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On this sub? I have absolutely seen 30-something men complaining about the dating market. But I guess it's safe to say that the further you get into the 20s (and onto 30s) the more those kinds of men can be considered outliers
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 10:38 AM
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Young male vs. female virginity rates are actually pretty close from what I've seen. Biggest discrepancy is "no sex within the past year." "No sex within the past three months" is also surprisingly close. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:35 AM
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Yes, "so?" I'm not under the impression that laws or anything are going to be made based on my opinion here. People can reach out to whoever they want and the recipients are free to think "why is this person contacting me" and leave them on read. So much for the backup plan then.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:28 AM
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If someone believes in themselves so much why not meet new people instead of digging back into ancient history
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 01:47 AM
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It would take quite an ego to see those people as "backups" as there's a built-in assumption they'd be interested in starting up again if you reached out. I unfollowed my high school BF on Instagram ages ago but he still follows me for some reason. If this man genuinely had some delusion I'd be interested in randomly talking to him again after close to a decade I would literally laugh in his face.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 01:26 AM
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Yeah I agree he was good-looking. People saying he's not are probably looking at more recent pics. It seems like he's lost weight since getting arrested and is more guant/weird-looking now as a result.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 08:35 PM
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My fiancé and I have zero desire for it. Funnily enough I'm pretty sure our marriage prep textbook straight-up says that a married couple should have full access to each other's devices
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:33 PM
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I think that's kind of an awkward way to say it but there are fun/playful ways to Mr. Ange: You're so hot Me: Nooo you're the hot one Mr. Ange: No you Me: No you
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:00 PM
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I include a lot of people here in my statement
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 04:18 PM
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I agree but probably not for the same reasons as you
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 04:11 PM
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No my favorites are the ones suggesting not only AOC but Pete Buttigieg for VP to hand the easiest W of all time to Vance in what feels like some kind of elaborate psy op
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 08:50 AM
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I don't label myself because the internet will gatekeep either way. There are just as many reasons someone would tell me that I must be a feminist as there are reasons they'd tell me I can't be.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 07:23 AM
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I would need a lot more context on what exactly this writer believes about gender roles and how this quote fits into the picture because there are men who vehemently insist that she's a misandrist as well as other unsavory things
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 03:37 AM
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I thought I hated beards on all men but then my fiancé made me realize that I don't. He looks hot either way but he does prefer to stay clean-shaven. So I guess maybe the right answer is that I hate them on most mem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 03:29 AM
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6, I think he'd look even better without the facial hair tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 10:29 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/8jacHk03jR Most recent post about it Sorry about the spam as I kept redoing the link to appease automod
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:55 PM
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I don't understand secular hook-up dynamics or what's normal for them tbh. Some stuff on the list was obviously bad and rapey others just had me like "...? Is that now how that usually works?"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:42 PM
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I like my solution which is not having close male friends in the first place. Men can lean on each other, female relatives they're hopefully not attracted to, and maybe their eventual romantic partner if that works out. If not see the former two.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:39 PM
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The only man I'm interested in seeing stripping is my SO once we're married. Personally I cannot relate to the appeal of watching someone you're not having sex with take off their clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 10:17 AM
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I've said before on this sub that TRM rates in the 18-22ish range are kinda tricky to me. They're young. They look young, like there's still more baking to be done there. The 7 chick looks like the oldest of the bunch and I agree with her rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:26 AM
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The director wanted it to be ambiguous and deliberately included evidence for both sides in the final movie. A lot of people take the weird incest poem as pretty conclusive evidence that actual Nikki saw Bear like a brother. The real answer is that the director is fucking with everybody. Maybe wish Nikki wrote the weird incest poem for shits and giggles, who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:26 AM
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Yeah I'll let those people defend themselves, I'm admittedly a very moderate and boring person who does not come across much "screaming" in her day-to-day internet diet. I will say that fictional media runs into a recurring problem where the options are seemingly to make a character explicitly rich or say they're not rich while giving them experiences and lifestyles that are clearly out of reach for normal people in their economic situation so the story can happen. If your protagonist is a broke…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 09:25 PM
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Twilight is just one example of a media phenomenon popular with women that absolutely attracted criticism from feminists. The author of the series is Mormon and there are very traditional/conservative ideas about relationships that made it into the book accordingly. The main couple does not have sex until they're married and iirc neither dated or had any relationships before each other. I think to the extent that feminists may shy away from criticizing media that's way more sexual and extreme th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:29 PM
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This sub definitely made me more aware of the existence of men who get zero attention/interest women from and the self-esteem issues that can come with it. For reference my mom is extremely skeptical of guys who claim that and warned me about being naive and taking men at face value when they say they've never been with other women. She didn't care how ugly they were, she went to public school with some ugly mfers who would still have the ugly girls fighting over them in the parking lot. When th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 05:40 AM
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Honestly if a dude thinks the nicest and gentlest of Bible Belt men are "aggressive" he might not be able to handle a Bible Belt woman either
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 08:45 PM
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Yes, he did risk his life for me. And that incident showed me that he would so without hesitation. I feel that there is no way I can repay him for that, and he has told me that I repay him each and every day tenfold. That his life basically started when we met, and if anything happened to me that would be the end of it too. In before somebody says "it's not faaaiirr." Look people I belong to one of the most patriarchal religions on the planet where most significant leadership roles are set aside…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 08:31 PM
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That's a massive reach imo but it would also go a long way to explain why Redditors claim that women don't like "nice men." By "nice" they mean absolutely spineless and like one step removed from being in a vegetative state.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 07:35 PM
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Again, look at the words you are using interchangeably in this post. I don't recall you associating masculinity with literally any positive characteristics here, only negative ones. "Oh well what made that man unattractive was showing fear." It would be one thing if the dude just ran or froze, my understanding is that he was literally holding this woman between himself and the dog so if it attacked it would get her instead of him. Was fear involved? Yes. How he responded to that fear is what rev…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 07:24 PM
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I find it interesting that you basically use masculine, dominant, aggressive, and dangerous interchangeably throughout this post. I'm from the Bible Belt. Even men who are on the kind and docile side are pretty damn masculine by default I find. My SO is sweet and kind as can be. He is also very protective of me. Once when we were out walking together a loose dog charged up at me. He pulled me behind him like it was nothing. Dog ran off thankfully. I read a story on Reddit not long after where du…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 07:03 PM
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I dunno I've bought food for homeless people and it feels good to me. Like, are there actually people who do that sort of thing and then feel worse after? Or indifferent? Like obviously a bucket of chicken isn't gonna singlehandedly change a homeless dude's life or fix his problems, but I find that there's a good chance it'll make him pretty happy in that moment. And that makes me happy. My mom does random stuff like that for people who look like they could use it all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:41 PM
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Yes it seems that we're all working with experience and personal anecdata to some extent. I participate in a traditional dating sub for my faith where people have absolutely advised the women to be more active in meeting/making their interest known to men. Granted they aren't being told to walk up to random men whose intentions and beliefs they know nothing about, the advice is to not be afraid to initiate with men they meet through church and other activities associated with our faith. Some wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:18 PM
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She is exonerated to go accept that she will be single and to build a life around that accordingly if she expects hot girl treatment that is never going to happen. I don't recall anyone ever suggesting that society could collapse due to widespread violence and unrest if women can't find partners. The assumption is that they'll get over it, or be sad or mad about it or whatever in a way that doesn't inconvenience other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:10 AM
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This is why artists who are anonymous (hiding their faces, using pen names, etc.) are the best. I don't know anything about this fool's personal life and I don't need to, just keep cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:52 AM
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"But why did you give a very brief, simple, and blunt answer and put that user on the spot again for not answering you question instead of stumbling around and playing their game like you were born yesterday?" Yeah I don't fall for that nonsense but for those of you who love some good old-fashioned wheel-spinning that will go nowhere, have at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:38 AM
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Thank you for the detailed response. What is questionable to me here is the idea that a woman who A. Doesn't get approached B. Is extremely unhappy with being single Isn't told to do any of these things. Is it the most desirable position for a woman to be in? No. Because women who are very attractive/desired by men do not have to do any of this. Men just appear. She's already overwhelmed with options without lifting a finger. We all see it with our own eyes. But hey not everybody can be cream of…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:16 AM
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Gather around class, this is how to directly answer a question. Active=acting, Passive=not acting This conversation is about what happens when standby mode isn't working for a woman and she is upset/not satisfied with the results. You said that the kinds of actions suggested to women who are single and unhappy with that are not "active." They say be more social, find new hobbies, make more friends, but they dont say. Be more direct and approach more. When I asked you to clarify if being active j…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 10:07 PM
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In your own words the fact that women are not advised to "be more direct and approach" indicates that female passivity is accepted. I'm curious as to what you meant by "be more direct and approach" that isn't hitting on random people. I am confident that you will clarify in concrete tetms and not rely on safe, vague expressions that could mean anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 09:17 PM
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Are you defining "passive" as literally anything other than hitting on random people? The vast majority of couples I know irl did not meet that way. Guess they're all passive, including the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 07:57 PM
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It's generally assumed that women are more content to be single than men are and can find other means of fulfillment outside of romantic relationships. If you two people do not prioritize something to the same extent it would be illogical to expect both of them to put in the same effort. I wanna see The Odyssey in theaters eventually but I had zero interest in fighting with Christopher Nolan's fanboys for opening weekend tickets. If a woman is complaining about how men don't approach her but is …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 06:52 PM
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I'll never forget the time this one notoriously blunt user sincerely called me pretty when I did a face reveal. Never expected that in 1000 years. It was my first face reveal ever on this sub and I can be pretty critical of my own looks (especially compared to the women in my family) so the compliments from both that user and others did brighten my day a bit. In addition to that, basically all of my interactions with a user I don't think I need to name at this point lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:51 AM
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You know it can be hard to tell if they're performing or if they're just...like that? Like with this one girl who did the voice. There was a story everyone in the grade knew about her where a guy asked "how far she'd gone" and she, not knowing what that meant, told him the name of the furthest country she'd traveled to with her family. Basically everyone at my school loved this story and thought she was so cute. So women/girls can definitely reward that sort of thing as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:35 AM
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I went to a Catholic girls' school and some of the girls in our class (and some of the teachers tbh) did sound like that. I don't know what it is. My best friend couldn't stand it, she thought those sorts of people were fake as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:59 AM
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I need more details on the chihuahua lore lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:49 AM
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The smoking would've been a compatibility problem for me but clearly that doesn't seem to be her issue here. As for her response, my parents raised me to not be like this so no I wouldn't have responded the same. Follow-up doesn't change anything. "Maybe you're not ready to have a girlfriend." Maybe you need to sit your ass down. Damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:43 AM
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Reddit has taught me that there are 18+-year-olds who live at home with their parents rent-free and think that their household is a democracy for some reason
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:45 PM
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People love to have weird parasocial relationships with good-looking people who share/validate their interests. The main actress from Obsession is in the early stages of this as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:41 PM
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My default understanding of friendship is regularly spending time with/keeping in contact out of sheer enjoyment of each other's company. I understand that people define friendship in many different ways that may fall short of my conception of the term. It's whatever. I feel no desire to gatekeep. That said, I think the idea that a man not having female friends is a red flag is nonsense. I don't have male friends and can't remember the last time I had any desire to. My male relatives and SO are …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:12 PM
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Not my problem unless it's my problem
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 04:52 PM
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It's not uncommon for women (and men) in my circles to travel while single but usually the purpose is to visit sites significant to our faith. It's expected that married couples be open to pregnancy so if you want to experience traveling without a child (or several) you kind of have to get that done while you're young and single.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 04:46 PM
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Vtubers, streamers, podcasters, influencers, all of that shit confuses me. I have theorized here before that people innately vary in their ability to invest in parasocial relationships and I may be on the extreme end of aversion to them. I feel like I struggle to have an opinion on vtubers because I just fundamentally do not understand their appeal. I had a female friend in college who was obsessed with a male idol anime. There was a Vtuber style channel dedicated to them and she could watch tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 04:26 PM
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As someone who grew up in the Bible Belt the idea of the rational and reasonable conservative as default kinda baffles me. People are emboldened when they know that their beliefs/values are the status quo. They're not used to being challenged or debated and immediately take it as a personal attack when it does happen. Growing up I found liberal people to be more reasonable and level-headed than conservatives. And then moved to a mega liberal town for undergrad and came away with a very different…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 02:54 AM
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Yeahh second ex
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 02:41 AM
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Oh yeah you sound exactly like her. I appreciate this insight into her brain because she throws the rest of us for a loop much of the time. My family: You know S (my sister) we kinda need to talk about the guys and everything because you're kinda hurting them and us more than is necessary when you prematurely bring them around and then cut them off. We think you could've handled things with E (the ex) better. Her: Lol why don't you marry him then?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:38 AM
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I rarely leave two comments on one post but I did feel like this particular point was worth addressing separately rather than piggybacking on an existing comment. "why would we meet your family if we weren't going to be together forever?" I had the sister who was always introducing and getting us attached to the dudes she was dating only to announce that she dumped him and we were never going to see him again. There was one she dumped after years who was basically fully integrated into our famil…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:12 AM
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Do you think my experiences are too anecdotal to attach some gendered notions and tendencies to? Yes. I primarily dated in Christian circles where the men have very different attitudes toward dating than yours. In fact my SO always knew he wanted his first romantic partner to go on to be his wife and that is also the case for most of the men in his circles. His oldest, closest friends met in high school and married each other. It's basically understood here that from the point you can't see your…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:49 AM
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The financial, educational and probably IQ disparity with a man earning two….three.. four times as much never really comes up in discussion. Are you not aware of the controversy/debates over trad wife content? It literally centers around the power dynamic that exists when a woman sacrifices education and work experience to rely on her wealthier partner to care for her and her kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 05:33 AM
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My poor SO, he gets to sleep with zero other women
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 02:51 AM
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Now PPD thinks there's a shortage of actual male virgins in 2026? What a plot twist
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:05 PM
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Sure having sex out of wedlock is normal these days. I always wanted to marry a virgin though and wanted to be a virgin at marriage so the idea of unmarried non-virgins being sorted into "low" vs. "high" has always been funny to me. You've all had sex. What difference does it make.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:07 PM
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Once you've had sex you're not a virgin. I don't care who the sex happened with
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:01 PM
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For a single guy who's never been married, anything above 0
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 03:52 PM
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Have you had any serious relationships besides this one?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 09:12 AM
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I should've guessed lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:22 PM
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There are so many things that word could mean I'm gonna need you to clarify CC dear 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:15 PM
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This is how I was raised. You have a duty to your flesh and blood regardless of how stupid and worthless they are. That includes not only your children but your siblings, parents, nieces, nephews, etc. You don't choose them. You do choose your partner. With the amount of hell that your non-chosen relations can bring into your life ffs your partner better make your life happier and have shit to bring to the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:11 PM
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My personal opinion is that those sorts of matters wouldn't invalidate a marriage. But I do think that not being honest in those situations does reveal a tendency toward conflict avoidance that can lead to bigger problems. I come from a blunt family. If my parents didn't like each other's cooking or clothing choices they'd just say that. Granted they were always constructive and wouldn't just say "I don't like it." Certain colors don't work well with everyone's skin tone. The food might be too s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 07:10 PM
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Being lied to affects your ability to consent to marriage according to my faith so you'd be opening yourself up to an invalid marriage/annulment by lying to your partner
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 05:05 PM
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Breaking the rules will always work for somebody. That's a fact of life. There's an NFL player whose wife won him over by making him jealous/fucking his backup QB in college. So many men were appalled and calling her all kinds of names when she told that story but her millionaire athlete husband still seems very happy with her, so.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:05 AM
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Absolutely. My taste in music was completely different from my family's and I didn't really have friends who shared my taste in music either until my second year of high school. Had zero interest in going back to the dark ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 11:02 PM
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I'm not sure you're replying to the right person here. I straight-up acknowledged that it can work and did in the case of my fiancé. I am pointing out that based on our experiences even if men who struggle get a chance that doesn't guarantee smooth sailing for the rest of his life in dating as OP suggests. Just as there are serial daters who can never seem to get their shit together after countless relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:51 PM
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I genuinely feel like society and youth culture are evolving so rapidly at this point sometimes I can't even relate to what somebody four years younger than me is saying or what they're dealing with in terms of dating. A perfect PPD where everyone relates to everyone is never going to exist. In fact experiences are going to become even more fragmented with time. I have a friend that age who has had at least three dudes she went on first dates with talk about their ex for prolonged periods. When …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:38 PM
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I think he once posted asking the women of this sub if we'd be willing to delete all of our social media accounts for a partner. I said I'd be willing to have that conversation provided he intends to do the same. He...never got back to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 07:02 PM
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I think it's especially acceptable when there are kids in the picture. Like it's one thing to fuck up when your fuckups are only affecting you and another when you're dragging innocents into a situation they didn't ask for. I know that some people do change for the worse after children but nothing raises my blood pressure like people basically admitting they had unprotected sex with an awful partner they were intending to leave (supposedly).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 06:10 PM
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I find that TRM ratings kinda break for the 18-20 range in general. I've seen guys that I and many girls would've considered hot shit around that age get rated barely above 5. The younger people I've seen get high rates looked older than their age to me. More like mid or even late 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:21 PM
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Let's hear what the person who literally wrote this post and presumably thought through their own argument before pushing the button has to say first
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:39 PM
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What does "trying harder" with a person who doesn't want to interact with you look like? It would help if you provided a concrete example.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:34 PM
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I say this as someone whose partner didn't have romantic experience until the age of 25. I'm his first and only. We have both known "if only I had a chance" guys who did not gain anything positive from it. In some cases they were at fault for bringing highly unrealistic expectations to the relationship and/or having zero idea of what it takes to be a good romantic partner (or lack of desire to do so). In others their lack of experience and desperation caused them to enter relationships with wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:32 PM
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So is it also stupid for men to have kids in the modern world or is it smart to have them out of wedlock?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 05:42 PM
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I know we all have our own definitions of what chastity means but if multiple dudes have wound up with blue balls from some activity you're doing with them I think there's some pot kettle shit here
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:36 AM
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The real answer is that sexual tension isn't rocket science and when it's really, truly there between two people you'll know it whether they're actually having sex. It's hella awkward when you see it between two people who are in relationships with other people even if they aren't acting on it out of respect for their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:53 PM
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Declining fertility rates are not solely driven by childless people. Even those who do have kids generally do not want to have very many these days. I don't know how many men you're going to find who want a whole baseball team either. My father broke my faith's tenets decades ago to have a vasectomy against the wishes of my mother. His choice was driven by anxiety about their financial situation. My mother was devastated for some time as she did want to keep the door open even if it wasn't finan…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:00 PM
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Not necessarily. It would all depend on how he treats/looks at her in the present. Doesn't matter if he always has and still thinks she's the most beautiful woman on earth if his actions don't back it up. Pride and Prejudice is considered by many to be one of the greatest romances of all time and the male lead was famously indifferent to the female lead's looks at first.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:33 PM
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Jack in the Box, Hardee's/Carl's Jr., A&W (the US ones, I've heard that they're actually popular and really good in Canada)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:03 AM
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They're pretty high up on my list of fast food places that must be money laundering schemes at this point
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:49 AM
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Thanks FD ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:46 AM
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You are very kind sir
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:45 AM
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Am I number one
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:18 AM
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One of my favorite examples is the time I listed my standards on a Q4W thread specifically asking us to and this one guy came at me because my list was "too long." Both I and other users pressed him to articulate which standards on the list he thought were unreasonable/should be compromised. He refused to identify any. He just kept parroting variations of "list too long therefore bad." My fiancé hits every mark on that list by the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 11:26 PM
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A while back I mentioned a woman I'd dated a few times sparsely.who asked me to help her move. I said no,I don't do heavy labor or big favors for people who aren't friends, family, or someone I'm with. If I'm not confusing you with another user that actually isn't what you said initially. You called helping a girl move boyfriend/husband treatment or something like that. Maybe you clarified somewhere in the comments that you'd help friends/family too but iirc that was where a lot of the pushback …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 06:17 PM
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Okay what is TRM'S official stance on makeup? I've seen girls clearly wearing makeup get high rates/no one bringing it up but for others it's the opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 04:48 AM
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Doesn't even need to be a preference lol, a short woman ending up with a taller guy period is enough to piss off certain people. "Just admit you prefer taller men!" Okay uh lemme just snap my 5'8–5'9 exes out of existence then... "Well they're exes so that just proves the point!" Okay uh lemme rearrange reality so that their heights had anything to do with why we broke up. I'd much prefer that over losing the first to my own feelings of not being good enough/worthy of him compared to his ex and …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:54 AM
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This is how it seems to work for most of the men I interact with on a regular basis: in-group vs. out-group. They want to see that you have a healthy respect and regard for men within the in-group. That includes men in your family, men in his family, the men in the broader community he trusts, admires, and personally gets along with. Outside of that, he does not care and may even outright prefer that you approach others with caution/suspicion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:25 AM
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Have never seen this issue come up among people who date seriously and intentionally. My fiancé demonstrated all the characteristics I would want in a husband and life partner while we were dating. In our world there is no other point of dating outside of determining your compatibility as potential husband and wife. Perhaps among people who date for "fun" or other reasons there is some dramatic switch-up in behavior and expectations once they transition to a serious relationship. Though that sou…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:15 AM
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Entirely depends on what one views as the desired outcome of each. I never dated just for the sake of dating. I was taught the goal of dating was finding my husband and life partner. Dating "skills" and relationship "skills" are all part of the same bucket in that context. For those in my circles if you date countless people with none of it resulting in marriage you're doing something wrong, there's something wrong with you, or both.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:50 AM
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Doesn't the Tiger King guy always manage to attract obviously straight dudes who want access to his money and lifestyle? For a lot of women it's that simple tbh, especially if we're talking about men who are geriatric or otherwise not attractive whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:25 AM
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According to the most recent data I have seen 90% of U.S. men between 22 and 34 claimed to have had sex at least once. Odds are most of those men aren't rich or just being used to make babies. While I don't want to throw out a random number just for the hell of it I think that the 5% you're guessing here is way too low.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:47 PM
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I'll be 28 when I get married and that's already pretty late within my social circle. I met my fiancé at 23 but he agreed to a longer courtship since I had just started postgrad when we met. I'm Catholic and never fully ruled out joining a convent until I met my fiancé. Though around high school I knew that my ideal would be to find the right man, marry, and have children. The convent would be my next choice. Marrying a man I felt lukewarm or uncertain about was never an option. I didn't really …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:17 PM
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I'm a BPer and I definitely don't agree with that lol. Some people can surprise you for sure but...ballparking is feasible in a lot of cases. I was all but certain my SO was a virgin immediately but he wasn't sure about me and didn't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 06:59 PM
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Hey I was single while participating here for like 4 years, I paid my dues
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:51 PM
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I'm from the South. At least in the area I live in people are friendly and talk to everyone but social networks are still the preferred route for serious relationships by far. My SO and I are the oddballs who met as completely unintroduced strangers in public. My family was pretty skeptical initially and I have not met a single other couple like us. Most of the young couples we encounter met through school or mutual friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:11 AM
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I have yet to meet a single older person irl who met the love of their lives by just walking up to a complete stranger on the street. My grandpa has said that he used to get hookups that way with the type of women he wouldn't marry in a 1000 years. My grandma's high school friends set them up. The fixation on approaching random people appears to at least in part come from the decay of meaningful social networks that enabled people to find romantic connections without hitting on complete stranger…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 04:30 AM
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I appreciate you clearing this up for whoever claimed otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 02:05 AM
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Thank you! Excited for this new chapter of life in all ways that it entails.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:38 PM
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You'll know I'm married when I'm able to weigh in on threads about sex finally
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 07:58 PM
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No. Not just RP either, I think that our culture in general sees certain men as gods walking earth who are just...human. And are capable of having flaws and disappointing you and being incompatible with you like any other human. I always find it so interesting when people, usually men, say things like "but if Chris Hemsworth came up to you and said that-" Look, I liked Thor. I thought he was cute. I don't know Chris Hemsworth. I probably wouldn't even be able to recognize him on the street in a …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 07:53 PM
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I'm in the marriage formation process for my very patriarchal religion and my fiancé and I were explicitly asked if we were intending to have a prenup. We're not so it wasn't an issue but my understanding is that you can be turned away over it. In that light I've always found it surprising that not wanting a prenup or thinking that it points to a lack of serious commitment between a couple is painted as a "woman" thing. It seems more like a traditional vs. progressive thing to me. Obviously in a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 06:46 PM
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That subreddit's plot is so lost I'm not even sure it started in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:19 AM
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So if Person A states their preference for X and Person B states their preference for Y then...either X or Y has to be a myth? I could write a whole list of the ways that my fiancé's preferences do not align with things I have heard from men irl or online. I do think people can be rather overconfident in asserting that their personal tastes are universal for their sex. But ime that's not even what's happening a good amount of the time. I've honestly answered Q4Ws on this sub where OP did not say…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:08 AM
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By "outside force" I'm referring to the sorts of theories you see online about the willow being linked to demons or witches or cults or whatever. I mean it is a horror movie and I don't blame people who assume going in that the wish will go wrong because of those sorts of nefarious elements at play. But the director was clearly going for something different than say Weapons where a witch definitely is the villain of the story.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 06:03 PM
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When discussing the idea of victims and curses in this movie it's important to note that the willow is not some kind of inherently malevolent force/entity. The director has straight-up said that it's not a monkey's paw. The movie literally shows Ian making a wish and...getting exactly what he wanted. He only died as a result of Bear's wish. The narrative heavily suggests that there is a defect inherent to Bear's wish that resulted in the movie's tragedies. There is no outside force conspiring to…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:50 PM
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The actress who plays Nikki said that they filmed some scenes as if Nikki likes Bear and others as if she doesn't. This is why people are coming to such vastly different conclusions about what Nikki felt. That is exactly what the director wanted because the movie would be more interesting that way. Link to some of the cast interviews on this: https://www.cinemablend.com/movies/could-bear-have-had-shot-with-nikki-obsession-fans-have-thoughts-after-cast-weighs-in) Both Bear and Nikki's actors thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 03:08 PM
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Two of you now huh? Today must be my lucky day
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:09 AM
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ChadChasing? She's just joking and teasing me as usual.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:00 AM
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Closest I can recall to a case where I did change is breaking out of my shyness/awkwardness in high school. My parents specifically nudged me towards a high school that was known for having the more extroverted and lively girls instead of my original choice where the girls are more serious and studious. They thought I was smart and would be a top student regardless, what I needed was charm, warmth, and people skills. Yes bringing them a good son-in-law one day in the event that I didn't join a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 03:57 AM
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It's hard out here dear CC. I believe that I am "suffering from success" in the words of a man known as DJ Khaled.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:39 AM
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I'm from the Bible Belt. Trust me plenty of young women are constantly told about "what men want" whether we ask or not. There's this idea that a woman's expectations of her future husband are shaped by how her father and brother(s) treat her and what they tolerate from her. My older brother and I were inseparable growing up. Plenty of people, especially men, had things to say about it. That my brother spoiled me too much, and no man would want to marry a spoiled woman who expects him to do ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:12 AM
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My fiancé will literally follow me around the kitchen unless I give him something to do so cooking together is basically the only option
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 10:54 PM
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That doesn't explain the phenomenon that OP is talking about, which is that people seem less critical of him this time. Unless you think people are more charitable/lenient when they're jealous. That would be a first to witness in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 05:32 PM
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I don't believe in state execution period even for cases up to and including murder
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:24 AM
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"But will someone think about the rights of people who willfully ruin their spouses and children's lives!?" Yeah I'm good
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 08:57 PM
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They are, bro found his meal ticket and now goes out in public in hipster/hobo mode more than he used to because what does he have to prove at this point
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 08:37 PM
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Whatever yall want short of death penalty, I don't give a fuck Stupid games stupid prizes and all that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:44 PM
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Yeah. My ex used to flex constantly. Apparently dudes with body image issues can fall into that habit. I thought it made sense at the time that he felt like a rock because I didn't really get how it worked. I think it might've been you who explained to me that it wasn't normal. Would've been ages ago though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:25 PM
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The stereotypical raunchy bachelor/bachelorette parties aren't really a thing in my circles. Who runs to Reddit to complain about how wholesome and non-sexual their bride-to-be's bachelorette was?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:43 AM
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Thanks to personal experience I am eternally going to associate right with body dysmorphia and mommy issues
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:17 AM
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I am a very cautious person precisely because I'm not expecting random strangers to do shit for me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:44 PM
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This man has a pattern at this point where he pops up with some random young woman who gets a spike in attention/internet searches and then is never seen with her again. People were still posting about the last Super Bowl girl with the same photos from February and claiming they were a thing right up until the Ice Spice photos came out. I think people are so confused about what the fuck is going on with this man's personal life or if any of it is even real/not manufactured PR shenanigans they're…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:31 PM
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To be clear I dated in a very specific cultural/socioeconomic context where men's expectations may be higher than whatever the norm is for wherever you all come from. My fiancé knew he couldn't bring just any girl home. There were understood expectations like being a church-going Christian who was brought up attending private Christian schools, college education, some degree of career aspirations (no just showing and wanting to be a spoiled housewife doesn't fly in this circle), sweet and well-m…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:20 PM
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Princess Mononoke
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 07:41 PM
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Yeah one of the hardest adjustments when I started living alone. A homemade dish soap/water spray and glue traps were my saving graces. Yes dish soap with water of all things has been capable of killing every bug I've encountered in my apartment that wasn't caught in a trap.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 07:14 PM
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These kinds of men don't even have the decency to avoid, they're open to and may even actively seek relationships with successful women but will check her/put her in her place at every opportunity. If a successful woman is getting no attention from men it's most likely that her looks, personality, or both are repelling them, not her success.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 02:15 AM
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Everyone has their own anecdata for why they believe what they believe. I can talk about 20+ anecdata that contradict your friend's unfortunate case. I know exactly one case that comes close to it and the woman in question has a history of erratic/unsound behaviors of which dumping "Mr. Perfect" for someone far worse is just one. Like this person has also thrown herself out of a moving vehicle. But she's pretty and fun and makes men feel like they're in heaven when she's not doing that shit so t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 04:44 PM
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Party like it's 1999 dear CC!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 11:48 PM
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Disney has a new anime-ish show called Dragon Striker that's surprisingly good. I've seen some people comparing it to The Last Airbender. I started watching it out of curiosity with my fiancé one evening and we started binging it. Long story short, kids use magical powers to play soccer at magic school. The source of the magical soccer power differs from student to student. It can be an emotion like fear or anger. The male lead is very obviously inspired by typical energetic and happy anime prot…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 03:11 AM
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Can't speak for them. I already detest cheaters and having the nerve to knock up/get knocked up while cheating on your partner is just a whole other level of something that would be unforgivable to me personally. And I'm Christian, we're supposed to forgive and show mercy. Adultery is definitely one of my weak points and where I am most understanding of others who cannot fully forgive, or struggle with it deeply. I was just recently talking to a woman who knows a woman who treats her husband's d…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 09:52 PM
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I was single for about four years of my time on this sub, and then met my fiancé. I was very open about my preferences in a partner, including wanting him to be a virgin. There were two different camps among men here who felt strongly about my relationship. There were those who very happy and supportive and I think glad to see a woman hyping up a romantically inexperienced 25yo so much. And those who weren't so enthusiastic because either they were apparently romantically interested in me themse…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 05:19 PM
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2, especially with big hands and a nice ass
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:20 PM
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My go-to stress test in conversations about paternity testing: Let's say your childhood friend or brother comes to you, says his child looks suspiciously similar to you, and asks you to take a paternity test to confirm you didn't fuck his wife. You doing it? Will this not affect your friendship whatsoever? Do you think it would not affect the average man's friendship whatsoever if he were to ask something like this? Let's be clear. Your answer could very well be "yes I would definitely do this f…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:20 PM
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It makes way more sense that this movie was about women falling for guys that they know they shouldn't logically fall for. The guy who they know is a loser, who's bad for them, who they understand is objectively not attractive, the guy is short or whatever, he's a bad boy thats just using her for sex, etc. Maybe he's an _cel who got redpilled, learned game, and seduced her that way. She logically knows she shouldn't, on the inside she's screaming NOOOO, but she can't help it, she is OBSESSED. Di…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 05:59 AM
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To me these sorts of conversations live and die by examples. My dad is a textbook example of how being a blunt person does not necessarily translate to being good at sharing one's feelings. He's blunt about what he knows to be true. For example, if someone is straight-up lying, he will call them on it without hesitation. If someone is spreading misinformation, he'll correct them. Does that have anything to do with his ability to share what he's feeling after the death of a close relative? No. He…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:13 PM
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I came here as a naive and idealistic 19yo and a handful of users grew on me over time. Emphasis on handful. The rest of you are...here, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:56 AM
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Okay I'm about to ask the only man whose opinion on this topic I give a shit about if he believes I love him. Will report back after the break. Okay he has weighed in. He believes that I love him. The rest of you are free to go out into the world and decide for yourselves based on whatever silly anecdata you want to use.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:38 AM
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I live in a very conservative part of the U.S., engaged and approaching my late 20s. Many of the young women I associate with are married and have had at least one pregnancy at this point, if not multiple. Lots of healthy babies, but I also know of multiple miscarriages and at least one still birth. One baby still in NICU I belive. Being so close to such a range of experiences with pregnancy and childbirth have left me...not completely turned off, but definitely sobered to the realities of it. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 07:07 PM
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I'm loving the diversity of these responses
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:42 PM
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Men on the internet seem weirdly concerned that women who wear makeup are going to look like hideous beasts without it. Why would that concern exist if they find most women cute?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 02:30 PM
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This situation sounds more like what I call the "proximity bonding" problem. When you get along well with a classmate, coworker, etc. you're basically forced to interact with you can kind of get the illusion that you're closer/more compatible than you actually are and know them better than you actually do. As soon as the class is over, or you stop working together, or whatever, you quickly realize you have nothing in common and nothing interesting to talk about. I've never had that issue in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 04:28 AM
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Can't catch a break huh sweetheart 🥲 Please stay hydrated and get plenty of rest!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 01:47 AM
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Lol sounds like a very eventful summer so far. I'm glad everyone is well and your husband will be living his best life on the green! Didn't know you were back in TN. My family went there for vacation a few times when I was growing up. I remember Nashville, Memphis, Chattanooga, Gatlinburg, Sevierville, and Pigeon Forge.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 09:51 PM
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I've been good! Life is busy with work and school and wedding planning but I'm hanging in there! How about you and your family?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 03:29 PM
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NJFlowerchild sighting ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 03:16 PM
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Congratulations Sarai ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 05:15 AM
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My parents are the same way. My mom used to have guy friends (or thought so) and my dad told her that they all obviously wanted to sleep with her and that wasn't gonna fly. My mom thought he was being unreasonable but when word got around that she was getting married they all disappeared or tried to shoot their shot then disappeared. Her ex's older called days before the wedding. Mind you she dated his little brother on and off for years starting in high school and was treated like part of the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:54 AM
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It would be very helpful to give specific examples of boundaries that you believe are healthy to compromise for a partner and ones that aren't. The broad categories with no concrete examples aren't really helping to get your point across. "No sex before marriage" was a hard boundary for me for example and I made it known upfront while dating that I wasn't compromising it no matter what. One of my exes thought he could wear me down. It didn't work, resulting in the fight that ended in us breaking…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 12:37 AM
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To me no, my SO was 25 when I taught him how to kiss. I had also only dated two men myself at that point and grew up in a very religious circle in the South. The answer can vary a lot depending on your beliefs and values.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:47 PM
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How big you ask? <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:05 PM
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Yeah pretty much all of my friends are engaged or married so can't relate there
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 01:39 PM
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Yeah what are they doing, they should be swiping right on everything and then unmatch who they don't like after the fact like civilized people
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:49 PM
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Thank you! He is the light of my life and the greatest blessing I've ever had
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:30 PM
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And I hope his name is Mr. Ange and he's the sexiest man alive and he has the most amazing eyes I get lost in and big ass hands and shares my sense of humor and can practically read my mind and I randomly get embarrassed when I realize he's caught me staring again and teaches himself how to wink properly just to have one more tool in his arsenal because I wasn't already crazy about him enough apparently and treats me like an angel that fell from heaven which is kind of ironic because isn't he th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:27 PM
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Haha yeah, before n count threads got banned and there were posts about it constantly I did talk about our case quite a lot. Fun times. He is now my fiancé. Funnily enough I don't really care for the Hunger Games that much. Ever since the mods started requiring your gender and pill to be in your flair to comment on certain posts I've formatted it like a random movie title. When I get bored I just pick a new movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:10 PM
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As someone who actually wanted to date virgins and is a virgin I can tell you that at least for me they're not difficult to spot. Every now and then you'll get a surprise but...for the most part no. Am I bitter?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 11:56 AM
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The image of men endlessly cycling through women, refusing to settle down, describes a very tiny minority of highly desired men on the apps, not the average guy. I mean there is actual data indicating that the majority of men on dating apps reported they were not using them to look for serious relationships. Granted the majority of women on them reported the same, but the number of men looking for purely casual sexual encounters does significantly outnumber the women who are interested in that. …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 11:27 AM
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Damseling. You've only known this girl for like 48 hours and she's already told you everything that's wrong with her life, what went wrong with her childhood, etc. etc. This shit is like crack for certain dudes, especially if she's pretty. You're probably one of like 7 different dudes she's done the pretty broken bird routine with this week and you all think you have a shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 03:44 AM
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Okay this is how it would work in my family. Do the 18yo and 19yo have money? Are they paying their way and taking care of their own lodging? She can go pantless with a thong up her ass if they got money for this trip and can work out accommodations. The second you're looking for help or a straight-up free trip you gotta compromise and play by the rules. Or stay right at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 10:16 PM
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Used to, when my dreams were weird enough to realize I was dreaming. Now they're about missing deadlines and realistic shit that I can never identify as a dream until I wake up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 08:16 AM
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You might enjoy Legend of the Galactic Heroes, an anime where people seemingly sit around debating this problem for like half the show
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:41 AM
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On the bright side it's more like 50% for me assuming we're talking guys roughly in their 20s and 30s. The downside is that knowing this information might make men I've rejected feel even worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 10:23 PM
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Oh here we go. I have a sister with some psychiatric thing going on. She will never seek treatment so we'll never know for sure what it is. Depending on the day she thinks we all hate her and have zero sympathy for what she experiences too. Some of us had to start grey rocking even though we very much care about her and want to see her get better. We were setting ourselves on fire to keep her warm and decided enough was enough. That might be the point your sister is at with you tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 06:05 PM
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It's a little complicated because they "first met" twice. My dad was a first responder to pay for college and he met my mom while on the clock. My mom did not have a great initial impression of him because he was very short and blunt with her, as he was with pretty much anyone he interacted with through his job. My dad did think she was very attractive though. Turned out that my mom went to the same college as some of his friends and she was on good terms with them. She ran into them when they w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:00 PM
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Whoa wait a sec, I can readily acknowledge that morals are not the end-all be-all of romantic success but the other points you make in this post are rather questionable to put it nicely. As in do you seriously not believe in the concept of romantic compatibility and see it as a "platitude"? As someone who grew up in a loving and stable two-parent household I sure don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 08:23 PM
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It's basically a nice way to say "you look desperate and crazy and you're scaring men away." It kinda came from what strikes me as a somewhat bygone era where a woman being single after a certain age was still heavily stigmatized and so you had more women losing out by doing too much. My mom had this one single female coworker who was so desperate to get married it was making her neurotic and exhausting to deal with and men weren't really giving her the time of day. She did get married eventuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 07:19 PM
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All the time, I'm generically nice and bubbly irl and that leads a lot of people to think that we're closer than I was aware of. When one of my now best friends started inviting me to a bunch of random outings I was thinking to myself "Oh you wanna be friends friends, I thought we were just like two people who are capable of having at least halfway entertaining conversations when we run into each other."
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 06:02 PM
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I do not. Would you recommend it?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 04:07 PM
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I should've included an /s
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 04:05 PM
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I bet Girl Dinner Diaries is your favorite subreddit
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:12 AM
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The only dating advice I've ever mostly trusted came from relatives who had been happily married for decades. And even then I didn't always just mindlessly do what they told me, if it made sense to ignore something they said and try something else in a specific context I would do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 09:27 AM
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100% who he is and 100% what he does for me. For example, my SO and I are both physically affectionate people. That manifests in us being physically affectionate towards each other. Physical affection is something we both deeply desire to give and receive and feels fundamental to who we are. So how do you neatly separate the two? Is "what they do for me" just stuff your partner doesn’t like doing and is contrary to who they are as a person? I'm not interested in having a hostage so 0% for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 09:23 AM
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Yeah that's a risk you opt into when you open up about deeply personal struggles with strangers on the internet. If it's negatively affecting you, do it less. Have you seen what happens when anyone admits they have trouble losing weight on this site? All I can do is cringe because I already know this person is about to get flamed to hell and back.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 09:06 AM
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Minor correction: I think the insinuation here is that those were actually already rules but the mods are going to be enforcing them more strictly Yeahhh I don't think it makes any sense to not allow comments about looks tbh, as long as the comment is trying to give constructive feedback and isn't just straight-up "you ugly" or something. Just ban profile feedback posts entirely at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:43 AM
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I think Hinge just recently changed their rules. Iirc one is that you can't give feedback on OP's looks unless they specifically ask and another is that you can't ask about their sexual orientation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:30 AM
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Ever since I started seeing my SO I've become far more anxious when flying. It makes no sense. I flew several times a year as an undergrad since I went to college out of state. Multiple long international flights. Never had these issues before. I participate in online spaces for people who struggle with flight anxiety. Lots of men in those spaces too. Something many of us have in common is that we weren't always anxious about flying. Major life changes like getting married or becoming a parent, …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 08:04 PM
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Yeah I don't think either of them would've guessed it would literally work on his first try lol, it was supposed to be more of a "build up gradually" thing. He was on his own.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 03:46 AM
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Getting over his fear of talking to strangers in public, particularly women. The people in our area are mostly friendly and chatty by default. He wouldn't be out of place at all and he'd increase his chances of meeting someone. They went to a ring by spring college together and she didn't think he'd get anywhere by limiting his social interactions to the same girls who were all taken and didn't have any single friends by that point. He met me on his very first attempt.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 12:24 AM
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The imaginary scenarios you give in these posts always come off as passive aggressive/insincere, so I'm going to try to give a better example of how to navigate these situations in the form of my SO. One day after a student organization meeting I was talking to this guy who joined recently. He asked me if I was gonna eat dinner, I said yes. He asked where I was going to eat dinner. I said [insert fast food place on campus here]. He said that sounded good and he'd probably head there too. I said …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 07:10 PM
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Looking at the advice given on dating app subs and the number of people who apparently think it's a good idea to ask the strangers on the internet what's wrong with their profile I don't think the problem is just "men asking women." Lots of people give terrible advice period for a plethora of reasons and you shouldn't trust just any random person's advice regardless of what's between their legs. I've noticed a trend with especially dudes telling OP he shouldn't change XYZ thing about himself bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:05 PM
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Curious how you think a sub like TRM would play into this. I've lurked there enough at this point that I have a pretty good idea of roughly how any given user will be rated before I even scroll to comments. Less than 5, yeah for sure those are consistently the kinds of guys I would not at all be attracted to. Once you get past 5 it's more of a toss-up for me personally. Like there are times I know a guy is probably gonna be around a 5.1 something according to the TRM rubric but more physically a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 06:50 PM
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Yes and it can be very much to their detriment. I know women who wanted to make it work so badly with middle, high school, or college sweethearts due to everything they had gone through together they refused to accept clear signs that the relationship had run its course. On the positive side I also know women who are still thriving in relationships/marriages with sweethearts that are probably all the stronger because of the history they share. It kind of ends up being luck of the draw in these s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:50 PM
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Not a mind reader. For all I know she could be one of five 24yo women on this planet interested in banging a dude three years younger than her. Another read is that she's a right wing media personality and it benefits her career to try to smooth over beef with a streamer who for better or worse speaks to a young male audience the right wing wants to attract. Her former Daily Wire employee husband understands the game, hence not throwing her out on the street despite being reportedly worth millio…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 12:07 AM
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I mean you seriously haven't looked at any of that guy's videos and suspected there was acting involved? I mean the girls are arguable, the dudes in the weird softcore cuck scenarios phone it in so poorly that's where I call bullshit for sure. "Wow? My girlfriend made out with you? Thank you for letting me know Clavicular! You're so cool!" Come on now the Betty Crocker Bake N Fill commercials sounded more natural than this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:36 PM
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Irl I have met plenty of dudes who have been weirded out/uncomfortable at some point in their lives over finding out a girl they're very much not attracted to liked them or even aggressively pursued them. They don't need some kind of analogy in the first place, they get it. The internet on the other hand, particularly sites like Reddit, are filled with dudes who are so starved for female attention they'd be happy with literally anything (in theory anyway) and project that onto women. Hence the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 10:19 PM
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For reference I went to an all-girl high school. Some groups were like that, yes. Others weren't. There was a "like that" group with one morbidly obese girl with asthma (not common at the school) whose family would throw around a lot of money to take her friends on vacations and stuff. They somehow never guessed that this could attract a bunch of girls who just wanted free vacations and didn't actually like her/talked shit behind her back. One started dating her lifelong crush behind her back. B…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:56 AM
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No. Even bugs that can't kill you can still be extremely annoying. That is how unwanted attention from men feels when they aren't coming off as overtly dangerous/threatening. I think that women just naturally very disgusted by men and very hostile to them, not because of safety issues. What if she's perfectly chill with men who aren't making unwanted advances? I think regular straight woman will be very positive about lesbian hit on her, even if it very creepy. Sure, in porn specifically targete…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:49 AM
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For the record the user you're speaking to told me a random man offering me money for sex in public while I was studying abroad was a totally fine thing to do and he'd be totally chill if a male neighbor knocked on his door and offered to pay him for a blow job
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 10:35 PM
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On the taller side, popular homecoming king type at the college they went to. Like 6'3-6'4 iirc? To answer your other comment I'm 5'3 and my fiancé is 6'2. Yes we live in the South.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 05:59 AM
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One of my sister's exes had a nice, loyal but not as attractive or exciting girl who was crazy in love with him and would take him back whenever my sister dumped him again. He finally married the backup girl once he came to terms with the fact that my sister had completely moved on. Seeing him and his wife look like a happy couple on social media is kinda awkward when he once told my sister that he'd leave any day if my sister wanted him back. Luckily (?) for his wife that will never happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 11:37 PM
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I want to build our sex lives from the ground up together. I never saw the appeal in having a more experienced partner "guiding" you through sex. So many people basically take for granted that it's how things should go, especially for an inexperienced woman. Not me. I always wanted to be on the same level as my spouse, taking our time and learning as one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:32 AM
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That is correct. I grew up around a mixed bag of Catholics ranging from devout to cafeteria with relationship/sexual histories all over the spectrum. One of the sisters in the order that ran my high school had such a crazy past her friends and family placed bets on how many days she's last in the order. I don't look down on people with more extensive sexual histories than mine. But to choose the one man to spend my life with and lose my virginity with I always knew that I wanted him to be a virg…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:11 AM
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My SO grew up adjacent to a borderline fundie purity culture, became disillusioned with said purity culture, and decided a woman's past doesn't matter as long as he loves who she is in the present. He was the first guy I dated who didn't try to bring up my sexual history in some way. I actually appreciated that a lot despite being a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:00 PM
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Nothing. Not everyone needs romance to function and have a happy life. Leave it to those who don't need to ask questions like this on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 10:04 PM
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If she were trying to make a man like my fiancé something that he's not, yes. She didn't. She dated until she found a man whose personality she was attracted to. Didn't take long, as she married and then had children by her early 20s. My dad hates talking about emotions and feelings to the point where he never would have been compatible or happy with a woman who expected that of him. By all accounts from his own family he's always been like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 04:17 PM
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My mom dngaf about "emotional honesty and vulnerability" in a romantic relationship and married one of the most stoic men on the planet. While they have a very loving decades long marriage my needs were completely opposite of hers and I know I wouldn't be happy in that sort of marriage. My fiancé expressed early on in our relationship that he wanted to marry a woman he could be emotionally open and vulnerable with. That was a major green flag for me but would have absolutely turned off a woman l…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:36 PM
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A relative of mine committed suicide while in a toxic on-and-off relationship in his late teens with a woman in her 30s so you won't see any arguments from me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:40 AM
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I've been on this site and seeing this kind of discourse since I was 19. I'll be honest. The "but what if your rights get taken away because people are concerned that you could be manipulated by an older partner" never impressed me. It reeked of that classic tactic where someone tries to get you on their side by convincing you that your interests are aligned when they actually aren't. Are you satisfied with the legislation as it is, or would you legally restrict the partners of people 18+ if you…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:40 AM
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Rhetoric and societal perception like that leads to losses of liberty. Trends across time and cultures basically indicate the opposite. As women gain rights and liberties the average age gap decreases, and large gaps are increasingly stigmatized. To this day we still see that societies where women have fewer rights/lower standing than men have larger average age gaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 03:27 AM
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When I studied in Japan I had more men trying to buy me food and drink than I ever have in the U.S. I think at times people confuse treatment of foreigners who automatically bring an element of excitement/novelty by simple virtue of being a foreigner for better treatment of your sex as a whole in that country. Or that the person will necessarily still treat you the same way once the excitement/novelty wears off. I know a dude who was getting along great with a woman abroad up until she learned h…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 04:26 PM
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Nobody said anything about artistic merit so I don't know what conversation you think you just jumped into
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:28 PM
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Yes. He is very much autistic and told his autistic GF that her looks weren't important to him when he confessed to her and she was like "yeah that makes sense." Afaik they're still happily in a relationship to this day. That said some of the pickiest dudes I've ever met in terms of looks were also autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 01:32 AM
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MAGA can actually be a great example of the pitfalls of ascribing social media opinions to real life depending on what "real life" looks like for any given person and what social media platform you're talking about. I'm from the Bible Belt. Needless to say MAGA voters as well as the types who would vote for literally any Republican no matter what are extremely common here. It was mostly online that I saw rampant denial that Trump could ever win probably mostly coming from people who live in deep…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 05:27 AM
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We kind of need to start by nailing down what a "good personality" even is. My understanding of the term has always been distinct from good character or good morals. In fact an immoral person with a good personality is arguably one of the trickiest and potentially dangerous sorts of people to deal with, because many people fall in love with the good/fun parts of them so hard they wind up deep in denial when it comes to the negatives. I kind of grew up with it under my own roof in the form of my …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 02:55 AM
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No, I can believe that. Just as there have been massive trending online hate trains directed at media that then proceeded to be widely popular and well-regarded in the mainstream. Again, this is the kind of shit that makes people skeptical of whether social media trends accurately approximate your average person's opinions and beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 06:44 PM
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For TikTok at least it is widely known at this point that the site's algorithm is highly efficient at sorting people into bubbles. Opening my TikTok for the first time in ages here are the first 10 videos on my FYP. Katesye Witch Hat Atelier cosplay Celebrities reacting to Sam Smith Bridesmaids saying their favorite thing about the bride Stray Kids Silly Mario cosplay 2yo girl running up and singing with a street musician E-girl taking a blind box out of her workplace fridge "I'm too American fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 05:37 PM
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Can you explain why media including movies and songs that are widely trashed on certain social media sites still manage to become popular and make a shit ton of money? Redditors being bad at predicting box office has become a meme at this point because key target audiences are simply not represented here. For the Margot Robbie Wuthering Heights movie for example people looking for a faithful adaptation of the books were seemingly very overrepresented on Reddit, and they wanted this movie to fail…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 05:15 PM
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The article is kind of weird, at first it seems to imply that only engaged or married people are invited period but later on it seems like the rule just applies to whether or not you get a plus one. Honestly if the latter is what's going on I get it. There are going to be lots of pro athletes at this wedding, favorite influencer groupie of the week can stay at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 03:33 AM
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Have you had this specific experience with a specific individual? I can't say that I have. In fact I can't recall the last time I've heard someone talk about objectification irl outside of a classroom context.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:42 PM
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We'll see if OP gets around to speaking for himself eventually. when the man is humanized, women get the ick and no longer experience attraction If this is what he means, my response to him would be this. Humans exist all over the spectrum in terms of flaws and faults. Everyone has them to an extent, but we don't all necessarily have the some ones and the specific flaws that any given person can tolerate or don't even see as a flaw at all might not be acceptable to someone else. That has nothing…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:38 PM
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Is the underlying premise here supposed to be that a woman not being attracted to a man is the same as not seeing him as a human being or was that unintentional
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 10:36 PM
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You're welcome
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 02:30 AM
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The context you were raised in matters a lot and unfortunately teaching grown adults this shit is 9 times out of 10 a waste of time. I grew up among relatively sheltered Christians. Most of us were "good" kids in a generic baseline sense. There was still a clear pecking order based on the people who were most fun to be around, connected to the right people, the most charming, the funniest, etc. If you were the quiet, boring, or weird you wouldn't be bullied outright but you wouldn't be anyone's …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 10:38 PM
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I know this is going to sound like crazy talk to some of you depending on what culture/environment you grew up in. I'm a 27yo cradle Catholic from the Bible Belt. I had two relationships prior to my fiancé. One as a junior in high school. One as a freshman in college. That's actually on the higher side relative to most of the women in my social circle. Most common is being engaged/married to your second partner. If anything happens to my fiancé I'll never marry/won't remarry. Abundance? An abund…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:53 AM
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Yes. My SO and I are both virgins. Though funnily enough I'm the one who wanted to marry a virgin and he was okay with whatever past I might have.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 09:43 PM
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Imo it's controlling behavior when you're essentially bluffing. These are people who have zero intention to actually leave but act as if they would to get their way over issues that are annoying/inconvenient but not actually dealbreakers. Expect all hell to break loose if the target of the ultimatum calmly agrees that they're not compatible and starts packing their bags. Because people who use ultimatums that way don't actually want to break up, they want control. The other party backing away of…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 03:30 AM
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I've talked to fiancé at length about this. He was basically in a similar situation until the age of 25. He had lots of great platonic/familial relationships with women who for the most part dated good men, and most of his male friends, who are very wholesome and upstanding people, had paired off as well. So he didn't really latch onto ideas that good men are never chosen, or that his lack of romantic success was caused by women choosing the wrong men. To me that's a major part of what would dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:09 AM
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Can we start by having you define what you think 80/20 means? If we're gonna discuss hard data instead of vibes or broad ideas it's important to clearly define what you think those numbers represent in order to assess whether the data supports it. I've seen it used to mean anything from 80% of men are settled for if not ignored entirely to 80% of men literally get nothing, no matches, no messages, nada on dating apps because all of it goes to some favored 20%.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 08:03 PM
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Honestly if this dude basically renamed his HR department for a PR stunt congrats because it worked <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 05:10 PM
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Isn't this the company that's implementing some BS that's basically just HR with a different name? Like "People Operations" or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 05:05 PM
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The ending itself is okay imo. The problem is that it doesn't feel as satisfying as it should be because the writing in seasons 4-5 is so weak overall. A lot of people say the show only needed to be three seasons and I wholeheartedly agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 06:49 PM
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Lol I feel you
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 05:02 PM
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Okay I encountered a small skirmish in the wild on Reddit about whether the main character Bear in the movie Obsession is attractive I'd say yes but there's a dude in the thread saying Bro has a worse jawline than me. And that's saying something. Would love to meet the people that think he's handsome. Lmao Okay PPD, weigh in. The movie has very artsy lighting ngl so it's kinda hard to find well-lit photos. So feel free to Google and make up your mind based on whatever pictures or trailers you wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 04:28 PM
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For me it was freshman year in high school. I had a massive crush on one of my two male teachers. Basically every guy I've fallen for since including my fiancé has physical traits and interests in common with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:10 PM
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My friend got this within hours of downloading Hinge again and she's on the verge of deleting it again already <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:45 AM
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It varies a lot for me. Some months there are a ton of new restaurants or attractions I want to go to and others I just want to stay in at one of our places and play games or watch movies or binge shows with him for several weekends in a row, maybe order in pizza or sushi. There might be months where I want to dress up and be cute and go out a lot and ones where I just want to dress down and not worry about any of that. They're all wonderful dates in my book, just different kinds. One longer tri…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 04:57 AM
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My fiancé didn't come from a friend group. He was a stranger who started chatting with me at a bookstore. Like I said, if my perception of attractiveness is that delusional then I have to be extremely lucky. I find about half of random 20-something men I encounter while out and about attractive btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 01:07 AM
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Hey I met my fiancé at 23, either I'm an extremely lucky delusional person or what's average where you live is not the same as average where I live. Like the dude you're calling average would literally stand out like a sore thumb here and have people wondering what backwater he came from.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 12:26 AM
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This looks like the photo scammers would use to catfish somebody's grandma out of her retirement
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 12:11 AM
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Hit my image generation limit, otherwise that would've been my next prompt lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 11:31 PM
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I must live in the land of giga chads then
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 09:51 PM
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I asked for a guy between the two and got this. Definitely closer to average than the first dude imo but still pretty good-looking. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 09:40 PM
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Are we talking blocky/chunky heels or like stilletos? I used to think I couldn't walk in high heels until I realized that I'm fine as long as the heel is thick enough regardless of the height. I'm never going to be able to walk in stilettos and I'm okay with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 09:27 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 09:20 PM
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I asked ChatGPT and this is what I got for average. Am I too generous or is this an above average dude? I also prompted it to generate a less attractive dude than this one. I would consider the second guy below average (will reply to my comment with that). <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 09:19 PM
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Trust me they haven't forgotten but they hope you have
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 02:36 PM
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This isn't an interview so I see no obligation to wait to be asked. I do find that dissonance fascinating. There are men who are so eager to insist that women can't find happiness without romantic attachments to men. I'm genuinely curious if they overlap at all with another kind I've noticed, which is those who are terrified of being forgotten and replaced by another man if their wife outlives them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 07:08 AM
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It is extremely uncommon in my family for widows/widowers to remarry. I've decided my fiancé is my one and done. If anything happens to him I'll do as the women in my family who lost their husbands before me did. Find happiness beyond love and romance. I assume the kinds men who think differently and consider women to be lying about their capability to be happy alone would be very eager for their widow to move on and find another man quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 06:31 AM
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Drop out after doing what?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 11:25 PM
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Way to clip a random quote out of context that completely changes the meaning of what I said. Seriously did you read anything after "before"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 04:33 PM
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As far as the older ones go my goat will always be Yu-Gi-Oh abridged
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 05:54 PM
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I love watching longrunning abridged series where the first episodes were basically just 5 minutes of brain rot and stupid pop culture references while the most recent episodes are 30 minutes long and just straight-up redubbing the original show with more jokes
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:53 PM
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Lowkey adding that to my date night bucket list
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:43 PM
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Ohh so that's what's happening here huh. I'm a charitable person so I'm going to link a helpful resource for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:57 PM
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My fiancé is going to be my first once we're married so...yes Edit: My apologies to whoever I offended by saying this
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:30 PM
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Dudes have literally been caught fetish posting on advice subs. Like ones with extensive histories on cuck fantasy subs suddenly needing strangers' detailed insights on his non-sober wife being hit on by two men in a hot tub who look like they want to tag team. I don't know what on earth they get out of this but it's definitely a thing unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:57 PM
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Don't worry, self-respect is a hell of a drug
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:44 PM
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Ime men dngaf what you've done before, if he really wants a specific sex act to the point where your enjoyment/comfort are irrelevant there's always gonna be a song and dance about why you owe it to him. Women who wait until marriage are literally prepped for the kinds of things we're gonna hear from men who do this. "If you really loved me blah blah blah" is one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 01:13 PM
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You're either intentionally dodging or forgetting the entire first paragraph. My focus here is on the flaws in the tired "muh vacation" analogy that has been attempted so many times here. At times it genuinely seems as if some of you view women as some separate species that only understands insecurity in terms of comparing vacations and fancy gifts. "Oh I get it now! I would feel like shit if my fiancé didn't take me to the fancy expensive resort he took his ex to. Therefore men who feel that wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:57 AM
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Something OP has in common with so many other men who have tried to argue this is treating the "vacation" analogy as some kind of slam dunk that magically appeals to women. Because everybody knows that women hate sex which is why they can't understand how men feel about this. But we all love luxury vacations even if the person who's with us would hate it and be miserable the whole time. I don't care what his reasons are, I would not try to guilt my fiancé into doing something for my pleasure kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 09:07 PM
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9 times out of 10 that's going to depend on your upbringing imo. My parents raised a proud goody two shoes. People who do what they have no business doing spot us from a mile away and don't talk to us period or hide whatever shenanigans they have going on. At most we'll just see the mugshot on the news and go "What? Johnny? No way."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 08:33 PM
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I appreciate you being consistent as an individual. You are one of a multitude of voices telling women online what we should or shouldn't do. Just as we have you here talking about how women need to take accountability and avoid becoming victims there are also all manner of men out there who expect to be given a chance despite whatever baggage they have in the name of "fairness" or "I couldn't control that." For example, my family always taught me to vet men through their relationships and inter…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 08:13 PM
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I made a comment about this just the other day that got deleted because OP dipped. I've been on this sub on and off since I was around 19. I will be turning 28 this year. I was single for my first couple years here. I am now engaged to a man who is the whole package and more. Did I get here by following the advice of men here on how to find good men and avoid bad men? No. I was constantly told I was asking for too much, if not straight-up looking for a man who doesn't exist. I've been told I was…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:44 PM
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Look, I do not intend to insinuate that there is always an ulterior motive. I'm sure there are men here who genuinely seek affirmation and validation and are capable of not expecting anything from a woman beyond that. I got burned though. Before I started seeing my fiancé I got along fairly well with one of the most prolific "woe is me, dating is hard, women don't like me" users on this sub at the time.That is until he DMed me about how much he loves black women and btw what do I think about ora…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 12:57 PM
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She has a great PR team because I'm getting whiplash from the way the internet switched up on that overnight
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 12:13 PM
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Note is for the benefit of people casually scrolling who are just going to look at the stated number and assume your average young person is going to an upscale restaurant for a first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 01:55 AM
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Important note: that particular study factors in costs like dinner, drinks, transportation, and "pre-date grooming." So basically anything associated with the date, not just the date activity itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:35 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 03:29 PM
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It was incredibly telling for me when someone on this sub asked us to list dealbreakers and I included behavior like yelling, calling me outside my name, destroying things out of anger, and slamming doors. I was clear that I was raised in a household where my parents did none of these things and taught us not to do them. I was expecting a more positive response for all the complaining you see on this sub about choosing bad men over good men. Instead I got dudes saying that those dealbreakers are…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 10:42 PM
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I enjoy talking about this sub with my SO every now and then. Tbh mostly just to laugh at the most unhinged/nonsensical shit I've encountered on any given day.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 08:19 PM
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A giant chunk of those comments could literally be just two people going back and forth for a long ass time, especially if it's a heated topic
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 08:17 PM
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Oh goodie. What specific programs did you write to them about that are going to solve male loneliness?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 07:35 PM
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Okay feel free to write to your representatives or take literally any concrete action to strive for these programs to be implemented
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 07:29 PM
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It would 100% depend on what those proposed programs are. Even with them, personal choice and accountability would have to be involved. Take college for example. A chunk of your tuition is literally dedicated to campus activities and free gym access. It's great that students have access to those things but no one can bust your door down and force you to come out and socialize or take care of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 07:25 PM
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And those programs have somehow eliminated the necessity of personal choice in weight loss?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 07:14 PM
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Isn't r4r a subreddit? A hot guy looking for women on Reddit should've been red flag number one
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 05:57 PM
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Okay, best of luck to OP and whoever feels similarly
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 04:16 PM
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Okay, best of luck with that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 04:11 PM
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Women, attractive men, and LGBT all receive a helping hand with getting intimate communications started. If society stopped holding one specific portion of people to absurdly high entry barriers for dating and was actually serious about the whole equality thing then the problem would not broadly exist. These are very broad and lofty claims to make without providing any concrete examples of what any of it is supposed to mean or what the actual solutions are supposed to be. Imagine if any other gr…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 10:31 AM
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So to be clear, you believe those specific people are screwed and there's nothing to be done about it. That standpoint does not contradict what I said, which is how else are things supposed to get better without personal effort? If a person for whatever reason is born incapable of taking the necessary actions to find a romantic partner then...do you have a proposal for what anyone else is supposed to do about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 09:35 AM
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There are literally men who ruin their lives, careers, marriages, etc. giving attention to random women online. Some vague sense of collective action to "fix the dating world" is not going to be what suddenly convinces them if very real, immediate, and dire consequences are not preventing them from commenting peach tongue emojis whenever they see a remotely attractive woman on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 08:50 AM
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Do you agree or disagree that for your average Joe there are life choices that can fuck with your ability to have a romantic relationship and life choices that make it significantly more likely that you will?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 08:17 AM
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There's never going to be a consensus and you all need to come to terms with that. We experience/witness different things. For example I'm Gen Z and my undergrad had a crazy hookup culture that revolved around the frats. Even average looking to unattractive frat dudes were hooking up with girls who would never be in LTRs with them or want to be seen with them outside of the frats period. Granted I've had men here concede that college hookup culture is simply different from everything that comes …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 07:39 AM
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You're like 8 years late for the serious PPD that actually had people discussing RP theory instead of debating whether all women are secretly lesbians
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 03:47 AM
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Yeah that's great. So can you explain, in realistic and concrete terms, how obesity and loneliness would be solved without effort on the part of the individual?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:15 AM
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You seem dissatisfied with my perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:01 AM
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Your point is fundamentally optimistic about the nature of people and their capacity for growth and change through knowledge even in the face of difficult truths like the necessity of delayed over immediate gratification. That's fine and dandy. I'm sure I was like that too at some point in life. I'm just so not there right now, at least not strongly. The perpetual "fuck up my life" machine is a powerful force in our world indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 12:55 AM
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Maybe I'm just hella jaded because we have relatives who have perpetually relied on handouts from others in our family win a six figure sum of money last year. In the right hands, I agree, that money could have been life-changing. These were not the right hands and they are almost fucking broke again. And it is not like no one offered to help them work on investments or financial literacy. They just weren't interested. On a basic level they cannot comprehend how money works and they do not want …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 12:10 AM
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...Literally how else is weight loss or being less lonely supposed to happen? No matter how you slice it those are both things that to some extent have to involve individual choice and commitment to change. All the resources in the world will not mean anything if the individual involved fucks it up. Even financial assistance works the same way, people squander that shit and proceed to go back to where they started all the time because the root of how they ended up broke in the first place was no…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 12:00 AM
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Iirc some of my sister's friends did ask her stuff like that so it wouldn't surprise me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 04:56 AM
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There are extremes to it in the Deep South, if a good-looking black dude here has other things going for him like being charismatic, "well spoken", playing a sport, etc. he's getting celebrity lite treatment. My sister was on a major competitive dance team and she dated a black star private school football player. There was always some drama with another girl. One chick threw herself on him naked at a party.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 04:03 AM
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I'm sure it helps but there are definitely exceptions like Lorde
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 03:16 AM
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I've never fallen for a dude on sight but it's never taken more than a few minutes of observation/interaction for me to start feeling interest. I've never had a guy I felt zero attraction to in the beginning grow on me over the course of months or something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:50 AM
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I guarantee that the vast majority of people who tag themselves blue pill are libs, and the vast majority who tag as red pill are conservative. Yes there clearly are a lot of people here who can't be assed to read the subreddit wiki, have no idea what they're talking about, and pick their affiliation based on vibes Regardless, the question is why women are able to move on quicker, if men are pursuing all the time and there are single women you'd expect both to have opportunities to move on quick…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 12:33 AM
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The day that this subreddit realizes that BP =/= liberal will be a glorious one. Mainstream Christian dating is extremely BP by defaulf and entails a lot of behavior that would be dismissed as simping/beta by RP despite being conservative. I see you continue to say that something is rather than explaining why I have explained why. Do you understand how traditional courtship works? The man pursues, not the woman. In fact a woman who chases in conservative circles can build up a less than stellar …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 05:51 PM
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Conservative religious women are the least likely of all to chase after men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 05:42 PM
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Any moderately attractive woman who has gone through a breakup and isn't a recluse is going to have dudes coming out of the woodwork once word gets around that she's single again. I've dated primarily in Christian circles and those dudes will not hesitate once an attractive wife material Christian woman is back on the market even if bridges get burned in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 04:42 PM
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I'm convinced that people who say things like this are are backpacking traits onto niceness like shyness, stiffness, awkwardness, introversion, and innocence to the point of coming off as a child in a grown man's body. Those traits, especially when combined, are going to be tougher sells for most adult women in terms of sexual attraction. You can't distill the issue down to being "too nice." A dude with some of those combined traits who is also an asshole to boot is not going to be any more succ…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 02:51 PM
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I think you're a little biased here CC 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 12:50 AM
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It looks like you're looking for a specific stance to argue against that I have not expressed here. Nowhere did I present some kind of criteria to hold men too. I addressed a claim that I consider to be false, which is that these kinds of concerns about young men did not exist prior to mainstream knowledge of RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 11:55 PM
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My mom tells me not to take it for granted all the time since she had a less than warm reception from my dad's family. My fiancé's mom adores me and doesn't hide it. She used to include my fiancé finding a good wife in her prayers every night. She really does feel like a second mom to me. She and my mom are also kind of best friends now lol, they're both very extroverted and bubbly and keep each other entertained. His dad is a less warm and fuzzy person but I've overheard him brag about me to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 10:12 PM
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I'm obsessed with this one (Jisoo of Blackpink) <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 09:09 PM
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My one critique is whatever podcast would never invite a woman on with a wig that bad, they should've given her one with bangs at least
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 09:03 PM
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Code Geass and Gundam Seed are not the most deep or complex media by any stretch of the imagination but they have some surprisingly thoughtful takes on discrimination and being the model token in a system that is not built for your success or wellbeing. Not so much Code Geass for this but the Gundam franchise as a whole definitely influenced my views on war and conflict.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 08:50 PM
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By this logic my anecdotal experience drives yours into the ground and we just cancel out with the conclusion that neither your experience nor mine reflects the whole of society and how it interacts with young men
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 08:38 PM
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Here's how it goes according to my memory of mainstream culture as I grew up and came of age as an elder Gen Z When I was around middle school/early high school age the big concern was young men getting indoctrinated by terrorists Later high school/into college incels were the big thing coinciding with a certain infamous figure I'm not going to name, you would sometimes hear "redpill" getting thrown around among non-chronically online people but it was just basically lumped in the same boat as i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 08:23 PM
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Yes it's obvious to me hence bringing it up but it seemed that your memory may have been foggy based on your post. then red pill got popular and suddenly everyone became deeply worried about young men. I was a 2000s kid, the adults were constantly fretting about what the fuck we were all getting up to on the internet and we had the FBI coming to talk to us about whatever the latest crazy internet shit was. This narrative that nobody cared about what was influencing young men on the internet unti…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 08:12 PM
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Fears of young men being radicalized/exploited on the internet definitely predate mainstream concern about RP, do you not remember the whole ISIS thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:56 PM
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Then we're on the same page because I didn't say anything about improving society, I am speaking of society as it is
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 04:46 PM
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Great, I'm not here to convince you to care, that would be a waste of energy. I'm pointing out how your reasoning that you asked to be debated on is incompatible with how societies function on a basic level.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 04:33 PM
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No that's not how morality works. Being a shitty person has had both benefits and consequences as long as humans have existed. "Well as long as benefits exist/somebody rewards the behavior we can't blame the people who decide to be shitty to get them." Yes we can, humans have always done that and will continue to do so. "Your honor I was offered $1,000 to do this illegal thing, so only the person who offered the money is to blame." Good luck with that argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 04:27 PM
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It's just an easy way for people to make digs at celebrities they probably wouldn't have liked regardless. "Industry plant" is the go-to when hated celebrity of the week didn't grow up wealthy or have any family connections.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 06:54 PM
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Okay I was raised by the kinds of people who taught me that tone always matters when conversing with people I love and care about. I don't know about the rest of your but I am extremely grateful for my parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 06:30 PM
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And my reaction is that "I don't care what you do." "Yeah. You’re your own person. I don't give a shit.” This might be an issue of tone not coming across well in written text but these do not read like neutral/indifferent responses. This looks more like "I'm obviously pissed but direct communication isn't an option for some reason so this is what I'm going with."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 06:24 PM
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No sexual history, waiting until marriage. First kiss at 16 with my first BF. Three relationships, including my current and final one. Longest I went single since I first started dating was four years. I genuinely consider my fiancé to be the greatest thing that's ever happened to me. The best experiences I've had in life are definitely tied to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 04:09 PM
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At times it is just blatanty obvious that a person is expressing certain opinions for validation from others, or to feel special or different from other people they would be associated with by default. Pick me, white knight, simp, virtue signaling, "hope she sees this", there are all kinds of words and expressions used for this phenomenon. Do people at times overuse these words or use them unfairly? Yes. Do I agree that there's truth to them when people aren't just slapping it on anybody they wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 04:50 PM
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That sounds like a rather colorful way to frame a reasonable shift in life priorities. Yeah if a dude moved to a specific area to meet women, that isn't working out, and he has literally no other reason to be there why would he stay?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 09:35 AM
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-Dark brown to black hair -Dark brown to brown eyes -Big strong hands -Body hair (not too much on the face but yes please to thick eyebrows and everything below the face) -Broad shoulders, soft belly -Sweet, introverted, and nerdy but silly and fun around someone who gets them -Likes some combination of reading, writing, watching movies, sci-fi/fantasy, long walks, RPGs (especially Nintendo)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 01:43 AM
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I find roughly half of dudes in their 20s I encounter on a day-to-day basis attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:43 AM
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It's always fascinating to see people talk about dating as something you "drop in" or "drop out" of like a match in a video game. What does that even mean? Is it just code for "I've stopped using dating apps" at this point? There are people banging down your door irl to date you and you've decided to say no to all of them?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:40 AM
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I pay attention, learn his wants and needs, and then execute, just as he does for me. He's the kind of person who's most in his element caring for and looking after other people. So instead of just asking him "what do you want for X" (he doesn't know) I revisit all of the conversations we've had, his hobbies, what he's nostalgic for, what obviously excites him. And then I use that information to spoil him with things he loves both for special occasions or just day-to-day favors and surprises.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 08:38 PM
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Me: INFJ SO: INFP
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 01:49 AM
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Family therapy. My sister possibly has a personality disorder but refuses to seek treatment individually. So that was the compromise. I think it was really helpful in terms of establishing better boundaries between all of us to extent, but especially with her. By default we're very much a "tell each other everything" kind of family but hearing about the crazy shit she has going on and giving her advice she will definitely ignore was not helping anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 12:47 AM
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Those can also influence men to feel attracted to you—men who might not otherwise be interested. Manipulation is not literally every situation where something someone believed about you turns out to be false or falls short of expectations. Let's say a broke dude owns some kind of luxury item, like a nice car or an expensive watch. Woman thinks he's rich and is interested because of that. Has he manipulated her? In my opinion, no. A rational person should realize that simply owning a flashy item …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 12:33 AM
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None
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 05:44 PM
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Lowkey I feel like I could watch pretty much anything with Jack Quaid in it because it's like seeing my fiancé randomly plopped into a movie or TV show
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 11:04 PM
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Don't forget Gen Z women whose millenial older sisters were addicted to that movie and have vague nostalgic memories of wandering into the living room and watching the Princess Diaries girl fail at her job
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 10:45 PM
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Do I apply the same standard to a crash out over a relationship that literally just ended to throwing a fit when your ancient history one that got away ex has a major milestone like engagement, marriage, or baby? The answer is no. I'm not a celebrity fangirl and I don't believe any of these people are pinnacles of maturity and smart decisionmaking. But in my view one is way more pathetic than the other regardless of the sex of the person doing it. I think Josh Allen's ex pulled that shit when he…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 11:31 PM
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Emotions do not hijack your fingers and force you to post to social media, so no. If there's anything to criticize it's high school antics from people who should be old enough to know better.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 10:19 PM
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I was specifically asked "are you a virgin" mostly because it's not hard to figure out within a couple minutes of talking to me. Ironically my fiancé is basically the one guy who didn't ask. He was also 50/50 on how much sexual experience I had but by the point we had that talk he said he knew I was the one and he was fine either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:12 PM
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Reddit also hates like 95% of athlete wives for some reason or other. Certain dudes will wax poetic about all the options these men have and then conveniently almost every single one somehow chose the wrong woman to marry because she's not hot enough or overshared on a podcast or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:14 AM
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We have had at least three different male celebrities within the past year or so who A. have endless options B. are actually in a relationship on top of the endless options, publicly crash out and embarrass themselves over an ex who has long moved on. Believe it or not men can still have complicated emotions and get their feelings hurt even when they have plenty of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 02:11 AM
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Female artists discovered this was a marketable gimmick ages ago, ever heard of Beyoncé?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 01:55 AM
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I don't really care how people refer to themselves, to me personally all of that counts
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 03:50 PM
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Abandon all hope ye who enter here ...is an iconic quote from the Divine Comedy that definitely has nothing to do with my feelings about this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 01:19 AM
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I can tell you right now the majority of Gen Z plays video games period, dudes who act like girls who game are nonexistent or some rare minority are usually gatekeeping what "video game" means. Ask that kind of dude if Animal Crossing or Infinity Nikki are video games and he'll probably say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 11:28 PM
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While I do agree that this is a factor I find that Reddit can be really harsh on views that are deemed puritanical regardless of the sex of the person who holds them. I've seen threads on those subs where both women and men defended men who wanted to attend bachelor parties involving strippers or stayed at a bachelor party when they found out strippers would be involved. Suddenly you have all the women coming out the woodwork talking about how much they love going to strip clubs with their husba…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 05:44 PM
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At times it seems that Reddit is obsessed with the idea that everyone needs to be secure about everything and if you trust your partner you should be okay with blah blah blah. I'm sorry some of this shit is just wack. I saw a thread recently where a dude was looking for advice on his wife licking cream off a Magic Mike dancer. I hope that was fake but regardless a lot of those comments were insane. "Well you should communicate that boundary." He should communicate to his wife that she isn't sing…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:27 PM
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So if John suddenly confesses to his wife that he used to kill people for fun, he was never caught, and the mourning families are still wondering what happened to their loved ones to this day, a woman who "loves John for who he is" would be fine with all of that and still feel the same way about him? She formed her entire perception of who John even is in the absence of the crucial tidbit of information that he killed several people. She would be right to question whether she truly knows him at …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 11:42 AM
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I actually did address the argument by presenting the kind of thing you have said in the past that directly encapsulates your view that actions are removed from the identity of the individual. Putting it into concrete terms instead of abstract. By "address the argument" do you mean I should sit here and argue why animal abuse reflects on the character of the individual and who they are as a person?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 11:04 AM
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I'm trying to be as tactful as possible here. You have literally said your significant other could abuse animals for fun and you wouldn't care. Your way of seeing the world is fundamentally very different from most.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 10:41 AM
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Literally anyone can say "my love is unconditional" as they proceed to walk out the door and find someone else who can meet their needs. Talk is cheap.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 09:32 AM
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Thank you so much! :) A major reason I've stuck around here so long after finding my person is hoping that at least some people might benefit from hearing about him and how far he's come.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 09:28 AM
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Okay then let's agree that both men and women who expect to be loved for simply existing are delusional because as I clearly indicated I don't think that's reasonable
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 06:18 AM
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Do you consider your actions to be fundamentally divorced from who you are as a person and that they should have nothing to do with whether you're compatible with your significant other? My SO and I are both very physically affectionate people. If I told him out of the blue one day that I'm never touching him again that would hurt him deeply and our relationship probably wouldn't survive it. It would be highly unreasonable and honestly kind of arrogant to act like my partner should be happy and …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 03:50 AM
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Thank you! It's strange to see myself as having given him a chance. I never really saw a lack of romantic experience as a flaw to begin with. I'm Catholic so I was always taught the beauty of learning alongside your spouse. I've been on this sub on and off since I was about 19. Believe it or not there were people here who insisted that wanting a partner who was inexperienced like me was unrealistic and I needed to adjust my standards. Then I met my love at 23 (we're about 2 years apart).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 01:56 AM
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🫡 I live to serve
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 01:16 AM
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🫡 The pleasure is all mine
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 01:16 AM
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There was a Reddit thread that encapsulated the difference for me. It was about people, both women and men who left their abusive partners because of...their pets. Look some people are so fucked up and worn down they think they deserve whatever bad things happen to them. But they draw the line once an innocent or anyone outside of themselves is being hurt. Because at that point, they know they're not to blame, their partner is just a terrible person period, and they need to get out. Now consider…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 09:15 PM
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This happened at my parents' house once! On the one hand the babies were adorable. On the other I have never seen so much bird crap before in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 08:36 PM
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If anyone has enough time to sit around ruminating about someone they cut off ages ago they need a job or a more challenging one
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 08:32 PM
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I believed in it when I heard it used casually irl to refer to someone who has an unrequited crush on a friend. It happens. Feelings can change, they often don't. People would usually try to feel things out first by talking to a trusted mutual and getting an idea on whether the possibility of reciprocation even exists before getting their hopes too high. The internet has given this term so much negative baggage and implied assumptions about the motivations of both people involved I've grown wary…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 07:45 PM
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I truly appreciate that. I'm certainly not a perfect person by any stretch. My love would be a far better contender for that title. But I'm glad that I've given the impression of a decent person to at least some on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 07:35 PM
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It's so interesting. To my boomer grandpa an able-bodied man who can't cook anything is embarrassing. Yes my grandma was expected to do most of the day-to-day cooking but for parties, picnics, tailgates, etc.? You put a man on the grill. And he better know how to season those burgers right or else. I feel like the idea that it's acceptable for a man to not know how to cook literally anything because that's his wife's job is being spread around by people trying to frame their lack of basic life s…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 07:30 PM
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Thank you so much :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 07:12 PM
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Thank you! Unironically one of the happiest moments of my life was waking up half asleep the morning after we met thinking about this amazing meet cute dream I had but then seeing a message from him and realizing "oh shit that actually happened"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 07:04 PM
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This plus it's 2026, the most socially awkward men on the planet just need to hop on Instagram to find hoards of hot women and "women" who will sext any dude with a CashApp account Wouldn't surprise me if dudes saying "date men without other options" don't count that as cheating though
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 06:49 PM
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Yeah. My fiancé did not have any romantic experience whatsoever until he was 25. I can only rescue one 25yo virgin in this lifetime so I can't do anything for the rest of them. Sorry I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 03:42 PM
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I say this a lot, but it's probably a regional/cultural thing. I'm from the South, grew up in UMC+ Christian circles. There's this kind of blonde thin Christian America's sweetheart type whose milkshake brings every dude to the yard. If you're not that you either become that (if you can) or accept that you're gonna be second choice or even invisible for a lot of dudes. I know a girl who fits the mold who got married recently. Come to find out there was another dude in her husband's lifelong frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 03:36 PM
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There are degrees of social awkwardness I can tolerate and even find endearing. Think men who will never be the life of the party but still know how to talk to people in a respectful way and consider their feelings. A guy who can get along with people and make them feel safe. My fiancé is a prime example. He's shy and has a stutter but he still had a proper Southern upbringing and learned manners. Then there's socially awkward men who are just on a different planet and cannot learn basic manners…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 02:55 PM
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It can be a funny dynamic because oftentimes the woman is dating the foreigner hoping he's more liberal than the men in her country and he's dating her hoping she's more conservative than the women in his. Ironically it seems like the best case scenario is when liberal dudes date abroad knowing they will most likely attract liberal women in that country. A lot of my college professors were like this and actually do have happy marriages with women they met abroad. Many never had and never wanted …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 11:28 PM
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If you're the user I'm thinking of any dude calling you below average is obviously trolling or just talking shit because they don't have anything worthwhile to contribute to the conversation
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 10:09 PM
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Yet apparently most men in the 22-34 age range are having sex while OP claimed that the average man in his 20s/30s has not had a woman touch him in over a year. Granted, there's a key difference in approach: asking people what their status has been over time vs. what it is at this exact moment. Broke up with his GF a few weeks ago? Dude is in the single guy bucket according to Pew but has probably had sex in the past year. Another difference is that this study once again used the 22-34 age range…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 08:52 PM
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I dig it. What matters is making sure the hair piece looks right, which the stylist clearly did in this case. Even when women wear wigs that slide all over, look plopped on, etc. it's not a good look. You need to commit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:54 PM
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hasn’t touched a woman in over a yr or so I beg everyone to take a minute to do some basic research before making these kinds of claims based on themselves, their friends, whatever. While studies find that the number of sexless young men is rising, I never seen stats that indicate they're the majority. Common? Yes. But that's not the same thing. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:02 PM
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Yeah you sure can tell me that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 08:51 PM
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Are you familiar with the phrase "not a ring not a thing." That's a piece of advice my SO was given by another man. Basically, if her boyfriend hasn't proposed yet, it's okay to try to wear her down and and get her to break up with him, and get with you instead. That is how he and his wife got together. My SO did not follow this advice. I'm sure there are a nonzero number of men who have gotten jumped in the parking lot following this advice. Also if she's already proven that she's not loyal why…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 08:40 PM
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I could see this applying to men on the more unrestricted side of sociosexuality. Not all men are even open to casual sex in the first place, or put themselves in the kinds of environments where it's most likely to be offered. Their entire conception of romance, sexual desire, etc. revolve around committed relationships. Women who would have casual sex period, even with them, are not on their radar.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 07:02 PM
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Circlejerking the OP under a debate post is literally against the sub rules so feel free to report this unqualified "encouragement" of women's debate posts you're supposedly seeing everywhere. In before "but the mods don't do anything when women break the rules." Bullshit, I had one of my comments removed and got a warning for calling someone "hun."
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 03:00 PM
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Okay here's your equal standard: all of these people are delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 01:35 PM
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People does not mean "men"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 12:55 PM
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Damn now that you mention it they are pretty similar
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 10:18 PM
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Indeed! Blue is my favorite color, but I also like a touch of purple and pink at times
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 10:00 PM
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I'm very much in my spring time romper era. Favorite recent acquisition <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 08:55 PM
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I hate that song Good 4 U still slaps though
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 08:33 PM
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You do not have to "look" for these people, they are literally some of the most viral/trendy female artists we have right now. Add PinkPantheress and Laufey to that list while we're at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 08:28 PM
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Zara Larsson? Olivia Rodrigo? No "well I don't like the person who sings it" doesn't make them not love songs
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 07:36 PM
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Yeah not surprising. Iirc there was a TRP mod who got married for a second or third time even though the sub was vehemently anti-marriage for a while to the point where it caused a major rift in the community.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 03:41 PM
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I made a post on the daily saying "I don't accept DMs from men" every time it happened and that helped a lot lol Plus a certain user getting banned
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 10:42 AM
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Yes you are 100% right, everyone here should understand their ideas will probably be met with judgment and ridicule to some degree. Glad we're on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 12:00 AM
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Your central example is literally women debating men on a sub whose entire purpose is debate. Why do people come to a debate sub looking for sympathy and affirmation? Isn't circlejerking against the rules?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 10:59 PM
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Mainstream Christian dating advice is BP and there are enough of those books to fill libraries as well as websites, podcasts, etc. We were required to read books and listen to talks by Jason and Crystalina Evert at the schools I attended growing up so I'll focus on them. While they both advocate for chastity they are very open about the fact that Jason was a virgin when they married and Crystalina was not. We're not just talking one or two boyfriends before him either. "The past doesn't matter, …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 08:07 PM
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For me a good-looking older man is like a good-looking cousin. Sure I can acknowledge that he's good-looking and lots of women who aren't related to him will probably find him attractive, but that's my cousin. Sure I can acknowledge that he's good-looking for an old man and lots of women older than me will definitely be into him, but that doesn't override my aversion to dating someone old enough to be my dad or grandpa.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 01:41 PM
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They want random women to argue in circles with them about how approaching and dating are totally worth it. I have a very casual interest in the franchise and media based on death/survival games more broadly. They both fascinate me and frustrate me in a lot of ways that I could probably write entire essays on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 09:43 PM
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Yep, got it, go live your life. Apparently you needed my permission or something? You have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 03:32 PM
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Again, notice that 50% of the equation did not need to bring meaningful hobbies of her own to the table and it may have even been a liability if she did, at least in terms of being compatible with this particular person. This contrasts your personal anecdote where you both have your own hobbies and want the person you're dating to as well. Not everyone is like that. To repeat: He might ask you a question or two within the span of an hour about what you did last weekend, and you will probably get…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 09:33 PM
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I think the more essential factor at the core of what you're getting at here is the ability to have conversations together ranging from good to at the very least not downright painful. Hobbies are just one tool in that kit that can foster good conversation, but it's not necessarily the only one. The "right" tool varies a lot depending on the personalities of the people involved. For people whose idea of a good conversation is just hearing themselves talk essentially the other person can be a com…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:46 PM
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See I'm a devout Catholic, and we do essentially have dating "rules", at least to a greater extent than secular culture does. When you have rules, many people will complain about them and rebel. When you don't have rules, many will complain that the world is confusing and they don't know what to do anymore. I don't mean to be a downer or anything but the earthly human experience is an endless quest for nonexistent answers to the questions of how to make a world that works for everyone and worse …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 01:33 AM
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At the end of the day confusion is a subjective and personal experience. I am at times amazed by what my parents and grandparents find confusing (usually involving technology), but at the end of the day we're different people with different experiences. Fucking typewriters were still widely used when my parents came of age. I can't really tell you that society's messages about sex aren't confusing anymore that I can tell my parents that Google Drive isn't confusing. It's confusing for them, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 12:51 AM
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Your life sucks. You don't know where it all went wrong specifically, maybe it's your fault, maybe it's not, but you do know for a fact that it sucks. You stumble across the Cult of Ange, who has made it my entire business to speak to people like you and promise solutions to your problems. Is it possible that other people being a dick to you made you the kind of person who would follow me? Yeah. Would you have come up with whatever very brilliant solutions the Cult of Ange has prescribed on your…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 05:49 PM
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I know a decent number of people who WFH at least partially but a big key to it avoid a headache for everyone is having a proper home office with the the right setup. If you're just out in house common areas taking work calls and expect everyone to shut up/not walk behind you I could see that getting old pretty fast. That would be my main concern in terms of my partner working from home, or even working from home myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:10 PM
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My fiancé comes to mind because that was literally him. Granted we're Christians in the South, our friendship and relationship dynamics can be pretty different from what I read about on Reddit. A Christian guy can find himself in a community where every girl has been paired off since college or even high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 02:59 AM
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For me it depends on the season and what occasions are coming up. I don't get pedicures during winter since I'll be wearing boots 90% of the time anyway. When I'm getting that plus manicure done with a special occasion coming up it gets up to around $200.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 03:51 PM
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I can definitely see how you'd get that impression but no, white Southerners. My fiancé's parents met at college and have this giant circle of old college friends, many of whom married each other within a couple years after graduation and had kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 03:28 PM
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I've met men with either diagnosed or highly likely autism who fall over the place in terms of looks, personality, interests, etc. It's hard to pinpoint a single type of woman for that reason. Here's an old clip of an NFL player who was diagnosed with autism as an adult. I know "blah blah blah status" I'm just giving a public figure as an easily accessible example of the variation I'm talking about as opposed to the usual stereotypes of what men with autism are supposedly like.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 09:48 PM
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It's not so much something he does as something kind of tiring that comes with being in a relationship with him. So. Many. Parties. It's ironic because my SO is an introverted person like me. It's just that between his/his family's social networks there's always something going on. Weddings, engagement parties, wedding showers, baby showers, birthdays, holiday parties, you name it. I'm his fiancé. It's deeply ingrained in me that it's my duty to show up and reflect well on him, so I'll never ref…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 02:50 AM
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No they were never the types to lose sleep over that sort of thing. They were surprised but not angry or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 11:54 PM
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Yes. Basically there was a main text that was focused on the more spiritual/theological elements and a supplementary text that was more focused on...mechanics, while still alluding to theology. Somehow I managed to find an excerpt online. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 12:41 PM
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Funnily enough I first learned about the mechanics of sex complete with full diagrams of male and female anatomy in a special course built into our religion class in middle school. I would have been around 11 at the time I think. I don't think my parents realized how graphic it was going to be so they were basically caught off guard and were like "uh...yeah, that's how sex works, any questions?" I think that part of the curriculum eventually got removed due to complaints from other parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 11:57 AM
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Any "X brings/doesn't bring Y to the table" debate will always be impeded by the simple reality that different people have different wants and needs in a relationship. I fucking hate sweet potatoes, if you bring that to my table I'm gonna send it right back to the kitchen. Other people can't get enough. Same with traits in a romantic partner. I once had a talking phase with a great guy who was good-looking, shared my faith, and worked in finance. The problem? One of my absolute favorite things t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 11:49 AM
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Fun fact: contrary to popular belief in the U.S. men with less income are actually more likely to be married to significantly younger women than men with higher income <image> Edit: Link to full article
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 03:10 AM
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Found it, here you go!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 03:58 AM
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We're Catholics from the Bible Belt. We grew up around many staunch Republican voters who will not budge regardless of who the candidate is, my fiancé's family is pretty much all Republican with the exception of him plus a handful of Libertarians. Maybe sheltered liberals in California or something were shocked. As for FDS, yet another case of secular dating culture being dramatically different from our own and us not being particularly surprised that it breeds problems we don't have to deal wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 02:38 AM
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PPD post tomorrow: Men don't even look at women anymore because yall are a bunch of meanies who only appreciate stares from Chad, and a hot woman in my TikTok feed said that she's upset about it. Do you see what you have done women? Well it's too late to take it back. The hot girl attention drought has begun.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 01:25 AM
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The only socials he has are a Facebook and Instagram he basically never uses so I can't say that he's ever been "owned" by a stranger on the internet. The more I tell him about what I see on Reddit the more he feels validated in his decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:53 AM
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I tried to explaining all of this shit to my brother who is very much not a social media person and he literally thought that I was joking at first. Like he could not comprehend why anyone cares about this and said that everybody needs to log off.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 11:36 PM
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I watched a video essay from a male YouTuber recently who suggested that there are so many writers who suck at writing female love interests for some reason but put so much depth and complexity into the male friendships that people become more interested in the dudes banging each other than the women in the story. I wouldn't be surprised if that kind of fandom was the gateway for a lot of women who enjoy gay male romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:56 PM
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I can assure everyone who keeps bringing up this gotcha that generally speaking black people are not losing sleep over whether anyone wants to be in the woods with us We don't want to be in the woods period, and absolutely not with the kind of person who brings "but black people" into literally everything
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:42 PM
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The original interview that sparked the discourse was conducted by a male-run brainrot TikTok channel. Who knows, maybe they did want to insult themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:11 PM
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As someone who lived in a town where black bears would roam in to get at people's garbage I'm personally on team "please specify the kind of bear"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:07 PM
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I'd be more than happy for this discourse that has been run into the ground to die off but unfortunately as we are both observing there are stragglers who will never let it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:03 PM
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The question came from street interviews on a TikTok brainrot channel
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:41 PM
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I dress modestly in public whether I'm taken or not because my values exist independently of my partner
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:24 PM
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The fascinating progression of "Man or Bear" internet discourse from the perspective of men Step 1: That's so illogical. Women who say they'd rather be alone in the woods with a bear are silly and dramatic. They're unfairly demonizing men. Step 2: See we can do the same thing too. See how it feels? I'd rather open up to a tree than a woman. Step 3: You know what? I'd rather be alone with a bear than a woman. At least the bear can't make false accusations that would ruin my life. What do you thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:08 PM
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"There's someone for everyone" No some of you mfers are cooked
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 06:17 PM
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I think it's kinda like language learning. Iirc people who start learning a language during early childhood have a better chance at fluency than those who start as adults, even ones who spend years practicing and fully immerse themselves. That doesn't mean an adult *can't learn new languages, but it's very likely they'll never quite catch up to those who started learning as children. I struggled a lot with social skills as a young kid, locked in around early high school because I really wanted m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 10:10 AM
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My chaotic PPD experience-based counterpart to this meme <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 09:46 AM
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"You disagree with me so I'm going to assume you're a feminist even though nothing you said has anything to do with feminism"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 12:14 AM
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I was literally 50/50 on whether you meant her specifically or the type and bet on the wrong horse 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 11:49 PM
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I feel like for her level of confidence and poise under pressure you either need to be a really well-adjusted person or absolutely cuckoo. She's very much in the public eye right now so I guess we'll find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 08:52 PM
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Gen Z gamer girl halo
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 08:45 PM
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If you think all three are above average/generic cute you're nicer than me Maybe I could give Valkyrae that but not the other two
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 08:42 PM
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Pokimane, Emiru, Valkyrae To me most popular female streamers are in the Alysa Liu zone of girls who are average cute but nerd/geek 10s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 08:34 PM
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For Gen Z guys having "cool" hobbies provide crazy halo for looks, this is why some of the most mid girls ever can stream themselves playing video games and have legions of fans who would buy their bath water
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 07:56 PM
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She's a fit alt chick who watches anime, that's a Gen Z 10 Edit: Oh she plays Magic too? 11
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 06:32 PM
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I agree with the spirit of it but not the literal idea that you must resolve every conflict before bedtime on any given day. Basically don't let shit drag on and on for days or even weeks because that's how you start building up the kind of resentment that irreparably damages the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 11:26 PM
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Not the lazy throw-in "oh btw they're friends too" to set up the next paragraph
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:11 PM
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🥹 Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:10 PM
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Aw you're always so nice to me Red, what did I do to earn this?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:08 PM
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Ohhh. You know I've never really thought of it that way but it makes sense. I just wanted the second word to start with an A and end with an E like Ange. I didn't really have a particular meaning for it in mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:05 PM
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Thank you ❤️ Woke Ange?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:53 PM
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My favorite movie addressing this topic is one from the 1950s called Tokyo Story. A key aspect of the movie is the relationship between a war widow and her in-laws. She is very hospitable and dutiful to the mother and father of her late husband. At some point the father-in-law basically says "We appreciate everything you've done for us. Our son is gone. You're not bound by the past, and you have our blessing to find happiness." Made me sob like a little girl, and more understanding of people who…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:52 PM
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I haven't used a water fountain since like middle school due to paranoia but I remember it tasting amazing. Our teacher would have to cut people off for drinking too long and holding up the line so I guess I wasn't the only one.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:12 PM
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Every morning I wake up I'd be asking God why this is happening again Never, get ready for Sister Ange
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:48 PM
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In my view, putting your own heart in someone else's hands is always a gamble. One of us could die the day after we marry, leaving the other to pick up the pieces. That's the gamble I'm most concerned with at this point. Time. How much of it do we both have? Will we die together? Who will outlive the other? And how will they find peace? I don't have answers to any of that, and it does terrify me. But I've decided to gamble on time. And I hope that we have a lot of it. I've already decided that I…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:37 PM
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There's clear and direct communication and then there's being annoying and insufferable. Granted this is Reddit and the way that people claim to talk to someone they supposedly like amazes me on a regular basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:29 PM
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I already feel like I've tasted heaven just by kissing him, and refuse to let anyone else touch me ever. He is the one. I'd rather never have sex than run off to other men to explore something that will never be. If he has ruined me, let me be ruined.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:24 PM
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Lily I was so close to getting over that song And now you're gonna make me relapse again
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:51 AM
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Oh darn I've been told men are waking up for close to a decade now, maybe next year
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:48 AM
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"I don't do sex until we're official just like I don't expect you to do boyfriend things" would also come across as passive aggressive and terrible communication. Everyone has a right to their boundaries, like mine with sex before marriage. But I did not A. expect men to continue dating me, unless they were 100% like-minded and on board or B. communicate it like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:40 AM
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I once told a woman I was dating that I don't do manual labor for someone until we're official as I wouldn't expect her to do girlfriend things until we're official. I offered to pay for pizza and help coordinate her friends for the move. I've been in church my whole life and never had issues with finding guys in the community willing to help me move. Oftentimes the dude in question had a whole schedule with multiple people from the church he was helping that day. I do agree that not being offic…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:11 AM
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BP =/= liberal Are there any male RPers left from the circa 2016 era where TRP vehemently distanced themselves from tradcons You know "enjoy the decline" and everything? Edit: In response to OP's edit I'm putting it on the record that there are only three answers from BPers including myself at this time. And he has responded/engaged with two.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:54 PM
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Bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:03 PM
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Weeded out fuckboys automatically but also guys who were fine, just not compatible with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 08:28 PM
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I didn't care what he was, I made it clear that premarital sex was off the table. Weeded out fuckboys automatically but also guys who were fine, just not compatible with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 07:05 PM
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I'm not about to sit here and beg people to live happy and normal lives, if that's your jam be my guest
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 08:51 AM
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No. I enjoyed visual novel games and apps before I met my fiancé, and the love interests are somewhat adjacent to AI partners when you think about it. But I never really felt connected to the characters in the way that some people do. And those are the exact sorts of people who are most likely to opt for AI partners imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 04:34 AM
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I knew a girl in a similar situation except she had dual citizenship. So technically wasn't international, though she spent most of her life abroad. Her parents both went to highly ranked universities, one in the U.S. and one overseas. She either straight-up or borderline failed out at the one overseas, was able to transfer to our university despite her grades through what could only be legacy privilege. Picked one of the easiest majors with extremely lenient professors and just barely managed t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:34 AM
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In modern times it is easier than ever for a man to pretend to be a hot woman so by your logic men also have an inarguable backup option. There is even a market for men who are willing to send messages and flirt with dudes on the OF workers' behalf. There have been multiple articles about this to the point where a guy who thinks he's talking to the woman is most likely speaking to a man getting a cut.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 12:34 AM
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Unless your livelihood depends on it you don't need to interact with anybody
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 10:26 PM
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As a student I learned that when you see a professional headshot of a guest speaker do not expect the person showing up to look anything like that
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 09:14 PM
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As I said last time, my current SO has no exes. To come up with a scenario that fits your new criteria I have to think all the way back to high school, when I was 16 and nervous about how much my first BF was posting photos of us on Instagram compared to his ex. 16yo me was fucking stupid. We had been dating for like a week at that point. He was an amazing BF otherwise. He had only had one actual GF before and they were together for over a year, maybe 2 iirc. Yes it makes perfect sense to be ner…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 09:09 PM
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There's a regular user here I always see on certain sports sub threads and every time it makes me go <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 08:34 PM
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I would love to. His family is okay with the idea of me being our primary breadwinner but not okay with the idea of him not working at all. To them he needs to bring in something and maintain a work history even if it barely pays anything. They're wealthy and generous to an extent, but a condition of that generosity is work. Tbf they don't want his sister to be a SAHM either. She works and will continue to work in order to be in their good graces even though her SO does well enough on his own. F…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 07:42 PM
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That's a lot for a first date imo. My SO brought flowers on our third date when we were on the verge of becoming official Edit: Is the daily thread troll back or is someone actually passionate enough about the topic of flowers on a first date to downvote over it?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 06:34 PM
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For me, depends on the kind of friendship. If you mean texting daily and spending time one-on-one together that would be too much for me. My SO has female friends who are for the most part paired off and reach out every once in a while to check in on him/plan double dates. That's fine with me. What about if it's an ex or former FWB or somesuch? He never dated anyone much less had an FWB before me. I think the "but how done are they actually" paranoia would have definitely affected me. My parents…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 04:54 PM
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The world would be a much better place if people who are miserable together just broke up
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 10:37 AM
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OP I'm curious as to what you think "planning a date" entails and what dates look like for a typical couple. For example my SO and I have very similar tastes in food and attractions. We love to try new places. Some of it we find out about from social media, others we hear about from friends and family. Basically for us and most couples I know dates aren't something one person unilaterally "plans" indefinitely. They fall into place based on shared interests and passions. When you have neither of …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 10:13 AM
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Assuming he's polite and respectful as specified by OP, no. I'm from the Bible Belt, feels like less than conventionally attractive dudes shoot their shot with all sorts of women including very pretty ones and many succeed (see the "average SEC couple" meme).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:56 AM
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I know a group that's dealing with this right now lol. The guys have all been friends since childhood and one of the wives has a very obvious and embarrassing crush on one said childhood friends who is very much engaged. When alcohol is involved the antics get cranked up to eleven. The fiancée despises the wife (understandably). It seems that every dude in the group is aware of what's going on besides her husband and they don't know how to address it outside of hoping she comes to her senses. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 12:53 AM
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Young people in general including women are having sex later and later. My theory is that this creates a kind of polarization in which risk-averse and cautious young women are just not having sex yet period while the ones who are active have more...adventurous inclinations on average. If this observation is coming from young women seeking casual sex with strangers on dating apps you have further selected against those who are more cautious and vanilla.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 09:16 PM
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See that's the reverse, when the media makes it sound like a public figure is practically on their death bed they got some time left. "It's a miracle!"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 06:14 PM
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I remember the winner of one season of Flavor of Love was interviewed on the radio and she was very open about the fact that it was all fake and none of them were actually actually attracted to him. Like it wasn't a secret at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 05:49 PM
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What does "sure" mean? So you agree that there are limits and nuances to your premise that "it's okay for men to want virgins" but forgot to mention them in your post?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 04:04 PM
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I've officially discovered that whenever the media says [insert public figure here] is in "good spirits" they're definitely dead or will be soon
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:00 PM
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As a virgin I can emphatically say that a man's reasons for wanting a virgin partner can absolutely be wrong and even harmful to his partner
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:55 PM
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I'm not the kind of angel that belongs in Hell's Kitchen so I'll let you have him
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:24 AM
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HA Okay not bad imo, at least junior chef
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:06 AM
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There is one chef in this kitchen. And she cooked.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:58 AM
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Ange "Icebox" Aware
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:26 PM
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You sure I'm the one doing that? Why do women always attack their man in public? A marriage is supposed to be a team, and just like any team, you have your disagreements in private but present a united front in public. I'm eternally grateful I don't live in a place where couples airing out their shit in public is a "normal conversation"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:49 AM
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I literally thought about adding a disclaimer that I don't really drink much or hang out in places with lots of drunk people. I guess that might partially answer OP's question: alcohol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:12 PM
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I feel like I live in some kind of utopia compared to much of Reddit. Where I'm from that's just straight-up embarrassing for everyone involved. You rarely see anyone making that kind of scene in public. Who knows what they have going on behind closed doors though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:13 PM
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They mean he should offer but not force it if she rejects the offer. Never put yourself in a stranger's hands imo, one of my relatives conveniently had some shopping to do like 5 minutes away from where I met up with my SO for our first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:28 PM
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My brother is the epitome of that look and got plenty of interest from girls who weren't ratchet. Well actually there was a ratchet girl who was obsessed with him during a summer program when he was in high school. The attention was not reciprocated.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 01:44 AM
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Yes I'm 27 I was 23 when we started dating
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:50 AM
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I just recently attended a wedding where the bride confided in me that she and her husband actually went to the courthouse months ago. The wedding was for her family first and foremost. I think people really underestimate how obsessed parents can be with the idea of their daughter having the proper wedding with all of the bells and whistles to impress their extended family, colleagues, church friends, etc. Especially when the bride is younger and it's her first (hopefully only) marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:43 PM
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My brain was so rotted by the internet at the time I met my SO I expected him to practically throw a party when I told him I'm a virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:56 AM
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Are they still attracted to each other? Therapy worked for my parents but their issues revolved around communication and baggage from their respective upbringings. They were still very much into each other to the point where they kept accidentally sleeping over when they were supposed to be separated. If attraction is the issue, well...I don't really see how people can therapy their way into wanting to have sex with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 12:07 AM
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He is indeed daddy af
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 09:38 PM
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As a woman with some rather traditional views this doesn't really fit my experience. For example I recently expressed here in response to a linked post about a mixed gender airBnB arrangement that I would never agree to something like that with men who aren't family. Another user got kinda weird with me over it and insinuated that people who think that way are concerned about cheating. That wasn't even on my mind. The post was about a woman walking in on a guy who was taking a shower to get her …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 07:58 PM
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5'3
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 05:20 PM
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6'2
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 05:12 PM
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Shhh she won't farm as much karma if they realize that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 04:07 AM
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I constantly get the men's subs in my feed but never the women's ones Maybe Reddit thinks I'm a man
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 02:43 AM
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CC. Love. I have karma to farm with stupid questions, don't interrupt my operation 😤 Lol glad you're in good spirits doll ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 02:25 AM
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Some Ask Men Advice posts be like Would you date a hot woman? Hi everyone, I'm a hot 22F. So recently my friends have been telling me that men don't like hot women. This makes me feel very insecure. I only get approached once a day and my less hot friends get approached multiple times a day. So maybe they're right? Maybe men don't like perfect 10 absolute baddies with bangin booties like me? It's so confusing. Should I try to become ugly? Thank you so much!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 02:04 AM
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No matter how many face/body reveals we do to settle this someone is always going to chime in and say "Oh well of course the ugly users won't post pics"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:35 PM
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If that's what they're going for the casting is wack, the male lead is literally the most attractive guy in the room in pretty much every scene in the trailer Hollywood gonna Hollywood I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:25 AM
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A dude got pissy at me here once during a purge and he called me that My response was something along the lines of "Lol bloody hell mate" I guess he didn't like that because he downvoted me and left
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 12:44 AM
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Dude makes a wish so that his crush will love him and she turns psycho right? When this comes out I will be avidly reading the Wikipedia summary because I'm a little bitch who can't handle watching horror movies in theaters
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 10:10 PM
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I don't believe truly one-sided monogamous couples exist in modern western societies outside of cases where the woman is genuinely asexual or LL, they say whatever those men want to hear and keep collecting their bag
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 09:45 PM
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I've only gone on serious dates with three guys. Never really cared for a sit-down dinner as a first date. I seldom drink alcohol and never would have done so on a date either. Coffee would be the next option but I tended to get pretty nervous on first dates and that's not exactly a great combination with caffeine. Dairy? Also a problem. So just a walk or something like that was a better first date to me. We could start doing food or ice cream or coffee or whatever once I was more comfortable wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 05:56 PM
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No way, the people who are used to being able to edit the footage to make themselves look smart and everyone else stupid don't like a taste of that medicine?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 03:44 PM
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nothing was done wrong There's been lots of wrong done and there always will be because humans are human. As I say here often, I was born in the Bible Belt and went off to college in a very liberal city in the northeast. My biggest takeaway from these experiences is that there is so much cluelessness in this country or even just aggressively refusing to even try to understand how people who aren't like you think and feel. this is just a phase and eventually somehow it fixes itself Oh I can get m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 03:38 PM
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At this point I'm resigned to the fact that these cycles happen. And you need to figure out how you're going to protect yourself and your own by any means possible regardless of what the masses decide they want to do this week. For the love of all that is good do not wait for a movement to come save you. Yeah maybe it'll come around eventually, but waiting on "eventually" is not a good plan. My great-grandfather pulled it off at a time where many thought it wasn't possible to keep women who look…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 02:31 PM
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It makes sense if you know what BP and RP mean. RP =/= wholesome traditional values. "Enjoy the decline."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 01:44 PM
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I am waiting for OP to come along and clarify if that's what he meant any day now Or maybe he didn't write any of it himself and has no idea what it means
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:40 AM
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You don't even have to go back that far, the hedonistic recession pop era was not known for tender love songs. I am genuinely amazed that someone could grow up in an era where every other popular song was about hooking up with some chick in the bathroom at the club and say that "society" told them that only nice men get laid. "Society" is just code for "my mom" at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:37 AM
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Relevant comment I made recently in a discussion about men who feel like "jesters" when talking to women I can at times give the benefit of the doubt that they're talking about OLD, which can disproportionately attract both men and women who are boring and suck at socializing. Let's face it a woman who's good-looking, has a remotely likeable/fun personality, and isn't a complete shut-in is very likely to have options irl. The vast majority of women are going to prefer that over taking chances wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 04:13 AM
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I personally enjoy a lot of the high protein gimmicks as long as they don't also dump a bunch of fiber in it. I used to love Koia but my poor stomach could not handle that in the morning.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 01:57 AM
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Almost anything that says limited edition
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 01:48 AM
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It's basically just their other cream flavors with an aftertaste that is kinda like root beer if you think about it for 30 seconds. Yes I'm a sucker for anything that says "limited edition."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 01:13 AM
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My understanding is that the timer doesn't just run when the app is open (someone can correct me if I'm wrong). So let's say you swipe right on a couple dudes, but you have other shit going on and don't open the app for 48 hours. If a guy swipes right back and you get a match, the timer starts and runs even while you're not on the app. So it's possible that you go back to find that you had matches you didn't know about that expired while you were away, and now the app is making you pay to talk t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:48 AM
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Stand by everyone. It's time for Ange's honest review of the limited edition Premier Protein Root Beer Float flavor. I'll be back. Edit: Eh it's mid
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:21 AM
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The long-term equilibrium likely resembles a hybrid market model: Apps provide discovery Real-world social networks provide trust Stable pair-bonding remains the dominant OP can you elaborate on what this vague conclusion to your post means? So dating apps will still exist but it's okay because more men will get matches now? How was "we all go outside and meet people in real life" not part of the speculation here?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:16 AM
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Bumble was always weird to me because the "send the first message" gimmick doesn't address any of the major concerns I've actually heard from women about dating apps. I don't think it proves that women are lazy so much as the app is a solution to a quite frankly delusional understanding of a problem. To be clear, it's like Tinder in that you both have to swipe right to be matched, correct? So what does the man not being able to message first accomplish exactly? If you swipe right on a dude by ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:02 AM
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Basically according to certain MCC studies the unattractive partner would make you less attractive by association. As I said before, it's one possibility. People get weird with each other at work for all sorts of stupid reasons, as my anecdote was intended to demonstrate.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 11:30 PM
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If all of his female coworkers turned on him at once I would've been more inclined toward the MCC attractiveness theory. One angry chick who they all acknowledged had other reasons for disliking him in a sea of women who were for the most part friendlier and even pooled funds to buy us a nice engagement gift basket is different imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 11:15 PM
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That particular woman he had issues with basically thought that his life was annoyingly easy and perfect. Hell it might've given her some consolation if I were ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 11:03 PM
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Assuming they've met her it's one possible explanation supported by MCC studies. I don't work with any of you so I can't firmly say one way or the other. There was this one chick at my SO's job who really had it out for him after we started dating. Other women were cool with him though and basically told him after she was fired that she had definitely made comments about him suggesting she was jealous because A. he talked about me a lot and seemed very happy and B. they kinda figured out that hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 10:52 PM
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Mate choice copying studies have indicated that there are moderating factors such as the attractiveness of the romantic partner. In other words, it might not work because they haven't seen your partner or they think she's ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 10:26 PM
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I feel like there used to be more drama/highly polarizing users on the daily. Like a quarter of those comments could be the same two people who don't like each other going back and forth for hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 09:07 PM
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Just started it. It's always funny watching these types of things as an American because, no offense to Brits, we generally don't consider those accents particularly tough or intimidating, especially on younger men. So hearing dudes doing the alpha male shtick in that accent is a trip. "We're looking for tarts on the beach!" Yeah and next you're gonna look for the Golden Snitch so Harry Po'er and Gryffindor don't win the Quidditch Cup
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 06:40 PM
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I can at times give the benefit of the doubt that they're talking about OLD, which can disproportionately attract both men and women who are boring and suck at socializing. No offense to those of you special snowflakes who are very fun and interesting to talk to on dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:23 PM
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Hell I find it funny, I used to roll my eyes at "it just so happens " before I started seeing my SO. It's like this is my penance for judging those women for not arbitrarily holding the line in exchange for brownie points from men on the internet that aren't going to come.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:20 PM
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Have you seen those subreddits? No one can prove them wrong. Short men can make posts about their wives/GFs themselves and the peanut gallery is still questioning whether she's real, actually attracted to him or settled, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 01:58 PM
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Yeah sorry my romantic life didn't shake out in a way that makes the strangers on the internet happy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 01:33 PM
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Getting humans to rate anything with numbers in a meaningful way is absolute hell. I just spoke to a woman who met her SO on OKC years ago and she didn't recall the 1-5 rating system still being a thing at the time, probably at least in part because the people running OKC realized this. Look at Google Reviews, people will be like "wow the food was the best I've ever had and our waiter was awesome but my Margarita was just okay" and leave 3 stars.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:36 AM
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In a lot of ways yes but you know...Iran hostage crisis
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:44 AM
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Depends on what level of crazy the Republican candidate is What message would it send to young women that the first female president had an onlyfans? I'm trying to figure out which U.S. president I would wholeheartedly tell my kid to model their life and morals after and am drawing a blank
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:29 AM
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Almost all of the men in my family are average height to short. My older brother is about 5'6. I always thought that his height was perfect, and I wanted to marry someone around there. I'm 5'3 myself. My older sister dated athletes who were generally on the taller side. As a kid I called one very tall one "monster." He didn't like it very much and my family had to explain to me multiple times that it isn't a polite nickname to give someone. He did end up cheating on her very publicly at a party …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:21 AM
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I'm officially not allowed to weigh in on this anymore as a member of the Reddit "it just so happens" committee
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:12 AM
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I'm actually encountering a decent amount in Southern Christian circles. Married or engaged couples who met on apps like Christian Mingle, plus even Hinge and Facebook Dating. For seculars or other religions, Idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:08 AM
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Cultural context is everything imo. There are places where it's completely normal for complete strangers to talk to each other and places where it's not. I'm from low crime suburbs in the Bible Belt and both men and women chat casually in public. You could scare a woman off by approaching too aggressively off the bat, like talking about her looks right away or asking her out on a date without even trying to chat her up a bit first. But if you're socially aware and know how to do the normal small…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:02 AM
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First of all I only label myself as BP because I'm Christian and view much of Christian dating culture as fundamentally incompatible with RP. I've had many crushes but can only confidently say I've been in love once, with my SO. It's to the point where I've experienced anxiety in contexts where I never have in the past or to a greater extent than I did previously, like while flying. I worry not so much for myself but for him. He's expressed to me that if something happens to me he'll never fully…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:56 PM
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I'm too cool to acknowledge that I like mainstream pop music so I have to call it stupid. Just Keep Watching by Tate McRae? Also stupid. And I listen to it everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 09:20 PM
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Slap Everytime We touch over a magical girl/shoujo amv and inject that shit in my veins. On a related note, here's the museum piece that got me into amvs either in middle school or early in high school. The song is not Everytime We Touch but it fits that AMV with upbeat music category that coexisted with the edgy Linkin Park Evanescence and friends ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 08:49 PM
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Don't worry sis, my completely innocuous comment about why I love my SO is somehow at a 71% upvote ratio lmfao I've had actually controversial takes with better ratios than that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 08:34 PM
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Ah fuck that stupid Midnight Sun song is stuck in my head. It feels like Everytime We Touch 2.0
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 07:38 PM
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Both. It feels like in any post about relationship trouble with a male OP the dude makes more money and has more assets than like 95% of the U.S. population. A lot of this shit is made up to farm karma and "I'm rich" resolves a lot of stuff that would otherwise be serious plotholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 07:33 PM
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Relevant exchange I saw on the outfits sub. I've never seen more delusional people who think that shit that clearly doesn't fit right looks good and then get pissy at honest people who functioning eyeballs who know that it doesn't. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 06:21 PM
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Our interests, hobbies, sense of humor, political views, religious values, and upbringings are so similar he understands me better than anyone else. Of all people I feel like he's the one I censor myself around the least if at all and am the most genuine with. There's never a dull moment between us. We can talk endlessly about so many things. Our first phone call after meeting lasted about 5 hours well into the night and almost to morning. We're both introverts, though I'm a bit better at hiding…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 04:23 PM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:34 PM
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All couples teach their children how to treat their partners. By example if nothing else. The difference is whether they are taught to treat their partner well, poorly, or somewhere in between. The norm in the place (Bible Belt) and social circle I was raised in is that boys and girls are taught both verbally and by example. And it never stops too. Even as a grown woman older women in your family will still watch you like a hawk and let you know if you've failed to be a good partner in their eye…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 08:47 PM
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Ahhh I got it now. Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 02:40 PM
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I'm going to have to reiterate my question of whether you all are reading everything OP said, because he talks about the woman completely neglecting the man for pretty much every major holiday and life milestone. That is not normal or healthy. never heard a woman say she had to sleep on the couch or her bf/husband gives them the silence treatment because of missed these special days I mean if that's your personal experience that's your personal experience. My dad's policy basically boiled down t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 02:39 PM
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I am not at all invested in some pissing contest about which gender is collectively more romantic. Sure, say men are more romantic, I don't care. I just recently went to a wedding shower where you had to guess certain fun facts about the bride and groom-to-be. We all knew damn well he's the romantic one and she acknowledged it too. My issue with OP is that the lack of involvement on the woman's end described in this post is extreme. Even the bride-to-be in question I just described buys him nice…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 04:42 AM
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Did you read all of what OP said? His claims treat a dude receiving nothing from his partner for their anniversary, birthday, and Valentine's as normal. How many couples do you know where the woman is not giving a man any sort of gift for any of these occasions unless he has explicitly indicated he doesn't care or doesn't want her to?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 04:20 AM
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Yeah that sounds right. There was a time where it felt like everyone on Reddit was talking about that sub and then poof, it gets brought up once in a blue moon on this sub but not as much outside of PPD. From what I recall of the earlier days of the sub it was pretty common sense advice about having boundaries and standards. Then at some point straight-up femcel lingo started creeping in and it deteriorated very quickly from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 04:01 AM
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I meant the subreddit. Seriously what happened to it? Did it go private or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:47 AM
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Is that still a thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:43 AM
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Can you say with a straight face that a woman who is madly in love with a man would sit back and do nothing for all of these events? Because that is literally what you describe here multiple times, the woman doing nothing to indicate she even likes this dude or genuinely reciprocates his feelings. When people show you who they are believe them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:42 AM
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You're describing what happens when you're in a relationship with someone who doesn't actually like you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 02:38 AM
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I dunno, I went to an all-girl high school and that experience kinda trained me to the point where I can read the environment and fit in fairly well with almost any group of women. Read the room. Look pretty. Don't be annoying. Don't say stupid shit that makes everybody go 😐. Make yourself someone other people aren't afraid to be seen with. That's how you navigate and increase your standing in the FSM in my experience. Edit: Ah, I forgot another one of the big unspoken rules. Don't be that chick…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 02:45 AM
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I prefer not to narrow down too much for privacy reasons, but like I said, Bible Belt Here's a Wikipedia article on the Bible Belt for an idea of which states that includes
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 02:39 AM
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Reposting my comment from the previous one that got deleted: Eh it's culture dependent. I'm from the Bible Belt. You do have your fundie circles where the women are expected to be sweet, demure doormats at all times. Then you have the ones where women are expected to be stronger and have more attitude. I know everybody hates The Blind Side now but for anyone who has seen it think of Sandra Bullock's character in that. My SO is as sweet and gentle as can be and he basically told me he's never bee…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 08:42 PM
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"I know you are but what am I!" Yes this is the quality discourse I have come to eagerly anticipate from Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 05:06 PM
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Eh it's culture dependent. I'm from the Bible Belt. You do have your fundie circles where the women are expected to be sweet, demure doormats at all times. Then you have the ones where women are expected to be stronger and have more attitude. I know everybody hates The Blind Side now but for anyone who has seen it think of Sandra Bullock's character in that. My SO is as sweet and gentle as can be and he basically told me he's never been interested in a girl who's just like him in terms of person…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 04:18 PM
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Irl yes, online no. What I mean by this is that there are women who aren't noticed (as far as they know) by the relatively small number of men they interact with in real life but once you widen that net through the internet it's next to impossible for a woman to not get attention from men. On top of that, a lot of guys are shy. I have a petite friend with girl next door vibes who was never asked out by anyone until junior year in college. I'm sure other guys liked her before that but they never …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 03:17 PM
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I'm a Southern Catholic woman who identifies as left-leaning at most so all of the assumptions that you're making to discredit my observations are actually meaningless
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 02:26 PM
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What? That man should be dating a hot waitress, PPD told me so
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 05:04 PM
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On a related note I have a feeling that being separated or in the process of a divorce but not fully divorced is more of a hindrance to women's dating lives than men's. So many women will believe all the flowery promises and buy into the dude who is perpetually in the process of leaving his wife, I'm not sure how many men you're gonna find willing to wait around indefinitely for that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 05:00 PM
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That sounds exhausting. A fun fact about me is that I'm far too cynical to readily buy into alliances of any kind. I believe that many many people are out for themselves, and will use and step on whoever it takes to better their own position. I can count on my family. I can count on the "village" I have built for myself beyond my family. I am extremely hesitant to put my trust in others outside of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 07:20 AM
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Neat so in your view gay men on average are different from straight men and the former cannot necessarily be used to draw conclusions about the latter
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 05:23 AM
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Yeah no OP repeatedly exhibited the exact logic I criticized in his post where he has specifically called for people to debate his logic. Once again to some of you "deflection" is a pretty word for "argument that I don't like"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 04:43 AM
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https://www.usccb.org/beliefs-and-teachings/what-we-believe/catholic-social-teaching/seven-themes-of-catholic-social-teaching Feel free to read up if interested, my regard for Catholic social teaching has led me to consider myself a left-leaning moderate in terms of political views
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 04:04 AM
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If a dude's posts primarily revolve around women and heterosexual relationships he's most likely straight
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 12:47 AM
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The way that K-12 works is that each grade builds on the previous one. If you barely made it through second grade and get passed along to third you are starting out at a significant disadvantage compared to your peers who performed well. Rinse and repeat. Your theory would make more sense if boys outpaced or were at least performing equally to girls but then suddenly collapsed in high school. That isn't what the data indicates.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 12:34 AM
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That's exactly what I needed. Thank you very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 12:17 AM
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I'm not sure where you're getting that from because data on girls performing better than boys in school goes all the way back to kindergarten level
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 12:08 AM
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Unfortunately I have been on this sub long enough to have an idea of which users are straight or not based on their posts If I'm misremembering OP's circumstances he's free to let me know
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 12:01 AM
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Butchered armchair psychology speak is the worst thing to happen to internet discourse
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 11:52 PM
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You still haven't explained how my comment embodied deflection because again you have no idea what that means
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 11:49 PM
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See above
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 11:44 PM
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So to be clear you're acknowledging that complex societal factors can cause sexual minorities to have different lived experiences and tendencies than straight members of their own sex
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 10:52 PM
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That explanation is contradicted by the fact that the gap in academic performance emerges among school age boys still in their "eww girls are icky" phase
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 10:08 PM
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Your comment is one word because you're afraid that adding more will reveal you have no idea what it means. And that fear is very valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 10:03 PM
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I wouldn’t even want to wash that myself much less have him do it, tampons for life
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 08:41 PM
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Straight people using sexual minority groups as fodder for gender wars is very disturbing in general to me. Certain straight men on the internet seem weirdly eager to claim gay men when it specifically benefits them and then just throw them out/call them outliers when it doesn’t. Like educational attainment. Gay men perform better in school and are significantly more likely than straight men to have a bachelor's as well as postgraduate degrees. We're not gonna talk about that though when it come…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 08:24 PM
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Take two since I misread your comment the first time. Not gonna name any names but based on the accounta of certain ex-military you're always gonna have those people who don't give a single fuck and would do it again in a heartbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 03:27 AM
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If it's any consolation I never downvote on Reddit and very rarely upvote. The only time I upvote is on the daily when I'm talking to a user I like but awkwardly don't know if a conversation has reached its natural conclusion or they expect a response from me. Upvoting is the happy medium.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 03:04 AM
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This kind of logic is exactly why the concept of hypergamy can be very difficult to take seriously. Just keeps expanding what counts as the "best man" or "trading up" or whatever so that literally any relationship can be somehow justified through the lens of hypergamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 09:21 PM
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Okay leave your comment up, in all likelihood people are going to keep responding to your interpretation of what OP wants to discuss
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 08:49 PM
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How about you're not a moderator but you're free to report me if you think my engagement here breaks any sub rules
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 08:44 PM
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Yeah I've already given my own anecdote here of my sibling who is the opposite of hypergamous and instead had a kid with and supports a broke dude who doesn't want to work When it comes to choosing romantic/sexual partners people make terrible choices and fuck themselves over in various ways, eliminating hypergamy wouldn’t fix that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 08:38 PM
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You're free to delete your interpretation of OP if you don't want people addressing it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 08:31 PM
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Society actively pushes against all kinds of shit that people still proceed to do anyway so I'm not sure what you're all thinking that would accomplish. My sister is the opposite, she had a kid with an unemployed deadbeat who continues to sit on his ass while she supports them. Hell I wish she were hypergamous, or at least some happy middle ground between that and deadbeatgamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 07:30 PM
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OP I'm confused about what we're supposed to debate here. This just seems like a rambling cautionary tale about your single mom fuck buddy. That's a grown ass woman making grown ass woman choices, what does that have to do with us?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 07:17 PM
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I was seriously hoping I misread that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 03:47 AM
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Idgaf about hiking but shared interest in reading, writing stories, etc. was a major aspect of how my SO and I bonded so quickly. We've literally had dates that solely revolved around those things. I had the hardest time understanding how some couples struggle so much to plan mutually enjoyable dates but having not a single hobby in common definitely sounds like it would be a contributing factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 03:45 AM
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Let me make sure I'm understanding what you're saying here Height. Income. Status. Aesthetic. Social proof. These are easy to measure and easy to compare. They’re visible, so they become the filter. But real compatibility isn’t shared hobbies or matching political takes. Did you just dismiss a bunch of traits you consider to be superficial but then also claim that shared hobbies and political views don't matter for compatibility?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:19 AM
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You can say that as many times as you want and nobody has to agree with you especially when it comes to their own experience. Compromise, whether it be on looks or values or whatever, is for people who lack options and are afraid to stay single. Thankfully that isn't the case for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 12:07 AM
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My brother got attention from girls all his life but chose religious celibacy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:51 PM
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It looks more like she does that without telling him and then when he finds out he blames everyone for it but her and she doesn't get punished. Therefore she has no reason to not do it again. My sister went out partying with some girls from her dance team in high school when they were all supposedly at a sleepover. One was a major daddy's girl. When her dad confronted her she yelled at him and said he ruined everything. He called my mom and yelled at her for having a daughter who was a poor infl…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:44 PM
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Ime it's a mixed bag. The phrase "daddy's girl" is often used to refer to a girl or woman who was spoiled and coddled primarily by her father.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:35 PM
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Option 3 My mother always said "not all that glitters is gold." She warned me that a more modest lifestyle is better than being a kept woman in a loveless marriage or "maybe he'll grow on me" situation. She almost went that route herself. She felt so much dread while seeing that man and just kept thinking about how much she missed my father. She left him and married my father. 30+ years later they're still like lovesick teens. They struggled together in school and both became 200K white collar p…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:52 PM
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By your logic physical attractiveness would also be irrelevant because they would have been insufficient to get his foot in the door if other criteria weren't met. For example I didn't care how good-looking a man was, tattoos were a no-go. Not because I find them hideous or unsightly, but because in my experience tattoos were an easy visual marker of a man whose values are likely misaligned with mine in fundamental ways incompatible with marriage. Any profane messages or images on his clothing w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:23 PM
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Sometimes that says a lot about who does the hiring lol, you'll find places that aren't straight-up breastaurants but it's very clear the owner has a type
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:05 PM
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If no one on this planet were allowed to utter words someone else has called "bullshit" it would be a rather quiet place. If he were handsome but lacked everything else I care about I might be Sister Ange right now. In my opinion, that means things are in fact deeper than looks. You are free to call that bullshit. As I am free to assert it with all confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 07:22 PM
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Extremely. If I couldn't find a man who was both very attractive and met my standards I literally would have joined a convent.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 03:01 PM
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I just call it out myself tbh. "Damn you're adding whole novels to your comments after the fact. Slow down and think so you can get it right the first time." Something like that. They love to hear it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 09:04 PM
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We met at a bookstore. I moved to his town after undergrad and was still really new to the area. He wasn't having much luck with his love life. It's a safe affluent suburban area where most people don't mind a little small talk, so some of his female friends were encouraging him to try talking to people more while out and about, including pretty girls. He was doubtful at first, but we were standing pretty close and he went for it. Rest is history. Our first date was very casual. We messaged and …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 08:56 PM
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When I was growing up my parents used to watch a garbage reality TV dating show called "Flavor of Love." Sometime after a particular season the winner was interviewed on a radio show and she was extremely blunt about the fact that none of the women on the show were actually attracted to him, they all had ulterior motives for being there. Streaming has basically become the new reality TV. Except unlike a contestant on a show who gets her bag or whatever and has no reason to lie after that streame…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 05:01 AM
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In college I was friends with the pres and VP of a frat through a student organization for campus leaders. They knew that I wasn't about the drinking and the sex but we got along well and they invited me to hang at the house sometime, no pressure to partake in anything. They also had one of the better reputations on campus and even some guys you would never expect to rush in a million years. And also ones you would 100% expect, like pres. Pres definitely got around with girls, I met one of his f…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 04:21 AM
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As a "good girl" I will say that you really can't base your choices on what men supposedly want. There are a lot of them out there and they want different things. "Men want peace!" Do they? Have you seen some of these women out here who manage to get a ring? Plenty of men actively seek out chaos or are at least willing to tolerate and excuse it especially if she's very attractive. Bring peace to a relationship because you want peace not because of some alleged crazy chick boycott that isn't happ…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 03:51 AM
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I generally agree but that particular video is a terrible example. The conversation is what you would get if you asked a 13-year-old to write flirty banter. They both look awkward as hell to me, he's trying really hard to be cool and the girl's trying really hard to seem like she's genuinely interested while forgetting to not look at the camera. I genuinely worry that we are at a point where people consume social media content so much they forget how humans act naturally when they're not being f…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 03:20 AM
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Not yet but it's coming Heh
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 10:27 PM
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I think the more stable trend in Fire Emblem is youth = beauty. You get some older characters who are still good-looking, especially female ones, but the young characters are almost all consistently classic anime cute or handsome or beautiful. So young villains/villainesses are good-looking pretty much without fail. Cormag from Sacred Stones is a weird case because he is a morally conflicted non-conventionally attractive character on the evil side you can recruit. But his age is unclear.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 07:54 PM
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For this premise to be true one must first assume that Western women "lose sleep" over passport bros. I think that passport bros really want Western women to lose sleep over them. I can't remember the last time a female user made a post about this topic. It's usually men, demanding that women justify our less than glowing opinions of what they do. I've said this time and time again here. You don't need anyone's permission to live your life, unless legal matters are involved. Obsessing over what …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 05:29 PM
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And the counterpart to this one (initial messages received by attractiveness) has a take from Rudder that I am sure would be totally uncontroversial on this subreddit <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 04:15 AM
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you can literally check in 10 minutes the okcupid data that the top 20% of men got the most massages and 80% of men where below avarage. The okcupid data literally didn't say that the top 20% of men got the most messages. The ratings and actual messaging were separate data. <image> https://gwern.net/doc/psychology/okcupid/yourlooksandyourinbox.html
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 12:38 AM
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I think there are some key reasons for what you're witnessing that are missing here. There was a time where one of those types of sites, maybe Seeking Arrangements, was aggressively advertising on Reddit. I was genuinely shocked to see something like that just openly being promoted. You can open insights on ads to see who they're targeting. One of the groups listed was literally just "women." And yeah these ads mainly featured attractive people running around on beaches and having luxury vacatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 12:03 AM
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As long as he knows where it is we're all good
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 11:37 PM
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If I'm understanding that article right they had an age gap of like 15 years and she was 22 when they married. Based on the photos, this looks like it was some trophy wife shit and may have been transactional from the start. Now she has a new hustle for getting the bills paid: grifting.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 11:33 PM
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I always try to keep in mind the ways my upbringing affected how I interact with people. In a place where people are very talkative and friendly my childhood shyness was seen as a fault to be corrected, and corrected it was. His upbringing was likely different. He could be shy. Perhaps he's simply the kind of person who can't be bothered with pleasantries. Either way, we're clearly not on the same wavelength. I would be courteous and respectful, as I generally am with co-workers. He wouldn't hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 04:03 PM
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There are plenty of men who A. want kids and B. not socially acceptable to have kids out of wedlock in their SES Not sure how many middle class+ men you're going to find popping out multiple kids with a woman they're not married to and don't intend to marry
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 09:28 AM
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Nothing but an emergency could compel me to straight-up leave a movie I paid to see. At most I'm getting up to refill my popcorn bucket and come right back to enjoy my snack in a comfy seat even if I don't give a single fuck about anything that's happening on the screen.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 03:12 AM
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To me the advice is best suited for young adult students who have access to all sorts of clubs and activities. I do genuinely find it strange that people on Reddit treat it as the norm for post-college adults to be involved in and meet in those kinds of groups. Yes I get that they exist, but I can count the number of people I know who has joined a group of total strangers for a hobby after college on one hand. The closest thing I can think of with more people especially here in the South is chur…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 03:09 AM
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This is the kind of subject I would typically only seriously discuss irl because the internet is filled with bad actors making both sides of this about their own agenda instead of multiple human beings who were humiliated over shit out of their control. I struggled with blasphemous intrusive thoughts as a kid at Mass, if my brain forced me to yell that shit out loud I probably would've made a lot of people uncomfortable and Idk how my family would've been able to navigate that. On the other hand…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 11:09 PM
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It's especially wild when people put that on social media on an anniversary post or something. As soon as I see that I know they'll probably be broken up within the year. People post the best possible version of their relationship on social media. If the best possible version is "we have our ups and downs but" the relationship is toast.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 10:15 AM
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Isn't there a poop emoji award or something that people use that way?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 02:52 AM
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As the selective service law currently stands in the U.S. afaik only men 18-25 are actually eligible to be drafted. Voter turnout among young adults is notoriously low in the U.S., with young men being the least likely to vote. So most of the men actually exercising their right to vote actually cannot be drafted under current U.S. law funnily enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 09:19 PM
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You want your fucking angle to be a mystery apparently so all we have to go off of are clues
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 01:43 PM
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You have my condolences in advance. Or congratulations if you enjoy large gatherings.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 04:57 AM
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What is the deal with the Kibbe shit? I feel like I'm getting it suggested in my feed all the time now and I still don't get what they're trying to accomplish
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 04:45 AM
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If I were competing I'd take one look at that hair and gorgeous gold dress and immediately know my life is a work of fiction and I'm part of the quirky supporting cast getting silver at best
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 04:07 AM
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Can you give more concrete examples of these interactions and behaviors? That would make it a lot easier to provide possible explanations. Edit: Okay so the only clues we have so far from OP is him claiming that male friends are disrespected and less than if you're not as physically affectionate and not having sleepovers with them. Hopefully he gets around to clearing things up with the multiple people asking for examples, because based on what we have right now OP's expectations of female femin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 03:07 AM
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I see. Thank you for sharing your experience. I appreciate hearing about how other schools navigated this and to learn the ways in which our school system may have been exceptional. As I said in a comment, most of the men and women I know who went to school in this network are engaged or married now. To give an example on our end, the freshmen at my school had a mandatory after school event with our brother school's freshmen. The upper grades had an equivalent too, but weren't required to attend…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 02:40 AM
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Some people are like that, especially if they've lived in the same region for their whole lives. People usually drift apart from moving away. Not an issue if you were raised, went to school, went to college, and now work all within 60 miles or so. I know an extroverted former Southern frat bro athlete like that whose ride-or-die childhood friend circle is already like 10 guys. Add in his close college friends he keeps up with and his close work mates and you're definitely getting close to 25. We…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 11:48 PM
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To what extent did your school partner with girls' schools and encourage interactions with girls outside of school hours?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 11:20 PM
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Depending on where you find yourself in the U.S., the culture you experience can be very different. Just driving about 30 minutes out from a major city you may find that the people there and the people in the city are nothing alike in terms of their values. There are people who think the nation as we know it now is not going to last more than another century or two because how divided our culture is and continues to become.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:45 PM
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Everyone has their own experiences and observations. Like I said, our schools still required or encouraged us to interact with boys/girls from other schools. We dated guys we met through those activities. But we still had that eight hours of the day, five days a week, to focus on our studies, interests, and personal development. I and most of the people I know who attended these schools are engaged or married now. I'm not sure about STEM schools and to what extent they provide outlets for their …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 01:49 PM
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So language barrier, got it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 01:21 PM
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I disagree. It can be a very healthy thing. One of the common themes in my experience and others I have known who went to single sex schools is that we were able to form our identity without constantly fixating on what the opposite sex thinks of us. It wasn't that we never saw each other. In fact there were events with our brother/sister schools that we were required or strongly encouraged to attend. Many of us dated. We just weren't the focus of each other's lives. There were many girls who cam…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 11:36 AM
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My initial reaction will probably be something like "yeah that sounds about right." Reality is a harsh mistress. Consciously, I rein those thoughts in, because again I interpret studies as they are intended, contributions to a body of research that is expected to continue expanding and have limitations often clearly articulated by the person who conducted it. It seems that you're trying to fish a specific kind of answer from me right now. I'm just gonna be upfront with you here. You won't get wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 10:57 AM
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I'm gonna tackle the "decenter the opposite sex" concept more broadly. At face value, I see the promise in this concept. Most of the women in my family attend/attended all-girl schools. Most of men attend/attended all-boy achools. In a lot of ways I personally find that educating boys and girls separately at that age can be a very good thing. A lot of the reasons for it being a good thing align with the thought processes articulated by the OP. It's arguably even more impactful at that critical a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 10:52 AM
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So your conclusion is based on nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 10:34 AM
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Based on what are you coming to that conclusion
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 10:08 AM
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As I've said on this sub before, I'm a very cynical person. I can be somewhat biased in that sense. If I see a study that seems to have results that are a bit too uplifting and reassuring I will probably be more skeptical of it than something that's neutral or depressing tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 10:07 AM
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I interpret studies as they are intended, contributions to a body of research that is expected to continue expanding and have limitations often clearly articulated by the person who conducted it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 09:51 AM
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The Bible Belt. Dating culture is very different here, at least among devout Christians.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 09:27 AM
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Yes, this is a common issue with health and nutrition-related studies. In fact most people calling out how research is presented in pill spaces have very likely encountered this issue prior in other areas, hence knowing to be skeptical when someone makes very bold claims based on research that happens to favor a conclusion that they are clearly very emotionally invested in. Remember that period where it seemed that nobody could agree if egg yolk is good for you or not and egg whites were a huge …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 09:24 AM
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Yeah I gotta pull a Regina George when it comes to her "You're like really pretty"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 01:05 AM
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If Manon leaves Katseye I will legitimately be kind of sad
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 12:45 AM
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It was never something we really discussed but my fiancé's style noticeably changed the longer we were together. I call his current look "Hallmark channel love interest." What can I say, I like to dress cute. He took notice of that and didn't want to be the guy wearing faded graphic tees while his girlfriend looks put together. Ngl I do appreciate that. It's not something I would have commented on or forced him to do though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 08:16 PM
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It kind of depends on how deep the insecurity goes and if there's more complex underlying issues contributing to it than rejection. Insecure people fuck up their relationships all the time because even the external validation they receive isn't sufficient to overcome their self-hatred. They can convince themselves that the people showing interest are lying to them, have an ulterior motive, are only doing so out of pity, etc. Oftentimes these cases have issues from childhood, family relationships…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 07:34 PM
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I mean it was harder for me to quit porn. Like the longer I'd go without it I'd think of and sometimes give in and watch those specific videos, or seek out new ones that are similar. Giving up written explicit content was easier. I can't even remember much of the stories I read but I can remember the porn I've watched. I'll be real, I wasn't fully able to stop until I started dating my fiancé. People who manage to quit while single are actual legends in my view.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 06:27 PM
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Being able to find visual porn that caters to you in 20 minutes is a man thing. In my regrettable porn phase it took a lot longer than that because like 90% of porn that you can get for free is made primarily to cater to men. I wanted to see tension and build-up, not "this attractive woman inexplicably wants to jump on this average bald dude's dick for no apparent reason. Oh yeah there is a reason, she's acting." When I did manage to find something I liked, it had a way stronger affect on my bra…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 06:10 PM
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The vets have no idea what to do The hell they don't. The part that she's probably leaving out is that the vets have suggested euthanization or letting the issue run its course but she wants to keep this cat alive even if it hates being alive and therefore ignores them. My fiancé could have put his cat through further testing and treatments for his condition, but the vet warned that it would be very costly and fuck up his quality of life. So instead my fiancé focuses on making the time he has le…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 05:32 PM
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I wrote up a whole response to them about my thoughts on courtship and dates that I accidentally deleted and then just took the L and went to sleep. He actually is a virgin (we both are) and had never kissed a girl when we met. He has plenty of experience with that now though. Will be Catholic soon. We did a walk for our first outing at my suggestion. Though we were very interested in each other we were basically strangers. Launching into full-on expensive dates didn't seem wise in my view, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 04:52 PM
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When that much money is being moved around the wife totally knows or doesn't want to know
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 03:55 AM
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Good talk
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:45 AM
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Correction: I'm not interested in why you're mad actually. I dedicated an entire paragraph to a concrete example of my standards and you clearly didn't read it for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:41 AM
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Funnily enough, another big piece of advice from my mother especially and to an extent my grandmother was that sexual attraction matters. Marriage isn't easy. Being married to someone who doesn't light your flame makes it even harder. My mom walked away from a pro athlete who was a good option on paper but simply wasn't physically attractive to her. This is something I get into a bit more with my "series" on the daily thread. Here's one post that's relevant. Part 4: Cards on the Table Trigger wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:20 AM
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You found something to be mad at and then stopped reading
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:08 AM
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I listened to my mother and grandmother, married 30ish and 50ish years respectively. They encouraged me to keep my standards high and to set strict boundaries for how men talk to and treat me. They knew I was raised right, the concern was vetting for men who were raised right. I had a feeling that my fiancé was special from the start. He was nervous but also very kind and considerate. The day we met he told me he was going to be spending time with his family later. He spoke so fondly of them. He…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 11:52 PM
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It's a misleading characterization of cases like "oh look at this serial killer's fangirls" where BPers point out that those women are not the type a normal dude should want. Then they turn around and call us misogynistic because apparently saying a woman who wants to be romantically involved with a murderer is evil, crazy, or both is misogyny. Or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 10:57 PM
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Is it really misogynistic/misandrist to say that someone of either sex who knows that their SO is a terrible person and sees nothing wrong with it is a terrible person themselves? This argument keeps getting brought up by men who are seemingly in denial that they've fallen for or would date a woman who isn't a good person due to halo effect, desperation, or both.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 10:50 PM
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I can see a universe where this could have happened if: He was married to the child's mother First wife died or marriage was annulled The child is overall sweet and well-mannered
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 10:19 PM
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The women in my family would consider me a failure if the best I could make for my partner was a sandwich lol, so I guess not. Making a sandwich is depressed lonely bachelor behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 10:09 PM
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Where I'm from yes, it's essentially a masculine ritual in part for gaging the woman's interest in more dates. We were taught to accept if we like him and want to go on more dates. If you don't like him, don't accept his money. Pay your own way. I understand that elsewhere in the U.S. it doesn't really work like this. I spent time away in the northeast and came back asking for separate checks after my first lunch date with my fiancé. Poor thing looked like he saw a ghost.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 09:39 PM
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I've only studied in Japan during summer but if I ever get to spend time there in winter I'd probably listen to White Breath by TM Revolution everyday. Very different vibe lol but a fun listen for me when it's cold out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 07:37 PM
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You kind of switch back and forth here between "arguing" and "disagreeing", the latter is not the same as the former. In general at least in the culture I live in (pretty affluent American Bible Belt suburbs) both men and women try to avoid making a scene in public. I don't even know the last time I witnessed people just straight-up arguing. Disagreements can happen of course, but it's not common here to escalate to argument unless you're dealing with very emotional or stubborn people. Or people…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 07:13 PM
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At my college you had different sorts of fraternities, some of them would take pretty much anyone who wasn't an annoying asshole during rush and ones where you needed to come from a rich well-connected family or be an athlete on one of the notable teams to have a chance. The guy in the pic reminds me of the latter type.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 01:27 AM
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All I'm gonna say is that if anyone genuinely lost their minds over this they really need to get out more. I hope that no one is actually shocked that your average rich kid jock fraternity is going to have dudes more conventionally attractive than Clavicular.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 12:41 AM
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A lot of people seem to forget that it's easier to criticize something when you have an interest in the first place. Somebody who hates watching movies isn't going to become a film critic for a living. Ime the kinds of women watching dating shows in the first place are more apolitical or even conservative. A show that revolves solely around women putting down other women and fighting for male attention has literally nothing a hardcore feminist would be readily interested in. There are generally …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 12:35 AM
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Yep, TikTok
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 07:35 PM
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On a marginally related note, it was discovered that the young U.S. skater who fell from favorite for first place to eight place shared a bunch of really depressing posts before the routine that killed his standing. Dude was basically on top of the world and there's a nonzero chance consuming that kind of stuff contributed to worsening his mental state enough to miss out an Olympic medal. Or keeping him in a funk that he may have otherwise been able to get out of. It's kind of crazy to think abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 07:18 PM
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Thanks Kevin Durant (allegedly), I'm stealing this <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 06:01 PM
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Basically I find lighter eye colors pretty and feminine, but not sexy or masculine. I've always had a lowkey bias that blue eyes are a better trait on women than men. I didn't Ike my own eyes for the longest time thinking the color suited men better. My fiancé has helped me to like my eyes more. He actually thinks that big dark brown eyes on a woman are very cute. Funnily enough his mom's side of the family are all brown-eyed while his dad's side has one of the rarer light colors. So that could …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 11:47 AM
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Why would a woman even need a bunch of "allies" on this particular issue? Is there legislation she wants passed requiring thst first dates take place in a public high traffic area? Again to me this reflects a common obsession on the internet with justifying everything to everyone and needing random people to like/understand you. I can't even imagine giving anybody that much power or mental space over what I personally need to feel safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 11:34 AM
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Thankfully there are plenty to go around in the Year of our Lord 2026
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:17 AM
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I just talked about expecting other people to give a shit about your problems on a since deleted post yesterday. Call me a cynical person but I did mean it when I said that you're gonna be disappointed a lot of the time expecting random people to care about much less prioritize your concerns. That goes for both women and men. The idealism, the "maybe if I put it into perspective they'll understand how much I struggle with-" No. With something like this I've learned to become comfortable with peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:15 AM
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I'm what the internet seems to call "slim thick" I guess, 5'3, 27. My asks were brown/dark brown/black hair, brown or dark brown eyes, at least a bachelor's degree, devout Christian, ideally virgin, minimal alcohol consumption and definitely no drugs (not even weed), no tattoos, no need to be super athletic but at least able to walk a couple miles a day without looking like he's gonna die, polite, courteous, getting along with my family, his family getting along with me, shared casual interest i…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 10:15 PM
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There has been one act of terrorism linked to antinatalism ever afaik, nobody died besides the perpetrator, and that was enough to permanently affect discourse about that movement and get at least one subreddit banned
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 07:56 PM
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I'm my fiancé's first and only romantic partner and while I don't think it's impossible to be fulfilled by a partner with prior experience in these things I will say it can uncomplicate a lot of things. I dated two guys prior who did have relationship experience. The most experienced was also the worst because he thought he knew everything and if I didn't like or didn't want to do something the other girls he dated did, I was the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 12:53 PM
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Yes to the point where I actually feel bad when I realize I let the door close on someone behind me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 05:40 AM
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"People who challenge my way of thinking and debate me on this debate sub think they're better than me"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 05:32 AM
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"Social animals" actually build relationships which organically evolve into mutual trust and concern for each other. Less social animals just want that concern to materialize out of thin air among complete strangers who have their own shit to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 04:09 AM
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Next step is to make peace with it. Seems like a lot more struggle with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 02:54 AM
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I avidly didn't want to marry or have kids until sometime around 13/14. I didn't really like baby dolls, Cabbage Patch, American girl dolls, or anything of the sort when I was little. I was all about stuffed animals or dolls that looked more like older girls rather than babies or young children, think Bratz. The change came on gradually. I felt less and less awkward around children. If a baby stared at me on the other side of the restaurant booth I found myself wanting to play peek-a-boo and mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 02:52 AM
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Life is a lot easier once you learn to not expect anyone who isn't related to you or otherwise directly invested in your life to give a single fuck about your problems or perspectives and unfortunately lots of women (and men) haven't realized it yet. Like at most be pleasantly surprised when it happens, but don't count on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 02:19 AM
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Dot Hack is back baby If you don't know what that is, don't worry about it But yeah this franchise is the source of one of my favorite anime OPs of all time
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 12:04 AM
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This looks like a bunch of people who know they're being filmed and acting awkward as shit because of it Doesn't the brunette stare directly at the camera multiple times lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 07:20 AM
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I try to imagine young/currently in high school gen z or even gen alpha doing those posts now and just see absolute chaos lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 01:00 AM
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Fiancé: I told him I was really hoping to see him around again. When he said something along the lines of "That sounds good!... Like, here?" I told him it could be here or, of he was up for it, anywhere really. Based on my tone he figured it would be a good time to ask if I'm on Instagram or anything. First BF: Commented on his tbh post. When I was in high school on Instagram people would use those posts to try to bait or soft confess to their crushes. He made the "comment for a tbh" post a litt…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 11:50 PM
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This is my completely uninformed opinion as someone who barely used OLD. Isn't the point of the bio to introduce yourself and who you are? Leading with what you expect of the opposite sex kinda seems weird to me. The standards themselves are reasonable imo, just not how she chose to make that the focus of her bio.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 07:32 PM
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People who are really talented with hair have the weirdest capacity for just randomly going off the grid for reasons that aren't clear
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 04:10 AM
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Thank you Brigid ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 02:00 PM
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Call me a prophet
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 02:52 AM
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We had a 19yo at my high school, iirc it was a combination of her having one of those awkward birthdays for deciding when to start your kid plus being held back at least once. It was all girls anyway so not as controversial as a coed environment with a "kid" that old.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 01:51 AM
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Waiting until marriage makes sense if you want the greatest possible chance of not being impregnated out of wedlock, but needless to say plenty of people think it's weird or unwise for any number of reasons. Yeah guess what, I'm doing it anyway. I don't understand the obsession with defending/justifying your personal life decisions to strangers. The only person it needs to make sense to, provided it's not illegal, is you. Yeah I think it's weird for a 35yo man to actively seek out women 10+ year…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 01:34 AM
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If we had doubts about the progress made or the competence of that particular therapist we probably would have looked for a different one at least. I have a relative who practiced psychiatry for decades so we did have them to offer some advice/confirm that the family therapist was making sense. We were at a breaking point with my sister and there were concerns that she would cut contact and not let us see my nephew. I won't lie, if it were just her some of us could have definitely lived with no …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 01:24 AM
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I'm sorry your version just reminded me of a scene from a cartoon Character 1: "You're a horrible roommate and nobody in this house likes you!" The mediator/peacekeeper character: "No, lets frame our statements with 'when you do this, it makes me feel this'..." Character 1: "Okay. When you live here, it makes me feel angry because you're a horrible roommate and nobody in this house likes you."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 10:22 PM
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My brother and my SO both benefited significantly from therapy (the family sessions for my brother, my SO did individual) and I'm sure you're going to believe they're both outliers because literally nothing can persuade you that therapy is ever good for men
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 09:59 PM
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Good to know
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 09:41 PM
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I guess our therapist failed then because we got what we needed from it and bounced
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 09:33 PM
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Women love therapy culture until they actually have to practice what they preach. The moment a man says, I need you to think about how I feel or You are responsible for the words you choose, the script flips. Suddenly, the defense from women becomes, 'That’s not how humans work, I’m not a robot. I was dragged to family therapy for a few months due to a sister who very likely has a personality disorder. Therapy focused on "I" statements, i.e. "I feel X when Y happens" to avoid coming across as ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 07:50 PM
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Shut Up Faker lives in my head rent-free
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 07:21 PM
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Okay then don't do romance, you officially have my permission
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 05:40 AM
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What did you witness in your parents' marriage? I always say that if their marriage didn't instill healthy/positive ideas about love in you the strangers on the internet sure as hell can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 05:32 AM
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Yep. Now it's up to you to choose whether to believe it or not OP, none of us have the power to force you to do that. If you don't believe, it's your right to not be involved in romantic relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 05:22 AM
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Here you go! Might be a helpful resource google.com
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 03:10 AM
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The most culturally relevant animated movie from last year, KPDH, literally had the male love interest sacrifice his life so the female lead could defeat the villain. It seems very likely that she would have died without his intervention. Even before that he helped her to come to terms with and accept who she was, which was one of the central conflicts of the movie. Yes he's technically a villain for much of a movie but it's clear that he's being manipulated and his own insecurities are being pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 11:04 PM
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Dinner as well! A little nervous about the parking situation where we're going but we're all in on making it work lol. Wishing you both a lovely Valentine's night ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 10:49 PM
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Hello NJ! What's good? Valentine's plans with Mr. Flowerchild?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 09:34 PM
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The ones who notice it maybe See the male grooming sub "Girls never talk to me, is it my face?" - dude who legit looks like he could be a model
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 07:00 PM
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Disclaimer: I'm not formally diagnosed but I have suspected at times that I may be autistic but very prone to masking due to the culture I grew up in. I have crushed on fictional characters but not on celebrities. I liked Steve Rogers/Captain America but didn't give a fuck about some dude named Chris Evans. Some people easily transfer their feelings for a character to whoever plays them, but that was never really the case for me. I would tell people my celebrity crushes were Chris Evans, Chris H…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 12:42 AM
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See if I ever hate myself enough to participate in this kind of brain rot no one's going to post me to the internet because my answers will be too boring and reasonable for clickbait content
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 10:59 PM
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I wonder to what extent online shopping has contributed to that decline as well. I imagine that Etsy and Amazon alone have probably cornered a massive portion of that market.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 01:17 PM
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My personal experience is that RPers can't even agree on what RP as a whole represents
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 12:50 PM
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It's mostly projection, but also not understanding the difference between correlation and causation their literal observations of the claims made by people who identify themselves as RP, which RPers will definitely understand due to their tendency to stress the importance of observation I edited it a bit for clarity, no need to thank me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 12:46 PM
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I think its more of a case of More than what exactly. I don't see where our points are contradicting. Yes I'm aware that liberal RPers exist. But you can't ignore that the tradcon side of it exists as well and will inevitably contribute to people's overall perceptions of RP. The BP=liberal stereotype is one of my pet peeves but I can also acknowledge that that's not something people pulled out of thin air. A lot of people who explicitly identify themselves as BP on Reddit are in fact very libera…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 12:41 PM
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Neat. In your post you claimed that RP is not conservative and does not seek to change society but now we seem to be in agreement that there are in fact RPers who believe otherwise. Therefore that perception is not solely a product of projection as you claimed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 12:12 PM
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I included this example in my previous comment anticipating the "it's just overlap" defense I saw this a lot over the years when I would talk about my traditional values like waiting until marriage and have people, usually self-proclaimed RPers, asking why I'm not RP. This is a clear-cut case of RPers not just happening to hold RP and conservative views simultaneously, but actively believing that conservative values are inherently RP and vice versa
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 12:04 PM
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"It's just a toolbox" are the seemingly innocuous but deadly words at the root of the RP identity crisis. Like it or not RP is always going to appeal to a certain contingent of people who are attracted to some of the general vibes of RP but have way more tradcon mindsets and who do believe that society should change. And when anyone points out all of the ways their viewpoints directly contradict the basics of RP, we already know how they're going to respond. "Oh shit you're right, I'm Blue Pill …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 11:36 AM
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Here's an excerpt from a post I wrote here about my fiancé. It's kind of relevant to your question here. I was 23 when we met and started dating. I should probably preface this by saying we're both serious Christians and our approach to dating was informed by our beliefs. So some of this might sound alien to those who date in the secular context. The rest of my day after meeting Mr. Ange was dedicated almost solely to trying to temper my thoughts about him, and how I shouldn't build up castles i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 01:53 AM
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...Is this real? This lowkey feels like aome kind of elaborate satire of Reddit mods
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 05:44 PM
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Thank you, you as well!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 08:50 PM
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We're here to have fun aren't we? If you don't enjoy engaging with me you won't hurt my feelings if you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 08:46 PM
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OP you're not really articulating where this alleged lack of understanding is coming in outside of "they disagree with me and therefore they must not understand me." Believe it or not people can 100% understand your reasoning and still reject it for any number of reasons. That is an inescapable part of adult life, especially when you willfully opt into participating in a debate sub. Across history there have been many very intelligent humans with solid logic and reasoning behind their ideas who …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 08:31 PM
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They take me back to my nonsensical hyperpop phase from undergrad so their more recent stuff is definitely a guilty pleasure for me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:54 PM
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Men: Hair, face, body Women: Same plus my nails
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 07:54 PM
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Noticeably crooked/uneven teeth, at least in the U.S. dating context. Braces and straightened teeth are so normalized here that anything else is an instant turnoff for a significant number of men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:22 AM
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I barely played Nioh 2 but I remember the character creator being insanely good
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:47 PM
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I went to a high school run by nuns. I'm religious like you and also learned very well in my teenaged years that not all women need to be romantically involved with men to lead fulfilling lives. I was very open to joining a convent until I was certain I was called to marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 02:51 AM
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I feel like her face looks different in every no makeup photo I've seen. I'm convinced that she got some kind of work done on her face that has made the contrast too exteme between her full cheeks and the pronounced chin. I know some people might come at me for this but yes, that combination can result in a Jigsaw-coded look that is off-putting to some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 01:06 AM
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Get the fuck out before she kills him next
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:00 PM
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I know a girl who's a bit of a diva to say the least and just...does not handle stressful situations well. Her fiancé is a really easygoing guy. If you've seen Bojack Horseman just think of him as Mr. Peanut Butter with a crazy strong Southern accent. For her think Cher Horowitz from Clueless. All kinds of shit happened on their first trip together, including flight delays, missed connections, etc. It sounds like she may have had a couple of breakdowns but he talks about all of it with stars in …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 04:04 AM
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Could be that friendships are more likely to survive when you have different types lol. In my case I'm from the South, lots of dudes here start rocking the lumberjack aesthetic with full beards and whatnot as soon as they finish school. Most of my friends' SOs look like that but I'm not into it myself. I do generally like a good amount of body hair on men but not hiding the face/jawline. I wouldn't go as far as to call most of them downright hideous or something though. My SO just has the advant…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:36 AM
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I would never have done the kind of blind date where you've literally not talked or interacted before lol. At the very least we would have needed to do a couple of longer calls first.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 02:05 PM
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The body of your post doesn't really argue the second half of your premise well. It says that "Women have a much bigger problem accepting when a men is not dominant, then men accepting when a women is not submissive." Then you go on to describe situations that do not really illustrate acceptance of women being "not submissive." Your examples essentially are bisexuality, not being expected to provide financially, and not being expected to be ambitious. Your post would have made more sense if you …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:04 AM
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The girl my first BF dated before me looked nothing like me but then every girl he dated after me including his wife looks like me. Mutual acquaintances have commented on the pattern lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 01:55 AM
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By the time I agreed to an actual date with a guy I already made sure that we had chemistry and plenty to talk about. So I've never had to fake interest on the date itself. To give an example that didn't progress to a date, there's the time I chatted mostly long distance with a guy who occasionally came to my town for work. I found him very attractive but the conversations were dry af and we had virtually nothing in common outside of our religious beliefs. Apparently he was content with that bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 01:49 AM
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Lol every family has a black sheep
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 10:26 PM
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There was a nice girl who waited on my crazy ass sister's ex for years while he kept trying to get back with my sister, even offering to raise her kid with another guy. My sister's baby daddy is a dude who literally used to work under him until he got fired for not being able to pass a drug test. And he still wanted her back and told my sister he'd leave the other girl in a heartbeat for her. Anyway after he got married to that girl he got caught using an alumni account he helps to run to stalk …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 05:38 PM
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Funnily enough it mattered to me more than my SO. I'm the one who brought up sexual history, he said he never would have asked and it was irrelevant to how he felt about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 04:31 PM
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Yes, in their case typically facilitated by alcohol and...other substances
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 06:34 AM
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Does loosening up and going out more count? My undergrad was pretty tough to get into so a lot of the guys who weren't athletes were the types who were pretty focused and locked in on their studies in high school. But from the point you manage to make it in you're pretty much set for life unless you straight-up flunk out. So certain guys choose to pivot from the serious straight edge student to party animals. And yeah they got girls to say the least. Wasn't my kind of scene, but I can't deny it …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 04:44 AM
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I'm not sure if converting to a different Christian denomination counts but my SO's OCIA (basically Catholic initiation) class is filled with Protestants who are in relationships with or married to Catholics
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 09:42 PM
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I'm a Christian from the South. Dating with lifelong monogamy/marriage in mind is pretty much default in my primary social circles. My own SO didn't want to date more than one woman and was set on marrying me from the point we became an official couple. His closest friends are high school sweethearts who only dated each other and married fresh out of college. The same friends' younger siblings are married to each other, not 100% sure at what age they started dating but it wouldn't surprise me if…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 08:49 PM
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Now that you mention it Two Towers probably has the best dark and rainy battle I've seen. In more recent movies/TV shows with those types of sequences everything is so sloppy it's hard to see what's going and who's doing what. Funny that Peter Jackson is seemingly at his best where many other directors fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 04:40 AM
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So now I've officially seen all three LOTR movies in theaters. I did not love RotK as much as Two Towers but it's still a great movie in its own right. Gandalf beating the shit out of the steward of Gondor with his staff multiple times was some of the greatest catharsis I've experienced watching a movie in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 03:27 AM
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Cute Twink 666 with the NSFW Reddit account is not asking women if they fantasize about cucking their BFs with innocent intentions, my lord how do you people still fall for this crap and then have the nerve to make digs about autism at other people on top of that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:29 PM
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No that would be more than enough to immediately realize that OP is yet another fetish poster and all of you are way too invested in this
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:14 PM
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I genuinely think some men are oblivious af by default and start becoming more aware of other women's attraction to them once they're taken. Then that becomes "women are more interested when I'm taken." I've definitely read mate choice copying literature and I do believe there are women who are more interested in taken men. But when a dude claims he's literally never had a woman look at him and suddenly started getting rock star treatment just because he got a GF I'm a bit skeptical.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:37 AM
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OP have you met a single person who was successfully questioned into altering their preferences? You keep mentioning "growth" here like you think there's a mechanism by which a woman's ability to be aroused by a particular man is going to change in response to people confronting her about it. Unless the solution here is for women to feel obligated to date men they're not attracted to. But then a lot of men here seem to consider winding up with someone who isn't that attracted to them to be a fat…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:42 AM
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I'm a trad Christian so for me and most of the people I associate with sex on a first date was so off the table dude's at the wrong restaurant if he's expecting that. The idea of raw attraction as something to be proven by clearing [insert goalposts here] is also not something we really concern ourselves with. I'd the say the bigger concerns early on are the character of the other person and their seriousness about the process of dating. The latter can be a proxy for attraction to an extent thou…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:58 AM
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So many of the male grooming, hair, etc. subs have such an obvious bias toward alt looks a guy should probably do the opposite of what they say if he wants to be attractive to most women
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 06:05 PM
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Really depends on the kind of woman you ask. To me it was more of a green flag. My SO hadn't even kissed a girl at 25. I'm a Christian virgin myself. In our communities you ironically get a mix of dudes who are married with kids at younger ages than you would expect and late bloomers well into their 20s without romantic experience. Some people take longer than others to figure themselves out and find their way. There's nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 12:39 AM
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Hello NJ! Always lovely when you drop in. I hope that you and your husband are well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:53 PM
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Honestly I get "leagues" in terms of how I've seen the idea used by normal people in real life. Problems start with social media, where you're now bringing in multitudes of people who all have their own opinions of what a truly beautiful person looks like, many of whom will confidently treat their own tastes as the universal rubric for determining leagues. "Eh I've seen hotter sorority girls, so she's a 6." Except post one of those sorority girls on the internet, some other dude will chime in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:38 PM
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As someone from the South I can attest that staunch conservative families seem to create the most diehard liberal young men
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:20 AM
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My SO has been getting me into Lord of the Rings. I just told him your username and he laughed out loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 03:38 AM
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A song called "Cruel Angel's Thesis" from the anime Neon Genesis Evangelion The reference was more obvious in some of my previous usernames
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 03:32 AM
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Heirloom engagement rings passed down within families are pretty common in the South. I and most of the girls I know here either have an engagement ring that was passed down in her SO's family or used the diamond(s). An engagement ring that a random stranger not related to either of us wore before? That would have been pretty weird for me ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 03:31 AM
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Drake Maye
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 03:15 AM
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OP can you give a visual example of what a top tier woman who is worthy of commitment from Chad in your view even looks like? Pick literally any conventionally attractive woman and you'll have a solid contingent of guys on the internet insisting that she's overhyped and just average.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:37 AM
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Fun fact: one of the Super Bowl-bound QBs is married at 23 and his wife is his middle school sweetheart. She's cute, girl next door looks. I'm sure the dudes here would say her looksmatch is in a ditch or something but then again they say that about pretty much every woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:30 AM
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Excuse me what? Underground Rotten Tomatoes score betting operations are a thing? <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:31 PM
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"Your worldview is more nuanced than my question was designed to allow and therefore I've decided you somehow agree with me even though you spent multiple paragraphs explaining why you don't" Keep up the greatest hits, I love translating them
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:50 PM
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As with a lot of shit you see on social media it's a concept with innocuous roots that's been corrupted and repackaged for algorithms that thrive on controversy with a side of straight-up grifting. So no, I wouldn't blame a man who doesn't find it appealing. I never heard the exact term "princess treatment" used growing up but I was told to marry a man who "treats you like a princess." Basically, a man who respects, cherishes, and is completely devoted to you. "Princess treatment" as described o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 10:26 PM
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"Your worldview is more nuanced than my question was designed to allow and therefore I've decided you didn't answer it" Yep I've seen it all before and I know how this goes
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:44 PM
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Navigating people 101: 9 times out of 10 anyone who says "I just want you to admit [blah blah blah]" is bullshitting. No, there's more they want. Perhaps an apology. Or reparations of some sort for the "harm" done. At times, rightfully so. At times, not so much. I'm a youngest child and as is the case for many youngest siblings at times my older siblings would express feeling that our parents treated me more leniently. All of the "admitting" in the world hasn't made it any less of a sore spot, e…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:41 PM
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So for some reason when we talk about women going for bad men, felons, drug users, known DV enthusiasts, men with a reputation of ...let's say not hearing no, women on here run interference avd chide us for believing in our lying eyes and further insult our discernment by saying "the women going for these bad men are bad them selves" Yes. Hello? How can you reconcile a woman being an innocent and virtuous person with her dating a dude who is borderline if not straight-up comic book levels of unh…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:03 PM
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Okay. I have watched it. Can you articulate what about this clip from the Young Pope you would like to discuss as it pertains to your post and my initial response to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 07:07 PM
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Before I click on this random link can you articulate what it is and why I should watch it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 06:37 PM
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I'm not gonna accuse this writer of intentionally misleading people, but the way that site is presented is very questionable. That site is not the Catechism of the Catholic Church. That is a Catholic writer's blog who may have made a calculated decision to use that url to get more clicks from people searching "the Catechism of the Catholic Church." But he does include a disclaimer on the home page thankfully. Sometimes I express a theological opinion on a matter of pious disagreement among faith…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 06:27 PM
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Practicing Catholic here, that is absolutely not true
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 06:06 PM
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For Catholics at least we are taught extensively about the importance of sex being procreative and unitive. While we no longer believe that orgasm is necessary for conception, we do believe that orgasm can play an important role in a function equal to procreation in terms of importance. For the unitive aspect to be present, it is expected that both partners make every reasonable effort to ensure satisfaction on both ends. That includes orgasm for the woman. From E. Christian Brugger, a writer fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 06:02 PM
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Deep voices and big hands
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 03:54 PM
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All of the men in my family do that and somehow I ended up with a dude who can go full-on 80s rockstar if he doesn't get a haircut for a while
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 03:57 AM
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For looks at least it all depends on genetics imo. My SO looks damn good pushing 30 but men in his family are also hairy af and start balding/receding later than most.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 03:09 AM
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I'm convinced that certain people are pretty much only capable of feeling strong emotion in the context of competition. Think of someone who runs for student council because they are genuinely passionate about it vs. the kind of person who runs simply because they enjoy the thrill of competition. Option B will talk up a big game and seem like a great candidate until they actually win and do fuck all because the victory high they were chasing after has been expended. This type of personality also…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 03:02 AM
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Cheesecake Factory has no business having bread that good for a nationwide chain restaurant
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 01:24 AM
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Looks like it but tastes better imo
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 01:20 AM
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In terms of looks: big hands, beefy arms, copious body hair, deep voice. A lot of what I find attractive in men in terms of everything but appearance overlaps with stereotypical male preferences. To the point that one user here literally told me "so you want to date a woman" lol. My SO is 100% homemaker material (raised by a SAHM himself) and one of my biggest aims in life is to work hard so I can provide for our family while he stays at home with our kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 01:17 AM
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Are you referring to the concept of "choice paralysis"? That is an entirely different thing from sensory overload and may be causing confusion here. Long story short, it can be an issue for women when it comes to dating apps. But keep in mind that simply picking out a shirt is not the same as having conversations and cultivating relationships with people. I have three different friends waiting for responses from me as we speak, and I have not contributed to my family's group message in I don't k…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 10:25 PM
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Get him a dog. Or better yet, have another kid. That'll solve everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 08:10 PM
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To an extent, I would say that this trend is culturally enforced. My nephew very much had a Frozen phase when he was very little. Checks out, Disney adopted a strategy of trying to make the Disney princess movies more appealing to boys. This is the actual reason why we have not seen a Disney princess without some kind of cool magic power or combat skill in a hot minute. My sister and her SO had their concerns about my nephew's interest in Frozen, particularly the toys, because to them Anna and E…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 06:14 PM
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Funnily enough I was just reading a top character trope thread that's relevant here, at least for fiction. Iirc Sam is the only member of the Fellowship who doesn't come from wealth or high status. But most of the story's problems are also caused by people with wealth and high status being imperfect or downright shitty leaders, so it kinda cancels out? Anyway, people are kinda trapped in an inevitable bind when discussing this topic with randoms on the internet because there is most likely zero …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 04:58 PM
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Since you're now hiding your posts and comments OP I'm going to point out that you've made multiple posts about this topic here, the Change My View sub, possibly others across multiple years. I'm genuinely curious what you're hoping to hear from people at this point. Every counterargument and critique of your logic that could possibly be said have most likely already been exhausted.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 01:31 PM
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It is common knowledge at this point that men are cashing in on OF as well by messaging clients on the creator's behalf. There are multiple articles about this. I once saw an AMA from a dude claiming he makes six figures off of messaging and managing accounts for various OF models. People who pay to DM with these "women" are most likely not talking to women at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 01:04 PM
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Relevant "silly chronicles" post I wrote that got buried since I posted it not long before a new daily went up lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 03:34 AM
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I still can't believe Sky High tried to convince us that Danielle Panabaker was the childhood friend pining after the loser main character and he hasn't noticed. No, pig tails and pony tails do not make an obviously attractive girl invisible to guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 04:14 PM
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It would be one thing if we were talking about someone older. 16 is unsettingly young to start doing that nonstop all the way up to 21. When we do some math, she was roughly 19 when she got with current guy. Meaning she'd be in one relationship from 19 to 21. That means from 16 to 19, she must have had multiple dysfunctional relationships that all ended the same way. That's the kind of thing that makes me start asking what the hell was going on at home and/or if she has psychological issues of s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 03:30 PM
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For context, I (21F) am the kind of person who used a new relationship to get out of an old/bad relationship, so the last time I was single was over 4 years ago when I was 16. The "used a new relationship to get out of an old/bad relationship" is what insinuates cheating. You can't use something that doesn't exist yet to get out of something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 03:13 PM
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In undergrad I knew girls who were into it. Oftentimes they had just gone through a breakup with an ex they weren't entirely over. But they were still horny. So they wanted a steady sexual partner without emotions or feelings involved. One of my non-religious friends had a post-breakup fwb who was absolutely not gifted in the looks department. However he was in a frat, some girl apparently gave him a chance, and word got out that for what he lacked in looks he made up for with crazy bedroom skil…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:35 AM
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Lol. I do appreciate that CC
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:09 AM
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What even is this timeline For context, I (21F) am the kind of person who used a new relationship to get out of an old/bad relationship, so the last time I was single was over 4 years ago when I was 16. I have been dating my current bf(21M) for 2.4 years and I love him so much, he's my bestfriend and I cant imagine my life with out him. How does this even work? She's cheated on every boyfriend she's had to immediately jump into a new relationship since she was 16? And cheated on her previous boy…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 09:25 PM
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On PPD? Fun responses. Entertain me. I don't pretend to be here for much else besides keeping up with a few users I genuinely like. Assume, react, strawman, whatever. Just don't bore me. Understand me? Empathize with me? Why would I need that from random men? I just don't feel readily connected to anonymous people behind a screen to the point of wanting to achieve some deeper understanding. When I do feel connected to anyone here it's a truly rare and special thing indeed. It's actually quite si…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:11 PM
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I don't know the last time I've been asked or tried to give a man advice for dating. Similarly I met the love of my life by ignoring 95% of the unsolicited advice men gave me. On my sweetheart's end it's a different story. He's not particularly close with his father and while he has male friends he felt weird asking them about dating advice. So he talked to his mother and his female friends about it instead. Together they gave him two of the most stereotypical pieces of BP advice ever: be yourse…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 07:13 PM
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I'm a virgin with a kiss count of 3 including my fiancé. First was my one high school BF and second was my one college BF. I'm my fiancé's first and only kiss and I do wish I could say the same about him. In his view the past doesn't matter whatsoever up to and including sex and my neuroticism over having kissed a whopping two guys by the age of 23 is astounding.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 03:34 AM
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All over the place. I consider myself average. The most attractive guy I "friendzoned" was better looking than me but a lapsed Catholic while I'm still practicing. I can get along with all sorts of people but dating is a different matter. We were waaay too different to be compatible but he was still kinda fixated on me in particular to the point where it upset his fwb, who I did consider to be prettier than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:07 AM
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Well it's official, Lord of the Rings: The Two Towers (extended) is my favorite movie of all time
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 02:12 PM
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Ime it's extremely unlikely for a woman to feed a grown able-bodied man she doesn't desire straight from her hand. That's probably one of the strongest indicators of attraction short of kissing or sex. My SO and I both saw kissing as a very serious step and didn't want to do it until we were both 100% sure about each other. But I admittedly started fixating on his lips way before that, and I decided to try holding up food to them to see if he'd be willing. Even though he was even more inexperien…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 03:57 AM
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You know how I've talked about wholesome Christian Bible Belt jocks who have been with the same girl since middle school? That wasn't an exaggeration lol I wasn't even talking about this dude specifically, I just found out who he is today
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 04:18 AM
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I told my SO my Reddit handle and let him look at my comments recently. He was definitely surprised in the sense that my "tone" on Reddit is nothing like how I speak in real life or text people I know. I actually come across as a very bubbly and cheerful person irl. I am a Southern girl through and through and definitely have that sassy streak that often comes with it. On Reddit I'm pretty blunt and dry to say the least. I just say what I want to say without the flowery embellishments. In terms …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 01:31 AM
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If these two split up the album after that is going to break all kinds of records
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 07:55 PM
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Ha. I do my best.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 07:20 PM
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This day is yours, love. One thing at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:43 PM
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I feel like Jubilee already does that to an extent but with different "hosts", the clips I've seen from it make conservatives look absolutely brain dead and I know plenty of conservatives irl who can argue more intelligently and bring up better points than that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 06:56 PM
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I told this girl once who made this diary post about how terrible men are that inevitably got removed that she and her friends seem to entertain a lot of mess and drama and their choices might be part of the problem. She got very mad at me to the point that when her post got locked she DM'ed this paragraph about her...feelings or something, and how judgmental I was being. I just responded "riveting", she said "clever", and I never saw her on this sub again. Terrible loss, truly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 06:31 PM
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A woman will always ask what you bring to the table, even if you bring nothing, because men are the only ones who are expected to bring something to the relationship. OP can you elaborate on this. Do you literally believe that nothing is expected of women in relationships. Like a woman announces on a first date that she has absolutely nothing going for her, not school, not work, nothing, doesn't intend to raise her own kids either or help whatsoever around the house, and the majority of men are …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 03:55 AM
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Has it ever even been confirmed that these two are even in a relationship or knew each other for long prior to the attack? The internet just loves to take random videos of people we know nothing about and fill it in with whatever gender war narratives are trending at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 01:29 AM
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That is exactly the book I'm referring to lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 12:06 AM
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Slaughterhouse Five In The Lake of the Woods Two very different books with very different vibes but I suspect someone likes Chuck Palahniuk might appreciate them for different reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 08:38 PM
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I mean I've seen some who were probably attractive like 30 years ago. Two very pretty blonde girls I went to high school with who were in the same clique are medical residents now. One is in plastic surgery which is...very on brand for her tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 08:19 PM
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I once read a self-help book with a piece of advice that stuck with me since: stop looking anywhere and everywhere for guidance on how to change your life, and just do. Take action. Please. Ironic coming from a self-help book, but still something I needed to hear at that point in my life. The writer was basically describing the human tendency to procrastinate from action by accumulating more and more knowledge on how to do things without actually acting on any of it. If they wrote a new version …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 08:00 PM
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In the U.S. girl names rise and fall out of favor more quickly than male names ime, you'll have 6 generations of dudes called James Henry while their sisters all have whatever girl names were popular and trendy the year they were born
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 03:04 PM
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I've dated in the Bible Belt for most of my life where you definitely get men with the old school chivalrous tendencies. At least in my experience plenty are capable of reading a room and respecting the lady's boundaries, as that is also an aspect of chivalrous behavior. "Oh my goodness, thank you so much for the offer! I can't have you walking all that way after you've already gone out of your way so much for me tonight. I'll shoot you a text when I make it home safe." Go in for the closing hug…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 02:36 AM
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I'm not proud of the porn phase I had when I was younger but I'll be honest here since it might help to answer your question. I was capable of experiencing arousal by watching literally any gender combination you can imagine. The most important thing was naked people doing sexual things, not their genitals or whether I was actually attracted to any of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 06:13 PM
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Yes, granted they're highschool sweethearts and I do find it's a bit more common for younger girls to chase guys than adult women
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 12:28 AM
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My mom comes from a big messy family where everybody might be getting along one week and then some beef from 30 years ago explodes with people choosing sides next week. She tried to talk herself/me into a destination wedding multiple times.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 06:12 PM
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I feel that so many girls, like me, that have so much potential, squander it with these damn wigs. Girl what are you doing. To be fair before I saw the light and started getting my hair braided, I too had a wig era. But at least I had a loving yet blunt mother who could tell me "Ange, that wig looks terrible. Never wear that one again."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 05:25 PM
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And sadly, the only pure leftovers that I find are millennials. I think it's because we still grew up in a time where it wasn't part of everybody's toolkit to reinvent oneself as a media character. Congrats OP you may have just discovered why the vast majority of people date within a few years of their age. As an older Gen Z woman I have found that plenty of Gen Z men do not have these hangups. Hell they want to be that guy whose GF looks perfect on social media and will even run around with the…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 04:57 PM
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I got dumped over this essentially. It hurt. I learned from that experience and built up my self-confidence more because I didn't want to sabotage a relationship again by lacking confidence. Thank goodness this happened when I was like 16 so I didn't have to deal with this shit as a grown woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 01:07 PM
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We are constantly seeing tiktoks and posts on social media of women working walmart/Starbucks getting dms from nba players. How can an average man compete with this? We have states in the U.S. where as many as 1/4 children are born into poverty, ask their daddies how they managed to compete
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 01:26 AM
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What do you mean by "initial skepticism"? I just recently wrote this concerning my fiancé. The rest of my day after meeting Mr. Ange was dedicated almost solely to trying to temper my thoughts about him, and how I shouldn't build up castles in my mind over someone I had met and interacted with for all of about 30ish minutes. With each date, I allowed myself another tower, a moat here, a stairway there. I prayed about him a lot. "Is this truly your will or am I getting ahead of myself." Is it alo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:57 PM
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There are people who feel like an entire restaurant singing "happy birthday" to you is a humiliation ritual. Who are we to tell them it's not? The grown adult can communicate to their friends, loved ones, etc. that they're not comfortable with it and to not tell the wait staff it's their birthday. Then there are people who love that kind of spectacle and being the center of attention. They're not "wrong" either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:06 PM
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Innocent as charged
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:18 AM
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Thank you <3
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 03:15 AM
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Thank you love <3 I hope you've been well!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 03:01 AM
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Silly chronicles of a happy and functional relationship for a break from PPD's regularly scheduled programming Part 8: Why I'm Here Yes Ange is Catholic, we've been over that 1000 times. Yes joining a convent was not off the table for Ange as an adolescent, which is something I have perhaps mentioned in passing but have not talked about as much. Yes I have ticked off some people on the internet by pointing out this fun fact about myself when they wanted to start with the "threat" I'll never find…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 02:51 AM
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My undergrad Catholic community aimed for good relations with the Protestant students and it definitely seemed like marriage was a more urgent concern for them than us. Of course a key difference with Catholics is the greater emphasis on callings to lifelong celibacy. My high school was run by a religious order. I considered becoming a nun or sister for much of my life. I didn't fully rule it out until my fiancé came into the picture. He was raised Protestant (currently in the process of initiat…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 02:31 AM
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Read up on Duchenne smiles and get comfortable smiling with your teeth, assuming they aren't fucked up
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 09:26 PM
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There is a societal consensus for men - it's bad, and endlessly mocked by both 'progressives' and right wingers. Yeah I'm gonna guess you haven't spent much time around serious Christians or evangelical culture
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 09:16 PM
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Different people have different values. I'm a 27yo virgin. Some people think that's a good thing. Others think it's weird. There simply isn't a societal consensus on this sort of thing in a country where people live in different cultural bubbles.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 06:14 PM
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Voice, hands, facial construction, body hair, hairstyle/thickness, arms, shoulders, eyes, butt, chest, height, legs Can't rank penis, all I have at the moment is a hazy general gist of the anatomy tbh. If anything else is unlisted I missed it by accident
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 06:02 PM
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That movie is a meme factory, I have met plenty of people who have never seen the whole thing but can quote it Plus the puppet throwing up reaction gif is from that one
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 08:53 AM
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Cultural differences. I'm from Christian Southern suburbs and at this point I've accepted how we socialize and flirt seems to be kinda different from other places. A lot of the guys are pretty old-fashioned and can initiate while also knowing not to scare off the kinds of girls you want to bring home to your family by laying on thick or being too forward as a stranger. My SO was a ball of nerves his first time but went about things correctly and got his fiancée out of the deal. When I go beyond …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 08:47 AM
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I'd say so. Fat charismatic southern boys with wives who look like that are an interesting genre. A lot of them played sports in high school or college, basically got the "top of the social food chain" experience, and dated some of the prettiest girls at their schools. Many find a sweetheart during that stage and marry her, others manage to pull later on even after they let themselves go because of the sheer amount of confidence and aura they have left over from being treated like royalty for a …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 06:32 AM
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Is he already sick? He looks kinda rough to me even for 79
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 05:06 AM
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Make her blonde and you have like half the girls I went to high school with and their husbands now
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:59 AM
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I know someone who is constantly flooded with recruiters trying to poach them from their employer and hasn't had to actively seek a job in close to a decade. That's what being an at least moderately attractive woman is like much of the time. I have known women who just wanted a month or two to breathe after a tough breakup and they already had guys expressing interest before they were even ready to consider putting themselves out there. Including friends of the ex (yeah what bro code). I do agre…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:19 AM
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Yeah and that 15 bucks is worth it to you. I'm sure there are people who decide they'd rather stay inside and watch YouTube with ads for free than have friends who expect them to go anywhere that costs money. That is their agenda and their priority. Naturally that's gonna vary from person to person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:00 AM
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I mean you can say the same about having friends, my main group wants to have tea at a lovely venue soon that's gonna cost us like $100 each. I used to blow more money each month on a fucking gacha game. I like this a lot more because human connection and meaningful experiences stick with me. I open the game I lowkey whaled and cringe at how much I spent on these fucking jpegs whose skills are now museum pieces by the standards of the current meta. Oh and at literally at any time the devs can an…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 12:51 AM
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I think at times it's a case of the perfect being the enemy of the good, especially in our age of obsession with filters, cosmetic surgery, social media, etc. For most women, their body is never going to be quite the same after multiple pregnancies, often based on factors out of their control. You may be able to get skinny again, but the scars and stretch marks are not going to go away that easily, if ever. I used to follow a fitness influencer who is in very good shape (growwithjo). She reveale…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 12:39 AM
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I'm gonna say it's regional as usual, at least for the U.S. In the South, at least the part where I'm from, I feel like women constantly hear about how to treat men. For example, in my family women are pretty neurotic about making sure that men and boys eat enough. Not getting fat or overeating like crazy in our case, but still. Men always get the bigger portions. It's pretty taboo for women to not know how to cook, particularly for her partner's benefit. If we're sharing and I accidentally cut …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 11:49 PM
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Thank you for clarifying
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 11:33 PM
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Not long ago you told me that all relationships that involve standards of any kind are transactional, including me as a virgin wanting to marry a virgin man. Do you still stand by that sentiment?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 11:17 PM
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The problem with watering down the word "transactional" to meaningless like you do here is that you can somehow find a way to describe any interaction between humans that way. Me personally, I want/expect the person I'm talking with to be playful. To have witty banter, flirting. So they would have to present these attributes and behaviors for your approval/attention. Transaction? According to Reddit it can be if we break our backs reaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 11:03 PM
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Touch -> smell -> vision -> taste -> hearing Touch Kind of a blessing and a curse. My hands and portions of my arms are just weirdly sensitive for no good reason. Sometimes it feels like the nerves in my fingers are firing off just because when I'm not even touching anything to the point where cutting off circulation with like hair bands or something can feel really relaxing to me. Not too often or for too long obviously, that would be dangerous. On the positive side, this sensitivity has been v…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 10:26 PM
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We don't necessarily have the same triggers as men and people write that off as not being horny. For me, voice is always gonna be my #1 over anything else and in general it seems that women are more likely to be turned on by the right kind of male voice than a man is to be turned on by a woman's voice. I think for related reasons male singers almost always seen to have larger female followings than the reverse. Even ones who aren't conventionally attractive or even that well-known.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 09:40 PM
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One of the most questionable aspects of this kind of "solution" to me is the assumption that it's feasible for all or even most people to simply leave their home country and start over elsewhere. Of course you'll always have your people who can and want to do that. But I've studied abroad multiple times and without fail you had your people who missed their family, their friends, American food (yeah, I know), reliable access to people who speak English at native proficiency, etc. I think for the …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 10:29 PM
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Ah yes, we've chatted about this before. Iirc our thoughts on conservatives and how they navigate individuality/community differed quite a bit. In retrospect it has occurred to me that it's important to distinguish fiscal conservatism from cultural conservatism. I think the former in the absence of the latter supports your OP the best. It would not surprise me whatsoever if there are more fiscally but not culturally conservative men than women. Cultural conservatism is where things get murkier. …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 07:54 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 06:48 PM
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None, waiting until marriage with my SO Not much more of a wait now
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 10:59 AM
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Exactly where I thought it would be although I had some doubters on this very sub
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 04:27 AM
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This is the kind of stupid shit I would actually find charming, second date from me
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 04:26 AM
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Ngl I thought the chick talking was the fat friend at first, at least by Miami standards
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 04:24 AM
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I know a girl who scenario 2'ed with two of her guy friends around the same week. Granted I have never seen two dudes who approached feelings for a female friend as badly as they did. One thought it would be a good idea to make his feelings known by telling her she'd look sexy in a certain outfit. And then kept spamming her with messages across multiple platforms when she left him on read. The other basically admitted he was stringing along another girl in their friend group hoping she would get…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 02:49 AM
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Yes, they were young. My great-grandfather was around for a significant chunk of my life too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 12:22 AM
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I'm 27, my parents are Gen X, my grandparents are boomers
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 10:19 PM
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As a child growing up in the '90s, the messaging I remember was that cheating was wrong and immoral, and anyone who did it just about deserved to die, even if that's not what was prescribed by the criminal justice system in any Western country. You may have witnessed this as a side effect of growing awareness and seriousness around the topic of STDs in the decade prior. Speaking to my boomer grandparents' generation who came of age earlier cheating was not considered the worst thing your husband…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 09:42 PM
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Not seeing someone a decade older than you as a viable romantic option is not the same as claiming they're some hideous creature. Social norms are yet another category besides looks that factor into attraction. To give another example, in the modern U.S. even if a cousin is pretty distantly related and 100% legal to date, to a lot of people a cousin is still a cousin and completely off limits, regardless of what they look like. If there is any chance they might pop up at a family reunion it's no…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 09:03 AM
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Yes secular dating sounds like a convoluted mess of people who want very different things for whatever personal reasons they may have
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 04:13 AM
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Plenty of those women will go on to find men who also believe in delaying sex for serious commitment and therefore there is no issue or conflict. There is zero point to trying to impose a timeline on sex that the other party doesn't want. Accept that it's an irreconcilable incompatibility and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:46 AM
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One factor I've noticed in this: At least moderately desirable women are highly likely to be taken and a lot of dudes conveniently realize they have feelings for their female friends once she's single, which can take a while Let's be real bro liked her the whole time, the difference was that she wasn't available until now
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:35 AM
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One of the biggest flaws in this kind of discourse is treating "mainstream" messaging as stable and unified. I grew up in an era where most of the chart-topping music was about getting wasted at the club and hooking up with hot people you're not going to remember tomorrow. Movies, TV shows, etc. have a way of featuring characters who are actually pretty shallow and self-centered people but because they're the main characters everything works out for them, including their love lives. Within famil…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 11:30 AM
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Given the premises of your post I have a hard time seeing how you draw the line at elitism
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 05:01 AM
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We do not need more boys born disadvantaged in life. Do you not realize that being born into poverty is a massive disadvantage in life?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 04:21 AM
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If you really wanted to play this game it would make more sense to discourage couples below a certain income threshold from having kids Trust me a 5'6 dude born to a billionaire will be far better off in life than significantly taller men born into poor families
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 03:51 AM
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Lower the age to 25 and that was basically my fiancé when we met Clearly it wasn't an issue
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 01:39 AM
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Her music was my biggest guilty pleasure of 2025, I'm ashamed of how many times I've listened to that song and So True
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 12:05 AM
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I've pretty much accepted that any bulleted list about dating I encounter on the internet is going to zigzag between reasonable takes and insanity
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 11:26 PM
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To me these sorts of conversations are heavily influenced by what "gaming" or a "gamer" even means to any given person. You gave the example of playing Switch. That is probably one of the most normie platforms at this point that many people wouldn't necessarily think of someone who owns one and plays regularly as a "gamer." Some moreso envision a guy (or girl) who sits at a PC miked up for hours a day yelling at people online. I honestly can't fault someone who doesn't see themselves as compatib…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 08:19 PM
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"I'd lay down my life for you" is a romantic sentiment in theory. In reality I'd probably be a bedridden stark-raving lunatic for the rest of my life if he died protecting me so nah just let them take me out
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 07:16 PM
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At Waffle House
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 10:56 PM
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One of the things that I find funny about the obsession with waitresses in this discourse is that they refuse to actually name the kind of restaurants where waitresses are realistically looking like #2 "Hot Waffle House waitress!" Bro at least say Coyote Ugly or something that actually makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 09:45 PM
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I didn't want to pry too much because that summer was kind of a sore subject for him. I suspect there was other shit that went down besides that one comment because he sees his grandpa as a fundamentally terrible person and he's not the type to make that assessment lightly. To me it's a case of bad messenger and bad delivery of the message. But his parents also didn't do him any favors by acting like the message itself was completely wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 04:05 AM
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Dude could dominate a conversation and constantly bring it back to whatever he wanted to talk about like no one I have seen. He would typically start out talking about some major news event or headline. Okay, yeah, that's how a lot of people do small talk. From there he manages to tie it into some weird deep state shit he read about on some obscure forum, and that's where he starts losing people. But if you don't firmly stop him, he can monologue and go deeper and deeper down the rabbit hole for…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 02:08 AM
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My SO and I both tested positive for flu on Christmas day lol. That's when my chills started, which is usually my "oh shit this is actually the flu or COVID and not just seasonal allergies" indicator. Christmas Eve was fun though. We got together with his family to eat snacks and open gifts. We played several rounds of a game called Throw Throw Burrito. That was pretty insane. Fortunately from what I have heard no one in his family has had any symptoms. Which is kinda wild considering the fact t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 01:53 AM
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Okay here we go. Generally speaking, that's a reasonable ask. Ime when you have a fit guy who is chronically unable to find a single fit woman interested in him there's usually something off about him that isn't going to cut it with conventionally attractive women who have loads of options. I have never met a normal, likable fit guy who had that issue. My college acquaintance who loved talking about weird conspiracy theories as much as he loved working out and could not tell when he was making p…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 01:42 AM
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My fiancé doesn't even want me going in gas stations alone anymore because every time like clockwork if I don't have him next to me at all times some dude will start with the nonsense This kind of stuff is not "long gone," the types of dudes who were doing it in the first place will continue to do it no matter what and the kinds of proclaiming how women on the internet have deterred them probably were never going to in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 12:41 AM
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It is not at all uncommon for hateful people to have their pet exceptions. I'd even go as far as to say that most do or would at least gain some provided they regularly interact with the group they're bigoted against. It's not necessarily enough to make them any less radical or even potentially dangerous. One of the worst hate crimes/mass murders in recent U.S. history was committed by a dude who had a good childhood friend in the demographic he hated who was shocked by what he did. The perpetra…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 12:05 AM
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Some of it might be that young boys who are taller/bigger than their peers get railroaded into sports pretty early
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:11 PM
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So I went to the kind of undergrad where especially by senior year you're not really being lectured. You check the syllabus to see what the next shit ton of reading you have to do is, read it, maybe highlight and take notes, and show up ready to discuss/debate your classmates. Professor is only really jumping in if they feel like people are just really getting things factually wrong or misunderstanding the readings. No it was not some kind of liberal hug box. I would've been in trouble because I…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:20 PM
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I have a couple of my own theories, some overlapping with yours. Particularly in Southern Christian circles a lot of girls don't want to make it past college undergrad age without meeting their life partner. So they date with intentionality and don't entertain guys who aren't serious about committing to them. Having one and only romantic relationship which then leads to marriage is also still a pretty common ideal for Southern girls. I know multiple girls who seriously struggled to let their hig…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 05:37 AM
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Southeastern Conference, college football division
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 04:15 AM
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Tbf those bangs aren't doing either of them any favors in the pics I'm seeing but yeah she clearly had more to work with than that dude
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 03:14 AM
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I mean do you really think some average looking guy is beating out a hot tall frat guy for an attractive woman See, I don't think it. I and apparently other people see it. It's not something that necessarily makes sense on paper so much as it just is. When I went to undergrad in the northeast I definitely found that the couples made more sense in terms of being equally attractive. Looking at who the girls I went to high school with back home dated and ended up with, it's a really mixed bag. A pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 02:52 AM
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It's been covered already in this thread but as someone from the Bible Belt hot woman/less attractive man isn't really that crazy a pairing to me. I posted a link on the daily recently that was from a pretty blonde thin Southern girl celebrating her wedding anniversary. There were so many negative comments about her husband's weight she deleted the post within hours. Wouldn't surprise me if she was kinda blindsided by that because again, not unusual in the Bible Belt.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 02:29 AM
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Silly chronicles of a happy and functional relationship for a break from PPD's regularly scheduled programming Part 7: Lord of the Burritos Christmas Eve is always a lively affair at Mr. Ange's childhood home. We traveled to visit my parents for Thanksgiving and decided to stay in town with his family for Christmas. Perhaps some of you have played a game that entails throwing adorable toy burritos at each other. If not I can tell you, it's an experience. For Mr. Ange's family, Christmas gift ope…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 12:53 AM
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One of the iconic aspects of the "average SEC couple" is the dude being overweight while the girl isn't Out of all of the attractiveness factors not being fat is the one thing most people have control over
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 10:28 PM
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I'm late to finding out there's an entire meme dedicated to the phenomenon of mediocre dudes with more attractive GFs/wives in the South called "average SEC couple"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 05:43 PM
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They're probably talking about the kind of acne that has a very bumpy/raised texture, concealer will hide the color but the bumps themselves will likely still be visible Skin care is still a multibillion dollar industry for a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 06:09 PM
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What he was talking about is a specific case of women actually being into muscular guys but thinking it is dadbod or that those guys aren’t too muscular because they aren’t IFBB pro level That was OP's cherrypicked evidence for the overarching claim that many women "consciously or unconsciously" lie about not liking muscles It is is literally impossible for what you just said to be the full scope of OP's argument because ignorance would exclusively fit the "unconscious" category when he clearly …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 01:35 AM
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Ughh hopefully it's fixed now
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 10:46 PM
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Some weird Reddit auto translation bullshit is happening
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 10:39 PM
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It didn't clear anything up because it's a bad analogy. People on the internet seem to struggle to realize that analogies are subject to scrutiny and do not automatically make your point stronger. In fact they can do the opposite. You compared randomly bringing up an entirely different food to introducing alternative men's physiques to a conversation about men's physiques. That is textbook faulty analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 10:33 PM
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I honestly cannot tell if the translation software is failing us here or if you're saying things that wouldn't make any sense regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 09:37 PM
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"Any evidence that doesn't support my view is irrelevant" Wow that is an extremely convenient way to debate
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 09:08 PM
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You asked to be debated on your view and your view demonstrates blatant cherrypicking
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 09:03 PM
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You specifically went out of your way to exclude skinny pretty boy male celebrities who are adored by women Edit: In fact one of the male celebrities mentioned in OP rose to fame and had a massive female following already before he started beefing up
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 08:54 PM
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Merry Christmas CC <3
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 07:22 PM
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Infinity
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 02:10 AM
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In these types of conversations I find that people severely underestimate the number of people, including women, who dngaf about politics and do not see how any of it affects their lives or anyone they care about in a tangible way. I say that as a woman who does vote and went out of my way to date left-leaning moderates. I have met plenty of young women who consider themselves to be apolitical and prefer not to talk about politics at all. They really do not care how the men they date vote or if …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 02:04 AM
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Welcome to my world, I'm cringing 95% of the time I'm here
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 11:49 PM
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I mean in this case it started with an old man whose idea of babysitting was getting two young impressionable children to serve as cannon fodder discover the joys of gaming
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 11:06 PM
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Silly chronicles of a happy and functional relationship for a break from PPD's regularly scheduled programming Part 6: Still Playing Games Mr. Ange's PS5 had been collecting dust for far too long. His family bought it for him for Christmas a few years back forgetting a few key details about him: 1. He's more of a Nintendo guy and 2. He really doesn't play video games that often, preferring to watch walkthroughs and read up on lore for specific franchises. My grandpa (you read that right) and my …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:58 PM
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My dad was SAH for much of my adolescence once my mom progressed to a point in her career where she was comfortably making six figures. Something notable about my dad is that even when he was working full time he was very neurotic about making sure that certain household tasks were done. He doesn't really have stereotypical "man" hobbies, his hobbies are laundry, dishes, and having a clean house. I think that his track record of consistency and motivation when it came to household tasks is a hug…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:23 PM
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It doesn't need to "mentally destroy you" just make you uncomfortable and for you to withdraw your consent of where you put your energy. So you're not interested in discussing OP's claims then, which directly involved intense feelings of anguish and diminished self esteem from rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 02:38 AM
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I'm Christian, we have a concept known as emotional chastity that challenges us to avoid inappropriate fixation and fantasy concerning another person just as we avoid inappropriate sexual relations with others. Screenshot from a portion of an article that discusses warning signs for weak or nonexistent emotional chastity in a friendship. I took our this part specifically because the rest of the article focuses heavily on theological premises that would only be meaningful or persuasive to Christi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 02:35 AM
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I have the utmost confidence that your memory and attention span are sufficient to recall that I moved the scope of this conversation beyond friendship to environments like work and school. Situations where simply cutting off contact and avoiding any kind of knowledge of an unrequited crush's romantic life may not be feasible. I already said that a guy is free to break off a friendship in this situation in my very first comment. But overall in life a grown adult who is utterly devastated and cru…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 01:55 AM
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This was directly answered by the very first part of my initial comment Okay if romantic rejection utterly destroys your mental health to this extent then yeah maybe it is for the best to end the friendship
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 01:45 AM
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While uprooting and redirecting your entire life everytime you get rejected by a crush is certainly an option that doesn't sound like a very practical way to navigate life to me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 01:21 AM
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Correct, I already said that he probably should walk away if rejection is causing him that much distress. But then the fact that romantic rejection can fuck him up to that extent still hasn't been resolved. What about circumstances where packing up your ball and going home simply isn't an option?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 01:18 AM
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Where is "constantly" coming in? Are we talking about multiple girls or asking the same girl multiple times?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 11:36 PM
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The same can also be said for coworkers, classmates, and others you're forced to interact with regularly. Unless you're in a position to drop the class, quit your job, etc. you don't really have a choice but to adapt and figure out how you're going to make peace with the possibility that they will date other people in front of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 11:33 PM
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Of course it's not weird. There wouldn't be entire books and courses on resilience and bouncing back from life's blows if it were some easy thing that comes naturally to everyone. But the people who do find a way, or are perhaps better predisposed to it through upbringing or even nature to an extent are going to be better off in life overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 11:06 PM
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but because it’s not worth sacrificing your mental health and feeling like shit everytime you see her Okay if romantic rejection utterly destroys your mental health to this extent then yeah maybe it is for the best to end the friendship. But even then, it's important to acknowledge that not all grown adults experience this when they get rejected and it indicates a certain lack of resilience in the face of life's obstacles that might be worth reflecting on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 10:41 PM
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Again, you’re reading and assuming the original posters intentions when it’s not what she said. Speaking of reading and assuming the original poster's intentions when it’s not what she said, your responses today clearly indicate you failed to notice the glaring past tense throughout that initial comment. He no longer sees that therapist. A few months after we started seeing each other she agreed that he was in a good place and ready to move on. If he were still seeing a therapist and still getti…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 09:21 PM
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He said that something that both manosphere creators and cult leaders have in common is that there are no formal degrees, qualifications, or external systems of accountability attached to them. So he is a lot more confident in therapists.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 08:44 PM
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I told him you said that, and he said thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 05:29 AM
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Something fun that we noticed: I clearly indicated that he's my fiancé in my first comment and you keep calling him my husband. Which further establishes that you aren't paying attention to the text and making assumptions that aren't based on it. All of the clarity in the world isn't going to matter if the other person isn't going to read it thoroughly.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 05:04 AM
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Firstly you did not mention that, so thats on you. We agree it was actually on you to ask for clarification instead of simply jumping to conclusions based on a narrative you seemingly came to this thread wanting to promote Secondly it doesnt matter. You should be more important and closer to him than his therapist. He said that you're making weird baseless assumptions again and you're probably going to keep doing that, so we're going to move on
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 04:54 AM
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He asked if you're missing the part where he had started seeing a therapist before we met, which helped him enter a better headspace for a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 04:41 AM
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His response to this was "What?"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 04:38 AM
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Some insights on therapy from my fiancé who is here with me right now: -Felt relieving to get so many things off his chest -Helped him with his self-esteem, which in turn put him in a better place for a relationship -His therapist (female) didn't make him feel weird or othered for feeling the way he felt -The more honest you are the rougher it is at first, but the more value you get in the end
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 04:13 AM
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Clarification: does the video even indicate that this woman is interested in dating or marriage or are a bunch of strangers just randomly chiming in on whether they'd marry her for literally no reason? I'm a virgin waiting until marriage in accordance with Christian teaching and I've had men on Reddit offer unsolicited feedback on that decision and how it affects their willingness to marry me. I tell them the biggest thing that should deter them is that I'm already engaged. Silence after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 11:57 PM
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https://ifstudies.org/blog/theres-no-huge-gender-gap-in-being-single-among-young-adults https://nuancepill.substack.com/p/2024-update-to-the-gss-sexlessness-graph
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 08:58 PM
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This isn't the infamous 2019 study though. Never said it was. Pew is the only reputable organization that gets these results. Data from GSS, APS, etc. do not yield the same findings
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 05:05 AM
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This horse has been beaten to death, no other study from a reputable source has found this massive gap, some have suggested that Pew oversampled young married/cohabiting women since that was where most of the discrepancy fell
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 03:04 AM
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Which makes the idea that child poverty rates are driven by wealthy men sneaking into low income communities and impregnating the women ridiculous, if anything it would probably be higher if modern technology and legal proceedings didn't make it possible to hold those types accountable
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 11:49 PM
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Wait until you find out about this crazy concept known as "child support"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 10:52 PM
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If women had some kind of natural lizard brain instinct to fuck men who can afford to provide we wouldn't have U.S. states where roughly 1 in 4 kids are born into poverty
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 11:50 AM
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What the fuck does "not being able to cook" even mean in 2025, I feel like literally anyone with access to an oven can at least bake salmon. Very difficult to overcook and you can even buy it already seasoned
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 11:07 AM
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My SO says he was nervous when he had his first kiss with me. You're definitely not alone in feeling that way. I will say that if a woman is truly crazy about you she will be more than happy to get you up to speed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 01:55 AM
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I read an interesting Wired article recently. This journalist organized a couples' retreat for people who have AI partners to understand their thoughts and motivations. One of the three recruits was a man, the other two were women. They all discuss what their relationships and interactions with other humans are lacking. A rather sinister undertone I noticed is that it seems that control and predictability are both things they get out of having an AI partner. Even if you might get some token push…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 09:16 PM
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When it comes to requests for money, the waters are absolutely muddied by actual scammers who may not even be who they are presenting themselves as. If anything chalking it up to a "nice girl" situation is downplaying what is actually happening in a lot of those cases. I saw a post on the nice girls sub where most of the commenters had to gently break the news to OP that he was probably talking to a male scammer (e.g., one of the meltdown messages was literally "suck my dick").
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 08:12 PM
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I personally find both extremes to not fit my observations. I know both men and women who have struggled or currently struggle with dating. I also know men and women who have had a very easy time, many of whom are not particularly remarkable in terms of looks, charisma, or anything along those lines. I don't really feel a need to reconcile my personal experiences with those of a bunch of random people on the internet. What is there to reconcile?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 08:02 PM
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Just look at the American south – they treat women like royalty in person, but they certainly don’t vote that way (much like their supposed Christian morals, but that’s another story) I'll chime in here as someone who was born and raised in the South. This is an extremely simplistic understanding of how gender relations work here. It is heavily centered around in-groups and out-groups. In-groups are people you know personally, or who share your values, who look like you, etc. Broadly speaking, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 05:20 PM
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Two things are true in my eyes. One, not all women are equally interested in abs. I love a good, thick carpet of hair on the chest, abs, arms, etc. The shape of what's underneath it is less important to me unless it's a straight-up Michelin man situation. Two, Reddit threads severely underrepresent mainstream beauty standards. While yes, women like me do exist, plenty of women do go crazy for abs. You see a similar phenomenon on threads about male preferences in women, where suddenly men have no…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 03:39 AM
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I think an issue when it comes making these types of claims is that there is a very broad spectrum between "pleasant all of the time" and "annoying all of the time" and realistically most women fall somewhere between the two. I know a very attractive girl who's pleasant about 75% of the time but in the 25% she's not she's making everyone's life hell. The looks are what makes a man decide that 25% is bearable even though I'm personally thinking "dude best of luck to you and your children."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 12:38 AM
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Clarification: Do you believe that men are "natural protectors" OP? That was the impression I had based on the title and I assumed that was what you wanted to be debated on. But then the body of your post seems to express dissatisfaction with women who say they aren't as well as the perceived societal expectation that they should be. So do you agree or disagree with the statement that "men aren't really natural protectors"?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:13 PM
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Of the fucked up things that people who have experienced that have gone on to do, like making other people victims of the same trauma, that's just not high on my list of judgment-worthy behavior. It makes me sad for them, and I hope they're getting or eventually get the help they need to deal with their trauma in a safe and productive way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 04:47 AM
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To me, this would be like if while playing gta, you were actually plotting to... Okay folks we really need to work on our analogy game here, there is so much wrong with this one. First of all you are comparing the reenactment of an event that has actually happened to an individual wanting to make something they experienced in a simulation a reality. Next, you are comparing a fantasy of being the "victim" which can be acted out with a consenting and willing person to wanting to become an actual p…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 04:36 AM
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So you didn't miss the post where OP spent multiple paragraphs demonizing people who do not vet via direct communication, this is just "well um actually he didn't literally say that it's the only way word for word and therefore you completely made that up out of nowhere." Sure okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 11:59 PM
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Disney villains were memorable and bankable af for a long time so movies like this aren't surprising. If you ask your average person to name characters from 101 Dalmatians they're gonna say "Cruella de Vil, the Dalmatians, the...man, his wife?" So yeah, one character, who is also the antagonist.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 11:19 PM
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Did you somehow miss the post where OP spent multiple paragraphs demonizing people for not using direct communication to vet?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 10:47 PM
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I think kids are a serious variable here, including how old they are and how many. I don't know how many couples with say 3 kids under the age of 5 are going to be in the happiest and most fulfilling part of their marriage. Once those kids are a bit older things have the potential to improve significantly. If they made it out of that tough phase without someone saying or doing something that irreparably damaged the relationship. Yeah I know that's a big if. So I guess the question I'm most incli…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 10:42 PM
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Do you not regularly interact with those who understand that two people not liking each other/not getting along doesn't make one of them an awful person who is now persona non grata regardless of their sex? If the grown adults around you are behaving that way, it might be time to find some new grown adults. I would associate that kind of behavior more with people who still have significant maturing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:57 PM
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Reposting with an additional clarification I deemed necessary. You keep using the term "character assassination." Probably because it sounds...flashy? Interesting? I'm not sure you know what it means though. Character assassination refers to destroying a person's reputation. An individual not liking you or not wanting to interact with you for reasons you deem unfair is not "character assassination." Your premise seems to revolve around direct communication somehow being the only legitimate form …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 08:20 PM
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Maybe a more accurate statement would be "self-improvement doesn't count if you fuck it up." And yeah, people manage to do that a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 03:13 PM
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I'm a Catholic prude who won't even dress immodestly in public irl, much less present myself on the internet for horny men to jerk off to
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 03:11 PM
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It matters if the impetus manifests in unattractive behavior or mindsets. Let's say someone (male or female) who became fit mostly to attract the opposite sex constantly fishes for validation of their results and still really isn't secure in themselves. That can become a really annoying and exhausting dynamic very quickly. I speak from experience. It's not a matter of "sensing", if only it were that subtle.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 03:09 PM
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I can always make room for a new teddy bear
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 03:05 AM
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😭😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 06:30 AM
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I was trying to give the benefit of the doubt but from a quick Google search it seems at least some have noticed warping and other signs of heavy editing in his photos. So yeah he might be using filters and more.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 06:04 AM
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Humans aren't products to be used and discarded. Hope this helps!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 04:50 AM
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Nope, can't say I have. To be clear, all human beings having intrinsic value doesn't necessarily mean that you like or trust everyone. It just means you afford people a stable baseline of respect, concern, and decency. I talked to a homeless man the other day and he ended up asking me if I could buy him some food, because he was really hungry. So I bought him food. I wish I could have done more, but I'm not of the financial standing to do much else yet as a postgrad student.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 02:56 AM
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Yeah he definitely acts awkward af but to me something else is off here. He looks straight-up different to me in these videos than in photos that have been shown here. In photos he looks like a Hollywood actor while in these he looks like a college freshman who's kinda cute but the girls aren't really losing their shit over him, especially not the very attractive ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 02:45 AM
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Be a young woman. Tell your family you're using a dating app, or want to. Better yet, tell them you talked to a nice young man recently and want to meet up with him. Cue being bombarded with links to articles about women who were harmed or even killed by men they met on apps and phone calls begging you not to download the app/stay on the app/meet him. Your mother says something like "why would you want to make us worry like this." Your brother does the same thing and not a single peep from anyon…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 01:07 AM
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I was taught from a young age that all human beings have intrinsic value so using those kinds of terms in the context of whether or not you would date a person doesn't sit right with me. Granted those are your friend's words, not the woman's. If she was in fact rude and short with you just because you're not the kind of man she would date, to me that says more about her than you. I'll talk to pretty much anyone at a party as long as they're polite, I don't have other pressing places to be, and w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 12:18 AM
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Smh story of my life
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 11:35 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 11:32 PM
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Women often use what I call the "voted off the island" style of holding others accountable, and I believe it to be the most reasonable approach generally. We will never live in a world where all people who wrong others are held accountable, so I am not saying that every woman who should be, is. But it does happen. Now back to "voting people off the island." I see very little point in some dramatic confrontation. The kind of attitude that is leading them to be a shitty person in the first place w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 11:25 PM
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Huh. Not a bad idea. The funny thing is that I just recently disclosed my Reddit username to him for the first time and let him read some of my comments here and on other subs. That could be its own post. So it's possible that he's reading these but I keep forgetting to ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 10:55 PM
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Thanks hannah, I'm glad you like them ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 10:44 PM
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Silly chronicles of a happy and functional relationship for a break from PPD's regularly scheduled programming Part 4: Cards on the Table Trigger warning: This post alludes to the fact that I find my partner attractive Mr. Ange got a haircut for the first time in ages recently. I was silently dreading it. I'm actually quite partial to shoulder-length hair on him. He has beautiful curls and volume for a man pushing 30. For an idea, think of Jim Morrison at his peak with The Doors. If you don't kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 10:35 PM
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I'm a virgin, yada yada, no dog in this hunt I think SES and looks factor in significantly. I knew an international student in undergrad who clearly came from money, looked like an Instagram model, and didn't hide that she was getting around after she and her high school BF broke up. She had a serious LTR with one of the most popular athletes on campus, wouldn't surprise me if it started as a hookup. His family clearly loved her. They were still posting about each other after graduation and tryi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 03:20 PM
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The internet brings together people from all walks of life with dramatically different experiences. The person saying that might in fact live in an extremely liberal bubble where open misogyny will get you quickly ostracized. Men with criminal records and 7 kids between 5 different women are simply not a part of their lived experience. Then you have the kinds of bubbles where nobody can spell misogyny but less knows what that means. And plenty of bubbles on the spectrum between the two. Most of …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 02:20 AM
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You use the term "urban legend" very loosely. Usually urban legends are based on the supernatural and truly extraordinary. Like a man who can fly on the back of a moose has been spotted on this particular bridge at midnight. "Man who claims he is nice and blames his dating problems on being nice is actually not nice" is not anywhere near urban legend level of implausibility. Delusional people of all sorts exist and at this point nothing surprises me. Hell I thought that was some internet shit to…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 09:12 PM
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This came up on my feed randomly and I clocked them as a Bible Belt couple immediately, I haven't seen this kind of discrepancy in you know what on a semi-regular basis in any other part of the US
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 06:01 PM
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I have seen men on this very sub complain that women and/or feminists were being hypocritical for not pushing back enough on Bonnie Blue, Lily Phillips, etc. I have just learned as of this thread that the narrative has changed to women and/or feminists rabidly hating these women and being hypocrites because of that instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 02:36 PM
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You don't think it's fine. You're trying to get me to legitimize your unquestioning belief in random people on the internet by taking offense and demanding that you believe in what I say and who I present myself to be. Unfortunately for the case you're trying to make here, yeah I 100% agree that your skepticism should extend to me, and everyone else here. I'm not attached to being treated as some known and reliable entity on the internet. I save that expectation for the people I have connected a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 05:05 AM
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These are comments I pulled from random videos today with unmistakably female avatars Out of all of the double takes I had to do while reading this post this one took the cake. Have we seriously reached the Year of our Lord 2025 with people still thinking that everyone on the internet, particularly ones saying insane and inflammatory things, is honestly representing themselves? A bot-driven smear campaign against Taylor Swift, probably one of the most adored women on the planet right now, was un…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 04:03 AM
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It genuinely amazes me that women lose sleep over a lack of platonic male friends. Maybe it's that I went to an all-girl high school. Maybe it's because I have an older brother who is essentially one of my best friends and has been as long as I can remember. I would also consider my SO my best friend as well as the love of my life. All of the other close non-family relationships in my life are with women. It is so much easier this way. I say this even as someone with some stereotypically male in…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 01:11 AM
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Him being related to Emily Osment is one of those fun facts I forget and relearn every couple years and I'm just as surprised each time
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 10:53 PM
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Making sophomores in high school exchange V Day cards is crazy work, maybe your teacher just wanted you all to suffer tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 10:44 PM
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Is that Haley Joel Osment? If so I will always think of him mostly as the voice of Sora from Kingdom Hearts lol, I had no idea what he looked like for the longest time
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 10:40 PM
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Does Secret Santa/Kris Kringle count? My high school did it every year in every homeroom and it was awkward af when you pulled the name and list of someone you don't really talk to. Gift 1 was supposed to be no more than $2 or something, Gift 3 was like $5, final was supposed to be $10 max. People who pulled their friends would blatantly overspend while everybody else is awkwardly expressing gratitude for your Walgreens cocoa mug from somebody you're probably never going to speak to again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 10:33 PM
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Yeah tbf this isn't exactly a warm and cuddly sub, people who suspect they're gonna get roasted probably aren't doing things like this
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 09:12 PM
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I believe that the English language is deteriorating rapidly into something unrecognizable and oftentimes grating to listen to. I think the world would be a much better place if we spoke to one another with all due sincerity and clarity. Not whatever snippy and catchy buzzwords the youths are clinging to these days. But all the same. That's a weird flex bro but okay
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 08:16 PM
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Omg yall are so silly 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 07:46 PM
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Yeah there are some truly lethal face cards in my family and God said we couldn't have it all
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 07:35 PM
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Aww thank you Red!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 07:31 PM
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You're right I'm actually hiding a hideous scar on the other side because an evil wizard tried to kill me when I was a baby and I'm deeply insecure about it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 07:30 PM
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Thanks boo <3
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:51 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:43 PM
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"Constantly rubbing your body on another body"? Do you mean outercourse? While I'm sure there are professed Christians who engage in that, plenty specifically avoid it because they it see as wearing down the willpower to avoid premarital intercourse. Especially doing that for years on end.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 12:28 PM
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It might be something adjacent to projection. My mom juggled PhD work, a job, a husband, and kids. I don't know how the fuck she made time for my dad, or for us. But she did, because we mattered enough. That is not a prescription on how you are obligated to live your life. But you are asking for answers as to what is going on in these women's heads, reasonable or not. They might be thinking "Well when I care I make time, even if on paper there is no time. Maybe he doesn't care." In which case it…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 11:38 AM
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If you know anything about DiCaprio or the kinds of people he associates with it is his highly unlikely that the young women who wind up in their orbit are inexperienced in the way you're describing. Chris Pratt would be a better example of a Hollywood celebrity known to have more conservative values and he started dating his current wife when she was 28. While the norm in Christian circles is settling down fairly young you do get both male and female late bloomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 11:19 AM
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We have definitely said that to each other. And many other quotes from Mean Girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 10:33 AM
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If this were a list of quotes my millenial sister said as a teenager that one definitely would've made it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:14 AM
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I decided not to mark who said what to make it more interesting. But I can say that at least half of the quotes you're assuming to be his are probably mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 05:56 AM
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Who's been saying that? They're under strict orders from AngeAware to cut it out
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 04:49 AM
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Different people seem to understand what "making out" entails differently. To us getting the tongue/saliva involved in a kiss counts. But anything beyond first base is for marriage. This WikiHow article sums up the baseball understanding of sexual progression pretty well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 04:34 AM
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It's hard to hide my dear CC 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 03:18 AM
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Silly chronicles of a happy and functional relationship for a break from PPD's regularly scheduled programming Part 3: Random Things We Have Said (or Quoted, or Sung) to Each Other Recently "Howdy howdy howdy" "So what's going on in this neck of the woods?" "You like some potates?" (not a spelling error) "Aren't you lookin adorable." "Let's go see the funny talking animal movie." "Did you know that Disney made Life Day canon?" "I believe in you." "Did you just say his name is Crack?" "In nomine …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 03:03 AM
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So if those women go on TikTok shitting on average height men you all are going to say "yes my queen, more"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 10:38 PM
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Ironically they're just doing the same thing the women in the video are doing. "Well their opinions don't matter because they're ugly." It carries the unsettling implication that there's a threshold of hotness in a woman after which they'd think the garbage opinions presented in this video are justified.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 09:49 PM
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It's really not that rare in the Bible Belt, as long as you're Christian
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 08:17 PM
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GOAT detected
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:49 PM
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Would you call yourself "pro-science" in a meaning where you thing study's can change your mind and the maker of study's dont have a hidden agenda or make some idiotic basic mistakes? The researchers themselves typically have an entire section acknowledging the flaws and limitations of their own methodology and findings. So no, generally speaking they are being transparent and not trying to present their findings as the end-all be-all of a given question. Other people using their work trying to …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:45 PM
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I'm from a part of the South where trad values are still pretty deeply ingrained in the culture, including the norm that the man pays first. To the point where a woman insisting on covering her food is treated as a nonverbal signal that she's not interested in future dates. It's also worth noting that casual/fun dating isn't really a thing, from the point that one party knows that they would never marry the other it should be a wrap. Sex is going to be a long wait, potentially after marriage for…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:32 PM
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You have me tearing up a little reading this, in a good way. Thank you so much. And I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll be praying for you as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 11:33 AM
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Thank you so much! I do appreciate that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 11:30 AM
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Silly chronicles of a happy and functional relationship for a break from PPD's regularly scheduled programming Part 2: Furever and ever Mr. Ange has a cat who he treats like his firstborn. Henceforth, I shall refer to him as Kitty Angeson. Or KA when I'm too lazy to type that. Kitty Angeson does not act like a cat. He runs toward strangers happily, meowing like he's trying to have a conversation. But he hates other animals due to traumatic experiences before he came into Mr. Ange's posession. Wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 11:15 PM
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What I'm hearing is that you don't really understand makeup but like to use it as evidence for a predetermined conclusion
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 08:59 PM
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There are entirely different categories of makeup that give off different vibes and serve different purposes. Take full glam for example. Basically think Sabrina Carpenter makeup. You are not being judged by other women for not going out in public in full glam. But if you can pull it off well, you will definitely get compliments and attention from other women plus gay men who like that particular style.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 08:51 PM
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Silly chronicles of a happy and functional relationship for a break from PPD's regularly scheduled programming Part 1: X and O Our first meal together was at a ramen restaurant. Lunch time. A spring afternoon with perfect weather. I primarily enjoy ramen for two reasons: the soft-boiled egg and the pork belly, soaked in broth. The rest of it I eat because I would feel guilty wasting it. I did not tell Mr. Ange this at that first meal. I don't say things like this to people who are just getting t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 06:44 AM
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Projecting is typically about assigning your own negative traits to other people. Stereotyping or pigeonholing would be more applicable here since they're making assumptions based not on their own characteristics but on other people who are superficially similar to the anonymous stranger in question.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 04:11 AM
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I used my own experience to contribute to my point that assumptions, often inaccurate, are an inevitable part of interacting with anonymous people, no matter who you are or what your situation is. If you want to interact with people who know you, what you're about, and what your character is like, you need to find that in real life. The "you're romantically unsuccessful because of misogyny spider sense tingle" thing is a very unproductive if not downright dangerous thing that gets repeated on Re…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 04:02 AM
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Yeah so I'm spotting all the typical antics when someone can't convincingly argue against anything I just said. Thank you for the riveting chat
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 02:56 AM
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You didn't fully read my very first comment where I talk about inaccurate assumptions that people have made of me. Nowhere have I said that any of this is good or reasonable. That's just the nature of interacting with anonymous people, which isn't a mandatory activity. I made peace with it because I know nobody's keeping me here but me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 02:49 AM
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Based on how far back I recognize you I'm pretty sure you started dating when she was a couple years younger than 25. I'll be blunt, when I see these types of relationships I assume at this point that both parties are roughly on the same level of maturity. Based on where I consider the maturity of a typical early-something to be, that might not say great things about the older party, or the likelihood that the younger party will stay on their level indefinitely. I'm not in that relationship thou…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 02:46 AM
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Believe it or not is there is greater complexity and variety to people's lived experiences to the point where "either I've witnessed it personally or it literally only happens in movies" is not a reasonable perspective to have. As for the rest of this, I've already covered it elsewhere. Here it is for your reading (dis)pleasure Yeah I try not to entertain blatant deflection but you know what, fine, let's get to work. Revisit my very first comment where I talked about how we, as anonymous strange…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 02:27 AM
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Yeah I try not to entertain blatant deflection but you know what, fine, let's get to work. Revisit my very first comment where I talked about how we, as anonymous strangers, trigger people's priors based on others they have encountered with varying degrees of accuracy. You are trying to compare apples to oranges by bringing up romantically succesful assholes in a conversation about priors formed on people who are not romantically successful. The angry loner and the popular asshole are two entire…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 02:19 AM
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You say "exactly" which implies you are agreeing with something I said. But then you proceed to not acknowledge anything I said and continue trying to deflect the conversation to an entirely different group of people. So what is your "exactly" referring to? Let's clear that up first. Or are you the kind of person who just kind of throws words in just because.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 01:09 AM
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Gym class? Chemistry? Secret Santa? Contexts where everyone is forced to be paired off and interact with someone else? Your school didn't have any of that? Even beyond that certain people make it very clear that they are angry all of the time and hate everyone or specific types of people, especially teenagers. It doesn't even necessarily take words.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 12:49 AM
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Their school probably had the angry loner kid with no friends and the things certain men say on the internet remind them of some shit the angry loner kid with no friends would say. When you bring a bunch of anonymous people together it is inevitable that they are going to use their experiences to fill in the blanks. I've experienced this a lot on PPD, where people accuse me of having beliefs I have never before expressed in my life and may even be literally the opposite of what a cursory glance …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 12:30 AM
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I think at the very least on average women are more fearful of insects than men and are therefore more motivated to not let food waste or other things that could attract them accumulate, even if the place is a mess in other ways, like piles of clothes scattered everywhere. The "I peacefully coexist with an entire colony of ants living off my discarded pizza crust" type of mess is more common in male living spaces ime.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 03:05 AM
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