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| 19 | I didn’t listen to FDS, I got hurt.Welcome back. You can only go up from here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 05:41 AM |
| 18 | Just another reminder to prioritize YOU.Needed this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 04:53 AM |
| 71 | Ladies, what have been your experiences with dating men that have unresolved and untreated intergenerational trauma?My ex dealt with his trauma with total emotional withdrawal- he was a person with an avoidant attachment style. This… isn’t helping him. Over the course of our relationship he revealed a lot of his trauma to me, and it struck me that he trusted me with it. But it’s not my family, and I can’t fix it, and I don’t want to be forced to play a role in that dynamic. I decided that I couldn’t let this be my problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 06:48 AM |
| 11 | I need someone to help me make sense of this...You want apology because the lady was being considerate? Because she had common sense?Rule #1 of misogyny: women are responsible for men’s actions and need to be blamed when men mess up. This is a classic example of a man trying to project his shortcomings on to woman. And this particular woman isn’t even in his sphere of influence. Sad. (And he did the same thing to Taylor Swift.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 08:29 AM |
| 1 | Without You from My Fair Lady is a great FDS aligned song. (Unfortunately, at the end of the movie, she goes back to this NVM.)All of the speech pathology ethics violations in one film. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 07:12 AM |
| 6 | The Phantom Ex - when avoidant men pine for a past lovePreach. I suspect I’ve been (and maybe still am) a Phantom Ex. Spoiler alert, he doesn’t love his phantom ex more, and he is the reason the relationships don’t work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:46 AM |
| 250 | I love herPlus isn’t it like, super exclusive?? Being an animator is a flex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 01:34 AM |
| 3 | Ladies who have taken back an ex, did he change and what made you take him back?I have made this mistake a few times. One time it was because I was in a really low place and because I was desperate for connection. There is another guy that I got back together with where I did see significant, positive change in the right direction from the first round of dating to the second round. However, he still has significant issues to work out and it didn’t work out for lots of reasons. I think that this is atypical, though. It was the significant growth that I saw in this man that m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 01:10 AM |
| 97 | We have a fragile one.Because being alone > trying to get LVM to like me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 09:12 PM |
| 119 | Let’s talk about choosing not to blockDon’t let teens- literally children who have been indoctrinated into coolgirlness/pickmeism- influence how you go about being a HVW. “Blocking makes you look like you care” is a opinion that is rooted in inexperience, and that narrative exists to benefit men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 08:57 PM |
| 5 | Where do my FDS ladies like to shop?I’m between a 6-8 also, but 5’8. I like to shop at Banana Republic when I can afford it. Also Gap, Artizia, and for less formal stuff, American Eagle. When it comes to handbags, I’ve got some great Coach/Kate Spade stuff from Facebook Market. Sometimes thrift stores have some good quality, high end finds if you’re ok with putting in the work to find them and you don’t mind items that are gently used. It’s not high-end or anything but Target sometimes has some stylish, good quality garments depen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 06:30 AM |
| 28 | Married At First Sight Australia - My guilty pleasure while witnessing valuable lessonsThe youtuber LiveAbuseFree does some great breakdowns of Married At First Sight Australia. She has really great insights. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 06:07 AM |
| 27 | Strategy: How to know if a man is only after YOUR money and successI have complicated feelings about this. I grew up with working class roots but I’ve migrated solidly into the professional middle class/“white collar” bracket. I’ve met working class men who made less money but managed it waaay better than some middle class men who made more, but had poor spending habits. Sometimes middle class men have expensive tastes and no savings, even though on paper they are well paid. I think it’s wise to evaluate how a man manages his money on a case-by-case basis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 10:37 PM |
| 25 | Strategy: How to know if a man is only after YOUR money and success-Hits you with the “Do you just want me for money?” whenever you bring up the fact that he needs gainful employment. -Job hopping, vague personal projects/ambitions that never go anywhere (no progress in six months should be your sign). -He has a “health condition” that justifies why he can’t work or needs to trump your needs/wants. I’m not talking about an actual disability or a real health condition- I’m talking about vague or not-important health conditions that seem to only pop up when you r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 10:25 PM |
| 76 | Why you shouldn’t live together before marriage: 2 real-life examplesThe competitive housing market in NYC and all other big metropolitan areas in the USA is precisely why you should prioritize your financial independence over teaming up with a man to be able to afford things. It sounds like you got the upper hand by keeping the apartment after your breakup but so many women find themselves without a home after the end of a relationship. We as women need to put ourselves in situations where the roof over our heads doesn’t depend on a man and how the relationship … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 08:27 PM |
| 16 | Darcey from TLC's 90 Day Fiance is usually a mess, but I love this video where she handles her petty, insecure scrote ex like a queen.Darcey has so much potential and she can do waaaaay better than Tom. Join us, sister | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:10 AM |
| 17 | How does gift-giving go when you are a plus one to a wedding?If it’s his friend, the gift should be from him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:03 AM |
| 99 | Man in a hetero relationship doesn't do housework -> solution = "get a cleaner!!!!"This. I know people who tidy up the house in anticipation of the cleaners coming. It would be disrespectful to make these people work around one’s disgustingness and clutter. Mad respect for cleaning ladies, they work so, so hard all day and they earn every dime. And they’re still not paid enough imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 08:34 PM |
| 14 | How to remain a HVW when you run into your former flames?Polite but distant. Minimize interaction. You want to send the message that you’re not available, because you aren’t. I personally don’t believe in being friends, or even truly friendly, with exes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 07:11 PM |
| 2 | First, I laughed. Then, took a screenshot.Lol it’s the emoji rose for me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 11:10 PM |
| 26 | Inspired by the Anne Boleyn post, what other women in history were done dirty by men?Catherine Dickens, wife of Charles Dickens-After 22 years of marriage, milking her connections in publishing, and bearing many of his children, Charles dumped her and barred her from seeing her own children for many years. Taylor Swift in 2016- Kim K. and Kanye, her ex boyfriend Calvin Harris, and Kanye’s manager Scooter Braun all participated in a targeted media campaign to take down one of the most successful women in music. Taylor was ripped to shreds in the media and subjected to some ugly, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 07:41 AM |
| 5 | I have no wordsI have loose waves, so I’m not full curly girl but I dabble in it. Traditional towel can add to frizz. Before you invest in something crazy expensive, try drying your hair in an old, clean cotton t-shirt. It should help absorb water without creating frizz. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 12:16 AM |
| 1741 | I have no wordsIf she has curly or wavy hair, the towel type matters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 04:21 AM |
| 3 | Right as we are about to get a place, I found out my boyfriend lied about his income.Sounds like he’s hoping you’ll pick up the difference. He lied to you about something really important. This lie impacted the decisions that you made, and he was ok letting you think that. This suggests that he’s fundamentally untrustworthy when it comes to money. 👏👏👏DUMP HIM👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 03:13 AM |
| 139 | Brilliant Strategy for Getting Men to Pay on DatesJust don’t reach for the bill. When the waiter brings it, don’t even acknowledge that it’s on the table. Keep talking to the dude like nothing happened. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 08:12 PM |
| 5 | Who’s the best example of a HMV celebrity?Chris Hemsworth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 02:04 AM |
| 31 | Tips for improving appearance as HVW?It might be helpful to figure out your Kibbe type. It’s not a hard and fast science but it can be a helpful guide to picking garments that optimize your figure. It’s not about making rules on what not to wear (at least it’s not supposed to be), it’s more about leaning into your body’s natural lines. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 12:40 AM |
| 6 | Reminder: Don't befriend male colleagues who are married!Sometimes it is necessary to have cordial, friendly relationships with men in the workplace. Befriend his partner and put that relationship first. Have strong boundaries with the men in your workplace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 08:05 PM |
| 64 | Is Taylor Swift a “Forever Girlfriend”Aside from her relationship(s), I think there is FDS value in talking about Taylor’s business acumen and career moves. Even if you’re not a fan of her music, it cannot be denied that she’s good at making money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 06:46 PM |
| 67 | Anyone had a scrote try this on them?Taylor Swift has entered the chat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 10:00 PM |
| 85 | A real "Cool Girl" is one who turns down Leonardo DiCaprioNot a Cara fan (majorly benefited from industry nepotism, involved with shady people) but turning down Leo was a baller move. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 10:14 PM |
| 64 | Today in 'having a kid together won't fix your relationship'Gigi’s sister. The one that the Weeknd used to cheat on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 01:10 AM |
| 5 | Victim BlamingDef not a fan of the Hadids. But Yolanda, weird as she is, Gigi, and most of all the baby involved all deserve way better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 04:25 PM |
| 333 | Today in 'having a kid together won't fix your relationship'This. Gigi and Bella are great examples of women who were raised to be pickmes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 03:51 PM |
| 3 | You should have a “hoe phase!”Buy a vibrator. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 05:27 AM |
| 48 | Men Who are Still Friends With their ExesThis is a dealbreaker for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 02:30 AM |
| 23 | Is this Instagram activity acceptable in a relationship?Here’s some language for you: “I get it that this person is you friend, but by liking her thirst trap pictures, you’re sending a clear message thats makes me doubt your investment in this relationship. I need to be with someone who is able to focus on me and our connection more.” Considering adding: “I will be deleting your number.” Block+delete. Anything aside from a vehement apology will be clearly identifiable as gaslighting, because you have laid out your need for him to be focused on you an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 11:37 PM |
| 23 | Teen Mom 2The whole franchise is full of LVMs. Lots of the girls got pregnant before they could learn to be HVW and they’re now saddled with these loser baby daddies. Lots of these young women came from less than happy circumstances themselves- Leah comes to mind immediately but there are so many others. Jenelle’s and Kail’s lives are particularly messy but there’s plenty of mess to go around. It’s sometimes painful to watch but it’s enlightening in a sad way :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 06:03 AM |
| 133 | What do you think of MGK & Megan Fox? Apparently MGK cheated on Sommer Ray to be with her, then tried to make himself look like the victim when he was already dating Megan.I heard he started tweeting flirty stuff to Eminem’s daughter when she was underage. Marshall did not let this slide from what I understand 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 03:43 AM |
| 59 | Pickmes and 🤡🤡🤡: “If you are so picky, you are going to be single forever.”👏cats👏are👏better👏than👏most👏men👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 11:14 PM |
| 5 | Prepping to leave - biding my timeGood luck and please, please give us a follow up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 04:05 AM |
| 20 | "Horsegirl" is a feminist issue - why girls benefit from handling horsesThis is really interesting! OP you have such great insight on horses. Horses are such beautiful creatures but I live in the city, so for the most part I have to love them from afar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 04:18 AM |
| 5 | Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character?Winry Rockbell from FMAB. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 10:17 PM |
| 123 | Men don’t always marry the woman they love the most: a n insight from an OLD convoThis is a feature of avoidant attachment- romanticizing and appreciating an ex partner when they are no longer in the picture, because the threat of intimacy and vulnerability is gone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 09:48 PM |
| 24 | Hurt feelings on InstagramLol she’s definitely winning the breakup | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 11:59 PM |
| 7 | Ummm. What?What tf did I just read | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 11:51 PM |
| 7 | WOC be careful fetishization is real....I’m a white woman who grew up in a predominantly non-white community. There are men of color who racially fetishize white women. I think it’s worth mentioning that white women should also keep their eyes out for red flags that they are being racially fetishized. That said, it’s not my intent to derail this conversation and make it about white women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 10:24 PM |
| 5 | When dating, do you have certain professions that you avoid?I don’t think I’d date someone in law enforcement. My dad was in law enforcement and his job impacted almost every aspect of our lives. And it took a big toll on him, in terms of his physical and mental well-being. I don’t want to go back to living my life like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 12:22 AM |
| 10 | We don't compete against other women & we don't chase menI’ve been put into a position where the guy wanted me to complete for him a few times and it was degrading. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 12:16 AM |
| 47 | we were having a nice convo and then he hits me with this "date" suggestion. 🤏🏼🤡What kind of middle school bullshit is this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 05:40 AM |
| 330 | SOS girl wherever you are please come find us 😔✊A moment of silence for our fallen sister. Girl, if you ever read this, it’s not too late to come back to the light. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 02:26 AM |
| 31 | Imagine tolerating thisBey & Jay | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 03:16 AM |
| 6 | I've decided to actively understand Zoomer's clothing styleLean into the way they sit over your shoes. Skinny jeans highlight your shoes, and call attention to your feet. You can hide your shoes a bit more with a bootcut as long as they are long enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 01:05 AM |
| 83 | I've decided to actively understand Zoomer's clothing styleLook… I’m super over skinny jeans. I’m old enough to remember bootcut jeans and I’m so, so glad they’re back. The wider leg is a long time coming. The kids are right- skinny jeans have overstayed their welcome and should have been gone seasons ago. Don’t resist the wider leg. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 05:06 PM |
| 42 | Men Who live With Parents or RoommatesI live in California, which is particularly expensive. I don’t judge men for living with roommates. Obviously it’s a case by case basis but I wouldn’t necessarily exclude a man with rooms from my dating pool given the economic context of my community. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 04:12 AM |
| 7 | Emotional incest and pick me moms- stay out of itOMG Debbie and Colt should be required viewing for FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 03:11 AM |
| 31 | Recommendations for "Chick Lit" Books?The works of Jane Austen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 09:32 PM |
| 21 | What was your moment of clarity?He didn’t have money to take me on dates, but he had money for camping gear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 03:22 AM |
| 6 | What makes YOU so amazing??!Ask them questions about themselves! “Tell me more about…” is a good starter because it is open ended and lets your conversation partner really launch into something. If their interests are something you know nothing about, tell them! “I don’t know much about that, tell me all about it.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:31 PM |
| 24 | What makes YOU so amazing??!🍍 I’m a witty, sparkling conversationalist and I can get anyone to talk to me 🍍 I’m smart and I know lots of stuff about lots of stuff 🍍 I sing well 🍍 I have lots of amazing friends and people who care about me 🍍 I paid off my student loans early this week and opened a retirement account 🍍 I’m observant 🍍 I am a very loyal person and I care deeply about the people in my life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 05:21 AM |
| 8 | No words.🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 07:03 PM |
| 1 | I can’t even.This is a great situation to just block+delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 04:36 AM |
| 16 | Today's crack-me-up - turns out even basic preferences like earning average pay and not being obese is statistically too much to ask (in the US). Stay strong, american queens!I literally know plenty of dudes like this, and some of them have shitty personalities. I bet this is bs data that’s meant to convince women to lower their standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:46 AM |
| 27 | This is enough internet for me today I’m done. Porn addicted scrotes are out here getting used items mailed to them from cam girls and giving themselves yeast infections and lord knows what other diseases. (warning extremely nsfw language)This is next level revolting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 01:42 AM |
| 14 | You can’t be treated like a king if you can’t act like a kingThere’s still hope for the toddler. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:09 AM |
| 5 | He proposed on our 1st anniversary. Success story!👏👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:40 AM |
| 24 | Dating men who are better at academics than youI have an MA. I’ve gone on dates with dudes with PhDs who were jerks, and I’ve gone on dates with community college dropouts who were great. The kind of intelligence I’m looking for isn’t necessarily correlated with academic achievement. I don’t need a man to match or exceed my own degree, but he does need to be smart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 06:16 PM |
| 5 | What do you guys think of Botox?I have a friend who got it in one particular little spot and she is super happy with the results! But she says the needle is big :( I’d start with a really great skincare routine first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 08:48 AM |
| 151 | Men Don’t Respect Disputes Between WomenYes, urgh. I had a colleague who was harassing me at work and management(two men) was incredibly dismissive. They labeled it as “drama” and I got lots of versions of the “you don’t have to be best friends” talk, which was patronizing af. Finally, some of the upper-upper management (a woman) saw my colleague being toxic/harassing me in person, and I was granted a transfer. This was upsetting to the lower management guys, because my position was more valuable to their program than my colleague’s p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 11:11 PM |
| 118 | Stay by The Kid Laroi and Justin Bieber is LVM anthemJB is king of the fuckboys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 11:02 PM |
| 60 | Doctors are performing pelvic exams on anaesthetised women without consent. If you’re going into surgery you need to explicitly state you don’t want one. Stay safe out there.I’m so sorry that that happened to you :( It makes my blood boil on your behalf. I don’t care if I get downvotes on this. Haters and male lurkers can die mad about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 05:09 AM |
| 68 | Greys Anatomy LVMI’ve always hated this show. Meredith really bugs me. Christina should have been the main character. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:40 AM |
| 158 | Doctors are performing pelvic exams on anaesthetised women without consent. If you’re going into surgery you need to explicitly state you don’t want one. Stay safe out there.I will never consent to gynecological work with a male physician. I think women who insist that they wouldn’t mind a male gynecologist are peak “cool girl.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:37 AM |
| 90 | looking for examples of hyper-competency and then low-value behaviorI’m a pretty good singer and pre-covid, I used to sing in church regularly (choir, solos at Christmas, etc). My ex had seen me in action. Once I wanted to listen to a rehearsal CD in the car on a road trip to prep for an upcoming performance. My ex wouldn’t let me put the CD in and told me I wasn’t that good at singing. To this day, he’s still literally the only person who has ever said that to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 02:43 AM |
| 9 | Taylor Swift - Dear John (Lyrics)More FDS-aligned Taylor Swift songs: Picture to Burn (Debut) Should Have Said No (Debut) White Horse (Fearless) The Best Day (Fearless) We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together (Red) Begin Again (Red) Shake It Off (1989) Clean (1989) I Did Something Bad (Reputation) King of My Heart (Reputation) This Is Why We Can’t Have Nice Things (Reputation) I Forgot That You Existed (Lover) Mad Woman (Folklore) Champagne Problems (Evermore) No Body, No Crime (Evermore) Long Story Short (Evermore) Closure (Ev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 05:13 AM |
| 15 | I effed upStay strong queen!!! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:42 AM |
| 27 | I effed upThis is not your fault. Forgive yourself. Block him. Nothing will bother him more, or keep you emotionally safer. Your silence is powerful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:31 AM |
| 23 | How Media Grooms Women Into Hookup CultureMeredith is the queen of the tv pickmes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 02:24 AM |
| 4 | We need to start talking about pick me teachers who use girls to keep the bad boys in class behaved. Because I definitely experienced this and it was terrible.I work at a school (not as a teacher) and I see that this practice is still sometimes implemented. If your daughter is being harmed in any way, or made to be responsible for a male student’s behavior in any way, I’d encourage you to make a fuss with the teacher and principal. Demand a meeting with the administrator and the teacher, lay out your concerns, and demand change. Keep records. The dirty truth is that school districts will do a lot for parents who are pushy because they don’t want to be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 01:26 AM |
| 7 | Three women discovered they were dating the same man. They dumped him and went on a months-long road trip together.Lol they unionized | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 12:47 AM |
| 41 | How do you respond to the "men have it bad too" argument?“That’s not the focus of our conversation. We can have a conversation about men’s issues at another time. Let’s focus on women’s issues right now.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 07:04 PM |
| 73 | Are You The “Clingy” Type?I prefer to think of it as being “high engagement” rather than “clingy.” I like regular communication and having a guy’s full attention in person - and he gets the benefit of my attention, time, wit, empathy, etc. If he’s not investing in the effort to communicate and spend time with me, then I’m out. Men look really stupid when they accuse a woman of being clingy and then she goes no contact 🤣 Not all men are meant to drive Lamborghinis. Not all men are meant to date women who are high engageme… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 07:29 AM |
| 71 | I would choose meYour “friend” sucks. It’s kind of you that you don’t feel bitterness towards her but you’d be justified if you did and you don’t owe her forgiveness. You also don’t have to stay in her life just because you’re not mad. You will meet people who will be a true friend to you. You don’t have to stick around with people who have proven that they are not your friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 05:39 PM |
| 28 | Your preference of not dating single fathers, is valid.Plus, you can’t undo the bad habits/issues/bad values that the child’s mother and father have already instilled in them. You just have to live with a kid that you really don’t get any say over how they are raised. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 05:36 PM |
| 34 | If you say "I pay for my own dinner so that I don't owe the man anything" then you are admitting that you believe women are obligated to sleep with a man if he spends money on her.I don’t think it’s so much that women believe this- I think that men, culture, and patriarchy have given them this message. That, with the message of “be polite” and “be grateful” paint women into a corner where they are manipulated into thinking that we owe men things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 06:00 AM |
| 5 | So I have came to terms with my old pickme self and the type of men I shouldn't date, but I don't know what qualities to seek. What helped you curate the qualities you look for?Idk how old you are, but if you are in your early 20s or younger, get to know yourself. Have friends, try jobs, get an education, travel if you can, have experiences, talk about life with people you trust. When you know what your values are and what you want in life, it will be easier to find a partner who has the qualities you are looking for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 06:33 AM |
| 23 | Getting back out there and feeling the “pick me” rising, it’s been a day on the apps!!While you get your feet wet with dating again, don’t forget to prioritize self-care!! Talking to guys can be stressful and anxiety-inducing and it’s important to do things for yourself too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 02:37 AM |
| 101 | We should all uplift ourselves. I won’t be surprised if she’s scrolling through FDS and adopting it into her lifestyle.I’m sorry but I can’t get down with Selena. I think her continued use of alcohol after her kidney transplant-and the fact that she defends it- is irresponsible and sends a dangerous message to young people who may be going through the same thing. She also spent a lot of years milking her on/off relationship with fuckboy-in-chief JB for publicity and a lot of her content is very “pick me” themed. (Remember “when you’re ready come and get it?” Naw, sis.) She talks a good game in this clip and I re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 08:32 PM |
| 79 | This is very smartJust say no and skip all this. “Moving in together is the start of a financial relationship. I’m not ready to form a financial relationship with someone who hasn’t committed to marry me.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 12:49 AM |
| 27 | I don’t agree with the beginning. (she’s wasting her energy helping him) BUT, here it is…Guys caring more about what other guys think then their own feelings. But tOxIc MaScULiTy doesn’t eXiSt right?I am so tired of the message that being friends with exes is “mature” or somehow something that should be aspired to. Most of my exes didn’t treat me well, yet I have some obligation to maintain a positive relationship? Nah sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 05:03 PM |
| 6 | I have no wordsTime to free bleed all over his stuff ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 12:50 AM |
| 14 | I'm going to end it with my abusive bf, please pipe me upEvery day will be better when you leave. Every single day will be better. Your worst day away from him will still be better than your best day with him. Your new life is waiting for you, and it’s full of wonderful and happy things!! It’s waiting for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 08:54 PM |
| 67 | Why is popular culture trying to convince us that a dad bod is more attractive than THIS? (No shade at ppl who like that just saying it seems like a way to shift women’s standard of physical attractiveness, something they would never do to men’s)He appears to be utterly devoted to his wife and children, which manages to make him more attractive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 12:58 AM |
| 83 | Things That Perturb LVM 🤡-Loving cats in general -Being tall -Belonging to a church or faith community, even if you never invite them or expect them to join you -Liking period piece films -Enjoying women-centric literature -Scented candles -Enjoying Taylor Swift music | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 04:31 AM |
| 9 | A little wisdom that was passed down to me from my aunt, “Never have children with some one you are not married to.”A mortgage is literally a 30 year commitment. Why would anyone be willing to take out a marriage with someone, but not marry them? If marriage is “just a piece of paper,” then why not just get the piece of paper? If it’s so inconsequential, then surely any reasonable partner would indulge their SO that “piece of paper” if it really meant a lot to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 04:16 AM |
| 52 | Women with children are shamed for moving on after a failed relationship/divorce. (ie. Kourtney Kardashian and Megan Fox)No she broke up with Brian Whatshisface and now she’s dating MGK. Brian Whatshisface threw a fit on social media a while back and tried to create this narrative like she was some kind of bad mom and like he was super dad all because she was moving on with her life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 06:23 AM |
| 6 | Today on Manslators of FDS: Words Weaponized Against WomenI keep posting this but cats > dudes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 05:40 AM |
| 65 | Lord if this ain't some anti-women shit.“Thank you for walking out of his life,” “Thank you for hurting him” I’d do it again too 😈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:20 AM |
| 9 | Typical LVM: breaks up with girlfriend of 4 years because a medication decreased her sex drive, is now looking for advice on how to find hornier women 🙄 (bonus: commenter who suggests low sex drive means the ex-gf was “using” OP)Plot twist: she wasn’t into it because his low effort dumbassery killed any attraction she may have had for him, and now she’s meeting hotter dudes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:16 AM |
| 3 | And this is why we pay attention to when men text us. Block and delete!Lol I’m asleep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 11:52 PM |
| 258 | Never date men who use their shyness/ reserved personality as an excuse to be low effortEven very introverted men will make the first move if they’re really want to get to know you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:29 PM |
| 13 | I like good abs and I can not lie...No one EVER tells men to give unattractive women a chance. So I will never date someone I’m not attracted to again. I have a hot guys only policy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 04:41 PM |
| 310 | "empowerment" is such an empty wordLol the average man can’t even give it away for free, much less sell it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 01:43 AM |
| 39 | I'm sick of pop music!Megan Thee Stallion has some FDS-themed tracks on her latest album. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 11:14 PM |
| 74 | Scrotes are mad over the new Lola design. They are mad over a CARTOON bunny who is no longer sexualized!!Can you imagine being so pornsick that you get angry about the design of a cartoon rabbit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 10:52 PM |
| 5 | Stop Normalizing “Avoidant” Attachment Styles for MenUgh totally. To LVM/NVM, “independent” means “you won’t ever ask me for anything or impose on my time in any way but I can still ask you for everything.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 10:25 PM |
| 30 | Stop Normalizing “Avoidant” Attachment Styles for MenI was involved with a man with many features of avoidant attachment. For him, any need that I had made me “needy.” It was excruciating because no matter how small my emotional need was, it was asking too much of him. The relationship was completely oriented around his emotional needs. The kicker? He took pride in “not being needy” and “being independent” and thought looked down on my emotions with true disdain. He genuinely thought that this was healthy. Edit: fixed a word. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 02:00 PM |
| 136 | "Pretty Privilege" is just another proof guys don't care about the women they don't find attractiveEven pretty privilege isn’t a compliment- it’s a reminder that the minute you slip up, or get old, or stop being pretty, you will cease to be seen as worthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 03:19 AM |
| 26 | The misunderstanding Men have with FDSLol men think that we’re preaching what they preach over at trp and they’re freaked out because deep inside they know how shitty it would be to be on the receiving end of trp tactics | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 10:23 PM |
| 8 | Davina McCall everyone - Pickmeisha supremeBringing up men’s issues in a discussion about women’s issues is classic whataboutism. It’s a rhetorical fallacy that we need to call out. There is a time and place to talk about men’s issues but brining it up during a conversation about women’s issues ain’t it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:12 PM |
| 5 | As we all know. Dominique Sisley recently posted a wild article on FDS. Apparently she can’t take criticism either. This is what happens when you try to explain what FDS’s main purpose is.Lol coward | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 11:52 PM |
| 3 | Advice for a man who married a gorgeous woman with whom he has nothing in common. I loved her response.I hope she takes him for all he’s worth in the divorce | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:24 AM |
| 17 | Is dick worth it?Buy a vibrator and call it a day | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 06:09 AM |
| 3 | "Men don't care about your career, all we want is a woman who is young, reasonably attractive, and with a tolerable personality"Lol I’m already alone and spoiler alert: it doesn’t suck. Sometimes it’s pretty nice actually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 10:58 PM |
| 7 | The men (and women) in the comments are LOSING IT 😂👏👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 01:43 AM |
| 7 | Whenever I hear people say “sex work is real work” I assume they’re saying it from a place of non sex work privilegeI wish the conversation focused on protecting women from the kind of men who are looking to purchase sex- being anti- sex consumer. Women deserve better from feminism than having the consumption of their bodies celebrated and enabled in the name of a twisted misinterpretation of “sex positivity.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 09:04 PM |
| 21 | Why you ladies shouldn’t cohabitate with a man without a ring!YES. Cohabitation is the beginning of a financial relationship. Don’t start a financial relationship with a man who hasn’t committed to a legally recognized relationship with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 05:44 AM |
| 8 | Queen EnergySame. For a long time, I didn’t even have words to put down these boundaries. I like videos like this because they give me some language/phrases to use. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 02:46 AM |
| 7 | Got the proposal just shy of our 1 year anniversary! Cheers to never settling 🥂Cheers Queen! Beautiful ring and beautiful manicure. Congratulations and keep living the HVW life!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 03:47 AM |
| 7 | Where is the lie?Cats are sweet and precious animals with cute pointy ears, I don’t get why men are so threatened by that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 03:46 AM |
| 47 | Had anyone else noticed the difference in people's reactions to shia/FKA Twigs and Johnny Depp/ Amber?I was shocked that someone as amazing as Twigs would date Shia in the first place. I hope she wins her case, the descriptions of what she endured with him are sickening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 09:40 PM |
| 12 | Scraps are for PigeonsI love this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 10:01 PM |
| 10 | Men suck sometimes lolTime to find my next box lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 03:17 AM |
| 4 | How has she stayed for 4 years of this... NVM. I have no words.This is technically car theft, girl should be calling the cops and getting her ride back | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 07:13 AM |
| 19 | Thank you to the queen who called me out on another sub! You’ve helped change my life.Welcome, queen!!! You are so valuable, and don’t your forget it! We’re all on a journey here to level up. You’ll find lots of resources here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 06:01 AM |
| 22 | TeeheeCats will never ask you for a PS5. Just saying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 03:57 AM |
| 15 | FDS has ruined my lifeNunnery party!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 12:53 AM |
| 41 | This is grossTeam Thor, the HVM of Marvel | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 05:35 PM |
| 2 | What are some good FDS-positive female singers and songs?“Goodbye Earl” by the Dixie Chicks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 05:03 AM |
| 17 | 😂Lol he gonna take you to the fire station | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 04:20 AM |
| 3 | Reposted to adhere to rules: woman gets proposed to by man drawing ring on her. “We” find the same ring 7 mo later in a thrift shop. Glad you got picked!I’m sure they both think this is incredibly bohemian/twee/sweet. (I don’t.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 05:25 AM |
| 29 | While this advice is well intentioned, it misses how women have to vet men ruthlessly because they are users and abusers. This is what pickmes think when they are chasing a man and being “equal” in the relationship. Don’t fall for it ladies.As if men aren’t perfectly willing to create and use fear as a way to control the dynamic of a relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 05:21 AM |
| 69 | Can We Tell The Truth About Plastic Surgery?I wish Bella Hadid would just fess up about having had some work done. It’s so glaringly obvious and it’s honestly insulting to the intelligence of viewers for her and her team to insist that she just “finished puberty” or whatever bullshit excuse she’s peddling these days. It’s so harmful for the fashion/beauty/entertainment industry to suggest that what those kinds of looks are at all aspirational when they can only be attained by surgeons. Even Kylie has come clean about the work she’s had do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 05:04 AM |
| 33 | When he says “You will never do better than me.”“Lol I’ll take my chances,” is a good potential response. I used to worry that I’d never be able to replace my exes with quality men. But then I realized, it’s very unusual to be able to do something once but never be able to do it again. Ladies, if you got a hot guy once, you’re capable of getting another one. If you got a well-off guy once, you can do it again. If you’ve leveled up before, you can do it again. All of these dudes are replaceable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 08:10 PM |
| 25 | Women don't get more emotional support than menOr accused of using tears to guilt and manipulate others. I’m so tired of being afraid that I will have a genuine emotional reaction that will be misrepresented as a manipulative ploy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 09:19 PM |
| 3 | I use to be a Pickmeisha and I kind of hate myself. But so glad I found this sub!!!We’ve all been there. It’s ok- you are growing and evolving and learning from your past and these are good things! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 08:06 PM |
| 29 | Why don’t men make attempts to look better??Unrealistic view of their own attractiveness and/or low self esteem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 03:55 AM |
| 9 | What are your favorite things about being single?I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, in my home. I don’t have to worry about or manage someone else’s money problems. I don’t have to worry about being judged by a partner. I don’t have to consult a partner’s opinion on anything. I can have all the cutesy, feminine stuff I want. I can spend my money on nice things for myself and not someone else. I don’t have to tiptoe around his moods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 03:52 AM |
| 5 | FDS ladies, how are you going to make sure your future/current son is a HVMHold him accountable in age- appropriate ways. Discipline him in age-appropriate ways. Make sure he has other women in his life that love him, that he can learn from, that he can learn to empathize with. Make sure he has a good relationship with his father, and that his father is a HVM. Limit video games and make him go outside sometimes. Require hygiene. Require that he either go to college OR, if he is not going to college, that he has full time employment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 03:29 AM |
| 6 | Is it LV behavior to ask a guy for his Instagram before meeting up?I had a guy offer me his insta before we met up and it was a nice way to peek into his social media presence and get a sense of who he is (or who he presents himself as, anyway). I thought it was a nice gesture, and he took the first step by making the offer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 11:02 PM |
| 31 | Why do men think stuff like this is going to make us want them? 🙄I was totally just thinking that. Her skirt is super cute | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 12:40 AM |
| 7 | Finally left my LVM bfYour life is about to get a lot better. Block block block him, take some time to pamper yourself, and heal. The hardest step is the first one out the door. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 04:47 AM |
| 3 | Can a man be both HV and an abuser?Nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 05:46 AM |
| 11 | Your timeline is non-negotiable.This is a nice step in the right direction but Miley is pretty chaotic and I don’t think she’s a great source of advice to other women. Although I feel compelled to thank her for putting Liam Hemsworth back on the market. One in a million chances isn’t zero chances ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 05:42 AM |
| 9 | Your timeline is non-negotiable.Chris Hemsworth is the only reason I watch those MCU movies. Thirst trap Thor ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 05:37 AM |
| 42 | Famous women who left LVMs and thrived (examples)Literally anyone who’s ever dated John Mayer is better off after dumping him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 05:35 AM |
| 3 | Guy told me to hit him up when I’m singleIf he approaches you again, go for it, I guess? Seems like a situation where you should maybe proceed with caution. I know that if the roles were reversed and a dude did this to me, I’d be really offended. Edit: words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 02:14 AM |
| 10 | Age 35 Isn’t a Fertility Cliff. Why Do We Think It Is?Almost every woman in my family has had a baby late into their 30s or into their early 40s. I meet plenty of women who are in their 40s, think they can’t have babies anymore, drop their birth control, and end up with an unplanned pregnancy. Certainly there are some women who struggle with fertility in their 30s but the whole “no eggs after 35” is bs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 02:29 AM |
| 14 | I’d rather grow old and alone with 30 cars than to know my husband settled for me.And WE’RE the gold diggers? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 03:01 AM |
| 378 | This 55 year old man has aged like fine wine. Notice him choosing an age appropriate partner. One with grey hair and not even botox?HVM green flag: Keanu didn’t jump into a new relationship right away when his last partner died. He really took time to mourn her and make sure he was in the right space before pursuing a new relationship, at least in the public eye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 05:57 PM |
| 10 | How do I breakup with my boyfriend?Sometimes it’s hard to find the right language to break up. Try something like: I no longer want to be in a relationship with you. Please respect my space.” Or “This relationship isn’t working for me and I no longer want to date you or be in a relationship with you. Wishing you the best going forward.” He may demand more explanations but you don’t owe him further explanation. You do not have to justify your decisions. You might fee shitty in the short term but you will feel better in the long te… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 06:13 AM |
| 10 | Some Scrote set up an OnlyFans account for me using my email that I posted on a Tutoring Service flyerThis is identity theft and sexual harassment. Call the cops | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 02:06 AM |
| 3 | Just say you are broke and go. 🥱Lol yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 02:08 PM |
| 5 | My ex-LVM’s mother keeps contacting meNot to sound mean, but if she was that amazing of a person, couldn’t she have raised a better man? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 11:13 PM |
| 10 | Name a film you used to love but now makes you cringe because of the glaring toxicity it's encouraging or trying to market as drama/romance.Omg. Boys Over Flowers is so cringe. So much talent, so much bad writing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 11:12 PM |
| 27 | Never stop verifying and being preparedMore like Megan Thee Queen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 10:32 PM |
| 2 | Okay... let’s define an insecure man. How do you know?If you’re good at anything, get attention for anything you do, he will rip you down and try to diminish your sparkle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 04:19 AM |
| 7 | What originally attracted you to your LVM/NVM ex?My LVM is incredibly and prodigiously talented pianist. I sing in choirs, so we had music as a common interest. It’s like he sold his soul to the devil for musical genius in exchange for the ability to empathize or any shred of self awareness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 04:12 AM |
| 11 | This couple (man is a senator in México) the husband says in a IG live video: "you are showing too much leg" I translate the rest in commentsMisogyny is rampant in Latin America. Sorry, but it’s true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 03:44 AM |
| 2 | What do we think about common-law relationships/marriages vs. traditional marriage? I would like to hear your opinions and stories if you have any ✨Word | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 03:42 AM |
| 8 | What do we think about common-law relationships/marriages vs. traditional marriage? I would like to hear your opinions and stories if you have any ✨If you’re legally married, you get all his stuff when he dies and get to decide whether to keep him on life support or not. If you aren’t legally married, you may not have legal protections, even with in a common law situation. Your awful MIL or other shitty next-of-kin can kick you out of the house (if you aren’t a co-owner on the deed) and take much of the life you have built together. The next-of-kin also makes all the calls on how the body is handled after death. Make sure you’re the next-of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 03:41 AM |
| 22 | Thanks to FDS I can't watch romcoms without picking them apartWatch the “taking out the trash” scene again. She stays in Tony’s orbit and tolerates his hubris and play boy ways until he finally “picks” her. She does whatever he tells her to do in the first film and it’s portrayed as something she does out of love. He makes her deal with his one night stands, forgets her birthday, etc. I always felt like their romance was poorly written because at no point does he come to really demonstrate that he respects her. Also full disclosure, I’m just not an Iron Ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:22 AM |
| 19 | Thanks to FDS I can't watch romcoms without picking them apartI heard she was coming back for Thor: Love & Thunder! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 05:46 AM |
| 6 | What is the Ultimate LVM name?Lol yes to both! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 05:44 AM |
| 69 | Thanks to FDS I can't watch romcoms without picking them apartThor is not a rom-com but it has some surprisingly strong FDS points: -Jane Foster has a career that she is passionate about and extremely dedicated to. She is financially independent and doing exciting things with her career. -Thor always treats Jane, Darcy, his mom, and Lady Sif with kindness and respect. He later extends this to Valkyrie in Ragnarok and End Game. -When Jane calls Thor out on his unacceptable behavior, he doesn’t try to gaslight her, he accepts the criticism and actually takes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:06 AM |
| 9 | Red flag! Get your red flag here!I’d rather get visited by the Cat in the Hat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 07:00 AM |
| 13 | Trigger warning for extreme cringe lmao someone Is mad their ex wife moved on and is in love.Megan deserves better than Bryan Whatshisface | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 05:56 AM |
| 15 | Needing space and quiet when ‘going through something.’ LVM or just normal behavior?Nope. It’s a control tactic. It allows him to be the victim and frame the situation as you being needy if you have any expectations of him at this time. And then he gets to come back and have you tiptoe all around him and his precious fee-fees. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 09:12 PM |
| 20 | How To Be A HVW When You're BROKE?Realistic expectations! 10k a month is a LOT of money. I live in an expensive zip code in a midsized coastal city and I don’t need that much to be financially independent, or happy. Start with an achievable goal, and THEN work your way to 10k a month :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 03:00 AM |
| 1 | Height is a flaw “in the eyes of women.” Nah, being a scrote who speaks for all of us does that. 🙄😓Word. I gave a man who was shorter than me a chance and he was such a jerk about it. I will never again date a man who is shorter than me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 05:15 AM |
| 11 | “Ask your other peers what they make — especially your male ones.”This is one of the few benefits of working in education- the salaries are negotiated by the union and are published publically, so I know exactly what all of my colleagues make. Starting pay is the same for everyone and the way to move along the pay scale is not dependent on how much your boss likes you. The money is transparent. Every year they even distribute a list of each employee and how much they made, so I can look up individual employees if I want to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 04:47 AM |
| 18 | What Living With a LVM Looks LikeSame. It also means he’s not using it to iron his clothes :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 05:04 AM |
| 10 | I just did 20 minutes on the treadmill!Glad you posted! It’s really uplifting to hear about self-care and investing in yourself. Queen energy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 08:23 PM |
| 24 | Scrote wants his girlfriend to fulfill his perverted fantasy but gets upset at the thought of her wanting him to change 🤦🏻♀️Lol he had it coming | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 08:18 PM |
| 29 | Dating should NOT be your goal!I read it as pick-me-sha but that’s just me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 07:07 PM |
| 3 | Just saw this on TwitterWt actual f wow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 04:24 AM |
| 41 | She literally mothered and fathered him... this cant be real 💀It started off all like “I found him alone outside, I took him in, cleaned him off, fed him...” made it sound like she was adopting a puppy or a stray cat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 05:23 AM |
| 263 | To you who message me warning about FDSYou’re better off single than with a man who will make you miserable and ruin your finances | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 05:13 PM |
| 127 | Grimes’ baby father is wildin’ on the Internet and she just came to collect him. Embarrassing.I don’t get these two. They seem like a celebrity crack pairing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 04:45 AM |
| 17 | YOUNG COLLEGE GIRL NEEDING ADVICE: How to start dating (never had a real thing before) without falling into PickMe traps?Please don’t fall into the trap of letting people convince you that you are selfish for having needs or when your feelings are hurt. Be selfish. Be self preserving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 08:05 PM |
| 8 | What to consider when consciously deciding on your standards and boundaries?-Must have a grownup job -No addiction issues -Decent finances. Debt is fine if it is manageable and is “good debt” like a student loan or business loan or car payment. Hard pass if it’s frivolous debt like motorcycles, or the result of living beyond his means. -No single dads. -No exes who are still in his life in any significant way, especially as “friends.” -Must have a good relationship with his mother and father. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 05:01 AM |
| 30 | Man child throws fit when GF doesn’t want him to move in with herLol I guess leeches like to lurk too :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 04:45 AM |
| 75 | Man child throws fit when GF doesn’t want him to move in with herWhat a leech | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 03:53 AM |
| 4 | Getting real tired of my pickme friends.Your friends deserve waaaay better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 03:47 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on engagement etiquette?Never heard of getting the dude an engagement gift. I was engaged to a LVM for a while (breaking up with him was the best decision I ever made) and there was no expectation that I would get him an engagement gift. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 08:55 AM |
| 11 | MY fiance “jokingly” said he wants to marry MY bestfriendI bet there are other red flags with this guy Search your heart, you know it to be true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 08:12 AM |
| 6 | Men want women to EAT but also stay ‘tiny.’ How Does that work?But don’t be too skinny because men love curves! I’m tall and was very slim in my early-mid twenties and I heard this sort of comment from men. You can’t win for losing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 08:09 AM |
| 11 | Recovering Pickmeisha in need of advice. How do I react when the bill arrives at the end of a date?Keep chatting and smiling, keep the conversation going. Pretend you didn’t see the waiter bring it over. I’ve been shocked how well this has worked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 07:59 AM |
| 111 | This isn't even funny, it really says a lot.Will consented to, and probably requested, that they have an open marriage. So now that a woman finally showed a man what it’s like to be on the receiving end of that, the dudes shower him with sympathy? Urgh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 01:07 AM |
| 22 | Rich Man-child Impregnates Beautiful Harvard Grad, Calls off Engagement, Marries Princess whose Father has Epstein ConnectionDara looks like she’s going to be ok. Plus, she’s in a prime position to troll the royals. A princess is literally her child’s stepmother. She can make their lives very, very difficult if she wanted to. If he was smart, he’d be bending over backwards to keep her happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 07:35 AM |
| 21 | Women can’t even be left alone when taking remote exams .....🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 07:28 AM |
| 212 | Pretty much all of the comments were telling her she needs to COmMuNiCaTeIt’s so refreshing to see her stand by her choice with conviction. I feel like I should get her last paragraph embroidered on a pillow or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 09:00 AM |
| 15 | I’m a bi woman, and a pickme just violated meCall her out on that bullshit and report her to Tinder. You came to the date in good faith and she was not upfront with her motives. The fact that she had a man there and did not tell you about it created a potentially dangerous situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 05:00 PM |
| 1 | The sad truth: women’s lives often get ruined by men while they walk away unscathed.It’s super hypocritical that the feminist establishment at the time (LibFems) sided with BC at the time and slut shamed ML so hard. A better man and boss would have fired an intern who flashed her thong at him. He had all the power in that situation and used her immaturity against her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 04:49 PM |
| 3 | Reporting a teacherSubmit a written complaint to the principal and the head of HR at the district office. Don’t downplay or mince words. Insinuate that you are on the verge of lawyering up or contacting the authorities, and be willing to do this if push comes to shove. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 01:37 AM |
| 23 | There is nothing okay about thisShe’s literally volunteering to be a free babysitter at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 05:55 AM |
| 19 | What does this even mean? I can't figure out how either "I saw The Avengers in a theater" or "I like watching Friends" makes a woman less "girly," intellectual, or attractive.What kind of monster would forbid his girlfriend from watching Thor be handsome and charming for a few hours? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 04:52 AM |
| 15 | More women like me are choosing to be childfree. Is this the age of opting out?I’d love to have a family and children. I’m not willing to do that with a man who is fat/unattractive, unintelligent, will make me miserable or ruin my finances. That’s like 90% of dudes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 04:20 AM |
| 11 | Has anyone ever met a pickmeisha that's disguised as an HVW?Do not, do not, do NOT trust this woman. She may someday be able to grow but it’s not your job to help her with this. People like this need to be held at arm’s length. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 04:32 AM |
| 48 | Yes. Yes. Yes.Marissa nailed it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 04:17 AM |
| 55 | Men talking about bumble: “Women have to send an interesting first message that isn’t just Hey or What’s up, you should also mention something in our profile and make it interesting.” Men sending first message on Tinder/Hinge: “Hey”I purposely start a conversation with “hi” to see if the dude is at all motivated to talk to me. I’m really good at smalltalk and I know how to carry a conversation. I intentionally don’t put a lot of effort into a chat right away because I want HIM to show interest and make an effort to carry a conversation before I invest any effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 02:43 AM |
| 69 | Peak LVM behavior? Making fun of your pregnant wife’s LAUGH on a podcast that millions of people can listen to.Chris Pratt is worst Hollywood Chris. Team Hemsworth. Edit: a few words | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 03:22 AM |
| 97 | Amy Cooper, the woman from the Central Park birdwatching incident, also happens to be a giant pickme that paid her now ex $65,000 to leave his wifeHe’s not even hot All that effort for an ugly dude?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 04:48 PM |
| 40 | When the foul stench of desperation isn’t enough to attract a manI haaaate that show | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 07:21 AM |
| 16 | Pickmeishas can ruin your lifeThere was a great podcast on this that was reposted on Battle Tactics for Your Sexist Workplace. It was called “Himpathy.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 02:18 AM |
| 30 | One of my old friends shared this on facebook and tagged her husband... can't imagine 1. knowing anyone this irresponsible 2. thinking that this is cute/funny or 3. that she'd actually air her problems with him publicly like this......T R I G G E R E D | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 01:52 AM |
| 20 | Don't let anyone ever pressure you into saying yes to something you do not wantYES. Raise a son who actually talks to his girlfriend about marriage before trying to force her into accepting a proposal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 06:09 AM |
| 17 | FDS Veterans to Recovering Pickmeisha’s 😂Disney over here spitting realness | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 05:46 AM |
| 7 | 55 year old men on OLDThank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 03:14 AM |
| 4 | 55 year old men on OLDIdk why this subreddit isn’t here anymore It was dedicated to men hitting the wall | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 02:26 AM |
| 46 | 55 year old men on OLDHe played himself, r/menofthewall indeed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 01:44 AM |
| 23 | OP’s boyfriend manipulated her into thinking she had body odor, because his dad thought him how to neg womenI got the douche chills | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 06:37 AM |
| 7 | Hating misogynistic behavior = / = hating menLord have mercy on her poor pickme soul May she come to see the light | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 07:00 AM |
| 4 | Avoidant attachment style - what's helped me and what I've been doingThanks for taking the time to reply to my comment :) I’m sure my ex didn’t want to make a push/pull dynamic, but I’m not sure he was fully aware of how his attachment was influencing his decisions. It sounds like you’re working on becoming self aware and I want to commend you for that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 06:38 AM |
| 2 | Avoidant attachment style - what's helped me and what I've been doingAt no point do I suggest that OP has done anything or that she is at fault for her attachment. At no point do I implicate anything she personally has done in my comment. My comment focuses on my experiences and what she might be able to glean from them, and in no way attacks her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 06:23 AM |
| 2 | Avoidant attachment style - what's helped me and what I've been doingBut where is the shaming/attack on OP? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 06:07 AM |
| 11 | Avoidant attachment style - what's helped me and what I've been doingMy avoidant partner was unable to see beyond his attachment issues to understand how his behavior impacted our relationship. My goal in my comment was to provide perspective on what it’s like to be in a relationship with an avoidant, rather than to give advice. Where is the shaming? I discussed my own experiences and how they made me feel. At no point do I attack OP. Edit: added first paragraph. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 05:55 AM |
| 24 | A key reason why FDS is not comparable to incels/TRPIncels want to subjugate women, all women, everywhere, even the ones who treat them well. FDS just wants the men who don’t treat us well to just leave us alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 04:04 AM |
| 2 | .....Pickmeishas evolvingIf she has to go to these lengths, she should dump him, this is a lot of work | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 03:26 AM |
| 21 | My old self deserves to be the final boss of pickmeishas.But you’re out of that relationship so you can celebrate that :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 06:03 AM |
| 16 | I need realistic advice - 34 year old forever GF about to be potentially single - how do I tackle this?This sounds terrible, but... Play nice until the lockdown orders lift and then leave as soon as you can. Use this time to make plans in your mind on how to execute this. Plan your escape. He’s proven to you how he will behave. You deserve better. It sounds duplicitous and selfish but I’ve learned that “don’t be selfish” is the most crippling lie I’ve ever been told. Be selfish. Be safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 06:06 AM |
| 5 | Do you date when youre not your ideal weight ?I was very slim in my early 20s and it didn’t increase the number of men who wanted to date me or who actually wanted commitment. I’ve put on some weight since then and I feel like I attract a wider swath of guys. Of these, still very few are interested in commitment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 08:36 PM |
| 7 | I would just leave the sheets and himDoes he know about cold water? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 04:14 AM |
| 67 | I hope this hurts a man's feelings 😂😂I have a hot dudes only policy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 07:17 AM |
| 10 | Guy lies about his height. Instead of coming clean, he gaslights his girlfriend to try and get her to believe he’s taller than he is. 🤡This is what I like about being a tall woman (also 5’8)... I know what 6’0 really looks like. If a dude says he’s 5’11 and he’s lying and he’s really 5’9, I will know lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 04:07 AM |
| 14 | What you have to answer when you hear “I’m not ready for a relationship?” Or “I want no strings attached”?“That’s fine, but that’s not what I’m looking for. Best of luck.” Polite exit. If he texts you back, stick to your guns. If he texts back and presses again, block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 05:53 PM |
| 10 | What is the worst LVM you've subjected yourself toThe same guy: -Dumped me because he wanted to focus on his career. I was heartbroken but I did well by not calling him or talking to him after the breakup. A few months later he intentionally got involved with a performance I was participating in, without telling me. I found out from a friend of mine. A few days before the event he got back in touch with me. Used the event to start to get close to me again. -Dumped me a second time and accused me of being manipulative for asking him if he was su… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 09:48 PM |
| 9 | Nice advice from a webtoon 😂And he won’t be handsome forever | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 12:20 AM |
| 7 | Where’s the lie?Feeding your cheating husband to a tiger is a pretty baller move | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 05:01 AM |
| 6 | Perfect example of a “50/50” relationshipLol she’s clearly trying to kill him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 07:17 AM |
| 12 | 'that's just the way it is because of genes/evolution.'It’s demoralizing to go through the world wondering if men are only polite to you because they’re having sexual thoughts about you. It makes a person really, really paranoid and insecure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 07:28 AM |
| 13 | Never be like the third girlWhy doesn’t the black woman get clothes tho? :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 07:16 AM |
| 16 | Cool girl shit on female dominated subsI know many women who think it is “mature” to be friends with your ex, and “petty” to not make an effort. I always thought I was immature and petty for having a hard time being even minimally friendly with exes. I don’t even try now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 05:23 AM |
| 10 | Cool girl shit on female dominated subsNo homoerotic subtext there at all /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 05:21 AM |
| 13 | How do I respond to my friends blaming me for expecting the guy to pay?“My time is valuable and it’s a curtesy to show that they value my time.” I’ve stopped volunteering to pay and omg just that one change has changed my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 03:33 PM |
| 7 | Simone Biles, the Greatest Gymnast in Human History, Feels Constantly Judged on Her Appearance Due to Toxic Misogynistic Patriarchy. #NoCompetitionAll hail the queen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 12:34 AM |
| 37 | This made me laugh.If men won’t give chubby, plain women a chance, then I’m not giving short men a chance. The end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 03:26 PM |
| 52 | This queen just took out the trashHe looks like the kind of guy who could hook her up with drugs. I’m glad she kicked him to the curb. She deserves to be with people who are supportive of her recovery and her career and loves her authentic self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 05:07 AM |
| 37 | Why Doesn’t FDS Focus on Improving Physical Appearance? Do Looks Matter For Attracting a High Value Man?God help us if Emma is a 4 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 05:52 AM |
| 1 | I just got used by a friend I was in love with. He is now dating a friend of mine who is way more educated then I am, supermodel hot, and more accomplished. I’m going crazyNeither of these people are you friends. Cut them out of your life and go to therapy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/19 11:40 PM |
| 2 | Gender EuphoriaPutting on makeup and a thoughtful outfit that makes me feel good, with jewelry. Makes me feel confident and ready to take on the world. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 04:24 AM |
| 2 | Homeschooling“I have multiple degrees in education” is literally bringing it up but ok. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 03:54 AM |
| 1 | HomeschoolingIdk, why don’t you stop being a upping humblebragger? You’re just mad that I made a comment you didn’t like and then called you out when you responded with a condescending attitude. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 03:43 AM |
| 1 | HomeschoolingAnd yet you feel the need to remind me that you have ~multiple degrees~ in education when I point out in my comment what you literally just said- that lots of people don’t have the training or expectations to do it well. Your flippant “I have multiple degrees in education” comment makes you look like a one-upper- especially considering that YOU are the one soliciting advice . You’re not the only person here who has a couple of advanced degrees in education. I bet there’s a lot of us here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 03:24 AM |
| 1 | HomeschoolingLol so why don’t you use your own knowledge if you have ~so many~ degrees in education? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 03:09 AM |
| 1 | HomeschoolingIf you have so many degrees in education, why did you even solicit advice about this? Because you clearly know better, right? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 02:53 AM |
| 0 | HomeschoolingYay, you’re in the minority of homeschool parents. Humblebrag much? You’re not the only person in this thread with multiple degrees in education. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 02:07 AM |
| 4 | HomeschoolingAs an educator, thank you for having the humility and self awareness to say this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 12:40 AM |
| 2 | HomeschoolingI work at a school (not a teacher but in another credentialed position). I think a lot of parents think that they can homeschool their kids but I think they underestimate the amount of work and time it takes. Also, credentialed teachers actually have a lot of training and the average parent just does not. Some homeschool kids get excellent educations but the dirty little secret is that many homeschooled students do not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 12:38 AM |
| 2 | CMV: It's a bigger red flag if a girl's ex's have cheated ON her, than if she has cheated on her ex's.The premise here is bordering on victim blaming. You’re basically assuming that if a woman gets cheated on, it’s her fault on some level. That excuses the dude from his choice to step out on the relationship, rather than communicate honestly about his needs or end the relationship. If someone is having problems in their relationship, they need to speak up about it and work to resolve it or just break up. It says a lot about a man’s maturity if he chooses to cheat rather than choosing to work on … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/19 11:30 PM |
| 3 | Women’s behavior in the sexual market is similar to men’s behavior in the job marketOP, it’s clear that you don’t really understand women. A useful exercise for you would be practice talking to them, and when they tell you something, believe them and take them seriously. Practice empathy for then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/19 07:04 PM |
| 1 | A few ways to enhance your looks & femininityPress-on nails and "tan-touring" can get really trashy-looking really quickly, and they're no substitute for better hygiene. If your nails are brittle, a fortifying nail polish is a way better long term solution. As for "tan-touring"... ew. Just no. Sorry not sorry. Do some real skin care instead- gentle cleanser, toner, moisturizer, sunscreen. If your skin looks great, it will improve your whole look and you'll find that you need much less makeup. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 01:17 AM |
| 1 | Favourite podcasts?Y'all might like Problematic Women. They're on a bit of a hiatus right now due to the untimely death of one of their producer but they promise they'll be back. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 12:12 AM |
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