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Need SupportAntique_Relief_804/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 02:28 AM
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Need SupportAntique_Relief_804/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 03:23 AM
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So no new woman for you?
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 05:59 AM
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Man, the more I reflect on moments, the more I realise she’s been gone for months…. Potentially years. I’ll probably never know the actual extent and it makes me so mad to consider so maybe it’s best that I don’t try and find out. I just cannot believe that someone could do what I suspect but at the same time, shitcan me for being a shitty husband while also accepting gifts and all the other benefits she got being with me. How the fuck am I ever supposed to trust a woman again.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 05:50 AM
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How long has it been for you?
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 04:58 AM
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How long after the initial separation were you able to feel this way?
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 06:00 AM
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In my case, the friend also wants to divorce her husband so I think there’s an element of “let’s do it together”.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 03:00 AM
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How good are the bitter, twisted friends that egg them on….. currently there. It’s horrible :(
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 02:53 AM
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Hey Bob. Recently in a similar position however only married a third of the time with two young children. The only thing I’m finding helpful is thinking of all the things I’ve wanted to do but couldn’t due to lack of funds, time or “permission”. I’m going to write a list of short and long term goals and just put every bit of energy I have into myself and the kids. I know that it’s going to hurt like hell for a long time but the saying that’s keeping me going at the moment is “When you’re going t…
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 01:37 AM
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Thanks mate. I appreciate it a lot!
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 03:50 PM
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10 years.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 03:36 PM
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One day at a time is all we have man… we just have to keep going for our kids, and then ourselves.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 03:24 PM
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Did you have shared kids or were you able to split completely from your ex. That’s the part I’m most worried about. Seeing her multiple times a week…. Then seeing her with a new guy who could potentially bring additional family members. It feels so messy and I’m not excited for it at all!
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 03:22 PM
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Thank-you for this post. For the past 2 months, I’ve been stuck in a push-pull cycle with her where I was never 100% certain that she was done or not. It worsened 1 week ago but was finally confirmed 1 hour ago. Part of me is relieved that I no longer have to keep guessing where I stand. I’m dreading telling our kids and whatever process we need to follow to make the divorce official. Tomorrow, I will buy new running shoes and hit the pavement. I also plan to make a new group of friends within t…
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 02:24 PM
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This is so hard to hear only being 1 week post. :(
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 01:22 PM
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Yes…. Every day. 1 week post. I have huge regrets over my part in the failed marriage. I feel like I’ve failed her and my two kids. I don’t know how to get past this. All I can do is walk laps of my local lake. It’s raining here all week this week and I don’t know how I’m going to cope. I dream about her…. That everything is fine… then I wake up, realise it’s not and experience unimaginable pain for the next hour until I somehow manage to start functioning again.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 12:59 PM
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“You deserve love and respect and someone who sees you for who you are” I’m 1 week post having the rug pulled and I honestly cannot see how ever finding someone else is possible. I’m the other side of 40, have no real friends (outside of her and her family). Completely isolated and she’s seemingly moved on already with a huge support network of people telling her how brave she is for leaving me (aka piece of shit). Tonight’s the first night without my children with me and it’s been horrific.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 12:10 PM
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I’m in a very similar situation. Not 100% certain of the “other guy” but it’s probable. It hurts so bad. I just want her to come home and at this point, I don’t care what she’s done, I would forgive her and vow to be whatever she wants me to be. Let me know if there’s any coping mechanisms you’re currently utilising because I feel like I’m drowning :(
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 05:11 AM
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How long until it actually feels like “congratulations”? It’s especially hard because I don’t really have any close friends. And those friends I do have… happily married. :( My closest friends were here and her family.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 11:00 PM
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Also, I’m pretty sure she’s monkey branching or already has so now every single moment of our relationship was hell and it was all my fault. No doubt this is being used as an excuse to MB and not have any guilt when doing so.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 10:59 PM
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Man…. This is like reading a post about my life…. :( If only i’d read this sub-reddit 12 months ago and known how to see the signs. She told me a million times…. Tried to warn me. But when you hear it so often, you start to get complacent. That’s my biggest regret.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 10:56 PM
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We aren’t allowed to have issues. That would be “being a sook”. How many times you heard the term “man up” when attempting to air any type of grievance?
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 10:53 PM
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I have extreme anxious attachment and have never been ok alone. The thought of being by myself forever scares the hell out of me.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 09:53 PM
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As in you’re separated/divorced but still feel like you’d be cheating? I feel like this will be me too and it scares the shit out of me :(
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 11:33 AM
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Would also love to know the answers to this…. Especially if kids were involved or not.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 11:46 PM
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Thank-you for the message and sorry to hear about your wife leaving. Can I ask…. Three years later…. Are you ok? Do you have regrets?
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 12:58 PM
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Thanks for this. I already know I have anxious attachment. Can I ask…. How are you now? Are you glad it’s over or do you still have moments of regret?
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 12:55 PM
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While also ensuring that I know it’s nobodies fault but my own
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 03:53 AM
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The kids?
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 03:11 AM
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Yeah. As much as it pains me, this is likely. And could I trust her anyway?
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 02:44 AM
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She’s moved in with her parents. My main mistakes were not being there for emotionally and often choosing others over her (parents, work etc). I have matured a lot over the years and I know this wouldn’t be an issue in the future however, she seems too far gone at this point. The interest from this other guy has probably given her the confidence to finally leave. The saddest thing is that she did always tell ms what she needed and where it would go if I didn’t give it to her but I was comfortabl…
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 02:42 AM
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I’ve started walking and back at gym. Trying to reach out to friends but everyone is married with kids themselves….. brutal :(
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 02:38 AM
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I can relate man and am in almost the exact same scenario - early stages. The only suggestion I have is to exercise as much as you can. Set yourself a goal every day, take some time off work if you can and just exercise until it hurts. Talk to AI. I’ve found it extremely helpful if you haven’t got anybody else to talk to. Don’t let yourself fall into bad habits or old vices if you have any. Slippery slope!
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 01:13 PM
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I’m currently going through a separation where I desperately want to retain my marriage and family structure. Now that it’s being taken away from me, I would do anything to keep it in tact and I regret not doing more while I still had the chance. I get that it’s a big deal to up and leave but try and imagine yourself in my shoes and see what you come up with.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 09:01 AM
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For someone who has only just started this journey, that is super hard to hear :(
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 05:06 AM
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Question from someone very fresh off the “conversation” and not wanting the divorce….. in the year since your separation, how long were you living apart, have you or her had other relational interests and do you have children? Keen to understand the dynamics to see what I’m up against. Ps don’t feel like you have to share if it’s private or too hurtful to discuss.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 03:04 AM
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Man, I’m sorry I can’t provide more substance in this reply other than I can 100% relate to nearly everything you’ve said. The regret I feel in my own relationship for not heeding the warning signs earlier when what she required from me was so minuscule will forever haunt me.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 02:46 AM
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I’m this place now….. but part of me is scared that if she does want to come back, maybe I won’t want her to. It scares the absolute hell out of me.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 04:57 PM
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Good luck to both of us. At this point, im trying to channel my grief into positivity (exercise and my kids) and not alcohol and bad food. Feel free to DM me if you want to chat further.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 01:51 PM
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Going through this at the moment with my “wife”. Shes completely cold towards me except for moments where I am completely inconsolable and she shows some form of empathy towards me. Our marriage problems are, and always were, my fault. To others (including her family), she is very much at fault but in her eyes, it’s only me. I’m the one that’s caused the split in the family. I’m also the one trying everything I can to make things rights and keep us together as a family. Hardest thing I’ve ever e…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 10:50 AM
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Mate, my whole relationship, I have been told I’m useless. Can’t do anything right. Can’t hang clothes up correctly, can’t stack the dishwasher correctly. All of these moments led me to stop showing her intimacy. Now we have kids and she’s leaving because there’ll be someone out there better for her and she’s citing all the times I made her feel alone by not having sex with her. I’m now convinced that this was all my fault and that I’m a terrible person. I desperately want her to stay so our fam…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 03:35 AM
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Genuine question. How does one stop loving their wife (and in my case, mother of children) and stop caring about them to do this? I currently am the main bread winner in our family and we are currently separated…. Apparently for a while now but I’ve had my head in the sand hoping for improvement…. Our finances are completely joint still. I want her to stay and eventually I want her to realise she misses me and come back. Therefore, I feel like I couldn’t possibly stop paying for things even thou…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 03:23 AM
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I’ve only recently been told by my walk away wife that it’s over for good. The hardest part about this is that she’s outlined all the things I did wrong or didn’t do right and she’s spot on about all of them. If only I had of taken my head out of the sand, I may have been able to actually save the marriage. I don’t think I’ll ever forgive myself for letting her and the kids down.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 02:11 PM
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I’m actually closer with my in-laws than my actual parents. Losing them is almost as bad as losing my wife. It is horrendous! :(
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 02:08 PM
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