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/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 10:56 PM
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I respectfully disagree. I'd say I'm a pretty attractive guy. 23M I have my fair share of success in dating and I don't subscribe to any of the 'pills', I come here mostly for entertainment lol. However, I had tinder from late Feb to May and I paid for gold the last month. Racked up about 200+ likes and 70+ matches, was never disrespectful or sexual, got a bunch of numbers, set up a bunch of dates.... I never went on an actual date. They either ghosted or stood me up. Same time frame in the real…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:26 PM
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No. Dating apps make most men feel hopeless. You can go one of two ways after that. Realise there are a plethora of reasons why your experience on dating apps sucks that have nothing to do with you. Delete the apps and take a chance irl Take your experience at OLD as gospel truth, lower your self esteem and become resentful/bitter. Obv this is an oversimplification but I don't think I'm that far off. I had tinder from late Feb to mid May and paid for gold the last month. I had about 200+ likes a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 12:54 AM
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Of course no problem :) I like being supportive. What do you mean by 'be real'? That's got me sort of concerned
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 12:42 AM
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Lol same. Coming here is my version of watching 'survivor'
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 11:16 PM
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Not gonna lie, as a handicapped woman, this is breaking my heart. I try to be kind and loving and selfless I'm so sorry you feel the way. Please don't take the stuff on this subreddit seriously. Most of the people on this subreddit are just trying to make everyone else as miserable as they are. Being loving and kind are worth so much more than a pretty face and body. Yeah, a lot of guys are shallow but that doesn't make you a leftover cow ffs. My god, think about the kind of person you have to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 11:08 PM
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I don't think they know what that is anymore. It's all just 1s and 0s
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 06:20 AM
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It always cracks me how this sub discusses women like some wild legendary Pokemon. Lmao this actually got a chuckle out of me. It's hilarious to say the least
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 01:22 AM
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Why is the trope of the unhappy married man so common? Why did “Married…with Chidren” resonate with so many men? I actually think this one a kinda easy to answer. And No, before people jump down my throat I'm not trying to excuse shitty behavior. Cheating on your wife/girlfriend, especially when you're older makes you scum. Now for my answer. Over the past 40ish years, women and feminism have gotten very good at identifying the ways partnerships have been unequal. They've literally written liter…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 03:39 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 06:08 AM
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I do not want children. At all. I've never wanted to be a father and I have the vasectomy to prove it. HOWEVER, if something tragic happened to one of my sisters for example and it was either I take the kids or they end up in Foster care then yeah I would take em.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 06:05 AM
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Honestly man the best advice I could give you ironically enough is not to take advice from this place. Most people here's point of view is....divorced from reality. HealthyGamerGG has A LOT of materials and videos on YouTube about relationships that are really great.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 05:45 AM
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Nerdy women, artsy women, health nuts, Christians, independent power types (one of my favourites lol), motherly types, rave girls etc. What category do you put yourself in? Categories similar to that will probably like you more.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 02:01 AM
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Asking for myself and anybody lurking, what types and markets are there that guys can appeal to? I'm sorry but I don't really understand what you're having difficulty with. Could you explain a little bit more?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 05:35 PM
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There's a nuance to "it's a numbers game for men" that I don't see anyone touching on. The general concept isn't wrong, it's how most of us adapt our behaviour that's wrong and quite frankly, leads to more failure. I learned in marketing that trying to appeal to everyone is the worst strategy possible. At best, people are lukewarm about your product. The true marketing strategy it to find your niche. The subset of people your product appeals to, that's why companies spend literal millions figuri…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 12:57 AM
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Of course. I admire a lot of my close women friends. Their strength and character amazes me and I'm not attracted to them at all. I admire RBG a ton. I used to admire J.K Rowling before she discovered twitter lol. I admired a lot of my teachers in high-school. One of my friend's mom is a total badasses too. I've literally ignored hot girls/cancelled dates and talked to her instead because she's basically everything I'd want to be as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 06:17 PM
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We both choose. We make the choice everyday in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 04:08 AM
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A few cancelled or flaked. I got stood up once but mostly I stopped bothering. The conversations almost always felt like pulling teeth
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 12:09 AM
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Nope. I know what it feels like to be sexually harassed and assaulted. To quote myself: I've been sexually assaulted by women more times than I can count and I really do empathize with women's issues but holy shit nothing pisses me off more when my experiences are invalidated or when it's assumed I don't know what it's like because im a dude. I had some random woman walk up to me that I had never seen before in my life pull me towards her and start making out with me. I pushed her off and she we…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 11:42 PM
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I'm an attractive guy and it's still a shitshow. I had tinder from Feb to May, paid for gold the last month, racked up about 70 something matches and 200+ likes. Never went on a date. Got numbers, facetimed, set up dates. It never went anywhere. In that same time period I hooked up with 3 different girls that I met at bars and dated one. I'm also extremely picky with who I sleep with (past trauma).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 10:34 PM
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Vasectomy gang represent!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 10:24 PM
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Your tag is hilarious man. Best part of this whole thread
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 02:25 AM
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It's always the lonely and jaded men who want to bring the rest of us down and it's so upsetting. I'm so lucky I never found guys like this online when I was at my lowest point So true. I'm so grateful I didn't fall into this negative spiral. I swear if these guys spent HALF as much energy talking each other up instead of putting women down they'd be exponentially happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 02:13 AM
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Most reasonable people would agree that promiscuous people are FAR more likely to cheat than "sexually prude" folks in relationships. I'm pretty sure that marriage and divorce statistics also back that up. Eehh. I've seen these studies, I tend to view them has putting the horse before the cart. Sort of like the studies that show a correlation between low income areas and crime that when you dug deeper, were actually showing a correlation between liquor stores and crime. Its not so much the high …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 07:39 AM
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I agree with all of what you've said except the last paragraph. At least personally, there's a distinction between sex and relationships. Thinking sex isn't a special intimate thing doesn't mean you treat relationships or the person you're with like they're not special or without intimacy. If I'm dating you it's because I like you as a person and value you. I'm not cheating because I value the relationship. What I'm trying to say is: just because the idea of sex isn't special to me doesn't mean …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 03:16 AM
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Its just such a stupid thing to get hung up on when you're deciding if you're compatible with another person. There are SO MANY more important things to take into consideration sexually. Did she cheat on her partners? Is sex a means of validation for her? Do you guys have similar libidos? Are you into the same stuff? Opinions on birth control/abortion. But instead, let's focus on how many people she's fucked. Lol wut?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:34 AM
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heir past absolutely matters, as it is the best predictor of the future for both women and men. But they don't have a history of cheating they have a history of casual sex. Those aren't the same. Like I said, I've had 15-20 partners and I'm 23. I have never once in my life entertained the idea of cheating on any of my SOs.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:27 AM
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Eehhh. I feel like the more access you have to sex the easier it is to turn down. Also how much of your self respect you're okay with trading away for that validation. I'm not proud of this, but I've had the most headstrong and opinionated guys literally turn into puppy dogs once they realise that they might be getting sex, if they play their cards right. However all it usually takes is a good handjob and I feel like I have a guy's soul in my pocket. This dynamic has always made me angry and I'v…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:16 AM
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Same. Im 23 I'm at...15-20 I think? As long as you're STI-free I don't give a shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 07:44 PM
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It's definitely a very American thing. I immigrated to the US when I was a teen. I've been lucky enough to travel all over the world and live in multiple countries; I've also dated people from a lot of different places. What I've noticed is RP ideology, (if you can call it that) tends to be more common in countries that tend to align with the US culturally. People in places like Spain, Greece, or France where I've spent a lot of time have for the most part never heard of RP shit. If they have, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 07:42 PM
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Oh that shows a fucking meme. Love it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 02:55 PM
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Nice. Enjoy the show
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 03:13 AM
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I have two younger sisters but more than that most of my extended family is women. I'd say it's had 0 effect on attracting women but resulted in a ton of secondary effects that definitely help. 1. I just have more experience talking to women and socialising with them. 2. They drummed a ton of personal hygiene and fashion sense into my thick skull from a young age lmao. 3. I like having women as friends; 2/4 of my closest friends are women so I'm good at talking about my feelings and listening. 4…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 05:04 AM
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Brave New World already answered this as far as I'm concerned
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 01:59 AM
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Also did successful men tend to rate themselves higher on average?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 04:15 PM
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A couple actually. I'm curios to see if 'successful' guys are approaching women more/or less attractive than them on average. Are 'successful' guys using OLD or inperson more? More than anything though I just wanted to compare the different categories you have set up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:40 PM
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I know ow I'm biased since I commented on your previous post but I feel like the data on 'successful' Men should also have been included
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 10:01 PM
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Purely based on looks? 8. However what I consider an '8' is subjective. Don't use OLD. I tried. I got 100s of likes and matches but it never felt 'real' if that makes sense. I'd say I'm a solid 8. I've been told I'm hot/cute/gorgeous/beautiful enough times that it doesn't phase me anymore. If I spent 2 more years in the gym I'd probably rate myself as a 9. Depends on how you define success; Is LTR success or is number of women success? I've had LTR before, generally I prefer them. ONS aren't dif…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 07:16 PM
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I'm not the same person but I believe what they mean is: "a person using their (very limited) knowledge of human biology as evidence that their cynical, self defeatist view of the world is justified because we're 'wired this way' ".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:56 PM
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Damn bro I used to be almost exactly where you're at. It's been almost a year since I've worked out consistently and I'm down to 165lbs from 180.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 06:09 PM
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Damn bro I used to be almost exactly where you're at. It's been almost a year since I've worked out consistently and I'm down to 165lbs from 180.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 06:09 PM
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This is so true. I just have no idea how to distinguish between the two. Plz help
/r/seduction02/04/21 01:12 AM
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I had A thought and I'd like to see what you think. What is the percentage of men who will lie, cheat and manipulate a woman to get sex, then leave her as soon as they get bored? 30%? 40%? 60%? I have no idea, but what I can say is it's not an insignificant number. Otherwise, women's idea of 'screening' guys for that kind of behavior wouldn't exist. Now. What is the percentage of women who will lie, cheat and manipulate a man to get wealth, status, or security, then leave as soon as something be…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 11:50 AM
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I like to live a balanced life. My philosophy is life is an act of balance. Ideally, everything you do in life helps build you into the person you want to be. A big part of that for a lot of people is their ideal partner. But wouldn't our ideal partner also want the ideal version of us? So then what's the ideal version of you? That is up to each of us, but for me personally, the ideal version of me includes a lot more than just my relationships. Whatever that includes is going to be attractive t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 04:52 PM
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I didn't seem him say 100%... but I imagine it's a pretty big factor. The question is, of course, how would one properly measure/quantify this factor. Well of course it's bullshit since it's a strawman argument you constructed to be bullshit. I didn't see him attribute any merit to my assertion that nurture might play a role in the development of the individual. Just a bad attempt at roasting my ability to get laid. In fact, I specifically remember him saying he "didn't give a shit about any of …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 01:36 AM
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Alright, I'll bite. I understand that at a certain level, the "Base" level apparently, women are sexually attracted to men who earn more money than they do because they can "provide". It's a marker of both their immediate ability to improve her life and a marker of biological fitness for their children. This is the evolutionary psychology argument. Which isn't wrong, but it doesn't account for 100% of the variance between women. It's essentially the nature vs nurture argument, where you're attri…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 01:16 AM
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I agree. It’s no less of a team that are raising children. If one parent stays home with the kids and the other works, that’s a team. A team that’s pursuing their goals. This is just a different sort of team. The goals are just different.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 01:01 AM
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Alright. I totally understand your viewpoint. If he’s willing to spend that much money, its proof he’s really interested, and at the very least, if he’s a fuck boy, you didn’t lose anything financially. You’re protecting yourself from getting fucked over and I totally get it, because I’m doing the same thing. What I don’t understand is why the marker of character is money. I judge that by honesty and willingness to communicate. I’m also really surprised to hear you think you have to be the emoti…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 12:57 AM
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Its about social interaction for me. Most of my relationships have started because I could interact with them pretty frequently in a group setting, which is the perfect opportunity to observe. For example, I was in a social setting this summer and one of the girls said “fathers don’t care that women get full custody”. That made me pretty mad and I told her so. Later in the night she came up to me and apologized. That was a pretty good initial marker of maturity and compatibility for me. Even the…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 12:50 AM
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That just doesn’t sound fair. I’ve made the same as all my partner’s, and I always split the household duties with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 12:39 AM
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That’s exactly the issue. If I make 150k and she makes 100k it’s not that big of a deal. But if she earns 38k a year it’s different. I don’t mind making less, as long as it’s not insignificant. If I made 150k and she made 400k plus. At that point its a different lifestyle, depending on how you spend your money.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 12:37 AM
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I really don’t understand that sentiment. From my perspective what you’re asking is a minimum 1 year financial commitment that heavily favors you, before moving to a financial commitment that only slightly favors you. That’s a lot to ask considering the relationship could end for any one of a million reasons. There would have to be some other contribution to make up for that for me personally. I could understand this set up if I earned significantly more than my partner. If I earn 300k and you e…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 12:34 AM
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This is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:55 PM
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I do make my own choices, I also date a select few and I’ve also never used OLD. We are not so different you and I. Lol. In all honesty though I think your top priority is pretty common among women but very difficult to find. Which is why when women DO find a guy like that it’s like finding a unicorn. I think that’s why it’s made the women I’ve dated so curios and willing to put up with my bullshit (haha). Having fun and figuring out if I see can see a future with the person are my top prioritie…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:54 PM
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Debate goes out the window when you start insulting the person you’re debating. That’s actually kind of a hallmark of a loser. But go on. Tell me how I should continue to interact with people like the two of you. I’m totally listening.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:44 PM
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I don’t hate them. I just choose to not waste anymore time on them. Whatever their issues or desires are do not concern me since I’ve already lost interest in pursing them as a LT- partner. If you want kids I totally understand. Getting pregnant, giving birth and being a SAHM is a HUGE contribution, so expecting the guy to cover finances isn’t unreasonable at allll.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:34 PM
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That’s a fair argument and I’ve encountered it before. The truth is I probably won’t pay for the first date, unless I’m 100% sure there’s going to be a second and the girl really is something special. I’m not against paying for dates, as long as the next time she does. So I usually say something along the lines of “ hey I don’t really feel comfortable paying for this date, but I’ll happily cover the next one if we both want that”. I will say this though, sooner or later the woman I’m on a date w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:29 PM
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I would think so but apparently not. I’ve met plenty of women who say they don’t want kids but still want a “provider”. To me that’s just code for “I want to do nothing and have you pay my bills for agreeing to date you.” Maybe that’s a bit harsh but idk. What do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:18 PM
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I transferred colleges right at the start of covid so I haven’t had the chance to actually meet anyone at my new university. I don’t have Tinder, nor do I want it. Most of the girls I’m meeting are friends of friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:14 PM
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Alright man whatever. Agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:10 PM
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How do you define “provide” exactly? I define it as paying for everything because your partner either isn’t willing to work or you have children and one of you needs to stay at home. It doesn’t mean “never paying for anything”. When I say I don’t want to be a provider I’m saying “I want us to split the cost of stuff”.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:08 PM
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That is exactly what I want. I live in a fairly liberal area. I don’t understand why so many people are taking this the wrong way. I don’t want yo be useless, I don’t want to be taken care of. I don’t want to be a SAHD. I want us to contribute equally in the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:06 PM
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That... is exactly what I’m talking about. I’ve bought expensive gifts for my partners in the past and they’ve done the same for me. The way I see it, if we both earn lots of money then we both get to spend money on doing awesome stuff together, instead of just relying on my paycheck for everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:02 PM
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Yes. I’m very honest about my long term goals because I don’t want to waste either of our time and I don’t want to lie. I’m not trying to turn a hookup into a relationship but that has happened before. When I go on the first few dates I’m really not trying to have sex. I’m trying to figure out if I can see myself dating the person. Hookups are not my thing, I’ve turned them down more often than not by far.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:57 PM
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Where did I say I wasn’t equally successful? I said I don’t expect a woman who makes more than me to consider me, I didn’t say I wasn’t equally successful. I’m lucky enough to be on the path to a very lucrative career. I do want a successful career.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:54 PM
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You can choose to believe me or not but... im a guy, I really don’t care about having sex with lots of women. Unlike a lot of guys. This is the problem with the purely evolutionary psychology argument. You’re accounting 100% of female preferences to nature and leaving no room for individual preferences or choices. Its simply not true. I am living proof it isn’t true. I could capitalize on being able to have sex with lots of women but I don’t because it doesn’t interest me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:51 PM
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That’s very interesting. I would love to see the guys from trp bombarding me in the comments about how I’m shooting myself in the foot take a look at this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:43 PM
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Thanks. I appreciate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:42 PM
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No? I’m really not? I’m looking for a partner. I don’t want kids, so the whole SAHM thing isn’t gonna work for me. If you want kids then that makes sense and it’s a valid contribution. Don’t know what ONS means. I’ve found multiple women who are willing to date me in the past under these circumstances so... thanks?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:40 PM
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Yeah I’m totally against the traditional relationship model myself. To each their own at the end of the day though. I’m very happy to see you’ve found a set up that works for the both of you. I don’t expect my partner to do any of the “wifey” duties either, I’ve always split all the chores with my partners. Thanks for the response, it makes me a little bit more optimistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:37 PM
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Don’t want to be a dad. Don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:28 PM
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Ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:26 PM
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What is this trad thing? Is that just short hand for traditional? I’ve seen it everywhere in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:23 PM
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Yeah, I don’t expect her to look at me twice if shes earning 250,000 and I’m earning 120,000.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:22 PM
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I don’t want her to be the “provider”. I don’t want either of us to be the “provider”. I want us to both work, make lots of money, and enjoy it together.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:20 PM
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Okay. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:05 PM
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Alright sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:01 PM
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This is not advice. Im curios about the dynamic. I’m sure many other guys would be interested in this as a discussion question.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 08:59 PM
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I don’t understand what you mean by “counting coins”. All I’m saying is I wouldn’t date someone who wasn’t ambitious. I also do not want kids so that’s fine. Most of the women I’ve dated have had some form of independent income, whether it be an internship, a small business, a regular cashiers position. I don’t really care what the job is, more that it shows potential for the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 08:59 PM
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Yeah, I Don’t want kids. If you want kids my model really doesn’t make sense unless you hire a nanny. Which most people who wants kids either can’t afford or don’t want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 08:55 PM
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You’re totally right, they’re not submissive at all. But that’s a good thing to me. I know I’m going against the grain by saying that, but it’s true for me. Thanks for the comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 08:54 PM
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