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Question For MenAnonishCath/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 07:32 PM
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Now, this isn’t a problem for me anymore since I converted to Islam and am going to get married that way Good luck with that, being a Muslim convert won’t remove all your problems lmao let’s say I was 5’4” and in the 200s, no cooking skills, not wife material at all whatsoever, the kind of girl men bring home but is so ugly they won’t show to friends, doesn’t know makeup, etc You know all of that is within a woman’s control, right? Lose weight, learn to cook, etc It’s the 2020’s you have to have…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 02:34 AM
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Take it slow and see…what, exactly? He wanted to sneak you over for sex one DAY after meeting you. Is that other commentator correct in saying he’s in the porn industry? Because if so that sounds like a way to get yourself trafficked. Absolutely save yourself for marriage - from both a red pill and religious standpoint, virginity is a gift that is very valuable. Don’t throw it away on some loser who hasn’t proven worthy
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/24 06:36 PM
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Are you looking for a more transactional relationship? You could try r/sheraseven
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 01:39 PM
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You agree with the first half of the post, which is absolutely a complaint. Explain why you think battling yourself to hide your feelings and wear a mask all the time is better than advocating for a solution to the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 11:36 PM
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Interesting that you agree that men aren’t given a safe space to be devastatingly, even violently, upset, but you disagree with the proposed solution - to give men a safe space to be emotional Genuinely, what do you want? Your comments say men should be stoic and shut off their feelings, so why complain about the lack of emotion men feel they’re allowed to show? You don’t want a real solution, it seems
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:54 PM
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Men: incoherent anger at everything and nothing for no reason is normal! Also men: why would she choose the bear >:(
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:39 PM
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I discovered how to advocate for myself, how to negotiate for what I want, how to set healthy boundaries, and how to speak to people of authority without crying. Along the way, I learned to be self reliant, made wonderful friends, traveled a little bit, fell in love, and discovered, pursued, and accepted my dream job.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 02:18 AM
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You’re certainly free to have that preference. I don’t want a husband who treats me like a roommate. Out of curiosity, how do you (and other men who want it) expect 50/50 to work out practically? Does that mean taking kids off the table? Doing something else to compensate for the woman’s childbirth ability that you don’t have? Will you split bills 50/50, or adjust it by percentages if one of you makes significantly more?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 11:53 PM
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Great response! OP, You haven’t talked in 2 years, and he treated you poorly after you shot him down. He’s not your friend. And I doubt if you tell your fiancé all of this that he’d be thrilled about the situation.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/24 08:05 PM
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Why are the bills “much higher” because you moved in? The rent doesn’t go up, the utilities shouldn’t have gone up all that much, and you pay for your own car and phone. Is it because he’s spoiling you so much that he’s struggling?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/24 05:40 PM
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Exactly ^ What is there to save here? A relationship with a man who can’t manage his money, ghosts, and claims to hate her? Nothing attractive about that!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/24 01:28 PM
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Back together without the title we’ve broken up and gotten back together 3 times now so I feel like if I leave again soon it’s just embarrassing I know we have core differences and it will never last Yes, this is a waste of your time. He wants a woman who will act like a roommate by splitting the bills, with the bonus of getting a lover in the bedroom. He has nothing to offer you. It’s more embarrassing to stay with a man like that than to respect your time enough to walk away.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 05:46 PM
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Yes, the sexual revolution definitely contributed to a lot of the modern issues we have. It’s a shame to see how many people are struggling, and yet still embrace ideologies that actively harm them. To circle back to my original comment, a lot of these issues are preventable by picking a spouse who shares in your values and beliefs. Obviously people can be deceitful, or change over time, but it’s a lot less likely if the couple vets each other properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 04:21 PM
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Military would be an excellent example of a man who would benefit from a wife who is a SAHM! And yes, I agree most people are selfish, and society now encourages that. I agree that women striving for independence has hurt the gender overall and made for less than ideal wives and moms. I also see a real lack of men who are ready and capable to be good husbands. I think this contributes to an overall lack of support system too, which could play a role in why there’s dissatisfaction in the working …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 04:08 PM
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I agree - no porn for either spouse, and sex is reserved for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 03:56 PM
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I agree full heartedly. I won’t advocate for kids being deprived, but there’s truly no need for each kid to have so many clubs, camps, and sports that they never get a rest. Or to have so many toys it’s impossible to keep the house tidy. Or to expect 24/7 stimulation so mom never has time to rest, clean, cook, and have her own hobbies. Obviously each couple can divide the labor as they see fit, but my husbands chores are daily litter box maintenance, weekly trash change, monthly lawn care, and q…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 03:47 PM
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Ideally? I’m against them because marriage is a covenant that should not be dissolved. Practically? I understand wanting the added protection. Personally? My husband and I did not get one, although I asked him if he wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 03:30 PM
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I’m not sure, I can only speculate. It’s possible they are overwhelmed with multiple kids, a crammed schedule, a husband who refuses to help out at home whatsoever (won’t spend time with his kids or do chores even on weekends), etc. It’s also possible they’re lazy. All of these issues and more have solutions to them, but it usually requires some level of sacrifice, and our current society doesn’t push for that very often
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 03:14 PM
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It’s better for the kids to be with their mother. There is no guarantee for it, mothers are not answerable to their husbands, many mothers are just not good at being a SAHM, and there is nothing a husband can do about it. He can divorce her, but that comes with challenges in itself. You can fire a shitty daycare provider with no cost, you cant fire a shitty SAHM without spending lots of money This honestly comes down to the spouse you choose for yourself. Plenty of women are loving and nurturing…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 12:41 PM
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All of this sounds driven by fear. I guess it comes down to how you want to live your life and what kind of man you want to be. My husband wasn’t too afraid to stick out a hand, say “hi, my name is ___,” and make small talk, but apparently that’s asking too much from most men these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 01:50 AM
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Being a fat ugly man will absolutely hurt your chances more
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:07 PM
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Well he didn’t say “hi I’m bob I’m romantically interested in you” lol. He walked up to me, introduced himself, we had some brief chitchat, and said he’d love to take me out some time. I accepted his offer, we had a couple of casual dates, and it went from there. I’m sure for a man it can seem scary, but it’s really not weird or unusual to just go introduce yourself and ask a woman out. I don’t think most women consider that “too forward,” but I could be wrong. I would think most women would app…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:06 PM
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I can tell you how I’d react and how I’m sure my husband would, as well: I would not leave my husband over a dead bedroom, especially if it had resulted from a trauma. His health and safety comes before my desires. Intimacy is important to a marriage, of course, but if sex is the glue holding you together then I’d be concerned. We took vows. There’s no clause after “in sickness and in health” that specifies, “unless you can get laid for a certain number of years, in which case you’re free to go.…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 01:41 AM
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It’s a balancing act. Pretending to be a platonic friend in the hopes that it will turn into more often leads to disappointment for the man and feelings of betrayal for the woman. On the other hand, pushing for romance and sexual intimacy up front can make women feel uneasy or unsafe, but is less likely to waste a man’s time. My husband made it clear he was interested in a romantic connection when we met by asking me on a date. But we spent those dates getting to know each other, like you would …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 01:31 AM
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When someone posts something this unhinged, yeah there’s a bit of curiosity there. Amusing that you responded to this but not my comment calling out the contradictions in your post. You seem to be having trouble defending your position
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 01:17 AM
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Won’t brush his teeth, guzzles soda and sugar, admits to doing nothing but watching porn and browsing social media, feels tortured by the success of others, has the attention span of a gnat… even in his fantasy world where the government would grant him a wife, on what planet does he think he’d make a good husband and provider?!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 12:14 PM
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Women have won the right to decide who, when and if they get married, in addition to the right to have casual sex and short-term relationships. The result has been that monogamy is becoming less and less common For most of history, humans lived in hierarchical, polygamous societies, in which a small proportion of men took multiple wives. Historically, most men who have ever lived did not even reproduce I’m confused. You’re advocating for widespread forced monogamy to save civilization, but you t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 01:04 AM
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I certainly don’t advise it, but it’s possible to do without making it legal everywhere in addition to governmentally subsidized like OP has suggested
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 09:55 PM
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Of course you can, I just don’t see sharing nice things about your spouse as a bad trait. Do you feel this way about other topics - sharing any good event online?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 01:41 AM
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likely to be…narcissistic, anxious attachment, insecure, and obsessed with status If it’s common, sure I could agree with this. The occasional post to share a lovely story about your spouse doesn’t come off as any of those things imo. Also men don’t get a lot of compliments, so it’s nice to see wives praising them online sometimes, don’t you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 01:34 AM
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Now now, that’s using common sense. Can’t have that!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 08:35 PM
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He’s stringing you along and will continue moving the goalposts for as long as you allow it. He wants to take the rest of your 20s from you while offering nothing serious in return. Don’t allow this.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/24 04:48 PM
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This may come as a shock, but not everyone lives in your region or acts the same as you do. I’m not the only one who expressed that men have found it offensive, so it isn’t uncommon everywhere. Clearly my response upset you, so please feel free to keep downvoting me if it makes you feel better 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/24 04:28 PM
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That’s very interesting. I see men in here all the time complaining that women who are a 1-5 behave and believe like they are 9s and 10s, and won’t give men the time of day.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 04:20 PM
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It’s not entitled to want a man who pays the bills, just as it isn’t entitled to want a wife who keeps house and homeschools the kids. If this woman is a church girl, she likely wants someone who is more traditional in that sense. I would say don’t offer because as a young woman, I had multiple men tell me it was offensive for me to offer to split the check. As one guy put it, he is a gentleman, gentlemen pay the bills, and for me to offer to assist him with the check was an implication that I f…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/24 04:19 PM
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Bit of a side topic, but genuine question: men constantly say they can’t get any dates, because women’s standards are too high…so is the issue that men aren’t shooting for hot enough women? The average and below average women reject them, but if they went for the hot girl they’d see more success?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 04:07 PM
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Upper middle class guy whose female peers are all young, thin, and childless. He can afford decent clothes. He probably does come from a decent family. Upper middle class is not common throughout most of the country. He has many advantages, especially if he looks for women outside of big cities/the corporate world
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:17 PM
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Joe is a 20-year old, upper-middle class, average-looking guy attending a liberal arts college…His dating market primarily consists of middle-class/upper middle-class college women around his age range, and among these women, 100% are young, 90% aren't fat and 99% don't have kids If 90%+ of his entire dating pool is overlooking him, as an educated upper middle class guy who isn’t ugly or fat, what hypergamy do you think is going on here? He already is one of the top guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 01:21 PM
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Do you think fathers should behave that way now? Do you believe men who are dating would accept that, or would they view it as meddling over overstepping?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 01:07 PM
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She makes money, that’s all you can come up with? I’m not asking what value she would bring to other men, I’m asking you to explain your stance on why prostitution would be a GOOD JOB for a WOMAN given how risky it is
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 01:06 PM
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Yes, it’s good that he was up front about it!
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/24 03:05 AM
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Of course they should, but it doesn’t mean it won’t happen. You think that because a man is punished for rape after the fact that it’s good for the woman to keep that risky job? So I ask again: How is prostitution a good job for women? What about sleeping with hundreds of men is good for her? No matter how many regulations are out in place she’ll still be in danger of rape, stds, trafficking, abuse, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:04 AM
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My husband appreciates it. I try to tie it in with something else because he can be very self conscious, and that way I’m not just focused on his body/looks. So I might give him a hug and say, “I just love this sweater, you look so good in it and it’s soo cozy.” Or, “that cologne is my favorite, you smell really sexy.” He used to whistle at me and I started doing it back 😆 so if I catch him coming out of the shower I’ll give a whistle, or poke my head in the door as he’s changing and give a whis…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/24 02:50 AM
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Cut your losses. It’s been two weeks, so you’re not in love, you’re just enamored. Do not offer to be friends with him - men will interpret that as you accepting your fate of being put on the back burner waiting around for more breadcrumbs of attention.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/24 02:40 AM
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I like generous men who love to support his partner in every aspect while I do the same for him I think this is a great way of putting it! Just instead of saying the word “provider,” just say you like to be taken care of.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/24 02:35 AM
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Ask him what the dress code is! He might be planning dinner, where a modest dress would be nice, or bowling, so you’d want to bring socks and maybe wear jeans etc. I never allowed dates to pick me up until after I knew them well and had met their families. I just don’t think that’s safe. If you live at home it could be ok. Don’t offer to split the bill. At most, offer to leave the tip.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/24 02:28 AM
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If men have sexual needs, women have emotional needs. What about not getting to ejaculate inside of a woman makes you become dangerous? Men are perfectly capable of hiring a sex worker even in places where it isn’t legal/regulated. There will always be a woman willing to sleep with you if you throw enough money at her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 02:23 AM
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Right, because people never break laws /s
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 02:03 AM
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How is prostitution a good job for women? What about sleeping with hundreds of men is good for her? No matter how many regulations are out in place she’ll still be in danger of rape, stds, trafficking, abuse, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 01:48 AM
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Ejaculating inside of a woman isn’t a legitimate need either. But if we’re going to talk about the government subsidizing men’s sexual needs, then surely we can agree they should fund women’s emotional needs
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 01:41 AM
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This is wildly untrue. Plenty of people are let go for failing to meet quotas here, along with various silly reasons. Most jobs are “at will,” meaning if the employer wants (wills) it, they can dismiss an employee for any reason. Union jobs are few and far between, and even then many unions are useless. I know American has a reputation for being lawsuit happy, but I assure you most people will not win a case against an employer, even if they do have a leg to stand on
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 01:34 AM
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Now that is wild!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 01:27 AM
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You don’t have to be a traditional man or a provider. There are plenty of women who are willing to act like a roommate to a man by splitting the bills and the chores, and then be lovers in the bedroom. Of course a traditional man and a progressive woman isn’t going to be a good fit and visa versa. But it is in no way gaslighting or impossible for men to take on the role of provider and household leader. It works when two people have the same values. I have a more traditional marriage. My husband…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 01:27 AM
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If prostitution was legal, available, and normal for men to utilize, women’s value would deflate I’d love to hear why you think men sleeping with prostitutes would deflate women’s value. If anything it gives more value to the prostitutes, who I’m assuming would be women. Look at OF and tell me that helped deflate women’s ego. It didn’t. This would just be the next step. they should ask their local lawmaker for tax cuts or welfare benefits to get such an availability for those who can't afford it…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 01:13 AM
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Care to elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 12:24 AM
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This is a wonderful response and your family sounds very well balanced!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 12:24 AM
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Interesting perspective. I don’t believe men and women are inherently the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 10:25 PM
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True! I think it’s common for people in the industry who are well known. The average OF girl isn’t a household name though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 10:24 PM
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Do you believe mothers and fathers have the same role and the same things to offer when it comes to raising children? Or that boys and girls should be raised the exact same way? You don’t see differences between genders?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:27 PM
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Do you think a father should play any role in the relationship at all - helping her vet, speaking with you about expectations, etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:23 PM
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Beautiful response!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:21 PM
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That’s very sweet :)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:21 PM
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I think that’s a lovely quote. A make friend of mine’s father once read me a poem he wrote to his wife while they were courting. It was evident how deeply he loved her. Always spoke highly of her, had tons of kids, worshiped together, etc. I was a teen but it was really noticeable to me. At my friend’s wedding, about a decade later, I had the opportunity to thank his father for being such a good example of a husband and father. He cried and said he was just a blessed man 🥹
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 08:35 PM
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lol care to elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 08:31 PM
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Yep, all of those women that I’ve seen this far have kept their profits, married a man just as broken as they are, and funded a trad farm/lifestyle that the average couple can’t afford
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 05:10 PM
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Ahaha I didn’t know about that either, that’s so funny. I have mixed feelings on people like her, because she does genuinely seem to encourage young women to embrace a traditional lifestyle, but at the same time it all feels like she’s being a grifter. There are several ex OF women who have been doing that lately
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 03:57 PM
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Hmm I wonder why she said she’s not the one doing it then. Tbh I never went looking for her content, I don’t watch porn, but I’ve seen her insta Edit - missed a word
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 03:13 PM
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Really? She’s got a post on her Insta saying it’s not her uploading the vids, she just can’t keep up with reporting them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 02:17 PM
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Ok so maybe you found one example of it, but it certainly doesn’t apply to the vast majority of men, like you’re claiming in your post. Also why would men who don’t want commitment get married to women who are only there to use his money? It would be a sham of a marriage, he’d be off cheating, and she’d be draining his resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 01:26 PM
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You can leave money to anyone you like, can’t you? Unless your country demands that your assets are only passed to children born in wedlock, I see no reason for a man to need “legitimate children.”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 01:22 PM
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Not when you combine them, definitely not! I meant those as individual descriptors
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 12:38 PM
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No, I don’t believe all the concern is fake. It seems you just don’t want to accept it. The word creepy, which OP and you brought up, I only used to elaborate after you asked for examples. That said, the types of men I listed in my examples should be shamed. There are lots of examples in society where a dose of shame could be healthy. I already specified that not all age gap relationships are inherently wrong. Perhaps you’re taking this personally and getting emotional about it, rather than view…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 12:18 PM
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I have to disagree. What I listed are a few very valid concerns, and I think it’s odd to dismiss it and pretend they’re fake tantrums. You asked why it’s creepy, and I told you. Even if we choose to believe no one really cares, whether a person feels concerned or not doesn’t change the root issue of those kinds of age gap relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 03:24 AM
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There is nothing inherently wrong about an age gap relationship. But there are a lot (shouldn’t have to say it, but…not all) of men who are creeps about it: Some men want to sleep around and be irresponsible until their 30s and then chase after young virgins because they feel entitled to a woman’s virginity - creepy. Some men view women over 25 as worthless, and will chase after women as young as legally allowed - creepy Some men want a young woman because they enjoy having the upper hand in lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 03:12 AM
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If that were true, we’d see far more age gap relationships and marriages. We don’t. Most people date/marry within a couple of years of their own age, not a decade+. Young women rarely listen to older people, women included, anyway, so it’s not older women who are preventing those young women from being with you old guys lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 01:46 AM
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Very few men want that, they’d say they’ll feel emasculated. Are you going to be cheering those guys on, telling them to push past those feelings for the sake of future generations? Will that cause happy marriages and families? Should women become the primary breadwinners, while men take on the roles of SAHMs, while we’re at it? Maybe men should submit to their wive’s leadership, too Why not advocate for larger man friend groups, since you claim women get over rejection better due to their socia…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 01:17 AM
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Gotcha, that makes sense. I have an aunt who is like that, where even if her kids are actively playing with toys she’d be complaining about the toys being out of their designated bins. That attitude can ruin a home quickly. We bought a home last year and it didn’t come any baseboards. Despite the added expense of having to add them, I was so happy that we got to install brand new ones, and I only have to scrub our own filth off of them, instead of years of someone else’s lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 03:06 PM
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Yes, women tend to have better attention to detail and care more about making the home beautiful. Men in general don’t care if the house is dirty, as long as the general open spaces look tidy. Some women are neurotic about unimportant things, but I reckon most of us have reasons for why we do what we do. My husband was disgusted the first time I cleaned our home after marriage and he saw all the grime that had been overlooked for years. He quickly developed an appreciation for my housework!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 02:34 PM
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You know you get to choose your spouse, right? You can pick someone you’re in love with and experience all those wonderful things with one person. What you’re describing is a miserable lifestyle. Why bother raising kids with someone you dislike that much in the first place? Or why bother getting married at all if you only want to knock up a woman and expect nothing else from her/give nothing in return? You claim love, exclusivity, sacrifice, security, etc are too big a burden, but the majority o…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 08:45 PM
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I guess most of the “above and beyond” examples are things you’d expect to see from any good partner - things that should be the bare minimum, but aren’t anymore (take your pic of reasons why). My husband does a lot of things he doesn’t have to, like offering to do housework, bringing me home gifts from when he’s out and about, spending time with me doing what I want to do, taking me on dates, genuinely asking about my day, offering to help my family, asking how else he can be helpful, etc. He t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 04:36 PM
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But most men are physically stronger. So while no, you can’t “piledrive her into oblivion” for throwing a punch or a plate, your chances of being able to escape are much higher. She can’t physically restrain you the way a man could. Her punches aren’t going to be as strong as a man’s. You’re expected to “diffuse with as little force as possible” because it IS more possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 04:24 PM
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And that’s the problem - even in OP’s post he complains that a 5 male is only going to get a 5 female. People tend to be evenly matched, for the most part. Men complain that women rate “average guys” as say, a 2, and that the “average woman” rates herself as say, an 8 (while in the same breath saying “mid” under nearly every woman’s photo). Because in reality, men want the hot girls just as much. They don’t ask out the fat, poor, single mom, acne prone, frizzy hair, bad teeth, etc women that are…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 04:19 PM
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Men’s orgasms are a half second of mediocre feeling? Then why are yall SO upset that women don’t pick you to sleep with?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 04:08 PM
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It’s hilarious because they absolutely rage over women not picking “average guys,” but if a woman does date/marry an average guy, they refuse to believe it’s genuine. They claim it’s the women setting this standard, but really it’s how they, not us, perceive other men
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 03:40 PM
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Men love to have arm candy and make other men jealous. They use women to increase their status among other men. Having a hot gf/wife is absolutely a status symbol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 03:21 PM
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Being able to navigate various situations. There’s probably a word for that, but I’m drawing a blank. It’s frustrating feeling like I have to coach a man on how to dress for an event, or walk him through how to ask his boss for a raise, or hearing that he left a doctor appointment and didn’t advocate for himself/ask the right questions to fix the problem, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:55 PM
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They want women to fix their problems for them, instead of other men. They want to compare their misery to women’s suffering, instead of focusing on their own battles. You’re right - very rarely do men try to tackle or address their issues without somehow dragging women through the mud, too. Odd how we’re viewed as the weaker sex, and males the natural leaders, and yet…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:50 PM
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It hasn’t helped women, though. Birth control majorly messes up our bodies. Testing for male birth control was stopped because men didn’t want to deal with the side effects, but the responsibility to prevent pregnancy is almost always put on the woman’s shoulders. The sexual revolution that followed the popularization of birth control only served to harm women. Men don’t get sl*t shamed like women do. Men might get called names if they walk away from a kid, but generally it’s put back on the wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:41 AM
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I don’t think that’s the norm for a man to expect. Maybe try a couples retreat?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 04:15 PM
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You think 27 is old for a man to be married or seriously dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:16 PM
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Maybe for very young men? I know this is a personal anecdote, but I rarely see men past 27-ish who aren’t coupled or married. It would seem either this is a very new pattern, or men are actually historically just fine with being a backup plan, since majority of them wind up with a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:01 PM
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Then why care about it? If a woman is making you jump through hoops to be with her, either a man will walk away because he feels he’s better than her, or he’ll feel lucky to have her because he feels she’s better than him. There’s a reacher and a settler in almost every relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:25 PM
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And if he’s interested in her, then he’s the lucky one for getting the girl he wanted
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:34 PM
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I’m not going to give you dating advice like others have, I’m just going to answer your main question: When we got engaged, my now-husband told me he would do whatever he needed to do to make sure I was provided for. He said he’d work three jobs if that’s what it takes. He offered to pay my rent while we were engaged and not living together. We didn’t have a prenup. Once I entered the picture he started taking steps to elevate himself - he took extra classes to get certifications related to his …
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 12:56 PM
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Agree with all of this 👏🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 12:19 AM
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Bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 12:18 AM
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Men aren’t going to go for that 😆 they already complain that women are too transactional and too conditional. Asking a man to pay his SAHW the money it would take to pay a housekeeper, cook, and nanny would require him to make way more than the average guy brings in
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 12:14 AM
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I just find it hilarious that western men complain about western women not giving them unconditional love and respect, but think that eastern women are going to do that for free. The passport bros are always super proud of themselves for getting a “better woman,” but majority of the time those women are primarily after their wallets and a green card. Few women actually want to marry outside their culture, leave their home country, and be with a guy who can’t afford to provide a comfortable lifes…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:21 PM
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Stop offering. I’ve had HVM tell me it’s offensive to them if a woman offers to pay, especially after they’ve expressed their desire to foot the bill for dates. Allow him to pursue you, don’t fall into the habit of acting like a coworker or roommate.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/24 09:53 PM
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Engagement is a promise to marry, and the final discernment period. People shouldn’t be going on dates with others during that time. Just dating though? Unpopular opinion, but I don’t think a boyfriend/girlfriend title is meaningful. There’s no real commitment and no real intent to marry yet. I’d say it isn’t wrong to ask for a date in that situation
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:09 PM
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I didn’t really want to get married - I was actually considering becoming a nun! And then one day after church a man came hustling after me in the parking lot, introduced himself, and we were engaged three months later, and married five months after that! And ironically enough he had considered becoming a priest at one point, so he spent a few years in seminary and is super knowledgeable about our faith, which was the most important thing for me. He’s incredibly intelligent when it comes to theo…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/24 05:27 PM
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Are there actually “advantages” being taken away from you, or did you just want an opportunity to complain about being shamed for wanting to date 20yr olds?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 10:32 PM
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I’ve read a few more of your comments and it sounds like you’re open to sleeping with him after 3-5 dates? I just want to say that if that’s all it takes, your body count is going to get pretty high pretty quickly! Focus on having an actual commitment, not just him committing to a couple more dinners. Also idk what your faith life looks like, but I’d suggest yall talk about that some more because Christians generally want to date other Christians, especially if they’re practicing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/24 08:25 AM
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Yeah it seems like you’re putting this man on a pedestal, especially since you’ve only had ONE date with him. Continue to vet. And fwiw, practicing Christians don’t condone sex outside of marriage. My husband is a HVM and we waited.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/24 02:26 PM
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I’m confused as to why you think this Christian man will run for the hills if you tell him you don’t sleep around, at least not without a commitment. He’s also 13 years older than you, and often guys view that youth as very desirable. Id just keep presenting yourself as a HVW, don’t act like he’s the only prize in this relationship bc it looks desperate, and maybe invite him around your family - men who are serious will be happy to get to know them, as opposed to someone who is just looking at y…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/24 12:40 PM
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I promise you it isn’t a very small number of women who get harassed by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 01:33 AM
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Oh my goodness what a blessing this is!
/r/RedPillWives17/03/24 01:18 AM
1

Well that’s good, it’s always nice to have a man willing to take on new tasks for you! Personally I would not submit until you’re married. You can be feminine but only a husband is worthy of this “deep submission” you mention, and only after proper vetting to be sure he won’t abuse it
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 08:09 PM
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For me it would depend on how long you’ve been together and if your goal is to get married. Also how often are you having to feel like you need to control what he does or ask him to fix things? A few things here and there while you work out the kinks in the relationship or learn to combine lives is fine. But if this is a constant, then maybe he’s not capable of being that masculine leader.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 12:29 PM
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Omg I didn’t even notice the cheating part. It’s honestly baffling how and why grown women put up with all this!
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 12:20 PM
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I hope so! You met him once and he bought you some fast food meals, and he had you giving him money and doing homework/applications so he could come to America… I really am wondering what attracted you to him. All the signs of a scammer are there, how did this go on for a year? What did you think was high value about him? You don’t never need to give us the answer, but it’s something for you to reflect on :) Also you say he dumped you over a difference in faith - that should have been a conversa…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 12:15 PM
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There are so many red flags here it’s almost laughable. It keeps happening because, frankly, you allow it to. You’re giving men money and doing their school work for them?! Naturally they’re going to take advantage. You need to value yourself more, cut men off as soon as these requests come in, and get better at vetting
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:34 AM
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Respectfully, you didn’t vet him very well. Three months isn’t a long time, and I’m willing to bet there were red flags that showed up during that time that you overlooked. Did you meet his family and friends before you decided to sleep with and commit to him? If so, did every single one of them lie and pretend this guy was Prince Charming until month 6 when he started being abusive? It’s possible he’s just really good at hiding things, but it seems unlikely that he presented as a HVM and within…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/24 10:18 AM
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