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OYS 11 Stats: 47yo, 190 lbs. 13.5%BF (Navy). No recent tests on max lifts. Lift: I haven’t made significant strength increases for deadlift in the last year or satisfactory improvement in my forearm size. To deal with this I have increased my workouts to 5 or 6 working sets for each muscle each workout. Following advice from Renaissance Periodization I have cut back on some muscles groups and added sets to the forearms, but am now experiencing wrist pain so I will modify which lifts I do, but do…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 06:25 PM
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Yeah, SMH :(
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 03:13 PM
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Thanks for this post. This is extremely important topic in my view. I have been thinking about this topic and taking notes because I'm sure whether or not I'm success after the divorce in a way that makes my would-be ex jealous that she would do these things. My plan to prevent her successfully conducting a parental alienation campaign was the following: -Register all of us for the court recommended class on divorce that do discuss these issues for the kids awareness and that both parents are aw…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/25 06:03 PM
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What the serious hell? Can you afford a lawyer? That is total bullshit flying in the face of the research others mentioned here, and the intention of any of the state laws I've heard of. If you can afford a lawyer, I think this would be contestable and doing so would benefit the kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/25 05:23 PM
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How is your wife keeping you from seeing your daughter? Most states are shooting for 50/50 and at bare minimum want to make allowance for both parents to maintain some contact. Is she breaking any of the divorce agreements? Did she pull some kind of legal action during the divorce?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/25 05:19 PM
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Thank you for the reminder. I made this mistake this last weekend. I was getting bitchy responses to requests for info I needed from her to set up her auto insurance for her. I should have just sent her the agent's email address and let her deal with it.
/r/askMRP14/01/25 11:12 PM
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Wait, is what you are saying that therapy could be a good thing because it's true that men are the problem? RP says fix yourself first. However, it's got a very different list of things to fix. If you go to therapy, they are going to tell you to do more of what your wife says which is what got us here in the first place. They aren't going to say, you need to learn to tell your wife to shut up, and make your orgasm your priority, she can worry about her own.
/r/askMRP17/12/24 11:29 PM
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OYS 10 Stats: 47yo, 190 lbs, 13%BF (Navy), tested within the month: Bench 225 lbs, Deadlift 305lbs, Squat 205 (up15lbs) Lift: I decided not to lift this week because I’m feel horrible with a cold and a sinus infection that started at the end of last OYS and is still hammering me. I’ve been laid out across the board for work and workouts. Mental/Relationships: Third week in a row with less anxiety than the prior weeks. Feeling like I have the toolsets of “I won’t be spoken to like that” and WISNI…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/24 09:46 PM
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She is. OP should jump into the sidebar and build his plan. He'll learn his assertive communication skills and frame and handle the situation. It may or may not require going celibate for a period of time, but the blanket advice to go celibate is skipping the steps of reading the sidebar and learning when and why to withdraw his attention. First step is "STFU and read the sidebar", not go celibate.
/r/RPChristians12/12/24 04:55 PM
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WTF? Go celibate? No. OP read the sidebar and start working on your plan. There is a ton of information there to get you started on your path.
/r/RPChristians12/12/24 04:46 PM
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OYS #9 Stats: 47yo, 190#, 13%BF (Navy), Bench 225#, Deadlift 305#, Squat 205(up15)# Lift: Added volume this week. I do 2 leg days and 2 upper body days and in the past I’ve done 4-5 sets per exercise. This last week I did 5-6 sets per exercise. Having my gym in the garage makes spending more time working out more natural. Mental/Relationships: Second week in a row with less anxiety than the prior weeks. Feeling like I have the toolsets of “I won’t be spoken to like that” and WISNIFG assertive co…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 04:24 PM
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Not motivated enough to improve yourself? Sure, that's not your responsibility to fix after all. Lay that to the charge of a woman. You will definitely have the motivation to tackle the challenges you are not tackling now in addition to the new one's you'll create. In fact, you'll get all the motivation you need, and a trouble-free life.
/r/askMRP06/12/24 04:39 PM
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The way you wrote the whole takes no ownership. This is an "own your shit" page.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 11:14 PM
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I haven't been putting in the initiations and sex because while that's a big deal to me, I'm focusing on my main efforts on fixing my beta, DEERing behavior. I'll keep asking for sex along the way. 3 initiations, 2 "successful" (one with active participation, one starfish).
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 11:13 PM
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The dynamics of school and child discipline aren't working for you, your wife, or your kids. Take the lead in fixing that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 06:49 PM
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Too much indirect language here. Who exhibits such and such? Recommendations from who to whom? All this indirect and distancing language is not owning your own shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 06:46 PM
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OYS #8 Stats: 47yo, 190#, 13%BF (Navy), Bench 225#, Deadlift 305#, Squat 190# Lift: For legs this week I focused on squats and deadlifts. I'm having more trouble working soleus as I don’t have a good bench to use as I rotate weights in bent leg calf raises so I only did those in one of my workouts. I’m getting a better workout for my traps with three exercises the squat rack enables as well. First is cable pulleys attached to the new squat rack for reverse flies. Second is shoulder shrugs with a…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 04:20 PM
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Thanks. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 03:21 PM
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Had to go to Audiobooksnow.com. It was $12.50.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/24 03:18 PM
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OYS #7 Stats: 47yo, 190#, 13%BF (Navy), Bench 225#, Deadlift 305#, Squat 190# Lift: Completed setting up squat rack in garage. I haven’t worked on squats before so I’m working up on those while learning the technique. I worked out at 135#(about 8 reps, 5 sets) then 190# (3 reps, 5 sets) this week and videoing form. Good push on planned 4x lifting sessions. The pull up bar and various attachments on the squat rack are opening up new lifting options versus my basement where I just had a straight b…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 04:31 PM
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Thanks. This is helpful for me. Reading and re-reading. This is a common pattern in my behavior. I'm thinking through how I should have used WISNIFG, boundaries, and not DEERing to react differently to two specific situations this week and there is one boundary I definitely need to enforce regarding an unfounded criticism she has brought up regularly for 18 years.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/24 03:55 PM
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Ok, but I don't know the effective way to do that. None of the approaches I've tried have worked for me. They always end up in her escalating and blaming the entire thing on me retroactively for whatever I say to cut off the escalation. Is there a sidebar reference I should jump to and read next?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 09:38 PM
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I missed something in your comment the first time. You said, "non-contemptuous". These were mixed "non" and "yes-contemptuous" criticisms. So, I don't know how to respond to contemptuous criticisms.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 07:54 PM
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Thanks. It's b.) that I'm not handling well. I've spent year's responding to things as if they were all a.) and I either DEERed, or looked for any kernel of truth in the criticism and eliminated my issues related to the criticism. Even if the criticsm was 95% BS I would feel the shame and make change. I only found that something else, or even the fix, is the fodder for the next one (weights shouldn't be in the basement, they should be in the garage. Weights shouldn't be in the garage, they shoud…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 07:50 PM
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I'm just a beta bitch here so take my thoughts for what they are worth to you. Don't weigh yourself 3 times a day. You should be weighing in the nude and it's not worth stripping down 3 times a day. Also, your water weight changes unpredictably throughout the day. I'm significantly smaller than you and my weight can change over 5 pounds a day. Your most consistent time to weigh is right in the morning. This is because you will most consistently be in the "same state" to compare against. You have…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 04:06 PM
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OYS #6 Lift: New bench press max at 225#. It felt easier than when I did 220# in OYS 1 and was mid-week so I'm making progress on bench. 4 solid days of lifting last week maintaining protein timing. On the downside I chose my diet poorly on Saturday and ate some Doritos and Halloween candy. Ate clean the other 6 days and completed a 36 hour fast. I’ve been targeting one 36-hour fast once a month but failed in September and October so I'm happy to get back on the horse for November. For Thanksgiv…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 03:39 PM
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True. I the only The Science I learned on AskMRP is that I am retarded.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 09:30 PM
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OYS #5 Stats: 47, married 17 years, 4 kids, 190lbs, 13%BF (navy method) Lift: Kept gym work and protein timing solid this week. Sunday, however, I ate several cookies instead of doing a 24h fast. I caved in the afternoon. Didn’t get derailed in fitness due to snowstorms. After I finished my weights for the week I switched to cross country skiing. Tested deadlift max Monday morning. Only able to pull 305# vs. my max this year of 315#. 305 is the most I’ve pulled in several months, but I’m still s…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 04:04 PM
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OYS #4 Stats: 47, married 17 years, 4 kids, 190lbs, 13%BF (navy method), haven’t tested maxes in a while working out with 90# ruck and 250#-285# barbel for leg days. 75# rows or RH/LH bow at ~58# draw for back as examples of what I’m working with. Mission: For now I’m working on goals to build frame from. Current goals include regular haircuts to maintain appearance, regular site-reading practice w/bass, 4x week weights with cycling or swimming other days, reading 48 Laws of power, journal, dail…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 09:28 PM
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thx
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/24 07:41 PM
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I'm supplementing iron and switching chicken to beef at lunch. Will take an iron specific test again soon. Yes, high hematocrit. Adaptogens - I get a mixture of lion's main, turkey tail, cordyceps, Miyatake, turmeric, chicory root, and yes, ashwagandha, Chaga, Mesima, oyster mushroom and pre-biotics. I'll research the issue you bring up about persistent Ashwagandha use to be weary of it. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/24 06:19 PM
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My iron was low this last blood test. I've been donating blood with TRT which might have caused that, but I've never had low iron before in my life, and looking back, this hypersomnolence has been an issue for decades so I'll fix the iron, but it's not going to fix the hypersomnolence on its own. My diet, I do as many protein/mct/adaptogen teas as I feel like throughout the morning (1 to 3 generally). I eat my first meal at lunch and eat two meals a day. Do a protein drink with every weight-lift…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/24 02:25 AM
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Thanks. I'm getting pretty comfortable with interacting with people everywhere I go. I have been making progress and this has gone from a conscious goal that I have to mentally step up to, to being almost natural with only a slight mental reminder to myself required. I'm working to make it a natural, ongoing, baseline. I have work to do on the escalation from for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 02:49 PM
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Energy: Yes I've done labs and sleep studies and work with a sleep clinic. My labs always come up low on vitamin D but taking vitamin D hasn't helped. Have you had long standing tiredness that the methylated multi-vitamins helped with? If so, I'll give them a try, if not, we probably have different sources of tiredness. Specifically the sleep clinic diagnosis is idiopathic hypersomnolence which is like the baby brother of narcolepsy. Game: Good idea, will do. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 02:39 PM
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OYS #4 Stats: 46, married 17 years, 4 kids, 185lbs, 13.8%BF (Navy Method), (took a DEXA this week scan and lost 20lb fat and gained 20lb muscle since I prioritize lifting DEXA scan 16%BF over a 1 year period). Don’t have recent max tests for weights. Mission: Currently working on goals as a foundation to find my vision. Goals include solving my lack of energy at work, learning to sing and play bass at the same time to later front a band, internalizing lessons learned from Frame, Dread, NMMNG to …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 03:22 PM
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OYS #3 Stats: 46, married 17 years, 4 kids, 185lbs, 13.5%BF (Navy Method), Don’t have recent max tests for weights. I’ve hit my gym goals with my weightlifting plans for the last two weeks. Mission: Currently working on goals as a foundation to find my vision. Goals include solving my lack of energy at work, learning to sing and play bass at the same time to later front a band, internalizing lessons learned from Frame, Dread, NMMNG to develop frame, get over oneitis. Current reading: 48 Laws of …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/24 04:00 PM
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"Woman C"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 06:20 PM
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My OYS continued due to character limits: Relationship: I am fucking sick of STFU. I’m sick of STFU’ing through dozens of angry or demeaning remarks a day. And I’m fucking sick and tired of the times that I fail, as well. I failed twice in the first week of these 4. One argument was when I told wife I was buying a new road bike because mine has a broken frame. “You spend all the money.” I ended up DEERing and listing all the things we’ve spent on that were not my preferences (countertops, remode…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 03:19 PM
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OYS#2 I got myself banned 4 weeks ago so this report was going to cover the last 4 weeks. I made a huge mistake this morning possibly my biggest mistake in years. So, I'll talk about that first and then post what I wrote last night below for the previous 4 weeks as I don't know what is most appropriate here. I can delete the latter if that makes more sense. My huge mistake: My car auto played a section of Dread talking about hysterical bonding right as I turned it on and at the same time my wife…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 03:18 PM
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Have you checked out r/marriedredpill and r/RPChristians for their take on RP relationships? They have their specific RP focus that may be interesting for you specifically, while they are associated with this community for the fundamentals of RP praxeology.
/r/TheRedPill16/09/24 06:11 PM
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Bullshit. Getting reps matter. How else are you going to get more reps for something like hard negotiating skills outside of work without getting together with men to read the theory and then work through negotiation scenarios. Similarly, like for NMMNG the prescription is to take the exercises to a group of men and talk through your answers. It takes reps to change the way your neurons fire, change how you think in the moment. NMMNG chapter 8 quote "All significant behavior patterns are a sum o…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/24 07:29 PM
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OYS #1. Stats: 46, married 17 years, 4 kids, 185lbs, 13.5%BF (Navy method, I’m sure that underestimating my real BF, but that’s the method I used), Bench 220, Deadlift 315. Mission: I need to work on this. My mission for decades has been being the best husband and father I could be. However, this mind set has been part of driving me to more and more Nice Guy and Beta behavior. Currently my main concern is keeping my kids in a single home rather than bouncing around by building myself up for a hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/24 06:38 PM
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You're deliberately missing the point to insult "others". She may, indeed, love herself (good), but nothing in the available information here suggests that, or, that that is the issue. Next...
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 08:23 PM
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Woww. Stupid advice. You learned all we need to know about dating interactions with the other sex through a mushroom trip. That definitely trumps research and professional advice. Many many people have found that the "just be yourself" advice is pretty worthless, but, then, mushrooms....
/r/ExRedPill02/08/24 03:08 PM
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Hmmm. She wouldn't put this effort in for you, only to hurt you and make you jealous. Sounds like a bitch. Hopefully remember that she's a raging selfish bitch can help you get over her enough to start focusing on yourself, and being your best you to be a foundation for the kids. Guessing her selfishness and vindictiveness puts you in the position of being the only parent available to truly look after the kids. Good luck on your mission man. Sorry for the tough times.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 04:02 PM
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I think you are confusing things. Equity is simple an estimate of what the profits would be if you sold the house. If you sell it, you don't have to estimate, you have the actual profits. You can't double count the "equity" and the "profits". If you sell the house, the starting point in the negotiation is most likely to half of the profits. The only way it would be different is if you or she could prove some of that value was personal property from before the marriage. Doesn't sound like this is…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 07:25 PM
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Thx.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 03:46 PM
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Also consider working with your chain of command if you are not getting enough time with your son. Military life is unique in that work gets co-mingled with the personal so much more than anywhere else I'm aware of. In this case, I would not recommend asking your chain of command to intercede in your relationship with your wife. However, if she is stonewalling you for connecting with your child that is legitimately unacceptable behavior (possibly categorized as abuse towards you and your son). S…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 02:55 PM
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Yep, that makes sense. You would be so misogynistic if you had considered that prior to marriage. If he asks you body count, he's just not secure enough of a man for you!" "If they never find the bodies, does it matter?" "I think it’s nice of these men to put up such a nice warning signal so early." "Exchanging “numbers” is really dumb and immature." "For such men, you can be certain they are not confident in their own abilities!" TBF, a man's sexual history matters to a woman seeking LTR as wel…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 07:30 PM
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Oooh, one more thing. I see you just said your sure she's already drowning in debt. If you haven't finalized the divorce, this debt may be your debt as well. Definitely consider reaching out to a lawyer and figuring out how to document and avoid. If she's frivolously spending the judge can assign it to her. If she can make a case for it, the judge can split it. In the latter case, the sooner you finalize the better.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 04:56 PM
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The internet has mostly one solution to relationship problems, "Divorce". She and you will probably find yourselves in the same place with new people because you will both behave in similar ways and co-develop similar relationships (philosophy from No More Mr. Nice Guy). I personally feel like the institution of marriage is more for the kids than either of the parents. I'm struggling in my marriage at the moment as well and it's my desire to provide a home for the kids rather than have them boun…
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 04:53 PM
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Plenty of mother's aren't interested in sex. It's not certain that she's cheating. Failure of cross-sex mind reading assuming women have similar needs to men.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 04:20 PM
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Interesting. Can you expound?
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 03:37 PM
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Best wishes! You'll get through :)
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 03:31 PM
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I Colorado child support is WAY smaller than spousal maintenance. If similar in your state, don't budge on the basic state guidelines (she'll be paying you both sounds like). Don't budge at all to be nice. If it comes to it, you'll get the guidelines easily in a court case and her lawyer knows it. Even the cost going to court will be a drop in the bucket of what you stand to lose financially by settling for less than what you are legally owed. She'll just try and pressure you to settle to avoid …
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 02:45 PM
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One of the great pieces of advice in "No More Mr. Nice Guy" is to choose partners who are available. My sister-in-law is in a many many years long relationship with a guy who says his parents bad marraige scarred him and he doesn't think he can get married. She is wasting her time. He is wasting her time, but getting laid (presumably). Don't be that person. You speak up and if he's not in the same place you won't be losing a great relationship, you'll be gaining time to find one. I like some of …
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 03:49 PM
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This.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 05:15 PM
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Too fast on the dating. Way, way, way too slow on getting a lawyer. You should call several day one. Meet with a few in a week or two and pick one immediately after.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/24 04:34 PM
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This may be a fair point. How long has evolutionary psychology been about as a formal science? All branches of science start with hypothesis and work towards greater understanding and take time. The approach, thinking about how human behave in the context of how their behavior would enable survival and evolution, to me, seems obvious and more well founded than any other branch of psychology, to be sure. But it takes time to work through things in science. Other scientific endeavors have been goi…
/r/ExRedPill20/05/24 03:16 PM
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Nice strawman argument. If you can find a way to make fun of something it must not have any value.
/r/ExRedPill20/05/24 03:11 PM
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Get a lawyer. Press for a fair outcome. Read a book or two on divorce advice for dads. There are short ones if reading in English is difficult for you. Such as "Divorce Smart A Dad's Story".
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/24 02:44 PM
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The fundamental issue is that the ingroup/outgroup dynamic is strong in humans and has been exploited for all kinds of atrocities in history. Which atrocity was it not a key factor? It's applied by government, groups, and individuals alike (so, not just because the Australian government labels a group doesn't make it "safe" to hate them). It only takes something as small as different colored bandanas to whip people up into violent hatred towards each other. Many research studies showed this in r…
/r/ExRedPill15/05/24 03:57 PM
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Your logic is in line with other radicalize people drawing generalizations and using it as a basis to hate anyone from another group. I in no way believe thinking the way you are suggesting will help society.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 11:19 PM
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You have broken free from hinging here friend. I don't support any of the bad things you keep implying I support and saying incels support. Your responses consistently are completely off mark from what I'm saying. Whether you are doing it on purpose, or because you don't know any better may be irrelevant.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 05:54 PM
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Violence is wrong. I don't believe that because some incels were violent that your hatred broadly towards an entire large group is justified. I also think that it's quite clear that hate breads hate. Hate like this further isolates and serves to push people towards radicalization rather than bringing people together in our common humanity.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 05:47 PM
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You can parse that language yourself, but what I'm saying is that the writings of some feminist leaders are filled with hate towards men so the expressed reality of the group doesn't align with your parsing in that they are noted feminists from all waves of feminism saying hateful things. I don't know if your characterization of incels is any more accurate.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 05:35 PM
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You underlying assumption is that incels are "a group of people who want to hurt women and hate them". I don't believe that's true of the group, even though it's true of some. Have read any feminist writings? Some are very hateful and vile. Even in mainstream feminist journals one openly advocated for collaring men and training them like dogs in society. Yet, most feminists don't hate all men like that, I hope.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 02:50 PM
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Oh please! You don't even realized that you've been radicalized and your echo chamber has allowed you to hate groups of people based on small snippets of the overall picture. Just just like people radicalized in the opposite direction.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 02:48 PM
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How it is generally used can just as much a reflection of hatefulness in mainstream bullying as anything else leaving little room for dialogue and conversation for people who find themselves involuntarily celibate.
/r/ExRedPill13/05/24 09:57 PM
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Is that a mainstream opinion that has come about due to fair judgement of the overall community? Mainstream opinions are as prone to bigotry and bias as any. It can just be made up of a bunch of hateful people insulting another group.
/r/ExRedPill13/05/24 09:56 PM
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I disagree that the term incel necessarily implies negative ideologies. It is simply someone who is celibate and single, who doesn't want to be. Labeling incels as hateful and radical is in itself a pretty hurtful act made doubly painful by the lonely nature of the situation they find themselves in. Involuntarily celibate, and involuntarily hurtfully labelled. I prefer to think of incels with a great degree of sympathy, myself.
/r/ExRedPill13/05/24 08:55 PM
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I hear you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 03:04 PM
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There is something to pre-selection bias. Here is a reddit post on the idea with a few links: Despite some protests to the contrary, the pre-selection bias is quite real....... : r/PurplePillDebate (reddit.com)
/r/ExRedPill10/05/24 09:37 PM
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I agree they should as well for this and many other reasons.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/24 09:34 PM
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This is a fair question. So, I'll admit that I am discussing the reasoning I've heard to answer the question as to why people don't feel dissonance. I don't know if that reasoning is "true". If there is a not a differential between men and women it does increase the hypocrisy of what at least is being asserted that RPers want to sleep with tons of women and have low body count wives. Personally I waited till marriage and looked for others with similar views.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/24 09:07 PM
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Sure, it is hypocritical. But, there is a basis that all the other commentators are skipping over. The basis is points studied in psychology showing that women's bonding hormone's and patterns decrease if they have had multiple partners. Women who have had multiple past partners are physiologically less able to bond to partner and much more likely to end the relationship and continue the cycle. Also, men have a higher innate negative response to their women having been with other men. To some ex…
/r/ExRedPill10/05/24 08:08 PM
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Friend - I can only image the tough time for you right now. You may find peace in finding different goals. Or, hey, 40 is not too old to start a family. It would be pushing it as a woman due to the biology, but you have more time. I have no idea why you have had two marraiges and no kids so I can only make a random comment here, but in the Red Pill community they would suggest it's always your fault (said with love). Like, even if your wives cheated and destroyed your marraiges and you were an a…
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/24 03:52 PM
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Hi! I don't know about attributing to hormones getting out of my pores. I can say that I lost a little bit of weight and put on some muscle with the TRT. Not a huge huge difference, but at 46yrs improvements are hard to come by. I was only a little bit under the reference range for my age prior to starting. Yes, I believe the reference range is too low and shrinking based on the decreasing male testosterone so being just under is less than optimal. In the year, I have noticed some difference in …
/r/askMRP07/05/24 04:36 PM
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thx
/r/askMRP06/05/24 06:11 PM
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Thx. I've found lots of covert contracts in my thinking and in some previous posts I've made. I don't see it yet in this one, but I'll come back.
/r/askMRP06/05/24 02:53 PM
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Thx.
/r/askMRP06/05/24 02:52 PM
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Thx.
/r/askMRP03/05/24 08:04 PM
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Thx.
/r/askMRP03/05/24 08:04 PM
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That's about your speed. Consistent with the prior level of thought.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/24 09:42 PM
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That's about your speed. Consistent with the prior level of thought.
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 10:02 PM
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You're making a huge leap in reasoning from a very small piece of evidence. I already had social skills, much like OP describes. It was specifically attitudes and behaviors that RP would point out women are attracted too, which I either "learned" or became jaded to eating dust and throwing lead in the desert, that made the difference. All the additional social skills in the world going the same line of "being vulnerable", or "learning to listen" weren't moving the needle as my personal developme…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 08:08 PM
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You are on the wrong sub-reddit. This sub-reddit is for exredpillers. Your story looks like you need some red pill. (which community this sub is dedicated to undoing the damage from so perhaps my comment will get removed, but some knowledge of the foundations or evolutionary psychology that in part spawned the red pill may be helpful for you, just don't go all in without reasoning for yourself) You're listing off all these things you think will make you attractive (no problem being vulnerable, p…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 06:04 PM
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This article quoted lost of "studies" and then drew conclusions that contradicted the studies to, in the end, say that men aren't better at raising children, but at least each case should be taken on it's own. Perhaps the "each case should be taken on it's own" is a fine final point. But her assertions that men have more money, or only men who prove themselves in court get custody etc. don't match the data. That data she quotes says single fathers have the same average results as two parent hous…
/r/MensRights26/04/24 05:27 PM
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Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 07:40 PM
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Bro, this doesn't seem to be adding up right. The restraining order is not against the PI. Quick google search and some of the top results for PI's is investigating abuse in child custody cases. Try a different PI. If all you have to prove is that a certain individual is going to the house, and it's happening frequently, that should be easy to prove. Potentially possible to prove from whatever distance your restraining order requires if the PI feels they have to follow your order (for what reaso…
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 03:24 PM
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Bro, if this is real, you need to document. Most states are default 50/50. If she's exposing them to abuse you can get custody take care of them. If this is you stretching the story, stop feeling sorry for yourself and deal with whatever reality is real. Do the research or hire the experts to make it happen depending on your funds vs. ability to research and implement plans.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 10:08 PM
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That is the minimum. If it became marital property, he is simply owed half of the total value of the house.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 02:46 PM
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This. Look, the equity in the home is more than worth a lawyer man. Get on. The equitable split in any state is going to be the value gained at a minimum. If she owned house, but then you started paying on the mortgage as well the more likely case is that the entire house is marital property and to buy you out, she would need to pay half of the total value. Get a lawyer and get the exact situation straight. There is too much money on the line here to get wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 02:45 PM
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Thanks. I've got WISNIFG and NMMNG and will study them and work on my skills and mindset.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 10:29 PM
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It seems to be some sort of cultural blind-spot because... It's not accidental. The people who don't want to acknowledge biological/evolutionary reality actively demonize anyone who would point out reality. Aren't we you here on PurplePillDebate? A whole point on RedPill is dealing with the reality of these dynamics whether we like it or not and a whole objection to RedPill is people who don't want to acknowledge reality. BluePill vs. RedPill...Purple Pill...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 08:49 PM
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Thx
/r/askMRP16/04/24 04:02 PM
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Thanks.
/r/askMRP16/04/24 03:40 PM
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Thanks.
/r/askMRP16/04/24 03:38 PM
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Thanks for your response. The overwhelming consensus here is STFU and continue getting through the sidebar material and putting into practice. I hear you.
/r/askMRP16/04/24 03:38 PM
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Thanks for your response. Lot's to think about here. One question for you Frequency, or ecstatic, orgasmic wife. Ego is tied to her climax. Are you suggesting I should be ok with wife providing quickies and not enjoying herself? I'm working on getting her sexual desire up to want to have sex frequently and ecstatically. Is that the wrong goal?
/r/askMRP16/04/24 03:35 PM
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Thanks for your response. Is this based on her words, or her actions? This is based on her words. In actions she respects me more and has a higher libido. But in her words she is more upset that she's not getting her way and threatens divorce now when she's throwing a fit and I'm not caving in. So, if she does go for the divorce, that would be her actions. But as of yet, her actions show increased respect. Maybe you're just particularly dense, but you must not have been working very hard if this…
/r/askMRP16/04/24 03:19 PM
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<<EDITED RESPONSE>> Thanks for your response. Previous response as an archived reminder to self not to DEER: I'm here asking for advice on response so I can build frame, which is clear from my post. Your comment is not helpful. She's not neurotic because I lack frame. I married an already neurotic woman because I lacked frame. Among the first things her parents said to me after we got married were expressing thanks for putting up with her because others can't stand to be around her when she's st…
/r/askMRP15/04/24 10:57 PM
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OMG. Thinking about it for 20 hours and didn't put 2 and 2 together that succinctly. Yes. You nailed the essence. .
/r/askMRP15/04/24 10:21 PM
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I mean, a gay man who chose to marry a woman can still want kids and get her preggo and then later decide he wants to be in a SS relationship and bail...
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 04:29 PM
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No, I totally disagree. You are in no position to judge whether or not someone is a good 'landing spot' while dating on the down low. If any preparation is done, it should be on building himself into the man his future wife is going to want which has the side benefits of just building himself, and building the man his wife may or may not choose to continue to want. After the breakup spend some time building before getting back into dating. (not said from experience, just my opinion).
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 05:01 PM
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This. They can quickly tell you what is common in the state. You can look up the state laws as well. Just offer her exactly what the middle of the road state guidance is. Also make sure to consider that if she is voluntarily unemployed you can apply the guidance to the amount of income she should be able to get if she was serious about getting a job. But a lawyer can tell you all that. You don't necessarily have to pay them for an expensive trial. Just have them get you set up with the right exp…
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 03:16 PM
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Hmmm, his all sounds so very familiar to me and my ongoing difficult marriage, but to a greater degree than I think is my case.. I have a prayer in my heart for you! People get to use the free will God gave them however they choose, for better or for worse. It's easy to understand academically, but difficult to cope with when your spouse is choosing to use theirs in a way that damages your kids and your marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/24 03:50 PM
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I've seen a couple. He seems more like the type to study before you get into a relationship, but the type that would cause bitterness and division if absorbed while in a relationship. What do you thing?
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 03:37 PM
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Thanks. Solid advice.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 03:36 PM
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Thanks. I'll look through each of these resource. I didn't know about r/marriedredpill. It may be exactly what I was asking about. Or, it may be the exact opposite, but it is interesting to check out nonetheless.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 03:35 PM
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Yes. I access this r/divorce_men thread at work where I don't feel comfortable watching youtube. I sent the link to myself to watch later. I keep hearing more and more about attachment styles so I'll take a look. Thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 03:21 PM
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I've seen a few episodes and I absolutely said that. I'm not sure how to approach seeing if my wife would watch some. I honestly think she's too correct and too close to home for my wife to actually listen to... Yes - if she did, it would point out the crux of the matter to her quickly...
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 03:10 PM
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That's not the question I asked. Now you are starting to argue like my wife. It's easy to argue against someone when you mis-represent their point. My point is that your comments aren't related to my question, and your comments are posted in several other places. So, are they really needed again here? Or do they get in the way of this conversation? I think the latter. I was asking you to consider such.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 10:28 PM
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Ok, I saw these copied summaries of the advice from r/Divorce_Men on some other posts when I came to r/Divorce_Men and they have a lot of great information. I made a spreadsheet to track each suggestion I thing is good for my case. However, this advice is clearly not germain to the specific question I asked in this post and it is now kind of annoying to have to scroll through all the copied summary posts to see posts from and engage with people who are helpfully commenting to my question. Is thi…
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 09:40 PM
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Yeah, hit me back here if you come up with some good resources.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 08:23 PM
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I am putting meditation on my for sure to do/learn more of list. Responded below on the weights :)
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 08:21 PM
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Definitely. I'm doing pretty well physically. She has noted that I'm the fittest man in our circle of friends and church. Seh even picks the pants I wear to get her friends the most jealous. It's not easy for me to build muscle, but I'm deadlifting the most I ever have and benching as well. 305, 215 respectively, so not a ton, but for a thinner tall guy I'm feeling good. Also, pulling a 69lb bow RH and 66lb bow left hand is pretty easy for me now. I can do it slow enough it might not scare an el…
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 08:20 PM
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Sorry to hear. Thanks for the clarification. Assumed such, but just wanted to be totally clear here for the discussion.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 07:43 PM
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Just to clarify, DV by her or you?
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 05:38 PM
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Awesome. Good luck! I'm pulling for you guys :)
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 03:45 PM
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I don't think u/Alone_Average_3154 and u/captainchippsixx have your back here. Doesn't sound like you are simping, you give no indication of that in your message. They seem to be projecting their realities into yours. Sounds like you two are either too stressed, or, one or both of you is hard to get along with. Try slowing down, cutting expenses to live within a lifestyle that you can afford with the work hours you can put in, while still having time for yourselves and each other. You may be gla…
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 10:14 PM
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Record/document the abuse of the children. They will be better off with you as the primary caretaker (assuming you are not behaving this way as well). 50/50 would only be better if both parents are treating the kids appropriately. Otherwise you have to fight for them like the father I assume you are. That fight might start with acting like the marriage can continue long enough to document enough abuse for you to get custody. FYI - I've never been divorced, and I'm not a lawyer - so this is just …
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 10:10 PM
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You don't have to spend tens of thousands on a laywer. Spend a few thousand for consultation on the situation and find out what they think might be worth fighting for, and then decide whether or not to spend big bucks having them help you, or just to go the easy, temporarily cheaper, route.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 09:06 PM
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Yeah, definitely don't give her more than her share just to ease your emotional pain for being the one to pull the trigger and file. If you try and work with her for a situation that works for the marriage and she won't budge for the drinking and partying, then just split and take your share with a clear conscience. You're not the one neglecting the marriage. All too often the man in the relationship has a drinking problem and nobody bats an eye when the woman asks for her share in the split. An…
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 09:02 PM
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Yeah, definitely don't give her more than her share just to ease your emotional pain for being the one to pull the trigger and file. If you try and work with her for a situation that works for the marriage and she won't budge for the drinking and partying, then just split and take your share with a clear conscience. You're not the one neglecting the marriage. All to often the man in the relationship has a drinking problem and nobody bats an eye when the woman asks for her share in the split. Ano…
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 09:02 PM
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Yeah, definitely don't give her more than her share just to ease your emotional pain for being the one to pull the trigger and file. If you try and work with her for a situation that works for the marriage and she won't budge for the drinking and partying, then just split and take your share with a clear conscience. You're not the one neglecting the marriage. All to often the man in the relationship has a drinking problem and nobody bats an eye when the woman asks for her share in the split. Ano…
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 09:01 PM
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I was confused about the details as well. Glad u/Snowbirdy clarified.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 04:03 PM
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I see the wisdom in that strategy, thanks. Colorado is a 50/50 state with a spousal maintenance that is graduated based on years marriage as guidance for the judge, so not the worst, but other states may be better. Thanks for the idea to consider. What are the "best" states?
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 04:01 PM
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Thanks for the link/advice.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 06:04 PM
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+1 Angel Investing thanks for the idea.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 06:01 PM
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Just speaking to Colorado, the code § 14-10-114. Spousal maintenance--advisory guidelines--legislative declaration--definitions at about 2.II.(C) says Gross Income does not include additional jobs for more thatn 40hours/week. Colorado Title 14. Domestic Matters § 14-10-114 | FindLaw
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 05:58 PM
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Agree. Of course that suggestion doesn't go over well. I've suggested we both go to our own therapy or marriage counselling. She thinks therapists are quacks. I agree with you though. Would love that.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 05:55 PM
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I would love for the "get out there do what you love" approach to work, but the things I like doing are done mostly by men. In these cases, the odds with the few women who show up are slim. Not that many women show up as BJJ, Mountain Biking, backpacking etc. If they do show up, I'm screaming past them anyway and slowing to their speed for a "hey baby" is creepy. I hoped meeting an active woman by doing the things I loved would work for me through my 20's, especially because I was a competitive …
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 08:33 PM
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