 01:55 PM
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I can understand this. A lot of the women you're talking about here have taken this approach to men. I think people need to do what best keeps their peace and mental clarity in tact. That said, I've always been a promoter of not letting your fear of being hurt block you from letting someone in. Because sometimes the journey is a learning experience we need. And sometimes it's just good fun for the soul. And sometimes, if you're lucky, you find someone who will stick around for fifty years. Certa…
/r/MensRights25/05/24 01:48 PM
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Being that women in trades are like this, or not like this, you mean?
/r/MensRights23/05/24 10:10 PM
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Meh. My favourite and most helpful dating app was bumble. Chicks make the first move. I do the asking out. When I did get married, I was the one to propose. Most gals aren't like that I know. But it's not completely uncommon. Every single one of my married couple friends the women proposed to the men.
/r/MensRights23/05/24 10:09 PM
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That's a fair point. Having been raised by a single parent to the betterment of my childhood experience, I don't particularly disapprove of single parenting. And I don't disapprove of non--hetero couples having the option to have kids either... So neither of those things really bother me. But I definitely agree that it likely would be open to both of those options as IVF is.
/r/MensRights23/05/24 10:03 PM
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So, I've just read over the 2024 equal pay day report from the Canadian labour market council, and as you mentioned in your later paragraphs... Apples to apples are not compared. I look at my partner and I, and it's obvious why we make different amounts. He's 11 year tenure at his company in his trade, and I'm a 2nd year apprentice in mine. Obviously the bring home isn't going to match yet. The other thing to consider in these things is union contracts vs non unionized employment. The pay struct…
/r/MensRights23/05/24 12:40 PM
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Agreed wholeheartedly. I just see it as potentially useful for couples who can't conceive. And when you've had countless conversations that went; "what about adoption?" And "no, it's not the same" with multiple partners over the years, you start to realize just how much passing on biological traits is fervently important to most people, male or female.
/r/MensRights23/05/24 12:22 PM
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For couples who aren't able to conceive naturally, I don't see why it couldn't be an option if the science was sound.
/r/MensRights23/05/24 12:19 PM
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Some women don't want children. And that's okay. I always wanted children but I'm unable to have them. I don't see how being interested in an advancement in science is rude. As for going through PPD, I've seen how it can affect families. It's pretty rough on everyone. And while there are definitely instances in history of women with PPD committing murder, that's a rather small lot by comparison to how many actually have it. Most get medication and therapy. They do especially well when they have …
/r/MensRights23/05/24 12:18 PM
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Artificial wombs? Whyfor? As another alternative for women who can't conceive or carry to term? That's an interesting notion for sure. Especially if you've got viable eggs and blocked tubes.
/r/MensRights23/05/24 01:07 AM
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https://www.abc.net.au/science/articles/2007/04/16/1898103.htm#:~:text=If%20scientists%20can%20take%20bone,turning%20them%20into%20egg%20cells. In this article it discusses using male bone marrow from an infertile male to basically create sperm and then utilize IVF. Apparently done in mice as of 2007 when this was written. I mean, theoretically, if it works for male bone marrow it would also work for female bone marrow to get eggs. But you would still need egg + sperm to get implantation in a vi…
/r/MensRights23/05/24 01:01 AM
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How in the heck did you read that from sharing a story about my abusive grandfather and an uncle that commit suicide? Ffs.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 07:10 PM
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Exactly. It's the same issue people have faced for so long in rape cases. The only proof a person has comes down to physical evidence. And even that can be skewed by the right kind of story arche. Usually not toward helping the victims as history has shown. Though we are getting better with more advanced in technology.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 07:07 PM
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This was really interesting to read. Not autistic but recently Dx. Low processing speed and working memory. So I'm particularly interested in these things. Would you say the focused bias is due to the fact that the majority of high functioning, level 1, are female and so the bias is there because of its focus on functionality? Or are you suggesting that there's a lack of help/support for low functioning autistic folk because they're mostly men? I'm just a bit confused as to how the information c…
/r/MensRights22/05/24 01:12 PM
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The point is that the other people involved in the interactions would have to agree to be monitored too. So, the men would need to be okay with it also. If the woman is monitored then the men, by proxy, are viewed also during the woman's monitoring. You can't film the woman's interactions with men, without filming the man also.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 01:00 PM
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I would be fine with having my interactions monitored. But not my personal time. No risk to anyone else if I'm in the bathroom or watching tv. Thing is though, the other parties would also have to consent to be monitored. And most wouldn't.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 12:32 PM
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Okay but...who wouldn't want to see Godzilla?
/r/MensRights22/05/24 12:24 PM
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Exactly this. This is most people off-line reaction that I've spoken with. And, certainly, there are people out there who are capable of terrible things. Men and women alike. This doesn't mean, statistically, that a person will run into one of those people in every encounter.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 12:23 PM
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Yeah, Terry Crews was one of them. Matthew McConaughey as well. Others aside from the celebrity lot. Its not that I don't realize there are plenty of asses online who have misguided views on these topics. I do. The internet is a sesspit. But I feel if a person makes a point to surround themselves with genuinely good people then if they come forward in their real life, not online life, they will be getting the support they need. Obviously this is a different matter for children who are victimized…
/r/MensRights22/05/24 12:16 PM
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I remember when I was younger, a lot of the men on my Dad's side of the family would discuss such things and make statements about sucking it up and moving on etc. Products of a different time, and also victims of a different time. It came out during my Dad's rehab that grandpa was quite sexually abusive. And so, none of my uncle's faired very well. One of them eventually ended his circular pain entirely. Others self medicated. None got help real help. I see a different mentality now that I'm gr…
/r/MensRights22/05/24 12:13 PM
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Yeah, social media is a sesspit of toxicity. That's terrible though. I've never, in real life, encountered anyone who has responded this way. Save one elder woman who had the "men (full grown) can't be raped by women" viewpoint, but after some discussion and education she saw my point that it can/does happen. The world is vast though and full of mindsets I don't appreciate.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 12:06 PM
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I prefer male companionship to female companionship. I suffer from certain mental illness and a mild learning disability, and I've found that guys' have far more patience for dysregulation. The exception being those who exhibit a lot of narcissistic traits. But in general, dudes are better friends.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 04:06 AM
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I agree. The kinds of things I'm referencing certainly aren't firable offences. They have regulations for those of course. In cases of verbal or physical harassment, that's another matter. Those items are documented. I'd still say to state the impropriety and see if the behaviour ceases before going forward with a complaint to senior staff, but they are documented as offences that can cause termination for a reason.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 03:58 AM
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I just remember reading articles from that time period about a lot of men coming forward. Far more than I had ever read about before. And I thought it was great that men were finally coming out with it and not shoving that shit down into a bottle for it to explode later. People gotta talk about this stuff.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 03:51 AM
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I forgot about the Kevin Spacey thing. There was also Matthew McConaughey, Terry Crews.... Others. I suppose the difference is that you can view this from a widespread view where everyone is able to come forward, legally, and get support legally and psychologically. Or you can view it from strictly a social media platform where you typically see extreme views on either end of a theory run rampant. I'd rather focus on the former, than the latter.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 03:49 AM
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I can't speak to that. I just remember reading a lot of articles about male victims coming forward too during that time. It was also during a time when I avoided social media.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 03:44 AM
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I'll give you that, again though, that's where communication comes in. And each person does have a right to request certain things not be said to them. Like one of the guys I work with says mom jokes are over the line, he sees red, so nobody goes there. It's pretty easy to communicate your expectations to your coworkers. It's not difficult. If a person is in a mental state where they feel so uncomfortable they can't communicate these things to anyone, chances are there's a lot more going on at h…
/r/MensRights22/05/24 03:43 AM
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I'm sorry you've had that experience. You've known some pretty shitty people.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 03:38 AM
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By whom? I ask specifically by who because I want to know if it's by their doctors, lawyers, family members, male friends, female friends... The view that a man speaking out about their experience somehow invalidates other people's experience is absurd. But who actually thinks that way?
/r/MensRights22/05/24 03:37 AM
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Terry Crews, James Van Der Beek, Matthew McConaughey are just a few of the names I know. Matthew McConaughey even touches on it in his book Greenlights.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 03:34 AM
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metoo was also about male victims standing up and speaking out though. Not just female victims. So I am not sure that counts as inherently anti-male but rather anti-rape.... And anyone who argues that rape or molestation shouldn't get put in the terrible acts category needs their head examined. I can think of a few celebrity males who spoke out during that time.
/r/MensRights21/05/24 01:35 PM
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I wonder if that's because of the reason you stated, or because men typically don't have the same type of bullshit politics that women do when working on mass together? I have worked in all female teams and currently am the only female in an otherwise male team. I prefer the male team, even though it has certain drawbacks, because there isn't the same requirement for nuanced communication. I can just very blatantly state what the facts are logically about a situation, or ask a direct question, a…
/r/MensRights21/05/24 01:28 PM
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Even if the treatment is the same as the other men, that doesn't mean it's workplace appropriate. And, if it's not workplace appropriate, there's nothing wrong with saying something. But I do think she ought to have said something directly to him first. Especially since they were colleagues and it wasn't a customer/employee situation.
/r/MensRights21/05/24 01:23 PM
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I can definitely see your point with the neurodivergent and body language; again that's where verbal communication is paramount. As to the double standards, that is a problem. There are people who still think that men shouldn't voice similar concerns, and that's a problem for sure. It's also a problem because it causes some men to feel that women shouldn't voice these concerns either. When in reality, everyone needs to.
/r/MensRights20/05/24 10:34 PM
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Not really. I'm in charge of my own behaviour, nobody else's. I'm not in a position of power. If someone comes to me with a problem about my behaviour, I fix it.
/r/MensRights20/05/24 03:15 PM
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What about the comment made you uncomfortable? How can I fix the wording to get the same message across without troubling you?
/r/MensRights20/05/24 03:14 PM
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Lol. That's a very mature and well thought out response.
/r/MensRights20/05/24 03:12 PM
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Exactly. They're two separate issues. That's why I'm saying communication is paramount to avoid escalation. It's on everyone to communicate verbally, and to read body language. If someone shrugs away from you, they probably don't want you so close.
/r/MensRights20/05/24 03:11 PM
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Gender neutral, psychology has always been concerned with typical vs. atypical behaviour. And atypical behaviours usually include being physically or emotionally harmful in some way. And the reasoning behind what drives a person to act this way and how to treat those impulses. I can see where you're going with the less harmful environment. I think the fact that they're still used to date means that they're also gender neutral tests. They're not specifically geared to females. I also think that t…
/r/MensRights20/05/24 03:08 PM
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To be clear, it's if a person does something that makes another person uncomfortable. I was recently reading a post where a female was rubbing a male's leg at work. Making him question whether or not she was into him. They were in college. This behaviour is completely inappropriate. I don't care what gender you are, communication is key. While I am in charge of how I feel, my situation and environment encourage how I feel, and any person is allowed to state that they do not LIKE something in the…
/r/MensRights20/05/24 02:57 PM
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I don't know if she did, or didn't, I know what I read from one angry individual. Angry with good reason but angry nonetheless. And often our anger clouds our ability to see things from multiple perspectives. What I know, is that if someone feels uncomfortable in my workplace, I do my best to ensure that what makes them uncomfortable ends. It doesn't matter who it is. What gender they are. What matters is that people treat people with courtesy and respect for their personal boundaries. And, if a…
/r/MensRights19/05/24 07:30 PM
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For someone to tell another person that they're uncomfortable, they are uncomfortable. Someone unknowingly doing something that makes another person uncomfortable is still an action taken by that person. The person doing the thing still needs to step up and agree NOT to do the thing that makes the other person uncomfortable. Communication is key.
/r/MensRights19/05/24 06:22 PM
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Obviously if a person makes another person uncomfortable, they've done something unknowingly wrong. Example, one of the guys at work gets extremely nervous when women stand close to him. He told me about this early on and I make sure to keep a good length between us when we interact. It's all about communication.
/r/MensRights19/05/24 06:19 PM
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At the time, women could only be nurses in the war. They had to help out in other ways at home while their husbands, brothers, and so on were off risking life and limb. There's nothing wrong with the women doing the riveting and whatnot as needed to keep things going from this side. The nurses saw their fair share too. Personality tests aren't gender specific either. You can have a man and a woman come out with the exact same personality type. Companies do use these frequently, and it usually fi…
/r/MensRights19/05/24 03:53 PM
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I'm sorry you're going through that. She sounds mentally unstable. And it sounds to me like you jumped the gun because there was a baby on the way. It's going to be very difficult financially and visitation wise, but it sounds to me like you need to exit this relationship as soon as possible for your own health. You can't take care of your child if you're an emotionally drained, withered husk.
/r/MensRights19/05/24 03:16 PM
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I'm sorry that you lost your job. It's pretty simple though, I'm a woman working with an entirely male team. They're ALL decent men. The trick is knowing what people's boundaries are and what is acceptable in the workplace. This doesn't mean anyone walks on eggshells. It just means the huggers don't hug people at work. You don't invade a person's personal space. I mean this as people, not specifically men, there are plenty of things I don't do at work because it's inappropriate for the workplace…
/r/MensRights19/05/24 03:05 PM
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I don't think so. I've met my boyfriend a year and a half ago on bumble. I'm 38. Similar description as you stated in your post. I have plenty of horror stories through the years, but it doesn't mean the platforms are bad. It just means that someone got past my pre-meet chat period that shouldn't have. Means I missed something that would indicate a bad match.
/r/MensRights19/05/24 04:22 AM
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Realistically, people can be terrible. So what it really is, is "not all people, but always somebody" There. Fixed.
/r/MensRights19/05/24 12:01 AM
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I'd be curious to know how old you are. That's not the outlook of the vast majority of women I've met over the last twenty years. A handful who were unable to work for one reason or other and had other income streams that didn't include men. Another handful of stay at home mom's, but that's a choice both parties made together. And when the kids got to a certain age, said woman was expected to go find work again. There's definitely some celebrity cases I've seen where they've got nannies and the …
/r/MensRights18/05/24 11:45 PM
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I don't know about school age kids, but I was an early childhood educator for years, and I guarantee that yes there is a difference between behaviour in each child. Often the girls were more of a handful than the boys for me. The boys were usually little darlings as long as they were kept active enough where the girls were...saucy.
/r/MensRights17/05/24 07:45 PM
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Trauma bonding isn't just something that happens to women. Plenty of men get trauma bonded too. It's not about liking drama, it's about being manipulated into feeling you're with the best you're ever going to get because you're worthless anyway. It's a very, very sad road no matter who it happens to. And it's very difficult to get out of, and takes a long time to recover from.
/r/MensRights17/05/24 02:26 PM
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Lol. It's okay. I'm not partial to either side of that coin. I'm more conservative leaning than I care to admit some days. Truthfully, I don't think it has anything to do with my words.
/r/MensRights16/05/24 12:04 PM
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I think there's a distinct difference between people who are hard working and being held back by circumstance and people who are lazy. I think a good many of us have dabbled in both. But when you choose to remain lacking in ambition, drive, determination to do anything to make your own headway then I do get a bee in my bonnet. That goes for women or men. I don't care what gender the person is, it just grinds my gears when folk who have all kinds of potential don't do anything with it. And, I'll …
/r/MensRights16/05/24 04:32 AM
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I do admit I vent a bit at work. But the guys I work with vent to me too about their crap. It's a very mutually beneficial venting space. They all give a unique perspective and I find it helpful to have different viewpoints when I'm frustrated.
/r/MensRights16/05/24 03:52 AM
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I absolutely agree about the decision to seek counseling when needed. I'm not sure about the biological trigger component. By nature women are meant to be nurturing creatures. I know not all are, but biologically speaking, that's supposedly the priority. And if so, it would make more sense for a biological trigger to be nurturing and compassionate. Perhaps, even detrimentally enabling. That being said, I remember growing up and hearing many a voices talking about how boys needed to be tough and …
/r/MensRights16/05/24 02:58 AM
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Gaslighting is trying to convince someone they've said or done something they haven't. Or that you have or haven't said or done something. So, no. No gaslighting by definition. And I do think it's sad that in his experience so many women are like that. Why wouldn't I? Don't you?
/r/MensRights15/05/24 08:15 PM
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I'm not sure what meta verified means... I remember seeing that group pop up on my feed once. You'd have to be perpetually lacking in trust to be hunting down if your partner was seeing someone else. But, it happens all the time too, these fears come from somewhere. After getting out of a relationship where I'd been cheated on, I decided, there's no reason to get into a new one until I can do so without thinking the worst every time there's a missed message, call, or date.
/r/MensRights15/05/24 08:11 PM
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I think the answer is both. You can't start out not trusting even a little bit, because if you don't, why are you even there? But you also gain more trust as time goes on. Still, when people are together for a long time and don't feel they can confide in their partner, I think it's sad for the relationship. I think it's something that should be able to be done.
/r/MensRights15/05/24 08:04 PM
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I think that's sad. I mean that you feel so many women lose respect for men who discuss their problems. This actually creates a problem in relationships for me, because if my partner doesn't discuss what's going on with me, that means they don't trust me, and if they don't trust me they obviously don't see a future with me. And so on and so forth down the rabbit hole. My current partner occasionally breaks down and discusses his real feelings, but usually it's just sarcasm and angry comments.
/r/MensRights15/05/24 07:59 PM
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I mean, strong men still typically want someone to confide in and share things with, don't they? Why can't a strong woman want the same?
/r/MensRights15/05/24 07:50 PM
2

Yeah, my boyfriend has had his libido turned off for almost a year and it's getting quite difficult to cope with. But... It is what it is.
/r/MensRights15/05/24 07:12 PM
2

When you look at this and read the article, she's being convicted of crimes in the 70s. She's being held accountable for things done before I was even alive. She may be trying to fight it, most people in that position do, but the law convicted her that many years later. Good. People need to be held accountable. No matter their gender.
/r/MensRights15/05/24 03:54 AM
1

It's totally worth it. As some places do have a space for child support payments on the forms. We do here where I live. Alimony isn't on it, though. But child support is.
/r/MensRights15/05/24 03:45 AM
3

I'm not sure this is the current paradigm. Men in various trades have long hair, piercings, tattoos and don't get fired for it. Some corporate jobs still maintain rules about tattoos but that is gender neutral. Some people do still get into snits about straight men wearing makeup or nail polish but that's something I hear men complain about more than women. Not that there aren't women who would complain, I'm sure there are plenty. I've just never met any in person. One of the guys at work recent…
/r/MensRights15/05/24 03:42 AM
1

Maybe it was the sarcastic tone I had with wearing sweaters in overly warm climates. Or maybe it's the fact that I agreed I wanted people to see my ink and that's part of the reason I go with sleeveless instead of t-shirts. Or, more likely, that I said if people don't like how I look, they don't have to look lol.
/r/MensRights15/05/24 01:11 AM
1

Thanks for that. I appreciate it. :)
/r/MensRights15/05/24 01:09 AM
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When a man treats his partner as an equal, despite their occupational differences, then sure. Makes total sense. But when they do not, it leaves a sour taste. I like to think most men wouldn't focus on that their partners make less money than they do. Because there are other ways to measure success. Doing well in school, a promotion, personal development and so on. Still there are some men (and of course women) who value financial aspects above anything else. So, for a woman like me, who works o…
/r/MensRights14/05/24 07:33 PM
-3

Uhm. I wear leggings because they're comfortable. They also fit better than jeans. Though I do wear jeans to work nowadays because they stand up better to the battery acid getting on them and are easier to patch. As to tops being revealing. Well. You try wearing a sweater when it's 26 degrees out. I'll take my sleeveless top that shows off my half sleeve tattoo. Sure, I get comments on it. That's why I spent near a grand on it! Because I like it and I knew others would too. But if other folk can…
/r/MensRights12/05/24 05:07 AM
10

Barely anyone NOW has means to save money...but that's a whole other economic conundrum.
/r/MensRights10/05/24 04:20 AM
1

My story about my partner wasn't about a meme. It was about real life problems. But you did say that there was no point in talking about feelings to the girl in question who had upset a fella because of her thoughts on a meme. And, I disagreed with that. I didn't have an exact replica of the story in my own life because I can understand my own trauma fear responses with men dating back to an abusive father. So, specifically, with the meme, I DO still have apprehension around new people (not just…
/r/MensRights08/05/24 01:38 PM
1

Every kind of sexism is a problem AND a response.
/r/MensRights08/05/24 03:09 AM
1

My response was directly related to the OP. It doesn't have to do with your experiences and how you have handled your conversations. But yes, I do think it's important to communicate with your partner both what you are feeling and to seek to understand their fears. Not to manage them, to understand them. Those who refuse to communicate with their spouses will only end up without a spouse. It's not degrading to show positive understanding to your partner. My boyfriend is currently severely depres…
/r/MensRights08/05/24 03:08 AM
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So, it's about fear. For any of us who have experienced childhood sexual abuse or adult sexual assault. For any of us who have experienced domestic violence. And this works either way mind you, not just with women who've been abused by men. But also men abused by women in their lives. There's this creeping anxiety that sticks your dander up anytime someone NEW comes along. And you can totally rationalize that this is just anxiety brain talking and you can know full well that MOST people aren't l…
/r/MensRights07/05/24 12:55 PM
1

That's not remotely the same. The guy has the choice to use a condom, which is a perfectly legal means of contraception anywhere. And if he doesn't want children, he flat out says so and says he isn't going to have sex without protection.
/r/MensRights07/05/24 03:22 AM
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You can't take care of anyone else if you're running on empty. But as to the specific question of finances, yeah, it's entirely possible. Most women make their own money these days. So you just have to make enough for you. Of course, if a woman wants to be a stay at home mom, obviously she's gotta find a man who has the funds to support that. And these days, you'd have to make quite a bit to support that old school lifestyle. But to be loved? Yeah. Money doesn't buy love. Stuff doesn't buy love.…
/r/MensRights05/05/24 09:49 PM
1

Not knowingly. You don't go into procreating thinking your partner is going to abandon you with your children. Ask any of the men who have full custody of their children because their exes are absentee. They didn't plan on it either, but they sure picked who they laid with.
/r/MensRights05/05/24 04:25 PM
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I agree. I would say that modern society has taken away some of the need for the strict dynamic of a domestic group and an external group, though. We have technology now that allows for any gender to do a lot heavier work. I don't need the guys at work to lift the pallet for me, I have a pallet jack I can use myself. However, had life turned out differently, and had I been able to conceive, I wouldn't be doing the work I am now. I'd be in a line of work that doesn't require 12 hour days and take…
/r/MensRights05/05/24 03:01 PM
1

Doesn't absolve the man of his responsibility.
/r/MensRights05/05/24 02:15 PM
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Yes, that too. That's a place where a lot of people fail. Recently discussed at work with the boys and, they're all much younger than me, they all were like "guys can't be SA'd by women" and I had to explain how body physiology works separately from desire and consent. How coercion isn't consent.
/r/MensRights05/05/24 02:15 PM
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I protect my own feelings by knowing how to cope with them actually. I don't know what the bear thing is about. I only saw it on a post on this sub and thought it was ridiculous. And, I don't have any sisters. Just five brothers.
/r/MensRights05/05/24 05:12 AM
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It sounds to me like your nephew needs help. And you might just need to lay off some topics (with him) for a while until he gets his head on straight. From what you've said, he's depressed, anxious and angry. So talk to him about how to open up and deal with those feelings in a healthy way. It makes sense to be sad and hurt. But don't give up.
/r/MensRights05/05/24 04:55 AM
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Yeah, I think my mom would have been much different if her Dad didn't pass away when she was little. My bro is an amazing Dad though. And my niece is an awesome little lady. She's my little bestie. So, all's well that ends well, I suppose.
/r/MensRights05/05/24 04:15 AM
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That's fair. I can understand that. Unfortunately, sometimes you have to thin the heard in order to maintain your peace. There are people in my larger circle of friends that I only see at larger gatherings put on by mutual friends because their views are too extremist for me and I just can't see enough sense in them to be empathetic to it.
/r/MensRights05/05/24 04:11 AM
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Stay away from extremist social media views. Most women don't think that way.
/r/MensRights05/05/24 04:00 AM
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Definitely narcissistic, and abusive in all the ways. So, maybe. But it definitely would have been the result of unresolved childhood trauma.
/r/MensRights05/05/24 03:58 AM
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Oh he's deceased now but I tried to connect from 16 through my early 30s. I pretty much lost it when he told my brother not to bother paying child support because, "the kids will show up eventually once all the hard work is done" It was then that I decided if he wanted to communicate he could call me. He never did.
/r/MensRights05/05/24 03:50 AM
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I think they do. But... I prefer the term egalitarian
/r/MensRights05/05/24 12:41 AM
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I don't think there's a rise in the behaviour. Rather a rise in willing reporting victims.
/r/MensRights05/05/24 12:40 AM
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Is that what it was from? Lol I only saw it here.
/r/MensRights05/05/24 12:39 AM
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I do see what you're saying with the middle paragraph. Commentary on this sub is definitely skewing my view to how men think, even though I know so many in person who think vastly differently than what I read here. As to the DV example, I think it really depends on the individual as to who would get involved. I've been in public situations with past partners where others have done nothing. And I've been an onlooker where a male was being treated poorly by a female and I've called her out on her …
/r/MensRights05/05/24 12:34 AM
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Dude, didn't I just share a story about how my brother has 50/50 custody of his daughter? Do you know how many kids I grew up with who were shared just like my niece back and forth? Good co-parenting exists. And even in toxic parallel parenting court orders enforcing child visitation or shared custody are in effect. Talking about division of assets in divorce has nothing to do with how you are willing to, or not willing to parent your child.
/r/MensRights05/05/24 12:29 AM
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To be fair, I usually don't hear women talk like that. But most of the women I hang out with are prudes in public and married. Personally, fetishism has a lot of things that are....trauma based. And it's a bit icky. But that's a totally different subject than porn. So, for the argument of who can watch/read porn. My answer is, not around the children. Meaning anyone of adult age.
/r/MensRights04/05/24 10:32 PM
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I don't know. I think for men to explain what they're feeling isn't the same as weakness. I think it takes more strength to be honest with yourself and your partner about difficult things than it does to hide it.
/r/MensRights04/05/24 10:24 PM
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I don't disagree with this. But it's not the single mothers fault if the father's choose to be absentee, like mine did. My brother chose otherwise and has 50/50. And I think little girls need strong Daddy's to show them what a good man looks like too, so they don't find the riffraff and accept it. So I'm happy my bro is there for my niece.
/r/MensRights04/05/24 10:23 PM
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You really read the majority of the comments talking about how horrible women as a whole are and consider there to be no in-group bias with men?
/r/MensRights04/05/24 10:14 PM
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My Dad was abused by my grandfather. Cyclical behaviour doesn't excuse shit.
/r/MensRights04/05/24 10:11 PM
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Asking is not aggressive. Demanding, not taking no for an answer, is aggressive. Shouting would be aggressive, posture can be aggressive. Plenty of aspects of communication can be aggressive. It's all in the nuance. You may want to review how you accept the sentence, "no, I'm not able to do that." And then see whether the response to it was indeed appropriate.
/r/MensRights04/05/24 10:10 PM
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Ah yeah. My bro has Tourette's so I'm quite familiar with that. Though it hasn't been an issue with respect to his love life, certainly he has had issues. Though, I've had my fair share of bad picks as well. We both grew up not understanding how to set proper boundaries. That's the real trick. It doesn't matter who you are growing up. There is always someone picking on someone else. As an adult talking to people I thought were the popular ones who had no worries, they dealt with the same crap I …
/r/MensRights04/05/24 09:21 PM
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I personally have no issue with anyone being their true self. As long as it doesn't harm anyone else. If a dude wants to do something stereotypically female, like crochet or knit, have at it. I'll teach you. Toxic masculinity is engrained in our cultural programming. When girls are raised we are taught about two distinct male stereotypes and anything in between is confusion. Realistically most folk fall between the lines of those stereotypes. It's starting to change, Dad's are starting to play d…
/r/MensRights04/05/24 06:51 PM
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Being aggressive, even verbally, is abusive behavior. In my workplace, people would be asked to leave. I don't see why an Uber driver couldn't make a complaint for the same. Additionally, it's again the onus of the person planning their day to plan accordingly, not the driver to disrupt their day. That IS the essence of adulthood, taking accountability for your own actions and mistakes.
/r/MensRights04/05/24 06:43 PM
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Well it definitely sucks, that happened to your friend. But male or female it is okay to report things if you feel unsafe. You said your friend was insistent, If he raised his voice or had aggressive posturing because he was stressing, and not quite thinking clearly, it may have been taken out of context. Sometimes in customer service roles you have to disappoint the customer. In this case, it's possible the driver had another fair to pick up and being late for that would be detrimental. Or mayb…
/r/MensRights03/05/24 12:14 PM
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I'm a woman...and I'm still going to go with the bear. There's only three imaginable outcomes with the bear. I couldn't handle being in a solitary situation with that much narcissism.
/r/MensRights03/05/24 11:58 AM
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Okay, but on the same token then I pressume an attractive man shouldn't go out getting plastered and pass out drunk on the off chance someone with a penchant for nonconsentual free use comes their way knocking? If the rule is good for one, it's good for the other. I hardly drink anymore and when I do it's only around very trusted, long term friends or family but there's been a time or two in my youth where I had one two many and the porcelain called my name. People should be able to control them…
/r/MensRights29/04/24 11:28 PM
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I've always said I was an egalitarian. But usually that gets met with some pretty heavy artillery from BOTH sides.
/r/MensRights29/04/24 10:59 PM
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I know this is often considered the case. But I'm often having my male friends 'spill the beans' about all manner of concerns from work, kids, women...usually women I'm friends with too. And then they go, "wow, I can't believe I just said all that." And I say, "it's good to vent. You clearly felt safe to do so. So, do you want an opinion or a solution to ponder about?" And then depending on the answer the conversation continues from there. This is a skill that took a LONG time to cultivate, thou…
/r/MensRights29/04/24 02:07 PM
1

I just have to touch on the villain archetype comment: Cruella, Harley Quinn, Ursula, Maleficent, Annie Wilkes, Cersei Lannister, Catwoman, Mother Gothel, Poison Ivy.... The list goes on. There are plenty of female villains. The thing to remember is that there are both toxic men and toxic women. And those people affect their victims. The people harmed are then responsible for their own healing. Nobody else can do it for them. Unfortunately, a lot of highly empathetic men and women end up trying …
/r/MensRights29/04/24 01:56 PM
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🤷 My boyfriend is really self conscious about is receding hairline, but I think he would look damn fine with the Captain Picard look. It is subjective though. Girl A prefers men who are clean shaven, girl B prefers men who have beards. Men control their facial hair. One girl likes a man with muscles while the other prefers one that's built more like a teddy bear or the stereotypical "dad bod". How much and what kind of exercise you get is entirely in your control. As is what you eat. Things like…
/r/MensRights28/04/24 04:30 PM
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Are you saying that an appropriate response is to be cold and unprofessional? I don't think it's okay to be unprofessional.
/r/MensRights28/04/24 04:20 PM
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I agree wholeheartedly. Most men are better than that. And you're very right, it was about the statement and nothing else. I've had other customers ask me for coffee, or even flat out of I've got a partner, and the like and that's just fine. Even when polite banter is misread as interest as long as the person says something in a polite and courteous manner its no biggy. It's easy to handle either accepting or rejecting politely in those instances. But the gross commentary that's blatantly off-pu…
/r/MensRights28/04/24 04:18 PM
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Thank you. Absolutely. That's a big part of the problem, when you stand up for yourself you're seen as difficult, easily offended, or overly emotional. And it's something that happens to both men and women depending on a variety of situations. I think Weinstein still is counted in the major creep category... But I haven't seen anything lately.
/r/MensRights25/04/24 10:24 PM
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I don't think it's shallow to state what you're attracted to. It's entirely subjective. Some like blondes, brunettes, gingers.... Short, tall preferences. Weight preferences even. Some women prefer facial hair while others prefer clean shaven. So what? But what often happens when folk get to know eachother over time is that attraction grows out of things beyond mere physical attributes and pheromones. I once met a guy who said we couldn't continue seeing eachother because I had student loan debt…
/r/MensRights25/04/24 10:15 PM
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I do work with a good group of fellas who totally understood my being upset by the situation. One told me that particular customer doesn't have to have boundaries because they spend a bunch. I respectfully disagreed and put my foot down.
/r/MensRights25/04/24 10:04 PM
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Sorry, but when a male customer tells me he wants to be "inside me" I should be allowed to tell my boss that this is inappropriate and I should be allowed to tell the customer, politely, to sod off. You may think that kind of behaviour is funny, but for me, it's scary.
/r/MensRights25/04/24 12:17 PM
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That is pretty hypocritical. A lot of women bark about women's photos being tossed around as nothing more than pleasure aids and conversation topics. But, in reality, men's photos are used in the same fashion. Personally, I think there's a time and a place. For my own part I know nobody is going around calling me hot, but if they were, I'd just take it as a compliment on appearance and move the heck on with my day.
/r/MensRights25/04/24 12:14 PM
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I'm sorry that you feel uneasy picking up your kid brother. But, I have to ask, is it possibly an anxiety issue? I mention this because I have anxiety, I'm a woman, and I felt really uneasy when picking up and dropping off my niece from school when she was in kindergarten because I was worried that the parents would know I wasn't her parent and get uppity about it. Which is ridiculous because obviously anyone can arrange with anyone else to pick up their kid and as long as the kid knows what's g…
/r/MensRights25/04/24 04:18 AM
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Neat, I never knew it was quantified. But that totally makes sense to me. Individuals certainly can vary but I think on the whole there would be a lot more similarity than not.
/r/MensRights25/04/24 04:07 AM
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That's a fair statement. Codependency is a bitch.
/r/MensRights25/04/24 04:06 AM
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There are two issues I see here. A person trying to use antiquated wording in laws to get away with a crime. Those same laws need to be updated so that the wording accounts for the crime itself and not the gender of the perpetrator. Their lawyer is using today's political climate on gender, and the wording of their laws, to get this person off their charges. And the sad thing is, it might work. The incident itself is very gross. And if this works it's another horrible thing.
/r/MensRights25/04/24 12:27 AM
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They could, but I think the person doing the act of violence would have to want to do it in some way to not see through this and at least check in on matters, advocate for them legally and so on. I can't see a mentally stable man going out killing someone just because someone said so. I think most mentally stable men would promote healing for someone who was claiming to have been in such a situation. And when that someone wasn't actually seeking means of healing like therapy, they'd probably end…
/r/MensRights25/04/24 12:19 AM
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A leading expert on anything wouldn't be anonymous about it. Cite sources. There are certainly child custody issues. However, that doesn't discount DV. DV is a problem for both men and women. Saying it isn't is absurdity.
/r/MensRights24/04/24 07:40 PM
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🤷 going dutch was always my rule until being in a commited relationship. Then it is back and forth taking turns.
/r/MensRights24/04/24 07:36 PM
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I think women who put out too soon worry that the immediate disinterest isn't because of the lack of good fit but because they did, in fact, put out too soon. It's a Psychological conundrum. We women need to worry less about this type of thing and, yes, focus more on our own boundaries, what makes us comfortable, and finding a partner that we reflectively suit well to each other.
/r/MensRights24/04/24 07:35 PM
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Everyone is entitled to honesty. Dating is not the same as prostitution. If you make a choice to pay for a meal, nobody has transactional requirements to have sex with you. If you feel that you should be owed sex when you pay, just don't pay, go dutch. (I'm not saying some women don't actively go out trying to get free drinks at the clubs, which is not the same as dating, because men are willing to buy them in hopes of being taken home. But I am saying those women aren't in charge of those walle…
/r/MensRights24/04/24 07:30 PM
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I can understand there being a need to more explicitly articulate thoughts with more information. That makes sense. ☺️Thanks
/r/MensRights24/04/24 07:20 PM
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There's definitely a misconception about that. Our requirements are just different. In order to stimulate the right hormones we need certain things done first. Then to stimulate different hormones, and to have efficacy in achieving satisfaction, certain triggers have to be met. Combine this with every individual physical body reacts differently to different stimuli it's obviously going to get confusing and complicated when the woman doesn't communicate. In addition, a LOT of the women I know wer…
/r/MensRights24/04/24 07:17 PM
1

Why is this funny? People should take into account how their partner is feeling emotionally and physically on a daily basis. That's a very important part of empathizing with your partner. If you don't, then you run the risk of losing understanding of where they are in their world and whether or not you are both in the same headspace.
/r/MensRights24/04/24 02:48 PM
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I'm a woman, yes, and I'm basing this on the number of men I actually talk to compared to the number of women I talk to. The very young males do tend to have higher libido, but when we get to about thirty to forty I've found through these various discussions that the women complain about the bedroom lacking far more than the men. I'm not sure if it has to do with waning testosterone, or just being tired from work, or women's raised estrogen for child producing years.... Or if these women's partn…
/r/MensRights24/04/24 01:54 PM
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I'm not saying that coercive sex doesn't happen. I'm saying that it's not related to ovulation. It's related to that specific person being an asshole.
/r/MensRights24/04/24 01:50 PM
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Thanks for this. I actually mentioned it in another response. I think the problem lay in heavy anger toward women in general. It's like when a woman has been in several abusive relationships. Finally gets out and learns how to keep boundaries. And now seems very hateful toward men and generalizes them based on their few bad experiences. I think the same happens to men who have encounters with either abusive women or women who are in the aforementioned post abuse process pre-healing and then the …
/r/MensRights24/04/24 01:48 PM
1

So, when you're trying to conceive, you tend to have to schedule sex around ovulation to get the highest potential. Often times neither party is particularly feeling in the mood and sex becomes work. However, also often a very schedule oriented woman, trying to conceive, will be like "yeah but I'm ovulating and we are trying to have a baby sooooo....this is the week we gotta go to bed or else we've missed our chance for this month AGAIN". Getting pregnant isn't as easy as some folk think and it …
/r/MensRights24/04/24 01:42 PM
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That's really not true. Enthusiastic, empathic consent is always required on both sides. We've had plenty of practice keeping our follicle stimulating hormone, and raised progesterone in check just as men have had plenty of practice keeping their testosterone in check in favor of consent. Scheduled sex for couples trying to conceive is pretty common, but they both know the score. Honestly. I think women do have higher libido than most men. That still doesn't mean it's all about conquest. I went …
/r/MensRights20/04/24 10:25 PM
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I don't remember getting special treatment as a single woman. Except that my tax return is better as single because I don't make a lot. But that has nothing to do with gender, dudes who don't make much get the same tax return. As to dating- if all that you mentioned is one sided in either direction you're not dating the right person. That's not a gender issue, that's a personality issue. Before moving in with my fella, we took turns paying when we went out. I would buy groceries to bring over if…
/r/MensRights20/04/24 03:00 PM
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I think the term has been misused. I often avoid saying I'm a feminist now, because of extreme views that don't take into account good men. But, when it started, the suffragette movement as an example, gaining equal rights was very much an important thing I agree with. Had I been alive then, I would have been one such woman. Now, as a woman in a male dominated field, I'm often asking my teammates when I see things in social media specific to women in trades work what their thoughts are. And more…
/r/MensRights20/04/24 02:35 PM
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I'm infertile. But I've already told my partner who doesn't want kids that if it did happen accidentally, I would be keeping the child. That he'd have the choice of being a part of his child's life or not. But he couldn't do it half way, it's all or nothing. You can't half ass parenthood. No matter your gender.
/r/MensRights17/04/24 07:51 PM
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It was 2008. It worked, the men involved didn't like the side effects, acne, mood swings, depression, and cramping among others. The trial was cut short because they decided that the side effects weren't worth the benefit. They are the exact same side effects as in the female version..... I get it. I don't want my biochemistry messed with either. But what's good enough for one should be good enough for the other. And there is a link too. But other hormones are at play as well. For example if you…
/r/MensRights07/04/24 02:13 PM
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I agree. Women should be able to fight for their country. My brother disagrees with me though, he feels we don't have what it takes. This story is awful for so many reasons, though, and it has nothing to do with women being the bad guys.
/r/MensRights07/04/24 02:01 PM
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That's very true. You'd definitely still have chances of less side effects etc. or even ones you just didn't care about. I know I do with my own medication. I've just been doing a lot of studying lately on the role of hormones in our bodies and the book I'm reading only lightly touches on male issues because it's geared to women's health but the amount I've learned about the things that are affected by birth control and HRT that they don't tell you is wild. I just theorize then that something si…
/r/MensRights04/04/24 12:09 PM
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I think the problem is it's not realistic. You can't remove hormones without having health conflicts. Us women deal with it all the time with birth control and HRT.
/r/MensRights02/04/24 08:57 PM
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That's a super interesting question! I'm sure there's gonna be a variety of responses.
/r/MensRights31/03/24 03:10 PM
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Exactly like I said in my original post. Some people use sarcasm as a means to convey their message. It's not how I prefer to tackle things, but plenty of folk do. I deal with it from my boyfriend all the time. We have to be okay in our own skin. We have to deal with our own inner demons. When we are triggered, we have to reflect on that trigger and look at what the real cause is, because half the time the person triggering didn't intend to trigger us. So, we have to be in control of our own sel…
/r/MensRights28/03/24 01:14 PM
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Because some men pursue science degrees solely because they're expected to by their parents. Graduate. And then decide they have no interest. If a woman has interest she should be able to pursue a career. Just as she should in trades. You can't take away all the areas based on competition because then there is nothing left. We aren't all of us meant to be barefoot, in the kitchen with a baby on our hips. Though, kudos to those who can handle that lifestyle. Lord knows I need independence.
/r/MensRights27/03/24 04:24 PM
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I can, in fact. And I still say it sounds like a ridiculously sarcastic argument. But it doesn't offend me. I just think it sounds stupid.
/r/MensRights27/03/24 04:15 PM
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You know, for the point you're trying to make to work you'd have to have some idea of what I look like. Since you don't, ya just sound silly.
/r/MensRights26/03/24 08:03 PM
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Sarcasm isn't how I would handle inappropriate comments from someone. But my boyfriend uses sarcasm on me all the time to deflect. If they weren't using height they would use something else, intelligence maybe. The point is that the other party said something they didn't like and they're using sarcasm to deal with it instead of flat out telling them they don't appreciate the comment and why. It's a poor way of dealing with things but it is a different issue from what I see some commenters being …
/r/MensRights26/03/24 12:59 PM
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I definitely agree with you on the family law front. Part of the reason I looked for a sub on men's rights is because of my bros unfortunate situation with child support despite having 50/50 custody on paper. I don't see preferential treatment in hiring in my industry. It took me a year to find someone to give me a chance even though I had my first year education already completed where most men could get the job simply from having the interest. However, it would be the reverse in an industry th…
/r/MensRights26/03/24 12:52 PM
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I've never responded that way. I have gotten flack for trying to pry too much information out in hopes of "helping" though. Sometimes a person doesn't want help but just someone to listen. It really bothers me that some women have these types of reactions because I know all of my friends are teaching their sons to communicate their feelings.
/r/MensRights25/03/24 11:30 PM
2

A presentation on sexism against men alone doesn't make you sexist if your citations are factual and not just about hating on the other gender. Sexism is tricky, because a person can be a victim of sexism and still be sexist themselves. It's always important to look in the mirror and do a self evaluation and check to make sure you're doing things right. It's unfortunate because there is a stigma where society doesn't seem to realize that sexism can include sexism against men. It's like because o…
/r/MensRights25/03/24 01:00 PM
3

I think basing your decision to date or not date on what you read of strangers experiences is an unhelpful way to live your life. You may never experience anything if you choose to do that, as many people experience negativity in all manner of experiences available. Relationships in specific, even the good ones, will have ups and downs. If you're self-led (IFS term, if you're unfamiliar) then you're more likely to succeed in relationships. Whether romantic or platonic. There are, I think, men on…
/r/MensRights25/03/24 12:44 PM
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I hear you. Both genders can be shit. And both genders can be classy humans. I strive to surround myself with the latter...which is probably why I have such aggravation for both extremist views.
/r/MensRights24/03/24 05:49 PM
-55

How is mysogyny going to solve mysandry? They're both shit viewpoints.
/r/MensRights24/03/24 05:48 PM
-44

That's awful. If we taught men to be more forthcoming with their emotions, that negative emotions need let out in appropriate ways regularly, we would have far less instances of suicide and unnecessary explosions of said emotions once that bottle reaches its limit.
/r/MensRights24/03/24 05:46 PM
0

I find this comment interesting. When my boyfriend and I first got together, I would praise him on how he treated me. And his response was always. "I'm just a dude. You shouldn't be congratulating me on the basics."
/r/MensRights23/03/24 07:55 PM
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Interesting. Bumble was the one that worked out the best for me. I found the men on there far more willing to communicate and have in depth conversations before meeting. It was the first time I had difficulty keeping up with the conversations between work and school. As opposed to just reading a bunch of messages that had said "hey," or something explicit that was completely inappropriate. It was also great for meeting other women too. Though perhaps not as good as some paid platforms.
/r/MensRights23/03/24 07:54 PM
1

I don't think that was his point at all. If it was, he wouldn't have given the details out and then more on a public forum. I think the point was that she caused him embarrassment and he was already disillusioned with his relationship. They both lacked the emotional maturity to discuss what was actually bothering them rather than behave like teenagers and spill details to the nearest human willing to listen or read. As for the query about generalizations, a generalization seemed implied in the q…
/r/MensRights23/03/24 07:46 PM
1

I think what happens is a lot of the really good men get into a relationship with a very bad woman and when they get out they swear off women. They become very jaded. And often with good reason. The trouble is that it never heals, they don't always seek the help to fix the issues. The triggers. Where women tend to be more anxious attachment style, so they're going to look for the next person to fix the problem for them. But because they haven't fixed their own stuff they end up with another not …
/r/MensRights23/03/24 03:15 PM
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That woman obviously didn't. There are other things that can be discussed, however, like disagreements. Or managing work/life balance. Or having difficulty finding date activity. It's not all about sex. In addition, your generalization is...well, just that. A generalization. Plenty of generalization goes on about men in the negative on a daily basis and most of it is trash, so, do you really want to stoop to that or do you want to be better?
/r/MensRights23/03/24 03:03 PM
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Women, in general, I think do communicate their frustrations more freely than men. My boyfriend, for example, has said to me that he finds it difficult to discuss his emotions with anyone. While I'm more than willing to discuss these things and have actually had to learn to put a zip on it with who to share with and how much to share with. Not just details of relationship frustration but things to do with just myself as well, or career, people as a rule aren't empathetic and don't typically give…
/r/MensRights22/03/24 06:43 PM
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