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I mean, I’m 37 so I plan on dipping my pale into the well, as they say. But won’t marry again. I’d like to find someone to commit to, vise versa, but will never sign a contract with the state which exposes me financially.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 01:20 PM
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I pay 1500-1800/month plus 1/2 medical and extracurricular stuff. The amount varies by the amount of commissions I make quarterly. She has a Phd and is a tenured professor. She doesn’t need that much money for the 50% placement she has. It’s unfair. Especially since she took 1/2 the assets I built too
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/22 08:08 PM
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Agreed. As a fellow high earner 37m, that got screwed after 6 year marriage, it’s not worth the financial risk
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 01:47 AM
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Cheers brother. I’m 1 year separated and 50/50 of my 2 kids (4m 2f), it’s a challenge, but I love it. I’m salty about having to pay the ex CS, but working on acceptance
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/22 02:02 AM
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Agreed with what others have mentioned, child daycare should be handled by each parent, ideally you would agree on staying in the same spot and splitting the costs. I have 50/50 and pay about $1500 per month, we share costs for school expenses, daycare, and extracurriculars
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/22 11:25 PM
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Dude, child support is untaxed income, if you take the 401k or house, you have tax consequences down the road, consider all aspects of the equation. Your home will likely appraise for top dollar (most appraisals pull comps from previous 6 months), so if the “value” of your house is offsetting CS and alimony, I’d go with the tax free alimony and CS, there’s a reason why women take is so willingly
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/22 03:35 AM
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I’m in medical sales so it varies with commissions annually, but say 150-200 is fair. She makes roughly 55k
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/22 05:15 PM
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I have 2 kids, 50/50 and pay 1,800/month. My ex has a phd and is a professor. I can’t imagine the calculation is correct
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/22 05:04 PM
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Sorry you’re here. Like you, I found myself in this group last July when my wife of 5 years filed, my some was 3 and daughter 1. She flipped a switch in her head and I was evil, controlling, manipulative, emotionally abusive, all the buzz words. Like you, I felt I was doing everything right as a provider and even doing most things around the house and with the kids. She took 1/2 the assets I built and I get to pay her a crazy amount of CS for 50/50 time and custody
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/22 01:43 AM
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No, SS, just a % of my income for CS plus expenses. I’m in WI
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 09:11 PM
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Yes, this was how I felt when I tried marriage counseling. I was outgunned and both my ex and female therapist couldn’t understand why I couldn’t communicate my emotions and feeling clearly. It was a pressure cooker situation, every time I try to answer with logic, I was wrong
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 06:39 PM
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Yep. I earn 150-250 depending on commissions, she earns 55k. She has a phd and is a tenured track professor. Only married 5 years, she took 1/2 the assets, made me buy her her out of the equity in the house that she never contributed toward, and I pay 1200-1800/month in CS with 50/50 time. Spent 22k in attorney fees, and 4k in mediation. It’s a joke
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 04:04 AM
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Totally agree. The problem is, if you’re a successful man, you’d have to find an equally successful woman. In my experience, the boss babes can be a whole different challenge
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 03:49 AM
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What’s worse, is your signing a marital contract with the state, but the family law policies and actual laws can change while you’re married, so you can’t even properly assess the risk. At best assume 50/50 split of assets, and hopefully a claim for 50/50 custody and placement with your kids. If you make more than her, you’ll have to pay a ton on CS even with 50/50
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 03:46 AM
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Sound like my ex
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 03:42 AM
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I was only married for 5 years. Took care of everything during while dating and married. She took 250k in assets I built, and is happy to take CS that equals my mortgage payment. She works full time and has a phd, is a tenured professor. She was financially rewarded, I’m struggling to pick up the pieces while indebted to my ex because she wants what is legally hers, and she’s content with taking way more than the kids need. We have 50/50 and share expenses too.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 03:40 AM
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I’m 9 months separated, 4 months divorced. I have my kids 50/50 and kept the house. I’m still super angry and can’t get my mind off my hatred of her and the new life she gets to start on my dime.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/22 11:28 PM
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I’m 37m in WI, married 5.5 years. I was able to get the 55k I had in my 401k back that I accrued premarital, but she got 1/2 the gains. I make about 200k a year in sales, and she is a tenured professor with a phd and makes 55k. She took 300k in the assets I built, and gets around 2k in child support a month. My kids don’t need that much money, the system is fucked, and the money making spouse gets taken to the cleaners
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/22 03:56 AM
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I’m 5 months out from my divorce date and struggling with anger. My ex filed after 5 years of marriage, 2 kids that were 3 and 1 when she filed. I had to spend 14 hours of mediation at around 3k, 22k in attorney fees all to get 50/50. Meanwhile, she enters the marriage with nothing, walks with 250k of the assets I built, and I get to pay her 2k a month in child support, for a decision she made. She had a phd and is a tenured professor at a university, my kids don’t need 2k a month, it’s wealth d…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/22 02:59 AM
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I’d say unless you both have the same amount of assets and same salary, marriage is too risky. I’m now an indentured servant to a woman that decided to leave, and my kids are the ones that are suffering
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 01:58 AM
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I make around 200k a year and ex makes around 55k. Married 6 years and 2 young kids. She took 1/2 all the assets and I pay her roughly 1800/month child support. It’s bullshit. She took around 300k of assets I built, and gets future reward of 10% of my income. My kids don’t need that much per month, that’s over $100 she gets for her 15 nights a month. She has a phd and is a tenured professor…
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 01:38 AM
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That wasn’t my experience. My ex filed, her petition listed all sorts of crazy stuff. My attorney and I replied, and from there, I felt like we were the ones that were driving the timelines and chasing down documents. I’m sure everyone has there own experience, I’ve always heard filing first has its advantages, but I didn’t see it in my case
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 01:45 AM
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Christ, I could imagine doing this shit twice
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 12:53 AM
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I have two young kids and wanted 50/50 custody and placement time, she wanted me to have every other weekend. We did private mediation and spent 14 hours putting together a parenting plan to land on my proposal of 50/50. Unless you or a spouse owns a business, the financials are semi straightforward. I fought for some premarital assets I had before my marriage (short marriage of 5 years) and got most of that money. We couldn’t agree to a value of the marital home so we agreed to get an appraisal…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 12:23 AM
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My wife filed first, I wouldn’t say it gave her an advantage in any way. If things go to court it may, but 95% of divorces are settled out of court
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/22 10:39 PM
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My stbx and I have 2 kids and we wrote into our 50/50 parenting plan that we will each have 1 child stay an extra day every year with each parent thus allowing us to both claim head of household every year. I think it has to be greater than 50% placement to qualify, so essentially with 1 kid at 50/50, nobody can claim it, so I understand the alternating
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/22 08:41 PM
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This right here. I’m 37 and going through a divorce. Never really understood this until it happened to me… sometimes it takes trauma to open your eyes to the way people are. There is no such thing as unconditional love, except for your kids and pets. Women are always looking to level up
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/22 02:33 AM
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I second this advice. My divorce will hopefully be final next month. My stbxw has put everything on me for the failure of the marriage to justify her breaking up our family. I’ve reflected a lot over the last 6 months since she filed and I’ve owned up to my mistakes, but at the end of the day, it takes 2 people to make it work. My stbx has created a similar narrative to cast me as the villain to vanquish any responsibility she had in the marriages demise. It’s frustrating, but she’s not my probl…
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 06:04 PM
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Lol! “What is gaslighting?” Definitely something a gas lighter would say! Lol, jk. But as a guy, how do you argue with someone when they throw this shit at you without sounding guilty, it’s messed up
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/22 07:28 PM
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My stbx said the same thing, all the sudden I was a narcissist, I’ve been gas lighting her, and I’m emotionally abusive. These are the labels society and female culture feeds them to help them justify their reason for pulling the plug and breaking up a family
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/22 09:36 PM
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I wish WI did it this way
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/22 09:47 PM
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This is how it works in WI. Nothing is separate until the divorce is final… it sucks
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/22 09:47 PM
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Maybe the advisor is reviewing to help her budget/plan for a future with her income? 2 years of statements would help with that. I would think a forensic accountant would specialize more in fraud/money hiding
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/22 06:15 PM
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I’m in a similar position. I tested positive Saturday and had the kids with me this weekend, so they’ve been exposed to me. Both kids tested negative yesterday and today…today and tomorrow are supposed to be days that my stbxw has them, but she’s trying to put it all on me. I obviously don’t mind having my kids, but I don’t like that she makes a habit of following the parenting plan when it suits her, and would have my ass if I tried to deviate. She is trying to guilt me about her job, but that’…
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/22 05:41 PM
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That’s a tough one, I’ve been in my house for 3.5 years and the house has gone up a lot in value, so if I wanted to buy my stbxw out, I’d essentially be buying it again for a premium price given the housing market these days. I’ve opted to sell and buy something a bit smaller (still paying a premium though)
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/22 02:12 PM
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I have 50/50 as well and kids are 2 & 4. I have a 2/2/3 placement schedule and we do 10-15 min FaceTimes every other day, so Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday just before bedtime. It seems to work well, except my stbxw has missed 4 calls since separating 10 weeks ago, somehow I’m at fault for it though… 2 times a day seems a bit much
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/22 07:28 PM
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I feel you, more like equity redistribution. It’s easy to see why marriages fail, the other party gets rewarded when it fails, they take 50% of everything and then a cut of future earnings. Tough pill to swallow as a guy that meant his vows when I said them
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/22 02:17 AM
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My stbx has a phd and works as a professor. She still takes 1/2 of everything from me, and gets child support of 2k per month for 15 years. I have 50/50
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/22 06:11 PM
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2 kids, i have 50/50, paying 1800/month. It sucks being the monied spouse
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/21 01:56 AM
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Damn, after reading these comments I may have messed up. My stbx filed in July, we separated in October and have been a bit heated during the settlement agreement negotiations. I had to fight for 50/50 and have that temporarily through a mediated agreement. I picked up the kids from her place this morning and she was emotional. I invited her over tomorrow morning to spend the day with my 3.5 year old and 18 month old. I’m trying to be the bigger person, and look out for my kids. She hasn’t let m…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 06:06 PM
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Sounds like this could be trouble
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/21 11:58 PM
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I wouldn’t worry about this, it won’t show on a drug screen unless it was recent
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/21 03:03 AM
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