ArbitraryBaker Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Eye gaze and attraction It’s distracting, which is great if you like them, and annoying if you don’t. In general it doesn’t create attraction if there was none there; it just intensifies whatever feelings there were.	/r/seduction	30/10/22 08:11 PM
2	what makes a man seductive? Good luck! I’ve actually had that work for me! But I was 16 at the time. I don’t have the faith that it would work as well for adult men. Might want to try it with something other than balls, unless he has specifically mentioned he is into that. Why pain feels good	/r/seduction	27/10/22 04:23 PM
3	what makes a man seductive? Fear and Love on a Shaky Bridge	/r/seduction	27/10/22 04:12 PM
3	Virgins women aren't anywhere near as rare as people on here think - those who say otherwise always misrepresent the statistics. Or if they want to find a partner who shares the same values as they do. 1 woman a week you meet that is part of the 10%. This week it is the transgender woman, who also happens to lean heavily towards a lesbian lifestyle. Last week it was the nun. The week before that the terminally ill woman, who also has a severe intellectual disabilty. Next week it will be the Muslim woman who will only date Muslim men, and the following week it will be the homeless schizophrenic woman who lives under the br…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/22 02:58 PM
2	Virgins women aren't anywhere near as rare as people on here think - those who say otherwise always misrepresent the statistics. 12% of women between 20 and 24 and virgins. It’s not hard to find one. But I get your point. It would be hard to find one who would be a suitable wife for a random redditor. And extremely unlikely to find one who would sleep with a redditor without marrying him first. Some proportion of those women intend to only marry highly religious men of their same religion. Some proportion of those women intend to never marry men (some lesbian women would consider themselves virgins even if they are highly…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/22 02:44 PM
40	what makes a man seductive? Unfortunately symmetrical facial features, a well toned body and a deep voice can often be some of the more important determinants. If you don’t have those, then grooming, hygiene (including smell), apparel, posture, and confidence can go a long way. Timing and escalation are super important. She will be more receptive if she has an increased heart rate and lowered inhibitions. This is why teasing is so important, because it introduces the element of fear and anticipation. Be unpredictable.	/r/seduction	27/10/22 02:05 PM
12	How to be more sexually exciting in a way that’s still respectful and mature? Women tend to be attracted to the romance of seduction and resistant to admit and express their sexual feelings. Do not underestimate the importance of using non-sexual elements to increase their heart rate and lower their inhibitions. To do this, you can confess something crazy that you have done, or you can dare her to do something. There are lots of ways to tease a woman that aren’t sexual. Start there and then keep getting closer to sexual and romantic things. Two examples I read recently in…	/r/seduction	27/10/22 01:49 PM
1	Am I being too passive? I don’t know how helpful I can be by personal experience. I met my husband when I was 17 and we have been married for 28 years now. But my gut feeling from what you wrote is that you aren’t giving the girls enough connection and intrigue for them to want to bother to take any extra steps to engage with you. I think the biggest difference you could make is to escalate your short small talk to either explore more outrageous topics or to last for a longer time. For example, you could talk about wil…	/r/seduction	25/10/22 07:17 PM
2	Any advice on how to avoid the "i just didn't feel the spark" Not necessarily. They are looking for an intimate connection. If you understand each other’s motivations and goals and you have faith in each other’s abilty to deliver on promises, there will be a spark. There are plenty of times I have felt the opposite of a spark when a guy was too fixated on how I looked and moved and not at all interested in what I was passionate about or in communicating to me what he had in common with me. I’m not sure why OP mentioned he was Middle Eastern, but I’ve been …	/r/seduction	25/10/22 06:12 PM
1	“I’ve only known you for a day” how to go about this? When you said “taking too long doesn’t work out well” you were disrespecting her fears and insecurities. (Assuming your goal was to be in a relationship with her.). Something more playful would have played better if your goal actually is to get her to sleep with you as soon as possible. And “I understand your hesitation, but I am extremely attracted to you” would have been infinitely smarter if your goal was to be in a relationship with her.	/r/seduction	25/10/22 05:40 PM
1	You don’t have to kiss on the first date, have sex, or anything. Don’t force it Uhhh,,, that sounds extreme. I am a woman, not currently dating, but if there wasn’t either a kiss, or attempt to kiss, or permission to kiss, or touching, then I would write it off as a bad date with no chemistry. It’s fine to not kiss on the first date, and preferable not to have sex for the first several dates, but there has to be at least some indication that you wanted to or I wouldn’t be interested in dating anymore.	/r/seduction	25/10/22 05:17 PM
1	Direct or indirect opener? Neither is very intriguing to me. It’s been shown scientifically that if someone helps you they have more positive associations with you than if you help someone, which really is pretty mind boggling. So the second approach is not a terrible idea. But asking for a recommendation for bars seems like you’re asking for help picking up chicks. Asking for help choosing a melon, or tying your shoe, or finding a specific street might be a better tactic.	/r/seduction	25/10/22 03:35 PM
1	Am I being too passive? Is it casual hookups you are looking for? Then yes, be more direct. But if you are looking for a relationship, perhaps you are underestimating how much patience it often takes. Maybe you aren’t making enough of a connection in person before asking for contact details. I don’t think a lot of girls give out their contact info out of kindness. They give it out of curiosity. Perhaps you are not piquing their curiosity enough when you text.	/r/seduction	25/10/22 03:20 PM
1	Making woman laugh. Great advice from Syd. You don’t need to take life less seriously. You need to find joy and pleasure in your daily life and project this onto the people you interact with. So, if you’ve been told you are an old soul, that already means you have something desirable going for you. Perhaps you are curious about biology, or are fascinated with machines, or have a deep love for animals. This will attract women, as long as you find the opportunities to show these sides of yourself, and to invite discu…	/r/seduction	25/10/22 03:09 PM
1	Similarities between running 'Game' and running a Business. Yes. The business lingo for that is ABC. Always be closing. And if secure in yourself, you do these charming behaviors with all people, regardless of age, sex or gender (omitting the closing part of course), because the more practice you get, the better you get at it. I’ve fallen for a few women in similar ways, although I don’t feel like I ever would have been interested in being engaged in a sexual relationship with one. With women what makes me smitten is when they tell me grand tales of the …	/r/seduction	25/10/22 01:00 PM
1	Similarities between running 'Game' and running a Business. I wonder if I was that guy in the plane and act the exact way he did would you still be interested? That’s not the question you want the answer to. I am guessing that you are more interested in the answer to two closely related questions a) Could what this gentleman did be translated into a pickup or icebreaking strategy that would be effective at least some of the time? To some extent, yes. It’s risky because of its unusual intimacy, and it’s unlikely to have as overwhelming effect on most pote…	/r/seduction	25/10/22 12:29 AM
2	Similarities between running 'Game' and running a Business. Oh boy. Yeah, it was just a moment thing. It was a stressful day, I was exhausted, he made me feel protected. And he was strangely intimate. For example, when the flight attendant came with my drink, I was faced away, and instead of clearing his throat, or saying something, he touched me gently on my upper arm. Honestly, it’s a pretty dangerous move, because for most people it would probaly freak them out and think he was a creep. Then when I finished my drink, I was concentrating again on my ip…	/r/seduction	24/10/22 10:51 PM
3	Similarities between running 'Game' and running a Business. It’s a beautiful thing. But I have some concerns with it. You mention studying PUA books for tips on what to do, and about how looks are more important to some “countries” than others. If you don’t set your goal before developing your strategy, then you can end up picking the wrong strategy. To maximize the number of partners you get, you need to know how valued looks are compared to other attributes. And studying PUA books would be a significant help. But to maximize your attractiveness to the …	/r/seduction	24/10/22 06:10 PM
2	Great Date, No Text Back (M) I think I’ll wait at least 4-5 days and if there’s no text back from her, just start up a generic “how have you been” convo. I’m not putting all my eggs in the basket or anything, but I refuse to just sit idle. I’m going to follow some of the multiple advice I have been given thus far.	/r/seduction	24/10/22 04:08 PM
4	Similarities between running 'Game' and running a Business. Sure. Your target market is the segment that you direct your marketing towards. If you’re trying to attract a single 20-30 yo woman for a relationship, your strategies would be quite different than trying to attract multiple 20-50 yo women for sex and fun. You might have a product that appeals to a broad range of customers, but more likely your product is taliored toward a niche client that will take some hard work to locate and engage with meaningfully. There is a different strategy and value t…	/r/seduction	24/10/22 03:52 PM