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| 0 | How do men get one sided open relationships?I think it fairly obvious that this is done by being significantly more desirable than your partner. For example if you're rich and famous you essentially get to do this because your woman can't replace you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/23 12:30 AM |
| 1 | We know women love hot guys. But the average guy doesn't focus on looks-maxxing. Why?its only on reddit where people are like "its hard" to not stuff your face full of shit food. Maybe an analogy will help, since you don't seem to understand why this doesn't make sense. Doesn't a drug addict need to just stop doing drugs? Isn't it easy to not do drugs ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/23 08:18 PM |
| 0 | We know women love hot guys. But the average guy doesn't focus on looks-maxxing. Why?You're asserting something is easy which is obviously not easy. Nobody wants to be fat, why would anyone be fat if losing weight was easy? You're arguing with me as if I'm asking you for advice, where all I'm doing is pointing out that the assertion that maintaining a healthy BMI is easy is evidently not true, as any data you look at will show you that most people who try to lose weight fail. Just because something is simple does not make it easy, the difference is important, I do not see why yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/23 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Reason why women can stay single easily is because sex is easy for themI think the difference is that the average looking, average earning, average everything guy would be happy with a woman on the same level as him. I think I'd need to see a description of an average woman before I agree with you. When I was in college and highschool, the average woman around me was smoking hot. But now that I'm a bit older I have to disagree, the average woman doesn't look all that great. It's also hard to make an apples to apples comparison on this since men and women are valued… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/23 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Reason why women can stay single easily is because sex is easy for themThat was actually my point, maybe I'm not being clear. If men struggle to get into relationships, then it seems likely that they aren't going to get into relationships with exactly who they want. Therefore if you're going to argue that single women aren't actually happy because they aren't dating exactly who they want, then you also have to say that men in relationships also aren't happy because they aren't dating exactly who they want. I'd argue that most men in relationships are pretty content… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/23 02:38 PM |
| 2 | Reason why women can stay single easily is because sex is easy for themYeah, but that's true for everyone, not just women. Sure men can't always find someone who wants to be in a relationship with them, but the next step up from "nobody wants to be in a relationship with me" isn't "I can get a relationship with who I want to be with". So unless the point you're making is that most people in relationships are also unhappy, you kinda have to accept that people become content with their lot in life. To use your analogy, they're happier cooking than they would be at Mc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/23 12:38 PM |
| 78 | Reason why women can stay single easily is because sex is easy for themI think there's some truth to this, but you have to keep in mind that a woman who is single is likely choosing to be single. Therefore if a woman says she's happy single, then she's probably telling the truth, otherwise she wouldn't be single. I do agree it's somewhat different for men, in that men are less likely to be actively choosing to stay single, thus it's less likely to find a sample of men who claim to be happy single, since they are less likely to be single by choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/23 12:54 AM |
| 2 | We know women love hot guys. But the average guy doesn't focus on looks-maxxing. Why?Fast food tastes better, so people eat fast food. The mechanics of it aren't complicated, but it's obviously not easy. People do easy things, if eating healthier was easy, people would do it. Truth is most of us don't do anything but sit at a desk all day and then we eat the cheapest fastest thing we can get which is calorie dense fast food. It is not easy to change one's pattern of eating, if it was then everyone would do it. There are people who struggle to gain weight too, which should be the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/23 12:33 AM |
| 2 | We know women love hot guys. But the average guy doesn't focus on looks-maxxing. Why?I didn't down vote you. I also responded. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/23 12:14 AM |
| 4 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadDid it involve a dude and did he stay hard the whole time ? Did it involve a woman and did she stay wet the whole time ? Not the whole time no, but we just kinda keep going, had time and it's fun, so why not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/23 11:55 PM |
| 6 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadDo they mean just penetration? I've had sex for hours at a time, but it's not like PIV the whole time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/23 11:36 PM |
| 7 | We know women love hot guys. But the average guy doesn't focus on looks-maxxing. Why?Would depend on what you're calling a meal. Most people aren't eating 500 calorie meals. 800 - 1000 is more realistic, particularly if you're eating out and not cooking. Most salads are going to run you 300 - 500 calories and most people aren't eating salads. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/23 11:16 PM |
| 13 | We know women love hot guys. But the average guy doesn't focus on looks-maxxing. Why?People always say that, but most people are fat and nobody wants to be fat, it's pretty obvious that it isn't that easy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/23 10:08 PM |
| 20 | We know women love hot guys. But the average guy doesn't focus on looks-maxxing. Why?I've actually always found staying at a normal BMI to be quite challenging, especially if you have a desk job. Even as a pretty big guy, 3 standard American meals a day is probably too much food, even if you cut the soda and the treats. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/23 07:20 PM |
| 3 | Most men on OLD are of a similar attractiveness to the women.I thought women of all races preferred white men? Now you’re telling me that isn’t true? Lol, maybe they do, but for the most part they don't marry them. All the black and Asian and Indian guys on here who are struggling even within their own race…are they lying? I don't know who these guys are, but my assumption is that they struggle with all women. I presume that most of them would have even worse luck if they tried outside their race, granted I understand it's hard to do worse than 0. I surel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/23 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Most men on OLD are of a similar attractiveness to the women.Interracial marriage is actually pretty uncommon. It's more unrealistic to expect to date someone outside your ethnicity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/23 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Men love whoresWell, a "whore" is easy to get for these men, while a "nice girl" is going to be more of a challenge. As a nice girl you're probably not going to let the married doctor/lawyer sleep with you, you're likely going to cause trouble in his marriage if he tries, so he won't. An athlete or celebrity is obviously going to date only the most attractive women and even if a nice girl is attractive enough to fit the bill, those guys don't do monogamy, if a girl is going to insist on monogamy then that's a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Who is your most unsuccessful (romantically and sexually) guy you know? Describe himA bit of an oversimplification, but yes. The chick who approached him in school was super religious and he's a secret atheist, so that was the main reason, still I can't help but feel if she was more attractive he would have sucked it up and pretended. The other one was more of a fumble than anything, they were both very awkward and just kinda floated waiting for something to happen I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 12:21 AM |
| 4 | Thoughts on the claim: proximity makes women vulnerable to cheatingIt's definitely not limited to just not cheating, and I don't see why you should get to draw the line for other people. No wife is allowing you to sleep over in another woman's place, even if you say you aren't cheating. You don't get to just change all the furniture in the house, you're not allowed to without first consulting your wife. You're not allowed to shut off your phone and go on a 30-day hike to find yourself. If your wife isn't comfortable with it you're not allowed to go to a strip c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Who is your most unsuccessful (romantically and sexually) guy you know? Describe himA guy I've known since childhood, a close friend. He's short, awkward and skinny. Super skinny when we were in highschool, he's gained a fair amount of weight since, but he still has a small frame, he's around 5'4. He makes good money, last I asked he was pulling around 150k. He's shy and I doubt he's doing a super high number of approaches. Since we're kids he's had the same pattern with women, he develops a crush on some girl, he becomes an orbiter, they become besties, then he either asks her… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 12:01 AM |
| 5 | Thoughts on the claim: proximity makes women vulnerable to cheatingWhat if your wife doesn't allow you to sleep with other women? You do see that people in relationships do to some extent get to dictate what their partners are allowed to do through threat of ending the relationship. If my wife is adamant that I cannot go swimming, then either we get a divorce or I stop swimming. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 11:35 PM |
| 5 | Being labeled as husband material is insult for most guysI don't think it's meant as an insult. Husband material is definitely meant as a compliment, but often when it's used to mean "You would be a great partner for someone else". I think it's usually that you seem nice and there's nothing obviously wrong with you, however you aren't particularly good looking and kinda boring, however because women also share the common belief that if you're nice and decent then you should be able to get a partner and thus someone else would love to have you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 04:29 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThey probably do this because they know it is likely to make a man upset. And it's likely to make a man upset because men are homophobic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 08:48 PM |
| 17 | It is kinda arrogant how many women openly say they know men very well, and yet they keep falling for bad relationshipsSure, but that's not really what I was getting at. Someone being unsuccessful at attracting women doesn't automatically imply they don't understand women. Don't get me wrong, I understand why it's rational to disregard the opinion of someone who's unsuccessful in dating. Just like how most people wouldn't respect the opinion of a fat personal trainer. But if a fat personal trainer tells you to eat fewer calories in order to lose weight, he's still right, just because he's fat doesn't mean he doe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 06:20 PM |
| 1 | You Have 8 Children Under the Age of 10…How Do You Treat Your Wife8 kids is a lot of kids, so unfortunately I'm going to have suck it up and help around the house despite probably being burnt. One woman can't manage 8 children alone. I honestly doubt that me and the wife are going to have much of a relationship while the kids are growing up, because all our time is going to be dedicated to the kids. Because you work 72 hours a week, do you think it’s fair that when you come home you can just rest and relax until it’s time for bed? I think it is fair, but it's … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 05:59 PM |
| 18 | It is kinda arrogant how many women openly say they know men very well, and yet they keep falling for bad relationshipsI don't disagree, but a man without hands can't cook. It doesn't really matter whether or not he understands cooking. Anyway, I think we're on the same page, understanding the theory of how attraction works is not enough to actually attract a partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 05:46 PM |
| 30 | It is kinda arrogant how many women openly say they know men very well, and yet they keep falling for bad relationshipsDoes understanding female nature necessarily mean that you are able to get female attention? For example, if my belief is that it is women's nature to be attracted to men with long auburn hair, but I have short black hair, me not being able to attract women doesn't prove I don't understand women's nature, for all I know my understanding of women's nature is perfectly accurate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadSure, whatever it takes to gain the perspective. Just that I think realistically women around my age just weren't gonna be at the same place mentally. But from my point of view it just looks like she let the other men just have fun, while I'm expected to make serious decisions off the bat, which I think is what gives the appearance of the AF/BB phenomenon. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI personally don't care about women's finances. But I doubt my ability to attract a 20 year old woman. It's not a coincidence that I wasn't popular with women when I was younger, probably too boring for most of them. For some men you're probably right though, they have to accept the downsides of dating a younger woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 12:13 AM |
| 7 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI think the idea AF/BB and to some extent concerns about n-count come from a mismatch in dating experience between men and women. I was a late bloomer, didn't even get my first kiss till 24. My first girlfriend at 26 was like ready to settle down and have kids and I started feeling that pressure immediately, I was just looking to hang out and have sex like I saw my friends have in highschool/college I wasn't expecting all that. To make it worse, this is the point in my life when I'm just startin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/23 10:33 PM |
| 1 | What's the role of money here?For the record I don't like throwing around stats because I'm not a statistician and I think the insistence on throwing around statistics by laymen is just begging for the stats to be misrepresented and misinterpreted. But, for the sake of participation I found this: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7293001/ Key finding for the sake of this discussion is that men are sexually inactive at nearly twice the rate women are between the ages of 18 and 24, ergo these excess women must be en… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/23 10:11 PM |
| 3 | What's the role of money here?An impossible thing to prove. It's intuitively something we all know though, even if we disagree on the severity. For example I don't think it's controversial to see that men who have sex with a lot of women receive praise for it. I also don't think it's controversial to say people receive praise for things that are difficult to achieve. Thus as a man having a lot of sex is hard to achieve and so it is rare for men to have a lot of sex and by the same token it must be common for men not to have … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/23 08:58 PM |
| 9 | Are "approach signals" even real ?I was overweight growing up. I was never able to identify signals because there weren't any. Once I lost the weight I realized that signals really aren't all that subtle, women make it pretty clear when they are attracted to you. I only got the impression they were subtle because I was looking for signs that didn't exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/23 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThere is https://www.tiktok.com/@naldo_bleedaz1/video/7184565643474111749?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=mobile&sender_web_id=7180761111645668869 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/23 01:41 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI don't know why the men you meet are so mean, damn. I can imagine some men I know talking shit behind a woman's back, but laughing to her face sounds ridiculous, unless you're like 12. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/23 01:30 AM |
| 19 | Dick sucking n-count30+ bodies at 21? No wonder women aren't interested in casual sex, they're burnt out, poor things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/23 02:12 PM |
| 1 | The wall for women isn’t when they hit their 30’s, it’s when they hit motherhoodSingle moms are the only mothers who would be dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/23 07:35 PM |
| 1 | The wall for women isn’t when they hit their 30’s, it’s when they hit motherhoodI know, but if the woman is single then she's most likely going to be stuck with more child rearing responsibilities, regardless of the father's temperament. Assuming she's single for a reason that allows the father to participate at all, and also assuming she even wants the father to participate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/23 06:32 PM |
| 1 | The wall for women isn’t when they hit their 30’s, it’s when they hit motherhoodWell, if the woman in question is available to date then there probably isn't a man in the picture in any case. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/23 04:17 PM |
| 3 | CMV: white guys who strictly date asian women are losersAsian women are hot though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/22 11:56 PM |
| -2 | Fuuuuck single mothers!Why don’t girls raised by single parents grow up to be murderers, assaulters, rapists, and robbers? They aren't competent enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/22 11:51 PM |
| 5 | All women being bisexual contributes to men's dating woes.Not all women are bisexual, all women are lesbians. They only date men due to men's superior ability to provide. As a straight man I'm sure you can understand that nobody would have sex with a man instead of a woman if not for an ulterior motive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/22 11:32 PM |
| 2 | The whole “Women reward bad guys with sex” complaint isnt just misogynistic. It’s misandranistic too.Which of these notions are you objecting to: "Men's behavior is affected by the sexual choices of women" or "Women should change their behavior to incentivize good behavior in men"? If it's the latter I agree, it's not a woman's job to police men and teach them how to behave. However I feel like the former is pretty obvious, if men want sex and certain behaviors get them sex, they're going to engage in more of those behaviors. I don't see how this is illogical it makes perfect sense to me. If I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 09:15 PM |
| 9 | What’s the most disheartening thing you’ve seen in your local dating marketNot to be a pedant, but since your friend is on the thin side, doesn't that alone put her on the higher part of the attractiveness scale. She should probably be considered above average. Anyway, having moved to a new place recently, I've met a lot of new people around my age 25 - 30 ish. I notice that most of the men I meet are single, while most of the women I meet are in serious relationships. I think I'm definitely seeing an effect of men getting into relationships later than their female pee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadLook better, make more money, approach more women. You'll probably find somebody, if not then just hire prostitutes and find other things to occupy your time. I genuinely believe that not everyone gets to have functional romantic relationships, life's not fair, you just have to live with what you got. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 04:43 AM |
| 2 | Rising women's complains today about dating do not add up to the reality of their sexual privilegeI have a hard time seeing women's perspective on dating too. The way I see it, if you have a problem with the man you're currently dating, just get another one. I understand the less attractive you are the less true this is, but as a woman can't you always just find another man? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/22 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Women often use fear as an excuse to be rude to men even though men have assaulted/victimized more men than womenDepends where you live. Some places are safer than others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/22 07:33 PM |
| 2 | CMV: I don't fault married men for cheating in some circumstancesBut don’t you think most people can talk to each other and allow extra-marital affairs if they are both checked out of the relationship but staying for financial or familial reasons? I have no idea if most people can do that. But it would be better to propose that than do it in secret, I agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/22 06:21 PM |
| 1 | CMV: I don't fault married men for cheating in some circumstancesthen you take whatever hits leaving will bring I don't know why you think this is objectively better. If your wife isn't sleeping with you anyway, what difference does it make? Sometimes relationships can't be fixed. Over the course of 30 - 40 years sometimes resentments build up and the relationship is over, and now everything you own is tied up in a marriage you can't escape. You can't go back in time and try again, it's already over. Growing up my parents didn't divorce, because no matter how… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/22 05:27 PM |
| 1 | CMV: I don't fault married men for cheating in some circumstancesit’s a betrayal of trust, a breaking of a bond and a sign of massive disrespect and disinterest for the feelings of someone you’re supposed to love. I think what OP is getting at is that the relationship is long since dead, but you're still for whatever reason stuck in the marriage. It happens, couples get to the point where they can't stand each other, they aren't having sex, stop sleeping in the same bed. But, stay together for the sake of kids, religion, appearances or whatever. At that point… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/22 01:35 PM |
| 3 | Women are much, much more socially influenced by rules/trends/regulations than menPeople do love Karma. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/22 04:50 PM |
| 6 | Women are much, much more socially influenced by rules/trends/regulations than menAssuming this story is real. Resolved quickly or not, I definitely would rather just not engage with women than deal with something like this. That said, I don't believe this story. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/22 12:35 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Society is harsher on promiscuous men than promiscuous womenIf a woman with a body count of 50+ told that to every guy she starts dating, many of them would never consider her GF material. Would you say that promiscuous women mislead men by not automatically telling them their body counts. If she's hiding it, then yes. If she knows that you wouldn't date her if you knew and so doesn't tell you, she is misleading you. Regardless it's coming from a place on entitlement and it's a problematic attitude. That's one way of looking at it, but is this justificat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/22 07:04 AM |
| 3 | Bar is too Low for men .They dont even do bare minimumI mean, I guess. But, what I'm getting at is that when a woman is into you she holds you to a lower standard. You can get away with mistreating her and being super non-committal. That's how you have guys who can live in a rats nest and still see success, and other guys who despite their best efforts can't seem to attract women. The thing is there's a disagreement about whether the bar is actually low for men and the reason there's a disagreement is because there are men who easily clear this sup… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/22 03:30 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYou're describing the man settling for the woman, not the woman settling for the man. She's choosing him and he's just going along with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/22 01:40 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat Megathreadif she had a low n count, would you be down to wait for sex? If we enjoy each other without sex, then yes. would you be more willing if she gave oral? I don't think this would affect my willingness, but I'm not saying no to oral and for those who don’t care about n count, would you wait for the right girl? I don't really care about n-count, but if she had a highish one I'd be confused about why we're waiting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/22 01:22 AM |
| 8 | CMV: Society is harsher on promiscuous men than promiscuous womenYeah, but not bringing it up is being malicious if we're being real. I know what you're getting at, once you start having sex there's a tendency for women to assume that you're interested in a relationship. The women should really speak up for themselves in this scenario, but since you know they have this tendency the moral thing would be to bring it up. You and I both know the reason you don't bring it up is because if you did she would probably stop sleeping with you, hence you are intentional… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/22 01:12 AM |
| 1 | I always cringe when people discredit evo psych by saying we’re in control of our instinctsI'm like this whenever I meet a new woman I like, but it typically doesn't last forever. I wish it did honestly the feeling is great. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/22 12:23 AM |
| 11 | CMV: when people are talking about dating, no one is EVER talking about unattractive menThe unattractive men would ask them out and mostly be rejected. Most of the ones who don't get rejected would effectively engage in pump and dump behavior because they probably don't really like their partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/22 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Why is it socially acceptable for a man to be Polyamorus, but not a woman?I think the difference in perception comes from the fact that most straight men couldn't successfully have multiple partners even if they wanted to, and since most people view relationships through the lens of heterosexuality that's the lens polyamory is viewed through. Even if contempt is felt for a poly man it would be a waste for a man to express this contempt, because the mere fact that the poly man has multiple partners can be used as evidence that he has superior social capital and thus th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/22 06:14 PM |
| 1 | You can't complain about older men dating younger women if you're a young woman who only dates men who make $80,000 or more.Like I said, if that was the case all the rich successful guys would all have younger wives. To be fair, it's not a good for your image to be married to a 20 year old as an older man. If you're in the public eye and will be seen with your wife, her being too much younger may be a deal breaker just based on how people are going to view it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/22 05:49 PM |
| 2 | Q4A: Do you expect rejectionYep. Just from experience, the majority of the time if I suggest a date I'm going to be rejected. But if I'm feeling it I just do it anyway, better to try it than regret not trying it. As long as I take no for an answer, it's never been a problem, and there's always the off-chance she'll be lonely/horny one day and remember I was interested. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/22 03:46 PM |
| 65 | Bar is too Low for men .They dont even do bare minimumFrom my observations when a woman is into you, you can get away with murder. I think when a woman isn't into you, she tends to look for a reason to disqualify you, thus any identifiable flaw you have will become the reported reason for your rejection, which is an impossibly high bar. When she likes you, she makes it really easy, the bar may as well be on the ground. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/22 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadOLD for men is all about standing out from the pack, not actually building a relationship. I think this is how most things in life work. Being appointed any role has more to do with impressing the person/people who appoint the role than being a good fit for the role. Women are going to date the men they like the most, not the ones who objectively make the best partners. You get promotions at work based on your boss's impression of you, not so much based on your ability to do the job. College adm… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/22 06:48 PM |
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