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His solution for the misogynistic terrorism and murders perpetrated by incels is "enforced monogamy" aka sex slavery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 05:19 PM
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the loveliest brown eyes I've ever seen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 09:46 PM
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It's like he wants to own, possess a powerful woman. Or some sense of superiority or ego, that they know best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:20 AM
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Part 1 is called Birth of the Manosphere. I can't remember what part 2 is called, but it should be in sequence!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:52 PM
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Men do not understand what boundaries are. Here, Man thinks a boundary is something he is entitled to get from his partner. No, a boundary is the line you draw for the behavior you are willing to accept. It does not extend to requiring specific behavior from a partner. That is more like a standard. Man is framing his standards as boundaries in order to manipulate his partner into fulfilling them - her own boundaries be damned. This is how emotional abuse starts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:13 PM
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What did you think of the ending? I don't want to spoil it for anyone else so I'll be vague. I thought it was beautifully written but at the same time I wanted to throw my book at the wall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:26 PM
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Some woman on there is shiitting up the comments with shit like "not sending nudes is inhibiting the expression of my sexuality" 🤡 and implying that the OP's advice was puritanical and not protective 🤡. Make it make sense. Her sexuality is being objectified? Okay. 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:49 PM
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Take him up on his offer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:56 PM
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YES isn't it the best? So glad my hints worked! 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:12 PM
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There's a great little subreddit that I feel targets this sort of fashion. I don't want to violate the rules by naming it so I hope it's okay to bust out some blatant synonyms. It's called something like AncientCroneStyle. I hope that's enough for you to be able to find it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 03:32 PM
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Don't insult high voltage towers like that lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:52 PM
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Imagine passively abusing your child by neglecting its soiled diaper and letting them sit in shit to manipulate your life partner into performing free labor for you. Can you? I really can't imagine having so little empathy or behaving so selfishly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:53 PM
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You're not the only one! 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 06:25 PM
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I'm so sorry 💜 I too struggle with anxiety/depression/CPTSD symptoms and it sounds so frustrating and dismissive to be diagnosed with BPD--the social and medical stigma attached, and the treatment plans from what I know are very different. It's definitely been a worry of mine. I hope you can find a trauma specialist who can actually help you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:11 AM
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BPD is 100% weaponized as a tool of misogyny to invalidate and victim blame women. Because of the misogynistic lens through which it is viewed, I think BPD is overdiagnosed in women, where usually CPTSD would be a more appropriate diagnosis, and underdiagnosed in men. My ex-LVM has BPD (he self-diagnosed after our relationship). It is a very very real thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:23 PM
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Don't let the bastards grind you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 06:44 PM
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I really relate to your descriptions of dealing with stress/uncertainty. Unwanted weight loss, palpitations, period weirdness. However, I was being emotionally abused by my boyfriend of seven years. That was the primary cause of those feelings, though I didn't fully realize that until I'd already ended the relationship. I tried to mask those feelings behind wanting to escalate our relationship further, wanting to move in and buy a home together and marry, in order to make those feelings my fault…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 06:23 PM
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Then, it's framed as men being 'vulnerable' and women are admonished for 'punishing' men for 'showing emotions.' Pure DARVO, employing the weapons of abusers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:55 PM
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Men already have functional access to a so-called "financial abortion," it's called getting a fuckin vasectomy BEFORE you spray around your sperm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:00 PM
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This is a great post/discussion but ya gotta hide the subreddit name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:57 PM
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I was wondering the same, there is a stickied post on the subreddit that explains a bit. Basically the issue was blatant karma farming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:54 PM
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Please put a trigger warning on this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:46 PM
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If you're open to it, maybe look into fancy rats? They're fantastic pets, very affectionate and smart. Unfortunately their lifespans are so tragically short, 1.5 - 2 years. 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 08:41 PM
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🙌 Pure wisdom!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:26 PM
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Oops, he said the quiet part out loud. 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:19 PM
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Yes! I escaped this too. As a girl, I just never had fantasies about babies or a dream wedding. I was a major tomboy, in part because my (immediate) family devalues femininity. I had a small epiphany a few weeks back, that I can most likely attribute this lack of societal grooming sticking to me, to my parents' emotional neglect. You know how sometimes you laugh so hard you cry? It was like I didn't have the capacity to cry as much as that needed, so all I could do was laugh this hollow, half-hy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:34 PM
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Oh no no, don't you know? That means women don't actually have real mental health problems, we're faking it for male attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:17 PM
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If you don't, who's gonna?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:44 PM
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Her humanity, perhaps? 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:12 AM
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FDS has been like coming out of the cave and seeing feminism in all its 3D technicolor glory. What I saw before was merely its shadow playing on the wall. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 04:07 PM
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If I had been married like I so badly wanted to be, I would owe him alimony rn. 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 04:35 AM
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Cosigning the financial independence sub advice! There are also some FIRE subs for women, if you look around (don't want to break the rules by linking to them.) If you're interested in investing for retirement, look into tax advantaged accounts like a 401k or an IRA. 401ks are offered by an employer, typically offered with some kind of match aka free money! The money is taken from your paycheck pretax, but you'll pay taxes when you take the money as income in retirement. IRAs you can create on y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:56 AM
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🤢🤢 girl I am EATING lmao!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 06:08 PM
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Glad we're in agreement on this! My cat is definitely one of the lovey-dovey ones. I think what's telling is a man's relationship to a cat. If he loves having a cat because they're low maintenance, red flag. If he hates cats because he can't control them, or they don't love him unconditionally, red flag. Like you and some other folks on this post have said, their relationship to any pet likely has some indicators, red flags or green flags, but given the social femininization of cats (the "dogs a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:17 PM
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you can go on vacation for a few days and just leave a bowl of food and water for a cat and it should be fine. This is neglect. All I am addressing is the fact that cat neglect is normalized and it should not be. It is neglect to leave your animals unattended for days at a time. Neglecting a pet that you are sole caretaker for is terrible (neglect = passive abuse). Yes they can still shit in the box. But a litter box needs to be cleaned daily, at bare minimum! And that's not getting into that ye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:41 PM
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I mean, you can ignore a cat for days just like you can ignore a dog for days. Which is to say, you definitely should do neither of those things, because both are neglect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:26 PM
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YES. Men talk more, they won't shut up. Men nag, for sex, for chores, for emotional labor, for your body to look a certain way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 09:13 PM
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Litchrully, yes. Is there any derogatory stereotype of women that ISN'T projection? I honestly can't think of any!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 08:46 PM
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Fucking eyebrows. I'm pretty sure the big eyebrow trends trickled into mainstream makeup culture from drag make up looks, drag basically being a parody of femininity/performance of hyperfemininity. And so now we feel inadequate for not performing femininity to the level of drag. Woooooohooo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 10:24 PM
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Mom doesn't want to rock the boat. Daughter doesn't want to rock the boat. Unfortunately they're in a boat with a fucking child grooming POS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 07:05 PM
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The fact that he called her prudish over this gave away his game. Jfc, disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:39 PM
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Just want to say hiiii to all the women lurking here without subscribing 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:12 PM
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Oh God that's so fucked up. I had similar suspicions about my ex but no proof. Though, he once told me that he loved fucking white women the most and it turned him on because it was like revenge against the white man for colonialism. (He called himself a feminist.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:00 AM
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We have each other now 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:34 PM
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Do you have any recommendations for feminist animes? Do any even exist? lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:11 PM
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👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:19 PM
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Okay here goes. In my terrible 7.5 year relationship, not once did I see my ex brush his teeth. I was soooo deep in denial I swear I would have become a Morlock if I stayed any longer. Doesn't it feel good being on the other side?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:58 PM
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She posted under / u / throwRAgerri if you look her up you can read the post still. I am so terrified for this woman, I hope she posts updates so we know she hasn't been harmed. Edit: I don't want to tag her because it looks like she's been overwhelmed to the response to her post. I don't blame her, it's an overwhelming thing to be confronted with the truth that your SO is hurting you when you're in denial. Also relationship_advice deletes posts that get too popular now, for some reason?! Its wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:24 PM
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This book is required reading!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 01:25 AM
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actual nightmare situation. Wow. wow. I'm so sorry he did that to you, and I'm so glad you made it out (of the desert and the relationship).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:14 PM
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This poor girl is dating a fucking SCP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:02 PM
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This is unimaginably horrifying. How shit like this isn't considered a hate crime against women I don't understand. This happened to her because she was a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:56 AM
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Please get out as safely as you can. Even he admits you deserve better. He sounds volatile, and scary. It sounds like the jekll and hyde routine stopped working so now he's turning up the manipulation for your pity, to make you feel too bad for him and how badly he feels about how he's hurt you to leave him. You are not responsible for his feelings. You deserve better than this. Edit: you should read Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. There's a link to a pdf here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:32 AM
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Hey why are you telling on me like this. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 07:06 PM
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I hope she never speaks to him again. Divorce, immediately, all comms through the lawyer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:42 PM
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I believe I'd seen FDS bashing on other subreddits, but what really got me to start seriously reading FDS was searching for discussions on Lundy Bancroft's Why Does He Do That and finding multiple discussions here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:15 PM
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This comment has LAYERS 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 12:51 PM
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Right I hate it so much too! There's no such thing as dadbods! Fathers' bodies do not change when they become parents! They're just taking their own laziness and refusal to care for their own damn selves and wrapping it up in feminist-adjacent language to both shield it from criticism and elevate it. Binge drinking?? Fuck off outta here. BEGONE DADBODS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:31 PM
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Can I get in on this train too? lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 09:04 PM
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I'm so curious to know too if you dont mind! Your decisiveness is really inspiring!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:03 PM
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It works so so so much. Please don't open yourself up to give him any more of your words or energy, he doesn't deserve them. I also got out of an abusive "poly"shit a few months ago so I relate to your struggle. Hold your head high babe. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:52 AM
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giving her his dick's opinion on her decisions. This phrasing. Thank you for sharing these words. I despise when men do this and have never been able to describe it as succinctly as this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:01 PM
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For me a big part of it is resolving the shame over my past choices and the behavior I put up with. Almost eight years in a "poly" relationship and he still managed to cheat 🤡 I still have leveling up to do before I will feel ready to date again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:54 PM
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I bet he's ctrl+v-ing that same garbage message to his entire list of matches or w/e I've never used tinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:37 PM
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