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Do not contact your ex, their family, or anyone else they correspond with. Ignore the nonsense and the desire to defend yourself or speak the truth. The best response to mutual friends and to the court is "This information is false and lacks any supporting evidence" and request compensation for legal fees and wasting the court's time with frivolous and false allegations. I went down this road many many times with my ex, and after three or four cycles of the same nonsense, the magistrate had her …
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 02:11 AM
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For 20-year marriage this actually sounds about right, depending on the value of the pension. I was married 20 years exactly, we split retirement and other assets 50/50, and I owe her a total of $280,000 over 7 years and spousal support. My salary was $230K at the time, her salary was 60K. Mind you she refused to negotiate in any way so this was drawn out over 18 months and 40K an attorney's fees between the two of us. 18 months and 40K later, she agreed to the financial equivalent of the origin…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 02:05 AM
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This.. I didn't change the locks, not my responsibility to address your problem.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 02:01 AM
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In my case, I was polite but very direct. I started by sharing with her that I was unsure of my feelings and didn't feel right in the relationship. That very quickly escalated to me saying I no longer want it to be married to her, and that was it. I had to repeat the same message over the next few weeks multiple times, but I think being direct is the best path even though it is uncomfortable.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 02:00 AM
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I initiated and my ex-wife drained our savings account and proceeded to blow 40K over the period of 2 months in an effort to rationalize her request for excessive spousal support. The money was gone and not worth the legal cost to try to recover, but her attempt failed and ultimately resulted in her receiving less support than she might have otherwise received because it was clear to the magistrate that she was gaming the system and fabricating frivolous expenses.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 01:57 AM
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Congratulations! Freedom from tyranny is a great feeling.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 01:53 AM
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This is a terrible schedule for your children. Their mental health and stability should come first, secondary to your or your ex spouses concerns about commute or any other factors. It's your job to accept the inconvenience, not your children's.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 01:49 AM
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I'm 30 months out from separation and about 18 months out from divorce. It was a very high conflict divorce due with a prolonged legal battle and a litany of false accusations and other nonsense. I initiated the divorce, and she held true to form with all of the threats she had made over the years. In any case, I'm in far better financial situation today despite paying 42k per year in spousal support. The fact that I can pay $3,500 per month and still be much stronger financially with a better s…
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 02:13 AM
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This. My ex launched a full court smear campaign. It was difficult to stay quiet but playing the long game wins. It was tough for the first 6 months or so.... Then friends who had distanced themselves showed up and started asking questions. 18 months post divorce now and I have all the same friends and social circle as I had before the divorce. She has none as they all saw through the crazy and she discarded them as soon as they challenged obvious falsehoods.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 01:37 PM
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A clinical diagnosis is exceedingly rare, and the vast vast vast vast majority of people who assert npd or BPD on internet forums are doing so based on what they read in other internet forums. If you have a partner who was actually clinically diagnosed, then certainly getting custody would not be an issue and getting appropriate counseling services for children would not be an issue. For the other 99.99% who are doing self diagnosis, and who may or may not have a partner with actual NPD or BPD b…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 10:13 PM
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Two additional comments on my original reply. First, don't ever use terms like BPD or NPD in court unless you are a medical professional making a medical diagnosis. Same goes for talking about it with friends or family. People like to put those labels on things because it is an easy way to say "this is a bad person". But it's vastly overused, and not really productive for amateurs like ourselves. Instead, focus on the behavior patterns, and how to identify and document the specific behaviors and…
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 09:33 PM
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I went through a similar experience divorcing a partner with similar behavior patterns as you described. I was accused of physical and sexual assault, fraud, you name it. It sucks, and you can waste a lot of time and energy defending against false allegations. I had a great attorney, and while it took me some time, I learned that the best response to false allegations is simply to say "those allegations are false and lack any supporting evidence". If you can produce evidence to the contrary, tha…
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 07:03 PM
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$3500/mo x 7 year sentence. It's absurd, but well worth it .
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/23 08:31 PM
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