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They can have YEARS of lies and made up stories and it does affect you- even the seed of doubt and seeing mom handle whatever in whatever ways, how would one know any better than told stories? Even if hearing negative talk to other members by phone or other adults in passing, knowing no different than assumptions or things said so often without correction you don’t realize the seed of doubt is there. Just hear passing to go play outside, what was claimed to all friends and family- an adult whom …
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 12:54 AM
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Can’t annul it? Some states under a timeframe its like it never happened…
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 02:46 AM
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Realize the role of trying to bring the good or better side of things for part of what traumatized one. Recommend PTSD- the body keeps score. Then maybe you’ll understand that the trauma that happened does in fact change ones brain and its ok. It would make sense even if you did take some ownership that wanting the best and to bring the good or best of someone might have played in part of one’s own trauma. I think it says more about one’s character and morals honestly. There are people who might…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 03:34 PM
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There’s studies on this to back that claim up too
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 04:10 AM
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😮😳
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 02:41 AM
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That’s actually genius
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 09:21 PM
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As a female- this depends, Usually if I wonder- I ask. I don’t assume and make other plans- best guess- Someone else made plans sooner, went with that. Too bad she didn’t have the actual courtesy or balls to say/admit. Some peoples kids….
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 09:21 PM
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I’d have to google. But you’d know if its a commonwealth- i think only a few states are so more than likely not. I’ve heard one of those states have BIG Mental health factor- maybe Wyoming, but maybe ND
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 07:20 PM
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That would- physically intimate and if shes banging to get her rocks off and no big deal - soul shattering. You feel dirty and used.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 06:33 PM
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What the ever living mind game is this. Couldn’t married why now… no no nooooooo thank you
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 06:32 PM
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Bump therapy to 1x weekly. Dating is hard- i dont do it and i feel the same most days - but I dont need to date, but ideally I’d like to be settled with a partner. It is what it is either way. Keep dating and try to enjoy it
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 03:46 AM
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Can you do that? Name an ex spouse a beneficiary? That’s fucking wild. And the father’s stuff - makes sense, I wouldn’t set myself up for a fall and sounds like an automatic one at that.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 02:04 AM
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There are women who genuinely just want the childhood meaningful shit only. Or some basic shit purchased along the way. I was one. Just wanted custody of our child and the childhood things I had passed to me as a child to pass to my children- a personalized nightlight my grandmother made with my name and dob weight etc. silly board games, bc i like to play. Keep the house and money I really dont care. I just wanna coparent and co-exist. I would have appreciated support to achieve my goals for me…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 02:52 PM
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Some guys if they can afford it- calculate the stuff and give it to them right off too. All in full. Then they beg. Every time. I dont know too many who can afford to do it but the handful that have. lol chess not checkers i guess
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 01:30 PM
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You can she doesn’t have to comply- You could bring up concerns and the judge could ask for it if the concerns makes them concerned My story - I said I sought out and continued therapy and the judge- for custody - ordered me to get one- guess who has PTSD from marital abuse, this gal. I already knew it, but he got the proof. I’ll never get why? I sought therapy before I left, with him a few sessions before he raged and left - and continued after and I’m still doing it… 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 07:32 PM
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THIS!!!! That and I didn’t know the half plus 7… Its weird and being 37 dating someone who dated younger hints pedo. Or hook-ups. Not saying you are, but like one said - not much in common and or goal being aligned, and that’s a hot topic for many. If you want that go lower as that’s their current thing, but it wont be at a cost of gossip, which happens regardless. Dating sucks. Rather be alone.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 04:23 PM
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Yea, i get what your saying - regardless of events that lead to the mental break- its a choice as with love to discuss it or ruminate in and over what if i leave - what if i stay. Honestly, when I’m committed and most good or decent women who are- generally when we’re unhappy we try to “nag” and talk about it. The hottest guy could hit on your wife if shes in love with you and hasn’t ruminated for months or whatever- that’s when it begins as if shes still trying - that man is a dude talking. The…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 04:09 PM
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Women have to mentally prepare and end it in the head before physically. That being said. How quick and easy she was- the other guys saying shes been I genuinely believe as a female, who’s mentally left and then physically- never cheated and i was single for a while before entertaining- avg 1-3 years each. So….
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 03:36 PM
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It’s normal to the selfish crazy narcissist’s needing that supply attention money- chasing a high. It’s what it is to them.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 03:30 PM
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Nope bc every single time you raise an issue or it got hard to leave bang everyone nbd and then miss you. Gtfoh You can’t do that as a woman, usually not always, unless mentally done or dont care too self involved and NC is to starve attention to miss her so if she decided to change her mind you’d be overwhelmed with love. Narc tactic and its called LOVE BOMBING
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 03:27 PM
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It’s fortunate for them, they do not “get it” but everyone has their own ways and their own time. You do what you have to do, for as long as you have to. There will be a day, just might not be today.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 03:26 AM
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Document- everything. Organize- start with all you can in order bc that’s too much and if you dont get to the point you’re blowing the money for an atty. right off rip. No the shortest answer is he should have had her come neither mom OR daughter if she really chose or believed she chose can do that. PERIOD. You’re right- mom needs and IS suppose to foster and ENCOURAGE a relationship with DAD. Really can’t force her to, but she shouldn’t be impeding it either. They make dash cams I recommend th…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 01:27 AM
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I know, but those kiddos see what you do and who you are. That’s the only thing that TRULY matters. It bleeds on the kiddos when you are stressed or annoyed. You’ll be surprised how much they notice, and how little they’re able to for letting things go to be the healthier less toxic one. It pays off, one way or another i truly believe this.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 08:42 PM
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Unless it’s about the kids -affecting the kids, depending on the age if they dont know better- keep the peace but that’s just me. I think shes trying to get under your skin if you appear calm cool collected and “fine” and likely what really irks her. Best guess that is
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 07:52 PM
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The emergency was denied, the hearing is proof it’s to go ahead or be dismissed entirely- the weight of burden of proof is here, or an agreement. How it was for me, so I’d assume close or similar? I was approved the emergency and i agreed to a temp. One. Unsure if it’s helpful?
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 05:57 PM
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Therapy to work on this, or choosing that if you want a partner, trust is high for any relationship and building it top priority. Sometimes you just aren’t ready and it’s more the body remembers and the mind- tricky lil thing. You’ll find someone who will work with you to build the trust.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 03:44 PM
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Plan- quietly, collect proof and evidence and PROTECT yourself and your son! FIRST AND FOREMOST- that’s Domestic abuse as financial is included to make it impossible and hard to leave. Look into the states laws and advice from legal. Grey rock and keep whatever one can minimal and quiet as possible. It’s going to be insanely hard once you officially file, and if this is the case id look into a restraining order for protection for you and the child, and they’ll want proof of threats etc. Dependin…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/24 04:40 PM
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Being married also- you don’t need her permission for the kids and vacation ( maybe out of country you might ) but legally both are fully capable to make a decision - go on vacation, until there is a court order in which needs to be followed- you don’t need permission- but DO speak to attorneys jic and extra assurance. The more you speak to attorneys regarding the case the harder it is for her to find one - conflict of interest- little information in which you can do with as you choose.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/24 03:47 PM
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Do NOT leave- GET cameras and protect you and those kids. She might try to bully and claim false things. All communication in black and white- I’d make an email dedicated to JUST THIS. Try to keep the method going you’ll need it. You could and likely might get primary, and sounds as if she might have PPD- maybe its just who she is, but PPD is serious and hard to know its not normal until you acknowledge or seek help/medication. I had to after both of my kids and it was life saving and I didn’t s…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/24 03:43 PM
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Call attorneys- most give free advice- if you really don’t believe shes spoken to one- CALL ALLLLLLL OF THEM She can’t or will have a hard time with having one if not already once they speak to you as its conflict of interest- if you choose that route. Only way to be removed or told to vacate is a ppo/pfa- minimize conversation- keep it in black and white- email ideally, new thread for new subjects, detail and look into your rights. Keep notes, and be logical and smart with every interaction or …
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 04:29 PM
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While it would be easy to say depressed, I feel undiagnosed adhd maybe. Doom scrolling- unhealthy as I have it, and the piles would be known as doom piles, knowing it needs to be done, kinda wanting to do them but unable to put the Brain mush into actions. Regardless- one with such knows it needs to be done and should be done, and will eventually do it and kinda reward myself. Those with adhd sometimes can get things done with just body doubling- meaning you are with her as she’s doing it, or he…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 01:14 PM
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I hope you’re not in a commonwealth state, but it surely sounds like it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 03:16 AM
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Savage- it’s fancier to say back packing than homeless- that’s so 1900’s or whatever they say
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 01:40 AM
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Reading that crushed my soul and im not looking for dates or the one- damn, but perspective. Also- Pitties are really a good breed, just the owners are a tad iffy. lol Parents Husky is more aggressive than all the pitties I’ve had the pleasure of owning. Save the money-FB, tinder, what are there hinge, POF- do those free… dont pay. Save the beer money, or liquor- whatever your poison is. Dating is awful, idk if anyone legit knows what a connection outside WiFi is anymore… sad sad sad world.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 01:38 AM
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