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Work on simple stuff first. Don't try and go for complex recipes. I do almost all the cooking in our house - my husband is actually really fond of my simpler meals. Here are some examples: Fish - oven baked or fried, with sweet potato (I slice them, put the on a greased baking sheet, spray with oil and roast at about 375 - you can do the fish at the same time, just put it in an oven dish with salt and pepper, some sliced lemons, a little garlic and some butter on top - seal with foil and roast w…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/21 09:12 AM
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I read this and wanted to give you some hope, as you sound a little like me. I'm married to a man who loves to hear me talk, we have long debates and discussions and throw ideas at each other (we work in the same creative field, in which he is really successful). Some alpha type guys like a partner that matches their intellect and can challenge then mentally. My husband wouldn't have married me if I was 'boring'. Being a fantastic cook and housekeeper also helps.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/21 08:55 AM
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I rarely comment here because I think my mindset kind of crosses over with some stuff here but not everything, but I can share a little of my experience with something similar. I am happily married (almost 3 years) to a man who in terms of real-world achievement, is ahead of me by like a mile. Partly because he's older, partly because I had a career change and he's got a heck of a head start on me. When we met I was overweight but losing (injury weight, all gone now thanks to husband teaching me…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/19 08:38 AM
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It's not just that; there's no maternity pay and people can just fire you for being pregnant.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/18 02:51 PM
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No matter where you are, having a kid is one of the most expensive life decisions you can make.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/18 02:33 PM
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I'm so sorry, you poor thing! Internet stranger hugs! When you find the right person this effort will not go to waste. Sometimes our hearts can get ahead of us. I had a relationship similar to this a few years before I met my husband (who actually returns this affection and treats me amazingly) and it is very demoralizing, it put me off dating for a while. I'm kind of happy it did though or I might not be so happily married now! Take care and be good to yourself xx
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 06:40 PM
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I think a lot of people did! I find it a lot nicer now that I've unfollowed everyone having loud political rants. Some great support networks have sprung up since then. I met a friend in a similar position to you through my neighbourhood group and now I watch her kid for her (I work part time at home and we have tonnes of space, so it turned out to be an easy solution for them), which frees up some of her time.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 06:33 PM
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Oh my bad. But still. Semi-public figures get up to no good all the time, just read the news. Please don't get hurt.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 08:27 AM
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I think you may have a biased perspective on this. I am glad your body works well though!
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 07:48 AM
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Please don't go. This isn't going to be the romantic fairytale you imagined. There are so many red flags here I could make a tent out of them. However if you choose to ignore this and go anyway, which I again very much advise you NOT to do, make sure you do the following: 1) Tell someone where you are and have them safety call you. Give them the hotel name and your room number. You are at risk of people trafficking here. Being sold into the sex trade is no joke. If you are going to run the risk …
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 07:30 AM
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Don't forget that people have widely different bodies and levels of health/ fitness/ mobility, as well as a wide range of anatomical differences that might be a factor. Depending on the couple, it's entirely possible for the 'possible sex frequency' to be higher for one person than another. If you are young and healthy with no issues you may not have seen it from the perspective of someone who does not inhabit the same sort of body as you. Also, many people have other issues going on. Just becau…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 07:16 AM
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I think the underlying point is that she cared about something and he couldn't be bothered to even be polite about it. She was kind, patient and loving and he didn't live up to the investment she made in the relationship. A person who doesn't care about the little things that matter to their partner is likely to not care about the big things either.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 05:23 AM
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This is a classic case of 'fantasy girlfriend'. This is sometimes a downside of meeting people online through mutal interests - once you become 'real' in their life (i.e. a person with their own needs, challenges, wants and desires) and 'step out of the screen', they lose interest. That's his failing, not yours. It can be very hurtful, but don't beat yourself up for not living up to a two dimensional fantasy. You did your best to make it work and he didn't care enough to give back, and that's a …
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 05:22 AM
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Question: Do you love yourself at the moment? Sometimes when you're down about yourself it can take a toll on your relationship. Are you happy in general?
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 05:16 AM
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While I agree that sexual and culinary satisfaction help make for a healthy relationship, communication and mutual respect are what get you there. Men aren't grown-up babies to be 'seen to' or 'managed' and women aren't just food and sex machines. Reducing it to 'stomach full, balls empty' is dehumanizing for both parties.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 04:43 AM
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Find a network. There will be other women in your community (and men, but probably more women) who also have these issues and worries you can relate to. Facebook can be good - look out for 'neighbourhood' groups and post to see if anyone in your area can connect you to more specific communities. Huge respect to you; you sound like a very dedicated parent.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 04:41 AM
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No worries hun. Maybe also get some lube, it might make things more fun and less chafey! Also have you considered options outside of full on morning sex? Sometimes it's fun to get creative, even if you're not up for the full works a bit of nuzzling and encouragement to be sexually open can work wonders. I really think the subtext here could be 'I need this, but I don't want you to feel I don't want you so I'm planning on including you in my future orgasms' rather than 'get to it, woman!' Seems l…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 04:37 AM
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Talk to him and have a proper discussion about it. It may be that he doesn't want to freak you out by beating one out in the morning or make you feel like he prefers porn to you. If you've got no issues with him having his own fun when you're not in the mood, let him know. If you're having physical issues with sex you should always talk to your partner - sex isn't just better with communication, sex is a form of communication. If it becomes forced, one-way or otherwise unpleasant for one person …
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 04:20 AM
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Not to mention that we're not sex dolls, we have preferences too. Ones we are just as entitled to.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 04:13 AM
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Aah that makes sense! Sometimes you can find things on Google Books. I've found a lot of PDFs of books just carefully googling for them, but I'm guessing you've already tried that (no patronising intended). If you don't find one you can always make a google doc and note the page number, or use your postits to add a page reference that correlates to your spreadsheet. Thanks for this idea, I hadn't thought about making notes on books using PDFs!
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 03:42 AM
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In case you don't find one - I use post-its to make notes in books. It works pretty well!
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 03:32 AM
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The ugliest woman I ever met was 6 ft 4, had a full beard and was shaped like a sofa. She was one of the sweetest and most beautiful souls I've ever known and was also happily married. If it can happen for her it can happen for anyone, as long as they're sweet, kind and patient. Learn to love yourself. Not your face, but your you. Looks fade anyway, so work on your personality and keep your figure. People telling you that you're ugly are just being assholes - true beauty has nothing to do with l…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/18 08:20 PM
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I think this sounds like you've got it in hand and you're working through it. Guys aren't classically good at talking about things like this, which is why we need the patience and grace to just work through stuff. In this case I think demystifying and exploring will get you there. Also does he cook? My husband didn't until I facilitated his cooking by doing his prep for him. When he cooks, I do all the prep, set everything up in little dishes and he can just have fun with it. Over the last year …
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 12:46 AM
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Hmm, there's an underlying issue here. I think you'll find it in time, or he'll get past it on his own. How does he feel about you eating some of his food? Is it the same both ways? Also maybe talk to his mom about it, moms sometimes provide context that's really useful. This can be completely casual, and will take some sensitivity but, well, none of us are completely straight forward. Perhaps he had a formative experience that he needs to work through. Again, tread lightly, but it's possible fo…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 09:20 PM
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A great one is 'I'm stuffed, guess my eyes were bigger than my belly! Do you want to finish this so it doesn't go to waste?' Another thing I've found helpful is; don't offer too many options. That can be confusing for some people, especially if they didn't grow up in a foodie culture or aren't sure how much they are asking you to do (and if you're mystifying the cooking process he might feel some options are too labour intensive to ask for, or might simply not have a strong preference but would …
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 09:08 PM
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It's literally a case of 'monkey see, monkey do!' It might help to have a leftovers shelf that he can snack from. Hunger is a great motivator! Also it might help to think 'ok so Cherryhearts ate this three hours ago and is fine, I can eat it too' if it's put straight in the fridge. Sounds like you guys are on track here, it just takes patience and time :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 08:45 PM
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No worries! I am a bit faddy myself with some things - like I get funny about dairy being off because I had a bad experience with some tiramisu one time, but my husband will just check the cream for me and go 'it's fine' and I've learned to just trust that he can tell better than me because he doesn't have any hangups about it. Thinking of it as 'gateway drugs' is a great way to go. The thing here is to expand the pallete without adding stress - clearly he's got some food hangups to steer around…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 08:12 PM
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Ok I've been thinking about this since commenting yesterday. It's all very well to say 'he's being unreasonable' but that doesn't really help you much does it! So here's my two cents (it's turned into a list of suggestions), based on my experiences with a weird eater. First, figure out the flavour profile he likes, which you've already done, but I'll underline this one for people reading over our shoulders so to speak. Know his definite likes and dislikes and get to the root of them. Side dishes…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 07:20 PM
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I find that my husband gets over a stressful day at work fastest if I give him some space. If I'm around the living room when he gets in I'll usually go sit on the porch for a bit or do some work in my office and let him decompress. I'll usually ask him one or two questions about his day if I know he had something on, like if he had a big meeting I'd ask him how it went, or if he mentioned something happening in the office that he was interested in I might go 'hey so did xyz bring their dog in t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 06:58 PM
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I mean in terms of division of labour. For example in our household, I do all the cooking, shopping and cleaning. That means I'm in charge of it. We eat when I cook, we eat what I cook, I cook what is in season and on sale. That's our system. It's not about [control of my husband] it's about [control over my share of the household]. He's put me in charge of cooking, so I cook and he eats. If he doesn't want to eat something on his plate he leaves it and eats some cereal or fruit. I don't chide h…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 06:53 PM
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Oh I think room for preferences is important. Food is important. But sometimes you have to take at least a non-squishy line. Otherwise you just end up making a rod for your own back. My husband is a ridiculous eater - I say this because he will mix anything with anything; he's the opposite end of the scale. Early on in our marriage I watched in fascination as he mixed dried onions, peas, ketchup and parmesan into everything I cooked (and had to bite my lip sometimes when I really hit a flavour o…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 01:49 PM
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If she's cooking healthy, nutritionally balanced food then yes, he is acting like a child and no, she shouldn't pander to it. If he wants to eat something else he's free to do that; the point is she shouldn't have to cook for a five year old because she isn't living with a five year old, especially when it is clearly directly affecting their relationship and making her unhappy. It's all very well having a preference, but it sounds like she's going above and beyond here. My point is that she shou…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 01:28 PM
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Absolutely. She's feeding a man not a child. Some adaptations to pallete are fine but he needs to grow up on this one, and that starts with her putting her foot down on a part of their life which she is supposed to have control over. She puts dinner on the table, as long as it's healthy, nutritious and well cooked he has no valid reason not to eat it. Food is food, eat or go hungry.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 05:54 AM
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Have you tried keeping a diary to see if this might be hormone related? Are you on the pill? That can cause a number of issues for some women and these often go unnoticed. The 'everything is alright until it isn't' thing is key here - you might simply have an oestrogen imbalance that tips you over the edge and turns things you're working on into things you can't cope with. Take a look at your cycle and see if any of these occurances are regular. If you're taking any kind of hormonal birth contro…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/18 01:43 AM
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Ah I see, the old 'claim three short paragraphs are too short to read because I might lose the pissing contest I'm trying to have.' God forbid you might expose yourself to something that might make you think rather than just react.
/r/PussyPassDenied30/07/15 12:55 AM
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Seriously, think about it just as an idea for a minute. In both the US and the UK where I am from, the re-offence rate of young criminals is high, and that's in some small part because short jail sentences are used as a deterrent for low grade crimes. Unfortunately the side effect of this is that people can acclimate to just about anything, including jail. The first night in jail has been described over and over again as a singularly terrifying experience, but after a week or so people tend to a…
/r/PussyPassDenied30/07/15 12:38 AM
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I'd say so, I think sending people to jail for short periods of time just acclimatizes them. Maybe send em for just one night, so they have no time to get used to the place and it retains its terror afterwards.
/r/PussyPassDenied27/07/15 09:10 PM
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It is a huge waste of money sending her to jail when just the fear of it will probably be enough to wake her up.
/r/PussyPassDenied27/07/15 10:38 AM
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