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I got a sex doll, those ais are not good enough yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 01:27 PM
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Welp he defined it in the post: a man who has many options and ongoing affairs simultaneously a man who women pursue out of pure sexual desire a man who has a lot of sex in general Might not be your definition but at least that is what OP is asking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 07:37 PM
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A much healthier option is to start each meal with a large portion of low calorie vegetables. Then you won’t feel so hungry and also save lounges…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 02:19 PM
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Prostitutes get raped all the time but it’s not always reported as such. I think these guys do what they want in a space where there are no repercussions. Poor prostitutes..
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 05:24 AM
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Reduces hunger I think
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 05:19 AM
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Yea I agree with this. I think it started earlier though with European colonialism. Think of the Philippines as a example.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 05:08 AM
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On tinder you would be a 2 but in real world a 6 or so. You look normal but the competition on the apps is so fierce that even average is ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 12:37 AM
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I think what has changed is that as a group men are doing worse then before and it started with tinder and went downhill from there. The gap was there before but it’s been growing. Also women have become more vocal and tipping over into bullying and abuse when trying to out men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 12:34 AM
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Also Sweden. I think people date through friends at school and in university but after that it’s increasingly dating apps. People who are well socialized, educated etc do well on dating apps but if you have something going wrong for you it’s difficult. People on dating apps in larger cities tend to be very classist also (looking at you Stockholm) so it’s harder there. People split bills 50/50 more I would say. That issue with women wanting free lunches is not something I have experienced. One th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 09:28 AM
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I think this was more common in the past. Nowadays we just date around. A lot of men also marry women they are not attracted to, women who would be great moms and partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:27 PM
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Men age differently to women. Women tend to take less risks in life. Perhaps they are poor, perhaps a low paying job, perhaps a good job. Men prosper or die. Men who don’t get established dent to perish at a young age, below 40. Suicide, drugs, accidents. So if you are a well put together guy in your 40s you will be a lot more interesting to women your own age, older and younger. It’s not like any man can pull a 25 year old, but your options definitely increase. Myself noticed that before 35 I g…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 07:05 PM
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Yea this is the nice guy concept but in another envelope. There is a push in almost all cultures and religions to raise “good men”. Many times it’s women who instill these values into their boys. It’s a form of masculinity that is not self serving for the man, instead we are supposed to serve some greater good by making sacrifices and self mutilate. The tools used are shame, guilt, mockery and other bullying tactics. The guys coming out of this type of upbringing don’t know how to be assertive i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:16 PM
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Fully agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:22 PM
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80s was similar to today as men and women worked. The era you are looking for is more 50s/60s. Mostly men wear universities and it was possible to support a family on one salary as blue collar worker. What has happened since is that women surpassed men at universities, birth control and industrial jobs no longer lying well. And also social media…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:15 PM
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When it comes to autism and the pills ideologies I think the autistic way of thinking categorically and in black/white terms lands people in the extremes. Most socially apt people knows intuitively when to be assertive and when to be more accommodating. If you go full blue pill you end up a doormat. If you go full red pill you become a douchbag. If you go full blackpill you become depressed and suicidal. The best way is to work with a counselor or therapist to be as balanced as possible and meet…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:53 AM
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These masculinity influencers make their money out of single men’s misery and the attention they get online is enough to increase their social status. This is why they have these cute girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:49 AM
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Same, but here i am clicking a link with his name on it etc… I think it’s just a canvas which we want to project our opinions and frustrations on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 07:36 PM
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I went through this in school and while most guys will be fine there will be some who will be scarred by this…
/r/MensRights15/07/23 06:17 AM
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I also had an abusive mother who was also progressive. I was also leftist for most of my life. However during therapy I learned to question the teachings and how to be angry at women. I used to be quite a doormat. However questioning the teachings and being angry in liberal environments is the same as being fascist so I’ve been gradually been booted out from those communities. So then in became a MRA. It’s a gradual process that has happened over the past 10 years or so.
/r/MensRights15/07/23 05:31 AM
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Avoid it. It’s impossible to talk to the other side. The trenches are deep.
/r/MensRights14/07/23 06:48 PM
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Men are the majority receivers of this violence. But as it’s men bashing men media thinks it’s trash taking itself out, like they see gang violence.
/r/MensRights14/07/23 04:35 PM
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Not really. Most guys have found nurses and business administrators, IT educated women to marry. Sure there are also the poor women, but that’s a separate chapter. Eg in Europe I would not be able to find a university educated woman to marry as I’m not high social status enough/making enough money but a nurse from the Philippines would be. I know a guy who married a nurse from Thailand and he worked in a warehouse. They seem happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 07:52 AM
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The difference in choice is immense. If you can choose a higher quality partner from Taiwan why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 07:41 AM
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I have no problem with them when doing their thing in private but they end up in ministries and federal government bodies etc its a problem. They are doing a great job raising girls but they tend to block efforts to support men.
/r/MensRights14/07/23 07:32 AM
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Thanks!
/r/MensRights14/07/23 04:39 AM
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I have been thinking about this a lot. The whole manosphere is a very organic amalgam of mostly dudes talking about their problems. At first glance I think most of it is gibberish (alpha, beta, blackpill etc). However these people are not academics. They are mostly just dudes trying to describe their world in their own language. It’s exactly what feminists did. They did not have a language to describe what women suffered from so they invented the whole gender theory thingy. Language is super imp…
/r/MensRights13/07/23 11:10 PM
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The same applies for women I think. Changing someone is a lost cause.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 09:55 PM
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At least for me it’s night and day. Below 35 I got no matches whatsoever on the apps, but after I got more then I know what to do with. But I have a stable job and no physical disabilities/deformities. I guess that’s enough at this age. Nothing else about me has changed. I’m still boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 06:28 PM
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This whole thing is a dumpster fire. Why are they doing all of this in public???
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:57 AM
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It is, it’s terrible.
/r/MensRights13/07/23 03:11 AM
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Vote for policies and parties which are anti feminist and focus on flows of money.
/r/MensRights13/07/23 02:57 AM
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Yes. Because I know it would lead to me just being a doormat.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:34 AM
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I would keep my integrity. I’ve been alone my entire life and I’m tired of fawning/being a doormat and appeasing women. It’s depressing and infuriating that I will never be enough. But that’s just how life is sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:24 AM
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I had an abusive upbringing where the violence came from (feminist) women. Out of that I developed a massive people pleasing behavior. Naturally when I approached women I fawned and appeased like no tomorrow. This was most of my 20s though. I started going to therapy to be less of a doormat. I notice I still do this. Actually that example of dogs and cats is a good example. It comes up in Tinder chats from time to time. Sometimes I fawn and fake it and sometimes they do. So if you would have ask…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:11 AM
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They have family and she has not worked for 8 years, she does not like work. She prefers having him work himself to death and paint glass jars. She is also kind of a shitty person… I think they exploit each other tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 09:39 PM
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She had a lot of mental health issues she don’t want to deal with. Plus her husband is a bit like a feeder (also obese) which is not helping at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 09:33 PM
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I have a friend my age who is obese and it’s just an avalanche of health problems. She is aging faster then the rest of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 09:28 PM
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35-65 End of fertile years, menopause. Usually divorced from kids father. Sometimes bitter, sometimes happy. Financially distressed or financially secured. Health problems due to age. Second sexual age (first in 20s, less sex as kids where up, second in 40s). Obesity, diabetes and saggy, wrinkled body.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:02 PM
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They should have kept this thing private. Disclosing someone’s bad behavior is a bit like revenge porn. She got hurt and now she wants to publicly humiliate him and make sure he will never meet a girlfriend again. Sure, he might have been abusive but if that’s the case then take it with the police. If it’s not a crime then just leave it. The fact they worked on it in couples therapy tells me he is not a complete psychopath. Most narcissists don’t want to do couples therapy. I tried with my mom (…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:09 PM
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Women and feminists played a crucial role in creating incels. If you take a child and raise him feminist (shaming around male sexuality, emotional and psychological abuse in the form of male bashing, neglect and low expectations), that will be a sexually crippled confused kid who obsesses about what women think of him. Any abuse victim will be hyper focused on what their abusers think of them. However feminists are so convinced of their moral and ethical superiority that they can’t see how these…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 01:10 PM
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The nice guy phenomena online is too female centric in my mind. The reason we end up there is that we have poor self esteem and we have been shamed out of beeing assertive and vocal about our wants (many times from women). We end up in this mentality because of abuse and a lack of encouragement from our surroundings. The people pleasing comes from trauma. If women would be traumatized and tried to build relationships on top of that they would receive oceans of support and empathy. As men if we h…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 09:30 AM
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When cars came around horses were no longer needed so they were led to slaughter. I think it’s the same with men. Now that men are no longer needed women might choose a couple to have kids with but the rest of us will just die out. Maybe not in wars but more in drugs and suicide etc. it’s just the natural order of things. I’m sure some will revolt but most guys will simply just sit on a chair and die in silence.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 07:32 PM
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It’s great that he advices men to focus on themselves and go out in the word to do great things. A lot of feminists want men to be “less” and stand aside for women which is toxic. So for timid or insecure men he is a great role model. However he also says a lot of gibberish.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:29 PM
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All the women I have rejected took it well, except this 28 year old bombshell, she was literally texting in all caps in tinder why I was not responding.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:27 PM
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It’s simple. Men are doing worse on aggregate while women are doing better on aggregate. Women can be choosy in terms of sex appeal. At the same time we have a feminist framework that makes it politically unappealing to uplift men and make them the kind of men women would want to date as there is a fear it could cannibalize the gains women have. So we are stuck in a place where the two sides don’t match as well as they used to. Things might gradually be changing but it’s a very slow process that…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:53 PM
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Failure in this area can eat up your entire world if it festers. I don’t think it’s my whole self worth, but I can spend 8h a day ruminating and being bitter about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:10 PM
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What people here refers to as average are guys who have education, a job, home, no deformities and a reasonable active social life. Personality wise usually a bit agreeable and well raised (nice and polite). These guys can’t get dates on apps. I think it’s an age thing. 60 years ago they would be married in a heartbeat but things have changed. They guys who do get laid are disagreeable and hot. Women don’t need men anymore for the money like they used to. The playbook for how to raise men has no…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:23 PM
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Red pill i would say the whole alpha, beta thing and high value/low value man/woman. Blue pill it’s more “be nice” and “just be yourself and good things will happen”, or “you are a great guy sure you will find someone soon”.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 04:57 PM
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It’s similar. If you don’t learn how to build sexual tension, work on your attachment issues etc or physical appearance it won’t change. Though I think women with these issues can mask it more as there will always be men who are sociopaths and very persistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 06:55 PM
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I had an abusive mom so spent my 20s being overly compliant and nice around women. if some woman showed interest I either did not understand or it clashed with my self image of being unattractive so I just rejected it. Or I got afraid and ran away. Started therapy after 30 but it was too late so ended up buying a sex doll. Got rid of it now but undecided how to proceed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 06:53 PM
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Yeap agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 06:51 PM
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Zero, cant remember a single instance.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 06:16 PM
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Same, people talk about work or injuries mostly. If family comes up it’s some vacation. I think when people are kids it’s different then we chased each other with towels etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 09:02 AM
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Yea the love bombing phase is intense. Both genders do it..
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 07:29 AM
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My mom was also abusive, but feminist one. That shame really damaged me bad, still can’t handle intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:29 PM
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“It was an orgie where all nine women were stacked on each other. My pp touched the bottom woman’s v and it made them all cum. That’s how I’m so inexperienced but also had sex with nine women”. Not sure who would but that though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:26 PM
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Put your phone on greyscale and watch how you feel when you consume content. If you feel agitated, validated or sad the content was designed to make you feel that way. Think about why. If you feel nothing the content was informative. The greyscale takes away some of the sugar rush we get from social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 06:46 PM
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About ”men did not know Woman could be mean”. This knowledge typically comes from women who have very high ideas about themselves, who like to trash men. If you grow up among those kind of people you kind of start believing it. It works the same way as any other abuse/brainwashing just with different roles then what we are used to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 06:42 PM
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One massive issue not talked about so much is how trauma impacts dating among men. Traumatized people tend to close off socially, be timid, shy and struggle with eye contact. The first question should be to check if there is trauma involved then we can talk muscles and money.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 11:01 PM
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I think women are single mostly because they don’t have time or can’t find a guy who is interested in more then sex. They have other positives going on like education, side gigs and friends. For men we are single because we are too poor and uneducated. Which causes drug addiction, hopelessness, depression and despair.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 10:07 PM
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The frustration comes from the dual messaging boys and men get fed with: take a step aside, ambition feeds the patriarchy, shut up etc. and at the same time expect men to be confident and be ambitious. It’s like we are raised to be followers because it’s convenient to women, while women desire leaders so they sort of reject their own offspring or produce. This contradiction is at the heart of what a lot of guys hate about feminism as liberals are usually the biggest hypocrites. The biggest fans …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 10:04 PM
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It’s definitely this. There has always been men who struggled but the growth in the past 10 years is definitely this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 10:00 PM
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It’s a bit of a gay fantasy. It’s the same with skinny model women, I think that’s more like a woman fantasy then male one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 07:35 PM
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The feminist movement considers itself peaceful and none violent. But as a guy growing around it up and being on the revieving end of jt just because I was the nearest guy around I can for sure tell you it’s not. The violence is not physical but emotional and psychological. It’s neglect and ignorance. As an example less research being done on men’s issues in social sciences. I think being able to see this violence as actual violence would help many women understand why so many men reacting so ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:03 PM
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We have a built in elevator. When not in relaxed mode like doing sports etc our bodies absorb our balls and weeners so they almost disappear.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:00 PM
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I know shorter guy friends who have similar fears. Maybe not go to the bathroom but moving around in public and travel. I’m 6 feet and I also get scared of men. Maybe not rape but violence and robberies. So I can understand it, to some degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 02:59 PM
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Very true, and you can’t question it without being pulverized.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 02:57 PM
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All that man bashing we hear from our female leaders and role models; we internalize it and make it part of our identities. The reaction is either to cave in and become a hikkikomori/incel or become a red pill woman hater.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 02:57 PM
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I think around 25 the first signs of aging starts to show. A lot of guys start to bald around this age and similar things happens to women. But to say it’s a cliff people fall of is silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 09:48 AM
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A younger guy with low income might not want a dependent. Also having kids will make you immovable. An older guy with more income esp with kids on his own might not care about it. An older woman might want someone who knows what it means to be in a relationship, how to do chores etc. also might not want a player or someone who will move away suddenly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 08:54 AM
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I’m not tossing the idea out. It was great for my sisters who got a boost from it. It was bad for me though, and I can see it’s destructive effects on boys and men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:18 AM
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Evert such encounter has had feminist theory and thought material behind it. I know I can’t convince you since you love your ideology. It’s the same with the women around me. It’s like convincing a Christian that there are bad things going on in churches. https://kvartal.se/artiklar/jamstalldhetsmyndigheten-kvinnors-vald-mot-man-ar-en-del-av-mans-vald-mot-kvinnor/ Here is a source for the policy. You will have to run it through google translate as it’s in Swedish.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 09:39 AM
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The hikkikomori population hides autism and various forms of mental health problems like depression etc. which Japan is really bad at dealing with. agree with the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 07:34 AM
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I think it’s mostly about money and house-wife expectations tbh. Men are expected to earn more then women which in Japan working yourself to death. Few men are willing to do this. Better to be a bit poor but alive then none virgin and dead. So rather then try you give up. For women I think they don’t want to be house wife’s. And if they do they want a high earning man which does no longer exist. We will have a similar trend in the west and I think we are already seeing it. Men are not economical…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 07:32 AM
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I had a lot of shaming around porn growing up (feminist upbringing) and it damaged my relationship with women for life. It’s very much possible to overdo the shaming. Up until 12 or so I’d say monitor internet traffic is fine but being a teenager means breaking away from yo parents. If you stick with being intrusive around your sons sex life it can cause incest like trauma as you force yourself into his sexuality. It’s not that different from the trauma girls who have been controlled suffer from…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 07:15 AM
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Had to think a bit and dig into memories. I’m Northern European so I only have examples from over here. The Finnish school system is generally considered really good. However what’s hiding in the statistics is that it works great -for women. About 20% of men 20-30 were Neets while women go to university en masse. In Sweden all violence is considered men’s violence against women. It’s a legal framework cooked up by the ministry for equality, which is populated by nearly 100% women. So as a woman …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 06:17 AM
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https://www.spectrumnews.org/features/deep-dive/radical-online-communities-and-their-toxic-allure-for-autistic-men/
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 06:08 AM
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I don’t know where they are. However women are employed to work in schools so it’s their job to do it. As for single moms, yes that’s not nice but they also have the power and authority i those families so it’s their duty to do it. Just blaming one’s failure on the “men who are not there” is a bit cheap I think. Not everything is men’s fault, many times it’s women who have authority and power who fails.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 07:04 PM
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I watched some movie about some guys sleeping around in Thailand and in one segment the mask slipped on one of the women. I also watched a documentary about western people living there and a woman said a lot of men had been scammed out of their money, thinking they were dating naive Thai women. I definitely know about the rural women also, a colleague married one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 05:13 PM
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Going abroad requires some degree of disagreeableness and industrial mindset/capability. The guys doing this who are not street-smart will be ruined, these women know what they are doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:01 PM
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This whole thing with bad boys and nice guys is warped I my opinion. The reason we ended up with this is: As we grow up as boys our moms wants us to be nice and easy to handle. Those of us who are naturally agreeable and maybe on the autism spectrum overdo it and become doormats. Guys then wonder why girls don’t like them. It’s not because they are not nice - which they mostly are - it’s because they are doormats. They then start to overcompensate in anger. This is why Tate is so popular among t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 12:42 PM
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I’ve suffered a lot from social phobia and I was not able to go outside in part for reasons you mentioned. As I have grown older I care less and less and now I go to restaurants alone etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:23 PM
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The reasons why people follow Tate has very little to do with sex in my opinion. When you are a teenager you are wired to revolt against authority. So boys grow up in mostly single mother households, go to schools where there are only female teachers, see media plastered with “men bad-women” good news and grants and support structures for girls but nothing for boys. They live in a local matriarchy. So they revolt against the matriarchy. And who is their leader? Andrew Tate is just the current gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:43 PM
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The amount of men who are older and inexperienced is definitely growing. Most of the surveys only ask “did you have sex in the past year?” They should also add 5 and 10 year gaps and that’s where you will see the massive difference between the genders. I lost my virginity at 25 and then there was a gap of 10 years and now it’s 5 years since the last time. I get out in the same bucket as someone who had a “dry spell” of 12 months… it’s very frustrating as I feel invisible. I think what we will se…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:40 PM
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The “be nice” vs “be a tough guy” dichotomy is very difficult to deal with for guys with autism. How to balance that? Most guys end up doing one or the other. The nice guys end up being doormats while the tough guys end up being bullies.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:33 PM
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My mom was/is awful. I can’t come to think of anything positive to say. She is a feminist and sort of took out that anger on me, to not turn me into a toxic man. I was a doormat feminist man until I was 32 or so. Lots of female friends but no sex. My purpose was more to be their emotional trashcan.. Then I started therapy. Now I hate feminists and women in general to an unhealthy degree. I’m not a virgin but not far from it. I have lived with a sex doll for the past 4 years or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:31 PM
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Yeah it’s important to start young. This is the biggest issue with women getting ahead in education and early life. Even though men catch up at some point (ages 25-35) we are inexperienced in relationships and sex and then that becomes an issue in itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:26 PM
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Among male incels the self reported age/autism rate was 12-25 year olds and 25% diagnosed on autism. That’s why their theories are so strange. Edit: it was not 75% it was 25, sorry remembered it wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:23 PM
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I think both incels and femcels are on the autism spectrum, have trauma and have difficulties dealing with it all. Even though many appear like giant monsters online I think they are typically more agreeable people then what most people think. To deal with this agreeable side men overcompensate by being super aggro while women turn jt more inward. Most healthy people know how to strike a balance between being timid and assertive but when you are on the spectrum it’s “either or”.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:21 PM
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On aggregate i think it’s a bit like women take a financial hit while men take a social hit. Alimony is mostly for very wealthy dudes and there are not that many of those. The social hit is what is driving men to suicide after divorces, as they loose their social life. The best way forward is to support men to have more friends And identity outside being a provider and women to take better care of their finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:19 PM
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I fully agree, however I also think it’s great women can now be full persons with agency. I think some people thought women getting educated and independent would solve the word problems but I think it’s just a change, with both bad and good outcomes. Personally I was pro all these policies but when I realized it affected my own life in a very negative way I switched.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 02:18 PM
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That’s ok, we will vote for politicians who will make it happen :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:12 AM
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I dont think government mandated girlfriends would ever work. But something’s is required to change things for sure. I think what’s missing in the discussion is that government institutions need to want boys and men to succeed in life even if it may cannibalize on the sucesses of women. For a long time now, I’d say the 60s the mantra has been that boys need to move aside to give girls space to succeed. If we really want boys to succeed more in life we need to flip that script in some areas (main…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:17 PM
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I think “ugly” here means men who tends to get swiped left on dating apps. Women’s standards are quite high. I’ve had people tell me I’m handsome and even beautiful irl, but on dating apps I don’t get many matches. When I was younger it was 0. So guys who use dating apps as a measure for how good looking they are will most likely think they are zero. Even some of the most attractive guys you see will think they fall into the ugly category. Just like Instagram and TikTok causes body dysmorphia in…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:10 AM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:46 PM
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I find career women a bit like bricks. I want a pillow.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:42 PM
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I checked and it costs about 700 eur in Denmark.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:26 PM
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Im not against single mothers but state funded insemination should be banned. If people want kids like that they should pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:02 PM
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It’s perverse these programs have been allowed to run for so long. I have no hard feelings about STEM etc, but for the rest it’s grotesque.
/r/MensRights24/06/23 10:09 AM
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This is amazing!
/r/MensRights24/06/23 10:08 AM
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I consider him a male rights activist bound by the axioms of feminists. I like what he does but don’t agree with it all, we will need to be a lot more aggressive in supporting boys then redshirting etc.
/r/MensRights24/06/23 10:01 AM
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My own lived experience has been that until I got my first corporate job I lived in a matriarchy (Sweden). School, home, nursing, media narratives (80s, 90s, 00s) was woman dominated. Same with university and unemployment office and psychologist I met. All authority figures were women (well apart from a couple of lecturers in university). Everything was on womens terms. Once I got a full time job around 30 it all flipped on it’s head. Suddenly I got a male manager who wanted me to accumulate wea…
/r/MensRights24/06/23 09:59 AM
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Yea if it was young male conscripts on a military submarine it would be very bad. However these are adult men with resources who took a calculated risk. It’s tragic but I don’t get triggered by it. There is some “eat the rich” reactions to it but I also don’t get triggered by that.
/r/MensRights24/06/23 09:52 AM
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I liked their model of a male activist. I very much ended up as a M- incel type male thanks to my feminist upbringing and they recognized this as a problem.
/r/MensRights24/06/23 09:48 AM
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We live in a capitalist society so I would also say have some cash at hand. Younger guys might not have steady incomes. The cash will help in being spontaneous which is important at that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 08:07 AM
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Discussion subs will be discussion subs. Things are as rancid as they are because men can no longer live up to women’s standards. At the same time only conservatives have ideas how to fix it, the left has nothing but contempt (and joy in that men have been defeated). If the left would come up with a way to support men and boys a lot of it would go away over time. However power does not work that way..
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 10:46 PM
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We strive for equality in everything else related to women’s lives, why should it not also apply to men? A lot of feminist use intersectional and social constructivist theories (sorry not an expert) and whatever to explain women’s problems but when it comes to men’s issues it’s just “natural selection”. It’s manipulative, sociopathic and intellectually dishonest. Men’s issues matter and we will vote to make our issues heard. As long as only extreme right cares about them, that’s what at least I …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 07:03 PM
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I’m a guy. My mom is super manipulative. In short it’s to make people want things you want regardless of if it’s the best interest of what the other person wants. Simple example is you want to have answer to this question. I could manipulate you but using guilt or shame or say it’s a stupid question etc until you no longer want the answer. Actually you want to answer the question I had. Another way to manipulate could me to rephrase your question into something that results in a answer that fits…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 08:03 AM
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Just an observation living here. Lots of wifes from there are not working or learning languages they coast. If that’s their or their husbands wish I have no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 07:30 AM
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I could probably find a super attractive woman 5-15 years younger then me in some poor country who would like to take her west. However I could not personally live with the transactional nature of that relationship. Plus dealing with cultural differences is difficult. Those relationships usually imply taking care of her family financially. She might not be able to find a job in my country, esp if she is poor. Basically I would end up having to support two families financially which is just… a no…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:21 AM
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In many places men can’t live up to women’s standards on social status and education etc. part of more equality would be for women to accept a lower social status husband. As for what government can do, put systematic programs in place to lift the long tail of poor and uneducated boys and men. In US also do something about the incarceration of men. I think people are holding back around these issues because they are afraid of agitating feminists. In Sweden as an example single childless natively…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:16 AM
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Women who have their life in perfect order and just that last armchair husband to match the carpet. I don’t want to be someone’s piece of furniture I want to build something together. Typically this is career oriented women with a need to control and micromanage.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 05:10 PM
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Sometimes women reach out to me on dating apps. But it’s mostly a net negative for me I think. I’m not a winner in this new society and will most likely die young and childless while women celebrate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 04:06 PM
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People have thin skin and overreact. I’ve questioned posts in askfeminists and got banned and in menslib they tend to be downvoted quite a bit. I think it’s just the nature of the content makes people upset.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/04/23 06:39 AM
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Not all pills are supressive like that. I have some that I take from time to time to prevent me from screwing up my life and spiraling out of control.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 02:10 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 12:02 PM
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My neighbor has, I know others who have. Also quite common with insemination among more affluent women.
/r/MensRights16/04/23 11:29 AM
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If you follow the guidelines you will end up with disorganized, avoidant etc attachment. You can get laid this way but it will cause relationship chaos down the road.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 10:45 AM
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Have an income and savings. Some job credentials. Home insurance. Basic human stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 10:44 AM
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As an example we have a policy in which all domestic violence is categorized as men’s violence against women. It comes from the department of gender equality. If my wife slaps me in the eye of the law this is male violence on women. Another would be universities where some 60% of students are women. In one university in Malmö it’s closer to 100%. The gender equality work they do is funded by gov and it focuses on making more women lecturers. I’d say having 0% male students is a bigger problem.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/04/23 08:31 AM
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I learned last year that I may have this myself. It really is a crappy thing. There are some meds and such that can reduce the symptoms though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 04:19 AM
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You only mentioned developing your material aspects of yourself, have you considered culture and philosophy?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 04:18 AM
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Does buffalo have its own taste? Like chicken and beef being differnt?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 04:16 AM
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I don’t buy this “this is not real feminism” argument. I doubt that the TERFers agree with you and there is not like a board of feminist directors who get to decide who is and who is not a feminist. Everything is, including the violent ones. A core tenet of feminism is to use shame and other forms emotional abuse tactics to purify men and make us more convenient and easier to handle. At least in my country I have to fund these policies on my tax bill and I honestly hate it. Feminism is great for…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/04/23 03:29 AM
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Yes. I have investigated. I live in Northern Europe. Adoption as a single guy is impossible, no adoption service will support. Surrogacy is illegal as it’s considered exploitation of women. I can pay for it in Ukraine but it costs like 100k euro, and consider median household net worth is 70k so it’s expensive. Can’t do Ivf or similar. Starting families is 100% a woman’s affair over here at least so I’ve given up on having children.
/r/MensRights16/04/23 03:11 AM
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Hmm Feminist upbringing with mom who likely is on spectrum/has borderline. I have some of the same traits but in milder form. Trauma was big problem until I was 30. Poverty and failed education in early to late youth made it difficult to date. Got my first job with full time salary and moved out of parents place permanently when I was 30. No adulting skills back then. Social phobia for all these years. Work is fine but no social life outside work. I meet people physically every third month. I hu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 03:04 AM
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I use chat got to wing man me while I date. Cheaper then a therapist, about as good and instant replies. Like: I matched with this woman who is into coffee and has long hair. WhT should should I say?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 06:42 PM
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Hope i Guess. Im an idiot.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 06:37 PM
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I think the dangers would be injuring yourself by falling, getting robbed or falling asleep outside in the cold and catching hypothermia. There are also male rapists who like to drug/rape men, I’ve heard stories about it. Most of the abuse men face from women revolves around emotional/financial abuse or neglect. We don’t exploit each other in a 1:1 kind of a way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 12:57 PM
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I any a wife and start a family. I came here because a lot of the ideas and ideals I’ve had (progressive) have been extremely dysfunctional when trying to find a partner. So it’s one part arguing against progressive ideals and protecting younger guys from going down the path I did. The other part is community I guess. I think about this a lot since I’m alone so finding others who like to argue about it is interesting. I should go outside soing sports or something though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:06 AM
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I’ve been around both types of women. I matched with a woman who was looking for a guy who would take care of her and her son. Another was looking for a sugar daddy. I’ve also been on dates with women with well paying jobs but wanted to be courted with money. Then also some who get angry if we don’t split the bills eg “why are you trying to purchase me?”. It’s impossible to know what women want. If you ask them they’ll lash out or reject you for not having enough social skills to mind read.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 08:59 AM
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I think it’s mostly that women have a lot of power when it comes to relationships but because of various ideological frameworks they reframe this as victimhood and lash out at men. It’s a bit manipulative, blame shifting etc. maybe arrogant? Also the reluctance to admit that money and looks matters in dating and that the reason why men around them are failing is because of this. So the natural step would be to support men to get better education and earn more money. But then this collides with c…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 08:13 AM
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Noice. Answered and gave them a slapping about only including things that improves the lives of women. My top three gripes are: Equal life length Equal graduation from universities Equal childlessness I’m Northern European though so I wont be included in the results lol.
/r/MensRights14/04/23 10:35 PM
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Sexually it’s not a turn off as submissiveness is a feminine trait. However I would never start a relationship with one as in a relationship we share our fate and if she can’t stand her ground and have healthy boundaries it’s going to be a lot of chasing around for me. And I struggle with this already, probably it would make me controlling and grumpy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 03:50 PM
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I find this massively annoying as well. He is trying though and that feminist skin is thicker and their hearts are empty.
/r/MensRights14/04/23 03:44 PM
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I belong to this demographic and I think the article was balanced. It’s good that it’s handled like a medical condition and not misogyny etc.
/r/MensRights14/04/23 03:41 PM
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Hehe I saw a news article some time ago from Sweden where some government department celebrated that they were 100% women leaders in the entire organization.
/r/MensRights14/04/23 03:33 PM
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Pretty Patrick gang?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 03:21 PM
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I’ve met a few women who have been black holes of insecurities. The only woman I’ve ever dated was like this and I try to avoid them. There is no amount of support you can pour in that hole to fill it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 03:19 PM
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I grew up with an abusive feminist mom and I use these subs as a form of self harm. And maybe experiencing the form of love from women I know: screaming and shaming in my face. Sad but true.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 11:07 PM
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As a guy it take that expression of “men should show their feelings” as a bit manipulative. It usually means being more in tube with women and their feelings. Listen to them and be around for support. Then when you do open up and become vulnerable women express shock or shut you up, because they can’t handle being the shoulder to cry on. And then you shut down again as a guy. Only to be yelled at that you should open up. And so the cycle continues. I don’t think men are as bad with emotions as t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 11:06 PM
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Start therapy again next month and work on my trashed relationship with women. Work on one thing at a time at work and not multitask. If I get a match on some dating try not to self sabotage. Start running again.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 10:01 PM
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I don’t understand this obsession with asses tbh. I read now in nypost that after all those life threatening surgeries to do the bbl now women line up to have them removed.. I mean I understand but… I it’s sad somehow. Instagram is for women what tinder is for men. It’s so dysfunctional.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 09:59 PM
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