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>This all looks like weak behavior in retrospect, but in my defense: I was owning how I felt, and not acting needy. no you weren't owning it... again you were outsourcing it hoping she would say something to console or validate your feelings. However you feel it's up to you do deal with. In a sense you aren't wrong about being alone. One of my most freeing moments was when I accepted I am alone in this world. You can take ownership of your life once you accept that. >Forgot to mention, she wante…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/26 07:12 PM
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>Further, now that I STFU and don't share that much with my wife, I notice she doesn't even ask. It's hilarious and I only now am beginning to understand having read the books. Eg. a combination of solipsism on her part, and validation seeking on mine. Good that you understand this. Now moving away from caring about her solipsism and towards DNGAF is the next step. Furthermore this only occurred to you BECAUSE of your validation seeking. "look at what I did Mommy!". Would you expect or seek that…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/26 03:01 PM
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To quote Rollo on this: JBY is an operative social convention that aids Hypergamy. "Women are only too happy to endorse and reinforce JBY for the conscious reasoning that it ‘sounds like the right thing to say’. It’s an unassailable position; who wouldn’t want you to be you? If what counts is all on the inside then anyone telling you to change must be manipulating you for their own selfish reasons. This dovetails nicely into the popularized fat-acceptance, self-acceptance mantra most women will …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/26 02:57 PM
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They aren't mutually exclusive. Which is better? A fatass black belt or a black belt that can also squat 2x their weight.
/r/askMRP30/04/26 11:50 PM
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> I offered her some aftercare to which she answered: „no thanks, I’m almost asleep“ this made me laugh and cringe at the same time. I've totally done that before but somewhere along the way it dawned on me that I was being a needy little bitch. I'd bang my wife then she'd not want to talk and want to go straight to bed or whatever and i'd wondered what's wrong. Now I bang her and sometimes she wants to put her head on my chest and sometimes she just wants to go to sleep or do whatever. I do wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/26 03:09 PM
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Has it mostly been fat or muscle gain? I'm guessing fat which means you aren't lifting hard enough and eating the correct nutrients.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/26 03:40 PM
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Good for you failing on a rep...at least you tried, And guess what, you didn't die from embarrassment or the weight. Don't use clips and learn how to roll the weight to your lap. Now calibrate. If it's questionable whether or not you'll get that last rep rack the weight, count 15 seconds and then do one more rep. Rest/pause is great if you hit plateaus. Your lifts are abysmal. You are probably skinny fat and need to gain 15lbs of muscle. Figure out a way to check your BF.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/26 01:12 PM
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Why do you include your leg press stats? You need to gain at least 20lbs of lean muscle
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/26 12:36 PM
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this is what i had in mind: Everyone loves the game. - by whinemoreplease read the subtitle. then read the article. you made this statement: I simply want to do my own thing and then have sex when I feel the need but she does not reciprocate that immediate. So in essence you are lazy and want a prostitute. You don't want to "have to" game. That's what got you, me, and half the other people here in the first place. We thought we were entitled to sex with no effort "cuz I'm married". We stopped ga…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/26 06:33 PM
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Formatting got screwed up read through it and you'll see my comments after yours
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/26 10:58 AM
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I'm still jerking off regularly (2-3 times last week). I'm in a bad situation: I have no desire to have sex with my wife right now; It's a combination of me being bitter about how she treats me our relationship in general and her being fat and putting low effort into her sex appeal. Reread this. You're still jerking off, most likely looking at porn and you wonder why you don't wanna fuck? Stop blaming your wife for this. Have you ever stopped to consider why she's so unconcerned about being out …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/26 02:53 PM
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my game is terrible. It seems like fear of rejection. No shit, this much is obvious Also, we both have intense workloads for these upcoming months and the stress has been a killer. The want to game her doesn't even come. Cope and trying to DEER yourself out of being a sad sack of crap I simply want to do my own thing and then have sex when I feel the need but she does not reciprocate that immediate. What you want is a prostitute While writing this, I noticed I need to own my lack of leadership h…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/26 02:38 PM
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There is nothing new under the sun https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/1haxavn/own_your_shit_weekly_december_10_2024/m1mzdfy/ How the hell is it possible to be your combo of height/weight/BF? You aren't nearly as disciplined as you try to put on. You can't even do OYS consistently. Ask yourself What would an attractive man with options would do? Then ask yourself what do you need to do to be an attractive man with options? It's all here but you have really done anything for 5 years …
/r/askMRP18/01/26 07:13 PM
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putting your leg press on there is a joke. It's a cope b/c your other lifts suck so bad. regarding your other post you haven't killed your oneitis...what would an attractive man with options do in your situation? Do you have boundaries, have you stated them? What are you willing to do if they're broken? BTW rules are for others, boundaries are for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/26 03:04 PM
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Start by eating. Then STFU, Then lift, Then eat some more, then STFU more, rinse and repeat. Start with basics until you get further along. Not being a skeleton would be a good start. other than that it's pretty hopeless, you've been lurking since 2020 according to your OYS. WTF have you been doing the past 5 years?
/r/askMRP14/01/26 07:58 PM
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>last night was probably the longest and most aggressive post-hard-no venom/vomit she’s thrown my way. I’m not sure what to make of it but I was happy with my STFU and walking away. b/c something is changing. She's used to a guy that would sulk and whimper each time she said no especially since that guy had no options. Now there's a shift in the "power balance" if you want to call it that. But really it's you finding your balls, STFU, and becoming more attractive. This is threatening to the stat…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/25 04:52 PM
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-It is what it is - I'm working on me, and hopefully she'll see it. Dude...literal dancing monkey. --karaoke night and internally I was freaking out with nerves. I wanted to get on stage because it looked fun, and I wanted to overcome this fear, but I also wanted to avoid being 'rejected' and embarrassed. Ego man. Do you really think anyone cares about your ability to sing? It's bigger than singing you still give way too man fucks about what others think of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/25 06:43 PM
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>Sex is on a current rhythm of every third day, and I don’t really have to initiate, It’s more like a mutual expectation that I fulfill, and I continue to allow the masculinity boldness and desire flow out of me. Its been noticeably elevated in intensity and enthusiasm. don't get too comfortable with this and pat yourself on the back too much. How are you going to react when she doesn't initiate?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/25 08:05 PM
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And we're back to the beginning...do your own research and make your own decisions. Other commenter talked about lifestyle more which is another part of the equation. Sleep, food, exercise. Interestingly not all exercise is equal or long distance running reduces T, heavy lifting increases it. Specifically engaging the largest muscle groups has shown the greatest ROI on T and muscle growth. Again OP can do his own research. Does lifting increase T which allows him to lift more or does he need to …
/r/askMRP21/11/25 01:57 PM
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ashwagandha and fenugreek are the main ones that actually help. Idea being what you put in your body matters for your testosterone levels. Effect of a plant extract of fenugreek (Trigonella foenum-graecum) on testosterone in blood plasma and saliva in a double blind randomized controlled intervention study - PMC A Randomized, Double-Blind, Placebo-Controlled, Crossover Study Examining the Hormonal and Vitality Effects of Ashwagandha (Withania somnifera) in Aging, Overweight Males - PMC
/r/askMRP20/11/25 07:29 PM
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i don't disagree with anything you said. my point is everyone looks for a silver bullet. It can be testosterone, weight loss, or how to get my wife to fuck me. Point being doing the work. Reminds me of one of stone's videos where he asks "is the problem that you aren't getting laid? Then go hire a hooker."
/r/askMRP20/11/25 05:11 PM
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wouldn't this post be more aptly titled "I have low testosterone"? Have you done any research on OTC supplements and lifestyle changes that can increase your testosterone? Jumping to TRT is like fat fucks jumping to Ozempic. Doesn't change the underlying root problem.
/r/askMRP19/11/25 04:48 PM
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I'm reminded of the section on NMMNG near the end where he talks about how nice guys let perfection get in the way of enjoying and living their life. Often preventing them from trying. You don't have a problem with trying but it's the other part of perfection that seems to be holding you back and that is that nice guys tend to think perfection will lead to a problem free life and smooth sailing. And so we inevitably get let down when it doesn't lead to smooth times, be that injury, financial fai…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/25 03:34 PM
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> Suddenly, she has a problem with me looking at porn in the past (I haven’t looked at porn in over 10 weeks). Essentially, why am I mad at her for going outside of the marriage and talking to Kevin when I get sexual pleasure outside the marriage? talking to Kevin=sexual pleasure. Think about that comparison for a second. I know the reddit army always jumps to: she's banging him. Maybe, maybe not. Question is what do you want? do you want to "work it out", do you want to divorce? Only you can an…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/25 08:11 PM
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I laughed so hard when I saw that clip. The mental gymnastics that she so naturally went as to why her cheating their honeymoon wasn't a big deal and had nothing to do with the demise of their marriage was hysterical.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 08:52 PM
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Holy shit most men would be so lucky to have a wife that communicated so overtly. You are retard? (In Borat voice). -and please tell me, If I already lost her, or if I have still a chance. Sure and we'll go ahead and tell you the winning lotto number while we are at it. Start at the beginning.
/r/askMRP26/09/25 01:06 PM
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Period? shower. That simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/25 03:20 PM
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>part of my mission is to be better at this so I will be engaging more with others, just need to work out what I'm actually interested in talking to them about do interesting things and you will have interesting things to talk about. When you realize everyone else is just trying to live their life you can stop caring so much what they think and just talk without feeling like you have "create" conversation. What would happen if you said what people are thinking but too afraid to say? >Shark week.…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/25 03:19 PM
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> Thinking I should >I just don’t have the time >I need to sit down and work out the details. okay. have you considered doing instead of thinking about doing?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/25 01:34 PM
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good god this is retarded. There's too much wrong with this to begin any other constructive feedback other than the following: Lift, Sidebar, STFU. come back in another 6 months as nothing has sunk in the past 4 months.
/r/askMRP08/09/25 01:23 PM
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>>BF: 25% (DEXA 7/2025) Ht: 6’0”, Wt: 175 lbs (+2 lbs) how is this even possible. you are the most skinny fat person i've seen here. you need to build some serious muscle. I get it age is a factor but its not impossible. Your diet is going to matter a bunch here. >the fella down below refused to cooperate and I couldn’t wake him up there's a post about this...also it's normal to not get excited about bitchy lame starfish. But then again that's your fault for not being more exciting. >Later that …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/25 10:54 AM
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you've not fully accepted that you are in charge of your own life. Once you do it should be freeing but it also means you are 100% responsible and the work NEVER ends. No one is coming to rescue you or back you up or help. I used to constantly look for a "break"; guess what, it's not coming. Manage your work load, your workouts, and your relaxation, you cannot cram any of those. Be your own judge. Stop feeling sorry for yourself about work.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/25 04:12 PM
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Do YOU know why you said any of what you said? The real reasons? Honestly early on too many guys (myself included) put too much weight on these little situations. Its a part of learning but basically comes down to STFU.
/r/askMRP29/08/25 02:27 PM
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this cracks me up and is spot on. my wife has had 3 "second careers" she's wanted, and now is leaning towards SAHM. Today I had to tell her to put her shoes away and clear her plate from the table, like my parents told me when I was a teenager.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/25 02:11 PM
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Your T levels being so low at such a young age is concerning. do you plan to stay on T forever? The better you eat/exercise the higher your T levels which makes it easier to eat and exercise...in other words a virtuous cycle to a degree albeit with diminishing returns. look at some of your lifestyle that you can change to naturally elevate your T levels. You can make big gains in this area by what you eat and supplement.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/25 04:04 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/1m3230i/building_confidence/ This discussion has already been had. Read and go do.
/r/askMRP14/08/25 10:08 AM
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Gold. This has been my experience as well. to go a step further if i try to be present/ offer cuddles etc after sex she's a bitch and the shit tests start. If I pump and dump she's bopping around like a happy little bunny rabbit and doing shit for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/25 02:30 PM
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So for me I figured out I have to skip the loading phase and just take a teaspoon full of creatine to avoid the spins. Also drink about a gallon of water a day.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/25 10:21 PM
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>This is my first OYS since my 30 day ban, I continued to write my OYS and keep it in my personal log to analyze it. So my number sequence will reflect that that the gap. deering to us. >Action plan: To be able to do 8 pull-ups and bench my own weight. no, that's a goal not a plan. >but also still feeling dizzy are you taking creatine? when i don't get my dosing/hydration right i get vertigo. Has happened like 5 times over past 10 years. > I initiated when I wanted and went about my day when I w…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/25 02:35 PM
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>I've been debating if I should start it for a while and I think I'm ready to pull the trigger. na, you're still chunky and probably don't bother to eat/supplement correctly. Do that first. You've probably done zero research on taking T and possible side effects. Need to get down to 15-16%bf and then see how you feel. Or not, you do you. Your lifts are decent for your size but thats about it and so you probably rationalize your higher BF b/c "i'm stronger than the average guy with manboobs at th…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/25 01:19 AM
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makes sense. Reminds me of an article I read several years ago about how the was a large uptick in "gray divorce" when viagra came out. Basically these guys in their 60's went from not being able to get it up to wanting to fuck all the time and their wives couldn't (didn't want to) deal with it.
/r/askMRP01/08/25 07:08 PM
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curious as to you thoughts on why that is? I suspect it takes DNGAF to a whole other level.
/r/askMRP01/08/25 06:48 PM
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This brings to mind dunning-kruger effect and imposter syndrome. In my experience 1. is the main driver of confidence. You realize that even if you are uncomfortable and do it anyways you are fine. End result doesn't matter. Suck at singing? fuck it do karoke anyway. Trying a new sport? So what 90% of people suck at it too.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/25 04:34 PM
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stumbled upon the post here ya go: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/ecc508/can_you_keep_a_secret_a_primer_on_power/
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/25 03:24 PM
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1) i basically get that through a multivitamin, i also take fenugreek, ashwagandha, and maca. But do your own research. You can but stuff that has all that in a single pill but its typically marked up. 2) yes but doesn't matter, i've been sued. Even though i've "won", really only the attorneys (for both sides) win.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/25 01:58 PM
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lol summary: got drunk, acted like a bitch with a massive covert contract and shocked my wife finds that behavior unattractive but but but all my stats say i'm attractive.
/r/askMRP26/06/25 12:17 PM
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>hoping this is the root cause here. looking for a quick fix pill. Get your diet, supplementation and mind right first. That's the real work and will yield REAL results > feel like I have a strong case on several counts. again you are looking for a quick fix. Ponder for a second if maybe, just maybe you sucked and weren't as awesome at your job as you thought you were. Less about technical knowledge and more about were you good to work with? Stop blaming your employer and move the fuck on. What …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/25 02:04 PM
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Entire OYS could be summed up with this: Didn't work out for a long ass time. You are weak as fuck those numbers belong in high school. Put way more attention, time and energy to this. >Being resilient in the face of failure is an important part of the frame I’m trying to build for myself. took me a minute to think about what's wrong with this: you didn't fail, because you didn't even fucking try. Failing would be attempting to hit 225x5 on anything and coming up short. you can't say you failed …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/25 02:42 PM
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>In addition to chiro and blood work, I had ssri's and beta blockers prescribed. Too early to tell, I don't love this but worth trying at this stage. Be very very careful. Might want to consider going down the rabbit hole on SSRIs and how fucked they are. It's a band aid on a bullet wound that won't ultimately resolve the underlying issue. >Next I'm kind of lost. Defined myself by my work, learned work wasn't my purpose, spent a year trying to find a new mission / purpose. work on this; not tryi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/25 04:25 PM
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Mid 40s and your lifts are starting to come along but your bodyfat continues to be high. Not all calories are the same; it's great that you are tracking them but you need to dial in what you are eating. Pretty much always the same advice, more protein, less sugar. I hate the guys who look for a boogeyman that's causing all their problems but you may want to get your testosterone looked at. And don't be one of those assholes who eats like shit then finds out their testosterone is low and goes on …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/25 02:52 PM
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> I'm wondering if just going full nazi, no coke, no chocolate, no cereal, no shit in general is the right way here. Your kid eats what you provide for them. Unless somehow your 10yo has a job and buys his own groceries. I'm guessing your wife does most of the grocery shopping, if so tell her to stop buying that shit for them. Literally all the foods you listed are garbage and no nutritional value.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/25 01:07 PM
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Pretty much and if you dont follow through you look like the failure she thought you were. I can't find the post now but there's one that basically discusses not telling ANYONE your "plans". Just STFU and do it. It'll crush your validation needs and give you confidence.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/25 10:12 AM
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>I made a comment about joining jujitsu and got a solid shit test about me going which I'm not sure I passed (guess that means I didn't). I was practicing the WISNIFG techniques but I felt in my head - Fogging and Negative Inquiry. I wasn't too concerned about passing because I'm not ready to act on joining a BJJ gym yet. I don't have time and it's something I'm planning to do in the fall. Don't do this. Don't discuss YOUR plans. sure discuss logistics about finances, job changes, etc but don't …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/25 01:16 PM
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you wanted her to fuck you, and she did, and so you immediately went back to being a puppy and following her around the house. Here's my experience fwiw: my wife would do what i wanted, then i would almost instantly go back to being needy and touchy. Instead I just go do my own thing, if she wants affection she'll seek it out at which point i don't mind rewarding her. it's a small difference but it matters, ymmv. youre still in anger phase and considering blowing it up. So shift your attitude wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/25 09:22 PM
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I gotta agree with the committee thing; don't do it. Some dumbass will run his mouth to his wife and it will get back to your wife. Do your own thinking and don't say shit, you need to learn to deal with this on your own. Why? because you are all alone in this. the number of times i thought about talking to a friend, and it still pops up, but i sure a fuck don't do it. You won't gain anything from it. >I loosened my diet restrictions this past weekend don't. Learn how to be have/fun without expe…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/25 08:25 PM
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I suspect you've likely developed a fear of initiation and combined with your anger its easier to just not initiate in order to avoid the pain or difficulty of it. initiate when you want, always confidently. Learn how to not be butthurt when rejected because you will be rejected. You've given "comfort" for over 10 years, where has that gotten you?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/25 08:20 PM
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Yeah your entire response is a DEERing ramble about how you are leaning into being a nice guy beta. Is it wrong, evil, morally corrupt that you WANT to have sex? Throw out all the rest of your hamstering and answer that question. You are correct it's lack of sex is a symptom but that's about all you got right. >But the most important thing is that I learn to feel good even when I'm not having sex with her.This is her gift to me. Can I be grateful for that? Yes. The most important thing I can do …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/25 03:13 PM
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>I received an epic guilt trip by saying “I picked up a shift today because you never got back to me about celebrating your birthday..” Really?!? Epic? what's so epic about that. Basic WISNIFG stuff. Another week and same story...1/3 of your OYS is about your ex wife. If you stop fucking around you'll be under 300 within 30 days. Also do you have any life aside from work, thinking about your ex, and lifting?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/25 02:28 PM
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>At the weekend I had simply hugged her and told her how much I appreciated her contribution in my life. so you comforted her for being bitchy and not fucking you? Are you fucking or not? >Suddenly my wife was standing in my office and after 2 minutes she came back to the subject of “being tied up” and had been looking for a lot of physical contact. The unfortunate thing was that I had a lot of Teams meetings with our management board right at that time and couldn't really take advantage of the …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/25 02:16 PM
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> I'm not going to be naive, the internet says my relationship is over, but fuck, my kids deserve a heroic fight from me. nice guy mentality. No amount of plowhorsing can negotiate attraction or desire. She stopped giving a shit about "the family" a long time ago. >Revising my mission- Be a man/father that my 3 kids respect and want to emulate I respect (Fixed it for you) >I know you're not supposed to talk about your wife a lot here and yet you do it anyway. Maybe for a minute just full-stop gi…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/25 05:59 PM
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this is actually where the most gains are to be made. Believe it or not she doesn't want the power of sex over you, she wants to be taken and fucked silly by a guy that's worth a damn. You are putting the pussy on a pedestal and letting her have power over you. Imagine a scenario where your wife cannot use sex as a bargaining chip to control your behavior. Scheduled sex is particularly frustrating and easy on her part. It doesn't give a woman the tingles and she could care less about not fucking…
/r/askMRP20/05/25 01:54 PM
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Strategy: STFU. Gray rock
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/25 12:05 PM
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-Anxiously dove into a relationship That's your fault. stop looking to others to comfort you, especially your wife -I have the ability to be in my own frame but I think that drives us apart No you don't, not yet anyway Kids are brats Because you are a shitty father I have a bad case of oneitis because family is important to me and I’m afraid to be alone. Nice way to DEER being a pussy; quit hiding behind your "family" because you don't have one anymore (see link below) I suck at enforcing bounda…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/25 02:55 PM
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>and the next few days I wanted to give her love and affection. why punish her for doing what you wanted. However, a few days later, after getting shut down with my initiations, I got agitated and frustrated / annoyed. Butthurt I have an expectation covert contract that she is open to sex with me and I’m dissatisfied with my sex life. In previous weeks when I wasn’t initiating (when I hamstered myself into thinking I didn’t want sex) it was easier for me to ignore it. On mother’s day I got an “I…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/25 04:11 PM
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>Mother’s Day drama That i created by going full-retard: The day started off pretty good. I got flowers for my ex and her mom. I had the kid picked out his mom’s flowers and card. >When the kid handed his mom the card, I got a look of hope and a, “you got me flowers” swooning. I immediately said that our son got her flowers, not me. I left after dropping him off but was coming back for dinner. This is lame as fuck. She's your ex, you don't owe her shit for mother's day. Fucking nice guy. YOU LIT…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/25 12:57 PM
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>I started a running plan to build up to a 5k. good but have you actually signed up for the race? You are 100% going to quit if you don't have a race booked.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/25 01:55 PM
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good on you for being honest. Get more attractive and your shitty initiations might work. BTW do you see the covert contract in your first one? Your initiations are like a giant blaring red siren telling your wife you need to get off. Game better throughout the day.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/25 01:53 PM
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>I try to be firm and clear about actions and consequences, but this one doesn’t seem to hear me right now and defaults to mom. She’s with me but is ultimately softer on them (which I don’t mind, but it does result in a “bad guy” role for me…I’m ok with it, when necessary). I used to be the "enforcer", about 8 months ago I told my wife to handle discipline when the acting out happens on her watch, you may need to define appropriate discipline beforehand. If she defers to me every time then they …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/25 01:35 PM
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>A morning cold shower helps remind me to take the harder and better path. remind yourself that no one is coming to save you. You are 100% alone. >I've run a similar weekly group (with local guys I know) for a while before If that works for you, then do you. >I'm being overt and direct but it's still passive. I have an expectation that they won't work and I can feel I've only been half in it. women don't like this, why? Because your mindset is that you are of lower value and asking for something…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/25 01:26 PM
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>I’ve gotten a bit slack / lazy with my discipline and been half-hearting a few things when you least want to do something is when you most need to do it. Don't negotiate with yourself, just fucking do it. >Action Plan: Setup a weekly accountability group with a few men not a fan of this. Why? because you have to learn to stand on your own two feet and self soothe. 99% of the time accountability groups turn into venting echo chambers. Thats why this place is great, no one gives a fuck about you …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/25 01:06 PM
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-finances ect, all from the perspective of “this is what I’m thinking and planning on doing”. She was nodding and in agreement with me the whole conversation. That’s a change from previous conversations where’d she’d basically say “can you do that? Good luck!” and walk Careful here or don't say it at all. Often it comes across as seeking mommies approval to execute said "plans". You can state it (or better yet don't) and simply do it. In other words build and execute without telling anyone. You'…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/25 02:39 PM
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you've got to get the mindset that taking care of you actually makes you a better father and husband.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/25 09:02 PM
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>15 minutes thought so. The number of guys here that "work out" in the basement with kettlebells and treadmill and wonder why they don't have any gains. I'm not saying its impossible but the whole point of the Gym is you are there for a reason and it forces commitment. Whenever i didn't have a gym membership guess what...i didn't work out. it's your first OYS but start focusing on what actions you are going to take the next week and do them. Also i would encourage you to read one book at a time …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/25 05:44 PM
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> I feel like a drunk captain with great potential and solid self-discipline, and yet... >and my current half-hearted approach doesn’t align with them. >I’ve become addicted to dopamine and waste an insane number of hours on distractions and porn. After landing a great job last year, I got complacent and lost most of my good habits. >I procrastinate on basic tasks (e.g., paying bills) for no good reason > also don't internalize certain concepts of actions (ie: training, eating right, working har…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/25 01:56 PM
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Stats: 35 yo, 6’0”, 158 lbs, Married 6 years, 2 kids (3 and 1) You should try eating; and lifting. Tell us, how long do your "kettlebell sessions" last? >Next week I am playing soccer and going out with my friend and two other nights my wife has plans. No one gives a fuck about your wifes plans. She has no guilt about living a life apart from you, you need to do the same but out of sense of doing what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/25 01:41 PM
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trust means different things to men and women. Men tend to want to trust facts, trust that she won't fuck another guy etc. Women trust their feelings and want to be able to trust that you are going to be a man no matter what, regardless of the circumstances.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/25 01:36 PM
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i reread my comment i think i follow you now. thanks for your insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/25 07:25 PM
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>Your response to tiger-r about time isn’t not true, but it also may be one of the remaining chains that is self-limiting for you. What happens if discard that? It is amazing what recency bias can do to all of us. not sure i follow you, care to expand?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/25 06:49 PM
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Try communicating with actions instead of words. >Correct, I don't get out much. Years of remote work and 3 kids under 5 have strangled that a bit. I do get to gym 4 times a week, and as a family we usually go out on do things on the weekend. But alone, "my" social life is all but dead. Do you see the excuses in this response? You aren't special, almost everyone here has kids and the ones who made it figured out who to live their lives according to their principles and desires. YOU killed your s…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/25 02:15 PM
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>No sex this past week. No initiations. I was called forward to initiate more in my last OYS. and yet you did nothing. >victim puke: well at least your aren't bullshitting yourself this week like you did last week. However you want to describe it, it doesn't matter You are a squishy mid 40's man afraid of his wife's rejections. >I still feel numb, disconnected, and like I’m going through the motions at certain parts of the day. What do you want? What do you want to do? Get some hobbies and start…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/25 01:28 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/25 08:30 PM
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>Poor communication. what does good communication look like to you? i don't get the impression you get out much ie no social life.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/25 12:29 PM
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deep in the anger phase. Children with dynamite. Took me a while to realize the difference between single man game and married man game is that a single woman hasn't seen all your bullshit, your backsliding, your being a pussy, or lazy or whatever the fuck. For many guys here, myself include it takes a while to bleach that out of a womans mind but only through consistent action. Meaning I have to consistently have frame and not make my wife my mission. The online rando has only seen your good, s…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/25 03:02 AM
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>Thing is, she's a freak, and I'm not. Fuck you man...better handle that or someone else will. edit: the humor makes sense now...you try to be funny as a defense mechanism because you aren't comfortable with her freakiness or able to handle it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/25 02:49 AM
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Sex: Some ups and downs, no pun intended. Seen some positive progress in leading my wife to be more confident expressing herself sexually. But having some problems with immersion myself with so much going on in my head. oh the irony. You are leading her to more confidently expressing herself and yet you can't confidently express yourself. Maybe some fake til you make is working but will only lead you so far. Try just saying whatever the fuck comes to mind next time you're fucking. Also try to us…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/25 02:41 AM
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up your initiations. Even if you don't feel like: if you get laid, great, if no so what, you weren't in the mood anyway
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 06:42 PM
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you live in a fantasy world and I suspect have a healthy dose of dunning-krueger effect. >The following night, my wife was full of new concerns about how the two of us needed lots of psychological counseling and the road to healing our marriage was now way worse than she had imagined, based on things she learned from her sister. My wife wouldn't share any specifics, except that she needed to "talk to some people" as a next step. sorry honey, i don't take advise from trainwrecks on how to operate…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 06:29 PM
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OYS #52 Stats: 38, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 175lbs, 16.0% BF, bench 285x1rm, squat 315x1rm, deadlift 415x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSM, attached, 48 LOP, MSFM, MAP. Things I’ve done this past week: lifted 2x, played tennis. Coached kids baseball team. Continued writing down red/yellow/green of my Map. Took the family to a waterpark. Had a great spring break with the kids. Went out to a street festival and met up…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 02:45 PM
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>The touching slowed. And she saw now she had to actually buy in. And she didn't like the pressure of that responsibility. So she left. >My touch situation never changed. I changed my perception of it. So did your touching slow or not? Is slowing the same as changing? Now we're getting into semantics. My argument as to my "why" is because I had unconsciously conditioned my wife that touch means I expected sex. Therefore touch me touching her was no longer enjoyable for me, or her. I wanted to ke…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/25 09:08 PM
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get in OYS tomorrow. Gotta start somewhere. You fell into the trap of thinking sacrifice=being a good father (and possibly husband). This is not true. I was the least effective as a father when i "sacrificed" everything for the sake of my family and kids. Think of it this way: a healthy happy you can lead a healthy happy crew. If you are unhappy and unhealthy so will your entire crew be. This means you gotta keep yourself mentally and physically healthy.
/r/askMRP21/04/25 05:18 PM
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I see your point but your touch situation only changed because you literally have a different woman in your life. One who appreciates the touch. The recalibration is for the guys that trained their wives that all touch means sex. So those wives then become repulsed by touch because it ONLY means their husband wants sex or validation for that matter. I was that AFC for quite a while without realizing it and finally I noticed my wife would literally tense up when I touched her. So before I ever fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/25 02:49 PM
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dude i gotta lay it out. She wants you to kill the puppy. A woman telling her spouse to go fuck other women is deeply unattracted to you and unafraid of you doing so. She knows you can't/won't and if you do it lays the grounds for her divorcing you over "cheating". It gives her a leg up in the family court and court of public opinion. Run your plan as if you were single and prepare for war. Given the backstory you've told here I would say you have an extremely contentious divorce coming up. It m…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/25 02:38 PM
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Legacy baggage. Do you think more or less sex will help with getting rid of that baggage?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/25 11:16 AM
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a guy your age should be out doing awesome shit all the time, 25 and no kids. Man you should be living life. If you do nothing else but STFU and get a life outside of your marriage you will reap huge dividends. Join some adult league sports, try a million hobbies, go see show, etc. Yes you are underweight but i got a buddy about your exact stats and he's a natural because he has good game. Go ahead, eat and lift, those are easy but your game is gonna need work.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/25 04:07 PM
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initiated 1x in 2 weeks? is that how much you wanted or how many times you initiated when you felt it was 100% safe that there wouldn't be a rejection? >I’ve been pretty disconnected / numb / depressed and generally not in a great mental state the past few weeks. Noticing the thoughts and doing my best to ignore them. I think that getting to the gym and rebuilding my activity / energy levels will help here. From what i gather this is somewhat normal. I went through that too, for me it came from …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/25 09:01 PM
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your wife is a reflection of you. why is she moody? You. Why does she suck? You suck. why doesn't she desire you? you don't desire her (in reality you are full of resentment that she's not attracted to the current loser version of you). She can't relax? because you suck. If she STFU let her, that would be a welcome level of peace in most guys life. Funny thing is she doesn't know why she's doing it. But hopefully you at least know why you are doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/25 08:34 PM
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read the link and comparing it to your situation is retarded. You're trying to manufacture outrage to generate tingles and feels. You bullshit about how you don't have a covert contract then you type this... like a retard. You are rambo's retard cousin. But for the sake of our enjoyment if you have any balls whatsoever follow through with your plan and write a field report. we all know you won't because you are incapable of action.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/25 08:28 PM
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Social is crucial for your development. Plus it stops you from being. Puppy waiting for mommy to come home. You just got a raise. My volleyball league I did was $60 total for six weeks plus playoffs. Don't make excuses for your own growth and happiness
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/25 11:43 AM
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he's opposite of yoga voodoo mediation. He's more drill sergeant stop bullshitting yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 04:58 PM
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you are more retarded than i thought. so here goes.... Michael is an incel MGTOW. He doesn't like reality so he simply complains about his shitty options. Hes a sexually frustrated chump that doesn't understand why the world won't just bend to his dreams of a pure woman in her 20's that is a 10, a virgin, and desperately wants him. He can have his values and opinions but will suffer the consequences accordingly (ie being single incel forever). Yet he cannot accept that those are the inevitable r…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 04:53 PM
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ditto, autopilot for the win and food prep. Occasionally i have a business lunch but it's pretty easy to recover.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 04:48 PM
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Also you still have oneitis or else her talking to someone else wouldn't bother you. It bothers you because you care to much. Look at this as a gift to wake the fuck up and improve yourself for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 02:11 PM
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That video is well put together and explains mate guarding/jealousy and how to handle it as best as I've seen yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 01:57 PM
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cheese motivational quote that comes to mind: choose your hard. Losing weight is Hard, so is being a fat fuck. Choose wisely. with the former it gets easier, with the latter it gets even harder. How much more fun could you have with your kid if you could actually run more than 2 steps? How much better could you dress, pussy you could attract, promotions at work, etc? All of it becomes easier with getting in shape. You need to realize you aren't actually trying to lose weight (or shouldn't be). W…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 11:14 AM
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exactly. sometimes seeing your own retardedness written out helps you grasp it. It's like anything, read the room but initiate if you want to. Don't be surprised though if you've done zero game and then out of no where initiate when she's puking her guts up. Not a high percentage shot.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 11:02 AM
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it's not for everyone but listen to some david goggins when you start to ruminate, it helps bring me back to focus on my shit. snaps me out of my "poor me" state real fucking quick. Do you have any hobbies? strength: not sure if your goals include your bodyfat, but general wisdom is while gaining strength you will see some body fat accumulation. You probably aren't getting enough calories. I used to be so proud of how lean I was but i wasn't strong and i didn't look built. 15% seems to be an ide…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 02:30 AM
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Money/abundance: I've had your same mindset before at various times but think about your cost per hour entertainment. For example "date night"--Dinner, drinks, babysitter, gas, whatever=about $100-$200/hr. Ridiculous in my mind. So spend it where you get the most value. My kids love the arcade, so i make it fun by playing the games with them and seeing how many high scores we can get, fuck the tokens, they get 1 prize regardless of the tokens. Point being find where you get the most Value. Price…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 02:22 AM
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>twice last week, and she responded in anger, insane shit tests which included physical violence. Inside I felt at peace, like the storm was happening out there and not in me. I honestly don't know if my marriage is going to survive whatever is happening. Not because we're fighting keep lying to yourself buddy; my wife beats me but we don't fight. She's probably okay hitting you because you have a smaller physique than her. Be honest, by how much does she outweigh you? The worst part about rolle…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 02:12 AM
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>No you arent, you are shitting in your hands and clapping i literally burst out laughing with that line
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 02:09 AM
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I only read a few paragraphs and got bored, my impression was that it can't possibly be real, yes a relatable story that tells how a ton of guys think but it had every MGTOW trope down to the specific quotes that it almost seems like it was written by a vet as a cautionary tale. Basically don't be Michael. I guess it could be a real guy but seems like a portmanteau of all the worst nice guy qualities.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 02:04 AM
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>I acted like a child during an exchange. One of the kids is having homework issues, which requires more communication with my ex if I want him to succeed. I asked her if she could please check her messages. She gave a sarcastic reply and smirked like a child. I lost it and mocked her with an exaggerated face. That didn’t help me and undid some of the progress I’ve been making in trying to stay out of her frame. She has my number and she knows it. Good fucking god, you aren't even married to her…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 01:55 AM
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ya that caught me as strange, i have wrist issues right now too and barbells are way easier, less stabilizers required.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 01:43 AM
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you have a long way to go, seems like you're just starting on MRP, it can be like sipping from a fire hydrant. Chill the fuck out. Shut the Fuck Up. Those are two of the biggest things you can do for yourself at the moment. Keep grinding but for the love of God stop talking. My wife did the same bullshit shit tests with seeking validation from other men in the form of an orbiter. The more you act disheveled about it the more power you give her over you. You obviously have no sense of self yet. S…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 01:40 AM
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I've initiated when my wife is sick and so has she. Getting fucked good is good for the immune system. Maybe examine your limiting beliefs.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 01:30 AM
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> I’ve mentioned her closed bodylanguage (in and out of bed) here often and after the incident she told me how uncomfortable she feels around me in general because of all the action that I try. you need to recalibrate touch. I was the needy touchy feely bitch. >moment I finished I felt … nothing. That's because you are ever so slowly getting away from validation. I know you've been here a while and i'm not going to read through your other OYS but my guess is you came here from a dead bedroom, se…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 07:34 PM
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Sex: field report: wife tried to schedule sex, but it didn’t pan out; then she expected me to initiate that night, but I didn't. There was a palpable sense of disappointment on her side. The next morning, I created more tension. That night I could sense she was eager for it. I sat her on the bed, took off her shirt and glasses, told her to wait. Then I went and got a silk tie out of my closet, blindfolded her and said “i want you to listen. I’m in charge, greenlight means go, yellow light means …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 04:34 PM
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OYS #51 Stats: 38, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 173lbs, 16.0% BF, bench 285x1rm, squat 315x1rm, deadlift 415x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSM, attached, 48 LOP, MSFM, MAP. Things I’ve done this past week: lifted 3x, played racquetball, tennis, went mountain biking. Coached kids baseball team. Continued writing down red/yellow/green of my Map. Finally finished my dining room table. Took the family camping and had an awe…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 04:34 PM
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>I cannot seem to get much higher on my bench, which has been stalled for months, so any feedback is welcome there. Your body has adapted to it's routine. go on a new routing for 4-6 weeks. Ie switch to dumbells instead of barbells (or vice versa), forced reps with a spotter, rest pause, high/low splits, change your rep range, are all options (don't try to do them all at once). Your lifting stats aren't terrible for your physical stats but could be better.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/25 01:55 PM
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>It's going to be some time before my next OYS as I don't think I can make substantial changes in my life in only a week's worth of time. Wrong. You can start your tiktoks or instagram reels right now. I still think that's retarded but you can literally start that in the next five minutes; costs=$0.00. Lets be honest you are lifting and i'm sure you take a ton of videos and pictures of yourself already so just start posting that shit, there is no advantage to waiting on a website. Are you concer…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/25 01:45 PM
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fair enough, either way doesn't matter we've spent more time on it than his own wife did.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/25 07:40 PM
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relaxing: i don't mean it some much in ease up on myself more like i've put in a long day, accomplished everything i set out to do and want a moment of peace in my house. This is hard to come by. With weather getting nicer i tend to go out and walk my yard, inspect things, appreciate what I have etc. What i used to thing was "relaxing" was actually cheap dopamine hits. After thinking about it this is moreso a lack of discipline on my part to create the space and time to clear my head.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/25 04:20 PM
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I dunno, a bit of a toss-up to me. Her emotions are not his problem at the same time he lead in the situation. From what he wrote I don't gather that she was being bitchy to him per se. Putting the kids to work is a good thing and changing venue is not bad. At the same time I can see where pavlovs training would say that "coming home with shitty attitude=husband handles things and buys me a treat. " I did get a kick out the "Get the one for cranky bitches" comment. Had it not been for that i'd b…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/25 02:46 PM
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jesus you retards need to read burton Malkiel's A random walk down wallstreet.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/25 02:38 PM
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PSA: Reminder On Dread Game- New Guys especially! Don't be a dumbass with Dread Game! : r/marriedredpill Passive dread - be the prize : r/marriedredpill https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/374wln/what_we_talk_about_when_we_talk_about_dread_13/
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/25 01:20 PM
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you're on right track financially. Only other word of caution is to make sure you own it when you hits bumps and make mistakes and do not be fearful, after all its just money, there's trillions of it floating around out there. One of the biggest mistakes I ever made was showing fear and passing that on to my wife like she was somehow qualified to soothe me.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/25 12:35 PM
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Don't deer us. You may not have said the D word but she's not retarded. What "choices" were you implying? Divorce, cheating, etc. Take your lumps, learn, move on and do better. Overt dread is not your friend, especially in your current state. i.e. you're not attractive so trying to create overt dreads lands like the hindenburg. Passive, natural dread is best and cannot be created over night out of thin air.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/25 12:26 PM
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OP stepped on your own dick there. STFU. have a plan. i.e. initiate, if no then go do something else you want to do. If that's rolling over and going to bed that's fine. just stfu. STFU cannot be overstated, NEVER threaten divorce unless you are ready to sign the papers and walk out the door that minute.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 07:39 PM
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welcome back retard....did you buy a fucking toothbrush yet? shit we've already told you to do but you didn't do So what the fuck are you going to do before your next OYS? "I need": 13x in your OYS I want: 5x I'm doing: 0x You're such a pussy you deleted out. Ego couldn't handle it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 07:23 PM
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copper. it's the whole "plastic inside my body" thing. I actually laughed at one point because she said we could use pull out method, she was dead serious when she said it too. I said absolutely not.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 05:34 PM
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I hesitate to bring him into the mix b/c its external cheerleader pep talk but he's hard as fuck so whatever: David Goggins. Mfer lost 75lbs in 3 months because he decided on a whim he wanted to become a navy seal. OP should put his youtube videos on repeat all day every day. I found a tech mix that samples his quotes and goes hard, love listening to it when I work out.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 02:57 PM
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mother: I've been right there before due to parents divorce 4 years ago (that drug on for almost 2 years). Finally got to the place where I saw her as the scared little girl that she is. Probably has BPD and always did looking back. I've dropped all expectations of reasonableness. I spend time with her on my terms, I don't DEER, STFU when necessary. Basically all the WISNIFG tools apply here. I no longer see her as a rational loving compassionate person, instead i understand that she is solipsis…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 02:51 PM
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can't go broke if you don't have anything and never try! Daytrading bullshit is a trip, fortunately this guy is so lazy he won't actually do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 02:32 PM
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Hobbies: Do what you want but don't be a dancing monkey. I prefer to combine hobbies with social if I can. Hence why I love playing sports, keeps me active, it's social, allows me to feed my competitive nature in a somewhat animalistic way. However, I do also enjoy woodworking, writing, etc. Do shit for you but also understand what comes with it. If your hobby is collecting used panties from retired pornstars don't be shocked if your woman, or any woman for that matter sees you as a complete los…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 02:18 PM
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This OYS was probably your most cohesive one yet, less scattered, more introspective and all around owning your shit. Look at the work challenges as the fire that forges. No one who ever did awesome shit did it without challenges. In fact i've come to realize the challenges are the ONLY way one grows and does awesome shit. IUD--Same boat here, i'm not willing to snip and there's conversation around getting it out during her next checkup in June. Right now it's 50/50. My guess is it'll stay in as…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/25 05:39 PM
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in the moment i just chuckled, i think i said something along the lines of "at least i took you with me"
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/25 05:27 PM
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OYS #50 Stats: 38, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 173lbs, 16.0% BF, bench 285x1rm, squat 315x1rm, deadlift 415x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSM, attached, 48 LOP, MSFM, MAP. Things i’ve done this past week: lifted 3x, played golf, tennis, volleyball playoffs. Coached kids baseball team and had a ton of fun doing it. Started writing down red/yellow/green of my Map. Finally finished my dining room table. Game: Took a lunch…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/25 02:46 PM
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genetically ugly? Stop with that bullshit, that negative self talk is unproductive. Sure you may not have a million dollar smile but looks aren't even really that important, only opens the door, doesn't seal the deal. There are "objectively Handsome" guys out there that have no game whatsoever and get the question "why are you still single". There are also absolute troll looking mfers out there that have their game on point and get plenty of women. Don't hide the fact that you are boring and hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/25 01:00 PM
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>I'm starting to lean more into my cardio instead of my lifting. I am okay with maintaining the muscle I have while dropping the fat. Add, don't subtract. Studies consistently show weight training is most effective at losing weight, adding cardio (at varying speeds, intervals, distances) will enhance it but don't subtract weight training. work: humility goes a long way in those situations. You're fighting that union mentality of "get in line and put in your time!" how dare you outshine me in sho…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/25 04:50 PM
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>Not being disturbed about coming quickly (or her mini test about it) is great. I probably would have said “take it as a compliment” but yours works too. At some point, you’ll probably be on the other side of that anyway. Ya this has been a bit all over the place for me lately. Other day I had hard time getting hard during BJ, in a circumstance that I normally would be thrilled about. This is a predictable consequence of re-wiring my shit after not looking at porn or fap. For a while I was super…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/25 04:13 PM
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12 years, not married, basically a dead BR. Seems like there's more than what's being said but the general wisdom would be that you are unattractive to her. You'll have to dive in on yourself to figure out how to be attractive and not unattractive to women in general. Are you fun? Do you even like each other?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/25 03:45 PM
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>I've been going to the gym for years and have been unable to gain muscle. Do you see the problem here? Would probably be worth looking into trainer or lifting partner (someone that looks like you'd want to look). Obviously no one here is going to dissect every detail of your workout but you aren't making progress in that area, so something needs to change and that's up to you. >Sometimes I feels like I'm just spinning my wheels because you don't know what you want and so you don't know what to …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/25 02:58 PM
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that would be an interesting read.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/25 07:22 PM
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to add to FF's comment >It made me realize that I've still been scoreboarding with household chores, and I really need to stop expecting anything to happen around the house unless I do it. Yes and No. Does the captain swab the poop deck, cook the meals, and prepare the cannons? Do what you'd do if you were single and had to take care of your own place. In my situation I was very clear "I'll help clean up after the kids but you are an adult. I won't clean up after you". Then I stopped doing anyth…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/25 07:19 PM
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discipline beats motivation everytime. Keep Grinding. weight: not sure you need to gain it per se. You need less body fat and more muscle. You listed obscure lift and aren't that strong. Do you know what you're doing in the weight room? If not do some research or get a trainer. I personally think doing the work and trying new exercises/techniques is better than getting a trainer. Either way results are what matters. are you married/have a partner?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/25 01:47 PM
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Nothing you did is congruent with MRP philosophy. Ask yourself "is what I'm doing moving me closer to or further away from what I want?" Also there's this acronym that gets thrown around here from time to time: STFU. You may want to look it up and see if you can find anything about it, perhaps on the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/25 01:26 PM
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thanks, somehow i've hadn't found those posts yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/25 02:22 PM
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Sex: wife was on her phone so i texted her that i want her in the shower after we get kids down. Later she joins me, unsolicited BJ and sex, she teased me about coming quickly so I simply told her good girl. My ego would have been hurt in past but fuck it; i’m not apologizing for something i enjoyed. Over the weekend wife was feeling guilty about how she got too drunk the night before, so I listened then asked “do you need me to help you release some serotonin and oxytocin?” A great session foll…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/25 01:22 PM
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OYS #49 Stats: 38, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 173lbs, 16.0% BF, bench 285x1rm, squat 315x1rm, deadlift 415x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSM, attached, 48 LOP, MSFM. Things i’ve done this past week: lifted 3x, played golf, tennis. Coached kids baseball team, had a great time. Put together a golf outing with some friends that’s coming up soon. Finished reading MAP. I overshot with food over the past week b/c i had plat…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/25 01:22 PM
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>Plate: None at the moment. I'm like one more rejection away from opening up my end of the marriage. I will have a fulfilling sex life. I'd prefer it be with my wife, but at the end of the day I am going to get some somewhere. I will tell her if this is the route I choose. I am okay with whatever happens as a result. i'm no rocket surgeon but here's a little advice: You are still in the anger phase and sound like children with dynamite. You've been here 13 months and during that time got a DUI a…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/25 03:23 PM
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you need discipline. Discipline=Freedom. Discipline is greater than motivation. Accept that you are a man, on your own, you get all the power to make all the rules at your house. Also what are you doing on your days without kids? Pretty easy to catch up. You're running from fire to fire which is unsustainable. start listening to goggins. Re-read through your post at the number of excuses you make for yourself. You can do this. You have to do this. No one is coming to rescue you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 08:48 PM
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Funny thing i've noticed is FOMO. When I plan something and 1-2 other guys want to go then the rest want to jump on board and move schedules accordingly. Another observation is it creates subtle dread. The other wives respect me, want their husbands to hang out with me and make the occasional "why can't you be like him" type of comment. Your wife or any woman for that matter instinctively knows if other women respect you. This is just a thing that happens as a result of being the leader; not som…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/25 03:10 PM
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>She never wants to fuck if she thinks one of the kids will knock on our door or walk in the living room at any moment. She never said it, I bet she walked in on her mom when she was a kid or something. I went through this for a while. Now it's turned into a bit of a perk i.e it feels naughty and wrong to do it; hence it's more fun. Doesn't mean it doesn't come with hiccups (had a few incidents where kids interrupted). What's worse, kids seeing their parents enjoying each other, or seeing parent…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/25 03:06 PM
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by and large i like the community; for example we have a small group that we lead, young families, so we're all in a similar stage of life. However we all have dramatically different backgrounds and i've gained some valuable insight and perspective and friendship. By definition most men are going to be average/mediocre and afraid of their wives...AFCs if you will. Only a few "get it" or will.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/25 02:31 PM
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all good notes. it's taken a while to de-condition all the nice guy tendencies and obviously i'm still working through it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/25 06:36 PM
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OYS #48 Stats: 38, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 171lbs, 16.0% BF, bench 285x1rm, squat 315x1rm, deadlift 415x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSM, attached, 48 LOP, MSFM. Things i’ve done this past week: lifted 3x, getting stronger, played golf, volleyball, tennis. Made massive progress on my table which admittedly has taken forever. Signed up to coach kids baseball team; I enjoy coaching sports and am looking forward to i…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/25 03:37 PM
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A belief in God adds a sense of unconditional love. there is no such thing as unconditional love between people (took me finding MRP to fully accept this as an adult even though the signs were everywhere). Closest thing to unconditional love we can experience is from parent to child but even then that's not guaranteed. Christianity (the church/organized religion) adds a means to possibly (not always) grow in my faith, learn more, ask more questions, give peace at times, community.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/25 03:05 PM
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Probably more so just my anger with the system I chose to be a part of. I'm 100% aware its up to me to choose what i'm going to participate it. However my struggle with faith is a bit like when guys get the wife goggles smacked off their face.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/25 02:59 PM
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Out of order, but perhaps, time will tell.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/25 04:55 PM
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riding high on some sex and a bj really got you thinking you're awesome. You need to read the posts about 12 levels of dread being retarded covert contract bullshit. It's a basic framework but you clearly haven't even begun to think for yourself or even question it yet. Does your wife have a point with the shit tests, have you actually taken care of xyz yet or are you a lazy fuck that lets stuff linger. Actually ask yourself that; ie consider for just a moment that your wife might actually have …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/25 01:37 PM
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>everyone reason she had let me correct myself, EVERY EXCUSE SHE COULD HAMSTER. again i already stated her real reason, which you may be correct she's not conscious of it but it's obvious. Real reason: she isn't attracted to you. > I kinda like the strategy of just STFU: it's super easy to execute. :) Primarily I just wanted to make sure she knows what I want (so that we're on the clear in straightforward terms and there are no covert contracts) - and that's done so I can go back to grinding. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/25 06:04 PM
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The conversation went something like this (should this go into OYS? Should it be its own FR? Or should I just STFU and not spam this space with this?) Her: "*starts crying* I just don't know why I don't get horny anymore; it's not just you - I don't feel like having sex with anyone nowadays" of course she is going to say this. Do you think a woman is going to say "i just don't want to fuck you but i do wanna fuck other men" unless of course she's already branch swinging and shes leaving you. Me:…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/25 02:49 PM
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or better yet a cult...the leader always has the most sex!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/25 07:15 PM
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I get your point, instead of whining I could step up, be the change, etc. My response was an observation, In my other comment above I acknowledge it's men's fault for letting that happen. I've lead our church group for several months. Put together several mens only events at our church, and tried putting together social outings for the guys. The last one is like pulling teeth. Typical response is something like "let me check with my wife, we're busy with kids sports, insert DEER Here". So many a…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/25 02:56 PM
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I used to blame old knee injuries/pain for not squatting and going deep. Then when I started lifting seriously in my 20's my knee pain actually went away. I squat ass to ground with virtually no problems as long as my form is good. Going deeper helped my pain go away. Even if it's bodyweight, work on getting to where your calves are literally touching the back of your lower hamstrings
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/25 02:39 PM
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ya i can see the ego aspect of it. "i'm so important they must have done this just to fuck with me". In reality everyone has their own shit going on in their lives.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/25 02:36 PM
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Never been asked or asked myself this question. Need to think on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 07:35 PM
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Men let it happen. It's like when I try to schedule an guys outing (watching a game, bowling, golf, grab beers) and without fail almost every guy has to get permission or check his wifes schedule. Men have become weak so the church went.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 07:35 PM
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Do you do sufficient stretching/warming up before your workouts. Seems like stretching would help a ton (will take several weeks to make a significant difference). Also do you do any accessory lifts (hamstring curls, quad extensions?) NGL i've never seen someone that can squat more than they can deadlift. How deep are your squats? What's the goal with CBT?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 05:35 PM
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Bingo. It's nauseating how weak, feminized, and placating the Christian church in general has become. When the leadership is getting cheated on and making jokes about their sexless marriage it's obvious what is happening. My age cohort is starting to see a large round of divorces happening. Without fail the single mom starts spouting bible verses online and the church becomes a place of refuge for her, likely where she'll find the next beta bux. The modern church LOVES the story of the broken wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 03:02 PM
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OYS #47 Stats: 38, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 171lbs, 16.0% BF, bench 285x1rm, squat 315x1rm, deadlift 415x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSM, attached, 48 LOP, MSFM. Things I’ve done this past week: Worked out 3x, played volleyball, played golf, played tennis 3x, went mountain biking. Continued Reading Map. From a leisure/entertainment standpoint I’m loving life right now. As far as a larger purpose admittedly I’m sti…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 01:58 PM
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WTF does his OYS matter in regards to your life? I hope you see your response for what it was, a defensive ego-protection coping mechanism for dealing with a perceived insult from an internet stranger. Anger Phase much? Guess what? after all your hamstering your lifts still haven't changed. How about you use the anger of his slight to lift more next time you go to the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 01:34 PM
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I really really want to believe this is sarcasm.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 12:31 PM
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Your workouts should never be less than an hour. I had a suspicion that based on your caloric intake that you simply aren't burning enough calories to lose weight. When you cut calories often the body goes into a preservation state (even though you have plenty of reserves). so you need to force it through with burning more calories. The occasional fast day might not hurt either, maybe once a month. Here's the thing though. There is no silver bullet, you just need to fucking grind. I hate to do t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 12:07 PM
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My first instinct was to DEER a little about stuff i didn't put in my OYS. But you're right not a bad take. Looking back I only experience happiness when I'm pursuing something; contentment is elusive. I have to constantly find the next thing to pursue. Not sure if this is a good or bad thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 11:53 AM
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just curious, how long does your typical workout last. Only counting the time you first touch a weight/machine until you stop (including any cardio)?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 01:15 PM
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I do although theres a bit of diminishing returns. I.e. in the beginning, go rambo on working out STFU and things improve greatly. After that the harder internal work starts to take shape and seems slower as mental models take time to change.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 05:00 PM
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--Stopped counting sex with LTR, not sure how to build a mental model around it. LTR puts-out if I'm persistent and I can get bad sex during which she seems to be in an absolute anguish - quite obviously not enjoying any second of it. The thing is; I'm not really enjoying it myself either. Vaginismus. The pussy shuts down like a clam under attack. Do you know why? Because she's having sex she doesn't want to have. There was a brief period in my marriage when things were arguably at their worst w…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 01:21 PM
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OYS #46 Stats: 38, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 169 lbs, 16.0% BF, bench 285x1rm, squat 315x1rm, deadlift 415x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSM, attached, 48 LOP, MSFM. Things I’ve done this past week: got a fucking stomach virus, couldn’t eat for 24 hours and felt like death for about 48. Still got in 3 workouts and played tennis. Missed 1 workout and volleyball. I’ve made a change in my workout schedule to better acco…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 01:09 PM
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re-read this: The reason I'm here is that my marriage was a giant energy black hole that was interfering with my mission in a big way. Now that I've learned and applied some basics, I think it's much less likely that my ship will be blown off course or run aground from a woman's storms, but still my relationship sucks and doesn't help my mission. now go re-read my question and try to actually answer it, or not, i don't really care.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/25 02:40 PM
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Fair. This is also the sex for validation issue HOA wrote. I so desperately want a BJ (special act) that I'm being a complete retard.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/25 04:17 PM
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--I started a calendar where I'm making note of various events that I might want to go to or participate in, as a step toward getting out more. Okay so just go do it. or buy the tickets. Do you have a social life? ie friends or hobbies? --I've put away several hundred dollars in cash in a semi-secret stash of whore money (haha, not really for whores). Basically, a baby step toward undomesticating myself. Good god this reeks of fear. I can literally smell how much you fear your wifes reaction if …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/25 04:12 PM
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incel last 8 years and single? You do realize this is Married Red Pill right? I'm all for you working on yourself but it seems like you need TRP or pickup or seduction or something. --Disturb her if she is busy. Let her tell you that she is not interested. Don't assume anything. Don't be a bitch. 100% you will be called a creep. But that's okay, part of your learning process. --Career: My financial condition has not changed yet. I have dived even deeper into day trading, reading books, and takin…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/25 04:05 PM
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--It's interesting to watch the people around me too. I'm pretty sure the majority of them want me to stay a fat ass because it puts them in check. Do you know why? Because then they don't have excuses for sucking too. i.e. the fat guy is changing, oh no what's my excuse for sucking. Same thing happens with finances. I've seen in my own family ie my success is due to luck. It allows them to stay comfortable in their delusion that luck is why they are broke. But here's a more important question. …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/25 03:46 PM
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--sharing that past hidden use with my wife after it had been stopped for newly a year. lol. why? what was the anticipated result?!?. BTW she likely already knew and didn't care because she wasn't attracted to you. --Work has been second fiddle for a couple years as I have worked on our marriage yeah? and how did that work out for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/25 03:40 PM
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I'm weak as fuck at generating emotions, except for fear/anxiety. For me this is the single hardest part of hard mode. I've been the retard that looked for tips, tricks, and gimmicks to generate emotions. As i've stopped focusing on it so much it's becoming more natural but i'm still struggling in this area.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/25 03:24 PM
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spot on. The appreciation is another covert contract and my dumbass even mentioned a couple of paragraphs above. well said.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/25 02:59 PM
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--I told her that marriage counseling is the deathknell of a marriage and that if we've outgrown each other we should talk about it. I tell her I've been thinking about divorce and whether or not we we're compatible. She thinks we're compatible and she told me she feels like she's holding me back. She asked what she needs to do to step up. This felt like a trap but I told her anyway. The things are basic: take some tasks off my list, pickup more, clean more, plan meals. She asked me to communica…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/25 02:43 PM
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OYS #45 Stats: 38, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 170 lbs, 16.0% BF, bench 285x1rm, squat 315x1rm, deadlift 415x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSM, attached, 48 LOP, Things i’ve done this past week: lifted 3x, played volleyball, played tennis, bought a mountain bike. I took my son to a pump track and we both rode with friends, this was more fun than I expected and made me feel like a kid again because I almost ate shit sev…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/25 02:25 PM
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--Don’t get stressed out with the orbiter. But letting you know there’s a high chance it can happen again with someone else a couple months from now. This behavior cannot be beaten. I've contemplated this possibility; it may just be who she is and it's up to me to decide what I'm going to tolerate. A woman has orbiters because she invites them into orbit and keeps them there. I cannot control her behavior, since boundaries are clear, then violations of that are willful acts. Just got to focus on…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/25 12:18 PM
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Again, this is probably the most honest you've been on here. So good on that. Is it possible to lead the family to a healthy lifestyle? If she won't follow you regarding health/working out what does that say about you? There's a sense of despair about getting the sex you want. You don't truly believe you can and will get the sex you want. Ask yourself why that is. I'm having to do this for myself so I get it. Part of me thinks at times I may be able to, then I sometimes lose a little hope with a…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/25 05:55 PM
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regarding your OYS read this, for some reason it helped me stop bullshitting myself. and start thinking about myself more. Realize getting banned is for YOUR benefit and to a degree others. -- I'm not sure I was testing her boundaries, but she was testing mine, we were testing both. To take what I want, to go after what I want - to Fuck, is what I am looking to achieve. The anectdote of the kid carrying the luggage - he should be - but I don't really care about it. I just wanted to shut the argu…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/25 02:02 PM
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it's taken me a while to actually believe I am in charge of crafting my future and that I CAN craft a future I want. Victim mentality, resentment, etc had me looking backwards instead of forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 09:49 PM
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Good post pulling together lots of good points. Early on had to recalibrate and get this reset, Slap ass walk away. When i first started MRP every touch was met with tension or physical recoil. For a brief moment i used this rationalization for being a lazy fuck on some stuff, because i DGAF right. Wrong, don't rationalize being retarded. Obvious but not brought up around here a bunch. Take the protein farts outside. 7.-8. spot on. Gotta work through that resentment. I must have read it a millio…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 09:42 PM
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puts porn into perspective and the type of man that looks at porn
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 03:40 PM
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nice victim puke. What are you going to do about any of this? You've read one book and some sidebar. Everything you wrote is looking at the past and you have a vague goal of "stop blowing my life up". I feel bad for your fiance, you are just taking your shitstorm from one relationship to another. --One of my biggest stressors is the fear of my past affairs being fully exposed. Several months ago, I was confronted by my fiancée. My ex had been spreading rumors - she said there were four affairs. …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 03:37 PM
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this reads kind of like a journal. So you want to lift more and less screen time. Okay, but what are you actually working on? Specifically what about yourself/mentality are your working on? --To Fuck. Once. is this since last OYS or just last week? --As expected, (why do you expect failure and what can you do about it) a week of skiing vacation messed up some things. Multiple times of discussing, testing boundaries with wife. Healthy wise. An example, carrying luggage back to car and she was bei…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 02:45 PM
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show me a persons schedule and i'll show you their priorities. This doesn't mean be a simp puppy waiting for a scrap of pussy all the time, but it does mean create the opportunities and then have more important shit to do it if doesn't work out. For example if i initiate during lunch and no-go then i simply go back to work. Or if i initiate in the morning i simply continue getting ready. With kids in the house and busy schedule not every time having sex is going to be an hour long strokefest. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/25 03:27 PM
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Do your logistics suck for initiating? When I stopped worrying about kids being and house and other bs my frequency went way up. I'll come home and initiate during lunch, right after work, before i picked up kids from school, while kids are playing outside, etc. Kids really make logistics a challenge but waiting until late at night every time won't cut it. When i would only initiate at night i often found myself thinking, it's late, shes already tired, it'll be a waste, and other DEERING excuses…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/25 09:21 PM
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here are many red flags that make me leery of it becoming a real relationship even though I enjoy spending time with her and the girl loves to fuck, then don't get in a relationship or better yet what do you want? Nothing wrong with giving a woman a good dicking if that's all she wants. She's in her post-divorce hoe phase and feeling that New relationship energy. Just enjoy it while it lasts, nothing wrong with that. Whatever it is, it's awkward when she's staring at me after sex and I know she'…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/25 04:47 PM
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Step 4 inventory might help you process and move on from stupid shit like this… that's exactly where this realization came from, doing the inventory. I've bullshitted myself enough and needed to acknowledge this to myself and get over it. The inventory really has been useful. Forces you to look at yourself and cut the shit. “Good girl” is catnip for vast majority of women IME. can confirm and have been using this where it's appropriate to apply. It also needs to be done without hesitation that's…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/25 04:34 PM
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Orbiter: a little background, we used to have this rule in our marriage of not spending time alone with members of opposite sex, in church circles it's the “billy graham rule”. This came up in conversation over the weekend along with a lot of other deeper topics; she called me out for having scoffed about it in conversation months ago. We had wine so I knew best to STFU at the time. However next morning I decided this was my chance to address this bullshit and put it to rest and make boundaries …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/25 02:53 PM
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OYS #44 Stats: 38, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 170 lbs, 16.0% BF, bench 285x1rm, squat 315x1rm, deadlift 415x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSM, attached, 48 LOP, Things i’ve done this past week: lifted 3x, volleyball got canceled by the venue. KItchen table i’m building is coming along although there's still quite a bit to do. Read more sidebar and finished Mans Search for meaning. I’m weak as fuck and struggling to ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/25 02:52 PM
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--While doing that I will advertise myself online as a fitness coach by making educational fitness content. This additionally is something I would love to do lifelong, so not only is it a mission, but it is also a means out of my dire financial situation. Those are my fitness and finance goals wrapped into one ongoing mission. Is that how people find fitness coaches? do you have any certifications other than "i lift and take roids"? Are you currently a trainer, are you affiliated with a gym/fitn…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/25 02:16 PM
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can you imagine hiring a coach that can't even brush their teeth? Fuck I brush morning and night every single fucking day. Basic adult 101 shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/25 02:10 PM
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reminds me of an employee i had...fancied himself a bodybuilder, showed up to work at least an hour late consistently. Claims he had the T of a granny from using roids for years so getting TRT was going to fix all his problems. Real kicker is he drank a handle of vodka every night. Poor bastard eventually od'd. The cognitive dissonance though of getting on TRT while getting black out every night blew my mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/25 07:19 PM
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You seem pretty mediocre in general. The only thing you seem to have going for you is you are in shape...apparently. finances: Making money doesn't make a chick want to fuck you or follow your lead, but being broke gets old in a relationship and most couples I know where the woman out earns the man there is a lack of respect or the power dynamic is weird, not always, but usually. Read a Dave Ramsey book and figure out some short term hustles to get your shit stabilized. You need to lay out some …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/25 04:19 PM
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--It’s the loss of progress that bothers me. Na, it's ego. If you are training at home then literally no one in the fucking world knows how little/much you squat except yourself, and what's more no one cares, so you tell yourself that squatting 285 is important and means you are strong and you get comfort off of knowing that. In fact it gives you comfort since you obviously aren't losing weight. In reality it doesn't mean shit. The only reason people talk about lifting numbers here is because it…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/25 07:52 PM
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ya i had been thinking theres a million ways to respond but the only way that matters is the way that I stay in my own frame and don't give a shit. I think that's where my frustration came from is not wanting to play a game. Just by being frustrated I was mentally choosing to play.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/25 07:04 PM
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--I'm not getting full range of motion anymore. It's hard mentally to need to drop back down to a lighter weight. Poor little ego. Wouldn't want the other people in the gym judging all 350lbs of us now would we? So keep the weight up, do half reps while in pain, gain nothing and go no where. OR swallow your fucking pride, drop the weight to a level that you can go A2G and rep it out. Squat is one of the most common lifts i see motherfuckers throwing 2-3 plates on and then doing 1/2 or quarter re…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/25 09:42 PM
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Not sure I follow you (i'm bit retarded). I wanted to make sure I avoided what I would have done in the past: "oh sorry babe, I did not mean to pressure you".
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 06:45 PM
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Keep up the dirty talk, dont falter, change up physical touch into more sensual type shit to give her the feelz. I considered that and probably should have. It was a shit test and I failed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 06:43 PM
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Oh I know...
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 06:37 PM
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OYS #43 Stats: 38, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 168 lbs, 16.0% BF, bench 285x1rm, squat 315x1rm, deadlift 415x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSM, attached, 48 LOP, Things i’ve done this past 2 weeks: lifted 3x, had my first volleyball league match, it was a great time. I assembled the base of my table. Read more sidebar and MSFM. Spent 5 days laid up sick. I’m back though and getting back on my lifting; amazing how much …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 01:34 PM
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theres some stuff hidden in here you've not mentioned before, likely ego protection: -LTR thinks I exhibit BPD symptoms (she might be right based on your post history) - I’ve been in PTSD treatment for a couple months, WHY? also what the fuck is this nonsense? I can't be the only retard here who has no idea what the fuck any of this means: -Career: • Spin: • Big PoC this week, then move toward MVP launch. • Keep engaging—two leads scored at 0.25. If spin + two alt paths line up, I have the best …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/25 03:17 PM
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good points, thanks for fleshing that out with me. Resentment: youre spot on. Other thing someone told me was we hang on to our resentment because if we let it go we're afraid the "offending party" will never be held accountable . --But here’s the good news: if you do the work and develop a real frame, you won’t just get your wife’s “best”, you’ll be able to take her places she didn’t know she wanted to go. It is the long play though. With that said, I wouldn’t get caught up in the comparison sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 04:12 PM
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She knows already. So then it's a willful violation of a boundary followed by "but but but (insert Plausible deniability excuse)". It's occurred to me that the reason I, and so many men in generally, crater to the plausible deniability bullshit is because we want to look like/be the nice guy. I've got to get better at dgaf what others think and handle it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 04:08 PM
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Dave Ramsey your shit. sounds like you got out relatively cheap. All that money is yours going forward, congrats.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 04:01 PM
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correct, 2026. To your other points you are absolutely correct, for example non-voting interest in an LLC is worth about 60c on the dollar in a fire sale, maybe less. My understanding is they use gross income in my locale. There's also the possibility of a "catastrophic break up" of my partnership which would severally diminish my prospects as long as I need it to. I paid close attention to my parents divorce over the last 3 years and learned a shit town about valuations as well as using ED in p…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 03:59 PM
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how are your finances coming? early on you talked about needing to get your shit together in that area. are you in debt? Do you have a budget?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 07:51 PM
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I've read the post several times and mentally i'm getting there. There's a certain level of acceptance on how things can/will be. I've done some work to think through my biggest fears, how realistic they are and can I handle it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 07:47 PM
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--Anything you can do to reduce your income (even if only for a few months) before that calculation is made, and ideally before you initiate a divorce will have a significant impact when considered over the long timeframe you are looking at for CS. Even small reductions in your average income calculation will compound over 15 years. right, I just have to do so carefully so as not to appear intentional. my income is projected to be down about 75% this year (just by chance due to timing of project…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 07:44 PM
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--Have you said anything to your wife or directly to him? I confronted her about it in my most beta way possible in October 2023, very unattractive, then found MRP after. I've not directly brought it up since but there's been a few times she's attempted to hang out (let's all grab a beer, or get the kids together type shit). Always with plausible deniability of course. I've tried to think through it and haven't come up with a clear plan on how best to confront without seeming jealous or insecure…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 07:34 PM
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nope. Don't want to do the whole "children with dynamite" thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 06:22 PM
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Met with attorney, these notes are for me, if others find it useful so be it: Student loans prior to marriage became marital debt because we paid them off together (valuable lesson for you unmarried guys). Oh well sunk cost. He instructed me on how to fine tune my list of assets for equitable distribution. As long as both parties agree I can use Equitable Distribution in place of alimony. He reiterated Alimony in my state changes due to infidelity, so he strongly encouraged me to get a PI going.…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 04:41 PM
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OYS #42 Stats: 38, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 171 lbs, 16.0% BF, bench 285x1rm, squat 315x1rm, deadlift 415x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSM, attached, 48 LOP, Things i’ve done this past week: i’ve continued to limit added sugar intact, I felt lethargic; i’m experimenting with how i allocate my macros throughout the day to prevent my 6pm crash. Got my weight up by 1 lb. Foot is doing much better, Did squats, lost som…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 04:41 PM
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ha love it. proof of concept i suppose. I've since learned about "Imputed Income." I.e. you are capable of earning x amount so we are going to use that to calc Alimony and Child support (even if you don't actually earn that in a given year). it's the courts way to preempt sandbagging.
/r/askMRP03/02/25 05:24 PM
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flexibility. I almost responded with specific logistical challenges then realized the point you are really making. If I want something it's not just going to happen. I need to actively pursue it and make it happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/25 02:24 PM
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As a starting point someone suggested I read Viktor Frankls Man's search for meaning. So I'm doing that. When MAP gets here i'll see what that's about. Deep in my gut I have a desire to peel away from my partnership and start my own company after we close out some projects. I've told Partner i'm not investing in any more projects for the forseeable future. This would give me greater flexibility; i would like to pursue more time outdoors, and traveling for more extended periods of time.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/25 09:35 PM
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i've been following your OYS and 2 year report and main event. I wanted to congratulate you but i got this "it's fixed" vibe from reading it as if the work was done. This OYS feels like a step back into worrying about what she's thinking and her frame. Maybe a little bit of dropping the football before crossing the goal line situation. In my experience it's not 90% about the past, she's just using history to justify how she feels RIGHT NOW. Remember the "right now" and "with you" at the end of c…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 05:05 PM
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--As for this - the cycle is her anxiety about my past active dread gets triggered when I say something, she tests, I pass the test with WISNIFG tools, she feels bad, she asks for comfort, I give it, and when logistics don't prevent it, we have sex. the historian play. I get that bullshit from time to time too, the favorite is a comment i made seven years ago. The best way i've found to squash it is this: "are we talking about today or (insert historic event)? Because those are two different thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 04:58 PM
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This is a surprise to me to read. If you truly think this is true, why is effort going into divorce prep when it should be going into increasing your smv? What is wrong with you that you can't outstrip a mother of 3 in smv? Something is off here. touche, I suppose I was focused on looks and not the entire picture; perhaps that says a lot about my mindset. I was thinking part of your problem is that you suck at sex. And it sounds like this may be. But I thought you were further along. I'm better …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 08:07 PM
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1-SMV relative to wife? Tough question to self reflect on. Equal I suppose. 2-No. Variety is slightly up and bjs more frequent (from never to once every 2 months or so?) 3-Did not finish, I found myself too focused on pressing the right buttons on the controller when I knew my mindset wasn't congruent. Last night we had a low effort starfish session and I should have just pulled back..
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 06:48 PM
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OYS #41 Stats: 38, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 173 lbs, 16.2% BF, bench 285x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, PFP, TWOTSM, attached, 48 LOP, Things I’ve done this past week: I continued sugar fast despite several birthday parties for me. Worked out 2x. I hate to use the work miracle but my foot feels way better. I was able to go snowskiing and now walking more normally. May be able to run this week I joined a co-ed v…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 05:10 PM
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-Maybe the OYS looks better but the theme is the same: dancing monkey in and out. Looks like he got some good noob gains and stalled and gets away with it because he lifts. yep. my comment below: "My statement above came from me giving myself congratulatory pats on the back for my progress but without internal change it just means I've learned how to do my dancing monkey jig a little better." -OP what percentage of your MAP have you completed after 40 OYS, And what was the hardest thing to do? J…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/25 04:19 PM
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-Why was this retarded? the way I did it: "i'd really like a blow job tonight." response: "no, get out KY i'll give you an HJ". -So what? This is like the guys who stop initiating because it's "for validation". Dwelling on revenge fantasies is a waste of time. But if this exercise has real value, then skipping it because "oh no, fantasy" is just stepping on your own dick. This is why I did it in the first place, to help kill off my oneitis. First I met with attorney several months ago to get my …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 01:18 PM
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My statement above came from me giving myself congratulatory pats on the back for my progress but without internal change it just means I've learned how to do my dancing monkey jig a little better. but to your point you are correct, life is definitely better with more sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 01:09 PM
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-What had you a restless anxious mess before? I wasn’t getting the validation so badly wanted in the form of sex or anything really. I was only having sex 2x/month. I was a “good provider, good dad, etc, why won’t she fuck me?” Then my wife started giving attention to an orbiter and I felt like a cuck. -What is really driving / behind your anger and resentments? I thought I deserved better, i thought because i completed the blue pill good husband checklist i should be getting her best. Then i fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 01:02 PM
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OYS #40 Stats: 38, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 173 lbs, 16.2% BF, bench 285x1rm, squat 315x1rm, deadlift 415x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSM, attached, 48 LOP Back from my well-deserved ban. Still lurked reading OYS and sidebar. Last January I said I was going to OYS for a year. I’ve improved some but I have definitely bullshitted myself more often than not. I took the fact that I can now sleep at night as a sign I'v…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/25 02:31 PM
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-when you treated her / your relationship like a video game or Pavlovian experiment, she could feel that and resented it. It wasn’t authentic. fuck....that's me. Well said.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/25 08:22 PM
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Agree with this. It's better to STFU than add to your retarded body of work. As he gets further along he'll be able to AA and Am. It's not bad to not engage in his wife's bullshit hypothetical. A guy this early on would almost certainly DEER if he opened his mouth. Curious how the divorce topic came up though. There's obviously more to this guy's story.
/r/askMRP18/01/25 12:43 PM
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what helped me immensely was to stop touching your face. Just fucking stop, as in never touch it. Think about how fucking gross your cell phone, the doorknobs, coins, etc are. Do you wash your hands every time you touch something? Obviously not, so avoid touching your face at all costs. Then get a real facial cleansing system, the more natural the better. i use viking revolution. there's one that's a daily cleanser and then a facial scrub. Use the scrub sparingly (1-2x a week). I used to uses sc…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/25 07:26 PM
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She sounds like a high maintenance twat...and you've obviously encouraged this behavior. Stop caring so much. She's not even your wife dude. I would have been tempted to say "you're right, I ruined your pants, let's go home so I can take those pants off of you". Smile, slap ass and move on.
/r/askMRP27/12/24 04:38 PM
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OYS #39 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 173 lbs, 15.2% BF, bench 285x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. 48 laws of power. finishing up SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, bang day bang Working out/health: great lifts again. Went skiing with kids. Had a DEXA scan but am not convinced results are accurate because th…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/24 02:35 PM
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Up to you whether it matters or not. No wrong answer just don't fall for bullshit that you "owe" then or need to do the right thing if they aren't yours. Is your marriage a case of "hooked up, got pregnant, so do the right thing and marry"?
/r/askMRP16/12/24 02:58 PM
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You are so freaking young. Be glad this happened now and not 10 years from now. You have so much fucking possibility ahead of you. Did you have a kid with her before getting married? Sucks but may want to double check paternity.
/r/askMRP16/12/24 02:39 PM
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the point he's making is separate before your income goes up. Also with extremely tight OPSEC you need to get hard evidence of her drug buying and cheating. This will go LONG ways in helping you with custody and alimony/child support. Fun fact, most states assume a phone is marital property and not subject to reasonable privacy which means you can legally gather all that evidence. Check your laws and find out what you can do/record. Keep in mind that the reason for doing that is to help with cus…
/r/askMRP16/12/24 02:35 PM
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>Should've been more upfront from the start or just not have gone altogether if I knew I didn't have the money for it. are you the separate finances guy? Why is that a thing? Does your wife seriously get to keep all "her" money and you have to pay for everything?! >Also, it was during shark week, which was brought up by her. I already knew this, so it should've been in the back of my mind anyway. Also, I don't even know why I'm taking her out if she hasn't done shit to deserve it anyway. MASSIVE…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/24 07:44 PM
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i've placed too much value on what others think of me. I'm been ramping it up; took kids snow skiing. But haven't done more because of "one more Year" syndrome. Need to quick fucking around and do what i want. agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/24 07:30 PM
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By lifting, eating right, and using appropriate supplements. And good sleep.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/24 07:43 PM
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I like that. Basically you boost her self esteem by being a HVM and the fact that she gets to sleep with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/24 07:12 PM
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I had something similar: wife listened to some bullshit podcasts about "structured water" and how we need this $2,000 filtration system. 5 seconds of research shows it's absolutely bullshit. She had been going on for weeks about it Me: "hey honey you need to do more research on this water thing...from Independent sources." 5 min later... Wife: do you think it's not legit or something Me: it's snake oil Her: DEER blah blah blah Me: let me know if you want a whole house charcoal filter.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/24 07:08 PM
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When in doubt STFU. It's your friend. You can always talk more later but you can't unspeak stupid shit
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 08:34 PM
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my golden recipe for making babies: cut out any and all alcohol, stop any and all porn use, eat lots of red meat, keep electronics away from your junk. You should see your count go up. Also look up the "holy grail" for sperm.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 07:02 PM
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>Basically, she had ‚the talk‘ with me. Telling me she wants more sex, but not the sex we currently have. She didn’t hold back telling me that I suck with initiations and that I don’t turn her on because I’m only focused on my own pleasure by putting her hand on my dick and touching her immediately. she continued and explained her demands, that consisted of more kissing, teasing and building tension. I have to say I was surprised by this, didn’t act butthurt. I had some responses on my lips (bas…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 06:57 PM
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SSRIs are garbage. You need to figure out how to make her feel like a woman again, she just feels like a mom all the time. >but often I DEER like a bitch and regret it later. read the DARE not DEER post. Changed a lot of shit for me. Also try to become aware of how often you explain your reason for doing shit, even little shit. It's probably way more than you think. for example "why did you put that dish on the bottom rack?" "because i did" NOT "becuase i wanted to maximize the amount of cups we…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 06:51 PM
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I think about this probably once a week and it usually starts with physical stuff, and goals, then as i think through those i realize getting those will only give me a brief moment of happiness followed by emptiness until i can find "the next thing". I want to be confident, i want to pursue fun shit that i used to do as a kid/young adult that i let fall by the wayside. I want to lead my children to be secure confident adults (im aware that i need to become this and model this, more is caught tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 06:42 PM
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Some rare self awareness there. Keep grinding. Based on your post history there is likely a main event in your future, probably not for several months. Keep doing you.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 10:48 AM
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What helped me is having something else to do. The mindset being if I have sex right now that's great but if not I've got other important things to do. In the beginning I found it useful to initiate almost everyday. Then I shifted to initiating when I genuinely wanted to connect. Never initiate from a place of needing validation. To the point where my wife likes it when I bang her when she's sick cuz it gives her a flood of endorphins and positive hormones that make her feel better. Same happens…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 10:17 PM
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fuck this hit home with me. I've honestly been trying to control actions of others and when I don't get compliance i'm annoyed and yet when i do get compliance it's empty. Hollow is 100% the word to describe it. I couldn't place my finger on it but that's what it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 10:08 PM
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>I tried two more clear but non-needy initiations, one of them was accepted. PMS week, wife was clearly willing but very starfish to start, but became quite passionate and really got into it by the end. This was first successful initiation that wasn't ovulatory since beginning my MRP journey, could signal that I am getting upgraded from ovulation-only sex to pity-sex. I know there's still a massive chasm from pity sex to "me being the prize" sex, but I also know that all I can do is be the prize…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 09:32 PM
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> I’m thinking about taking out a loan against my 401k to crush all the small debt and pay back with my pretax income. I may use it to pay off my high interest student loan that accrues around $100 month despite me paying around $500/month. It will stall my retirement for a bit but I never expected to retire anyways. don't do that. you will set yourself back 10 years. Consult with your attorney, your retirement "might" be protected in the divorce. Just pick up more work and cut out a ton of expe…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 09:28 PM
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OYS #38 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 173 lbs, 15.2% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm.Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. 48 laws of power. finishing up SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, bang day bang Working out/health: had some great lifts this week. Nearing PRs on some lifts. Eating going well and stretching. May max out next w…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 04:46 PM
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Ya after some thought you nailed it. Your play by play is spot on. She asked me to play a game at which I could not win and my dumbass pulled up a chair. Lesson learned.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/24 07:19 PM
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this is not important but i'll answer: I told her in our conversation (see original post). She asked who with after the fact. It was with a guy I know asking for career advice. why this isn't important: I've done the whole "don't tell her who" thing before, see my OYS from a week or two ago. I felt like i was just playing stupid games to see what would happen and it's retarded. Basically it's a way just to create bullshit drama feels but that's short term and it will get played out. Probably one…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/24 07:03 PM
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Ya looking back your assessment makes more sense. I played the short game and called out shitty behavior, gave her feels, but at the sacrifice of being truly indifferent. She was trying to get a reaction out of me and I gave it. I don't think it was nefarious planning but rather just shit women do. I didn't react first time and it stirred the hamster a little. So she did it again and I reacted in a way that gave her some feels but showed i care too much. This morning she asked for a make-up this…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/24 06:56 PM
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show cause and effect in this field report. I.e. i did a thing and heres what happened. >Don't be a pussy about prioritizing what you want. If you must use words to tell other people what you want, don't be a pussy about following that up by demonstrating that you're serious. 100% agree with that insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/24 06:44 PM
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Lol didn't downvote someone else must have been triggered. but the idea here is to improve yourself and women will chase you. You're still trying to learn how you can chase women better. Be the prize. Stop caring. Give her space to chase. Good shit right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/24 09:40 PM
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I was wondering when i'd get called faggot and get an opposing view. That's 90% of the reason i put this out there so I can get some other folks dissecting it. I can see how you got to your take although i'm still of the opinion that doing something different is better than doing the same shit i used to. I do agree continuing to not care and simply not discuss or plan on it in the future would also be an effective way of going about it and getting overt comfort test. >She was testing you to see …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/24 06:54 PM
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Get busy doing shit. Fix stuff around the house clean your car, etc and you'll be too busy to sit and analyze everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/24 06:39 PM
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embrace that oldest teenager concept. Your woman wants you to set boundaries and discipline her when needed. My guess is this is especially true if she has some daddy issues. took me a while to calibrate between STFU and handling shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/24 03:06 PM
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okay so you are either on the spectrum or a troll. i've read enough of your OYS to think its the former so i'll give the benefit of doubt to you. I'll do my best to actually spell this out for you. Week after week in your OYS you spell out all the things you've thought about, or how you thought/felt about things that occurred in our life. Or even how you feel about the thoughts you had about the things you thought about. So publicly (here in your OYS which is a public forum) you mentally masturb…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/24 01:45 PM
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being honest, based on the above, and the idea of having limits put on my physical progress, a bit of depression started to set in. I have really felt the fact that I am all alone with this problem. Nobody really cares, except maybe my parents a bit. That is something I’ve had to accept, and dig deep for some strength in myself to deal with it and not just seek comfort I went through that a while ago. Only YOU can give a fuck about your health. So do whatever is necessary to take care of yoursel…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/24 11:13 AM
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on your wants, big breakfast....extremely practical NGL I LOVE an occasional big breakfast. I always feel great after that plus it's leg day so I have plenty of ammo for lifting It's one of the only parts that's not "she she she" with you examining her behavior. I knew that going into this report. I wanted to show cause and effect. Idea being do something different and see what happens.. I wouldn't encourage "calling out" behavior unless you're able to be specific about the actionable behavior y…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/24 11:00 AM
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Views wife as intellectually inferior Wife compensates through planning and networking Shows signs of wanting to branch swing (desires "9 or 10 wife This is laughable bc you're pretty retarded. Look up Dunning Krueger syndrome. Also this is confusing as fuck, is your wife branch swinging? You desire 9 or 10? Wtf makes you think you deserve a 9 or 10? Calling out friend's gay jokes That's gay seeking safety through systems rather than taking confident action This one line could be 43 weeks of it'…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/24 11:09 PM
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Agreed. I've passively said to her before that I judge people based on their actions. Usually when discussing a family member or some drama bs. So I suppose that influenced what she wrote. But in the end a note is meaningless if the action doesn't follow. To that point I think it got through that saying I'm her priority means Jack shit if she cancels dates. Ie words =/=action
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/24 10:41 PM
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More like 40% of his waking hours. Or 50% of his free time outside of work. That's wild. You need to put your phone down NOW. It's a serious compulsion with you. Log out, delete apps, put phone away in a drawer and get busy doing other shit. He publicly mental masturbates more than anyone I've read thus far. It's just non stop jerking off for him.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/24 09:37 PM
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Interesting thoughts. I've not thought too much about a difference between the two. I guess Indifferent means almost not even wanting to or not initiating whereas OI would mean i initiated and am not worried about the outcome. Indifferent - I think I turned down sex once and phoned it in once. Both were met with meltdown Had this happen a time or two and shitty attitude followed. I guess last Saturday after getting home would fall into this category. Coming off 2 hard nos and I lazily initiated …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 09:35 PM
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OYS #37 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 172 lbs, 15.0% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. 48 laws of power. finishing up SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, bang day bang Working out/health: hit most of my workouts except for 2 due to holidays. I ran a 5k turkey trot on a whim. It was my sons first 5…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 11:16 AM
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OYS #36 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 172 lbs, 15.0% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. 48 laws of power. finishing up SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, bang day bang Working out/health: Had good workouts numbers are still trending up. Eating is going well although I ran out of salad and i did no…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 07:04 PM
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Some may say shit test (ie she's probing you for cracks, seeing if you are the real deal) some may say comfort test (she's feeling dread) either way ask yourself does opening up or being vulnerable help you and serve your goals/mission. Something only you can answer. Horns has a post on showing vulnerability/emotions. Fact that she does it on her period is another example of how much women are led by their emotions. Who gives a shit if your way of expressing yourself doesn't meet her definition …
/r/askMRP25/11/24 09:16 PM
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She lately has been reading some psychology stuff because she says I'm "different than her first husband" and says that it's because I'm bottling up my emotions and I should talk to her about my problems and open up because I never do etc. And that if I don't do it means I don't trust her etc. "So you want me to be more like the man you are no longer with? No thanks."
/r/askMRP25/11/24 09:04 PM
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Also do you all split finances? I guess I'm old school in that way but ours goes in one pot and I say what we do with it. Yes I take input from my wife but I get final say. There is no mine/yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/24 08:14 PM
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Relationships: I let my wife gode me into an argument after she got home from a female party that I told her, I wasn't comfortable with her going to. I ignored her calls and texts when she left for it, which I'm pretty sure caused it, and I acted butt hurt when she got home. She kept pushing the issue, wondering why I was upset, to which I just spewed my emotions because of my lack of boundry setting. I went for a short car ride to clear my head, and I came back to her seeking comfort, and we ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/24 04:19 PM
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I did not do much work last week, on project or in job. There is a ticking time bomb with job, as the company is getting acquired and the new company will eventually require a work from office, which is not worth it. I've stopped cutting on diet and going to bulk and the numbers have gone up. You can't feed muscles and get lean at same time, this shows it doesn't work. Applying this to life and relationships, I think you can't grind career and improve sexual relationships really at the same time…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/24 03:41 PM
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A part of OI that sank in this week is realizing that sex doesn’t mean anything anymore. It’s just something to do, it can’t ‘mean’ something more like love or connection or anything else. This makes me sad, it made sex feel cheap and meaningless for a day or two, compared to the Christian understanding I was raised with, but this is passing. Still feels pretty good. This. I feel the same, I hadn't been able to pin it down but you put it into good words. I counted on sex for validation and now t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 06:48 PM
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OYS #35 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 171 lbs, 15.0% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. 48 laws of power. finishing up SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, bang day bang Working out/health: Seems like each week I have at least one workout where I am short on time but I always manage to bang it out. …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 03:14 PM
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I can only respond based on how I know I look and my stats, my years of lifting and observations. I'm not huge by any means but I outweigh you by 20lbs and have a lower body fat %. You need to lift way heavier and that's only gonna happen if you eat right and eat more. Your workouts aren't structured particularly bad but I doubt you are paying attention to what you eat. With those numbers there's almost no way you are taking protein shakes or creatine which you absolutely should be. Am I wrong? …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/24 02:48 AM
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meal planning prep, getting kids to do their chores; etc, more logistical type stuff that i want to get done to keep my schedule running smoothly. I ramped it up this week and was more on top of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/24 07:35 PM
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yes, I play with them the most. And i mean active play, not get kid to go do something so i can sit on my phone play. I wrestle them almost every night; legos with my son, hide and seek in the house several times a month, etc. =If the kids still don’t comply to a reasonable ask, then they’d be breaking a rule of mine (respect their mom), which I enforce. I mean that's basically my situation but it results in me single parenting essentially in a vicious cycle. for example: we are getting ready to…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/24 07:34 PM
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Visualize / create wife that is aligned, aligned to her own inner being, desires. This isn't necessarily up to you. You can only work on you and lead. Either she'll follow or she won't. It's been a year, and I do not have a realistic vision of what I want in ten years, Seems like you made some improvements and have plateaued. Trying to figure out "what's next". Something helpful for me is figuring out what my valued actions are. So when your mind gets to fantasizing interrupt that s*** and go do…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 05:43 PM
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Drinking: Had 5 drinks each of the past two weeks. 4 per week is the goal. Realized how all my drinking was masking work dissatisfaction and a deep lack of fulfillment. Jesus Christ finally admitting it. Stop trying to cover up the pain and bask in it. Cut drinking down to zero when traveling. If there's a social function involved order a tea or a ginger ale. Fitness Goal: 750lbs 149lbs Pussy. Replace the empty alcohol calories with some protein and carbs. Imagine how jacked you could be at 180l…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 04:25 PM
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This was your best OYS this far. Keep grinding.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 09:11 PM
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OYS #34 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 171 lbs, 15.0% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. 48 laws of power. finishing up SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, bang day bang Working out/health: had one workout that was a crunch for time so I banged it out in 15 min. My pump was fucking awesome due to sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 04:42 PM
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There so much the guys on here could give you but you don't seem ready at all. I'm still on my journey but here's a path to consider: 1) call a lawyer in the next five minutes 2) STFU 3) lift 4) sidebar 5) OYS You probably won't do any of them so the other best option is to write her a Love letter telling her how much she means to you, buy her some chocolates and flowers, call Chad ask him how you can make him more comfortable in life maybe take him for a nice dinner and put together a gift bask…
/r/askMRP09/11/24 02:08 PM
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OYS #33 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 170 lbs, 14.9% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. 48 laws of power. finishing up SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, bang day bang Working out/health: hit all of my workouts including mtn biking and ab workout. Getting my nutrition dialed back in. Social/going …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 03:17 PM
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A guy I grew up with and worked for me OD. His own parents said there was a sense of relief because they are no longer being tortured with the "what if" and the constant problems/rehab. Sounds like you were captain sav a hoe. Stop beating yourself up about what you would have done differently. You didn't know then what you know now. All you can do is look forward and pursue your ideal life. If that's without your current wife so be it. Be a man you would respect and so will your son. DGAF means …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/24 07:05 PM
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Dude you were always in her frame, she's got you trained good.
/r/askMRP31/10/24 01:52 PM
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I do plan on leaving her. Why? And why not file now? The validation is not sweet in retrospect. Feels good to be wanted by a woman 10 years younger than me, I'm not going to lie. I've had my own struggles with validation and now I get some sort of praise almost daily but it no longer means anything to me. I sought it so hard for 10 yrs and now that I get affirmation it is bland and tasteless? Why? Bc I still have resentment even though it eta my fault I wasn't praiseworthy
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 08:33 PM
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This week: discussion with lawyers, seed investors. Basically Divorce MRP adapted for career. Not sure this is the best idea. Your work didn't say yes to being loyal and have a kid with you. Its not a fucking marriage. They give 2 fucks if you leave. Read 48 laws, good shit in there. Took me a while in my first real job to realize my employer absolutely does not give a fuck about my reasons, only results. So STFU. Now as a business owner and employer I do not give any fucks about the reason my e…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 03:21 PM
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What's your goal with all this. Do you like your wife, do you plan on leaving her, is getting side action your subconscious way of sticking it to your wife and dealing with your anger? but afterward I felt…off. I do not enjoy the deceit here, Could this be because even though you can get it elsewhere your wife still doesn't want to fuck you? The validation may not be as sweet as you hoped. I'm not moralizing just genuinely curious.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 03:04 PM
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Who knows, clearly her level of attraction dropped from the shit I was doing. Good for you on that whole situation. You didn't get attached to the first plate you fucked. You fucked up but recognized it and learned. Kudos to you on grinding and best of luck finding more plates.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 02:56 PM
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I don't know what it is but guys way overthink this stuff. I was lucky to have weight training with my dad as a teen and had it as a class in high school. So Maybe I've just been around it so long. Mix up your lifts about every 6 weeks if you aren't in a place where you can put together a workout on the fly. For example if you've been doing flat bench followed by incline bench and finishing with flyes for the past 6 months your body will adapt and stop growing. So mix it up with something like i…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 02:25 PM
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I tracked it for like 4 months and it made no difference in my life. Someone rightfully pointed out that I was letting her cycle control my decisions. Only observation is she was slightly more receptive to new things at peak but also more shit tests at peak. I.e. she wants to fuck but wants to have a man worth fucking. It also provides you with a convenient excuse for when she rejects you and helps protect your ego. Past few months my wife actually wants me to fuck her on her period bc it feels …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 02:20 PM
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introduce more animal products like heart and liver. Try vital blend ground beef. Pretty much tastes the same but has the organ meat mixed in.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 10:22 AM
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There is actually one thing that reduces stress, community. Real world interaction and real connection. We are social animals. Work on your social life. Focus on gaming. It will kill two birds with one stone Agree with this and be sure to get outside as much a possible,preferably in the woods with or without people. If you are in major metro area this can be more difficult but is necessary. My weekly mountain biking has done wonders for my mental state my and stress reduction.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 10:21 AM
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I felt the strong emotions lead to “something” when we were in bed, maybe her being receptive to sex. But i felt fear about escalating. Fear of being the bad guy that tried to take advantage of her high emotions (if she said no). Maybe she could have benefited from a good fucking. Remember you would have been doing her the favor or at the very least she would have gotten validation. I used porn. You feel guilty bc you fell short of your own expectations for yourself. Accept it and move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 01:47 PM
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Escalated and kissed another woman at a corporate event. Careful not to shit where you eat The other day i interrupted sex when i felt she wasn’t giving it enough effort. Just lost interest to keep going. And? Any blowblack? Followup with better sex later? Felt very liberating, but i also felt that motivation to game my wife dropped substantially after that Could this be oneitis dying off?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 01:32 PM
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OYS #33 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 170 lbs, 14.8% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. 48 laws of power. finishing up SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, bang day bang Working out/health: hit all 5 of my workouts although one was a bit shorter but still got it in. Social/going out: Had make up bir…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 01:02 PM
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OYS #32 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 168 lbs, 14.8% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. 48 laws of power. finishing up SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, bang day bang Working out/health: workouts have been all over the place due to hurricane. Chainsawing and moving logs has been my surrogate work…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 02:56 PM
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“I wish I wanted to fuck you.” Ouch Yep, a solid kick to the nuts for sure This is a literal copy/paste from last week I typically do this on my phone in notes and yes forgot to update that section.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 05:46 PM
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OYS #31 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 167 lbs, 14.5% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. 48 laws of power. SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, bang day bang Working out/health: lifted 4x, mountain biked. Social/going out: went mountain biking with friends and kids. Coached my sons soccer team. Busin…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 03:56 PM
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Look up "intermittent reinforcement".
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/24 12:54 PM
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I find it hard to give praise when she does something I like. This might be due in part to some leftover resentment and the belief that people should not expect to get praise on stuff they are supposed to do. I need to work on this. She's the oldest teenager. So praise away when its warranted, do it freely without expectations or covert contracts. Its also has to be sincere so dont force it if you can't be genuine.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 06:19 PM
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. I run a lot of dread. I need to find a way to do this in a sustainable manner. I have a lot going on in the form of social life and hobbies. I might have increased all these things as a way for my wife to fuck me when i first found this place. Now, I am worried that this is causing to much anxiety in my wife, but also enjoy these things so much that I don’t wan’t to give anything up. A lot of tests in the style of ”we don’t spend enought time together” ”I miss you a lot when you are gone for t…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 06:15 PM
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This sounds butthurt even if you weren't, and you know this but you cannot negotiate desire, just obligated compliance. Perhaps but I really didn't care in the moment. I'm done settling. The comfort tests have been pretty much daily since then.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 05:39 PM
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Better massage and sex afterwards. I realize the way I wrote that is confusing. That was a timeline of events I didn't actually say that. I'm gonna edit my original post so it's more clear
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 05:35 PM
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Its probably nothing but are you ready to pull the plug if there was any confirmation of your fears? Gotta maintain frame whatever the conversation is. Again it's probably nothing and a good chance for you to STFU and listen. When did you first become paranoid about anything in your relationship?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 04:18 PM
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I’m not sure if he wanted to get something off his chest, or wanted to talk about pick up, or if he’s making a pass at my Ltr. I’m gonna scan her texts from him and her. Don't do that. It's inspector faggot which I've done in the past. Does your buddy regularly see your wife socially or otherwise? If not I wouldn't waste energy on that in any way shape or form. Also why the fuck do you call her your LTR and yet you're married? Is there something I'm missing? Is your LTR your wife? I am over anal…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 01:52 PM
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To my surprise, this worked. We have sex 9/10 times that I initiate. Be wary it may be hysterical bonding. I've not had that speech but from what I read around here in field reports it's quite common.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 01:44 PM
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Seems like your testosterone levels may be low. Try adding ashwagandha and fenugreek to your supplement stack. For me in the evenings I have to take a shower after putting the kids down or else I could fall sleep right then. So it helps me stay up another 2 hrs. Play around and keep track of house eating affects your energy. Maybe you need more cars at dinner maybe less.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 01:42 PM
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OYS #30 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 167 lbs, 14.5% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. 48 laws of power. finishing up SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, bang day bang Working out/health: lifted 4x, mountain biked. Social/going out: met with men's church group for first time. took my son and met f…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 09:50 AM
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You're trying to get inside her head and read her mind. Impossible task. Give it up. Your "premise" assumes she has a reason as if shes logical and making rational decisions. You've obviously read nothing. I've done the same thing, attempting to get inside my wife's head. It's a Fools errand and an attempt to circumvent doing the real work on yourself.
/r/askMRP09/09/24 12:55 PM
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You are obsessed with game because you want your wife to be attracted to you. Moreso I've been about it as a crutch to try to establish abundance mentality You do not want to come across as insecure loser by putting up such a boundary. Yep, 100% But the fact that you care if your wife is attracted to you makes you unattractive because you are in her frame. Yep 100% It's not what you do it's how you do it that makes a difference.. Agree, ie frame. Rest of what you said is spot on and what I've be…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/24 04:18 PM
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This quickly escalated into me being paranoid about everything she did. To this date I consider it the most unattractive and dumbest thing I’ve ever done. I did the exact same thing several months ago. I had been better about not being Insp. F. But I listened to the dumb voice in back of my head. I need to move the fuck on. Im commit to stopping my paranoid behavior and move on. Last time my wife came up to me with some story about how someone was talking to her I replied with “he sounds so hot …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/24 04:14 PM
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Ya I feel you on the CCs identifying them is one thing and squashing it is another. Seems like when I think I don't have any I find another. Why no initiations? Have you built yourself a mental block?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 08:21 PM
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The truth is most likely my own insecurities are being revealed to me, an quite possibly my wife. Everything that's happened can easily be explained away if I'm being honest but to keep putting oneself in situations where the actions are open to interpretation is the problem. In all likelihood she enjoys the validation. Awalt. But we all know that this type of situation is a slippery slope and best avoided. So really I think I'm pissed that she fails to avoid these situations. For example random…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 07:37 PM
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OYS #29 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 166 lbs, 14.5% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. 48 laws of power. finishing up SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, bang day bang Working out/health: lifted 2x, did ab workout, went mountain biking with my son. Had lake day with family skiing etc. went hiking …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 01:48 PM
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Dude you survived a very shitty thing, divorce, you're free and young! So many guys in here would kill to be in your situation instead of being 50 and going through divorce. Get a plan together. What are some things you want to accomplish. Focus on that and not on your insecurities. Took me a while to learn that confidence comes from trying and the process not from success. Confidence based on success is fragile and fleeting.
/r/askMRP31/08/24 11:10 AM
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No. Because you just want to argue and somehow you're trying to convince a bunch of internet strangers that you're right. I don't give a s*** it's your problem not mine. You asked everybody for their two cents they gave it and all you did was argue and disagree so just delete your post and do what you're going to do anyways.
/r/askMRP30/08/24 10:18 PM
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It's already been answered you just don't like the answer.
/r/askMRP30/08/24 05:02 PM
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Solid plan... nothing like ignoring your pregnant wife. That'll make you look good to your friends and like a boss. I've tried to be nice but at this point I'm going to call it out: you are a fucking retard and don't get it. I know because I've done the exact same thing dude. Stop f****** arguing with everyone on here and take the f****** advice. What exactly do you think her response will be to removing your attention? You fucking failed the shit test, there is not going back in time, there is …
/r/askMRP30/08/24 04:39 PM
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Based on his responses he's got way further to go than I first thought, I got fooled by his first askmrp post. He's going to continue the backsliding and be posting in r/deadbedrooms within 2 yrs. Almost every response is an argument to everyone saying the same thing. The greatest day of my life was when I realized not everyone else was shitty that I was just a retard. He should start posting in OYS and not lying to himself.
/r/askMRP30/08/24 04:34 PM
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Well if you're sticking to your guns that's up to you so what are your options on how to respond? Think through this carefully and in detail. Heres ome examples Example 1: you could make her favorite dinner, put other kids to bed, draw her a nice bath and give her a foot massage while she soaks (maybe have Enya playing in the background). Then gently, almost sheepishly bring it up again. Tell her as nicely as possible that it hurt your feelings and you've been thinking about it non-stop since th…
/r/askMRP30/08/24 04:08 PM
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It's your ego man. She hurt your wittle feelwings. It's okay, we've all been there at some point. Consider it a little shit test. Make joke move on. This is where learning how to not be butthurt and being OI comes into play. I wouldn't be surprised if you see more of this as she gets further along in her pregnancy. She might continue to poke your frame and see if she can get you to break. She's testing you to see if you're the man she hopes for.
/r/askMRP30/08/24 03:47 PM
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Dig a little deeper, why did those particular things hurt you? There's a one word answer.
/r/askMRP30/08/24 03:24 PM
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Could have AA in the situation "ya I am I expect the best from people and expect results, most can't cut it. Btw honey I think its about time for your performance review tomorrow." Why did it bother you so much? Yes you've talked about it before but really why does it bother you so much? Why is it a boundary in the first place?
/r/askMRP30/08/24 03:20 PM
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This tells me I wasn't owning my shit and don't yet have ways to center myself that are effective for this level of stress So you did NOT consume porn correct? This follow-up sentence was confusing and made it seem like you didn't cope. If you didn't look at porn thats a win, keep the streak going. 99% of dudes consume it almost daily. So just by not looking at porn you are going in the right direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 02:58 PM
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If you want to make her laugh tell her how much you bench.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 02:55 PM
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Who runs the budget and finances? 1.3mil a year is a lot of money regardless of where you live. Dave Ramsey your shit. Based on your comments and description it seems like she really wants you to lead in this area. Doesn't necessarily mean you need to make more money either. If this is a huge burden and stress her for her put together a plan and remove that burden. When you put together the plan be realistic have clear goals. And tell her what it's going to be you don't necessarily need to ask h…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 02:39 PM
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I fucking died, thanks for that link! 🤣 Best keep your wits about you!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 02:30 PM
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Wants better sleep but drinks almost daily. Grow up dude. WTF are you doing. Choose to feel the pain. You're numbing yourself with alcohol to avoid dealing with feeling like the shitbag you are. I've done this before too. Embrace the pain and realize you will survive. Also wear yourself the fuck out. Didn't sleep good the night before? Good go workout or run the next day, do as many tasks around the house as you possibly can, turn off your phone and then go to bed exhausted. You'll sleep good an…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 02:20 PM
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Granted this is a different forum that IRL but I used to tell everyone my lifting numbers if exercises or working out got brought up. Then when I was doing some 10ks Id do the same thing about my times. I was 100% seeking validation. After reading no more Mr Nice Guy and getting called out on here I realized that's why I did that. So I made a commitment to myself to STFU about my specific stats to anyone. Sure I might say things like I had a good race for myself. But I wouldn't try to get into h…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 02:11 PM
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Wives do this to assuage their guilt. They think they "should" want to fuck their husband but for some reason can't explain why they don't want to. My wife one told me she felt guilty rejecting methe night before and asked if she could give me a back massage instead. I literally laughed and said "you know what you can do that will make you not feel guilty? Put my cock in your mouth. She laughed I laughed. She agreed that would not make her feel guilty then we went upstairs and had sex. A rare gl…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 02:02 PM
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Can't bench your weight....youre fat. Solid chance she fucked a guy 8yrs ago and it wasn't good sex so she quit and dropped it. She doesn't care about your wellbeing. In fact I somewhat admire her selfishness. Perhaps something we should all strive for.
/r/askMRP29/08/24 08:01 PM
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Man this Sucks but she's telling you she already has someone picked out and wants guilt free ability to fuck. If you say no shes gonna fick him anyway (if she's not already). It's over. It's literally a branch swing in motion. At least she was kind enough to tell you shes cheating or at least wants to.
/r/askMRP29/08/24 05:42 PM
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I think what you do after she has the baby might be more important than what you do now. Don't turn into beta bux and give up your life "because thats what good dad's and husbands do". Yes help out with shit but do it from a point of leadership and maintain hobbies. Since you're seeking comparison as a source of validation (we've all done it in some form) consider that most guys that come here barely have sex once a month if even. So by that metric having sex weekly when your wife is pregnant an…
/r/askMRP29/08/24 12:57 PM
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Ya man I read that post last week which was where I concluded the above. I think I've been a bit Rambo with removing attention so I'm trying to calibrate a little and not be so retarded. It's a great post tbh.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 02:20 PM
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No but you can buy all the gear and equipment in the world and it's not a substitute for eating right and lifting heavy.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 09:53 AM
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This. You don't need a belt you aren't pulling powerlifter type numbers, do you know what a belt is actually for? And go deep on your squats. Nothing worse than a skinny guy in a belt doing half squats with less than their body weight. You may also need cardio if your body can't supply oxygen fast enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 07:57 PM
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Yep there ya go.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 06:01 PM
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My retarded TLDR that doesn't do the post justice is this: do you want to see your wife's dissected breasts? Do you want to see the mammory ducts, the nerve endings, the veins that supply blood to the nipples, etc? Or do you just want to appreciate the beautiful supple tit for what it is and suck on it? Point being your wife just wants to experience a man, a real man, she doesn't want to know all your emotions and all the shit that goes into making you who you are. She doesn't want to validate y…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 05:56 PM
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You could benefit from some STFU. I stopped telling my wife about my goals and changes. Why? Bc they don't give a fuck about your words only how those changes make them feel. The dissected boobs post comes to mind but I can't seem to find it right now. She'll believe your "changes" when she sees them...after a while and likely more shit tests to see if it's for real. I need to let go of resentment and ego. My wife never loved me as I imagined, and I’m accepting that it’s her choice, beyond my co…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 03:10 PM
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This came in handy last night. My wife is missing a dinner we've had planned for several weeks with business partners and their spouses. I told her it's fine I'll just bring a girl from the gym. I was about to put it in her last night she brought it up and said something. So I used your line and we got a good laugh.l and continued on...
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 12:13 PM
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OYS #28 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 164 lbs, 14.2% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. 48 laws of power. finishing up SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, bang day bang Working out/health: was at the beach so did a lot of swimming/playing with kids in ocean. Ran 2x. Was at my lowest weight and BF w…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 12:10 PM
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Not trying to shit on you just seems like you've had this goal for a while that your arent seriously pursuing and also may not be in your best interest. Being cut is good and all but being a skinny cut guy may not be the best you can achieve in appearance. How would you feel mentally if 6mos from now you could bench 225, squat 275 and DL 315? If you look around the average local gym that would put you in the top 25% if not higher. If you aren't willing to track macros you should at least track p…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/24 03:41 PM
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Ya I've started doing that more, mixed results but I've realized there's literally nothing to lose.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/24 10:27 AM
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here ya go
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/24 10:26 AM
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So were you feeling insecure during your poker night bc bro was giving you shit? Did you give it back to him? All the wisnifig techniques work in this situation "ya you killed me at ping pong...bc I'm used to watching ping pong balls fly out of your moms ass and dodging them, not hitting them back". Or "even a blind squirrel can find a nut in the woods occasionally, let's have another go" Also are you skinny fat? Why cutting at 168lbs? You should be loading up to at least 180 at your height.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/24 06:06 PM
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Dude I'm with you on the anxiety bullshit. For me getting off social media, reaching out to friends (just socializing not venting) and doing stuff helps almost immediately. Particularly doing shit, it doesn't even have to be one big project just go do something, organize the garage, go through your closet and get rid of shitty clothes, etc. that's an action you can take immediately.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 01:53 PM
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It's meaningless bc if simply being in good shape was enough my wife would be sucking my dick on the regular. Acts over words, I received words of affirmation but the acts don't back it up. Therefore it's just words.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 11:30 AM
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OYS #27 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 167 lbs, 14.5% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. 48 laws of power. finishing up SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, bang day bang Working out/health: lifted 3x, took son mountain biking, took daughter mountain biking, bunch of swimming at each and pools Social…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 10:46 AM
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For a few months I tracked based on Athol Kay's writings. But after thinking through it and reading sidebar I realized it's a way we protect our egos from rejection and make excuses for not initiating. Ie "my wife's period is coming up so I better lay low so as to not piss her off" or "no use initiating since she's on her period". I stopped tracking and kept initiating when I felt like and guess what, I kept having sex despite her period. My initiation/success rate is not any different. If anyth…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 04:31 PM
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OYS #26 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 167 lbs, 14.5% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. And finishing up SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, 48 laws of power, bang day bang Working out/health: lifted 1x, played soccer with my son and his friends, did ab workout at home. Had a lake day, played pickl…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 10:10 AM
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Still working on it. I've written a few things down but when I truly think about it I'm usually bullshitting myself. I end up writing goals or something that sounds nice but is meaningless. Self actualization part is hard to figure out. I've got all my basic needs and most of my psychological needs met, I need to figure out what the hell I really want in life.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/24 06:38 PM
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OYS #25 back from my ban so 2 weeks worth below. Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 168 lbs, 14.5% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. And finishing up SGM Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, 48 laws of power, bang day bang Working out/health: lifted 6x, played tennis, hiked, waterskiing, wakeboarding. I'm d…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 10:11 AM
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I wonder where all her money is going? She likely has a secret account As per My wife This right here tells us everything we need to know man. You have her control of the Treasury, Your wife is a fucking child, you wouldn't let your child manage your household finances would you? I second the Dave ramsey thing but honestly there's no way in hell you will be able to convince her to go. She doesn't respect you and the current set up is working great for her. Tell her that this system is over and d…
/r/askMRP05/08/24 12:54 PM
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I (35m) have been an entrepreneur for about 10 years. Have always worked a lot Hello everyone I'm a beta bux I have no issue with the sex life. I can barely touch her without feeling disgust. I dont want to touch her and I dont want to fuck her. Which is it? No issue but don't wanna fuck? How deep in her frame am I, really? Very How does her female mind think? Don't try to get in her head. Short answer he gives her the tingles and you don't. Branch swing in action
/r/askMRP27/07/24 02:29 PM
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Hasn't done anything?!? She told you she loves another man. Fuck that. She's practically begging you to kill the puppy. Just don't do anything to paint yourself in a bad light. She pushing you so she can be the victim. Who the fuck cares of you're the "bad guy". I've got my own shot to work on and I'm sure you'll get better advice but pack her a bag and tell her to stay somewhere else tonight since she doesn't love and respect you. She'll probably stay at chads house but that's not up to you. Wh…
/r/askMRP27/07/24 02:10 PM
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I don't know why but my kids somehow turn into bigger cock blocks when we are on vacation than normal. I think it's bc we are all constantly around each other with no breaks, maybe find a way to create some space without your wife. Ie take the kids and go do an excursion without her for a few hours. Also on the sickness thing I did that too. Its like I was a woman putting on a comfort test. I've adopted the mentality that it's just an inconvenience, it's not that bad, and I can handle it. Since …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/24 10:18 AM
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OYS #24 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 171 lbs, 15.0% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. And finishing up SGM taking a break though to study for exam. Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, 48 laws of power, bang day bang Working out/health: lifted a total of 3x in addition to ab workouts. Did some cardio …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/24 10:11 AM
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Ya that's my parents'entire marriage. Got pregnant, society says get married, says stay married for the kids, 35+yrs of shit marriage later my old man had enough and got out. Married younger hotter wife. Unfortunately hes applying his blue pill to his current marriage but that's his problem. you just need to be "the man" of the house and she will never leave you. Right, and that line of thinking has millions of men in shitty sexless marriages (I was one). Interesting way of looking at alimony. m…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 06:09 PM
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Funny you mention that bc that's been on my mind too...my dad got divorced officially last year and while he came out okay it was a huge chunk and my mom had already quit work like 4 months before he filed.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 02:32 PM
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Agreed, caught my first catfish with my son a few weeks ago and taught him how to wakeboard. That was the highlight of July 4th for me. That's what I want more of.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 02:13 PM
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I have no illusion that working more =more money=SAHM=more sex. I'm retarded but not that retarded, so yeah I agree that I'd deserve the inevitable disappointment (or worse) if that was my line of thinking. I'm not interested in working more so she can sit on her ass and ride my coat tails and add no value. Admittedly my wife has started doing a ton more around the house, taking kids to/from school, cooking dinner. She has overtly stated "she's doing this to support me", subvertly so she can go …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 02:11 PM
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OYS #23 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 171 lbs, 15.0% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. And finishing up SGM taking a break though to study for exam. Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, 48 laws of power, bang day bang Working out/health: increased my ab workout load, lifted a total of 4x in addition to…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 10:26 AM
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Sounds like validation seeking. Also have you tried to comprehend their POV even if you disagree? Maybe STFU more and do what you want without DEERing. Seems like you've been deering your stance on whatever this issue is.
/r/askMRP15/07/24 09:58 AM
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Also taking in a good idea isn't a shit test. First mate is supposed to support the captains mission. If the first mate has a good idea you can choose to incorporate it instead of standing on principle.
/r/askMRP15/07/24 09:55 AM
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Second link hit home. I'm quite retarded in that area. I gotta dive in on that more. I've been creating a little emotion during sex but I'm shit at doing it beforehand which is far more important.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/24 01:39 PM
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You're right, I hamstered myself. I remember thinking in the moment I should tell her that her mouth isn't broken but I pussed out because the last time I went for head she told me she felt pressured. So I completely pussed out like a nice guy schoolboy bitch. I'm going to focus more on killing the Nice guy mentality which is holding me back.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 01:49 PM
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That was true, and I was laughing and clapping like a retard when the buttons lit up. I think that one change I made since then was to look more closely at what happened inside myself instead of how others reacted when I pressed the button. I laughed when I read this part, you so eloquently into words exactly what I've been doing. I need to reflect more on how it affects me instead of worrying about what I see from others.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 04:52 PM
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OYS #22 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 171 lbs, 15.0% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. And finishing up SGM taking a break though to study for exam. Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, 48 laws of power, bang day bang Working out/health: worked out 2x, did a ton of water sports too with family trip to …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 10:22 AM
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Good thoughts. Didn't help that we were babysitting our friends kids that night. I didn't do enough to get her excited admittedly.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 05:22 PM
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OYS #21 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 171 lbs, 15.0% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. And finishing up SGM taking a break though to study for exam. Up next: mystery method, the game, fuccfiles, 48 laws of power, bang day bang Working out/health: worked out 3x, did squat workout for first time since my race. Hu…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 10:34 AM
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How did you initiate though? I pulled her book down out of her hands and started kissing her I did", thats it, thats what you needed to say to pass the shit test. No need to tell her that she isnt enthusiastic, she knows. No need to explain You're right What progress? That your wife is complying to you. Stop chasing that. Your wife can decided to fuck over all your boundaries tomorrow and you can do jack shit about it. Stop making your wife your mission. You just need to enforce boundaries, dont…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/24 03:54 PM
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OYS #20 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 172 lbs, 15.0% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. And finishing up SGM Up next: fuccfiles, 48 laws of power, bang day bang Working out/health: lifted 2x, was at the lake for a 4 days with my family so we did a ton of water sports Social: church league softball team is in the…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 10:20 AM
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Forget where it's at but the post that helped me: "be attractive, don't be unattractive...is it attractive to be the guy that hides in his own bathroom and jerks off while sitting on the toilet watching porn?" Enough said. However if that still isn't enough Also ask yourself are you doing it as a coping mechanism for stress? I was and honestly was seeking sex as a coping mechanism which is particularly stupid bc then I was extremely butthurt when I got denied. Now I try to only seek it when I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/24 01:13 PM
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Right, understanding this has helped the anger phase. I'm mostly past it but occasionally creeps in. Last part is where I'm still struggling. What do I really want?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 04:41 PM
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My actions were that I started to supplicate, I shared too many of my feels, treated my wife like mommy, gave up my social life etc. The dumbest part is I did this willingly and of my own accord. Because that's what good husbands do right? Fucking wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 03:49 PM
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Lol well logistics weren't great but your right
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 03:45 PM
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OYS #20 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 172 lbs, 15.0% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm,attached. Currently reading: listening to Rian stone. And finishing up SGM Up next: fuccfiles, 48 laws of power, bang day bang Working out/health: recovered from my 10k but still worked out 3x, took my kids wake surfing. Bodyfat down but mass is too, bought book to better educat…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 10:30 AM
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OYS #19 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 174 lbs, 15.5% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm Currently reading: Attached. Up next: Bang, Day Bang, mystery method, Working out/health: lifted 2x ran 2x plus my race. Didn't beat my last year's time but still ran a good 10k. I'm going to go lighter this week. Then get back into my lifting routine next week. I've lost some o…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 10:41 AM
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This whole post is very situational and filled with holes in logic. Many already mentioned.The surveillance thing struck me. Ya we all have ring cameras, am I really not gonna share access with my wife? That's retarded. Half the reason we have it is to keep an eye on kids when they are playing. Locked door seems kinda silly too. If she respected your boundary she'd leave you the fuck alone without a lock. I don't know your history but to me most of the reads as insecure and having been cheated o…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/24 02:36 PM
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To your last question you obviously haven't read as much as you think you have. Read practical female psychology.
/r/askMRP10/06/24 02:23 PM
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Have you considered taking control of the Treasury since you spent a good amount of time bitching about it? Just a thought but this isn't the main issue. Also 4mo old is tough state, yeah some wives get past that quick but not all. She feels only like a mom to your kids...and to you. She's needs to feel like a woman. Also she gave you a hard no and you pressed on. Read the room. That wasn't LMR that was fuck no. If you think you need to say anything (you don't) just say okay maybe some other tim…
/r/askMRP08/06/24 01:28 PM
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Guilty. Done that program a few times and still occasionally catch myself doing a dance here and there. My understanding is DMIP is really about not understanding cover contracts and still hanging on to them
/r/askMRP07/06/24 07:58 PM
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My victim puke last week was very similar. I STFU, acted like nothing was up and we fucked 2 days later. You'll see in here often that initiating is your responsibility. Occasionally my wife initiates but even then it's just her pressing the start button, I still have to lead the interaction. In sidebar or books somewhere it talks about taking the decision making out of her hands bc it triggers ASD and LMR. This is 100% accurate in My experience. So stop giving a shit about who initiates and go …
/r/askMRP07/06/24 02:00 PM
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Lol no anger in that statement, the thought above occurred to me went I realized I had covert contract about sexual acts for validation. It's actually the opposite. I can't control her actions, thoughts words etc so I need to focus on improving myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/24 11:05 AM
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Looks like there was no gain from it other than temporary agreed upon sex. The only benefit in my mind was to test our stamina and variety. My current preferred pace is about every other day.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 07:03 PM
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I gotta laugh bc my wife did the same thing. Several weeks ago she was in her Feelz and said we should do the "30-day challenge" ie fuck every day starting in June. Im not stupid enough to bring it up but June 1 came and went with a hard no.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 05:42 PM
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OYS #18 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 174 lbs, 15.5% BF, bench 280x1rm, squat 300x1rm, deadlift 395x1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm Currently reading: Attached. Up next: Bang, Day Bang, mystery method, Working out/health: lifted 3x, ran 2x. Missed a run due to lack of sleep and was fucking exhausted from work. Played golf. Have y 10k coming up. After that I'm going to work on improving my lifts again. Social…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 05:37 PM
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Not gonna lie I'm pretty retarded so it took me a minute to get your point.
/r/askMRP31/05/24 12:36 PM
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Are you even initiating?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/24 04:18 PM
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That's probably when he was handling the Cuban missile crisis! Kids sports 4x/week and then 6hr drive to beach and 6hr drive back. I was exhausted, I'm not going to go out just to check a box. I made plans this weekend to go out solo. Also getting back on schedule with a buddy I used to go out with once a week. But I get your point, don't make excuses if I actually want to go out.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/24 04:06 PM
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Get the gun out of the house and start recording those kind of conversations. This goes south it's not too long before she starts claiming abuse. Also the smile while stating you're going to call 911 next time comes off a bit weird
/r/askMRP28/05/24 06:13 PM
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OYS #17 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 174 lbs, 15.5% BF, bench 280x1rm squat 300 1rm deadlift 395 1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm Currently reading: paused SGM, I'm reading "attached" to try to better understand why I've been a needy beta in most of my relationships. Up next: Bang, Day Bang, mystery method, Working out/health: workouts have been going well, lifted 2x and ran 4, 2, and 1 mile runs. Swam 2x an…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 10:15 AM
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Good thought. my aim is to bring it up without being retarded or letting it come up organically and saying what I want.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/24 06:04 PM
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Perhaps, the first got brought up twice telling me she doesn't like, I responded that I'm not done pushing boundaries yet and finding why we like. The second we were in the car with our three kids and I forget what precipitated it but I smiled and made comment in my OYS. Today I pushed it a little through text and got what maybe the first positive response to dirty talk in text.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/24 09:25 PM
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Ya well do the research or just keep guessing. For what it's worth I don't know any wealthy people that just guess and hope. They do their research and make informed decisions based on the best available data. Not hard to look up expected salaries for a given MBA program/field. I'll make it easy for you: take your annual income and divide it by 2080. That gives you your $/hr assuming a 40hr work week. then compare that to the expected salary and hours it'll take you to make expected salary.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 09:28 PM
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What's the expected return and could that time be better spent simply working more? Yesterday as a thought experiment I calculated the value of my time. So if your time is worth $100/hr and you'll spend 20hrs a week doing this then the time cost of getting masters is $2,000/week even though the tuition itself is free. Will the expected salary increase be worth more than that? Run your own numbers.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 02:01 PM
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OYS #16 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 174 lbs, 15.5% BF, bench 280x1rm squat 300x1rm deadlift 395x 1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm Currently reading: paused SGM, reading "attached" Up next: Bang, Day Bang, mystery method, Working out/health: tweaked quad again. Lifted 3x ran 3x, swam twice. Weight and body fat are coming down and muscle mass is holding steady during this cut. Social: played in a golf tournam…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 12:39 PM
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I don't want more kids... opinions are all over the place on here about it. I'm doing my research to make informed decisions. I cannot leave birth control up to my wife at this point. My wife doesn't want to take bc, I don't want more kids. And I refuse to play roulette with sperm.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 04:04 PM
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OYS #15 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 177 lbs, 15.7% BF, bench 280x1rm squat 3001rm deadlift 395 1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm Currently reading: paused SGM, I'm reading "attached" to try to better understand why I've been so needy in most of my relationships. Up next: Bang, Day Bang, mystery method, Working out/health: tweaked quad again. Lifted 3x ran 2x and played soccer one day. Gotta lay off soccer to…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 12:32 PM
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I know I'm fucking up, getting my shit straightened out is proving harder than I thought. The concepts are easy enough, actually doing it is harder.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/24 12:03 AM
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OYS #14 Back from my ban. I guess I'm a bit retarded between knowing the difference of reporting results from my actions and reporting her frame so whatever I'm sure I'll f****** again but I'll keep working at it. Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 177 lbs, 15.7% BF, bench 280x1rm squat 3001rm deadlift 395 1rm. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm Currently reading: SGM Up next: Bang, Day Bang, mystery method, Working out/…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/24 08:57 PM
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Guess I was pretty retarded regarding shit tests. It wasn't any one thing like nothing dramatic was said but just moody quiet BS and hard nos. You're right that I missed the opportunity there.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 10:12 PM
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Good call
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 10:04 PM
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OYS #13 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 180 lbs, 16% BF, bench 280x1rm squat 255 5,5,6 deadlift 335 4,4,4 Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm Currently reading: SGM Up next: Bang, Day Bang, mystery method, Working out/health: had good workouts last week. Doing 1 rep maexes this week on big three to gauge progress. Hit 280 bench yesterday. Hit my weight goal of 180. After this week I'll start my focus on running and inc…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 10:03 AM
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Hey man I was where you're at like 5 months ago. Don't bother snooping, it'll make you paranoid that you just haven't found evidence yet, so you'll keep needlessly digging. You have to work on stoicism and indifference. Look at her for the child she is with little to no impulse control. I still have shitty thoughts from time to time but I'm improving. Start doing everything you'd have to do if you were single. If you were single would you pursue your career? Would you fix shit around the house, …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/24 01:59 PM
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Reread wisnifg
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/24 01:31 PM
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Thanks for that, helped me not deer. The hamster had run pretty good. She tried to do it through text but I wasn't gonna do that so I had her meet for lunch which was a good call.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/24 07:19 PM
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Thanks for perspective, I realized afterwards I should give less fucks about something that wasn't necessarily going to happen. I like to think I'm becoming more aware and reading the situation better in general so maybe that's why I was anticipating it. So yesterday the comfort test did come although she used humor to do it which I responded in kind. Had sex last night and added some Devi emotional talk. Told her good girl after. Today she was peppy and we've been joking around most of the day.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/24 07:13 PM
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OYS #12 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 178 lbs, 16% BF, bench 45 5,5,5 squat 245 6,6,8 deadlift 315 4,4,6 Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm Currently reading: SGM Up next: Bang, Day Bang, mystery method, Working out/health: nothing new to report, numbers still going up. Form improving, less leg soreness. Will start some light running the week to get ready for 10k in 8 weeks. Social: we went to karaoke with another c…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 12:27 PM
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Does your wife hang this over your head or do you? You're married... It all goes in the same pot. At a minimum you should at least be making the financial decisions and maximizing your wealth.
/r/askMRP12/04/24 06:01 PM
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I guess my lack of response on the note was because of my intentions, I found myself wanting to chase the feeling of that note and get more validation so I figured STFU but good point on rewarding the good behavior. I've done this some but need to be more conscious of how I can use that in a beneficial way. Good feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/24 06:07 PM
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It's arms focused bc that's my weakest body part. It's an 8 week program I've done before to help me bring up my lagging biceps. It divides workouts into chest, back, legs, shoulders, arms with supplemental work. My triceps have definitely grown and gotten stronger but fuck my biceps are Stubborn.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/24 09:47 AM
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I don't think the point was the weight....the point is that you let someone of such low value determine your actions. Your in the frame of someone who seems to have no redeemable qualities.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/24 07:14 PM
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OYS #11 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 178 lbs, 16% BF, bench 235 6,6,6 squat 235 8,8,8 deadlift 295 3x5 Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm Currently reading: SGM Up next: Bang, Day Bang, mystery method, Working out/health: hit all 5 of my workouts but getting more sore as I go up in weight. Missed on a couple of rep ranges but exceeded on others. Diet good, not much else to report will likely hit my weight goal earl…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/24 03:19 PM
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Good questions for me to think through.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/24 05:24 PM
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OYS #10 Stats: 37, married 10 yrs, three young kids 5'7" 177 lbs, 16% BF, bench 225 6,6,8 squat 225 8,8,10 deadlift 275 3x8 Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm Currently reading: SGM Up next: Bang, Day Bang Working out/health: hit all my workouts even one while out of town visiting in-laws. My numbers are going up with good form. I'm still gaining weight although I'm starting to border on gaining too much fat. I plan on cutting in a fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 12:20 PM
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I'm a bit retarded so might have to rely on others input. Really I think it would just come down to passing comfort tests and giving reassurance. Doesn't mean put up with shitty behavior though or disrespect. From what I know about the different attachment styles there's really not a whole lot of research that indicates that anything you do will make it go away, someone can change their own attachment style if they really want to and they'd have to work really hard on it but it's not something y…
/r/askMRP01/04/24 07:18 PM
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Read up on anxious attachment style. She sounds like a classic case of this. Also you sound kind of mechanical, are you fun?
/r/askMRP28/03/24 07:49 PM
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Ya I think the anger phase gets the best of a lot of us. We direct our anger outward until we finally accept where we fucked up and how unattractive we were (or still are in some cases). As I've accepted my role in this I now understand why she would disconnect and not put in more effort. Why would a wife put in more effort to get more mediocre in return? I've still got a long way to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 02:00 PM
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Good thoughts, still working through being a retard but this kind of feedback helps. I nice guy deered.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 01:15 PM
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OYS #9 Stats: 37, married 10yes, three young kids 5'7" 175 lbs, 15% BF, bench 245 5,4,3 squat 225 3x6 deadlift 315 3x3. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych, TWOTSm Currently reading: SGM Up next: Bang, Day Bang Working out/health: power cleaned 225 just to see if I could, it was sloppy but I did it. I can definitely feel my strength gains and I'm gaining weight. all my reps/weights are going up and my form is much better. Still challenges to e…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 12:23 PM
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OYS #8 Stats: 37, married 10, three young kids 5'7" 172 lbs, 15% BF, bench 245 5,4,3 squat 225 3x6 deadlift 315 3x3. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych Currently reading: TWOTSM Up next: SGM, Bang, Day Bang Working out: had great workouts, finally mentally feeling like I'm getting jacked. I'm actually noticing women looking at me quite frequently, smiling at me etc. I'm looking better in my clothes. I'm focusing on form and higher rep range t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 12:47 PM
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OYS #7 Stats: 37, married 10, three young kids 5'7" 172 lbs, 15% BF, bench 245 5,4,3 squat 225 3x6 deadlift 315 3x3. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych Currently reading: TWOTSM Up next: SGM, Bang, Day Bang Working out: started new program focused on building bigger arms. In my younger days always focused on strength because I thought that made me tough and admittedly it did give me confidence but it didn't give me the body I desire. Now I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 12:58 PM
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Take care of yourself. Only you can be responsible for you. Best of luck. When your better bang her with reckless abandon.
/r/askMRP09/03/24 07:04 PM
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I can speak from experience although nothing nearly as serious. Someone said they don't want to be your mommy too so they look at you as weak when you're sick. which from an evolutionary perspective makes sense, they dont want to mate with a weak male that may not be around. I used to always wonder why my wife never showed sympathy when I was sick. Now I know why. Most recently I got a stomach bug and I didn't complain about it, she knew bc I was running to bathroom every 30 min but I just shit …
/r/askMRP09/03/24 06:10 PM
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Ya too late on the Rollo, I think that's the shit that made me paranoid in the first place. I forget which mod it was but they said that it's not that their wife was/would cheat but that she was loyal and so instead she shut down and withdrew. That hit home with me because that more accurately describes my situation. I became unattractive and therefore I got less respect and sex. I've come to grips with the fact that I will never know for certain any which way. This is because an innocent person…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 11:09 PM
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Fuck...that is true, what I should have done was gotten the number of some of the booth girls and made plans for all of us to meet up. I completely pussed out on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 01:42 PM
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Thanks for input. I am making progress by writing out the thoughts when they get into my head and then writing out actual events that contradict my irrational thoughts. Periodically I reread them and pray/meditate. It just takes time. As far a value this is tough and I need to reflect on it more but off hand I would say I let my value get pretty low before getting here but since being here I've gained confidence, I'm putting my leadership skills to work again. I am a good father and good provide…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 01:39 PM
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I was occasional porn user but I saw someone on here say "Be attractive, is a guy who watches porn on his phone while he masturbates in the bathroom attractive?" Obvious answer. Since thinking through that Ive not had a single urge. Also keep initiating whenever you feel like it. I found myself initiating only when I thought my chances of rejection were at their lowest. I was also doing it out of a sense of compulsion and validation. Once I realized that it was easier for me to identify when I a…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 07:15 PM
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Ya, I know that's odd but I've been running a ton lately. I do 10ks so I gotta be mindful of how much I'm putting on my legs (3-4x week). I'm not doing another 10k for a while so I'm gonna try to get squat up in the meantime. Regarding attractiveness I believe so but I got typical issues for my stats i.e. I'm not 6ft Chad, I have some mild hair loss. I've let those things get in my head bc I have been seeking sex for validation for years. Since being here though I've seen a noticable uptick in g…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 04:10 PM
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OYS #6 Stats: 37, married 10, three young kids 5'7" 172 lbs, 15% BF, bench 245 5,4,3 squat 225 3x6 deadlift 315 3x3. Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych Currently reading: TWOTSM Up next: SGM, Bang, Day Bang Working out: took a week off while I was in Vegas for a work conference. Got back in the gym yesterday even though I got a stomach bug. The past few months I've been working on strength. Now I'm working on gaining mass so I can hit My goal…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 02:59 PM
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I didn't say pissed at her, pissed about the situation I put myself in. But you're right obviously I have a lot to work on to not suck. Trying to avoid going Rambo while making progress. And good point on your second statement.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/24 06:11 PM
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OYS #5 back from 2 week rule9 ban Stats: 37, married 10, three young kids 5'7" 172 lbs, 15% BF, bench 225 3x5 squat 225 3x6 deadlift 315 3x3. Training for 10k Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych Currently reading: TWOTSM Up next: SGM, Bang, Day Bang Valentine's Day: I laid out laungerie for her in the bathroom and planned a few things (dinner then drinks at local brewery). The evening was stalling out so I left our table and taped with the bar…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/24 07:32 PM
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Yeah chapters 15 and 16 from TWOTSm would be a good reminder. I read those the other day and wish I had read them sooner. Would have helped me avoid stubbing my dick a few times.
/r/askMRP22/02/24 10:45 PM
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Stats: 37, married 10, three young kids 5'7" 172 lbs, 15% BF, bench 225 3x5 squat 225 3x6 deadlift 315 3x3. Training for 10k Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar, practical Female psych Currently reading: SGM/ way of Superior man Up next: Bang, Day Bang Gym: lifted, went snow skiing, ran (6 miler). Focused on volume for 10k instead of going heavy. Have been taking creatine but will cycle off for 2 weeks. Die was better and I finally broke through a weight plateau. I'v…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 05:07 PM
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Good point, if I do x I expect Y= covert contract. In the past I found myself resenting the "oldest teenager in the house". Shifting my mental model to not keep score and just do shit that needs to be done has helped me create a sense of independence. But I get your point that a captain delegates certain tasks to the first mate. I've noticed an increase lately in effort to clean and do other things. It's almost as of the less I need someone else the more they do. Will monitor this.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 08:00 PM
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OYS #3 Stats: 37, married 10yr, three young kids 5'7" 171 lbs, 15% BF, bench 225 3x5 squat 225 3x6 deadlift 315 3x3. Training for 10k Completed reading: MMSLP, NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, sidebar Currently reading: practical Female psych, side bar Up next: SGM, Bang, Day Bang, WOSM Gym: I had a good week hit some good numbers for 1rm on various lifts, ran a 5 mile run and 2 mile run. Still need to get better with macros, ate more carbs and saw better results. I need to eat way more calories t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 01:08 PM
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OYS #2 Stats: 37, married 10, three young kids 5'7" 170 lbs, 15% BF, bench 225 3x5 squat 225 3x6 deadlift 315 3x3. Training for 10k Why I'm here: for all the usual reasons. Had been implementing some MRP the past 4 months but recently stepped on my own dick and now I have to start from scratch. I saw improvement in sex frequency those first few months but got complacent. I Thought I was improving but really was just a dancing monkey. Gym: goal is to continue to gain mass and strength. Always bee…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 12:48 PM
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5'7" 172 (gained 10lbs since starting lifting in August) bf up to around 15% since lifting (electronic scale). Ive read a bunch of sidebar material, MMSLP, NMMNG, rational male, WISNIFG, started rational male this week. Got on stitch fix and ordered more decent wardrobe and dressing better for work. Self employed. Got rid of my shitty beard, improved skin care routine to get rid of acne. I've been getting some interest from different women lately but more so just compliments not anything I'd con…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 06:33 PM
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I was about 10 seconds away this morning bringing up some specific questions about her past before I bit my tongue. That's the one time I STFU about it these past few days. The thing is I knew she had multiple partners before and it never really bothered me I guess I never fully grasped the scope and combine that with our lack of sex is what made me so bitter. And you're right it's 100% my insecurities. I have my own past body count but in my head I rationalize it by saying to myself somehow I'm…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 03:49 PM
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OYS1: Lurking since last August but things have come to a head and I need someone to rip me a new one. Here's my first post Stats: 37 married 9 yrs together 12. 3kids 6,5,3. BP 225 3x5, DL 325 3x3 sq 225 3x6. Typical story what brought me here: dead bedroom, had a meltdown and threw a temper tantrum about a co-worker at a new job that my wife was flirting with, no yelling but I just acted like a schoolboy Bitch. In prior years we've had "the talk" about how I'm not fullfilled sexually/intimately…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 03:30 PM
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I recently had one: we were in public sauna at the gym, there were two other old guys in there. We were discussing her friends in a Zumba class about to start, they said she should join and she declined, I jokingly said "perhaps I should go and work up a sweat" . Sher replied "they'd probably think you're a creep". I responded "on that note this creep is going to work out enjoy sitting in the sauna alone." I went up to the gym and began my workout not thinking much of it when she comes bouncing …
/r/askMRP15/11/23 03:03 PM
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