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| 2 | Alimony Fraud, Parental Alienation What would you do?Get the proof first. If you can find proof (as of in date marriage license was issued), simply sue her for fraudulently recieving alimony after getting remaired. You are $2000 away from cutting all ties to this woman. If you can get the proof and she's collected money she shouldn't, file the papers and have the legal system handle her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/26 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Do I have to be friends with ex wife and the man she cheated on me with?At a minimum, children are involved here. The mother made a decision. Just like my wife made a series of decisions. But we have two children together and things are going to be hard enough as it is. Us being at each others throats 24/7 will only make it so much worse on the kids. I'm absolutely NOT teaching my children it's ok to abandon your marriage and family and expect for things to be all hunkey dorey after. They won't be. They shouldn't be. Holding that hate in my heart will do absolutely … | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/26 02:10 PM |
| 2 | Divorce AdviceLet the lawyers figure out alimony. 50/50 custody will make the child support smaller and as long as there isnt a huge difference in income, alimony should be minimal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/26 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Wife’s Ultimatum questionsShes flat out lying to you. With that large of a disparity in income (which is MARITIAL INCOME collectively... meaning she cannot cut you off and she will likely be responsible for some portion of the debt you've accumulated BECAUSE she cut you off from access to MARITIAL INCOME) the court is very likely to at least force access to the money for you if not force her to pay your legal fees. Hire a lawyer. Let them know up front these are the games she is playing. Your lawyer can petition the cour… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/26 04:13 PM |
| 5 | Be the bigger man or fuck it?While you are divorced, you have to continue to be involved with this woman pretty regularly for quite a while to come. Don't be a door mat, but choose your battles carefully. This one doesn't seem worth causing a blow up. Again though, don't let her walk all over you. Keep things "casually friendly" without being a whipping post at her whimsy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/26 04:10 PM |
| 7 | After More Than 10 Months, I Asked Her If There’s Someone Else…"Offended beyond words" No one just ups and gets a wild hair up their ass and ends a 20+ year marriage. I can't tell you for a fact but realistically yes, she was talking to and likely already involved with someone else before she even tabled the divorce. If that were the case, she'd be "offended" because she doesn't want to have to feel bad that she decided to selfishly step out on her marriage and that you had the gall to ask. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/26 02:42 PM |
| 2 | What crazy stuff has your ex asked for after the divorce was finalized?So extenuating circumstances. I understand that. In your case it sounds like it would be a reasonable request. But if it were a situation where say... you went on a gambling bender and then went and bought a new truck... I'd have a lot less sympathy for you as a judge. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/26 05:59 PM |
| 1 | She's gonna ask for more, I thinkDon't do it through the court system. If you want to offer her regular support, great. Just don't make it a legal obligation if the court isn't going to give her anything. For a lot of reasons. And leave it at that. "The lawyers say that according to the law, I won't owe support. If you want to, we can have it come from the judges mouth. After the divorce is final, I'm willing to offer you some support for a while and we can discuss it then." | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/26 05:54 PM |
| 1 | I’m finally doneWhat you need to accept, because it's the truth, is that your wife is the problem.... not you. The woman likely has some combination of mental health conditions. She's out there full on cheating on you, has an entirely separate relationship with another man, and she's got the nerve to go after some woman on facebook because she added you as a friend? Tells you EVERYTHING you need to know. Don't walk, run. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/26 05:50 PM |
| 2 | What crazy stuff has your ex asked for after the divorce was finalized?That's what happens when the other shoe drops, the music stops and the lights come on. She felt on top of the world high on the forbidden element of her affairs. "Men still want me! I can pick whoever I want. I can do so much better. I AM THE PRIZE!" Until they aren't the prize any more. Until the prize is a younger woman. A better looking woman. An easier woman. Now their middle aged or beyond, mountains of debt, limited income potential and nothing but the bitterness of feeling stupid for thro… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/26 05:46 PM |
| 2 | What crazy stuff has your ex asked for after the divorce was finalized?You can attempt to have the court mandate it, but the reason WHY you can't afford a lawyer matters. The court system won't just automatically FORCE one spouse to pay for another spouses legal representation. Especially if the reason is that your just irresponsible with money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/26 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Help me understandShe's gone brother. She can call herself the last of the Mohicans if it suits her fancy. What she does any more isn't worth worrying about. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/26 04:22 PM |
| 1 | I should be laughing but I’m not.Similar situation for me. You have to decide if you can / want to try to fix it. A lot of that should be based upon how she's feeling and acting right now. Is she sincerely sorry, remorseful, and accepting of the blame she should be? The point is not to rub it in her face. The point is she fucked up majorly, and you did nothing to warrant it. Does SHE truly see it that way? Or did she not "feel seen, valued and loved" and that you basically drove her to do this? If she is remorseful and genuinel… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/26 04:19 PM |
| 4 | Do I have to be friends with ex wife and the man she cheated on me with?Civil and respectful. Not friendly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/26 08:28 PM |
| 2 | The hilarious behavior of cheating women...Mind boggling really. Several months in an affair that in all reality was her main relationship, I wasn't even her side piece... I was just her "husband" that she used for financial security and support, my "wife" got super pissed off when she thought I was checking out a curvy heavy chested woman. I'd heavily suspect, basically knew but didn't have concrete proof, that she was having a full blown affair. And she gets fucked off because I glanced at a woman who was walking past. Didn't approach,… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/26 08:10 PM |
| 12 | Wife threatens divorce if I don’t agree to a second child. Agreeing might actually be cheaper than alimony. What would you do?"financially screwed" This woman is strong arming you into another baby that you aren't necessarily willing to go for. This woman is also not "unable" to work. Her income could very likely be imputed based upon what she was earning when she was working. Alimony may happen for a while, but not long term. So get the 50/50 custody. Pay her the $1600 or so a month in child support and $1600 a month in alimony (again... likely 2 to 3 years worth) and be done. You make 200K a year. Your easily taking … | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/26 11:52 PM |
| 1 | Stories of Ex’s Blowing Windfalls Post DivorceThe stocks were the more risky venture for sure. MUCH larger swing (both good and bad) possibilities compared to a house. Not all homes appreciate sharply. But most, if kept up with, still do appreciate over time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/26 06:17 PM |
| 6 | Men that initiated their divorces, what things led you to that decision and what was the straw that broke the camel's back?That's some evil shit brother. Regardless of the details of who did what.... that's just low. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/26 06:55 PM |
| 1 | I’m planning on divorcing my wifeBelow average brother? I've gone two full YEARS without sex and my wife and I both in our late 30's and easily stretches of months in between before that. It goes without saying the marriage was on the rocks for a long time, I've filed once before and will be filing and going through with it this time. If your having sex 2 to 4 times a month you are well more than far enough away from the ledge to fix your marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/07/26 09:52 PM |
| 2 | Where do I fit anymore? Who am I?I feel this all very deeply. First off you need to be good enough for your self. When you rebuild self esteem and repair your mental health, you will embrace the mindset that the most important person you can be good enough for is yourself. If you can't be good enough for yourself, you'll never accept that you're good enough for anyone else. Throw yourself into your children. Love them openly and with everything you are. Forgive yourself for the marriage falling apart. Forgive your wife too beca… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/07/26 09:42 PM |
| 3 | HelpI'd be willing to bet meeting with the lawyer is what has her flipped. She likely heard that it's not going to go the way she wants it to go. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/07/26 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Wife cheated, when should I file for divorceStart the process with a lawyer now. You don't have to tell her anything necessarily right away. Two early and important questions are to ask how long you two need to be separate for the divorce laws in your state and what all documents and records she needs from the both of you. Also, in terms of custody, make sure you absolutely document exactly how much time your children spend with you and the things you provide for them (school lunches / school expenses, medical care, health insurance, dayc… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/07/26 03:23 PM |
| 1 | should i be trying to spend my money before the financial split?Clear, unusual and blatantly trying to "waste" or dispose of assets leading up to divorce proceedings isn't some new gag that the legal system hasn't seen for decades. If she's doing it and it's clear or otherwise obvious... it'll get taken off whatever she's awarded. So if you two have a home worth $300,000 and it's fully paid off... they might say 150K of that is hers. She could be bought out, she could be compensated in other ways. If she decides to drain a combined 150K out of retirement acc… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/26 09:19 PM |
| 6 | Mil moving in during divorceYou want the best advice? Get and hide your own cameras. As many as you can. If they want to play the "lets record everything" game, play it right back. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/26 09:11 PM |
| 6 | Mil moving in during divorceReally poor advice. For the safety of the children primarily and because it could have major implications in the divorce proceedings, division of assets, custody... etc. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/26 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Why can't I get angry at her?I might not agree that its common.. but moreso it for sure as shit is not any more ok based upon how much others are doing it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/26 03:56 AM |
| 9 | Wife angry about equitable financial splittingShe wants a divorce and already does hate you. This is just emotional warfare to get you to give her the better end of the stick in the division of assets. Get pissed off. Vent to friends. Go to a driving range and hit some golf balls. Talk to a therapist. But do not engage her, entertain her or agree to anything. Let the lawyer handle it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/26 08:11 PM |
| 1 | X just showed up with an off duty sheriff and a rent a cop to go through our martial items.Cameras inside and out. Don't be worried about rent a cop or off duty sheriff's. Next time let them know they aren't welcome and if they / she insists just call the on duty state police. Let her use her scare tactics. Stick with court admissible video evidence and actual real cops. Not some fuck boy off duty sheriff and some chuck e cheese security douche bag. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/26 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Divorced and Living Alone: A simple trick to make cooking funI dont branch out super often cooking wise but I am a solid cook. Nothing to die for, but more than good enough for full bellies, empty plates and smiles. . Women absolutely would appreciate a man who can cook, especially well. Although its not quite the norm it once was, cooking to some degree still leans toward the women of the relationship. One thing I think I might try is to give AI a list of what all foods and meals I like and to have it make suggestions for new dishes I should try. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/26 10:41 PM |
| 1 | How long to start dating after 12 year relationship?Prioritizing a womans pleasure and knowing how to give her sexual satisfaction beyond just jack hammering into her is a great thing. Having said that, it won't change much of anything. Unless your very good looking / very charismatic and tall.... you won't be getting to the "going down on her" stage with very many women and of those that you do, that will likely come AFTER several dates and some getting to know each other. Being able to socialize, make people feel comfortable, carry a good conve… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/26 04:40 PM |
| 5 | Wife had an “Emotional Affair”, now wants to fix the marriage. See details for full context.I'm somewhat considering that in my own situation but honestly, run this by a good divorce lawyer. There can be implications in allowing her to continue inhabiting the family home after the divorce becomes finalized. I feel exactly the same way you do, but honestly I think if your ready to go through with the divorce then it's over. You likely feel like you do because you want hold on to hope that your family can go back to the way it was before all this happened. I'll tell you the truth. It can… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/26 04:37 PM |
| 9 | When we were married, she had nothing to say to me. Now that we're divorced and co-parenting, she won't shut up and leave me alone. Make it make sense!She fucked around and found out. The grass wasn't greener on the other side of the fence. Now she either wants back what she had OR at least she doesn't enjoy seeing you be happy either. The hilarious part of it is a fair amount of sincere men get label as sex hounds because we enjoy and pursue sex with the women we are partnered with / seeing. BUT the hornballs that are absolutely only interested in sex coming around sniffing up their skirt hard core has them thinking they have endless options … | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/26 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Married young and building resentmentMy friend, it sounds like your wife isn't interested in putting effort into putting things on a better path. The reality is relationships are NOT rainbows and sunshine 100% of the time. You should be happy more than your unhappy, but like the weather.... life and relationships and everything in between has seasons. Some are enjoyable. Some are not. People get sick. People die. People change. Interests change. Bodies change. Sex drives and hormones change. The problem is the modern mindsets are e… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/26 04:29 PM |
| 2 | 12 years of marriage fell apart. Feeling lost and brokenDo not abandon the marital home. Get a good lawyer. Serve her papers. Do a shit ton of therapy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/26 02:11 AM |
| 4 | Dude the numbers aren’t adding up. Whole lot of married men.The internet and social media / reddit more commonly have people on here shouting about the negative experiences, much like the news. Rarely do you see anything good posted. A lot of the men who truly DO have good marriages and great partners aren't getting online to tell strangers. They tell their partners primarily and friends / family after that. It's more common to hear a stranger vent about their bad relationships than their good ones. It's not a "pitty me" thing. A lot of them really just … | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/26 06:26 PM |
| 11 | Wife says she loves me like a brotherBrother. Odds are good a few things are happening. She's already involved with another man or has them on deck so to speak. Her friends are encouraging her to do this shit. Divorced and miserable women love to make their married friends end up divorced and miserable. Misery loves company and they say you are the sum of the five people you spend the most time with. Your wife spending time with divorced friends / friends who have been unfaithful to their partners is nothing but bad news. She's goi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/26 06:22 PM |
| 1 | Having the 8 week post Seperation “chat” in a week. Any advice fellas?And as much as it likely won't help, you shouldn't take it personally. It's something a lot of people do. A delusion really that people fabricate in order to be able to go on without having to be accountable or feel bad about their actions and their choices even though they know they should. Like doing something horrible to someone and then finding a way through a series of some major mental gymnastics to justify it and shift the blame. "Oh my god, I feel so bad. I just accidently hit someone wi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/26 02:00 PM |
| 6 | How little people careShe can try to take your son away, but as long as she has no real evidence you did anything wrong that would give a court even a sniff of a reason to do that.... it won't happen. Most courts want 50/50. The higher earner / person with less overnight stays will pay support to the other person. All I can say is it sucks and I know how you feel. I'm going through it myself. People do care though. You just need to surround yourself with the right people. The people who immediately decide the woman i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/26 01:55 PM |
| 6 | I love my wife with my whole heart, but she wants a divorce.This. Life really is unfair. That's just the reality. Something I've really grown to embrace is that we are as happy as we allow ourselves to be. No matter how bad you have it, someone out there has it a whole lot worse. A lot of someones. "I was once said because my shoes were old and worn.... until I met the man who had no feet". You have two beautiful little children to pour yourself into. Find a good church if your a religious man and aren't already going. Maybe start that hobby you may have… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/26 03:45 PM |
| 13 | 20+ years of marriage, last year was tough, now found out about infidelityShe's convinced you that her poor actions were your fault. We learn from a very young age that regardless of what others do, it does not give us the right to justify doing something wrong in turn. If my 8 year old hits my 6 year old, the 6 year old knows that's not a justification for hitting back. The 8 year old can't justify hitting the 6 year old because she changed the channel either. Your wife started sleeping with another man while married to you. Her admitting her actions and admitting sh… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/26 05:31 PM |
| 2 | Is obesity and the breakup of our traditional social/familial structures to blame for so many divorces in the US?Very interesting and thank you for sharing. Honestly it's painful to hear how unfaithful your grandfather was. Absolutely made him a terrible husband, and I'm sure at least affected his role in being a father... but it didn't make him a bad person. I give your grandmother a lot of credit for enduring that for an entire life time. Some people truly do take the "till death do we part" thing very seriously. Unfortunately a lot more do not. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/26 04:08 PM |
| 5 | Is obesity and the breakup of our traditional social/familial structures to blame for so many divorces in the US?I don't know about most of the rest of the world, but the US has two primary problems with the younger population. 1) Everything in this country is so "throw away". As time marches forward, relationships and people are largely falling into that category now. I had someone recently ready to get rid of an entire laptop because it needed a new SSD. "I can just get a new computer for $250! Sure you can.... but the computer you have now is three times better equipped hardware wise than anything you'l… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/26 10:10 AM |
| 2 | Divorce filed, wife has boyfriend.This mindset though, it is fairly common these days. That's not to say it's a world where women are unilaterally bad and men are poor helpless victims. There are equivalent mindsets being broadcast over these platforms to men too. The whole "if he won't, another man will" mindset is ruining what could be / would be other wise healthy relationships and mindsets. Relationships, 99% of them, aren't super wonderfully happy never ending experiences that require no work and just feel so natural and so… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/26 06:44 PM |
| 1 | I knew this would be tough. But to see her immediately with another man…If this was the person she was having an emotional affair with, the affair never stopped. If this wasn't the person she had the emotional affair with, this new romantic interest has probably been in the picture a while now. Regardless, you knew and doubly no know what kind of person she's choosing to be. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/26 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Grace?Your neighbor likely really doesn't "know" either of you. She's a woman and seems to be taking sides based upon gender. It's a common stereotype. The man either did something wrong to cause the behavior or he should be compassionate and understand no matter what she's done. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/26 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Three years after divorce - alternative pointPeople do care. How MUCH they care depends on who it is and what their relationship is with you. Try not to gauge how much they care based upon how you would support someone else if the roles were reversed or what you expected from them in terms of a reaction or support. Dating CAN be a good thing, but make sure your ready. Make sure you've worked on the things you know you need to work on. Make sure your happy being alone before you try to get back into the dating mix. Make sure you know what y… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/26 04:26 PM |
| 5 | How do you navigate relationships in 2026 as a middle aged man? (3x Divorced)You do not want to meet a woman who sees escaping poverty as the primary factor in a relationship with you. Divorce laws the way they are, the woman doesn't need to spend her life with you to escape poverty. Just long enough to get the ring on the finger....maybe a year or two more for good measure. Have a kid. Now shes got child support for 18 years, government assistance and depending on length of marriage and gap in income... a considerable amount of alimony. The man isnt at square one after … | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/26 07:29 PM |
| 1 | 5 Days since she asked. What should I expect emotionally?Divorce will likely change the dynamic of how she acts toward you and treats you. Expect her to be seeing someone very soon, if she isn't already. Women usually (not always, but usually) wind up being the the first to find a new romantic interest (again... if she hasn't already). They say women left the relationship long before they actually leave it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/26 12:23 AM |
| 5 | How do you get over the feeling that you will never be loved again?You can improve every last one of those things, and likely drastically. To lose weight, control calorie intake and do bodyweight exercises. Though mainly, calorie intake. Learn a trade or decide on a new career path. Medical fields are in high demand and so are skilled laborers. Seek therapy and if not at least find and become part of a good church if you are religious. Therapy can help a lot. I got over the feeling of never being loved again by loving myself first. And then accepting that the l… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/26 03:21 PM |
| 2 | Just need support, I guess.It's not going to be his fault any more than it's your fault. I don't know why your wife decided to do what she did, but if it truly was no fault of your own then this new guy (if it happens to him) will likely not deserve it any more than you did. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/26 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Legal task paralysisThe reality is, you only control what you can control. She truly does have to decide what she wants. Your situation sounds similar to mine. Though I fully admit that in some ways through some stretches I was a bit of an asshole and an overall not great partner. Having said that, the majority of that was due to conflict we had that she and I both could have handled better. In other words, we were both shitty to each other and contributed to a sometimes really good and sometimes really bad marriag… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/26 03:57 AM |
| 1 | Going Through the Google driveBrother, life is hard enough. This shit sounds absolutely brutal. All you can do is forgive yourself. You did the best you could with what you had to work with. Nothing wrong with a man crying. Losing the love of your life is one of the hardest things a man could ever face. Men's emotion and mental health aren't embraced as much as they should be. We suffer the same as women. We face the same personality disorders. Scruitniy. Sexisim. Discrimination. Modern day life in America... it damn near fe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/26 01:43 AM |
| 1 | Can an ex’s family lawyer bypass a bankruptcy Stay of Proceedings for property/car loan claims? (Alberta)We are not lawyers. Do not take life impacting, very serious legal advice from anyone other than a well vetted attorney who knows the laws in your area. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/26 01:33 AM |
| 3 | Wife’s boss and moving forwardThat's what it looks like to me. Can't think of too many other reasons. He wants to know why she was arrested. He's banging her. She took his phone and is trying to get you to reply. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/26 05:08 PM |
| 1 | She filed and it’s a poor reflection on her.To your last sentence, hopefully you won't have too for very long. If she has the balls to tell your children that you are throwing them out of the house, remind the kiddos that daddy wasn't the one who filed for divorce. Mommy was. Do not let your hurt and anguish and the BS shes spewing affect how you handle this legally. 100% boy scout from you from here on out. Do not say anything to anyone, especially her, regarding the legal stuff. It all goes through / from your lawyer to hers. Period. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/26 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Not having kids ever again, never getting married againIf it helps, consider the child support for what it actually "should be". To help raise your children for the 50% of the time they aren't with you. What she actually does with the money is between you and god. The money I'm going to be paying my STBXW is for my children. I'd have spent it on them if they were here, so why should it bother me if I spent it on them when they aren't here. It's for them. If she uses it for lashes and nails and waxes and some other dude, that's between her and god. I… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/26 03:03 PM |
| 2 | Need adviceYou are never going to get the closure you desire. And honestly you don't need it. You ex wife is doing these things because honestly it's the only way that people can be absolutely evil and not have to feel bad about it. At some level, she may actually believe it's all your fault. It's easier for her to paint you the villian. My STBXW told her affair partner I was a drunk, rotten to my kids, abusive to her. In the last 10 years I've probably averaged... oh I don't know.... maybe 5 or 6 beers in… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/26 02:59 PM |
| – | Coming to the realization my wife cheated on meAnd most cheaters who do get caught dead to rights do the wildest things. My wife is absolutely pissed that I invaded her privacy to find proof of her affair. I absolutely could smell it a mile away. New guy hearting everything on her profile. Printed canvas pictures from his facebook of his beach vacation on in our house stashed in her closet. Her being married being taken off of facebook (she claims she removed it long ago to see if I'd noticed... she absolutely did not do it that way). I'M wr… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/26 02:33 PM |
| 2 | What to do?You really don't. When people act like this, it becomes extremely hard to have any faith in the whole "till death do we part" stuff. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/26 02:22 PM |
| 1 | I’m bitter, angry, and want people to agree that I was treated badly.BPD masquerades as a combination of symptoms that are usually diagnosed as the issue. My STBXW has it. Does it affect her and what she's done? I'm no medical professional in any sense and I'm not a legal professional, but I can understand how it could be a factor. Does that mean it excuses or justifies behavior? Lets spin it this way, if an alcoholic who's diagnosed as an alcoholic gets into a car wreck and kills someone, do they get special consideration because they're diagnosed alcoholics? Lo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/26 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Still living with ex - she asked to go out next week with someone on a date. i'm spiralingWell. I get that. But there is also the chance that the soon to be ex wife is actually a decent person and the marriage failed by fault on both sides. The sentiment I expressed is valid both ways. Women get chased hardcore because dudes want to hit. A lot of women want to believe it's not just because guys really like sex and that they really are potentially interested. Some even know the guy is originally just interested in sex but she can win him over and make it a long term thing in her mind.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/26 05:00 AM |
| 4 | Second marriage is over after financial infidelity…. Right?Talk to a good divorce attorney. If your serious about going through with it, don't mention it to her until the papers are served. At that point forward, 100% boy scout on your part and no communication or negotiation directly between you two. Always in front of / through your lawyer. Don't move out. Don't sign anything without your lawyer being involved. Don't do anything "big" in terms of finances (don't go buy a new truck... etc). More or less, live your life as is without any major changes u… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/26 04:55 AM |
| 11 | Still living with ex - she asked to go out next week with someone on a date. i'm spiralingI know it likely won't make you feel any better, but I'm in the same situation. It's just easier for women to jump into getting dates. They may not be GOOD QUALITY men / dates. But they can get them with relative ease. And to be fair, while a lot of them are just thirsty dudes wanting to hit... there are also a lot of relatively good men out there looking for someone too. On the man side of things, we have it harder. Far lower odds of getting a date which inherently make it much harder to date s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/26 06:56 PM |
| 4 | Supposed to hookup with a girl soon, only ever been with one person.Real talk? As much as every woman is the same, they are different too. They have different likes. Different dislikes. Different kinks. Etc. Some women are more passive and want to be "taken". Others are more dominate themselves. No universal advice here. Best advice? Communicate with her and listen. Put equal importance on her enjoyment and pleasure. If she tells you she doesn't like something, then don't do it. If you want to do something you like and used to do with your ex wife, and she doesn… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/26 06:50 PM |
| 2 | What led to you/ partner initiating the divorce? Did it happen in stages or spontaneously?Major weight loss with GLP's is absolute a big contributor to this. They lose a lot of weight, get a lot of extra attention and suddenly.... "hey..... I deserve MORE out of this marriage". The "if he won't other men will" mindset kicks in. No. Those other men won't. But they will jump at the chance to get you naked and sleep with you. A lot of the women actually convince themselves these men really do care about them and it's not just hookups. Some of them know it, and it's a power trip to them.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/26 09:04 PM |
| 5 | As a woman… I just wanted to say I’m sorry and I see youMuch like women often use a wedding ring as a sign of a man being "pre vetted and approved" by another woman (or a challenge).... divorce is absolutely a stigma for most men. "Some woman got fed up with his loser ass and dumped the dead weight... why do I want to go for round two with THAT"! | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/26 08:48 PM |
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